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what's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you are
hearing this episode, then you are meant to be here, So keep listening
on that Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, baby
Girl, we're gonna cry, but we will always always walk away feeling our
most empowered positive bitch self that is Babe in true connection with herself. On
this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into
exactly who we came here to be. Today, we are continuing our March
theme, which is lioness energy, because within every positive bitch is a lion
ness. That's right. We are going to be talking about alone time,
how self love is not selfish. We're gonna be dismantling our little ego because
keep your friends close and keep that ego closer. Baby girl, we are
going to be diving into lioness energy, which is really magnetic energy because think
of a lioness. She gets what she wants and she is not apologetic about
it because she knows her happiness is her responsibility. Did you know lions are
actually the hunters of the Lion community. Yes, I'm so excited to talk
about today's topic. I asked you on Instagram what you want to get answers
about when it comes to alone time self love, and I'm gonna be diving
into those questions as well. Before we get into it, a couple of
announcements. The biggest announcement is Show Up as Her, the book I've been
working on for years now. I'm pretty sure you know me and timing just
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a mouthful without further ado, let's get into today's episode. I was recently
talking with one of my clients and we were talking about how whatever we choose,
there's always going to be some sort of cost. We were talking about
how in life we know that we learn based on our connection with the caregiver.
We crave love from the most, we learn how to connect to others.
And if we've learned that the way we get connection is to dole our
own life light. If we've learned that we have to be the nice girl,
the shy girl, we have to be a people pleaser in order to
gain connection, well that's what we become. We can either continuously engage in
this role we created out of survival. We can continuously act as this people
pleaser, as the nice girl, and we can preserve the relationships that we
have when we're being this role that will cost us ourselves though, or we
can decide differently. We can realize that our power is in our present moment,
and we can say, actually, even if being the nice girl has
gotten me here, it's not going to get me to where I want to
go. This ego, this identity, this role may have allowed me to
survive, but it's not allowing me to thrive. And it's my prerogative.
Every single day, I'm being invited to choose who I want to show up
as. I can choose to say I'm not gonna do this anymore, and
instead I'm going to show up as my authentic self, which means putting up
boundaries, which means saying no, which means deciding who I don't want to
be and not engaging with those behaviors anymore. And the cost to that decision
is we might lose some relationships. I think a lot of us have fear
around losing the relationships that we know, even if we don't really like those
relationships. It's kind of like the saying we prefer the devil we know rather
than the angel we don't know. But at what cost? Is it really
worth it to continuously be a role you created out of survival and preserve these
relationships that you have, or maybe is it time that we say this doesn't
work for me anymore, and if it cost me these relationships, then these
are relationships I don't want to have. Whatever life you want, it's gonna
cost you the current set of thoughts, emotions, and behaviors you currently have.
If you want a different life, okay, pay up, You're gonna
have to start changing how you think, how you act, how you behave,
what you say to yourself and others. You're gonna have to incorporate new
boundaries with yourself and others. What is the definition of insanity but doing the
same thing and expecting a different result. How much longer do you really think
you can engage with the behaviors that you're engaging with Ten years down the line,
do you still just want to be known as the people pleasing nice girl
who doesn't get what she wants? Twenty years down the line, do you
still want to be the people pleasing nice girl who gets stepped all over?
Thirty years down the line, do you still want to be the little nice
girl who doesn't get her way, who never feels fulfilled, and who feels
completely like an empty cup at the end of the day, it's your choice.
What do you want to choose, And yes, everything will have a
cost. The thing is, if we keep trying to stay around people who
are wanting us to stay the same, we are just stunting our own growth.
And I get it that it can be uncomfortable to say I'm no longer
going to hang out with these people or they no longer want to hang out
with me, because we're stepping into the unknown. But the unknown is a
much more successful, higher vibrational place than staying in the same place forever.
That's not natural. We are energy. Down to our smallest atom, we
are vibrating particles. We are energy. And what's the natural state of energy
but movement. If we had to eat the same thing, dressed the same
way, to have the same conversations every single day, we would go out
of our minds because that is not natural. Change is natural, Shifting is
natural. And while you're in a season of a dark night of the soul
or isolation or alone time, don't cling to these external attachments, cling to
God, cling to yourself, cling to the things that are always going to
be there regardless of the external changes. I had to realize that I was
growing in different directions than my friends were. I couldn't cling to the friendships
I had since kindergarten. I had a cling to God. I had a
cling to my future self because she was the one who was going to get
me out of that mess. And God is really the only constant in our
life. They say change is the only constant, but really it's God because
the way we change is different. Sometimes we change for the worst, sometimes
we change for the better. Sometimes we change in this direction or that direction.
Really the only constant is our connection to the divine. If you were
having trouble during this season, cling to your connection to the higher power that
is always with us. Twenty four to seven. I wanted to answer some
of your questions about stepping into your most magnetic self. But this might require
alone time. This might require saying no to some friendships. That might require
saying no to people you love. Let's talk about how to set boundaries and
how to really relax into this alone time that is so necessary for us all.
So let's get the questions up here. So the first question is I've
never put myself first. I don't know how I've tried everything. I feel
so lost. Any time you hear yourself saying I tried everything, you didn't.
You may have tried many things, but you didn't try everything, or
else you wouldn't be in the same position that you're currently in. Telling yourself
I tried everything is a limiting belief that your ego wants you to believe,
so you stay stuck. Remember, your ego wants you to stay in the
familiar place that you're currently at. So it's going to try to convince you
you've done everything. You've tried everything. It's a lie. So let's take
that lie off of our pedestal and let's place ourselves back on a right full
throne and remember who we are in the power that we have. Chances are
you haven't tried everything, or things would be different. Okay, if you've
never put yourself first. The first way to start putting yourself first simply engaging
with non negotiables. This is something we talk about a lot on this podcast.
Non Negotiables are things, habits, activities, even certain lifestyles that no
matter who comes in and out of your life, you will do these hobbies,
you will do that exercise, you will keep up with your career because
these are the things that are important to you and they make you you.
Examples of non negotiables are yoga, your work or school, meditation, your
eating habits, whatever they may be, they are boundaries, not for other
people, but for you. When I was dealing with anxious attachment and codependency,
I needed non negotiables, not for other people. I needed them so
I could stay focused on me. Where focus goes, energy flows. If
I'm constantly focused on the other, then I'm sending them all of my energy.
And just like we can get depleted in vitamins, we get depleted in
our magnetic energy. If you're not focused on you, you're not giving yourself
that daily phil of your own energy, and you will feel like an empty
cup. What I want you to try is non negotiables. You need daily
non negotiables. This can be your morning routine, It can be your affirmations,
it can be your yoga that regardless of who comes in and out of
your life, you do something for you every single day. It does not
matter what else is going on. You're committing to yourself because when you commit
to yourself, you start to build up self trust. When you commit to
yourself and do something for yourself. You're infusing yourself, You're hydrating yourself with
your own magnetic energy. And when you commit to yourself, you're giving yourself
focus, which gives you your own energy instead of depleting it, depleting it,
depleting it. I also recommend that you work with my Calling your Power
Back meditation. This is a free meditation that's on YouTube. The link is
always in the show notes. It will help you call your power back and
it's a twenty minute metaale, so it's very, very grounding. Okay,
let's go to the next question. What's the line between healthy, divine self
obsession and narcissism. This is a great question because a lot of people love
to just say that self love is selfish, and it's not. Self love
will never be selfish because you are the foundation of your life. And if
you're not okay, guess what, Your whole life will crumble. Career,
friends, relationship, goodbye, goodbye. It will all crumble because who's the
person who's holding all of these things together. That's right, it's you.
If you're not okay, your external three D reality will reflect that back to
you, baby girl. Okay, self love is not selfish. What's the
difference between this healthy self focus and narcissism, I'm gonna tell you it's all
about intention. Narcissism is not someone who actually loves themselves. I just society
is so wrong about so many things, and it boggles my mind. Okay,
okay, here we go. So narcissism is actually when you're deeply insecure,
so you have to puff yourself up or try to bring someone else down
in order to make yourself feel okay. Narcissism, The intention there is I'm
insecure, so I have to fake that I'm better than you, or I
have to be unkind to you to bring you down. That's not self love.
That's insecurity self love. The intention is I'm not even worried about what
you're doing because I love myself and I feel good in my own skin.
If I was a narcissist walking into a room, I'm scanning everyone. I'm
sending out my energy to everyone. What are they doing? What are they
doing? Are they better than me? I have to put them down.
I puff myself up. I have to pretend to be someone I'm not.
Being a narcissist is extremely, extremely tiring, and it rains you of all
your magnetic energy. That's why they're a narcissist. Hello, and that's why
they try to bring other people down. Misery loved company. It's not lonely
at the top, it's lonely at the bottom, and hence why people try
to bring you down with them. But self love is I'm walking into a
room and I feel so good in my own skin that I'm not sizing anyone
up or down. I'm not concerned about everyone because I know that my fun
in my life is my own responsibility. And that's the difference. Next question,
how do you choose yourself with certainty and without guilt or regret. So
a lot of us have marter mothers. Okay, yeah we do, Hi
boomers. If you're a boomer listening to this, uh, you're most likely
a martyr. That's what you've learned. And that's okay. Me and my
mom always joke because I always call her martyr mother and she calls me deva
daughter because I have so revolted against all the ideas of martyrdom, because it's
the worst thing you can possibly do to yourself. I see what it did
to my grandma and my mother. No think I'm good, I'm good over
here being the diva daughter. I like my life much better. Okay,
anyway, So how can we choose ourselves without feeling regret or guilt? So
as you're changing for the better. Disclaimer, there are going to be people
in your life who they do love you. They may love you, but
they're not gonna like that you're changing for the better. It's really uncomfortable for
people when they realize that you're coming from the same place, but you ain't
going in the same directions. You're going up, up, up, You're
getting better, You're improving your health, your fitness, your career, your
relationships, and they're still in the same cycle they've had for ten years.
Now. When we are becoming better, we are a mirror for those other
people in our life, and they're being faced with the fact that they were
given a similar circumstance. They're coming from pretty much the same place, but
they didn't use their power like you did. And they're really actually upset at
themselves. They're mad that they didn't learn sooner or do what you were doing.
But what do they do? They project that anger onto you. But
as positive bitches, we don't let other people's projections become our predictions, this
anger towards you. It's not personal, it's vibrational. Look at the end
of the day, you weren't born to make everybody like you and everybody happy.
You can't make everyone believe in you. Not even God can do that.
So don't waste your time trying to manipulate yourself and get everyone on board
with your vision. You can't. It will never work. So instead of
being concerned of does everyone agree with me? Is everyone okay with what I'm
doing? You have to say how do I feel? How do I feel
about what I'm doing? I keep allowing Brad into my life and Brad keeps
ruining my life and making me feel absolutely freaking miserable, and maybe I'm giving
my power away. But maybe I need to set some boundaries here. And
then Brad a week later is going to be like Ceci, but I love
you and I missed you, and I want to give you the flowers and
the chocolate, And I would have to say, Brad, absolutely not.
And it's not always going to be comfortable. But remember the cost. What
is at cost here is it yourself? Because you should never be the person
who's constantly being sacrificed Remember, you are not the sacrifice. You are your
own alter. You are your own temple. So you need to respect yourself
as that temple, our bodies, our spirit, This incarnation is God given.
You better respect it. Okay. So if so other people are uncomfortable
with your positive changes, it has more to do with them than it has
to do with you. And if you have to sacrifice yourself in order to
get them to stay in your life and preserve the relationship, no, not
worth it. Not worth it. I think I said this last time.
But there are people I have to block because I can't love them up close.
I can only love them from afar. There are people I had to
remove from my life, and it's uncomfortable because you know, you're not making
everybody happy. Just like your happiness is your responsibility, their happiness is their
responsibility too. Now a lot of us have learned that it is our responsibility
to be the mediator for everybody in the room. It's our responsibility to make
sure Martha's okay, and Brad's okay and Oprah's okay. I don't know why
that name came to my brain, but it did. We've learned that our
sole purpose is to make sure everyone feels good and everyone feels comfortable, but
at the cost of us self sacrificing co instantly, it's now in your power
to say, I'm no longer going to self sacrifice. Maybe I might feel
a little guilty. Maybe I will because this has been my pattern for so
long. Maybe I will feel a little bit uncertain. Guess what feelings are
not fact and the feelings will fade. You know what won't fade though constantly
depleting yourself, you'll feel that one forever. You know what won't fade,
you never feeling like you have energy for anything. You know what won't fade?
Autoimmune? Should we go down that path? Do you want to talk
about that? And this is coming from someone who did this to themselves already.
I've already been there, Chicas, Okay, I've already been there.
I've done this to myself and it was terrible. Hence why I then revolted
against all of these ideals and ideas and concepts. They don't work. If
people pleasing and placing other people on your pedestal worked, I would tell you
to do it. It does not work. You deplete yourself a magnetic energy.
You feel terrible you resent them, they end up ghosting you anyway,
So it doesn't work, It doesn't do anything. You have power. I
have power, but a lot of the time we're not using our power in
a way that's conducive to our desires. So yeah, maybe it's gonna be
uncomfortable for a season, But wouldn't you rather be uncomfortable for one season learn
a new way of being, then being uncomfortable for the rest of your life?
I mean, is it even a question anymore? So let the feelings
be there. Reflect Why am I feeling guilty? Is it because I've never
been allowed to focus on myself? Is it because my mom never focused on
herself? And I internalize that's what it means to be a woman. That
is what I learned. My grandmother and my mother did everything for everybody else
and didn't have two seconds to think about themselves. So I learned, Oh,
that's what it is to be a woman. Sacrifice everything, ha ha,
never have time to focus on yourself, feel completely depleted, and then
feel like an empty cup for the rest of your life. I don't think
so. So why don't you redefine what being a woman means to you?
Redefine what selfishness is to you because choosing yourself is not selfish, and just
because you think it might be doesn't mean it's even true. Again, what
is a belief but something we practice thinking? We have to realize that most
of what we think is true, most of what we believe is true,
Most of what we think is fact is faulty programming that someone told someone else
who told us, and then we believed it. It's time to take responsibility
over your beliefs, your thought patterns, and the person you currently are.
Another person asks, why does it feel like I'm being selfish? Sometimes?
Again, this kind of goes right in line with the question I just answered.
Sometimes I would make a decision early on in becoming my most magnetic self,
and I'll always be evolving, of course, But in this journey,
I would feel selfish for not staying on the phone with maybe a family member
after they're talking about the same thing that happened for the fiftieth time. I
would feel guilty that I had work to do. I'd feel guilty that I
wasn't being the mediator for everyone. And then I realized, well, who's
constantly getting the short end of the stick. Oh, it's me. I'm
depleting my energy trying to make everyone else happy, and they're not even doing
the same thing for me. I'm depleting my own energy trying to save all
these other people who don't want to be saved. They're married to their past,
They're married to their own miserable stories. The people you want to save.
If you could have saved them, they would be saved. You can't
save them because they care more about their addiction to the same chemicals they've been
feeling for their whole entire life life. They care more about reaffirming their own
miserable story. They care more about replaying the same scenarios, getting the same
emotional outcomes. They're married to their ego more than they want to be saved.
This isn't about you saving them anymore. You have to save yourself.
They're not even asking to be saved. Most of the time, it's us
who thinks we have to be the savior, because that's the way we think
we have to get love and connection. You're not Jesus Christ, Okay,
that's not who you are. You're somebody else. You are not sent here
to save us all of our sins. You are not sent here to save
your mother and your father and all these other people. You were meant to
save yourself. Now, if you inspire others through saving yourself, then let
it be. I mean, ring the damn bell hellojah Anne. I love
that for you and them and everybody. But you can't force someone to be
saved. And if you keep coming against the same problems, listen up,
Listen to me right now. Listen to me. They don't want to be
saved, You want to save them. And there's a difference. The person
who actually needs your attention is you. The way your energy will be used
to your advantage is if you use it instead of just depleting it over and
over and over again. I understand that there are people we love, our
family members, our friends, and we so easily see how they can just
break out of the habit that they're in. But guess what, that's not
what they want from you or else. That information would have already set them
free. You can't save them, but you can save yourself. If they
come to you and they ask you for an actionable helping step, then of
course we can be helpful. But if they're not even asking us what are
we doing, it's more about us replaying our own trauma, that it is
about even saving somebody else. What if I am shamed and called selfish and
egotistical for choosing myself, let them call you that. Honestly, they're jealous.
I know, I know, I know. I know. That sounds
so almost like a cop out, like, oh, they're just jealous,
but they are. You think that people don't want to be able to focus
on themselves. You think that people don't want to be able to give to
themselves. Of course they do, but their beliefs and their egos and what
they have learned is stopping them from doing that. So what do they want
to do? Misery love company? Well, well I don't get to take
care of myself, so you shouldn't be able to take care of yourself either.
Well I don't get to focus on myself, so you shouldn't be able
to focus on yourself either. What we push down in ourselves is what we
hate in others. Remember this really isn't personal, it's vibrational. This person,
what they're being faced with is their own wounds. They can't fathom that
it's possible to choose themselves, and they wish they could, but their own
inner world, their own wounds and their own trauma is stopping them from doing
so. The best thing you can do for others and yourself is to do
what you want to do, find your own happiness, and if that inspires
them, they'll follow suit and find their own happiness too. Another question was,
can you tell us how to set boundaries in a healthier, not passive
aggressive way. Yeah, So instead of saying you're doing this wrong, you're
annoying me, you wanna use self language, So this behavior, this dynamic
is no longer serving me. I no longer wish to engage with this behavior
because it's not affecting me in a positive way. You can just be straight
to the point. The reason I say you self language like I and me
instead of you're doing this, you're wrong, is because when you start saying
you you, you, you're just gonna trigger their ego and then we kind
of get away from the point we're trying to make. So just say this
doesn't work for me anymore, this is no longer serving me. In my
Divine Feminine Workbook, I have a whole entire script of how to set boundaries
with a significant other or anybody else because it's really about the language you use.
A really good tip is don't try to set boundaries when that other person
is busy or hungry. They did a whole entire study where judges at the
beginning of the day gave a more lenient sentence than when it was closer to
lunchtime, literally just because they were hungrier. So their subconscious mind was like
get out of here, and they got meaner. So, if you're gonna
set a boundary, literally tell that person we need some time and space to
talk. Don't do it when they're watching a movie. Don't do it when
they're doing something with work. Set and carve out time and space where both
of you know you're going into a conversation. It's going to be a more
serious conversation. And while you're in it, say look, this just isn't
working for me. This dynamic isn't serving me. It doesn't feel good to
me. And then say what it is you do want. Don't leave it
like a run on open weirdo sentence. Say this isn't working for me,
but this is what does work for me. And if you don't know what
your boundaries are and you don't know what your needs are, you need to
reflect on that first before you bring up a conversation with someone else, because
you want to be clear as day what you're even speaking about. And once
you talk that you speak it, you transfer that to them, ask them,
what do you think I'm getting at here? What do you think I'm
trying to tell? You? Make sure that after you transfer the information it
translated over correctly, because there have been times in my past where I was
setting a boundary with my partner and he thought I meant something completely different.
So after you set up the meeting, you you self talk and you express
yourself. Then you're going to say and what do you think I mean by
this? And allow them to parrot it back to you so you know you're
on the same page. Someone asked, I do love being alone, but
is there some solutions for feeling lonely? When you're feeling lonely, I do
suggest to lean into it, let yourself cry, let yourself feel. Now,
if you think you've had enough time of feeling lonely, why not find
a new creative endeavor or passion project. When I was going through my breakup,
I would have a lot of these spouts of just intense loneliness, energy,
is energy, whether it's loneliness energy, or happiness energy, or sadness
energy, or anxious energy. Energy is energy, and you can channel anxious
energy into creative energy. You can channel sad energy into creative energy. You
can channel happy energy into creative energy. Think of Olivia Rodrigo, Taylor Swift,
really, any artists anywhere, they use their energy and they create beauty.
They create art from it. Find a creative endeavor and start doing it.
Learn about it, understand it, practice it, get good at it.
You don't know what loneliness might open the door up to. When I
was lonely, I turned to TikTok, I started creating content and that opened
a whole entire new world for me. It led me to finding my purpose,
to start becoming a life coach, to reading self help books, to
sharing more of my life on the internet, to this podcast. So this
book deal to my whole entire career. You don't know what loneliness is going
to invite you to do. You don't know where loneliness is going to take
you. This is why I say loneliness has taken me places that no other
emotion, circumstance, or person could have taken me it pushed me to be
so uncomfortable that I was like, I have to do something with this energy.
So I used it. I channeled it into creative energy. I found
my voice, I found my purpose, I found fun, and I would
get into such a flow state that hours and hours would go by. I
would forget to even use the bathroom or get a of water, which isn't
the healthiest. But when you're such in a flow state, time doesn't exist
as time because you're so present and you're so enjoying what you're doing that it
flies by. So my biggest takeaway is find a creative endeavor. What is
something you used to like to do, whether it's coloring or dancing or editing,
or what's something that might be interesting to you today maybe it's painting,
and start doing it. Invest in the supplies, because investing in the supplies
is you investing in your self, which is the best investment that you can
make. How do you choose yourself when you're used to putting someone else above
you. It's really about awareness, interruption, and making a new decision and
then practicing that. So I highly recommend you join the pedestal path because in
the pedestal path. I teach you why you're energetically chasing, why you place
others on the pedestal. You'll also learn not only how to have awareness around
these behaviors, but you'll remove the energetic roots so you stop engaging in these
behaviors. And then it give you tips and tricks and tools to practice staying
on your own pedestal. So if you're having trouble with taking someone off your
pedestal, or you're too used to putting someone on your pedestal, don't worry.
It's just a bad habit, and habits can be broken. You're not
stuck. You just need to learn a new way of perceiving and being,
and it's possible with the Pedestal Path course. That link will be in the
show notes. I do want to give you some tip, however, in
this podcast episode. So my greatest tip, if you're used to putting someone
else on your pedestal and you're trying to put yourself on the pedestal, definitely
engage with non negotiables. As I stated at the top of this podcast,
work on that self focus. Also, you know, give yourself grace.
A lot of us are on this healing journey and it's four four four on
my clock. A lot of us are on this healing journey and we're just
trying our best, and it's not always easy to learn these new ways of
being and these new behaviors. But don't get frustrated with yourself. You have
been this way for your whole entire life. So it might take more than
I don't know a week to completely embody a new sense of self. We
think that overnight, I should just be better after one sixty second video,
I should be healed. That is ridiculous. That is ridiculous. You need
to give yourself time and space and energy in order to really become a new
version of you. So it's not just having awareness, but it's now giving
yourself time and energy to practice being someone new and not creating meaning or setting
time limits around this phase of your life. A lot of us, when
we're going through breakups, we think it's three months I should be over him.
Why are you telling yourself what you should and should not be doing that?
That doesn't make any sense. You don't know what needs to be released,
and if you've been one way your whole entire life, it's going to
take more than one week. In order to release all of those energies.
So please have grace with yourself, have patience with yourself. I know that
you would extend that grace and that patience to someone else in your reality.
It's time that you now extend that grace and that patience to yourself. That's
putting yourself on the pedestal. That's giving yourself leeway to grow and change.
And by the way, when you're on this journey, you might trip up.
Sometimes, you might go back into old ways of being, and that's
okay. That is part of the transformation process. Is we're not perfect.
We're just going for We're just going for progress here. It's not about perfection.
It's about am I getting a little bit better today and a little bit
better tomorrow? Oh? Did I trip up? Okay, tomorrow will be
a better day. Be patient with your self and remember that if the cost
is you self sacrificing, that cost is too high and nothing is worth you
self sacrificing yourself Trying to preserve friendships and things that are outdated in your life
are not worth stunting your own growth and missing your blessings. Choosing yourself is
never the wrong answer. That is what a lioness does the lioness in their
little tribes. Lioness are actually the hunters. Liing Ess know what they want
and how to get it and how to hunt it down. You know what
you want. You want to be in this magnetic energy. Now, it's
about hunting that magnetic energy down by giving your self space to engage with these
behaviors, to really allow yourself to grow into this new version of yourself,
to really allowing yourself to feel what it feels to fill up your own cup.
We're not fighting our way through this process. We're flowing with it.
As always, the sparkle in me honors the sparkle in you. I hope
this podcast has allowed you to have some light bulb moments and has shed light
on things that will help you grow towards your most magnetic self. If this
podcast episode resonated with you, please leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts and
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