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app. My next guest is a very interesting guest. You know. I
think it was people in my Patreon zoom room who said you gotta have Sterling
Cooper on your show. And I'm like, who's Sterling Cooper? And I
google him and I'm like, Oh, a hot ozzy man in the studio.
Okay, fine, Actually I'm very excited to welcome Sterling Cooper. Can
I do you blush if I give you this introduction about what you do?
Do you blush? You don't blush? Okay? So Sterling, yes,
he kept his Aussie accent, folks, even though he's been in LA a
long time. So he's an adult entertainment actor. You know what that's code
for, right, you know? Apparently the kind of entertainment that adults like.
He also, you also wear a high class male companion service servicing wealthy
business women. And I am going to ask you about this, and also
fulfilling couples, cuckhold fantasies. Okay, if you don't know what that is,
it just stays strong. Look, if your kids are listening, this
is the time to move them away from the radio because we're going to get
into some stuff now. He has a YouTube channel that's very successful and he
helps men become great lovers because apparently you've got lots of experience in that area.
Yeah, a bit more than the average guy, I'd say. Okay,
so let's start from the beginning. You got into pornography. I actually
met recently and I think she's on our show too, a woman who's retired
from the pornography industry, and she described male porn actors as olympians because she
said it's such a difficult job to do the things you have to do on
que Yeah. Yeah, it's not normal. It's not natural. It's not
by default everyone's natural ability to do that, right, And also it's not
natural in general, right. No, it's had like a room full of
cameras and a room for you'll put people watching near waiting and having their paychecks
determined by whether you can get a erection or not. Wow. Yeah,
that's that's a hard job. So you know you went into that other life,
which is being a male escort. Are there really women out there who
pay for sex, yeah, tend to be very wealthy businesswomen, business owners,
hotel heiresses. Yeah, women who are in high level like managerial positions
like six figure plus earning women typically late to mid thirties, who have a
hard time dating because they can't find guys kind of on their level because they're
so powerful. Yeah, and guys get threatened and intimidated by That's it's also
a case of the guys that or what one. They're busy. Yeah,
they don't really have the time for casual dating. So it's very, very
hard. They have intimate needs and so sometimes they need to have those needs
met. And sometimes they want to feel they want to feel beautiful again,
they want to feel pampered, they want to feel, you know, loved,
And that's kind of where that job came in. So how does it
work? Like I have heard sometimes that women who pay for escorts really want
the companionship and they want a nice, beautiful date on their arm when they
go somewhere. Do you always have sex with them? Not always? Not
always if depending upon like the place you're doing it. So for example,
when I did this, I was doing this in Australia, not in the
United States, because the legalities of it are very, very different. But
I have friends, for example, who do engage in it here in America.
And the way you sort of structure it is it's like they're paying for
the companionship and then if something intimate happens between two consenting adults, and that's
something separate, all right, So you're not actually paying for the sex.
So you don't have like a menu that says if they do this, you
pay this, If I do that, you pay that. No, it's
like a it's a companionship time thing. But that was a very similar situation
in Australia too, as they do it here, where it's a case of
yeah, she wants to be wined and dying for the evening, taking that
to a show, taking out to dinner, some kind of romantic date,
and then but when the check comes she pulls out her credit card. Yeah,
that's the only awkward part I say, because it's a transactional situation.
So it's like she's paying to have a traditional gender role of being a woman
who's being served by an alpha male, and yet she pays for the experience.
Yeah. Sometimes the way around that is the payment she will pay in
advance and then you take care of the bill. They've done that so it
doesn't feel like, yeah, she's paying for dinner. Well, let me
tell you this, ladies, in case you're thinking of doing that. I
met a woman once who did something similar in London, and she said,
since we're going out to dinner with two other couples who are friends of mine,
here's my credit card ahead of time. When it comes to pay the
check, you just pay the check. Well, because they had such a
lovely evening, she forgot to get the credit card back from him and the
next day he ran up thirty thousand dollars in clothes. No way. Yeah.
Oh, so we got to be careful about all that kind of stuf.
All right, Sterling Cooper. On your YouTube channel, you teach men
how to be powerful amazing lovers. Can we go through a few of your
tips. What's first of all, let me ask you this, is this
a story about anatomy and plumbing or is it a story about psychology? Depends
upon the problem that they have. Okay, so what's the most common problem
that man will report. I get a lot of guys who come to me
with issues on premature ejaculation m H. I get a lot of guys who
come to me with issues on performance anxiety, which are often one and the
same, very very intimately related, yes, very mentally intimilated. But both
of those well, the premature ejaculation does have a physical component to it,
but both have a mental component to them as well. And so what is
your advice, Well, with premature ejaculation, there's some very very interesting stuff
with in regards to what they found when people take SSRIs, for example,
they'll often report guys who had premature ejaculation no longer have premature ejaculation when they
get on SSRI prescription medical. They say that sexual desire goes down on antipressants.
Two. Yes, so it relates to serotonin in the body. So
what we can but SSR, I would not recommend people get on SSRIs for
this purpose at all, but that that gives us a hint, right,
It tells us something about the human body, and it tells us something about
the relationship between premature ejaculation or you know, being hyper sensitive, hyper aroused,
and your serotonin levels. So if we can control those a little bit
more naturally, we can supplement in a certain way. We can bring those
down a little bit to a more manageable level. We can find guys can
increase that premature ejaculation time. And what about the performance anxiety part, Yeah,
so that's that's pretty much entirely a mental thing. And what we can
do though, is this because the human body and the human mind are very
intimately connected, right, So you have to be able to change your physiology,
or change what you're doing physically, or change the space you're in physically
to alter your mind. Right, So a lot of guys will. It's
a negative feedback loop. It's a negative like habit spiral which gets guys in
a in a state of performance anxiety and anxiety in general. So he has
to start recognizing his triggers, Like he gets in what when does he start
to feel the anxiety? Is it before he even gets into the bedroom?
Is it when he first holds a one's hand? Is it when he first
has a kiss with a woman? Where exactly along the line between like him
not having an erection due to performance anxiety versus him being okay and fine and
comfortable, where along that spectrum does the anxiety start to trigger? So,
first of all, he needs to be able to recognize his triggers, and
then we can work on, okay, either navigating around them or mitigating them,
or trying to find a way to break the pattern, like break that
habit, break that default way that his body's responding. It's literally the habit
reversal loop, right that you're just I'm a professor of health psychology and I
have all my students do a health change during the course of the sematter,
and first we learn about that habit loop loop feeling like what comes first that
causes the trigger? And then how can we provide something different at that sage?
So what do you often recommend once they figured out okay, let's say
the moment is, you know, when they walk into the bedroom, all
of a sudden, they feel that feel the tightness in their chest or in
their stomach, and they feel worry and anxiety. How do you ask them
to convert that energy into something different? Well, if in that specific example,
if it was