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You're listening to KFI AM six forty
on demand. Welcome back to the Doctor

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Wendy Wall Show on KFI AM six
forty. Were live everywhere on the iHeartRadio

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app. My next guest is a
very interesting guest. You know. I

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think it was people in my Patreon
zoom room who said you gotta have Sterling

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Cooper on your show. And I'm
like, who's Sterling Cooper? And I

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google him and I'm like, Oh, a hot ozzy man in the studio.

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Okay, fine, Actually I'm very
excited to welcome Sterling Cooper. Can

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I do you blush if I give
you this introduction about what you do?

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Do you blush? You don't blush? Okay? So Sterling, yes,

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he kept his Aussie accent, folks, even though he's been in LA a

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long time. So he's an adult
entertainment actor. You know what that's code

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for, right, you know?
Apparently the kind of entertainment that adults like.

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He also, you also wear a
high class male companion service servicing wealthy

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business women. And I am going
to ask you about this, and also

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fulfilling couples, cuckhold fantasies. Okay, if you don't know what that is,

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it just stays strong. Look,
if your kids are listening, this

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is the time to move them away
from the radio because we're going to get

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into some stuff now. He has
a YouTube channel that's very successful and he

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helps men become great lovers because apparently
you've got lots of experience in that area.

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Yeah, a bit more than the
average guy, I'd say. Okay,

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so let's start from the beginning.
You got into pornography. I actually

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met recently and I think she's on
our show too, a woman who's retired

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from the pornography industry, and she
described male porn actors as olympians because she

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said it's such a difficult job to
do the things you have to do on

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que Yeah. Yeah, it's not
normal. It's not natural. It's not

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by default everyone's natural ability to do
that, right, And also it's not

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natural in general, right. No, it's had like a room full of

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cameras and a room for you'll put
people watching near waiting and having their paychecks

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determined by whether you can get a
erection or not. Wow. Yeah,

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that's that's a hard job. So
you know you went into that other life,

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which is being a male escort.
Are there really women out there who

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pay for sex, yeah, tend
to be very wealthy businesswomen, business owners,

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hotel heiresses. Yeah, women who
are in high level like managerial positions

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like six figure plus earning women typically
late to mid thirties, who have a

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hard time dating because they can't find
guys kind of on their level because they're

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so powerful. Yeah, and guys
get threatened and intimidated by That's it's also

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a case of the guys that or
what one. They're busy. Yeah,

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they don't really have the time for
casual dating. So it's very, very

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hard. They have intimate needs and
so sometimes they need to have those needs

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met. And sometimes they want to
feel they want to feel beautiful again,

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they want to feel pampered, they
want to feel, you know, loved,

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And that's kind of where that job
came in. So how does it

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work? Like I have heard sometimes
that women who pay for escorts really want

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the companionship and they want a nice, beautiful date on their arm when they

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go somewhere. Do you always have
sex with them? Not always? Not

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always if depending upon like the place
you're doing it. So for example,

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when I did this, I was
doing this in Australia, not in the

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United States, because the legalities of
it are very, very different. But

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I have friends, for example,
who do engage in it here in America.

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And the way you sort of structure
it is it's like they're paying for

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the companionship and then if something intimate
happens between two consenting adults, and that's

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something separate, all right, So
you're not actually paying for the sex.

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So you don't have like a menu
that says if they do this, you

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pay this, If I do that, you pay that. No, it's

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like a it's a companionship time thing. But that was a very similar situation

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in Australia too, as they do
it here, where it's a case of

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yeah, she wants to be wined
and dying for the evening, taking that

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to a show, taking out to
dinner, some kind of romantic date,

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and then but when the check comes
she pulls out her credit card. Yeah,

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that's the only awkward part I say, because it's a transactional situation.

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So it's like she's paying to have
a traditional gender role of being a woman

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who's being served by an alpha male, and yet she pays for the experience.

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Yeah. Sometimes the way around that
is the payment she will pay in

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advance and then you take care of
the bill. They've done that so it

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doesn't feel like, yeah, she's
paying for dinner. Well, let me

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tell you this, ladies, in
case you're thinking of doing that. I

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met a woman once who did something
similar in London, and she said,

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since we're going out to dinner with
two other couples who are friends of mine,

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here's my credit card ahead of time. When it comes to pay the

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check, you just pay the check. Well, because they had such a

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lovely evening, she forgot to get
the credit card back from him and the

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next day he ran up thirty thousand
dollars in clothes. No way. Yeah.

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Oh, so we got to be
careful about all that kind of stuf.

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All right, Sterling Cooper. On
your YouTube channel, you teach men

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how to be powerful amazing lovers.
Can we go through a few of your

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tips. What's first of all,
let me ask you this, is this

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a story about anatomy and plumbing or
is it a story about psychology? Depends

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upon the problem that they have.
Okay, so what's the most common problem

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that man will report. I get
a lot of guys who come to me

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with issues on premature ejaculation m H. I get a lot of guys who

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come to me with issues on performance
anxiety, which are often one and the

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same, very very intimately related,
yes, very mentally intimilated. But both

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of those well, the premature ejaculation
does have a physical component to it,

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but both have a mental component to
them as well. And so what is

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your advice, Well, with premature
ejaculation, there's some very very interesting stuff

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with in regards to what they found
when people take SSRIs, for example,

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they'll often report guys who had premature
ejaculation no longer have premature ejaculation when they

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get on SSRI prescription medical. They
say that sexual desire goes down on antipressants.

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Two. Yes, so it relates
to serotonin in the body. So

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what we can but SSR, I
would not recommend people get on SSRIs for

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this purpose at all, but that
that gives us a hint, right,

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It tells us something about the human
body, and it tells us something about

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the relationship between premature ejaculation or you
know, being hyper sensitive, hyper aroused,

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and your serotonin levels. So if
we can control those a little bit

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more naturally, we can supplement in
a certain way. We can bring those

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down a little bit to a more
manageable level. We can find guys can

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increase that premature ejaculation time. And
what about the performance anxiety part, Yeah,

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so that's that's pretty much entirely a
mental thing. And what we can

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do though, is this because the
human body and the human mind are very

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intimately connected, right, So you
have to be able to change your physiology,

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or change what you're doing physically,
or change the space you're in physically

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to alter your mind. Right,
So a lot of guys will. It's

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a negative feedback loop. It's a
negative like habit spiral which gets guys in

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a in a state of performance anxiety
and anxiety in general. So he has

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to start recognizing his triggers, Like
he gets in what when does he start

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to feel the anxiety? Is it
before he even gets into the bedroom?

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Is it when he first holds a
one's hand? Is it when he first

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has a kiss with a woman?
Where exactly along the line between like him

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not having an erection due to performance
anxiety versus him being okay and fine and

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comfortable, where along that spectrum does
the anxiety start to trigger? So,

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first of all, he needs to
be able to recognize his triggers, and

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then we can work on, okay, either navigating around them or mitigating them,

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or trying to find a way to
break the pattern, like break that

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habit, break that default way that
his body's responding. It's literally the habit

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reversal loop, right that you're just
I'm a professor of health psychology and I

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have all my students do a health
change during the course of the sematter,

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and first we learn about that habit
loop loop feeling like what comes first that

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causes the trigger? And then how
can we provide something different at that sage?

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So what do you often recommend once
they figured out okay, let's say

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the moment is, you know,
when they walk into the bedroom, all

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of a sudden, they feel that
feel the tightness in their chest or in

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their stomach, and they feel worry
and anxiety. How do you ask them

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to convert that energy into something different? Well, if in that specific example,

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if it was