Then it' s Thursday. We' re running out of June. Half,
half already of this two thousand twenty- four that I hope is,
as it flows in the best possible way. When we have a sick older
adult relative in families, not all brothers have the possibility of being able to
support in the same way and sometimes that has simply to do with circumstances.
It' s not anyone' s fault, let' s say. Here
the case is when you are not the one who can support you in time
at least, you take the trouble to thank the one who does and to
recognize the one who does, who does, who is present, who takes
care of it or, in addition to everything, you leave it alone or
leave it completely alone in that process and you don' t recognize what it
does, because sometimes a word of thanks, a word of recognition. It
would be enough for the person who does have the time and the possibility to
say is strength to do so. Know that the other family members know you
' re doing it. Take a moment and tell him what' s going
on with what your son does well. There' s one very important thing.
I can assure you every day here. You tell your son something he
did wrong or he didn' t do enough. You' re good.
So I ask you every day you tell your son something he did well.
If the answer is no, your task is from today, at least once
a day, you need to tell him this you did very well and or
this worked out better than yesterday every day, just as we have to improve
something every day. We need to be aware of the recognition that is necessary
to gain personal security. Hey. You would like to know if you can
orient me on how to educate a two- year- old who makes me
Many tantrums at daycare tell me that he no longer does, but coming home
does. He has a very strong character and I don' t know how
to control him. Sometimes look here applies a little this comment that is made
colloquially. It' s taken your measure when in one environment they don'
t do perrinches and in another they do. It' s probably because you
' re worrying too much when he starts crying about trying to calm him down
first and second, about trying to please him, about having him happy when
a little boy starts to get angry because he doesn' t get what he
wants and you try to convince him that he wouldn' t have to get
angry. That' s why you' re putting it to him somehow,
they' re empowering. And one of the things is that when children start
to get angry, what we would have to say is my love, this
can' t be done. When you' re done getting angry, we
' re talking and the only thing we' d have to take care of
is, obviously, not hurt, not in a dangerous place. No,
and we withdrew the attempt to keep talking to him so that he' s
done, to calm down alone, if you at that point, but Mira
quit that. But with this you can, but try to calm down.
But look, a kid tantrum doesn' t mean he has a strong character.
What it means is that he' s getting outraged. Okay, I
learned in kindergarten that he' s not. That' s not what you
' ve learned. Then he doesn' t even insist anymore. So when
you start to get angry just put it in a safe place and stop talking
to a child who is crying, crying, tantrum. All he does is
he stimulates crying at first, he won' t stop crying until he sees
that crying is useless. When a young child commits a misdemeanor and must be
taught to apologize, he did not break something to another child, beat another
child, said something ugly to another child. Yeah, it' s important
that you learn to apologize. No doubt you have to learn to ask forgiveness,
but eye to ask forgiveness is part of the models, models per manners
of education. However, that is not enough. Why what' s wrong
with the kids? They throw you in, you forgive me, they give
you forgiveness, they break your forgiveness. No. Forgiveness must be accompanied by
a healing action. Therefore, in addition to apologizing, you have to learn
to take action that will let the other one know that you regret what happened.
Then the process that would have to be followed is ok If you broke
the other one' s drawing, then you draw a little drawing and tell
him I brought you this drawing because I' m sorry I broke the one
you made. I brought you my cookies and I share you because I'
m sorry I hit you. I do something that takes away my time or
my things and I give you what I said to you to know that I
really regret what happened and that gives the child a complete experience. Around what
happened, see making your child understand it in a much more comprehensive and comprehensive
way. I find more and more places and that gives me great pleasure this
insistence on giving up the idea of the orange half when it comes to the
couple and continuing to insist that people are complete people. We' re not
half- hearted, we don' t need anyone to come and complement us.
We join as people when we meet someone else and add experiences, share
with each other or the other, but we don' t need to be
complemented. A single person is a complete person who is living his life and
who if he meets another person and wants to add in life, share with
someone. Well, go ahead and add up, but it' s not
complementary. And this makes that when someone lives their life independently, alone,
they just don' t have to live life in deficit, feeling that something
is missing to be happy. And this leads to that other idea of two.
Everyone is taking care of their happiness. You take care of yours or
you' re waiting for someone else to make you happy. Notice that we
all always have things that are under our control and beyond our control, and
the great merit is to be able to recognize which are where they are.
I have under my control what I speak, my limits, my attitude,
what I consume, my thoughts, my personal growth, my energy and even
if you don' t believe it how you react to things the latter how
it reacted. There are so many people who consider that they don' t
have it under control, that it' s something that overcomes it, that
it' s something that goes beyond, that' s something that really beats
them, and many times it' s for lack of practice alone and the
first thing you have to say is I need to rehearse it, but it
' s under my control. Repeat it and practice it determines under what circumstances
it is when it fails you the most, but start by telling you that
it is under your control. Back from these musical jewels, let' s
try to understand now which ones are out of your control and why it'
s important to understand why they' re out of your control. We were
talking about what I have under control now that I don' t have under
control the beliefs that others have about me about life. Nor do I have
much control over what happens on social networks, for example, the opinions that
others have about life, what has already happened, the rumors that are circulating.
Out there, what is going to happen in the future to some extent
is not under my control the behavior of others. As close as those others
may be, they will finally behave as they please in the face of the
different situations that arise. And one thing that is certainly not under our control
is the algorithms of social networks. The one who gets into the Internet and
suddenly starts to show up with information in that sense. No. Now that
the votes have passed, people are saying that of course all the information that
comes to me says that of course the information that you are looking for is
what you care about. So, everything comes to you on the same line.
It' s the algorithms that handle everything that has to do with the
Internet, not everything that' s not under our control. It' s
important to know and recognize it, because it' s going to affect what
I' m going to go through, believing what I' m going to
feel and I need to become aware of that. What do you do with
that, with what you have no control, how far it determines, how
you feel what you think and how far and how you make decisions about it.
Notice that I found myself in networks an image that caught my attention from
a pediatric nurse who calls herself arming her ass and the image says what I
think they are and then wonders what I think they are because they laugh at
their peers, what they do, what they are, for what they are,
for what they are, for how they are, for meeting with someone
they have already marked, for having what they don' t have or for
not having what others do, to the point of rejecting, turning away,
making the void and getting them to feel invisible. How cruel are they?
The mother says that, when she watches the TV, she thinks to them
how bad that or how bad she has left her clothes or how many kilos
she has left or how ridiculous her hairstyle is. How cruel they are says
the dad who screams in the car woman you had to be and that,
after telling a man with the darkest skin that no thanks, says aloud,
you could already go to your country when he brings his children in the back
seat. Or how cruel are they? Says Grandma, what does she think
about girls playing with their granddaughters that she doesn' t understand how they can
be in the park with the daughter of one or another or the son of
the one who I don' t know what she did to the neighboring family,
as if the boys and girls were to blame for the sins or faults
of their family. How cruel they are that all they do is imitate us
with the difference that they haven' t yet learned to lie and just shout
what adults think and for cowards we keep quiet and for not growing up,
we keep growing up. If you already know how to worry about shining you
more instead of turning off others, of being a better person with your actions
and not from the conviction that others are worse than you, because that doesn
' t make you better every day, but worse. And your children,
too, believe. I found it worthy to share it with you And well,
let' s just think if that cruelty that we so much blame on
children only makes the children speak aloud what they hear in our homes, that
we say there in private, and the children just go and repeat it in
school. And, well, this brings us to the end of today'
s show. We meet again tomorrow here in more chayo with you who have
very good profit until tomorrow. Audio Centre