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Then it' s Thursday. We' re running out of June. Half,

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half already of this two thousand twenty- four that I hope is,

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as it flows in the best possible
way. When we have a sick older

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adult relative in families, not all
brothers have the possibility of being able to

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support in the same way and sometimes
that has simply to do with circumstances.

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It' s not anyone' s
fault, let' s say. Here

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the case is when you are not
the one who can support you in time

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at least, you take the trouble
to thank the one who does and to

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recognize the one who does, who
does, who is present, who takes

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care of it or, in addition
to everything, you leave it alone or

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leave it completely alone in that process
and you don' t recognize what it

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does, because sometimes a word of
thanks, a word of recognition. It

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would be enough for the person who
does have the time and the possibility to

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say is strength to do so.
Know that the other family members know you

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' re doing it. Take a
moment and tell him what' s going

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on with what your son does well. There' s one very important thing.

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I can assure you every day here. You tell your son something he

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did wrong or he didn' t
do enough. You' re good.

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So I ask you every day you
tell your son something he did well.

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If the answer is no, your
task is from today, at least once

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a day, you need to tell
him this you did very well and or

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this worked out better than yesterday every
day, just as we have to improve

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something every day. We need to
be aware of the recognition that is necessary

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to gain personal security. Hey.
You would like to know if you can

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orient me on how to educate a
two- year- old who makes me

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Many tantrums at daycare tell me that
he no longer does, but coming home

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does. He has a very strong
character and I don' t know how

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to control him. Sometimes look here
applies a little this comment that is made

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colloquially. It' s taken your
measure when in one environment they don'

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t do perrinches and in another they
do. It' s probably because you

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' re worrying too much when he
starts crying about trying to calm him down

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first and second, about trying to
please him, about having him happy when

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a little boy starts to get angry
because he doesn' t get what he

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wants and you try to convince him
that he wouldn' t have to get

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angry. That' s why you' re putting it to him somehow,

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they' re empowering. And one
of the things is that when children start

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to get angry, what we would
have to say is my love, this

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can' t be done. When
you' re done getting angry, we

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' re talking and the only thing
we' d have to take care of

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is, obviously, not hurt,
not in a dangerous place. No,

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and we withdrew the attempt to keep
talking to him so that he' s

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done, to calm down alone,
if you at that point, but Mira

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quit that. But with this you
can, but try to calm down.

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But look, a kid tantrum doesn' t mean he has a strong character.

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What it means is that he'
s getting outraged. Okay, I

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learned in kindergarten that he' s
not. That' s not what you

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' ve learned. Then he doesn' t even insist anymore. So when

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you start to get angry just put
it in a safe place and stop talking

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to a child who is crying,
crying, tantrum. All he does is

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he stimulates crying at first, he
won' t stop crying until he sees

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that crying is useless. When a
young child commits a misdemeanor and must be

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taught to apologize, he did not
break something to another child, beat another

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child, said something ugly to another
child. Yeah, it' s important

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that you learn to apologize. No
doubt you have to learn to ask forgiveness,

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but eye to ask forgiveness is part
of the models, models per manners

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of education. However, that is
not enough. Why what' s wrong

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with the kids? They throw you
in, you forgive me, they give

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you forgiveness, they break your forgiveness. No. Forgiveness must be accompanied by

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a healing action. Therefore, in
addition to apologizing, you have to learn

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to take action that will let the
other one know that you regret what happened.

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Then the process that would have to
be followed is ok If you broke

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the other one' s drawing,
then you draw a little drawing and tell

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him I brought you this drawing because
I' m sorry I broke the one

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you made. I brought you my
cookies and I share you because I'

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m sorry I hit you. I
do something that takes away my time or

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my things and I give you what
I said to you to know that I

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really regret what happened and that gives
the child a complete experience. Around what

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happened, see making your child understand
it in a much more comprehensive and comprehensive

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way. I find more and more
places and that gives me great pleasure this

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insistence on giving up the idea of
the orange half when it comes to the

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couple and continuing to insist that people
are complete people. We' re not

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half- hearted, we don'
t need anyone to come and complement us.

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We join as people when we meet
someone else and add experiences, share

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with each other or the other,
but we don' t need to be

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complemented. A single person is a
complete person who is living his life and

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who if he meets another person and
wants to add in life, share with

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someone. Well, go ahead and
add up, but it' s not

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complementary. And this makes that when
someone lives their life independently, alone,

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they just don' t have to
live life in deficit, feeling that something

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is missing to be happy. And
this leads to that other idea of two.

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Everyone is taking care of their happiness. You take care of yours or

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you' re waiting for someone else
to make you happy. Notice that we

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all always have things that are under
our control and beyond our control, and

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the great merit is to be able
to recognize which are where they are.

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I have under my control what I
speak, my limits, my attitude,

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what I consume, my thoughts,
my personal growth, my energy and even

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if you don' t believe it
how you react to things the latter how

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it reacted. There are so many
people who consider that they don' t

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have it under control, that it' s something that overcomes it, that

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it' s something that goes beyond, that' s something that really beats

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them, and many times it'
s for lack of practice alone and the

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first thing you have to say is
I need to rehearse it, but it

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' s under my control. Repeat
it and practice it determines under what circumstances

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it is when it fails you the
most, but start by telling you that

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it is under your control. Back
from these musical jewels, let' s

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try to understand now which ones are
out of your control and why it'

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s important to understand why they'
re out of your control. We were

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talking about what I have under control
now that I don' t have under

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control the beliefs that others have about
me about life. Nor do I have

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much control over what happens on social
networks, for example, the opinions that

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others have about life, what has
already happened, the rumors that are circulating.

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Out there, what is going to
happen in the future to some extent

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is not under my control the behavior
of others. As close as those others

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may be, they will finally behave
as they please in the face of the

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different situations that arise. And one
thing that is certainly not under our control

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is the algorithms of social networks.
The one who gets into the Internet and

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suddenly starts to show up with information
in that sense. No. Now that

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the votes have passed, people are
saying that of course all the information that

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comes to me says that of course
the information that you are looking for is

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what you care about. So,
everything comes to you on the same line.

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It' s the algorithms that handle
everything that has to do with the

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Internet, not everything that' s
not under our control. It' s

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important to know and recognize it,
because it' s going to affect what

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I' m going to go through, believing what I' m going to

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feel and I need to become aware
of that. What do you do with

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that, with what you have no
control, how far it determines, how

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you feel what you think and how
far and how you make decisions about it.

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Notice that I found myself in networks
an image that caught my attention from

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a pediatric nurse who calls herself arming
her ass and the image says what I

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think they are and then wonders what
I think they are because they laugh at

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their peers, what they do,
what they are, for what they are,

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for what they are, for how
they are, for meeting with someone

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they have already marked, for having
what they don' t have or for

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not having what others do, to
the point of rejecting, turning away,

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making the void and getting them to
feel invisible. How cruel are they?

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The mother says that, when she
watches the TV, she thinks to them

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how bad that or how bad she
has left her clothes or how many kilos

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she has left or how ridiculous her
hairstyle is. How cruel they are says

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the dad who screams in the car
woman you had to be and that,

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after telling a man with the darkest
skin that no thanks, says aloud,

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you could already go to your country
when he brings his children in the back

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seat. Or how cruel are they? Says Grandma, what does she think

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about girls playing with their granddaughters that
she doesn' t understand how they can

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be in the park with the daughter
of one or another or the son of

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the one who I don' t
know what she did to the neighboring family,

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as if the boys and girls were
to blame for the sins or faults

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of their family. How cruel they
are that all they do is imitate us

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with the difference that they haven'
t yet learned to lie and just shout

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what adults think and for cowards we
keep quiet and for not growing up,

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we keep growing up. If you
already know how to worry about shining you

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more instead of turning off others,
of being a better person with your actions

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and not from the conviction that others
are worse than you, because that doesn

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' t make you better every day, but worse. And your children,

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too, believe. I found it
worthy to share it with you And well,

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let' s just think if that
cruelty that we so much blame on

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children only makes the children speak aloud
what they hear in our homes, that

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we say there in private, and
the children just go and repeat it in

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school. And, well, this
brings us to the end of today'

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s show. We meet again tomorrow
here in more chayo with you who have

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very good profit until tomorrow. Audio
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