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So what's up everybody? Welcome to for crying out loud, and by the
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been and thank you for commenting. Go to fc OL podcasts. I've been
seeing a lot of engagement. Yeah, as the kids call it, or
as the social media experts call it engagement. So I got a phone call
from my friend Mike, who's like, what's going on with He's like,
you look like shit. He's like, you're gonna be on camera on Monday
mornings. Can you just like you goes spruce yourself up a little bit?
My god, I was literally thinking, you look really pretty, You're all
glowing, you got to make up and talking to Yeah. But then now
now it's gonna be the comparison with me. I might call you too.
Yes, now I look I have like a chronic illness, and you're gonna
sounds like my hell in Paradise. He sounds like my mom lenet to do
something. You look like a mess. I got no makeup on. You
look like it just woke up because I did just wake up right, Because
we record on Monday mornings. Yeah, right, not like the best time
of day, but I mean it's good because I feel like we've just come
off of a weekend. Like if it was any later in the week with
my memory, I'd be like, I don't know what happened. Yeah,
what happened? Somebody messaged me and wanted to know the origin of what what
happened? And I don't remember it anymore. It was from a TV.
It was from a movie or a I feel like it's we were imitating our
kids. Like our kids would come in when they were with toddlers and they
would say, what happened, oh, and then we would just go,
happen. I don't know, well, I feel unless it's from a TV.
No, I feel like we were imitating our kids. Yeah, let's
say hi to our people like share Bear and Amy's a count and Katie Katie
not Anna Faris Aaron hohodas Nikky call your girls. Leslie and Leslie both of
goughing one's cost. They cannot stop themselves, both of them. It's like
a tick at this point. Yeah, I gotta cost people. I gotta
wait for I gotta I gotta stalk people at IKEA and then you get a
false police report and it's like, no, it's just Leslie and the other
one needs a cough drop. Jacob so Growley and Rita's rocking all of Elizabeth
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the park, Katerina, check that Moler, Gabby and Missy. That's Rae.
Rebecca Open is so cute. Kelly Brandt, she's not your aunt.
Alicia Scalante from the city of El Monte less. Oh, we already did
that. One is Sarah Stefano. Yeah, she's our Pithano. Oh and
Jennifer get up, and Sandra's nutties being green, Christa get the strap and
Stephanie's a stinker wrinker so boom boom uh yeah Kaylin. Yeah. Birthday parties,
you had one two weeks ago. I want to hear about this?
Well, yeah, we had. The girls had a birthday pottery. It
was their cousin's birthday. So we drove all the way from Long Beach to
Encino. That's that's a drive on a Saturday that's the hood up in the
hills, like off is a long oh yeah, okay, that's too fancy
for me. Yeah, Real Housewives territory. That is a long dry.
It's where Kyle lives and Dee I think Dort Dort was it Aitais? Yeah,
yeah, that's that's their cousin and so yeah on a Saturday. There's
still traffic, still traffic on Saturdays, of course. But it was really
nice. They had like they had kind of like a side yard with a
bounce house and like a play area, like almost like a gym area that
they kind of brought in, you know, the soft like pillowy gym stuff,
ballpit and yeah, it was you mean, like foam. They had
a ball pit and then it was like yeah it was like those mats,
you know those kind of like exercise mats. Yes, I don't really know
how to play. They throw themselves around and not hurt themselves while the parents
get drunk. Yeah, a little area like that. How old was the
birthday? Child? Four? Okay? Ye to me, I think until
kids are like five. Relaxed, slow down, you know, it's I
mean, okay, go on. Yeah, but there were a lot of
kids there. It was a lot of fun. They had someone making tacos,
which was nice. It was a very nice party. Were there a
lot of adults. There were a lot of adults. Adults didn't drop off.
They there were no drop offs. Drop off at four. Yeah,
so ye'd be hilacious for the host. Oh yeah, here's here's Susie with
her me and her dad growing to Chili's to have a drink, have a
beer and watch the game. Seeing three hours the party ends in two hours.
Yeah, she'll nap. I mean not for us, that we hear.
She loves for other people. Go on, Kaylin's still coffee. Yeah,
I've had it for months. Yeah it was. It was a really
nice party. Everyone had a good time. All the kids had a good
time. There were just two things that really stuck out to me. The
first one was this magician that they hired. Now, I was very excited
for the magician. All right, because magician, even if it's a kid's
one, it's still going to be entertaining. I'm going to like it.
Yeah, So I will just say it took quite a while to get all
the kids corralled and in the living room and sit down. You know,
I was going I'm hungry. I want to talk about magician time. Go
you'll eat after fucking magic time. It's magic time, you'll eat after.
So they finally get all the kids into this living room, and this magician
was a bit of a letdown. Honestly, this is crazy. A magician
at a four year old's birthday party was a letdown. Not only that,
but I learned later that he was the backup magician. Oh, I had
booked a magician and then that magician got COVID, So yeah, they had
to book a book a backup magician, and yeah, I was very disappointed.
He was a somebody who lives in someone's garage. By they put it
on next door and then this guy was like, Hey, I got this
guy in my garage. She does a couple of like a card tricks.
He probably just learned everything on YouTube that morning. Oh Jesus. He seemed
very well, not very professional, but he seemed professional enough. And he
just could not control the room. And he kept doing this thing where he
was just trying to get the kids too involved with being a part of the
magic show. So he was screwing up all the tricks, like he started
off with birthday Boy, come up and help out the magician. The birth
boy's like, nah, I'm good things. So then after that, just
be done, just start your magic. No, he had to find someone
else to come help out. They came up and help. They just start
sucking up all the tricks. It's like their kids, they're messing up the
show. And he's constantly like trying to get him to focus, and I
was like, why do you keep getting every single one of his tricks?
He's having to bring up the kids and it's just screwing. They're all losing
their attention. They're starting to go every which way, and yeah, please
bring up a parent. Then that at that point, if you need a
help to get started, then clearly kids aren't going to help you. They're
not saving you. So I like that he wanted to get them involved.
But at some point you have to realize, like, right, you have
a show to perform here and these kids are messing up the show for everybody,
so maybe you just do it. I'd like to follow this. I'd
like to follow this magician home and see what his home life's like. You
know, you can just picture him living in you know, in a one
bedroom, not even one bedroom, like a studio runtman and Van Eyes.
Yes, like everything's failed. He's tried to stand up. He's tried writing
for a few years, but then nobody feels bad for him because they're like,
but you're not even trying that hard with the magic, Like like watch
the video back and learn a little bit about what you're not doing, right.
Yes. I like to picture him with like a roommate in a two
bedroom apartment and he's always like trying his new tricks on his roommate, Like
watch my trick for kids. Oh god, he's getting drunk and fucking up
the tricks all the time. You know what, it's sad is over at
Thanksgiving, my nine year old niece did a card trick on me that was
honestly probably better than anything this guy did because it really worked. Like it
was like a Okay, pick a card with your mind, right, and
then I'm gonna do these piles and this and this, and I'm like this
is never going to work. She's nine, Yeah, oh sure enough.
I mean it took a while to get there, and I was like,
oh, this is this is not going to have a good conclusion. I'm
going to have to fake it, you know. But no, she I
mean literally, it was not anything. I didn't ever touch the card.
It was like, look at a card with your min and she freaking found
my card. How does that happen? How did she not get hired?
H? I got to put Emerson on like a list of higher magicians at
least for the backup. Yeah, yeah, I learned. I've learned one
card trick in my life. That's like a real quick, simple, easy
card trick. So anytime I have a deck of cards, I can use
it on anybody from like, yeah, four year olds to adults and it
works every time, and it's great. I used to know good card trick
and I completely shock her. I forgot all how it went. My friend
tought it. I could ask him. Maybe he remembers. But it's always
weird to me when they go look at a card with your mind and then
don't tell me what card it is, and then they they go, was
it this card? You know that trick? Yeah, that's the one that
my niece. Did they do that? I don't know. She wouldn't tell
me. She's like magic. She's like freaking penn and teller at this.
She's just like, I can't reveal my seat. I can't person you're nine.
Did she call you Auntie Stephanie, yeah, Aunt Steph, Aunt Steph.
Yeah. Now she can't reveal her secrets to Aunt Steph, but I'd
like to find out. I still my niece and nephew call called John when
they were little. It was like the way they said it, you know,
is uncle John, Uncle John. So I still I still call him
that sometimes Uncle June. I'm like when whenever there's something I need, like
if I need him to get me something, I'm like, Uncle John,
get me some coffee. Johan. I had an uncle John. By the
way, I was just watching Get Gotti on Netflix, which have you seen
it? No? Oh my god, it's so good. It's really good.
Three episodes of how they got John Gotti, and I love three episodes
before it's too much of a time commitment. Three episodes is like the sweet
spot. Yes, yes, so it was up from when it came to
Mother God, which could have been like seventeen episodes. Now that I could
have gone on and on, I know. And anyway, I was just
thinking because Italians call their aunt or uncle setzi like, so I used to
call him Sezzi John. I never knew why until I was older, and
they're like, it's how you you know to how you say it in Italian?
But anyway, I was watching the Gotti thing and he looked like my
uncle's John. He looked like my uncle John. But anyway, highly recommend.
It's very good on Netflix. I haven't seen it. Have you seen
it? Galen? No? Oh god, it's so good. I want
to get back to this party. Though for a minute I got more on
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this magician party, yeah yeah, yeah, So then he finally started to
get his tricks going and uh yeah, very underwhelming, very disappointing. He
was just you know, he was he was using these like little foam rabbits,
you know, you put like, you know, a magician normally put
a ball in one hand and then they kid would tap it. You open
it up and like three balls would come out. But he's using these like
cheap foam rabbits. You couldn't even tell they were rabbits. They reminded me
of those things you'd put in the bath as a kid, those little chapsles
that would break open and the old dinosaur would pop out. Yeah, this
little magic crow. Yeah yeah, uh so, yeah, more disappointment there,
and then uh yeah, all the while bringing up different kids to just
slow the show down. And then I don't know, I guess he needed
like a halftime or something. But at one point he went, all right,
I want all of you kids to go and give your parents a hug
and tell them you love them. No, oh god, how cringe.
I was like, do you know how long it took to get all these
kids here, and now you're just gonna scatter them again? And that's island
blake. They were gone after that. Yeah done. Yeah, I wanted
to he wanted to go in the bouncy Yeah they didn't. Maybe that was
he was trying to do that. He was trying to, you know,
beIN out the crowd. Yeah, because it definitely worked on Blake and Island.
I don't think they returned after that. Oh my god. That's like
a good trick though. Yeah, that is a good trick. The kids
disappear by telling them to tell them to tell their parents they love them.
Wow. Good. This is the thing about anything that involves trying to keep
kids attention. I used to take my kids to my gym, remember that.
Yeah, my gym. It's sort of like Jimboree. Right, I
don't know if it's I don't know if it's totally nationwide, but anyway,
yeah, it was great, except for at the beginning you had to do
the circle time, and it was like none of the kids wanted to sit
in a circle and they'd have to be like they'd have to. The leader
would go do a song or whatever. Elbie was always like okay, I
like because there's all this fun equipment around and things to jump on and whatever,
and Elbe would be would just get up a lot because we did.
She was pretty young, but at four same age as you know, she
would just get up and go wander off, right, maybe she was even
young like three, yeah, for two, and then she would just wander
away from me and they would always be kind of mad at me, you
know what I mean, Like, can you go get this is they're supposed
to be paying attention, right, It's like I'm paying you to come.
They only have an hour on all this, Like foot, let her go
fucking play. Who cares she's starts distracting everybody. They'd be like, well,
if she wants to go play, then all the kids are gonna want
to go play. Yeah, maybe you're not being that interesting, right,
Like maybe they don't want to hear the Blackbird song. Maybe you should work
on your you know, your charisma, right right? Did you ever take
your kids to a my gym? No? We well we have something right
down the street that's called Kids Town, and so it's like it's just like
a big indoor play place, right, I just different. This was the
classes, right, classes. I think I ever did the classes at the
gym. But it's not like I taking them to parties at my gym and
stuff. Yeah, so it's a very similar thing. They do the same
thing at parties, and the problem is there's a portion of the thing where
they have to sit, right, And it's I mean, I you use
the term class very loosely, but I think that's how they get you sucked
in. It's an activity, but it's not just free, right, it's
not just free, Like they don't just come in and use the space.
You come in, you sign up for like I'm gonna come Tuesdays at ten
fifteen in the morning to eleven fifteen. And then the kids, they first
they come for the circle time and then it's like, Okay, this time
we're gonna be using the we're gonna be swinging on the ring. You can
go to these different stations to which you know me, I'd always be like,
well, but Elbie really likes the thay the monkey bars, can we
do that one today? They're like, no, not today, We're not
doing that one. It's like, well why not, I'll watch her.
It's a full it's like a full like looks like a mental institution. It's
all padded exactly like you're gonna do. Everybody's wearing a helmet. Let them
Yeah, yeah, yeah, I just did that member that I got sucked
into the class, the Momy's first class in the valley. You remember that,
everybody was like Jackie's class, Jackie's class. Everybody's like, you gotta
do Jackie's class. There's a twin class that you should take. And I
was like, I ain't doing no fucking Jackie. No, no, no,
no, no, no, no no no. Then I had a
friend that had twins who I respected, and she was like, there's a
class in the valley for twins. But she didn't tell me the name.
She didn't say it with Jackie's class. She said the teacher's name is.
And then she's like, my, she had a friend that did it,
and she's like she really loved it, blah blah blah. And I was
like, oh, okay, and she gave me the number and I called
and I signed up. And then I was like I told the story and
I said I remember, you know, and they said okay, so make
the check out to Jackie's class, Jackie Baby's first class or whatever Jackie's class.
And I was like what the I broke the pencil and half like I
got do motherfuckers. I did not wanted to. And then but then I
was like, all right, I already signed up. It's for twins,
it's not you know whatever. And I did that for like the first since
they were like, I don't know, six months to eighteen months or so,
you did it. Yeah, I took it. Yeah, I loved
it. I learned so much from it. Yeah. I learned so much.
How to sleep train them at the same time, how to how to
potty train them, uh like everything like teething, what to do when they're
like, yeah, so you liked her. I it wasn't Jackie. It
was a oh you do a different one a teacher. It was the she
owned the place, okay, but then she had a teacher that had twins
okay, and she taught a twin class, and that's who I went to.
It's like a cult. Yeah, that's why I was like trying to
stay away from it, right right. I have a friend, my good
friend, Cecily the you know, defected from like and she said it was
really hard because it was it was like getting out of a cult, she
said, because she had one friend and they were doing it and they were
like, you know, it's just they're very bossy and everything. You have
to do it a certain way and all the people have become like real followers
and you can't have a different opinion about something. It's not open for discussion.
And she was like, she was like, this is not I don't
like it. So then she and her other friend left and then nobody would
speak to them. Really yeah, she said, it was really crazy.
Yeah. Now, my teacher, she was South African, she had that
accent. She was very mellow, very cool. She brought up twins.
She knew everything about twins, how to take care of twins, to do
everything. And I learned a lot. Yeah and yeah, and then and
then they grab they do their little graduation and then we were done. That
was it, right. But I did learn, you know, like the
teething the highlands, remember the Highlands. Of course, you know, learned
about that all that shit. But yeah, and then but I never did
the nanboree or the jamboree or the Jimbree Jimboree or I just remember going to
baby's birthday parties there. Yeah. I like my gym only because at a
certain point I had no activities, like and I was always a step behind
when people would be like, oh, is your kid doing like tea ball
or whatever, and I'd be like, no, I did never heard of
that, don't is Oh it's like all the kids are doing this thing or
oh oh all the kids were in this dance studio even from a super young
age. It was like Miss Tony's or something U huh dance And I was
like, how did everybody that I know find out about this? And nobody
mentioned it to me? So it was like, wait, you know about
this? You know about this? Oh, They're like, oh, yeah,
We've been going to Miss Tony's for you know, six months or they
already had their first recital. So then I got sucked into it, only
because I didn't want to be left out, right, even though I was
like, always seems pretty young to be like taking a dance clas. I
don't know, I thought it was young, you know, but I put
her in this thing and it was like balace and she kind of liked it.
But again she was like a wanderer, like she would you know.
I believe she might have been three, maybe she was four when she did
this recital. And also, if you recall, she had anxiety that I
didn't know that it was anxiety, right, but I was like, oh,
she's never she's never gonna do this, right, Like, day of
the recital happens, and shockingly, she went out and she was one of
the few people that actually knew all the moves I had no idea. I
was like, wait what she didn't cry. So several kids cried and wouldn't
come out, but Elbie was like, yeah, what's the big deal,
I'm wearing my little white Yeah. And of course you had to buy them
their recital dry Now she was like one hundred and fifty dollars or something.
I'm like, oh, that's where they get you. Yes, And they
had to specially get measured for Like it was such a big kashaw for the
fact that it's like these kids are three, they're getting spray tand and shit,
no, I know there was wearing flippers. I was like, is
this necessary? There is a special coach, like, yeah, there is
creation station out in the valley. Yes, that's where I took and I
signed Sonny and Natalia both him taking Sonny to dance class and he had to
do the recital and he was the only boy, so they put him in
like a top hat a tuxedo. Why did they always do that to boys?
The boys He's got to wear like a top hat and tust line.
All of a sudden, he was just bitter. He just did not want
to do it, and and all the girls are dancing around him. And
he's just like kind of just standing. Then he's wandering off and and it
just was like so embarrassing, and and then that was that. Like after
that, I was just like, do you they both did not like dance.
Natalia. I thought maybe she would at least want to go back,
and she's like, no, never want to go back to that again.
And then she did ice skating. Yeah, yeah, Albi did probably like
one more class at the dance place. This was the thing about Elbe that
is was surprising at the time. She would just decide, like I would
do things because everybody else was doing them, and my gym was kind of
the same thing. It was like, Okay, there's an activity and something
to do with her, and everybody else is doing it. So we did
that and that was fine, But then I couldn't get on board all like
the ten other activities, but the dance I got sucked into. But then
like she did dance one more time, and even though all of her friends
continued on yeah and did it for a year, she was like, eh,
I'm good, not interested. Same thing with girl scouts. She did
girl Scouts for a year and then I think I've told you this story,
but she was the only time that she got to see a bunch of these
her little friends from the right like neighborhood, like my mom friend's daughters.
Because she was going to a different school every she only had to go every
other week. It wasn't even a big deal. She's like, I don't
want to go anymore, Like, what do you mean, like all of
your friends, Like you have all these friends there, and my friends were
the truth leaders, so I knew they were fun moms. It wasn't like
it wasn't work, you know. And she would get to earn a patch
or whatever. You'd think she'd be into that. Just one day she's like,
I don't want to do it anymore, and I said why not?
And she's like boring because it was boring, I know, but I was
like, but it's like an hour and a half of your time every other
week. Nope. Yeah, that was it. She was done, done
and she never did it again. And the rest of these girls, literally
my closest friends, my closest mom friend's daughters did it all the way through
high school, earned their gold awards, look good for college, whatever,
No, I'll be quit it like five yeah, same with my kids and
Sonny all his friends. But now they're like eagle scouts, you know,
they're like I look at him, they're like they got beards and they're like
where they're sash, you know, they got their sash and like they're posting
pictures. My son just became an eagle or whatever they're called falcons. I
don't know, it's just going. They got like it's weird when they got
beards, you know. And Sonny quit years ago. I think though also,
you know, his dad, let's be honest, wasn't really taken him
to the campings or this and then that or whatever. But I still even
then, I don't think Sonny was just not interested. And Natalia was not
interested in the girl scout shit at all. Well, she did want to
go sell cookies. That's one thing she did right right right, Yes,
we we did. We talked about Jack last time because Elbi. That's yeah.
She wanted to do it for one season, to sell the cookies,
to sell the co and Sadie got involved in it was like a daisy for
one season sold the cookies and then when it came to selling the cookies,
she was like, well I have to walk all over the neighborhood, you
know. And I'm like, yeah, that's how it's done, Like you
go from door to door and you ask if and she was like, m
that's not really up my healthie not sales gold walking. Yeah, she yeah,
talking to strain you know people, Yeah, she was. She honestly,
even at that age, felt like that was a little cringey. Right,
how's people if they want to buy? No, Kayla, wait,
so your girls do Girl Scouts. It's coming, Yeah, it's coming.
We'll buy it, will be the first to buy. Well, I would
prefer if they could do like the Boy Scouts things for girls, Like I
want to go camping. I want to I want to do all the camping
stuff. Well, the Girl Scouts do do camping trips. It's not just
the cookies they do. I don't know anything other than the cookies for Girl
Scouts. They do the like my friends kids did. Albie did do a
camping trip but she got really scared. Yeah, they did. They do
do a camp they yeah, but they're not with the dads and stuff.
I know, Kayla, I don't really know exactly what the boy Scouts do
either. I'm just assuming, but I'm just saying I would rather them learn
like, you know, your nature skills, survival skills, go camping.
They do. That's what I want to like. So if there's a program
where I could put the girls into to learn survive into the boys into a
girl Scouts, that's like the boy Scouts. That's what I would want to
put them into. It seems way more fun to me. It is.
It was more useful. It was like they were you don't think that learning
like etiquette and like what where to place forks when you're having a dinner.
You don't think that's gonna helpen. Well, I've gotten this far without knowing
where to place a fork, so I think I'm okay, yeah, well
it'll get there. But I think that, uh, you know, I'm
I was fine when when they quit, especially Sonny, because it was like
every weekend there was some obligation I had to make the you know, they
had to do these like car races, things that you have to put like
a car together, Like they teach you how to like put ship together,
and I would have to host. I would host the ship at my house
at for times for Sonny, and then eventually it would just it was like
you got did you do your thing, you know, and then it becomes
a chore, like don't forget you gotta get your thing done whatever, and
then it was like forget it. It was just done, done, moving
on to the next thing. I have to say, my twins were really
not into extracurricular stuff period. I just couldn't get them to Like. Remember,
I went through such a long period, I mean during this show where
I was like, what activity could I put my kids in that they'll want
to do? Like everything, they were just not interested in it. Well,
okay, they did basketball, yeah, for quite a few years,
but I mean Sadie, let's be real, like she never got great at
it, Like she was sort of into it, but it was always pulling
teeth to get my kids to go to practice. Yeah, the younger ones.
Elbe was really into basketball for a while, but yeah, I guess,
and then she was gonna do cheerleading and then COVID hit and that was
high school. At high school, she played basketball in ninth grade. Yeah,
and then she didn't like the coach and she didn't get moved up to
JV from the freshman sophomore team, and so she was like, Nope,
not doing it. That's it. I'm done. Yeah, which she should
have stuck with it because everything fell apart during COVID. Yeah, and all
the kids that like that coach left and all of those kids went to like
straight divarsity. She would have been she would have made varsity had she stuck
with it, because in junior year a bunch of because they were all off
for all of sophomore year, then a bunch of those good kids graduated out
and they needed so some of her friends that stuck with it were like,
LB, he would have been a varsity with us like junior year. But
she didn't even she didn't care. She didn't even look back. No,
Then she signed up for cheerleading, made the cheerleading team. Then she she
did it for less than a week and she was like, wow, there
it's a lot of practice. Like these people are into it. She was
like, who what kind of people are that? In her mind, she
was like, you got to go during lunch every day after school, like
for cheerleading. So she immediately dropped cheerleading and took creative writing class smart,
which was fine with me, but then it was just another academic class,
right, you know, So I was like, which doesn't in my mind
I was like, okay, but for college, Like, don't you want
to have some some extracurricular activities? She was like no, yeah, and
Sadie and Xander once they stopped basketball, Nope. Nothing. Now I'm just
I'm happy. I'm happy the kids play an instrument. Now, yes,
look at them. Now, they're gonna be in a rock band. They're
gonna be like the White Stripes. Isn't the White Stripes brothers and sister,
aren't they? I think so? Yeah. I think they're a brother and
sister. Like one plays guitar, one plays the drums. That could be
like the White the New you know. Yeah, all right, let's take
a quick break. Okay, what'd you find out, Klein? Uh?
Well, just the first thing that pops up when I google White Stripes brother
and STI there's Meg and Jack. White publicly portrayed themselves as siblings. However,
public records emerged in one that showed Meghan and Jack were not related,
what in fact, had married in ninety six prior to the band's formation.
They divorced in two thousand. Oh wow, before the White strikes to send
it to international fame. That's the first thing that just pops up on,
so they pretended to be brother and sister as like a gimmick, probably looking
like that. Yeah they Yeah, and Jack and Meg were married and divorced
in two thousand. That's Meg who insisted that the band continue. Yeah.
Wow, I remember I saw him at kay Rock Acoustic Christmas the first like
nobody knew who they were. They were like the first band to play of
the night. Mm hmm. I saw so many bands at these k Rock
Acoustic Christmases and before they were anything like I remember I saw No Doubt for
the first time, like they were Wow, they were opening up for bands.
She was just like this cute little blonde you know, she made she
made homemade cookies for Kevin and Bean and the staff. And then they played
that night and I was blown away. I was like, Wow, this
band, she's fucking great. This band is awesome, like so many bands
like uh Cold Play, uh before they were Anybody, which is pretty cool.
Yeah, but yeah, I remember the White Stripes played and people were
like, are they married? Are they together? Know they're brother and sister,
and I was like, oh, that's pretty cool that then they did
it for a gimmick. Sounds like it. Wow, so quick, little
update. Yeah, little story about pepo mm hm. So you know how
she had the hematoma in her ear, yes, and then it and then
the doctor said it might come back, but then it might resolve itself.
So it had come back, and then I was like I got to bring
her back in and then and then they had her. They told me to
take her off of her pain meds for a week and then bring her back
in and they were gonna put some steroid. They were going to drain it
again and put steroid in there. So I was like okay, and I
didn't really want to do it just because I was like, it's just so
much. Anyway it started, it had seemed like it was starting to like
drain a bit resolve itself. So I had called and said, hey,
I'm going to just cancel the appointment and I'm gonna see give it another week
and keep her off the car preef that's the pain med and then we'll see
how she does, like in a week. So like a week later,
still was there. There was like still fluid in there. So I called
back and I was like okay, and I wanted to start being able to
give her her pain meds again because she has arthritis, so I knew she
was like hurting a little bit. So I'm like, okay, let's do
this. Let's bring her in, and they go, okay, we you
can bring her into today at whatever time this was, I don't know was
Friday. Let's just say yeah, you can bring her in and we can
do the procedure at three thirty. So I'm like okay, and I said,
but I'm just bringing her in for like the procedure because this is the
thing I hate is every time you go in, they find a way to
be like charge you for like a physical I know, right, they're like,
oh okay, this so the doctor charging for something, right, and
it's like one hundred bucks. They will charge you like ninety to one hundred
dollars for just the visit. Okay, we just had done two weeks prior
because when we brought her in, we didn't know what the thing was.
So they and I even said to John at the time, I was like,
listen, I love this this doctor, this vet. But I'm like,
if they're gonna tell you, okay, we're charging you for a visit
where we check her out, I'm like, ask about small shit that's going
on? With her, you know what I mean, Yes, if we're
gonna get charged the same price that we do for like a every sixth month
or every once a year visit, go like, hey, what's this bump
on our and here? Like is that anything to worry about? Like,
you know, ask some questions, and so I gave him with like a
list of questions. Anyway, I was like, have them listen to her
breathing because sometimes I'm super codependent with her, but I'm like, sometimes it
seems like she's like breathing funny or snoring a lot or whatever. And so
he did. Anyway, So at that visit, he was like, this
is what it is. It's ahematoma. And in that visit he drained it.
So we got charged for the visit plus the wound care you know whatever.
Okay, plus we gave her an allergy shot at the time. So
that visit came to like three hundred and something dies right when you add everything
together. So I'm going back. So I say, okay, you have
pet insurance. I do have pet insurance, and it doesn't it doesn't cover
the anti the allergy shot, okay, because she already had allergies. It
was a pre existing condition, so it it would have and they don't really
pay for the visit itself. It's only like the so the wound care part
they only charged fifty dollars for, so that's the only part I could have
and then they only pay eighty percent of that. So I am going to
submit that claim, but it's like, what am I going to get back
right, right? Thirty dollars or whatever? Okay, anyway, so when
I call, I'm like, okay, but I don't want to get charged
for like a visit, Like I just want can you Like, I just
want her to have the oh, because the doctor had said, bring her
back in and this is what we're going to do. We're going to redrain
it. So it's like I just want to get charged for the redraining part.
And they're like yeah, so if I go in, I bring her
in and they're like okay, so you know the doctor is going to bring
you in and he'll examine her. And I was like, wait what I
said, No, that's not really I said, we already know. The
doctor already said this is what we're going to do if it fills back up.
I just want the wound care part. I just want them to drain
it and put the stooid shot and she was like, oh, no,
it's just say it's a re checkers. Yeah, they're going to do a
recheck and blah blah blah. And then I was getting like kind of irritated
because I'm like, but I don't really need the like we know what's going
on, Like we know what the problem is, Like the problem is that
her ear filled back up with fluid, and she and you know, she
kept going, yeah, I don't I'm not familiar with your case, so
I don't. And I was like, well, but I am like,
I'm familiar with the case, and I'm familiar with the fact that my husband
called doctor the doctor and discussed it and this is what they said to bring
her in for. I was And then finally I was just like, Okay,
here's the thing. You want me to go in and have a whole
visit with the doctor. I go, And then you guys are going to
charge me one hundred dollars for that because it counts as like all full on
visit when I already we already know what the problem is. So I was
just getting a little bit frustrated. I wasn't being a Karen. I wasn't
like I refuse to. I was just like, well, but you got
to stand up because this I've gone to this so many times with Molly,
with Phil. It's like, Okay, I'm bringing the dog in to get
the wound care taken care of. That's all I need. We already know
what the problem is. You don't need to have like a whole check up
on it. But you know, oh but it's standard procedure. No,
no, no, no no, I already talked to the doctor, had
to do. Yeah. I mean there's a lot of like chatter chatter j
that you gotta you gotta help, You gotta be an advocate and tell them,
like, you can't get charged every time. You know what the problem
is. This is what it is. We're coming in to get the wound
taken care of. Blah blah blah. That's it. Thank You'll have a
good day. And I certainly wasn't expecting anything to be like free. It's
just that I just want to pay for the thing I'm and for. You
already charged me without complaint two weeks ago. You already fully checked her out
and figured out what the problem is. I said, And they're gonna like
check to see if she has an ear infection, but she doesn't. They
already told me it was two weeks ago. Oh and then they're asking all
the questions, has there been any vomiting? Has there? And I'm like,
no, I would have told you, like I would have told you.
Yeah. So that's why I'm coming in there, Like how's her has
she been having any diary? Like, yeah, how's her appetite? I'm
like, I just told you. The reason I'm bringing her in is literally
we just went through this two weeks ago and paid for all these questions.
Okay, well we have to weigh her. I'm like, she and her
weight hasn't changed from two weeks ago. I'm getting like a little bit frustrated,
which I'm more venting to you. Then. I wasn't like, I
wasn't like, no, you don't need to weigh her. But I was
just like, oh, here we go. You know. Anyway, They're
just like there's no flexibility. They're just like, no the doctor. So
go in the exam room and I bring her in there, and then the
doctor comes in and then he feels her ear and I was like, so
what we're going to do is you're going to drain it and put the stirred
in there, and he goes. He goes, yeah, and then he's
like, it does seem like it is drained like more. He's like,
obviously it's not flat like when we when we first drained it out, and
I knew some of it would come back, but was it worse before?
And I was like, yeah, it's definitely moving in the right direction,
but it's there's still fluid in there, you can feel it. And he
goes, yeah, there's still fluid in there. He's like, but it
is getting less. It's definitely less than it was the first time you brought
her in, for sure. And I was like yes, and he goes,
so that tells me it is resolving itself. He goes, I can
totally drain it and I can put steroid in there. I can do that.
He's like, it could come right back though, and also re redraining
it might cause inflammation, like it might irritate cause it to fill back up.
And I was like, so what are you saying, Like you think
we should just not do anything, and he goes, and this is why
I love this that stuff. He's like, I mean, if it was
my dog. He goes, I'd probably just leave it and like see what
you think in a couple of weeks. So in my mind I'm like,
oh great, so then I'll get I'm gonna get charged for this visit.
And then like, you've just rescheduled me for like come back in in three
weeks. And I was like okay, and he goes, yeah, no
charge. Ah haha, there you go. And I was like, wait,
really, because all this time I'd been anticipating. I'm like, how
much is this gonna cost? Right? And then I was like, oh
my god, I feel like I just made three hundred dollars. I was
like, are you sure, and he goes, yeah, we didn't do
anything right, And I was like, oh my god, what office does
miss is an opportunity to charge you. I now, it's really nice.
Once in a while that'll happen. Yeah, Like when I when Phil had
his stitches, I had to they his stitches dissolve on their own or whatever,
and I thought he really I thought he injured himself. So I brought
him in. They looked at it and I and then they said they they
just looked at it, and then they didn't charge me. And I was
like what, really, that's so weird. Give it a gift. Yeah,
it's like I won, like yeah, like I bet on something and
I won money in Vegas. Like there's like yes, like we're abused,
you know, and then like the time that like we do something that we
think our husband's going to get like real mad at us for and then they
don't, and then you're like, oh my gosh, they love me.
That's sad. I know that's how I feel that. I'm like, oh
god, I'm going to go in this Vets office and you know, walk
out there and not be able to buy my kids gifts this year. I'm
telling you. Yeah, yeah, well, well we should wrap because we
have guests coming in. Yes we do. Oh so this week we have
Meredith Lynch back TikTok Star Gossip. I love Meredith. She knows everything that's
going on with everybody. You know what we could ask her about. We
should ask her about the TikTok cult. Yeah. Yes, all those people
that live in like the what's it called, like the four m or something,
I don't know where the five Them house or something. All these dancers
that live in a house. There's supposed to be a cult. I really
don't know much about seven m Okay, we got that, and we want
to talk with her about squid games. Oh, I can't wait the reality
show and like other stuff too, yeah, a bunch of stuff. Yeah.
So but before we wrap, let us tell you about Oh, this
is a good one. Our friend Aaron who got for a Christmas present for
her brother, which is so sweet. She wanted to promote his plant nursery
and Costa Rica Costa Rica Coasta Mesa called the Backyard. It's on Tustin a
f so if you're anywhere near there, it's a Christmas tree and they have
other like plants and stuff the Backyard and you can follow him on Instagram at
Backyard c a across all social media. Also, my friend Adam Lerner is
a car broker. I have just been promoting him like creat like all my
friends. People. People don't really that car brokers can save you a lot
of money. And also they it's just it's so easy, like he will
get you the car and it will show up in your driveway and the paperwork
will have already been done, like and he'll have gotten you the financing and
it doesn't cost you more money except if you're outside of California, but then
he will still save you money. Right anyway, here's how you find him
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dot com. Also, Christine Black is with Storybook World Travel. You can
find her on Facebook or Instagram Storybook World Travel and she doesn't just do theme
parks and there's no cost for her services anywhere you live. Also, let's
also just do Basic Becky if you need a Christmas gift. Tis the season.
I just got John a mouse pad just came in the mail. It's
so cool looking. It's because he got blocked by Kerrie Lake on Twitter and
me the screenshot of it, so I had Becky make me a mousepad.
Perfect, perfect, love it, fast shipping. Just go to just Basicbecky
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