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Whoa, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby mama, favorite

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baby Mama, Stormy Pe And this
is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip

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the modern day female perspective, Damn
Son, back at it again, and

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back at it again. We got
the home team in the building. We

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got Dannity Kin. Oh yeah you
so, but now you're back. Oh

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yeah, yes. We also got
Captain Cann in the building. I forgot

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what camera. I was sweet baby
Jesus, sweet savings it everyone was,

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and everyone's favorite favorite jerk. We
got chloroform color. Why am I a

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jerk? Though? I don't,
I don't know. The first thing that

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came to my mind. I was
gonna say something about you liking black girls

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again, but I was like,
ah, is that tired? No again,

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it's a little tired. So now
I just went straight to chloroform.

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Crowd, right, we skipped the
race and right onto chloroform. Yeah,

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right onto the important stuff. Listen. Speaking of chloroform, Kyle, he

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asked me a question before we started, and I wanted to kick the episode

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off with this. So, Kyle
X, can cheaters be reformed? Now?

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What made you ask that? First
of all, because you asked me

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if I was a cheater, okay, and I said historically yes, okay,

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okay, okay. Now do you
think that you were no longer a

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cheater? Though? I think it's
like alcoholism. It's a choice every day

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not to do it. M that
was deep. I like that. Yeah.

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I mean alcoholics, even when they're
you know, reformed, are still

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alcoholics. It's like just you can't
have a shot of hendy, you can't

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have a shot of jamison. They
still have the cravings still happen, right,

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exactly, And honestly, that's what
it is. It's not about how

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you feel in the inside. It's
more about how you handle those feelings and

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how you act. So you're saying
you're still a cheater. You just know

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how to handle it and keep it
under control exactly. It's like, uh,

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when Bruce Banner figure out how to
control the Hulk exactly, Professor Hulk.

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Now, yeah, let me ask
you that this question. Does that

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mean a difference? You know,
what's crazy? Does the actions make a

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difference? What you're saying makes sense. But to me, I think that

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cheaters can be reformed, right.
I just think you have to find someone

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who you like or care about enough
to where you don't want to cheat on

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them. Now, I'm not saying
I was a cheater. Okay, I'm

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not saying I've ever been a cheater, Okay, But what I'm saying is

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I do know that at some point
in my life I possess some of the

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characteristics of a cheater, right,
And I feel like, once I came

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across somebody who was really fulfilling all
of my needs and was making me feel

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like I didn't have to venture out
elsewhere for anything, I no longer wanted

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to cheat. And I'm not saying
that that isn't excuse to cheat. Mark

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my words, there's absolutely no reason. There is no excuse, there will

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never be a reason to cheat.
But I do know that once I came

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across someone who I really liked enough, I didn't want to cheat anymore.

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So you're saying that even though you're
saying you never meant nobody that made you

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not want to cheat, that's not
true. Unfortunately, those relationships didn't last

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long enough. I always ended up
getting dumped. It didn't last long enough

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for you to see if you still
had to cheating. Bug. No,

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no, no, no no no. I'm just saying, like the relationships

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that I had where I was like
all in for one reason another or another

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didn't last. So you're specific in
which relationships that cheating. I'm confused,

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what's happening. I had not cheated
in years, So I what do you

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want from me? You know what? Okay, now here's another question.

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What do you define this cheating?
Because that could be another thing? Like

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are we talking about full on penetration
or are we just talking about like you

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know, you're texting bitches or like
you know, you buying bitches food at

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your job, or you watching a
movie without me When we said we was

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gonna watch the movie together. Yes, that's cheating. I said, yes,

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that is cheating. Okay, if
we say we are watching a show

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or a movie together and you watch
it without me, that is cheating more

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than anybody. I don't care.
I don't care. Okay, don't tell

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me we're gonna finish the Night Agent
together and then I'll look up at your

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house and Netflix then told me you
don't watch it already, And don't try

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to tell me you fell asleep.
That's your fault for sharing Netflix profiles of

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people. I know you didn't fall
asleep with it on. I know you

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watched it all. What do you
mean from the beginning here? You know

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what that bullshit I be talking about. I think that there is um various

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levels of cheating and they're all just
as hurtful, sexual, emotional, m

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you know, action, all that
stuff, and it's still cheating. It's

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still cheating. Um hmm, good
points points for mate. Points were mate.

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Now have you ever been cheated on? Um? If I If I

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was, I'm not exactly aware of
it. UM. I had the girl

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I lost my virginity too, pretty
much outright told me that she was going

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to sleep with someone else the next
day. So I don't know that that's

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not cheating. She made it very
apparent that was what was going to happen.

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I mean, were you guys in
a relationship? We were until the

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next day when I told that we
weren't. Baby, I don't I don't

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want to be the one to tell
you this, but I don't think you

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did a good job. It was
my first fucking time. Probably not.

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I still don't do a good job. Don't speak for me. You don't

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know, I said me. Oh, okay, now I have another question,

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all right, because someone d squattro
Underscore said emotional cheating is worse because

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it's the build up. So do
you guys think emotional cheating is worse than

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physically cheating? I think it all
sucks. I think it's apples to oranges.

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But I think, like Kyle said, they both suck, don't you

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get for sure? For they both
suck. I mean I can see like

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how emotional cheating could be worse in
a way because you know, I mean,

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I think the way some guys go
about it, it's just just like,

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oh yeah, no, I just
need to, you know, get

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a nut out. But then I'm
back from my woman, and I that's

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who I want to be with,
I'm happy with. But then you know,

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they hear um, you know said
woman is like, you know,

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thinking about other guys, and it's
the let me it's funny that you say

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that, because not to make it
a men versus women thing, but I

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think that it's very rare that men
emotionally cheat. Am I tripping? No?

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I think when men cheat, they
physically cheat. It happens, yeah,

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but I mean it happens less often. Yeah, for sure. Let

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me ask you this. So let's
say I feel like it's all equally as

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hurtful from the person who's receiving the
news. If you if you're significant other,

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it tells you, Hey, I
have been fucking someone else, or

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I have been dating someone else behind
your back, or i've Your reaction is

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not going to be any less severe
dependent upon what form of cheating it is.

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I feel like it. That's a
lot of really, because if you

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tell a man you cheat it,
there's going to be different levels of emotion

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based on what you did. If
you cheat it okay, if you sucked

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his dick, Oh my god,
now, oh called the Paul Bears a

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time for a funeral? What do
you mean by you said if you cheated?

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Okay? But if you sucked is
like, what does cheating mean in

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that statement? I think that both
of them are cheating, whether you had

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sex with somebody or whether you just
sucked their dick, or whether the sex

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involved sucking dick. So sex is
less severe than sucking dick for men?

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Am I lying? I don't think
so. I hold them both the same.

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But I do know what you're talking
about because I have seen the instance

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where like, yo, guys,
first question is you know, did did

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you ever see true detective? True? Detective? He kicks a mass over

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that ship. What Woody Harrelson kicks
Some dudes ask it was like, did

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you suck your dick? Did she
suck your dick? She'd been a dude

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up over that ship? Watch you
Detective? Season one? Is this a

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show? It is on HBO.
Woody Harrelson and Matthew McConaughey not gonna.

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I don't think Witny Harrison or Matthew
McConaughey would ever be mentioned on this podcast.

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But look at us, look at
that. Who would have thought you

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had one more white person? There
you go? Not me, but um

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So through the wire says, I
don't care what you did. As soon

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as you cheat you a slut,
um even if you're a dude. Apparently

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apparently you're a duct you're you're no
sluts. Is a slut, it's it's

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it's gender neutral, gender neutral.
Yeah, it's all inclusive, all inclusive.

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I think I'd rather be veribally abused
than jeeted on. What the one?

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No? I miss her that my
brain process that wrong. That makes

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sense, Yeah, that makes sense. I mean I'll take some physical abuse

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over getting cheated on. Yeah,
I can exactly agree to that. Just

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just throw a punch in my face. That's fine. What is just up

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on his deck? No? No, no, no, no, don't

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tuck his dick plays verbal verbal abuse. I think he is a different animal.

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That's that gets down to like mental
terrorism. I can't take verbal abuse.

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Verbal abuse calls me to partake in. Not physical abuse, but it's

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manipulation, including that. Maybe manula
a part of verbal abuse. Yeah,

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I would say so, I see, but my parents have always said that

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six and stones may break my bones. But where whatever unless a toxic um.

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I hate all of you. I
just want to say that before I

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go on to my next point.
Does this show broken already? It's already

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broken. And this is why I
hate when Kyle comes because this, this

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is what happens. Um So,
A lot of people hate it when I

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come ned correctal use only. I
wanted to talk about a few things today,

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and um would you guys take this
journey on me? Um with me?

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On you? It's the magic carpet. Oh don't you dare? Close

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your eyes so we shall ride.
I hope Disney flags this for copyright issues

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and it never fucking comes out,
just so you all now, So there's

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that. Um So, I realized
that we always talk about healing and you

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know, bettering yourself and going to
therapy, and what we don't address is

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that when you're done healing, dating
fucking sucks. Okay, when you are

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done healing, dating fucking sucks because
now you're intelligent enough. I take that

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back, you're emotionally intelligent enough to
realize all the red flags that are around

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you. And it fucking sucks.
Like it's so much harder for someone to

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waste my time because I just see
it. I see it coming a mile

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away. And I feel like when
we're talking about healing and in our therapy

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journey, there should be some session
about how to deal with like visibly being

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able to recognize, no, the
thin playing your face, girl, don't

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do it, don't do it,
because automatically, my first instant is to

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say, you findn't playing in my
face, don't do it, don't do

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it. And that's not good.
It's not good at all. And it's

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like being able to recognize red flags
early sucks. And it really, really,

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I don't even have another word for
it. Are you saying you wish

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you could not recognize red flags early? On some level? I'm not gonna

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lie, y'all. I really wish
that I wasn't able to recognize it.

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I really wish that I couldn't see
this ship coming a mile away, because

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now I can't, and it lowers
the like field of people you could be

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open to a lot. Dan,
I was gonna say, is it because

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like so many people just have red
flags? Like and is it? You

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know, like is it like every
single red flag? You're like, nope,

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nope, nope, or like some
of you're like, I think that

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there are common generational flat red flags. Oh yes, And I think there

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are there are certain things that are
specific to certain people based on you know,

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shit that they might have gone through
in their pass. But it's like

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I can see it. So Jeff
Fargo says, why is you bringing your

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pass into the new relationship? You
misheard me, my good brother. It's

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not bringing your pass into the new
relationship. It's me recognizing you want that

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fuck shit that I already went through
before, and I don't want to do

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it no more. You know what
I mean? Like, for example,

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is a universal language. There are
certain things right off the back already know

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I don't want to partake in,
and I already know you won't want that

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bullshit, right for example, within
the first week. No, I am

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not going to text you every fucking
day. Okay, that's a red flag.

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Whatever abandonment issues you got, deal
with that on your own. Because

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I don't want to text you every
day. I should not be your first

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priority. Okay, you should be
your first priority, and in me,

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your family, your job, your
hobbies, whatever comes second, third,

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and so on. But I am
not responsible for giving you joy or whatever

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fucking fix you need by getting that
notification on your phone. That's not me.

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That's not my job. I don't
have to do that. So if

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like automatically you hit me with like
you know, oh, I haven't heard

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from you all day, and blah
blah blah blah blah, because I'm an

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adult and I have my own life, and it's like, if I'm not

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purposely ghosting you, you have nothing
to worry about. And I know some

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of you might be like, well, stomy, how do I know he's

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not ghosting me because it's been one
fucking day, god late. Relax,

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Relax like that's that's not cool,
Like y'all like that. So you don't

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want to be texted every day?
I good does good morning count? Good

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morning is fine? Okay, But
there are some people who like, as

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soon as they give you their number, they want to talk twenty four seven,

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like every day they got nothing to
do? You just want to sit

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and text me all day, baby, I'm busy, like I can't like

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and if you have time to text
me all day every day, now,

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I'm worried about when you got time
to make money? Right? When you

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got time to do you? When
you got time to work on you?

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Make it make sense? And you
should come with a disclaimer. You take

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three hours, if not longer,
to take somebody back. So our one

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dot feed says, no, I'm
sorry, mal Underscore b Lion says,

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but isn't that communication. There's a
difference between communication and becoming reliant on someone,

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right, And I feel like you
want to text me all day?

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What you're doing now, what you
have for lunch? Were you at now?

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Like that's not healthy? Like that
tells me that you have some sort

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of abandonment issue that you need to
be working on within yourself, because it's

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no reason I met you on Monday
and you're on my line like this,

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and this isn't getting to know me, because getting to know me, it's

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like, hey, you know,
when you get a good chance, can

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we talk on the phone or like, you know, if you were an

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animal, what would you be Like, it's not just saying what you're doing,

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where you're going. Who you w
that's trash, that's trash, trash

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wolf, That's what I would be. Someone through the wires said, ain't

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that much shit to talk about all
damn day anyway? Exactly exactly, Like

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there's no reason we need to be
communicating twenty four seven yea, if we

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can just skip to the whole,
like sending back and forth memes and not

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actually saying words to each other,
Like, I'll be the happiest person in

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the world, not gonna lie,
if we can skip to sitting each other

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memes, TikTok's reels, whatever I'm
good like and I don't even have to

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see a meme or TikTok before you
send another one. Just low me up,

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babe, Oh yes, yes,
low me up. And when I

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get to it, I get to
it, and this will be us having

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fun. That's the thing. Like
I've had friends, like they've questioned,

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they say to me like, oh, I'm sorry, I just sent you

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like three tiktoks in a row about
you, and I'm just like, I

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just sent you ten so you know
yes, yes, yes, yes yes.

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Like. First of all, take
some time to miss me. Why

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do you want to talk to me
all day? If you are talking to

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me all day, when do you
have time to miss me? You don't

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need to speak to me all day. That's it. Take some time to

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miss a nigga nam should like.
I don't know what's unhealthy, and I

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don't like it. My old performance
director from the Air Force used to say

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that how can I miss you if
you won't let me? I agree with

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that one thousand percent. How can
I miss you if you won't let me?

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Exactly? Yeah, my face on
my damn phone. Please please,

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Office says in the Book of Nigolations, y'all please because and I started saying

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y'all names on alive, so y'all
can stop asking me now I'm saying it,

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and the Book of Nigolations. After
acquisition of connected digits, thou must

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remain unthirst and contact in ye chill
manner. Why y'all at this absence make

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the heart grow Founder saying Antonio,
Yes, Shela Jay says, I'm clingy.

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Give me all the attention right off
the back. That scares me because

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now that makes me feel like you're
gonna be going through my trash. Dan,

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can me, Kyle and keV read
that book? Or how do we

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even We can read it but we
can't refer to it. Yeah, yeah,

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you can read it, but you
can't quote it? Right Boom,

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It was like we can't Boom,
we can't. We can't read Tom Sawyer

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out louder. Yeah, another thing. Um, moving on, I'm sorry,

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y'all. Moving on. Um,
don't assume because someone is giving you

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boyfriend treatment that they want to be
your boyfriend. And I'm gonna say this

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again, and I'm gonna say it's
gender neutral. I'm gonna say it again.

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Don't assume because someone is giving you
relationship treatment that they want a relationship.

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Okay, this goes back to recognizing
those red flags. Yeah. Yeah,

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Like and the part that really gets
me is a lot of times these

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people don't even realize that they're doing
what they're doing, and you realize,

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you recognize that when they say shit
to you, like just because I let

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you meet my mom and you ate
my ass and we shared the same fork,

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that don't mean I want a relationship
And That's when I learned this week.

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Hey, hold on, good brother, hold on, hold on and

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hold on. What the fuck are
you saying to me? What are you

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saying to me? What does this
mean? I'm confused because in my mind,

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if I meet your mom and I
iss your ass and we're sharing a

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fark, you want a relationship?
You just out here doing this with everybody

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a red flag, A red fucking
flag, a red flag. This is

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eternal. Sincere says, situation ship
syndrome. Yes, these people suffer for

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from situation ship syndrome. Okay,
And I feel like because their previous partners

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let this ship slide, they don't
know that everything that they're doing is something

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you do in a relationship like make
it makes sense. So Darryl the rock

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Star says, just because I gave
you the slow stroke don't mean we go

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together. Well, what the fuck
does it mean? Darren? Tell me?

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Wait? Wait wait wait? Speed
is it differentiator? You know when

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he said slow stroke? In my
mind, we are no longer fucking,

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We're now making love. Do you
all know the difference between fucking and making

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love? Yes? I would say, nay, okay, So I feel

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like when you're fucking there are um
harder thrust sometimes um less intimacy. Um,

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yes, it gets very porn Whereas
when you're making love, you're there's

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there's eye contact, there's um sometimes
kissing in the mouth like while you're stroking.

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I don't know, it's just a
difference, dan um Okay, So

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I guess I guess what threw me
off at first was the whole Like,

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so stroking is just the thrusting,
like the that you're you're like motion of

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thrust, because I always think of
stroking like stroking, Like, no,

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stroking is also thrusting, I know
that much. But also like being intimate,

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wouldn't that also be going hard in
the paint then, you know,

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like I feel like when I'm intimate
sometimes I go hard in the paint.

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You know, it's hard to explain, like, and I'm mad that the

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words aren't really going there. But
when you like somebody, or you're in

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love, or you're with your person, you are supposed to fuck them differently

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than you fuck someone who you're just
in you're dating, or you know,

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situation shit wise, like, but
there are people out there who will legit

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attempt to make love to you and
then look you in your face and say,

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but we're not in a relationship,
but we don't go together relax,

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Like, okay, so this is
just me being inexperience. Yes, I

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understand, yes, yes, and
I won't say that. I don't think

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it's being inexperience. I think that, um, it is a combination of

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things, and one of them is
being I'm I think one of my problems

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is that I have not been in
like actual love in a long time.

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So you think you're out of practice, out of practice of being in love

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and how to street people when you're
in love, So you're malpracticing. I

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don't think you use that in the
right context. Not bless it's sorry.

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I think the last time it's been
years since, Like you know, you

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say I love you and stuff like
that, and it's possible to say to

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meet it and say that you love
somebody, but to be in love is

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a different animal that I don't think
i've felt in legitimately in years. You

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know what's crazy. I am actually
terrified for the next time that I fall

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in love. Yeah, Like I
don't mean like saying like I love you,

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like I have love for someone,
I mean actually in love, Like

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I'm ready to take a charge for
you, Like I'm ready to do anything

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that you may need. Like I
am fully terrified because, like I said,

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I just know so much now.
So it's like, godie, I

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might really have to take a charge. God damn man. I'm sorry and

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stormy, And I think to reference
your earlier statement about my character, I

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think that that might be a huge
difference. M Okay, talk to me

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about it. I mean that the
fact that I have not been in love

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in a long time effects my mental
attitudes towards the relationship that I'm in.

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While I might not have been a
physical cheater or like or communicating with other

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women. Uh, Like we said
with alcoholics, the the mental wiring is

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still there. I think maybe I
need to be in an actual love.

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And it's kind of like what you
said, you need to write the right

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person. Yeah, yeah, Do
you think you're a good cheater? I

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didn't act you it. And what's
what makes a good cheater is you will

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get caught nigga. Uh in the
past, I wasn't you know. I

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mean, I don't know. I
mean, I can't speak for it now.

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I don't know if I'm off my
game. I'm just saying that in

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the past that was it was pretty
pretty good about it, um dick.

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Another thing uh for women especially what? No, what got these open ended

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responses without the reason why you asked
me that question? What you asked me?

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In my good cheater? I just
wanted to know I hadn't it?

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Okay? All right? We asked
questions just here, we talked Kyle never

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got a post for conversation, right, but okay, so what's what's the

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resolution to that line of thinking?
Nothing? The resolution is we just gonna

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have to wait and see it till
you like a bitch. Okay, But

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I guarantee you if you if you
genuinely like her and you genuinely have feelings

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for her, you're not gonna want
to cheat. You can't. I believe

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you, I really do, until
something goes wrong, until you Okay,

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No, I take that back.
What I meant to say was, if

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you genuinely are in love with someone, right, you don't have a desire

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to cheat unless you're not voicing your
opinion on being unhappy about something. Because

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if you're not voicing your opinion on
about being unhappy on something, your brain

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will trick you into thinking you have
a reason to cheat. Well, she

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not sucking my dick anyway, I
might go off here, give me dick

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sucked. Did you tell her she
not sucking your dick anyway? Did you

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did you tell her that you know
you want to try to get your assay?

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Did you tell her you want the
finger in the blue hole? No,

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You're just gonna go out and be
like, well, fuck it.

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She making me happy, she's satisfying
me sexually. I'm out. But she

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didn't kill her. I don't know
why Y'll be making these sound drops on

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what you'll be doing when I'm not
here, but okay, okay. So

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I think that this whole concept of
there's a list of actions and things that

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you need to say to get and
keep a man is false. I think

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that if your man is not reacting
to you in the way that you want

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him to do, or if he's
not correcting behavior that you're asking him to

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do, or you may be asking
her to do because it's gender neutral,

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they don't fucking want you. Hey, And this whole concept of there's this

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list of actions and words indeed that
you have to do to keep your partner,

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it's false. These people don't want
you, and they are trying to

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subconsciously tell you that they don't want
you. You shouldn't have to play gleams.

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You shouldn't have to play games and
do oh this this way and that

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that way just to keep somebody Like
that's trash. I don't want that.

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I don't want to do that.
I don't know. I think that's this

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whole think like a man, act
like a lady, and you know ten

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ways to make her crazy about you. This is very manipulative. Yeah,

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Like I feel like that's something we
don't ever say. This is Steve Harvey.

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That's what Stormy just said. I
did not say that that Signora.

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I did not say that. What
I said was okay. I just think

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that this whole line of thinking is
manipulative when we don't talk about it like

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that's crazy. These people are literally
doing X, Y and Z only to

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make you feel or behave a certain
way. That's manipulative. It can be

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gaslighting. Like that's trash. I
don't want us to do that anymore.

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Like, let's like people who like
us. Bet uh So did you ever

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hear the um? I know it
came out as a book, but I

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think it was just called like the
game or whatever it is um. So

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for context, uh uh, I
took Trumpet lessons with a guy who later

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became my boss. Um. And
it's a long story, um, but

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so high school me. He told
me about this book he was reading because

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he was always horrible with like women, like all throughout, like uh,

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you know, high school, college, whatnotum. And it was essentially like

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a whole like you know, method
for how to get girls. And it

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was very just like, oh,
manipulative. You know what I'm talking about

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now, guy who wears the funny
hats. Probably I don't know that guy

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who teaches men how to get girls. But all he's doing is taking advantage

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of women and their insecurities and their
daddy issues or whatever he had going on.

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That's exactly what it is. It's
the same thing, like you're literally

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manipulating these people and taking a mantage
of them. And that's like high school

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me. He's explaining this to me
for like trying to help me, like

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yeah, girls, and I'm just
thinking, they're like, this doesn't sound

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right. And and then he,
you know, years later he's complaining about

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how he's always getting the same girls
who have evidently you have daddy issues,

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who don't know like how to be
in a relationship. I'm like, well,

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yes, the pickup artists, Yes, you wired the pickup artists.

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The pickup artists, yes, um. But yeah, it's just like,

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well, you're using the same shit
you've been using for the last ten years.

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It all works on the same type
of woman. So and that's the

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thing, right, these self help
books that teach you how to move in

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certain ways to get this man or
this guy, it will only help you

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get this certain type of man or
woman. Yes, you know what I

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mean. Like, it's going to
be the women with the daddy issues.

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It's going to be the men who
think they're alpha's but actually betas. Like

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they don't tell you how to get
quality people. It's emotionally broken peace people

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who are able to be manipulated.
Right, you know what I mean?

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00:29:02.440 --> 00:29:04.839
Would you like a beta who knows
he's a beta? I would love a

406
00:29:04.920 --> 00:29:10.119
beta who knows he's a beta.
Okay, I can I can fuck with

407
00:29:10.559 --> 00:29:15.519
Okay, I can tolerate a beta
who knows he's a beta. But I

408
00:29:15.640 --> 00:29:18.880
can't tolerate a beta who thinks he's
an alpha. This isn't going to work

409
00:29:19.160 --> 00:29:22.480
now with a beta who knows he's
a beta. Uh Like, Well,

410
00:29:22.559 --> 00:29:26.240
one of the key things and knowing
that there knowing the beta is if they're

411
00:29:26.279 --> 00:29:32.880
like, yeah, peg me,
that's not that's someone a dude who loves

412
00:29:32.920 --> 00:29:37.240
a lot of ass play. That
is not a beta. Okay. Just

413
00:29:37.440 --> 00:29:40.119
because he wants to be pegged does
not make him a beta. Okay,

414
00:29:40.359 --> 00:29:49.240
all right, cool? So IMP
I think that it's important to have a

415
00:29:49.359 --> 00:29:52.920
beta who knows he's a beta,
because this is somebody who knows how to

416
00:29:52.960 --> 00:29:56.440
play their position. If you're a
beta who think you're an alpha, you

417
00:29:56.559 --> 00:30:00.319
out here trying to be Michael Jordan
when you're the water boy, okay,

418
00:30:00.599 --> 00:30:03.119
and now we're all dehydrated because we
don't have water. It's like, and

419
00:30:03.240 --> 00:30:07.279
that's not to say that the water
boy isn't important. He's very important to

420
00:30:07.519 --> 00:30:11.720
play his role, okay, but
if you're out here trying to be Michael

421
00:30:11.759 --> 00:30:14.839
Jordan, baby, you can't dunk, you can't shoot a three, you

422
00:30:14.920 --> 00:30:17.680
can't dribble, you can't do nothing, Okay, So you're hurting the team.

423
00:30:18.000 --> 00:30:21.319
So I would rather deal with somebody
who knows they're a beta because they're

424
00:30:21.319 --> 00:30:26.160
gonna play their fucking position and we're
gonna win. That's it. Everybody is

425
00:30:26.359 --> 00:30:32.079
hydrated electro lights for everybody. Baby. Yes, yes, Is there such

426
00:30:32.119 --> 00:30:34.720
a thing as a beta point five, A beta and a half, A

427
00:30:34.799 --> 00:30:42.880
beta and a half like someone who
has alpha tendencies realistic ones but not quite

428
00:30:44.000 --> 00:30:47.880
there, but it's a strong beta
two. They're in a point guard.

429
00:30:48.880 --> 00:30:56.319
I don't know. I don't know
basketball, he's a quarterback. I think

430
00:30:56.400 --> 00:31:00.759
that there are levels to be in
beta, just like their levels to be

431
00:31:00.839 --> 00:31:03.920
an alpha. So I think there
could be a beta who has some alpha

432
00:31:03.039 --> 00:31:07.480
tendencies, but as long as he
realizes that he's a beta, that's all.

433
00:31:07.559 --> 00:31:11.440
It's nothing wrong with being a cross
trained. Okay, somebody might call

434
00:31:11.440 --> 00:31:14.119
it out and you might have to
stop up and do some alpha shit someday

435
00:31:14.400 --> 00:31:17.119
you might, because you might.
I think I'm a beata and a half.

436
00:31:17.559 --> 00:31:19.759
I do what makes you to have
Kyle give me the half? Because

437
00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:23.960
I am definitely an alpha in the
world that I'm most more comfortable with and

438
00:31:25.039 --> 00:31:30.079
the things and the things that I
know and am incredibly confident in. But

439
00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:33.200
there are just some things that I
can't fake my confidence in. And I

440
00:31:33.240 --> 00:31:34.880
don't think that's beta and a half. I think that's a beta who knows

441
00:31:34.920 --> 00:31:38.400
that they're a beta, Like you
know that there are some shit that you

442
00:31:38.519 --> 00:31:42.160
can't do, Like that's fine.
There are betas out here who think that

443
00:31:42.319 --> 00:31:45.599
they can conquer the world. And
it's like, in all actuality, you

444
00:31:45.640 --> 00:31:51.640
don't even know how to speak to
a woman or maintain her attention like that

445
00:31:52.079 --> 00:31:56.400
that that's trashed me, or like
if something happens, I can't count on

446
00:31:56.480 --> 00:31:59.559
you to lead the household, like
I can't. You know what I mean.

447
00:32:00.319 --> 00:32:01.480
You're saying betas can't lead a household. No, I'm just saying I

448
00:32:01.519 --> 00:32:06.039
can't count on you. Okay,
like you you can't count on betas.

449
00:32:06.200 --> 00:32:08.599
No, I didn't say that.
Now, Okay, we're going to the

450
00:32:08.640 --> 00:32:15.799
next point. Next thing alam this
shoe says. Problem is acting like you

451
00:32:15.960 --> 00:32:21.319
actually like a woman today makes them
think you're a beta? No, yes

452
00:32:21.440 --> 00:32:24.880
or no? Right, I don't
think. I don't think acting like a

453
00:32:25.000 --> 00:32:30.680
woman makes women think that you're a
beta. I think that realistically speaking,

454
00:32:32.000 --> 00:32:37.759
women aren't strong enough all the time
to tell men that they're not interested right,

455
00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:40.440
or strong enough to just cut men
off. So what they will do

456
00:32:40.680 --> 00:32:45.480
is they will string these men along
and then turn around and tell their girlfriends

457
00:32:45.480 --> 00:32:46.519
like, oh my god, he's
so thirsty. Look, I'm not texting

458
00:32:46.559 --> 00:32:50.880
them back. He just stayed on
my line. And yeah, because some

459
00:32:51.000 --> 00:32:57.440
people don't understand that indecisiveness is a
response. Indecisiveness is a decision, or

460
00:32:57.559 --> 00:33:00.400
like you being distant or you being
non rely liable is an answer. Like

461
00:33:01.440 --> 00:33:05.839
they're doing that because they're not interested. Because best believe, if that nigga

462
00:33:05.880 --> 00:33:07.960
who she likeking her DMS was on
her line, she'd be hitting you right

463
00:33:08.039 --> 00:33:12.599
the fuck back, the guy who
she really likes when he's acting like that.

464
00:33:13.079 --> 00:33:15.759
She ain't telling her friends, old
girl, he on my top.

465
00:33:15.279 --> 00:33:19.960
She ain't saying it. Hell no, she over here telling her girls what

466
00:33:20.039 --> 00:33:22.880
colors they're gonna wear at the wedding. Okay, ladies, don't be mad.

467
00:33:22.920 --> 00:33:24.039
I know I'm telling her lot right
now, But am I lyon?

468
00:33:24.519 --> 00:33:30.799
Am I lying? Like when men
who you really like act that way,

469
00:33:30.680 --> 00:33:35.400
you don't give no pushback. But
when it's men who you don't want to

470
00:33:35.440 --> 00:33:37.000
cut off, or you're not strong
enough to cut off, or you're just

471
00:33:37.160 --> 00:33:40.240
stringing along, act like that.
Now you went around. Tell him right,

472
00:33:40.240 --> 00:33:44.359
he is simp He a beta,
he a bum? No, he

473
00:33:44.519 --> 00:33:46.640
not. He just likes you and
you haven't told him that you're not interested,

474
00:33:46.720 --> 00:33:51.359
so he's giving it his all because
he really fucking likes you. Like

475
00:33:51.519 --> 00:33:54.519
that's just it. Then if she
does tell him that she's not interested,

476
00:33:54.599 --> 00:33:59.720
but he keeps up said habits,
he's a no. Then he's a stalker.

477
00:34:04.519 --> 00:34:08.400
Sierra Gole says, girls stop telling
my business please, exactly by Sierra

478
00:34:10.360 --> 00:34:15.559
No, I don't. I don't
think that hold on a beta will prefer

479
00:34:15.719 --> 00:34:17.960
for his woman to tell him how
to resolve an issue instead of taking the

480
00:34:19.079 --> 00:34:23.039
lead himself. I agree one thousand
percent, because some people, man and

481
00:34:23.239 --> 00:34:28.360
female, just aren't good leaders.
And the alpha is the leader. That's

482
00:34:28.400 --> 00:34:31.400
a part of being the alpha.
And that's not to say that you can't

483
00:34:31.440 --> 00:34:36.320
be a leader in anything. It's
just that in more situations than not,

484
00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:43.320
you work better being someone Because now
another good thing though, and very important

485
00:34:43.320 --> 00:34:45.400
to point out. I don't think
you can't be an alpha if you don't

486
00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:50.920
know how to take directions, if
you don't know how to be a follower,

487
00:34:51.239 --> 00:34:53.559
you cannot be a leader. That's
just it. Point Blake, period,

488
00:34:53.719 --> 00:34:58.679
right. And I think that this
is another category of beta men and

489
00:34:58.880 --> 00:35:02.199
women who feel like, oh well, I know everything about this one subject.

490
00:35:02.280 --> 00:35:05.880
And can nobody tell me shit?
And I know what's best and blah

491
00:35:05.880 --> 00:35:08.000
blah blah blah blah. I don't
never want anyone to tell me shit.

492
00:35:08.239 --> 00:35:13.159
You're automatically abated to me. You're
automatically abated to me because if you're not

493
00:35:13.280 --> 00:35:16.639
wise enough to know that one man, it's impossible for one person to know

494
00:35:16.840 --> 00:35:22.199
everything, then you automatically don't have
all the skills that you need to be

495
00:35:22.280 --> 00:35:24.400
a fucking leader. Like that's it. Like every leader had to be a

496
00:35:24.480 --> 00:35:28.480
follower at one point, and if
you don't know how to be a follower,

497
00:35:28.599 --> 00:35:31.599
you can't be a leader. Go
ahead, Dan, point to do

498
00:35:31.840 --> 00:35:38.239
Alpha's believe in fifty fifty partnership?
Do they believe in group efforts between the

499
00:35:38.280 --> 00:35:46.800
relationship to come to decisions or problem
solving? I think that and Alpha is

500
00:35:46.840 --> 00:35:53.079
aware that in certain situations group input
is needed. But I don't think it

501
00:35:53.239 --> 00:35:58.719
has to be always like a commune
vibe, you know what I mean?

502
00:35:59.400 --> 00:36:06.480
Not commune, it's commune word.
I'm thinking of communists, maybe severe lack

503
00:36:06.519 --> 00:36:10.480
of Marxism A relationships these days.
You know what I hate, y'all?

504
00:36:10.599 --> 00:36:15.159
Fuck y'all, Okay, let me
know. I expand abund that a little

505
00:36:15.199 --> 00:36:19.519
bit because um, why uh,
someone said, this is giving me that

506
00:36:19.599 --> 00:36:22.639
recent Jill Squad Jill Scott quote.
What quote? I ain't see it?

507
00:36:22.679 --> 00:36:23.199
Tell me, tell me what it
is, Tell me what it is?

508
00:36:23.679 --> 00:36:27.400
Um, you said, expand on
that. Yeah, okay, so I

509
00:36:27.480 --> 00:36:37.400
feel like communicide, right. I
think that an alpha is um smart enough

510
00:36:37.440 --> 00:36:40.280
to know that, you know,
one person doesn't know everything, right,

511
00:36:40.639 --> 00:36:46.079
So there are certain situations where having
a group input is important because sometimes you

512
00:36:46.239 --> 00:36:51.199
may never understand one perspective because you
never had to go through that. Okay,

513
00:36:51.519 --> 00:36:54.119
Like, honestly, I think alpha
knows that a man ain't got no

514
00:36:54.199 --> 00:36:58.440
business telling a woman what to do
with a body, So in that situation,

515
00:36:58.559 --> 00:37:00.239
he would have to reach out to
women and get like her input on

516
00:37:00.320 --> 00:37:02.039
what she likes and what she doesn't
like, you know what I mean?

517
00:37:02.199 --> 00:37:07.920
All right, So alpha's are not
Republicans. Kyle, shut the fuck up,

518
00:37:09.159 --> 00:37:13.960
thank you, c R five.
Someone says, well, I'm sorry.

519
00:37:14.079 --> 00:37:19.039
Darwin Elmore says, a true alpha
will consider all parties involved, feelings

520
00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:23.920
and resolve it fairly. Yes.
A true alpha will consider all parties involved

521
00:37:24.039 --> 00:37:29.840
and feelings and reserved it. Resolved
it fairly, Yes, couldn't have said

522
00:37:29.880 --> 00:37:36.639
it better myself. Thank you,
Thank you. Um, if you can't

523
00:37:36.679 --> 00:37:37.400
tell me what to do, and
then you can tell me what you're doing.

524
00:37:38.679 --> 00:37:43.719
Okay, So if you can't tell
me what to do, then you

525
00:37:43.840 --> 00:37:46.039
can tell me what to do.
But if you can tell me what to

526
00:37:46.119 --> 00:37:52.800
do, you can tell me what
to do. Um. Alright. Apparently

527
00:37:53.119 --> 00:38:00.320
apparently that was jelly from Philly Jill
Scott. I love this. Um.

528
00:38:01.679 --> 00:38:09.679
So, the last thing that I
really wanted to talk about today is not

529
00:38:09.800 --> 00:38:16.920
the farts. Let's know, I
really hate this conversation of, Oh,

530
00:38:17.119 --> 00:38:22.639
you're so cute, you got so
many hoes. I hate this conversation of

531
00:38:22.079 --> 00:38:25.199
oh my god, you're so attractive, you got so many hoses? I

532
00:38:25.519 --> 00:38:31.079
know it, right. I think
a lot of people don't realize that the

533
00:38:31.320 --> 00:38:37.000
baddest, the most handsome, the
most attractive people don't have as many holes

534
00:38:37.000 --> 00:38:42.239
as y'all think we do, because
a a lot of people are, you

535
00:38:42.320 --> 00:38:45.440
know, self conscious, and they
don't really want to put themselves out there

536
00:38:45.480 --> 00:38:46.519
like that because they're like, oh, they're at attractive, think e anybody,

537
00:38:46.519 --> 00:38:51.480
why do they want me? Blah
blah blah blah. B the holes

538
00:38:51.559 --> 00:38:53.280
that we do get sometimes we don't
want, so now we lower that amount

539
00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:57.079
of holes to like, it's just
we don't have as many holes as y'all

540
00:38:57.119 --> 00:38:59.920
think we got. Okay, I
just want to say that, especially women,

541
00:39:00.480 --> 00:39:02.480
Stop telling women, oh, I
know you got all the holes.

542
00:39:02.719 --> 00:39:07.960
Okay, for those two previous reasons
aside, women are tired, okay,

543
00:39:08.440 --> 00:39:14.199
especially attractive women. We're fucking tired. Okay, We're tired. We're tired

544
00:39:14.199 --> 00:39:16.079
of people playing on our face.
We're tired of what we feel like is

545
00:39:16.119 --> 00:39:21.039
wasting our time. Okay. A
lot of us are enjoying our solitude.

546
00:39:21.519 --> 00:39:24.559
We're out here going on solo trips, solo dates, like being in a

547
00:39:24.719 --> 00:39:29.360
relationship with anyone is the last thing
that's on our mind right now. Like

548
00:39:29.880 --> 00:39:36.239
a lot of attractive millennials right now
are enjoying their solitude. Respect that shit.

549
00:39:36.440 --> 00:39:37.800
Okay, stop playing all these holes
on me that I ain't got,

550
00:39:39.079 --> 00:39:43.440
especially because I ain't got them,
like god damn. Okay, I am

551
00:39:43.519 --> 00:39:46.480
in a physically abusive relationship with myself. Do you know how many times I

552
00:39:46.639 --> 00:39:51.840
jerk off? It's sad, Okay, So stop telling me what you take

553
00:39:51.920 --> 00:39:55.800
you know, because you fucking don't. Okay, broke your vagina that is

554
00:39:55.840 --> 00:39:58.880
how I broke my Jina. But
you know what, I did give up

555
00:39:58.880 --> 00:40:01.760
the Rose for Lint. What I
gave up the Rose for Lynn. That's

556
00:40:01.800 --> 00:40:05.880
not cool? Rose? Why is
that not cool? No? Just kidding,

557
00:40:07.480 --> 00:40:10.440
Rose? No, no, se
Y, Yeah, my sex tooy.

558
00:40:10.599 --> 00:40:15.280
Okay, it's Rosa's name Jerome.
You know what, Now, I

559
00:40:15.400 --> 00:40:19.119
do want to name Rose Jerome.
I'm not gonna lie. I do want

560
00:40:19.119 --> 00:40:22.239
to name my Rose Jerome now.
And when I pull it out, I

561
00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:24.360
want to say I said, JR. Rome's in the house, and I

562
00:40:24.480 --> 00:40:30.920
want that to be like my intro
for I set in the movie Rose,

563
00:40:31.119 --> 00:40:35.519
the j Rose in the house,
Like I'm really gonna make it like a

564
00:40:35.559 --> 00:40:37.639
whole big thing. Um So yeah. So for Lyn, I decided I'm

565
00:40:37.679 --> 00:40:40.519
going to give up the Rose because
it is something that I love, right.

566
00:40:40.920 --> 00:40:44.440
But I also decided that every Sunday
I'm going to go to church or

567
00:40:44.519 --> 00:40:46.519
watch church, which I had been
feeling a miserably for the past few years,

568
00:40:46.639 --> 00:40:50.920
bring Jerosa church. I would never
bring Jerosa to church. Seek The

569
00:40:50.960 --> 00:40:52.360
problem is Kyle want me to sit
next to him in hell and I'm not

570
00:40:52.440 --> 00:40:55.159
doing it. And for whatever reason, he just keeps trying to get me

571
00:40:55.239 --> 00:40:59.239
down there, y'all. And I'm
not going You're going to hell already.

572
00:41:00.119 --> 00:41:07.400
Someone see her said, cut the
fucking mic um Hollywood h underscore says,

573
00:41:07.400 --> 00:41:12.480
a real one ain't worried about your
hose. That was always my standpoint on

574
00:41:12.559 --> 00:41:15.480
it, right, because when I'm
dating and when I'm talking to guys who

575
00:41:15.519 --> 00:41:19.559
are attractive and subconsciously in my mind, I might even had these conversations myself,

576
00:41:19.599 --> 00:41:22.119
like I noticed a guy who's I
automatically dead that with yeah, but

577
00:41:22.119 --> 00:41:24.960
they ain't meet it. I don't
give fuck like you know what I mean.

578
00:41:25.119 --> 00:41:30.719
So don't don't tell women about or
men about how many holes you think

579
00:41:30.719 --> 00:41:31.920
they got, Like just say,
I'm that nigga, I'm that bitch.

580
00:41:31.960 --> 00:41:36.920
You don't matter. It ain't me
though I've like in more recent years,

581
00:41:36.960 --> 00:41:42.840
have tried to uh make my dating
more singular. You only one dig one

582
00:41:42.840 --> 00:41:44.639
person at the time. I think
you told me that before. Yeah,

583
00:41:44.800 --> 00:41:47.119
yeah, it's it's more of a
like. And I think we said this

584
00:41:47.199 --> 00:41:51.719
before the show. I don't have
my time has spread out so thin.

585
00:41:51.840 --> 00:41:55.480
I can't spread my attention out anymore, you know, And I don't know.

586
00:41:57.159 --> 00:42:00.360
That's the thing about that I never
understood about dating multiple people at the

587
00:42:00.440 --> 00:42:04.760
same time, because how are you
How can you ever be so sure about

588
00:42:04.840 --> 00:42:07.320
one person if you're spreading your attention
out so fucking thin? Well, you

589
00:42:07.400 --> 00:42:14.599
know what the problem is a lot
of people aren't able to differentiate or handle

590
00:42:14.840 --> 00:42:21.559
giving their attention to just one person
without catching feelings really fast. I think

591
00:42:21.960 --> 00:42:27.719
that's his skill set that one should
probably learn. That's not exactly what I

592
00:42:27.800 --> 00:42:30.960
was talking about, but I understand
how that happens. Are you saying that

593
00:42:31.360 --> 00:42:36.920
it's more likely for someone to have
that happened to them if they date one

594
00:42:36.960 --> 00:42:38.719
person at the time. I'm not
gonna lie. I know that a lot

595
00:42:38.800 --> 00:42:43.639
of my female friends who purposely go
out and date one person at a time

596
00:42:44.400 --> 00:42:49.760
usually end up telling us what color
bridesmates were dresses we're wearing within the first

597
00:42:50.039 --> 00:42:52.239
couple weeks. So then, what's
the benefit of dating multiple people at a

598
00:42:52.280 --> 00:42:57.199
time that they just don't fall faster? Or I think you don't fall faster.

599
00:42:57.559 --> 00:43:00.360
I think you enjoy getting to know
multiple people. I think that when

600
00:43:00.400 --> 00:43:04.800
you're dating multiple people at one time, you're less likely to put up with

601
00:43:05.000 --> 00:43:08.000
bullshit Because it's like, why I'm
gonna sit here and complain about how you

602
00:43:08.159 --> 00:43:10.840
never take me on a date.
You just keep inviting me to your house

603
00:43:12.199 --> 00:43:15.320
when it is possible. Because these
two men over here are fine going on

604
00:43:15.440 --> 00:43:17.840
a walk, or fine going to
the museum, or fine going out to

605
00:43:17.880 --> 00:43:21.719
eat. Why are you acting like
that's something that I can't get? But

606
00:43:21.800 --> 00:43:24.039
shouldn't you know what you don't and
don't want them? You should, right?

607
00:43:24.199 --> 00:43:27.840
So I feel like as an adult, you should address a person like,

608
00:43:27.920 --> 00:43:30.239
hey, I like hanging out with
you, but this is like third

609
00:43:30.320 --> 00:43:31.519
time you'ven inviting me to your house. I would like to go on a

610
00:43:31.639 --> 00:43:36.199
date, a proper date. Cool, right. There's some people who will

611
00:43:36.239 --> 00:43:37.880
spend you and be like, Okay, yeah, we can set something up

612
00:43:37.920 --> 00:43:39.800
next week. But what you're doing
to night, No, you want to,

613
00:43:39.920 --> 00:43:43.159
you want to for a drink,
you want chill, blah bla blah

614
00:43:43.159 --> 00:43:47.480
blah blah. And it's like,
when you're only dating one person, you

615
00:43:47.519 --> 00:43:52.079
can fall victim to that shit.
Sierra, get off my life, Sierra,

616
00:43:52.159 --> 00:43:54.079
get on my life. Time you're
talking about me verse thirty six to

617
00:43:54.199 --> 00:43:58.559
forty eight hours. See, some
people will playing away in that fast.

618
00:44:00.440 --> 00:44:05.559
I don't know. I feel like
it's a hindrance in some way. I

619
00:44:05.760 --> 00:44:08.159
understand what you're saying. And I
think that that is especially true for people

620
00:44:08.239 --> 00:44:16.239
who have certain lifestyles right less time
to get you know what kW I think

621
00:44:16.280 --> 00:44:20.760
it's also a thing like you know, um, you know, like when

622
00:44:20.800 --> 00:44:23.440
you're first entering the dating pool,
you know, after you feel ready to

623
00:44:23.480 --> 00:44:25.760
be in the dating pool, like
you kind of want to you know,

624
00:44:27.119 --> 00:44:30.480
test the waters and like several different
things, but you don't want to like

625
00:44:30.360 --> 00:44:36.559
be dating several people for months for
years, like yeah, you know,

626
00:44:36.719 --> 00:44:38.119
you try it out for a couple
of weeks and then like, you know,

627
00:44:38.800 --> 00:44:42.639
yeah, it's a it's um,
it's a bracket. Like you just

628
00:44:42.679 --> 00:44:44.800
start breaking down, like okay,
I like, you know, these two

629
00:44:45.079 --> 00:44:46.400
people bear all right now, I
like this one person better. You just

630
00:44:46.519 --> 00:44:50.679
keep you know. Yeah, And
I think that you're you're you're honestly,

631
00:44:50.800 --> 00:44:52.679
nine times out of ten, you're
not going to be dating multiple people for

632
00:44:52.760 --> 00:44:55.639
a long period of time, right, Like the cream will always rise to

633
00:44:55.719 --> 00:44:58.920
the top. Like and I think
that's a little bit of what I was

634
00:44:58.960 --> 00:45:00.920
trying to say with why would I
have to put up with this when I

635
00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:02.800
know somebody who will Like if you're
dating like three people at a time,

636
00:45:04.519 --> 00:45:07.360
the more that people aren't meeting your
standards, your requirements of what you're looking

637
00:45:07.400 --> 00:45:10.519
for, You're going to get them
less and less attention until now you're eventually

638
00:45:10.599 --> 00:45:14.519
just dating one person. As someone
who dates one person at a time,

639
00:45:14.559 --> 00:45:15.880
Oh my god, well hold on, I say, as someone who dates

640
00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:22.280
one person, can Alpha says Kyle
better get a trapper keeper with a schedule

641
00:45:22.320 --> 00:45:25.079
in it. Can't we just get
a lower third for him days? You

642
00:45:25.119 --> 00:45:29.320
know, Kyle Mack, person who
dates one person at a time? Yes,

643
00:45:29.480 --> 00:45:31.079
yes, yes, First off,
what does the fucking trapper keeper have

644
00:45:31.159 --> 00:45:34.480
to do with this? I don't. So you have a schedule for what

645
00:45:34.800 --> 00:45:37.360
for your multiple bitches that you need
to have? This person wants me to

646
00:45:37.400 --> 00:45:39.960
have multiple Yes, we all do. I'm not gonna call our bitches.

647
00:45:40.039 --> 00:45:43.519
But yes, it was a guy. So so remember when you show up

648
00:45:43.519 --> 00:45:46.199
to the industry event with a binder
and everyone called you out for it?

649
00:45:46.639 --> 00:45:50.119
What the fuck did you have a
bind? Gap? Because I had flyers

650
00:45:50.159 --> 00:45:55.199
and business cards all one place and
it was a it was a it was

651
00:45:55.239 --> 00:45:58.679
a networking event. I was the
only white person there and I was the

652
00:45:58.719 --> 00:46:02.679
only one had a binder and I
yes, no one came to the networking

653
00:46:02.719 --> 00:46:07.639
event with any networking materials at all. Kyle, I'm gonna be I'm gonna

654
00:46:07.639 --> 00:46:09.599
be rerod with you. Not only
were you the only white person there,

655
00:46:10.400 --> 00:46:15.119
you acted like a white person Like
that's even worse. But why the fuck

656
00:46:15.159 --> 00:46:22.039
are you add a networking event,
wait a fucking Flyers and Sharp because I

657
00:46:22.199 --> 00:46:24.360
wanted the podcast awareness to go out. I had flyers, I had business

658
00:46:24.440 --> 00:46:28.880
cards, I had stats. Kyle, you didn't see the Hennessy on a

659
00:46:28.920 --> 00:46:31.760
flyer. There was no Hennessy on
the fire. Well it should have been,

660
00:46:31.840 --> 00:46:35.679
so you would have known not to
bring it. All right, the

661
00:46:35.760 --> 00:46:38.199
only other person who had a business
card was DJ at the event. But

662
00:46:38.360 --> 00:46:40.880
no. What I'm saying is is, as someone who dates one person at

663
00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:45.440
a time, I think the frustration
for the person who does that when they're

664
00:46:45.480 --> 00:46:49.320
trying to date someone who has who
has made it clear that they're dating all

665
00:46:49.360 --> 00:46:52.440
the people at the same time,
is, uh, you're stuck waiting.

666
00:46:53.199 --> 00:46:57.119
You're stuck waiting. I mean,
and it's cool to it's cool to wait.

667
00:46:57.199 --> 00:47:01.599
But I think also, if you're
intent is to attract the appeal of

668
00:47:01.679 --> 00:47:06.360
someone, Let's say that the person
that's right for you is the person who's

669
00:47:06.440 --> 00:47:08.719
dating one person at a time while
you're dating multiple people, if they're stuck

670
00:47:08.760 --> 00:47:15.079
at home waiting for you for an
unreasonable amount of time while you're going out

671
00:47:15.199 --> 00:47:19.800
dating two or three other people,
you could miss out on the opportunity because

672
00:47:19.840 --> 00:47:23.000
of their aggravation. And it's and
I'm not saying that they're being clingy,

673
00:47:23.800 --> 00:47:30.599
but there's there's a reasonable amount of
attention that I think might be due that

674
00:47:30.920 --> 00:47:36.159
it is not given because your attention
is spread out so thin. Thank you

675
00:47:36.280 --> 00:47:38.480
CR five CR five for Live Board
of Badge. Thank you, baby,

676
00:47:38.639 --> 00:47:45.880
Thank you. But I do want
to say yes to what you're saying.

677
00:47:45.320 --> 00:47:49.280
But another part of that that goes
into it. That's why it's important to

678
00:47:49.480 --> 00:47:53.039
x people what they're looking for and
what they're dating style is at the moment,

679
00:47:53.480 --> 00:47:57.800
because if you're someone who's just you
know, looking to be in a

680
00:47:57.880 --> 00:48:00.800
relationship or dating to be in a
relationship, if you run into somebody who's

681
00:48:01.440 --> 00:48:06.559
just open to whatever, nine times
out of tend more than likely you're not

682
00:48:06.639 --> 00:48:08.920
going to be on the same page. So like you're going to run into

683
00:48:09.000 --> 00:48:14.400
that. Because even if like you
have somebody who's you know, dating multiple

684
00:48:14.440 --> 00:48:17.039
people, if they're dating to be
in a relationship. If you're giving her

685
00:48:17.079 --> 00:48:21.039
the vibes that she wants, she'll
be more than likely to give you her

686
00:48:21.079 --> 00:48:22.679
attention and give you her time.
You know what I mean? I think

687
00:48:22.800 --> 00:48:27.480
I think for me, I had
a bad taste in my mouth from one

688
00:48:27.480 --> 00:48:32.880
of these things. Yeah, that
one was too easy. She didn't shower

689
00:48:34.000 --> 00:48:38.119
that day. No, no,
I I was not told that she was

690
00:48:38.199 --> 00:48:42.199
dating multiple people at the same time
to like date three. Why didn't you

691
00:48:42.320 --> 00:48:45.199
ask her? You don't ask like
dating styles, you don't like you don't

692
00:48:45.239 --> 00:48:46.480
ask people what you're looking for.
What's you're dating style? You know?

693
00:48:47.119 --> 00:48:52.039
Swindle doorf No, And I'm sure
that you're about to tell me that's a

694
00:48:52.079 --> 00:48:53.719
problem. I didn't say anything.
I'm just saying I think you would get

695
00:48:53.719 --> 00:48:57.679
better results if you did. Thank
you. See our five for life for

696
00:48:57.840 --> 00:49:02.559
another badge? Come on baby,
yeah? Um dann how much time we

697
00:49:02.599 --> 00:49:07.199
got? We got about ten minutes. Okay, let's do some edibles real

698
00:49:07.320 --> 00:49:15.239
quick. Okay, So the edible
portion of the show is when we read

699
00:49:15.559 --> 00:49:19.599
comments, question stories that you guys
send in, or any advice that you

700
00:49:19.679 --> 00:49:22.360
guys might you know, want to
hear my take on so oh my god,

701
00:49:22.360 --> 00:49:25.239
it's so hot in here, y'all. My baby here started flying up.

702
00:49:25.400 --> 00:49:29.960
How long was that like that?
I don't know. Oh my god,

703
00:49:30.280 --> 00:49:32.559
you're gonna hit me out here looking
crazy. My chest hairs are standing

704
00:49:32.639 --> 00:49:37.920
up like, oh my gosh,
we like crazy baby hairs up in here.

705
00:49:38.119 --> 00:49:40.599
Look. I just like crazy hair
in general. Okay, because he

706
00:49:40.639 --> 00:49:49.519
doesn't have exactly so um first one, So all that working out just to

707
00:49:49.679 --> 00:49:52.559
dragon Nigga out of a day party
this summer, y'all think I'm joking.

708
00:49:52.719 --> 00:49:59.480
Okay, I'm gonna find me somebody
who I like this summer and I am

709
00:49:59.599 --> 00:50:02.119
going to genuinely called him and be
like come over. He would be like

710
00:50:02.280 --> 00:50:05.960
no, And I'm like, where
are you wet? And I'm a shot

711
00:50:06.079 --> 00:50:09.760
wherever he at, and I'm gonna
drag his ass out the party, real

712
00:50:09.840 --> 00:50:14.159
beastie like like I'm gonna be like
Debo, Like I'm gonna show up to

713
00:50:14.239 --> 00:50:15.360
the party. And his friends would
be like, yo, took your chain,

714
00:50:15.480 --> 00:50:19.440
Debo coming, And I'm gonna come
up strong as shit and drag his

715
00:50:19.519 --> 00:50:21.800
ass out, okay, And he
would be like, I'm hanging with my

716
00:50:21.920 --> 00:50:24.440
friends and I'm like what friends?
Pulp? Like, really, I am

717
00:50:24.559 --> 00:50:29.599
going to find someone. That's only
if they don't act right, because hopefully

718
00:50:29.639 --> 00:50:30.559
I'll find someone who asks right now, I gotta do all that. I'm

719
00:50:30.559 --> 00:50:32.440
not saying he can't hang with his
friends, but like you know, make

720
00:50:32.519 --> 00:50:36.119
time for me too. But if
it happens, it better be on film

721
00:50:36.199 --> 00:50:39.039
because I want to talk about it. We got to see it also.

722
00:50:39.159 --> 00:50:44.800
I mean, like one, you
already have my phone number two. This

723
00:50:44.960 --> 00:50:49.000
might be the whiteness debo debo from
Friday. Yeah, okay, I haven't

724
00:50:49.000 --> 00:50:52.000
seen Friday. Sierra said, snatching
at hooka out your mouth, Bookie.

725
00:50:52.039 --> 00:50:57.880
Butt agreed snatching at hooka out your
mouth, Booky. But that's it.

726
00:50:58.440 --> 00:51:00.519
That's it. Don't have a question, yea, how much would your material

727
00:51:01.039 --> 00:51:05.320
suffer if you actually found the one? You know what's crazy? I think

728
00:51:05.320 --> 00:51:07.920
it will be so much better if
I found the one. Yeah, because

729
00:51:08.840 --> 00:51:13.400
I can tell y'all funny relationship stories. We can go back to sex stories

730
00:51:13.440 --> 00:51:15.760
and all that good jazz, like
you know what I mean. I've been

731
00:51:15.840 --> 00:51:19.320
wondering this for a while, and
I didn't want to ask this on the

732
00:51:19.400 --> 00:51:25.519
air, but but you asked it
anyway, because fuck me right right um

733
00:51:25.639 --> 00:51:32.719
now, I think that um being
in a healthy, successful relationship. Would

734
00:51:32.840 --> 00:51:36.920
A give me a good opportunity to
you know, see if all that shit

735
00:51:36.960 --> 00:51:44.519
I was talking was real true,
and B you know, it would give

736
00:51:44.599 --> 00:51:50.880
me another perspective because like my take
on relationships right now is coming from a

737
00:51:51.039 --> 00:51:53.639
hindsight is twenty twenty view. Right, I'm able to acknowledge the things that

738
00:51:53.679 --> 00:51:57.079
I could have done better or the
things that my partner could have done better

739
00:51:57.159 --> 00:52:01.320
my last relationship, But it's not
from a spot of me implementing you know,

740
00:52:01.440 --> 00:52:04.639
these healthy treats, you know what
I mean. So I think we'll

741
00:52:04.679 --> 00:52:07.760
be better and plus you know he's
gonna be fine, and we're gonna get

742
00:52:07.760 --> 00:52:09.320
this bag and that's it. It's
gonna be great. I can't wait.

743
00:52:12.000 --> 00:52:15.800
Thank you Sierra supoard a badge.
Thank you CR five for lifeboard another badge.

744
00:52:15.920 --> 00:52:23.079
I appreciate you. Um next question
made me, So what games do

745
00:52:23.280 --> 00:52:29.119
women play on men? Y'all want
to answer that? First? What's y'all

746
00:52:29.159 --> 00:52:32.920
thing? And then I'll give my
answer. I mean manipulative bitch game?

747
00:52:34.159 --> 00:52:36.559
Well, I would I say,
realistically, like they probably play like the

748
00:52:36.719 --> 00:52:40.239
Sims or like, you know,
maybe my crafty Mario is popular again,

749
00:52:40.400 --> 00:52:45.920
like shut the fuck up, y'all. That's it, y'all gonna answer?

750
00:52:45.519 --> 00:52:51.519
Um, mine was an answer I
mean not, you know, including Kyle's

751
00:52:52.320 --> 00:52:58.000
very chauvinistic answer. I'm sorry.
I've been hurt people. I feel like

752
00:52:58.920 --> 00:53:01.599
I feel like the majority of games
that women play is more so just trying

753
00:53:01.639 --> 00:53:07.360
to figure out if they're compatible with
this guy. So they set up false

754
00:53:07.400 --> 00:53:13.079
scenarios like communication wise, Okay,
you know where it's like, you know,

755
00:53:13.199 --> 00:53:15.960
if I was a caterpillar, like, would you still talk to like,

756
00:53:15.039 --> 00:53:17.280
you know, like those stupid things
like that. You know what I'm

757
00:53:17.320 --> 00:53:21.639
talking about. You know what I'm
saying. Oh, maybe it's the mountain

758
00:53:21.679 --> 00:53:23.599
dude talking. I wouldn't talk to
you if you were a caterpillar who talks

759
00:53:23.599 --> 00:53:28.159
to bugs. Um, I agree, Sierra. Sierra said, um,

760
00:53:29.239 --> 00:53:34.920
we just played these niggas the end. No, I'm joking. So Darwin

761
00:53:35.039 --> 00:53:38.880
Oh Moore says, women played chess, Dudes play PS five what? Um,

762
00:53:39.559 --> 00:53:43.920
I've never seen one girl played chess. Oh, women played chess.

763
00:53:44.159 --> 00:53:50.039
I've never met one who did what
I haven't. I haven't met many dudes

764
00:53:50.039 --> 00:53:52.400
I played chess either, I played
chess. I like chess. All right,

765
00:53:52.559 --> 00:53:54.559
you guys could just tell me this
today. I don't know that I've

766
00:53:54.599 --> 00:53:57.639
known you for four years. I
never knew that I got chess on my

767
00:53:57.679 --> 00:54:01.360
phone. For the record, I
don't know I play chests. We'll teach

768
00:54:01.360 --> 00:54:08.920
you. Um. I. I
genuinely don't think women intentionally play games or

769
00:54:09.039 --> 00:54:14.239
men. But I do think that
there are certain things that we just keep

770
00:54:14.400 --> 00:54:19.599
men unaware of, Like there are
just certain things that we don't feel comfortable.

771
00:54:19.599 --> 00:54:22.639
I don't even know if it's comfortable. It's just certain ship we don't

772
00:54:22.639 --> 00:54:24.000
want yall to know because we know
you can't handle it. So in a

773
00:54:24.079 --> 00:54:28.400
sense, it's us protecting you.
Right. Story. We were talking about

774
00:54:28.440 --> 00:54:31.400
some stuff before the show, and
I think, um, there have been

775
00:54:31.440 --> 00:54:35.800
a lot of instances for me in
the last couple of weeks where things have

776
00:54:35.960 --> 00:54:39.079
been said to see what I would
do, to see how I wouldn't react.

777
00:54:39.159 --> 00:54:44.119
That's kind of what I was trying
to say earlier, right, And

778
00:54:44.239 --> 00:54:46.400
then it was blamed as jokes later, but it was you know what I

779
00:54:46.480 --> 00:54:50.480
mean, I take that back.
I recam my statement. Yeah, I

780
00:54:50.639 --> 00:54:58.159
didn't think about that. Kyle's right, Kyle's rights that ever been said somebody.

781
00:54:59.000 --> 00:55:02.280
I was like, somebody clip this
please? Um so I don't think

782
00:55:02.519 --> 00:55:09.039
women play games or men intentionally,
but I do think that sometimes women will

783
00:55:09.159 --> 00:55:14.800
say things that they don't really mean
just to get a response from a man,

784
00:55:15.199 --> 00:55:19.280
right, And a lot of times
they do these things just because they

785
00:55:19.400 --> 00:55:22.320
want reassurance in a certain area.
But they don't know how to ask you,

786
00:55:22.800 --> 00:55:27.960
and subconsciously they don't even realize they're
doing it. So like they'll say

787
00:55:28.039 --> 00:55:32.920
things like, um, so you
know I am, Or you'll say I'm

788
00:55:34.000 --> 00:55:37.840
going somewhere, you can come if
you want. A woman want to say

789
00:55:37.840 --> 00:55:39.760
I don't really want to go,
like, but it's not that she doesn't

790
00:55:39.800 --> 00:55:43.559
want to go, she just wants
you to invite her, rather than saying

791
00:55:43.639 --> 00:55:45.599
you can come if you want.
You know what I mean, it's not

792
00:55:46.239 --> 00:55:50.559
and respectfully as someone with a vagina, I'm gonna let you know it's not.

793
00:55:50.800 --> 00:55:54.519
There's different behind Yeah, like you, women want to feel welcome.

794
00:55:54.639 --> 00:55:58.400
They want to feel invited. So
you're saying you can come if you want,

795
00:55:59.079 --> 00:56:00.000
it's not you invite me, So
now we don't want to go.

796
00:56:01.000 --> 00:56:04.400
I don't give a fuck. I
don't want to go. But that response

797
00:56:04.639 --> 00:56:07.800
is trying to incite a reaction.
Yes, like they're doing all these things

798
00:56:07.840 --> 00:56:12.599
to incite a reaction, Like I'm
trying to think of another example, and

799
00:56:12.719 --> 00:56:16.400
the games are subtle, Yeah they
are. Okay, yeah, okay,

800
00:56:17.039 --> 00:56:20.760
I'll take that. I'll agree with
that. And it's not like all out

801
00:56:20.800 --> 00:56:24.840
in your face all the time,
and they're tiny games. Like sometimes women

802
00:56:25.840 --> 00:56:31.719
women will show you like a woman
with a fat ass, right, but

803
00:56:32.039 --> 00:56:36.840
they don't really like the women with
the fat ass. They really just want

804
00:56:36.880 --> 00:56:38.679
to see if you like the woman
with the fat ass, so to say,

805
00:56:38.719 --> 00:56:43.840
like, damn, look her ass. And some women will genuinely really

806
00:56:43.920 --> 00:56:46.000
be like, oh my god,
this is amazing and give her credit.

807
00:56:46.400 --> 00:56:51.599
But there are other women who will
literally bring that same ass up three months

808
00:56:51.639 --> 00:56:52.840
from now an argument, and I
say, shit, when you was looking

809
00:56:52.880 --> 00:56:55.800
at that bitch ass when he was
walking down the street, You'll pointed to

810
00:56:55.840 --> 00:57:00.840
ass out to me. You'll pointed
to ass out to me. How do

811
00:57:00.920 --> 00:57:04.559
we get here? What's happening?
Like, I don't know, Like I

812
00:57:04.639 --> 00:57:07.920
feel like there are other examples I
can't really think of right now. But

813
00:57:07.000 --> 00:57:10.760
sometimes when we'll say things just to
get a reaction out of you because they

814
00:57:12.039 --> 00:57:15.920
need reassurance or confirmation on certain things. Yeah, it sucks, um,

815
00:57:17.679 --> 00:57:28.719
last one, Uh, have you
ever been ghosted? Um? Um,

816
00:57:31.079 --> 00:57:36.400
I imagine that Stormy, you have
not been ghosted often often? Okay,

817
00:57:36.559 --> 00:57:39.679
doesn't count as ghosting if they spent
the block later, what does that mean?

818
00:57:40.199 --> 00:57:44.079
I feel like yes, because that's
what can you translate? Translate that

819
00:57:44.119 --> 00:57:47.800
to us? It doesn't count as
ghosting. If they then came back and

820
00:57:49.079 --> 00:57:54.280
said yes, it still counts as
ghosting unless like unless they said, hey,

821
00:57:54.719 --> 00:57:58.719
I've got you know, I've got
shit going on, so I'm cut

822
00:57:58.719 --> 00:58:00.679
off communication with you for a bit
or you know, something like that.

823
00:58:00.840 --> 00:58:06.719
But if if they disappear and eventually
come back and like, hey, it's

824
00:58:06.760 --> 00:58:10.880
been monst' mister C two nine eight
three Board of Badge, thank you,

825
00:58:12.039 --> 00:58:15.840
baby, thank you for the support. Um. I have been ghosted.

826
00:58:15.960 --> 00:58:19.519
I've been ghosted once in my life. Once in my life. And this

827
00:58:19.719 --> 00:58:22.480
whole situation really grinds my gears and
it really triggers me talk about it,

828
00:58:22.559 --> 00:58:27.599
so bear with me, y'all right. So, in this one situation,

829
00:58:27.840 --> 00:58:35.039
this man managed to love bomb me, ghost me, then gas like me.

830
00:58:35.360 --> 00:58:38.800
Okay, So I just got like
a crazy ass run down of all

831
00:58:38.960 --> 00:58:43.199
the fucked up shit one can do. Okay, and I'm not gonna lie.

832
00:58:44.000 --> 00:58:46.400
He was a white ulster. His
address will run in his pockets.

833
00:58:46.639 --> 00:58:50.719
He was a white So I feel
like y'all should jump him tell me his

834
00:58:50.800 --> 00:58:53.480
name afterwards, because there's a good
chance one of us knows it. Ah.

835
00:58:53.760 --> 00:58:57.119
This was like ten years ago,
but I'm not gonna lie like that.

836
00:58:57.280 --> 00:59:00.400
Taught me all the lessons that I
need to learn in boys, and

837
00:59:00.639 --> 00:59:04.840
um that's it. Uh So yeah, this person we went on a date

838
00:59:05.639 --> 00:59:09.480
and he like immediately after the first
date, he sent me like, um,

839
00:59:10.320 --> 00:59:14.719
about you to go to the spa, right, and he would take

840
00:59:14.760 --> 00:59:17.559
me out to all these events and
do nice things for me. And oh,

841
00:59:17.639 --> 00:59:21.679
you're closing that wind, know,
huh, it's so hot in here.

842
00:59:22.639 --> 00:59:24.920
Just keep it like that. Okay, I don't want to stand up

843
00:59:24.960 --> 00:59:29.119
from this chair. It's gonna be
well. I know I got swap as

844
00:59:30.960 --> 00:59:34.320
um. Anyway, So he brought
me all these nice things. He took

845
00:59:34.360 --> 00:59:37.159
me to these events and it was
going great and then I don't know where,

846
00:59:37.239 --> 00:59:40.199
he just stopped talking to me,
right, And I really hate it

847
00:59:40.280 --> 00:59:45.400
because at this point I didn't understand
the power and who the fuck I was.

848
00:59:45.840 --> 00:59:49.360
So I was really on this man
phone like texting and crying, like

849
00:59:50.199 --> 00:59:53.679
did I do something wrong? And
okay, this man took me to me

850
00:59:53.760 --> 00:59:59.960
his mom everything, y'all. He
did hit my ass, just the nigga

851
01:00:00.000 --> 01:00:02.760
who got me in ass. Actually
this is the man who started me eating

852
01:00:02.840 --> 01:00:07.280
ass, y'all. And I'm like, what the fuck is going on here?

853
01:00:07.440 --> 01:00:12.920
Like shut down right? Then circle
was the block a few weeks later

854
01:00:13.119 --> 01:00:16.960
like yeah, you know, um, he misunderstood one of our conversations and

855
01:00:17.079 --> 01:00:22.679
blah blah blah blah blah. And
then afterwards we didn't go back to the

856
01:00:22.719 --> 01:00:24.559
way we were, and he was
trying to tell me like no, I

857
01:00:24.639 --> 01:00:28.559
think you're just in your head about
it and don't worry about nigga. You're

858
01:00:28.559 --> 01:00:31.039
now gas lighting me, right,
So long story short, this is how

859
01:00:31.079 --> 01:00:35.679
I learned what love bombing, ghosting, and gas lighting was. And for

860
01:00:35.800 --> 01:00:37.960
the record, he was gas lighting
me because he just was talking to a

861
01:00:37.000 --> 01:00:42.039
new bitch like that was it.
He was another one who only dated black

862
01:00:42.079 --> 01:00:46.039
girls. So he probably knows Kyle, we don't have a club. I

863
01:00:46.559 --> 01:00:53.079
think you do. I think that
there's a specific Facebook page for white men

864
01:00:53.159 --> 01:00:57.840
with blue eyes who only dave black
women. Yes, he did, you

865
01:00:57.880 --> 01:01:04.599
know. I was scared for a
second of what I don't know. Yeah,

866
01:01:04.679 --> 01:01:07.480
so a long story short, fuck
you what's up? I'm not I'm

867
01:01:07.480 --> 01:01:09.639
not upset about it now. Like
if I saw him, I really wouldn't

868
01:01:09.639 --> 01:01:14.119
do anything to him. No,
he wasn't bald. Oh I mean ten

869
01:01:14.199 --> 01:01:16.119
years ago, you weren't bald.
Oh my god, I'm crying. I'm

870
01:01:16.159 --> 01:01:20.840
just saying, are you sure his
name wasn't Kyle? I didn't know Stormy

871
01:01:20.920 --> 01:01:23.320
then, or was it? What
did he did? He say his name

872
01:01:23.480 --> 01:01:28.639
was my old cack. You know
what's crazy. I can't wait to finish

873
01:01:28.679 --> 01:01:31.360
this conversation when we end the show. Yes, I really can't. Boy,

874
01:01:31.920 --> 01:01:36.639
So Hollywood Age says, you mean
started you getting your ass? Sate?

875
01:01:37.000 --> 01:01:38.000
Well, yeah, he was the
first one wearing my ass, and

876
01:01:38.039 --> 01:01:40.440
that's actually how I started eating ass, because his ass too. This is

877
01:01:40.440 --> 01:01:44.000
a safe space, like, yeah, that's what happened. Right through the

878
01:01:44.079 --> 01:01:46.320
wire says somewhere in the world.
Doctor Umar is saying, I beg your

879
01:01:46.400 --> 01:01:53.599
pardon, I beg your pardon,
I beg your pardon. Doctor Umar is

880
01:01:53.599 --> 01:01:57.199
definitely side on this conversation. But
if it helps doctor Umar, I learn

881
01:01:57.239 --> 01:02:07.119
my lesson, I'm excited. Bombastic
side Kevin listen, man Um you're not

882
01:02:07.239 --> 01:02:14.880
in a social media cow. Oh
my god, bombastic site. No not

883
01:02:15.039 --> 01:02:22.920
shaggy okay rapper. Oh my god. Um listen man. Follow up me

884
01:02:23.079 --> 01:02:29.480
on the Gram at Stormy p POW. Follow up me, I want to

885
01:02:29.480 --> 01:02:36.239
see Maria Yester um keV Underscore two
one five. Don't start with me,

886
01:02:36.880 --> 01:02:42.400
um follow me on the gram a
Stormy p p e A at chocolate Chip

887
01:02:42.559 --> 01:02:47.320
and sip. And if you don't
remember anything else, please remember there's a

888
01:02:47.360 --> 01:02:51.239
group for white men with blue eyes
who aren't only black one. I love

889
01:02:51.239 --> 01:03:00.039
you, guys, and I see
you next week. Peace for directal use only,