WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.520 --> 00:00:08.839 Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby Mama, favorite 2 00:00:08.839 --> 00:00:13.759 baby Mama, Stormy Pea and this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip 3 00:00:14.039 --> 00:00:18.480 the modern day female perspective. Damn Son back at it again. Boom. 4 00:00:18.839 --> 00:00:21.039 Okay, I'm not gonna lie. I have my notes all written down, 5 00:00:21.079 --> 00:00:23.920 and then I realized it's been such a long time that we checked in. 6 00:00:24.399 --> 00:00:28.600 I didn't even recap the live show. Okay. First of all, I 7 00:00:28.679 --> 00:00:33.719 just want to say it was amazing all right, in case you haven't seen, 8 00:00:33.719 --> 00:00:36.280 because it is on YouTube, it is on all the audio platforms, 9 00:00:36.280 --> 00:00:39.600 so in kease you haven't seen or heard, it was Oodle's a fun, 10 00:00:39.719 --> 00:00:43.560 amaze balls. Okay, First, I want to say shout out to everybody 11 00:00:43.560 --> 00:00:46.079 a part of the team. We always got the home team. We got 12 00:00:46.119 --> 00:00:49.320 Shy, we got Schnelle, we got Sierra, we got stand Like, 13 00:00:49.600 --> 00:00:52.759 we got Liney, we locked in right. But then shout out to Professor 14 00:00:52.840 --> 00:00:59.240 Old Odie, Dizzy, everybody who joined in on stage like it was such 15 00:00:59.280 --> 00:01:02.200 a vibe. And I'm not gonna lie, y'all. I don't get nervous 16 00:01:02.240 --> 00:01:04.599 a lot when it comes to shows, especially in Philly. Your girl does 17 00:01:04.640 --> 00:01:11.760 not get nervous. Okay, but it was snowing that morning. It was 18 00:01:11.799 --> 00:01:15.280 snowing that morning. I'm like, fuck, I don't think nobody's gonna come. 19 00:01:15.879 --> 00:01:22.200 And everybody came. And it was thick in there, like thicker than 20 00:01:22.599 --> 00:01:27.319 a bold of cold grits, thicker than an African American woman from the South, 21 00:01:27.879 --> 00:01:33.560 thicker than you know, my hair when it hits cute. See should 22 00:01:33.680 --> 00:01:38.239 say at my back. I'm so sick of him, y'all. I'm so 23 00:01:38.519 --> 00:01:41.560 sick of him. Shout out to everybody who was a part of the show. 24 00:01:41.599 --> 00:01:44.040 Shout out to everybody who showed up. And I especially want to say 25 00:01:44.120 --> 00:01:48.920 shout out to my man Alphiz okay, because he came to the show. 26 00:01:48.920 --> 00:01:51.640 First of all, he flew back from like the Philippines or something to the 27 00:01:51.680 --> 00:01:55.719 show. Yes, they'll probably hear me say his name a lot, because 28 00:01:55.719 --> 00:01:59.319 he'd be on a live a lot. But he blew. He flew back 29 00:01:59.359 --> 00:02:01.920 to the United States to go to Philly to be at the show. And 30 00:02:02.400 --> 00:02:07.079 y'all know, my goal for the year is to do a short film. 31 00:02:07.519 --> 00:02:12.159 So he brought a slate for me. Wasn't that nice, y'all? It's 32 00:02:12.199 --> 00:02:15.680 my fucking man, dog like you are to go I appreciate you. It's 33 00:02:15.719 --> 00:02:19.520 people like you that make the world go around. Bro. Yeah, hell 34 00:02:19.599 --> 00:02:23.319 yeah, hell yeah. And I also want to say so after the live 35 00:02:23.360 --> 00:02:25.039 show, I really went dark for a little bit, especially when it came 36 00:02:25.080 --> 00:02:28.960 to like the podcast, because you know, as y'all heard already, when 37 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:32.080 I put out the short little episode, I was getting myself together because I 38 00:02:32.080 --> 00:02:37.319 had a lot going on at home, especially with my Grandmam and the amount 39 00:02:37.400 --> 00:02:39.159 of people when that episode dropped that like reached out like hey, you know, 40 00:02:39.280 --> 00:02:43.919 praying for you or like you need anything, like here are some resources, 41 00:02:43.960 --> 00:02:46.240 like have you tried blah blah blah blah. I felt so overwhelmed, 42 00:02:46.240 --> 00:02:49.159 but like in a good way. I was like, oh my god, 43 00:02:49.240 --> 00:02:52.240 y'all really care about me. Dang, y'all just be laughing at me, 44 00:02:52.360 --> 00:02:54.599 y'all be laughing with me, and y'all care about me, Like, thank 45 00:02:54.639 --> 00:02:59.639 you. I appreciate it. And so yeah, that was it. Afterwards, 46 00:02:59.680 --> 00:03:02.199 we would the frame shout out to everybody overhead. Frame made sure we 47 00:03:02.199 --> 00:03:05.919 had a good time, and yeah, man, I'm just blessed. I'm 48 00:03:05.960 --> 00:03:07.840 just blessed. I'm just blessed, and that's the only energy I'm choosing to 49 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:12.560 focus on right now and that's it and that's all. So with that being 50 00:03:12.680 --> 00:03:16.199 said, shoy, yes, I'm gonna say oh no. With that being 51 00:03:16.280 --> 00:03:21.199 said, though, I see, I see you leaned over. I like 52 00:03:21.280 --> 00:03:23.479 this for you. I like this for you. She yells at me. 53 00:03:24.120 --> 00:03:25.960 You know, she doesn't say how to me. I do have something to 54 00:03:27.000 --> 00:03:32.000 say. I got something to say, dray, Okay. So with that 55 00:03:32.000 --> 00:03:38.120 being said, I wanted to talk to you guys about my phenomenal week or 56 00:03:38.199 --> 00:03:46.360 weekend really, So yesterday I went to light Venders. Right, is this 57 00:03:46.479 --> 00:03:49.719 event in New York. So it was a costplay thing. So first of 58 00:03:49.759 --> 00:03:54.000 all, shout out to help spawn cosplay. Shout out to Sir Julius, 59 00:03:54.080 --> 00:03:57.800 or shout out to meet and Julius, or whatever the case may be. 60 00:03:58.120 --> 00:04:00.639 So there are these cosplayers and I been like stalking them on Instagram. First 61 00:04:00.639 --> 00:04:03.400 of all, this is the season of stalking and all my stalking paying off. 62 00:04:03.439 --> 00:04:06.560 Can we just say this? Can we say that this is the season 63 00:04:06.680 --> 00:04:11.639 of all my stalking paying off? I told you I was stalking Dizzy Boom 64 00:04:11.840 --> 00:04:15.479 got linked up with Dizzey. I've been stalking fucking mes and Julius Boom got 65 00:04:15.520 --> 00:04:19.120 linked up with them right, So, uh, they do like this single 66 00:04:19.160 --> 00:04:21.319 cool power range your cosplay. I'm like, fuck it, I'm gonna put 67 00:04:21.319 --> 00:04:23.800 my head in. I'm gonna do it. I wanna do it. I 68 00:04:23.839 --> 00:04:28.920 want to do it. Right. So if it was yesterday Saturday, it's 69 00:04:28.920 --> 00:04:32.360 called light Enders Held by the Paladins cosplay. So I'm like, yeah, 70 00:04:32.399 --> 00:04:36.800 you know I'm gonna do it. First of all, if you thought that 71 00:04:38.000 --> 00:04:42.439 cosplaying is easy, it fucking is not. Okay, that's the first thing, 72 00:04:42.879 --> 00:04:47.800 and you was wrong. Right. So I've done cospway before, but 73 00:04:47.839 --> 00:04:50.959 it's usually like stuff on my son, and it's easy because it's like stuff 74 00:04:51.000 --> 00:04:55.519 with my son. This is the first time I've cosplayed as an adult with 75 00:04:55.600 --> 00:05:00.160 other adults, and like nobody was like worry about these kids, Like I 76 00:05:00.199 --> 00:05:03.040 ain't gotta worried about making sure I got hot a hot Google gun and some 77 00:05:03.040 --> 00:05:05.600 goldfish, like I didn't have to do that, Like I just was out 78 00:05:05.600 --> 00:05:10.519 being an adult. Right. So first I want to say, getting this 79 00:05:10.560 --> 00:05:16.079 whole project together was crazy. Okay, So Julius made my helmet at my 80 00:05:16.160 --> 00:05:19.480 bow and my gatlands, right, So I'm like, I really have all 81 00:05:19.519 --> 00:05:21.920 the other items, but I need to see them ahead of time, So 82 00:05:23.720 --> 00:05:27.079 let me go pick it up like a day or two before so I can 83 00:05:27.160 --> 00:05:30.399 make sure to look it's complete. So I drove all the way to New 84 00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:34.199 York on Friday cause to get it right. So y'all know, I'll be 85 00:05:34.240 --> 00:05:38.800 having my grandma. I'm right. And in case you don't know, my 86 00:05:38.800 --> 00:05:42.120 grandmam is ninety one. She has dementia, so well she be ninety one 87 00:05:42.120 --> 00:05:44.439 in May. But I'm like, all right, bet, I'm just gonna 88 00:05:44.480 --> 00:05:49.360 take her with me. Right. So the whole ride down there, we 89 00:05:49.360 --> 00:05:54.120 were listening to podcasts, and the whole ride down there, my girl is 90 00:05:54.120 --> 00:06:06.199 talking to the podcast on the radio. So she like, well listen a 91 00:06:06.279 --> 00:06:10.600 true crime Vicus, Right, he's in the crime junkie shut out the crime 92 00:06:10.680 --> 00:06:15.000 junkies. So she like, oh, well do they know what a little 93 00:06:15.040 --> 00:06:23.600 girl was? She like, yeah, that's see, and that's why I 94 00:06:23.600 --> 00:06:26.959 don't let them kids go out after night. Right, And she just, 95 00:06:27.600 --> 00:06:30.000 Grandma, you're hearing mister EDI's voice. You she ain't even do it to 96 00:06:30.199 --> 00:06:40.560 justice because of your hear a voice. So what you saying? She really 97 00:06:40.759 --> 00:06:46.240 be like she was talking to the radio, Like the whole ride down I 98 00:06:46.279 --> 00:06:49.600 didn't have to say anything because she was talking to the radio the whole way 99 00:06:49.639 --> 00:06:55.800 down, right, So we go get the items, and uh, we're 100 00:06:55.879 --> 00:06:59.480 on our way back home. And if you know anything about like dementia, 101 00:06:59.639 --> 00:07:03.000 like the sundowning is crazy. So for some reason, whenever the sun goes 102 00:07:03.040 --> 00:07:08.079 down, it confuses them and like it just gets crazy. So like on 103 00:07:08.160 --> 00:07:11.680 the way back home, my girl just said turn up right now. The 104 00:07:11.680 --> 00:07:15.480 whole rite down. We were fine on a ride back. I knew something 105 00:07:15.560 --> 00:07:19.079 was up when she just started like trying to sing all the songs that was 106 00:07:19.120 --> 00:07:24.759 on the radio. But she was singing like the gospel version of all the 107 00:07:24.800 --> 00:07:27.959 songs that were on the radio. So even if you saw like the video 108 00:07:28.000 --> 00:07:30.399 I put up of like us driving back, she's like praising the Lord, 109 00:07:30.839 --> 00:07:34.160 right, She's not in it. She's not in it for real, right, 110 00:07:34.680 --> 00:07:39.920 So then out of nowhere, like she sat, she didn't move for 111 00:07:40.000 --> 00:07:46.600 like two minutes. Right, it's a peaceful ride. Music's playing basis thumping 112 00:07:46.240 --> 00:07:51.000 sun, roof's open, it's a vibe. And my girl said open the 113 00:07:51.040 --> 00:07:58.000 door. Or ninety five. That's on ninety five on the way back from 114 00:07:58.000 --> 00:08:01.839 New York. This woman just decided I'm gonna open the door. I'm going 115 00:08:01.879 --> 00:08:03.160 to try to open the door. I'm going to try to open the door. 116 00:08:03.759 --> 00:08:07.360 I'm gonna try to open the door. I'm like, hey, hey, 117 00:08:07.399 --> 00:08:09.959 what's what you're doing? What are you doing? Why are you trying 118 00:08:09.959 --> 00:08:13.959 to open the door? And she looked me dead in my face and said, 119 00:08:13.920 --> 00:08:24.680 so I can tell them to slow down, y'all. Y'all, y'all, 120 00:08:24.920 --> 00:08:28.439 y'all, what the fuck? What in the fuck? All right, 121 00:08:30.240 --> 00:08:33.559 I'm like, yo, please get us the fuck home. Traffic is trafficking. 122 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:39.399 It's rush hour on a Friday, So, oh shot, look at 123 00:08:39.399 --> 00:08:46.240 this, what's happening? So anyway, so it's Friday rush ower traffic, 124 00:08:46.399 --> 00:08:48.679 like it's it usually takes like an hour and a half to get to and 125 00:08:48.679 --> 00:08:54.559 from New York. Today is taking like three because rushower traffic on a Friday. 126 00:08:54.639 --> 00:08:58.480 Right, So, like I said, the ride there was fine, 127 00:08:58.519 --> 00:09:03.120 the right. My girls just said turn up. So once again she had 128 00:09:03.120 --> 00:09:07.399 these little reset moments. And I know there are reset moments because she just 129 00:09:07.440 --> 00:09:13.000 get quiet, right, some real quiet for like three minutes. And I'm 130 00:09:13.000 --> 00:09:15.559 not sure if you guys saw like the video, I'll put it like me 131 00:09:15.600 --> 00:09:18.159 spray painting on me, like getting the cosplay stuff together. I had on 132 00:09:18.279 --> 00:09:24.519 like, you know, like a baggy not rout tools shirt, some baggy 133 00:09:24.759 --> 00:09:28.559 Nike sweat shorts. Right. My hair was crazy in like a curly puff. 134 00:09:28.799 --> 00:09:33.360 Right. So back to the story. My girl is quiet for like 135 00:09:33.799 --> 00:09:37.679 two minutes, and then she turns and looks at me and she says, 136 00:09:37.840 --> 00:09:48.000 are you a boy or a girl? What? What? What? Right? 137 00:09:50.759 --> 00:09:52.799 So now I'm like I'm just gonna fuck with her. I'm like, 138 00:09:52.799 --> 00:09:56.799 I'm a boy. She said, oh, well, you're a pretty boy, 139 00:09:56.879 --> 00:10:01.759 thank you. Right. So then she says, do you want to 140 00:10:01.759 --> 00:10:03.039 be a boy or a girl? I said, well, I want to 141 00:10:03.039 --> 00:10:07.120 be a girl. She said, well, you know, if your titties 142 00:10:07.200 --> 00:10:13.799 was a little bigger, you could be a girl. Crazy, y'all, 143 00:10:13.840 --> 00:10:16.639 give me the fuck out this car right now, Give me the fuck out 144 00:10:16.679 --> 00:10:22.240 this car right now. Get me the fuck out this car right now. 145 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:26.080 I'm like, I don't think we're gonna make it. I don't think both 146 00:10:26.080 --> 00:10:31.440 of us gonna make it back. Y'all locked that door. I took that 147 00:10:31.559 --> 00:10:33.759 child lock off and said, go ahead and tell the people to slow down. 148 00:10:35.240 --> 00:10:39.919 Don't know people to slow down. You just said Jesus heard Jesus, 149 00:10:41.000 --> 00:10:45.120 and I've heard the door. Listen, y'all. This was the longest ride 150 00:10:45.159 --> 00:10:48.240 of my wife, but thankfully we made it back home. Uh, I 151 00:10:48.279 --> 00:10:50.720 pack a bag up. I took her to my aunts for the weekend because 152 00:10:50.759 --> 00:10:56.399 you know, I had the light Penders event on Saturday. So if you've 153 00:10:56.399 --> 00:11:01.240 never been to like a comic cond before, like it's really hard to network 154 00:11:01.320 --> 00:11:05.720 and make connections with certain people, especially between like cosplayers and photographers. So 155 00:11:05.879 --> 00:11:11.440 this event was very special because it gave people that chance to make those connections. 156 00:11:11.480 --> 00:11:15.360 And it was invite only, so it's like you knew you were going 157 00:11:15.399 --> 00:11:18.320 to have cosplayers there that were at a certain level. You knew that, 158 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:20.639 like, you know, the photographers, there were people who actually wanted to 159 00:11:20.720 --> 00:11:26.960 work and produce amazing content. So it was just dope, right, And 160 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:33.960 I just want to say my favorite part of the whole event was just people 161 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:37.240 not knowing who I am, if that makes sense. No, Like I'm 162 00:11:37.279 --> 00:11:39.639 not saying it on like no Kaki shit or nothing like that. I liked 163 00:11:39.759 --> 00:11:46.200 being in a space where I'm not stormy. I was with Demitrius and Julius, 164 00:11:46.559 --> 00:11:48.039 they were stormy, if that makes sense, Like you know what I 165 00:11:48.080 --> 00:11:52.799 mean, Like I like not being that person like, oh you're that girl 166 00:11:52.799 --> 00:11:54.399 from Instagram or oh you that girl making those clips, or oh you that 167 00:11:54.440 --> 00:12:00.360 girl from the podcast. I thoroughly enjoyed just being able to sit and just 168 00:12:00.919 --> 00:12:03.039 got ever people say anything to me, It's fine, it's fine, Like 169 00:12:03.399 --> 00:12:05.879 people aren't looking at me, like trying to figure out what I'm gonna do, 170 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:09.320 or like trying to take pictures of me. Like I pulled this fucking 171 00:12:09.320 --> 00:12:13.720 wig off my head so fast in the middle of a room of like two 172 00:12:13.759 --> 00:12:18.639 hundred plus people, like, and I was fine. I was not like 173 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:20.279 nervous about it. No, nothing, like, first of all, everybody's 174 00:12:20.320 --> 00:12:24.720 doing it. Second of all, nobody cares because nobody knows that stormy. 175 00:12:24.960 --> 00:12:28.720 And I'm not saying it like I'm fucking holly buried or something like that. 176 00:12:28.720 --> 00:12:31.120 That's not what I mean. I just mean being comfortable in the space or 177 00:12:31.279 --> 00:12:35.320 like I don't know everything. People aren't looking to me for the answers. 178 00:12:35.360 --> 00:12:39.399 I'm not influencer in this moment. I'm just genuinely here working and being surrounded 179 00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:45.120 by other people, like I had so much fun social, so much fun. 180 00:12:45.240 --> 00:12:48.000 So yeah, once again, thank you to Demitrius and thank you to 181 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:52.559 Julius for inviting me, and yeah, I liked it. I liked it 182 00:12:52.600 --> 00:12:56.279 a lot. And long story short, if somebody tells you that it is 183 00:12:56.519 --> 00:13:01.759 easy, or somebody tells you that it is anybody can do it, you 184 00:13:01.799 --> 00:13:05.039 cannot. I'm sure all my pictures are not gonna come out great, but 185 00:13:05.039 --> 00:13:07.200 I know they're gonna be some fire ones and that's all the fucking matters. 186 00:13:07.559 --> 00:13:11.720 And yeah, I'm very happy that Demetrius and Julius extended an offer to me 187 00:13:11.799 --> 00:13:13.759 and allowed me to come and be a part of the team. And it 188 00:13:13.799 --> 00:13:16.399 was great. I really, really really had a good time. Shout out 189 00:13:16.440 --> 00:13:22.000 to at Hellspawn cosplay and at Sergerylius. I don't know. Go on my 190 00:13:22.039 --> 00:13:24.679 page and click one of the tags, you'll find them there. But they're 191 00:13:24.679 --> 00:13:28.759 dope shit, like huh huh huh. I'm all right, but they are 192 00:13:28.840 --> 00:13:35.159 dope and shit and hopefully as time goes, I can somehow meet on their 193 00:13:35.200 --> 00:13:37.840 level because they're dope shit. And shout out to everybody who was there, 194 00:13:37.840 --> 00:13:41.279 because every and that was the thing. It wasn't like, oh, I'm 195 00:13:41.279 --> 00:13:46.080 not stormy. It was like everybody was so fucking bomb, Like I'm really 196 00:13:46.120 --> 00:13:50.320 just sitting and able to take in what everybody else was doing like it was 197 00:13:50.399 --> 00:13:52.559 crazy, y'all. It was crazy, crazy, crazy crazy crazy. Crad 198 00:13:52.639 --> 00:13:58.879 is crazy. So yeah, with that being said, let's get back to 199 00:14:00.000 --> 00:14:05.360 you. I don't even know how I want to phrase this. Let's touch 200 00:14:05.440 --> 00:14:11.240 back in with I know we said it before, but I just got to 201 00:14:11.240 --> 00:14:15.360 reiterate it. Let's let's let's start with reason why I'm single number five hundred 202 00:14:15.360 --> 00:14:18.159 and thirty two. Okay. I'm not sure who's keeping up on numbers, 203 00:14:18.320 --> 00:14:22.440 but if you are, put this in for a number five hundred and thirty 204 00:14:22.440 --> 00:14:28.559 two hard pivot switch topics. Go. Okay, Uh, reason why I'm 205 00:14:28.600 --> 00:14:31.559 single number five hundred and thirty two. Okay, I've been off and on 206 00:14:33.480 --> 00:14:35.000 talking with this guy. When I sing off and on, I mean he 207 00:14:35.159 --> 00:14:41.440 randomly jumps back in my life after I you know, just ignore him because 208 00:14:41.440 --> 00:14:43.600 I'm sick of a shit. Okay, Reason I umber five hundred and thirty 209 00:14:43.600 --> 00:14:48.080 two. While I'm single, So someone tries to spend the block on me 210 00:14:48.639 --> 00:14:52.120 and comes up with horrible excuses. I then read them politely. That's say, 211 00:14:52.200 --> 00:14:56.200 no, what you're actually doing is X, Y and Z. You 212 00:14:56.200 --> 00:15:01.279 know, a little variety of things, A little gas slighting, little narcissism. 213 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:05.440 Little you got me fucked up? Heavy on that you got me fucked 214 00:15:05.480 --> 00:15:11.639 up? Okay, So this nigga says to me like, Yo, you 215 00:15:11.679 --> 00:15:18.879 don't be wrong, but you're never gonna be happy because you know too much 216 00:15:18.919 --> 00:15:22.679 about men. Hold On, y'all, hold on, hold on, hold 217 00:15:22.720 --> 00:15:26.080 on, hold on, hold on to all, to all my like minded 218 00:15:26.120 --> 00:15:31.679 gentlemen. Don't just let hear tell the story before you, please. Please. 219 00:15:33.120 --> 00:15:37.320 I'm saying that for us, not for your So I have a question 220 00:15:37.480 --> 00:15:41.000 before I can tell you the story. Is it possible to be too healed? 221 00:15:41.919 --> 00:15:48.320 Okay? Think about that? Is it possible to be too healed? 222 00:15:48.759 --> 00:15:54.639 Right? So he said, you don't be wrong, but you're never gonna 223 00:15:54.679 --> 00:16:00.320 be happy because you know too much about men. I take the mat. 224 00:16:00.480 --> 00:16:06.480 He said, you don't be wrong, but you're never going to be happy 225 00:16:06.480 --> 00:16:14.720 if you keep learning so much about men. What what? What? You 226 00:16:14.799 --> 00:16:17.759 don't be wrong, but you're never going to be happy if you keep learning 227 00:16:17.759 --> 00:16:22.519 so much about men. Bruh. And then he says, ignorance is bliss? 228 00:16:22.759 --> 00:16:32.799 Stop it, yo? What what it was really that you don't be 229 00:16:32.879 --> 00:16:37.360 wrong for me? It was that you don't be wrong for me? Right? 230 00:16:37.840 --> 00:16:41.360 Because my whole thing is he said, you don't be wrong about him 231 00:16:41.360 --> 00:16:49.159 playing your face. Yes, yes, yes, yes, And one thing 232 00:16:49.279 --> 00:16:55.879 that never went out of is audacity. Okay never Okay, So because like 233 00:16:55.919 --> 00:17:03.320 what my whole thing is, this is a very outlandish statement only because when 234 00:17:03.840 --> 00:17:07.839 I'm talking about, like, you know, men deserve to be happy too. 235 00:17:07.319 --> 00:17:12.200 Women should be able to reciprocate time, energy effort. When I'm talking 236 00:17:12.200 --> 00:17:17.599 about you know, like it's okay to give your man, it's okay to 237 00:17:17.839 --> 00:17:21.319 you know, show him that you give a fuck, Like when I'm talking 238 00:17:21.359 --> 00:17:26.359 about providing peace for your meat and making sure your man is stable in your 239 00:17:26.400 --> 00:17:30.680 relationship as well. It's never you know too much about men, You're never 240 00:17:30.720 --> 00:17:33.920 going to be happy. Oh that's not important, that's not important. Then, 241 00:17:34.359 --> 00:17:41.839 But when I'm reading you for filth baby, now now, now, 242 00:17:41.880 --> 00:17:45.799 all of a sudden, I'm never gonna be happy because I know too much 243 00:17:45.799 --> 00:17:48.039 about man. You're right, I'm not shit, but like, you're not 244 00:17:48.079 --> 00:17:52.559 gonna be happy if you always taking it too far. And I thought he 245 00:17:52.680 --> 00:17:56.519 was talking. I thought he was coming from a different place. But what 246 00:17:56.519 --> 00:18:00.200 what I was like, Yeah, right, No that's not no, it's 247 00:18:00.240 --> 00:18:04.759 not And it's like instead of you saying, damn, you're right, you 248 00:18:04.839 --> 00:18:08.039 clock me. Let me get my shit together and come back to you when 249 00:18:08.079 --> 00:18:11.960 I'm ready. You look at me and say, no, You're never gonna 250 00:18:11.960 --> 00:18:14.319 be happy. You know too much about men? No, no, no, 251 00:18:14.359 --> 00:18:15.519 do I know too much about men? Or do I know too much 252 00:18:15.519 --> 00:18:19.759 about fuck boys? Like let's let's call the spade and spade, let's be 253 00:18:19.759 --> 00:18:23.519 honest, right, So I just want to say me personally, I rebuke 254 00:18:23.559 --> 00:18:26.880 that. In the name of Jesus, Okay, I am going to be 255 00:18:26.920 --> 00:18:30.039 happy. I am gonna find my person. It's just not you, baby, 256 00:18:30.119 --> 00:18:32.480 And now you're never getting off the block list. I know. Every 257 00:18:32.519 --> 00:18:36.279 once in a while, I like visit my blocklist and I give you furlough 258 00:18:36.319 --> 00:18:37.759 and I unblock you unless you come out and play for a little bit, 259 00:18:37.799 --> 00:18:41.400 a little bit of parole. No, no, no more. This is 260 00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:45.480 it. This is it. And that was my sign that this was it 261 00:18:45.559 --> 00:18:48.160 because you don't deserve it. It's okay, it's just not you, and 262 00:18:48.160 --> 00:18:52.200 we're gonna keep that. We gonna keep that energy because I didn't even have 263 00:18:52.200 --> 00:18:53.920 the time to play with you. I don't have the time to play with 264 00:18:53.960 --> 00:18:57.359 you. And for any woman who a man has told you, you know, 265 00:18:57.680 --> 00:19:00.119 you're never gonna be happy because you know too much about men. You 266 00:19:00.160 --> 00:19:03.839 don't know too much about men, you know too much about fuck boys and 267 00:19:03.839 --> 00:19:06.480 they can't play in your face. And they tied about it. Lean land 268 00:19:06.519 --> 00:19:07.920 that shit slide, no more, no more, no more, no more. 269 00:19:08.039 --> 00:19:11.960 All that aside, I wanted to get into a few things that I 270 00:19:12.079 --> 00:19:18.880 learned this month, not this month, a few things that I've reflected on 271 00:19:18.279 --> 00:19:22.559 this past month. I was really focusing on my house, my family, 272 00:19:22.880 --> 00:19:32.240 excuse me, I'm a lady, and really just you know, doing a 273 00:19:32.240 --> 00:19:37.039 little bit of spring cleaning, reflecting on my interactions with people, people who 274 00:19:37.119 --> 00:19:38.880 deserve to be in my life, people who you know, the spring cleaning, 275 00:19:38.880 --> 00:19:41.359 getting cut the fuck out of my life, you know whatever. So 276 00:19:44.480 --> 00:19:49.920 got a list, took some notes. Things that I have learned about dating. 277 00:19:51.640 --> 00:19:55.640 Right, that's what we're gonna call this episode. Here's what I learned 278 00:19:55.680 --> 00:19:59.000 about dating. I like that, or things I learned about dating. I 279 00:19:59.000 --> 00:20:00.640 don't know, I don't know, give me time, okay. Number one 280 00:20:03.079 --> 00:20:07.160 things that I learned about dating. Number one, everybody ain't for everybody, 281 00:20:07.599 --> 00:20:12.880 okay, And I want to say that again. Everybody ain't for everybody. 282 00:20:14.519 --> 00:20:18.279 Every person that you meet or encounter is not going to turn into your wife, 283 00:20:18.640 --> 00:20:22.559 your husband, your soulmate. She is sometimes even your baby mama and 284 00:20:22.599 --> 00:20:25.880 your baby daddy, especially the way plan be set up, prices have going 285 00:20:25.960 --> 00:20:32.079 down. No, what is it recording? Is this thing on? I'm 286 00:20:32.079 --> 00:20:37.640 just saying, like, everybody ain't for everybody, and that's cool, that's 287 00:20:37.680 --> 00:20:41.920 cool. You gotta get out that mindset because every person that you encounter is 288 00:20:41.960 --> 00:20:47.960 not going to turn out being your person. That makes bruh, bruh. 289 00:20:48.119 --> 00:20:52.640 Everybody ain't for everybody, and that's your friends. Yes, yes, Like 290 00:20:53.440 --> 00:20:57.759 I don't know why this concept is so unheard to y'all or like why y'all 291 00:20:57.759 --> 00:21:03.200 be having such a hard time giest in it, But like, everybody ain't 292 00:21:03.279 --> 00:21:07.480 for everybody, and that's cool. Right, So if we're dating and it 293 00:21:07.559 --> 00:21:11.160 turns out that it's not me, that's fine, but you know who it's 294 00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:15.960 not gonna be? You and your new bitch on my timeline blocked? I 295 00:21:17.000 --> 00:21:19.640 don't want to see that. How we get from how are you from unfollowed? 296 00:21:19.640 --> 00:21:25.160 The block follow I'm gonna tell you why, right I have to block 297 00:21:25.200 --> 00:21:30.599 you? Unfollow all of the above because maybe I still want to fuck, 298 00:21:33.559 --> 00:21:40.559 and I'm mature enough. Okay, I'm mature enough to say I still want 299 00:21:40.559 --> 00:21:44.400 to fuck. Now hear me out. Though, here's my caveat. If 300 00:21:44.400 --> 00:21:48.319 we are not making money together, there is not a potential for us to 301 00:21:48.359 --> 00:21:52.599 make money together. We have no business endeavors. Baby, I don't need 302 00:21:52.599 --> 00:21:56.960 to see you, and I still want to hit so like, I feel 303 00:21:57.000 --> 00:22:03.319 like I'm hurting my own feelings by following you. No no, yeah, 304 00:22:03.400 --> 00:22:07.519 I'm saying, but still I ain't no girls all like that, No, 305 00:22:07.519 --> 00:22:12.319 no, no, I just feel like, if there's not a potential financial 306 00:22:12.359 --> 00:22:18.799 investment or opportunity, you gotta go. I still want bump bellies, Like 307 00:22:19.279 --> 00:22:23.480 why why would I play myself or torture myself? Because it's really torture. 308 00:22:23.960 --> 00:22:29.720 Why torture myself by having you constantly pop up with a new girl doing all 309 00:22:29.759 --> 00:22:32.519 the things I wanted you to do with me? And I feel like a 310 00:22:32.559 --> 00:22:37.079 lot of us aren't mature enough to have those conversations like that's fine, it 311 00:22:37.119 --> 00:22:40.880 don't gotta be me, but it's not gonna be a new bitch A fine 312 00:22:40.920 --> 00:22:44.599 line now, because if you're not the person, so you're you're speaking from 313 00:22:44.599 --> 00:22:48.960 a person where they said that they're not for you, or did you do 314 00:22:48.920 --> 00:22:52.920 it doesn't matter and it didn't even maybe have to get to a relationship like 315 00:22:52.960 --> 00:22:56.720 we are just dating. It did not reach a relationship for whatever reason. 316 00:22:57.160 --> 00:23:00.839 I feel like I'm honest enough with my steff to be like, bro, 317 00:23:00.240 --> 00:23:03.400 I am not going to be a good friend to you, I want to. 318 00:23:03.720 --> 00:23:07.440 I want you to drop your kids off every morning like daycare. Okay, 319 00:23:07.799 --> 00:23:11.680 I can't be a good friend to you. I literally want you to 320 00:23:11.680 --> 00:23:15.759 turn me into a toaster strudle. I can't be a good friend to you. 321 00:23:15.200 --> 00:23:22.039 I can't. So I'm being responsible and saying no. And once again, 322 00:23:22.079 --> 00:23:25.680 this is only if there is not a potential business opportunity, because I 323 00:23:25.720 --> 00:23:27.720 am mature enough to put ship to the side, if like we can make 324 00:23:27.759 --> 00:23:30.480 money or we have a job. Because that's just like I feel like, 325 00:23:30.839 --> 00:23:33.519 I feel like you should try next time to stay in your lane and just 326 00:23:33.519 --> 00:23:37.119 just ride your lane out a little bit. Why. I think it will 327 00:23:37.119 --> 00:23:42.039 help you grow growth into what somebody in a friend zone no more mature. 328 00:23:42.119 --> 00:23:48.240 See he fells no, But I don't. I mean, I don't want 329 00:23:48.240 --> 00:23:52.440 to waiting and plotting on the nigga. But I mean you just you just 330 00:23:52.480 --> 00:23:55.920 hadn't You just said y'all not together. But it's cool. Let it be 331 00:23:55.960 --> 00:23:57.319 cool. It is cool, but yeah, let it be cool. Block 332 00:23:57.519 --> 00:24:02.640 and I'll followed why. But here's the whole thing. I'm not going to 333 00:24:02.680 --> 00:24:06.759 be a good friend to you because am I doing things because I want to 334 00:24:06.960 --> 00:24:08.440 or because I want you to keep me in mind the next time you're single. 335 00:24:10.839 --> 00:24:14.599 Exactly, that's not being a good friend. I'm not doing it genuinely. 336 00:24:15.400 --> 00:24:18.559 You don't think that the opposite party would know that, male or female, 337 00:24:18.559 --> 00:24:19.160 you would think you don't think that they would know that. No, 338 00:24:19.200 --> 00:24:23.359 because people try to. Whenever you told somebody male or female, whenever you 339 00:24:23.440 --> 00:24:26.079 told somebody like yo, they want to be with you. What's the first 340 00:24:26.119 --> 00:24:30.759 thing that president? Nah? Him nah her nah nah. That's dumb, 341 00:24:32.920 --> 00:24:37.759 fat, that's dumb. That's dumb. Once again, it don't gotta be 342 00:24:37.839 --> 00:24:40.519 me, but it's damn sure not gonna be you on your new bitch on 343 00:24:40.599 --> 00:24:45.640 my topline bye you like you know what I mean? And I think that 344 00:24:45.759 --> 00:24:48.880 having that level of maturity to say, like, yo, respectfully, I 345 00:24:48.920 --> 00:24:52.119 can't be what you need, just like apparently you can't be what I need. 346 00:24:52.400 --> 00:24:57.119 So it's like, Yo, it was just yeah, I agree, 347 00:24:59.559 --> 00:25:03.000 you about to die. You got a charger, My phone got the charger. 348 00:25:03.680 --> 00:25:07.680 No, I don't oh in a gimbal It's just a love of maturity 349 00:25:07.720 --> 00:25:14.359 that I feel like a lot of people haven't digested, developed or willing to 350 00:25:14.880 --> 00:25:19.079 or are willing to face because a lot of y'all's that's why your friendships don't 351 00:25:19.079 --> 00:25:23.200 be working out. Like you don't understand why your friend get tight when you 352 00:25:23.240 --> 00:25:29.279 bring a new woman around. You don't understand why your friend get tight when 353 00:25:29.359 --> 00:25:32.319 you've been telling him about how this one guy keep playing in your face. 354 00:25:32.799 --> 00:25:34.400 He's sad because he want a chance to play in your face. No, 355 00:25:34.519 --> 00:25:40.000 not even that, Okay, he's sad because he don't understand why you keep 356 00:25:40.079 --> 00:25:42.720 enduring that type of behavior when he will entreat you like that, like and 357 00:25:42.920 --> 00:25:47.799 this all stems from one of y'all not being strong enough to be like, 358 00:25:47.839 --> 00:25:51.039 yo, I still want you. I can't be your friend. I can't 359 00:25:51.039 --> 00:25:52.799 be your friend if we're not making money. I can't be your friend because 360 00:25:52.839 --> 00:25:56.200 you know work is worked. You ain't never hit a coworker at your job. 361 00:25:56.400 --> 00:25:59.839 The two prides don't give a fuck that he ain't talking to you no 362 00:26:00.079 --> 00:26:02.839 more. You still got clock in and do your shit and go okay. 363 00:26:02.839 --> 00:26:06.240 Cool. So that's why I say, if we're not working, there's not 364 00:26:06.240 --> 00:26:07.880 a potential for us to work. No money is being had. Babe, 365 00:26:07.920 --> 00:26:11.400 you gotta go. That's stuck. When you gotta put somebody in a positions 366 00:26:11.440 --> 00:26:14.799 feeling for you not to play them. Yes, because you're not gonna play 367 00:26:14.799 --> 00:26:17.960 me for free. You're gonna play yourself, lady like you literally have to 368 00:26:17.960 --> 00:26:21.200 get played, because honestly, you told me that it ain't listen. Just 369 00:26:21.200 --> 00:26:23.720 go ahead, bruh. If you can't be friends with you, I understand. 370 00:26:23.839 --> 00:26:26.480 Cool, I give. And you're thinking you're gonna play me for free? 371 00:26:26.559 --> 00:26:30.480 Is out land? This shit? You want your feelings hurt, that's 372 00:26:30.640 --> 00:26:33.119 it's gonna happen. If if I'm so your friend, y'all get you exactly, 373 00:26:33.160 --> 00:26:37.839 big, big boy? What you decide when you hang out with like 374 00:26:37.880 --> 00:26:41.160 minded people. Those conversations are very easy, yes, yes, but tough 375 00:26:41.160 --> 00:26:44.160 conversation should need to be a thing of twenty twenty four because a lot of 376 00:26:44.200 --> 00:26:48.359 you are still moving. They be that part two. It be that part 377 00:26:48.359 --> 00:26:53.480 two. That part two for sure. So continuing our conversation, things that 378 00:26:53.519 --> 00:27:00.759 I've learned about dating. I feel like I've come to a point where I 379 00:27:00.799 --> 00:27:07.279 can really be honest with myself and what I can tolerate or cannot tolerate. 380 00:27:07.680 --> 00:27:12.319 Right, So I say all that to say, there are women who give 381 00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:17.400 up vibes for free. So I understand if I'm too much for you, 382 00:27:18.440 --> 00:27:19.440 and I just want to say that again. Hold on, hear me out, 383 00:27:19.440 --> 00:27:22.880 hear me out, hear me out, give me a second. There 384 00:27:22.920 --> 00:27:26.079 are women who give up vibes for free, So I understand if I'm too 385 00:27:26.200 --> 00:27:29.920 much for you, and I know, here I go. The three Z 386 00:27:30.039 --> 00:27:33.680 fours are at it again. Oh, everybody just wants something. The hose 387 00:27:33.759 --> 00:27:41.279 gonna be hoes old and please please free free? The three or fours are 388 00:27:41.319 --> 00:27:47.160 at it again. Please just give me a second. Right. When I 389 00:27:47.200 --> 00:27:52.079 say free, I mean there are women who don't require you to show interest 390 00:27:52.200 --> 00:27:56.680 or court them properly for them to give their body to you. Right. 391 00:27:56.240 --> 00:28:00.519 There are women who you will meet on day one and they are willing to 392 00:28:00.519 --> 00:28:07.240 come to your house on day two to chill and catch a vibe, right 393 00:28:07.880 --> 00:28:11.720 right, hear me out, though, Just let me cook for one second, 394 00:28:11.039 --> 00:28:17.160 please, right? There are women. There are women who will send 395 00:28:17.200 --> 00:28:22.920 you pictures of their bootyhole with zero level consistency or effort, And I just 396 00:28:22.960 --> 00:28:26.400 want to say, there is nothing wrong with any of that. But Baby, 397 00:28:26.400 --> 00:28:30.240 that ain't me. Okay, that ain't me. So when I say 398 00:28:30.319 --> 00:28:37.160 free, I mean there are standards, there are boundaries, there's a requirement 399 00:28:37.200 --> 00:28:41.799 of effort, and I understand that everybody don't have that. So when I 400 00:28:41.839 --> 00:28:45.200 say I'm too much for you, I understand that I might just be too 401 00:28:45.319 --> 00:28:48.880 much for you, and compare to the women you usually deal with, it's 402 00:28:48.960 --> 00:28:52.759 nothing wrong with either situation, and I just want to make that clear. 403 00:28:53.279 --> 00:29:02.359 There is nothing wrong with either situation. If you don't require much to you 404 00:29:02.400 --> 00:29:04.839 know, send a nigga a picture of your pap smear. That's cool, 405 00:29:08.680 --> 00:29:15.400 that's cool, that's fine, that's fine, But I want you to know 406 00:29:17.279 --> 00:29:21.079 that it's gonna take a little bit more from me. Three good morning texts 407 00:29:21.079 --> 00:29:23.519 ain't gonna get you a picture of these booty cheeks picked Doug. It's not 408 00:29:23.519 --> 00:29:29.400 not for me, for some women at will, but for me, Nah, 409 00:29:29.480 --> 00:29:33.160 Yeah. I don't like being treated like a whole by girls, like 410 00:29:33.279 --> 00:29:36.960 girls, treatment like a like, like they think that I'm thinking about sex 411 00:29:37.000 --> 00:29:44.279 all time. Bruh, I'm serious when when I say yes, yes, 412 00:29:45.000 --> 00:29:48.559 so so like when I say free, I don't mean monetary, I mean 413 00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:55.400 standards, boundaries, I mean enforcing those standards boundaries. Not a big deal. 414 00:29:55.440 --> 00:29:56.920 But I would like to know your favorite color. I think that's like 415 00:29:57.319 --> 00:30:00.559 we did talk about that at all. You didn't know that. But here's 416 00:30:00.599 --> 00:30:06.000 the thing. Like, the thing is, there are not a lot of 417 00:30:06.039 --> 00:30:10.039 women in today's society who enforce all those things. So when I say I'm 418 00:30:10.079 --> 00:30:11.319 too much for you, it's like, yo, I understand that that's just 419 00:30:11.359 --> 00:30:15.519 not something you're willing to deal with. I get that. It's cool, 420 00:30:15.079 --> 00:30:18.000 no big deal, no big deal. I just want you to know, 421 00:30:18.079 --> 00:30:22.200 like before either one of us ways start time like you, it's just because 422 00:30:22.200 --> 00:30:26.400 the first thing they do is I just feel like you be doing too much. 423 00:30:26.680 --> 00:30:30.000 It's not that deep, Like your standards are just a little bit too 424 00:30:30.039 --> 00:30:33.119 high. How dare I respect myself? Holl the fuck? Like, and 425 00:30:33.160 --> 00:30:37.480 when I say respect for myself, I mean respect my boundaries. How dare 426 00:30:37.519 --> 00:30:41.640 I uphold my boundaries? How dare I have standards for myself that I want 427 00:30:41.680 --> 00:30:44.839 to enforce? I get it, I get it. I just want you 428 00:30:44.920 --> 00:30:47.880 to know maybe that ain't mean so when I say it's cool, like I'm 429 00:30:47.920 --> 00:30:51.799 fine, like a low key fuck you, because you know how hard it 430 00:30:51.839 --> 00:30:55.640 is to listen to myself. Bruh, bro, you know how hard it 431 00:30:55.680 --> 00:30:59.519 is to stand up and be like everybody else wants red and I want blue. 432 00:31:00.000 --> 00:31:03.319 I mean also, though I know red tastes really really good, b 433 00:31:03.559 --> 00:31:04.720 hold on, hold on, I know red taste really really good, to 434 00:31:04.799 --> 00:31:08.079 be clear, and I've dabbled in red, but blue is better for my 435 00:31:08.079 --> 00:31:11.160 life. And you actively see me trying to be blue, but for some 436 00:31:11.240 --> 00:31:17.400 change reasion, you're over here with just redh bruh, bru bruh. Like 437 00:31:17.440 --> 00:31:21.279 it's to be clear, like it's hard to be like, Yo, everybody 438 00:31:21.279 --> 00:31:25.240 wants red, I want blue, right, Like you know how hard it 439 00:31:25.240 --> 00:31:30.839 is to be a crip and I'm sure, but when everybody will sue to 440 00:31:30.920 --> 00:31:37.559 snoop yo, like seriously, like especially when you know red expire and everyone 441 00:31:37.720 --> 00:31:41.039 is doing red and you're just cool standing up and be like that's fine, 442 00:31:41.079 --> 00:31:45.079 but I really want a blue. I'm willing to wait for a blue like 443 00:31:45.279 --> 00:31:49.440 that's crazy, crazy hard is to respect myself? No, I ain't gonna 444 00:31:49.440 --> 00:31:52.960 hold boundaries in today's society. Do you know how hard it is to be 445 00:31:53.079 --> 00:31:56.920 like No, I don't care how much money you got. I don't care 446 00:31:56.960 --> 00:31:57.880 what you're trying to take me on. I don't care what premiere you don't 447 00:31:59.039 --> 00:32:00.119 take me on. If you're I'm not looking for a relationship, you're not 448 00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:04.160 trying to be monogamous. I'm not the girl for you, especially when you 449 00:32:04.279 --> 00:32:08.880 got But here's the thing, especially when you got all the nigga's favorite nigga 450 00:32:08.960 --> 00:32:10.960 in your DMS, Like, Okay, but I can do this for you. 451 00:32:12.319 --> 00:32:14.359 I can take you here. I can do this for you. It's 452 00:32:14.400 --> 00:32:15.599 like, but you're not really trying to do what I need you to do. 453 00:32:16.519 --> 00:32:22.680 Like, Bro, I guarantee your favorite nigga, favorite nigga is in 454 00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:24.440 my DMS right now. I don't care what fucking team you played for. 455 00:32:24.960 --> 00:32:30.079 I don't care what. I don't care what fucking industries in I guarantee one 456 00:32:30.119 --> 00:32:32.640 of them is in my fucking DMS. And it's just be like, no, 457 00:32:32.759 --> 00:32:37.319 I'm fine, it's cool. Cool, Oh, you can take me 458 00:32:37.359 --> 00:32:40.079 where you can do what? And then you won't Bobby what? No, 459 00:32:40.279 --> 00:32:44.759 it's fine, it's fine. Fine. I feel like a lot of us 460 00:32:44.880 --> 00:32:49.960 kind of assume that you guys already know that this game, Like I would 461 00:32:50.000 --> 00:32:52.200 thought that that would be part of being trucked up with the game. Like 462 00:32:52.759 --> 00:32:57.640 a lot of men. I can't say that, but I feel like some 463 00:32:57.839 --> 00:33:02.079 men literally only have them need success for women, Like they only do that 464 00:33:02.200 --> 00:33:07.960 for for women, if that's your intention, Like I have all this flashy 465 00:33:07.000 --> 00:33:09.119 shit, like you know, I can't wave on stage. He was like, 466 00:33:09.160 --> 00:33:12.799 yeah, I don't bout having silk sheets, but bitches do. But 467 00:33:12.920 --> 00:33:15.960 bitches do. Like I really feel like that's how niggas live their life, 468 00:33:15.039 --> 00:33:19.640 Like they really do all the shit that they be doing to attract the type 469 00:33:19.640 --> 00:33:22.599 of women that they be attracted. So when you be on that type of 470 00:33:22.680 --> 00:33:25.559 time with them, I don't really think like because naturally I would just think 471 00:33:25.559 --> 00:33:29.640 that that's your spartan, but that's real because you know what, some men 472 00:33:30.119 --> 00:33:34.920 have worked so hard to have the cash flow to do that that when you 473 00:33:35.039 --> 00:33:37.720 tell them like yo, I don't want your money, or you can't buy 474 00:33:37.799 --> 00:33:42.720 me, or you can't impress me with monetary things, they don't know what 475 00:33:42.799 --> 00:33:45.279 the fuck to do. They don't know because it's like, wait, I 476 00:33:45.400 --> 00:33:46.839 worked my whole life to be able to do this to get the bitches I 477 00:33:46.880 --> 00:33:51.880 want so now that I don't have it, what you mean? And my 478 00:33:51.960 --> 00:33:52.519 dumb as sitting there like, yeah, but can you do a car? 479 00:33:52.640 --> 00:34:00.839 Will car learn how to do car? It's crazy out here, it's bananas. 480 00:34:00.880 --> 00:34:02.559 But I think that a lot of us just think that's just part of 481 00:34:02.599 --> 00:34:05.599 the game. Like I don't think a lot of people just realize that, 482 00:34:05.759 --> 00:34:07.719 Like no, no, you kind of have to be a little more round 483 00:34:07.760 --> 00:34:12.079 and well rounded individual to kind of come over here, like I can't. 484 00:34:12.239 --> 00:34:14.599 I understand that you have a fact button. I like that. It's cool. 485 00:34:14.840 --> 00:34:16.760 I don't need you to be working about Target. Yes, I want 486 00:34:16.800 --> 00:34:20.239 to go pick out these three dollars three things that are gonna be seventy five 487 00:34:20.280 --> 00:34:22.559 dollars, you know, and let's just leave you. But I just want 488 00:34:22.599 --> 00:34:27.039 to say, real fast, there's nothing wrong with tworking in Target. There's 489 00:34:27.079 --> 00:34:29.880 nothing wrong if your standards are for a man to be able to purchase you 490 00:34:30.079 --> 00:34:31.199 X, Y, and Z, there's nothing wrong with your standards. So 491 00:34:31.239 --> 00:34:35.599 your boundaries being you can provide blah blah blah blah blah. All I'm saying 492 00:34:35.679 --> 00:34:38.000 is for me over here. All I'm saying is for me All I'm saying 493 00:34:38.079 --> 00:34:40.360 is for over here. There's nothing wrong with anything that was said. Just 494 00:34:40.440 --> 00:34:44.840 place for everything exactly to each your own. Yeah, I don't. I 495 00:34:44.840 --> 00:34:46.000 don't think that people. I think the niggas just think this is part of 496 00:34:46.000 --> 00:34:49.840 the game sometimes like this is what I got this for, So like, 497 00:34:49.880 --> 00:34:52.880 what are you talking about? Blue has always been on the chill side for 498 00:34:52.039 --> 00:34:57.559 goud Kraflow, I am crying, crying, crying, crying. Aaron Ashe 499 00:34:57.559 --> 00:35:00.599 seven three says, niggas lead with their wallets and then complain about the gold 500 00:35:00.639 --> 00:35:09.639 diggers cash cashpre Exotic says she better throw that ascid target. You gotta This 501 00:35:09.840 --> 00:35:15.639 is what I'm saying. There's something for everybody, but to reiterate, everyone 502 00:35:15.840 --> 00:35:21.159 is not for everybody. Okay, Official may I says, Wifey, you 503 00:35:21.360 --> 00:35:24.320 never sent Eddie for the flowers or edible arrangements. Baby, send me some 504 00:35:24.480 --> 00:35:29.559 chicken wings. I'm gonna I'm gonna get you when I'm done. Go ahead 505 00:35:29.559 --> 00:35:32.199 and send that DM. So I don't forget send me some chicken yeah, 506 00:35:32.360 --> 00:35:45.400 yeah, yeah, hell yeah, get out my face shot. So the 507 00:35:45.480 --> 00:35:50.360 last thing I really wanted to touch on, and I feel like this is 508 00:35:50.519 --> 00:35:53.679 very important because I know some of you don't believe it? Uh you you 509 00:35:53.960 --> 00:35:57.760 you you aren't well? Is this did this thing die again? Shot? 510 00:35:58.239 --> 00:36:00.639 No, it's just moved. Okay, great. I just want to say 511 00:36:00.800 --> 00:36:06.239 there are more good men out there than there are F boys. Okay, 512 00:36:06.840 --> 00:36:08.760 I know, I hold on, hold ladies, please give me a second. 513 00:36:08.920 --> 00:36:15.599 Damn. Okay, there are more good men out there then there are 514 00:36:15.920 --> 00:36:21.679 F boys, But unfortunately they got the loungest micing. There are more F 515 00:36:21.760 --> 00:36:25.280 boys with Mike's I'm sorry, y'all. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm 516 00:36:25.360 --> 00:36:32.159 sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry the F Boys. I don't know what 517 00:36:32.639 --> 00:36:37.000 type of stronghold they have on the podcast community, but a lot of what 518 00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:43.239 you see pop up on your timeline supports a narrative that doesn't actually fucking exist. 519 00:36:43.320 --> 00:36:45.880 And they also say things that if you were living the life that they're 520 00:36:45.960 --> 00:36:50.639 portrayed to live while they dope, y'all, it's understood. Like I don't 521 00:36:50.679 --> 00:36:52.400 have to walk around. Yeah you can look at me and say, oh, 522 00:36:52.480 --> 00:36:54.079 just take a look, like you hold the door before hist girl, 523 00:36:54.159 --> 00:36:57.679 Like yeah, that's what I do. Like y'a'll have to talk about it. 524 00:36:57.920 --> 00:37:00.480 So like if you're out here, just that's why yeah, they have 525 00:37:00.599 --> 00:37:02.360 allowed to. Like nobody's on a podcast talking about being a good man. 526 00:37:02.400 --> 00:37:06.639 You're just that, And this is what I'm saying, Like nobody has to 527 00:37:06.679 --> 00:37:14.280 talk about that. There are there are still men who want to be monogamous. 528 00:37:14.679 --> 00:37:19.000 There are still men who want to get married. There are still men 529 00:37:19.119 --> 00:37:22.880 who value their their wife, their family, their kids. Like I know, 530 00:37:23.760 --> 00:37:28.320 there are still men who don't want to go get a passport and go 531 00:37:28.559 --> 00:37:32.320 to other countries and New Atlanta stakes. Okay, there are there are. 532 00:37:32.519 --> 00:37:37.000 Don't believe it. Don't believe what you see on al Gore's Internet really crazy 533 00:37:37.039 --> 00:37:39.280 too, because at the end of the day, and I'm not trying too 534 00:37:39.320 --> 00:37:42.480 or anything like that. Yeah, like with girls all talk to me, 535 00:37:42.519 --> 00:37:45.159 and I'll be talking to the girls and they'd be like Sean, like you're 536 00:37:45.199 --> 00:37:47.800 such a good guy, and I'd be like yo, real for I'm regular. 537 00:37:49.119 --> 00:37:51.400 Yeah, And if every nigga was out here doing this shit, I 538 00:37:51.440 --> 00:37:52.760 would not be shining as much as you think I am. Yeah, you 539 00:37:52.880 --> 00:37:57.079 need to relax because if I was diabolical right now, I can literally just 540 00:37:57.480 --> 00:37:59.559 spend this whole And that's just how these niggas is doing it. Cause I 541 00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:01.880 guess, yeah, rarity. But my whole thing is, since you're saying 542 00:38:01.960 --> 00:38:07.559 that, that means that y'all niggas just deal with the same dudes. Yeah, 543 00:38:07.159 --> 00:38:12.079 yeah, like all you're just dealing with rain. You're just still dealing 544 00:38:12.119 --> 00:38:15.960 with the same niggas. And and and I feel like the same thing goes 545 00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:20.639 for women, because there are still women who don't view men as an ATM. 546 00:38:21.320 --> 00:38:25.599 There are still women who know how to reciprocate your time and energy financially, 547 00:38:25.760 --> 00:38:30.199 spiritually, mentally, right, And it's like, you gotta think about 548 00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:35.440 yourself, think about it to yourself. Right. If all this was real 549 00:38:36.840 --> 00:38:42.440 and women only wanted men who made six figures, how come the bums keep 550 00:38:42.480 --> 00:38:45.800 having kids? How come they keep getting pregnant by bum niggas? Right? 551 00:38:46.199 --> 00:38:51.239 Or even the flip side of it. If men only dealt with women of 552 00:38:51.280 --> 00:38:54.079 a certain caliber and only did X, Y and Z, how come they 553 00:38:54.119 --> 00:38:57.960 still keep getting rained through the fucking washing machine when it get divorced or when 554 00:38:57.960 --> 00:39:00.280 it get put on child support. I thought you only picked the best of 555 00:39:00.360 --> 00:39:02.519 the best, right, So I feel like, don't listen to what you 556 00:39:02.599 --> 00:39:06.239 say on it with like, don't listen to what you hear on the internet, 557 00:39:06.239 --> 00:39:08.960 because it's not real. It's not fucking real. But these podcasts and 558 00:39:09.039 --> 00:39:15.320 these microphones, baby, for all, these niggas right now are like Derek 559 00:39:15.440 --> 00:39:16.920 Jans three point zero. And the only reason I say that because this nigga 560 00:39:17.000 --> 00:39:22.199 danced on y'all face. He literally had us arguing with y'all by boy, 561 00:39:22.239 --> 00:39:24.760 and y'all literally said that we were jealous of this nigga. Mad that makes 562 00:39:24.840 --> 00:39:29.400 us feel You told us that we were jealous of Derek Jans because he knows 563 00:39:29.519 --> 00:39:30.360 like because he knows what the right. He was like a foot boy, 564 00:39:30.400 --> 00:39:34.880 but he was like a true version. But these niggas now are just super 565 00:39:34.960 --> 00:39:40.000 loud. My whole thing is y'all gurus on dealing with scallywags. That means 566 00:39:40.159 --> 00:39:43.679 that's all you know how to deal with I deal with regular chicks. You 567 00:39:43.840 --> 00:39:46.119 have no experience dealing with skallywags. I know what they are, I know 568 00:39:46.239 --> 00:39:49.480 they smell like, I know what they look like. But at the end 569 00:39:49.480 --> 00:39:52.039 of the day, I just stayed with them. Yes, and because I'm 570 00:39:52.039 --> 00:39:54.079 like y'all, listen, very experts in these niggas like they know everything they 571 00:39:54.159 --> 00:39:58.360 do they talk about, and they don't have no good experiences and I've been 572 00:39:58.360 --> 00:40:00.320 shooting podcasts for a while. I've never heard a group of niggas have nothing 573 00:40:00.360 --> 00:40:04.360 nice to say about a girl in the whole like freshion Fit, have you 574 00:40:04.440 --> 00:40:06.800 ever heard them say anything nice about a girl? I'm like, dog, 575 00:40:06.880 --> 00:40:09.679 that's all you've ever dealt with. What we're putting out into the atmosphere is 576 00:40:09.800 --> 00:40:14.320 not real. So it's like, how do we change these narratives? That's 577 00:40:14.360 --> 00:40:15.840 what I'm trying to do, Like I want you trying to know love still 578 00:40:15.880 --> 00:40:21.159 exists, Black love, especially still exists. There's somebody for you, but 579 00:40:21.320 --> 00:40:24.360 you have to enforce certain boundaries and standards to have them. And it's like, 580 00:40:24.760 --> 00:40:28.400 don't listen to the podcast. And I know somebody you're like, but 581 00:40:28.599 --> 00:40:34.239 you're a podcast. But I'm trying to fixt that now the fuck you gotta 582 00:40:34.280 --> 00:40:38.599 dof bruh. I just off, is this my life? Do I have 583 00:40:38.719 --> 00:40:42.679 money for gold diggers to be in my life? Yes? Like am I 584 00:40:42.760 --> 00:40:45.679 really? Am? I? Really? Just? Am? I really just 585 00:40:45.760 --> 00:40:46.960 bad to be the man. And I hate to say this, but like 586 00:40:47.280 --> 00:40:52.599 do I give what I'm supposed to what I'm asking for? Do you Staley 587 00:40:52.599 --> 00:40:57.039 Wags feel so comfortable? I don't mind, Like if a girl feels like 588 00:40:57.119 --> 00:41:00.119 she needs to have a certain lifestyle. That's cool. But and then but 589 00:41:00.320 --> 00:41:02.239 like, you're broke, and I'm not saying you're broke, Like you pay 590 00:41:02.320 --> 00:41:07.079 your bills and you just add a certain you don't like that, you don't 591 00:41:07.079 --> 00:41:09.400 have it like that. No, you're a bum and you're broke. But 592 00:41:09.519 --> 00:41:14.159 for some strange reason, your mindset is that you think that you deserve all 593 00:41:14.199 --> 00:41:15.440 this. My mother always told me, never dated girl without a job, 594 00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:19.519 because she's not working with value a dollar. She doesn't know the value of 595 00:41:19.559 --> 00:41:21.800 a dollar. No, Like, I don't want to go. I don't 596 00:41:21.800 --> 00:41:23.639 want my lady to work. But at the same time, I'm glad hold 597 00:41:23.679 --> 00:41:28.440 on, hold on, Aaron Ash said. A lady told me, good 598 00:41:28.480 --> 00:41:37.679 guys don't make her couchie throb run. At the end of the day, 599 00:41:40.000 --> 00:41:45.000 love still exists, and I'm just doing my part spread the message. Not 600 00:41:45.119 --> 00:41:49.280 all heroes square capes. That's it. Oh right, let's get that much 601 00:41:49.480 --> 00:41:52.519 stuff out of here. Now it is time for the edible portion of the 602 00:41:52.559 --> 00:41:55.679 show. So the edible portion is when we read questions, comments, stories 603 00:41:55.719 --> 00:41:59.960 that you got sitting in and on the day we record. I used to 604 00:42:00.079 --> 00:42:02.239 put up a prompt. But if you have something to say on a day 605 00:42:02.400 --> 00:42:06.360 that I'm not recording, or what you have to say doesn't really fit in 606 00:42:06.440 --> 00:42:09.719 the prompt, easy solution. All you have to do is email inquiries at 607 00:42:09.840 --> 00:42:15.280 stormypea dot com, get your shit off and we can move it from there. 608 00:42:15.599 --> 00:42:21.360 Right. Okay. So the first question that we have today, and 609 00:42:21.480 --> 00:42:25.920 y'all this one touch me, touch me in my heart? Okay. It 610 00:42:27.039 --> 00:42:30.920 says my girlfriend cheated on me in July and I still can't trust her. 611 00:42:31.519 --> 00:42:37.880 Is it fair for me to leave her? Wooh, oh my god. 612 00:42:40.239 --> 00:42:45.599 I would have said Siren now Soka, and I'm gonna read it again. 613 00:42:45.679 --> 00:42:51.519 I'm gonna read it again. In July. It says, my girlfriend cheated 614 00:42:51.559 --> 00:42:53.880 on me in July and I still can't trust her. Is it fair for 615 00:42:53.960 --> 00:42:59.800 me to leave her? In the month of March in the year of twenty 616 00:42:59.840 --> 00:43:05.400 two twenty four? Our lord? What in an honor of woman for women 617 00:43:05.440 --> 00:43:09.960 everywhere? Yeah, short answer, yes, yes, it is fair for 618 00:43:10.079 --> 00:43:16.440 you to leave her. But an even longer answer, when you guys were 619 00:43:16.880 --> 00:43:22.880 in July right in the past, were you being unfaithful to her? Because 620 00:43:22.920 --> 00:43:25.760 if so, not only is it fair for you to leave her? Now, 621 00:43:27.119 --> 00:43:29.599 But it was fair for her to leave you back then. Okay, 622 00:43:30.239 --> 00:43:34.639 But I want to say, just because she didn't have the strength to leave 623 00:43:34.719 --> 00:43:37.320 you then doesn't mean you can't leave her now. I feel like a lot 624 00:43:37.360 --> 00:43:43.079 of times we'd be having this energy of oh, he held me down and 625 00:43:43.159 --> 00:43:45.920 then I made one mistake and he left me. If that goes against his 626 00:43:46.039 --> 00:43:50.599 values, he should just like if he ha cheated on you, you should, 627 00:43:50.840 --> 00:43:53.280 right. But I feel like, if you still can't trust her, 628 00:43:53.559 --> 00:43:58.320 and you guys have talked about it, You've went to therapy, you've tried 629 00:43:58.360 --> 00:44:01.519 other avenues, and it's not moving in your heart, at the end of 630 00:44:01.559 --> 00:44:07.079 the day, you deserve to be happy too. So if your happiness comes 631 00:44:07.119 --> 00:44:13.519 with leaving her and it's been months and it's spin months, are trying and 632 00:44:13.639 --> 00:44:16.880 it's spen months, are still unhappy at the end of the day. At 633 00:44:16.920 --> 00:44:22.320 the end of the day, are you gonna be happy or she gonna be 634 00:44:22.360 --> 00:44:24.559 happy? Because right now it's seeming like both of y'all is not gonna happen 635 00:44:24.599 --> 00:44:30.079 for both of y'all. Like, who do you want to be happy? 636 00:44:30.159 --> 00:44:32.920 You were her? Who do you care about more? You were her? 637 00:44:34.559 --> 00:44:37.880 And this isn't just for this man in this situation. Sis, if he 638 00:44:38.000 --> 00:44:43.800 cheated on you and you cannot get past it and the only way you felt 639 00:44:43.960 --> 00:44:46.119 like for you to feel better was to cheat on him with someone else, 640 00:44:47.119 --> 00:44:52.960 No, you should have left him, your shut out left toe. Fair 641 00:44:52.159 --> 00:44:58.960 is fair, and wrong is wrong and leaving is leaving. I mean I 642 00:44:59.079 --> 00:45:01.440 just feel like, yeah, yeah, me and a bigger person is that 643 00:45:01.519 --> 00:45:07.440 blue shit? Bruh, bruh, talking about everybody be tough until it's time 644 00:45:07.480 --> 00:45:12.519 to have a conversation about why you're not happy in a relationship. And when 645 00:45:12.559 --> 00:45:15.239 I say that, I mean it's tough to say why you're happy, and 646 00:45:15.320 --> 00:45:21.519 it's also tough to hear it and be strong enough to fix it, strong 647 00:45:21.559 --> 00:45:23.239 enough to fix it. No, y'all want to talk about that shit. 648 00:45:23.400 --> 00:45:25.800 Y'all want to talk about who your dance said? No, no, no, 649 00:45:25.920 --> 00:45:29.679 no, no, no, Let's talk about that. Let's talk about 650 00:45:29.679 --> 00:45:32.360 that. Let's talk about why you or your partner have been complaining about the 651 00:45:32.400 --> 00:45:36.880 same thing for sex, not so and nobody's changing it. Let's talk about 652 00:45:36.920 --> 00:45:42.119 that too, Ring it all up, tell me, tell me, Okay, 653 00:45:43.760 --> 00:45:49.519 so this next thing, it's edible with a twist. Okay, And 654 00:45:49.639 --> 00:45:52.039 I really want you guys to chime in on this as well. Right, 655 00:45:52.000 --> 00:45:57.400 So, I don't know if it's just the spring cleaning mood or what I've 656 00:45:57.480 --> 00:46:04.639 learned about myself and day dang. Right, I realized sometimes we can't get 657 00:46:04.719 --> 00:46:09.599 over shit because we never really expressed it, right. So I was talking 658 00:46:09.639 --> 00:46:13.760 to my therapist about it, and she was like, yeah, you should 659 00:46:13.800 --> 00:46:16.599 write a letter to your ex. You don't have to send it to them. 660 00:46:17.000 --> 00:46:21.159 You can burn it, you can you know, rip it up, 661 00:46:21.679 --> 00:46:24.559 you can bury it, you can do whatever. But sometimes it's beneficial just 662 00:46:24.679 --> 00:46:30.280 to get the feelings out right. So I'm like, cool, wrote my 663 00:46:30.320 --> 00:46:34.880 feelings down. I felt better, great, Okay. And it's not always 664 00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:37.079 like yo, fuck you, you did me wrong, blah blah blah blah 665 00:46:37.079 --> 00:46:40.880 blah. Sometimes it's a chance to take accountability. Like, closure doesn't always 666 00:46:40.920 --> 00:46:47.199 have to come with U spumping bellies at two am. That's not your closure, 667 00:46:47.440 --> 00:46:55.360 that's just my closure. Should be too good, should be too season, 668 00:46:55.519 --> 00:47:00.760 Come on. Closure looks different for different people, all right. Sometimes 669 00:47:01.039 --> 00:47:07.079 it comes with you getting your shit off your chest. Okay. Closure doesn't 670 00:47:07.159 --> 00:47:14.039 always have to be you know, yeah, you're proven right exactly, Like 671 00:47:14.400 --> 00:47:16.760 like, sometimes you get it out like, Yo, here's what I did 672 00:47:16.840 --> 00:47:20.760 wrong. Here's what I feel like you did wrong. Here's what I feel 673 00:47:20.760 --> 00:47:22.639 like we could have did differently. Here's what I appreciated when we were together. 674 00:47:23.119 --> 00:47:25.840 Here's what I miss about us, X, Y and Z. Right. 675 00:47:27.760 --> 00:47:30.199 So I felt like the letter helped me, helped me a lot. 676 00:47:30.599 --> 00:47:35.559 So I'm like, Yo, I want to extend this courtesy to my followers. 677 00:47:37.079 --> 00:47:39.679 We'll help them out. So I put up a prompt and I say, 678 00:47:39.800 --> 00:47:44.960 YO, leave a message for your ex. And the answers that I 679 00:47:45.119 --> 00:47:52.960 got, the answers that I got tickled me to say the least. Okay, 680 00:47:53.639 --> 00:48:07.400 first one, Nan Natty boo boo, I'm up now. First of 681 00:48:07.400 --> 00:48:10.760 all, you thought you ate with that, But all I told me was 682 00:48:10.840 --> 00:48:15.519 you was broken ship in a relationship and you were not trying to be better. 683 00:48:15.000 --> 00:48:19.239 And she said, I'm saying, ship, you back up your ps 684 00:48:19.320 --> 00:48:22.440 five and you get the fuck out. You broke ass, okay, and 685 00:48:22.639 --> 00:48:29.480 you took that and you turned it around and you said, Nannny boo boo, 686 00:48:30.719 --> 00:48:32.519 I'm up now. First of all, Julius, don't come on here 687 00:48:32.639 --> 00:48:36.239 talking shit, Okay. I just gave you your props. Earlier in the 688 00:48:36.280 --> 00:48:38.360 episode, don't come on here talking shit. Thank you? All right? 689 00:48:40.559 --> 00:48:44.800 Yeah, man, I don't know shot, couldn't nan any boo boo. 690 00:48:45.239 --> 00:48:50.719 I'm up now be taken positively in any way. Absolutely, I would like 691 00:48:50.840 --> 00:48:58.480 what get nanny boobo me? Okay. So I wanted to give people a 692 00:48:58.599 --> 00:49:01.840 chance to get some ship off their chest, because emotions are better out than 693 00:49:01.880 --> 00:49:05.800 in. So I put up a prompt and it said, leave a message 694 00:49:05.840 --> 00:49:10.360 for your axe. And the answer is like God, We're gonna go to 695 00:49:10.440 --> 00:49:15.760 the next one. Okay. The next one says, if I die and 696 00:49:15.840 --> 00:49:25.760 go to heaven and see you there, I'm going to hell. What what 697 00:49:28.320 --> 00:49:31.920 what If I die and go to heaven and see you there, I'm going 698 00:49:31.960 --> 00:49:37.920 to Hell. If I die and go to heaven and see you there, 699 00:49:37.480 --> 00:49:40.840 I am going to Hell. I'm not in heaven. I am in Hell. 700 00:49:42.000 --> 00:49:45.119 I am not in heaven. I am in Hell. Lord, Why 701 00:49:45.199 --> 00:49:52.920 have you for saken me? Cut all that shit out? Cut that out 702 00:49:53.039 --> 00:49:59.760 the fucking podcast. Please no, shay, y'all love my Africans, y'all 703 00:49:59.760 --> 00:50:05.039 be to and then so shame. Remember that if you go, if you 704 00:50:05.159 --> 00:50:08.800 die and you go to heavy in my mind, all I hear in my 705 00:50:08.920 --> 00:50:16.920 mind all I hear is why are you getting Y'll never seen that clip will 706 00:50:16.960 --> 00:50:23.960 be like, why are you giddy? Is there a way to abbreviate that 707 00:50:24.679 --> 00:50:30.559 so people can say it on the shirt? G h e y. Yeah. 708 00:50:31.760 --> 00:50:35.079 I will not be putting that on the shirt. I will not, 709 00:50:36.159 --> 00:50:38.199 All right, come on, shot. I put up a prompt and said, 710 00:50:38.280 --> 00:50:44.920 leave a message for your axe and this one, this one, I 711 00:50:45.039 --> 00:50:50.320 felt like, I feel like a lot of you felt this in your spirit 712 00:50:50.440 --> 00:50:52.360 but couldn't quite get the words out. So this is the one that I 713 00:50:52.519 --> 00:50:58.280 like the most. And it said I heard you doing bad your fault. 714 00:51:00.159 --> 00:51:05.400 It's simplicity for me, not not my bad, not I'm sad to hear 715 00:51:05.519 --> 00:51:07.519 that, Not I'm sorry that you're going through that, none of that. 716 00:51:07.920 --> 00:51:12.280 My man said I heard you doing bad your fault. In my mind, 717 00:51:12.320 --> 00:51:16.719 I felt like you wanted to add bitch ass nigga. Y'all come on, 718 00:51:17.960 --> 00:51:30.599 come on? Uh? How can I get offended without getting offended? I'm 719 00:51:30.719 --> 00:51:35.440 crying? But yeah, you know, I feel like a lot of the 720 00:51:35.519 --> 00:51:38.360 answers were a little bit patty, but no judgment, because this was a 721 00:51:38.440 --> 00:51:42.280 safe space to get your shit off. So it's like, yeah, put 722 00:51:42.320 --> 00:51:44.880 it all out there you'll feel better. It's better out than in. That 723 00:51:44.960 --> 00:51:50.400 doesn't just apply to vomit, farts, poop, okay, babies, Okay, 724 00:51:51.159 --> 00:51:53.039 it's it's emotions too. You gotta get it out. You gotta get 725 00:51:53.039 --> 00:51:57.840 it out. It's better out than in. So lastly I put up a 726 00:51:57.920 --> 00:52:01.159 prompt, I said, leave a message for your ex because emotions are better 727 00:52:01.280 --> 00:52:08.239 out than in. And hmm, the last one, this is when we 728 00:52:08.320 --> 00:52:13.440 died. It was on the right track. This this is when we dive 729 00:52:13.559 --> 00:52:16.239 deep. Okay, because I'm not gonna lie, I low key want to 730 00:52:16.320 --> 00:52:22.199 expose it because I feel like this woman needs to hear this answer. Okay, 731 00:52:22.800 --> 00:52:25.559 it says I couldn't marry you because your family would lead you off us 732 00:52:25.920 --> 00:52:36.559 respectfully. And the reason I say I felt like this woman needed to hear 733 00:52:36.639 --> 00:52:43.199 this is because what if she don't know why he said no or why he 734 00:52:43.280 --> 00:52:45.760 didn't follow up with the marriage. What if she thought he was a clay 735 00:52:45.800 --> 00:52:49.239 ass nigga, it was just playing in her face. What if she thought 736 00:52:49.360 --> 00:52:54.800 he was just a clay She couldn't like brung about a whole clan of women 737 00:52:54.880 --> 00:53:00.039 that don't Yes, he might have just dang, bro, you might I 738 00:53:00.159 --> 00:53:02.239 just sucked it up for a whole bunch of niggas. She could have nigga, 739 00:53:04.079 --> 00:53:07.400 she could have took this and villainized this like to the left. You 740 00:53:07.480 --> 00:53:15.360 know what I mean? So nah, you know, Uh, it's hard 741 00:53:15.559 --> 00:53:23.119 because I feel like I feel like I very rarely say this, but I 742 00:53:23.199 --> 00:53:27.840 feel like maybe since dn'ty hear it, because if she don't know, she 743 00:53:27.920 --> 00:53:30.599 don't know, I think that he probably wasn't. They weren't comfortable enough to 744 00:53:30.639 --> 00:53:34.320 have that conversation. He probably wasn't comfortable to have that conversation. Yeah, 745 00:53:34.599 --> 00:53:37.639 that's the only reason why he wouldn't say that, because even in an argument 746 00:53:37.719 --> 00:53:38.639 no, because your parents a bunch of gold diggers like that would have just 747 00:53:38.679 --> 00:53:42.000 popped up. Yes, especially for a man like we would have just said 748 00:53:42.039 --> 00:53:44.440 that, like you know, because your mom not gonna be spending my money. 749 00:53:44.679 --> 00:53:46.119 And then if you really care about her, how do you say that 750 00:53:47.079 --> 00:53:50.719 offending her? That's why why I didn't say it. Yeah, that sucks, 751 00:53:50.760 --> 00:53:54.559 bro, because listen, you might want to spend a block mm hmmm 752 00:53:54.840 --> 00:53:59.280 mmmm mmmmmmm. The fact that you said it in private meets, you wouldn't 753 00:53:59.280 --> 00:54:02.840 say it in like ouh for sure. Every then I'm done in the dark 754 00:54:02.920 --> 00:54:07.199 comes to light. All right, guys, so let's recap. Let's talk 755 00:54:07.199 --> 00:54:15.519 about it. We talked about my grandmother losing her freaking mind, and we 756 00:54:15.679 --> 00:54:21.679 talked about is it possible to be two heeled? We talked about giving up 757 00:54:21.840 --> 00:54:27.119 vibes for free. We talked about everybody isn't meant for everyone. There are 758 00:54:27.199 --> 00:54:30.519 more good men out there than there are f boys. That applies to women 759 00:54:30.559 --> 00:54:37.199 as well. We answer some edibles, and yet that's it. I'm not 760 00:54:37.320 --> 00:54:40.320 sure if you guys heard from a few episodes ago. Please stay tuned. 761 00:54:40.320 --> 00:54:45.280 Within the next couple of weeks, we will be revamping and rebranding and just 762 00:54:45.360 --> 00:54:49.000 turning into something bigger and better, and I can't wait for you guys to 763 00:54:49.079 --> 00:54:52.360 hear it. In the meantime, we're going to stick to our regular schedule 764 00:54:52.440 --> 00:54:55.199 program and continue to bring the tough conversations that a lot of people aren't willing 765 00:54:55.280 --> 00:55:00.679 to have and giving people the space and opportun ttunity to get their shirt off 766 00:55:00.719 --> 00:55:04.400 with I'm being judged because that's all it is. As long as we're being 767 00:55:04.440 --> 00:55:08.079 respectful, you know, my message is always going to be the same. 768 00:55:08.559 --> 00:55:12.960 Follow me on the gram at Stormy p p e A at Chocolate Chip and Chip