Sure, what's up, beautiful people. It is your baby Mama, favorite
baby Mama, Stormy Pea and this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip
the modern day female perspective. Damn Son back at it again. Boom.
Okay, I'm not gonna lie. I have my notes all written down,
and then I realized it's been such a long time that we checked in.
I didn't even recap the live show. Okay. First of all, I
just want to say it was amazing all right, in case you haven't seen,
because it is on YouTube, it is on all the audio platforms,
so in kease you haven't seen or heard, it was Oodle's a fun,
amaze balls. Okay, First, I want to say shout out to everybody
a part of the team. We always got the home team. We got
Shy, we got Schnelle, we got Sierra, we got stand Like,
we got Liney, we locked in right. But then shout out to Professor
Old Odie, Dizzy, everybody who joined in on stage like it was such
a vibe. And I'm not gonna lie, y'all. I don't get nervous
a lot when it comes to shows, especially in Philly. Your girl does
not get nervous. Okay, but it was snowing that morning. It was
snowing that morning. I'm like, fuck, I don't think nobody's gonna come.
And everybody came. And it was thick in there, like thicker than
a bold of cold grits, thicker than an African American woman from the South,
thicker than you know, my hair when it hits cute. See should
say at my back. I'm so sick of him, y'all. I'm so
sick of him. Shout out to everybody who was a part of the show.
Shout out to everybody who showed up. And I especially want to say
shout out to my man Alphiz okay, because he came to the show.
First of all, he flew back from like the Philippines or something to the
show. Yes, they'll probably hear me say his name a lot, because
he'd be on a live a lot. But he blew. He flew back
to the United States to go to Philly to be at the show. And
y'all know, my goal for the year is to do a short film.
So he brought a slate for me. Wasn't that nice, y'all? It's
my fucking man, dog like you are to go I appreciate you. It's
people like you that make the world go around. Bro. Yeah, hell
yeah, hell yeah. And I also want to say so after the live
show, I really went dark for a little bit, especially when it came
to like the podcast, because you know, as y'all heard already, when
I put out the short little episode, I was getting myself together because I
had a lot going on at home, especially with my Grandmam and the amount
of people when that episode dropped that like reached out like hey, you know,
praying for you or like you need anything, like here are some resources,
like have you tried blah blah blah blah. I felt so overwhelmed,
but like in a good way. I was like, oh my god,
y'all really care about me. Dang, y'all just be laughing at me,
y'all be laughing with me, and y'all care about me, Like, thank
you. I appreciate it. And so yeah, that was it. Afterwards,
we would the frame shout out to everybody overhead. Frame made sure we
had a good time, and yeah, man, I'm just blessed. I'm
just blessed. I'm just blessed, and that's the only energy I'm choosing to
focus on right now and that's it and that's all. So with that being
said, shoy, yes, I'm gonna say oh no. With that being
said, though, I see, I see you leaned over. I like
this for you. I like this for you. She yells at me.
You know, she doesn't say how to me. I do have something to
say. I got something to say, dray, Okay. So with that
being said, I wanted to talk to you guys about my phenomenal week or
weekend really, So yesterday I went to light Venders. Right, is this
event in New York. So it was a costplay thing. So first of
all, shout out to help spawn cosplay. Shout out to Sir Julius,
or shout out to meet and Julius, or whatever the case may be.
So there are these cosplayers and I been like stalking them on Instagram. First
of all, this is the season of stalking and all my stalking paying off.
Can we just say this? Can we say that this is the season
of all my stalking paying off? I told you I was stalking Dizzy Boom
got linked up with Dizzey. I've been stalking fucking mes and Julius Boom got
linked up with them right, So, uh, they do like this single
cool power range your cosplay. I'm like, fuck it, I'm gonna put
my head in. I'm gonna do it. I wanna do it. I
want to do it. Right. So if it was yesterday Saturday, it's
called light Enders Held by the Paladins cosplay. So I'm like, yeah,
you know I'm gonna do it. First of all, if you thought that
cosplaying is easy, it fucking is not. Okay, that's the first thing,
and you was wrong. Right. So I've done cospway before, but
it's usually like stuff on my son, and it's easy because it's like stuff
with my son. This is the first time I've cosplayed as an adult with
other adults, and like nobody was like worry about these kids, Like I
ain't gotta worried about making sure I got hot a hot Google gun and some
goldfish, like I didn't have to do that, Like I just was out
being an adult. Right. So first I want to say, getting this
whole project together was crazy. Okay, So Julius made my helmet at my
bow and my gatlands, right, So I'm like, I really have all
the other items, but I need to see them ahead of time, So
let me go pick it up like a day or two before so I can
make sure to look it's complete. So I drove all the way to New
York on Friday cause to get it right. So y'all know, I'll be
having my grandma. I'm right. And in case you don't know, my
grandmam is ninety one. She has dementia, so well she be ninety one
in May. But I'm like, all right, bet, I'm just gonna
take her with me. Right. So the whole ride down there, we
were listening to podcasts, and the whole ride down there, my girl is
talking to the podcast on the radio. So she like, well listen a
true crime Vicus, Right, he's in the crime junkie shut out the crime
junkies. So she like, oh, well do they know what a little
girl was? She like, yeah, that's see, and that's why I
don't let them kids go out after night. Right, And she just,
Grandma, you're hearing mister EDI's voice. You she ain't even do it to
justice because of your hear a voice. So what you saying? She really
be like she was talking to the radio, Like the whole ride down I
didn't have to say anything because she was talking to the radio the whole way
down, right, So we go get the items, and uh, we're
on our way back home. And if you know anything about like dementia,
like the sundowning is crazy. So for some reason, whenever the sun goes
down, it confuses them and like it just gets crazy. So like on
the way back home, my girl just said turn up right now. The
whole rite down. We were fine on a ride back. I knew something
was up when she just started like trying to sing all the songs that was
on the radio. But she was singing like the gospel version of all the
songs that were on the radio. So even if you saw like the video
I put up of like us driving back, she's like praising the Lord,
right, She's not in it. She's not in it for real, right,
So then out of nowhere, like she sat, she didn't move for
like two minutes. Right, it's a peaceful ride. Music's playing basis thumping
sun, roof's open, it's a vibe. And my girl said open the
door. Or ninety five. That's on ninety five on the way back from
New York. This woman just decided I'm gonna open the door. I'm going
to try to open the door. I'm going to try to open the door.
I'm gonna try to open the door. I'm like, hey, hey,
what's what you're doing? What are you doing? Why are you trying
to open the door? And she looked me dead in my face and said,
so I can tell them to slow down, y'all. Y'all, y'all,
y'all, what the fuck? What in the fuck? All right,
I'm like, yo, please get us the fuck home. Traffic is trafficking.
It's rush hour on a Friday, So, oh shot, look at
this, what's happening? So anyway, so it's Friday rush ower traffic,
like it's it usually takes like an hour and a half to get to and
from New York. Today is taking like three because rushower traffic on a Friday.
Right, So, like I said, the ride there was fine,
the right. My girls just said turn up. So once again she had
these little reset moments. And I know there are reset moments because she just
get quiet, right, some real quiet for like three minutes. And I'm
not sure if you guys saw like the video, I'll put it like me
spray painting on me, like getting the cosplay stuff together. I had on
like, you know, like a baggy not rout tools shirt, some baggy
Nike sweat shorts. Right. My hair was crazy in like a curly puff.
Right. So back to the story. My girl is quiet for like
two minutes, and then she turns and looks at me and she says,
are you a boy or a girl? What? What? What? Right?
So now I'm like I'm just gonna fuck with her. I'm like,
I'm a boy. She said, oh, well, you're a pretty boy,
thank you. Right. So then she says, do you want to
be a boy or a girl? I said, well, I want to
be a girl. She said, well, you know, if your titties
was a little bigger, you could be a girl. Crazy, y'all,
give me the fuck out this car right now, Give me the fuck out
this car right now. Get me the fuck out this car right now.
I'm like, I don't think we're gonna make it. I don't think both
of us gonna make it back. Y'all locked that door. I took that
child lock off and said, go ahead and tell the people to slow down.
Don't know people to slow down. You just said Jesus heard Jesus,
and I've heard the door. Listen, y'all. This was the longest ride
of my wife, but thankfully we made it back home. Uh, I
pack a bag up. I took her to my aunts for the weekend because
you know, I had the light Penders event on Saturday. So if you've
never been to like a comic cond before, like it's really hard to network
and make connections with certain people, especially between like cosplayers and photographers. So
this event was very special because it gave people that chance to make those connections.
And it was invite only, so it's like you knew you were going
to have cosplayers there that were at a certain level. You knew that,
like, you know, the photographers, there were people who actually wanted to
work and produce amazing content. So it was just dope, right, And
I just want to say my favorite part of the whole event was just people
not knowing who I am, if that makes sense. No, Like I'm
not saying it on like no Kaki shit or nothing like that. I liked
being in a space where I'm not stormy. I was with Demitrius and Julius,
they were stormy, if that makes sense, Like you know what I
mean, Like I like not being that person like, oh you're that girl
from Instagram or oh you that girl making those clips, or oh you that
girl from the podcast. I thoroughly enjoyed just being able to sit and just
got ever people say anything to me, It's fine, it's fine, Like
people aren't looking at me, like trying to figure out what I'm gonna do,
or like trying to take pictures of me. Like I pulled this fucking
wig off my head so fast in the middle of a room of like two
hundred plus people, like, and I was fine. I was not like
nervous about it. No, nothing, like, first of all, everybody's
doing it. Second of all, nobody cares because nobody knows that stormy.
And I'm not saying it like I'm fucking holly buried or something like that.
That's not what I mean. I just mean being comfortable in the space or
like I don't know everything. People aren't looking to me for the answers.
I'm not influencer in this moment. I'm just genuinely here working and being surrounded
by other people, like I had so much fun social, so much fun.
So yeah, once again, thank you to Demitrius and thank you to
Julius for inviting me, and yeah, I liked it. I liked it
a lot. And long story short, if somebody tells you that it is
easy, or somebody tells you that it is anybody can do it, you
cannot. I'm sure all my pictures are not gonna come out great, but
I know they're gonna be some fire ones and that's all the fucking matters.
And yeah, I'm very happy that Demetrius and Julius extended an offer to me
and allowed me to come and be a part of the team. And it
was great. I really, really really had a good time. Shout out
to at Hellspawn cosplay and at Sergerylius. I don't know. Go on my
page and click one of the tags, you'll find them there. But they're
dope shit, like huh huh huh. I'm all right, but they are
dope and shit and hopefully as time goes, I can somehow meet on their
level because they're dope shit. And shout out to everybody who was there,
because every and that was the thing. It wasn't like, oh, I'm
not stormy. It was like everybody was so fucking bomb, Like I'm really
just sitting and able to take in what everybody else was doing like it was
crazy, y'all. It was crazy, crazy, crazy crazy crazy. Crad
is crazy. So yeah, with that being said, let's get back to
you. I don't even know how I want to phrase this. Let's touch
back in with I know we said it before, but I just got to
reiterate it. Let's let's let's start with reason why I'm single number five hundred
and thirty two. Okay. I'm not sure who's keeping up on numbers,
but if you are, put this in for a number five hundred and thirty
two hard pivot switch topics. Go. Okay, Uh, reason why I'm
single number five hundred and thirty two. Okay, I've been off and on
talking with this guy. When I sing off and on, I mean he
randomly jumps back in my life after I you know, just ignore him because
I'm sick of a shit. Okay, Reason I umber five hundred and thirty
two. While I'm single, So someone tries to spend the block on me
and comes up with horrible excuses. I then read them politely. That's say,
no, what you're actually doing is X, Y and Z. You
know, a little variety of things, A little gas slighting, little narcissism.
Little you got me fucked up? Heavy on that you got me fucked
up? Okay, So this nigga says to me like, Yo, you
don't be wrong, but you're never gonna be happy because you know too much
about men. Hold On, y'all, hold on, hold on, hold
on, hold on, hold on to all, to all my like minded
gentlemen. Don't just let hear tell the story before you, please. Please.
I'm saying that for us, not for your So I have a question
before I can tell you the story. Is it possible to be too healed?
Okay? Think about that? Is it possible to be too healed?
Right? So he said, you don't be wrong, but you're never gonna
be happy because you know too much about men. I take the mat.
He said, you don't be wrong, but you're never going to be happy
if you keep learning so much about men. What what? What? You
don't be wrong, but you're never going to be happy if you keep learning
so much about men. Bruh. And then he says, ignorance is bliss?
Stop it, yo? What what it was really that you don't be
wrong for me? It was that you don't be wrong for me? Right?
Because my whole thing is he said, you don't be wrong about him
playing your face. Yes, yes, yes, yes, And one thing
that never went out of is audacity. Okay never Okay, So because like
what my whole thing is, this is a very outlandish statement only because when
I'm talking about, like, you know, men deserve to be happy too.
Women should be able to reciprocate time, energy effort. When I'm talking
about you know, like it's okay to give your man, it's okay to
you know, show him that you give a fuck, Like when I'm talking
about providing peace for your meat and making sure your man is stable in your
relationship as well. It's never you know too much about men, You're never
going to be happy. Oh that's not important, that's not important. Then,
But when I'm reading you for filth baby, now now, now,
all of a sudden, I'm never gonna be happy because I know too much
about man. You're right, I'm not shit, but like, you're not
gonna be happy if you always taking it too far. And I thought he
was talking. I thought he was coming from a different place. But what
what I was like, Yeah, right, No that's not no, it's
not And it's like instead of you saying, damn, you're right, you
clock me. Let me get my shit together and come back to you when
I'm ready. You look at me and say, no, You're never gonna
be happy. You know too much about men? No, no, no,
do I know too much about men? Or do I know too much
about fuck boys? Like let's let's call the spade and spade, let's be
honest, right, So I just want to say me personally, I rebuke
that. In the name of Jesus, Okay, I am going to be
happy. I am gonna find my person. It's just not you, baby,
And now you're never getting off the block list. I know. Every
once in a while, I like visit my blocklist and I give you furlough
and I unblock you unless you come out and play for a little bit,
a little bit of parole. No, no, no more. This is
it. This is it. And that was my sign that this was it
because you don't deserve it. It's okay, it's just not you, and
we're gonna keep that. We gonna keep that energy because I didn't even have
the time to play with you. I don't have the time to play with
you. And for any woman who a man has told you, you know,
you're never gonna be happy because you know too much about men. You
don't know too much about men, you know too much about fuck boys and
they can't play in your face. And they tied about it. Lean land
that shit slide, no more, no more, no more, no more.
All that aside, I wanted to get into a few things that I
learned this month, not this month, a few things that I've reflected on
this past month. I was really focusing on my house, my family,
excuse me, I'm a lady, and really just you know, doing a
little bit of spring cleaning, reflecting on my interactions with people, people who
deserve to be in my life, people who you know, the spring cleaning,
getting cut the fuck out of my life, you know whatever. So
got a list, took some notes. Things that I have learned about dating.
Right, that's what we're gonna call this episode. Here's what I learned
about dating. I like that, or things I learned about dating. I
don't know, I don't know, give me time, okay. Number one
things that I learned about dating. Number one, everybody ain't for everybody,
okay, And I want to say that again. Everybody ain't for everybody.
Every person that you meet or encounter is not going to turn into your wife,
your husband, your soulmate. She is sometimes even your baby mama and
your baby daddy, especially the way plan be set up, prices have going
down. No, what is it recording? Is this thing on? I'm
just saying, like, everybody ain't for everybody, and that's cool, that's
cool. You gotta get out that mindset because every person that you encounter is
not going to turn out being your person. That makes bruh, bruh.
Everybody ain't for everybody, and that's your friends. Yes, yes, Like
I don't know why this concept is so unheard to y'all or like why y'all
be having such a hard time giest in it, But like, everybody ain't
for everybody, and that's cool. Right, So if we're dating and it
turns out that it's not me, that's fine, but you know who it's
not gonna be? You and your new bitch on my timeline blocked? I
don't want to see that. How we get from how are you from unfollowed?
The block follow I'm gonna tell you why, right I have to block
you? Unfollow all of the above because maybe I still want to fuck,
and I'm mature enough. Okay, I'm mature enough to say I still want
to fuck. Now hear me out. Though, here's my caveat. If
we are not making money together, there is not a potential for us to
make money together. We have no business endeavors. Baby, I don't need
to see you, and I still want to hit so like, I feel
like I'm hurting my own feelings by following you. No no, yeah,
I'm saying, but still I ain't no girls all like that, No,
no, no, I just feel like, if there's not a potential financial
investment or opportunity, you gotta go. I still want bump bellies, Like
why why would I play myself or torture myself? Because it's really torture.
Why torture myself by having you constantly pop up with a new girl doing all
the things I wanted you to do with me? And I feel like a
lot of us aren't mature enough to have those conversations like that's fine, it
don't gotta be me, but it's not gonna be a new bitch A fine
line now, because if you're not the person, so you're you're speaking from
a person where they said that they're not for you, or did you do
it doesn't matter and it didn't even maybe have to get to a relationship like
we are just dating. It did not reach a relationship for whatever reason.
I feel like I'm honest enough with my steff to be like, bro,
I am not going to be a good friend to you, I want to.
I want you to drop your kids off every morning like daycare. Okay,
I can't be a good friend to you. I literally want you to
turn me into a toaster strudle. I can't be a good friend to you.
I can't. So I'm being responsible and saying no. And once again,
this is only if there is not a potential business opportunity, because I
am mature enough to put ship to the side, if like we can make
money or we have a job. Because that's just like I feel like,
I feel like you should try next time to stay in your lane and just
just ride your lane out a little bit. Why. I think it will
help you grow growth into what somebody in a friend zone no more mature.
See he fells no, But I don't. I mean, I don't want
to waiting and plotting on the nigga. But I mean you just you just
hadn't You just said y'all not together. But it's cool. Let it be
cool. It is cool, but yeah, let it be cool. Block
and I'll followed why. But here's the whole thing. I'm not going to
be a good friend to you because am I doing things because I want to
or because I want you to keep me in mind the next time you're single.
Exactly, that's not being a good friend. I'm not doing it genuinely.
You don't think that the opposite party would know that, male or female,
you would think you don't think that they would know that. No,
because people try to. Whenever you told somebody male or female, whenever you
told somebody like yo, they want to be with you. What's the first
thing that president? Nah? Him nah her nah nah. That's dumb,
fat, that's dumb. That's dumb. Once again, it don't gotta be
me, but it's damn sure not gonna be you on your new bitch on
my topline bye you like you know what I mean? And I think that
having that level of maturity to say, like, yo, respectfully, I
can't be what you need, just like apparently you can't be what I need.
So it's like, Yo, it was just yeah, I agree,
you about to die. You got a charger, My phone got the charger.
No, I don't oh in a gimbal It's just a love of maturity
that I feel like a lot of people haven't digested, developed or willing to
or are willing to face because a lot of y'all's that's why your friendships don't
be working out. Like you don't understand why your friend get tight when you
bring a new woman around. You don't understand why your friend get tight when
you've been telling him about how this one guy keep playing in your face.
He's sad because he want a chance to play in your face. No,
not even that, Okay, he's sad because he don't understand why you keep
enduring that type of behavior when he will entreat you like that, like and
this all stems from one of y'all not being strong enough to be like,
yo, I still want you. I can't be your friend. I can't
be your friend if we're not making money. I can't be your friend because
you know work is worked. You ain't never hit a coworker at your job.
The two prides don't give a fuck that he ain't talking to you no
more. You still got clock in and do your shit and go okay.
Cool. So that's why I say, if we're not working, there's not
a potential for us to work. No money is being had. Babe,
you gotta go. That's stuck. When you gotta put somebody in a positions
feeling for you not to play them. Yes, because you're not gonna play
me for free. You're gonna play yourself, lady like you literally have to
get played, because honestly, you told me that it ain't listen. Just
go ahead, bruh. If you can't be friends with you, I understand.
Cool, I give. And you're thinking you're gonna play me for free?
Is out land? This shit? You want your feelings hurt, that's
it's gonna happen. If if I'm so your friend, y'all get you exactly,
big, big boy? What you decide when you hang out with like
minded people. Those conversations are very easy, yes, yes, but tough
conversation should need to be a thing of twenty twenty four because a lot of
you are still moving. They be that part two. It be that part
two. That part two for sure. So continuing our conversation, things that
I've learned about dating. I feel like I've come to a point where I
can really be honest with myself and what I can tolerate or cannot tolerate.
Right, So I say all that to say, there are women who give
up vibes for free. So I understand if I'm too much for you,
and I just want to say that again. Hold on, hear me out,
hear me out, hear me out, give me a second. There
are women who give up vibes for free, So I understand if I'm too
much for you, and I know, here I go. The three Z
fours are at it again. Oh, everybody just wants something. The hose
gonna be hoes old and please please free free? The three or fours are
at it again. Please just give me a second. Right. When I
say free, I mean there are women who don't require you to show interest
or court them properly for them to give their body to you. Right.
There are women who you will meet on day one and they are willing to
come to your house on day two to chill and catch a vibe, right
right, hear me out, though, Just let me cook for one second,
please, right? There are women. There are women who will send
you pictures of their bootyhole with zero level consistency or effort, And I just
want to say, there is nothing wrong with any of that. But Baby,
that ain't me. Okay, that ain't me. So when I say
free, I mean there are standards, there are boundaries, there's a requirement
of effort, and I understand that everybody don't have that. So when I
say I'm too much for you, I understand that I might just be too
much for you, and compare to the women you usually deal with, it's
nothing wrong with either situation, and I just want to make that clear.
There is nothing wrong with either situation. If you don't require much to you
know, send a nigga a picture of your pap smear. That's cool,
that's cool, that's fine, that's fine, But I want you to know
that it's gonna take a little bit more from me. Three good morning texts
ain't gonna get you a picture of these booty cheeks picked Doug. It's not
not for me, for some women at will, but for me, Nah,
Yeah. I don't like being treated like a whole by girls, like
girls, treatment like a like, like they think that I'm thinking about sex
all time. Bruh, I'm serious when when I say yes, yes,
so so like when I say free, I don't mean monetary, I mean
standards, boundaries, I mean enforcing those standards boundaries. Not a big deal.
But I would like to know your favorite color. I think that's like
we did talk about that at all. You didn't know that. But here's
the thing. Like, the thing is, there are not a lot of
women in today's society who enforce all those things. So when I say I'm
too much for you, it's like, yo, I understand that that's just
not something you're willing to deal with. I get that. It's cool,
no big deal, no big deal. I just want you to know,
like before either one of us ways start time like you, it's just because
the first thing they do is I just feel like you be doing too much.
It's not that deep, Like your standards are just a little bit too
high. How dare I respect myself? Holl the fuck? Like, and
when I say respect for myself, I mean respect my boundaries. How dare
I uphold my boundaries? How dare I have standards for myself that I want
to enforce? I get it, I get it. I just want you
to know maybe that ain't mean so when I say it's cool, like I'm
fine, like a low key fuck you, because you know how hard it
is to listen to myself. Bruh, bro, you know how hard it
is to stand up and be like everybody else wants red and I want blue.
I mean also, though I know red tastes really really good, b
hold on, hold on, I know red taste really really good, to
be clear, and I've dabbled in red, but blue is better for my
life. And you actively see me trying to be blue, but for some
change reasion, you're over here with just redh bruh, bru bruh. Like
it's to be clear, like it's hard to be like, Yo, everybody
wants red, I want blue, right, Like you know how hard it
is to be a crip and I'm sure, but when everybody will sue to
snoop yo, like seriously, like especially when you know red expire and everyone
is doing red and you're just cool standing up and be like that's fine,
but I really want a blue. I'm willing to wait for a blue like
that's crazy, crazy hard is to respect myself? No, I ain't gonna
hold boundaries in today's society. Do you know how hard it is to be
like No, I don't care how much money you got. I don't care
what you're trying to take me on. I don't care what premiere you don't
take me on. If you're I'm not looking for a relationship, you're not
trying to be monogamous. I'm not the girl for you, especially when you
got But here's the thing, especially when you got all the nigga's favorite nigga
in your DMS, Like, Okay, but I can do this for you.
I can take you here. I can do this for you. It's
like, but you're not really trying to do what I need you to do.
Like, Bro, I guarantee your favorite nigga, favorite nigga is in
my DMS right now. I don't care what fucking team you played for.
I don't care what. I don't care what fucking industries in I guarantee one
of them is in my fucking DMS. And it's just be like, no,
I'm fine, it's cool. Cool, Oh, you can take me
where you can do what? And then you won't Bobby what? No,
it's fine, it's fine. Fine. I feel like a lot of us
kind of assume that you guys already know that this game, Like I would
thought that that would be part of being trucked up with the game. Like
a lot of men. I can't say that, but I feel like some
men literally only have them need success for women, Like they only do that
for for women, if that's your intention, Like I have all this flashy
shit, like you know, I can't wave on stage. He was like,
yeah, I don't bout having silk sheets, but bitches do. But
bitches do. Like I really feel like that's how niggas live their life,
Like they really do all the shit that they be doing to attract the type
of women that they be attracted. So when you be on that type of
time with them, I don't really think like because naturally I would just think
that that's your spartan, but that's real because you know what, some men
have worked so hard to have the cash flow to do that that when you
tell them like yo, I don't want your money, or you can't buy
me, or you can't impress me with monetary things, they don't know what
the fuck to do. They don't know because it's like, wait, I
worked my whole life to be able to do this to get the bitches I
want so now that I don't have it, what you mean? And my
dumb as sitting there like, yeah, but can you do a car?
Will car learn how to do car? It's crazy out here, it's bananas.
But I think that a lot of us just think that's just part of
the game. Like I don't think a lot of people just realize that,
Like no, no, you kind of have to be a little more round
and well rounded individual to kind of come over here, like I can't.
I understand that you have a fact button. I like that. It's cool.
I don't need you to be working about Target. Yes, I want
to go pick out these three dollars three things that are gonna be seventy five
dollars, you know, and let's just leave you. But I just want
to say, real fast, there's nothing wrong with tworking in Target. There's
nothing wrong if your standards are for a man to be able to purchase you
X, Y, and Z, there's nothing wrong with your standards. So
your boundaries being you can provide blah blah blah blah blah. All I'm saying
is for me over here. All I'm saying is for me All I'm saying
is for over here. There's nothing wrong with anything that was said. Just
place for everything exactly to each your own. Yeah, I don't. I
don't think that people. I think the niggas just think this is part of
the game sometimes like this is what I got this for, So like,
what are you talking about? Blue has always been on the chill side for
goud Kraflow, I am crying, crying, crying, crying. Aaron Ashe
seven three says, niggas lead with their wallets and then complain about the gold
diggers cash cashpre Exotic says she better throw that ascid target. You gotta This
is what I'm saying. There's something for everybody, but to reiterate, everyone
is not for everybody. Okay, Official may I says, Wifey, you
never sent Eddie for the flowers or edible arrangements. Baby, send me some
chicken wings. I'm gonna I'm gonna get you when I'm done. Go ahead
and send that DM. So I don't forget send me some chicken yeah,
yeah, yeah, hell yeah, get out my face shot. So the
last thing I really wanted to touch on, and I feel like this is
very important because I know some of you don't believe it? Uh you you
you you aren't well? Is this did this thing die again? Shot?
No, it's just moved. Okay, great. I just want to say
there are more good men out there than there are F boys. Okay,
I know, I hold on, hold ladies, please give me a second.
Damn. Okay, there are more good men out there then there are
F boys, But unfortunately they got the loungest micing. There are more F
boys with Mike's I'm sorry, y'all. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, I'm
sorry, I'm sorry. I'm sorry the F Boys. I don't know what
type of stronghold they have on the podcast community, but a lot of what
you see pop up on your timeline supports a narrative that doesn't actually fucking exist.
And they also say things that if you were living the life that they're
portrayed to live while they dope, y'all, it's understood. Like I don't
have to walk around. Yeah you can look at me and say, oh,
just take a look, like you hold the door before hist girl,
Like yeah, that's what I do. Like y'a'll have to talk about it.
So like if you're out here, just that's why yeah, they have
allowed to. Like nobody's on a podcast talking about being a good man.
You're just that, And this is what I'm saying, Like nobody has to
talk about that. There are there are still men who want to be monogamous.
There are still men who want to get married. There are still men
who value their their wife, their family, their kids. Like I know,
there are still men who don't want to go get a passport and go
to other countries and New Atlanta stakes. Okay, there are there are.
Don't believe it. Don't believe what you see on al Gore's Internet really crazy
too, because at the end of the day, and I'm not trying too
or anything like that. Yeah, like with girls all talk to me,
and I'll be talking to the girls and they'd be like Sean, like you're
such a good guy, and I'd be like yo, real for I'm regular.
Yeah, And if every nigga was out here doing this shit, I
would not be shining as much as you think I am. Yeah, you
need to relax because if I was diabolical right now, I can literally just
spend this whole And that's just how these niggas is doing it. Cause I
guess, yeah, rarity. But my whole thing is, since you're saying
that, that means that y'all niggas just deal with the same dudes. Yeah,
yeah, like all you're just dealing with rain. You're just still dealing
with the same niggas. And and and I feel like the same thing goes
for women, because there are still women who don't view men as an ATM.
There are still women who know how to reciprocate your time and energy financially,
spiritually, mentally, right, And it's like, you gotta think about
yourself, think about it to yourself. Right. If all this was real
and women only wanted men who made six figures, how come the bums keep
having kids? How come they keep getting pregnant by bum niggas? Right?
Or even the flip side of it. If men only dealt with women of
a certain caliber and only did X, Y and Z, how come they
still keep getting rained through the fucking washing machine when it get divorced or when
it get put on child support. I thought you only picked the best of
the best, right, So I feel like, don't listen to what you
say on it with like, don't listen to what you hear on the internet,
because it's not real. It's not fucking real. But these podcasts and
these microphones, baby, for all, these niggas right now are like Derek
Jans three point zero. And the only reason I say that because this nigga
danced on y'all face. He literally had us arguing with y'all by boy,
and y'all literally said that we were jealous of this nigga. Mad that makes
us feel You told us that we were jealous of Derek Jans because he knows
like because he knows what the right. He was like a foot boy,
but he was like a true version. But these niggas now are just super
loud. My whole thing is y'all gurus on dealing with scallywags. That means
that's all you know how to deal with I deal with regular chicks. You
have no experience dealing with skallywags. I know what they are, I know
they smell like, I know what they look like. But at the end
of the day, I just stayed with them. Yes, and because I'm
like y'all, listen, very experts in these niggas like they know everything they
do they talk about, and they don't have no good experiences and I've been
shooting podcasts for a while. I've never heard a group of niggas have nothing
nice to say about a girl in the whole like freshion Fit, have you
ever heard them say anything nice about a girl? I'm like, dog,
that's all you've ever dealt with. What we're putting out into the atmosphere is
not real. So it's like, how do we change these narratives? That's
what I'm trying to do, Like I want you trying to know love still
exists, Black love, especially still exists. There's somebody for you, but
you have to enforce certain boundaries and standards to have them. And it's like,
don't listen to the podcast. And I know somebody you're like, but
you're a podcast. But I'm trying to fixt that now the fuck you gotta
dof bruh. I just off, is this my life? Do I have
money for gold diggers to be in my life? Yes? Like am I
really? Am? I? Really? Just? Am? I really just
bad to be the man. And I hate to say this, but like
do I give what I'm supposed to what I'm asking for? Do you Staley
Wags feel so comfortable? I don't mind, Like if a girl feels like
she needs to have a certain lifestyle. That's cool. But and then but
like, you're broke, and I'm not saying you're broke, Like you pay
your bills and you just add a certain you don't like that, you don't
have it like that. No, you're a bum and you're broke. But
for some strange reason, your mindset is that you think that you deserve all
this. My mother always told me, never dated girl without a job,
because she's not working with value a dollar. She doesn't know the value of
a dollar. No, Like, I don't want to go. I don't
want my lady to work. But at the same time, I'm glad hold
on, hold on, Aaron Ash said. A lady told me, good
guys don't make her couchie throb run. At the end of the day,
love still exists, and I'm just doing my part spread the message. Not
all heroes square capes. That's it. Oh right, let's get that much
stuff out of here. Now it is time for the edible portion of the
show. So the edible portion is when we read questions, comments, stories
that you got sitting in and on the day we record. I used to
put up a prompt. But if you have something to say on a day
that I'm not recording, or what you have to say doesn't really fit in
the prompt, easy solution. All you have to do is email inquiries at
stormypea dot com, get your shit off and we can move it from there.
Right. Okay. So the first question that we have today, and
y'all this one touch me, touch me in my heart? Okay. It
says my girlfriend cheated on me in July and I still can't trust her.
Is it fair for me to leave her? Wooh, oh my god.
I would have said Siren now Soka, and I'm gonna read it again.
I'm gonna read it again. In July. It says, my girlfriend cheated
on me in July and I still can't trust her. Is it fair for
me to leave her? In the month of March in the year of twenty
two twenty four? Our lord? What in an honor of woman for women
everywhere? Yeah, short answer, yes, yes, it is fair for
you to leave her. But an even longer answer, when you guys were
in July right in the past, were you being unfaithful to her? Because
if so, not only is it fair for you to leave her? Now,
But it was fair for her to leave you back then. Okay,
But I want to say, just because she didn't have the strength to leave
you then doesn't mean you can't leave her now. I feel like a lot
of times we'd be having this energy of oh, he held me down and
then I made one mistake and he left me. If that goes against his
values, he should just like if he ha cheated on you, you should,
right. But I feel like, if you still can't trust her,
and you guys have talked about it, You've went to therapy, you've tried
other avenues, and it's not moving in your heart, at the end of
the day, you deserve to be happy too. So if your happiness comes
with leaving her and it's been months and it's spin months, are trying and
it's spen months, are still unhappy at the end of the day. At
the end of the day, are you gonna be happy or she gonna be
happy? Because right now it's seeming like both of y'all is not gonna happen
for both of y'all. Like, who do you want to be happy?
You were her? Who do you care about more? You were her?
And this isn't just for this man in this situation. Sis, if he
cheated on you and you cannot get past it and the only way you felt
like for you to feel better was to cheat on him with someone else,
No, you should have left him, your shut out left toe. Fair
is fair, and wrong is wrong and leaving is leaving. I mean I
just feel like, yeah, yeah, me and a bigger person is that
blue shit? Bruh, bruh, talking about everybody be tough until it's time
to have a conversation about why you're not happy in a relationship. And when
I say that, I mean it's tough to say why you're happy, and
it's also tough to hear it and be strong enough to fix it, strong
enough to fix it. No, y'all want to talk about that shit.
Y'all want to talk about who your dance said? No, no, no,
no, no, no, Let's talk about that. Let's talk about
that. Let's talk about why you or your partner have been complaining about the
same thing for sex, not so and nobody's changing it. Let's talk about
that too, Ring it all up, tell me, tell me, Okay,
so this next thing, it's edible with a twist. Okay, And
I really want you guys to chime in on this as well. Right,
So, I don't know if it's just the spring cleaning mood or what I've
learned about myself and day dang. Right, I realized sometimes we can't get
over shit because we never really expressed it, right. So I was talking
to my therapist about it, and she was like, yeah, you should
write a letter to your ex. You don't have to send it to them.
You can burn it, you can you know, rip it up,
you can bury it, you can do whatever. But sometimes it's beneficial just
to get the feelings out right. So I'm like, cool, wrote my
feelings down. I felt better, great, Okay. And it's not always
like yo, fuck you, you did me wrong, blah blah blah blah
blah. Sometimes it's a chance to take accountability. Like, closure doesn't always
have to come with U spumping bellies at two am. That's not your closure,
that's just my closure. Should be too good, should be too season,
Come on. Closure looks different for different people, all right. Sometimes
it comes with you getting your shit off your chest. Okay. Closure doesn't
always have to be you know, yeah, you're proven right exactly, Like
like, sometimes you get it out like, Yo, here's what I did
wrong. Here's what I feel like you did wrong. Here's what I feel
like we could have did differently. Here's what I appreciated when we were together.
Here's what I miss about us, X, Y and Z. Right.
So I felt like the letter helped me, helped me a lot.
So I'm like, Yo, I want to extend this courtesy to my followers.
We'll help them out. So I put up a prompt and I say,
YO, leave a message for your ex. And the answers that I
got, the answers that I got tickled me to say the least. Okay,
first one, Nan Natty boo boo, I'm up now. First of
all, you thought you ate with that, But all I told me was
you was broken ship in a relationship and you were not trying to be better.
And she said, I'm saying, ship, you back up your ps
five and you get the fuck out. You broke ass, okay, and
you took that and you turned it around and you said, Nannny boo boo,
I'm up now. First of all, Julius, don't come on here
talking shit, Okay. I just gave you your props. Earlier in the
episode, don't come on here talking shit. Thank you? All right?
Yeah, man, I don't know shot, couldn't nan any boo boo.
I'm up now be taken positively in any way. Absolutely, I would like
what get nanny boobo me? Okay. So I wanted to give people a
chance to get some ship off their chest, because emotions are better out than
in. So I put up a prompt and it said, leave a message
for your axe. And the answer is like God, We're gonna go to
the next one. Okay. The next one says, if I die and
go to heaven and see you there, I'm going to hell. What what
what If I die and go to heaven and see you there, I'm going
to Hell. If I die and go to heaven and see you there,
I am going to Hell. I'm not in heaven. I am in Hell.
I am not in heaven. I am in Hell. Lord, Why
have you for saken me? Cut all that shit out? Cut that out
the fucking podcast. Please no, shay, y'all love my Africans, y'all
be to and then so shame. Remember that if you go, if you
die and you go to heavy in my mind, all I hear in my
mind all I hear is why are you getting Y'll never seen that clip will
be like, why are you giddy? Is there a way to abbreviate that
so people can say it on the shirt? G h e y. Yeah.
I will not be putting that on the shirt. I will not,
All right, come on, shot. I put up a prompt and said,
leave a message for your axe and this one, this one, I
felt like, I feel like a lot of you felt this in your spirit
but couldn't quite get the words out. So this is the one that I
like the most. And it said I heard you doing bad your fault.
It's simplicity for me, not not my bad, not I'm sad to hear
that, Not I'm sorry that you're going through that, none of that.
My man said I heard you doing bad your fault. In my mind,
I felt like you wanted to add bitch ass nigga. Y'all come on,
come on? Uh? How can I get offended without getting offended? I'm
crying? But yeah, you know, I feel like a lot of the
answers were a little bit patty, but no judgment, because this was a
safe space to get your shit off. So it's like, yeah, put
it all out there you'll feel better. It's better out than in. That
doesn't just apply to vomit, farts, poop, okay, babies, Okay,
it's it's emotions too. You gotta get it out. You gotta get
it out. It's better out than in. So lastly I put up a
prompt, I said, leave a message for your ex because emotions are better
out than in. And hmm, the last one, this is when we
died. It was on the right track. This this is when we dive
deep. Okay, because I'm not gonna lie, I low key want to
expose it because I feel like this woman needs to hear this answer. Okay,
it says I couldn't marry you because your family would lead you off us
respectfully. And the reason I say I felt like this woman needed to hear
this is because what if she don't know why he said no or why he
didn't follow up with the marriage. What if she thought he was a clay
ass nigga, it was just playing in her face. What if she thought
he was just a clay She couldn't like brung about a whole clan of women
that don't Yes, he might have just dang, bro, you might I
just sucked it up for a whole bunch of niggas. She could have nigga,
she could have took this and villainized this like to the left. You
know what I mean? So nah, you know, Uh, it's hard
because I feel like I feel like I very rarely say this, but I
feel like maybe since dn'ty hear it, because if she don't know, she
don't know, I think that he probably wasn't. They weren't comfortable enough to
have that conversation. He probably wasn't comfortable to have that conversation. Yeah,
that's the only reason why he wouldn't say that, because even in an argument
no, because your parents a bunch of gold diggers like that would have just
popped up. Yes, especially for a man like we would have just said
that, like you know, because your mom not gonna be spending my money.
And then if you really care about her, how do you say that
offending her? That's why why I didn't say it. Yeah, that sucks,
bro, because listen, you might want to spend a block mm hmmm
mmmm mmmmmmm. The fact that you said it in private meets, you wouldn't
say it in like ouh for sure. Every then I'm done in the dark
comes to light. All right, guys, so let's recap. Let's talk
about it. We talked about my grandmother losing her freaking mind, and we
talked about is it possible to be two heeled? We talked about giving up
vibes for free. We talked about everybody isn't meant for everyone. There are
more good men out there than there are f boys. That applies to women
as well. We answer some edibles, and yet that's it. I'm not
sure if you guys heard from a few episodes ago. Please stay tuned.
Within the next couple of weeks, we will be revamping and rebranding and just
turning into something bigger and better, and I can't wait for you guys to
hear it. In the meantime, we're going to stick to our regular schedule
program and continue to bring the tough conversations that a lot of people aren't willing
to have and giving people the space and opportun ttunity to get their shirt off
with I'm being judged because that's all it is. As long as we're being
respectful, you know, my message is always going to be the same.
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