WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.720 --> 00:00:05.480 All right, let's do the Minnesota Goodbye and see if there's anything that we 2 00:00:05.519 --> 00:00:07.639 had to clean up or talk about. Was there anything that we said we 3 00:00:07.679 --> 00:00:10.640 need to talk about in the Minnesota Goodbye? Now, yesterday's Minnesota Goodbye was 4 00:00:10.640 --> 00:00:15.160 a disaster. Yeah, it was me and you looking for emails basically the 5 00:00:15.320 --> 00:00:19.640 entire podcast. So there's no way it can be worse. And there's nothing 6 00:00:19.640 --> 00:00:22.239 We were like, oh, we would have to wait for tomorrow for that 7 00:00:22.280 --> 00:00:25.960 one. It was more like, hopefully we find anything for tomorrow. Yeah, 8 00:00:26.000 --> 00:00:31.519 well, there are a lot of emails for today, so I've not 9 00:00:31.600 --> 00:00:34.600 got a chance to preread them. The first one that scares me is it 10 00:00:34.600 --> 00:00:38.240 comes with an audio component, and I'm not, Oh, you don't play 11 00:00:38.280 --> 00:00:40.640 it. You don't have to play the audio component. That was just her 12 00:00:40.840 --> 00:00:44.280 showing us that these people are funny. It's a podcast she listens to that 13 00:00:44.320 --> 00:00:47.240 she's recommending, so you'll be fine just playing it. I think, let's 14 00:00:47.240 --> 00:00:49.759 come, let's come back that one a second. Let's let's let's do that 15 00:00:49.799 --> 00:00:53.119 one in a minute. Here I was listening to April eighteen show, and 16 00:00:53.119 --> 00:00:56.880 I have to say I've never been so sad to hear a bit this goes 17 00:00:56.920 --> 00:01:00.520 on with you know, Jenny and the chewing, which we attract yesterday. 18 00:01:00.600 --> 00:01:03.079 And we're not going to spend a lot of time on that one because I 19 00:01:03.959 --> 00:01:07.719 Number one, we did not know that it would trigger so many people with 20 00:01:07.760 --> 00:01:12.719 the chewing and the sound, and so we apologize. Number two, Jenny 21 00:01:12.840 --> 00:01:18.280 was not upset or offended. Jenny would have told us if she said no, 22 00:01:18.319 --> 00:01:21.400 I'm not going to do that. We would never ever make fun of 23 00:01:21.439 --> 00:01:25.359 somebody for a condition. So we're going to kind of move past that one. 24 00:01:25.439 --> 00:01:30.319 I appreciate you writing in and I appreciate you understanding that we weren't trying 25 00:01:30.359 --> 00:01:34.200 to rattle anybody. We were just trying to have some fun. And will 26 00:01:34.239 --> 00:01:38.760 we do it again, No, Probably not a little late to the topic, 27 00:01:38.799 --> 00:01:41.319 but this is too good to share. A few years ago, my 28 00:01:41.319 --> 00:01:45.799 wife and I were driving home from northern Minnesota and just chatting, just killing 29 00:01:45.840 --> 00:01:49.400 time. At one point we saw a billboard for second wind exercise equipment with 30 00:01:49.480 --> 00:01:53.359 Dick and Rico, the guy with a mustache, and people used to make 31 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:56.920 fun of his mustache whatever. I commented about how it's so weird that a 32 00:01:56.959 --> 00:02:01.519 guy has become a local fixture for selling you treadmills. We stopped talking about 33 00:02:01.560 --> 00:02:05.480 that and passed the car in front of us, and I look up to 34 00:02:05.560 --> 00:02:10.639 my right and who's driving the white suv? Dick fucking Enrico. You cannot 35 00:02:12.000 --> 00:02:14.879 make this up. I don't think I would recognize him, but I don't 36 00:02:14.879 --> 00:02:16.960 think it's because I'm not from Minnesota. Yeah, he was. He was 37 00:02:17.039 --> 00:02:23.319 all over TV for a long time for Second Wind exercise equipment. And he's 38 00:02:23.400 --> 00:02:28.400 like a guy probably fifty years old, with like um like dark hair, 39 00:02:28.439 --> 00:02:30.560 glasses and a mustache. You could not mistake Dick Enrico. Are they still 40 00:02:30.560 --> 00:02:34.759 open? They are? They are, but they don't call them second Win 41 00:02:34.840 --> 00:02:38.360 anymore. And he got very wealthy off of those, I believe, And 42 00:02:38.759 --> 00:02:40.800 they were all over like this part of the state and part of the country 43 00:02:40.840 --> 00:02:44.400 and maybe an Iowa. That type of thing. You cannot make it up. 44 00:02:44.439 --> 00:02:46.759 We didn't believe it. So I slowed down to let him pass us, 45 00:02:46.759 --> 00:02:51.960 and the license plate said second Wind. Unreal, Ben, that is 46 00:02:52.439 --> 00:02:57.319 so far my favorite email of the day, but it's the first email of 47 00:02:57.360 --> 00:02:59.759 the day, Ben, so you know you have some competition. Yeah, 48 00:03:00.000 --> 00:03:04.479 let me delete that one. The reason I say that out loud is because 49 00:03:04.479 --> 00:03:06.960 if I don't delete it. Then I'll come back the next day and fallon 50 00:03:07.000 --> 00:03:08.919 and I will go, do we read that one about Dick and Rico? 51 00:03:08.960 --> 00:03:10.680 I know we read it off the year? Do we read it on the 52 00:03:10.759 --> 00:03:15.159 year? All right? Next one from Chow, Chow says, so true, 53 00:03:15.240 --> 00:03:17.240 Dave. Age is only a number in a way. When I was 54 00:03:17.280 --> 00:03:21.599 younger, I always look at old people like they don't get it and they 55 00:03:21.639 --> 00:03:24.599 aren't hip, etc. As I get older, I realize that I'm still 56 00:03:24.599 --> 00:03:30.400 the same person, just wiser and more aged. You'll always look back at 57 00:03:30.400 --> 00:03:34.039 when you are twenty thirty or forty and say to yourself, I wasn't that 58 00:03:34.080 --> 00:03:37.639 old. You're only as old as you make yourself feel. I'm currently forty 59 00:03:37.639 --> 00:03:39.560 four years old. Chow, I'm so happy you listen to the show because 60 00:03:39.560 --> 00:03:43.719 a lot of people think that Katy. It's changed over the years. Katy 61 00:03:43.719 --> 00:03:49.280 able to be used to be definitely the younger leaning you could say teen station, 62 00:03:49.840 --> 00:03:53.719 because we were the ones that all teens listened to for many, many 63 00:03:53.800 --> 00:03:58.400 years. And so the funny thing is is people got older. I'd run 64 00:03:58.439 --> 00:04:00.960 into somebody who was like forty two years old old and they haven't listened. 65 00:04:00.000 --> 00:04:04.520 And since they were fifteen years old since the Eagles were big, and they'll 66 00:04:04.560 --> 00:04:10.199 bow Katie WB is that teeny bopper bubble joun station. And I would say, 67 00:04:10.439 --> 00:04:14.840 dude, we are not that anymore because we've expanded from just appealing to 68 00:04:15.000 --> 00:04:19.079 eighteen to twenty four year old people to appealing probably to eighteen to sixty four 69 00:04:19.120 --> 00:04:21.639 year old people. Yeah, for sure, and we get a lot of 70 00:04:21.639 --> 00:04:25.360 people that are younger. And I guarantee you we get people in their seventies 71 00:04:25.360 --> 00:04:29.040 and possibly eighties that listen to Katy BB two and yes for the music, 72 00:04:29.079 --> 00:04:32.600 but also because of the fact that in the morning we do much more besides 73 00:04:33.199 --> 00:04:40.720 music. So but I always tell people you're younger than you think. And 74 00:04:40.759 --> 00:04:44.399 I think it's even actually a chapter in my new book. I was getting 75 00:04:44.439 --> 00:04:46.759 the elevator with a woman who works I think her name is Haley, and 76 00:04:46.800 --> 00:04:49.800 she helps out with the morning show over at Kathan and I'll write up on 77 00:04:49.800 --> 00:04:53.439 the elevator with her once in a while. And a couple of years ago, 78 00:04:53.480 --> 00:04:56.560 she's like, it's my birthday and she's like, I'm thirty, And 79 00:04:56.680 --> 00:05:00.319 I said, you know you are a lot younger, Haley. Then you 80 00:05:00.360 --> 00:05:02.560 think I know thirty sounds old, but when you get when you get to 81 00:05:02.600 --> 00:05:05.639 be a little bit older, you'll be amazed that you ever thought thirty was 82 00:05:05.680 --> 00:05:11.639 old. So I think that's kind of the lesson. So one day, 83 00:05:11.839 --> 00:05:14.560 Falon, you'll look at yourself at thirty nine and go, God, I 84 00:05:14.600 --> 00:05:16.279 thought I was old at thirty nine years old. So yeah, I know, 85 00:05:17.399 --> 00:05:20.560 okay, ready for another one? I think so yeah. I've been 86 00:05:20.600 --> 00:05:26.000 binge of the podcast sitting at work, so crap is following through the noggin. 87 00:05:26.199 --> 00:05:30.120 I think they mean flowing. I normally want not one to be sensitive 88 00:05:30.360 --> 00:05:33.040 and I'm not on the bag in the PC. Everybody else's feelings matter. 89 00:05:33.079 --> 00:05:36.439 Blah blah blah. I wish I could remember the day. But you guys 90 00:05:36.439 --> 00:05:41.600 were talking about an award show and they made a joke about everybody on ozempic. 91 00:05:43.000 --> 00:05:46.240 Jenny, you made a comic about comment about a friend who has taken 92 00:05:46.240 --> 00:05:50.399 it for their weight loss, and you openly said you shamed she shamed them. 93 00:05:50.560 --> 00:05:56.959 Ozempic is who's the girl from the office and she's failing And I can 94 00:05:57.000 --> 00:05:58.839 tell you, I can tell you where. I know where this email is 95 00:05:58.839 --> 00:06:00.800 going to go. And you weren't here the day, Genny and I talked 96 00:06:00.800 --> 00:06:05.439 about it on the podcast either, but we talked about how if you haven't 97 00:06:05.439 --> 00:06:10.040 heard of it, it's like what people are using, and the upsetting part 98 00:06:10.199 --> 00:06:13.639 is that people that need it are having a harder time getting it, and 99 00:06:13.680 --> 00:06:16.519 it's like causing the prices to go up, especially for people people that are 100 00:06:16.560 --> 00:06:20.639 diabetic. I pre read this woman's email, so I know like she's saying, 101 00:06:20.639 --> 00:06:23.839 like, obviously, if you need to lose weight, it is used 102 00:06:23.839 --> 00:06:27.720 for that as well. But the people that I won't speak on behalf of 103 00:06:27.800 --> 00:06:30.199 Jenny because I don't know about her friend. But I think that people like 104 00:06:30.240 --> 00:06:38.079 Mindy Kaling were not super obese and needed this to lose weight to like live 105 00:06:38.800 --> 00:06:42.680 basically, you know what I mean. A lot of celebrities are missing and 106 00:06:42.839 --> 00:06:48.360 people in general are misusing it to be extremely skinny, not because they were 107 00:06:48.519 --> 00:06:53.920 obese to begin with and needed to lose weight, because I know that like 108 00:06:54.279 --> 00:06:59.319 actual like getting the sleeve or what's the other one where you get the full 109 00:06:59.319 --> 00:07:04.519 surgery that's a gastrica, very expensive surgery, So this would be obviously a 110 00:07:04.639 --> 00:07:10.959 much cheaper alternative to that if you need that. So I think that maybe 111 00:07:10.959 --> 00:07:12.959 it was just worded in a way. That was upsetting because I got a 112 00:07:13.000 --> 00:07:15.120 couple of emails that day two saying, hey, it's not just for people 113 00:07:15.120 --> 00:07:18.680 with diabetes. It is used to help people who need to lose weight. 114 00:07:18.959 --> 00:07:23.120 I get that. I think what we were saying was it's upsetting to see 115 00:07:23.120 --> 00:07:29.120 people like Mindy Kaling who don't need to lose three hundred pounds, two hundred 116 00:07:29.120 --> 00:07:32.360 pounds, even one hundred pounds. Mindy Kaling probably needed like and I'd say 117 00:07:32.480 --> 00:07:36.120 needed, wanted to lose twenty or thirty pounds. You know what I mean. 118 00:07:36.439 --> 00:07:39.759 Very different. Yep, totally get that. I'm going to finish up 119 00:07:39.759 --> 00:07:43.000 their email a little bit. They say coming from an overweight person who has 120 00:07:43.040 --> 00:07:46.759 tried everything and anything to the point where it is becoming unhealthy. I was 121 00:07:46.800 --> 00:07:49.480 ready to sign up from one of those surgeries that cost thirty thousand dollars not 122 00:07:49.560 --> 00:07:53.720 covered through insurance. So when these drugs were coming back with benefits of weight 123 00:07:53.759 --> 00:07:57.199 loss and can be even covered by insurance, just wanted to point out that 124 00:07:57.240 --> 00:08:01.360 some of these medications aren't just for one specific purpose US. Yes, lots 125 00:08:01.360 --> 00:08:03.000 of famous people who started taking it have created it to be a fad, 126 00:08:03.480 --> 00:08:07.519 but it's a lifestyle for some of us that are similar situations of health problems, 127 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:13.439 whether it is diabetes or obesity. Sidebar, but connected medications have side 128 00:08:13.439 --> 00:08:18.000 effects that are sometimes desirable. I think, Okay, I do one. 129 00:08:18.519 --> 00:08:26.199 I take a medication that is called finasteride, and finaster ride was originally and 130 00:08:26.279 --> 00:08:31.839 I take finasteride because it helps with hair loss, because some guys they if 131 00:08:31.879 --> 00:08:37.639 they're losing your hair genetically whatever, some people will respond like me to finasteride 132 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:41.159 where you get to keep your hair longer and it doesn't fall out as fast, 133 00:08:41.600 --> 00:08:46.559 and so I've got a decent head of hair, especially for somebody who's 134 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:50.960 my age, and I will attribute it to finasteride. Finasteride was not invented 135 00:08:50.960 --> 00:08:56.600 for hair loss prevention. It was invented I think for like varicose veins or 136 00:08:56.679 --> 00:09:00.679 something like that. I don't remember. But then they noticed a side effect 137 00:09:01.519 --> 00:09:05.600 was because they do mounds of research, they noted that men that had been 138 00:09:05.679 --> 00:09:11.320 losing their hair stopped losing their hair. Interesting, So there are side effects, 139 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:13.320 and that is not the only one. There's got to be a ton 140 00:09:13.399 --> 00:09:16.000 of drugs that do that. So I think the problem is just exactly what 141 00:09:16.000 --> 00:09:20.759 Falon said. You said it perfectly it's for people like Mindy Kaling. And 142 00:09:20.799 --> 00:09:24.639 then that's a whole other discussion. Why does Mindy Kaling feel the pressure to 143 00:09:24.720 --> 00:09:28.639 lose ten or fifteen pounds? Well, we all want to. I loved 144 00:09:28.720 --> 00:09:31.960 I've lost weight with Livia, but not because I had to because it was 145 00:09:31.960 --> 00:09:35.960 a health issue. It was just because I wanted to, you know, 146 00:09:35.039 --> 00:09:37.639 I wanted to look a little bit better. I told Falin, I said, 147 00:09:37.679 --> 00:09:41.120 I don't want to be the old guy with the belly. You know, 148 00:09:41.200 --> 00:09:43.120 you know what it is. It's the skinny old guy. He's got 149 00:09:43.200 --> 00:09:48.320 skinny arms, moderately thin legs, he's got the belly. I said, 150 00:09:48.320 --> 00:09:50.039 I don't like being that guy. I get that. Yeah, So I 151 00:09:50.039 --> 00:09:52.559 thought I'd work up and have all of me for you fast, starting with 152 00:09:52.559 --> 00:09:56.279 the neck. All right, what I want is the neck that goes from 153 00:09:56.279 --> 00:10:00.919 my chin right down to my nipples. Neck to nipple. Yeah, I'm 154 00:10:00.919 --> 00:10:05.879 gonna call the episode next to nipples. Thank you for that. Thank you 155 00:10:05.919 --> 00:10:09.519 for coming up with names of these episodes. Okay, here's one, totally 156 00:10:09.559 --> 00:10:11.720 random and short. It says, besides listen to you guys daily on the 157 00:10:11.759 --> 00:10:16.960 podcast, I started listening to the Copycat Killer podcast on iHeartRadio. It is 158 00:10:16.960 --> 00:10:22.440 so addicting and so good if you like true crime stories. I love podcast 159 00:10:22.559 --> 00:10:24.799 suggestions, so thank you for that one. I don't know for sure that 160 00:10:24.840 --> 00:10:28.519 I'll remember to check it out. I don't really listen to those anymore. 161 00:10:28.519 --> 00:10:31.120 I used to. I went through a phase where I listened to, like, 162 00:10:31.840 --> 00:10:33.679 yeah, true crime podcast, and now I don't. The closest I 163 00:10:33.720 --> 00:10:37.080 get is that one. I've talked about a lot. The National Park after 164 00:10:37.159 --> 00:10:41.440 dark. Sometimes they'll talk about sometimes they'll talk about a crime that happened in 165 00:10:41.440 --> 00:10:45.679 a national park, but it's not like what the base of the podcast is 166 00:10:45.720 --> 00:10:50.519 about. Okay, this one says another podcast one. Since we're just talking 167 00:10:50.559 --> 00:10:54.279 about podcast, Hi, guys, obligatory. You guys have the best been 168 00:10:54.279 --> 00:10:56.000 listening for twenty years. You guys get it, but seriously, love you 169 00:10:56.039 --> 00:10:58.639 guys. I'm sure either Jenny or Fallon, but I've heard it, but 170 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:01.320 I want to share it with you guys. It's a podcast called I've Had 171 00:11:01.360 --> 00:11:05.000 It. I originally found it on TikTok so. I attached a video if 172 00:11:05.000 --> 00:11:11.480 you want to check out a short clip. These ladies are I've had it. 173 00:11:11.759 --> 00:11:13.799 These ladies are freaking hilarious. They sometimes remind me of you guys when 174 00:11:13.840 --> 00:11:16.840 you go off on a rant. They go off about gender reveals, stick 175 00:11:16.840 --> 00:11:20.639 people, bumper stickers, people going slow and the self checkout lanes and tons 176 00:11:20.720 --> 00:11:24.360 more. Can I say that I love when you guys go off on rants. 177 00:11:24.360 --> 00:11:28.879 It reminds me that you were three normal people with normal lives, and 178 00:11:28.919 --> 00:11:31.600 your lives aren't perfect and things do piss you off. I'm a mom of 179 00:11:31.679 --> 00:11:35.960 three boys, and it's so refreshing when Falin goes on a little rant about 180 00:11:35.000 --> 00:11:39.960 olive. Another reason I love you all. Piggybacking off your talks about dogs 181 00:11:39.960 --> 00:11:41.840 peeing in the house. Do you guys get your dogs anal glands squeezed out 182 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:46.000 or emptied? Yes? One of my dog's been going NonStop licking his ass. 183 00:11:46.000 --> 00:11:48.320 I don't know how much Falin. I know how much Falin loves that 184 00:11:48.399 --> 00:11:52.759 sound. And now he's been scooting his nasty ass all over the rug in 185 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:56.320 the living room. Our vett, of course, is booked out for weeks. 186 00:11:56.559 --> 00:12:00.320 Animals are freaking disgusting. Sometimes I think you can get that done at 187 00:12:00.320 --> 00:12:03.360 the groomer, but probably call down and ask about that. You can also, 188 00:12:03.519 --> 00:12:05.960 honestly, you can do it yourself. I tried it with Josie one 189 00:12:05.000 --> 00:12:09.519 time. You get the rubber gloves. You watch the YouTube video. It 190 00:12:09.519 --> 00:12:11.799 did work, but not well enough that I didn't still have to get it 191 00:12:11.799 --> 00:12:18.720 done from the vet. You said the other day, you're gonna stop filon 192 00:12:18.879 --> 00:12:22.440 responding to every DM. Totally understandable. I'm sure you get a ton of 193 00:12:22.480 --> 00:12:24.360 them. I have to say, I've sent you a couple of dms and 194 00:12:24.399 --> 00:12:28.360 you've replied. I screenshot that shit, send it to my friend. It 195 00:12:28.559 --> 00:12:30.600 was a listener, and we think it's so cool. We're in our late 196 00:12:30.639 --> 00:12:33.039 thirties and that shit makes us so excited. So even though you can't respond 197 00:12:33.080 --> 00:12:35.720 to all of them, know the ones that you do respond to make our 198 00:12:35.799 --> 00:12:41.720 day all right. Taken up enough of your time. Goodbye, longtime listener, 199 00:12:41.720 --> 00:12:48.480 Shay, Thank you, sh Shay. I appreciate that I do try 200 00:12:48.480 --> 00:12:52.200 to respond to every single one, So yeah, I do too. Is 201 00:12:52.440 --> 00:12:56.639 because you know, I just feel like people think it's really nice when I 202 00:12:56.639 --> 00:13:01.399 do respond, and people are surprised when I respond, because you know, 203 00:13:01.480 --> 00:13:03.320 it takes me a couple of seconds. If they're like if they send a 204 00:13:03.360 --> 00:13:05.399 picture, or they go, oh my god, I can't believe you did 205 00:13:05.440 --> 00:13:09.279 that. Or oh my god, I heard that funny. That was funny. 206 00:13:09.320 --> 00:13:13.440 It just takes a couple of seconds to tap respond and say, hey, 207 00:13:13.519 --> 00:13:16.720 grat glad you love it like I'm glad you like the show, and 208 00:13:16.200 --> 00:13:18.080 you know. To me, it's like I try to do it, but 209 00:13:18.159 --> 00:13:22.159 there are some I don't think. I probably get as many as you do, 210 00:13:22.039 --> 00:13:26.320 but I try to respond to all of them. Last one four now, 211 00:13:28.360 --> 00:13:31.000 and I'm scrolling so I can open the whole thing. Here we go, 212 00:13:31.279 --> 00:13:33.279 Dave Fallon, Jenny Drake, you can say, im a n aim. 213 00:13:33.320 --> 00:13:37.159 It's Candice. I was catching up on the podcast. On four ten. 214 00:13:37.759 --> 00:13:41.600 You read an email about someone's shit grandma. Yeah, David mentioned maybe 215 00:13:41.600 --> 00:13:46.120 the grandma had a traumatic past, and while he didn't promote the concept of 216 00:13:46.200 --> 00:13:50.039 don't let it bother you in regards to trauma, it made me think how 217 00:13:50.159 --> 00:13:52.799 much education is still needed for us humans to understand what trauma can do to 218 00:13:52.840 --> 00:13:58.440 a person. I am a licensed marriage and family therapist with therapy and registered 219 00:13:58.480 --> 00:14:01.519 play therapist and trauma of the areas I specialize in. So here's a book 220 00:14:01.559 --> 00:14:05.559 recommendation. The body keeps the score by and I won't say their name, 221 00:14:05.600 --> 00:14:09.759 but it's a long name The Body keeps the Score. It's a heavy read, 222 00:14:09.960 --> 00:14:13.879 but really great and talks about the potential outcomes of trauma. I also 223 00:14:13.960 --> 00:14:20.480 recommended researching on YouTube for the video titled how childhood Trauma affects health across a 224 00:14:20.519 --> 00:14:24.840 lifetime. Trauma gets stuck in our bodies and brains and can have lasting impacts 225 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:28.679 if it's not worked through, treated, healed from, etc. I'm always 226 00:14:28.679 --> 00:14:31.600 trying to spread the word about trauma so there can be more empathy and compassion 227 00:14:31.679 --> 00:14:35.919 in the world. Anyway, thanks for the read. I don't know, 228 00:14:35.279 --> 00:14:41.679 I don't. I will say I never had any childhood trauma. My childhood 229 00:14:41.879 --> 00:14:46.679 was very typical standard fine, I don't have any child My mom and dad 230 00:14:46.679 --> 00:14:50.759 were great. Not all the time, but they were great. They may 231 00:14:50.840 --> 00:14:54.440 be very happy and felt me made me feel safe and loved and appreciated most 232 00:14:54.480 --> 00:15:00.159 of the time. I had some trauma go down a few years ago that 233 00:15:00.159 --> 00:15:03.080 Falin knows about that I never talked about on the radio, and that's still 234 00:15:03.159 --> 00:15:09.720 to this day keeps me from getting close to certain people, and it makes 235 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:13.679 me not want to trust somebody who wants to be my friend and so try. 236 00:15:13.840 --> 00:15:16.919 That was probably the most roy it was. I used to tell Falin 237 00:15:16.960 --> 00:15:18.600 it was the most traumatic thing I've been through other than the death of my 238 00:15:18.679 --> 00:15:24.360 parents, and it was very traumatic. And still to this day, if 239 00:15:24.399 --> 00:15:28.519 somebody is acting a little bit suspicious or odd, it absolutely triggers me. 240 00:15:28.639 --> 00:15:35.279 So I believe you understandably. So now Dave and I both we both know 241 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:39.480 each other's traumas, and now we're such good friends that we can bring them 242 00:15:39.519 --> 00:15:46.480 up in a joking manner, and that's the best we've gotten to the point. 243 00:15:46.559 --> 00:15:50.399 Like, I think it's interesting because you have to test it out early 244 00:15:50.919 --> 00:15:54.720 and you can tell real quick if someone's like, oh, they're not there 245 00:15:54.840 --> 00:16:00.240 yet, and then after you know, a few years, we really could 246 00:16:00.279 --> 00:16:03.720 just give it to each other and even some days will be like Nope, 247 00:16:03.759 --> 00:16:07.279 not today, and that other one's like okay, yep, yeah, because 248 00:16:07.279 --> 00:16:08.399 we get it. I think that's really and you know, it found an 249 00:16:08.440 --> 00:16:12.480 ideal with a lot of things through humor. Yes, Whereas if I were 250 00:16:12.519 --> 00:16:15.799 to bring up something with like, I know have friends that would not subscribe 251 00:16:15.799 --> 00:16:18.639 to that at all. And well, here's I'm gonna give you one more 252 00:16:18.639 --> 00:16:22.039 thought about trauma and fouling. You want to add anything to it, absolutely, 253 00:16:22.360 --> 00:16:26.919 but a lot of the time we don't know about somebody else's trauma. 254 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:30.240 You don't know, Let's say I don't know. Let's say that you were 255 00:16:30.320 --> 00:16:36.000 sexually assaulted when you were seventeen. You're not going to go around wearing that 256 00:16:36.080 --> 00:16:38.799 on a shirt. So most people don't know. So if somebody brings up 257 00:16:38.840 --> 00:16:42.240 something about that, they're not going to know that that still is affecting you. 258 00:16:42.480 --> 00:16:47.000 If you've got robbed at knife point on the UFM when you were a 259 00:16:47.080 --> 00:16:52.159 senior, holy shit, that's got to be very very traumatic. Yeah, 260 00:16:52.159 --> 00:16:57.120 even though you walked away safely, but you probably aren't going to tell people 261 00:16:57.159 --> 00:17:00.879 that, So that can come up somehow in a cod versation or a TV 262 00:17:00.960 --> 00:17:03.160 show, or you'll be sitting there fifteen years later on the couch with your 263 00:17:03.160 --> 00:17:07.960 new husband and somebody will get held up at that knife point and you're like, 264 00:17:07.039 --> 00:17:11.720 holy shit because it comes back at you. But your husband might not 265 00:17:11.880 --> 00:17:15.799 ever know that that was a problem. Right. So a lot of my 266 00:17:15.119 --> 00:17:21.799 point is we don't go around broadcasting our trauma, so people aren't aware that 267 00:17:21.839 --> 00:17:26.759 maybe they need to be gentler around you about certain things. Yes, for 268 00:17:26.880 --> 00:17:30.559 sure, I don't have much else to add to that. I think that 269 00:17:30.640 --> 00:17:33.680 you Yeah, you're right. Okay, thanks for all the emails. We 270 00:17:33.720 --> 00:17:45.400 appreciate that. Send more emails to Ryan's show at KDWB dot com.