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Welcome to Second Listen Saturday on the
Parenting Roundabout podcast, where we share some

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fun moments from a past episode for
your weekend listening pleasure. Look for new

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episodes every Monday through Friday. I
am confessing to a dumb mistake I made

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because as a parent, don't wait
too much. You know what, I'm

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handling everybody's business, and sometimes something
gets mixed up. It can happen.

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It's humiliating and mortifying. But let
me tell you my tale of woe.

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It was time to pay our property
tax, which is a ridiculously large amount.

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That's a whole other rant, and
it's due like on the first of

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August, but you have until the
tenth to pay it. But I was

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really good. I went on August
second. I went to the website of

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the city. I went on to
their incredibly antiquated pay online thing, because

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that's what I do now. I
don't go line up with all the senior

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citizens in city Hall. I pay
it online and you have to put in

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your checking out number. And I
grabbed the little box of checks I have

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next to my desk, grabbed a
check, typed in the number, checked

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it. Everything's great, paid it
got the acknowledgement that I paid wonderful.

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I kept checking my checking account because
I wanted to, you know, see

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who the money went out, so
i'd know how much I had left.

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And I'm looking and I'm looking in
like ten days go by, twelve days

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go by. Money still there.
So I'm thinking, well, you know,

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the system is pretty bad that they
have for paying online. They're probably

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just slow, but you know what, I'm gonna call the tax collector just

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in case. Well, they passed
me embarrassingly through a few people like like

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oh, you know, they look
at me up and they go, oh,

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let me pass you on to somebody
else. So finally again send I

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get passed to somebody else and they
say, oh, just a minute.

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And so finally the person tells me, well, the check the money was

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returned for insufficient funds from your bank, so you owe us thirty thirty five

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dollars for the fee for that,
plus you still owe us the taxes in

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a late fee. And so I
start going off, you know what,

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I paid it early, I paid
it on time. I could pay you

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a late fee. And I've looked
at my bank account. There was nothing

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in there. There was no insufficient
funds I had plenty of money, and

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my bank hasn't said anything. I'm
going on and on this lady's going,

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it's really not my problem. But
you know, I'm like, I know

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it's not your problem, but who
do I Who do I complain to about

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this? And she says, well, you can call the tax collector and

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all that. So I said,
okay, Well I'm first I was didn't

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call my bank. So there's a
representative at the bank that I talked to

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from time to time. So I
called him up and I said, can

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you see anything? They're saying it
was a return for insufficient funds And he

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looks up my thing and he says, oh, I see you have enough

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money. No, I don't see
anything. There was no check that went

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through. He said, is this
account such and such? So I grabbed

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at the box next to my desk
to look at the number and make sure.

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And that's the point at which I
noticed that in the box with our

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checks is one of my son's checks, which I had in there because I

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was setting up his direct deposit because
that's the kind of thing I do.

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And the terrible fund enterest in my
head did I enter. He was checking

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account number to pay our property tax, because he didn't have the money in

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there for that, and so I'm
kind of like stopping mid Rant to say

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me, it put the wrong number
in, and he's like, I bet

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you put the wrong number in,
because I see no proof of here of

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anything like that. And I said, well, let me check that,

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and then i'm you know, but
I'll be back because I'm sure I didn't

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do that. Back. We got
to get some proof. So I go

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online to my son's checking account,
which I know the passwords too, because

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I manage all that stuff. And
sure enough, there's the property tax charge,

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there's the bounced check. There's a
thirty five dollars fee on that end

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too, and oh my goodness,
I've just ranted at a whole bunch of

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people when it was my ridiculous mistake. So I had to put my tail

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between my legs and go over the
tax collector and find the lady who I

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had yelled at and say, well, I did a really stupid thing.

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I put on my son's checking account
number. Here's the check in the fees,

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and I'm sorry I yelled at you, but because I don't want to

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think that I'm just so looney that
I can't tell the difference between a check,

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his check and our checks. I
think it's because I'm doing too much,

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you know. I think it's because
I'm handling everybody's stuff. I think

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it's because, you know, my
desk has little bits of everybody's business on

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it. I am, you know, making a phone call for this one.

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I am setting up a payment for
that one. I am setting up

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my payments, my husband's payments.
I'm making phone calls for this. Do

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you guys feel that way sometimes?
Do you feel like you have so many

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balls in the air belonging to so
many different people that you cannot possibly be

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blamed if you drop one? Yes, that seems fair right to if people

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would you know, if if if
my son would set up his own direct

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deposit, this check wouldn't have been
on my desk, right, But he

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can't, and I want to be
in charge of all his finances, so

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okay, And you know, it's
it's true that some of these things are

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my responsibility because I take it.
But even so, but if you didn't,

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that's true, that that's where it
all right, hits the fan,

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because yes, someone's gotta do right, So yeah, I just it's just

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when something goes bad, it goes
bad. It's just stupid and annoying,

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an expensive way that they seems there
should be a grace, a grace,

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a option for this. If you
go there and you tell your sad story

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and people feel sorry for you,
because perhaps they are mothers too, they

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should be able to wipe away a
late fee, Like, yes, I

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was so proud of myself that I
paid it early because we just happened to

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have gotten, you know, a
bunch of paychecks in that week, and

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I thought I could pay this spill
me. Yeah, so stupid, so

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stupid. I can't believe I did
that. Have you guys ever done anything

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stupid like that? Mixed up an
account number or oh, I'm sure I

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have paid the wrong thing with the
wrong account. I think I called the

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bank just a couple of months ago, you know, I was looking at

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our bank statement and there was this
big, this big bill and it or

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this big you know withdrawal that have
happened, and I didn't recognize any of

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the information, you know, who
it was going to. I'm like,

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what is this? I call the
bank and like, I think this is

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a fraudulent charge and I don't know
what this is for and I want to,

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you know, reverse this charge and
you know this is this is fraud.

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And you know this patient person right
well, you know did you check

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this? Did you check that?
And finally I was like, uh yeah,

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I paid that. I totally Oh
no fraud. I'm like, okay,

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thanks, by the thanks for your
help. Oh surely we're not the

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only ones. They called him doing
it right, I have to. And

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just the other day, my son
needed something printed for his part of his

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script for his play that he's in. And you know, of course everybody

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was running late, and you know
I had been telling him for days,

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like we need to organize this,
we need to get this sorted out.

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Finally we went through it and figured
out which pages had to be printed because

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it was like a two hundred page
document. But he didn't need it at

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all, and so I we figured
it out. We started to print it,

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and he came downstairs to get ready
to leave. I'm like, well,

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where's your script? And then he
has to go back upstairs by the

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printer. He printed the whole thing. I did not burnt the whole thing

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on purpose, if that happened,
because it had completely shut down my computer,

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like every window was frozen. You
know, it was a whole No,

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I did not do this on purpose, druck me. I told it

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to only print certain pages, and
I was getting yeah him, I was

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getting you know, which really I
can't stand. Yeah. Plus the computer

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was completely not functioning, and the
times, yeah, oh yeah, there's

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definitely. There's lots of moments in
my day. I have failed to live

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up to my daughter's expectations, oh
dear, or I've done something dreadfully wrong

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and you know, whether it's moved
her key um looked at her text message

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while she was texting. Yeah,
inadvertently, of course, how dare you?

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I know there's a there was pretty
recently there was Annie get your gum

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cartoon like how to yeah, make
your team just I can't remember what it

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was hate you or you know,
how to drive them crazy? And it

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was like yeah, breathe you know, yes, yes, that one big

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time Yeah talk to strangers when you
just said like, oh what a cute

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talk like oh my god, how
could yeah Hamatoon I think was one of

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them, which is guaranteed to drive
my son in two fits of somebody,

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my dear you, I sing beautifully, yes, but now I own him

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thirty five bucks for the fee that
was taken out of I guess I should

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be I should be nice for a
while. Frustrating, just just I'm chagrined.

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Yeah, I hate when that happens, especially when you've got a good

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rant going, you know, and
then you have to you have to back

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down, really say never mind,
here, take your money, that's that's

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fine. It's the worst you know, I had. I had to go

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from right righteous indignation to self clothing
on a dime, not a little lightheaded

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afterwards. Not fair at all.
I'm not fair. Well, I'm sure

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this will happen to all of us
again, and we may return to share

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it here so that we can u