1 00:00:00,760 --> 00:00:04,719 For members only. Golf Smarter number three hundred and forty two, published on 2 00:00:04,799 --> 00:00:11,720 July seventeen, twenty twelve. Welcome to golf Smarter Mulligans, your second chance 3 00:00:11,800 --> 00:00:17,160 to gain insight and advice from the best instructors featured on the Golf Smarter podcast. 4 00:00:18,679 --> 00:00:24,760 Great Golf Instruction Never gets old. Our interview library features hundreds of hours 5 00:00:24,760 --> 00:00:30,320 of game improvement conversations like this that are no longer available in any podcast app. 6 00:00:30,359 --> 00:00:33,439 The regular golfer, they don't have the time to practice. A professional 7 00:00:33,520 --> 00:00:37,439 golfer that's his whole life practicing, getting in chave, being disciplined, and 8 00:00:37,520 --> 00:00:40,799 things like that. But you always have time to work on your mental game, 9 00:00:40,920 --> 00:00:44,520 whether you're at work or whether you're commuting. If you start understanding your 10 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:47,799 emotions, what affects your mental gain, Like when you're driving, if it's 11 00:00:47,840 --> 00:00:51,320 traffic, if you're getting angry, that's a great opportunity to work on your 12 00:00:51,359 --> 00:00:55,000 mental gain. Hey, I have a fact there's traffic, I'm getting upset. 13 00:00:55,320 --> 00:00:58,679 This is a good chance to work on my mental gain. And there's 14 00:00:58,920 --> 00:01:03,320 countless timestar in the day. When you run across the negative emotions. Most 15 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:07,000 people just accept their negative emotions during the daytime because it doesn't affect their performance 16 00:01:07,000 --> 00:01:17,159 as quickly as it does on the golf course. More of the mental keys 17 00:01:17,200 --> 00:01:23,120 to improve your golf with Michael Anthony. This is Golf Smarter, sharing tips 18 00:01:23,120 --> 00:01:27,319 and insights from golfers and golf professionals to help lower your score. It's worked 19 00:01:27,319 --> 00:01:33,239 for your host, Fred Green. Welcome back to Golf Smarter for members only. 20 00:01:33,280 --> 00:01:37,159 Michael, Hi, Fred, how you doing today? I'm doing fine. 21 00:01:37,200 --> 00:01:42,200 It's interesting. We recorded our first episode before the US Open and here 22 00:01:42,239 --> 00:01:46,200 we are a couple of days after the US Open and not something. You 23 00:01:46,239 --> 00:01:49,599 know, I don't spend a lot of time talking about the PGA Tour. 24 00:01:49,560 --> 00:01:53,799 I don't have the resources, but I have a television and I think the 25 00:01:53,840 --> 00:01:57,079 majors are a different story. And the fact that it was right here in 26 00:01:57,519 --> 00:02:00,239 the Bay Area, where you and I both live, it makes it kind 27 00:02:00,239 --> 00:02:01,079 of fun. Did you get a chance to go out there at all? 28 00:02:01,159 --> 00:02:04,719 I didn't get a chance to go out there. I was pretty much glued 29 00:02:04,719 --> 00:02:07,080 to this, you know, screen watching, watching everything was going on, 30 00:02:07,479 --> 00:02:10,719 and you know, all of a sudden, my girlfriend came in and she 31 00:02:10,759 --> 00:02:14,879 says, oh my god, I left my wallet, my purse and blah 32 00:02:14,960 --> 00:02:19,479 blah blah. So of course I had to come to her rescue and I 33 00:02:19,520 --> 00:02:23,000 miss I think the last four holes and when I left, h you know 34 00:02:23,080 --> 00:02:25,199 web Simps, then he was one shot behind, and when I came back, 35 00:02:25,240 --> 00:02:29,479 you know, he was kissing the trophy. Well, you know, 36 00:02:29,680 --> 00:02:32,280 I guess that's the difference of between having a wife and having a girlfriend. 37 00:02:32,439 --> 00:02:35,800 A girlfriend you were going to jump, and a wife you go, there's 38 00:02:35,800 --> 00:02:38,360 only three holes left. I'll be there in a minute. I'll be there 39 00:02:38,400 --> 00:02:46,120 at an hour. Well yeah, you missed it. And it's funny because 40 00:02:46,159 --> 00:02:52,520 I had I applied for credentials to go to go to the Open and didn't 41 00:02:52,560 --> 00:02:58,400 receive them, and was debating with one of my son's NonStop shall we go? 42 00:02:58,439 --> 00:03:00,120 Should we not go? Should we go? Should we not go? 43 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:06,800 He ended up going to one of the practice rounds and on Monday, I 44 00:03:06,919 --> 00:03:09,680 luckily, I've been too work wise, I've been too busy. I couldn't 45 00:03:09,719 --> 00:03:13,400 get away, and every day someone was calling me, going, you want 46 00:03:13,400 --> 00:03:16,960 to go today, I'm like, I can't, but I'll tell you I've 47 00:03:17,000 --> 00:03:21,439 been to professional golf tournaments and I know people are gonna be kicking me for 48 00:03:21,479 --> 00:03:24,800 this one, but I've been to professional golf tournaments and I just think it's 49 00:03:24,840 --> 00:03:30,400 better on television, just like football. I had no interest in fighting the 50 00:03:30,439 --> 00:03:32,400 crowd. I like to go to the bathroom when I want to go to 51 00:03:32,439 --> 00:03:38,719 the bathroom. And as I've talked about multiple times to me, when you're 52 00:03:38,759 --> 00:03:46,120 at a professional golf tournament, everything is happening somewhere else. You have no 53 00:03:46,159 --> 00:03:49,439 idea what's going on. So I've been to plenty of them in the past, 54 00:03:49,520 --> 00:03:53,000 and I find out you missed so much by being there. Yeah, 55 00:03:53,240 --> 00:03:55,680 you do. And I know I know that the excitement of saying I was 56 00:03:55,719 --> 00:03:59,520 at the US Open, Well, my son was there and he bought me 57 00:03:59,560 --> 00:04:01,840 a nice logo shirt, you know. So it's like, Okay, did 58 00:04:01,879 --> 00:04:05,240 you go. No. I watched it on TV like everybody else, and 59 00:04:05,280 --> 00:04:09,080 it was awesome. But here, so here's what happened. You're right, 60 00:04:09,159 --> 00:04:12,879 you you miss You're telling me what happened. I want to set this up 61 00:04:12,919 --> 00:04:16,560 because prior to it to the Open, I'm doing YouTube's now you know, 62 00:04:17,120 --> 00:04:20,480 mental golf tips on YouTube, and I was talking. I was talking about 63 00:04:20,480 --> 00:04:27,199 my one of my favorite subjects, which is outcome versus process goals and you 64 00:04:27,240 --> 00:04:30,120 know, to win the US Open. That's the outcome, that's the big 65 00:04:30,199 --> 00:04:31,839 deal. But you know, it's like to catch twenty two. If you 66 00:04:31,879 --> 00:04:34,240 want something, you can't have it. If you don't want it, you 67 00:04:34,279 --> 00:04:40,279 can have it. And people flew sight of the process. If you do 68 00:04:40,399 --> 00:04:45,079 the process and stay totally in the process, who's going to win the person 69 00:04:45,079 --> 00:04:47,800 who did the process better. And I made a point that you know, 70 00:04:48,360 --> 00:04:51,040 you know Tiger, he had just won the Memorial and he was really on 71 00:04:51,279 --> 00:04:54,920 fire, and the press was in I was Tiger going to be back? 72 00:04:55,319 --> 00:04:59,319 And I basically made a comment that, you know, Tiger's extreme desire. 73 00:04:59,439 --> 00:05:02,480 He probably has more desire to be successful than any golfer out there, you 74 00:05:02,519 --> 00:05:05,319 know, just by all the action that he takes to get ready. And 75 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:11,279 I says, his desire is so extreme and he's so focused on the outcome 76 00:05:11,319 --> 00:05:15,319 that that may prevent him from accomplishing it because it's going to keep him out 77 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:17,639 of the process, keep him out of the present. And sure enough, 78 00:05:17,639 --> 00:05:23,720 two days he was right there and then he disappeared. And you can talk 79 00:05:23,759 --> 00:05:28,639 about jim Yorick. Now, yeah, well, Tiger, you know I 80 00:05:30,680 --> 00:05:34,439 know that like this kid Hostler, the amateur who is just all the Ray. 81 00:05:34,759 --> 00:05:41,040 It's a pimple with a dimple. Uh huh. He's a kid participating 82 00:05:41,079 --> 00:05:44,399 in the US Open and he's pimply faced kid with braces. It's like, 83 00:05:46,240 --> 00:05:50,199 something's not right here. But he had game, he was awesome. Yeah, 84 00:05:51,040 --> 00:05:55,959 came back and made a birdie. Yeah. And I would suspect that 85 00:05:56,920 --> 00:06:00,519 he was all about the process. And I heard that he worked with with 86 00:06:00,720 --> 00:06:05,399 Rotella, And it's like, why should I be attached to the outcome because 87 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:09,600 I'm here and there's no way I'm going to win this thing. I'm going 88 00:06:09,639 --> 00:06:13,199 to do my best and hope for the best. But you have guys like 89 00:06:13,959 --> 00:06:21,199 Tiger who are who is winning is the only goal? Right? It's all 90 00:06:21,240 --> 00:06:26,120 about the outcome. It's not about participating, it's not about being there. 91 00:06:26,680 --> 00:06:34,079 It's it's winning. Yeah. And and is that for a competitive golfer? 92 00:06:34,639 --> 00:06:40,720 Is it wrong to want to win, to be focused on winning? No, 93 00:06:40,759 --> 00:06:45,000 it's just like I or is that not the outcome? Well, there's 94 00:06:45,040 --> 00:06:48,639 two goals. The outcome is to win and then the process are the you 95 00:06:48,639 --> 00:06:53,120 know, is are the steps that take to win? And there are many 96 00:06:53,160 --> 00:06:56,279 factors that go into it. And if you forget about the mental game, 97 00:06:56,639 --> 00:07:00,399 you're shooting yourself in the foot. And the whole key of the mental game 98 00:07:00,600 --> 00:07:03,639 is to stay in the moment, to stay in the present. And before 99 00:07:03,839 --> 00:07:08,000 you know the battle begins, you say, okay, my game plan is 100 00:07:08,040 --> 00:07:11,600 to win. Now, how you're going to win by staying in the present. 101 00:07:11,959 --> 00:07:15,160 And anytime you start, while you're you know, playing, start focusing 102 00:07:15,199 --> 00:07:19,360 on the outcome. You you create fear of losing. You're into the future. 103 00:07:19,399 --> 00:07:24,120 You're not into the president. When you make a bad shot, you're 104 00:07:24,240 --> 00:07:28,480 angry. You're in the past, you're not into the present. So in 105 00:07:28,600 --> 00:07:32,240 order to win, you have to forget all about winning and stay in the 106 00:07:32,279 --> 00:07:36,920 present. It's to Catch twenty two. It really is. Yeah, if 107 00:07:36,920 --> 00:07:40,600 you want it, you can't have it. If you don't want it, 108 00:07:40,600 --> 00:07:44,240 you'll have it. So like I t tell, you know, guy going 109 00:07:44,240 --> 00:07:46,000 for gold medals like Tacker, you know, you know, going for nineteen 110 00:07:46,040 --> 00:07:48,720 agers. I said, you know, nobody in the world's done this, 111 00:07:49,879 --> 00:07:55,800 and so you know, you don't have much room for error, and so 112 00:07:55,879 --> 00:07:59,839 you you set your sights on the outcome. But once you set your site, 113 00:07:59,839 --> 00:08:05,079 you put all the energy into the moment. Well, it was interesting 114 00:08:05,079 --> 00:08:09,680 on you know, because he played so well the first two days go into 115 00:08:09,680 --> 00:08:13,600 the week and Thursday and Friday, the buzz everywhere was this is it right, 116 00:08:13,759 --> 00:08:18,600 We're gonna do it. He's there, And then he had a difficult 117 00:08:18,759 --> 00:08:22,839 round but didn't knock himself out of play on Saturday. And then after the 118 00:08:22,879 --> 00:08:28,920 first four holes or even the first five holes on Sunday, you can hear 119 00:08:30,000 --> 00:08:35,200 TVs turning off all over the country. Yeah, you just hear click click, 120 00:08:35,240 --> 00:08:37,679 click click. The signal kept getting brighter and brighter and brighter as everyone 121 00:08:37,759 --> 00:08:41,639 was turning off their TVs because it was like, oh well, then, 122 00:08:41,759 --> 00:08:46,360 I'm you know, Furick is not the most dynamic personality, and Graham mcdoal's 123 00:08:46,399 --> 00:08:50,720 interesting. Yeah, I'll keep my eye on him. But I went Tiger 124 00:08:50,840 --> 00:08:52,279 Jim for a couple of minutes now, like you were talking about that, 125 00:08:52,320 --> 00:08:56,720 you know, when you missed that one shot, he just dropped his driver 126 00:08:56,759 --> 00:08:58,799 in frustration. Yeah, when he when he I think it was on. 127 00:09:01,200 --> 00:09:05,399 He was just doing so well and he doesn't show any emotion. He's just 128 00:09:05,679 --> 00:09:09,799 a stone face the whole time. You don't know what's going on. And 129 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:15,720 he hit a drive on sixteen. I think it was that just hard hook 130 00:09:15,879 --> 00:09:20,919 left and he swung his club in discuss he didn't slam it to the ground, 131 00:09:20,919 --> 00:09:24,320 but if there was a tree there, you could see he would maybe 132 00:09:24,320 --> 00:09:30,840 have wrapped his club around it. And and you it was the first time 133 00:09:30,879 --> 00:09:35,240 you saw him somewhat emotional, and you would think that, hopefully it's going 134 00:09:35,320 --> 00:09:37,799 to be gone by the time he gets to his ball and saw that he 135 00:09:37,840 --> 00:09:43,480 had a way to save it. But it just kind of spiraled down hill 136 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:48,240 after that. And you know, I don't want to use the choke word. 137 00:09:48,279 --> 00:09:54,200 Oh I just did, but but it's it's so fascinating where a guy 138 00:09:54,720 --> 00:09:58,559 bogi's a couple of holes and it's like, oh, he choked, Come 139 00:09:58,600 --> 00:10:03,080 on, he hit a couple of bogies. Well, the timing was poor, 140 00:10:03,679 --> 00:10:05,519 you know, it was the wrong time to hit a bogey. Yeah. 141 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:09,720 I don't know if that's choking, but he definitely was showing his emotion. 142 00:10:09,919 --> 00:10:15,360 And after he had one, he put one over in the rough, 143 00:10:15,919 --> 00:10:20,240 the rough h near a bunker, and and the ball just kind of went 144 00:10:20,240 --> 00:10:26,600 in a bizarre direction and he just, you know, got down practically on 145 00:10:26,639 --> 00:10:33,440 his knees and took the the shaft of his club and bit down on it, 146 00:10:33,559 --> 00:10:37,639 you know, like and that was just obvious. You so you can 147 00:10:37,679 --> 00:10:43,399 see that he was consumed with the outcome at that point. Oh yeah, 148 00:10:43,440 --> 00:10:46,799 where because it was so close he could taste it. I mean, that's 149 00:10:46,840 --> 00:10:50,799 the thing. He was so close. And that's when when you start getting 150 00:10:50,799 --> 00:10:54,080 so close, all of a sudden, your control over the metal game disappears, 151 00:10:54,080 --> 00:10:58,440 because you go into the future. You get concerned about the outcome, 152 00:10:58,759 --> 00:11:01,919 and then there it goes. Let's talk about the general golfer out there. 153 00:11:03,000 --> 00:11:05,679 You know, most of the golfers listing, you know, to the show, 154 00:11:05,720 --> 00:11:09,440 having weren't playing in the US Open. So and you say, how 155 00:11:09,440 --> 00:11:13,279 does this translate, you know, to you the golf right US is you 156 00:11:13,320 --> 00:11:16,879 know, it's common knowledge that most golfers have a better practice game than when 157 00:11:16,879 --> 00:11:20,039 they go to play. They can't take the practice game, you know, 158 00:11:20,360 --> 00:11:24,840 when they're playing around the golf And the whole reason behind that is they stop 159 00:11:24,960 --> 00:11:28,159 thinking, well, the range, you can miss the ball and you don't 160 00:11:28,159 --> 00:11:30,679 care. You hit another ball, You hit another ball, you hit another 161 00:11:30,720 --> 00:11:33,159 ball. But as soon as you go to play, you miss the ball, 162 00:11:33,200 --> 00:11:35,480 and all of a sudden, oh my god, there goes a score. 163 00:11:35,919 --> 00:11:39,639 You go You're just totally consumed about the outcome. Whereas on the range, 164 00:11:39,679 --> 00:11:48,519 you're just in the process. You know, on the range, you're 165 00:11:48,559 --> 00:11:50,120 on a nice you're on a mat, you're on the grass. It's flat, 166 00:11:50,240 --> 00:11:54,960 it's you know, it's you know mode grass. Yeah, all of 167 00:11:54,000 --> 00:11:58,360 a sudden you get on on the course and you have uneven lies, you 168 00:11:58,519 --> 00:12:01,320 have hard pen, you have thick rough. It's just so different. So 169 00:12:01,360 --> 00:12:05,799 I think what ends up happening is you just start tensing up, you start 170 00:12:05,840 --> 00:12:11,440 gripping you know, the club harder, and you breathe faster. And the 171 00:12:11,559 --> 00:12:18,200 last time that I remember being attached to my score during my round, I 172 00:12:18,320 --> 00:12:22,759 stepped up to the eighteenth hole going, all I have to do is bogie 173 00:12:22,759 --> 00:12:28,720 and I'm breaking eighty and I hit my driving the water done. I was 174 00:12:28,759 --> 00:12:31,120 like, why did I even say it. It's like you just don't talk 175 00:12:31,159 --> 00:12:37,519 about a guy pitching a no hitter during the game. He don't do it. 176 00:12:37,519 --> 00:12:43,080 It's just amazing. It's so simple, you know, on the conceptual 177 00:12:43,120 --> 00:12:46,559 basis that, yes, it's simple, conceptually, no question about it. 178 00:12:46,039 --> 00:12:50,720 And then that's the question, just like you know, doing one hundred push 179 00:12:50,799 --> 00:12:54,240 ups, the average person can't do one hundred push ups, including myself. 180 00:12:54,759 --> 00:12:58,320 Now, is it hard? To do one hundred push ups. It's actually 181 00:12:58,360 --> 00:13:03,200 pretty simple. If you just exercising on a daily basis and you start increasing 182 00:13:03,200 --> 00:13:07,120 the amount of pushups to do, you know, by one a week or 183 00:13:07,159 --> 00:13:11,080 maybe one or two a month, it's just a matter of time until you 184 00:13:11,080 --> 00:13:16,759 can do one hundred push ups. It's just the focus and the discipline. 185 00:13:16,840 --> 00:13:18,799 And it's well, Michael, that sounds like you're being attached to the outcome 186 00:13:18,840 --> 00:13:22,039 there. Well, no, it's not being attached to the outcome. You're 187 00:13:22,120 --> 00:13:26,919 focusing on getting to one hundred pushes. Well okay, Well that's first. 188 00:13:26,919 --> 00:13:30,360 You have to have an outcome goal. Ah, okay. Once you set, 189 00:13:30,440 --> 00:13:33,440 you go. Like I used to swim to San Francisco Bay, you 190 00:13:33,480 --> 00:13:37,159 know, I swam Alcatraz, I swam the Golden Gay Bridges and really, 191 00:13:37,440 --> 00:13:41,200 oh yeah, and it was a piece of cake. I used to jump 192 00:13:41,279 --> 00:13:45,919 in the water. I remember the Sunrise swimmers at six thirty morning. I 193 00:13:45,960 --> 00:13:48,720 was a member of the South End Rolling Club down at the foot of Aquatic 194 00:13:48,759 --> 00:13:52,720 Park at Hyde Street, and we would jump in Monday through Friday at six 195 00:13:52,840 --> 00:13:56,240 thirty summertime. Wintertime didn't make any difference. We'd swim all or two every 196 00:13:56,320 --> 00:14:00,519 day. You know during the week and during a week ends. You know, 197 00:14:01,279 --> 00:14:05,679 I'd still swim on Saturday and Sunday, and so I was in phenomenal 198 00:14:05,759 --> 00:14:09,840 shape. So the swim alcoatraz with golden gay bridge was no big deal. 199 00:14:09,879 --> 00:14:15,120 And in those days, we weren't using these wetsuits. No wetsuits allowed because 200 00:14:15,240 --> 00:14:18,159 they were for sissies. You were your little speedo and a little bathing cap 201 00:14:18,360 --> 00:14:22,440 and that was it. Wow, even during the dead of winter. And 202 00:14:22,480 --> 00:14:26,879 that's mental training. Need to get yourself to jump in that water. You 203 00:14:26,960 --> 00:14:31,320 know when it's pitch blackout in January and you know it's freezing holding for oh 204 00:14:31,360 --> 00:14:33,960 my god. But anyway, if I try to do it now, I 205 00:14:33,000 --> 00:14:37,879 would drown. There's no way I'm not in physical condition. It's the same 206 00:14:37,919 --> 00:14:41,360 thing with the mental game. If you can start training your mind that every 207 00:14:41,399 --> 00:14:45,840 time you catch yourself focusing on the outcome, and a lot of times you 208 00:14:45,919 --> 00:14:50,480 do this after you played around the golf, you critique yourself and like we 209 00:14:50,559 --> 00:14:54,840 talked before on the Golf Smarter you know podcast that we did a couple of 210 00:14:54,879 --> 00:14:56,759 years ago. You know those tapes we used to talk about the tape. 211 00:14:56,919 --> 00:15:01,080 You know how Star tips your brain record everything in your program to repeat your 212 00:15:01,120 --> 00:15:05,679 past. And you're if you thought about you know, the outcome in the 213 00:15:05,720 --> 00:15:09,200 past, you're going to think about it in the future unless after the round. 214 00:15:09,240 --> 00:15:13,559 Look golf, you sit there and you talk to yourself and say, 215 00:15:13,600 --> 00:15:16,399 tape in the future the next time I play. Anytime I start thinking about 216 00:15:16,399 --> 00:15:20,919 the outcome, I'm going to snap my fingers and tell myself forget it. 217 00:15:20,000 --> 00:15:26,080 Let's get back into the present. Let's take another deep breath and slowly exhale, 218 00:15:26,360 --> 00:15:28,799 or you know, change my chemistry and then start playing. Like on 219 00:15:28,879 --> 00:15:31,200 the eighteenth hole when you said, all I have to do is don't hit 220 00:15:31,200 --> 00:15:35,399 it into water. You know, you've got to catch yourself. And if 221 00:15:35,399 --> 00:15:37,799 you didn't catch yourself after the round, you have to say the next time 222 00:15:37,840 --> 00:15:41,799 I play, I you know, when I start talking about the outcome, 223 00:15:43,240 --> 00:15:46,360 I have to step away from the ball, have a talk to myself and 224 00:15:46,399 --> 00:15:50,039 say, Fred, knock it off. You're thinking about the outcome. Let's 225 00:15:50,039 --> 00:15:52,399 get back into the present and just see what happens. Take a couple of 226 00:15:52,480 --> 00:15:56,679 deep breasts, exhale, get into the present, step up and hit the 227 00:15:56,720 --> 00:16:00,720 ball. But you've got to do that over and over and over, so 228 00:16:00,759 --> 00:16:07,600 it becomes instinctive. Makes sense, Yes, it does. It takes it 229 00:16:07,639 --> 00:16:11,080 again, and we're going back to in theory. Yeah, it's not theory, 230 00:16:11,120 --> 00:16:12,759 it's in reality. It's a question of how strong is your desire. 231 00:16:14,039 --> 00:16:18,759 Most people have very weak desires. Unfortunately. I mean, I don't want 232 00:16:18,759 --> 00:16:22,600 to get on the soapbuck to look at the people in the United States. 233 00:16:22,879 --> 00:16:27,440 Most of them are abese. They're overweight, right, you know, it's 234 00:16:27,519 --> 00:16:30,399 not too hard to get not to be overweight. All you do is stop 235 00:16:30,559 --> 00:16:36,960 stop beating so much and start exercising and cut back on the suitets. Simple, 236 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:41,919 but most people don't. Discipline is a very self discipline. Self discipline. 237 00:16:41,039 --> 00:16:45,159 Before you're gonna have discipline, you have to have desire. Interesting, 238 00:16:45,480 --> 00:16:49,000 Once you have desire, you set a goal and an outcome goal, and 239 00:16:49,039 --> 00:16:55,159 then you start doing the process. And that's what That's what life bulls down 240 00:16:55,200 --> 00:16:57,080 to, That's what golf balls down to. That's what all sports boil down 241 00:16:57,159 --> 00:17:02,360 to. Doing the work, go in the process, improve the process, 242 00:17:02,360 --> 00:17:07,759 the results, take care of themselves. Nice forget about winning. You know. 243 00:17:07,920 --> 00:17:15,200 We did a We had an episode of Golf Smarter in early two thousand 244 00:17:15,200 --> 00:17:18,799 and eleven, episode number two hundred and seventy four. I just look up 245 00:17:18,839 --> 00:17:23,039 okay, two hundred and seventy four with Mel Soul. Are you familiar with 246 00:17:23,160 --> 00:17:30,960 Mel Soul played the South African PGA Tour PGA Professional and his whole thing is 247 00:17:30,119 --> 00:17:40,039 NATO golf and Ato not attached to outcome NATO golf. Yeah, so you 248 00:17:40,079 --> 00:17:42,160 know, it's not like you're the first person. We're the only person talking 249 00:17:42,200 --> 00:17:45,640 about that. Is this is the basic rule? Right? Yeah? Everybody 250 00:17:45,680 --> 00:17:49,599 knows that, but nobody does it right. And you know, and I 251 00:17:49,640 --> 00:17:52,359 always always say, if you know something and you're not doing it, you 252 00:17:52,359 --> 00:17:56,799 don't know it, because if you really knew it, you wouldn't do it. 253 00:17:57,480 --> 00:18:02,359 Yeah, right, yeah, exactly. It's uh. I brought this 254 00:18:02,440 --> 00:18:04,799 up at the end of the last episode, and I do want to pursue 255 00:18:04,799 --> 00:18:11,319 this, and that would be personality types, okay, And there are multiple 256 00:18:11,400 --> 00:18:21,200 personality types, especially in golf but in life in general, and they manifest 257 00:18:21,240 --> 00:18:25,119 themselves in different ways on the golf course, whether they're attached to outcome or 258 00:18:25,160 --> 00:18:30,200 not. How do how does that come into play? And what do you 259 00:18:30,279 --> 00:18:37,480 recognize as the different personality types or does this not play into your teachings? 260 00:18:37,599 --> 00:18:41,440 No, it plays totally into the teaching. Really, you go back to 261 00:18:41,519 --> 00:18:45,920 the tape. You know, your tape starts working six months after conception. 262 00:18:47,039 --> 00:18:48,880 You know, while you're still in your mother's room. It'll record everything through 263 00:18:48,880 --> 00:18:55,279 your entire life. And some people have different set points. Now, for 264 00:18:55,359 --> 00:19:00,839 some reason, people respond, they get angry very quickly, and that's a 265 00:19:00,880 --> 00:19:03,880 particular set point. You know, it's on their particular tape, and that's 266 00:19:03,680 --> 00:19:08,160 they call them a personality, a type, or whatever it is. But 267 00:19:08,240 --> 00:19:15,200 your personality type is just a reflection of your emotional response to certain facts on 268 00:19:15,240 --> 00:19:18,240 your tape. I've done a lot of one on one consultations, you know 269 00:19:18,279 --> 00:19:22,200 with athletes, not only just golfers, but you know, boxers, weightlifters, 270 00:19:22,240 --> 00:19:26,000 football players, you know, you name it, and we always get 271 00:19:26,000 --> 00:19:30,000 into the emotions. And I always, you know, once I explain the 272 00:19:30,039 --> 00:19:33,680 tape, and I said, your thoughts have two components, facts and emotions. 273 00:19:33,000 --> 00:19:37,279 And when you see a fact and if you have a negative response to 274 00:19:37,319 --> 00:19:40,759 it, it throws your chemistry off and takes away from your performance. And 275 00:19:40,799 --> 00:19:45,079 then I'll ask my point out the four major negatives hate, greed, jealousy, 276 00:19:45,119 --> 00:19:48,640 and fear and hates a strong word, but just say anger and that 277 00:19:48,000 --> 00:19:55,680 out of those four things, fear is the number one, the negative emotion 278 00:19:55,799 --> 00:20:00,440 that comes up vast majority of the times. And then after that anger comes 279 00:20:00,519 --> 00:20:04,559 up. And so you could talk about personality types. You've got one person 280 00:20:04,720 --> 00:20:10,400 to personality type that gets angry at the flash you know, of a button, 281 00:20:11,640 --> 00:20:14,480 and other people at Jim Puoric. It takes a lot to get him 282 00:20:14,519 --> 00:20:18,720 angry. But he got angry because he was thinking about the outcome, whereas 283 00:20:18,759 --> 00:20:25,559 if with a Rory Sabatinio, you know, he gets real quick Tiger Woods, 284 00:20:25,559 --> 00:20:29,079 if he starts missing the outcome, you can just start counting, Okay, 285 00:20:29,119 --> 00:20:32,880 how many more misses before he starts throwing his club or starts spitting on 286 00:20:32,920 --> 00:20:37,680 a green, or starts cussing. And so that's your personality types. When 287 00:20:37,680 --> 00:20:41,599 he's winning, he's coolure And so you can almost look at every player on 288 00:20:41,839 --> 00:20:48,519 tour, and the vast majority of them have fear as their dominant negative emotion, 289 00:20:48,720 --> 00:20:59,039 and there's several of them that are very obvious that have anger. There's 290 00:20:59,079 --> 00:21:04,480 been so much converse, so much talk about the intimidation factor the Tiger when 291 00:21:04,559 --> 00:21:11,839 he is on not only does he have he must you know, love possessing 292 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:18,319 it. That when he starts to make his move, will when he when 293 00:21:18,319 --> 00:21:22,759 he was making his move and he had the lead on Sunday, it would 294 00:21:22,759 --> 00:21:33,680 be an intimidation element to everybody on the course. How how do you make 295 00:21:33,720 --> 00:21:40,759 that work for yourself? How do you do that in competition? And how 296 00:21:40,759 --> 00:21:45,519 do you avoid being intimidated? You have to study a little bit. The 297 00:21:45,559 --> 00:21:49,319 first one is you have to understand that your your nervous system, you know, 298 00:21:49,720 --> 00:21:55,279 is a combination of neurons and then biochemicals. Neurons and biochemicals, so 299 00:21:55,400 --> 00:22:00,279 your nervous system is actually an alternating current. All alternating currents create an electromagnetic 300 00:22:00,319 --> 00:22:04,759 field, which are infinite in nature. When you're dealing with somebody like Tiger 301 00:22:06,000 --> 00:22:11,559 was who is super super confident, his electromagnetic field is so strong that anybody 302 00:22:11,599 --> 00:22:18,039 around him can pick up on it, and if they feel it, you 303 00:22:18,079 --> 00:22:23,359 know, it just starts. If a person doesn't have an equally strong magnetic 304 00:22:23,440 --> 00:22:27,480 field, they've had it. There's no way they're going to combine it. 305 00:22:27,640 --> 00:22:32,000 The only way you can combat it is just basically acknowledge it. Okay, 306 00:22:32,279 --> 00:22:36,839 this guy has a superior talent than I have, and the only prayer that 307 00:22:36,920 --> 00:22:40,880 I have of beating him is to get into his mind. He's confident, 308 00:22:41,160 --> 00:22:44,279 but all I want to do is just play him even because if I can 309 00:22:44,319 --> 00:22:48,160 play him even, I'm going to create doubt in his mind. And to 310 00:22:48,240 --> 00:22:51,400 explain how this could work in a different sport, to make it easier to 311 00:22:51,519 --> 00:22:53,759 visualize. I was working with the boxer at one time. It was a 312 00:22:53,839 --> 00:22:57,480 lightweight, left handy, left hander, and he was really good. He 313 00:22:57,519 --> 00:23:00,960 was fast. He was like a left handed cash as clay, you know, 314 00:23:00,039 --> 00:23:03,359 Muhammad Alan. And he would say, yeah, I get into these 315 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,480 fights and when all of a sudden, these guys start coming after me with 316 00:23:07,519 --> 00:23:10,000 all they have, and I would say, Rudy, take a look at 317 00:23:10,039 --> 00:23:12,039 what you're talking about. He was so good. He would start beating the 318 00:23:12,079 --> 00:23:15,960 guy and the guy was going down. He knew that if he didn't come 319 00:23:15,000 --> 00:23:18,200 back, you know, he was history. Rudy pretty much would win the 320 00:23:18,200 --> 00:23:22,440 match. So the guy would come after Rudy with all the ounce of his 321 00:23:22,480 --> 00:23:25,640 courage, because you know, when your life's on the line, you use 322 00:23:25,720 --> 00:23:27,920 all the energy that you have at your resources. And I says Rudy, 323 00:23:27,960 --> 00:23:33,400 when somebody does that, that means he's all set to get to the surrender. 324 00:23:33,039 --> 00:23:36,880 So all you have to do is play him even you don't even worry. 325 00:23:36,960 --> 00:23:38,400 Just play him even, let him give you your best shot. And 326 00:23:38,519 --> 00:23:41,240 after a while, after he gets sending you all of his best shots, 327 00:23:41,279 --> 00:23:45,440 he's going to say, oh my god, I did everything I could under 328 00:23:45,440 --> 00:23:48,519 my power, and this guy's still playing the evening I said, then step 329 00:23:48,559 --> 00:23:51,319 it up and he'll wilt, just like that, he says. Michael, 330 00:23:51,319 --> 00:23:53,599 it's a miracle. He says. It works every time. And that's the 331 00:23:53,599 --> 00:23:57,000 same thing. If you're playing against a person who's intimidating you, all you 332 00:23:57,039 --> 00:24:00,160 can do is say, I'm going to play the guy even till I can 333 00:24:00,200 --> 00:24:03,400 put doubt in his mind, which will take away from his confidence. And 334 00:24:03,440 --> 00:24:07,200 as soon as you put doubt in his mind, he's gone. Like he 335 00:24:07,279 --> 00:24:08,960 used to say, the devil's greatest tool is doubt. You put a doubt 336 00:24:08,960 --> 00:24:15,640 in the person's mind, they can't perform as well. Interesting. Yeah, 337 00:24:15,680 --> 00:24:19,079 it really does. It's very interesting too, putting doubt in someone's mind. 338 00:24:19,119 --> 00:24:23,680 Just play with him, I mean, just stay with him, or stay 339 00:24:23,680 --> 00:24:29,599 one step ahead of him. But then it'll affect how they performed. Let 340 00:24:29,599 --> 00:24:33,759 me tell you tell you a good example. I used to be really good 341 00:24:33,759 --> 00:24:37,039 at playing you know shuffleboard, barroom shuffle board where you throw those little pucks 342 00:24:37,039 --> 00:24:41,480 down the table. Yeah, And one day I was playing. I don't 343 00:24:41,480 --> 00:24:44,400 play too much anymore, but there was just like the short game of golf. 344 00:24:44,440 --> 00:24:47,759 I was really good good. I mean, I was like Tiggerwood's the 345 00:24:47,759 --> 00:24:52,160 shuffleboard table. And this one guy showed up and he was a really good 346 00:24:52,200 --> 00:24:55,640 shape, you know, a little bit bigger than me. And I said, 347 00:24:55,640 --> 00:24:59,039 oh my god, this guy's pretty pretty awesome. You could feel his 348 00:24:59,279 --> 00:25:02,119 energy. And so we played. It was a tough game, but I 349 00:25:02,599 --> 00:25:04,319 ended up beating him. And after it was over, he said, oh, 350 00:25:04,400 --> 00:25:07,400 he says, let me buy you a drink. I said, okay. 351 00:25:07,519 --> 00:25:10,880 He says you intimidated me, and I don't get intimidated. I said, 352 00:25:10,880 --> 00:25:11,839 well, what do you mean. He said, well, every time 353 00:25:11,880 --> 00:25:15,519 you made you you played, whether you made a shot or missed a shot, 354 00:25:15,559 --> 00:25:21,160 your attitude never changed. He says, nothing ever affected you. And 355 00:25:21,200 --> 00:25:22,680 I said, well, thank you very much. I said, well what 356 00:25:22,720 --> 00:25:26,440 do you do. He said, well, I'm my coach wrestling. And 357 00:25:26,480 --> 00:25:29,880 he said I'm also the lead man for a swat team. And I said 358 00:25:29,920 --> 00:25:32,519 wow. I said, well, what does a lead man for a swat 359 00:25:32,559 --> 00:25:34,519 team do He says, I'm the first guy through the door, and I 360 00:25:34,519 --> 00:25:38,119 got to take out my man on the right or before he shoots me. 361 00:25:40,119 --> 00:25:42,599 And I said, well, do you ever have any fear? He says 362 00:25:42,720 --> 00:25:45,799 no. I said, well, I'm a mental trainer. I says, 363 00:25:45,839 --> 00:25:48,440 how do you get over the fear? He says, it's training, training, 364 00:25:48,559 --> 00:25:52,799 training, training. You train so many times that you never ever think 365 00:25:52,880 --> 00:25:57,160 about getting shot. You're so focused on doing your job, doing the process 366 00:25:59,400 --> 00:26:00,680 that you never think about the outcome. And I said, do you ever 367 00:26:00,720 --> 00:26:03,440 have any fear? He's the only fear I have is that my partner, 368 00:26:03,720 --> 00:26:07,920 you know, doesn't take out his men, you know. And he says 369 00:26:07,960 --> 00:26:11,079 other than that, he says no. And so it's the same thing, 370 00:26:11,319 --> 00:26:14,680 whether it's being the lead man of a swat team, playing golf, playing 371 00:26:14,720 --> 00:26:21,039 basketball, selling everything, it all comes down to the mental game, and 372 00:26:21,079 --> 00:26:25,839 people don't put the time into understand it. Mostly. It's interesting that you 373 00:26:26,000 --> 00:26:27,480 Yeah, it's interesting that you say selling. Now, all of a sudden, 374 00:26:27,519 --> 00:26:34,440 we've we've gone beyond sports and and getting into you know, our professional 375 00:26:34,480 --> 00:26:42,160 lives because we're not professional athletes. That's our passion, right, How do 376 00:26:42,240 --> 00:26:48,920 you approach because again, especially selling, it's all about outcome. Yeah, 377 00:26:48,920 --> 00:26:52,920 I want to sell a lot of books. I want to Yeah, right, 378 00:26:52,079 --> 00:26:56,559 I want to sell. I want to increase my my revenue stream. 379 00:26:56,599 --> 00:27:02,079 I want to increase my commissions. It's all about selling. Yeah, how 380 00:27:02,079 --> 00:27:04,240 do you do you work with people like that? And how are you able 381 00:27:04,240 --> 00:27:08,640 to help without talking about the outcome? You always have to talk about the 382 00:27:08,680 --> 00:27:12,279 outcome to get your goal. You know, don't forget you know, you 383 00:27:12,279 --> 00:27:15,039 don't forget about the outcome. You say, Okay, this is my goal. 384 00:27:15,119 --> 00:27:18,119 I want to win. I want to sell. I want to whatever 385 00:27:18,160 --> 00:27:22,400 the outcome is. And once you set your sites and you say, okay, 386 00:27:22,440 --> 00:27:26,640 now what processes do I have to do in order to accomplish that? 387 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:30,559 And it's just like in selling, the whole goal is it's it's you know, 388 00:27:30,640 --> 00:27:34,880 see, business has a distorted values. They're all about making money. 389 00:27:36,599 --> 00:27:38,640 They don't care if they're doing a good job or a bad job. They 390 00:27:38,680 --> 00:27:42,119 want to know am I making money? And I say that there are some 391 00:27:42,279 --> 00:27:47,079 businesses that are really good. But from my experience, I try to take 392 00:27:47,119 --> 00:27:51,279 my program into the business world years ago and I left it because it requires 393 00:27:51,279 --> 00:27:55,480 total honesty. Business would rather make a buck than be totally honest. And 394 00:27:55,519 --> 00:27:59,319 I challenge any corporation out there they want to put my program in, they'll 395 00:27:59,680 --> 00:28:03,720 have to take a look at their product line. Either you're benefiting your customer 396 00:28:03,880 --> 00:28:07,960 or you're not. And most people are more concerned how can I make more 397 00:28:07,039 --> 00:28:12,720 money and get away with shaving my products value and still have enough value to 398 00:28:12,720 --> 00:28:17,480 please my customer. So from that point of view, I sound kind of 399 00:28:17,480 --> 00:28:21,720 cynical. It's just I'm repeating. I'm just reporting the facts of life that 400 00:28:21,799 --> 00:28:26,880 are out there. And but but if you find a good product that you 401 00:28:26,960 --> 00:28:30,839 can you can that provides benefit, it's an easy thing to sell. All 402 00:28:30,880 --> 00:28:34,799 you have to do is go in and start talking to the prospect and explain 403 00:28:34,839 --> 00:28:38,319 to them why they're going to benefit from it instead of being you know, 404 00:28:38,400 --> 00:28:42,200 and they and their big thing is they're afraid of making a mistake, and 405 00:28:42,240 --> 00:28:47,720 so you have to overcome their fear. And if you think about their their 406 00:28:47,759 --> 00:28:52,200 best interests, I'm here to help you. And like solar, Solar is 407 00:28:52,200 --> 00:28:56,880 a very interesting thing. It's really hot right now and it's very beneficial. 408 00:28:57,039 --> 00:29:03,000 You pay your utility bill on your PG and e yes, okay, now, 409 00:29:03,039 --> 00:29:07,279 if you stop your tilly bill, they cut off your electrizy, right, 410 00:29:07,680 --> 00:29:10,359 yeah, right, Okay, what's your average utility bill a month? 411 00:29:10,400 --> 00:29:12,359 Only? Oh, I'm not even gonna go there. Okay, let's say 412 00:29:12,559 --> 00:29:18,759 it's two hundred dollars. I will say that it went down fifty bucks last 413 00:29:18,759 --> 00:29:22,400 month because I installed Nest in my house and they now carry at the Apple 414 00:29:22,400 --> 00:29:27,519 store. If you have not checked out Nest dot com and get a learning 415 00:29:27,640 --> 00:29:32,519 thermostat, that's my outside of golf tip for today. Check out the learning 416 00:29:32,559 --> 00:29:37,079 thermostat Nest Nest dot com. Awesome. Okay, so yeah, pgn E 417 00:29:37,160 --> 00:29:41,359 bill interviewing. You know, if you really take a look at the technologies 418 00:29:41,359 --> 00:29:48,240 advanced so far that you can actually put in a solar system for less money, 419 00:29:48,640 --> 00:29:52,480 you know, financing it than what you're paying your utility bill. Let's 420 00:29:52,480 --> 00:29:56,279 say your tilly bill is two hundred dollars and it costs you seventy five dollars 421 00:29:56,319 --> 00:29:57,839 to finance. To think, so you're putting one hundred and twenty five dollars 422 00:29:57,920 --> 00:30:03,839 into your pocket every month, you know, and hey, that's you know, 423 00:30:03,880 --> 00:30:06,839 that's a great thing. Pleasure. You're helping out the economy. And 424 00:30:06,880 --> 00:30:10,319 so a salesperson, all they have to do is overcome a person's objective. 425 00:30:10,720 --> 00:30:12,039 They say, well, gee, I can't afford it. I said, 426 00:30:12,039 --> 00:30:15,000 well, you pay PG and need, don't you. And they said yeah. 427 00:30:15,079 --> 00:30:18,119 And I said, well, why don't you just stop paying them and 428 00:30:18,200 --> 00:30:22,799 get yourself a solar system, pay the solar and the and the money left 429 00:30:22,839 --> 00:30:26,079 over, you know, buy groceries with it, or take your way to 430 00:30:26,319 --> 00:30:27,880 you know, to a movie or whatever you want. You know, so 431 00:30:27,960 --> 00:30:32,799 you're throwing money away. Now, that's the very simple product to sell, 432 00:30:33,119 --> 00:30:38,039 as long as you're strong and you and you overcome a person's objective. It's 433 00:30:38,160 --> 00:30:41,920 what they're what they're doing. They're saying I can't afford it. They didn't 434 00:30:41,920 --> 00:30:44,759 spend the time to find out they can afford it, and they're better off 435 00:30:44,799 --> 00:30:48,160 doing it than not doing it. It's a battle of wills, and if 436 00:30:48,200 --> 00:30:52,079 you're a strong sales person you can explain that to them. Yes, I 437 00:30:52,200 --> 00:30:56,160 understand. However, did you look at this, it's it's all mental. 438 00:30:56,759 --> 00:31:03,240 Life is mental. I've been accus is being mental, but that's something else 439 00:31:03,279 --> 00:31:15,000 all together. What sports have you encountered that this topic is just not as 440 00:31:15,039 --> 00:31:22,519 important as it is. In golf at the high level, there's it's it's 441 00:31:22,559 --> 00:31:26,240 discussed quite a bit, is that right? Oh yeah, just because once 442 00:31:26,279 --> 00:31:30,440 you get to that level, at a high level, I guess once you 443 00:31:30,519 --> 00:31:34,640 get there, the talent level talent. Yeah, once the talent level is 444 00:31:34,759 --> 00:31:40,200 at a professional, high end, major league type level, I would think 445 00:31:40,200 --> 00:31:45,720 that there's very very little that separates the goods from the greats. That's that's 446 00:31:45,799 --> 00:31:48,119 you're correct, And it's all mental, just like a baseball really you know, 447 00:31:48,240 --> 00:31:52,079 like you know why Cy Young winner one year and all of a sudden 448 00:31:52,039 --> 00:31:57,119 I have a hard time winning the next year. Does talent disappear? Mental? 449 00:31:57,720 --> 00:32:00,319 Yeah, you know, so air resport, when you get up to 450 00:32:00,359 --> 00:32:06,559 the high level, it's all mental, you know, unless you have certain 451 00:32:06,960 --> 00:32:09,559 god given talents. But even still, god given talents don't win all the 452 00:32:09,559 --> 00:32:14,160 time because some people, you know, take you know, get in there 453 00:32:14,200 --> 00:32:17,920 and the god given talent talent person, you know, he chokes, he 454 00:32:19,000 --> 00:32:22,160 starts thinking about the outcome, he gets out of his game. But the 455 00:32:22,160 --> 00:32:27,960 best ones always get into the process. Michael Jordan, he was totally into 456 00:32:28,039 --> 00:32:31,880 the process, you know, And you know, people do miracles, you 457 00:32:31,920 --> 00:32:36,079 know, just like golfers, Like when Tagger was in the role he was 458 00:32:36,079 --> 00:32:42,640 in the process. And but you know, just you just like the regular 459 00:32:42,640 --> 00:32:45,160 golfer. The regular golfer, they don't have the time to practice, or 460 00:32:45,160 --> 00:32:47,720 they don't choose to take the time to practice. But most of them just 461 00:32:47,759 --> 00:32:51,880 don't have the time, you know. Like a professional golfer, that's his 462 00:32:51,920 --> 00:32:54,920 whole life. It's practicing, getting in shape, being disciplined, and things 463 00:32:55,039 --> 00:33:00,000 like that. But you always have time to work when your mental game, 464 00:33:00,640 --> 00:33:04,240 because whether you're at work or whether you're commuting. You know, if you 465 00:33:04,279 --> 00:33:08,799 start understanding it your emotions, what affects your mental game and your tape, 466 00:33:08,799 --> 00:33:12,640 you're going to repeat your emotions, Like when you're driving, if it's traffic, 467 00:33:12,680 --> 00:33:15,079 if you're getting angry, that's a great opportunity to work on your mental 468 00:33:15,119 --> 00:33:19,759 game. Hey, I got to understand I have a factor's traffic, I'm 469 00:33:19,759 --> 00:33:22,960 getting upset. This is a good chance to work on my mental game, 470 00:33:24,680 --> 00:33:29,680 you know. And there's countless times during the day, you know, when 471 00:33:29,680 --> 00:33:36,960 you run across negative emotions, and most people they just accept their negative emotions 472 00:33:37,000 --> 00:33:40,160 during the daytime because it doesn't affect their performance as quickly as it does on 473 00:33:40,200 --> 00:33:45,079 a golf course. But you can practice your mental game all day long and 474 00:33:45,160 --> 00:33:49,119 if you do. When it comes time to play golf, it's really easy 475 00:33:49,599 --> 00:33:52,920 to control your emotions. It's a lot easier than if you don't. And 476 00:33:53,039 --> 00:33:57,559 it gets harder and harder when you're having you know, and golf is one 477 00:33:57,599 --> 00:34:01,160 of those sports that you just don't get better every day every time you go 478 00:34:01,240 --> 00:34:10,760 out there, you and the range of scores outcomes on any given day could 479 00:34:12,079 --> 00:34:17,280 swing ten to twenty strokes. Right, yeah, you can. You can 480 00:34:17,320 --> 00:34:22,679 go out like last time I played, shot in eighty one, today in 481 00:34:22,760 --> 00:34:27,320 eighty seven, and and then it right in between, I'll shoot a ninety 482 00:34:27,360 --> 00:34:37,840 five. They just and once things start consistently not and I try to, 483 00:34:37,880 --> 00:34:40,039 you know, let it all go, let it all go. But then 484 00:34:40,039 --> 00:34:43,880 I'll get to a spot where it's like, you know, like, okay, 485 00:34:43,920 --> 00:34:49,800 I've had five five really bad shots, not just holes, I mean 486 00:34:50,199 --> 00:34:59,719 five bad holes. It starts, the doubt rises and the frustration increases. 487 00:35:00,920 --> 00:35:06,639 It's not so easy to break away from that's how would you do that? 488 00:35:06,920 --> 00:35:09,559 It's mental training. Bred you cannot get it, get away from it if 489 00:35:09,599 --> 00:35:17,000 you don't spend the time every day working on your emotions, learning how to 490 00:35:17,599 --> 00:35:23,000 you know, transfer your emotions from negative to positive negative the positive or negative 491 00:35:23,159 --> 00:35:28,400 to neutral. So when all of a sudden you're having a bad day and 492 00:35:28,559 --> 00:35:31,159 each shot gets worse and worse and your chemistry gets down and down, you 493 00:35:31,280 --> 00:35:37,800 just have to say, hey, today's goal is to keep a good attitude 494 00:35:37,199 --> 00:35:40,199 and not be negative, and just play one shot at a time and don't 495 00:35:40,199 --> 00:35:45,000 care about the score, because today we're all about the process, and the 496 00:35:45,079 --> 00:35:51,280 process is to play this with a good attitude. I love that. I 497 00:35:51,320 --> 00:35:53,719 love that because you know, it's like before every round, you should you 498 00:35:53,719 --> 00:35:58,440 should agree with your playing partners. Okay, here's today's rules, right, 499 00:35:58,920 --> 00:36:02,280 here's our rules today. You know, anything inside of two feet pick it 500 00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:05,840 up. If you find a ball, it's yours, or you know, 501 00:36:05,920 --> 00:36:07,840 any rules you want to make. As long as everyone agrees on those rules, 502 00:36:07,840 --> 00:36:13,840 then you're fine. But I think you have to agree with yourself. 503 00:36:14,960 --> 00:36:16,840 Here's how I'm going to You know, I don't know what's going to be 504 00:36:16,880 --> 00:36:21,079 the outcome of today's game. I don't know. I know that I want 505 00:36:21,119 --> 00:36:23,599 to perform well. But if things don't go well, I have to agree 506 00:36:23,639 --> 00:36:29,199 with myself. Got to let it go. Don't get worried about it. 507 00:36:30,000 --> 00:36:34,719 You know how many times have we had bad days like that and feel like 508 00:36:34,760 --> 00:36:37,119 you want to just walk off, of course, and then just I quit. 509 00:36:37,199 --> 00:36:39,960 I don't care. Let me just finish these four or five holes, 510 00:36:39,960 --> 00:36:42,840 and I'm done. I want to go home. And all of a sudden, 511 00:36:42,840 --> 00:36:45,079 those four or five holes everything starts to work again. Mm hmm. 512 00:36:45,119 --> 00:36:49,320 Yeah. And you know we talked about sales earlier. It's it's the same 513 00:36:49,440 --> 00:36:52,400 thing. And earlier in my lifetime, I used to do a lot of 514 00:36:52,440 --> 00:36:54,960 selling, you know, I was developing my program. I would work with 515 00:36:55,000 --> 00:36:58,880 the athletes for free, and I would go out and like time, get 516 00:36:58,960 --> 00:37:00,519 jobs, you know, selling them. I was really really good at selling 517 00:37:00,559 --> 00:37:04,559 if I had a product, I believed that. And some days you go 518 00:37:04,599 --> 00:37:07,000 out there and you'd be out there and knocking on doors. You knock on 519 00:37:07,000 --> 00:37:08,920 one hundred doors and no, no, no, no, no no. 520 00:37:09,360 --> 00:37:13,119 Other days you go out there, you couldn't knock on one hundred doors because 521 00:37:13,280 --> 00:37:15,679 the first twenty said yes, yes, yes, and you were too busy 522 00:37:15,679 --> 00:37:17,519 writing up to the orders. You never got to do one hundred things. 523 00:37:17,679 --> 00:37:22,559 And so why is one day miserable and the next day it's so successful. 524 00:37:22,559 --> 00:37:24,480 But you got to keep the same attitude. You can't get too high. 525 00:37:24,480 --> 00:37:28,480 You can't get too low. You know, it's all numbers and they all 526 00:37:28,519 --> 00:37:30,280 balance out at the end of the day or at the end of the week 527 00:37:30,400 --> 00:37:32,920 or at the end of the month. You know, baseball players, for 528 00:37:34,000 --> 00:37:37,079 example, the hitters, if they have a rule they look at ten bats 529 00:37:37,119 --> 00:37:39,119 in a row. During ten bats, if they had zero for ten, 530 00:37:39,760 --> 00:37:44,079 that's over with. They start fresh on the next ten. Then if you 531 00:37:44,119 --> 00:37:46,119 get five for ten, that's shooting five hundred. So they figured, okay, 532 00:37:46,199 --> 00:37:50,599 we got five for twenty, that's two hundred and fifty. And so 533 00:37:50,679 --> 00:37:53,840 that's how they keep their sanity. They don't. They just and it's the 534 00:37:53,880 --> 00:37:59,440 same thing when you're playing. You've got to understand that my attitude comes first, 535 00:37:59,559 --> 00:38:02,719 to school comes second. And if you can learn to control your attitude, 536 00:38:02,800 --> 00:38:07,880 no matter whatever happens out there, you're going to find out you consistently 537 00:38:07,960 --> 00:38:13,960 shoot better lower scores and the spread is a lot smaller. You're not going 538 00:38:14,039 --> 00:38:16,400 to have a twenty, you know shot spread. You may have a ten 539 00:38:16,440 --> 00:38:20,199 shot and then if you can start working, then you'll come into a five 540 00:38:20,239 --> 00:38:23,639 shot spread. But it all comes down to, you know, how much 541 00:38:23,960 --> 00:38:29,239 energy you put into mastering the present moment, and you know, I have 542 00:38:29,400 --> 00:38:32,079 my four step routine that we talked about. You know, smarter, you 543 00:38:32,119 --> 00:38:37,360 know golf, it's the basic you know, instinct. Having said this for 544 00:38:37,400 --> 00:38:39,679 a while, so we got to think for a second again. Feedback, 545 00:38:39,800 --> 00:38:45,599 relax, preparation, instinctive execution. And so after the shot you have a 546 00:38:45,639 --> 00:38:50,280 look, chance to look at the feedback. Okay, what happened? Good, 547 00:38:50,320 --> 00:38:52,119 bad, and different? And then once you learn from the feedback, 548 00:38:52,159 --> 00:38:55,079 you see, okay, I've got to relax. That's history. Let's get 549 00:38:55,119 --> 00:38:59,480 back into the presence. So you relax. Then as you're approaching the ball, 550 00:38:59,480 --> 00:39:04,159 you start pairing yourself with a good attitude and what's the distance, what 551 00:39:04,280 --> 00:39:06,280 is the lie? What is my colt? You know, this plan of 552 00:39:06,320 --> 00:39:08,519 attack, and then you step up and you don't think. You hit the 553 00:39:08,519 --> 00:39:14,599 ball instinctively and then feedback what happened. And if you can do that on 554 00:39:14,679 --> 00:39:22,000 every single shot, your attitude stays consistent. And that's all you can control 555 00:39:22,119 --> 00:39:27,039 is your attitude. You can't control the golf shot. No, Sometimes I 556 00:39:27,159 --> 00:39:30,800 like to play like in like you're saying a baseball player and doing ten at 557 00:39:30,840 --> 00:39:35,840 bats and then move on like I'll play in groups of three holes. Okay, 558 00:39:35,840 --> 00:39:37,280 I want to play. I want to see if I can just play 559 00:39:37,280 --> 00:39:42,719 it one over on these three holes. And I know that I'm already saying 560 00:39:42,719 --> 00:39:45,559 that I want to be part of the outcome. But if I just break 561 00:39:45,599 --> 00:39:49,719 it down, it seems to be easier and I can also let go of 562 00:39:49,800 --> 00:39:52,400 things. It's like, okay, I'm done with that now I'll move on. 563 00:39:52,800 --> 00:39:54,599 But I should just do that hole by hole. I guess, well, 564 00:39:54,639 --> 00:39:58,559 you know that that gives you good range because you're playing with three holes 565 00:39:58,559 --> 00:40:01,039 and that's my outcome goal. But how do you accomplish it? You do 566 00:40:01,079 --> 00:40:04,920 it one shot at a time, and at the end of the you know, 567 00:40:05,360 --> 00:40:07,079 you know, three rounds, you take a look, Okay, now, 568 00:40:07,119 --> 00:40:09,199 how good was I with my mental game? Did I play one shot 569 00:40:09,239 --> 00:40:13,000 at a time? Or was I worrying about, you know, shooting two 570 00:40:13,039 --> 00:40:16,800 over and you know as I was playing, yep. And then then what 571 00:40:16,960 --> 00:40:21,480 is good about that is that you had a chance after three holes to get 572 00:40:21,519 --> 00:40:24,400 some feedback to see how well you did with your mental game and then play 573 00:40:24,440 --> 00:40:29,679 the next you know, three holes. Awesome, and then you can learn 574 00:40:29,719 --> 00:40:31,639 from that and say, okay, let's play the next three holes. And 575 00:40:31,760 --> 00:40:36,280 as you do this, by the time you played you know, nine holes, 576 00:40:36,559 --> 00:40:40,039 your mental game is starting to really get into shape. And I always 577 00:40:40,039 --> 00:40:44,800 tell people if you play par you know for the first fifteen holes and then 578 00:40:44,840 --> 00:40:47,199 you burned you the last three, you know, you're shooting a pretty good 579 00:40:47,199 --> 00:40:52,239 score. Yeah yeah, so why worry about shooting par? You know, 580 00:40:52,599 --> 00:40:55,159 and say them, I should you shooting? Miss this here and I missed 581 00:40:55,159 --> 00:40:59,199 this one there. Don't worry about it, right, I said, they'll 582 00:40:59,239 --> 00:41:02,719 come definitely. Don't worry about it because then you're gonna start freaking out. 583 00:41:02,760 --> 00:41:06,400 Oh my god, I haven't made a mistake in a while. It's a 584 00:41:06,440 --> 00:41:08,239 case of death. I mean, I was caddying for for one guy, 585 00:41:08,280 --> 00:41:12,960 you know, he was in Greening regulation first, you know, nine holes 586 00:41:12,960 --> 00:41:15,800 in the he was at par and he said, my god, I should 587 00:41:15,840 --> 00:41:17,119 be at least three under by now. I said, shut up, I 588 00:41:17,159 --> 00:41:22,559 said one shot at I said, knock it off. And so he ended 589 00:41:22,599 --> 00:41:27,760 up, you know, making six birdies on the last night. Wow wow. 590 00:41:28,199 --> 00:41:32,159 And that wouldn't have happened if he didn't keep his cool. I would 591 00:41:32,159 --> 00:41:36,840 love to be there here to caddy say to somebody, shut up, you 592 00:41:36,840 --> 00:41:39,480 know you got you got it. Knock it off, I said, knock 593 00:41:39,559 --> 00:41:43,679 it off. You know, your your anger is getting to you. Yeah, 594 00:41:43,840 --> 00:41:45,679 I said, what's wrong with you? Don't you listen to what I'm 595 00:41:45,679 --> 00:41:51,760 telling you? And there I want to throw this club and hitching ahead with 596 00:41:51,840 --> 00:41:54,039 it. Yeah, you're probably not shooting fifty nine today, so just relax. 597 00:41:54,440 --> 00:41:59,760 Yeah, it's just it. But it's amazing. But this program that 598 00:41:59,760 --> 00:42:02,159 I have, the Mental Keys to Improve your Golf, it works every time. 599 00:42:02,960 --> 00:42:06,280 All they have to do is, you know, read the material, 600 00:42:06,760 --> 00:42:09,480 you know, get just get the CD and just listen to it over and 601 00:42:09,519 --> 00:42:15,440 over and then just pay attention and to your mental game. Well that's a 602 00:42:15,559 --> 00:42:19,360 that's a great segue there, because I was just about to say. The 603 00:42:19,639 --> 00:42:24,320 two books Metal Golf Tips and The Metal Keys to Improve Your Golf Guaranteed to 604 00:42:24,679 --> 00:42:30,840 Lower Your Score by Michael Anthony. They're both available on the golfers Mart in 605 00:42:30,880 --> 00:42:37,599 the Golfers Mart at golfsmarter dot com and also though if you have not checked 606 00:42:37,599 --> 00:42:43,880 out golf Smarter Tips, a year's worth of five minutes six minute shows with 607 00:42:44,000 --> 00:42:50,000 Michael we did like fifties two shows or something. Golf Smarter Tips are still 608 00:42:50,000 --> 00:42:54,280 available in iTunes and even though we recorded them a couple of years ago. 609 00:42:55,519 --> 00:42:59,880 They're still valid. I mean, the points don't change, and the training 610 00:43:00,199 --> 00:43:02,400 is all there and you can just go through it. You can get a 611 00:43:02,440 --> 00:43:07,679 CDs. You can go check them out at mentalkeys dot com and also his 612 00:43:07,800 --> 00:43:12,880 YouTube videos. Look up Michael Anthony Mental Keys. Don't forget my CD using 613 00:43:12,880 --> 00:43:16,199 the Mental Keys to polish the wheel. That's powerful. Put that on your 614 00:43:16,239 --> 00:43:22,559 mark. Well, you know, I this is the digital age. Nobody 615 00:43:22,559 --> 00:43:27,920 buys CDs. Sorry, Michael, but when he stopped driving their car to 616 00:43:28,000 --> 00:43:30,840 the uh, you know, to the golf course, you know I'll agree 617 00:43:30,880 --> 00:43:34,519 with you. Well, oh, why you think people put in CDs? 618 00:43:34,519 --> 00:43:38,480 They don't hook people their iPod and their and their iPhones and their Android phones 619 00:43:38,519 --> 00:43:42,920 and their blue tooths and see the only way they can get it is to 620 00:43:43,119 --> 00:43:46,159 get the CD to downloaded into it, because that's the only only format that 621 00:43:46,199 --> 00:43:52,719 it's available in. Well, you should make it downloadable. I haven't figured 622 00:43:52,719 --> 00:43:57,039 that Amazon hasn't set it up that way yet. Yeah, I've tried. 623 00:43:57,119 --> 00:44:00,519 At least I do it from your website. Well, on the website, 624 00:44:00,559 --> 00:44:05,360 it's just that's more complicated than that. Bread. I've just pulled everything out 625 00:44:05,360 --> 00:44:08,199 and put it into Amazon and other distributors. Well, that's one of the 626 00:44:08,239 --> 00:44:13,119 better distributors you can have, no question. Amazon's a good distributor. You 627 00:44:13,159 --> 00:44:15,679 know, your website's a good distributor. Oh, thank you. You know, 628 00:44:15,360 --> 00:44:19,239 it's really good. It's a pleasure being here, you know, talking 629 00:44:19,239 --> 00:44:21,920 to you and talking to all the golfers you know that are listening. You 630 00:44:21,960 --> 00:44:23,000 know, I do get you know, people come in they say I heard 631 00:44:23,000 --> 00:44:27,400 about you on the podcast, so you know, so it's working. Awesome, 632 00:44:28,000 --> 00:44:30,280 awesome, I'm glad to hear that. Well, thank you. Hey, 633 00:44:30,320 --> 00:44:32,199 it was great to have you on again, Michael, it was. 634 00:44:32,320 --> 00:44:36,679 It's always a pleasure to speak to you, even if we separated by a 635 00:44:36,719 --> 00:44:38,679 couple of weeks or a couple of years, but it's always always great to 636 00:44:38,719 --> 00:44:43,039 hear from you again. Thanks so much for coming back on the show and 637 00:44:43,079 --> 00:44:45,559 being on our members only podcast. And it's my pleasure. Thank you. Fred