1 00:00:10,759 --> 00:00:16,000 Welcome back, guys, to another episode of your Manifesting Bestie Podcasts, Season 2 00:00:16,039 --> 00:00:19,199 four. I'm your host, Flora, and we are diving into all things 3 00:00:19,239 --> 00:00:23,120 mindset and manifestation like we always do. Oh my god, it feels so 4 00:00:23,160 --> 00:00:26,120 good to be back. I've really missed this podcast. I miss this with 5 00:00:26,160 --> 00:00:28,760 my baby, and we've grown it to I don't know what, over two 6 00:00:28,800 --> 00:00:32,600 million downloads now and it just keeps getting better and better. Kind of like 7 00:00:32,600 --> 00:00:37,840 we went over last week's episode with the appreciation versus appreciation model, and I 8 00:00:37,880 --> 00:00:41,759 want to dive even deeper into that with a different perspective. I know that 9 00:00:42,320 --> 00:00:46,880 digesting this type of information it's so much easier when we hear examples. So 10 00:00:47,479 --> 00:00:51,399 something that I wanted to touch on this week, which I'm finding is helping 11 00:00:51,439 --> 00:00:54,759 me. It's also helping my clients. You guys know that I coach people 12 00:00:55,039 --> 00:00:59,439 with money mindset, entrepreneurship mindset, manifesting, wealth, manifesting, health, 13 00:00:59,439 --> 00:01:03,120 manifesting, really relationships, and something that I'm coming to terms with that i'm 14 00:01:03,159 --> 00:01:10,000 seeing as almost like an instant result in my life is whatever I'm seeking out 15 00:01:10,159 --> 00:01:14,400 is actually seeking me. So whatever I'm looking for is looking for me. 16 00:01:14,599 --> 00:01:19,000 So think of whatever the desire is that you're manifesting, that you're consciously putting 17 00:01:19,000 --> 00:01:22,959 out there, it's actually manifesting you. It's like a direct response, almost 18 00:01:22,959 --> 00:01:26,159 like looking in a mirror. So once I send out that signal mentally, 19 00:01:26,920 --> 00:01:30,439 I'm receiving it back. This is the act of scanning, right, So 20 00:01:30,560 --> 00:01:36,000 I scan my reality for the things that I want to seek out, and 21 00:01:36,040 --> 00:01:41,120 then I seem to get better or better at receiving them rather quickly. But 22 00:01:41,599 --> 00:01:45,000 I used to do the complete opposite. So I want to give you as 23 00:01:45,040 --> 00:01:48,400 an example, and this is going to put things into perspective and kind of 24 00:01:48,400 --> 00:01:51,480 make it easier to understand. You know, when you're when you see that 25 00:01:51,519 --> 00:01:53,840 guy on the beach and he has like that metal detector thing and he's scanning 26 00:01:53,879 --> 00:01:57,760 for things in the sand. I don't know he's looking for gold, he's 27 00:01:57,799 --> 00:01:59,879 looking for money, he's looking for treasures. I don't know what the hell 28 00:01:59,879 --> 00:02:01,719 he looking for. But he's out there scanning and he's doing it for hours. 29 00:02:02,079 --> 00:02:05,879 Okay, Eventually he's gonna come across something that he wants to find. 30 00:02:05,879 --> 00:02:07,039 He's gonna take it home and be happy about it. He's gonna do it 31 00:02:07,080 --> 00:02:12,479 again. Think of yourself like, think of I'm gonna use our five senses 32 00:02:12,520 --> 00:02:15,280 here. Think of your your five senses, especially your eyes, and what 33 00:02:15,400 --> 00:02:20,120 you look for in your three D reality as that scanning machine, as that 34 00:02:20,280 --> 00:02:24,360 metal detector. So think of like your eyes almost like sending out like laser 35 00:02:24,360 --> 00:02:28,120 beams looking for things. Right, You're like, your your body is like 36 00:02:28,159 --> 00:02:30,680 this very intricate form of technology. It's a very intricate machine. It's the 37 00:02:30,680 --> 00:02:35,680 most intelligent piece of technology that exists here in the three D realm. And 38 00:02:36,000 --> 00:02:39,400 your eyes are always scanning for things as a response to pick up and send 39 00:02:39,400 --> 00:02:43,919 feedback to the brain. So something I used to do, and I think 40 00:02:43,919 --> 00:02:49,479 this is what the common the everyday person does, is we scan our reality 41 00:02:49,599 --> 00:02:53,919 for lack. We keep scanning for things to send feedback to our brain to 42 00:02:54,080 --> 00:03:00,280 tell us that there is not enough, that things are missing. And if 43 00:03:00,319 --> 00:03:04,120 I'm always scanning my reality for all the things that are missing, I will 44 00:03:04,520 --> 00:03:08,240 manifest more things missing, more things that make me feel incomplete, more things 45 00:03:08,240 --> 00:03:13,039 that are kind of fleeing from my reality rather than making me feel whole. 46 00:03:13,639 --> 00:03:17,400 So I had to make this mental switch of scanning my reality for abundance, 47 00:03:17,439 --> 00:03:23,560 scanning my reality for fulfillment versus scanning for lack. So a typical day for 48 00:03:23,680 --> 00:03:28,240 me used to look like I would wake up and I would look in my 49 00:03:28,400 --> 00:03:34,560 emails to prove to myself that I don't have any sales coming in, or 50 00:03:34,560 --> 00:03:38,960 that I didn't get that opportunity email from that person yet they had that company 51 00:03:38,000 --> 00:03:42,560 has not yet responded to me. Okay. So I would literally wake up 52 00:03:42,680 --> 00:03:46,319 first thing in the morning and start to scan my life for lack, for 53 00:03:46,479 --> 00:03:49,680 what's missing. And then I would get and I used to have really bad 54 00:03:49,919 --> 00:03:53,360 foot paints in my left foot. I somehow was able to get rid of 55 00:03:53,360 --> 00:03:55,560 that consciously, but I remember when I would have is really bad foot paints 56 00:03:55,560 --> 00:03:59,840 because I used to love to run out doors. I would wake up, 57 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:02,719 my body would feel fine. I would scan my body for where the pain 58 00:04:02,840 --> 00:04:06,439 is, where's my foot pain? What? Where's the pain? Oh? 59 00:04:06,479 --> 00:04:10,520 There it is, I found it. So I would scan my life for 60 00:04:10,639 --> 00:04:15,879 all these things to further prove to myself that I suck, that things are 61 00:04:15,920 --> 00:04:20,120 just not going my way, that I'm unfortunate. And then Q in victim 62 00:04:20,120 --> 00:04:25,079 mentality, Q in pity party, quen, Oh, today's gonna suck again. 63 00:04:25,399 --> 00:04:29,439 Okay, So it was like this consistent habit of looking for what's missing. 64 00:04:29,480 --> 00:04:32,360 I was that metal detector on the beach, scanning for all things bad, 65 00:04:32,920 --> 00:04:38,439 scanning my reality for everything that I don't have, I don't yet have, 66 00:04:38,560 --> 00:04:42,439 so I can feel bad for myself and feel poorly about my circumstances. 67 00:04:42,519 --> 00:04:46,160 And I would also scan my reality for what everyone else has and use that 68 00:04:46,240 --> 00:04:50,199 as a fuel for jealousy, use it as a fuel for resentment, use 69 00:04:50,240 --> 00:04:55,360 it as another indicator another reason why I'm not good enough, use it as 70 00:04:55,399 --> 00:05:00,000 another reason to feel poorly about who I am. And this was a vicious 71 00:05:00,199 --> 00:05:02,519 cycle. Okay, so wake up in the morning. Check my phone, 72 00:05:02,600 --> 00:05:05,920 scan for what's missing. Check my body, scan for what doesn't feel good. 73 00:05:06,240 --> 00:05:09,959 Scan my house, check for what I don't like about it. There's 74 00:05:09,959 --> 00:05:12,199 not enough light, there's not enough space in my house. Oh my god, 75 00:05:12,199 --> 00:05:14,560 I hate my bathroom. I hate my kitchen. It's old, it's 76 00:05:14,639 --> 00:05:17,720 dingy. Right. I just kept looking for everything that I knew was going 77 00:05:17,759 --> 00:05:25,079 to make me mad, and me being a lifelike metal detector, a scanner, 78 00:05:25,120 --> 00:05:29,319 a machine that's looking for things, right, I'm going to receive more 79 00:05:29,319 --> 00:05:33,480 of those things because whatever I'm seeking is seeking me. So if I keep 80 00:05:33,519 --> 00:05:38,639 seeking black, I receive more of it. This is gonna look like debt. 81 00:05:38,839 --> 00:05:42,240 This is gonna look like negative breakups. This is gonna look like bad 82 00:05:42,240 --> 00:05:45,040 friendship. This is gonna look like more bills that I cannot afford. This 83 00:05:45,079 --> 00:05:47,879 is gonna look like losing my home. This is gonna met me. One 84 00:05:47,879 --> 00:05:51,000 thing with my car is my car kept breaking down. I got a new 85 00:05:51,160 --> 00:05:55,439 lease, and then my car got towed multiple times. I remember down in 86 00:05:55,519 --> 00:05:58,040 Miami Beach and I'm like, why do I keep like, what is this 87 00:05:58,079 --> 00:06:00,319 reason that I keep losing my car? Just kept losing things. It was 88 00:06:00,360 --> 00:06:04,759 like a downward spiral. I remember working in nine to five jobs. I 89 00:06:04,800 --> 00:06:08,720 would always scan the job for what I hate. I wouldn't appreciate the fact 90 00:06:08,720 --> 00:06:12,199 that I have a paycheck coming in. I wouldn't appreciate that my manager gave 91 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:15,439 me an opportunity and hired me. I would appreciate absolutely nothing about my coworkers. 92 00:06:15,480 --> 00:06:20,279 I was always scanning them for what's wrong. I was a habitual scanning 93 00:06:20,319 --> 00:06:25,040 machine of all things negative, and my life sucked. It was like a 94 00:06:25,160 --> 00:06:30,439 direct response of who I am being again? Right. So when we realize 95 00:06:30,480 --> 00:06:34,639 that we're using our five senses to bring in feedback to our brain to prove 96 00:06:34,800 --> 00:06:40,399 something right, because our brain's always looking for evidence. If I realized that 97 00:06:40,439 --> 00:06:44,800 whatever I am seeking is also seeking me out, I have to start scanning 98 00:06:44,839 --> 00:06:50,240 my reality for something new. Because if I am seeking wealth, why am 99 00:06:50,279 --> 00:06:56,160 I always looking for lack? If I want to bring in more money, 100 00:06:56,279 --> 00:07:00,800 why do I keep looking at all the things where I'm losing money and reacting 101 00:07:00,839 --> 00:07:02,800 to it? So the two don't add up, They don't match up. 102 00:07:02,879 --> 00:07:06,839 My scanning device is off. It's looking for the wrong things, and the 103 00:07:06,839 --> 00:07:12,120 little beeper keeps beeping at all the negativity, so I keep bringing in more 104 00:07:12,199 --> 00:07:15,319 and more and more. It's just a it's a natural response to what I 105 00:07:15,360 --> 00:07:18,879 am seeking out. What you seek, you shall find. Okay. Think 106 00:07:18,920 --> 00:07:21,720 about that guy you were dating ones and you're like, oh my god, 107 00:07:21,720 --> 00:07:24,560 I'm going to go through his social media. I'm going to go through all 108 00:07:24,600 --> 00:07:26,759 his old posts on you know. I'm even going to go through his phone. 109 00:07:26,759 --> 00:07:29,360 I'm going to break through his password. I'm going to go through his 110 00:07:29,399 --> 00:07:31,160 old text messages, see who has been calling him. Listen, You're gonna 111 00:07:31,199 --> 00:07:36,480 find something. What you seek, you will find, Okay. And if 112 00:07:36,480 --> 00:07:41,399 that is your habit of always looking for something wrong, something to make a 113 00:07:41,439 --> 00:07:46,160 fuss about, something to make you feel bad about yourself. You will receive 114 00:07:46,199 --> 00:07:51,240 it because whatever you are seeking out is seeking you. Okay. So I 115 00:07:51,360 --> 00:07:56,920 work with a lot of business owners and entrepreneurs, and I tell the when 116 00:07:56,920 --> 00:08:00,439 they start to create content, when they start to put their business out there, 117 00:08:00,480 --> 00:08:05,759 as they're working on their sales, they have this habitual way of always 118 00:08:05,879 --> 00:08:09,839 looking for what is not working. They don't even acknowledge what is working. 119 00:08:11,720 --> 00:08:16,079 I had a girl tell me that Flora this month, I only She's only 120 00:08:16,120 --> 00:08:18,720 made nine thousand, five hundred dollars, so she almost had a ten thousand 121 00:08:18,720 --> 00:08:22,560 dollar month. She was, I only made nine thousand, five hundred dollars. 122 00:08:22,839 --> 00:08:24,439 Why am I not hitting my goal of twenty K? I'm like, 123 00:08:24,560 --> 00:08:31,439 that's why you're so mad at yourself. Rather than celebrating that nine thousand, 124 00:08:31,480 --> 00:08:33,639 five hundred dollars, that's why you're not Why would you receive twenty k if 125 00:08:33,639 --> 00:08:39,279 you can't even appreciate nine? Why would more come? How does that even 126 00:08:39,279 --> 00:08:45,679 make sense? She and along with many others, are consistently scanning for what's 127 00:08:45,759 --> 00:08:50,879 missing rather than observing, appreciating, and kind of like throwing a celebration for 128 00:08:50,000 --> 00:08:52,840 what is there, what they are doing good at right right, what they 129 00:08:52,840 --> 00:08:56,639 are good at, what they are receiving. And we talk a lot about 130 00:08:56,720 --> 00:08:58,679 like content creation and how that drives a lot of sales, and how to 131 00:09:00,159 --> 00:09:03,200 be in the right energy of creating content, Meaning you want to be in 132 00:09:03,240 --> 00:09:05,720 this energy of like, I'm already a seven figure earner, I already have 133 00:09:05,919 --> 00:09:09,440 you know, fifty thousand followers, I'm already a big deal. I'm already 134 00:09:09,440 --> 00:09:13,320 really proud of myself. You want to always be creating from that energy versus 135 00:09:15,000 --> 00:09:18,159 I hope people like me, I hope this goes well. I don't really 136 00:09:18,159 --> 00:09:22,039 even feel like posting this. It's not good enough, but hopefully something comes 137 00:09:22,039 --> 00:09:24,960 out of it. If you're operating out of the energy of oh, like 138 00:09:24,039 --> 00:09:26,799 I don't know, I hope, I hope this turns out okay, you're 139 00:09:26,799 --> 00:09:31,879 always going to receive more of that feeling of it's just it's not good enough, 140 00:09:31,240 --> 00:09:35,480 okay. So whatever is seeking you out also we have to kind of 141 00:09:35,519 --> 00:09:41,159 reverse the energy that we operate from and turn it into what we actually want 142 00:09:41,240 --> 00:09:46,159 to be seeking us. So if I want to seek out money, then 143 00:09:46,159 --> 00:09:48,240 that means money is also seeking me out. But I have to look for 144 00:09:48,320 --> 00:09:52,399 things in my reality that again is in abundance, that there is a surplus 145 00:09:52,399 --> 00:09:56,840 of that I'm already good at. If you had one sale, that means 146 00:09:56,840 --> 00:09:58,840 you can have a hundred sales, So why don't we celebrate that one sale 147 00:10:00,000 --> 00:10:05,519 instead of complaining about it? Right? So this is just money energetics, 148 00:10:05,600 --> 00:10:09,559 right, and money is a very expansive energy. Money. Like we mentioned 149 00:10:09,600 --> 00:10:13,679 in last week's episode, the language of money is appreciation. If I can 150 00:10:13,759 --> 00:10:16,559 sit here and throw a fucking party in my mind for a five thousand dollars 151 00:10:16,600 --> 00:10:20,759 month, that means I can also receive a fifty thousand dollar month that I'm 152 00:10:20,759 --> 00:10:22,679 also gonna throw a party for in my mind. So the more I get 153 00:10:22,679 --> 00:10:26,799 into this act of celebrating what I currently have, I just get more and 154 00:10:26,840 --> 00:10:28,559 more of it because that's what I'm seeking out. I'm seeking out the good. 155 00:10:28,960 --> 00:10:31,240 And if I'm seeking out the good, the good is seeking me out 156 00:10:31,279 --> 00:10:35,399 because it's a general response. It's like staring into a mirror. What I 157 00:10:35,519 --> 00:10:39,519 look for is looking for me. It's looking right back at me. So 158 00:10:39,879 --> 00:10:45,120 we have to stop being like an habitual scanner of the negative. So if 159 00:10:45,159 --> 00:10:48,039 your metal detector is on the beach. What are you looking for every day? 160 00:10:48,399 --> 00:10:52,840 What is the treasure that you're hunting? And why are you always hunting 161 00:10:52,879 --> 00:10:56,080 for more negativity? Why are you always looking for more people to be jealous 162 00:10:56,120 --> 00:11:00,679 of and scrutinize in your mind? What is the purpose of that? Okay, 163 00:11:00,679 --> 00:11:03,639 because that's what's gonna seek you out. You're gonna always have more occurrences 164 00:11:03,679 --> 00:11:07,639 in your reality of people having the things that you want and you're not getting 165 00:11:07,679 --> 00:11:11,919 those things. So what am I seeking? What am I looking for? 166 00:11:13,039 --> 00:11:16,120 What am I observing? And what is my energetic response to it? So 167 00:11:16,200 --> 00:11:20,600 I got to turn my metal detector onto a completely different direction, Right, 168 00:11:20,039 --> 00:11:24,360 I have to start scanning the beach, scanning the sand with my metal detector 169 00:11:24,480 --> 00:11:30,600 for all things good. I have to start looking for what is in surplus, 170 00:11:31,559 --> 00:11:33,840 what surrounds me that I already had that I can feel good about. 171 00:11:35,159 --> 00:11:39,879 Another example of we had our community group call last month in the membership and 172 00:11:41,480 --> 00:11:43,159 when I do the Q and A sessions for a couple hours on there, 173 00:11:43,399 --> 00:11:46,279 we got so many, you know, so many questions. And this girl 174 00:11:46,519 --> 00:11:50,879 she's manifesting a new home. She has very poor living conditions and a very 175 00:11:50,919 --> 00:11:56,159 poor financial status, And she asked me, Flora, how the hell am 176 00:11:56,159 --> 00:11:58,919 I supposed to scan out what's good around me when I live in this dinge 177 00:12:00,240 --> 00:12:03,559 tiny apartment with the worst neighbors ever. There's cockroaches, it's dark, right, 178 00:12:03,919 --> 00:12:07,360 a lot of things that we can emotionally react to. And I was 179 00:12:07,399 --> 00:12:11,240 like, well, we have to make peace first with what we have and 180 00:12:11,320 --> 00:12:13,919 scan out the good, right, So turn on that metal detector and scan 181 00:12:13,960 --> 00:12:16,360 out the good. What do you have? Well, you have shelter, 182 00:12:16,159 --> 00:12:20,919 you have protection, you have security and safety. You have a roof over 183 00:12:20,919 --> 00:12:24,000 your head. You have clean running water. What can you do with that 184 00:12:24,120 --> 00:12:26,039 water? You can drink it, you can shower with it, you can 185 00:12:26,080 --> 00:12:28,799 flush your toilet with it, you can brust your teeth with it and list 186 00:12:28,879 --> 00:12:31,759 water. Wow, some people don't have that, right? What else can 187 00:12:31,799 --> 00:12:35,320 we look for in this home? I have a bed to sleep in, 188 00:12:35,559 --> 00:12:39,639 I have a closet to store my belongings in. I have a place that 189 00:12:39,679 --> 00:12:43,159 I can go to and shut out the external world. So these are all 190 00:12:43,200 --> 00:12:46,159 things that she realized. She's like, you know, I show zero appreciation 191 00:12:46,279 --> 00:12:50,600 for what I have, and therefore my circumstances kind of keep getting worse. 192 00:12:50,919 --> 00:12:54,639 And this also ties back into last week's episode of appreciation versus depreciation. So 193 00:12:54,799 --> 00:13:01,120 she had to stop scanning her reality for everything she hates and start turning that 194 00:13:01,159 --> 00:13:03,960 metal detector into the direction of the things that she can focus on that actually 195 00:13:03,960 --> 00:13:09,240 do feel good. That in increments is going to lead her to that new 196 00:13:09,279 --> 00:13:11,320 home opportunity, that new house or whatever, if she wants to move, 197 00:13:11,360 --> 00:13:15,559 if it's in a neighborhood that she can finally afford it, that feels way 198 00:13:15,600 --> 00:13:20,200 better to feels way more exciting, way more expansive. Right, But we 199 00:13:20,279 --> 00:13:24,399 cannot get to that step if we hate where we are. Because if I'm 200 00:13:24,440 --> 00:13:28,519 scanning out for everything I hate, I just receive more things that I hate. 201 00:13:28,600 --> 00:13:31,720 If I scan my reality for everything that's missing, I get more things 202 00:13:31,759 --> 00:13:37,720 missing. I lose more. Everything goes downward, right, So everything that 203 00:13:37,799 --> 00:13:41,840 we are living out is like a mirror image of ourselves. So think of 204 00:13:41,879 --> 00:13:46,960 the circumstances you're experiencing. These are physical extensions of you. So think of 205 00:13:48,000 --> 00:13:50,000 you as the center of the universe. And don't let anybody tell you that 206 00:13:50,159 --> 00:13:54,279 the world doesn't revolve around you. It actually does if we think of it 207 00:13:54,320 --> 00:13:56,879 on a scientific level. In quantum physics. The entire fucking world revolves around 208 00:13:56,879 --> 00:14:01,000 you. So don't let people convince you of wise are going to try to 209 00:14:01,000 --> 00:14:03,519 make you feel powerless. Okay, But if I'm the center of the universe, 210 00:14:03,600 --> 00:14:07,039 right, I think of yourself like a rock at the center of the 211 00:14:07,120 --> 00:14:09,320 universe. Think of you as like little like tentacles coming out of you, 212 00:14:09,480 --> 00:14:15,559 right, expanding to all these different circumstances, different realities, different versions of 213 00:14:15,600 --> 00:14:20,679 yourself. Right. So if all these tentacles are expanding, and I'm looking 214 00:14:20,759 --> 00:14:24,399 at all the circumstances that those tentacles are kind of drawing in, those are 215 00:14:24,440 --> 00:14:28,200 just extensions of me. So, my shitty job, it's an extension of 216 00:14:28,240 --> 00:14:33,639 me. My loving relationship, it's also an extension of me. My financial 217 00:14:33,720 --> 00:14:37,240 circumstances, those are extensions of me. My debt that's an extension of me. 218 00:14:37,600 --> 00:14:39,720 The relationship I have with my parents or my children, that's an extension 219 00:14:39,759 --> 00:14:43,639 of me. Okay. The way people respond to me when I walk into 220 00:14:43,639 --> 00:14:46,120 a store or into a restaurant, those are extensions of me and my set 221 00:14:46,159 --> 00:14:50,320 of beliefs. Okay. The home I live in, the car I drive, 222 00:14:50,360 --> 00:14:52,799 those are extensions of me and my set of beliefs. So, if 223 00:14:52,840 --> 00:14:56,759 you are the center of the universe and you have all these little tentacles coming 224 00:14:56,759 --> 00:14:58,919 out of you, like a giant octopus or something, and you have all 225 00:14:58,960 --> 00:15:01,679 these circumstances that you're looking and all these different realities, what do these things 226 00:15:01,679 --> 00:15:07,240 say about you? What have you been scanning your life for? What direction 227 00:15:07,360 --> 00:15:09,679 is your metal detector on the beach going to? Is it always looking for 228 00:15:09,720 --> 00:15:13,080 the good? Or is it always looking for the bad? Is it always 229 00:15:13,120 --> 00:15:16,000 finding things to complain about and feel bad about and throw a fit about? 230 00:15:16,120 --> 00:15:20,000 Is it always scanning for what else can I have an emotional reaction to? 231 00:15:20,039 --> 00:15:22,320 What else is going to piss me off today? What else is gonna have 232 00:15:22,480 --> 00:15:26,759 me complain today? Or Am I going to turn that metal detector onto winning, 233 00:15:28,240 --> 00:15:33,600 onto appreciation, onto gratitude, onto abundance, onto feeling good, like 234 00:15:33,679 --> 00:15:37,559 actually liking myself and liking who I am. If you don't like yourself, 235 00:15:37,559 --> 00:15:41,360 you don't like any of your circumstances. There's no way to attract in and 236 00:15:41,399 --> 00:15:43,399 call in good circumstances. If you don't like yourself because you keep scanning for 237 00:15:43,440 --> 00:15:46,600 things that make you not like yourself, you are the scanner. You're that 238 00:15:46,679 --> 00:15:50,879 metal detector scanning for things. So if I'm seeking out all the reasons why 239 00:15:50,879 --> 00:15:54,320 I don't like myself, I will receive because of what I seek out is 240 00:15:54,360 --> 00:15:58,080 seeking me, I'll receive all these things that don't like me back. Right. 241 00:16:00,080 --> 00:16:03,519 So we can make our life here way more fucking pleasant when we realize 242 00:16:03,519 --> 00:16:07,639 whatever I'm looking for is looking for me. So I gotta start looking for 243 00:16:07,759 --> 00:16:12,759 the right things. Okay, So next time you're driving down the inner coastal 244 00:16:12,840 --> 00:16:17,519 and you see all those beautiful houses and you're like, damn. You know, 245 00:16:18,240 --> 00:16:21,639 instead of being like, I hate the people who live there, I 246 00:16:21,679 --> 00:16:25,039 hate that. They probably were born rich, they probably you know, got 247 00:16:25,039 --> 00:16:27,559 handouts from their parents, and they're probably really bad people. They probably stole 248 00:16:29,039 --> 00:16:33,519 and scammed others to live in these big, beautiful homes. So instead of 249 00:16:33,600 --> 00:16:36,559 scanning out that thought, when you look at that beautiful home, you want 250 00:16:36,559 --> 00:16:40,440 to look at it as a confirmation. Okay, oh, look at this 251 00:16:40,559 --> 00:16:44,600 gorgeous million dollar home. I too can have that thank you, thank you 252 00:16:44,639 --> 00:16:47,639 for showing me what's possible in my area. I too can have that thank 253 00:16:47,639 --> 00:16:51,080 you, thank you for the confirmation. You want to transmute that jealousy and 254 00:16:51,120 --> 00:16:53,320 start seeking out a new perspective, because as soon as you look at that 255 00:16:53,399 --> 00:16:56,159 home as if it can be yours, that home is now looking at you 256 00:16:56,240 --> 00:17:00,000 as if it can be yours or as if you can be it belong to 257 00:17:00,080 --> 00:17:03,960 it. Right, So, if I'm always seeking out the good in things, 258 00:17:04,000 --> 00:17:10,839 I will be receiving the good. But if I'm like this chronic seeker 259 00:17:10,960 --> 00:17:15,880 of everything that is in lack, there's nothing else that can happen but me 260 00:17:17,039 --> 00:17:21,799 receiving more and more and more lack, more and more and more poverty, 261 00:17:21,880 --> 00:17:26,960 more struggle, more unfortunate circumstances, more of feeling unworthy and unloved and unhealthy 262 00:17:27,000 --> 00:17:32,960 and lesser than and viewing everybody outside of me is better than. People do 263 00:17:33,039 --> 00:17:37,319 this a lot on social media, so they'll open up their app and you 264 00:17:37,400 --> 00:17:41,880 have to realize that social media has an algorithm, just like the universe does. 265 00:17:41,519 --> 00:17:45,079 I feel like we've talked about this in the past too. You know 266 00:17:45,119 --> 00:17:49,279 how there's all this like dating advice on Instagram and on TikTok, A lot 267 00:17:49,319 --> 00:17:53,400 of it has They have very heavy, very negative perspectives of men versus woman, 268 00:17:53,480 --> 00:17:57,359 woman versus man. If I'm always looking at these videos, I have 269 00:17:57,400 --> 00:18:03,519 a very skewed perception of the opposite sex, right, And I'm going to 270 00:18:03,599 --> 00:18:06,920 be if since I keep seeking out those type of videos to further prove why 271 00:18:07,000 --> 00:18:11,279 I dislike men or I dislike women, or why they're fucking everything up in 272 00:18:11,319 --> 00:18:17,480 relationships, then that me seeking that out on social media is me actually receiving 273 00:18:17,519 --> 00:18:21,079 that in my reality. So what I am seeking is seeking me. It's 274 00:18:21,119 --> 00:18:25,519 going to respond to me the exact same way. Okay, same thing when 275 00:18:26,640 --> 00:18:29,839 this This always happens to me every time I open up TikTok, it's somebody 276 00:18:29,880 --> 00:18:33,880 complaining about their financial circumstances. Right. They can't pay their rent, maybe 277 00:18:33,920 --> 00:18:36,799 they lost their home, they can't find a good paying job, they have 278 00:18:36,839 --> 00:18:38,599 to work two jobs. They're they're super tied, they're overwork, they're not 279 00:18:40,079 --> 00:18:45,440 receiving government help. And it's so common, it's almost like one after the 280 00:18:45,480 --> 00:18:48,200 other. Once I watch one of those videos, I'll get ten more on 281 00:18:48,279 --> 00:18:51,759 my algorithm, right because I'm seeking it out, So it's seeking me, 282 00:18:52,119 --> 00:18:55,920 it's responding to me. It's gonna give me more of those videos. So 283 00:18:56,279 --> 00:19:00,039 I was like, I have to start looking at social media as an expansive 284 00:19:00,160 --> 00:19:04,039 tool of what I want to manifest I got to look at people who have 285 00:19:04,160 --> 00:19:08,680 what I want. Therefore, my algorithm will start seeking me out with those 286 00:19:08,759 --> 00:19:11,880 videos, with that type of content, with that type of information. So 287 00:19:12,640 --> 00:19:15,559 when I was in when I just started got started in business, I was 288 00:19:15,640 --> 00:19:18,039 like, I got to look at people who are doing really well in business, 289 00:19:18,079 --> 00:19:22,440 not people who are complaining about their money, because my mind is what's 290 00:19:22,440 --> 00:19:26,559 going to attract these things. So if I see everyone complaining about money, 291 00:19:26,559 --> 00:19:30,319 how the hell am I going to believe that I can make more? It's 292 00:19:30,359 --> 00:19:34,279 impossible. I'm flooding my brain with the negative. Therefore, that is what 293 00:19:34,319 --> 00:19:37,319 I will create because I'm seeking it out, so it's seeking me. So 294 00:19:37,799 --> 00:19:41,279 I had to change my entire algorithm. I had to stop looking out all 295 00:19:41,279 --> 00:19:44,920 those like bullshit dating podcasts of everyone tearing each other apart. I had to 296 00:19:44,960 --> 00:19:48,880 stop looking at people who are complaining about their financial circumstances and how bad the 297 00:19:48,960 --> 00:19:52,680 economy is, because then there are people on the opposite end of the spectrum 298 00:19:52,680 --> 00:19:59,400 who are doing wonderful. They're living expansive, huge lives or living in abundance. 299 00:19:59,480 --> 00:20:03,240 They are like the perfect explanation of quantum leaping your reality. And I'm 300 00:20:03,240 --> 00:20:06,000 like, that's the person I want to follow because I want what they have. 301 00:20:06,079 --> 00:20:08,519 So if I'm gonna seek them out, then that type of experience is 302 00:20:08,519 --> 00:20:12,680 gonna seek me out in return. And so it did. Right, That's 303 00:20:12,720 --> 00:20:18,400 how I changed everything in those ninety days of being an uber driver, a 304 00:20:18,480 --> 00:20:22,160 delivery dude's driver. Right when I was doing all that, I didn't care. 305 00:20:22,400 --> 00:20:26,000 I didn't let that really like boggle me down or make me throw a 306 00:20:26,039 --> 00:20:29,960 pity party for myself. I just kept seeking out all the good things and 307 00:20:30,039 --> 00:20:32,920 all the reasons why I can still succeed, even though I did have four 308 00:20:33,000 --> 00:20:36,480 filled businesses, even though I did quit every nine to five job or get 309 00:20:36,480 --> 00:20:38,599 fired from them, right even though I had zero money in the bank and 310 00:20:38,599 --> 00:20:41,480 a whole lot of debt waiting for me to pay off. So I could 311 00:20:41,480 --> 00:20:45,920 have focused on those things very easily. I could have been reacting to those 312 00:20:45,920 --> 00:20:48,519 things very easily. I could have hated myself very easily and hated my life 313 00:20:48,559 --> 00:20:53,079 and hated my circumstances. Or I can change my metal detector and scan out 314 00:20:53,119 --> 00:20:57,000 the things in life that I want to receive. So I started looking at 315 00:20:57,000 --> 00:21:02,519 big homes. I started looking at but with very successful online businesses. I 316 00:21:02,559 --> 00:21:06,200 started to look at people with very healthy relationships and marriages. I started to 317 00:21:06,200 --> 00:21:08,160 look at people who are really into their health and how they're taking care of 318 00:21:08,160 --> 00:21:11,799 their hormones and these things and how it works for them, versus always looking 319 00:21:11,880 --> 00:21:15,880 at the people who are complaining about these circumstances. Right, Because again, 320 00:21:17,200 --> 00:21:22,039 whatever I am seeking is also seeking me. So whatever I'm going after, 321 00:21:22,359 --> 00:21:26,000 it's going after me. Whatever I am manifesting is manifesting me. It's an 322 00:21:26,119 --> 00:21:32,839 energetic response. You are never separate from what you are seeking. So moving 323 00:21:32,880 --> 00:21:36,920 forward, when you guys, get started in your day, right, I 324 00:21:37,000 --> 00:21:40,640 want you to get out of the habit of looking in your life for what 325 00:21:40,960 --> 00:21:44,480 is not yet there. Because when we look for what is not yet there, 326 00:21:44,519 --> 00:21:47,119 we just have more things that are missing. Right, So you're gonna 327 00:21:47,160 --> 00:21:51,000 get into this habit of scanning. You're gonna wake up and scan for what 328 00:21:51,079 --> 00:21:55,440 you like. Sunlight, outdoors, love it, Thank you for the sunlight. 329 00:21:55,519 --> 00:21:57,160 Right. I have a warm bed that I just woke up, and 330 00:21:57,279 --> 00:22:02,480 thank you for shelter, thank you for secure. I have a loving family 331 00:22:02,559 --> 00:22:04,599 or loving friends. I'm so appreciative of them. Right, I don't need 332 00:22:04,599 --> 00:22:07,000 to be sitting on social media comparing myself to all these people that I don't 333 00:22:07,000 --> 00:22:11,920 even know. I need to look at what I have and feel appreciation and 334 00:22:11,920 --> 00:22:15,119 gratitude for these things. Okay, rather than scanning for all the things you 335 00:22:15,160 --> 00:22:17,799 hate about your job, I have a job. I get to have a 336 00:22:17,880 --> 00:22:18,880 job. You know how people don't have jobs, don't have an income. 337 00:22:19,240 --> 00:22:23,720 I get to have one. I really appreciate that. Okay. Next time 338 00:22:23,759 --> 00:22:26,799 you're sitting in traffic and you want to bitch and complain about the traffic. 339 00:22:27,119 --> 00:22:30,160 Wow, guess what. You get to have a car. You get to 340 00:22:30,839 --> 00:22:33,640 transport yourself to wherever you want to go. You get to commute, You 341 00:22:33,680 --> 00:22:36,680 get to have a car. You get to pay for your gas. Okay, 342 00:22:36,720 --> 00:22:38,279 you get to buy your groceries. You get to go into a store 343 00:22:38,319 --> 00:22:41,880 and be able to get whatever it is that you need to get. You 344 00:22:41,920 --> 00:22:44,799 get to have it. So you need to scan for these things. You 345 00:22:44,880 --> 00:22:48,160 need to scan for what is enjoyable, and you will receive more things that 346 00:22:48,200 --> 00:22:52,200 you enjoy. You need to scan for what you love and you'll receive a 347 00:22:52,240 --> 00:22:55,000 lot more things that you are going to fall in love with. When you 348 00:22:55,039 --> 00:23:00,319 meet a person, stop scanning them for their flaws. Okay, if you 349 00:23:00,319 --> 00:23:03,000 meet a man, stop assuming automatically. Oh, he's gonna be another fuck 350 00:23:03,000 --> 00:23:06,519 boy, He's gonna be another person who's gonna hurt me. He just wants 351 00:23:06,519 --> 00:23:10,759 one thing because he cannot operate in any other manner than your dominant assumption anyway, 352 00:23:11,319 --> 00:23:14,319 So stop scanning for the baden people and start scanning for the good. 353 00:23:14,359 --> 00:23:18,960 What can you appreciate about this person? So we want to view everything through 354 00:23:18,000 --> 00:23:22,319 the eyes of the god frequency, which is the love frequency. So if 355 00:23:22,319 --> 00:23:26,079 I can look at someone and just appreciate things about them, you know how 356 00:23:26,160 --> 00:23:30,079 much better my relationships are gonna be. You know how much better my life 357 00:23:30,119 --> 00:23:32,119 is gonna be. You know how much better I'm gonna feel about myself. 358 00:23:32,160 --> 00:23:34,519 You know how much better people are gonna treat me if I scan out the 359 00:23:34,559 --> 00:23:41,039 good in people versus always the bad. Some people are just natural born haters, 360 00:23:41,039 --> 00:23:42,799 And I get that. Some people look at someone and they will find 361 00:23:42,839 --> 00:23:45,680 anything to hate. I hate their clothes. Why is she wearing those shoes 362 00:23:45,759 --> 00:23:48,480 or that handbag? Why does she do her makeup like that? She needs 363 00:23:48,519 --> 00:23:52,279 to fix her eyebrows, right, Like we scan for people and look for 364 00:23:52,319 --> 00:23:57,799 everything we hate. Why you do realize that, like you're you're not doing 365 00:23:57,799 --> 00:24:02,880 anything to that person, you're kind of just screwing yourself over. Because if 366 00:24:02,920 --> 00:24:06,160 you're seeking out the bad in everybody, then everyone is seeking out the bad 367 00:24:06,200 --> 00:24:10,039 in you. Okay. So if we want to improve our relationships, we 368 00:24:10,119 --> 00:24:14,400 got to start scanning for the good, scanning for what we can value in 369 00:24:14,480 --> 00:24:17,880 someone, even if it has nothing to do with this. I appreciate that 370 00:24:17,920 --> 00:24:22,200 person. They're really successful, Like I take that as a confirmation that I 371 00:24:22,200 --> 00:24:23,279 can have it too, and they're showing me so many things I can learn 372 00:24:23,279 --> 00:24:30,759 about myself. I have a lot of online clients who are obviously business owners 373 00:24:30,759 --> 00:24:33,240 and entrepreneurs, and they always tell me how bad they feel when they see 374 00:24:33,240 --> 00:24:40,119 other people succeeding and they compare themselves and they're scanning their life for what they're 375 00:24:40,160 --> 00:24:44,759 missing in comparison to that other person. So their metal detector is going off 376 00:24:45,519 --> 00:24:48,680 and what they are seeking out or seeking them So if you're looking at all 377 00:24:48,720 --> 00:24:52,720 the things you don't have in comparison to that person, then all the things 378 00:24:52,759 --> 00:24:56,119 that you don't have is seeking you out. Okay. So we got to 379 00:24:56,240 --> 00:24:59,599 change this. We got to change the way that we operate. We gotta 380 00:24:59,640 --> 00:25:00,920 change for the way that we wake up in the morning and what we scan 381 00:25:02,039 --> 00:25:04,960 our life for. We need to start looking for the good. Okay, 382 00:25:06,680 --> 00:25:08,599 If you can get into this habit for the next thirty days, the next 383 00:25:08,599 --> 00:25:12,440 sixty days, the next ninety days, your entire three D world has to 384 00:25:12,519 --> 00:25:15,960 shift because you're now operating as a brand new identity, a brand new person. 385 00:25:18,400 --> 00:25:22,640 You're gonna keep appreciating the value of your reality versus decelerating it and depreciating 386 00:25:22,680 --> 00:25:26,279 it and shrinking it. You're gonna become more expansive, You're gonna receive more, 387 00:25:26,279 --> 00:25:30,119 You're gonna attract more. But it all has to really be aligned with 388 00:25:30,160 --> 00:25:34,079 what you want, because whatever you are looking for, you will find. 389 00:25:36,480 --> 00:25:40,400 Okay, So how can you start looking for more abundance in your life to 390 00:25:40,519 --> 00:25:44,960 receive more of it? You know, nature operates through the law of abundance. 391 00:25:45,039 --> 00:25:47,880 Everything in nature is in abundance. So just go look at nature. 392 00:25:47,880 --> 00:25:49,240 If you need to appreciate something, if you need to feel better about something, 393 00:25:49,440 --> 00:25:53,759 everything is an overflow. There's a surplus of everything. There's nothing that 394 00:25:53,839 --> 00:26:00,039 there's one of there's everything, there's millions of tons of right, So we 395 00:26:00,559 --> 00:26:04,880 need to really realize everything I'm looking for, I'm gonna find so we need 396 00:26:04,880 --> 00:26:08,359 to look for better things. We need to have. Our attention span needs 397 00:26:08,400 --> 00:26:12,039 to go into a brand new direction. We need to seek out the things 398 00:26:12,079 --> 00:26:15,799 that we actually want because those things are actually looking for us too. Whatever 399 00:26:15,839 --> 00:26:22,240 you are manifesting is actually manifesting you. Change your perspective, change what you 400 00:26:22,279 --> 00:26:26,559 are looking for, and you are going to transform everything that you're receiving. 401 00:26:26,799 --> 00:26:30,599 Thank you, guys so much for tuning in to this week's episode of Your 402 00:26:30,599 --> 00:26:37,799 Manifesting Bestie podcast, and we will be back again next Wednesday.