Welcome back, guys, to another episode of your Manifesting Bestie Podcasts, Season
four. I'm your host, Flora, and we are diving into all things
mindset and manifestation like we always do. Oh my god, it feels so
good to be back. I've really missed this podcast. I miss this with
my baby, and we've grown it to I don't know what, over two
million downloads now and it just keeps getting better and better. Kind of like
we went over last week's episode with the appreciation versus appreciation model, and I
want to dive even deeper into that with a different perspective. I know that
digesting this type of information it's so much easier when we hear examples. So
something that I wanted to touch on this week, which I'm finding is helping
me. It's also helping my clients. You guys know that I coach people
with money mindset, entrepreneurship mindset, manifesting, wealth, manifesting, health,
manifesting, really relationships, and something that I'm coming to terms with that i'm
seeing as almost like an instant result in my life is whatever I'm seeking out
is actually seeking me. So whatever I'm looking for is looking for me.
So think of whatever the desire is that you're manifesting, that you're consciously putting
out there, it's actually manifesting you. It's like a direct response, almost
like looking in a mirror. So once I send out that signal mentally,
I'm receiving it back. This is the act of scanning, right, So
I scan my reality for the things that I want to seek out, and
then I seem to get better or better at receiving them rather quickly. But
I used to do the complete opposite. So I want to give you as
an example, and this is going to put things into perspective and kind of
make it easier to understand. You know, when you're when you see that
guy on the beach and he has like that metal detector thing and he's scanning
for things in the sand. I don't know he's looking for gold, he's
looking for money, he's looking for treasures. I don't know what the hell
he looking for. But he's out there scanning and he's doing it for hours.
Okay, Eventually he's gonna come across something that he wants to find.
He's gonna take it home and be happy about it. He's gonna do it
again. Think of yourself like, think of I'm gonna use our five senses
here. Think of your your five senses, especially your eyes, and what
you look for in your three D reality as that scanning machine, as that
metal detector. So think of like your eyes almost like sending out like laser
beams looking for things. Right, You're like, your your body is like
this very intricate form of technology. It's a very intricate machine. It's the
most intelligent piece of technology that exists here in the three D realm. And
your eyes are always scanning for things as a response to pick up and send
feedback to the brain. So something I used to do, and I think
this is what the common the everyday person does, is we scan our reality
for lack. We keep scanning for things to send feedback to our brain to
tell us that there is not enough, that things are missing. And if
I'm always scanning my reality for all the things that are missing, I will
manifest more things missing, more things that make me feel incomplete, more things
that are kind of fleeing from my reality rather than making me feel whole.
So I had to make this mental switch of scanning my reality for abundance,
scanning my reality for fulfillment versus scanning for lack. So a typical day for
me used to look like I would wake up and I would look in my
emails to prove to myself that I don't have any sales coming in, or
that I didn't get that opportunity email from that person yet they had that company
has not yet responded to me. Okay. So I would literally wake up
first thing in the morning and start to scan my life for lack, for
what's missing. And then I would get and I used to have really bad
foot paints in my left foot. I somehow was able to get rid of
that consciously, but I remember when I would have is really bad foot paints
because I used to love to run out doors. I would wake up,
my body would feel fine. I would scan my body for where the pain
is, where's my foot pain? What? Where's the pain? Oh?
There it is, I found it. So I would scan my life for
all these things to further prove to myself that I suck, that things are
just not going my way, that I'm unfortunate. And then Q in victim
mentality, Q in pity party, quen, Oh, today's gonna suck again.
Okay, So it was like this consistent habit of looking for what's missing.
I was that metal detector on the beach, scanning for all things bad,
scanning my reality for everything that I don't have, I don't yet have,
so I can feel bad for myself and feel poorly about my circumstances.
And I would also scan my reality for what everyone else has and use that
as a fuel for jealousy, use it as a fuel for resentment, use
it as another indicator another reason why I'm not good enough, use it as
another reason to feel poorly about who I am. And this was a vicious
cycle. Okay, so wake up in the morning. Check my phone,
scan for what's missing. Check my body, scan for what doesn't feel good.
Scan my house, check for what I don't like about it. There's
not enough light, there's not enough space in my house. Oh my god,
I hate my bathroom. I hate my kitchen. It's old, it's
dingy. Right. I just kept looking for everything that I knew was going
to make me mad, and me being a lifelike metal detector, a scanner,
a machine that's looking for things, right, I'm going to receive more
of those things because whatever I'm seeking is seeking me. So if I keep
seeking black, I receive more of it. This is gonna look like debt.
This is gonna look like negative breakups. This is gonna look like bad
friendship. This is gonna look like more bills that I cannot afford. This
is gonna look like losing my home. This is gonna met me. One
thing with my car is my car kept breaking down. I got a new
lease, and then my car got towed multiple times. I remember down in
Miami Beach and I'm like, why do I keep like, what is this
reason that I keep losing my car? Just kept losing things. It was
like a downward spiral. I remember working in nine to five jobs. I
would always scan the job for what I hate. I wouldn't appreciate the fact
that I have a paycheck coming in. I wouldn't appreciate that my manager gave
me an opportunity and hired me. I would appreciate absolutely nothing about my coworkers.
I was always scanning them for what's wrong. I was a habitual scanning
machine of all things negative, and my life sucked. It was like a
direct response of who I am being again? Right. So when we realize
that we're using our five senses to bring in feedback to our brain to prove
something right, because our brain's always looking for evidence. If I realized that
whatever I am seeking is also seeking me out, I have to start scanning
my reality for something new. Because if I am seeking wealth, why am
I always looking for lack? If I want to bring in more money,
why do I keep looking at all the things where I'm losing money and reacting
to it? So the two don't add up, They don't match up.
My scanning device is off. It's looking for the wrong things, and the
little beeper keeps beeping at all the negativity, so I keep bringing in more
and more and more. It's just a it's a natural response to what I
am seeking out. What you seek, you shall find. Okay. Think
about that guy you were dating ones and you're like, oh my god,
I'm going to go through his social media. I'm going to go through all
his old posts on you know. I'm even going to go through his phone.
I'm going to break through his password. I'm going to go through his
old text messages, see who has been calling him. Listen, You're gonna
find something. What you seek, you will find, Okay. And if
that is your habit of always looking for something wrong, something to make a
fuss about, something to make you feel bad about yourself. You will receive
it because whatever you are seeking out is seeking you. Okay. So I
work with a lot of business owners and entrepreneurs, and I tell the when
they start to create content, when they start to put their business out there,
as they're working on their sales, they have this habitual way of always
looking for what is not working. They don't even acknowledge what is working.
I had a girl tell me that Flora this month, I only She's only
made nine thousand, five hundred dollars, so she almost had a ten thousand
dollar month. She was, I only made nine thousand, five hundred dollars.
Why am I not hitting my goal of twenty K? I'm like,
that's why you're so mad at yourself. Rather than celebrating that nine thousand,
five hundred dollars, that's why you're not Why would you receive twenty k if
you can't even appreciate nine? Why would more come? How does that even
make sense? She and along with many others, are consistently scanning for what's
missing rather than observing, appreciating, and kind of like throwing a celebration for
what is there, what they are doing good at right right, what they
are good at, what they are receiving. And we talk a lot about
like content creation and how that drives a lot of sales, and how to
be in the right energy of creating content, Meaning you want to be in
this energy of like, I'm already a seven figure earner, I already have
you know, fifty thousand followers, I'm already a big deal. I'm already
really proud of myself. You want to always be creating from that energy versus
I hope people like me, I hope this goes well. I don't really
even feel like posting this. It's not good enough, but hopefully something comes
out of it. If you're operating out of the energy of oh, like
I don't know, I hope, I hope this turns out okay, you're
always going to receive more of that feeling of it's just it's not good enough,
okay. So whatever is seeking you out also we have to kind of
reverse the energy that we operate from and turn it into what we actually want
to be seeking us. So if I want to seek out money, then
that means money is also seeking me out. But I have to look for
things in my reality that again is in abundance, that there is a surplus
of that I'm already good at. If you had one sale, that means
you can have a hundred sales, So why don't we celebrate that one sale
instead of complaining about it? Right? So this is just money energetics,
right, and money is a very expansive energy. Money. Like we mentioned
in last week's episode, the language of money is appreciation. If I can
sit here and throw a fucking party in my mind for a five thousand dollars
month, that means I can also receive a fifty thousand dollar month that I'm
also gonna throw a party for in my mind. So the more I get
into this act of celebrating what I currently have, I just get more and
more of it because that's what I'm seeking out. I'm seeking out the good.
And if I'm seeking out the good, the good is seeking me out
because it's a general response. It's like staring into a mirror. What I
look for is looking for me. It's looking right back at me. So
we have to stop being like an habitual scanner of the negative. So if
your metal detector is on the beach. What are you looking for every day?
What is the treasure that you're hunting? And why are you always hunting
for more negativity? Why are you always looking for more people to be jealous
of and scrutinize in your mind? What is the purpose of that? Okay,
because that's what's gonna seek you out. You're gonna always have more occurrences
in your reality of people having the things that you want and you're not getting
those things. So what am I seeking? What am I looking for?
What am I observing? And what is my energetic response to it? So
I got to turn my metal detector onto a completely different direction, Right,
I have to start scanning the beach, scanning the sand with my metal detector
for all things good. I have to start looking for what is in surplus,
what surrounds me that I already had that I can feel good about.
Another example of we had our community group call last month in the membership and
when I do the Q and A sessions for a couple hours on there,
we got so many, you know, so many questions. And this girl
she's manifesting a new home. She has very poor living conditions and a very
poor financial status, And she asked me, Flora, how the hell am
I supposed to scan out what's good around me when I live in this dinge
tiny apartment with the worst neighbors ever. There's cockroaches, it's dark, right,
a lot of things that we can emotionally react to. And I was
like, well, we have to make peace first with what we have and
scan out the good, right, So turn on that metal detector and scan
out the good. What do you have? Well, you have shelter,
you have protection, you have security and safety. You have a roof over
your head. You have clean running water. What can you do with that
water? You can drink it, you can shower with it, you can
flush your toilet with it, you can brust your teeth with it and list
water. Wow, some people don't have that, right? What else can
we look for in this home? I have a bed to sleep in,
I have a closet to store my belongings in. I have a place that
I can go to and shut out the external world. So these are all
things that she realized. She's like, you know, I show zero appreciation
for what I have, and therefore my circumstances kind of keep getting worse.
And this also ties back into last week's episode of appreciation versus depreciation. So
she had to stop scanning her reality for everything she hates and start turning that
metal detector into the direction of the things that she can focus on that actually
do feel good. That in increments is going to lead her to that new
home opportunity, that new house or whatever, if she wants to move,
if it's in a neighborhood that she can finally afford it, that feels way
better to feels way more exciting, way more expansive. Right, But we
cannot get to that step if we hate where we are. Because if I'm
scanning out for everything I hate, I just receive more things that I hate.
If I scan my reality for everything that's missing, I get more things
missing. I lose more. Everything goes downward, right, So everything that
we are living out is like a mirror image of ourselves. So think of
the circumstances you're experiencing. These are physical extensions of you. So think of
you as the center of the universe. And don't let anybody tell you that
the world doesn't revolve around you. It actually does if we think of it
on a scientific level. In quantum physics. The entire fucking world revolves around
you. So don't let people convince you of wise are going to try to
make you feel powerless. Okay, But if I'm the center of the universe,
right, I think of yourself like a rock at the center of the
universe. Think of you as like little like tentacles coming out of you,
right, expanding to all these different circumstances, different realities, different versions of
yourself. Right. So if all these tentacles are expanding, and I'm looking
at all the circumstances that those tentacles are kind of drawing in, those are
just extensions of me. So, my shitty job, it's an extension of
me. My loving relationship, it's also an extension of me. My financial
circumstances, those are extensions of me. My debt that's an extension of me.
The relationship I have with my parents or my children, that's an extension
of me. Okay. The way people respond to me when I walk into
a store or into a restaurant, those are extensions of me and my set
of beliefs. Okay. The home I live in, the car I drive,
those are extensions of me and my set of beliefs. So, if
you are the center of the universe and you have all these little tentacles coming
out of you, like a giant octopus or something, and you have all
these circumstances that you're looking and all these different realities, what do these things
say about you? What have you been scanning your life for? What direction
is your metal detector on the beach going to? Is it always looking for
the good? Or is it always looking for the bad? Is it always
finding things to complain about and feel bad about and throw a fit about?
Is it always scanning for what else can I have an emotional reaction to?
What else is going to piss me off today? What else is gonna have
me complain today? Or Am I going to turn that metal detector onto winning,
onto appreciation, onto gratitude, onto abundance, onto feeling good, like
actually liking myself and liking who I am. If you don't like yourself,
you don't like any of your circumstances. There's no way to attract in and
call in good circumstances. If you don't like yourself because you keep scanning for
things that make you not like yourself, you are the scanner. You're that
metal detector scanning for things. So if I'm seeking out all the reasons why
I don't like myself, I will receive because of what I seek out is
seeking me, I'll receive all these things that don't like me back. Right.
So we can make our life here way more fucking pleasant when we realize
whatever I'm looking for is looking for me. So I gotta start looking for
the right things. Okay, So next time you're driving down the inner coastal
and you see all those beautiful houses and you're like, damn. You know,
instead of being like, I hate the people who live there, I
hate that. They probably were born rich, they probably you know, got
handouts from their parents, and they're probably really bad people. They probably stole
and scammed others to live in these big, beautiful homes. So instead of
scanning out that thought, when you look at that beautiful home, you want
to look at it as a confirmation. Okay, oh, look at this
gorgeous million dollar home. I too can have that thank you, thank you
for showing me what's possible in my area. I too can have that thank
you, thank you for the confirmation. You want to transmute that jealousy and
start seeking out a new perspective, because as soon as you look at that
home as if it can be yours, that home is now looking at you
as if it can be yours or as if you can be it belong to
it. Right, So, if I'm always seeking out the good in things,
I will be receiving the good. But if I'm like this chronic seeker
of everything that is in lack, there's nothing else that can happen but me
receiving more and more and more lack, more and more and more poverty,
more struggle, more unfortunate circumstances, more of feeling unworthy and unloved and unhealthy
and lesser than and viewing everybody outside of me is better than. People do
this a lot on social media, so they'll open up their app and you
have to realize that social media has an algorithm, just like the universe does.
I feel like we've talked about this in the past too. You know
how there's all this like dating advice on Instagram and on TikTok, A lot
of it has They have very heavy, very negative perspectives of men versus woman,
woman versus man. If I'm always looking at these videos, I have
a very skewed perception of the opposite sex, right, And I'm going to
be if since I keep seeking out those type of videos to further prove why
I dislike men or I dislike women, or why they're fucking everything up in
relationships, then that me seeking that out on social media is me actually receiving
that in my reality. So what I am seeking is seeking me. It's
going to respond to me the exact same way. Okay, same thing when
this This always happens to me every time I open up TikTok, it's somebody
complaining about their financial circumstances. Right. They can't pay their rent, maybe
they lost their home, they can't find a good paying job, they have
to work two jobs. They're they're super tied, they're overwork, they're not
receiving government help. And it's so common, it's almost like one after the
other. Once I watch one of those videos, I'll get ten more on
my algorithm, right because I'm seeking it out, So it's seeking me,
it's responding to me. It's gonna give me more of those videos. So
I was like, I have to start looking at social media as an expansive
tool of what I want to manifest I got to look at people who have
what I want. Therefore, my algorithm will start seeking me out with those
videos, with that type of content, with that type of information. So
when I was in when I just started got started in business, I was
like, I got to look at people who are doing really well in business,
not people who are complaining about their money, because my mind is what's
going to attract these things. So if I see everyone complaining about money,
how the hell am I going to believe that I can make more? It's
impossible. I'm flooding my brain with the negative. Therefore, that is what
I will create because I'm seeking it out, so it's seeking me. So
I had to change my entire algorithm. I had to stop looking out all
those like bullshit dating podcasts of everyone tearing each other apart. I had to
stop looking at people who are complaining about their financial circumstances and how bad the
economy is, because then there are people on the opposite end of the spectrum
who are doing wonderful. They're living expansive, huge lives or living in abundance.
They are like the perfect explanation of quantum leaping your reality. And I'm
like, that's the person I want to follow because I want what they have.
So if I'm gonna seek them out, then that type of experience is
gonna seek me out in return. And so it did. Right, That's
how I changed everything in those ninety days of being an uber driver, a
delivery dude's driver. Right when I was doing all that, I didn't care.
I didn't let that really like boggle me down or make me throw a
pity party for myself. I just kept seeking out all the good things and
all the reasons why I can still succeed, even though I did have four
filled businesses, even though I did quit every nine to five job or get
fired from them, right even though I had zero money in the bank and
a whole lot of debt waiting for me to pay off. So I could
have focused on those things very easily. I could have been reacting to those
things very easily. I could have hated myself very easily and hated my life
and hated my circumstances. Or I can change my metal detector and scan out
the things in life that I want to receive. So I started looking at
big homes. I started looking at but with very successful online businesses. I
started to look at people with very healthy relationships and marriages. I started to
look at people who are really into their health and how they're taking care of
their hormones and these things and how it works for them, versus always looking
at the people who are complaining about these circumstances. Right, Because again,
whatever I am seeking is also seeking me. So whatever I'm going after,
it's going after me. Whatever I am manifesting is manifesting me. It's an
energetic response. You are never separate from what you are seeking. So moving
forward, when you guys, get started in your day, right, I
want you to get out of the habit of looking in your life for what
is not yet there. Because when we look for what is not yet there,
we just have more things that are missing. Right, So you're gonna
get into this habit of scanning. You're gonna wake up and scan for what
you like. Sunlight, outdoors, love it, Thank you for the sunlight.
Right. I have a warm bed that I just woke up, and
thank you for shelter, thank you for secure. I have a loving family
or loving friends. I'm so appreciative of them. Right, I don't need
to be sitting on social media comparing myself to all these people that I don't
even know. I need to look at what I have and feel appreciation and
gratitude for these things. Okay, rather than scanning for all the things you
hate about your job, I have a job. I get to have a
job. You know how people don't have jobs, don't have an income.
I get to have one. I really appreciate that. Okay. Next time
you're sitting in traffic and you want to bitch and complain about the traffic.
Wow, guess what. You get to have a car. You get to
transport yourself to wherever you want to go. You get to commute, You
get to have a car. You get to pay for your gas. Okay,
you get to buy your groceries. You get to go into a store
and be able to get whatever it is that you need to get. You
get to have it. So you need to scan for these things. You
need to scan for what is enjoyable, and you will receive more things that
you enjoy. You need to scan for what you love and you'll receive a
lot more things that you are going to fall in love with. When you
meet a person, stop scanning them for their flaws. Okay, if you
meet a man, stop assuming automatically. Oh, he's gonna be another fuck
boy, He's gonna be another person who's gonna hurt me. He just wants
one thing because he cannot operate in any other manner than your dominant assumption anyway,
So stop scanning for the baden people and start scanning for the good.
What can you appreciate about this person? So we want to view everything through
the eyes of the god frequency, which is the love frequency. So if
I can look at someone and just appreciate things about them, you know how
much better my relationships are gonna be. You know how much better my life
is gonna be. You know how much better I'm gonna feel about myself.
You know how much better people are gonna treat me if I scan out the
good in people versus always the bad. Some people are just natural born haters,
And I get that. Some people look at someone and they will find
anything to hate. I hate their clothes. Why is she wearing those shoes
or that handbag? Why does she do her makeup like that? She needs
to fix her eyebrows, right, Like we scan for people and look for
everything we hate. Why you do realize that, like you're you're not doing
anything to that person, you're kind of just screwing yourself over. Because if
you're seeking out the bad in everybody, then everyone is seeking out the bad
in you. Okay. So if we want to improve our relationships, we
got to start scanning for the good, scanning for what we can value in
someone, even if it has nothing to do with this. I appreciate that
person. They're really successful, Like I take that as a confirmation that I
can have it too, and they're showing me so many things I can learn
about myself. I have a lot of online clients who are obviously business owners
and entrepreneurs, and they always tell me how bad they feel when they see
other people succeeding and they compare themselves and they're scanning their life for what they're
missing in comparison to that other person. So their metal detector is going off
and what they are seeking out or seeking them So if you're looking at all
the things you don't have in comparison to that person, then all the things
that you don't have is seeking you out. Okay. So we got to
change this. We got to change the way that we operate. We gotta
change for the way that we wake up in the morning and what we scan
our life for. We need to start looking for the good. Okay,
If you can get into this habit for the next thirty days, the next
sixty days, the next ninety days, your entire three D world has to
shift because you're now operating as a brand new identity, a brand new person.
You're gonna keep appreciating the value of your reality versus decelerating it and depreciating
it and shrinking it. You're gonna become more expansive, You're gonna receive more,
You're gonna attract more. But it all has to really be aligned with
what you want, because whatever you are looking for, you will find.
Okay, So how can you start looking for more abundance in your life to
receive more of it? You know, nature operates through the law of abundance.
Everything in nature is in abundance. So just go look at nature.
If you need to appreciate something, if you need to feel better about something,
everything is an overflow. There's a surplus of everything. There's nothing that
there's one of there's everything, there's millions of tons of right, So we
need to really realize everything I'm looking for, I'm gonna find so we need
to look for better things. We need to have. Our attention span needs
to go into a brand new direction. We need to seek out the things
that we actually want because those things are actually looking for us too. Whatever
you are manifesting is actually manifesting you. Change your perspective, change what you
are looking for, and you are going to transform everything that you're receiving.
Thank you, guys so much for tuning in to this week's episode of Your
Manifesting Bestie podcast, and we will be back again next Wednesday.