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Karen, you know what we haven't
ever talked about with the audience. Well,

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there's a lot, you know what. You're right, Let me rephrase

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that. There's one story in particular
that we tell a lot to our friends

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that we've not shared with our friends
on the other side of this microphone.

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Okay, which one is that?
The day of our wedding? Oh?

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Yes, So do you remember when
you know what? I'm going to let

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you tell the story because you tell
it so well, So Karen, take

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it away. Well, I don't
know if the real story is the day

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of the wedding. I think it's
everything leading up to the wedding. It's

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actually the entire thing. It's all
a great story and really important in this

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context. Well, so how far
back do you want to go? Well,

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let's just start with when we're looking
for the site. Okay, Well

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that's easy enough. So we meaning. I love the fall colors and the

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leaves, and it's something growing up
in Florida that I have not really experienced

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a lot. So the few times
I've seen it have blown me away.

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And so for our wedding, I
wanted to be amidst that beauty. So

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I wanted to go somewhere in the
fall and be outside and have these beautiful

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colors. So we decided to go
to North Carolina and start looking at different

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locations. Well, we saw quite
a few different locations, and all of

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them none of them were what we
were hoping for. A lot of farmhouses

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and pumpkins. Yes, a lot
of people wanted to do jack o lanterns,

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and I mean not that there's anything
wrong with that, but it's just

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not what we wanted. Right,
we should mention we're looking to get married

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relatively quickly, probably sometime in November. It was October October. We had

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a six week engagement and no,
I wasn't pregnant. We just were really

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excited to start our lives together and
we didn't really feel the need to delay.

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We didn't want to have a huge
wedding so anyway, so we started

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looking and found all these lovely people
with very different styles than ours. We

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wanted something beautiful and elegant and simple
and just lovely, and so we had

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pretty much given up hope, at
least I think I had. And we

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decided to go to Asheville because it's
a beautiful city. Will had never been

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there, and we wanted to go
check it out, and what were your

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impressions of ash Oh, my gosh, it's an amazing city. It's a

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tiny little city that feels so much
larger than it really is. It it's

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beautiful, it's very artistic, a
lot of great energy there, really great

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energy. Well, so we got
there just to check out the town and

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kind of give up and make the
rest of the trip about us having a

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great weekend. And we were walking
through the downtown area in the evening and

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just kind of looking at the inside
the shops and you know, the windows,

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most of them are closed, but
we saw one with some lights on

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and I look in and I see
a bride walking across the room and the

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room is all lit up and decorated, and I'm like, ah, well,

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there's a bride. Something to do
with weddings, what is this?

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People get married in Asheville. So
then we saw a sign on the kind

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of the bottom of the door that
said, you know, if you're interested

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in booking the venue, here's the
number. So the next day, which

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was I think a Sunday, which
of course everything is closed, we call

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and surprisingly enough we get an answer, and it was the sweetest lady Egyptian

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lady. Do you remember her?
I do, our very godmother, very

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godmother. Yes. So she agreed
to meet with us in like an hour,

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and so we went to meet with
her and we sat down and it's

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inside this really neat. It's a
room that's in an old, old building

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with exposed brick walls and wooden floors
and high ceilings, and it just was

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beautiful. And she's like, oh, yes, you can have your celebration

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here. You know, I'll have
to figure out a place for your ceremony.

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But when are you looking to get
married? And we're like, oh,

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we'd like to do it in October. And she's like, oh,

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that's fantastic that it had done.
She puts down October. What was the

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year. Well, she starts looking
at her date book. Yeah, and

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she's looking and we realized it was
a year away oct twenty, two thousand

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and nine. Yeah. We said, no, no, it's two thousand

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and eight, and she laughing,
and six weeks away and closed the date

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book. Well, apparently we learned
that Ashville is the second most sought after

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a wedding destination in the country.
So I said, all right, we'll

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keep looking and we enjoyed the rest
of our day in Asheville and went on

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our married way home to Florida.
Well, within a week, we get

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a phone call from her and she
says, well, how would you guys

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feel about getting married on a Sunday? Like, I'm good with Sunday.

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Sunday's okay with me. It's good
for good enough for the Lord, it's

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good enough for us exactly. So
we're like, she said, well,

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we just got a cancelation and my
venue is open on a Sunday for your

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reception. So I don't know if
we can find caterer's photographers. I don't

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know where you're going to have your
wedding, but you can have the after

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party here. But let me help
you. Look. So, little by

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little, the phone calls start coming
in from her and she has found a

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photographer that had a cancelation, musicians
that had a cancelation. Everything. It

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was the craziest thing. All these
people had a cancelation on that day and

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they were her preferred vendors. Yes, and then she found us the most

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beautiful location, the most perfect location. Karen wanted to be married outside with

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the leaves changing, and I started
to take over the story over. But

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then she came back to us with
a mansion that happened to have a small

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glen, outdoor glen with you have
to go down these little steps, stone

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like stone steps, and it's kind
of deep down. Yeah, I was

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a steep stone steps leading down into
this gorgeous glen with a wedding altar,

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a beautiful stone, very rustic looking, covered by trees and plants. It

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was like a fairy wedding. And
it just so happened that they had a

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cancelation. Surprise, surprise, So
it seems like all the stars were aligning.

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Yeah, they were, absolutely.
And then, of course, as

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it is in North Carolina in October, it is brutally cold. But the

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days leading up to the wedding,
oh, they were miserable. I went

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up with my mother and we thought, oh, we're going to have a

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nice spa day and we're going to
do this and just enjoy. And everything

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wrong happened. I couldn't get my
dress pressed. I found a company to

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do it, but then they like
tore it up, and well, we

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were able to fix it, but
it was raining every single day. We

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lost our marriage license, and then
I had a panic attack at the civil

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ceremony. That's a whole other story, a story for another day. Yea,

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the day of so the day before
the wedding it was storming all day.

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The day of the wedding it was
beautiful. It got up to seventy

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degrees, gorgeous sunny day. The
day after the wedding it snowed, so

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even the bad weather got canceled for
our wedding. It's amazing how things lined

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up. Everything lined up, including
the weather. Yep. And if that's

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not meant to be, I don't
know what else. You know, what

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more of a sign could there be? Absolutely so, I would say probably

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the moral of that story is if
something you just said it, if it's

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something, is meant to be,
then the universe will align itself. But

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I think the best thing was we
just received it as it was coming,

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in gratitude. We didn't force it, We weren't angry, we didn't push

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things, we didn't make people angry. We just allowed it. We surrendered

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and we let it happen. And
that was a beautiful thing. It sure was