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Monday. We're to giving you the show on Monday. We're reporting, right,
our doings on a Monday Yesterday. Big block party. Oh really.
I live in the kind of neighborhood that has block parties. That's cool,
so cute. A lot of little kids in my neighborhood, which is why,
as I've always told you, it's like a big Halloween neighborhood. Yeah
right, So there was a pie eating contest. Oh really, uh huh.
And it's so funny. Xander is a really funny kid. He's such
a freaking funny kid. He he gets he's really into stuff that you would
be surprised that he's into because for some reason, like all week long it
was like we were like, yeah, we're gonna have fud at the block
party. And I couldn't tell if he was being sarcastic, but I kind
of do think it's just like something he's he's like us. He's like he
kind of does stuff ironically but also enjoys it, you know what I mean,
Like he enjoys having something to do. He thinks the whole thing's funny,
right, He's this is what I love about him. He can make
anything, like he can find things to look forward to. He's like an
optimist like me. Like, so he can pretty much figure out a way
to have a good time whatever he's doing. So there was a friend of
his from their school. The both the kids invited friends from school to come
over and hang out, and uh so they decided to enter the piating contest
as a duo. A lot of people end apparently the piating contest was like
the biggest event of the block party. So like they kept going on the
loud speaker. My neighbor Josh kept going all right, and you know,
just ten minutes until the piating contest. I know that's why you're all here,
right, Sander's sending me a text, Mom, I hope you're still
here. It's the PI eating contest is starting. I'm like, I'm here.
There's nothing for like adults really to do there. There's a costume contest.
You know, Xander's all about the pie eating contest, right, I
mean, I gotta. I think there were like, you know, fifteen
or so entries into the pie eating contest. Wow, yeah, all kids,
no, like adults too, really yeah? And then I was very
unpleasantly surprised to learn that they were having to eat a huge Costco size pumpkin
pie, not just a regular size, not even a Marie Calendar's or you
know, a normal kind you get at the store, like a big ass
family size wow pie each person, I guess. I yeah, And what's
the what's the prize? Well, we didn't even know what the prize was
the first. The prize was just gonna be pride and I guess winning.
I don't know if they knew what the prize was. So I'm like,
this is where you go from being like a kid in your in your mind
to being a parent when you're like, oh, that's a lot of sugar.
That is not going to sit well. He's gonna have a stomach ache.
Like, however, this turns out like really like couldn't they have done
a smaller pie? I got a lot of notes for these people on how
to run a block party as a pie eating content. In my mind,
I'm seriously like, who's freaking idea? Was it to get the biggest pie?
Like now, and you know what, the guy who was throwing the
block party only has a baby, so what the fuck does he know?
He doesn't now shit? Like I'm like when you have an actual kid who's
like eight or nine, and you're they're gonna have to be sick all night
from doing this, like you know you're going to see the error of your
ways, But like, you have a baby, So now we're a ways
off from that. So I probably won't even be living there anymore by the
time where he won't you know what I mean, it's going to be like
by the time his kids, you know, eight or nine, I'm not
gonna be able to go moded. Like when he's throwing up, right,
I remember where and be like what I don't even remember that. Yeah,
fucker, you got the cost coat size pies when you should have gotten the
regular sized pies. Yeah. Anyway, spoiler alert, Xander won the pilting
car. Yes, his thing was really funny. Maybe they interviewed everybody who
was about to They're like, why are you doing the pie eating contests?
And some people were like, oh, because it's there or whatever, and
Xander said, because a few months ago I won the watermelon eating contests and
I'm here to defend my honor. He was being really funny. He got
like a huge laugh. That's yeah. And then he won. That's great.
And then he and his partner, a kid from their school, won
a fifty dollars Target gift card. Wow, that's nice. But swear to
god, he was puking, so is he. He and the and the
girl the front of his go running down towards the house. I'm out at
the block party with Peepo. You know, John's with me. I have
a key to the house. I'm like, well, they're in for a
bad surprise when they get home and realize they can't get in the house to
go puke in the bathroom. Oh no, Yeah, So we come home
to both of them puking on the front lawn. Oh no, well they
ate an entire Costco size pie this in like, you know, seven minutes.
Oh my god. No. Yeah, it was funny. You know,
it's funny because I was dealing with puking. But Natalia was sick last
week. I know, had like a twenty four hour something. I don't
know. She woke up, she woke up at like six in the morning
or four in the morning, was puking. And then she's like, I
have a presentation in first period. What am I gonna do? And I
was like, well, you're gonna have to like text, And then I
was like, well, you're doing the presentation yourself. She's like, no,
I'm in a group. It's a group effort. I was like,
well, you're gonna have to text your friends. And so then the rest
of the day I'm like waiting on her. But I got the mask on,
the gloves on, and she's like, you know, quarantine in her
room. But luckily nobody else got it, which was nice, but I
will wasn't she also texting you like mom oh yeah, yeah. She wanted
me because she was at the house and I was at the condo and she
was like, can you please come here? It was very nice to feel
wanted by Natalia, Like she doesn't want me like that in a lot a
lot of times, you know, especially since she's gotten older. But she
was like can you please come home? Please? And of course she wants
a quick fix, like is there anything I could take to stop the nausea?
And I'm like, no, you just have to let it run its
course. Yeah I don't. I'm not a run its course kind of person
either. No, she was like anything anything bad feelings, hunger, whatever
it is, but like I was yeah. And then so Wendy was like
make her a seltza seltzer with fresh like with lime, squeezed lime and salked
and like mix mix that up, like get a like concentrate it, not
dilute it with the water, but like get it, you know. So
I she barely took a sip of it, like at first she was like,
yeah, that sounds She's laying on the floor after she just threw up,
and she's like yeah, that sounds good, all right, And then
I get it to her and I'm like this will help, this will help.
Nothing. Then I got her mmatrol at the store and but I don't
know if that stopped it or if it would just ran its course by then.
Because I didn't, I was like desperate for something. And then I
call like her pediatrician. They're like, no, we don't prescribe anything unless
you want to take her to the urgent care, you know, And of
course she doesn't want to go to urgent care. She's like in bed,
doesn't want to move, throwing up every forty five minutes. You know.
Oh it was awful, But but that wasn't the sad part of my week.
The sad part was when I got to Denver. Did I tell you
that? So we are doing a big push between now and Thanksgiving to sell
the house. We lowered the price, more open houses like every weekend,
right, and uh, the realtorn Adam came up with the idea of sending
Phil to a oh right, doggy daycare? Did I talk about this?
You did? What happened? So what happened happened was I feel like Phil
is inappropriate to go? What happens? I know? So when I got
to Denver, Uh, I Olga called and she was like, okay,
so just so you know, I dropped Phil off and I was like what
already, Like, wait, I wanted to drop him off. Well,
this week we're getting the house ready because the open house is this weekend.
This was on a Monday that she dropped him off. And apparently it's at
a house up by our house. It's a it's a it's not a facility.
So it's like a bunch of dogs at a home with a husband and
wane that runs the business, okay, which is nice. And they don't
sleep in cages or anything. They sleep on dog beds. They just flop
out. Okay, that makes me feel better. Yeah, and it's really
close to our house. It's in our neighborhood. It's a house in our
neighborhood. But still, I'm like, Phil's gonna think that Olga just like
dropped him off somewhere. Yeah, he doesn't like and now I'm not gonna
be back for like two days three, you know. And then I was
like, well, I'm gonna go get him and bring him to my condo
when I'm at my condo and OLDA is like, no, don't do that.
You're gonna screeze, don't mess with him like he's gonna I'm like,
I'll be the judge. Of that, well, I'll figure it out.
Like so yesterday I went and sprung him for the day because we had to
do open house. So I went and picked him up and brought him to
my condo and I could not wait to see him. I was so excited.
I'm like, he's gonna think like, what the like everybody forgot about
me or who? Like as soon as he saw me, he was like,
wait what He's like, I don't want to eve where are we going?
He was like really, I thought he was gonna be like like so
excited, wagging his tail wagon. He was just like he was really tired
though, as soon as he got in my car, he starts snoring.
He was out. He was very tired, Like I could tell, like
he probably hasn't slept because he's overstimulated. Overstimulates, not used to that,
and he is used to sleeping with me or with Sonny like a human you
know. And so anyway, and then I took him to the conda.
I took him for a walk, and he was tired. He did not
want to have a walk, He just wanted to go, and like he
just slept for pretty much the whole but I cuddled with him. And it
was so nice to see him. And he did lose weight, he got
skinnier, really, yeah, and it's because I give him a lot of
scraps throughout the week and treats, and I don't think that they they do
that there, but but yeah, he's And then when I dropped him back
off, he like ran like as soon as he heard the lady's voice,
he just like started wagging his tail and like ran right at her. And
I was like, all right, by Phil, Wow, motherfucker. Yeah
interesting. Yeah, so he's having a good time. He's having a good
time, but but I do miss him and he's gone and from now until
a week before Thanksgiving. I remember when the first time I dropped Penelope off
and we've had her for a while at this guy who kind of did the
same thing. He like was boarding her. He had like six other dogs
on the property that dogs could sleep a similar situation. Yeah, I think
we'd gone to maybe that's when we went to Canada. Yeah, and then
we came home and I went to go get her and yeah, nothing like
didn't you. She was very like underwhelmed day Yeah, oh my god,
I was nervous. He was like seeing an ex boyfriend on the fanc you
know, or you know, being reunited. I was like having butterflies to
see her. I was like, and she was like, ugh, hey,
yeah, that's She came over like as if I was any like a
neighbor or somebody, like, she came over for a pat But she wasn't
like freaking out. No. I thought Phil would be freaking out, like
when you see those videos where like the guy comes home from the military has
been gone for two years and the dog just like loses her fucking mind.
That's what I was a picture right right, I was like, Phil,
where's my parade? I know? Now, wag that tail, here's my
You didn't leave me, You're said, no, no, oh, that
just goes to show you has more fun over there. But now it's good.
And she sent me a picture the other night of he was laying on
the guy, her husband's feet as he was cooking in the kitchen, which
is something that he does when I'm at home, not when Olda is there,
because he's not allowed in the kitchen when she's there, but when I'm
there. That's what he lays on my feet when I'm standing in the kitchen
and just like looks up at you like, are you gonna pet me?
Right? Right? Right? So's are you gonna drop food? Yes?
Exactly. I had a similar thing happened to me. The guy that I
used to work with that I had to give Ringo to when I gave him
up moved up north to San Francisco. Well, he recently moved back and
we both did an episode of Sonny's podcast. We were on the Fantasy Football
podcast together and I was like, oh, bring Ringo, bring him to
the studio. I'm gonna get to see him again. It's gonna be great.
And I bought him a toy and he gets out the car and I
get out and I'm like, Ringo, it's me nothing. Who were you?
I don't yeah, I don't know, Yeah, don't care. What's
what these dogs so sad? Oh? Well, I know that is not
the TikTok response that I was helping for. The upload that video and get
you know, a huge following from it. Come on like you know,
yeah, no, as soon does he and then again like soon as he
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speech and debate tournament. He's being a real go getter this year. He's
signed up for a lot. He's on like student council and he's doing speech
and debate and he's doing his music lab. So anyway, at his first
speech in debate tournament, he one his category. He got a like a
trophy. Why everything. Yeah, he was there all day long. He
said it was really fun. You watch you didn't watch it. No,
parents weren't invited. Apparently he was in a novice category because he'd never done
it before. And sometimes I think when the kids have been doing it a
few times, parents can be judges. But no, there's no like you
can't like, there's no bleachers, you can't sit and watch. Thank god.
Yeah right, it's true. I was like, oh I can't come.
Oh no, are you sure could you double? Oh? I can't
for sure. Oh darn it. Goshall love when that happens. And I
didn't have to drive him or pick him up. Oh I know, I'm
loving life first time ever. Like the he was doing a duo thing and
the girl's mom came and got him because he had to be there at eight
am in Santa Clarita. Oh, girl's mom came by, picked him up
at seven thirty bye, and then to come home. Another friend that was
there, the dad kind of knows him and was like, oh, do
you need to ride home? Nice and he was like, hey, I
got a ride home. I was like, oh Christmas, I know,
right, I know what are they gonna do for? Are they going to
go trick or treating or anything? So every year my kids have kind of
like had people over because we have the neighborhood for trick or treating. It's
not that it's so fancy or the houses are big and people give out full
sized candy bars. It's just that it's a compact, like very sweet,
very neighborhoody neighborhood. You know, I don't know if you've heard, but
we have block parties. Yeah. So They're just having a bunch of school
friends coming over and I'm gonna like order pizza and get them, you know,
order some snacks, make them a little dinner, and I have probably
like ten kids will come over and maybe they'll go trick or treating. I
think they might take their xanders, you know, Lylela crocodile. Yeah,
his younger sister. So the mom will probably bring her kids over and then
the kids, the older kids will probably take her or chair. That's cute.
Yeah, that's a good excuse to go trick or treating. Yeah,
yeah, so what about your kids? And I'm like, no, they
went to a party over the weekend. They went to the same party.
Sonny was dressed. He was like, I'm so glad I dressed the way
I dressed because everybody was freezing. He dressed as a snowboarder, boring like
he wore like his big goggles, like a helmet and like a big parka.
Okay, that's really original thing. That's what my friend would do every
year, except he would just be like a dead snowboarder. So whatever it
was, he would just put like bullet holes on and or whatever. Yeah,
a dead hockey player. He was a sports guy, so you'd be
like a dead football player, a dead hockey player. That's what he should
have done. Last year. He had a good costume. He was Sonny
Corleone. After he went through the toll booth. Remember he had all the
bullet holes, and I told him I would help him do it again.
He's like, nah, I don't need to go through all that Casha again
just to go to a party. And then Natalia, Natalia and her friends,
surprise, surprise, were like cute superheroes. She was wonder Woman.
Her other friend was I don't know, somebody a superwoman. I don't know
whatever. Oh oh Charlotte, No, what's the Carley Quinn? Yeah?
Her and then two girls were like race car drivers, you know, with
the boostia and everything, like they're getting ready at my house. I love
that, you go, you know race car drivers, you know with the
boostia. You know how female race car drivers they don't wear jumpsuits. They
were boosting. Everybody knows that exactly, that's what they were wearing. These
two girls, Like I was like, what are you guys? You know,
like they did have some kind of zip up jacket but with the red
boostia underneath. It right, and then like the boots and stuff. I
was like, okay, yeah, that's how Ari from the Bachelor's dressing just
like that, you know. And then they so they went to the same
party and then we went. I went to a party Saturday night with my
friends from ABC and stuff. Okay, my ABC girls and that party.
It was kind of a it was like, uh, the the theme was
college okay, because they had a kid that just left for college. So
there was like, you know, cheerleaders, dead cheerleaders. There was uh,
my friends. Two of my friends dressed like Animal House, like Belushi
and they had a sweatshirt the sweat There was a lot of like toga,
you know, people dressed like you know, you know, Greek life stuff
like that. Me Suzanne, we just wore it like a cap and gown
we got on Amazon and this freaking hat falls off all the time constantly.
But that was fun, and uh, that's all we did, like over
the weekend. But it felt like Halloween weekend, you know, because there
was a party to go to. But it's kind of a dud. But
it was fine. But now tomorrow's it's tomorrow, right, It's Halloween.
Yeah, yeah, they'll probably like, I'm like Natalia's friend, her boyfriend
will probably come over. They'll watch like a scary movie. Was the Exorcist
on TV or on probably stream it now? Or is it making a come?
I see it like billboards for it. There's a new Exorcist of that?
Oh? Is that what that is? Every I feel like every year
there's like a new Exorcist. But yeah, they released another new one this
year. Oh I thought it was the classic that got released. Maybe it's
re released, Like, hey, come to the Hollywood Cemetery and watch the
Exorcist. They do that sometimes. But there's also another Have you seen the
billboards for it? I've seen the billboards for the new one. Oh is
that the new So it's a new one. There's a new one. Yeah.
Oh where there's like there's like two possessed children instead of just one.
Oh jesus, My kid's school starts late on Wednesdays and Fridays, so they
don't have to be at school until nine to twenty. So that's better.
That's so, you know. I'm like, oh, yeah, did you
finish watching The Fall of the House of Ushers? Yeah, yes, it
did. Was it good? It was pretty good? Yeah, it was
Yeah. I always say, like when there's horror movies, there's kind of
like different categories of horror movies. Some are scary, some are just violent,
some are disturbing, some are more creepy. This one kind of has
a little bit of all of those things. Really. Yeah, it's violent,
there's disturbing parts, there's scary parts, there's creepy parts. So it's
kind of a mix of all of those things. And yeah, I was
very skeptical after this director's last couple yeah shows, but I think this is
his best one since The Haunting of Hillhouse. Not as good, not nearly
as good, but but I was happy with it. Stephanie, you got
to watch The Haunting a Hillhouse so good, so I started watching it,
Yeah, and it was fine. I wasn't an it's a little hard to
follow. I can't remember it's a while since I. Yeah, I feel
like there's time jumps, you know how I do it. There are time
jumps, yeah, but that's kind of yeah, I mean there is,
but that's kind of the point of the show too, you know, they
don't tell you everything until you see both of the times kind of play out
a little oh yeah, Yeah, twists and reveals, But you know how
I do with stuff where I'm like, wait, am I supposed to know
that? Are we supposed to know what happened here? Like what you know?
I have to watch it with John so he can say like, no,
we're not supposed to know that yet, or so he can say like,
yeah, where you are? Did the thing happened? Every time I
watched movies it, I might as well be stoned, but I'm not,
but I might as well be because I'm like, did that happen? Do
we know who this guy is? Has this character been introduced? Like where
that gout come from? I used to be I did. My Suzanne and
Wendy would always like hate watching movies with me because I would be like,
you know, because sometimes I zone out, you know right, They'll say
something in the movie and I'll go like, oh shoot, I forgot to
pick up the thing at the for Natalia I was supposed to make the appointment.
And then I start thinking about that and then there and then I'm like,
wait, what what's going on? Like completely same? Yeah, do
you think this is like an attention deficit disorder thing? I think so I
will do that. I this is the same reason I have trouble reading books,
yes, even listening or reading whatever, because I will be reading and
the whole page I'll have read two pages, all with my eyes, not
with my brain. You know too, I'm having a whole other thing happening
in my brain. I'm making a grocery shopping list, I'm thinking about things
people I have to call, and then all of a sudden, I'm like,
wait, I don't I have no idea what will happen on the last
few pages? Right? And then you gotta go back? Yes, Or
I'll watch something it's an hour and it'll take me like three hours because I
have to pause it, I go get something to eat, come back,
rewind, rewind, you know. Yeah. Yeah. When I'm listening to
podcasts, it's it's hard because the podcasts I like are usually a storytelling format
where you can't miss stuff. But if you're me and I'm listening, I
don't care. If I'm doing nothing else but listening, I will somehow go
like, oh my god, I started thinking about something else. And then
I'll go I don't know where they are in the story. And sometimes I'll
think, oh, nothing, probably happened major, But then I won't get
it at the end, so I will go all the way back and I'll
be like, oh, I missed a very important plot point, like the
person died. And I'll be like, well, what happened to so and
so? And it's like halfway through the person freaking die. That's all what
the whole story was about. And I'll be like, oh, God,
okay, I guess I'll listen more careful. I can't. My brain just
doesn't do it. No, I know, there's always something that gets triggered
and I just start thinking about something else. Like and also, I can't
go grocery shopping and listen to something like I have to. I say,
I have to like either one or the other. So I'm at the grocery
store. If I'm gonna listen to something, so I have to put it
on pause because you know, I got to read and stuff. I'm gonna
get distracted, I know. But then, like, actual grocery shopping is
so boring. Do you ever just go like, how did I do regular
activities before podcasts? Now? Because I'm like I need something else to be
going on, right, because I'm like, just oh, here here,
I am picking up peanut butter, putting it in my car, Like how
boring is that? I know? Or like, you know, we had
to clean the house and organize and get ready for the blah blah blah.
Yeah, and then so I'm like, oh, but I got nothing to
listen to, Like what, I gotta find something to listen to otherwise I'm
not I'm just gonna put that chore off unless I have something to listen to.
You know what. The worst thing is trying to vacuum, because vacuuming
it's like, oh, I have to take a break, you can't hear
it, or you have to try it. I'm so loud that it's just
not comfortable right to vacuum at the same time, So you have to pause
the podcast get the vacuuming done. At least it's motivated made because you're like,
oh, as soon as I finish this, I can like clean the
bathroom, right then I can get back to listening, right right. Yeah.
Then the worst is when you're out of podcast, the worst and you're
like, well, I'm not going to live to do anything nothing. I'm
not going to be able to organize the garage unless I have something to listen
to. So what do you guys want me to do so then you'll find
yourself like you're on your podcast app hitting brows and it's like, oh new
and noteworthy, and then it's stuff that you're like, no, that's not
up. I want there to just be how come like al our buddy al
algorithm, Yes, doesn't just know the stuff that I listen to and show
me only stuff that's Stephanie Wilder tail. I would like to listen to it,
okay, because yes, and I know that. You can go to
a podcast and it'll say if you like this, you might like that,
but no, they don't know me that well. Like sometimes they'll be like
I like this, No, I definitely don't like that, right, how
dare you? I do that with my TV shows too, Like if you
like this, no I don't necessarily like that, then it together nothing?
Come on, come on? But uh are you? Are? You see?
I told you I was watching The Bachelor. There was something else,
you know. I don't like as missing when people are missing. Uh so
I had lunch with Natalia's boyfriend's mom. That is like the best non sequitor.
I don't like it when people are missing. Well, I'll tell you
what are we talking about? In podcasts? Because same, I don't like
that either. I'm talking about like true crime. So when I had lunch
with Natalia's boyfriend's mom, she loves true crime like I. So she was
giving me, you know, documentaries to wad from, Like most of them.
I'm like, yeah, I've seen that one, I know that one.
Whatever. And then so she texts me, Oh, she's like,
I don't like fires. She's got her a certain certain truth grounds, and
I'm kind of with her, right. I was telling her about us,
like we need like it to be the closer to home, the better,
like in our vicinity, can't be from like this, you know, early
century. Now. I don't want to listen about you know, w H
Hill whatever, the guy that had the House of Horrors or whatever. God
Sam right, you know, like it's got to be it's got to be
like nineteen eighty and on forget it if it is. Yeah, I don't
want it to seem like something that was not real right at all? Right,
too long ago, that's too long ago. They should at least have
had car phones, you know, they kind have been very big and not
like easy to use, but they should still be a way that's on type
yes, yes, and then so she was like, yeah, I don't
like fires. So then so she sent me a text she was like,
I have there's one about I think it's on Amazon. I don't even but
it's about missing people, people that just like vanished. I'm not into it.
Maybe I was gonna say no because unless they come back suddenly at the
very end, they found them living like the kid that like the Yosemite kid,
Remember the Yosemite murders, Remember the kid Carrie whatever that? What was
this Larry Staer you're talking about, Yes, Stephen Stainer's brother, Carrie Stayner.
How they found him later on like living with the other. Oh,
you're talking about Steven Stainer. I know, my first name is Steven.
Yeah. Miss kid shows back up right there and then meets a lot of
and then I like there to be like an epilogue full of twists and turns
and tragedy, like Carrie Staanner being then found out to be the Yosemite murderer.
Yeah, and also then poor Stephen Haram like dying in a motorcycle accident.
Oh yeah, right right, Not that I'm not saying I like that,
I'm just saying it's compelling when you know if they just come back.
Yeah, did you ever see this movie? It was like a lifetime movie.
Oh my god, I can't even remember who was in it, but
you might remember the kid gets stolen the the Oh it might have been called
like Deep End of the They might have was it based on a book Deep
End of the Ocean. I believe there was a movie and it was like
based on a true story where this uh they they the kid gets kidnapped early
on, and then the family like there, everybody's looking for him. It's
like a typical kidnapping case. But then they don't they he's gone, and
then they they eventually do the detectives. Jeded Hirsh is in it. If
you look up Jed Hirsh. That's that's my only clue. Jud Hirsh plays
a detective. And then they do find the kid at the end, and
he was like kidnapped, he's like living in some dirty he's like all dirty.
And then it's like a really heartwarming ending without a trace, without a
trace. Okay, yes, yes, so then there's like anyway if there's
a heartwarming ending, like you know, the kid gets reunited and like right
sirens and okay, there's another movie though, that's one that I love.
I could watch without a trace over and over because I cry at the end
every time. Then there's another one called I want to say, Deep into
the Ocean about where they the kid gets kidnapped, the mom feels guilty for
years and years and years. They find the kid. He was he was
kidnapped and raised by another family. He doesn't know that, he doesn't.
Then they he gets reunited. But now he's like like sixteen, and it's
he has trouble like fitting back into his old house. And then the dad
of the so now this is a massive spoiler alert, but he was kidnapped
by like kind of a crazy woman, right, but the dad didn't know
somehow didn't know that she was kidnapped. Right, that's the dad who took
him, who was raised him. Now so he's like, had I get
hurt? Like the parents get him back, but he's like, I didn't
know, like, and so then that dad loves his son too, and
the son kind of loves his dad. So it's like, this really weird.
Was that a true story that was based on a true story? Is
as far as I know, I think, So, Okay, anyway,
let's take a break, We're back. Okay, I feel like I've been
talking a lot this episode, but I do want to tell you something.
So Elbie is in the same boat as your kids, as you know,
reapplying to colleges. And I have to say that I have been struggling with
my personality to be controlling like I'm wanting her to be, cause she has
to rewrite. So for the UC's. I don't know if your kids are
applying to any ucs, but there's something called Personal Insight Questions. They have
to pick four out of eight topics and they have to write three hundred and
fifty words right, and it has to be good, and it has to
be compelling, and it has to be kind of like a story, Like
it can't just be like general like essay. It has to be like start
with a situation and how what they learned from it whatever. Anyway, she
already did this. You know. This was last year when John and I
had to like play hardball with her and go like, you're not leaving the
house till you've written these things. And we were like trying to go,
you know, not just be her friend, but be her parent and make
boundaries. And as you know, she came in the studio and talked about
how that did help her. Now we're a year later, She's going to
be nineteen in like a week after you hear this episode, and I'm struggling
with I know that it's hard for her to do it again because she just
did it last year. But I have already talked to her. I've expressed
it to her. I've been like, you need to reach out to your
counselor, you need to start picking some topics to write about. Like I've
done all that, and I have to let it be up to her.
I know what I really really want for her, which is to get into
UCLA. Yeah, she really wants to go to UCLA or Berkeley to do
that. She has the grades for it now, and she has the you
know, she's done what it takes to make herself eligible. She did all
that with a counselor. When she first started going to community college. She
sat down with the counselor. They went through everything that she would have to
do to get guaranteed admission to Santa Barbara, but also to get preferred for
UCLA or Berkeley. She knows what she needs to do. She's not doing
it. She has like thirty days to get this all done, and it
has been very hard for me to go. She's an adult. Like,
she's an adult, and she's capable, Like she will tell me if she
needs my help or support. She knows what's on the line, So like,
I have to stop. I have to stop reminding her. I have
to stop saying like, did you do it? Did you do it?
As recently as last night, I was like, Hey, did the counselor
get back to you. I made her promise to reach out to her to
the counselor. This is not the one we paid for, by the way,
this is just the community college counselor who's in charge of transfer students.
Right. I was like, did you And she's like, no, not
yet. But if I don't hear back from her, I can go on.
There's like a zoom thing where they and I can just get assigned somebody.
But in my mind, I'm like, the longer you wait, you're
not going to be able to write all these in my mind. Yeah,
not saying it to her, but I'm like, if you don't get into
UCLA because you didn't try, I'm going to be so sad. But that's
up to her, right, I mean, well, I mean it is,
but it also she's still your daughter, and like I get it,
you know. And if you think about when she came on the show and
she was saying, like, you know, she was so appreciative of how
you were on top of her, you might need to that I have been
on top of her. Yeah, and she's still not really doing it.
Yeah, I think I need to give her another like week or two.
And if it gets I mean, I don't know what else I can say
at this point, at nineteen, I cannot just be like you're not coming
out of your room until you've done it. It's just something changes. You'll
see something changes after eighteen where you're like, they're eighteen, Like they shouldn't
need punishment, right, The punishment will be pretty I mean, look as
John said to me, John and I talked about it, and he was
like, look, worst case scenario is she goes to Santa Barbara, and
that's a pretty good case. That's pretty still a good outcome for her,
Like after the disappointment, Yeah, we would both like her to go to
her first or second choice, which is not that, but she can do
it, right, And I've told her. I've been like, listen,
I will hire an essay coach so that I don't have to be the one
involved in it. And they don't help you write the essay, but they
can help you structure it. They can you know, they can look at
a draft, they can help you edit it. Like I'm like, I'm
having And she was like, oh, that would be great, but like
I'm like, okay, but you have to come up with some topics first,
Like I'm not gonna, yeah, spend one thousand dollars for you to
be like, I don't know. Well, is she more like she works
better under pressure? Yeah, well there you go. Yeah, I think
maybe give it a little longer. She still has a little bit of time.
Yeah, I know. And I'm such a procrastinator too that it's like,
who am I to be like, don't wait till the last minute?
I mean right right, That's how I've written all my books. Yeah,
last minute. Yeah. See, so maybe that's what she's doing, And
yeah, I would give her a little more time. All right. Do
you have any other any other things you wanted to get off your chest?
Kaylin? Any more soccer games? Uh? Yeah, more soccer games.
But they've kind of been a little uneventful. Isila doesn't seem to be going
after the ball quite as much anymore. She's just kind of running around in
circles. She just follows everybody, you know, without trying to get the
ball. So you know, that's that's all the updates there. But they
did go to like a Halloween party over the weekend. And Blake, you
know, I think I told you I wanted to do like a paw Patrol
family costing right right right, Well, they they asked that one. They
didn't want to do that anymore. So Blake ended up being a witch and
Iowa's Rapunzel. And so they went to their party. They got a little
school parade they're gonna do tomorrow. We carved pumpkins yesterday. That was fun.
Ye cute. Yeah, are they in their Disney Princess Nightgown phase yet?
Yeah? They are, Isla more so than Blake. I mean they
have a bunch of them. You know. They have like bell I already
had a Rapunzel one, but she needed a new one for Halloween. They
got you know, Anna and Elsa. They got them all and they like
to just put them on for a while and run around. But definitely Isla
more so than Blake. So cute. Elbe was had the Ariel nightgown in
one Natalia too. Ariel Ariel was the for them. Yeah, that's all
they were all about Ariel. Yeah. You know what's funny is that they
got like a pack of princess underwear. So there's like one that's Bell,
there's one there's the Noderella, there's one that's Rapunzel. Blake doesn't even really
like Rapunzel, and she will fight tooth and nail for that Rapunzel underwear.
Like, they started fighting over who gets to wear the Rapunzel underwear, and
the other day I had to tell him, like, no one gets it.
That's it's both done. I had to take the Rapunzel underwear away from
him and they were very unhappy with that. Wait, so are they both
potty trained now? Then? Yeah, oh that happened. Yeah, Blake's
been potty trained for a while now. She had to be when she started
school this year. So oh, but remember you were worried about how that
was going to happen. If that was going to happen, they wouldn't even
go in the potty. Well, you know, Blake got trained on like
a little miniature potty, right. I love when she got potty trained.
She trains, she kind of liked the bigger potty anyway, just put put
a you know, a kid's seat on there. Blake is still going in
the little potty. So she does know how to go. But whenever we're
out and about and she has to go potty. Uh. The other day
I stopped at two places because she had to go potty, And once we
got in there and she sat down, she was like, I'm not going
in this. So she still like won't go in a normal potty, but
she'll do it at home. And she doesn't have any accidents at school,
so well, that's good. But I remember having to bring the potty seat
with me places, and I got one that folds in half, but you'd
have to bring like a big bag and put you literally have a potty seat
in your bag so that if you went to the mall right, put the
potty seat on the potty. Yeah, I wasn't. I didn't even bring
Pirate's Moody to the park so that they could have a snack. I was
didn't bring in the toilet seat, but there was, Yeah, there was
a dummied. Yes, somebody gave us one at some point to take with
us, and I never well, see, I had to because Lbie had
anxiety, oh right, which even from a young age, which I didn't
know was anxiety. I just thought she was quirky. Yeah, and she
would freak out. She didn't like bathrooms because they were noisy. They were
sometimes loud, which for me, I love a loud bathroom because I get
pea shi so like a lot more fans and the activity the better for me,
not for her. And she and oh my god, I just remembered
this. She was super scared of the toilet flushing. So one time it
was one of those automatic flushing toilets and I had her sitting on the toilet
and it flushed, and she lost her mind and started crying. So then
I would bring Oh my god, it was a whole kashaw. I had
to bring a post it note so that I could put the post it note
over the That's what I did. Sensor. You did, really blake also,
well, they both are scared of the automatic or just the flushing of
a public toilet, yeah, no matter how loud it is, because they
think it's going to be loud, and one of the bathrooms I took Blake
to had the automatic one, so I was staring at it, going like,
uh oh, I gotta do something here. So I tried to just
get some tissue paper and put it in front of the little sensor. Uh
huh. And she didn't even end up going so I did. It didn't
matter, But yeah, I had to do that because I saw that that
was going to happen and I didn't want to. If that thing had flushed
while she was sitting on it, she would have freaked out. She would
have gone crazy. So yeah, oh yeah, and then and then and
then it would take It would be a whole relearning process to get them to
like, you know, slowly, like let's just walk into the bathroom.
Okay, let's walk close to the Okay, let's just look at the potty.
You know, I would have had to I would have been totally screwed,
right, Yeah, So I would put the censor over it, the
post it over the sensor, get her potty seat out, and then still
have to like hold her on there. Yeah, oh my god, it
was a nice because shah yeah yeah, all right, well guess what we
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