WEBVTT 1 00:00:27.719 --> 00:00:31.879 Yaser for the record with Angelina, what's up. I'm Angelina, I'm Chris, 2 00:00:32.439 --> 00:00:36.719 I'm angel Leek, I'm a b period and fus Chris is behind the 3 00:00:36.799 --> 00:00:40.479 camera. In this week's episode. And for the Culture, we're talking about 4 00:00:41.560 --> 00:00:46.039 some heartbreak that happened this past Sunday, but also Ushers halftime Show and Let's 5 00:00:46.079 --> 00:00:50.200 Talk TV, a brand new show is coming to Netflix. And in Bitch, 6 00:00:50.280 --> 00:00:55.119 I give an update on Carpenter Bay and we talk about canceling dates. 7 00:00:55.439 --> 00:01:00.359 By all means, let's get to it. This is for the culture, 8 00:01:03.880 --> 00:01:06.719 for the culture, for the culture. This is where we pick a headline 9 00:01:06.760 --> 00:01:08.079 and ask if they, she or he did it for the culture. I'm 10 00:01:08.120 --> 00:01:11.560 gonna just get this part out the way. Though I was doing so good 11 00:01:11.599 --> 00:01:14.719 and I wanted to talk about the Niners leading up because you know, I 12 00:01:14.719 --> 00:01:18.959 don't want to jinx it when Super Bowl is approaching. We did not talk 13 00:01:19.000 --> 00:01:23.400 about it in any of the episodes. I'll just say, I don't know, 14 00:01:23.560 --> 00:01:30.120 it's still it's it's it's a stinger, so sad literally forever. It 15 00:01:30.159 --> 00:01:32.920 was hands down, not hands down, but it definitely was one of the 16 00:01:32.920 --> 00:01:36.280 worst loss losses in forty nine ER's history. And I know a lot of 17 00:01:36.319 --> 00:01:40.319 people are like blaming it on the no holding call, and like I think 18 00:01:40.319 --> 00:01:42.920 when you lose like that on a big stage, it's like easy. Everyone 19 00:01:42.920 --> 00:01:44.640 wants to point a finger, you want to blame the coach, you want 20 00:01:44.680 --> 00:01:47.560 to blame certain players. But like, all in all, it was a 21 00:01:47.599 --> 00:01:51.400 team loss. There was a lot of missed opportunities. We should have had 22 00:01:51.439 --> 00:01:56.319 like seventeen points going into halftime. Right if you have turnovers and don't refuse 23 00:01:56.359 --> 00:02:00.359 to score on turnovers, like you're just already gonna battle and appeal. I 24 00:02:00.359 --> 00:02:06.000 don't know what that's saying is have an upheel battle. So yeah, that 25 00:02:06.120 --> 00:02:10.479 was a heartbreaker. Rock Party though he did a solid job. But yeah, 26 00:02:10.520 --> 00:02:13.960 I mean, I'll be classy and give it to Patrick Mahomes. He 27 00:02:13.960 --> 00:02:16.639 really is the goat. It's fucking hard to beat them his fucking seth rogen 28 00:02:16.800 --> 00:02:25.240 laugh sound and ass come with the frog of the fuckers. No, he's 29 00:02:25.319 --> 00:02:30.199 like literally the go He probably will pass on Bretty's record and it's really hard 30 00:02:30.199 --> 00:02:32.199 to be him. And like I said, brock Party was solid, but 31 00:02:32.280 --> 00:02:37.000 like he's just not in the same universe as my Homes And like obviously one 32 00:02:37.560 --> 00:02:39.680 if we won maybe that wouldn't have been a conversation. Maybe it would have, 33 00:02:40.280 --> 00:02:44.520 but got to give credit words due and it was just a team loss 34 00:02:44.520 --> 00:02:46.199 all around. And I don't want to sound like a Cowboys fan and say 35 00:02:46.199 --> 00:02:50.520 that we'll be back next year, but like, we'll be back next year. 36 00:02:50.719 --> 00:02:53.919 Maybe we probably will. I think at one point I was feeling like 37 00:02:53.120 --> 00:02:57.159 I'd rather just be trash, like I'm so tired of like making it every 38 00:02:57.240 --> 00:03:00.479 year and like not winning. But like that's a lie. I want to 39 00:03:00.520 --> 00:03:04.199 be trashed like some of your guys' teams. So yeah, anyways, Well, 40 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:07.199 isn't the super Bowl coming here next year? So like you know, 41 00:03:08.360 --> 00:03:14.120 yeah, I'm pretty sure they are. Yeah, wow that someone told me. 42 00:03:14.360 --> 00:03:16.439 I don't know. My class told me that time it gets there will 43 00:03:16.479 --> 00:03:20.719 be. I thought, if you were going to super Bowl, you couldn't 44 00:03:20.719 --> 00:03:24.360 have it at your your home. Well we don't know, Oh, I 45 00:03:24.360 --> 00:03:31.319 guess we don't know. Well the script the scripts are coming then, will 46 00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:37.360 not be? It is coming to Clara yeah right, leave stadium. Yeah, 47 00:03:37.360 --> 00:03:40.280 they already going to host it next year. I think it's twenty twenty 48 00:03:40.319 --> 00:03:44.240 six. So like if the Niners go, that would be dope because it 49 00:03:44.280 --> 00:03:46.360 could be their home, but I guess they won't get the cut. They 50 00:03:46.360 --> 00:03:52.120 won't go, they won't go. So didn't somebody just say that if if 51 00:03:52.199 --> 00:03:55.159 a place is hosting it, the team can't play, well, they can't 52 00:03:55.199 --> 00:04:03.680 not like like yeah the rule. Maybe they have like like a tentative place, 53 00:04:04.400 --> 00:04:06.599 but then like, oh, if the Niners go, then we got 54 00:04:06.639 --> 00:04:09.759 to move somewhere else. I feel like that's not a thing at all. 55 00:04:09.879 --> 00:04:13.240 Like what, you go undefeated and you can't play the super Bowl because it's 56 00:04:13.240 --> 00:04:15.719 in your hometown. Let me let me google this real quick. Hold on, 57 00:04:15.759 --> 00:04:19.079 hold on, please please hold twenty four Only two teams have played the 58 00:04:19.079 --> 00:04:24.480 super Bowl in their stadium, so you can, okay, okay, they 59 00:04:24.639 --> 00:04:27.279 just want to go where the money, where the money flows, and like 60 00:04:27.399 --> 00:04:30.959 Levy Stadium is it's huge, like and it's been yeah the Rams, that's 61 00:04:31.000 --> 00:04:35.720 so fine. Oh wait, we had it a couple of years ago. 62 00:04:36.040 --> 00:04:44.279 Yeah yeah, yeah, yeah, it was like before it was actually a 63 00:04:44.279 --> 00:04:53.240 cold Play but it was yeh, who is she? I don't know her? 64 00:04:53.360 --> 00:04:57.879 Just kidding love cold Play down, but Beyonce Bruno clearly stole the show. 65 00:04:58.079 --> 00:05:00.480 And who stole the show from me? Yeah? The best part of 66 00:05:00.519 --> 00:05:06.759 Sunday Night was usher mother fucking Raymond. His first song, caught Up was 67 00:05:06.839 --> 00:05:11.360 not I did. It wasn't my top three. I didn't even think it 68 00:05:11.399 --> 00:05:14.519 was like. Hearing it, I was like, I know it was good, 69 00:05:14.560 --> 00:05:16.959 but I was coming in. I didn't take that. I like your 70 00:05:17.000 --> 00:05:20.120 guys' idea of what the songs. That what he was going to open up 71 00:05:20.160 --> 00:05:30.839 with, yeah, directed like mine was open with Daddy's Home. Oh yeah, 72 00:05:30.959 --> 00:05:36.839 yeah, I just want to get your attention. Stop Pyro Pyro. 73 00:05:38.319 --> 00:05:41.079 That's a good opener too. I thought he was going to open up too 74 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:47.000 bad girl one. Yeah, that's a good but also caught Up was good 75 00:05:47.000 --> 00:05:50.040 though I did not see that coming at all see it coming. Also, 76 00:05:50.160 --> 00:05:53.839 I'm not gonna I don't not like caught Up. But I think when it 77 00:05:53.879 --> 00:05:56.240 was out, like I remember it being like on one to six a Park, 78 00:05:56.279 --> 00:05:59.759 and I I wasn't in love with it. Really, it's like probably 79 00:05:59.800 --> 00:06:04.000 my favorite song on the Confessions album. I'm not gonna lie, Okay, 80 00:06:04.199 --> 00:06:06.920 I think I don't know which one it was. Let It Burn on that 81 00:06:06.959 --> 00:06:14.199 album that been my favorite, let It Burn. But he didn't even do 82 00:06:14.279 --> 00:06:20.680 Daddy's Home at All's Home. And but I'm glad he went through like he 83 00:06:20.720 --> 00:06:24.120 did most of his R and B ship Like it was very R and B. 84 00:06:24.240 --> 00:06:27.800 It was very hip hop, you know. I will say I wish 85 00:06:28.199 --> 00:06:33.040 it was like five seconds of a song versus like two three yeah songs, 86 00:06:33.040 --> 00:06:36.279 so it's like how do you get through album? But it did feel a 87 00:06:36.279 --> 00:06:40.120 little a little quick, like right when I'm like ready to sing, it's 88 00:06:40.160 --> 00:06:46.120 like to the next one and slow. It was just seven o'clock on the 89 00:06:46.160 --> 00:06:48.399 dot and then it switched. I was I wasn't ready for that. I 90 00:06:48.439 --> 00:06:51.959 needed a little bit more. I wanted to hear Lovers and Friends. I 91 00:06:53.079 --> 00:06:56.000 was so bummed about Lovers and Friends, especially because they were all up there, 92 00:06:56.199 --> 00:07:00.360 up there. They could have totally took that opportunity, but I guess 93 00:07:00.399 --> 00:07:03.120 can't do them all. Superstar though, even though he just did the intro, 94 00:07:03.839 --> 00:07:10.480 I thought that, I thought of you is a win for you guys. 95 00:07:11.920 --> 00:07:19.040 I did like the roller blade was dope. The how they were all 96 00:07:19.079 --> 00:07:23.240 in sync. He killed one of the dancers. I don't know if you 97 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:26.399 guys caught in the very beginning, he like bent backwards and he used his 98 00:07:26.519 --> 00:07:32.439 like head to like roller blade through the stage. Yes, the skates, 99 00:07:32.480 --> 00:07:36.120 the whole production was insane, like the Vegas theme. They nailed it. 100 00:07:36.560 --> 00:07:41.160 Yeah, it was really good. A lot going on. Al piano was 101 00:07:41.199 --> 00:07:47.800 fire. Yeah, like the piano maybe a good transition to go into the 102 00:07:46.160 --> 00:07:58.279 bath. No Alicia the first note, Like I would have been okay if 103 00:07:58.279 --> 00:08:01.079 they cut that whole part out. I'm not gonna lie. Yeah, it 104 00:08:01.160 --> 00:08:03.560 was a little surprised that she was going to be there, But that's cool. 105 00:08:03.680 --> 00:08:09.959 You know she the very first which is crazy because they went and edited 106 00:08:09.959 --> 00:08:20.120 it off YouTube. Did they edited it out because she cracked like her voice 107 00:08:18.920 --> 00:08:22.720 at that ship. Yeah, and like auto like side note just about the 108 00:08:22.759 --> 00:08:26.160 world. Like, that's so crazy. I can see years from now people 109 00:08:26.199 --> 00:08:30.519 like arguing, people arguing whether or not it was like a good or bad 110 00:08:30.519 --> 00:08:33.159 performance, Like there's any people who remember her cracking and be like, okay, 111 00:08:33.200 --> 00:08:35.840 let's pull it up on YouTube. No. Wow, I never even 112 00:08:35.840 --> 00:08:39.519 thought about it like that. That's how you change the narrative. That's how 113 00:08:39.559 --> 00:08:46.679 you change the narrative. The power. That's crazy. Her dress was fire 114 00:08:46.720 --> 00:08:52.200 though, Yeah, she shouldn't said to that. The chemistry. I love 115 00:08:52.320 --> 00:09:03.879 that. Don't leave your girl around me? True playing for that? He 116 00:09:03.919 --> 00:09:05.120 did. You don't have to call also, I mean, he did all 117 00:09:05.159 --> 00:09:09.759 the hits. It was amazing, and I feel like it did exactly what 118 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:11.759 halftime show was supposed to do, Like you're supposed to be, like, 119 00:09:11.799 --> 00:09:16.080 wow, this person has catalog and like, unfortunately Usher has been lately severely 120 00:09:16.120 --> 00:09:18.399 underrated, Like he is one of the biggest starts. He gave us one 121 00:09:18.440 --> 00:09:22.200 of the best R and B albums. But like the fact that it was 122 00:09:22.240 --> 00:09:24.559 even like a conversation if he should do halftime is insane, and I think 123 00:09:24.799 --> 00:09:28.799 he proved that point. Like bitch, I got hits on hits, I'm 124 00:09:28.840 --> 00:09:41.200 a performer. Yeahs her noise, she did that. I love that she 125 00:09:41.399 --> 00:09:46.759 killed it. She did she I mean she her starting too is just like 126 00:09:46.840 --> 00:09:50.360 on YouTube, right, she was just like saying something and Ellen saw her 127 00:09:50.399 --> 00:09:52.759 and she was on all these like good morning shows. I love. I 128 00:09:52.799 --> 00:09:54.840 love that storyline. Like now you're at the fucking super Bowl and you're like, 129 00:09:54.960 --> 00:09:58.919 not even thirty, let's go. And she's sang when she was little 130 00:09:58.919 --> 00:10:05.840 too, like a throwback of like being at the super Bowl singing oh wow, 131 00:10:05.039 --> 00:10:09.759 that's right. Definitely full circle for her. Oh my god, could 132 00:10:09.799 --> 00:10:16.639 you imagine could you imagine? No she was she was fired, and I 133 00:10:16.679 --> 00:10:18.840 loved, like, yeah, when Ludacris came out, I just got like 134 00:10:18.879 --> 00:10:22.639 so like the hip hop. Me got really happy. And the part that 135 00:10:22.679 --> 00:10:26.240 I thought was really dope when Luda had came out and he was doing his 136 00:10:26.440 --> 00:10:31.320 yeah verse, they played the Freaking League beat and now she was fired, 137 00:10:31.360 --> 00:10:33.360 and I remember like coming back to work and me and my coworkers were specifically 138 00:10:33.360 --> 00:10:37.399 talking about that part. It just sounded really dope. So now stuff has 139 00:10:37.399 --> 00:10:39.679 been coming out. How like Little John was like the main one to like 140 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:43.240 produce the whole show. But he also I didn't know this. He mentioned 141 00:10:43.279 --> 00:10:48.679 that ushers Yeah was originally recorded to the Freak League beat. Oh wow. 142 00:10:48.159 --> 00:10:52.120 Interesting. I didn't know that. And then I guess Peop Papa wouldn't put 143 00:10:52.120 --> 00:10:54.080 it out, didn't want to give it to him, so well, John 144 00:10:54.120 --> 00:10:56.639 didn't want to take it, and he just like flipped it. So essentially 145 00:10:56.679 --> 00:10:58.759 the beat is essentially the Freak League beat. He just like switched some parts 146 00:10:58.759 --> 00:11:01.720 out and he's like, I'm glad we did it because like, yeah, 147 00:11:01.720 --> 00:11:07.120 it wouldn't have been yeah right, yeah, but is one of the best 148 00:11:07.120 --> 00:11:09.120 beats ever, Like to this day, people we have like there's like three 149 00:11:09.519 --> 00:11:13.600 samples already of it, like people continue to wrap over it's one of the 150 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:16.240 best beats ever. But oh no, my mind was blown and like that 151 00:11:16.320 --> 00:11:18.519 made that moment even cooler. Like I thought that was dope that he was 152 00:11:18.559 --> 00:11:20.600 just wrapping over it, like it just seemed to hip hop as fuck. 153 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:24.440 And then to know that, like, oh this actually could have been Yeah, 154 00:11:24.679 --> 00:11:26.519 like no, wonder why he's like riding the beat so so too. 155 00:11:28.440 --> 00:11:31.919 Yeah, so that ship was fire. Where are we ranking this as far 156 00:11:31.919 --> 00:11:41.639 as like top halftime performances? Happy, I feel like I want to do 157 00:11:41.720 --> 00:11:46.000 top five, really, top ten for sure. I'm just trying to think 158 00:11:46.039 --> 00:11:50.200 of other ones. I don't know. Lady got Katie Ferry, Beyonce, 159 00:11:50.440 --> 00:11:58.639 well, like number one for me, Michael Michael, yeah, Michael's Yeah. 160 00:11:58.799 --> 00:12:03.559 It's just like he's like sitting there for like two minutes straight and everyone's 161 00:12:03.639 --> 00:12:07.159 just going shit crazy and he like doesn't even sing it out like for like 162 00:12:07.159 --> 00:12:11.799 two whole minutes. Everyone's just like screaming, losing their fucking Yeah. Yeah, 163 00:12:13.000 --> 00:12:15.159 it's known to be like one of the best ones for sure. Okay, 164 00:12:15.120 --> 00:12:18.360 Yeah, it's like MJ, so number one, you forget to count 165 00:12:18.360 --> 00:12:22.159 it. It's like Michael Jackson, Prince and then we're gonna rank the rest, 166 00:12:22.559 --> 00:12:24.799 and at number three is Beyonce and Bruno. For me, I gotta 167 00:12:24.840 --> 00:12:28.039 look at the rest of them too. You're right, it's a toughye, 168 00:12:28.200 --> 00:12:33.720 But is sure over Rihanna's last year, for sure, I say easy. 169 00:12:33.960 --> 00:12:37.120 Yeah, Yeah, It's a hard to judge Rihanna because she end up being 170 00:12:37.159 --> 00:12:41.279 pregnant. You know that scratch a lot of stuff, But for sure, 171 00:12:41.279 --> 00:12:43.759 I think now it's safe to say, like, yeah, it wasn't it 172 00:12:43.799 --> 00:12:48.720 wasn't the greatest, It wasn't terrible. It was that was Paris Globals, 173 00:12:48.960 --> 00:12:52.080 which is the choreographer who did it. It was her super Bowl. It 174 00:12:52.080 --> 00:12:56.759 wasn't h Yeah, it was Rihanna, of course, but like she that 175 00:12:56.840 --> 00:12:58.519 was that was all her planning. I mean, love her songs, but 176 00:13:00.120 --> 00:13:03.120 yeah, and I think and hers did do what exactly the super Bowl needs 177 00:13:03.159 --> 00:13:03.480 to do. Like it was at the end of the day, You're like, 178 00:13:03.559 --> 00:13:09.480 damn, we only got catalog. But it was nothing like crazy pregnanty. 179 00:13:09.559 --> 00:13:11.759 Yeah, the coolest part was her like doing her makeup, like Okay, 180 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:15.279 your rich bitch, you got makeup, you got anywhere and Nama shout 181 00:13:15.279 --> 00:13:18.000 out to usher. He's a man, okay, one of the goats, 182 00:13:18.480 --> 00:13:22.320 minus the camera man being a little wonky in the beginning. And Alice Keys, 183 00:13:22.519 --> 00:13:26.200 I don't think she get in her voice back. But other than that, 184 00:13:26.399 --> 00:13:31.919 the man got hits on hits. It was amazing him harmonizing all his 185 00:13:31.960 --> 00:13:35.200 records, taking his shirt off, doing his little dance the guest stars. 186 00:13:35.600 --> 00:13:39.200 I thought it was amazing and I need to find a way to create an 187 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:43.919 OnlyFans or sell some feet picks so I get tickets to his upcoming tour. 188 00:13:43.000 --> 00:13:50.399 He is coming to Oakland. Let's talk TV everyone. After the show is 189 00:13:50.440 --> 00:13:54.559 over, After this podcast is over, take your little asses to Netflix, 190 00:13:54.840 --> 00:13:58.960 take your little fingers and type in the Vince Staples Show. It is out 191 00:13:58.000 --> 00:14:03.080 now. It dropped at midnight on Thursday, February fifteenth, Right is that 192 00:14:03.120 --> 00:14:09.080 Thursday yesterday? Yes? So Vince Staple. Yeah, he got his own 193 00:14:09.120 --> 00:14:11.919 Netflix show. If you don't know who Vince Stables is, He's one of 194 00:14:11.000 --> 00:14:16.879 my favorite rappers out aside from those boys at Griselda. I really don't think 195 00:14:16.879 --> 00:14:20.159 anyone could out rap Vin Staples like I love Kendrick. I think Vin Staples 196 00:14:20.200 --> 00:14:22.919 could out rap Kendrake like I know that's my hot take. When it comes 197 00:14:24.200 --> 00:14:28.320 bar for Barr, not hits wise, but obviously Kendrick's career. Rap career 198 00:14:28.399 --> 00:14:31.080 is better, discography is better. But when it comes bar for Bar, 199 00:14:31.120 --> 00:14:35.720 I think Vince Staples could wrap a lot of these new guys on the scene. 200 00:14:37.240 --> 00:14:43.399 However, aside from my love for him as a rapper, he's always 201 00:14:43.399 --> 00:14:46.360 going viral for his interviews. Everyone swears up and down that he's the funniest 202 00:14:46.399 --> 00:14:50.120 guy ever. We need to put him on TV, and now here he 203 00:14:50.279 --> 00:14:54.440 is on TV. Okay, you're at your prayers haven't answered. I'm not 204 00:14:54.480 --> 00:14:58.320 exactly sure what it's about. I saw the trailer. It does seem pretty 205 00:14:58.320 --> 00:15:01.240 scrissid earlier like it seemed like a little dick. I don't know if it's 206 00:15:01.279 --> 00:15:05.159 necessarily Vince Staples story, like on Vince Stables a rapper, this is how 207 00:15:05.200 --> 00:15:09.320 I become a rapper. But maybe I don't know. I gotta watch it. 208 00:15:09.320 --> 00:15:13.799 It does seem like he is playing a regular version of himself, and 209 00:15:13.879 --> 00:15:20.360 like a lot of it's based on maybe actual events he's gone through, growing 210 00:15:20.440 --> 00:15:24.600 up in LA and being in a gang, et cetera. Is it is 211 00:15:24.639 --> 00:15:26.799 it a comedy? Yeah, it's definitely a comedy. Yeah, it's a 212 00:15:26.840 --> 00:15:31.320 comedy show. It's no, no, no, no, it's definitely not 213 00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:33.919 a docu series. It's like he's just not playing himself. But I'm sure 214 00:15:33.919 --> 00:15:35.799 he's playing from like stuff he knows from his life. I see, you 215 00:15:35.799 --> 00:15:39.039 know what I mean? Like next week we'll be able to come with a 216 00:15:39.080 --> 00:15:43.000 real review and what it's about and how funny it was and if it's that 217 00:15:43.120 --> 00:15:45.639 good or not. But please go watch the Vince Staples show. This is 218 00:15:45.679 --> 00:15:48.519 what I'm looking up right now, like what it's supposed to be about. 219 00:15:48.559 --> 00:15:54.480 This is what the La Times is saying online. There we go. Yeah, 220 00:15:54.480 --> 00:15:58.399 I see the description says Vince Staples plays a regular guy version of himself. 221 00:15:58.440 --> 00:16:03.000 Infix and Netflix is a stable show, gap tooth Wrapper and Active Stables 222 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:10.120 has a series. Why do they describe it that way? Gas, I 223 00:16:10.200 --> 00:16:18.120 don't have a damn La Times. What is it? I'm offended. I 224 00:16:18.120 --> 00:16:29.679 looked at I forgot him. Okay, describes it limited comedic series London. 225 00:16:29.799 --> 00:16:36.080 Look, Okay, that's crazy. Vin Stables navigates life as a kind of 226 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:38.960 famous, kind of rich, kind of criminal, but not really rapper. 227 00:16:45.120 --> 00:16:48.120 But I didn't even realize. Now, Okay, We just got a couple 228 00:16:48.159 --> 00:17:03.039 of gap to write that the La Times that was not his, that was 229 00:17:03.079 --> 00:17:08.640 on a podcast. Not y'all love it at eighties gap. Maybe your gap 230 00:17:08.680 --> 00:17:12.240 is beautiful. You go see it on our Instagram. Had to underscore emtr 231 00:17:12.319 --> 00:17:19.039 pod go support the Vincample show it Neflix. I said, bitch, if 232 00:17:19.039 --> 00:17:22.440 you wanted to go to Taylor's, just tell her brother you want to go 233 00:17:22.519 --> 00:17:25.960 to Taylor You said that. Oh hell yeah, man, I laid it 234 00:17:26.000 --> 00:17:29.079 out right, I said, I said, I said, I said, 235 00:17:29.079 --> 00:17:34.720 bitch, all right, bitch. So do you guys remember last week? 236 00:17:34.960 --> 00:17:38.359 I told you it's been a week and I have not heard from We'll go 237 00:17:38.319 --> 00:17:42.799 ahead, carp this, Carpenter, it's been a week, you said, 238 00:17:44.599 --> 00:17:47.640 you guys remember last week? I was like, we went on too amazing 239 00:17:47.720 --> 00:17:52.599 dates. And then I was like, okay, we had talked on that 240 00:17:52.720 --> 00:17:56.359 like that Saturday, and then we recorded the podcast on Thursday, and I 241 00:17:56.359 --> 00:17:57.119 was like, yeah, I have not heard from at all, Like he 242 00:17:57.160 --> 00:18:00.599 hasn't text me nothing. Yeah, produce Chris even be like, no, 243 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:03.599 it's just the middle of the week. We're like, no, it's Thursday, 244 00:18:03.440 --> 00:18:07.279 Sunday again, like it's gonna be a full seven days, so he 245 00:18:07.319 --> 00:18:11.039 did text me. Oh okay, okay, okay, so text me on 246 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:19.160 Saturday, I had a Warrior's game shouts and Angelique she came out to support. 247 00:18:19.359 --> 00:18:22.160 Okay, I have to pull the screenshot out. So he texted you 248 00:18:22.720 --> 00:18:26.960 six days after let me let me tell you, yes, it was six 249 00:18:26.039 --> 00:18:30.480 days. Let me pull the text out first. Okay, you guys, 250 00:18:30.519 --> 00:18:34.359 this is for real, so terrible. Okay, I'm pulling out a thing, 251 00:18:34.599 --> 00:18:37.519 you guys. Also, I don't know if anyone else does this, 252 00:18:37.680 --> 00:18:41.200 but sometimes with like if I'm like expecting a text message or I have like 253 00:18:41.200 --> 00:18:44.960 anxiety about it, I'll like delete the text thread and that means it didn't 254 00:18:45.000 --> 00:18:48.319 happen. No, that's just so when I deleted it, like if he 255 00:18:48.359 --> 00:18:49.920 never would to hit me up, like that never happened because I deleted the 256 00:18:49.920 --> 00:18:52.839 text thread. If that orcs for you, girl, that works for you. 257 00:18:53.200 --> 00:18:56.720 If I send a risky text, okay, I've been doing pretty good 258 00:18:56.720 --> 00:19:00.559 not doing it anymore, even though I just did it this past week. 259 00:19:00.839 --> 00:19:06.559 No. I used to be though, yeah, please say, do you 260 00:19:06.599 --> 00:19:10.720 mean you are in an argument? Right? And I send you a risky 261 00:19:10.759 --> 00:19:14.279 text and I'm like anticipating your text message, but I'm tired of waiting for 262 00:19:14.319 --> 00:19:17.920 it. I'll delete the text thread and that means it didn't happen, like 263 00:19:17.920 --> 00:19:18.839 like you know if people throw their phone because I don't want to look at 264 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:23.079 it anymore doing that, like, yeah, you don't want to print it, 265 00:19:23.119 --> 00:19:27.400 email nothing, No, that's my option, no receipts, do not 266 00:19:27.519 --> 00:19:30.119 do it. No, but okay, I used to be really bad. 267 00:19:30.480 --> 00:19:34.880 Side story. One time I was talking to this guy. We did not 268 00:19:36.000 --> 00:19:41.559 have a good altercation, and I sent a very risky text. We didn't 269 00:19:41.599 --> 00:19:44.160 have altercation, but like we the time we met up, it was just 270 00:19:44.200 --> 00:19:47.920 embarrassing. It was not good. I sent a very risky text. This 271 00:19:48.279 --> 00:19:49.880 this is my crazy days. I'm not like this anymore. I sent a 272 00:19:49.960 --> 00:19:53.759 risky text. I get to work. I don't want to see anymore. 273 00:19:53.799 --> 00:19:56.200 Like if you respond like, I'm like, I have anxiety. So I 274 00:19:56.240 --> 00:20:00.559 delete the text thread. It never happened. This is when I worked at 275 00:20:00.599 --> 00:20:03.720 the front desk and I heard and I'm waiting, Oh you guys right when 276 00:20:03.720 --> 00:20:07.319 I deleted the message, my phone vibrated, so he literally texted me as 277 00:20:07.359 --> 00:20:11.400 I was deleting the text thread, so you didn't see the message. No, 278 00:20:11.480 --> 00:20:15.640 So I go back to the front desk, which I'm like trying to 279 00:20:15.640 --> 00:20:21.839 find ways you could like recover, which I called team to God, I 280 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:25.799 called and I was like, is there any way I could retrieve these? 281 00:20:27.519 --> 00:20:32.079 No? I was down bad. I swear I'm not like that anymore five 282 00:20:32.160 --> 00:20:37.799 years ago, ma'am your plan or sometimes you can look at like call logs, 283 00:20:38.000 --> 00:20:45.160 they could know you're for evidence and stuff like I think it's because I 284 00:20:45.240 --> 00:20:49.119 message, because technically you could actually if it's like green text messages, so 285 00:20:49.160 --> 00:20:52.759 android winters. You guys are actually winning. If you were a crazy bitch 286 00:20:52.759 --> 00:20:55.559 in my situation and you had an Android, you would have been able to 287 00:20:55.559 --> 00:20:59.640 retrieve that message maybe, but because it was I message, they weren't able 288 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:03.559 to do it. So I had to send a second risky text and make 289 00:21:03.640 --> 00:21:07.480 up a lie of why I didn't just get that, because I had to 290 00:21:07.519 --> 00:21:12.160 say in the ocean and I don't know what I told him, but it 291 00:21:12.200 --> 00:21:15.000 was something so embarrassing along the lines of, hey, I didn't get your 292 00:21:15.079 --> 00:21:19.839 last message, but oh God, just replaying this in my head, like 293 00:21:19.880 --> 00:21:23.640 telling the story I was insane. I was actually insane, but I think 294 00:21:23.720 --> 00:21:29.960 I made up a lie. Was like man for whatever reason I didn't get 295 00:21:30.359 --> 00:21:34.000 her text that you just sent me. But whatever, I just want to 296 00:21:34.039 --> 00:21:37.799 apologize about whatever whatever, like I went back to the topic at hand, 297 00:21:40.160 --> 00:21:45.480 So embarrassing would the message? No but his He did respond to me and 298 00:21:45.480 --> 00:21:49.480 it was very respectable, like okay message. But then we eventually followed each 299 00:21:49.519 --> 00:21:52.519 other off socials. But that were good me did him follow each other? 300 00:21:52.359 --> 00:22:00.759 We're great Off the record. I used to be insane. I can't believe 301 00:22:00.759 --> 00:22:04.599 I literally called him T Mobile. That's crazy who used to work to my 302 00:22:04.640 --> 00:22:07.119 desk with me. She was probably just looking at me like this bitch is 303 00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:14.599 so crazy, has seen me at my worst because we miss you no so 304 00:22:14.759 --> 00:22:17.599 much. Emma really saw me down bad. She saw me calling up T 305 00:22:17.720 --> 00:22:22.839 Mobile, deleting text threads, so many hungover days coming into work. She 306 00:22:22.880 --> 00:22:26.880 saw me the day after. If you're a day one for the record fan 307 00:22:26.960 --> 00:22:34.720 this story the day I fortunately got arrested. You no longer delete the dread. 308 00:22:36.200 --> 00:22:41.359 Yeah, well I did do it this past Saturday, because oh no, 309 00:22:41.759 --> 00:22:44.000 I was just writing AV. I was like, if he is ghost 310 00:22:44.000 --> 00:22:45.400 to me, like, I don't want to like be dumb and text him. 311 00:22:45.440 --> 00:22:48.960 You get what I say? So I already didn't save his number, 312 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:52.039 and I know, like if I ever was in a mode to self sabotage 313 00:22:52.039 --> 00:22:55.599 and like text this man embarrassingly, I was like, that's not gonna happen. 314 00:22:55.640 --> 00:22:56.200 So that's why I deleted the text. I was like, you know 315 00:22:56.200 --> 00:22:59.640 what, if he goes to me, let me just go ahead and delete 316 00:22:59.640 --> 00:23:02.440 his number and like let him do that, because yeah, I'm like, 317 00:23:02.440 --> 00:23:06.720 we're coming up on almost day seven. And then Angelina would call Apple to 318 00:23:06.720 --> 00:23:10.200 see if she could recover the numbers. Yeah, I know, see that. 319 00:23:10.279 --> 00:23:12.160 That's not like anymore. I don't do anywhere. I don't call customer 320 00:23:12.200 --> 00:23:17.160 service anywhere to get number. But that's what was going in my head. 321 00:23:17.279 --> 00:23:18.839 Okay, okay, So Saturday, I'm working Seed OFS and I get a 322 00:23:18.880 --> 00:23:23.279 little text message. Oh I deleted that part, damn it. So what 323 00:23:23.319 --> 00:23:26.799 do you have the screenshot? But it was something along with the lions. 324 00:23:26.640 --> 00:23:30.160 It was something along the lines. Because I ran out to Angelique, he 325 00:23:30.200 --> 00:23:33.599 said something like oh what was it? Because he worded it that he was 326 00:23:33.640 --> 00:23:37.240 like hey, smiley face. And then he sent a second message and he 327 00:23:37.319 --> 00:23:41.559 was like did it. Almost thought I wasn't going to find your number. 328 00:23:41.559 --> 00:23:45.079 Four A second was like a sweaty emoji. He said, yes, he 329 00:23:45.119 --> 00:23:48.720 did say that. I thought I was He said, I thought I wasn't 330 00:23:48.759 --> 00:23:52.680 going to find your number again, so he lost it or he's also right 331 00:23:53.680 --> 00:23:57.839 confused, and I was like, okay, let's just scroll down. But 332 00:23:57.839 --> 00:24:03.359 then I'm like, yeah, so many bitches that you're like, yeah, 333 00:24:06.160 --> 00:24:11.440 dive in. So I think I responded like, oh, like you deleted 334 00:24:11.480 --> 00:24:15.000 my number already or something like SEMIKEI with someone like what the fuck? Yeah, 335 00:24:15.039 --> 00:24:17.759 yeah, he said, sends me a picture of his phone, and 336 00:24:17.799 --> 00:24:19.559 he said, my old phone stopped working, so I had I had to 337 00:24:19.559 --> 00:24:22.559 buy a new one. So he had a little type of there, and 338 00:24:22.599 --> 00:24:25.720 all my recent numbers didn't get saved on my iCloud. I paid someone to 339 00:24:25.759 --> 00:24:27.000 try and fix the phone, and they were able to fix it today. 340 00:24:27.039 --> 00:24:32.680 Ha ha. Do you believe him? I didn't believe him. Oh you 341 00:24:32.720 --> 00:24:34.720 didn't believe him? No, because, first of all, if it was 342 00:24:34.799 --> 00:24:38.440 me, I'm not going twenty four hours without a working phone, Like, 343 00:24:38.680 --> 00:24:41.759 how are you going to go a whole week without a phone? Well, 344 00:24:41.799 --> 00:24:45.559 no, he didn't have a phone. Yeah, you couldn't get the numbers, 345 00:24:45.599 --> 00:24:47.359 that's what. Yeah, So what I think I think he got a 346 00:24:47.400 --> 00:24:48.720 new phone right away because he does need it for work. And I think 347 00:24:48.759 --> 00:24:52.519 he said, but eventually I end up paying someone to fix his old phone 348 00:24:52.559 --> 00:24:56.119 so I could get my old numbers or he was like, I'm so in 349 00:24:56.119 --> 00:24:57.440 love with that bitch, I'm actually going to pay someone so I could just 350 00:24:57.480 --> 00:25:00.759 get her number. No, I'm just I don't know if it was just 351 00:25:00.759 --> 00:25:03.039 for me, but I think he was saying that he already got a new 352 00:25:03.079 --> 00:25:06.559 phone for work. So where you guys at now, what's going on right 353 00:25:06.759 --> 00:25:11.680 today in the bay? Bids today in the bay? I do believe him. 354 00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:14.319 I mean, you really can't put anything past anyone, like people are 355 00:25:14.359 --> 00:25:18.359 crazy. But I do feel like it's too early to come up with that 356 00:25:18.519 --> 00:25:22.119 like specific ass lie, Like why make up a lie like that? Like 357 00:25:22.160 --> 00:25:26.319 that's like o d like like a bitch, I'm just hitting you on days 358 00:25:26.319 --> 00:25:29.599 sex Like I could just been like, hey, what's up right? You 359 00:25:29.599 --> 00:25:32.079 know? So he's like not only one acknowledging that, Hey, it's been 360 00:25:32.279 --> 00:25:34.480 six days since I've text you, but also this is the reason why I've 361 00:25:34.480 --> 00:25:37.279 text you, And oh my god, I thought I was never gonna find 362 00:25:37.279 --> 00:25:38.880 your number again. I like, you know, I like the hey, 363 00:25:38.880 --> 00:25:41.799 I know it's been a while, but it's because of it, like you 364 00:25:41.839 --> 00:25:45.200 know, like yeah right, I mean whatever, like whether it was a 365 00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:48.519 lie or not. I kind of in the moment was just happy that this 366 00:25:48.599 --> 00:25:53.079 mother Parker is still alive. And he texted me, yeah, I'll firm 367 00:25:53.160 --> 00:25:56.920 that because I was there. Actually, no one's jumping up and down, 368 00:25:56.359 --> 00:26:15.240 kicking a screaming yeah, anyone makes And he texts me because she was so 369 00:26:15.640 --> 00:26:29.039 cute, were taking away thriving. So he did finally text me, what 370 00:26:29.079 --> 00:26:32.920 was the last text? Where are you guys at right now? I'm not 371 00:26:32.920 --> 00:26:37.279 gonna take the details. No, we're just texting casual like our last text. 372 00:26:37.839 --> 00:26:41.160 I don't know he sent pictures of his dog or something. I do 373 00:26:41.240 --> 00:26:45.160 want to bring that up, though, because I originally shared the Carpenter based 374 00:26:45.160 --> 00:26:48.519 story, because there's this actual post that's going viral on TikTok right now and 375 00:26:48.559 --> 00:26:52.640 it has to do with someone not texting a person within a week. So 376 00:26:53.119 --> 00:26:56.119 we're gonna get into that, but real quick, I do want to talk 377 00:26:56.160 --> 00:27:02.440 about letting conversations die. I literally was just talking about this with someone yesterday. 378 00:27:02.480 --> 00:27:06.319 So Chris, I'm glad you asked that because now that I don't know 379 00:27:06.319 --> 00:27:07.480 if it's because I'm older or just where I'm at right now, but I 380 00:27:07.519 --> 00:27:14.039 see texting while dating way differently than I did three years ago, five years 381 00:27:14.039 --> 00:27:18.599 ago, ten years ago. Like I definitely think it's okay to let conversations 382 00:27:18.640 --> 00:27:19.400 die. I think before it'd be like, oh no, we got to 383 00:27:19.440 --> 00:27:23.559 keep this going. I gotta say good morning, Like no, like, 384 00:27:23.599 --> 00:27:26.359 it's okay if we don't. Like I just like the idea that you text 385 00:27:26.400 --> 00:27:30.640 me today, you know, like that's cool and you decided whatever, I 386 00:27:30.799 --> 00:27:32.759 can send me a picture dog, whatever it may be. But like, 387 00:27:32.799 --> 00:27:34.440 I'm totally fine with like conversations dying, and I'm not like, oh, 388 00:27:34.440 --> 00:27:37.319 our last text was dry, Like I don't think that. I just think 389 00:27:37.359 --> 00:27:40.440 like, oh we talked that day, you know. Is this like like 390 00:27:40.519 --> 00:27:45.119 while you're dating you said yeah, and I mean, okay, I agree, 391 00:27:45.279 --> 00:27:47.200 Well what do you what is your other one? No? I thought 392 00:27:47.200 --> 00:27:49.799 you like because I feel because I think when once you get into a relationship, 393 00:27:49.880 --> 00:27:53.279 I like the like, let me know, like I can't just not 394 00:27:53.400 --> 00:27:56.519 hear from you at all, you know, like but I'm not trying to 395 00:27:56.519 --> 00:27:59.440 text you all day every day because we both have lives and we're both adults. 396 00:28:00.200 --> 00:28:03.160 Like I like the idea of like good morning, long day to day, 397 00:28:03.200 --> 00:28:06.400 it texts you when i'm you know, when I'm home or whatever, 398 00:28:06.480 --> 00:28:11.400 And then I think there are different eras different but in the beginning, don't 399 00:28:12.319 --> 00:28:15.160 I actually like because it's like do you have a job, Like, if 400 00:28:15.200 --> 00:28:18.079 you're texting me twenty four seven, do you have a job, Do you 401 00:28:18.119 --> 00:28:18.880 have a family, do you have a hobby? It's like, why are 402 00:28:18.880 --> 00:28:22.240 you texting me twenty And also like I'm trying to get to know you not 403 00:28:22.400 --> 00:28:26.160 through the phone, yes, and people could really fake their caps the whole 404 00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:30.559 personalities to your phone or you interpret it differently because there's no tone there. 405 00:28:30.680 --> 00:28:33.559 Right, you can have a whole personality while I'm texting you and then I 406 00:28:33.599 --> 00:28:37.079 see you in person and it's like dry as hell. But we have these 407 00:28:37.440 --> 00:28:40.519 like I think that, And it's especially for someone who like me, who's 408 00:28:40.559 --> 00:28:44.759 so delusional and like loves self sabotage and loves overthinking. I especially don't want 409 00:28:44.759 --> 00:28:48.119 to do that because when say, you're texting me like all the time and 410 00:28:48.119 --> 00:28:51.599 you're this amazing person like of course I'm already if I'm not already making you 411 00:28:51.680 --> 00:28:53.160 up in my head to be a certain type of person. That's what girls 412 00:28:53.200 --> 00:28:56.279 do. We like in the beginning, and I did hear like when you 413 00:28:56.279 --> 00:28:59.799 think, like a first day great, it's because you're great, you know, 414 00:28:59.839 --> 00:29:02.359 it's because like you're amazing. Of course you had a great first date 415 00:29:02.599 --> 00:29:04.799 because you're fucking spunky and you're amazing, you know. So like in the 416 00:29:04.839 --> 00:29:08.759 beginning, you do naturally like make up a person in your head, like, 417 00:29:10.279 --> 00:29:12.359 yeah, I'm going to be in love with this person whatever however you 418 00:29:12.359 --> 00:29:15.640 want to say it, but you don't really know what a person is. 419 00:29:15.640 --> 00:29:18.200 And I feel like when you go down that path in the beginning of your 420 00:29:18.200 --> 00:29:21.519 texting twenty four to seven, it like almost makes that even more to make 421 00:29:21.599 --> 00:29:25.400 up that person in your head, and it becomes even more because you're interpreting 422 00:29:25.440 --> 00:29:29.359 every text message the way you want them to say it. Yeah, I'm 423 00:29:29.440 --> 00:29:32.000 kind of thinking though, you know, and I'd rather have a phone call 424 00:29:32.039 --> 00:29:33.720 at that point. Like I'm like, in the beginning, I am very 425 00:29:33.759 --> 00:29:37.119 guilty of like being a text tex text extent like I want to. I'm 426 00:29:37.160 --> 00:29:41.079 like, I think I'm like a puppy dog, Like I think I do 427 00:29:41.079 --> 00:29:42.799 do it a lot, but I do understand like the dangers of that because 428 00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:45.599 then it's like you don't want you want to say, why not save that 429 00:29:45.640 --> 00:29:48.599 for like when you're with him? But but do you feel that if you're 430 00:29:48.640 --> 00:29:52.440 not getting those responses the same way? Are you interpreting that as like, 431 00:29:52.480 --> 00:29:56.000 oh, this person isn't interested? Yeah, Like would you be mad if 432 00:29:56.039 --> 00:29:59.720 someone will if they're there at work? Or like you know, sometimes you're 433 00:29:59.799 --> 00:30:03.319 driving into just reply okay, yeah. I think actually that happened with my 434 00:30:03.359 --> 00:30:07.160 current partner in the beginning, Like, but I just I just learned. 435 00:30:07.160 --> 00:30:10.200 I was like, oh, he's just not really a text her, like 436 00:30:10.319 --> 00:30:15.119 you know, that's just not his motive of communication. Or he's literally fucking 437 00:30:15.200 --> 00:30:18.920 busy. He has ten different jobs. So it was definitely was a learning 438 00:30:18.960 --> 00:30:22.200 curve for me. But because my phone was attached to twenty four to seven, 439 00:30:22.279 --> 00:30:26.640 Like yeah, and like I used to never use emojis for years until 440 00:30:26.640 --> 00:30:30.240 I started working. I never used emojis until I started working at Facebook. 441 00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:37.319 On Facebook, we had we were forced to, yeah, contract we had 442 00:30:37.960 --> 00:30:44.519 it was there was like a like an informal group message collaborative thing where they 443 00:30:44.519 --> 00:30:48.359 would send emotions and I felt like I was being judged by not so I 444 00:30:48.400 --> 00:30:55.440 started using them and now, but I used to never use them and is 445 00:30:55.480 --> 00:30:57.200 like a bit A lot of people would be like, oh, it sounds 446 00:30:57.240 --> 00:31:00.599 so dry a you sound like you're upset. Yeah, And it's like maybe 447 00:31:00.599 --> 00:31:04.680 I just I think it's more healthy not to text someone twenty four to seven. 448 00:31:04.799 --> 00:31:10.119 I think like it makes your in person conversations better. It keeps you 449 00:31:10.160 --> 00:31:15.279 from being a delusional ass bitch. People do not owe you twenty four to 450 00:31:15.279 --> 00:31:19.440 seven conversations and check ins. And you know, I'm also glued to my 451 00:31:19.480 --> 00:31:23.000 phone too. It's very different me, Like when I'm scrolling on Instagram, 452 00:31:23.039 --> 00:31:26.759 I don't think I'm like on my phone, Like, how do you text 453 00:31:26.799 --> 00:31:29.599 someone and talk to someone like you need your attention? You're talking to people 454 00:31:29.599 --> 00:31:32.680 like same. Sometimes when I wake up in the morning, I don't like 455 00:31:32.799 --> 00:31:34.599 talking to anyone and silating my coffee. So sometimes my friends will call me 456 00:31:34.640 --> 00:31:37.759 first thing, well probably not first thing to them, because they're normal human 457 00:31:37.759 --> 00:31:41.240 beings that wake up in a normal morning time, don't work nights like me, 458 00:31:41.720 --> 00:31:45.000 but like, I'll be working up first thing in the afternoon and like, 459 00:31:45.039 --> 00:31:47.680 and I can't wait to hear what they have to stand now. They 460 00:31:47.680 --> 00:31:51.119 probably have a story or something happened, or you know, they're literally just 461 00:31:51.160 --> 00:31:53.839 calling to say hi and have a conversation, but like I generally don't have 462 00:31:53.880 --> 00:31:56.880 the energy for them, so like I'll like decline it and they'll see me 463 00:31:56.960 --> 00:32:00.920 sharing something, but it's like I'm like that doesn't count really awake on my 464 00:32:00.960 --> 00:32:04.640 phone, Like I'm like my brain is half dead right now, you know, 465 00:32:04.839 --> 00:32:07.319 Like of course I'm always on my phone too, but it's totally different 466 00:32:07.319 --> 00:32:10.799 when you're like having actual conversations. And also we have to remember like the 467 00:32:10.839 --> 00:32:15.039 whole cell phone thing, like it's I mean, it's it's been around for 468 00:32:15.119 --> 00:32:17.720 most of our lives now, but it's still very new in many ways, 469 00:32:17.720 --> 00:32:22.039 and you have like like no one used to be available on hand like that, 470 00:32:22.119 --> 00:32:25.759 like we are now, so we have to or we're learning how to 471 00:32:25.799 --> 00:32:30.039 set boundaries with it. I saw this real on Instagram that said something about 472 00:32:30.079 --> 00:32:37.640 like only text when you're trying to like set a date or like like if 473 00:32:37.640 --> 00:32:42.799 you're dating someone, like that premature stage is like text them to set your 474 00:32:42.839 --> 00:32:45.319 next date when you're going to meet or the next if you're if you're scheduling 475 00:32:45.319 --> 00:32:49.720 the phone cloud or like if you're going to meet up somewhere like try to 476 00:32:49.759 --> 00:32:54.039 stick to to let that be what you mostly are texting about. Not obviously 477 00:32:54.039 --> 00:32:59.720 not just that because that sounds like corporate, but like like like i'll put 478 00:32:59.759 --> 00:33:04.119 here, the calendar there, but it's mainly like like you're taking it back 479 00:33:04.119 --> 00:33:07.000 and forth a little bit throughout the day, but the end goal is to 480 00:33:07.039 --> 00:33:08.480 set that next day of Oh, we're going to see each other on this 481 00:33:08.640 --> 00:33:12.720 day at this place, so I'm gonna pick you up. That's what I'm 482 00:33:12.720 --> 00:33:15.960 pretty much doing. I think it's mostly with your schedule. I'll text her 483 00:33:15.000 --> 00:33:19.319 every once in a while so you know I'm still alive. But maybe I'm 484 00:33:19.319 --> 00:33:22.759 glad you brought that up because I did want to bring up this other situation 485 00:33:23.079 --> 00:33:27.480 and kind of goes with my story too, of uh, Carpenter Bay goes 486 00:33:27.519 --> 00:33:31.039 to me for a week. So this girl she is going viral on TikTok 487 00:33:31.160 --> 00:33:35.279 because I forgot what she put on her first slide. It was like POV 488 00:33:36.119 --> 00:33:38.680 we don't wait for men or something. I don't know. The second side 489 00:33:38.759 --> 00:33:43.680 was a screenshot the guy said hey with a bunch of wies looking forward to 490 00:33:43.759 --> 00:33:46.359 later. She responds, Hey, we haven't spoken in a week, and 491 00:33:46.400 --> 00:33:50.480 it led me to believe you were no longer interested in our date. So, 492 00:33:50.480 --> 00:33:53.880 seeing as we have a different difference in communication styles, I'm no longer 493 00:33:53.920 --> 00:33:59.039 interested in going tonight. Have a good one. And some people in the 494 00:33:59.079 --> 00:34:06.759 comments are saying that she's being od. Yeah, so long, that's a 495 00:34:06.839 --> 00:34:09.599 long reply. That's too much. That is way too much. She's bitter 496 00:34:09.920 --> 00:34:15.880 because why can't I can just be uninterested? And I have to give you 497 00:34:15.880 --> 00:34:20.280 a reason why. I could just say you know what this is and that 498 00:34:20.320 --> 00:34:22.760 he has four wives in it. Okay, I will say that. I 499 00:34:22.800 --> 00:34:31.960 will I will say I will say that, yes, they haven't spoken for 500 00:34:32.039 --> 00:34:37.400 a week. But I do think if we have plans and you don't talk 501 00:34:37.440 --> 00:34:42.760 to me at least a day before to one, if our plans to text 502 00:34:42.800 --> 00:34:46.119 me the day of or like an hour before, she's crazy at all. 503 00:34:46.159 --> 00:34:49.960 I'm like, I think it's planning telling me and then me and not hearing 504 00:34:49.960 --> 00:34:51.800 from you a week is crazy, And like, bitch, if I don't 505 00:34:51.840 --> 00:34:53.760 hear you from a week and we made plans, I automatically think that the 506 00:34:53.840 --> 00:34:57.239 plans are canceled and I'm not going to stop me from doing anything. But 507 00:34:57.280 --> 00:35:00.360 does it have to be a day before? No no, literally the middle 508 00:35:00.360 --> 00:35:02.239 of the week is nice, like, hey, we're still on for this 509 00:35:02.320 --> 00:35:06.760 Friday? Yeah, like anythink that acknowledges we are. I do still want 510 00:35:06.760 --> 00:35:08.760 to plan to date you. It doesn't have to I mean, honestly earlier 511 00:35:09.159 --> 00:35:14.320 person too late. Yeah, I think same looking forward to later. If 512 00:35:14.360 --> 00:35:19.239 you say you may pans me Monday or Saturday, right, Saturday, Sunday, 513 00:35:19.440 --> 00:35:21.880 Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, we have a date 514 00:35:21.920 --> 00:35:23.880 that Saturday. You give me Saturday morning. Hey, can't wait to see 515 00:35:23.920 --> 00:35:28.480 you later, bitch, No, Jessica wants to go get coffee, and 516 00:35:28.519 --> 00:35:30.679 that's what we're doing instead. Like because I think in the beginning, yeah, 517 00:35:30.719 --> 00:35:34.239 if you're talking to someone and you guys have gone to multiple dates like 518 00:35:34.280 --> 00:35:37.719 whatever, that's fine, Like I mean still I would like it, or 519 00:35:37.760 --> 00:35:40.840 not even maybe maybe maybe in the beginning is when you want to like, 520 00:35:40.880 --> 00:35:46.039 hey, we're still good form. Definitely, That's what I'm saying, like 521 00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:50.280 at the beginning, because I definitely I would assume you either go to me 522 00:35:50.400 --> 00:35:52.400 or like the plans are not on, Like I don't know you. You 523 00:35:52.480 --> 00:35:55.480 could be flaky like with friends, like I do that with my friends to 524 00:35:55.559 --> 00:36:00.320 this day, right, Like yeah, this Saturday, Saturday, do you 525 00:36:00.320 --> 00:36:01.920 make the plan? And like, Okay, I'm gonna see you next Saturday, 526 00:36:01.960 --> 00:36:06.159 but I'm gonna be busy as fucked so like you know, you know, 527 00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:09.320 we don't know about the conversations they had, Like no, she's saying 528 00:36:09.320 --> 00:36:12.800 they didn't have any conversations. Though she's saying, hey, I haven't heard 529 00:36:12.840 --> 00:36:15.840 from you in a week, like and and I respect her, like she's 530 00:36:15.880 --> 00:36:19.320 being direct, like you know, our communications are different. You could go 531 00:36:19.360 --> 00:36:21.440 a week without you can make plans with me on Monday and be like, 532 00:36:21.519 --> 00:36:22.280 yeah, that bitch, we'll keep it till seven days. And I could 533 00:36:22.280 --> 00:36:24.400 go without talking to you. But that's just not my style. So we're 534 00:36:24.440 --> 00:36:27.960 just not gonna work out. So I don't think she's crazy, Like she's 535 00:36:28.000 --> 00:36:30.719 like, this is right. I actually agree. I like because she's almost 536 00:36:30.719 --> 00:36:34.159 saying she's almost saying, look, I think it's fucked up. I'm not 537 00:36:34.159 --> 00:36:35.840 gonna hold you for it. That's the kind of person you are. This 538 00:36:35.880 --> 00:36:37.840 is the kind of person I am. It's not gonna work out. Let 539 00:36:37.880 --> 00:36:42.079 me ask you this, then, let me ask you ladies this. Why 540 00:36:42.119 --> 00:36:45.519 didn't she reach out the day before too? Is that? Like, does 541 00:36:45.559 --> 00:36:49.639 she not do it because she expected to do it. No, No, 542 00:36:49.679 --> 00:36:52.599 I want to know. Like, I'm like, because if she wanted to 543 00:36:52.639 --> 00:36:57.000 see him, why not shoot him a text? Two? Or does she 544 00:36:57.039 --> 00:37:00.679 feel like I'm not gonna shot on the girl if she does that, I 545 00:37:00.719 --> 00:37:05.039 don't do whatever some whatever text you want. But there is something I don't 546 00:37:05.039 --> 00:37:09.760 know if it's a pride thing. It makes me feel desperate in a way. 547 00:37:10.199 --> 00:37:13.800 Okay, you know, like I guess, I guess we want to 548 00:37:13.840 --> 00:37:15.920 give you an opportunity if you want to fuck up, we want to give 549 00:37:15.920 --> 00:37:19.239 you that opportunity to do so, Like say, yeah, you are an 550 00:37:19.239 --> 00:37:22.199 asshole and you you were actually planning on never hitting me again? Like what 551 00:37:22.239 --> 00:37:23.559 do I look like? Hitting you at? Being like hey are we still 552 00:37:23.559 --> 00:37:25.400 there? And you're like, oh no, bitch, I'm trying to go 553 00:37:25.440 --> 00:37:29.440 ste like stop interrupting me. I don't know. It's hard to explain, 554 00:37:29.480 --> 00:37:30.559 but I do feel like if you're the one that made the plans, you 555 00:37:30.639 --> 00:37:37.920 kind of have the responsibility to follow up. Yeah, I agree, But 556 00:37:37.079 --> 00:37:40.320 if a girl does do it, it's not bad, Like yeah, like 557 00:37:40.360 --> 00:37:45.239 I wouldn't consider it. I wouldn't take it as like, oh, you're 558 00:37:45.239 --> 00:37:46.840 really trying to see me like I would actually think like, oh, that's 559 00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:51.960 that's nice, you're following up. But I don't have that mindset of damn, 560 00:37:52.000 --> 00:37:53.519 you must hella want me or you must no. And I'm not saying 561 00:37:53.519 --> 00:37:59.000 if a girl I wouldn't call her desperate either. I think it's the if 562 00:37:59.039 --> 00:38:00.920 you are doing that bad, Like I guess it's just like we don't know 563 00:38:01.320 --> 00:38:05.039 we I guess, yeah, exactly, we shouldn't expect to do it. 564 00:38:05.599 --> 00:38:09.679 I guess you can do it, But like I think he expectation is that 565 00:38:09.920 --> 00:38:15.119 a man will like I also feel like she's assuming that this person or this 566 00:38:15.199 --> 00:38:17.880 guy is like ignored her for a whole week and like hated her, like 567 00:38:19.079 --> 00:38:22.880 or I don't know, Like I just I feel like if a week went 568 00:38:22.920 --> 00:38:27.639 by and like there was no text at all and nobody made like the attempt, 569 00:38:27.880 --> 00:38:30.039 and now we're here on the day that the plan that we made and 570 00:38:30.079 --> 00:38:34.119 he's like, hey, looking forward to later, and she's like, no, 571 00:38:34.400 --> 00:38:37.079 because you didn't do what I expected you to do, which was to 572 00:38:37.119 --> 00:38:40.440 text me and to check in with me. I'm actually deciding that I'm going 573 00:38:40.480 --> 00:38:45.079 to create a boundary which go off, go off you that is your boundary 574 00:38:45.239 --> 00:38:47.199 that you want someone to text you like the day before. Yeah, and 575 00:38:47.239 --> 00:38:50.760 I totally I would want that too. I would want like a check in 576 00:38:50.800 --> 00:38:53.599 as well. But we just don't know, like what happened within this one 577 00:38:53.639 --> 00:38:58.119 week span of time. Maybe he's a fucking directing a movie and like he's 578 00:38:58.119 --> 00:39:02.639 on I don't know, you know, maybe he's just like he's jet like 579 00:39:02.760 --> 00:39:05.920 jet setting around. I want to I want to make sure I go on 580 00:39:05.920 --> 00:39:07.559 a date with that guy. You know, even you never know people's lives. 581 00:39:07.599 --> 00:39:10.320 So instead of her like making the exception and be like, you didn't 582 00:39:10.320 --> 00:39:14.320 want to communicate with me, and that's not how I communicate period. It's 583 00:39:14.360 --> 00:39:16.039 like you're not even giving him the benefit of the doubt to like explain himself. 584 00:39:16.320 --> 00:39:19.519 My nosey ass would be like, well, base, where the fuck 585 00:39:19.559 --> 00:39:22.280 you've been if I was even that interested in them? So obviously it doesn't 586 00:39:22.280 --> 00:39:25.079 seem like she wasn't even that interested in to begin with. I think, 587 00:39:25.519 --> 00:39:30.320 hm, dating is so hard. I agree with you, and I don't 588 00:39:30.320 --> 00:39:32.599 agree with you. I think I just admire her in a way because I've 589 00:39:32.639 --> 00:39:37.400 been the person many times trying to be cool about it or given the benefit 590 00:39:37.440 --> 00:39:42.280 of the doubt. I don't mind doing that. But there is something about 591 00:39:42.800 --> 00:39:45.800 I don't know, she like she knows what she wants, and she's like, 592 00:39:45.880 --> 00:39:47.880 hey, this ain't cool to me, so I'm cutting it off. 593 00:39:49.559 --> 00:39:52.760 I don't like I did this, Like, but shouldn't it be a conversation 594 00:39:52.920 --> 00:39:55.920 first? Right if she liked? Obviously if you don't know, but what's 595 00:39:55.960 --> 00:40:00.719 that conversation? I like people who what she said, yeah, like, 596 00:40:00.840 --> 00:40:04.320 we haven't spoken in a week, and it led me to believe that you're 597 00:40:04.360 --> 00:40:07.559 no longer interested. So he never said I'm not interested. It led her 598 00:40:07.599 --> 00:40:10.039 to believe right, Like, so she's interpreting. So the only thing I 599 00:40:10.159 --> 00:40:13.400 agree is like, okay, maybe that was a lot for her to like 600 00:40:13.559 --> 00:40:15.920 end the whole thing. Sure, but like I think at that point she's 601 00:40:15.960 --> 00:40:17.760 like, I don't want someone like she's over it right wherever that made her 602 00:40:17.800 --> 00:40:21.920 over it? But I would I think my text would have been like, 603 00:40:22.199 --> 00:40:24.639 I assumed you weren't interested in this date anymore? Yeah, there we go. 604 00:40:24.760 --> 00:40:29.360 But then if they say no, I definitely am checked out me because 605 00:40:29.360 --> 00:40:30.760 I made plans to like, because I will say okay, maybe I think 606 00:40:30.840 --> 00:40:37.119 just what I will say, just regular decorum, like exactly even if we 607 00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:39.519 weren't dating. Like, Yeah, I think that's rude at fuck to like 608 00:40:39.599 --> 00:40:43.159 make plans someone. I wouldn't do this to my cousin, to my friend, 609 00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:45.800 to anyone, like I would check in if I did not hear from 610 00:40:45.800 --> 00:40:47.719 you for seven whole days and we made plans to get coffee and you weren't 611 00:40:47.719 --> 00:40:51.280 like hey, Like I literally made plans with the old coworker and we text 612 00:40:51.280 --> 00:40:52.760 each other, Hey, we're still going to coffee this day. In general, 613 00:40:52.800 --> 00:40:55.320 I think it's hella rude to not do that. I don't know, 614 00:40:55.440 --> 00:40:59.840 like the guy should check in. I agree, No, I don't, 615 00:41:00.079 --> 00:41:07.400 gosh, there should be someone checking in for sure, because the kind of 616 00:41:07.679 --> 00:41:09.719 lifestyle all of us have right now, things are so busy, things come 617 00:41:09.800 --> 00:41:13.719 up all the time, where like you could have something could have came up, 618 00:41:13.840 --> 00:41:15.800 or you can't do it no more, you know, so when you 619 00:41:15.960 --> 00:41:17.480 check in, it's like, oh, by the way, I can't anymore, 620 00:41:17.599 --> 00:41:21.239 or I can, but we gotta tweak this or whatever it is. 621 00:41:21.360 --> 00:41:25.480 Also, though, I'm just she's saying we have different communication styles. Yes, 622 00:41:25.519 --> 00:41:29.320 bitch, you're not gonna meet your prince charming. Okay, you're not 623 00:41:29.360 --> 00:41:32.320 gonna find the perfect match and you're gonna have to work hard to like work 624 00:41:32.360 --> 00:41:36.519 in a relationship. Like relationships are hard, Okay, they don't just like 625 00:41:36.760 --> 00:41:39.199 happen at the click of your fingers, like we're gonna be perfect, we're 626 00:41:39.199 --> 00:41:43.400 gonna talk to each Hell, oh, it doesn't work. Like it's an 627 00:41:43.559 --> 00:41:45.679 every day battle. If it's worth it, then you'll make it worth it. 628 00:41:45.679 --> 00:41:49.360 If it's not worth it, obviously, she's like, he must have 629 00:41:49.360 --> 00:41:52.000 been ugly or something. I think it's work when you have, you know, 630 00:41:52.039 --> 00:41:54.480 maybe two people who are really busy and are not used to fitting someone 631 00:41:54.480 --> 00:42:00.239 else's schedule in so they're both compromising and working on how to be better at 632 00:42:00.280 --> 00:42:02.840 that. But I think when it comes to like I need to help you 633 00:42:02.880 --> 00:42:07.039 be a better communicator, that's more me working on you. I want to 634 00:42:07.079 --> 00:42:14.159 work on the relationship, not the person or where he's at. You know. 635 00:42:14.360 --> 00:42:16.880 That's like two different ways, different ways look at it. But I 636 00:42:16.920 --> 00:42:22.199 think it goes back to to like, understand what your expectations are and like 637 00:42:22.280 --> 00:42:27.599 you have to have a conversation on this is what my needs are when it 638 00:42:27.679 --> 00:42:31.800 comes to and vice versa. And I appreciate her for putting her for sure. 639 00:42:31.880 --> 00:42:36.920 Yeah, definitely, if you like them enough, I'd like to have 640 00:42:36.960 --> 00:42:39.159 a conversation about it so that if it's meant, could work on it. 641 00:42:39.360 --> 00:42:43.280 This is early dating this guy, like maybe she matched on HIDS and he's 642 00:42:43.320 --> 00:42:45.079 like, hey, let's go out this week, and like this is so 643 00:42:45.239 --> 00:42:49.519 pressed. This is she's not pressed. She's saying hey, like that was 644 00:42:49.840 --> 00:42:52.119 hey, we don't communicate the right like have a good life, Like we 645 00:42:52.159 --> 00:42:55.760 haven't spoken in a week, and it led me to believe you were no 646 00:42:55.800 --> 00:43:06.280 longer interested. That is a big assumption. That sounds like like butch and 647 00:43:06.320 --> 00:43:08.239 I do believe, like do you? And we can't judge for like if 648 00:43:08.239 --> 00:43:12.199 that's really what she's but we don't know what she's been through. If she's 649 00:43:12.239 --> 00:43:14.880 like you know what, I unless someone gets it right, I'm not even 650 00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:17.119 gonna be in you know, make an attempt. And that's great too, 651 00:43:19.239 --> 00:43:24.280 ab issue. I don't think she's like that press. I think she barely 652 00:43:24.320 --> 00:43:28.639 knows this person. So I think it's even easier for her to be like 653 00:43:30.280 --> 00:43:32.000 red Flag and I don't even know you like that. I'm not into you 654 00:43:32.119 --> 00:43:35.880 enough to be like this is something we could work at or a relationship I 655 00:43:35.920 --> 00:43:39.960 see we can maybe fix down the road. Like, I already know by 656 00:43:39.960 --> 00:43:43.800 the way you acted now you're not the one for me. And you know 657 00:43:43.840 --> 00:43:46.800 what, I take my answer back about both sides being able to check in. 658 00:43:46.880 --> 00:43:50.159 I mean, it's not the end of the world whoever sends that text. 659 00:43:50.320 --> 00:43:52.480 But at the end of the day, this is a man who set 660 00:43:52.519 --> 00:43:57.440 up a date said Hey, let's get dinner. She responds, yes, 661 00:43:58.039 --> 00:44:00.159 I would love to have dinner with you. Can't wait, puts it in 662 00:44:00.159 --> 00:44:04.639 our calendar. Technically I sent the last text. I agreed to it. 663 00:44:04.719 --> 00:44:07.679 Like the least you can do is is text me back and follow up and 664 00:44:07.719 --> 00:44:08.639 be like, hey, are we still on? Because I already know that 665 00:44:08.679 --> 00:44:12.679 you agreed to it. I literally said I'm in so you could follow up. 666 00:44:12.920 --> 00:44:15.360 And it's not even following up. It's just simply confirming the plans that 667 00:44:15.440 --> 00:44:21.760 you made. It's just confirming because say something does come up in that week, 668 00:44:21.840 --> 00:44:25.239 because life happens and you can't go on this date anymore. Bitch, 669 00:44:25.239 --> 00:44:28.320 Why am I the one texting you first and so you could tell me no 670 00:44:28.400 --> 00:44:30.280 like you should have been text me, Hey, the plans aren't gonna work 671 00:44:30.360 --> 00:44:35.360 out. So I had to text you so for you to like tell yeah, 672 00:44:35.480 --> 00:44:38.880 So no, a guy needs to following. What if you knew that 673 00:44:38.960 --> 00:44:43.039 it was a no, Like something came up, like I asked you out, 674 00:44:43.079 --> 00:44:45.599 you say yes, I haven't reached out yet, and then something comes 675 00:44:45.639 --> 00:44:47.320 up where you're like, oh, damn, I can't go anymore. Are 676 00:44:47.360 --> 00:44:52.119 you gonna wait until I reach out to tell me no? I know? 677 00:44:52.360 --> 00:44:53.880 Yeah, that's like, oh, I'm texting you know what. I'm texting 678 00:44:53.880 --> 00:44:59.159 you before the fucking day of our date. Like that's when you'd be like, 679 00:44:59.199 --> 00:45:01.639 hey, you know what, something came up for canceling. I'm definitely 680 00:45:01.639 --> 00:45:05.480 gonna let you know, but before the day, Like I think making any 681 00:45:05.559 --> 00:45:08.199 kind of plans that day is rude and like you probably didn't want to be. 682 00:45:09.880 --> 00:45:14.960 I'm dead at the I'm at her ending with have a good one. 683 00:45:15.960 --> 00:45:19.360 But I gave her prose for like like you all said, she knows what 684 00:45:19.440 --> 00:45:22.079 she wants period and maybe she's waiting for it, like unless you you show 685 00:45:22.159 --> 00:45:25.960 up? Do you guys think she was being My first word was insecure, 686 00:45:27.000 --> 00:45:29.159 and I was like, let me are rewind that that was the first thing 687 00:45:29.199 --> 00:45:32.639 I said. Now that I'm thinking about the beginning, yeah, yeah, 688 00:45:34.599 --> 00:45:37.559 because for real, if it was me, I would if I was in 689 00:45:37.639 --> 00:45:40.599 her shoes, and I was mad that somebody took a week to solidify the 690 00:45:40.599 --> 00:45:44.360 plan and see if I'm still down for the plans. If it was me 691 00:45:44.559 --> 00:45:47.320 in that situation, I would be mad, but at the instant of them 692 00:45:47.360 --> 00:45:53.400 being like are we still down for tonight and be like out of myself and 693 00:45:53.440 --> 00:46:05.639 maybe like no, exactly such a losing Yeah, I'm actually here at the 694 00:46:05.920 --> 00:46:17.559 barady you drink. You guys just want to be her already here want to 695 00:46:17.599 --> 00:46:22.760 drinks. We just want to be loved. Okay, you know, I'm 696 00:46:22.800 --> 00:46:27.079 trying to see all a few points here, but I think like if I 697 00:46:27.119 --> 00:46:29.840 was the guy, like i'd be like, Okay, I didn't message her 698 00:46:29.920 --> 00:46:32.280 all week, so I get it, but like you ain't got to hit 699 00:46:32.320 --> 00:46:37.039 me with the whole paragraph. Yeah, yeah, she's my hero because if 700 00:46:37.079 --> 00:46:42.280 it was me, I would have folded. I would have folded, because 701 00:46:42.320 --> 00:46:46.400 if you were okay with something and then like they give you the slightest bit 702 00:46:46.519 --> 00:46:51.440 of you guys think it before it doesn't work out good. I go on 703 00:46:51.480 --> 00:46:53.519 that day and it ends up being really great and you realize like, oh 704 00:46:53.599 --> 00:47:00.719 damn, like like it could be better with somebodydeo to write who takes the 705 00:47:00.719 --> 00:47:05.039 time to confirm plans, because I see a girl who just saw one red 706 00:47:05.079 --> 00:47:09.159 flag and told herself these are problems I don't want to deal with down the 707 00:47:09.239 --> 00:47:14.360 road, because a lot of times we do we're the cool girl, or 708 00:47:14.519 --> 00:47:17.320 we ignore the red flag, give the benefit of the doubt, think it's 709 00:47:17.320 --> 00:47:20.840 something we could work on, and then later down the road we're like, 710 00:47:20.920 --> 00:47:24.079 oh shit, it's not just one red flag. It's a circus in this 711 00:47:24.159 --> 00:47:29.760 bitch, because because you really can't change people. You can't change people. 712 00:47:30.639 --> 00:47:35.039 I'm thinking of the Bridesmaids, like people change, but they really say the 713 00:47:35.039 --> 00:47:40.519 same. Literally, you cannot change someone. Oh my god. Yeah maybe 714 00:47:42.239 --> 00:47:47.840 yeah, all the whys too, like he's actually gay because it's too many 715 00:47:47.840 --> 00:47:57.840 wise stranger. Yeah, I want to remember text you two weeks ago. 716 00:48:00.039 --> 00:48:07.400 She's valid, she's valid, but that chill, what do you call? 717 00:48:07.480 --> 00:48:10.679 You can consolidate this, like, I guess, like you can be more 718 00:48:10.679 --> 00:48:14.400 concise, you know, Okay, it's not that long of a text, 719 00:48:14.440 --> 00:48:17.519 you guys. It's like, I think she was pretty. I think she 720 00:48:17.599 --> 00:48:21.320 was pretty conciseed. I think she was pretty concise. Actually, I know 721 00:48:21.360 --> 00:48:23.400 because the first whole two sentences you don't need. I think it was a 722 00:48:23.440 --> 00:48:29.039 perfect, perfectly constructed text. I think she said what she needs to say, 723 00:48:29.280 --> 00:48:30.639 but I do think there are assumptions that were made. But I also 724 00:48:30.639 --> 00:48:34.079 think her mind was made up and she didn't want to be with him anymore. 725 00:48:34.079 --> 00:48:37.079 And that's fine. Next to that. Next, I don't say that. 726 00:48:37.199 --> 00:48:43.480 Next I would have folded. That's what I have to say. That's 727 00:48:43.519 --> 00:48:46.360 okay, that's not a bad you know, because you can go in and 728 00:48:46.400 --> 00:48:49.360 you can still hold your ground on the date, you know, Yeah, 729 00:48:52.079 --> 00:48:55.079 you're gonna get hopefully a free meal or I still want to win. If 730 00:48:55.079 --> 00:49:00.159 it went terrible, I would have text literally that for the record, maybe 731 00:49:00.199 --> 00:49:05.480 at this bar we're getting hammered, thank you, and we'll talk about it 732 00:49:05.480 --> 00:49:09.480 on the pod next week. Okay, well, I think we'll wrap it 733 00:49:09.559 --> 00:49:14.599 up there with all our texting politics. I'm going to text Carpenter way back 734 00:49:15.039 --> 00:49:20.000 and we're gonna follow. I'm gonna tek all the toxic men that are still 735 00:49:20.119 --> 00:49:22.440 that still remained in my life, right, Yeah, I love that toxic 736 00:49:22.519 --> 00:49:27.000 journey for you. Uneventful this year, but next year I'll be cuffed to 737 00:49:27.239 --> 00:49:31.400 watch period by the end of this year, by summer actually, so watch 738 00:49:31.559 --> 00:49:39.559 everybody watch our world. Well, thanks so much for hanging out. We 739 00:49:39.599 --> 00:49:44.400 appreciate you being here. If you want to join the conversation, leave some 740 00:49:44.639 --> 00:49:46.599 in the comments. You know you can hit us up on socials. We 741 00:49:46.639 --> 00:49:51.400 have our own Instagram page, so please follow it. At Underscore FTR pod, 742 00:49:52.039 --> 00:49:54.400 someone literally one person, but I was so excited. Someone left to 743 00:49:54.440 --> 00:49:59.639 talk back about the podcast and like about a topic that was fire, So 744 00:49:59.679 --> 00:50:01.320 you can always do that. I'm on air seven to midnight. But you 745 00:50:01.320 --> 00:50:05.039 know, Leaf won during anyone's show be like, Hey, I'm blah blah 746 00:50:05.079 --> 00:50:07.199 blah, I'm calling in about for the record, and I want to talk 747 00:50:07.199 --> 00:50:09.519 about this because I could totally repurpose it to put it on air, So 748 00:50:09.559 --> 00:50:13.679 it's super easy to do that. Just open up Wald ninety for nine on 749 00:50:13.760 --> 00:50:17.719 the free iHeartRadio app don't pay Okay, free iHeart Radio app Wild ninety for 750 00:50:17.800 --> 00:50:22.719 nine and just hold down the red microphone next to the play button. It's 751 00:50:22.760 --> 00:50:24.840 like a little walkie talkie. And as always, if you like us, 752 00:50:24.920 --> 00:50:30.199 if you love us, please please please please rate us five stars. Leave 753 00:50:30.239 --> 00:50:35.199 a comment unless it's a bad comment, then put that shit in your diary. 754 00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:37.559 All right, we love you. We will talk to you next week. 755 00:50:37.639 --> 00:50:39.199 I love you, Aye. I mean, I don't know do people 756 00:50:39.280 --> 00:50:44.400 really change. I think they do, yeah, but I mean they still 757 00:50:44.480 --> 00:50:47.920 stay who they are pretty much. I think we change all the time. 758 00:50:49.360 --> 00:50:52.440 I think we stay the same, but grow, I guess a little bit. 759 00:50:52.760 --> 00:50:55.599 I think if you're growing, then you're changing. But I mean we're 760 00:50:55.679 --> 00:51:00.360 changing from who we are, which we always stay as. No, really, 761 00:51:00.599 --> 00:51:15.920 I don't think so, think so. I know it even brick just 762 00:51:15.960 --> 00:51:34.400 a sack. It just a sack. It just a sack. It just 763 00:51:34.440 --> 00:51:47.960 allock, just all the sack. It the record