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Deborah, with her thirty years of
being an entrepreneur and creating over seven companies,

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knows exactly what it means to accept
the mission. When you make that

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decision, when you accept the mission
to become a solopreneur, to take yourself

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and your talents to market, then
you embrace a life of not only unlimited

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possibilities, but also the unknown.
It's an elixir of fear and bravery that

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only someone who's taken the leap really
understands. On our show, deb digs

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deep with her guests to highlight what
you the listener wants to know, the

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stories, the wise and the hows
to navigate the journey to success. Get

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ready to hear from some of the
most incredible mission takers from Generation Z to

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boomers. So sit up, perk
up, and get ready to be blown

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away. Now Here is your host, Deborah Drummond. Hey, welcome backs

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seven podcast dialing in today. Okay, here, nice shot, good decision.

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Let me give you a pat on
the bat. Let me give you

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permission you get a great decision today. We appreciate you. We were so

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happy that you were here. And
you guys know that you're the best podcast

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ever. And I know that you're
starting to dial in specifically to hear Barbara

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frankson because you now know that she
is part of this incredible series of transformation.

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Why did we bring her on?
Well, if you've listened to her,

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you already know that. But really, we talk on this show about

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taking the mission, having the bravery
to take the mission, loving you while

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you love others, game changing,
being pushed into decisions that you never knew

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were possible, stretching yourself in places
that you never wanted to go right.

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And there's a really beautiful concept,
and it's not a new concept, not

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for some of us that have been
hanging in the holistic world for a long

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time, but some of you who
are just tapping into the fact that when

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you make decisions, you make them
from a place of intuition, Sometimes decisions

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based from a book that we've read, a movie that we've seen. But

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who put the movie there? Who
put the book there? How did that

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come into our How did that come
into our sphere? How did we start

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to make that not just decision,
but the plan, the plan, the

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plan for not only our lives,
but the plan on how we serve others.

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And we know that we make whether
it's a plan to have a family,

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plan, to make a business plan, to make some changes. We

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know, it just doesn't affect one
part of who we are. You know

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how you know that? You know
when you when you when you got a

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flu and you're sick and you feel
tired and lethargic, you're not the best

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person in other areas of your life. You're not going to the gym,

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right. Your body is having an
issue. Therefore so is your mind,

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and so is that drive to go
to the gym. It affects everything that

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you're doing. It's the mind,
body, spirit. Philosophy is that place

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where you recognize all of you,
not just one part of you. Right.

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It's the it's the athlete that does
something credible and you ask, oh

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my gosh, how did you do
eight marathons in eight days? And they

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say, because I was soul filled, I was passion filled. It was

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a mindset game. It wasn't it
wasn't my body. Right, everything that

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we do has this trilogy wherever you're
at in your belief of that. So

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Barbara is on the show with us
again today because she I mean, she

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really embodies her experiences and takes them
from a place of they happened here,

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they might show up here, they
happened this way, I need to heal

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them differently. I walked to this
path that I met this person, and

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this person took me over on a
plane here like it's just it's open being

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open. So we're talking about transformation, we're talking about love, we're talking

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about change. She shared about her
pain and how she's turned it into passion

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and we're going through that journey with
her, and we're at the place in

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the journey where she's going to teach
us about more than just one single way

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to look at something, that one
single way to have a solution for something.

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And really it's that mind, body
spirit philosophy. So anyways, as

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always, you are in for a
treat in case you don't know, motivational

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speaker inspiration. When you listen to
her and you want more, she does

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camps and masterminds and programs and you
name it, she's there. So thank

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you so much for taking some time
to come on to mission except to today

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and share with us. Thank you
for having me. It is a pleasure

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in and honor as always right this
all of them are passionate for me.

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But transformation means a lot to me. First of all, it's change,

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right, and a lot of us
don't like change even before. So it's

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funny how things happen for a reason. Right. So I'm just gonna go

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back a little bit with the journey
for the body, mind and spirit.

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Let's see, when was it two
thousand and three, So that was twenty

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years ago. Who would have known
that a seed that was planted twenty years

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ago? I fully understand it now, right, And and it goes to

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say, it's it's funny because I've
seen that manifest When I was selling my

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first house. I'm a horrible gardener, and I planted a scene and every

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year I went out looking for the
plant. Nothing. I'll put the darn

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house on the market. Shure enough. Eleven years later, beautiful flowers.

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I'm like, what happened? You
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years ago, in two thousand and
three, I had a mentor even then,

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right, I had a mentor that
was assigned to me. I later

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understood, and she said, Barbara, once you get this that your body

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mind and spirit needs to be one
you, everything will start just coming into

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play, coming into play, coming
into play. And at the time,

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I was twenty years younger, and
I was like, yeah, okay,

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sounds good. But remember when you
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some watering, it takes some fertilizing. So the watering was the tears m

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on the seeds. The fertilizing was
the experience. So let's go to two

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thousand and nine. I was running
half a marathon. I had not even

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ran my body. I'm talking about
my bad body. I went to the

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doctor and I was diagnosed with high
blood pressure, and I was like,

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high blood pressure. I'm young,
and you know, didn't see that.

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I was, you know, a
little bit over. Wait, just a

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little bit, and then my salt
shaker was probably this big, right,

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didn't see that my body and I
had really forgotten what she said about body,

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mind and spirit. The seed was
planted, but it had not taken

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a root yet, so I'm just
going through the motion, right. So

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I took the pills and it made
me tired, and I'm like, I

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don't like how it makes me feel. It's I want to sleep all the

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time. I'm young. I don't
want to do that. And bull Barbara

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made a decision and went to the
doctor and said I took my last bill

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yesterday. I'm not taking anymore.
And he goes, what, well,

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what's your plan? I said,
well, I talked to God and I

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could stand to lose some weight and
I need to get rid of that salt

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shaker. So he says, and
I said, and I'm gonna do.

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I'm gonna I'm gonna walk a half
of marathon. Now I had not even

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been able to run a mile,
and here I am, I'm gonna walk.

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I'm gonna walk the half of marathon, not even run it. So

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then I got my girlfriend and I
said, hey, guess what. I

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got to come off from my pills. But my doctor told him, and

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sure enough, things always lined up. So they were having the more Marathon

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for women in two thousand and nine
in Central Park. So this was my

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plan. Notice I say mine.
So my opinion was I was just going

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to walk for five miles. But
God's plan was different because that day that

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I had to run, it was
almost ninety degrees and they said they made

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an announcement that for those of you
who are walkers, you can't do Now.

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I trained, I trained for this
thing. I even went to the

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doctor. He had to take my
blood pressure, he checked my blood person

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he's like his lowness and he goes, what'd you do? I said,

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I started eating better, I'm working
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off from my table. I'm taking
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I'm going somewhere with this. So
we get to the marathon and I'm like,

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I trained, and now I can't
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I said, I guess I might
have to run, and then they

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had a condition to be able to
run the half of their thon not even

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know if half of marathon is in
five miles. Oh plan when you start

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a marathon, unbeknownst to me,
they give you salt packets for your lateral

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lights. And I was like,
nope, I gave up the salts.

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I don't even want that, not
even realizing. So here goes cute barber.

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Right, So I'm running and I'm
saying to my girlfriend, you're a

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stronger runner than me. So I
want you to be at the finish line

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because I'm gonna kind of fake my
way through. I'm gonna get through,

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and I want you to have a
donut drake. And so I was tired.

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They let you go to the I
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the five and I was like and
then God started speaking to me, and

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he said, I want you to
run it for Natalie. Natalie was twenty

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five years old and she was diagnosed
with cancer. Now God knew that I

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would not run it for me,
because remember I did not even even practicing.

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The most I did was like three
to four miles. I didn't even

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do it's straight. So I started
running and my body was tired, and

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then my mind said, this is
for Natalie. You gotta run it for

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Natalie. It's not about you,
Barbara. And then I could hear We're

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in Central Park and the other side
was still open and someone was coming and

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they must have seen my determination,
and he says, you got this.

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So now my spirit feels good.
And I remember someone took a picture and

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my hands was like this. There
was tears coming down my eyes and I

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was running my eye own and and
what it was was they have these pacers

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and she said I'll come with you. So where my body was tired,

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my mind kicked in and then my
spirit took over. That was the first

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time I started thinking about that seed
that was planted in two thousand and three,

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and then as I went through different
journeys with pain, I started saying,

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wait a sec hmm, change your
mindset part round. And now,

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like I'm thinking about it, I'm
doing seventy five hard right. And for

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those of you who don't know what
it is, they require one workout outside

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And I now realized why because because
when you're outside it's not just your body

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your mind. You get happy.
That's why I dance in the rain and

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your spirit. It feeds you things
that you were trying to do. Like

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even working on my business, I
get downloads, downloads, downloads that you

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can't buy from an app. You
can't go to any app and get it.

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It is something that you have to
live through, work through. So

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everything is connected. That's why I
tell people all the time, get your

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mind right, change your mind.
You want something to change? Right here,

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this is where we train. Transformation
begins in you. But if your

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mind is the same thing as a
man thinking, so shall it be if

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your mind does not change? And
I know because the refrigerator calls my name

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at twelve midnight and sometimes not today, I'm not answering today, you see

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what I'm mean. But I think
that they do advertisements and you're watching TV

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and you see a big mac.
Well, I don't eat McDonald's anymore,

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thank you God. But you know, yeah, foods and you know you're

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not hungry. But right here,
that's why I'm saying. If you want

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things to change, and I am
going to be like a broken record,

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you have to spend time with you
because it's in those times. Guess what

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you can do. You can feed
your body, your mind and your spirit.

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I exercise, I read a book
that grows me. And my first

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meeting every day is with God because
I need to download, download, and

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I need to there's things that I
can't carry by myself. Whatever it is

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that you feel, just go.
But all of it has to be connected.

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It's like a partnership. You know, it does its job. The

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body takes care of itself and everything
and it all works here. If people

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are trying to lose weight for someone
else, it's not about losing weight.

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You have to have a bigger wine. And I'm telling you because I'm a

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lifetimer at weight Watchers. Yeah,
they need to give me some stocks,

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but it's all in your here and
control that and when you get all three

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of them together, remember I'm taking
you, guys on her journey to fulfillment

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in peace. You cannot be fulfilled, meaning this, the two greatest moments

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of a person's life is when they're
born and when they discover whine right.

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Yeah, to be fulfilled is to
walk in your purpose. You cannot walk

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and your purpose if you have a
whole negative mindset. And one of the

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things that I've learned from a book
See How it is Good to Grow,

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is to wear a rubber band.
Mm, we're a rubber band for what,

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Barbara? Okay, get one that
matches your outfit. I love how

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you say that, because that's what
everyone thinks. Yeah, that's not great.

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Listen, I know because I got
something matched by outfit. Then you

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snap it every time something negative comes
here, snap it, and when you're

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walking around, won't ouch. There
goes the reflection time again. Why are

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things not changing? Because your mind
is not changing. Everything that we're sitting

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on right now was a thought before
it was created. Your purpose. You

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don't just fall into it. Oh
please? People are like no, I

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just no, you didn't. Seeds
were planted. Something happened, there was

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a switch. COVID brought a lot
of people to use their gifts that they

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would never have done. You hear
the most books were written. Yeah,

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people talk about gaining weight, but
there are people who lost weight because guess

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what. There are people where their
spirit had to kick in and to say

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I'm gonna make it today. When
when you lose a loved one. Where

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I was my thirty two years before
I left my job. It was in

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the middle of COVID, and NAT
gave me an incentive. But I had

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someone that was reporting to me that
lost fifteen people in COVID. If her

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mind wasn't right, if her spirit
wasn't being fed, if she wasn't taking

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care of her body, it would
have been hard. Life is happening to

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us, and a lot of us
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Yeah, let's talk about that,
because I could have been taken to you

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know, the high blood pressure.
I could have chose to keep myself shaking

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big and huge. But once again
I had to sit there and say,

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what's the alternative. Everyone has choices, and if you want to take the

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pill, take the pill. But
for those of you who have to take

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it, like me, I'd like
to read what the side effects are.

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I know I'm paranoid like that.
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is an alternative, then do it. If not, then there's nothing you

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can do. And that's that.
You understand what I'm saying. Yeah,

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absolutely, even in that. I
have a friend that is a parapolice Jake,

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and he wasn't born that way.
He was twenty something years old when

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something happened, and after you talked
to him for a while, you don't

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even realize he's sitting in a chair. He makes no excuses. I remember

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at a wedding everyone was taking their
elbow and they were dapping him, and

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I go, why are they doing
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place he can feel. I was
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a way to dance with We can
make excuses, but guess what his body

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where his body was not able to
do. His mind and his spirit did

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it. That's why they worked together
instead of against each other. And you

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cannot truly be fulfilled until all three
places are fed. Your body has to

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be taken care of. For those
of us who own our own business,

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try functioning on three hours asleep.
Yeah, try it right, you have

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to. And guess what, though
you want to when you're walking in purpose.

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That thing ignites you. You're like
they like you hide. No,

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I'm just happy, you know what
I mean? You want that feeling because

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they're like, Barbara, why are
you all over the place. I wasn't

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always like this. You don't understand. I found this. I found it.

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It is the best kept secret.
And that's why I'm saying, Look,

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it took me so long. This
seed was planted as two thousand and

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three. Start paying attention to the
seeds that you're not watering. I watered

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mine with tears, right, but
you have to add some fertilizer. That's

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the wisdom. That's what makes it
grow. That's spending time. I told

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people listen. Covid also had things. I was addicted to Netflix. I

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can watch a series. Now,
yes, I can watch a series.

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I can say, but it's a
choice because guess what. I realize that

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I can choose to live through others'
lives or help others lives. And I

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chose the ladder because every single one
of us, in anyone they can tell

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me I'm wrong. Please call me, text me, reach out to me,

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and it's for me to find because
you know, just just tell me

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if you can have a life.
Yeah, they miss the hamster in the

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wheel GPS. They know where you're
going before you know you're going. Guess

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what your journey. If you can
have purpose that is not related to people,

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let me know, because everyone's purpose
is about people. Everyone gift is

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towards people. This gift right here, I'm gonna make a confession right now

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with my gifting is my words,
written words, spoken words, red words.

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You know what people hear. I
hear something different when we're when I'm

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listening to a sermon or I'm in
a teaching people, goes Barber. That's

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not what's said. I said.
I know, that's what was downloaded to

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me. It's my notes. I
understand it. Right. So there's purpose.

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There's a reason why your body,
minded spirit, there's a reason why

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you have it. It's all connected
trying well. Some people can do it.

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But try walking around on your hands
all day long or eating with your

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feet. Some people can do it
if that's the skill that kicks in because

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they don't have it. Nick Voyachick, he's incredible life. But look at

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his model. Life without limits,
not life without limbs, life with limits.

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And guess why I know because he
saved my life at a time where

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I was ready. When I was
in that, my mind got depressed.

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Right. Remember my body started eating. That refrigerator called me all the time.

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We don't just eat to eat.
Sometimes when we're going, when you're

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body and your mind and your spirit, it could be connected the other way

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around. That's where depression comes in. That's where it was hard for COVID

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and some of us don't have a
choice. Sometimes it goes and I said,

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nothing wrong. We're getting a low
hill. There is nothing wrong when

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you are down and you need a
help. As a matter of fact,

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I'm a strong friend. Check on
me. Please, I do this thing,

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but check on me. I don't
know why people think if you cut

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me. I don't believe. But
we all need some body. Our purpose

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is connected to people, and a
lot of times we seem to think it's

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connected to profit. No, baby, ain't no, ain't no. I

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tell people, I said, listen, I'm not a power point person.

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I'm a power people. You're not
gonna get no power point because because you're

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gonna pay attention when I speak,
I am you are the power point.

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I want to make sure we connect
all the time. No, what do

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you mean you don't have No,
No, you're not gonna get a power

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point and you get to scribble while
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Body, mind and spirit. It
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one because that's where change starts here
and then it leads it. Your spirit

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is connected. It is all a
part of the process. And if something

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is out of whack, examine which
one is out? Examine which one is

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out. That's what my kids were. They were driving me crazy. Hold

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on a second, let me go
check my blood pressure. No, not

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today, go away, I'll deal
with that tomorrow. Oh my gosh.

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But it's it's true. It's like
you're it's it's the house, you know,

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it's the house that holds it all. It's the it's the place what

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we come back to when you talk
about loving yourself and taking care of yourself.

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I know there's been a lot about
self affirmations and writing letters and doing

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the therapy and getting support and what
have you. And then there's that time

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where it's you and you and we
know, the stronger we build our bodies,

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you know, the more the more
virility that's in our bodies, the

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healthier that's in our bodies, We
know that plays into our mind on all

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of the levels of you know,
physiology. We know that the brain and

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the god and two brains and got
brain and all that good stuff. And

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as we start to explore taking care
of our body more, I think,

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what happens our body starts getting taken
care of, we start working on our

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brain. What does that look like? What does that sound like? What

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does that body mind? What is
that mind? It's taking in good information.

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It's checking in with yourself. Who
you hang in with, who you

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listening to, What words are you
listening to? What books are you reading.

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It's all going in here and filtering
everything right. And then you've got

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that spirit. Well, your spirit's
like talking all the time. Are you

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listening? Can you listen? Are
you not afraid to listen? You know,

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it's trying to speak. And I
think when one is aligned, no

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one's like you said, we're imperfectly
perfect. Right, you go to church

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and come out and go over a
burger if you want. It's okay,

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you know what I mean. It's
just at least knowing, it's hearing the

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calling and knowing that you can make
a decision and you can make a choice.

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But it's like and every church.
It's so funny. There's a beautiful

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church where I live. It's the
christ Church Cathedral. I absolutely love it.

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My kids got Christen, I got
married there. It's just a beautiful

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church. And they have these christ
Church cathedrals all over the world. And

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I remember that it was unaccessible.
We couldn't go in it for a year

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and a half because they had to
fix the roof. Even the House of

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the Holy needs to have a renovation
every once in a while. And I

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think it's good for those of us
that are even tapped into our mind or

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body or sphere. Like you said, check on me. A lot of

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times when people look like they not
that we don't have it together or people

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don't have it together. But even
the best of the best needs someone to

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go, Okay, you know,
I just need to have a soul conversation.

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I just need to check in on
you. We're always needing to renovate

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and examine our goals, our dreams. The calling, what is the calling?

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You might get a calling, but
what does it look like? Right?

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And you have to spend time by
yourself. Listen, I have Okay,

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yes, some of them go and
watch, but I'm gonna speak this

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true right now. I have some
churchy friends that had to reevaluate, So

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this is this is a true story, and it's kind of ironic. Right,

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six months before we got shut down
for COVID, I had stopped going

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to church and started streaming it.
I had learned to give my times by

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gift la Fie and my family.
Some of them condemned me and say,

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Burbra, we're checking on you,
nuts and see if I was okay,

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But why are you not going to
church? I don't know. I want

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to stay in tuned and sometimes there's
a lot of noise and I just want

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to concentrate and get fatty here by
myself. In six months when they had

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to it's the funniest thing. And
and and so my bff, you know,

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we've been BFFs in sixteen she lives
in North Carolina. I live in

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Connecticut when my church is in North
Carolina. So I get on a plane

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and go to North Carolina every now
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But I get right here because guess
what, remember, I believe it

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was my first episode when I talked
about a part of the pain. It's

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your temple. That's why you got, don't put it up with all that

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pain. Find the purpose in the
pain, press through it. Just let

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it ignite your purpose. All of
us guess what, All of us was

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born with it, but life happened. That's why the body, mind and

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spirit has to be one, because
it helps bring life under perspective. You

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only get one life. My grandmother
lived to be a hundred and five.

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Her sister lived to be a hundred
and seven. And I watch my grandmother

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walk at a hundred years old body
baby. I watched her sit there and

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talk. I said, Grandma,
who you're talking to? I'm talking to

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God, spirit mind. I watched
her sit there and do puzzles. Dude,

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this her mind was correct a hundred
and five. And then you know

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every now and then when she called
me like any names before she gets the

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baba, really she goes, girl, I'm over a hundred you're lucky.

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No my name what? Her body, mind and spirit was always connected because

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she at it. People wait until
they get older and say, well,

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I'm gonna feed my mind so I
don't lose. No, that's that's a

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start. You start early, girl, Yeah, because if you come to

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run that n not when you're eighty. It's a habit. You need to

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start doing it when you realize and
and anything done thirty days become a habit.

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Try it, you might like it. It gives you discipline. Also,

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the thing that you can't finish wine. People ask themselves, why do

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I start stuff and finish it easy? You're not consistent and you're not disciplined.

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And when I tell people coming into
any of the programs that I have,

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I have coaching programs and I say
to them fill out this application,

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they go, there's an application?
And I go, yeah, because I

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have three little words that I need. They go, what? And I

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said, it's not the one that
I used to want to hear. I

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love you. It's do the work, the work, Do the work,

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because guess what if the work is
not done, you're gonna point at me

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and say, well, I hadn't
get my Money's wherefore I didn't get No,

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you didn't do the work. And
any one of us knows when you're

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doing. If you're looking for fulbiminent
and peace fulfillment and peace, you can't

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get it unless your body, minded
spirit is in check. That's why I

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see a lot of times spend some
time with you but you want to go

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there because you don't want to do
the work. Yeah, you got to

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do the work. You can have
whatever it is that your purposes, but

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it has to be consistent. Discipline
comes in calendar it. Well, I'm

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a dude. No, I'm a
dude. I'm a dude. I'm a

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dude. Just get up and do
it. Become that. Yeah, yeah,

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and that's why we need I know
we're going to wrap up a little

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bit here, but I love that
when I when I first met you and

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you were we were talking about what
it's like to work with people and on

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stage and you know, all that
good conversation, and you were saying that

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it was really important for you.
I mean, as I think it is

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for all people that are you know, serving. You know, we always

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want the people we served to have
the best experience. But it is a

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relationship. You know, if we
could go all change the world, we

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all probably wouldn't be sitting here.
But you have to have that relationship.

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And I know for you, I
found that really interesting how you had an

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application process because you want to make
sure that people are ready to do the

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work and what it doesn't mean they
need to have to transform in ninety days.

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This whole I'm going to transform your
life in ninety days stuff. I

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mean, really does that that's a
disservice by the most For the most part,

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Yes, we will change in ninety
days. Yes we'll change in thirty

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days. We change as soon as
we say yes. Yes. It's the

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private health studio, and people used
to book for a massage, right,

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So we did this. I did
some pretty considerable healing treatments, and I

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said, by the way, your
healing session just started now, even though

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I'm not going to see you for
three weeks. So even that's transformative in

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its own sense. But the sense
about being with you, like being with

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a coach, being with someone who
is mentoring and helping you, because it's

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so difficult to evolve, and it's
so difficult to see ourselves, and we

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want the transformation. We want to
walk the journey. We want to have

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an evolution, we want to feel
freedom, we want to have more joy

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in our life. Right. And
so I really love that you said that

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because it is really truly a two
way street. And I also like people

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to know it doesn't mean you have
to pave the highway if you're just willing

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to pave the block, and then
you go to the next time, and

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then you pave the mile, and
then you go to the next time,

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and the next thing you know,
you're you know, you've done a whole

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you know, done a whole track, and you're you know, you're driving

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your race cars. It's a process. But you do have to be willing,

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and you do have to be consistent. And I know you're really big

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on that. Yeah, you have
to you have to be consistent. You

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have to do the work. And
if you're not willing to do the work,

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you're not there yet. And I
can tell just by the conversation,

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Well, how much do I'm gonna
pay you? No, you're not gonna

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pay me. You're gonna invest in
you. That's the difference. If you

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think you're seeing me. I'm gonna
get paid regardless because my life is fulfilled,

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right, But investing in you and
I'm not asking you to do something

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I don't. We all have coaches. I'm always becoming, yes, always

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always. I can't tell you,
well, you need this and I'm not

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ready to invest in me. Baby, I didn't come here on my own.

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I need an accountability. I told
you my first coach was wait,

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watchers, let the infrigerators stop calling
me. Oh my gosh. Okay,

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you guys, we are we are
part way through this incredible journey of Barbara

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taking us from you know, pain, passion, message, becoming becoming.

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I love how you said that.
So we're in the middle of this becoming.

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I'm sure you are taking page of
the notes and if you listen to

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her properly, you're not typing your
writing to wrap up today. We're gonna

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wrap up today's show. We're gonna
be moving on to something very exciting.

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Go back and listen to what this
woman has to say. It's all going

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to make that much more sense from
that. It's just gonna it's it's going

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to have like resonance, it's going
to reside within you when you start to

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hear her story and your relatability.
Thank you for sharing with us today.

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Really about starting to become one,
starting to listen to all aspects of self,

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and starting to really get together with
yourself. I love that you guys

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know where we are. Thank you
so much. Look stand up to be

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up and show up. You know
what we're doing. Three hundred and seventy

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five women authoring, writing, speaking, chanting, singing man. We've got

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the most incredible singer coming on.
That's going to be singing. People are

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doing some incredible things and it is
a free, full access. When have

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you ever been given a concert pass
for fifteen months? Go and listen,

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Go and listen, Go sing a
little song, and go away if you

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want and come back. There's a
lot of women that have come together and

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they are investing in themselves like you
just heard, so that you can come

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invest in yourself and you don't have
to pay the ticket. It's a free

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access. What you do have to
do is come listen, be inspired,

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and go share that with someone else. That's your price of admission. So

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thank you so much for like raining
on us today. We're going to see

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you again very soon. Watch for
the next watch for the next you Know

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podcast. Thank you guys, You're
amazing. Until we talk again, which

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will be in a couple of days, be well and stay groovy. And

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before or we leave, where is
it that they can come and hang out

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and hear from you. Be frank
Speaks dot com, b frank Speaks dot

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com, or you can look me
up on Instagram, i amb Franks or

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Barbara Frankson you can find me.
Yeah, and it's all over the show

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house. So thanks again yeah,
thanks you by guys, Bye bye