WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:06.719 You're listening to KFI AM six forty on demand. Quickly, before we get 2 00:00:06.759 --> 00:00:11.439 back into calls, I'd like to make a note that a dear friend of 3 00:00:11.480 --> 00:00:20.679 the program and producer, Neil Sevadra of this very program, passed away last 4 00:00:20.719 --> 00:00:28.160 Thursday, and many of you may know him. His name is and was 5 00:00:28.800 --> 00:00:37.679 Ian Punnett. You've heard his voice on radio through Coast to Coast AM and 6 00:00:38.359 --> 00:00:47.880 other radio stations, and he was a faithful believer who dedicated his life to 7 00:00:50.079 --> 00:00:56.880 thinking and learning everything he could about God and passing those things on to others. 8 00:00:58.640 --> 00:01:04.280 He is survived by his lovely wife and his children. It was due 9 00:01:04.359 --> 00:01:11.599 to a very short illness, and he was a man of many strengths and 10 00:01:11.640 --> 00:01:19.599 abilities, but his love of God pushed him through his studies. He became 11 00:01:19.640 --> 00:01:27.040 a deacon, and he continued to be a professor, teaching people many things 12 00:01:27.079 --> 00:01:34.599 that he had learned along the way. And although the spirit of Ian will 13 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:45.879 live on through reruns on Coast to Coast and those that listen online, that 14 00:01:46.159 --> 00:01:53.560 he will be sorely missed by those who knew him, and for those of 15 00:01:53.599 --> 00:02:02.439 you who are in the prayer warrior camp to lift up his family and his 16 00:02:02.599 --> 00:02:09.560 children, his wife, the people that knew him to find strength. To 17 00:02:09.599 --> 00:02:16.439 lose someone this close to the holidays adds just that little extra kick to the 18 00:02:16.479 --> 00:02:27.479 gut. But they believe that he is with his Maker, which was his 19 00:02:27.639 --> 00:02:36.199 goal ultimately after his time was done here. So this program today is dedicated 20 00:02:36.639 --> 00:02:46.599 to deacon Ian Punnett and all the joy and information and the contagious curiosity that 21 00:02:46.680 --> 00:02:54.840 he brought to everyone. Dean, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Hi 22 00:02:54.960 --> 00:02:58.919 Jesus, how are you? I am well Dean, what's going on? 23 00:03:00.759 --> 00:03:05.599 Well? I have a weird situation. So I have a son with a 24 00:03:05.639 --> 00:03:09.919 girl who they both lived with me in my grandparents' house. They are both 25 00:03:09.960 --> 00:03:15.599 gone. We're not together anymore. We broke up before he was born, 26 00:03:15.680 --> 00:03:22.080 so we lived together for my son's sake, and it's been really hard. 27 00:03:22.240 --> 00:03:27.719 We live together for a year now and we don't get along. We sleep 28 00:03:27.759 --> 00:03:30.800 in such a separate bedrooms, we don't talk to each other unless it has 29 00:03:30.800 --> 00:03:36.400 to do with my son. And it's been a very very stressful situation on 30 00:03:36.439 --> 00:03:38.439 me. There's a lot of things that have been prior to this that have 31 00:03:39.000 --> 00:03:44.719 really made me question my faith. And I'm just and we're still together, 32 00:03:44.800 --> 00:03:52.800 and she's been you know, she's almost left my family, her family. 33 00:03:53.560 --> 00:03:58.120 We don't like each other, and it's just a very toxic situation. And 34 00:03:58.719 --> 00:04:02.680 the only thing I could think that you to give through it is to become 35 00:04:02.719 --> 00:04:06.840 a better person, become a better man, because I was not prior to 36 00:04:06.879 --> 00:04:14.319 all this, and I'm just really really wondering if I should keep going like 37 00:04:14.360 --> 00:04:19.399 this and we should just leave each other and live separate houses. But she 38 00:04:19.439 --> 00:04:24.040 doesn't want to do it because of our son, because she doesn't want to 39 00:04:24.040 --> 00:04:27.600 separate his mom and dad. And so the only thing, again I could 40 00:04:27.600 --> 00:04:30.759 think to do is to become a better man and just keep trying to make 41 00:04:30.800 --> 00:04:39.519 things better as best I can, as we can. And again, so 42 00:04:39.519 --> 00:04:43.560 I guess my question is, you know, it's God putting me to the 43 00:04:43.600 --> 00:04:50.360 test because I've been a person of faith my whole life. And again I 44 00:04:50.360 --> 00:04:54.600 said before, I was not a good person prior to this. I had 45 00:04:54.600 --> 00:05:00.040 a lot of problems. I'm doing much better than I was before now and 46 00:05:00.120 --> 00:05:02.639 I just keep telling myself, keep going, just keep being a better person 47 00:05:02.639 --> 00:05:09.399 for my son, better person for a situation. And yeah, again, 48 00:05:09.519 --> 00:05:13.800 so I'm just wondering, should is this a test, you know, is 49 00:05:13.800 --> 00:05:17.040 God putting me to the test or is it just something that should just throw 50 00:05:17.079 --> 00:05:27.639 away and give up? Giving up is not really something that God's going to 51 00:05:28.120 --> 00:05:30.959 put in your way, per se. There are wounds that you amputate, 52 00:05:31.079 --> 00:05:36.160 yes, and there are wounds that you mandage. You will have to decide 53 00:05:36.480 --> 00:05:43.439 that point in your life if there is a toxicity that's going to read that's 54 00:05:43.480 --> 00:05:49.360 going to penetrate everything, so like something that becomes gangrenous, a wound that 55 00:05:49.519 --> 00:05:56.360 becomes so bad that it's going to go through the rest of the body and 56 00:05:56.399 --> 00:06:00.279 destroy the body. Yes, you amputate, but in this particular case you 57 00:06:00.319 --> 00:06:02.680 have to pull apart a few things. Does God want you to be a 58 00:06:02.680 --> 00:06:09.120 better person? Absolutely, but that's everybody. Is this a situation that's been 59 00:06:09.160 --> 00:06:14.160 put in your path by God? No, I'll tell you exactly who did 60 00:06:14.160 --> 00:06:21.600 this, Dean there is. God is not the cosmic killjoy that people think. 61 00:06:23.439 --> 00:06:26.839 So the Father isn't running around going Gosh, what do people want? 62 00:06:26.879 --> 00:06:31.439 And let me say no to it. When God talks about marriage, when 63 00:06:31.480 --> 00:06:40.360 God talks about connecting with your partner, when God talks about two people coming 64 00:06:40.439 --> 00:06:46.600 together and to each other, they will cleave and leave their families to build 65 00:06:46.639 --> 00:06:56.120 a new one. The imperative there is that bond because if you are bringing 66 00:06:56.240 --> 00:07:02.680 other people into the relationship by way of children and into the world, that's 67 00:07:02.720 --> 00:07:10.399 heavy. That's a huge thing for the child, for the parents, for 68 00:07:10.519 --> 00:07:15.240 the community, for the world. These children may grow up to be good, 69 00:07:15.399 --> 00:07:21.040 bad, and will have ripple effects throughout the entirety of the world based 70 00:07:21.040 --> 00:07:26.000 on those things, depending on the people they meet and the connections they have. 71 00:07:27.319 --> 00:07:32.680 So when you make decisions to do that out of that commitment, out 72 00:07:32.720 --> 00:07:43.000 of testing a relationship with multiple years of connecting, dating, seeing each other 73 00:07:43.079 --> 00:07:46.720 at the best of the best and the worst of the worst, meeting families, 74 00:07:46.759 --> 00:07:53.240 connecting with the families, knowing that those families come attached to the relationship. 75 00:07:53.720 --> 00:08:00.160 When you don't take the time to see people during holidays, during layoff 76 00:08:00.360 --> 00:08:05.360 firings, any of these things, you don't take the proper time to do 77 00:08:05.439 --> 00:08:11.319 that, each thing you remove from that equation puts you more at risk. 78 00:08:11.639 --> 00:08:16.759 You drive a car with bald tires, not a good idea, but you 79 00:08:16.839 --> 00:08:20.680 drive a car with bald tires and the oil light on, the engine light 80 00:08:20.759 --> 00:08:26.040 on, You don't put on your seat belt you have no mirrors because it 81 00:08:26.120 --> 00:08:31.519 broke off. Each of these things add to the consequences that will come with 82 00:08:31.600 --> 00:08:39.840 that decision. So d and these aren't some spiritual things put in a pot 83 00:08:39.879 --> 00:08:43.679 as a concoction for God to teach you something. This is a world you 84 00:08:43.720 --> 00:08:52.000 built not only for you, but for your girlfriend and your child. And 85 00:08:52.159 --> 00:08:58.039 this is merely the consequences of those decisions. So some people think, gosh, 86 00:08:58.080 --> 00:09:01.960 to take the time get to know somebody on those things. But I'm 87 00:09:01.000 --> 00:09:05.480 feeling the love and the connection you want to hasten that, Well, you 88 00:09:05.519 --> 00:09:09.279 pay for it on one end or the other. If you want it more 89 00:09:09.360 --> 00:09:13.679 quickly and easier on the front, then it's going to be more difficult, 90 00:09:13.720 --> 00:09:18.159 most likely on the back end and reverse. So you either do the homework 91 00:09:18.200 --> 00:09:24.600 at front end of things, or the homework and the troubleshooting and the catching 92 00:09:24.679 --> 00:09:28.840 up on the back end. And unfortunately for you, you're at the place 93 00:09:28.480 --> 00:09:33.399 where you're at the back end of this having to make decisions based or deal 94 00:09:33.440 --> 00:09:39.600 with the consequences based on the decisions you made. Will you learn and be 95 00:09:39.639 --> 00:09:43.159 a better person from it, Well, that's up to you. Life is 96 00:09:43.360 --> 00:09:48.639 genuinely ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you react to it. 97 00:09:54.120 --> 00:10:05.279 We had a question ask about AI artificial intelligence and whether the discussion going 98 00:10:05.279 --> 00:10:16.639 on in Revelation thirteen is talking about artificial intelligence, an image coming to life 99 00:10:16.159 --> 00:10:24.399 and these things. Well, there have been many different technologies throughout the centuries 100 00:10:26.559 --> 00:10:30.360 that people have looked at, and Christians, the people of faith, have 101 00:10:30.440 --> 00:10:35.279 said, this is of the devil, and it goes with everything. It 102 00:10:35.360 --> 00:10:37.919 goes for telephones, the home phone, and it goes to radio, it 103 00:10:37.960 --> 00:10:45.159 goes to television, it goes to credit cards. Many different things have raised 104 00:10:45.159 --> 00:10:52.919 the eyebrow of believers, even the printing press. Things that may seem benign 105 00:10:52.039 --> 00:10:58.639 to you now were not to those that saw the technology and its infancy. 106 00:11:00.039 --> 00:11:07.320 As that's the concern, right, the Antichrist is coming, the devil's going 107 00:11:07.360 --> 00:11:11.279 to try and trick you, and the devil will the devil's been trying to 108 00:11:11.320 --> 00:11:18.320 trick you forever and doesn't need technology to do it. Social media was seen 109 00:11:18.480 --> 00:11:24.200 as that platform the same that it was seen like the Tower of Babbel, 110 00:11:26.080 --> 00:11:31.200 because now you can bring all languages together, you can translate them, you 111 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:39.840 can do all of these things and connect globally in you're with an instrument in 112 00:11:39.879 --> 00:11:48.559 your hand. But I assure you, although technology needs to be understood so 113 00:11:48.639 --> 00:12:01.600 that it can be utilized properly, but the tech itself is without morality mankind. 114 00:12:03.039 --> 00:12:09.679 Human kind are the ones that make something either good or bad by using 115 00:12:09.720 --> 00:12:18.000 it for something that is moral or immoral. However, it's easier for humankind 116 00:12:18.080 --> 00:12:26.440 to look at these things and say, oh, this is good or bad, 117 00:12:26.480 --> 00:12:31.279 that technology is good or bad, rather than pointing the finger back at 118 00:12:31.360 --> 00:12:37.639 themselves and saying, I am the one that makes this good or bad. 119 00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:50.840 So you have an immoral inanimate object, and humans point to that as the 120 00:12:50.919 --> 00:13:00.799 problem, rather than looking at themselves as the one that puts the more twist 121 00:13:01.039 --> 00:13:07.879 on something. And as you combine it with whatever you may be doing, 122 00:13:09.279 --> 00:13:16.720 therein lies what defines something, not that thing itself. It's always easier to 123 00:13:16.759 --> 00:13:24.799 blame something else than to take on the courage of knowing that you controlling the 124 00:13:24.879 --> 00:13:35.080 item are the one that is doing good or doing evil. Paul, Welcome 125 00:13:35.120 --> 00:13:39.759 to the Jesus Christ Show. Good morning. I'm calling you from Cincinnati, 126 00:13:39.840 --> 00:13:48.120 Ohio and reading in my day's Bible. It's a King James aversion and in 127 00:13:48.480 --> 00:13:56.679 Genesis one he alludes that God said to Adam, go forth and replenish the 128 00:13:56.799 --> 00:14:03.000 earth. And he's elluding that there of society or a civilization on earth before 129 00:14:03.200 --> 00:14:09.399 Adam and Eve, and it was destroyed by Lucifer's flood. And there's a 130 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:16.240 controversy that the word replenished in the Hebrew may mean fill the earth instead of 131 00:14:16.279 --> 00:14:20.320 replenish. And I was wanting you to comment on that, if you would 132 00:14:20.399 --> 00:14:26.000 please. Sure, well, there's more than just that as well, Paul. 133 00:14:26.120 --> 00:14:35.159 There are some that make the argument when it comes to scripture that in 134 00:14:35.240 --> 00:14:45.320 Genesis that they also use a plural. They are speaking in plural in scripture 135 00:14:45.480 --> 00:14:50.000 in Genesis as well, So some people assume that there's more. It says 136 00:14:50.080 --> 00:14:56.120 in Genesis one twenty six through twenty eight, let us make man in our 137 00:14:56.360 --> 00:15:01.919 image after our likeness, and let them have dominion over the fish and the 138 00:15:01.960 --> 00:15:09.600 sea and the birds. So there's the views here come into different beliefs, 139 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:18.200 one of which in Genesis, the belief is these pre atom characters, so 140 00:15:18.240 --> 00:15:24.360 they call it pre atomite or pre atomism, is the belief that there was 141 00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:31.159 this time where that in Genesis one and two. Basically, Genesis one is 142 00:15:31.639 --> 00:15:37.720 articulating the original creation for lack of a better term, and then it was 143 00:15:37.799 --> 00:15:43.399 destroyed. Some say that there were perversions, that the devil played perversions in 144 00:15:43.440 --> 00:15:48.799 it. Some even say that that was the time that the devil messed with 145 00:15:48.919 --> 00:15:54.039 DNA and dinosaurs came about, and then God had to wipe it all off 146 00:15:54.080 --> 00:15:58.120 and start again. And that's why it looks like you have Genesis two, 147 00:15:58.279 --> 00:16:03.840 another creation. So there are those that believe that that takes place. This 148 00:16:03.879 --> 00:16:10.799 has something to do with something called the gap theory, and in this or 149 00:16:11.159 --> 00:16:17.679 a ruin reconstruction theory. These are theories that there was this gap and something 150 00:16:17.720 --> 00:16:22.639 took place, and then God had to create again. So the word replenish 151 00:16:22.799 --> 00:16:33.679 simply occurs seven times in the King James version and both times in the imperative 152 00:16:33.799 --> 00:16:41.759 that something needs to take place now five times three major profits in the passive 153 00:16:41.960 --> 00:16:49.200 forms, and it means to It can really mean refill in some cases, 154 00:16:49.240 --> 00:16:55.480 but before getting into the Hebrew, you have to ask yourself why the translators 155 00:16:55.639 --> 00:17:03.360 used that particular verb replenish. The word can be used to mean fill, 156 00:17:04.279 --> 00:17:11.599 and it can be used not only to refill or replenish, but just to 157 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:19.599 fill. It can mean to provide to supply, to be made full. 158 00:17:22.240 --> 00:17:29.519 So in the context it gives that there's really no need for it to be 159 00:17:29.720 --> 00:17:37.839 refill. It could mean satiate, in habit, occupy the whole of So 160 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:44.039 in the context, you have to use that to define as to what's being 161 00:17:44.119 --> 00:17:48.319 said and how it's being used. So, Paul, there isn't in the 162 00:17:48.359 --> 00:17:52.519 context. You would need something great, not just one word. You would 163 00:17:52.559 --> 00:18:00.359 need something greater to explain why that would be refill. And if you look 164 00:18:00.359 --> 00:18:03.599 at it in the context, there's no reason for there to have been a 165 00:18:03.640 --> 00:18:11.039 gap or belief that there was a second creation. Essentially, what it is 166 00:18:11.039 --> 00:18:15.880 is a headline and then the full story. So the headline in Genesis one 167 00:18:17.079 --> 00:18:21.799 is the basics of what is going on in the creation. Genesis two is 168 00:18:21.880 --> 00:18:30.640 more of an elaboration and pulling the camera back to see a bigger view of 169 00:18:30.680 --> 00:18:36.319 what was taking place. So in that case, that sets that word into 170 00:18:36.359 --> 00:18:40.279 the context and doesn't really give it the ability to say, oh, in 171 00:18:40.319 --> 00:18:48.160 this particular context, it means refill or replenish in that sense. And the 172 00:18:48.240 --> 00:18:53.920 reason this is is that ancient Hebrew is limited. A lot of words mean 173 00:18:56.000 --> 00:19:00.720 different things depending on their context. That has to be understood. There's no 174 00:19:00.880 --> 00:19:04.079 reason to put that there and say, okay, well it must mean this, 175 00:19:06.240 --> 00:19:08.920 because it could mean that, but in the context, it just doesn't. 176 00:19:08.960 --> 00:19:14.119 There is nothing there. There's nothing that says, hey, here is 177 00:19:14.160 --> 00:19:19.559 a second creation, or explaining this was destroyed, or going back and saying 178 00:19:19.559 --> 00:19:26.119 there's this gap here that needs to be explained or accounted for. There's just 179 00:19:26.319 --> 00:19:30.720 not You have to you have to look further, or you have to actually 180 00:19:30.839 --> 00:19:34.240 create the need for that word to be there in its context. And once 181 00:19:34.279 --> 00:19:41.640 you do all that, once you get into having to create seating that word 182 00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:47.680 or a necessity of that word, that's when you start cramming thoughts into scripture. 183 00:19:47.759 --> 00:19:52.559 Rather the letting scripture breathe forth the truth that's in it, and that's 184 00:19:53.720 --> 00:20:00.480 you know, done. A lot a lot of people will try put their 185 00:20:00.559 --> 00:20:03.960 views into scripture, whether it's political, whether it's theological, whatever it might 186 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:07.519 be, try to cram it in scripture. I will tell you this, 187 00:20:08.599 --> 00:20:15.039 the King, Jimmy, there is not the best translation, and there are 188 00:20:15.160 --> 00:20:23.200 better translations out there. The one used by the production of this show, 189 00:20:23.279 --> 00:20:29.480 my producer Neil and the like is the new American standard that has been his 190 00:20:29.759 --> 00:20:34.720 focus and study Bible for quite some time, and although there are other really 191 00:20:34.880 --> 00:20:41.440 wonderful translations, that just happens to be his particular favorite. As a study 192 00:20:41.480 --> 00:20:48.400 Bible, he finds it to be sound, the translation to be solid and 193 00:20:48.880 --> 00:20:52.920 in not only the guidance of the Holy Spirit, but also the guidance of 194 00:20:53.160 --> 00:21:00.920 great scholars that took the time to hash these things out understand them in the 195 00:21:00.960 --> 00:21:06.480 context in which they were were seated. So those things are really what is 196 00:21:06.640 --> 00:21:14.400 key when it comes to translating or understanding scripture is the context, because in 197 00:21:14.400 --> 00:21:18.200 that particular case, you're really having to force it to get that gap theory 198 00:21:18.279 --> 00:21:26.640 or to get a second creation. George, Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. 199 00:21:29.000 --> 00:21:33.319 Good morning. I have a life situation question for you. Okay, 200 00:21:34.559 --> 00:21:38.599 I'm in a situation. I've been married for quite a few years and my 201 00:21:38.680 --> 00:21:45.799 wife left me. She is a Christian, and I'm kind of debating what 202 00:21:45.880 --> 00:21:51.480 I need to do about that. I read in one Corinthians seven thirteen that 203 00:21:51.640 --> 00:21:56.640 it says if a believer leaves, let them go. But I'm sorry, 204 00:21:56.640 --> 00:22:00.160 if an unbeliever leaves, let them go. My question is, what do 205 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:07.160 you do if it's a believer well, if she abandoned the marriage, that's 206 00:22:07.200 --> 00:22:11.559 on her, not you. So in this particular case, has she gone 207 00:22:11.640 --> 00:22:21.440 forward with the legalities of it and decided to divorce you? Well, papers 208 00:22:21.440 --> 00:22:23.599 have been filed, but no actions have been taken for quite a while. 209 00:22:26.279 --> 00:22:30.880 Well have you You haven't signed anything? Have you signed papers? No? 210 00:22:30.880 --> 00:22:34.480 No? Okay, legally we're still still married. But you know, I'm 211 00:22:34.519 --> 00:22:38.720 not concerned as much legally as I am spiritual, of course, But this 212 00:22:38.920 --> 00:22:44.440 is someone abandoning you. There's nothing you can do about that unless there is 213 00:22:44.480 --> 00:22:48.880 a way for you to reconcile, which would always be my goal and desires 214 00:22:48.920 --> 00:22:56.839 to see people reconcile and work together towards these things, especially believers who have 215 00:22:56.079 --> 00:23:03.319 made a commitment before God. That doesn't mean that they don't fall apart. 216 00:23:03.640 --> 00:23:08.640 It doesn't mean that there aren't divorces. You can go back to Jeremiah three 217 00:23:08.880 --> 00:23:18.400 and you can see that even God hands a certificate of divorce to Israel. 218 00:23:19.759 --> 00:23:29.559 So did she give reason as to why she was leaving you? Uh? 219 00:23:30.400 --> 00:23:33.920 Not really, I mean probably a whole host of things. You know. 220 00:23:33.920 --> 00:23:37.359 I'm not I'm not angry with her, I'm not you know, upset with 221 00:23:37.440 --> 00:23:40.920 her, just for questions now is what do I do about it? You 222 00:23:40.920 --> 00:23:44.880 know, do I let linger on forever? Or do I force the paperwork 223 00:23:44.960 --> 00:23:48.799 through? And you know, I just want to do what God wants me 224 00:23:48.839 --> 00:23:53.039 to do. And there's no indication she wants to come back. Okay, 225 00:23:53.200 --> 00:23:59.759 Well, without understanding as to why she left, it's hard to see how 226 00:24:00.119 --> 00:24:04.599 it could come back. Is is there another person? Did you have an 227 00:24:04.599 --> 00:24:10.920 affair? Did she have an affair? To my knowledge? Okay, so 228 00:24:11.000 --> 00:24:14.960 she just said I can't be with you anymore? Pretty much? Yes? 229 00:24:15.279 --> 00:24:22.000 And you say she gave you a nice solid list as to why No, 230 00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:26.839 No, just I mean it's it's, you know, other than just my 231 00:24:26.920 --> 00:24:32.240 own thoughts about what she must feel that she's never really communicated to me. 232 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:37.240 Why just I don't want to live like this anymore? Okay? Well, 233 00:24:37.279 --> 00:24:41.559 what was living like this? What was this? Well, how would you 234 00:24:41.599 --> 00:24:45.279 know? From your point of view, she's not here? What would what 235 00:24:45.319 --> 00:24:51.559 would you say it was that caused the division? Well, I would say 236 00:24:51.599 --> 00:24:55.960 we were both a little too selfish. I wasn't giving her what she thought 237 00:24:55.960 --> 00:25:00.599 she should get out of a marriage, and I think U, you know, 238 00:25:00.720 --> 00:25:03.880 she was being selfish, thinking that everything ought to be the way she'd 239 00:25:03.960 --> 00:25:07.400 like it to be. You know, it's not like we argued. We 240 00:25:07.440 --> 00:25:11.599 didn't argue a lot just to kind of grew apart. You know, lived 241 00:25:11.599 --> 00:25:15.440 in the same house. We didn't talk a whole lot. Well, yeah, 242 00:25:15.480 --> 00:25:19.519 you become roommates. And when there's no passion for each other, and 243 00:25:19.519 --> 00:25:23.759 I don't mean just physical passion, but when there's no passion to connect, 244 00:25:25.160 --> 00:25:30.599 to learn from, to teach one another, to do things that inspire or 245 00:25:30.519 --> 00:25:37.279 find out what someone's goals are and these basic things, we kind of can 246 00:25:37.400 --> 00:25:45.319 fall into those areas of where there is no love. But love Love came 247 00:25:45.400 --> 00:25:51.799 from nothing the first time. You have to learn somebody and find out about 248 00:25:51.839 --> 00:25:55.680 them and be curious about them and you know, connect with them, and 249 00:25:55.720 --> 00:26:04.119 that's how love forms. You know. One of the program directors of our 250 00:26:04.200 --> 00:26:11.240 flagship station KFI that it helped come up with the idea of this very program 251 00:26:12.039 --> 00:26:15.759 used to say his name was David G. Holl And he used to say 252 00:26:17.119 --> 00:26:22.039 that love was understanding and although that's not the totality of it, there's power 253 00:26:22.119 --> 00:26:30.000 in that is to whittle down the connection by saying, you know what, 254 00:26:30.119 --> 00:26:36.559 I know all these things about you and still want to be around you is 255 00:26:36.720 --> 00:26:42.000 kind of like that. And if that fire can go out, as long 256 00:26:42.039 --> 00:26:48.279 as two people are alive and communicative, that fire can be lit again. 257 00:26:48.440 --> 00:27:00.519 But selfishness is the absolute oxygen sucker of the flame of a relationship. So 258 00:27:00.839 --> 00:27:08.279 if that is gone, you have to reintroduce that. And the only way 259 00:27:08.319 --> 00:27:12.640 to do that is for humility, is to be able to walk up to 260 00:27:14.000 --> 00:27:18.400 your partner or the other person in the relationship and say, I can only 261 00:27:18.440 --> 00:27:22.039 do my part. This is where I think I failed. This is where 262 00:27:22.039 --> 00:27:27.200 I think I can do better. We were in love once. I've thought 263 00:27:27.200 --> 00:27:32.160 about those days, I've looked at pictures, I've thought about what I love 264 00:27:32.200 --> 00:27:36.160 about you. This is the list of what I love about you. Of 265 00:27:36.240 --> 00:27:41.720 course, if it's completely dead, then you know I can't love for you. 266 00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:45.599 I can only love for me. But I think I can do this. 267 00:27:45.960 --> 00:27:52.799 I think that we can find our way back. And if the response 268 00:27:52.119 --> 00:27:56.960 is I don't think so, or then you have to prove by living in 269 00:27:57.000 --> 00:28:00.599 a way, not for small amount of time, but by living in a 270 00:28:00.680 --> 00:28:06.079 way that shows the reality of your feelings. Remember, it's not what you 271 00:28:06.160 --> 00:28:10.799 say, it's not how you act, it's how you react to a situation 272 00:28:10.920 --> 00:28:15.400 that truly shows who you are in life, and you reacting to this can 273 00:28:15.480 --> 00:28:19.960 show her how much you care. Maybe she wants that, maybe she doesn't. 274 00:28:21.799 --> 00:28:25.039 You know, Help me find what you need in your life. Help 275 00:28:25.079 --> 00:28:30.079 me find the path that brings you joy. And if you really say that 276 00:28:30.119 --> 00:28:33.960 it's over and there is no peace, there is no joy left. We 277 00:28:33.079 --> 00:28:41.440 can't find that spark again, then let's sign the paperwork and end it. 278 00:28:41.839 --> 00:28:45.400 But if there's a tiny bit of a possibility, I'd like to do my 279 00:28:45.519 --> 00:28:51.000 part to be better, to be a better partner, to focus on you. 280 00:28:51.519 --> 00:28:55.799 And the hope is she focuses on you as well, and then everybody's 281 00:28:55.880 --> 00:29:00.799 taken care of by each other. That's the key to the relationship. KFI 282 00:29:02.000 --> 00:29:03.880 A M six forty on demand.