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I'm your host, Carrie lets Well, got a special guest for you.
But I'm going to start this this session out with a quote from Mark
Twain aka Samuel Clemens and what he said, and it rings true to this
day as it ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's
what you know for sure that just ain't so. And by the time we're
done with this, with this interview, you are going to understand that on
a whole different level. I've got Shelley left Goo with us the Left Coo
Institute, and we find Shelley at Eliminate Beliefs Dot com Shelley, I've been
looking forward to this interview. I've seen you recently. You've been hitting.
I mean, i'd pop up YouTube there's five new interviews with you every time.
So I really appreciate you coming on our show. You know it's about
money, but it's about beliefs, right, It's what you think. You
know, so many of you out there, myself included, and then you
find out that belief isn't true. And then what so, Shelley, you
deal in a rare commodity. You deal in beliefs. You're kind of up
there with the priests and rabbi. But beliefs, they're pedaled, they're propagated,
they're promoted, and so many of them are false. And they're not
not just by the powers that be, but by your parents, your family,
your teachers, in school, all these people pedaled beliefs. And once
you have a belief, it's hard to get rid of it, even if
it just ain't So your whole life's been to get dedicated to getting people to
get rid of false beliefs. So a false belief, what is a false
belief? I mean, I know, on one level, it's a belief
that's not true. But it's more than that, isn't it. Well.
A belief, Carrie, and thanks for having me. A belief is a
statement about reality that you hold as the truth. And people talk about limiting
beliefs. A belief is limiting because if something is the truth, then something
else is not. So by the very nature of the definition of belief is
limiting. So when you think something is the truth, there's no possibility.
It's tunnel vision. And most of our beliefs are unconscious. So we have
beliefs that may or may not be true, but they serve us, you
know. So if you believe money comes to me, it just does.
I don't know if that's true or not true. But if if the belief
serves you and money just comes to you, then you don't get rid of
it. It's fine. It's where we feel limited and stuck in life.
So whether it's about money, whether it's about ourself, no matter what it
is, our beliefs get in the way. And here's the thing. We
come into this world and we don't know anything about money. We don't know
anything about ourselves. We don't know if we're good enough we're not good enough.
We don't know if life is hard or easy. And we come into
this world in this little family, and whatever your family looks like, it
could be mom and dad, mom and mom, dad and dat. Whatever
it is you have parents, you could be in a single parent home,
and children ask the question why, And I'm going to tell you why.
People think it's so hard to get rid of beliefs, and it's not.
And no amount of evidence will get you to believe that what you believe is
not true. I've worked with five Harvard PhDs who had the belief I'm stupid.
They knew they weren't stupid, but they still believed it. So we
come into this world. We look at our family, and if mom and
dad are struggling and they can't pay the bills, and you know you live
in a poor area, all of a sudden you go, why is it
like this? Oh? I see life is hard. Money is a struggle.
If you see your parents fighting and screaming and hitting and the you might
conclude relationships don't work. If you have a dad who's not present in your
life, you may conclude men can't be trusted. So if you get criticized
all the time by your parents, you're going to say, kids say,
why am I being criticized. Well, I guess I'm not good enough.
So beliefs get formed early on in life. Now here's the thing. We
think. We see our beliefs. So I have clients in every country around
the world, really every Saudi Arabia. I have a client now that I'm
working with in Saudi Arabia. And when I say, doesn't it seem like
you saw money is scarce and hard to get where you saw life is hard,
they say, yes, I did see it. Now here's the thing,
everybody, listen, it is impossible. Here's a quote for you carry
It's impossible to not believe something that you think you saw. I'm gonna say
that again. It is impossible to not believe something that you think you saw.
I saw there was a Santa Claus. He've got a red suit and
a white bear. Don't tell me there's no Santa Claus. And one day
you look and you go, wait a minute, that's my father in that
Santa Claus suite, or there's a million of them that Macy's Wait a minute,
I never saw Santa Claus. I made that up, the belief and
it never comes back. So that's why people think beliefs are hard to get
rid of. A they're mostly unconscious. You don't even know you have them.
When I make people say beliefs, because they'll tell me they're problem.
I procrastinate, or I have a fear of public speaking, or I can't
make money, or I have a ceiling. People tell me all the time,
I have a ceiling on money, I can only make a certain amount.
And then we look for beliefs. When I help them illuminate the beliefs,
they have no clue, but ones they people say, oh, now
I have an awareness. Awareness will not get you any place exciting. So
awareness, you know, they say, aa these programs that awareness is the
first step, awareness that you have a problem. And then it's like,
but nothing happens, nothing changes, And so awareness in itself does you know
good whatsoever other than to know why you're miserable. That's exactly right. That's
exactly right, all right. So before we get into what you can do
about it, you focus in on limiting false beliefs. Some beliefs are good,
though, some true beliefs, like you believe you can't fly, so
that kind of stops you from jumping off the top floor of the empire,
state building. So those limiting beliefs can keep you safe. But it's the
ones that are false that I guess a lot of times they are created to
keep you safe. Right. These beliefs emerge for a lot of different reasons.
First, why do they emerge? And number two is give us some
give us your top three limiting beliefs that you address in your day to day
activities, helping people become them. So they emerge because who are trying to
make sense of the world. Right I would also contend that anytime you say
you can't do something, just say right now, because that just opens up
upon I don't know if if I would be able to fly, they may
invent a pill where I can then fly, you know, or some device
that I could put on my arms that I can fly. I can't fly
right now, it's not safe to try. Those are useful. So there's
a difference between a useful distinction and a belief I can't is limiting. I
can't right now, I don't know how to given the body I have in
the place that I live, I can't right So beliefs emerge because we're trying
to figure things out. And again, instead of saying this is the way
it is right now, which is an opening for possibility. We just say
this is the way it is, and then we end up like this.
That's why our political system looks like it does. No, this is right,
this is wrong. I tell people, I tell parents, get rid
of full words in your life, good, bad, right, wrong,
their judgments, their assessments, they're not useful. So beliefs emerge because we're
trying to make sense of the world. And then what was the second point
of that, the leading limiting false beliefs that you deal with that we'll get
rid of, Like like Letterman has a top ten list, Shelley's got it
right, thank you, the top three, So I'll give you the top
five. So the top five most common beliefs that limit people. I'm not
good enough, I'm not important. Mistakes and failures are bad, And Carrie
and everyone listening, you might have read every business book about why mistakes and
failures are valuable. You may know every quote. I could probably beat you
on quotes about why mistakes and failures are not bad. And yet until I
eliminated that belief, it still ran my life. Even though I read all
the quotes, didn't matter, So mistakes and failures are bad. If I
make a mistake or fail, I'll be rejected. And what makes man,
I'm gonna give you one more, What makes me good enough is having other
people think well of me. You will throw your child under the bus to
have strangers that you'll never see again in a restaurant think well of you.
And the sixth one is what makes me good enough or my achievements. That
is what Workaholism is what makes me good enough of my achievements. So I'm
not good enough is like a beach ball. It's a belief. Now we
have what we call a survival strategic belief. What makes me good enough is
achieving things right, being successful monetarily. So now every time I'm successful,
this beach ball called I'm not good enough or I'm not important stays under water
and it's exhausted. And I've had people call and say I'm on the cover
of business publications, I'm worth ten million dollars and I don't know my kids.
I keep promising I'm going to go to their games, I'm gonna show
up, I'm gonna take my wife out, and I keep not doing it.
He was on his second marriage and she was ready to leave him.
He didn't know his kids, They don't know who he is. But he's
very, very, very successful. He said to me, Shelley, when
is it going to be enough? I said never, because until you get
rid of I'm not important. What makes me important is achieving things. And
you get rid of those two believes, now you can have a game.
The game is called make a lot of money. The game is called being
successful or helping people or whatever your game is. But it's not driven.
It's a choice, right, all right, So personalizing this, like myself,
I had the most horrible third grade teacher, Like I was a lefty
and I wanted to read from right to left and if I was in his
it would have worked out great, but less so good. My mother hated
this teacher too, and to this day I don't like her. I think
about her and my friend bumped into her someplace. You know. She just
made me feel inferior. I couldn't finish this dumb work fast enough for her,
Like I could never do anything right and in school, like till I
got to college, and I don't know worked some things out. I just
could never focus. I could never get my homework done. I had a
block against it all, and I don't know, somehow, some way,
I guess I just overcame it. And my second half of college went out
to law school. You know, got great grades, but you know,
I guess there's still a part of me that's that third grader who just thinks
can't get anything done and I'm useless. So so I feel like maturity got
me past it mostly, but it's still lingering, I guess in the unconscious
and unintended ways. Yeah, so I want to clean up something you said,
because this is brilliant. This is really a perfect, perfect example.
Maturity didn't get you through. What got you through was some of us are
very lucky, and you're smore and you're capable and things come easily to you.
So I was one of those people. So I had a dad who
used to say, ah, you know, my dad loved me. He
was the most. It was a wonderful dad. And he used to say,
ah, you don't use your head. You just don't think when I
would do something that he didn't want me to do, or I didn't hang
out jack. So I did a lot of things well like you, and
life was good except when something didn't come easily to me. I didn't do
it. I staffed it out. I asked a friend whether it was making
Halloween costumes, my girlfriend did it, or it was something at work.
I just staffed it out. And I didn't realize until I started seeing that
I was playing small. I was only doing what came easily to me.
And when my girlfriend said to me, I said, how did you learn
PowerPoint? And she said, oh, it was easy. I just got
on and I failed and failed and failed until I did it, and I
realized I would never do that. And here was the belief that kind of
makes me always cry thinking about it. I'm not capable, I'm not smart,
And of course mistakes failures are bad because when I made a mistake,
not only my teachers but my father would yell at me. Right when I
got rid of those beliefs, that peace that you're talking about went away,
the self doubt, the unwillingness to try, all of a sudden, when
I said the words, I'm not capable. So if everybody's listening, if
you say words out loud, so if you take a deep breath and you
say I'm not good enough, now say I'm not capable. Now say I'm
a monkey. So when you say I'm a monkey, it feels silly.
When you say the words of a belief, it doesn't feel good to say
it because it feels true. So it's the first way you know that you
have a belief. It doesn't feel good to say, or you don't want
to say it. Sometimes I'll say to people, say I'm not worth loving,
which is a very tough belief to confront a relationship belief. I'm not
loving, and they look at me like like a deer in the headlights,
like I don't want to say that. It's just words, right, I'm
not worth loving, I'm not good enough, I'm not capable. They're just
words, but they're loaded because you believe them. So it isn't the maturity
that got you past it. It's that so many things just came easily to
you. But when something doesn't, when you fail, when you make a
mistake, what comes up are those beliefs from the third grade that haven't gone
away yet. That's so true. Well, sometimes you, I guess in
life, all of a sudden, you think you're lousy at something, and
then something happens and you find out, hey, I'm good at it.
So life kind of has a way of bailing you out sometimes of these false
beliefs. But getting a problem is that a lot of people won't try.
They won't even try to see that they could do it. That's procrastination.
Yeah. I mean I've gone back because I missed a lot of work.
Not that I wasn't in school and I could pick it up. I was
smart enough being there. But I went back and like learned old grammar from
like fifth grade and up, and it's like stuff was easy. Like I
just believed that I could not learn it, and you know what, I
was right on the money. I couldn't learn it because I couldn't open my
mind up to the possibility that I could learn it. Beliefs determine I love
that, Carrie. Beliefs determine your reality. So the fact that you were
smart and of course you could learn it, people get rid of beliefs and
they go, what was the big deal? Oh, my god, of
course I can do this. Beliefs. Beliefs determine what you hear, what
you see, what's possible. I told the story three times and after my
friend had a session with me, well, she had two sessions with me
about men and relationships. I told the story about my husband and she said,
Shelly, I've heard you tell that story three times. That's the first
time I ever heard it. She couldn't hear it given her beliefs. So
they really do keep us from growing from being who were meant to be and
and really whatever you want to do. So money believes, Yeah, money
beliefs. So there are religious beliefs, right, like money is the root
of all evil. Money is scarce and hard to get. Excuse me.
Money is not spiritual, right, you have to step on people to make
money. You have to lie to make money. People have all these beliefs
about making money, and they call me and they go, I do all
the right things and money comes in and then it slips through my fingers or
it just doesn't come no matter what I do, it just doesn't come.
Beliefs are very powerful and it tells the universe. Yeah, no, I
don't not going to happen to me, all right. So there's this new
ag concept, the law of attraction. People will go through these things.
You know, there's a million people peddling this stuff and then hey, I
thought good thoughts, and you know, I'm thinking wealth, I see myself,
you know, running the world, whatever it is, and then it
doesn't happen. And then the practitioners of this say, well, you're not
believing hard at us. You know, you don't really believe it, you're
not thinking positive thoughts enough, and then you wind up feeling worse about it.
Yeah, it's exactly. And it's like affirmation. And I always say
when people tell me the law of attraction, I always say, well,
how's that working for you? You know, working great? If it's not,
maybe drive something else. But it's the same thing. Carry with affirmations.
People stand in front of a mirror going I'm good enough, I'm good
enough, I'm good enough. Who has to stand in front of the mirror
and say that over and over and over again, somebody who believes they're not,
So you keep affirming that you're not going to by doing that, and
it's you know, for some people, maybe it works, and if it
works and you're listening, that's wonderful. Keep doing it. But for most
people it doesn't work because it doesn't get rid of the beliefs, and then
you have to spend your life doing that. Even if it's working. I
don't want to stand in front of a mirror old day saying you know it's
good enough, or I deserve it, you know whatever, it is,
beautiful, whatever. So is it fair to say then that for most people,
their challenge, whether they're aware of it or not, whether you know
it or not, is to spend your life getting rid of these false beliefs
that you totally believe. So you have to question everything you really believe in
basically your whole life from start to finish, and you're involved in kind of
an internal struggle to shed these beliefs. Yeah. So no, first of
all, one of the things I always say, I'm a result squirrel,
right, So we have a We've created a nineteen belief a package with nineteen
beliefs where you can eliminate all your self esteem beliefs interacting with a video,
and we made it very affordable because we want people to get rid of beliefs.
However, getting rid of beliefs is a means to an end. I
say I'm a result squirrel. I do not want people coming to me and
working on themselves for the rest of their lives. It's exhausting. I want
you to come to me and tell me, what is your pattern? So
a pattern is observable. I can see you struggling around money, I can
see you not taking risks, I can see you fearful of public speaking.
I can see you anxious all the time. So there's behavioral patterns and emotional
patterns and then reality patterns. I do all the right things and nothing happens.
But the behavioral and the emotional patterns are generally what people come to me
with. I want to look at what are the beliefs underwhying that pattern.
So take fear of public speaking. It is the only pattern that has the
same beliefs for every person. So this eleven beliefs and what we call conditionings
that are the same for every person. And you get rid of those four
sessions, you get riding your fear of public speaking, and that's it.
Next you have anything else to work on. So I talk to my clients
about watering all the plants. If you had all the plants in your house,
you would never water just one, right because the other ones who die.
And yet we spend a lot of time in one area in our career
or in health. You know, we have people who are exercise fanatics,
and you know, so I look at watering all the plants. So when
people come to me, they say, I procrastinate. So we get rid
of procrastination. I say, how are your relationships? I pick the wrong
people, they don't treat me well. I stay in them. Okay,
let's get rid of that. We get rid of the beliefs, We get
rid of that pattern and everything else. No, I take care of myself.
I eat well, I'm exercising. My leney is great, my career
is great. Great, see a, go live your life. I believe
life is to be enjoyed. It's juicy, it's fun, it's alive,
it's vibrant. Then you have a problem, come back and we'll get rid
of that. But it's not like I'm going to sit there and go,
gee, I wonder what I believe. It's irrelevant. What are your plans
looking like? Right? How's your relationship? How's your money? How's your
health? How's your parenting? How's your free time? Your leisure time?
If all those plants are singing, knock yourself out. I don't care why
you believe? Right? So are these false beliefs kind of tied together in
a web? So where you get rid of one then it gets easier to
get rid of the others. Is it kind of like a web of trauma?
You know, that's an interesting question. The process to get rid of
beliefs is the same, right, you just got to figure out which one's
caused what pattern. My favorite population of people to work with are sexual abuse
survivors, so either incest survivors or people people who have been sexually abused.
Because one of the things that is an implication in my work that we don't
have time in this podcast to talk about, but it's basically all of your
pain and suffering. Listen, every this is very important. All of your
pain and suffering comes from the meaning we give events. Events have no inherent
meaning, so we don't know anything for short because something happens. Okay,
so when you said my teacher made me feel it really feels like that your
teacher didn't make you feel anything. The meaning you gave what she did made
you feel, right, So anytime you have a negative emotion, it's because
you gave an event meaning. Now I can tell you very quickly how to
get rid of that emotion. But your beliefs determine the meaning you give events.
So if you believe I'll never get what I want. And you have
a financial deal full through, you're going to give You're going to give it
the meaning that happened, right. I knew that was going to happen.
You if you believe dogs are dangerous and a dog comes into the room,
you're gonna give it the meaning the dog's gonna bite me. So our beliefs.
You want to get rid of your beliefs, but you can get rid
of the meaning in a moment. We have a course that in ten weeks
you become a guru. You learn how to dissolve all the meaning. When
my husband died, he was like a guru. He gave nothing meaning and
he was diagnosed with what stage colon cancer? And he went, Okay,
what are we gonna do? And it wasn't denial at all. So there's
a tool that you can practice where something happens you a deal falls through,
and you say, oh God, what meaning did I give it? You
know I'm going to starve to death or I'll never be successful? What else
could it mean? There's a better deal around the corner. But the fact
that the deal fell through has no inherent meaning. We don't know anything for
sure because that happened, so it might have a consequence, but it has
no meaning. Okay, go ahead. So the question is do your false
beliefs and they stem from events that had no meaning, but you gave it
to them. Does that is that a result of trauma or is it a
result? Or is the trauma result of you giving it meaning that it didn't
otherwise have brilliant because that's where I was going with sexual abuse survivors. Right,
So they conclude things like I'm powerless, I'm damaged goods, I'm worthless,
it was my fault, and those beliefs clause what happened to impact your
life? If you had something company molested you and you went I that was
yucky, and walked away from it with no beliefs about men, no beliefs
about sex, no beliefs about people, it wouldn't be a trauma. It's
a trauma. Plus we make meaning out of what happened. Now, I'm
not saying being sexually abused as a walk in the park, right, it's
not. And you can say it was a traumatic event, but it doesn't
have to impact the rest of your life, gotcha? Okay? So I
think I think we come pretty far here. So the events of your life.
I mean, I always say that of what happens in your life is
meaningless anyway because you're not going to remember it for more than a few minutes.
Maybe, you know, it always kind of weigh it. If I'm
going to remember it for a month, well maybe it's a little more substantial
a year, five years, ten years. But effectively, regardless of our
perceived impact of the event, the event itself is of no consequence. No,
that's very, very very different. Now, listen, this is an
important distinction. My husband died. He was an extraordinary husband, father,
human being. I loved him desperately. I loved him and he loved me.
Desperate married thirty four years. His death had was of consequence to me.
I will remember him always. I'm ready for the second half, you
know, I'm ready to meet another man and create a whole second half.
Absolutely. And here's the thing. The fact that he died does not mean
I'm going to starve to death, which was a meaning I gave because I
didn't know how to run a business. I didn't have a clue. I
didn't know the difference. As I always say on podcasts, I didn't know
the difference between a P and L and a balance sheet when he died,
but THET and my business is doing way better than when he was alive.
So the fact that I didn't know how to run a business didn't mean I
was going to starve to death. The fact that he died didn't mean that
I'll be alone for the rest of my life. It doesn't mean I'll never
be happy again. The consequences were I don't have him. I make a
lot of decisions by myself that I wish I didn't have to. There's I
run the business. There's consequences to his death. I miss him. But
the fact that he died has no inherent meaning. In other words, we
don't know anything for sure because it happened. So it's not that it didn't
matter. Sometimes something happens and it matters. Sometimes you remember it, sometimes
you don't. It could be of consequence, it could not be of consequence.
That's irrelevant. What's relevant is the events have no meaning. So if
you never made over. I had a client come to me. She was
making twenty five thousand dollars a year working in a nonprofit. She got rid
of all her beliefs and one of her beliefs was I can't get I can't
ask for a lot of money because I've never made a lot of money.
We got rid of that belief. She asked for one hundred and twenty five
thousand dollars, got it. And I have two or three stories very similar
to that where people add the belief because I never made money before, I'm
not going to or whatever. And then you get rid of the belief and
it just becomes a possibility. And it's not the law of attraction. It's
when something is possible, you step into that possibility with your behavior, with
your emotional state. Yeah, I say, we're kind of suffering from the
law of distraction that's affecting our lives. We're distracted from what we can truly
be by these false, limiting beliefs. Fair to say, fair to say?
All right, So then, just without giving away the whole show,
and I realize that there's a lot of work that goes into this, that
you have to really devote to some effort to uncover the beliefs and then get
rid of them. But what's the quickest way to get rid of a false
belief without going into you know, hypnosis or whatever whatever. Altered state to
you need to go into to do this. So the first thing is go
to eliminate beliefs dot com. And there are three of the most common beliefs
that we have, and you can eliminate one. And then again, it's
not like you get up and you go, I have the belief whatever,
and I have the belief that I don't deserve to have good things, and
you go, that's a crappy belief to have. And you can go on
eliminate beliefs thing and go through this process. You go through the steps.
It's a it's a I don't know eight step process and I don't know how
many steps it is. And you go through those questions and when you get
to the question did you ever see I don't deserve to have good things?
The answer is always going to be no. I saw my father tell me
that. I saw I never getting Christmas presents. I saw getting hand me
downs. Those are seeable, but you cannot see a belief. So it's
not just eliminating beliefs again, it's eliminating patterns. You want to stop procrastinating,
you want to start playing small. I worked with a lot of day
traders. They either didn't pull the trigger. They were afraid to pull the
trigger. Or they hire people and they don't listen to them. You know,
the people tell them to do things, they have winning trades, and
then they stop listening to them. So you want to stop doing that,
right, You want to start pulling the trigger. You want to start you
want to stop beating yourself up if you make a mistake or you fail.
Right, Richard Granson, I like you. I love quotes, and Richard
Granson says, if you're not sailing a lot, you're going to be mediocre.
Because if you're not failing, you're doing what you did yesterday. You'll
never be successful doing what you did yesterday. Right, no risk, no
risk, no game risk, exactly, not in today's world. And we
all went to schools like you carry and like me. I had a teacher
in the sixth grade tell me you're just not creative. That was that stayed
with me for a while. But we live in we live in an information
age. We don't live in an industrial world anymore. You've got to make
mistakes to be innovative. And yet if you have the belief mistakes and failures
are bad, which is one of the beliefs you can eliminate. It's gonna
it's gonna paralyze you, but you want so how you eliminate a belief is
you go through this process and you know, I'm gonna have me on again.
I'll take you through the process. Takes you know, at least twenty
minutes to half the hour to do that. But when you want to do
your work, you want to get rid of all the beliefs. And there's
not a million. As I said, you know what he believes. It
could be a couple of sessions, one session, you know, it depends.
It's not hard, but you've got to know what the beliefs are underlying
the pattern that you want to change. Got it all right? Bellis makes
a lot of sense here. So you should go right over to Eliminate Beliefs
dot com and find out more about how you do it. I mean,
we've all got them. Basically, everybody I know has got got these beliefs.
And really like the person who can never have enough, like didn't you
know, disappointed their parents and they're still believing that they're going to disappoint everybody,
and that drives them to Workoholism and other insanity I mean, I guess
you can trace most of people's behavioral and personality disorders back to these beliefs,
can't you. So I play pickleball, right, I am a fanatic pickleball
player. And there's this guy that everybody thought was like this horrible guy.
He when he drops, when he when he misses a ball, he'll take
the paddle and he'll wrote it on the floor and he'll go good, just
like that. And then one day I see him and it takes the paddle
and he beats himself and he goes stupid, stupid, stupid, and everybody
thinks he's a jerk. I walk over to him and I said, I'm
not going to say his name. I said, your father was very hard
on you, huh with me? And he goes brutal. I'm sorry,
laughing, hysterical, but it's so true. Brudal, brudal. His father
was so hard on him that he believes what makes him good enough in doing
this, succeeding, is achieving, is doing things. So every time he
doesn't, he beats himself up because underneath that is I'm not good enough,
and it's never enough. Just thinking of this guy, this company, I
knew when somebody would go to him he was the it guy, and he'd
go he was Asian guy, and they'd say, you know, my computer
died, and you go, you back up your hard drive and say,
no, you know, back up your hard drive. You must be stupid,
stupid, stupid, stupid. And I think, how many parents do
that? I will say, like, my parents never did that to me,
and I never did that to my kids. You know, I just
realized that the more negativity you throw at your kids, the more they're going
to pick up. And this guy's a primate, real life example. So
I guess to be a better parent, you really need to uncover these false
beliefs and eliminate them as quickly as possible, because you're going to pass them
down to your kids, aren't you. Yes, yes, yes, That's
why I created a parenting course called Empowering the Next Generation. You've thought everything
year, Shelley, Well, you know you listen to what I listened to,
and the and the beliefs, as you said, Carrie, go from
generation to generation to generation. Not because it's some airy fairy legacy, but
because if you believe you're not good enough, you have to what makes you
good enough? For your achievements. Now your kids become your achievement and then
you do the same thing to them. Got it's so true. Yeah,
well been through this, Hey, it's been an amazing half hour here,
Shelley. I mean, uncovered so much here. And I always believe that
the happiness, that satisfaction with yourself and your relationship to the world was within
reach, but just seemed so impossible to actually do what was necessary to get
there. And I think what you've showed us is that you can get there
and it's not that hard. It just requires a will and a desire to
do it and to open up your mind to what you've been doing wrong.
I always say, like, until you're perfect, everything you do can be
improved, and you're never going to be. That's a great belief, all
right, believe I love that one. That's worth keeping, not eliminating,
and it's all beliefs dot com link is in the show notes to this interview
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