1 00:00:00,120 --> 00:00:06,639 It's where we feel limited and stuck in life. So whether it's about money, 2 00:00:06,719 --> 00:00:11,839 whether it's about ourself, no matter what it is, our beliefs get 3 00:00:11,880 --> 00:00:16,879 in the way. You're listening to Carrie Letts's Financial Survival Network where you get 4 00:00:16,960 --> 00:00:22,679 valuable information you just can't find anywhere else to thrive in today's trying times. 5 00:00:22,800 --> 00:00:28,800 You need the Financial Survival Network now more than ever. Go to Financial Survival 6 00:00:28,920 --> 00:00:35,320 Network dot com and get your free newsletter and gift. Financial Survival Network now 7 00:00:35,840 --> 00:00:43,920 more than ever, And welcome. You are listening to the Financial Survival Network. 8 00:00:44,200 --> 00:00:47,840 I'm your host, Carrie lets Well, got a special guest for you. 9 00:00:48,039 --> 00:00:54,359 But I'm going to start this this session out with a quote from Mark 10 00:00:54,439 --> 00:01:00,920 Twain aka Samuel Clemens and what he said, and it rings true to this 11 00:01:00,039 --> 00:01:03,719 day as it ain't what you don't know that gets you into trouble. It's 12 00:01:03,760 --> 00:01:10,400 what you know for sure that just ain't so. And by the time we're 13 00:01:10,439 --> 00:01:15,159 done with this, with this interview, you are going to understand that on 14 00:01:15,239 --> 00:01:19,799 a whole different level. I've got Shelley left Goo with us the Left Coo 15 00:01:19,079 --> 00:01:26,920 Institute, and we find Shelley at Eliminate Beliefs Dot com Shelley, I've been 16 00:01:26,959 --> 00:01:30,920 looking forward to this interview. I've seen you recently. You've been hitting. 17 00:01:30,280 --> 00:01:34,280 I mean, i'd pop up YouTube there's five new interviews with you every time. 18 00:01:34,519 --> 00:01:38,560 So I really appreciate you coming on our show. You know it's about 19 00:01:38,599 --> 00:01:44,000 money, but it's about beliefs, right, It's what you think. You 20 00:01:44,079 --> 00:01:47,599 know, so many of you out there, myself included, and then you 21 00:01:47,640 --> 00:01:53,480 find out that belief isn't true. And then what so, Shelley, you 22 00:01:53,599 --> 00:01:57,680 deal in a rare commodity. You deal in beliefs. You're kind of up 23 00:01:57,719 --> 00:02:04,400 there with the priests and rabbi. But beliefs, they're pedaled, they're propagated, 24 00:02:04,799 --> 00:02:09,759 they're promoted, and so many of them are false. And they're not 25 00:02:09,759 --> 00:02:14,280 not just by the powers that be, but by your parents, your family, 26 00:02:14,800 --> 00:02:20,199 your teachers, in school, all these people pedaled beliefs. And once 27 00:02:20,240 --> 00:02:23,120 you have a belief, it's hard to get rid of it, even if 28 00:02:23,120 --> 00:02:28,439 it just ain't So your whole life's been to get dedicated to getting people to 29 00:02:28,479 --> 00:02:32,840 get rid of false beliefs. So a false belief, what is a false 30 00:02:32,879 --> 00:02:36,400 belief? I mean, I know, on one level, it's a belief 31 00:02:36,439 --> 00:02:38,639 that's not true. But it's more than that, isn't it. Well. 32 00:02:39,080 --> 00:02:44,919 A belief, Carrie, and thanks for having me. A belief is a 33 00:02:45,039 --> 00:02:51,199 statement about reality that you hold as the truth. And people talk about limiting 34 00:02:51,240 --> 00:02:55,159 beliefs. A belief is limiting because if something is the truth, then something 35 00:02:55,240 --> 00:03:00,479 else is not. So by the very nature of the definition of belief is 36 00:03:00,560 --> 00:03:07,759 limiting. So when you think something is the truth, there's no possibility. 37 00:03:07,280 --> 00:03:14,400 It's tunnel vision. And most of our beliefs are unconscious. So we have 38 00:03:14,639 --> 00:03:17,199 beliefs that may or may not be true, but they serve us, you 39 00:03:17,240 --> 00:03:21,960 know. So if you believe money comes to me, it just does. 40 00:03:22,319 --> 00:03:24,560 I don't know if that's true or not true. But if if the belief 41 00:03:24,719 --> 00:03:29,560 serves you and money just comes to you, then you don't get rid of 42 00:03:29,599 --> 00:03:35,759 it. It's fine. It's where we feel limited and stuck in life. 43 00:03:36,159 --> 00:03:40,080 So whether it's about money, whether it's about ourself, no matter what it 44 00:03:40,199 --> 00:03:46,479 is, our beliefs get in the way. And here's the thing. We 45 00:03:46,680 --> 00:03:50,840 come into this world and we don't know anything about money. We don't know 46 00:03:50,879 --> 00:03:53,560 anything about ourselves. We don't know if we're good enough we're not good enough. 47 00:03:53,879 --> 00:03:58,280 We don't know if life is hard or easy. And we come into 48 00:03:58,319 --> 00:04:01,879 this world in this little family, and whatever your family looks like, it 49 00:04:01,919 --> 00:04:05,240 could be mom and dad, mom and mom, dad and dat. Whatever 50 00:04:05,240 --> 00:04:09,560 it is you have parents, you could be in a single parent home, 51 00:04:10,280 --> 00:04:14,960 and children ask the question why, And I'm going to tell you why. 52 00:04:15,520 --> 00:04:18,240 People think it's so hard to get rid of beliefs, and it's not. 53 00:04:18,879 --> 00:04:24,560 And no amount of evidence will get you to believe that what you believe is 54 00:04:24,600 --> 00:04:30,079 not true. I've worked with five Harvard PhDs who had the belief I'm stupid. 55 00:04:30,680 --> 00:04:33,959 They knew they weren't stupid, but they still believed it. So we 56 00:04:34,079 --> 00:04:38,959 come into this world. We look at our family, and if mom and 57 00:04:39,079 --> 00:04:43,000 dad are struggling and they can't pay the bills, and you know you live 58 00:04:43,040 --> 00:04:46,399 in a poor area, all of a sudden you go, why is it 59 00:04:46,639 --> 00:04:55,879 like this? Oh? I see life is hard. Money is a struggle. 60 00:04:57,040 --> 00:05:00,000 If you see your parents fighting and screaming and hitting and the you might 61 00:05:00,079 --> 00:05:04,959 conclude relationships don't work. If you have a dad who's not present in your 62 00:05:04,959 --> 00:05:12,680 life, you may conclude men can't be trusted. So if you get criticized 63 00:05:12,720 --> 00:05:15,920 all the time by your parents, you're going to say, kids say, 64 00:05:15,000 --> 00:05:18,040 why am I being criticized. Well, I guess I'm not good enough. 65 00:05:18,720 --> 00:05:26,920 So beliefs get formed early on in life. Now here's the thing. We 66 00:05:27,600 --> 00:05:34,519 think. We see our beliefs. So I have clients in every country around 67 00:05:34,560 --> 00:05:41,240 the world, really every Saudi Arabia. I have a client now that I'm 68 00:05:41,279 --> 00:05:46,399 working with in Saudi Arabia. And when I say, doesn't it seem like 69 00:05:46,600 --> 00:05:54,600 you saw money is scarce and hard to get where you saw life is hard, 70 00:05:56,519 --> 00:05:59,800 they say, yes, I did see it. Now here's the thing, 71 00:06:00,000 --> 00:06:04,040 everybody, listen, it is impossible. Here's a quote for you carry 72 00:06:05,680 --> 00:06:15,319 It's impossible to not believe something that you think you saw. I'm gonna say 73 00:06:15,319 --> 00:06:19,959 that again. It is impossible to not believe something that you think you saw. 74 00:06:20,519 --> 00:06:25,639 I saw there was a Santa Claus. He've got a red suit and 75 00:06:25,720 --> 00:06:29,800 a white bear. Don't tell me there's no Santa Claus. And one day 76 00:06:29,920 --> 00:06:33,399 you look and you go, wait a minute, that's my father in that 77 00:06:33,680 --> 00:06:40,279 Santa Claus suite, or there's a million of them that Macy's Wait a minute, 78 00:06:40,680 --> 00:06:47,000 I never saw Santa Claus. I made that up, the belief and 79 00:06:47,120 --> 00:06:51,560 it never comes back. So that's why people think beliefs are hard to get 80 00:06:51,639 --> 00:06:56,199 rid of. A they're mostly unconscious. You don't even know you have them. 81 00:06:56,360 --> 00:07:00,800 When I make people say beliefs, because they'll tell me they're problem. 82 00:07:00,879 --> 00:07:04,399 I procrastinate, or I have a fear of public speaking, or I can't 83 00:07:04,439 --> 00:07:08,120 make money, or I have a ceiling. People tell me all the time, 84 00:07:08,120 --> 00:07:10,639 I have a ceiling on money, I can only make a certain amount. 85 00:07:11,160 --> 00:07:14,720 And then we look for beliefs. When I help them illuminate the beliefs, 86 00:07:14,720 --> 00:07:17,759 they have no clue, but ones they people say, oh, now 87 00:07:17,800 --> 00:07:24,160 I have an awareness. Awareness will not get you any place exciting. So 88 00:07:24,360 --> 00:07:30,959 awareness, you know, they say, aa these programs that awareness is the 89 00:07:30,000 --> 00:07:34,480 first step, awareness that you have a problem. And then it's like, 90 00:07:34,680 --> 00:07:41,600 but nothing happens, nothing changes, And so awareness in itself does you know 91 00:07:41,680 --> 00:07:46,319 good whatsoever other than to know why you're miserable. That's exactly right. That's 92 00:07:46,360 --> 00:07:50,000 exactly right, all right. So before we get into what you can do 93 00:07:50,079 --> 00:07:55,879 about it, you focus in on limiting false beliefs. Some beliefs are good, 94 00:07:55,879 --> 00:07:59,639 though, some true beliefs, like you believe you can't fly, so 95 00:07:59,720 --> 00:08:03,000 that kind of stops you from jumping off the top floor of the empire, 96 00:08:03,160 --> 00:08:09,720 state building. So those limiting beliefs can keep you safe. But it's the 97 00:08:09,759 --> 00:08:15,240 ones that are false that I guess a lot of times they are created to 98 00:08:15,360 --> 00:08:20,560 keep you safe. Right. These beliefs emerge for a lot of different reasons. 99 00:08:20,040 --> 00:08:24,319 First, why do they emerge? And number two is give us some 100 00:08:24,839 --> 00:08:31,399 give us your top three limiting beliefs that you address in your day to day 101 00:08:31,519 --> 00:08:35,799 activities, helping people become them. So they emerge because who are trying to 102 00:08:35,840 --> 00:08:41,759 make sense of the world. Right I would also contend that anytime you say 103 00:08:41,799 --> 00:08:45,879 you can't do something, just say right now, because that just opens up 104 00:08:45,919 --> 00:08:48,320 upon I don't know if if I would be able to fly, they may 105 00:08:48,399 --> 00:08:52,600 invent a pill where I can then fly, you know, or some device 106 00:08:52,679 --> 00:08:56,120 that I could put on my arms that I can fly. I can't fly 107 00:08:56,279 --> 00:09:01,919 right now, it's not safe to try. Those are useful. So there's 108 00:09:01,919 --> 00:09:09,799 a difference between a useful distinction and a belief I can't is limiting. I 109 00:09:09,840 --> 00:09:13,279 can't right now, I don't know how to given the body I have in 110 00:09:13,360 --> 00:09:20,919 the place that I live, I can't right So beliefs emerge because we're trying 111 00:09:20,960 --> 00:09:24,559 to figure things out. And again, instead of saying this is the way 112 00:09:24,559 --> 00:09:28,960 it is right now, which is an opening for possibility. We just say 113 00:09:30,120 --> 00:09:31,919 this is the way it is, and then we end up like this. 114 00:09:33,039 --> 00:09:35,799 That's why our political system looks like it does. No, this is right, 115 00:09:35,840 --> 00:09:39,559 this is wrong. I tell people, I tell parents, get rid 116 00:09:39,639 --> 00:09:43,240 of full words in your life, good, bad, right, wrong, 117 00:09:43,559 --> 00:09:50,480 their judgments, their assessments, they're not useful. So beliefs emerge because we're 118 00:09:50,519 --> 00:09:54,759 trying to make sense of the world. And then what was the second point 119 00:09:54,759 --> 00:10:00,360 of that, the leading limiting false beliefs that you deal with that we'll get 120 00:10:00,440 --> 00:10:03,679 rid of, Like like Letterman has a top ten list, Shelley's got it 121 00:10:03,799 --> 00:10:05,759 right, thank you, the top three, So I'll give you the top 122 00:10:05,840 --> 00:10:15,039 five. So the top five most common beliefs that limit people. I'm not 123 00:10:15,240 --> 00:10:22,000 good enough, I'm not important. Mistakes and failures are bad, And Carrie 124 00:10:22,120 --> 00:10:28,480 and everyone listening, you might have read every business book about why mistakes and 125 00:10:28,519 --> 00:10:33,639 failures are valuable. You may know every quote. I could probably beat you 126 00:10:33,080 --> 00:10:39,159 on quotes about why mistakes and failures are not bad. And yet until I 127 00:10:39,480 --> 00:10:48,039 eliminated that belief, it still ran my life. Even though I read all 128 00:10:48,159 --> 00:10:52,600 the quotes, didn't matter, So mistakes and failures are bad. If I 129 00:10:52,799 --> 00:10:58,679 make a mistake or fail, I'll be rejected. And what makes man, 130 00:10:58,720 --> 00:11:03,320 I'm gonna give you one more, What makes me good enough is having other 131 00:11:03,440 --> 00:11:09,080 people think well of me. You will throw your child under the bus to 132 00:11:09,200 --> 00:11:13,559 have strangers that you'll never see again in a restaurant think well of you. 133 00:11:13,919 --> 00:11:18,720 And the sixth one is what makes me good enough or my achievements. That 134 00:11:18,879 --> 00:11:24,039 is what Workaholism is what makes me good enough of my achievements. So I'm 135 00:11:24,080 --> 00:11:28,960 not good enough is like a beach ball. It's a belief. Now we 136 00:11:28,039 --> 00:11:33,919 have what we call a survival strategic belief. What makes me good enough is 137 00:11:33,399 --> 00:11:41,360 achieving things right, being successful monetarily. So now every time I'm successful, 138 00:11:43,120 --> 00:11:48,919 this beach ball called I'm not good enough or I'm not important stays under water 139 00:11:48,639 --> 00:11:54,279 and it's exhausted. And I've had people call and say I'm on the cover 140 00:11:54,399 --> 00:12:00,000 of business publications, I'm worth ten million dollars and I don't know my kids. 141 00:12:00,039 --> 00:12:03,639 I keep promising I'm going to go to their games, I'm gonna show 142 00:12:03,759 --> 00:12:07,039 up, I'm gonna take my wife out, and I keep not doing it. 143 00:12:07,399 --> 00:12:11,279 He was on his second marriage and she was ready to leave him. 144 00:12:11,639 --> 00:12:15,399 He didn't know his kids, They don't know who he is. But he's 145 00:12:15,639 --> 00:12:18,879 very, very, very successful. He said to me, Shelley, when 146 00:12:18,960 --> 00:12:24,320 is it going to be enough? I said never, because until you get 147 00:12:24,399 --> 00:12:28,600 rid of I'm not important. What makes me important is achieving things. And 148 00:12:28,720 --> 00:12:33,000 you get rid of those two believes, now you can have a game. 149 00:12:33,279 --> 00:12:35,759 The game is called make a lot of money. The game is called being 150 00:12:35,840 --> 00:12:43,279 successful or helping people or whatever your game is. But it's not driven. 151 00:12:43,960 --> 00:12:50,799 It's a choice, right, all right, So personalizing this, like myself, 152 00:12:50,000 --> 00:12:56,200 I had the most horrible third grade teacher, Like I was a lefty 153 00:12:56,399 --> 00:12:58,840 and I wanted to read from right to left and if I was in his 154 00:13:00,240 --> 00:13:05,399 it would have worked out great, but less so good. My mother hated 155 00:13:05,440 --> 00:13:09,320 this teacher too, and to this day I don't like her. I think 156 00:13:09,360 --> 00:13:13,639 about her and my friend bumped into her someplace. You know. She just 157 00:13:15,039 --> 00:13:20,399 made me feel inferior. I couldn't finish this dumb work fast enough for her, 158 00:13:20,440 --> 00:13:26,440 Like I could never do anything right and in school, like till I 159 00:13:26,480 --> 00:13:30,279 got to college, and I don't know worked some things out. I just 160 00:13:30,960 --> 00:13:35,360 could never focus. I could never get my homework done. I had a 161 00:13:35,399 --> 00:13:39,879 block against it all, and I don't know, somehow, some way, 162 00:13:41,919 --> 00:13:46,279 I guess I just overcame it. And my second half of college went out 163 00:13:46,279 --> 00:13:50,000 to law school. You know, got great grades, but you know, 164 00:13:50,120 --> 00:13:54,840 I guess there's still a part of me that's that third grader who just thinks 165 00:13:54,960 --> 00:14:03,440 can't get anything done and I'm useless. So so I feel like maturity got 166 00:14:03,480 --> 00:14:09,039 me past it mostly, but it's still lingering, I guess in the unconscious 167 00:14:09,120 --> 00:14:13,200 and unintended ways. Yeah, so I want to clean up something you said, 168 00:14:13,200 --> 00:14:18,159 because this is brilliant. This is really a perfect, perfect example. 169 00:14:18,639 --> 00:14:26,759 Maturity didn't get you through. What got you through was some of us are 170 00:14:26,919 --> 00:14:33,360 very lucky, and you're smore and you're capable and things come easily to you. 171 00:14:33,759 --> 00:14:37,919 So I was one of those people. So I had a dad who 172 00:14:37,039 --> 00:14:41,240 used to say, ah, you know, my dad loved me. He 173 00:14:41,399 --> 00:14:46,240 was the most. It was a wonderful dad. And he used to say, 174 00:14:46,679 --> 00:14:50,120 ah, you don't use your head. You just don't think when I 175 00:14:50,159 --> 00:14:52,879 would do something that he didn't want me to do, or I didn't hang 176 00:14:54,080 --> 00:15:01,639 out jack. So I did a lot of things well like you, and 177 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:09,600 life was good except when something didn't come easily to me. I didn't do 178 00:15:09,679 --> 00:15:15,000 it. I staffed it out. I asked a friend whether it was making 179 00:15:15,039 --> 00:15:18,120 Halloween costumes, my girlfriend did it, or it was something at work. 180 00:15:18,240 --> 00:15:24,559 I just staffed it out. And I didn't realize until I started seeing that 181 00:15:24,639 --> 00:15:28,799 I was playing small. I was only doing what came easily to me. 182 00:15:30,279 --> 00:15:35,440 And when my girlfriend said to me, I said, how did you learn 183 00:15:35,919 --> 00:15:39,480 PowerPoint? And she said, oh, it was easy. I just got 184 00:15:39,559 --> 00:15:43,399 on and I failed and failed and failed until I did it, and I 185 00:15:43,559 --> 00:15:50,879 realized I would never do that. And here was the belief that kind of 186 00:15:50,960 --> 00:15:58,440 makes me always cry thinking about it. I'm not capable, I'm not smart, 187 00:15:58,879 --> 00:16:02,200 And of course mistakes failures are bad because when I made a mistake, 188 00:16:02,360 --> 00:16:06,519 not only my teachers but my father would yell at me. Right when I 189 00:16:06,600 --> 00:16:12,399 got rid of those beliefs, that peace that you're talking about went away, 190 00:16:14,039 --> 00:16:21,200 the self doubt, the unwillingness to try, all of a sudden, when 191 00:16:21,200 --> 00:16:23,399 I said the words, I'm not capable. So if everybody's listening, if 192 00:16:23,399 --> 00:16:26,919 you say words out loud, so if you take a deep breath and you 193 00:16:27,000 --> 00:16:33,799 say I'm not good enough, now say I'm not capable. Now say I'm 194 00:16:33,840 --> 00:16:37,799 a monkey. So when you say I'm a monkey, it feels silly. 195 00:16:37,120 --> 00:16:41,559 When you say the words of a belief, it doesn't feel good to say 196 00:16:41,600 --> 00:16:47,120 it because it feels true. So it's the first way you know that you 197 00:16:47,200 --> 00:16:48,960 have a belief. It doesn't feel good to say, or you don't want 198 00:16:48,960 --> 00:16:52,840 to say it. Sometimes I'll say to people, say I'm not worth loving, 199 00:16:52,960 --> 00:16:59,639 which is a very tough belief to confront a relationship belief. I'm not 200 00:17:00,120 --> 00:17:03,599 loving, and they look at me like like a deer in the headlights, 201 00:17:03,599 --> 00:17:08,599 like I don't want to say that. It's just words, right, I'm 202 00:17:08,640 --> 00:17:11,720 not worth loving, I'm not good enough, I'm not capable. They're just 203 00:17:11,839 --> 00:17:19,119 words, but they're loaded because you believe them. So it isn't the maturity 204 00:17:19,160 --> 00:17:25,160 that got you past it. It's that so many things just came easily to 205 00:17:25,240 --> 00:17:30,400 you. But when something doesn't, when you fail, when you make a 206 00:17:30,480 --> 00:17:38,240 mistake, what comes up are those beliefs from the third grade that haven't gone 207 00:17:38,279 --> 00:17:45,279 away yet. That's so true. Well, sometimes you, I guess in 208 00:17:45,359 --> 00:17:48,680 life, all of a sudden, you think you're lousy at something, and 209 00:17:48,720 --> 00:17:52,160 then something happens and you find out, hey, I'm good at it. 210 00:17:52,240 --> 00:17:59,039 So life kind of has a way of bailing you out sometimes of these false 211 00:17:59,079 --> 00:18:03,559 beliefs. But getting a problem is that a lot of people won't try. 212 00:18:04,599 --> 00:18:11,640 They won't even try to see that they could do it. That's procrastination. 213 00:18:11,839 --> 00:18:17,200 Yeah. I mean I've gone back because I missed a lot of work. 214 00:18:17,640 --> 00:18:18,920 Not that I wasn't in school and I could pick it up. I was 215 00:18:18,960 --> 00:18:26,039 smart enough being there. But I went back and like learned old grammar from 216 00:18:26,039 --> 00:18:32,400 like fifth grade and up, and it's like stuff was easy. Like I 217 00:18:32,519 --> 00:18:36,440 just believed that I could not learn it, and you know what, I 218 00:18:36,519 --> 00:18:40,640 was right on the money. I couldn't learn it because I couldn't open my 219 00:18:40,680 --> 00:18:47,519 mind up to the possibility that I could learn it. Beliefs determine I love 220 00:18:47,599 --> 00:18:55,200 that, Carrie. Beliefs determine your reality. So the fact that you were 221 00:18:55,240 --> 00:18:57,759 smart and of course you could learn it, people get rid of beliefs and 222 00:18:57,799 --> 00:19:02,400 they go, what was the big deal? Oh, my god, of 223 00:19:02,400 --> 00:19:07,799 course I can do this. Beliefs. Beliefs determine what you hear, what 224 00:19:07,880 --> 00:19:12,839 you see, what's possible. I told the story three times and after my 225 00:19:14,680 --> 00:19:17,920 friend had a session with me, well, she had two sessions with me 226 00:19:18,279 --> 00:19:22,839 about men and relationships. I told the story about my husband and she said, 227 00:19:22,880 --> 00:19:26,599 Shelly, I've heard you tell that story three times. That's the first 228 00:19:26,599 --> 00:19:33,920 time I ever heard it. She couldn't hear it given her beliefs. So 229 00:19:33,319 --> 00:19:40,119 they really do keep us from growing from being who were meant to be and 230 00:19:41,119 --> 00:19:45,319 and really whatever you want to do. So money believes, Yeah, money 231 00:19:45,400 --> 00:19:51,200 beliefs. So there are religious beliefs, right, like money is the root 232 00:19:51,240 --> 00:19:55,799 of all evil. Money is scarce and hard to get. Excuse me. 233 00:19:55,920 --> 00:20:02,039 Money is not spiritual, right, you have to step on people to make 234 00:20:02,119 --> 00:20:07,720 money. You have to lie to make money. People have all these beliefs 235 00:20:07,759 --> 00:20:10,440 about making money, and they call me and they go, I do all 236 00:20:10,480 --> 00:20:14,759 the right things and money comes in and then it slips through my fingers or 237 00:20:14,920 --> 00:20:18,359 it just doesn't come no matter what I do, it just doesn't come. 238 00:20:18,079 --> 00:20:22,839 Beliefs are very powerful and it tells the universe. Yeah, no, I 239 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:27,359 don't not going to happen to me, all right. So there's this new 240 00:20:27,400 --> 00:20:33,519 ag concept, the law of attraction. People will go through these things. 241 00:20:33,680 --> 00:20:37,279 You know, there's a million people peddling this stuff and then hey, I 242 00:20:37,359 --> 00:20:42,720 thought good thoughts, and you know, I'm thinking wealth, I see myself, 243 00:20:44,319 --> 00:20:47,200 you know, running the world, whatever it is, and then it 244 00:20:47,240 --> 00:20:52,599 doesn't happen. And then the practitioners of this say, well, you're not 245 00:20:52,680 --> 00:20:56,400 believing hard at us. You know, you don't really believe it, you're 246 00:20:57,359 --> 00:21:03,240 not thinking positive thoughts enough, and then you wind up feeling worse about it. 247 00:21:03,640 --> 00:21:07,279 Yeah, it's exactly. And it's like affirmation. And I always say 248 00:21:07,279 --> 00:21:10,039 when people tell me the law of attraction, I always say, well, 249 00:21:10,079 --> 00:21:12,920 how's that working for you? You know, working great? If it's not, 250 00:21:14,279 --> 00:21:18,559 maybe drive something else. But it's the same thing. Carry with affirmations. 251 00:21:18,039 --> 00:21:21,920 People stand in front of a mirror going I'm good enough, I'm good 252 00:21:22,000 --> 00:21:25,720 enough, I'm good enough. Who has to stand in front of the mirror 253 00:21:25,920 --> 00:21:30,039 and say that over and over and over again, somebody who believes they're not, 254 00:21:33,160 --> 00:21:37,279 So you keep affirming that you're not going to by doing that, and 255 00:21:37,319 --> 00:21:41,039 it's you know, for some people, maybe it works, and if it 256 00:21:41,079 --> 00:21:45,079 works and you're listening, that's wonderful. Keep doing it. But for most 257 00:21:45,079 --> 00:21:49,480 people it doesn't work because it doesn't get rid of the beliefs, and then 258 00:21:49,519 --> 00:21:52,480 you have to spend your life doing that. Even if it's working. I 259 00:21:52,480 --> 00:21:56,480 don't want to stand in front of a mirror old day saying you know it's 260 00:21:56,519 --> 00:22:00,920 good enough, or I deserve it, you know whatever, it is, 261 00:22:00,960 --> 00:22:06,000 beautiful, whatever. So is it fair to say then that for most people, 262 00:22:06,079 --> 00:22:08,680 their challenge, whether they're aware of it or not, whether you know 263 00:22:08,720 --> 00:22:15,480 it or not, is to spend your life getting rid of these false beliefs 264 00:22:15,480 --> 00:22:19,400 that you totally believe. So you have to question everything you really believe in 265 00:22:21,079 --> 00:22:26,519 basically your whole life from start to finish, and you're involved in kind of 266 00:22:26,519 --> 00:22:32,279 an internal struggle to shed these beliefs. Yeah. So no, first of 267 00:22:32,279 --> 00:22:34,720 all, one of the things I always say, I'm a result squirrel, 268 00:22:34,920 --> 00:22:41,279 right, So we have a We've created a nineteen belief a package with nineteen 269 00:22:41,319 --> 00:22:48,000 beliefs where you can eliminate all your self esteem beliefs interacting with a video, 270 00:22:48,400 --> 00:22:52,000 and we made it very affordable because we want people to get rid of beliefs. 271 00:22:52,680 --> 00:22:57,680 However, getting rid of beliefs is a means to an end. I 272 00:22:59,000 --> 00:23:03,319 say I'm a result squirrel. I do not want people coming to me and 273 00:23:03,400 --> 00:23:07,200 working on themselves for the rest of their lives. It's exhausting. I want 274 00:23:07,200 --> 00:23:11,200 you to come to me and tell me, what is your pattern? So 275 00:23:11,319 --> 00:23:17,200 a pattern is observable. I can see you struggling around money, I can 276 00:23:17,240 --> 00:23:21,680 see you not taking risks, I can see you fearful of public speaking. 277 00:23:22,039 --> 00:23:26,240 I can see you anxious all the time. So there's behavioral patterns and emotional 278 00:23:26,279 --> 00:23:32,519 patterns and then reality patterns. I do all the right things and nothing happens. 279 00:23:32,559 --> 00:23:37,680 But the behavioral and the emotional patterns are generally what people come to me 280 00:23:37,759 --> 00:23:44,200 with. I want to look at what are the beliefs underwhying that pattern. 281 00:23:44,599 --> 00:23:51,160 So take fear of public speaking. It is the only pattern that has the 282 00:23:51,279 --> 00:23:56,480 same beliefs for every person. So this eleven beliefs and what we call conditionings 283 00:23:56,519 --> 00:24:00,240 that are the same for every person. And you get rid of those four 284 00:24:00,359 --> 00:24:03,720 sessions, you get riding your fear of public speaking, and that's it. 285 00:24:03,880 --> 00:24:07,960 Next you have anything else to work on. So I talk to my clients 286 00:24:08,000 --> 00:24:14,279 about watering all the plants. If you had all the plants in your house, 287 00:24:14,599 --> 00:24:18,680 you would never water just one, right because the other ones who die. 288 00:24:19,200 --> 00:24:25,880 And yet we spend a lot of time in one area in our career 289 00:24:26,319 --> 00:24:30,680 or in health. You know, we have people who are exercise fanatics, 290 00:24:30,720 --> 00:24:36,480 and you know, so I look at watering all the plants. So when 291 00:24:36,480 --> 00:24:38,240 people come to me, they say, I procrastinate. So we get rid 292 00:24:38,319 --> 00:24:44,559 of procrastination. I say, how are your relationships? I pick the wrong 293 00:24:44,640 --> 00:24:47,240 people, they don't treat me well. I stay in them. Okay, 294 00:24:47,319 --> 00:24:48,839 let's get rid of that. We get rid of the beliefs, We get 295 00:24:48,920 --> 00:24:52,519 rid of that pattern and everything else. No, I take care of myself. 296 00:24:52,519 --> 00:24:57,400 I eat well, I'm exercising. My leney is great, my career 297 00:24:57,519 --> 00:25:03,880 is great. Great, see a, go live your life. I believe 298 00:25:03,079 --> 00:25:07,920 life is to be enjoyed. It's juicy, it's fun, it's alive, 299 00:25:07,960 --> 00:25:12,759 it's vibrant. Then you have a problem, come back and we'll get rid 300 00:25:12,759 --> 00:25:15,319 of that. But it's not like I'm going to sit there and go, 301 00:25:15,480 --> 00:25:21,960 gee, I wonder what I believe. It's irrelevant. What are your plans 302 00:25:22,440 --> 00:25:26,160 looking like? Right? How's your relationship? How's your money? How's your 303 00:25:26,200 --> 00:25:32,720 health? How's your parenting? How's your free time? Your leisure time? 304 00:25:33,759 --> 00:25:37,240 If all those plants are singing, knock yourself out. I don't care why 305 00:25:37,279 --> 00:25:42,440 you believe? Right? So are these false beliefs kind of tied together in 306 00:25:42,480 --> 00:25:47,680 a web? So where you get rid of one then it gets easier to 307 00:25:47,680 --> 00:25:52,359 get rid of the others. Is it kind of like a web of trauma? 308 00:25:52,759 --> 00:26:00,440 You know, that's an interesting question. The process to get rid of 309 00:26:00,480 --> 00:26:03,160 beliefs is the same, right, you just got to figure out which one's 310 00:26:03,200 --> 00:26:11,599 caused what pattern. My favorite population of people to work with are sexual abuse 311 00:26:11,960 --> 00:26:18,400 survivors, so either incest survivors or people people who have been sexually abused. 312 00:26:18,200 --> 00:26:23,880 Because one of the things that is an implication in my work that we don't 313 00:26:23,920 --> 00:26:30,720 have time in this podcast to talk about, but it's basically all of your 314 00:26:30,839 --> 00:26:36,720 pain and suffering. Listen, every this is very important. All of your 315 00:26:36,799 --> 00:26:45,799 pain and suffering comes from the meaning we give events. Events have no inherent 316 00:26:47,319 --> 00:26:55,119 meaning, so we don't know anything for short because something happens. Okay, 317 00:26:55,240 --> 00:27:00,039 so when you said my teacher made me feel it really feels like that your 318 00:27:00,119 --> 00:27:07,440 teacher didn't make you feel anything. The meaning you gave what she did made 319 00:27:07,480 --> 00:27:14,559 you feel, right, So anytime you have a negative emotion, it's because 320 00:27:14,640 --> 00:27:19,200 you gave an event meaning. Now I can tell you very quickly how to 321 00:27:19,240 --> 00:27:26,079 get rid of that emotion. But your beliefs determine the meaning you give events. 322 00:27:26,400 --> 00:27:33,119 So if you believe I'll never get what I want. And you have 323 00:27:33,160 --> 00:27:37,000 a financial deal full through, you're going to give You're going to give it 324 00:27:37,039 --> 00:27:41,799 the meaning that happened, right. I knew that was going to happen. 325 00:27:44,759 --> 00:27:48,480 You if you believe dogs are dangerous and a dog comes into the room, 326 00:27:48,480 --> 00:27:52,440 you're gonna give it the meaning the dog's gonna bite me. So our beliefs. 327 00:27:52,960 --> 00:27:56,480 You want to get rid of your beliefs, but you can get rid 328 00:27:56,480 --> 00:28:00,359 of the meaning in a moment. We have a course that in ten weeks 329 00:28:00,519 --> 00:28:04,200 you become a guru. You learn how to dissolve all the meaning. When 330 00:28:04,200 --> 00:28:08,960 my husband died, he was like a guru. He gave nothing meaning and 331 00:28:10,240 --> 00:28:14,880 he was diagnosed with what stage colon cancer? And he went, Okay, 332 00:28:14,920 --> 00:28:19,400 what are we gonna do? And it wasn't denial at all. So there's 333 00:28:19,440 --> 00:28:27,240 a tool that you can practice where something happens you a deal falls through, 334 00:28:27,720 --> 00:28:32,200 and you say, oh God, what meaning did I give it? You 335 00:28:32,240 --> 00:28:36,440 know I'm going to starve to death or I'll never be successful? What else 336 00:28:36,440 --> 00:28:40,559 could it mean? There's a better deal around the corner. But the fact 337 00:28:40,640 --> 00:28:47,720 that the deal fell through has no inherent meaning. We don't know anything for 338 00:28:47,759 --> 00:28:52,519 sure because that happened, so it might have a consequence, but it has 339 00:28:52,599 --> 00:29:00,079 no meaning. Okay, go ahead. So the question is do your false 340 00:29:00,119 --> 00:29:06,279 beliefs and they stem from events that had no meaning, but you gave it 341 00:29:06,319 --> 00:29:11,720 to them. Does that is that a result of trauma or is it a 342 00:29:11,799 --> 00:29:15,680 result? Or is the trauma result of you giving it meaning that it didn't 343 00:29:15,680 --> 00:29:21,480 otherwise have brilliant because that's where I was going with sexual abuse survivors. Right, 344 00:29:21,880 --> 00:29:27,839 So they conclude things like I'm powerless, I'm damaged goods, I'm worthless, 345 00:29:29,799 --> 00:29:38,000 it was my fault, and those beliefs clause what happened to impact your 346 00:29:38,079 --> 00:29:45,319 life? If you had something company molested you and you went I that was 347 00:29:45,599 --> 00:29:52,039 yucky, and walked away from it with no beliefs about men, no beliefs 348 00:29:52,079 --> 00:29:57,160 about sex, no beliefs about people, it wouldn't be a trauma. It's 349 00:29:57,200 --> 00:30:03,559 a trauma. Plus we make meaning out of what happened. Now, I'm 350 00:30:03,559 --> 00:30:07,839 not saying being sexually abused as a walk in the park, right, it's 351 00:30:07,920 --> 00:30:12,920 not. And you can say it was a traumatic event, but it doesn't 352 00:30:14,039 --> 00:30:22,279 have to impact the rest of your life, gotcha? Okay? So I 353 00:30:19,960 --> 00:30:26,400 think I think we come pretty far here. So the events of your life. 354 00:30:27,480 --> 00:30:32,920 I mean, I always say that of what happens in your life is 355 00:30:33,000 --> 00:30:37,400 meaningless anyway because you're not going to remember it for more than a few minutes. 356 00:30:37,519 --> 00:30:41,680 Maybe, you know, it always kind of weigh it. If I'm 357 00:30:41,680 --> 00:30:45,200 going to remember it for a month, well maybe it's a little more substantial 358 00:30:45,240 --> 00:30:52,200 a year, five years, ten years. But effectively, regardless of our 359 00:30:52,240 --> 00:30:57,519 perceived impact of the event, the event itself is of no consequence. No, 360 00:30:57,920 --> 00:31:02,200 that's very, very very different. Now, listen, this is an 361 00:31:02,279 --> 00:31:10,799 important distinction. My husband died. He was an extraordinary husband, father, 362 00:31:11,319 --> 00:31:15,680 human being. I loved him desperately. I loved him and he loved me. 363 00:31:15,799 --> 00:31:23,920 Desperate married thirty four years. His death had was of consequence to me. 364 00:31:25,359 --> 00:31:30,799 I will remember him always. I'm ready for the second half, you 365 00:31:30,839 --> 00:31:33,559 know, I'm ready to meet another man and create a whole second half. 366 00:31:34,039 --> 00:31:44,200 Absolutely. And here's the thing. The fact that he died does not mean 367 00:31:45,119 --> 00:31:48,160 I'm going to starve to death, which was a meaning I gave because I 368 00:31:48,160 --> 00:31:51,880 didn't know how to run a business. I didn't have a clue. I 369 00:31:51,880 --> 00:31:53,920 didn't know the difference. As I always say on podcasts, I didn't know 370 00:31:53,960 --> 00:31:57,960 the difference between a P and L and a balance sheet when he died, 371 00:31:59,400 --> 00:32:02,880 but THET and my business is doing way better than when he was alive. 372 00:32:04,319 --> 00:32:07,880 So the fact that I didn't know how to run a business didn't mean I 373 00:32:08,000 --> 00:32:14,000 was going to starve to death. The fact that he died didn't mean that 374 00:32:14,039 --> 00:32:16,880 I'll be alone for the rest of my life. It doesn't mean I'll never 375 00:32:17,000 --> 00:32:24,000 be happy again. The consequences were I don't have him. I make a 376 00:32:24,000 --> 00:32:29,640 lot of decisions by myself that I wish I didn't have to. There's I 377 00:32:29,759 --> 00:32:36,200 run the business. There's consequences to his death. I miss him. But 378 00:32:36,240 --> 00:32:40,480 the fact that he died has no inherent meaning. In other words, we 379 00:32:40,519 --> 00:32:46,599 don't know anything for sure because it happened. So it's not that it didn't 380 00:32:46,640 --> 00:32:52,079 matter. Sometimes something happens and it matters. Sometimes you remember it, sometimes 381 00:32:52,079 --> 00:32:55,359 you don't. It could be of consequence, it could not be of consequence. 382 00:32:55,559 --> 00:33:00,200 That's irrelevant. What's relevant is the events have no meaning. So if 383 00:33:00,279 --> 00:33:06,200 you never made over. I had a client come to me. She was 384 00:33:06,240 --> 00:33:10,200 making twenty five thousand dollars a year working in a nonprofit. She got rid 385 00:33:10,240 --> 00:33:16,880 of all her beliefs and one of her beliefs was I can't get I can't 386 00:33:16,920 --> 00:33:22,240 ask for a lot of money because I've never made a lot of money. 387 00:33:22,799 --> 00:33:24,759 We got rid of that belief. She asked for one hundred and twenty five 388 00:33:24,799 --> 00:33:32,160 thousand dollars, got it. And I have two or three stories very similar 389 00:33:32,279 --> 00:33:37,599 to that where people add the belief because I never made money before, I'm 390 00:33:37,640 --> 00:33:40,640 not going to or whatever. And then you get rid of the belief and 391 00:33:40,680 --> 00:33:45,920 it just becomes a possibility. And it's not the law of attraction. It's 392 00:33:45,960 --> 00:33:52,279 when something is possible, you step into that possibility with your behavior, with 393 00:33:52,319 --> 00:33:59,720 your emotional state. Yeah, I say, we're kind of suffering from the 394 00:33:59,799 --> 00:34:06,559 law of distraction that's affecting our lives. We're distracted from what we can truly 395 00:34:06,599 --> 00:34:10,800 be by these false, limiting beliefs. Fair to say, fair to say? 396 00:34:12,639 --> 00:34:16,280 All right, So then, just without giving away the whole show, 397 00:34:16,280 --> 00:34:21,440 and I realize that there's a lot of work that goes into this, that 398 00:34:21,519 --> 00:34:27,000 you have to really devote to some effort to uncover the beliefs and then get 399 00:34:27,119 --> 00:34:30,559 rid of them. But what's the quickest way to get rid of a false 400 00:34:30,599 --> 00:34:38,199 belief without going into you know, hypnosis or whatever whatever. Altered state to 401 00:34:39,079 --> 00:34:44,639 you need to go into to do this. So the first thing is go 402 00:34:44,719 --> 00:34:50,880 to eliminate beliefs dot com. And there are three of the most common beliefs 403 00:34:50,880 --> 00:34:57,559 that we have, and you can eliminate one. And then again, it's 404 00:34:57,639 --> 00:35:00,280 not like you get up and you go, I have the belief whatever, 405 00:35:00,599 --> 00:35:07,599 and I have the belief that I don't deserve to have good things, and 406 00:35:07,679 --> 00:35:12,360 you go, that's a crappy belief to have. And you can go on 407 00:35:12,480 --> 00:35:16,880 eliminate beliefs thing and go through this process. You go through the steps. 408 00:35:15,920 --> 00:35:22,400 It's a it's a I don't know eight step process and I don't know how 409 00:35:22,400 --> 00:35:27,599 many steps it is. And you go through those questions and when you get 410 00:35:27,679 --> 00:35:31,960 to the question did you ever see I don't deserve to have good things? 411 00:35:32,239 --> 00:35:37,800 The answer is always going to be no. I saw my father tell me 412 00:35:37,960 --> 00:35:43,199 that. I saw I never getting Christmas presents. I saw getting hand me 413 00:35:43,360 --> 00:35:50,400 downs. Those are seeable, but you cannot see a belief. So it's 414 00:35:50,559 --> 00:35:58,840 not just eliminating beliefs again, it's eliminating patterns. You want to stop procrastinating, 415 00:35:59,159 --> 00:36:02,519 you want to start playing small. I worked with a lot of day 416 00:36:02,519 --> 00:36:07,000 traders. They either didn't pull the trigger. They were afraid to pull the 417 00:36:07,000 --> 00:36:12,079 trigger. Or they hire people and they don't listen to them. You know, 418 00:36:12,119 --> 00:36:15,320 the people tell them to do things, they have winning trades, and 419 00:36:15,360 --> 00:36:19,880 then they stop listening to them. So you want to stop doing that, 420 00:36:20,199 --> 00:36:22,960 right, You want to start pulling the trigger. You want to start you 421 00:36:23,000 --> 00:36:28,880 want to stop beating yourself up if you make a mistake or you fail. 422 00:36:29,679 --> 00:36:32,679 Right, Richard Granson, I like you. I love quotes, and Richard 423 00:36:32,719 --> 00:36:37,719 Granson says, if you're not sailing a lot, you're going to be mediocre. 424 00:36:38,199 --> 00:36:42,840 Because if you're not failing, you're doing what you did yesterday. You'll 425 00:36:42,880 --> 00:36:46,000 never be successful doing what you did yesterday. Right, no risk, no 426 00:36:46,840 --> 00:36:51,719 risk, no game risk, exactly, not in today's world. And we 427 00:36:51,760 --> 00:36:55,599 all went to schools like you carry and like me. I had a teacher 428 00:36:55,599 --> 00:37:00,800 in the sixth grade tell me you're just not creative. That was that stayed 429 00:37:00,840 --> 00:37:07,199 with me for a while. But we live in we live in an information 430 00:37:07,239 --> 00:37:12,480 age. We don't live in an industrial world anymore. You've got to make 431 00:37:12,559 --> 00:37:16,719 mistakes to be innovative. And yet if you have the belief mistakes and failures 432 00:37:16,760 --> 00:37:22,679 are bad, which is one of the beliefs you can eliminate. It's gonna 433 00:37:22,920 --> 00:37:30,119 it's gonna paralyze you, but you want so how you eliminate a belief is 434 00:37:30,199 --> 00:37:32,639 you go through this process and you know, I'm gonna have me on again. 435 00:37:32,679 --> 00:37:37,639 I'll take you through the process. Takes you know, at least twenty 436 00:37:37,639 --> 00:37:44,280 minutes to half the hour to do that. But when you want to do 437 00:37:44,440 --> 00:37:47,880 your work, you want to get rid of all the beliefs. And there's 438 00:37:47,920 --> 00:37:52,440 not a million. As I said, you know what he believes. It 439 00:37:52,519 --> 00:37:58,800 could be a couple of sessions, one session, you know, it depends. 440 00:37:59,679 --> 00:38:04,119 It's not hard, but you've got to know what the beliefs are underlying 441 00:38:04,239 --> 00:38:08,239 the pattern that you want to change. Got it all right? Bellis makes 442 00:38:08,320 --> 00:38:13,960 a lot of sense here. So you should go right over to Eliminate Beliefs 443 00:38:14,000 --> 00:38:16,920 dot com and find out more about how you do it. I mean, 444 00:38:16,920 --> 00:38:22,440 we've all got them. Basically, everybody I know has got got these beliefs. 445 00:38:22,679 --> 00:38:29,719 And really like the person who can never have enough, like didn't you 446 00:38:29,760 --> 00:38:35,519 know, disappointed their parents and they're still believing that they're going to disappoint everybody, 447 00:38:35,599 --> 00:38:39,159 and that drives them to Workoholism and other insanity I mean, I guess 448 00:38:39,199 --> 00:38:46,920 you can trace most of people's behavioral and personality disorders back to these beliefs, 449 00:38:46,960 --> 00:38:53,440 can't you. So I play pickleball, right, I am a fanatic pickleball 450 00:38:53,440 --> 00:38:59,639 player. And there's this guy that everybody thought was like this horrible guy. 451 00:39:00,400 --> 00:39:06,000 He when he drops, when he when he misses a ball, he'll take 452 00:39:06,039 --> 00:39:10,760 the paddle and he'll wrote it on the floor and he'll go good, just 453 00:39:10,920 --> 00:39:15,880 like that. And then one day I see him and it takes the paddle 454 00:39:16,400 --> 00:39:21,960 and he beats himself and he goes stupid, stupid, stupid, and everybody 455 00:39:22,000 --> 00:39:24,119 thinks he's a jerk. I walk over to him and I said, I'm 456 00:39:24,159 --> 00:39:28,880 not going to say his name. I said, your father was very hard 457 00:39:28,920 --> 00:39:34,239 on you, huh with me? And he goes brutal. I'm sorry, 458 00:39:34,480 --> 00:39:38,159 laughing, hysterical, but it's so true. Brudal, brudal. His father 459 00:39:38,320 --> 00:39:45,599 was so hard on him that he believes what makes him good enough in doing 460 00:39:45,760 --> 00:39:49,880 this, succeeding, is achieving, is doing things. So every time he 461 00:39:49,960 --> 00:39:53,320 doesn't, he beats himself up because underneath that is I'm not good enough, 462 00:39:54,320 --> 00:40:00,599 and it's never enough. Just thinking of this guy, this company, I 463 00:40:00,719 --> 00:40:07,360 knew when somebody would go to him he was the it guy, and he'd 464 00:40:07,400 --> 00:40:10,800 go he was Asian guy, and they'd say, you know, my computer 465 00:40:12,000 --> 00:40:16,400 died, and you go, you back up your hard drive and say, 466 00:40:16,519 --> 00:40:20,360 no, you know, back up your hard drive. You must be stupid, 467 00:40:20,400 --> 00:40:22,800 stupid, stupid, stupid. And I think, how many parents do 468 00:40:22,880 --> 00:40:27,079 that? I will say, like, my parents never did that to me, 469 00:40:27,119 --> 00:40:30,679 and I never did that to my kids. You know, I just 470 00:40:30,920 --> 00:40:35,679 realized that the more negativity you throw at your kids, the more they're going 471 00:40:35,760 --> 00:40:42,280 to pick up. And this guy's a primate, real life example. So 472 00:40:42,679 --> 00:40:46,119 I guess to be a better parent, you really need to uncover these false 473 00:40:46,159 --> 00:40:51,000 beliefs and eliminate them as quickly as possible, because you're going to pass them 474 00:40:51,000 --> 00:40:53,800 down to your kids, aren't you. Yes, yes, yes, That's 475 00:40:53,840 --> 00:41:00,880 why I created a parenting course called Empowering the Next Generation. You've thought everything 476 00:41:00,960 --> 00:41:05,280 year, Shelley, Well, you know you listen to what I listened to, 477 00:41:05,519 --> 00:41:07,679 and the and the beliefs, as you said, Carrie, go from 478 00:41:07,719 --> 00:41:14,719 generation to generation to generation. Not because it's some airy fairy legacy, but 479 00:41:14,840 --> 00:41:19,880 because if you believe you're not good enough, you have to what makes you 480 00:41:19,880 --> 00:41:23,239 good enough? For your achievements. Now your kids become your achievement and then 481 00:41:23,280 --> 00:41:29,239 you do the same thing to them. Got it's so true. Yeah, 482 00:41:29,320 --> 00:41:31,960 well been through this, Hey, it's been an amazing half hour here, 483 00:41:32,079 --> 00:41:37,440 Shelley. I mean, uncovered so much here. And I always believe that 484 00:41:37,599 --> 00:41:45,159 the happiness, that satisfaction with yourself and your relationship to the world was within 485 00:41:45,320 --> 00:41:52,559 reach, but just seemed so impossible to actually do what was necessary to get 486 00:41:52,599 --> 00:41:57,920 there. And I think what you've showed us is that you can get there 487 00:41:57,920 --> 00:42:00,880 and it's not that hard. It just requires a will and a desire to 488 00:42:01,000 --> 00:42:05,719 do it and to open up your mind to what you've been doing wrong. 489 00:42:06,960 --> 00:42:10,000 I always say, like, until you're perfect, everything you do can be 490 00:42:10,079 --> 00:42:15,559 improved, and you're never going to be. That's a great belief, all 491 00:42:15,639 --> 00:42:20,679 right, believe I love that one. That's worth keeping, not eliminating, 492 00:42:20,719 --> 00:42:23,880 and it's all beliefs dot com link is in the show notes to this interview 493 00:42:23,960 --> 00:42:29,199 on Financial Survival Network dot com. Make sure you click it sign up for 494 00:42:29,239 --> 00:42:32,320 a free newsletter if you got a question for Shelley myself. The email addresses 495 00:42:32,440 --> 00:42:37,000 kl at carry LUTs dot com. Shelley really appreciate you coming on. We 496 00:42:37,079 --> 00:42:42,239 will have you on again and be well. Thanks for having me, thanks 497 00:42:42,239 --> 00:42:47,639 for listening to carry Lets's Financial Survival Network, your solution to today's trying times. 498 00:42:49,000 --> 00:42:52,880 For the latest, go to Financial Survival Network dot com. Financial Survival 499 00:42:52,960 --> 00:42:55,360 Network now more than ever,