Son of Cat's time you got your girl Sona's good. Hey, Hey,
you're playing biz. You know, we like to sit down and chop it
up with our people. You know. Obviously you can tap in with us
on the free iHeart radio app like comment whatever, subscribe, But we always
talk about what we got going on. And I'm telling you what this real
estate thing, biz, it's got me in front of some some different type
of folks. I'm not gonna lie. I mean, you're running into characters
all day every day. But when you said that, you said that and
talk to somebody that knew me, I was like, all my friends was
broke. And so I know, well, because we do a radio thing,
right, and so people have been tapping in with me through this hearing
about me doing my new journey or whatever the case may be. At this
cat. I'm not gonna say any names. I never will. Your story
is your story until you tell me that. I'm gonna tell people a little
bit, you know, obviously without names. Yes, my guy got like
some lightweight ninety day fiance thing going on. What so his girl is married
to a sixty year old man? Okay, right, she's from Columbia.
Oh and she's here. He went through a divorce from his wife. I
guess to be with her. The Columbian chick is still living with her husband.
They're still married, there's no divorce there, but they're trying to get
a home together. So, you know, on the lending side of that,
I don't really know what that looks like on paper. I'm like,
but maybe I'm gonna walk with you through this and we're gonna look at houses,
and if you get approved, we're gonna find you a house. Don't
even trip. But it's just interesting, like the relationships that are out there.
I got my other homie, not gonna say names again, was facetiming
his girl the entire time. She was like, yes, no, maybe,
I don't know whatever. He's like, you know, I want to
put an offer on this. My girl liked this one. So it's just
it's funny to see how people navigate through buying their first house. Yeah,
especially if they bringing in other parties, you know, like there other significant
others who might still be married to other people people. I mean, that's
right, that's a whole situation, man. But when you mentioned that,
he said he knew me. I vaguely definitely remember having a conversation with this
man, and I think I probably will telling him like, hey, bro,
I mean, live your live your best life. If you and baby's
still chilling and y'all good and the man she living with ain't sweating it,
Hey bro, count your chicken. I mean he said that dude's not tripping
off nothing. I was like, you know, he's probably gonna have to
sign off on some papers like oh it's good, it's good, everything's good.
So I mean, but he brought wifey over, so you know what
I mean, maybe it ran its course and now they're just trying to do
whatever they can do to be together, which is cute. But he's a
good dude. Man. It's just people's stories just be different. I mean,
you never know where you're gonna find love you I'm talking about. I
mean, hell, you know, I could sit here and tell you that
once upon a time there was a biz classic who ended up finding the love
of his life all he was married. You know, say, you know
people, people will find him any it everywhere. Shut out to my pop
man. Yeah, so you were reading me this article, oh because you
know I have a teenager, and if you have a teenager, out there.
You know that it is a battle to keep them off their phones without
a video game controller in their hands or trying to get into some mess online.
And what does this article specifically talk about? Biz? Okay, so
I had to go ahead and check this thing out, especially for all my
parents. You specifically there signa J so it said seven secret signs. I
don't know if they're really secret though, that your kid is addicted to social
media. Okay, so I'm gonna just run down the list. You know,
we can sit here and have this combo. I feel like this is
gonna be most kids nowadays, but we'll see what's up. Number One,
hobbies take a back seat. Okay, is your child using the platform like
Instagram or Facebook at all hours of the night. Probably not Facebook, definitely
TikTok and let's go ahead and throw some Snapchat in there. But basically,
when hobbies, studying, and other social interactions take a backseat, that means
that, you know, for a fact, your kid is locked in you
know. Now, I know your baby spends a lot of time because she's
a youth athlete, you know, so she's out there hitting the volleyball court
of the soccer field. You know, but outside of that, Sonagy,
when she has those designated times to be in school, designated times to be
doing sports, do you feel like she can't get away from that damn phone.
Yeah, I mean, and I'll ask her, and you know,
I'm to the point to where I don't trust what she's saying. So she
could be like, I'm looking up something for school or whatever, and I'll
find myself looking over her shoulder like she owned freaking TikTok or whatever. And
I don't want to be that parent because I know that. Also, you
know, your phones get Internet. It is a source of information if you
need it to look up something for school or whatever the case may be.
And she gets emails and stuff like that too, so it's not just social
media. But I just feel like, dang, every time I look over
at her, she's staring at the phone. So you know, I tell
her there's times like, honey, are we gonna watch it's this movie?
Or you're just gonna look at your phone or whatever. I mean, I
know when the times are serious that it's just TikTok or whatever snapchat they be
sending the corner of their eye or like the sky to each other. Do
you really need to send that picture over to somebody snapchat right now, you
don't, so put the phone down. But it's like up to the parents.
And I know a lot of us are busy and sometimes either you're not
paying attention or you would rather than be occupied than asking you a million questions.
So it's something that you know, each household has to kind of navigate.
Now number two on this list, I feel like this definitely could be
a secret sign. But let's go ahead and get into it. Constant need
for validation, they said, a lot of these kids, of course,
are engaging their own lives off of the stuff they see on social media,
which is it be fake babies. Okay, people are fronting on social media
trying to make it see how they're always living their best life. But for
a lot of these kids that saying it affects their mental health because they're feeling
like, how come I'm not living like that going on with me? So,
you know, they said, number two is that constant need to validate
them. If they feel like they're just thirsty for that, they're probably locked
in too much. And that again leads back to the parents. You know,
we're obviously not peers, so we could say they look cute or their
outfit is dope, it won't carry the same weight as if one of their
friends from school, does you know, and the reversed effect of that,
if their friend says you look like trash today, it's gonna hurt them.
So just pay attention. You know, I know it's rough, Like me,
I got two gigs going on. You know, I'm still sitting on
my phone at seven o'clock at night every night trying to get prep done for
the show the next day. Like this is a reality of how my life
functions. But you have to pull away and like, you know, talk
to your kid, how'd your day go? You look nice today? Like
did you talk to that boy you like? Or you know, whatever it
may be where your friends hating on you today or cause they want somebody to
talk to. And if they're getting that attention from family members, and you
know, lucky for the ones that have siblings that they can talk talk to
too, that's even better because they're in the same range as they can relate
to each other. But again, it just boils down to parents navigating how
your family functions. Right, So number three, I feel like this is
a clear sign for sure. They said mood swings basically if they're exhibiting irritability,
high anxiety, or sadness whenever they start using social media as a clear
sign that they are probably fighting an addiction. Yeah, they said, that's
social media, man, because you know, I guess you know, it's
so easy to be thrown off again kind of off of the stuff that you
see, you know what I mean. And again with these kids, a
lot of times they might be facing bullying online or all types of trolling and
stuff like that, so it's easy for them to be irritated or get sad
in the blink of an eye. Yeah, that part's hard. I'm thankful
that I haven't seen that in my house. I could see other kids at
the school going through things like that. And obviously there are shows out there
that have been dedicated to just talking about teen addiction and depression and how it
does sometimes lead to drug abuse or use. The vaping thing is something that
I just really can't you know, And again, it's just a crutch.
It's you trying to make yourself feel better, which you know carries on through
adulthood. It has the same purpose from beginning of time to the end you
trying to blank out what's really going on, so you want to feel different.
And I you know, parents, you could raise the best child around.
If they get exposed to something and they don't feel like it's you know,
a threat, because their friends are like, oh, it's great,
let's do this. Whatever, they might try it, and they might get
hooked on it. Even a good kid could do that, you know,
a troubled child even more of a chance. And once you're in it,
it's hard to get them out because they might like how it makes them feel,
or whatever the case may be. Again, trying to escape the reality
of maybe not being popular at school, or you know, getting bullied online,
or maybe an abusive family. You never know, so I don't know.
It's a rough job being a parent. I keep telling you, I
can't wait for you to jump in. Oh gosh, I'm telling all you
did was make me think about euphoria. And when I see now watch that
show, oh my god, it tells on my hardestreets and rp angus.
All right, So these last three I feel like we can breeze through because
they's not that bad. Number four decline in physical activity. But I feel
like none of these kids want to go outside and do much nowadays, unless
they actually, you know, are interested in sports heavy heavy generally it's hell
getting them off the couch, you know what I mean. I don't have
that issue. I could see how people do, especially like families. I
want to say, probably a majority of boys or more into video games,
although I know teen girls or girls even women play video games. But that's
the biggest thing, right And then it does show us some form of depression,
like why don't you want to go outside and play with your friends or
just run around or you know, like parents sometimes give the fool leash like
hey, you can go run the streets with your friends if you want to,
if you just get the hell out of this house and do something with
yourself. But getting them involved in sports and stuff like that, like I
feel like has been a godsend. You know, Naya, My daughter is
not lazy by any means. She is when it comes to housework. But
if there's a sport to be played or you know, a social event to
go to, oh, she ready, let me go, get ready,
let me pick my outfit for right now? Like you just go to practice?
What do you mean? So I don't know it's just forcing them.
And that means you have to jump in it too. Yeah, because again
I see you dedicating time, of course, having to drive to tournaments,
drive to practices, spend hours while you're sitting there waiting on top of you
know, not just the time, you know, but also the financial investment
that you put into it. So parents, you know, you gotta be
you gotta be dedicated, honestly, but pay attention to your kids. If
you know what they love, man pour into that absolutely. Number five they
said, neglective responsibilities. WHI ch'all think is just being the kid because I
didn't want to watch this is at thirteen. I would much rather go outside
and ride my bike, you know what I mean? That's everybody right.
Number six they said disrupted sleep patterns. They said, if the kids are
basically sleeping like they almost got jet lag, then maybe number one, they're
having way too much screen time. Number two, a lot of the things
that they're seeing online is definitely affecting their neurological systems when they try to go
to sleep, and it's keeping them up, up, up, that's what
they're saying. And number seven, social withdrawal. If you start seeing and
wanting to pull back from personal and social interactions. Then they're saying, for
show, these are some things you could look at in terms of signs that
they might be getting more uncomfortable with face to face communication, the conversation.
Which is the wildest thing because you think social media ties us all together so
much, but also it creates such a separation, so much awkwardness as people
continue to move forward in that world, it's like diving into the metaverse.
You don't know how to get out and just have a regular conversation, you
know. So parents, you know, just like you said this sonergy,
keep eyeing your kids, chopping up with them, you know, and just
you know, stay afloat on what's going on in their lives. Yeah,
I mean, and I will say this too on top of that, because
I know our focus is always our kids. You know, we got to
make sure they're good. But you've got to make sure you're good, absolutely
so that you can make sure they're good. And our mental health. Depending
on whether you're married or in a relationship or a single parent like that,
stuff takes a toll on you. Maybe you're fighting with your husband and your
wife, you know, and you guys are dealing with someone else, so
you're not really paying attention to what's going on. Then when you go to
your kids, there's like problems and maybe you find yourself shying away from it
because you've got stuff going on with you and your hubby or your wifey same
thing for a relationship. And even as a single parent like myself, like
things pop up. You know, I'm a homeowner too, and stuff goes
on with the house and I got to deal with that because I'm the sole
adult in the situation dealing with everything that a person probably you know, it
would be helpful to have another adult to at least talk to. Yeah,
you know, handle one day of driving to practice, so I ain't got
to get up at four o'clock in the morning, be on the radio,
you know, go home, do real estate, then drive her to practice,
do more real estate, and do show prep for the next day.
Like it's a lot, and that's just my life. You know, other
people have more. But if your mental health isn't on point or at least
healthy, then how are you going to be a good parent to your kids?
You might even find yourself taking out your frustrations on your children. That's
not what they're there for. You're supposed to be raising good people, and
in order to do that, you have to take care of yourself. Right.
You can't pour into anyone else's cup if you haven't poured into your own.
And for all us folks out there no one way you can start pouring
into yourself. How about you come hang out with us and turn off for
Valentine's Day. Yeah, So we started this last year and it's the Sona
G. Morning Show Crush on You speed dating contests, right, and we're
trying to find some prizes for y'all because we need more of the fellows to
come out. Right. We had a lot of beautiful women we had fellas
sign up, but then they you know, they they did they lost their
cojones in the transition and didn't actually show up to the event. But it
was so much fun. We had drinks flowing, you know, there was
food going and of course people were meeting people. We had one couple that
really hit it off that we're just talking the whole time. He latched on.
He was like, I'm gonna get this one and I'm just gonna stay
focused. But we still had them go through and talk to everybody and ask
questions. So it's fun. And this is year two. Yeah, you
know, I'll say as much. If you at home and you're thinking,
oh, it's gonna be another lonely Valentine's Day. Get show ass up,
okay, because this is gonna be a turn up. Last year we did
it and said Cisco. This year there's Stagy, We taking it to Oakland.
It's gonna be a movement. Man. We want all of y'all to
come out and hang out with us, have some drinks, have a fun
time. Man. Don't sit at home on Valentine's Night. Yeah, don't
be scared to come out. Like we're gonna make the announcement coming up pretty
soon, and then you just go ahead and you know, show your butt
up, sign up, come on out and let's have some drinks and kick
it and just have a good time. I'm working on something with the Warriors.
There's no guarantee though, okay, so we'll see what's up. But
it definitely was a hit last year. I think everybody who came had a
great time. Oh yeah, yeah, especially my man who was in there
with about three jackets and was mad, sweaty by the end. Then well
he walked from somewhere where the hell did he walk from? And then he
started handing out people like cannabis or something. All yeah, but hey,
come on back, fella, it's all good. All yeah, this time
it might be yours. I know a couple of people, like I said,
linked up. But you know, we'll see what's up. So make
sure you stay tuned again every morning to the signas you want to show,
so you don't miss any of those details. All right, Well, it's
good chopping it up with y'all. We do it every day of the week,
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