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Two years later and dozens of flirts. In the meantime, I experienced my
first platonic love. As much as platoon referred to something else. It is
commonly considered platonic. That unrequited, unattainable and seemingly impossible love. Well,
it happened to me with a high school girl. Betsy. Although we were
going to different classes, we were part of the same group of friends,
she was as beautiful as she was introverted. I rarely spoke to her and
when she did, she didn' t tell me about her and she didn
' t care about me. Betsy took such a little notice of me that
I had to imagine our relationship as a couple. At the time I was
an insecure and tormented boy and I was well disguised as romantic. I don
' t know what appeared before if the crush, the obsession or the madness,
maybe the three of them at the same time. The truth is,
I couldn' t stop thinking about her. Every night I dreamed that I
conquered her and every morning I realized that, in fact, I had my
own dream again. I don' t know how, but I convinced myself
I couldn' t live without her. The void was so unbearable that I
began to become sick of loneliness. I felt like a boat that had been
drifting for years and had finally found its port. Suddenly I thought I knew
where I' d been hiding all that time. My happiness. However,
the closer I got to her, the further Betsy got away from me.
I ended up drowning in an ocean of emotions and feelings. After several visits
to a psychiatrist' s office. I began to medicate myself to fight depression.
The good thing about obsession is that it allows you to engage in the
long term. Only four years later, after biting a lot of stone,
I managed to get that girl to be mine happened like not in a discotheque.
Like the rest of the young people around us, we made it look
like we were dancing. It' s o o o o or the amount
of noise, darkness and alcohol that some of us need to be able to
pick up that night. Without going any further, Betsy and I took six
shots of tequila and so many other cubatas before giving us a chance. Despite
the lagoons, I remember fuzzily that we kissed so hard that we ended up
falling to the ground. Later we went to my house and to express it
elegantly. We made love for almost three glorious minutes. That day we both
lost our virginity. That' s how we started dating, but nothing changed.
I was still ten suffering from that. From then on, out of
fear of losing her, Betsy used to meet me some afternoon during the week
and book Thursdays, Fridays and Saturdays at night to party with her friends.
His absence was the excuse for my inner demons to pop up, which made
me a possessive, controlling and jealous boy. Two months after our engagement started,
she told me she was pregnant. I had just turned 20 and had
no fucking idea what to do with my life. I had left my studies
and worked part- time as a warehouse boy We had no future at all.
However, under pressure from our social environment, the following year we decided
to marry for the church and start living together and soon our daughter was born.
Now I see it in perspective and I wonder how the hell we'
d be able to take care of our little girl if we weren' t
able to take care of ourselves. It was four years of conflict, struggle
and suffering, my mother, how much two people who say they love each
other can get destroyed in the name of love. After the divorce, Betsy
moved to San Francisco with her parents and our three- year- old daughter
and soon later met the man with whom she laughed her life. Today we
have a very respectful and cordial relationship. We have a daughter in common whom
I see whenever I can and who has given me two grandchildren. Oh,
you' re so lame. It took him many years, but he has
such a big heart that in the end he forgave my many sins. The
monotony and weariness of conventional marriage. The breakup with Betsy plunged me even more
into the deep depression that had accompanied me for years. The truth is,
I almost didn' t get out alive. I was about to kill myself.
It can be said that philosophy saved my life, inspired by the teachings
of the great sages of human history, such as Seneca Buddha, Socrates or
Jesus of Nazareth. To quote some of them, I decided to leave the
pills and commit myself to getting out of the well that I had gotten myself
into. As one of my favorite proverbs says, who falls to the ground
rises with the help of the ground. I recognize him. Throughout my recovery
process, I gave evidence to women. I didn' t want to know
anything about them, well, at least from a sentimental plane. At twenty
- five I became a lone wolf. Which hunter was always stalking for easy
prey. For the next three years, I learned everything I could from women.
I was no longer interested in love, just sex. In fact,
I became addicted to pleasure to escape the pain and once the wolf was satisfied,
it began to bore me The process of seduction conquest and consummation at that
time also did not want me to attract to my life a girl who still
wanted less than me. It was called a bell. I met her at
a bar We fell in love like crazy literally. Today I still find it
hard to understand that we saw each other. The crush blinded us. We
got married for the civil and we were together for six years. While on
the surface everything seemed to go great. In the depth another drama of the
good ones was sewn on a simmer. In fact, I didn' t
have big fights or arguments. We easily agreed on almost everything. The problem
was that neither of us knew himself enough to know where we were going.
We strive to lead a normal life. The shit was we made it.
The excess of cohabitation has taken our toll. The truth is that routine brought
a monotony and a very heavy teddy. We took the relationship for granted and
little by little the flame turned off wrapping us in a halo of shadow and
shadow. That' s when again the garbage started blundering from under the carpet.
The trigger. That was our inability to have children. We tried it
every way, but there was no way. According to the evidence, we
were both fertile, but no doctor could say with certainty the real cause of
our infertility. As a couple, finally accepting that we could not form a
normal and ordinary family suddenly we were left without reason to stay together. The
supposed love we were professing proved not to be enough. The stark truth is
that, beyond sharing day to day, we had nothing in common. Years
after we got divorced, I found out that I had changed sidewalks. It
took him over thirty- five years to get out of the closet. Today
we are still friends. Attracting a fellow traveler. The good thing about tripping
twice with the same stone is that you start to think that the stone is
no more to blame than a victim. So you' re starting to take
responsibility that you' re the one who bumped into her. You begin to
look closely at the stone and discover that it is right there on your way
so that you learn something valuable about yourself. That' s how I realized
that that rock my relationships with women was actually my teacher. Since then I
consider myself his humble apprentice I was thirty- five years old, two marriages
behind my back and a fourteen- year- old daughter, whom I hardly
saw to explain how I felt let me use Dante Alighieri' s words.
In the middle of my life. I was in a dark jungle and had
lost the path that followed. At least I knew how to turn my existential
conflict into a professional collaboration. Back then, I worked as a freelance journalist
in a New York magazine. He wrote articles on human relations from a psychological
and philosophical perspective. My job was to learn about what the fuck we do
in this world. I spent the day interviewing renowned experts in the field,
as well as extraordinary anonymous people whose stories of improvement reached the hearts of hundreds
of thousands of readers every week. How to forget that date. On September
8th, nine hundred and ninety- one, I looked into heaven and swore
not to stumble again, I would not be with any woman again, sentimental
or sexually, until I knew how to be happy for myself. I know
you' re not gonna believe me, but the next day I met Kake.
It was in the editorial of that magazine. My boss introduced her to
me with a new collaborator. As soon as I saw her, my heart
stopped. That brunette with an intellectual look and four years younger than I was
without a doubt, the most beautiful woman I' d ever seen. The
worst of all was that in our first conversation we started talking without coming to
the point of the meaning of life right away. We found out we had
two things in common. On the one hand, a past of stormy couple
relationships and, on the other, a deep love for literature and philosophy.
That same night, nothing more, I went out into the street, looked
back into the sky and exclaimed fuck. Now I know that the woman of
my life exists beyond my oath. There was another small obstacle that had been
going on for several years. Going out with someone else. For the first
time in my life, I decided to act like a gentleman. I was
content to be your friend or at least disguise my feelings to try to be.
It wasn' t easy. What and I saw each other every day
and looked for any excuse to pause and talk. During our working day we
spent hours sharing books and discussing authors. From the very beginning, our relationship
was founded on an almost brutal honesty. She told me everything about her and
I told her everything about me. Well, most of it. Or I
saw a little detail that I was so crazy about her that I had to
make a superhuman effort to carry my crush with sanity. It helped me a
lot to attend a weekend course from n to Grama, a tool of self
- knowledge that marked a new turning point in my spiritual quest. Which was
the first person I called anything else. Finishing it completely excited a new way
to relate as a couple. Just four months after meeting her, she came
to my desk one day and said goodbye to me. The competition magazine had
offered her a very good job as a reporter. I was very happy for
her and felt sorry for me We would no longer have the excuse of work
to see each other every day. The truth is, it was two months
before I heard from him again. She called me one day to inform me
that a dinner had been arranged for journalists from our union. I accepted the
enchanted invitation. We casually sit side by side and during that night we barely
interact with anyone else directly. Like she always told me she left it with
her boyfriend. I had to use my cocker face to disguise again. This
time I felt sorry for her and happy for me. I started flirting with
the idea that maybe I had a chance to date Keth. We met again
several times this time hand in hand, without audience, without decoration, and
one night as I left it on the doorway of her house, I felt
it was time to kiss her. I was brave enough, but I wasn
' t brave enough to take action this time either. At least physically I
looked her in the eye. Yes, I let my heart speak that I
like you very much and when I saw it blush, I added I can
give you a kiss. I may not have any ring in my hand,
but we have been together for twenty- four years I still wear a leather
pendant with an alliance that hangs on my chest inside with tiny letters, the
following inscription appears. I won' t lie to you. During all these
years we have gone through different stages and have faced countless couple crises together.
We know very well what heaven tastes like and also what hell smells like.
What has kept us together has been our firm conviction that together we can grow
and enjoy more than separately. Throughout our journey as a couple, we have
tried to learn from what we have lived to evolve as human beings by hand,
but not tied, trying not to lock up love in the prison of
attachment and dependence and in turn trying not to fall into an excess of selfishness,
individualism and debauchery. We are parents of two wonderful children, a girl
and a boy, and together we have built our own way of understanding the
relationship of couple and family. So much so that it is read and corrected
all the chapters of this book, helping me integrate the female vision and perspective.
In this way, the writing of this book has meant a true catharsis.
As a couple. I' m also grateful to my two ex-
wives, Betsy and Becho. Both have helped me and much to give a
broader perspective to my own experience in the field of love. In turn,
I take this opportunity to thank the hundreds of men and women who have come
over the past few years to my courses on spiritual development in search of a
new conception of couple relationships, of my three marriages and my two divorces,
I have learned that where there is great conflict there is great potential. Women
and men are already forming heterosexual or homosexual couples, we are doomed to understand
each other. Understanding the harmonious principles that enable you to enjoy love as a
couple is the first step in building a truly happy family. As long as
most families continue to perpetuate conflict, struggle and suffering in our own homes,
we will continue to make it impossible to bring about a truly peaceful and loving
society. Today, at the age of fifty- nine, I realized that
living what I have lived was just what I needed to learn what I have
learned. Of course, I don' t wish it on anyone. That
' s why I dared write this book. Ironies of fate. Those of
us who devote ourselves to teaching tend to share what has cost us the most
to learn and believe or not in destiny. If you' ve read this
far, I want you to know that this book is written for you.
Clay Newman. No one can teach you to love. Learn to be the
love you want to see in your partner relationship. I hope I didn'
t confuse you. I' m not a love guru God forbid. I
don' t have an infallible method to offer you, nor do I have
a magic formula that solves your problems. It tastes bad, but I'
m not an expert in loving relationships. I don' t have the truth.
In fact, I' m not an example. As a husband,
ask my wife I' ll tell you, I don' t have anything
to teach you. Learning to love with capital letters is an untransferable learning.
Only you can do it depends exclusively on you. The goal of this book
is to make you more aware of the mistakes you' ve made and maybe
you' re still making and why not share ramns while you know how to
evolve and transform yourself as a human being. May it serve you to become
a mature, responsible, free, conscious, and wise person. Only then
can it be the love you want to experience in your current relationship as a
couple or in those that are to come. Therefore, before reading the following
pages, it is important that you take into account the following principles. There
' s no one like you. You' re unique and unrepeatable. Everything
in IT, everything that is part of IT, everything that arises from IT,
everything to the least insignificant detail is 100% genuine, from your brain,
to your body, from your fingerprint, to the color of your eyes,
from the expression of your face, to your intelligence, from your tone
of voice, to your way of driving, from your outward appearance to your
inner world. There is no one in the universe who is identical to YOU.
The truth is that only you can know who you really are and,
therefore, only you can verify that you need to build a loving bond that
suits your unique way of being. There is no universal relationship mold. Just
as you are special, so are others. Your partner has his own way
of understanding and enjoying love. The challenge is that you know yourself and that
your partner knows himself and that you both accompany each other in this process of
self- knowledge. The moment you understand and honor your respective singularities, you
will be able to determine if you are compatible as a couple. In the
event that you decide that it is worth being together rather than separated, you
can begin to define your own original way of linking. Don' t listen
to society' s propaganda. There is no single way to relate valid for
everyone. Don' t compare yourself to other couples, since there isn'
t, and can' t be, a standard way to love and be
loved for what the advice is. What others tell you about love has to
do with them. Not with your experience. It can never be yours to
stop comparing yourself with a bloody one You see, focus on yourself, and
then the person you' ve chosen as your travel companion may feel a little
lost right now in the art of loving. Don' t get frustrated.
No one is born knowing. Moreover, we have all been filled with absurd
beliefs about what love is. That' s why you have to empty first.
Leave room for the new and the changes will start to happen naturally.
Don' t get involved in other people' s affairs, no matter how
good intentions move you, never fall into the mistake of telling others how to
be happy being a couple now, just as no one can teach you to
love you, neither can you pass on what you have learned to others.
Even if you see them suffering don' t interfere in their relationship, don
' t get involved or let them get in your way. Every human being
is capable of resolving his own existential conflicts. The best thing you can do
for a person you' re suffering is listen to her empathically accept her as
she is, so she can vent herself. If you want a real change,
you' ll find a means, but an excuse. Don' t
believe anything you read in this book. Faced with the generalizations you will find
in this book, it adopts a skeptical attitude. I hope you know how
to move and apply the reflections that follow your situation. Particularly, checking to
what extent they can be useful to you. The first part aims to provoke
you questioning the obsolete model of couple that has instilled you in society. The
second is intended to remove you, influencing the differences that exist between men and
women, as well as in their opposite and complementary way of love. And
the third is meant to inspire you, showing you how to conceive and enjoy
your relationship from a new perspective according to the 21st century, in which you
live first part the unconscious couple and in bed we are not two, but
four. Why do you suffer for love you are a dependent and limited version
of yourself take a look at your belly button. That' s where the
key to understanding it lies. Because of all your suffering, you' ve
realized it' s actually a scar. At birth, the doctors rushed to
cut the umbilical cord that held you together with your mother in that prio.
If his instant you' ve apparently become a separate being, a trauma you
haven' t recovered from yet. As a newborn baby, you couldn'
t stand for yourself. You were completely helpless to survive depended on others taking
care of your needs. That' s when you started hitting mom and dad,
as well as the rest of the caregivers. They were responsible for feeding
you, cleaning you, warming you up and making you feel safe and protected.
The years went by and caused that sense of extreme dependence to become the
basis upon which you built your personality. The only form of love you knew
during your childhood was that others loved you, that is, you, acted
like you needed them to act at all times. Otherwise, you protested in
the form of tears and kicks, moved by their ignorance. Your parents gave
you everything they thought you needed to grow up healthy and happy. They made
you believe that you were the center of the universe and that all people had
to turn around you. You got used to making others' priorities, satisfying
your desires and meeting your expectations. In fact, you still claim the same
deal in all your relationships. Your emotional dependence is the reason that you have
boycotted your partner ties over and over again and that your ability to love yourself
has been diminished and limited to this day. You ignore deeply how the ego
manipulates you, you may consider yourself an adult, but from an emotional perspective,
you continue to behave like a child. Your birth wound is still open
as much as you physically healed on a very deep and unconscious level. You
still feel helpless you still need other people to feel safe, dear and ugly
gray. This part of you so dependent is called ego, which means I
' m the defense mechanism that you developed to make up for your unbearable sense
of vulnerability. Thus, the ego would become a breastplate. The shield you
' ve been protecting yourself with to survive, while you couldn' t stand
for yourself ego, the synonym of personality that in turn comes from a person
who means mask not in hand. It is a false self built with second
- hand beliefs, many of them based on ignorance. Your big shit as
a human being has been to identify with your ego, that is, to
believe that you are the breastplate, shield, and mask that you have been
wearing and moved by this survival instinct. Your egoistic attitude has been manifesting through
four main features: unconsciousness, self- centeredness, realness, and victimism note
that when your partner behaves in a way that doesn' t benefit you without
realizing it, you react mechanically by attacking or opposing the defensive. You don
' t choose to act. That' s the ego that breaks in impulsively
when you feel hurt again, your little voice poisons you with words and teeth.
This is how you hurt yourself by experiencing emotions like fear, anger,
or sadness. That' s when you start feeling victimized and blame your sentimental
partner for making you suffer, you' re completely alienated from your true essence.
The day your mother gave birth to you, you had a seed form.
While words don' t matter, this fruit is often called zero essence
I true by birthright, everything you needed to be happy came serial with you.
I' ve always been inside you contained in him that seed that you
were and that' s still being. Inside you is the joy you'
ve spent your life searching outside, obviously, as a baby. They never
told you this fundamental truth about yourself. You wouldn' t have understood her
either. Imagine, being a two- year- old little boy, whining
for wanting Mommy to stay by your side. While you sleep your mother goes
and tells you my son, I can' t give you. What you
need is within you good night as a human being, you were still born
for making yourself vulnerable, helpless, unprotected, incapable, dependent. Being a
baby is a pot way out. They' re on LSD drugs all day.
You need to stick to the outside to survive internally. At that time,
your brain still had much to develop, to acquire language and much more
so that you could communicate with others and with yourself. You have spent so
many years living unconsciously identified with the ego that you are totally disconnected from your
being. Your seed hasn' t bloomed yet. It' s a potentiality.
That' s why you don' t know who you are if you
' re so wrong in what you think you need to be happy. In
fact, you may feel empty and incomplete at this very moment. It'
s okay. It' s natural, they' re symptoms of disconnection.
Just look inside. Travel the journey back to your true essence. There'
s no loss. You will know that you have arrived, because you will
no longer seek for someone else to complete you do not see your partner as
he is, but as you want him to be. The greater the disconnection
with your greater thirst is also the identification with the ego. It is then,
when, blinded by your needs, desires, priorities, dreams, illusions
and expectations, you begin to distort reality, you see the world through glasses
totally tarnished by an egoic fog. In this way, you become a professional
distorter of reality. However, by ignoring your own ignorance, you are convinced
that the self- centered and subjective interpretations you make of reality are objective reality
in itself. For this very reason, you don' t see your partner
as he is, but as you are. You. The labels that define
that person say a lot more about you than about her. Your partner makes
you clear when you look at her, you project yourself seeing your own reflection.
If you don' t love yourself, you' ll tend to feel
sad, because you perceive that you don' t love you. If you
feel insecure, you will often look at her with distrust, turning it into
possessive without realizing it. The ego will recreate in your mind uncertain scenarios with
which to justify all your fear. If you are emotionally at war with yourself,
you will spend your life finding some excuse to conflict with your sentimental partner,
which will only perpetuate your own discomfort and not deceive yourself. All that
pain and all that suffering has absolutely nothing to do with love, but with
the ego. By living tyrannized by this defense mechanism, it is impossible for
you to see your partner only see the reflection of your unsatisfied needs and desires.
So remember in bed you' re not two, you' re four.
The inevitable clash of egos is preventing you from living and enjoying a much
healthier, nutritious and sustainable love. Two an obsolete relationship mold, absurd beliefs
that have conditioned you. You probably got married, but that' s what
I played. They are part of a society sick of unhappiness that promotes a
standardized education and lifestyle in the image and likeness of the ego, that is,
of the most primary, instinctive and animal part of our human condition.
Hence, wherever you look, conflict, struggle, unrest and dissatisfaction abound.
Don' t be fooled by what you see on the surface, society also
has its own mask. Look deeper take people away from football, religion,
television and antidepressants And you' ll see the neurotic state in which many people
live badly and not only that is the fear of change, the rejection of
the new, the opposition to the different and the aversion to the unknown that
the new generations tend to perpetuate the ignorance of their predecessors, so as not
to reveal themselves against the poor established social order of you how it occurs to
you, break with what touches and dare to follow your own path. They
don' t forgive you so you can' t think of such madness.
The education system has taken care of mutilating your self- esteem, neutering your
trust and destroying your creativity. Proof of that is that, like you,
the vast majority of people feel lost without knowing exactly what to do with their
lives. Be honest with yourself, why the fuck did you get married and,
if you haven' t already, why do you want to get married.
What would you do with your sentimental life? If suddenly all the people
you know and know died overnight. Your way of conceiving marriage is not yours,
it is of free society, of all the ponzoña that you have been
told about love as a couple and dare to listen to your heart. Don
' t do things because it' s your turn to do them, but
because they' re yours. Your mother and father live inside you. The
pressure, conditioning and influence that society exerts on you is as overwhelming as the
imperceptible is carried out through your parents in the same way that you have not
chosen your name, your language or your football team. You haven' t
chosen your way of conceiving partner relationships either. Almost everything you know about love
you' ve sucked at home. Your main reference model has been the example
your parents have given you How they treated each other and how they treated you.
They really loved each other, they loved you. What your parents gave
themselves is largely what they gave you, at least the most significant thing you
received from them and unless they were truly happy, they could hardly be complicit
in your happiness. In fact, it is possible to differentiate between those children
and adults who only received milk and those who received milk and love is not
the same as Hayas was the son of a balanced person and a bitter one.
The loving presence of your parents or their fans lack of it has left
a very deep imprint on your consciousness and their respective personalities have influenced the development
of yours. Your mother may have been very fearful and overprotected from you,
or your father was addicted to work and was practically absent from the kind of
relationship your parents had, a condition you maintain with yours. That' s
your real genetic and genealogical heritage. Also, because of your emotional dependence,
many of the decisions you' ve made in the name of love have been
to please dad and mom or maybe to disgust them with an even more childish
behavior and the same happens to your partner. The uncomfortable truth is that you
do not sleep alone in bed, there are also your parents you are a
victim of howe Wed and desnias born in a tremendously hypocritical and naive generation.
Proof of them are Howdewed movies over ninety minutes. Fashion actors and actresses embody
the ideal of man and woman that promotes the entertainment society in which you live.
They are handsome, intelligent, generous, finally magnificent, people of those
who abound by do want any bar of the corner as they are not known
by chance, they fall in love in a great way, they have loving
encounters of the most glamorous with moments of sex. Impeccably executed and begin an
almost perfect couple relationship. Let me remind you that these movies that you like
so much, are pure fiction often framed in the romantic genre. Today,
the firm realists on couple relationships are all featured in the drama section. No
one wants to see you either have enough with yours and what to say about
the incredible endings of Walt Disney' s drawings, in which the princess always
finds her prince blue and live happily ever after. It' s a coincidence
that just when cohabitation starts, this kind of film is over. This is
how you miss the most interesting part, the conflict, the suffering and its
authentic and irremediable final, the mutual indifference or the violent separation. Whatever is
moved by these subliminal messages. The story of your love life is titled in
search of my split orange half you dream of your other half appearing exclusively made
for you you tell yourself that only then will you overcome the feeling of emptiness
and separativity, being able to feel at last a complete orange. Ha ha
ha, small, stupid. This is comedy and good, the happiest day
of your life. There is a very established social convention to consider that the
happiest day of your life was your wedding Come on now what you' re
telling me. Through this event the economic power of the parents of the grooms
is manifested, who by financing this costly event also decide directly and indirectly how
it should be carried out and what we can say about the bride. From
organization to celebration. She shows herself serene and watered at all times, not
obsessing about achieving the perfect wedding. Ironies aside, most were completely deranged during
the process. Also, the instant you share with your family and friends that
you get married, it seems as if the people who supposedly love you the
most, have carte blanche to tell you what you think without having to reflect
on what they say. Suddenly it turns out that everyone is expert in the
matter and they try to impose their opinion on how you should be your wedding
and how they don' t usually start with their favorite theme that is also
the most morbid who you should or shouldn' t invite here the ego wears
boots. That' s when you realize that marriage is, in fact,
a purely social event. It has more to do with your environment than with
you what changes and much is the perception that people around you have about your
sentimental relationship. Your partner' s father becomes your father- in- law
and gives you his first real hug. At the same time, your husband
' s brothers confirm to you that you are finally brothers- in- law
declaring your love before a priest or judge does not result in a marriage only
a contract, that is, a role that establishes rights and obligations between the
two spouses, which they sign by mutual agreement. True marriage is another thing
three X- rays of the current couple. The dark reality that no one
tells you about your relationship doesn' t work. There is no other activity
that starts with as many expectations and hopes and fails as often as the couple
relationship. Love has become one of the rarest and most exceptional experiences. Finding
two people who, after many years together and radiate happiness and relate to each
other with admiration, respect and passion is an almost unprecedented phenomenon. The truth
is that your ego and that of your companion boycott any real possibility that you
can love each other. On the contrary, it constantly disagrees and conflicts you,
instituting the arguments, the fights and the broncs within the couple, tired
and powerless for not knowing how to relate peacefully, you start to separate yourself
from your sentimental companion, even if you still sleep next to him. And
that' s how love, if there was, dies little by little of
starvation. The anti- temporal society remains so unconscious that in some settings it
encourages people to start living together after marriage. I hope you weren' t
one of them. That' s crazy, although the honeymoon helps you recover
from the stress of the wedding when you get home, you get back to
the point where you left off. One of the great challenges of your life
is living with your partner, that is, the long and thorny path of
discovering the truth about the person with whom you have chosen to share your existence,
that someone explain to me how you will emotionally survive the numerous challenges,
difficulties and adversities inherent in a relationship of couples. If you don' t
have the knowledge and tools to manage them with emotional intelligence, recognize your relationship
as a couple that hasn' t worked for a long time. Open your
mind to try to understand why your partner can' t make you suffer.
Sometimes you say things that fill your partner, who usually reacts by hurting you.
It is a very common dynamic to offend and feel offended. You'
re convinced your partner makes you suffer. That' s why you blame your
discomfort and dissatisfaction. In turn, she considers that you make her suffer.
That' s why I blame you for the same thing. And there are
some couples who spend their lives on this endless wheel. The struggle and conflict
are perpetuated by a completely false infantile belief. The cause of my suffering is
beyond me. It' s a lie, it' s inside. Being
so afraid that others will hurt you, you live parapeted behind the armor of
the ego and while protecting you, it also leads you to always live on
the defensive. That' s why you' re so sensitive and react to
your partner' s attitude like that. In this way, when you say
or act in a way that does not benefit you or directly harms you react
impulsively and with each reaction you literally hurt yourself. That' s when moved
by your ignorance, you adopt a victim attitude and blame the other one for
what you just did to yourself remember. Reality is neutral. What is not
neutral is the subjective and distorted interpretation that makes the ego of the facts itself,
creating your own experience of what happened. That which you are not able
to accept from your partner is the only cause of your suffering. No one
' s ever made you suffer It' s impossible. In fact, no
one can hurt you emotionally without your consent. Hell is alone in your mind.
Drop the victimism and stop blaming your partner. Once you take your share
of responsibility and look at yourself in the mirror, start by changing what depends
on you. There is no other mature formula. Once your partner can'
t make you happy. The great contemporary lie is that well- being,
fullness and abundance are outside of you and the more you get entangled in the
farce that promotes this system the more you leave, disconnecting from your being the
only place where true happiness resides. The fact that you consume much more than
you need reveals your existential void. Having lost yourself in the labyrinth of materialism,
you have spent part of your alienated and anesthetized life alienated from your inner
well- being. Ironically, the opulence to have in excess and to want
more has become a contemporary disease. And it is that the greater the disconnection
of your essence, the greater the feeling of lack, scarcity, poverty and
even misery. This is the reason why it is not important with abundance to
have good that you possess unless you live in contact with your inner wealth.
You' ll keep missing something to feel complete and right now you project that
something into love. Without a doubt, religion with more faithful and followers.
You have a blind faith that your partner will provide you with the happiness,
security and value you do not find within you, you seek in your partner.
The only thing I can' t give you is bad for me to
tell you No one can make you happy. Likewise, you can' t
make anyone happy either. You never have. You don' t have that
power. Your mentality is tyrannized by another belief as irrational as it is false.
The cause of my happiness is beyond me. That' s why you
expect your partner to meet your needs, satisfy your desires and meet your expectations.
That' s what you call your love It' s like you give
up feeling bliss for yourself. Instead, putting your hopes of well- being
in the hands of others you are a prisoner of a relationship that prevents you
from relating to society not only pressure you to live as a couple, but
also force you to live with it in a Conyugal home, as established in
article sixty- eight of the Spanish Constitution. But that' s not the
end of it. According to the Penal Code of this country, failure to
comply with this obligation can lead to a crime of family abandonment, that is,
you have to fucking spend time with your sentimental partner, even if,
for whatever reasons, you don' t want to be with him ironically if
you escape the prison that you' ve turned your marriage into, you can
end up in a real jail. The tightness and shortening that you are subjected
to your relationship prevents you from interacting with your partner. The relationship is something
fixed, static, based on a routine that promotes a series of customs and
habits, promoting it every day. The same thing with time, causes you
to art of monotony and give your partner for sitting in Instead, relating is
a natural, organic and uncertain process, like life itself, consists of letting
yourself be surprised, creating the necessary conditions so that something new can happen every
day without being aware of it. In the name of relationship, you are
destroying each other' s freedom, denying and repressing their own individuality leaves space.
If your partner is late one day home, there is no need to
ask him where he has been or why he returns at that time. Your
partner is a free individual. He doesn' t have to explain himself to
you. Many of your fights begin with small things like this and reveal the
dark root of the problem. You' re not willing to let the other
one enjoy his freedom. That' s why you' re trying to make
him feel guilty. That' s your self- imposed, most denigrating slavery.
Four, fear of loneliness, stupid reasons to want to be a couple.
You' d rather be accompanied badly than alone. He' s very
badly seen in our society. He' s got a really bad press.
What happens to people over thirty who are still single and what to say about
those in forty how they usually feel inside when they see the rest of their
married friends and how they are talked about behind their backs because they are not
engaged to someone in some way according to the conventional way of thinking, something
wrong must be in people who have not yet established themselves as a formal couple
because it will be something dark there must be no. The truth is,
we have a social problem here. You, like the rest, are deeply
terrified of loneliness, that is, the space and time you spend intimately relating
to yourself, in plot, in contact with your inner world. How much
time you spend each day really being with yourself, without evading what you feel
when you are alone in silence and without external stimuli with which to distract yourself.
And ultimately, you' re aware that running away from yourself is not
the solution, but the problem. As much as you look the other way.
It' s impossible for you to escape from you forever sooner or later.
You' ll have no choice but to stand up and see what happens
inside you. However, until the feeling of emptiness becomes unstoppable, you will
desperately try to relieve the symptoms of the numerous patches you have at your disposal.
One of your favorites is holding on to a sentimental bond. Thus,
your desire to be a couple is not based on love for the other,
but on the fear of being alone with yourself. Many times you seek in
a sentimental companion, the antidote to your loneliness However, too often the remedy
turns out much worse, worse than the disease. Because you don' t
love yourself, you want to be loved by the mother of all your neuroses
and pathologies It' s that you' ve spent too much time denying your
being from there that you feel an immense void. And there is not enough
love in this world to heal the pain you feel of not loving yourself.
Think about it, how you' ll be able to give love to your
partner if you have nothing to offer. You can only give what you have
and you only have what you give yourself first to love another human being.
You have to start by loving yourself. Your frustration is that you don'
t know how to do it at school They told you about loving your neighbor
as yourself. The problem is you exchanged order. The truth is that no
one has ever taught you how to love you with what you have no idea
what true love is. Emotional education remains one of the major gaps in the
traditional education system. Schools are factories of illiterates and emotional begging. It is
no coincidence that moved by your internal disconnection, as well as by your fear
of loneliness, you enter the market of love from lack and scarcity, and
with the aim of compensating for this birth wound, you have developed an ego,
a personality, a character with which to get others to love you the
things you have done so that others think well of you or worse the things
you have stopped doing for the same dirty reason. Your poverty is to need
and depend on another human being to be able to feel good. The kind
of couple relationships you attract to your life are a reflection of how you relate
to yourself. Love yourself with all your heart and you will never feel alone
again. Start today you' re addicted to the madness that gives rise to
falling in love. How nice it is to be in love, what a
subpoena every time your phone rings, your guts are removed, small, euphoria,
you experience when it' s him or her and what to say about
the morreos that you hit Bocato di Cardinale. Suddenly you are full of vitality
and energy and a smile is drawn on your face from ear to ear.
That' s when you sit in heaven. Instead, when he doesn'
t answer your calls, his ears get angry right away, you start eating
the pot. All your inner demons agree to fill you with fear and anxiety.
What a torment. That' s when everything melts to black, opening
the door that can lead you to hell. The deeper your sense of emptiness
and loneliness is, the more likely you are to fall in love with becoming
a Yonky of the first encounters, clinging to or the illusion that brings you
to know a new person. This constant search for subpoenas leads you to fantasize
about that prince or, that princess capable of making you feel butterflies in your
stomach. Deep down, it' s a flight from your own dissatisfaction and
then what falling in love is. It' s a biochemical brain reaction,
aimed at obsessing about a single person, so you can have enough sex with
her to procreate, thus ensuring the survival of your species. Being in love,
the same neural circuits are activated as when it is cocaine nymphs, you
are blocked by reason and intellect and immersed in a state of madness and intense
temporal euphoria. Completely drugged by your biology, you begin to idealize the other,
projecting on him your romantic ideal as a couple. You fall in love
with a fantasy and expectations are such that the host is as inevitable as it
is painful. You think your life will only make sense as a couple.
Looking for company to calm your fear of loneliness you also expect them to love
you to fill your lack of love and while you fantasize about getting high again
from falling in love. However, the most powerful reason that moves you to
be a couple is another. You are totally convinced that your life will only
be meaningful if you share it as a couple. It is a convention so
accepted and integrated into the collective unconscious that you give it for absolute truth.
However, whenever you find yourself thinking in the same way as most people do,
it is essential that you pause and take some time to reflect on where
it is written. That you have to share your existence with someone else.
It' s better than living without a partner. It all depends on who
you are and what your real needs and motivations are. Remember, you'
re unique. You are not here to lead the same lifestyle as the rest,
nor to live the same experiences. There are those who are destined to
marry and have children, others just to be a couple and who knows.
There may even be some who have come to this world to relate to many
different people by maintaining different levels of commitment and intimacy. Don' t be
fooled by the standardized society you live in. Only you can know what kind
of relationship you' re made for. It doesn' t matter what they
tell you or what they tell you. Just look around, learn to read
between lines very few couples are happy sharing their lives is a collective neurosis.
You won' t find a place with more conflict and suffering than in a
conventional marriage of two people who don' t really want to be together.
I' ve suffered it twice. Uve ls vicious circle of toxic couples,
attitudes that make love and freedom as a couple impossible. Your relationship is a
maximum security prison. You have ever listened carefully to the lyrics of the POP
songs you love so much. You have realized the pearls of wisdom that include
their refrains. I mean claims like without you I' m nothing. You
are everything to me or my favorite. I can' t live with you
or without you, and then, like the fuck, we get somebody to
explain it to me just as romantic as you might think they all hide a
common denominator. They' re written by the ego. Hence, they remind
you of those moments of melancholy, sadness, and depression that you have experienced
during your sentimental relationships. As long as the years have made you an adult.
You may continue to live love in a childish way without being very aware
of it. You' ve settled for your sedatives like attachment or dependence,
since you still don' t know how to give yourself what you need to
feel good. For yourself you depend emotionally on your partner. You need it
and you blindly believe it' s your happiness. That' s why you
hang on to it, using all kinds of bars and invisible chains to keep
it tied at all costs does whatever happens. That' s when you make
the other one the center of your existence. Suddenly your well- being is
subject to how your partner relates to you as much as it hurts to recognize
what you call congratulations. Actually, your prison is no coincidence that in a
conventional marriage a man becomes a husband and a woman becomes a wife. More
clearly impossible, attachment and emotional dependence make you a slave to your partner,
so much so that you do not dare to separate and in extreme cases,
you do not come to justify and perpetuate a relationship marked by conflict, struggle
and suffering. You think of your partner as a private property. By believing
that your happiness depends on the person you want, you destroy any possibility of
loving her small irony under the spell of this false belief, you are so
afraid to lose your partner that you start adopting defensive and offensive behaviors. It
is then that possessivity, control and jealousy appear. This word comes from the
Greek jealousy, which means suspicion, that it feels like something is taken from
you. All these toxic attitudes reveal that you see your sentimental partner as something
that belongs to you. When you see him talking and laughing in the company
of someone attractive of the opposite sex, your most animal and primitive part is
activated. On those occasions you' d like to pee around her. Like
saying it' s mine, and not only that in your most animated dreams.
You wish your name were tattooed on his body next to the heading,
mature private property. Once upon a time, the person you share your life
with is not yours, does not belong to you, is with you because
he wants it decided freely and voluntarily, and there is no one in this
universe made for you, just as you are not made for anyone. Love
is not jealous. You' re the jealous one, and you' re
the jealous one because you' re still tyrannized by the ego. You'
re thinking about yourself, about your needs, not about each other' s
needs. Is this love? The truth is, all your jealous attacks are
unfounded. They reveal the size of your shortcomings and insecurities. The funny paradox
is that they are an invitation to infidelity. They act as a self-
fulfilling prophecy. They take you to get the opposite of what you intend to
lose your partner, instead of keeping it from now on. When you say
my husband or my wife, please put mine in italics. You want your
partner to fulfill your ideal of perfection. Now that he' s not in
front of you, recognize him. There are certain attitudes and behaviors of your
partner that drive you out of your mind. If you had a magic wand,
you wouldn' t hesitate to use it to change those traits of his
personality that bother you so much. Don' t worry, don' t
feel bad Your sentimental partner has the exact same thing going on. There are
aspects of IT that can' t stand as much as you tell her how
much you love her. The sad reality is that you don' t accept
your partner as he is, you don' t respect his little idiosyncrasies,
nor do you honor his uniqueness as a human being. You want to change
it to accommodate the idea that your ego has about how it should be unconsciously.
You expect your expectations to be met if not. Today one day.
In this way you cause three completely self- destructive results. First of all,
you get frustrated by never ever getting it to change. Secondly, your
partner feels less and less valued and loved. And finally, you both start
constantly judging and criticizing each other. That' s when it seems like you
' ve come together to ruin your life. One to another breaks this vicious
circle. Understand that your partner is the way he is and it is quite
possible that he will never change. If you don' t like it,
don' t fall into the mistake of idealizing it and stop trying to change
it. That' s violence, not love. Besides, it' s
a lost battle in advance. Don' t look for the perfect man or
woman if you find them, he or she may also be looking for the
perfect couple and don' t be offended. But the sure thing is it
' s not you, the perfect woman and the perfect man. There is
no God free us. Those who are about to get them become neurotic,
sick, and unloving people, you think you can do whatever you want,
attachment, dependence, possessiveness, expectations and demands are usually at the core of
your relationship. That' s why it' s inevitable that sooner or later
you' ll finish up your partner' s tomatoes. Only then do you
get rid of the guilt that prevented you from doing whatever you wanted to by
allowing yourself to be selfish, maybe you weren' t all the time.
Even though society has made you associate this word with being mean, I ruin
even bad person. It' s hard to find someone who isn' t,
in fact, selfish, who think more about their needs than yours.
The truth is that being selfish is neither good nor bad. He' s
a fool. You need to think of yourself to survive physically and emotionally.
Deep down, everything you do is for you. For starters, why you
paired up when analyzing the motivations behind your decisions and behaviors, you' ll
always find a profit per small, which justifies that you' ve carried them
out. Now, depending on your level of consciousness and your degree of understanding.
This selfishness can be lived in very different ways. The most common one
is called egocentric selfishness, bewitched by your desires and expectations. You don'
t take into account your partner' s needs. Your priorities always go first
and you get so mixed up with you that you stop seeing it ironically.
The more self- centered your view of the world, the more selfish you
are to those around you, the more you find excuses to justify your own
selfishness. No sounding at someone doesn' t mean, depending, but neither
does going to your ball. Balance is achieved by using the communication tool to
reach agreements and covenants that promote love and freedom as a couple. I saw
the time to say. Goodbye infallible indicators to know if your relationship is over.
You don' t value or care for your partner, you take it
for granted. In many couples who still live together, though completely separated.
The truth is that most of the people we' ve divorced often confess once
the time has passed that we could have broken that relationship many years earlier.
That' s why right now you might be with someone you don' t
want to go on with anymore. There are several infallible indicators to know if
your relationship is over. One of them is that you take your partner for
granted, you think he' ll always be by your side. Whatever you
do doesn' t have much value for you anymore. That' s why
you don' t take care of her or even think about her like you
did at first. In her day, you tied her up, you had
to conquer her, but the moment you got her, little by little,
she was dying. The romance that no one confuses. The flame of passion
does not decay when you get married, but when the courtship is left behind,
that is, when slowly and imperceptibly disappears in the flirtation the gallanteo the
seduction, the outbursts, the kisses, the affection, the caresses and the
tenderness and when it is put out you definitely end up conforming to the law
of the least effort. Your relationship works just like a flower If you don
' t water it, it ends up withering and in this case you can
' t delegate it to any automatic irrigation. It can' t be outsourced
either. Keeping love alive requires your will and commitment, an attitude that cannot
be forced or imposed. It is a personal decision of each one and has
nothing to do with going through a courthouse or a church. It' s
not a legal or religious matter. It' s something much deeper. Unless
you feel grateful for sharing your life with your partner, it will be impossible
for you to value it as it deserves and, as a result, you
will inevitably lose it. You' re so bored next to him, you
' d rather argue. You have spent so much time with your partner,
as required by law, that the excess of cohabitation has ended up taking your
toll. It is at this point that another irrefutable indicator appears that the thing
is over. You don' t know what to talk to him about You
spend time watching TV next to him, as well as hanging out with other
couples with whom to kill time forcibly, almost to disguise the distance between you.
You tell yourself that you have to organize some romantic plan and you'
re going to have dinner at a candlelit restaurant. However, there are such
expectations that that night has to be special that you will suddenly remain blank.
You can' t think of anything interesting to say but to tell him about
what you' ve done during the day, that is, the same scratched
record as always that doesn' t even give for half a conversation. Soon.
You just eat, drink and, from time to time, watch the
rest of the couples that have dinner at your side. You may even try
to listen to what they say, if only to be able to comment on
what you have heard among yourselves. Yeah. There is no communication or intellectual
stimulation, if ever there was, you have lost interest and curiosity in continuing
to inquire about the human being before you. That is when silence begins to
be heard and is most eloquent. That' s why you feel so uncomfortable
even when your partner yells at you. You think it' s a nicer
feeling. In fact, there comes a time when you' re so tired
and bored of your partner that you' d rather argue and fight over any
minute than feel the unbearable void between you. From there, the relationship becomes
more oquistic. As the worst comes out of you, you begin to mistreat
each other. You don' t even remember the last time you met sexually.
Let' s go to the mother of all the undisputed indicators to scientifically
verify that your relationship has come to an end to see, as it were
in a subtle and elegant way, so that you don' t be offended
or shocked. Your relationship is dead, yes, you haven' t fucked
in a long time. Call it making love. If so, you feel
better and intuit that still has to happen a little more so that you get
back into bed and really enjoy if that' s possible to happen again in
case you don' t even remember the last time your partner made you horny,
know that your partner has become something else, roommate, maybe father of
your children, maybe partner of your family business. Perhaps it is true that
you continue to maintain certain roles that make you stay in permanent contact. However,
they had nothing to do with the man and woman who fell in love
and decided to share their lives together. There' s no trace of you
anymore. Attraction and desire have vanished and it is no less. From time
to time, practice sex with the same person and from time to time,
practice it mechanically and repetitively. The grace of the matter is lost. Suddenly
you become two individuals who rub and stimulate their genitals, one against the other,
seeking each one their own pleasure. It is a behavior as primary as
it is unconscious. It' s one more form of evasion. It'
s nothing bad, but it has consequences. In time you become desexualized,
losing your motivation to sleep together. It' s like you know the body
of your memory partner. That' s why you fantasize about having sex with
other people. If you haven' t already, don' t postpone the
inevitable. Dare to end your relationship. It' s not worth sticking to.
The idea that love is for life is simply an idea and quite absurd.
By the way, the worst part is that you thought you could do
it. It doesn' t mean it has to be, take a little
bit and do what you know you' ve been putting off for a while
now. Don' t justify your unhappiness another day. If there is no
bliss, there is no point in being a couple, It does not have
to be until death do you part However, the truth is that, as
you do not part, you will end up killing yourself truly eternal love does
not exist. That doesn' t mean you don' t have the ability
to love someone else again. Don' t doubt it. Be faithful to
love and not so much to the couple. Living with a person who doesn
' t love that yes, that' s a sin. Never keep a
marriage dead for the children alive. Without a doubt, it' s the
worst thing you can do. Everything that starts ends sooner or later. It
is an eternal and immutable law. Nothing is forever. This phenomenon is known
as impermanence, that is, the inability of reality to remain still and stable
in the same place or state. Everything is constantly changing, mutating and evolving.
You too, as your partner Your relationship has transformed us, although perhaps
not in the same direction. Don' t make yourself love someone. It
doesn' t work that way. It deals with the situation with maturity and
acts generously. Put aside the grudges and reproaches of the ego. End with
the same love you started the relationship with. Take your share of responsibility,
apologize for the mistakes made, thank you for all the shared moments, release
the other and feel at peace with what has happened, do not feel failed.
It happens to almost every couple your decision to put up with resignation.
Your marriage is moved by your fear of failure. It is what has to
be married conventionally that, while it prevents you from leaving it to the first
disagreement, it also exposes you more to the criticism of others to begin with
your wedding guests. Anyway, that' s silly. The only real failure
would be if you didn' t learn from the safe experience that serves to
get to know you better and build a new way to relate. Besides,
what do you really know about the marriages you know, how much time you
spend with them. Dirty rags wash at home before they go out on the
street. You don' t know what guest syndrome is. The couple may
be distanced and even angry, but it' s enough for a guest to
show up at home so that they can show their best face right away.
Another mechanism of the ego, in this case, that of the couple as
a social unit. In fact, when someone in your environment separates, it
immediately leads you to think about your sentimental situation and more than one becomes embalmed
by stopping postponing the inevitable. Today there is such a contagion that an epidemic
of separations, ruptures and divorces begins to appear and, since it is a
socially accepted phenomenon, there is no longer so much fear that they will tell
you what the hell they will tell you if they too have separated. This
is one of the reasons why people used to endure so much and now,
instead, endure so little. It puts an end to a relationship at the
very least. It is just as wrong as perpetuating it when there is absolutely
nothing left to hold it together. It' s not about endurance, it
' s about enjoying, and for that, there' s no choice but
to conceive your relationship as a couple as a learning process. Part two,
seventy- seven. Couple learning seven. Opposite poles are attracted to why you
look at a certain profile of people, do not confuse culture with nature.
One thing is who you are as a human being and another, who you
must be according to the parameters of your family environment, and it is not
the same. The kind of personal relationship that suits you that the standardized mold
that society proposes you does not form part of the contemporary farce according to which
you are a man or a woman, you have to adopt according to what
established roles, the conception that, as a husband, you must be the
provider, that you must bring bread home or that, as a wife,
you must take care of the labors of homes of another age. We already
know that this sexist patriarchy is out of date. That does not mean that
the woman, in her desire to conquer and maintain equality with the man,
now has to dress in suit and tie while her partner takes care of household
chores. Women must not try to play the role that men are now to
play, and a man must not strive to act as women have been expected
to do. Everyone has to be himself. Each one has to know what
motivates him to contribute to the service of the relationship. Regardless of the social
conventions of the time, stop once and for all seeking equality between the sexes.
It' s absurd. Women and men aren' t the same,
they' re completely different bugs. Emancipate yourself from culture, that is,
from the set of beliefs, assumptions, prejudices and stereotypes with which you have
been conditioned to live according to your own nature. This is your uniqueness as
a human being, which comes as a serial, for it is something innate.
Your challenge is to choose freely and voluntarily how you want to live your
relationship according to your true needs and motivations. Like a man or a woman.
Your biology determines your psychology. If you' re a man, you
' re expected to succeed, money and power, not in hand. Women
want men with resources. On the other hand, if you are a woman,
you better be attractive, complacent and helpful, mainly because men seek beautiful
females to provide services to them, but that part of these generalizations come from
society and which have their origin in biology when it comes to establishing roles within
your relationship, what your beliefs or instincts prevail more about what your lifestyle would
be like in pairs if you dared to follow your true nature. The answer
to these questions can free you from what prevents you from being yourself. While
stereotypes often carry some reason, they are not the truth in themselves. It
is obvious that women and men are very different human beings in physical, emotional
and sexual terms. Without going any further, the woman pretends that one man
meets all her needs, while the man dreams that all women will satisfy their
only need. In short, each has its own concerns and aspirations. You
can' t expect the opposite sex to be the way you are, but
to want your partner to want what you want and feel what you feel.
It' s not like that. The first step in building a more satisfying
couple relationship is to understand a universal principle. Men and women share the same
origin. They come from the same source from which all things have arisen.
However, women and men are moved by different forces. As much as culture
pretends that you and your partner are the same. You have nothing to do
with it. It is time to honor that difference and this is very easy
to say, gives for a few years of exploration and learning you prefer to
conquer or be conquered as a human being. You' ve come to this
world endowed with a particular biological motor, better known as sexual essence and what
the fuck is this you' ll be wondering. This is an animal instinct,
a drive that moves you to do as you are in the face of
very primary questions. The universal symbol that best tangibilizes this subtle aspect of your
human condition is that of the jin and the yan of Taoist philosophy you know
a circumference divided by a half shaped like sperm, white with a black dot,
and another exactly the same, but black with a white dot. These
two halves represent the two energies contained in that sexual essence, the female jin
and the male yang. These two principles are opposite, complementary and interdependent.
While you have a little bit of both. One of these two poles enjoys
more weight within you In general, the vast majority of women are born with
a female sexual essence. Her priority is the search for love, affection and
complicity in her world of affective relationships led by her partner. On the other
hand, almost all men have a male sexual essence in s s s s
s n n s case, their priority is to seek freedom at all costs,
investing a lot of time and energy in achieving their goals and objectives,
both from a biological, psychological and spiritual perspective. It' s not the
same to be female sexual essence as male. That' s why men are
said to be from Mars and women are from Venus. It can be said
higher, but no clearer by putting a completely valid example nonsense. On the
other hand, the masculine likes to conquer, while the feminine prefers to be
conquered. And you' re what a sexual essence you' re because you
' re attracted to opposite people. I' m gonna cut to the chase.
The male sexual essence is attracted by the female sexual essence or, in
other words, the male men put their energy pole opposite the female women and
vice versa. Obviously, the same thing happens in homosexual couples, in which
one of the two embodies the jin energy and the other calls it As you
well know, one of the keys for partner relationships to endure is to keep
the sexual passion on. So it doesn' t fade away. It is
necessary that one of the two lovers in flesh and power, the male role,
security, strength and initiative, and the other, the female, whose
most outstanding features are affectivity, sensitivity and receptivity. To the extent that lovers
polarize by knowing and respecting their differences, sexual desire remains in better shape for
many more years. It' s a simple matter of energy polarity. Hence
the importance of accentuating the differences between the masculine and the feminine. The more
distance and opposition greater and more intense the attraction to the other. If you
look at those couples in which the woman embodies the male sexual essence, her
partner usually represents the female sexual essence. There are more neutral ones in which
there is not so much polarity than by opposition. In this case they are
relationships by affinity. While there is not so much tension and conflict, there
is also not so much learning and growth. Discuss less, but also enjoy
less sexual libido They are neither easier nor more difficult. They' re neither
worse nor better. They' re different. Ironically, the masculine and the
feminine have a lot to learn from each other. Hence, the couple is
the perfect place to learn it. Your partner does not complete you, but
complements you, since you are irretrievably attracted to opposite people, do not get
involved in a relationship unless you know how to welcome someone different from you if
you are not able, become a priest or nun, but don' t
lííes. Don' t complicate your existence. Men and women feel and yearn
for different things. Over time, these differences give rise to disappointments, reproaches,
arguments and fights. For there to be peace and harmony, you must
first dissolve the emotional disarray that separates you from each other. And this involves
understanding, accepting and loving your partner as it is integrating into you a love
that will not only transform you, but also renew your life. It sounds
very nice, but it involves a learning of the host. Since your partner
and you come from different planets, you have no idea how to support or
nourish yourself. Each gives in the relationship what he wants to receive, for
you both mistakenly assume that the other has the same needs and desires. The
result is that you end up dissatisfied and resentful both. You think you'
re giving without receiving compensation. You also consider that your way of loving is
neither recognized nor valued. The truth is that you both give love, but
not in the way expected. Hence, no one gets what he needs.
At this point, the most common thing is that you begin to criticize and
judge yourselves by the mere fact that you are as distinct from the other.
It is not a question of eliminating the difference, but of taking advantage of
it to complement you as a couple, rather than trying to change the other.
The challenge is to learn what your partner has come to teach you.
Only if you can integrate the male and female poles inside you becoming a more
conscious and complete human being. Eight Women have vaginas. What moves women to
be the way they are. As a woman, your greatest desire is to
feel loved. Let' s start with the woman always in the first place,
not or more specifically with the female sexual essence. The biological brain with
which you come as a serial if this energetic polarity prevails in you your most
birgra value is love, especially that which flows in your personal relationships. You
won' t find two women the same, though. As a member of
the female sex, you have a fundamental motivation, that of sharing your life
with others and, since you are very intuitive and empathetic, contrary to the
needs of the people around you, you do not need to be asked for
help to offer it, for you to give support and offer suggestions. It
' s a sign of interest and complicity. That does never invalidate the emotions
of the opposite and you never offer solutions. When you speak, you define
yourself through your feelings and the quality of your relationships. When you' re
upset, you talk openly about your problems to listen to and feel listened to,
you seek support, relief, and understanding. This is how you build
your bonds of intimacy and trust. You realize you' re sharing your inner
world. You give it more importance than achieving goals or goals within your relationship.
You bring affection, tenderness, delicacy, beauty and sensitivity and your energy,
Jean leads you to be more passive and receptive. You want your partner
to give you affection without having to ask you as a female sexual essence.
Your primary need is to feel loved and to be able to satisfy it,
your partner must pamper you to think about yourself, to worry about your well
- being, to put you in the first place, in short, to
give you what you need. This is a lot of love. You may
not consider yourself a princess, but the truth is, you secretly love being
treated like one. You live in a constant emotional swing due to your feminine
sexual essence. As a woman, you behave like a roller coaster. Your
mood fluctuates from top to bottom and from bottom to top, going through an
undulating movement. When you' re up on the mountain, you enjoy a
healthy self- esteem. When you feel loved, you feel that you have
a lot of love to give you. It is easy to appreciate and enjoy
what you have irradiated positivity and optimism and you tend to see the glass half
full. Instead, when you' re down something that happens sooner or later,
you feel as if you' re going down to a dark well suddenly
you stop feeling loved what diminishes your ability to love others and when you float
deep, repressed and unconscious, you tend to complain about what you lack about
what isn' t giving you your perception of yourself and life changes, you
become more negative and pessimistic and you tend to see the glass half empty.
That' s when you feel the urge to talk about your problems, to
express how you feel, to feel listened to and as n n o s
r. S S so and supported. When you' re in the well,
the least you expect from your partner is to listen to you and the
least you need is to tell you how you have to feel or not.
You just want me to come with you as you descend by accepting your outbursts
of sadness, insecurity and bad mood. Only in this way can you get
to the bottom of the matter. Going back up to the surface. In
the case of not feeling safe or accompanied, you can fall into addictions that
provide the relief that your partner does not know how to give you. It
is not a question of judging this emotional swing, let alone of suffering it
or of seeking guilty ones. More than anything, because it is a natural,
cyclical and, above all, necessary process. It' s the way
that, as a woman you function and renew you complain that your partner doesn
' t listen to you doesn' t fail as a sexual, feminine essence.
You consider that one of the worst flaws of putting your partner male sexual
essence is that he doesn' t listen to you. Let' s put,
for example, when you get home after a shitty day just see it.
Your partner feels the need to share your feelings. Among other things,
you tell him that lately you are not comfortable with your work, especially because
of the complicated relationship you have with your boss. Sometimes he behaves like a
top- notch prick. No further. You' ve had a good fight
today right away. Your partner insists that you have to quit your current job
and take it on your own. You tell him it' s not the
best time you know he' s a good guy. Even though I'
m not an easy person. Looks like he' s having a bad time.
Then your partner tells you not to listen to him and try not to
take it personally. It bothers with the comment you claim you try it every
day, but sometimes you can' t stop these things from affecting you.
Seeing that the conversation isn' t going anywhere, you start explaining that your
mother is in bed recovering from an intestinal flu. The poor woman still has
a fever and medium diarrhea. Second after, your partner tells you it'
ll be fine for sure. However, you raise your voice. Yeah,
you claim your mother needs you. Your partner abruptly interrupts you and concludes that
the problem is that you worry too much. That' s why you'
re so tense and tired. Finally, you explode and stare into his eyes.
You tell him that what really causes you tension is that he won'
t listen to you and to top it off your partner has the arrests of
shrugging and answering that he' s listening to you. You have a lot
to learn about freedom. The feminine has a dark side. If this is
your sexual essence. It' s probably hard for you to respect your partner
' s release. You don' t know very well why, but you
feel bad when you decide to retire away from yourself. You don' t
understand why he' s walking away. Suddenly if it was for you you
would spend more time together, you only distance yourself from him when he disappoints
you or fears he will hurt you again. However, the male sexual essence
works differently. She loves to be with you, but occasionally not every day
most men alternate between moments of intimacy and spaces of autonomy. It' s
a biological necessity, just as they don' t choose to have a penis.
Nor do they choose to feel the longing for freedom. They need to
spend time alone and be calm without being responsible for anyone else. That'
s when they try to solve their problems. They don' t need your
advice. They also take advantage of sports, seeing friends, or simply avoiding
your partner' s distance. It' s no sign that I don'
t love you, don' t be so self- centered. It has
nothing to do with you. It has to do with his male nature.
If any of you complain about the creator, but do not judge what is
created. If you spend too much time together, you are likely to be
irritated and grumpy and lose the desire to be with you. Sometimes it can
provoke a discussion only to justify their removal. Don' t become one of
those people who chases his partner when he walks away, or worse than punishing
him for walking away. That' s called manipulation. Assume your partner has
another shelter that' s not you. Don' t try to make him
feel guilty about not covering your emotional needs and make sure he can miss you
if he doesn' t end up loving yourself more to free your partner.
As much as you deny it. Your partner is the center of your life
and this is not a good thing or a bad thing. It' s
simply a fruit of your feminine nature. However, turning your partner into your
main source of love, support and complicity is bullshit. No one should carry
that burden. The main source must be you. Think about how you'
re going to respect your partner' s freedom if you think you depend on
her to be happy. It' s time for you to commit to solving
your own emotional conflicts for yourself, instead of looking for them to love you.
Love to free yourself from the need to feel dearly healed at once your
birth wound, that is your journey learn to love you like no one else.
He' s never loved you or ever will love you. Only then
can he get out of that invisible prison called emotional dependence. Every day with
more prisoners you need to feel loved because you don' t love yourself.
If you love yourself, love will flow from you to your partner in the
form of trust and freedom. By understanding and respecting the cycle of intimacy and
autonomy, your partner will stop escaping from you. Most men are much more
willing to say yes when they are free to say no. The paradox is
that the further you get away from your partner, the closer he gets to
you. Your relationship will reach higher levels of satisfaction. If you respect and
promote your independence, let your partner be with you when he truly desires my
mother. When that happens, then he will come back voluntarily more often and
more eagerly to love you. His desire for close intimacy with you is proportional
to respect for his freedom. The paradox is that by becoming emotionally detached from
your partner, you begin to feel much more united and connected to him nine.
Men have penises. What moves men to be as they are. As
a man. Your greatest desire is to feel free. Let us continue for
the man or, rather, for the male sexual essence, the biological brain,
which governs his most primary impulses. If this energy polarity predominates. In
You, your most sacred value is freedom. Although every man is unique as
a male member, your main motivation is to discover your mission in life.
This is how you can realize your purpose and feel useful. Efficiency, power
and ogre are very important to IT. It' s no coincidence that you
' re focused on fixing problems and finding solutions. To feel good about yourself,
you have to achieve goals and goals. For you you only need to
face challenges and challenges to prove your efficiency, show your competence and manifest your
worth. That' s right, as you say loud and clear you can
be trusted. This is why you don' t like being corrected or being
told how to do things. In fact, you tend to keep your problems
to yourself asking for help is a sign of weakness and disability. You only
share them when you need another point of view. That' s when you
' re looking for someone of confidence who deserves consideration for another man. This
imitation of the Council is an honor in the zeal of your relationship. You
provide vigor, security, strength, initiative and leadership and your yan energy leads
you to be more active and therefore exercise a leadership role as a male sexual
essence. Your primary need is to feel free and to be able to satisfy
it your partner has to respect your independence and to trust you to value and
accept yourself just as you are to leave spaces to be alone and, ultimately,
to give you what you need a lot of freedom. You need to
go to your cave so you can stay calm. Because of your male sexual
essence. As a man, you act like a slingshot. You have the
imperative need to stretch to the fullest to one side to go to the other
with more strength and momentum. You can' t stand still or stand in
the same place for too long. You need to look for and find something
to launch in order to achieve a result that gives meaning to your life and
strengthen your sense of worth. And after the effort, you also need a
quiet place where you can be at peace, without demands or responsibilities of any
kind. That' s why you tend to stay away from your partner,
stretching to a certain extent, especially in times of stress and stress. Even
when you love your wife, you need ale jar on a regular basis to
be able to connect with you and her. Really, that' s when
you retire to your cave, that is, an outer place, the one
where you can be alone with your inside. Being there, you are dedicated
to relaxing and resting and reflecting on your problems calmly. This is how you
load the batteries to come back with much more desire to see your partner and
with much more love than to give him share your worries you see it as
a burden as well as a useless action. It' s a vent that
doesn' t work to fix them. In fact, in many cases it
makes them bigger by allowing others to think about it. Ironically when you need
to be in your cave, you can' t give your wife the attention
she needs when you share her problems. You' re too immersed in yourself.
When you' re not well, it helps you get your balance back,
you' re just yours until you fix the problem. Quite the opposite
of your wife, who seeks closeness and communication. That' s why the
io is guaranteed You complain that your wife won' t leave you alone.
It' s scientifically proven to be male sexual essence, what you like least
about being a couple is the loss of independence. Sometimes, not to say
in many you feel that your partner is a bit heavy, not to say
a pussy. As a man, I' m sure you' ve ended
up your wife' s eggs sometimes. I mean, when you feel stuck,
controlled and drowned by their demands, commitments and demands. In addition,
it bothers you to have to fight for your legitimate spaces of solitude and freedom
and you are tired of receiving advice that you have not asked for. Let
us say, for example, that you are driving together. You drive to
the hotel where you' ll spend a romantic weekend. After several laps and
not finding the right way out, your wife assumes you' re lost.
That' s when he suggests you ask one of the walkers for help.
By remaining silent, within a few seconds, he proposes it again. You
tell her that she doesn' t need to, but she insists that it
doesn' t cost anything, that surely someone can tell you how to get
her attitude starts to irritate you. However, you don' t tell him
anything and you keep driving until after a while you finally get to the hotel.
Already in the room, your partner scolds you that you' re a
little bit on edge at the time. You tell her that she' s
upset you, that she insisted on asking for guidance when it wasn' t
necessary, and she' s responding offended that she' s done it to
help. However, you' ve heard something else. What doesn' t
trust your ability to solve problems on your own by giving you some advice or
suggesting to yourself what to ask someone else how to fix a situation is as
if you' ll call yourself useless and think you' re incompetent. You
have a lot to learn about love. The masculine has a dark side.
If this is your fucking sexual essence of denying that you' re going to
have too little time with your wife when it was the last time you dedicated
her a real romantic detail that you didn' t do out of obligation.
You don' t know exactly why, but for this kind of thing you
don' t have so much initiative, passion or creativity. You get other
challenges. Your nature leads you to think first of what you need, what
you are interested in blinded by your own motivation, you don' t see
the needs of your partner that if they have to do with you do not
emano. The female sexual essence works differently. It is true that you share
your life with your parents, brothers and friends while playing a professional role.
However, or most women want to have their partner close so they can count
on her when they are worried or have a problem. Just like they don
' t choose. Having a vagina doesn' t choose to feel the yearning
for love either. They need to love and be loved. It' s
a biological necessity. They are like a flower that requires that they water it
often to bloom. They also need a lot of light and pampering. Your
loving presence is your food that your partner wants to spend more time with you
or make a suggestion about how to do certain things doesn' t mean it
' s a heavy one. Don' t be angry. Its feminine nature
is so if you don' t give it quality time leaving aside the achievement
of your goals. In time, your wife will wither the lack of love,
make her miserable. Says the saying happy woman happy life. Your wife
is not complicated. It' s actually tremendously easy. All their emotional problems
and conflicts have the same root. Not feeling loved by you loves your partner
to free you from yourself. If you could ask the wise men something,
it would be the absolute freedom of movement, that is, the possibility to
enter and leave the house whenever you wanted, without having to explain to your
partner. It is an impulse of your masculine nature, however, that your
unviduality be respected. It doesn' t exempt you from taking care of your
wife from surprising her in some detail every week. How hard it is for
you to think more about her Tell her nice things and do actions that tear
a smile out of her. Be complicit in your well- being. It
' s the best way to invest in your own happiness. It doesn'
t have to be a material gift. Sometimes it can be done with a
simple gesture that makes her, namely that you love her. Put a damn
pink spot in the bathroom mirror that says good morning, Princess. I hope
you have a wonderful day. I want you to have this detail with her.
You' ll take five minutes. However, you' ll make her
happy for a whole week. Please don' t be one of those who
takes his partner for granted. Don' t be such a pain in the
ass the moment you hit me. As much as you do, you'
re starting to lose her. Really start honoring your only marital responsibility to love
your wife with all your heart. Instead of seeking freedom free yourself from your
selfish desires and aspirations, focus more on the needs of your partner, prioritizing
them above your own to see if you are able, you need to feel
free, because you are a slave to the ego. Look more at your
wife, devote yourself to encouraging her to favor, make herself happy, and
the freedom you long for will come in addition. It is not a question
of how much time you spend together, but of the quality of your bond.
The more loved your partner feels, the more will respect your independence x
unconscious sex, the uncomfortable truth about what really happens in bed dare to speak
bluntly about your sex life. Women have vagina and men have penis, even
if it gives you a certain modesty to talk about them. It is undeniable
that human beings have been born with genitals and, moreover, that sex has
been condemned throughout history. You are here because of your need and ability to
practice it. There' s nothing wrong with it. It is as pure
and natural as eating, sleeping, or breathing. While your body has never
made any moral judgment about sex, your mind is still contaminated by false beliefs
that limit your way of fully enjoying sexuality. Many feelings of shame and guilt
remain latent in society' s collective unconsciousness. Paradoxically, everything that is repressed
ends up coming out with more strength and intensity. Hence you are continually bombarded
with sexual, explicit or underlying messages. It' s no wonder the thoughts
related to the pull- out have settled as you occupy your head. Proof
of this is that the word sex is by far the most written in the
Google search engine. However, in this case, the amount of stimuli you
receive is inversely proportional to the quality with which you practice it. While the
biological purpose of sex is reproduction, it also has another much more psychological and
spiritual function. So it is known that you practice good sex with your partner
when you verify that it helps you to intimate and with ne go with her,
as well as to replenish your vital energy. You also notice that it
helps to cultivate and preserve your physical and mental health, in turn regulating your
emotional mood. Don' t wait one more day hold your partner by the
hand, open your heart and express yourself with certainty. As you feel about
your sex life, you practice mechanically monotonous and unconscious sex by engaging with a
single sexual partner and having sex with him for some time. I' m
sure more than once you' ve wondered that' s all the sex ends
here because of your lack of sex education. As an adult, you continue
to be guided by the mechanical habits learned during your puberty. So you usually
get into bed following a series of monotonous routines lacking imagination and creativity. In
time, therefore, the attraction and desire towards your companion often disappears, even
falling into disinterest, that of the rda, in monotony and boredom. Hence,
many stop practicing it, demonize monogamy as a couple' s philosophy,
and choose to change lovership even if this behavior is the usual one. It
only seems when you practice sex mechanically and unconsciously and are trapped by your biology,
whose only purpose is to guarantee the reproduction of the species. Right now,
sex is conditioned, especially by male limitations. Most men act moved by
the same pattern of sexual behavior, marked by the accumulation of citation and the
release of this tension through orgasm. However, their obsession with climaxing is precisely
what prevents them from enjoying their full sexual potential. The animal in them becomes
an obstacle to love being also present in bed, thwarting any female attempt to
lengthen such sexual encounters. To achieve or greater depth and satisfaction, they have
no choice but to transcend their most primary impulses. And to achieve this,
there are no better teachers than women, without a doubt, are the real
experts in sexuality. Conscious your sex is tyrannized by cohitocracy. Ninety- nine
comma nine percent of your sexual activity doesn' t end reproduction. However,
your encounters are governed by cohitocracy. That is, for the urge that the
penis get erect right away so that it can penetrate the vagina. So much
so that in general, you consider that making love is synonymous with performing intercourse.
Since male sexual essence exercises greater leadership in the dormitory, women are left
at the mercy of this masculinization of sexuality. Remember that the average man masturbates
since he begins to have use of reason between the nine and twelve years,
and there are so many straws that have been made during adolescence, that this
mechanical practice ends conditioning his body and nervous system to the same sequence genital stimulation,
mental fantasy, accumulation of tension and ejaculation and when starting his sexual walk
with women, he keeps repeating that pattern for that reason, the goal of
sex is to achieve orgasm, in this case, the desire to reach the
goal diminishes more than ever the ability to enjoy the road. Also, by
putting on the penis almost all the protagonism, many men are afraid not to
give the size. This autoboicote is the main cause of them suffering from impotence
or premature ejaculation two dysfunctions originating in the mind not in the body and limiting
the sexual life of millions of couples around the world. Any result of dissatisfaction
in bed shows that you' re misbehaving. To start reversing the situation,
start by asking yourself how you feel after concluding the act are sexual more full
or empty, happier or sadder, more vital or more tired. Don'
t settle. Sex can be something much more pleasurable than pleasure. As a
man you have come into this world to lay seeds. Nature is very wise.
Each sexual essence has its own biological function. The male one, for
example, is responsible for putting seeds in the form of spermatozoa. The men
are here to sow that' s why they have testicles. They only participate
in the process of fertilization. If this is your energy polarity, surely at
some point in your life, or perhaps throughout it, you have felt the
imperative need to sleep with many different women. In fact, when a man
looks at a woman, the first thought that comes to mind is I'
d sleep with her. It is an automatic and unconscious reflex, totally primary.
Sexual tension is always there. That' s right, hidden and repressed.
Guided by testosterone to male sex hormone, man inevitably adopts the role of
hunter. It is no accident that it is assumed that it is precisely the
person who has the initiative to approach a woman. This hormone is responsible for
men being hairier, bigger, more aggressive and stronger than women and always willing
to have sex at any time, anywhere, at any time for any reason.
Any man with a male sexual essence will want sexual variety. Even if
you love your partner and are fully committed to her, you will naturally want
to have sexual encounters with other women, in addition to your intimate partner.
Wishing another woman does not reflect a lack in her relationship. It reflects their
male nature. While your penis is on all day, your heart is off
asleep. That' s why you can have sex without love. In that
sense he still has a lot to learn. As a woman, your heart
and vagina are connected. The female is a very different bug from the male.
The female sexual essence has the biological function of receiving, caring for and
nourishing the seed that man has put in it. This is why she has
uterus and breast eggs and why her attitude to sex is usually more passive.
The leading role of women is in the process of reproduction, which is seasonal
and lactating, which occupies them for several years, even though the vibron has
been invented. It is preferable for the mother to breastfeed her baby, as
it brings to the natural nutrients and emotional affection it needs for its optimal development.
That is why they are biologically more resistant to disease and have a longer
life expectancy. In addition, by devoting more effort and time to this process,
they also take more care in selecting their child' s father, as
well as less sexual appetite and promiscuity than men. Your goal is to match
up with the best available male you can find. If this is your energy
polarity, you' ll agree that opening your vagina first has to open your
heart. In fact, this one is always active. Your genitals are the
ones that are off You' re like an oven to make the most of
it. First it' s got to go on and warm up for a
while. Hence the sacred and supreme importance of the preliminaries. Since man goes
with the penis on and sexuality is masculinized by cohitocracy, when he is finished,
it turns out that she has not yet begun. The truth is that
the women with the most livid and wanting to fuck are the ones who are
in love. In that state, testosterone levels increase in your body. Thus,
any woman who has been in heat can know how the man feels every
day of his life. Eleven the transcendent purpose of the couple. Reasons for
sharing your life with someone else. If you don' t want to learn
or evolve better. Stay alone for as long as everyone else does. You
' re not ready to be a couple, at least you don' t
deform satisfactorily and permanently. You have no idea. If you are a man,
during the state of falling in love, your testosterone levels go down and
increase your oxytocin levels, the so- called love hormone, and so you
can be more empathetic with the woman' s affective needs. The opposite happens
in the female brain. If you are a woman, s your testosterone levels
rise and for a while it seems that you both function similar to the same
sexual impulses and the same emotional needs. But once the crush fades, the
biology of one another returns to its natural state. That' s when he
starts reproaching her because she' s not so interested in sex anymore and she
' s not paying so much attention to him anymore and she doesn' t
have romantic details about her. As the latent conflict emerges, it is when
the real couple relationship begins. Only at that very moment can true love arise.
Thus, the main reason for pairing is to feel the desire to learn,
grow, mature and evolve as a human being. If you' re
not committed to it, don' t mess with it, don' t
play with each other' s feelings, or at least make it clear.
From the beginning, the couple can be one of your great teachers on the
learning path, which is life paired, because you know that in this way
you will grow spiritually much more than being alone not in vain, your companion
makes you clear and you see clearly what you lack or. You' re
scared. The truth is that, if you have the right tools, being
a couple can be one of the greatest blessings of your existence if you don
' t like the challenges or even think about pairing up. The learning process
of male sexual essence consists of integrating the complementary opposite of female sexual essence and
vice versa. This involves deeply understanding oneself and the other in order to be
able to empathize with their different needs and respect their different operating and renewal cycles.
Let us not forget that in the Taoist symbol of Gin and Yang within
the part of the circumference shaped like white sperm, there is a little black
dot, while in the opposite part, the black sperm contains a little white
dot. These colors represent male and female polarity respectively. All white men have
a black female part to develop, and all black women have themselves a white
male part to cultivate. Hence, the relationship of couples is the place where
both energies learn to complement each other, conjugating their different shades. I do
not embarrass the journey of the masculine and the feminine towards this unity of love
and freedom is antagonistic. The truth is that it takes a lot of humility,
flexibility, generosity and maturity to integrate this opposition and achieve a much more
satisfying and beneficial synthesis as a result if your partner is accelerated and you are
slow. There is a conflict there, but also great potential. If you
take advantage of the difference to grow and transform, the accelerated one can help
slow and reverse with which you will find greater balance and harmony. That'
s what a couple trip is about, selling to give what the other needs
and learning to receive what the other gives you. Only in this way can
the relationship evolve into two more conscious, complete, and wise human beings.
If you form a family, do it with love. I don' t
know if you knew, but couple and even mean getting on the same level.
It is a matter of achieving balance harmony and complementing a true pair works
in such a way that both members feel happier and more fulfilled than each one
going on his or her side. That is why they choose each day to
remain together, sharing their lives with love, yes, respecting each other'
s individuality. However, in most cases the result is another well known to
all, fighting conflict and suffering, much suffering, sometimes too much. Even
cohabitation generates many frictions sns clashes between egos and, by not knowing how to
deal emotionally. With this situation, it is impossible for there to be learning
or change, much less evolution. Hence, little by little the relationship ends
up cracking, eventually leading to rupture and separation. It is true that women
and men are complex and complicated beings to no longer be able to, but
the fact that they have problems with each other also has to do with the
conventional mold from which they relate and more when they decide to form a family.
Without a doubt, another of the great functions of being a couple.
If this nucleus is not harmonious, it will neither favor nor support harmony among
its children. Moreover, if this learning of integration and complementation does not occur,
the family ceases to be a source of bliss to become a blindfold of
unhappiness. If you choose to form a family that you know that all your
mental schemes are going to be confronted, you will surely see yourself disturbed for
a long time until you know how to adapt to your new spouse and parent
status and, as you know, it is a journey of milk. If
you have children, you will have them consciously. Forming a family and involves
having children. The biological reason par excellence for being a couple is to perpetuate
the species. However, one thing is what you think motherhood and parenthood is
and another infinitely different, which really involves being parents. It' s impossible
to know in advance how much the arrival of your first child will change your
life once the woman recovers from childbirth. The great challenge is to devote time
and energy to keeping the flame of passion on fire. The truth is that
the baby' s arrival brings you into a routine and inertia that often alienates
you from each other, creating an emotional distance as imperceptible as it is difficult
to stop. Hence, as much as it costs you to get rid of
your baby it is a foundation that grows spaces of intimacy to be alone at
least once a week. You can organize a romantic dinner in which, as
a man and a woman, you cultivate your relationship as friends, lovers and
traveling companions. And if the love between the parents ceases, the children end
up paying for it. It is no coincidence that during the first three years,
since the birth of the first child, more and more separations occur.
Children do not unite you with your partner or make you happier Rather they uncover
the truths hidden under the carpet of your home. Who' d say it
with how cute they are. In fact, there is a very cynical saying
that indicates the following. The first child changes your life, the second takes
it away from you and the third one destroys it. So be very careful.
Don' t go into parenting without being very well informed. A poorly
- run marriage to children can turn your life into hell. Then don'
t complain that nobody warned you. Twelve levels of consciousness in couples, evolutionary
stages that determine the quality of your relationship. From zero to ten. What
note would you put as a couple, As a human being, you live
on a certain level of consciousness and it measures the spiritual development that you have
acquired according to the learnings realized or not through the slaps that has been giving
you life. The more evolved you are, the greater your ability to be
happy For yourself and, therefore, to love your partner. On the other
hand, if you have little understanding and wisdom, it is normal for you
to attract ignorant people like you. The function of these stormy relationships is that
you live precisely the conflict situations you need to be able to learn and evolve.
Only in this way do you create the possibility of attracting and maintaining much
more harmonious and satisfying relationships in the future. Al al al al al n
final of what it is about is that you live your bonds from the essence
and not from the ego, to know in what evolutionary stage you find yourself.
Just take a look at the emotional results you' ve been reaping with
your partner. What has more abounded conflict or harmony, discussions or caresses,
missing out on suffering or happiness for more justifications than giving me The results are
always much more eloquent than excuses. The fact that you are wrong with your
partner shows that you or both are ignorant in the art of being well in
an intimate relationship and do not feel offended ignorance. It is not a lack
of intelligence, but of knowledge in this case that would allow you to know
how to relate peacefully and lovingly. Take a second to evaluate to what extent
you are a happy, focused, balanced, empathetic, ge neral and assertive
person, totally complicit in the happiness and well- being of your partner from
zero to ten who notes you become a couple. Your greatest desire is to
satisfy your own interest. Each couple is in a certain evolutionary stage that measures
how much or how little the two members of a relationship have grown and matured
together. The first level of consciousness is that in which the two lovers,
moved by their egocentric selfishness, direct their existence to satisfy only their own interest.
Each looks only for himself, trying to satisfy his own biological needs and
while each, in turn, expects the other to behave in a certain way
in accordance with his desires and expectations. In this type of relationships, the
female sexual essence often feels dissatisfied because it does not feel loved by its partner,
complains of the lack of love and, in parallel, the male sexual
essence feels suffocated by its partner, does not feel at ease because it sees
its independence alibi, complains of the lack of freedom and the closer it comes
to the feminine in search of affection, support and understanding, the more it
distances the masculine, devoting all its time and energy to achieving new goals and
objectives. It is then that the ego puts on the boots, The relationship
becomes a battlefield, whose weapons of mass destruction are egocentrism, reactivity, dicymism,
guilt, reproach hatred, rancor, and distancing. Over time, dialogue
becomes a cry- and- fight discussion, and when we see that these
emotional disagreements serve nothing but to intensify suffering, it finally leads to a lack
of communication, as well as the slow but progressive disappearance of his affection,
complicity, trust, honesty and respect. These kinds of couples are already broken.
Now we just need to know when and how they' re going to
split up. Your biggest motivation is to meet you and transform you. Every
couple relationship goes through periods of crisis. Despite having such a negative connotation,
this word shares the same etymological root as chrysalis, which alludes to metamorphosis and
transformation. In Chinese it means both danger and opportunity and in Greek it comes
from the verb crime that means to judge and decide. It has also given
rise to substantives such as criticism and judgement. Thus, the crisis is a
decisive moment within any couple relationship, an imitation to pause, reflect and wisely
decide on the next step that the two lovers must take in order to continue
evolving in love and freedom. In the event that they decide to stay together
and take advantage of one of these crises, the couple goes into the second
level of consciousness. It is then that they direct their relationship to transformation,
tired of so much conflict and suffering, that they decide to give themselves a
new opportunity. However, based on the premise that, in order to obtain
different results, they have no choice but to question the beliefs with which they
have been co- creating their current relationship through an individual process of self-
knowledge. Both understand at the end that the other neither makes them suffer nor
can make them happy and it is precisely this understanding that moves them to learn
to be happy for themselves, moving from self- centered selfishness to conscious selfishness,
that is, that allows you to resolve your internal conflicts through self-
knowledge. In order to feel good internally, it is important to spend some
time every day to give you what you need and thus preserve your emotional balance.
And it' s just how you can be okay with your partner if
you don' t know how to be comfortable with yourself. Your greatest desire
is to promote good to your partner to enjoy true love as a couple in
a satisfactory and sustainable way. You have no choice but to be tremendously honest,
humble, and courageous to bow down to your partner and let yourself be
transformed by him. I insist it is essential that we have been transformed.
You need to have experienced a profound paradigm shift that allows you to conceive of
this intimate bond from a much wiser and more mature perspective. It usually appears
in click form suddenly you perceive that you have everything you need to feel complete,
full and full for yourself. This is how you ascend to the third
level of consciousness, which directs your relationship to the common good, by removing
the veil from your eyes, you see for the first time your partner,
whatever your sexual essence, you learn from your complementary opposite. This is how
love and freedom begin to dialogue in search of a balance that benefits both.
In this or evolutionary stage. You know how to live with your two energy
polarities, which renew and feedback each other. Moved by unselfish selfishness, you
put your well- being, your happiness and your happiness at the service of
the couple' s relationship, creating a bond as invisible as it is robust.
Paradoxically, in seeking the good of the other, preserve if you expand
yours. In parallel, by questioning the mold of socially accepted relationship your partner
and you begin to design your own way of being in pairs, according to
your true needs and motivations. Finally, this journey of learning and transformation results
in greater enjoyment thanks to complementation. If you' ve kept reading up here,
be honest from what level of consciousness you' re living your relationship as
a couple. Part three, the conscious couple thirteen cards to be a couple,
essential skills for relans you have killed mom and dad. If you want
to be a fit person, you need to meet four fundamental requirements. You
don' t need to get outstanding on each of them from the pass onwards.
That' s enough The better your competition, the better your relationships will
go. The first requirement is to emancipate yourself emotionally from your parents. It
is time for you to cut the umbilical cord and matures at once and this
goes by freeing you from your psychological influence, catching an axe and metaphorically cutting
their heads to stop listening to their voices inside you removes the program and erases
the recording they inserted into you. A complete person no longer depends on the
approval of his parents suddenly. You don' t need to be loved anymore.
You don' t expect them to understand you or support you either.
Surely, your parents cosme tens eron millions of mistakes. Maybe they were too
protective, maybe they were absent to move on to what happened when they matured.
You understand they didn' t do it on purpose. You understand they
didn' t know how to do their best. It was not evil,
but ignorance. Besides, your parents never hurt you emotionally. The resentment you
feel has not so much to do with what has happened to you in life,
but with your subjective and distorted way of interpreting it. Behind the labels
Dad and Mom hide two human beings who in their day were also children and
as such drag their own wounds you complain about the backpack that you carry behind
your back, but you can' t imagine the maleton that they carry.
Research your genealogical tree to find out what kind of childhood yours had, the
most reliable indicator to know if you have emancipated yourself from truths, that you
feel at peace with what happened and appreciate everything you have learned. You'
ve solved your emotional conflicts. The second requirement to be fit in a couple
relationship is to resolve your emotional conflicts, and this involves maintaining an excellent relationship
with yourself, leading a healthy inner life, and being a conscious person in
this evolutionary stage. You don' t have any unfinished business or demons under
the carpet anymore. Your loneliness is your refuge and your temple, and in
the same way that medicine and good food cure the body. Now you also
know that silence and meditation heal the soul. A symptom of maturity is allowing
yourself to feel bored is nothing more than repressed pain generated by the emotional damage
you have done to yourself throughout your life. By embracing and accepting it,
you begin to transform it into serenity, joy and trust. Then you discover
how wonderful it is to be alone with yourself, listening and feeling what is
happening inside you. When you' re okay, you really don' t
expect anything, you' re just present. That' s how you know
every moment how you find yourself and what you need to preserve your well-
being. If you meditate, the love for You and your partner will flourish
naturally. Without meditation, love is unlikely to triumph. Part of the failure
of most marriages is that neither one of them is able to sit still,
sitting with himself doing anything. Hence they need to fight with the outside to
relieve the discomfort they feel inside. When you are alone without distractions to entertain,
you feel afraid and empty because it begins to disappear. The fake,
but don' t worry. That which may disappear is worth it that it
disappears is not yours, it is not you that is genuine and authentic in
You that remains once you break the casing and free yourself from conditioning you are
responsible for your own happiness. A person who does not know how to be
happy for himself is a social danger. He becomes someone who expects others to
make him happy and, since it is an impossible claim to be made,
he ends up paying for his unhappiness with others, starting with his own sentimental
companion. Hence, the third fundamental requirement when it comes to being fit to
be a couple is to be responsible for your own happiness. There comes a
day when you look into your eyes in the mirror and declare with an open
heart not to delegate your emotional well- being to another person again. You
realize that no one deserves to carry that slab, let alone someone you supposedly
love You' re the only one who can make you happy. This certainty
leads you to take care of yourself and since no one has taught you.
You have no choice but to learn in a self- taught way to harmonize
body, mind and spirit. To the extent that you feel better, with
yourself, you start to value, take advantage and enjoy much more than you
have. That is what spiritual development is all about. Also, knowing yourself
can live without hurting you, without disturbing you, without hurting you emotionally,
there is no longer the word guilt in your vocabulary. You have replaced it
with responsibility You have finally internalized that the only cause of your suffering is your
inability to accept reality and to do so you need to grow in understanding,
consciousness and wisdom. Only in this way can you relate without suffering or being
complicit in the suffering of others, and it is that you can only love
someone if you feel good about yourself and can only be happy if you love
and give yourself to others. Truly, the greater your inner well- being,
the greater the well- being that you will bring to your relationship,
you know what you want and what you can offer. The fourth requirement to
be fit in a couple relationship is to be very clear about what you want
and what you can offer. Every couple you' ve had has been an
unbeatable opportunity to learn about yourself and it is precisely these intimate links that awaken
the best and the worst in you. If you take advantage of them,
you can light up your darker areas, growing and maturing as a human being
with each relationship, you will discover yourself knowing what kind of partner can best
complement you in case you want to be a couple, and you may conclude
that you prefer to be alone or that you don' t want to commit
to anyone for a long time. You don' t care anymore. What
people around you might think now you know they' re all the same or
worse than you. The conventional pair mold has long been obsolete. Hence it
generates so much conflict and suffering and as a result in the vast majority of
cases, breakups, separations and divorces. The truth is that love is so
creative and abundant that it has infinite ways of manifesting itself. Find yours.
Also, being a conscious person you no longer dream of the ideal couple,
you simply commit to becoming the kind of person you seek your transformation scares away
the ghosts of the past and the fear of reviving the pain you felt with
your ex- partners disappears. That' s the only way you' re
in a position to love as if you' ve never been hurt before.
Whatever happens, don' t overturn the pain of previous relationships in the new
couple. Paradoxically, having no need to be a couple, you become a
golden bachelor emanates, an irresistible appeal. Fourteen in search of a travel companion,
you have compatibility to choose your partner. You know, you' ve
got chemistry and it drives you crazy in bed. Choosing your partner is certainly
one of the most important, yes extraordinary decisions of your life. Be careful
to end up marrying someone for the wrong reasons. I tell you from experience
to wisely choose to use the theory of the four Cs verify that the chosen
one passes this compatibility test with note before seriously compromising it proves that there is
a true affinity between you. The first concerns compatibility in the area of bed.
It is the most primary animal and instinctive of all, although it is
purely physical. It has everything to do with chemistry. For starters, the
one that happens in the brain when you fall in love. In fact,
having fallen madly in love with someone means that there is a lot of chance
that desire, ixcitation, sexual passion will be more abundant and sustainable over the
passage of time that goes well with you is already something else will depend on
more variables. But look if there is no such magic or chemistry among you
at the outset, it is much more difficult and unlikely for you to enjoy
in bed. Let me tell you with no hairs on your tongue a couple
who don' t fuck this dead woman is that you' re either a
woman or a man, you need good sex to feel good about yourself.
The quality and quantity of your sexual encounters reveals the degree of well- being
in your partner relationship. Making love with love is an indicator of deep connection.
Strengthen your bond. If you' re with someone you don' t
have chemistry with and doesn' t drive you crazy in bed, your relationship
has an expiration date no matter how hard you go sooner or later. You
' re going to distance yourself even if you don' t believe it.
Sex is the glue that holds a couple together. You love hugging him,
kissing him, and feeling his foot. The latter are related to compatibility within
the heart. It has to do with the affection, affection and sweetness that
you profess to each other. In case there is this kind of affinity,
you love to feel the touch of your sentimental partner' s skin. It
is a very pleasant and pleasant feeling. That' s why you like hugging
him so much that he hugs you every night. You spend a little while
snuggle and snuggle in the form of a spoon. And while the male sexual
essence tends to embrace the female sexual essence, you will certainly ever exchange such
roles. Whatever it takes to melt you in his arms, you sit at
home, connect you to the present moment. You can even stay hugged in
silence for a long time to get lost in his neck and hair. It
takes you to a wonderful place where you would live forever. Besides, you
love how it smells, wears, perfume or not, and what to say
about those kisses and their tongue being able to kiss your partner is a gift
that life gives you daily. Another indicator to know if there is affective compatibility
with the person you have chosen is the space occupied by caresses in your intimate
bond. To caress each other with gentleness and delicacy causes to loosen tenderness and
increase sensitivity by reinforcing the bond of love that unites you. It' s
no coincidence that when you' re in one of those sometimes fleeting and passenger
moments when you feel like everything' s okay. Remember your partner and smile.
Then an immense gratitude arises from your heart for being able to share your
life with that person. You feel very lucky that I chose you. That
' s why you come up with it so I can keep choosing to hook
you up every day. He' s your best friend and you' re
not running out of conversation. The third has to do with compatibility in the
realm of the head, that is, that which has to do with intellect,
complicity and friendship. Your partner is your best friend, he' s
your trusted person in the world. He' s the first one you want
to share your joys with and you need to express your sorrows. In parallel,
you also have common concerns and hobbies, so you can make plans that
really suit both of you. You spend it together too, you don'
t need other people to have fun. When you start to chat quietly,
you feel that the conversation is never over, that you can discuss different topics
whether or not you agree with it. There is complicity among you, that
there is no room for boredom nor for uncomfortable silences in the event of having
to attend some social commitment that gives you laziness or becomes a roleon. You
give thanks for being able to go by his hand. Let' s say,
for example, that you attend that cousin' s wedding that you haven
' t seen in your life, you' re often a pussy, right?
Well, complicity with your partner allows you to team up. That'
s why, during the evening, occasionally, you look her in the eye
with discretion and she doesn' t need to tell you anything to know what
she' s thinking and once at home you love to comment on the play,
talking about what happened and how you felt. It' s a chance
to laugh, something you often do while you spend time together. Because of
this intellectual affinity, when you relate to other people, you transmit very good
vibes. As a couple, you are so comfortable with each other that it
is easy for others to feel the same way, being at your side,
you share values and look in the same direction. The fourth has to do
with compatibility in the realm of consciousness, that is, the one that has
to do with the spiritual dimension, with the transcendent purpose or not that you
give to your existence. Check that your partner believes in your dreams, supports
you in your aspirations and looks in the same direction as you, and that
life is a learning path. Hence, the right company is essential, and
not to reach a particular destination, but to learn and enjoy the way to
the fullest. In the event of affinity. You share a number of values
and more or less prioritize the same things as your partner. In this way
you build a lifestyle by consensus, respecting the needs and motivations of each one.
When appropriate, you have the facility to agree and establish pacts that favor
mutual coexistence. Also, by being committed to your own personal growth, you
learn a lot from your sentimental partner. In fact, when conflict emerges,
you face these situations directly, openly and honestly. You use communication to review
and update those conjugal agreements that prevent you from evolving as an individual. In
doing so, however, you no longer judge or disrespect. You have learned
to put the ego aside to yield and adapt flexibly to the needs of the
moment to know if the person you have chosen is a true travel companion with
proof who gets good note in the four c compatibility test in love as in
the other truly important matters of life. It is not a question of reason,
but of intuition. Choose with your heart. That' s right,
always consciously. Who knows love and freedom as a couple. Fundamental pillars on
which to build a relationship. True love is born of your happiness in the
vast majority of marriages. Telling you, I want sounds hollow. There are
no facts that support these words, hence they lack substance and are not nutritious
either. This is why the heart remains permanently empty always wanting something else.
That is your misfortune and that of all mankind. For your partner relationship to
be sustainable and satisfying, it has to be built on two fundamental pillars.
The first is true love. Nothing to do with the substitute you' re
so used to, although it' s latent inside all men and women.
This quality is the ultimate expression of female sexual essence. However, only through
a process of learning and evolution can it unfold its full potential at the service
of your relationship, completely transforming your way of relating yourself even though poets of
all time have tried. It is impossible to put into words what true love
is until you experience it. You will still have no idea what it is
and there is no more fertile land for it to bloom than your own happiness,
your ability to love is directly proportional to your level of well- being.
However, to feel good about yourself, it is essential that you love
to give yourself a lot of love at least three times a day, one
to get up another after eating and one last before sleeping. Love transforms you,
elevates you, makes you a loving person with much love to give.
While loving does not cost you anything, it is completely free It makes you
immensely rich and also generous. You make it possible to be 100% complicit
in the well- being of your partner, creating the most favorable conditions for
her to make herself happy. The more freedom you give, the more love
you receive. True love is always manifested through kind and constructive stimuli. You
only know how to be in black and assertive. He does and says the
right thing in the right way and at the right time, and is happy
to see his partner happy. Whatever reason it is, it never interferes or
interferes in the happiness of the other is neither jealous nor possessive. Give and
do not expect to receive. It' s because there' s nothing more
wonderful to give. Love benefits a lot more to the one who loves than
to love you full of love, gives you energy and renews you, heals
all your pain and heals all your wounds, nourishes your soul and stimulates your
consciousness. It helps you to be present, appreciating, enjoying and learning from
each situation. It' s the engine that leads you to give the best
of yourself. True love is like a seed that requires freedom to flourish and
exhale its aroma. It' s not something you can force, go,
or force or demand. You can' t ask, it can only happen.
It is a voluntary act, a personal decision, a commitment that is
acquired in a mature and conscious way. It arises from the freedom of each
individual when you truly love you respect the independence of the other without giving up
your own, neither possess nor be possessed. Just as you appreciate your individuality
being respected. You don' t even think about limiting, obstructing or curtailing
your partner' s autonomy. Love without freedom is slavery. True love is
born of freedom and also reinforces it. Paradoxically, the more freedom you give,
the more love you receive all the love you give life. It returns
it multiplied, returning to you from different places and in every possible way.
It opens the doors of the abundance of wall in pairs and you go from
being a beggar to becoming an emperor. True freedom arises from your trust in
the name of security. Many conventional marriages annihilate freedom and tie their relationship to
a ball and a chain. Doesn' t happen to you. Also be
honest in the depths of your heart you don' t trust your partner,
how you' re going to do it if you don' t trust yourself.
Hence Damocles' sword hangs permanently over your relationship because of your lack of
self- esteem. You think you' re not valuable enough, hence unconsciously
feeding irrational fears about what your partner could do if he had more space and
more independence. However, the second fundamental pillar so that you can enjoy a
couple for a long time is authentic freedom, the maximum expression of male sexual
essence and, please, do not fall into the mistake of confusing it with
librarianism that is, to always do what you want without taking into account the
needs of the other. Freedom without love is indifference. True freedom is a
seed that grows thanks to trust, commitment and loyalty. This is the sacred
covenant you make with your sentimental companion. Each couple is called to reach their
own agreements based on the uniqueness of each person. To achieve this, both
have to know themselves and each other. Inspired by freedom, you understand that
no one belongs to anyone, because love is not a private property and that
if you spend too much time with your partner, sooner or later, one
of you will start to run away, walk away and distance. The paradox
is that the more you get together, the more separate you are. You
' ll feel it. The challenge is to learn to trust each other by
using freedom with maturity, with a hundred sor and responsibility. The more you
love, the more freedom you get. Genuine freedom stands on one deep detachment
to the other. If you hold on to your partner, you will destroy
the love you hold on to. Instead, when you transcend your state of
dependence, you begin to be able to give him what truly needs unconditional love.
Interestingly, from detachment you understand that you cannot give freedom more than anything,
because it is an inherent right to any human being. You can only
recognize, accept and respect the independence and autonomy of your sentimental companion. That
' s when you stop enslaving him and enslaving yourself by wisely employing your own
freedom. You understand that his freedom can' t hurt you if you haven
' t already dared to get love out of the cage, let him hear
if you come back, because he truly chooses to be with you and chooses
you precisely for being a loving person, for how much you love him,
don' t be afraid of mature freedom. Once and for all, you
are responsible for your thoughts, words, decisions and actions. Be the best
choice on the market for your partner. Get back the spirit and the way
you relate from when you were boyfriends. Remember when you didn' t see
each other every day before you stayed, you prepared to be ready to enjoy
as much as you were together. You didn' t take the other one
for granted. You had to work it out. You knew I didn'
t belong to you, that I was free and that I chose you.
Every day remembers how distance kept alive, attraction and desire. There were spaces
to miss you. The paradox is that the more freedom you give, the
more love you receive, moved by commitment and not by obligation. Your partner
feels much more energetic and enthusiastic to love you. Truly, love and freedom
drive away the fears of your ego. The worst thing that can happen to
you in a relationship that promotes true freedom is that, in the event of
a breakup, you end up learning a valuable lesson from life that you were
not compatible as a couple and that it was not worth giving up the ego
to live together. You' re so afraid of that all you need to
be happy is within you Your happiness has nothing to do with each other.
The instant you internalize it, you understand that attachment and dependence serve nothing but
to generate conflicts and suffering and, most seriously, that they have nothing to
do with true love. It' s not about the amount of time you
spend together, but about the quality of what you share when you relate from
true freedom, you no longer ask your partner to meet your expectations. You
just live and let her live. This is how your trust earns you parts
of the base that neither you nor she are bound to anything. This is
how they disappear suddenly and, by reason, tension, resignation, reproach or,
resentment The more space, you give each other, the more together,
I enter and greater is your intimacy. Love and freedom are the fruit of
a profound paradigm shift in your way of perceiving yourself and conceiving your relationships as
a couple. As you experience this revolution in your consciousness, little by little
your ego becomes diluted, all its complexes and fears fade away. If you
really want there to be a place for the couple in your life, you
have no choice but to stop taking up so much space. Decide what you
decide Never forget that love and freedom are the two wings of the same bird
you love are necessary for you and your partner to fly together. Each one
separately give partham Merige a chance. The moment your partner and your partner honor
and respect the love and freedom that constitute your true nature. You will be
willing to redefine your relationship. That' s when you can open up to
explore. Partham is a new social trend booming among the most progressive couples.
In essence, part- time marriage consists of building a bond that allows you
to be together, but not bound. This modality consists in promoting more spaces
of individuality, so that you can miss each other. The goal is to
recover the spirit from when you were engaged, that you had decided to join
together. Doesn' t mean you have to see each other every day or
sleep together every night. The important thing is that you enjoy quality time watching
when you really feel like it. This is how we try to sit down
and talk, establishing agreements that guarantee a solid logistical, economic and family organization,
without having to do everything together at every moment. In this sense,
there are couples where one of the two members sleeps outside the home for a
couple of days a week, others spend one weekend together and the next separately.
Paradoxically, enjoying more space for part- time marriage encourages the disappearance of
the feeling of being overly related, as well as the inevitable frictions caused by
hyper- living. In turn, it increases the emotional connection and rekindles the
sexual passion. The key to making this new pairing format work is to hold
on to maturity, respect, trust and responsibility. The only obstacle to starting
it is the fear of the unknown. However, looking at the landscape of
separations and divorces, what' s the worst thing that RS can happen by
giving it a chance among the separated succeeds the leven a partchi Geder may think
that you will never get the same thing that happens to most marriages that end
up dissolving. However, unless you take a new view of the relationship,
it' s almost certain that you' ll end up proving that you'
re wrong and if you don' t ask the separate group. Today,
very few remarry and repeat the same type of relationship based on daily coexistence.
The most open- minded confess that this was precisely the great mistake they made
spending too much time together with their sentimental companion. Moreover, many of those
who are back together opt for another booming stream called levino part higehr. In
essence, living apart, but together it consists of maintaining a serious and stable
relationship without ever sharing the same domicile. Each one lives in his own way
and in the same way as the grooms do, from time to time sleeping
together, thus reserving his legitimate individuality. In addition to succeeding among the most
liberal separated and divorced, this new modality also has more and more followers among
young people not in vain to go live together if they are either alone in
an apartment or sharing flat with some fellow. The truth is that the main
reason why a couple settles in a single house is usually economical and since the
architecture of the buildings has not yet adapted these new needs, living together but
apart is a luxury that many cannot afford. In the future there will be
houses of different sizes and tastes, so that each couple will be facilitated to
choose the model of coexistence that really suits them, instead of resorting to the
only option available today in the market sixteen, the harmonic and assertive communication co
deal with disagreements constructively talk to your partner from the heart. Society has imposed
on you a form of relationship that does not take into account your true nature.
The shit is that you take a lot of things for granted that you
' ve never talked to your partner about. Neither of you know what your
real needs are. Hence, you have no choice but to misuse speculation and
supposition. The constant frustration you feel is nothing more than the result of all
those unexpressed and unfulfilled expectations. The big problem with almost all traditional marriages is
that they do not communicate. They may speak to each other, but they
do not establish a deep and real contact with each other, mainly because doing
so leads them in a frightening direction. Start listening and talking to themselves.
It' s very hard for you to be honest with your partner. If
you' re not honest with yourself, first, just like that, how
you' re going to respect your uniqueness If you don' t respect yours,
you can' t. In order for your relationship as a couple to
evolve satisfactorily over time, it is essential that you become two masters in the
art of conscious communication, that is, one that allows you to put delicate
and uncomfortable matters on the table, putting them in a harmonious way and discussing
them with certainty. Have a conflict of interest. It does not mean that
you must enter into conflict as a couple, much less attacked Verbally. It
is essential that you overcome the fears that prevent you from being authentic. You
have every right to be yourself. Whoever you are, take off your face
at once Dare to show yourself naked just as you are, look your partner
in the eye and talk to him from the heart about how you need him
to be your loving bond. You' re doomed yesterday to deal with your
partner for a lot of affinity and complicity that you have with your partner.
Disagreement is inevitable. You' re two different people. Hence, in order
to maintain a peaceful coexistence you need to know how to reconcile these differences.
Conscious communication is the tool that allows you to dialogue with your partner with the
aim of reaching agreements on the internal functioning of your relationship. It' s
essential that you dust two very untrained skills. The first is empathy to put
yourself in each other' s skin to understand their inner world. The truth
is, you have two ears and a mouth, but you talk twice as
much as you hear. It is one thing to hear what he says and
another to listen to him with empathy. To achieve this, you have to
empty yourself first, leaving the ego aside. This way, you don'
t take what the other says personally. That' s where the second rz
comes into play, assertiveness, that is, the ability to express your truth
in such a way that it doesn' t offend your partner. And this
involves using sensitivity, touch, softness and delicacy. This way you can talk
about anything, however uncomfortable this is. At the same time, you prevent
the lie, the concealment and the deception from being installed within your relationship.
If reconciliation is your priority, disagreement will allow you to grow as an individual
and evolve as a couple. But one thing is agreement and another is commitment.
You have the right to disagree, but not to force the other to
behave the way you want. If you force it, demand or manipulate it,
it will never work and, if telling it the truth is too unbearable.
You shouldn' t be with that couple either. Don' t be
stubborn move on to something else butterfly, clean. Dirty rags at least once
a week. The first big deal is to come to a pact with your
partner about when, where and how you are going to communicate consciously already,
just as you make a washing machine from time to time. To wash your
clothes, you need to mount an emotional laundromat. From time to time,
to keep your relationship clean the dirty rags, you have to wash them at
least once a week. Set a time and place where you can talk about
what really matters to stay on Sundays to eat alone in a restaurant that you
both like. It' s a great time to share, as you feel
about each other. Things never have to be talked about hot. Discussing is
a waste of time. It is essential to postpone these conversations until the moods
are calm to talk about certain issues. It is essential to be calm and
relaxed. By planning these types of meetings, you create a framework in which
you can talk about the relationship with more perspective. This allows you to adopt
a more flexible attitude to your partner' s comments and approaches. It is
very good to respect the word shift and not interrupt either fall into the error
of confronting their ignorance. If you still think you can change your partner,
you just don' t understand anything. When you talk maturely, you go
smoothing out roughnesses and establishing agreements on a voluntary basis and with them appear commitment,
stability and satisfaction. Interestingly, each negotiation contains a paradox. If you
give in you win, you gain in spiritual development, that is, in
humility, tolerance, detachment and other virtues. And if you put your partner
' s needs before yours grow, you grow in love, well- being
and happiness, try ers and then tell me. If you' re a
man, learn to listen? If you' re a man, it'
s probably hard for you to listen. It' s no stereotype, it
' s just the truth. Because of your male sexual essence, every time
your wife talks to you about her problems. At the moment you interrupt her
trying to fix her mood, her emotional openness. It makes you uncomfortable.
That' s why you' re immediately trying to give him solutions that put
an end to the matter. However, acting in this way only complicates things.
Deep down, she' s just looking to vent. He manifests his
feelings to intimate with you ironically. The more you listen to him, the
more likely you are to be tense and when you are tense, it is
not you who speaks, but the ego. When speaking altered your tone of
voice is also altered by adopting an offensive attitude. This is why your partner
tends to get defensive. The big challenge for the masculine is to learn to
listen empathically the next time your wife starts, to share her insecurities and worries,
to limit yourself, to validate and respect her emotions, instead of looking
at her as a broken carburetor who needs to be fixed watch her, like
a flower that needs to be watered with love, that she tells you,
that she is not comfortable with her boss. It' s not a problem,
it' s a passing mood. It has a beginning and an end,
but it has no solution. The best thing you can do is to
accompany her in the process. First, listen to her with all your attention
and, when you feel that she has ventilated, hug her look her in
the eye, tell her that you want to kiss her tenderly make her laugh
as long as she feels supported and loved by you is that onoto will evaporate
naturally. Then she will thank you and you will feel that there is no
reason, for you have done nothing. If you' re a woman,
learn to trust. If you' re a woman, it' s probably
hard for you to trust. It' s not a prejudice, it'
s a reality. Because of your feminine sexual essence, when your partner is
faced with adversity, you take it for granted that he or she will appreciate
all the help you can give him or her. That' s why you
tend to give him advice that he doesn' t ask you at heart,
because you like to control things. Uncertainty makes you nervous. By doing so,
man feels that you do not trust his ability to overcome obstacles that may
arise along the way. Next time you see him worried about not achieving one
of his goals. Leave him alone, don' t tell him what to
do. Accept the situation by remaining silent and trusting that you will be able
to achieve it on your own. Getting lost behind the wheel of the car
is not a problem, it is a challenge, an opportunity to prove its
worth. He thinks men are very susceptible in this regard. That' s
why your well- intentioned comments are often taken as judgments and criticisms. Let
me explain it to you by a very nice analogy. There' s a
kind of dance called swim. In it, the masculine dances with the feminine,
establishing a connection so deep that there comes a time when neither of the
two dancers knows where one begins and where the other ends. They become the
dance. Well, the first day you go to a swin class you learn
a very valuable lesson to understand partner relationships, that the man is the leader
and the woman the follower, that is, that the masculine must safely lead
the steps and movements, while the woman let go of control, letting herself
be carried away by her dance partner. In this way, the two put
the best of themselves at the service of the other. This is how you
both enjoy the dance of life much more. Seventeen sexuality. Conscious reflections to
reinvent sex and sexuality. Become a tantric lover. It does not matter the
degree of commitment or intimacy, nor sexual orientation. More and more lovers and
couples both heterosexual and homosexual are transforming their way of living sexuality so that sexual
desire and passion are deeper and longer lasting. If that' s your case,
beyond getting pleasure in your heart, the need to regain the sacred value
of feeling united with your partner beats. Proof of this emerging need is the
rise of tantra in society. Beyond her sexual connotation. This word means expansion
and represents a whole philosophy of life. Its origin is found in a series
of Hindu books that describe certain rites and disciplines aimed at living sexuality consciously,
among other existential issues. These texts were written more than two thousand years ago
in the form of dialogue between the god chive and the goddess sacti, which
symbolize the masculine and the feminine respectively. From the tantric perspective, sex is
he who tells you that it allows you to merge with your partner, becoming
one with her, and it is precisely the experience of this unity that fills
you with bliss, renewing your vital energy and enhancing the affective bond with your
sentimental companion. The practice of tantra consists in abandoning any goal imposed by the
mind, learning to be more connected to your body during the sexual act.
In fact, it proposes to change language with the aim of sacralising the union
between male and female sexual energy, honoring and dignifying sexuality. For example,
the penis is called Lingham, which means light rod, and the vagina Johnny,
which means sacred space sound better than cock and pussy. No, what
' s going on with your partner to make love? Unlike conventional sex,
in which impulse and spontaneity are overrated, the so intent to carefully prepare your
sexual encounters employs your imagination and creativity to turn your bedroom into an authentic temple
of love. You don' t have any trouble putting on soft music and
lighting some candles. Another aspect to be taken into account is the length of
the sexual act. It is not a question of demonizing the fleeting outbursts known
as kikis, in which the man ends when the woman has not yet begun.
However, conscious sex requires a space, rhythm and time of life finished
look at it as a gift that you and your partner make each other.
It' s a time to forget about the world by connecting and feeling each
other. Really, because of female sexuality, preliminary games are essential that you
have to remember. It shows how masculinized contemporary sex remains. Anyway, to
entertain your partner with a relaxing massage can be a good start to not be
again victims of coitocracy. You have to learn to put awareness in your breath,
especially if you are a man, the shorter and faster, the more
slave you are to the impulses that move you to culminate the sexual act through
orgasm. Instead, the deeper and more relaxed, the greater your control and
ability to enjoy the immense range of sensations offered by sex. It is not
a matter of going to beat any record, but of having enough time for
sex to renew you physically and spiritually. The purpose of conscious sex is not
to achieve orgasm, but to experience ecstasy. Prioritizes quality versus quantity. Don
' t doubt it. Fucking conscientiously what it means to you to be romantic.
Romanticism has two very different meanings depending on whether you are a man or
a woman. For the female sexual essence consists of something similar to this dine
with the couple outdoors at night in the light of the stars, with slow
music background, drinking a good wine and having a pleasant conversation while enjoying a
tasty meal so that this event is perfect. If you' re a man,
you can' t expect her to organize it. Asking her where she
wants to go to dinner can be offensive to them. Indirectly you' re
telling her that you don' t take the trouble of turning it on so
that the woman, the women radiant you, has to be able to relax
in her liberal femininity, to be in charge. You set up the plan
to surprise her by reserving a table in a new place she likes. If
you want her to spread her legs for you, you have to open your
heart first. For her have at least one detail. Every week, any
nonsense that starts a smile on her, prepare her breakfast, steal a kiss,
go get her at work. The important thing is that these acts show
how much you care and think about it. Instead, for male sexual essence,
romanticism is something much simpler. Forget about a dinner under the stars.
For the man there is no greater romantic act than a good blowjob that you
dress in lingerie, sexy and expect him in bed, ready and eager to
make love with him, and also that you are flexible and respectful every time
you decide to go to his cave or stay with his friends. The more
romantic a man shows himself in the way of a woman, the more romantic
she becomes. According to man' s preferences, one becomes more detailed and
the other much more feline. If you impose monogamy, you will end up
being unfaithful, but not scandalized. Most couples are unfaithful and it is not
for the least monogamy is unnatural. The legal imperative of fidelity is doomed to
failure. The obligation has nothing to do with commitment. Imposing monogamy often results
in deception and betrayal. Imagine that your favorite dish is spaghetti bolognese. What
if you felt forced to eat them for breakfast at noon and also for dinner
every day for years over time you would end up fed up, losing the
taste and pleasure of eating. Imagine, moreover, that during that time you
can' t eat other foods either. The rest of the dishes are forbidden.
Such repression would generate a greater desire to eat anything. This is what
is happening today. I' m not saying that you have to give up
your favorite dish, but consider the possibility of varying from time to time.
Interestingly, some people prefer their partner to be unfaithful to pose sexual freedom within
their relationship even though it hurts the ego. Men and women are free to
taste the food they want free from morale and guilt. Dare to look your
partner in the eye and keep these kinds of awkward conversations. Dialogad reached agreements
and establish commitments based on your true nature. The paradox is that the day
you allow yourself to be free to be with other people, little by little,
the pressure rods will disappear. There with her also desire and promiscuity.
Suddenly you' ll see yourself making use of your sexual freedom. With maturity
and wisdom and who knows. You may even embrace monogamy voluntarily, enjoying sex
more than ever eighteen of the fine print of parenthood. Which nobody tells you
about having kids. Having a child is the most challenging experience in life.
The experience of motherhood and parenthood is undoubtedly the most beautiful of life, but
also the most exhausting and challenging, especially during the early years. Hence,
before you bring a baby into the world, you better be very well prepared
and well informed, if you are already a couple, it often gives rise
to many problems. By the time you go from two to three, conflicts
multiply. The children do not unite the couples or make them happier rather they
uncover the truths hidden under the carpet on which your partner and you have built
your home. To begin with, you' re going to witness the egos
of your social and family environment revolutionizing now that you' re going to be
a parent at the very moment you give them the news, you discover that
everyone else is experts in education and parenthood, and you don' t imagine
how many tips you' re going to receive on how to live this crucial
event, many of them totally contradictory. And it' s that, since
every baby is unique and every couple is different, you' ll have no
choice but to learn through your own experience, one thing is what you think
parenthood is and another infinitely different what it really means to be a parent.
It is impossible to know in advance how much the arrival of your first child
is going to change your life and what to say about childbirth seeing live and
live, as a tiny human being of red and purple color, full of
blood and mucosa protrudes from the inside of the woman. It is a magical
half experience, half gore and completely impossible to forget, my mother, the
amount of new smells, colors and sounds that you will begin to experience get
ready to flirt with your family budget. As soon as the baby is born,
you find yourself holding in your arms an innocent and fragile tender thing.
However, following protocol and tradition for three days you will have to deal with
hordes of family members filling the hospital room with noise and gifts, which is
sometimes more exhausting than childbirth itself. I recommend that you remember that all these
people have the best intentions. Very few realize that, in reality, what
you need most is to be alone with your partner and your child, who
truly loves you and respects you will have the decency to call you or describe
a whatsapp and will come to you when you are already installed at home for
or or or another side, it is worth having older brothers from whom to
inherit or have a well- muffed mattress, since the disbursement you must make
to face the first year is around five zero euros. This amount includes the
crib, the cart, the car seat, the ropit, the nursery,
the papillae, the diapers, the cleansing wipes, the pacifiers, the medicines,
the cremites, the premama clothes and the breast- feeding bras. I
hate to tell you that this budget does not contemplate luxuries such as the bath,
the changer, the furniture for the room, toys, books, the
babysitter, the nursery, or the vitamin supplements so as not to despair you.
Think of these expenses as a good investment and while you get to the
idea, assume that you won' t have sex for a season as a
couple, you have to spend forty days of sexual quarantine. If you'
re a man, you' ll have to settle for your right hand,
and if you' re lucky, you might even count on your wife'
s mouth. If that' s the case, you' ll have to
fight for their breasts. Children get the worst and the best out of you.
It' s impossible to remedy it. The baby makes you dad and
mom, burying the man and the woman underneath. This new role brings you
to know aspects of IT itself that you didn' t know about when touching
your lifestyle. In many cases, the accumulated tiredness causes your darker and darker
side to flourish, revealing the kind of person you are. It is no
coincidence that during the first three years, since the arrival of the first child,
there have been so many separations. Suddenly you realize who you' ve
married. It is impossible for a couple to survive unless they cultivate communication,
complicity, empathy, flexibility, patience, respect and generosity. If you have
a mother or mother- in- law, I hope you have a good
relationship to ask for help without paying any emotional tolls. In return, it
is essential that you devote time and space to your partner and also to yourself.
If you don' t, you' ll literally go crazy, you
' ll end up exhausted and deranged going through life like a zombie or worse,
paying your bad milk to your son because he doesn' t behave like
you. You need him to behave so you can have an instant of peace
and tranquility. From here he sent a hug full of energy to those parents
who have and can not afford any outside help. The truth is that the
money invested in someone who lovingly can take care of your children for a few
hours a day. It' s the best money invested. It allows you
to devote quality time to your offspring to enjoy them. Really. It'
s not about outsourcing parenthood, leaving your child in the hands of a babysitter
24 hours a day, but about finding a way to find balance. Do
not make the mistake of feeling guilty if you temporarily separate from your children,
forget about sleeping for several years. Babies are adorable creatures, but since they
can' t fend for themselves right away, they stick to mom' s
affection and dad' s safety by living in survival mode. They are very
dependent and demanding and so self- centered that they see no one but themselves.
They need 100% of your attention. They don' t settle for
less. If the woman decides to breastfeed, the babies will get hooked to
her boob for an average of six hours a day. Not in vain.
We have to feed him every three hours. You also have to clean your
ass and change your diaper about seven times a day, as well as put
it on and take your clothes off and bathe you Mimos play with it and
be next to it at all times so that you don' t feel alone
and don' t get hurt. I' m telling you in a cute,
cute way so you don' t shit on yourself and hope that'
s not all. When they start crawling, they go through a stage where
they look for a way to kill themselves. Every five minutes I leave the
worst for the end. The vast majority of babies wake up a couple of
times every night to some many more using their loud cry as a means of
communication. There are nights that seem to be subjecting you to Chinese torture in
general. They cry because it hurts to get their teeth out, because they
have a fever, or because their diapers have been overflowed by the pee or
poop. Some people tell you that it is best to let them squeal for
a while so that they learn the habit of falling asleep for themselves and others,
instead, propose to put them in your bed so that they feel comforted
by the warmth it gives them. Feel close to deciding what you decide,
make you draw strength from wherever and not pay for your bad mood with your
partner, avoiding falling into the tyranny of reproaches and from it you stop being
the most important thing of your life. To be a father means to annihilate
your debauchery. You can' t do what you want to do anymore.
You can' t be your priority anymore You' re responsible for keeping another
human being alive. You have to adapt to your son' s schedule,
who becomes your boss the next of your life. And since someone has to
be around the creature 24 hours a day sooner or later, decisions have to
be made. As a couple. You can allow one of the two to
stop working, count on the daily help of the grandparents, hire a babysitter
on a fixed basis, take him to the nursery. If you choose this
last option, you' ll most likely be returned to your child within three
days of some partner' s virus infection and believe me. You don'
t want to be in that situation. To take care of your sick son,
to be the master of his pain and feeling powerless for not being able
to cure him. It' s a challenge to the ego. In addition,
you and your partner are likely to become ill, making it difficult for
you to take care of your child' s needs without disturbing yourself. It
' s an energy odyssey you' ve just been wrecked and as for the
weekends, forget about going to the movies, doing sports or reading a book.
Your new hobby is called fathering. Unless you have friends with children,
you will feel the need to make new friends by getting out of your social
comfort zone. The couple needs air and movement. Sharing this experience with real
friends makes a difference in community. The energy consumed by children is distributed and
diluted. Everyone takes responsibility for everyone and, paradoxically, everyone feels a little
more free. For example, being in a garden chatting while children play in
a safe environment is simply a delight. Being a parent is crossing an unconditional
love master' s degree. Be very careful that you don' t get
the same thing. Fear and ignorance cause many people, by having children,
to become neurotic. In fact, there is a widespread tendency to become perfect
parents, falling into the grip of the very dangerous overprotection. However, it
is impossible to prevent your children from coming into contact with pain. Babies suffer
from all kinds of diseases. They experience different levels of fever, fall to
the ground, beat and paint the diaper with different colors and textures. They
often cry because they don' t understand why what happens to them. But
as much as you read books about parenthood, you will surely fall into the
hazing of going to the emergency room late in the morning for turning a granite
of sand into a huge castle like the mother or father. The best gift
you can offer your baby is to share with him your emotional well- being,
stop with so many organic products. Your happiness is the best food you
can give him. The truth is that your balance and serenity give you confidence
and security. He doesn' t want any more toys, but more attention
from there than before you started taking care of him, you should have taken
care of yourself. First, exercising the role of father or mother implies enrolling
in an unconditional love master' s degree. There may be no grades,
but there are daily exams to pass and overcome the challenges of having a child.
You have to understand that now the important thing is no longer you,
but what happens through you in the service of your child. Thus, loving
means turning their needs into your real priorities. And while this statement is easy
to say, it gives for a lifetime of learning, good journey nineteen,
almost always happy and perhaps forever decalogue of conscious couples. One. I'
m responsible for my happiness, not yours. You' re responsible for your
happiness, not mine. Two. I' m responsible for my suffering,
not yours. You are responsible for your suffering, not mine. Three.
I consciously choose You and you consciously choose Me. Nobody forces us to be
together. We do it because we want to. Four. I know myself
through YOU and you know You through me. Our relationship is a game of
mirrors and projections where we are reflected. Five, I learn from you and
you learn from me. We are opposed and complementary. Conflict is what makes
us grow, mature and evolve, developing our full potential. Six, you
don' t complete me, but you complement me. I don' t
complete you, I complement you. We' re not split orange stockings,
we' re whole oranges. Seven. I accept you as you are and
you accept me as I am. I don' t want to change you
and you don' t want to change me. We love each other just
as we are eight. I respect your freedom and you respect my freedom.
We live and let ourselves live honoring our individuality and uniqueness. Nine, I
communicate with you and you communicate with me. We speak with empathy and assertiveness,
reaching agreements and making commitments that benefit each other. Ten. I put
my well- being at the service of the relationship and you put yours.
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