I run ninety- six with two five in the morning. Don Luis Minaya,
good morning, Don Luis, good morning, or had a good time
commenting here, outside the Chamber, outside the microphone, that the temperature has
improved somewhat. Looks like last night' s rain has cooled. Staying yes,
well, right now, when you go up the sun that da hume
is making a cold hair here. We put it to remain that freshness and
we will have more light already, yes, truth, the heat that is.
Yes, yes, yes, waiting for the matter. Yeah,'
cause when they' re scrubbed at the temperature, there' s more lights.
I know more. Or it has to go great. I' m
going to ask you here to read me that blue dot. When they warn
you, the blue settles. Don Luis, ay verde to me I am
varo the men we know red, blue, green yellow and white and black.
Now, a problem before Alberto' s question which is today' s
topic. Yeah, right, yeah, five realities that concern the consultant,
five phenomena, so to speak, what I' m worried about. And
when I mean that I' m worried, it has to do with what
psychologists call casuistics, how frequent, what abounds, what they consult us about,
what one receives, what demands we have. I mean, there'
s five freaks. The first is the compromised mental health of the Dominican people,
of the majority of the people and total that is scary because yes,
to say that they will win such a party they only interview a thousand people.
So if I see fifty people, twenty people with the same subject,
then I can tell I can do something that' s do, something that
' s spread out and has a lot of logic, because statistically that works
and that doesn' t vary exactly. So, in vita that I work
with small, medium, large and corporate companies, then I see the horizontality
of the issue. So, today, what is causing this drastic deterioration of
mental health. Obviously, I have always said here that mental health is a
concept that defines where the person thinks well, feels well and makes good decisions
and, obviously, that he is in perfect health. I love the metaphor
of the ballplayer standing in front of the Piacher. A thousand are mentally healthy
because he stands there in front of assuming his role, which touches him convinced
that he will hit the ball and vote it and he will celebrate and feel
good. So that' s mental health. When you feel perfectly, when
you wake up the day with desire, with strength, with courage, happy
and happy to face the reality, that touches the role that you chose.
But what' s going on right now, what' s going on that
life people are assuming as a life of experience, that is, what the
life of experience means, the life of emotion. What I want to feel
today, what I want to have a good time. I want to have
a good time today and I decide to do what I like today. Then
there is a group of people, especially young people, who now get carried
away from all the information they have and believe they are mature, already have
a lot of information and behave in a way as if they were responsible adults.
So, when you hear them explain the reasons, he says but blessed
be God my expression and where you got that, boy, where you think
that what you' re doing has to do with what you say. So
now we have a life called smar, an easy life, a comfortable life.
Two and two are four, four and two are six, six,
two or eight. And I said give it for yesterday two gift or that
you say so true that the other day I was out there in town and
I had gotten used to driving with the map and I said I' m
going to stop using the map to drive on the routes that I know,
because it was happening to me that they couldn' t get anywhere anymore if
I didn' t mark it on the map. So we have technology that
what I' m doing to you is stunting our ability and there' s
a reality. Oz takes you, but it doesn' t make you enjoy
the trip. The phone makes you talk to people, but not that you
have contact with people. So we' re living an era of something where
I mean, we go from primary relationships, gold- gold kind of relationship
as absurd, which is virtual, which is called hyperreality, that is,
it presents you with an exaggerated, maximized reality and life is not like that.
So, the studies that have been done recently that with the kindness here,
Adriana Valler, there are some Latin American studies that are not identified within
the ten countries with the most mental health problems, but within ten, according
to the Dominican Republic research occupies the first place among the countries of Central America
and the Caribbean, according to the rate of years of life adjusted to disability
by one hundred thousand people, that is, we have a deterioration of mental
health. Why, and I move on to the next point, because a
person who feels bad is because he' s thinking wrong. And a person
who feels bad and thinks bad, as you think he will act bad and
bad, then what does it mean that if you feel that life that experience,
you have to have fun and the tea and travel and fashion. That
pleasant feeling that' s wrong brings you wrong thinking and clear that most of
the decisions you' re going to make are wrong. If life is not
of experience, life is of reality, of what you live in reality a
flight plan, that is to say that it is the experience I go to
the United States and a fantasy like that. That' s called experience,
it' s called memory. What you imagine, but the reality is different.
Everyone who has traveled only counts the beautiful moments, everyone who always studies
asks a person, a mother who opens up her role as a mother and
becomes wonderful by saying what is herbose and that her life changed her. When
the same mothers then ask you tell me what your day was like today with
your terrible children. I' m exploding, I' m exploding. So
that' s wrong. No, what happens is that we are living the
illusion of life that we imagine and want to go back always from emotion is
called life of experience. The second thing that concerns us is rotation, so
much rotation, so many changes in work, that is, how it is
possible. I' m working companies that are fifteen and twenty years old and
when I have to work leaders and employees and here and how old you are
here, six months, the other one year, then what' s going
on. And this would be a question Alberto Tú that you like to question
as much as Juan Luis, José Luis Perales that all his songs are and
how, why, where he falls in love. There' s a question,
a question I' d like to hear. What you want about people
who are unemployed, who have no job, who you want a job or
want to work, work, I want to work, Eduardo, I want
to work, work and what you think is going on. People want a
job, people want a job, so what does work mean, the illusion
that I' m going to get a salary, the illusion that I'
m going to be able, an illusion, a mental image that' s
not bad, because human nature will always do it. The problem is that
what brings satisfaction is not work. What produces or pleasure is working, working,
and then why they rotate because they don' t enjoy working. You
believe that a person who finds work where he has to work, his passion,
what he likes, what he studied, you think he will leave that
place. Of course not, of course it' s not as good as
I am as I am as I get out of the notus I' m
thinking and I get your daughter right, so in five years we' ll
leave you like this, so or with mumps people who like to work hear
the definition of work is work. It' s something I could do for
free. I can do it for free perfectly and I' m going to
enjoy it. But there' s a point. When you work at a
job for what you' re paid for, that has an ugly name for
prostitution, that is, when you do something, not because that gives you
pleasure and you don' t like it simply for what you' re paid
for, for what you get, then you' re prostituted. Then the
question is always but why you have to accept a job that you don'
t enjoy. If in the world there is work for everyone, that is,
everything you dreamed of, what you want clearly, what the answer is.
That' s what came up. Then there' s a subject with
that. So that topic of looking for a job instead of wanting to work.
It is ending a lot of rotation and what is the point to tell
listeners that to achieve promotion in a company from a position of ordinary employee to
managerial levels. You know more or less how many years that takes how many
not less than five and up to ten and more years big. If you
want to rotate fast, then find yourself a median, but you have to
speed up your knowledge. I always ask and you know English. No,
you know how to run a computer, you haven' t done any grad
school. No, then how come you' re going to get fast in
a job to management levels if you' re not ready. But that'
s also what you ask him as a chauffeur' s assistant who' s
screwed up and you want to be a chauffeur, you have a license,
he' s not studying for chauffeurism, not the accounting assistant' s screwed
up. With the job, you finished the race, I didn' t
leave it in half. So how are we going to pretend in this world
to ascend, grow and evolve if we are not preparing. Therefore, human
resources have a hard job of learning to differentiate whether the candidate is looking for
a job or actually wants to work. Third, we are beings in relation
to digitization. As we said, it is destroying and you know why we
live so connected to the cell phone, among other things, because there is
a vital need to relate, to come into contact, to deal in relation,
and it is a basic need. But that need is met only face
to face, not in a virtual way. And what' s going on
with that cell phone. There is a philosopher author who defines him as a
narcissist and autistic narcissist. In fact, there are studies, Don Luis,
who was talking about it a while ago with a person who scrubs with children,
who exists what is called autism syndrome. Induced children who after a few
months, six and seven months beat one on their face, the child abstracts
from the unexact environment and arrives at four or five years old and the child
still doesn' t say niola and the parents then start to worry, they
start to you boy. They don' t have anything. There are no
studies that reveal that this has become a serious problem. Indeed, and that
affects children, young people and adults. He knows two impacts. You have
this and I check this when I' m working coaching, when I'
m working in a personalized way, two phenomena. Young people are losing the
ability to be empathetic, that is, they live a life for themselves,
what it looks like, what I like, what I want. The young
lady is seventeen years old and lives as if she were twenty- seven.
And I also wonder, and that' s my last point, where the
parents are. I mean, there' s a n n s NS.
I' m going to say what matters is what makes me feel good.
I' m fine, I' m happy and then you miss that part
of what' s called the empathy of being able to connect with each other
to understand the other. And along with this is terrible the active listening as
well. It' s getting harder every day to find people who listen to
you about your complaint. I had a problem in a workshop and when I
complain, I get something else back and I, that' s why I
didn' t ask. I mean, I went to a workshop recognized for
a small crash I had and decided to paint the entire vehicle and I never
regretted it so much because that was the initiate of an apartment and blessed hour
be God a starting the apartment. But, well, when I' m
going to remove the vehicle, they didn' t paint it. The rearview
mirrors, no, but I did have the vehicle, the vehicle. The
book is like her. Lack of killing kills, that is, the dirty
heart. Well then, Peter, you have to pay, but I kind
of have to pay, but you listed that. He' s a complexing
veingolo. Then don' t listen I' ll go, but you made
the vehicle quote that' s complete. Complete, No, there' s
no way they' ll answer you. No, no, no way.
Because there is also another question forget that I have found it a lot and
it is also a practice that you have to start doing, and it is
to take responsibility for your decisions and for your omissions or mistakes. If it
was my fault, I had the responsibility. I' m going to try
to solve that, et cetera, because you save a lot of conflict.
So now there is also a tendency that everything is a justification. Not that
I didn' t do that because back in California, the sun went down
and it got slow or something, no, because that' s not the
problem. It happened to me with a charge they made me with a card
and I had to call the bank three times, as they wanted me to
pay the car and then we found out and then I had to climb that
to where an executive that that friend, she had to intervene so that whoever
had to solve the problem would take responsibility for the guarantee given by the banks
when there are unrecognized charges, that the bank has a process of investigation,
claim, etcetera. Not that you, as an agent, are going to
say no look here. Call a lot for that cow that happens a lot
and I can you make that claim, which is what they told me the
summary. Sure, yeah, there' s when you make a mistake everything.
That person who explains or justifies a mistake in the background is always telling
you to make a mistake and can justify it. I stopped it. When
you make a mistake, you just say sorry, period. You don'
t have to say anything else. I' m sorry, I' m
sorry, it won' t happen again. Then that part of empathy and
active listening. They are two essential tools for parents, essential for managers,
essential for leaders and, above all and in an extraordinary way, for service
people, the customer who you complain about something and answer you something else.
But what I' m saying is this. This then becomes the smartphol,
the phones and those things, as they are contributing more and more to that
phenomenon. Why, because you have to say to what you spend daily time
knows what is the message that the brain receives, that what you are doing
has to keep it, that you have to save it is how I accept
them the computer that you write to you and the computer assumes it, you
know what depression is, a heart that wakes up a sad day, is
sad. The brain assumes that that emotional state is the normality of that Christian.
Then the brain gets that and you' re depressed. That' s
why we have to send him to the psychiatrist and they don' t understand
that when something went to your brain, it' s already a biochemistry issue
and the drugs that do that. So, if you tell the everyday brain
connected to the brain and you don' t have to understand or understand anything,
but enjoy that Tiktok madness and all that stuff they put in there,
the brain is understanding that when you have to interact with a human then it
' s going to be the same you' re going to be watching IT,
that is, you' re going to be listening to IT. You
' re so right what you' re saying, don Luis, that with
dating apps, they' re very fashionable. Now, there are studies that
have revealed the decline of such applications, because younger generations have realized that everything
is a total fiasco, of course, and have decided to abandon them,
because when you meet someone for an application of this, there is a total
inability to establish an effective emotional connection. In most real names it is called
hyper reality, which is to exaggerate, obviously, and people who are looking
for experience clearly that it will fall. Don Luis Mira They write here to
a comment one of our listeners in Tiktok' s comment box and says the
Twitte of Twitch Says Don Luis. We appreciate these issues. In my case
I' ve been working remote for a year. I' m a twenty
- three- year- old full I was a supervisor of a team of
fifty people in the past time and one thing that I miss is physical contact
with people at home. At first it was strong. They' re going
around the house. Then I adapted and began to enjoy myself. Now he
listens to the program and starts the day in a different way and says they
are a little more relaxed. Now he continues to say that for a year
now mental health in young people and in tone of work is the most important
thing, he says from his experience. Yes, and according to purpose how
good the comment, because there is a phenomenon. There are people whose personality
is low in interpersonal relationships. It feels good, it just likes to be
alone and what you think If that person is put to work remote, he
will be happy, because that is his comfort zone, but he does not
realize that he is working to the detriment of himself, because human nature exac
is segregating and is relational. There is nothing listen well in this world that
produces more square being in terms of relationship of a good conversation and look can
be with water, with lemonade, with wine, with tequila or with hui.
If I have testimony of all things, as I have with five cases
of double beer, I gird a blessed man. God be good, I
didn' t come in. I' m fine and it has to be
before lunch or hot. So not three boxes to three boxes and he'
s alive. You have to go look for someone you have to be young
for some kidney transplant or something from him. Then you have to be careful.
People who are highly relational if they put him to work remote, he
' s going to end up sick. What' s the matter? And
there' s that we have a weakness to psychologists that you can keep doing
exactly what you' re doing and you' re not going to feel anything.
That' s gonna come out when he' s older and he'
s not gonna remember where that came from anymore. The fourth thing that worries
is young entrepreneurs excellent entrepreneurs in the aspects they dominate, but they think they
know everything. So look at an entrepreneur is a person who has a more
prominent one of the values that he has and is that ability to make a
reality, to put into practice an idea, a dream, that' s
his great skill to number one. I mean, they dream they have an
idea that I' m going to do this, believe it and put it
into practice. But blessed be God, you know about accounting system, you
know about financial system, you know about organization management. No, so now
there' s a very big phenomenon going on. Above all, the main
concern is to violate economic principles, to violate financial principles, debt capacity,
inventory rotation, cast flow, movement of entry and exit and above all working
capital. There are people who have brilliant ideas and have no money and want
to throw themselves. They start renting apartments, they start buying equipment and then,
when they come to see, they have a problem. When you hear
them and say good, but here you had capital, you didn' t
have a contract. No, then how you buy cash to sell on credit,
what' s the rotation you need. Then look to undertake is the
closest thing to marriage, to the marriage of the last century from which I
came where there was a stage of falling in love, of knowledge of courtesies,
which was where you found out who you were going to marry, the
family, etcetera, etcetera, and look at the best, the best time
to save a marriage. That' s courtship, that' s the best
time, ideal, perfect. If many of the boyfriends went to therapy consult
before getting married. And obviously, my first principle is boyfriends aren' t
given therapy. There' s too much man on the loose and too many
women on the loose. Perfect and suitable for you don' t invent,
because that' s why it' s courtship. I mean, you have
to explore. You don' t have any commitments, you don' t
have any obligations. You have no compelling reason to take the next step.
The complication is in the entrepreneur. If an entrepreneur visits a consultant or someone,
a friend, an entrepreneur before starting, he will avoid many drawbacks,
especially of an economic type and especially when societies are invented than societies. We
talked a lot about that here last year. Societies are complicated and their prognosis
is never very good in terms of statistics. So entrepreneurs do not violate rules
and principles. If your business has a financial basis, find yourself an advisor
to give you one or two internal controls cash handling consultation. How, what
is my debt capacity, how do I determine how far I can get involved
in debt and have to do it. The best example of investing or borrowing
is the bank. Banks are experts, because what makes them plant the money,
they put it to production. So if you' re going to take
a prisoner, take a loan, assume that you' re going to put
it, produce it and produce so much to pay off the debt and to
keep you with something. If not, investing or borrowing is a problem.
And the last point is that we are getting more and more dangerously away from
the natural laws that govern men and women. We are destroying the family,
we are destroying the institutions that have always strengthened look at the only place,
the only factory of human beings is called family. The family is the oven
where it is cooked, where bread is prepared to come out. Family is
the place where you learn, as my dad and dad always told me,
the house is that you learn to be people, to have where person,
to learn values, because where more values are learned from zero to three and
from three to seven, then where, what happens? That' s in
the house, so the family is getting more and more, boy, getting
lost more and more, because now the reality of the world is experience.
I want to put on a TV show and they put it as they understand
and as they want. How you' re going to be dressed doesn'
t matter, whatever you want, God will provide what we' re going
to talk about, what you think of at the moment. I' m
gonna do a show. Then we have a reality that is being violated today
and we are messing with nature by taking it to the rivers, all the
atmospheric phenomena that, if you well, you must know that one of the
risks greater than twenty- four are climatic problems that are already being seen in
the United States and worldwide, because with human beings many norms are being violated,
many rules that are natural, that are human. Then we must return
to the subject of values. What' s my advice? Finally, look
at science, science, the professionals we follow, the ethics and morals of
what we do. What we know are the laws that laugh at what is
expert, a doctor, a surgeon, a cardiologist, in how the heart
works, at the age you have, with the sex you have, with
the weight. Then you' re going to invent take away what luis iologist
says, I tell myself I know all are effects. He' s late
for the practice. It' s just that they slept too late. Or
yes, then the psychologist or you profess it we are all experts in knowing
human nature. We don' t make it up. Every time a client
tells me that you recommend me, no, I don' t recommend.
I describe your reality and tell you what' s going to happen to A.
B and C. And you choose. As far as you' re
saying, Albert, you have to be responsible, saber, I can keep
on evading. It' s your subject, but you know that' s
called it. For example, like someone good who made a video told me.
When I started eating, I wasn' t easy, I mean,
my style was hard and I just said good. You say you want to
keep employees, because that style you have doesn' t keep employees. You
decide not. I want to change. Then we' re going to change,
because, as you said, you travel alone, that' s me
I don' t necessarily have to want what you want. Not even recommending
you. Not because it' s you who' s going to make the
trip. I describe to you the reality and, in fact, the reality
of everyone is not a universal reality. That' s where things differ,
because everyone has to have, for example, in a company, a software,
but how much a software costs what you can afford. There' s
a software that counts forty thousand dollars, there' s one that counts one
hundred thousand dollars and there' s one that counts five hundred pesos. Then
you have to choose the one you want. So my recommendation is stop inventing.
There' s science for everything. It' s going to make you
a biscocho and there' s a rule to do bico and you' re
going to put up a business for whatever it is you think of. You
know if it' s not like that to a cup of flour, throw
a half of the powder on it and tell me exactly how it' s
going. Then chocolate. They have that' s the final message. We
have to go back, that is, to values, we have to move
away from that life experience of appearance. I once remember with the subject of
experience, because the luxury cart is actually, it is not a reality,
it is an experience. Then on one occasion it was my turn to bring
my brother' s pipe, I, who had my side. I'
m sorry I' m getting ready today they gave me a license to drive
trucks like those sides and I came in their jipette to bring her here to
Santo Domingo and I say, but well, what' s the difference,
because I feel good in this vehicle, but I don' t see what
' s the feeling that I' m feeling so big that I have this
vehicle. Of course, it' s more comfortable than this, but I
don' t feel that big difference like riding a bike and being sent in
a vehicle. Then sometimes you change, sometimes you' re in a clear
restaurant and I' m in another. But what' s the good point?
Then you have to kind of land a little and not get carried away
from wanting to have extraordinary sensations and spend so much and rent and pawn your
life thinking that that extraordinary experience is life, not life is a little simpler,
simpler. Thank you to Don Luis Ninay, I, Luis Naya Ponto
Coni and my Naya Rayita under him we listen and we see him. Don
Luis, next week. That' s right.