I've had too much coffee this morning. I got the jitters. I needed
clonupin. You ever take klonopin, No, I don't know what it is.
Klonopin is an anti anxiety drug and yeah, and it is powerful.
I took it years ago for a very short time and my doctor said,
you know what, you don't have to take a whole tablet. This is
a little green tablet, average tablet size, and they said, break it
into quarters. Take a quarter. If that doesn't do anything, then take
another quarter. But and I did it. But you could feel the klonopin
work. You could feel the moment that it started working because there was something
that it shut off in your brain. And it was surreal. And it's
funny because I know that you can become addicted to klonopin, and I took
it as needed and I'm so I'm not afraid of getting addicted to anything because
I don't take anything that's addictive. But I was very careful, like I
didn't want to take klonopin because I didn't want to get addicted. But the
sensation and I'm not endorsing it, don't get me wrong. I'm just saying,
hey, it works if you got anxiety, talked to your doctor about
clon Upon. Possibly, But at the same time, it's addictive because it
takes your anxiety and makes that part of your brain that is anxious go bye
bye. Yeah, I've still got clon Upon home in my drawer that's probably
ten years old, and I save it in case I need it, But
I've never I've been taking it in ten years. Yeah. I had been
prescribed something when I was in college also, and it wasn't that. And
honestly it was the same where it was like, take it when you're feeling
super anxious, and it did nothing for me. Really, it had no
effect. No, But I really don't think it was anything strong, Like
I don't think my doctor at the time realized how bad my anxiety was,
Okay, super bad my senior year of college. So was it the fact,
I don't want to interrupt, was it was it based on a situation
or was it unexplainable? It was unexplainable anxiety. So, I mean,
I'm sure there were like multiple things happening in my life, but it was
a very unexplainable anxiety, which is like the worst kind for for the way
that my brain works like, I can't understand why I'll feel that way when
it comes out of nowhere. So yeah, I took a couple of them
here and there hoping that they would work, and it never did anything for
me. So for the longest time, I was always like kind of for
me, anti taking any kind of medicine for anxiety. But like that,
my mind has changed about that so drastically since then, because I still don't
take any medication for it. But I have had so many friends who have
gotten on different kinds of medication and it's done wonders for them. So I
think if I ever experienced really bad anxiety again in the future, I would
definitely consider going on something. Hey, there's something to write in about them.
And if you're on an anti anxiety medication, let us know we're a
little short on emails today, but if you want to write something tomorrow about
anti anxiety medication, there's short term stuff like klonopin that I think you're on
kind of as needed, and then there's stuff that you take I'm going to
guess daily the just kind of stays in your system that helps with anxiety.
Mine was based on a real situation that was very anxiety inducing, But after
that kind of got better. I'd be just standing in the kitchen and I'd
be like, oh huh man, and not panic attack for sure, but
just like an anxiety feeling that just would pop up and you try to walk
your way. I'd pace around the house in circles and I would like breathe,
and it was just it would get better after time. But I never
wanted to go back to the clonupin and be reliant on clonupin. How many
times can I say clonapin in one podcast? As many as you want.
We're talking about mental health, to go for it. So if you know
anything about that, maybe there's something that works for you. Or maybe can
I tell you something I heard that was really profound and I saw it either
on TikTok or I saw it. This is gonna stick with you. I
want you to remember this part of the podcast if nothing else. It was
something on Instagram and it was a doctor who said, here's what you do
to calm your mind. You're ready, Yeah, think what will my next
thought be? So while you're laying there in bed thinking about all this shit
at work and a relationship and finances and kids, and whatever, think what
will my next thought be? Okay, and as you think that, you
will notice And it said in all the comments on this instagram if it was
an Instagram, it's like, Wow, for the first time in a long
time, my mind shut down and I didn't think about stuff because I followed
the loop of what will my next thought be? And you can try it
right now if you want to. Probably not the best for us to try
it right now, but I tried it the other night going to sleep,
and before I knew it, I was asleep. And I don't know that
it's one of those things that works for a little while, or works for
some people and not others. But try that if you're trying to go to
sleep, or you're trying to call him your mind and you're sitting in traffic,
or you're sitting there and you know your cube or whatever, think what
will my next thought be? And as you think that, then think what
will my next thought be? And it turns out to put your mind on
a loop of thinking about nothing except what your next thought will be. Yeah,
I feel like I've done something similar when I haven't been able to sleep
at night, where I'm like trying to think about thinking that I'm sleeping or
something like that. I don't know. It is like a thing where I'm
like to turn your brain off stop thinking about you're thinking, now think about
sleeping. Stead So I am thinking about another thought. But then aren't you
in a constant circle of thinking of another thought in your brain's not turning off
on it. It didn't work that way for me. I mean, try
it when you're like not being stimulated by work and lights and me talking and
the radio and that type of thing, and let me know if it works
for you. I had heard for a long time concentrate on your breathing shut
your thoughts off by concentrated on your breathing. My problem with that was now
I concentrate on my throat, my nose, and I feel like itchy,
tingly, and then I'm like, then I need a drink of water.
Then I lay back down. Now I'm stimulated by the drink of water.
So then I think about my breathing. And so that sometimes works, but
sometimes doesn't. But anyway, what will my next thought be? Here is
an email from somebody I will keep their anonymous the anonymous. It's an interesting
question, they say, I've been dating my girlfriend since July of twenty twenty
two. We moved in together in May of twenty twenty three, so three
or four months ago. Over the last several months, I've been gotten in
a lot of heat that I need to propose to her, first from my
family, now from her. Don't get me wrong, I do want to
marry her, but buying an engagement ring is not a quick purchase. I
want to save up for a decent ring. I'm thirty, my girlfriend's thirty
six. I think the biggest reason that she wants to get engaged is because
of her age. She's thirty six. She says she wants to get married
before forty. She's also thinking of her parents, who have some minor health
issues but are relatively healthy in their mid sixties. I do know I tend
to procrastinate out on big decisions. My thoughts are, it doesn't really matter
what age we are engaged or married. We have the rest of our lives
to spend together. This year and last year, we've taken a trip with
friends to the Black Hills during Labor Day weekend. My plan would be I
hope she doesn't hear this to propose during our trip Labor Day twenty twenty four.
It's a special place for us, and we would be surrounded by friends
too. Do you think that is too long to wait? By the way,
PS, I'm a relatively new listener of your show. I've been a
diehard Kathan listener for years, but I've started listening to your show about a
month ago. Thank you. Now, I don't miss a day of listening
to your show, whether live or podcasted. Okay, let's back up.
You only have been dating for a year and then you moved in together three
months ago. Yes, I think that what you might be hearing is some
yes and pressure from her. But I think one thing that happens when you're
dating, people make done dumb conversational comments like hey, when you two gonna
get married? When you two gonna get married? When you get married,
they go, when you're gonna have a baby? Okay, when are you
you have a baby? When are you two going to have another baby?
So I think that is that people's awkward way of starting the conversation. Like
when you meet a third grader, you go how old are you now?
What year you're going to go into school? Like I'll meet kids at the
state fair this year, and I'll say, like, what year you're going
into school? Because I don't know what else to say. Sometimes who I'm
going into fourth grade? So I think it's just people making conversation. Maybe
not, because that's short of a dating history. A year just over a
year is short. Yeah, it is. And maybe she's giving you the
pressure. I think that you could even tell her, Hey, we've been
seeing each other for a year. I love you, it's great. I
do want to marry you. I do want to propose, but not right
now. What do you think, Jenny, No, I think that's perfect
what you just said. I mean, I know girls who have kind of
getting given guys like ultimatums where it's like, come on, you got to
propose within the year, like I'm not going to waste my time anymore.
Because so many girls do think about their biological clock, and especially since your
girlfriend is thirty six years old, that's probably so important to her if you
guys are planning on having kids. Ye, So I can understand where she
might be putting that pressure on at this point, because you guys seem to
like each other enough to move in with each other within a year, So
at that point she probably thinks like we're good, We've we've picked each other,
we're gonna be together, like let's get engaged and stuff. But other
people see it as a much bigger thing and want to do it on their
own time. So I think you stick to the fact that you're going to
do it next year, next labor day. Should he let her know,
like so she's not like, you know, like upset or sad or angry.
I mean, I'm sure he has let her know that, but I
would say, yeah, you know, make sure you're reassuring her that you
also want to be engaged and it's going to happen, just like you give
me some time, you know, Like, but then there's always the fear
and the other person's head like but how long is that going to be?
And what if you don't propose? And then I just wasted like however many
years? Because I really do think at thirty six years old that your girlfriend
is thinking that, like, I'm scared, I'm gonna waste three years in
my life. You're not going to propose, I'm going to break up with
you. And now I'm thirty nine and I'm really getting out of the age
of being able to have kids at that point, Yeah, your own kids.
I should say that's true. And you know what, I didn't think
about the kids thing. That didn't occur to me. But if she wants
kids, then yeah, that's a factor for sure. I will say that
you are younger than you think. It's like, no matter what age you
are, it's like I'm getting old. I'm twenty five, I'm getting old.
I'm forty, I'm getting old. It's all perspective. Next one says,
thank you for the podcast. My weekly binge on the wet days I
work from home, makes the day more fun. I've heard a few EPs.
I don't know that a few apps. So we'll see with the contact
is talking about kids being lied to about how college will get you a great
job. Oh, episodes, I'll bet that's what it is. Episodes talking
about how kids being lied to about how college will get you a great job
that you'll love and pay you big bucks. It made me think about a
re sent conversation vent session with my sister and some friends. My siblings and
I were very lucky. Our parents paid for college. I got an associate's
degree and she got her bachelor's. I went on to work at a few
jobs, and a few years later she went back for her masters, which
she paid for forty is now we are still paying student loans. She is
still paying student loans. She worked awhile and then decided to get her PhD.
She and her friends were venting because they're paying student loans yet don't own
houses and don't have the great careers they figured they would. I didn't say
a whole lot because I don't have the loans. Remember, her parents paid.
I've been in my current company for a while, working myself up the
ladder to where I can be comfortable and happy. I certainly could be making
more money in my current position if I had a bachelor's degree, but I'm
happy with what it is. I feel bad they're shocked and broke, but
I was also hiding my eye roll and smirk. Thanks for lass love evil
Enjie. Any thoughts on that, Jenny at all? I mean, I
guess if she said her sister right she's talking about so, I guess if
your sister was looking to do some kind of job that did involve having to
get a master's in a PhD, then that's what you do. And then
sometimes you are shocked when you get out of all of the schooling and realize
that your salary is not compensating for all the student loans you just got yourself
in. Because I know a lot of teachers who went and got like a
master's because they have an opportunity to make more money and stuff. But in
the end, getting that extra schooling put them in so much more yet,
but then also you need that degree to be paid higher as a teacher and
stuff. So I don't know, I mean, I get it. I
mean I have I have friends who went to trade schools, and they went
to school for a year, started making so much money right off the bat,
have like no student loans, and then just consistently have made money.
But they aren't able to advance too much more in their career than where they
might be at this point. So hopefully your sister will be able to and
her friends will be able to just keep working up and eventually they can afford
a house and stuff. But I don't know, I mean, I paid
for my college tuition. I remember that life. I worked all the time
throughout my entire twenties, and I never did anything fun because I was always
just putting any money I made towards my student loans because I just never want
to have debts. So I paid my student loans off before I was thirty
and it felt great. But I also did not do a lot of fun
things in my twenties because I had to pay for all these loans. That
is so you though, Jenny, You're such a responsible kind of a person.
I do hear people complain about student loans a lot, and especially when
they're not making the money that they expected to and maybe they're not even the
career field that they got their degree. And I went to a community college
and back then tuition was so cheap. I mean it was like five hundred
dollars for a semester, and my dad paid for it. That was his
rule. He said, if you want to go to college, I will
pay for it, and so I did and it worked out well. The
career field that I did radio and TV shout out Pike's Peak community college.
And but I do feel bad for people who are going through something that I
didn't go through. I never had student loans, I'll be flat out honest.
My kids didn't have student loans. Beth had some, but we had
said we looked at it a few years ago, we said, Beth,
how much is it. We're going to finish paying it off for you,
And it was like ten thousand dollars. So we paid off beths Chase.
His mama was rich, so his mama paid for chass schooling. We paid
for Carson and Allison's. I think the rule was you gotta get good grades.
If you're slacking off, then we're not going to pay for it.
But they all got good grades. Yeah, so next one for mary Anne.
She says, thanks for reading the poopy plane story. I don't care
if it's true or not. It's funnier than shit, no pun intended.
Maybe. Basically the poopy plane story was a story that you can actually look
up online. We read it the other day a couple of weeks ago or
a week ago, about how there was like a Gulf Stream jet and they
run a business trip with a bunch of powerful clients and the person they didn't
say it as a male or female, felt their belly rumbling and they had
to poop at thirty two thousand feet and they said there's no bathroom on the
plane. So they asked the flight attendant, is there a bathroom? And
they said well, not really. There's an emergency toilet and you lifted up
a leather cushion and underneath it was a stainless steel bowl that had never been
pooped on, with a small privacy screen that pooled pulled up about two neck
level, so your head is still poking out, but you can't see your
like body. And they said they had too noisily while making eye contact poop
on the airplane, and we doubted whether it was true because it just sounded
crazy. We did find out that there are airplanes with emergency toilets, because
if you're at thirty thousand feet and you got to go, you ain't going
anytime soon, and so we think it's true. It is funny. They
say Faloni's is probably the best name ever, But how about Jenny's Junkyard for
fallon? Okay? I like that. I actually did put up a poll
on my Instagram. You did good some of the top choices that we're coming
in, So I don't think Jenny's Junkyard was one of the ones. What
is on the poll? Because the background on this one was years ago.
We said, well, let's do stupid criminal stories. And a friend of
mine, Paige Page, said he's like a radio consultant. Page said,
how about falonies, like felonies, but falonies, we said, all brilliant,
perfect, Well, Falon's on the afternoon show, and I don't know
that she even does falonies anymore. I kind of doubt it. Yeah,
I don't think, but we don't have a new name for it. And
people do like the stupid criminal story. So what were your options? Okay,
so there were quite a few, with the top four that I chose
were Jenny's Jail Junkies, Jenny's Jail Birds, Jenny's Jokers, and Jenny's Jurisdiction,
And a lot of people message and they're like, Judge Jenny, why
wouldn't you do Judge Jenny? And I was like, well, we already
do a segment. Yeah, that's called that, like not super often,
so we're not doing that. But I was like from the get go leaning
towards Jenny's Jail Birds. And that is the top percent. It has fifty
eight percent and the next one has like twenty three percent for votes, So
I feel like I like that one the best, and that one, but
that one is pretty good too that they emailed. But I don't know Jenny's
jail burs has always been the one since people sent in suggestions, that was
my top choice. I'll be honest with you, it's totally your choice.
I'm not going to even tell you what I want because I don't I don't
want to influence your vote, but there is definitely one that I like in
there. So whatever you come with, what I'm not telling you and not
tell me no no, not telling you no no. We'll go vote on
my poll, vote on your poll thing you know, and see that what
you vote for right then, I'm not going to do it all right,
go vote. Let us know the Seriously, we need emails, So if
you send emails in either that or we're going to talk about I don't know,
clon upon again tomorrow. So seriously, I would love to hear about
your experience with any kind of like anti anxiety or depression drugs or something that
works or something that doesn't work, or a technique or if you use the
what's my next thought going to be? What's my thanks not going to be
loop? Let me know if that works too, because I'm always curious to
hear what if anything that we say or do on the show resonates with you
so let us know. Send that email to Ryan Show at KDWB dot com.