This is doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to KFI AM six forty the Doctor
Wendy Walsh Show on demand on the iHeartRadio app. This is the time of
the show where I go to my social media, I look at the dms
you send me, and I do my best to answer your relationship questions.
A lot of it is my life wisdom. Some of it is reading the
science of relationships. Reminder, I'm a psychology professor, not a therapist,
but I have a whole lot of opinions on your love life, hardly because
I've had quite a checkered past myself, so I've been in for pretty much
every situation myself. If you'd like to DM me, the handle everywhere is
at doctor Wendy Walsh at Dr Wendy Walsh. Okay, let's go to the
first one. Dear Doctor Wendy, I separated from my husband after twenty four
years of marriage because he was a cheater and a narcissist. Wait a minute,
a cheater and a narciss you're diagnosing him or did a therapist diagnose him?
Because that's a diagnosis. I mean he the cheater thing. Yeah,
you probably knew, but the narcissist. Okay. Now I'm in a long
distance relationship with a super honest and great guy. His only problem is he's
insecure. Should this be a deal breaker? H? Before I answer that
question, I just want to say, somebody on the control room has their
mike. Ope, And because I'm hearing me back in my there we go.
It's gone. Now Okay, his only probably is insecure. So I'm
going to put this into context. If you were attracted to and spend twenty
four years with somebody who you think is a narcissist, you might meet an
actual, kind, caring person and accidentally call that insecure because the thing is
okay, I used to say this. I would meet all those playboys who
are emotionally avoidant and too cool for words and whatever, and then I would
meet a genuinely kind, empathetic and I would find myself saying, why is
he so nice? He must be insecure, he must be less value than
me, low value mate. Or I'd say he's too nice. If you
find yourself thinking that way, it may be because this person is actually secure,
secure enough to give to you and be kind to you, and you're
just not used to it. On the other hand, I'm looking at your
whole DM here. The long disness relationship thing is my issue. Relationships have
to go somewhere. Have you made a plan for when it's going to happen
in the same city, Because a long disness relationship is like a bunch of
series of honeymoons, it's not really You have to get into the day to
day of problem solving and stuff that comes up in life. All right,
Uh okay, let's move on, Dear Doctor Wendy. My girlfriend posts the
most amazing pictures on her social media, especially in the summertime, and she
looks great. However, she gets a lot of male attention and it makes
me so jealous. I want her to save the good stuff for me.
How can I suggest this without being controlling? Well, you can't because it
sounds really controlling. She gets to post whatever she wants. So here's the
deal. Yes, social media is now an advertisement for Hey, look how
hot I am? If you want to date me, I'm out here,
right, So I would be less concerned that she's posting sexy shots to get
backup mates, right guys who are dming her? Hey, you single?
And I would be more concerned about how often she posts about you guys as
a couple, because if it's clear in her social media that she's in a
relationship, then the other dudes are just going to be like, oh man,
she's taken. What a bummer? Right? So I think the barometer
shouldn't be how much sexy picture she's posting of herself. But is she posting
and are you posting that show the world that you are in a couple.
That's what matters. Dear doctor Wendy, I hate it when a guy will
not use a condom, Well you should hate it, or complains about having
to use one. It's a deal breaker for me. I feel like it
shows a lack of respect for me. Is that what it's a sign of?
Or am I just being dramatic. First of all, my favorite billboard
that used to be on Librea Avenue right after you left the ten and you're
heading north to the nightclubs in Hollywood. I actually have a picture of that
billboard and I use it in my Psychology of health counseling class to show my
students that this is a gain framed advertisement. You get something if you do
this behavior, and what it is is a picture of a condom and it
just says love the one you're with. I love that billboard because it says
you got to use a condom, and it's a nice thing to do because
you're loving them, you're a good person, you're going to care about them.
But it also says love the one you're with, meaning, hey,
it might be a hookup, might be just something fun, but be a
good person and use a condom. So, if you are single, if
you are having multiple partners, if you're not in a monogamous relationship, everybody
should be using a condom. Not for birth control. I mean maybe for
birth control too, but for to prevent the transmission of STIs. So.
Yes, it is a lack of respect for you, and you are not
being dramatic. If he will not use a condom, you simply say goodbye.
That's a boundary. It's okay to have boundaries. Deal breaker boundary.
Yep. This is an interesting friendship one I've been I read this on the
break actually, and I was thinking it over in my head. Listen to
this, Dear doctor Wendy, I found out that my best friend of twenty
years secretly hates me. I am so hurt. She told me she never
liked me and is actually jealous of everything I have. I had no idea,
and now I'm scared the rest of my friends might feel this way.
How can you tell if somebody secretly hates you? So, I just want
to say, your best friend, as you refer to her, does not
secretly hate you. I don't know what happened and transpired in your friendship for
her to suddenly say this, right or did she say it? No?
Is this? She told me she never liked me and is actually jealous of
everything I have. She's going through something. She's having an insecure moment.
And at that time when she said to you, you know, never actually
liked you. I'm jealous of everything you have. That will be a time
to revisit the good times, to say, well, really, because you
know, when we went on that vacation together five years ago, it felt
like we were whatever I mean. For her words to turn you into oh
my god, maybe everybody hates me means that you're being insecure. She's actually
going through something, and this is a time to say, hey, what's
up? Am I being insensitive about something? Are you having a hard time
in your life? Come on, you guys invested twenty years in each other.
If you can't have these conversations, then it was a light social relationship.
But you called her your best friend. That tells me you had regular
conversations, right. I think she needs another chance. I think you need
a lot more discussion about this, and I don't think it's over. And
stop worrying about if everybody else seems to hate you, nobody hates you.
Okay, you're a good person. Be a good person, Be a good
friend. Right, how much time do I have? Should I go to
one one more? Or do we have to run a rake? Op?
Ear piece? Is not happening? All right? Let me go to the
next one. Dear doctor Rendy, Oh my gosh, I can't believe what
I'm reading right now. How people can these sentences? So I was stalking
my boyfriend's ex girlfriend. That's what they said. I was stalking my boyfriend's
ex girlfriend. Don't normalize that behavior. That is weird. Anyway. I
watched her Instagram story anonymously. Anonymously What does that mean? You set up
a fake profile to be somebody else so you could go and look at his
ex girlfriend, okay, and saw that she was in his apartment last weekend.
We've been dating a month, and I don't want him to think I'm
crazy. How do I confront him without telling him my secret? Okay,
there's so much to unpack right here. Let's start with why are you stalking
the guy you're dating's ex girlfriend? Secondly, why are you referring to him
as a boyfriend when you've only been seeing him for a number of weeks.
I think you guys need to get my book The Boyfriend Test, which is
a ninety day probation period for a guy. Nobody gets that title girlfriend or
boyfriend until at least ninety days of good behavior. So you're already too far
in, You're already investing too much, and if you are tweaked by potential
jealousy. First of all, people overlap relationships. News flash to everybody out
there, me, everybody else in the world. They start dating, they're
starting to wind up something they're not really sure. I mean, in a
perfect world, wouldn't it be great if everybody had the emotional maturity to go,
Hey, So it's not really working out, but between us and I'd
like to call it quits, and if I meet somebody in the future that
would be great. But I'm just gonna be single for a while, and
then a few weeks later they meet the next person. No, what guys
do, especially because they're so afraid of confrontation they hate female anger. Is
they wean the girl. I'll just call her last caller unless she'll get the
message. No, women do that too. With men, you'll get the
message. So the person is scrambling, they don't know where they stand,
and they're hearing from them less often, and then they meet somebody else.
And so this so called ex girlfriend in her mind might still be the girlfriend,
and he's just weaning her off. And you have no right to tell
him who to see or what to see if you've only been dating a month.
Think about it. Everybody overlaps everybody. Okay, not one hundred percent
everybody, but most people do. Now your question, let me get to
your question. How do I confront him without telling my secret? You do
not confront him. You erase all your fake profiles, You stop letting your
insecurity stalk his ex girlfriends or current girlfriends or whatever, and you hold on
to uncertainty. Uncertainty you quell your anxiety, and you wait and see.
At the beginning of a relationship. You're watching to see how they set sacrifice
for you, how they treat you. You wait and see. You can
do this, but stop the stocking. It's creepy. All right. When
we come back, I got a few more questions. If you'd like to
send a DM to my social media, it is at Dr Wendy Walsh.
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from KFI AM six forty. You know, we change around a few things.
Sometimes we change the gender, we change the name. We want to
protect people as much as possible. But you are welcome to write to me
rebinder. I'm not a therapist. I'm a psychology professor. But I'm a
woman of a certain age who's had all kinds of relationship experience. Think of
me as your wise old auntie. All right, here we go into the
dms. Dear Doctor Wendy, when a man is into you, how often
should he want to see you. I'm dating a man with one full time
time job and no kids. I assume you mean him and I only see
him once a month? Is that normal? Okay? So, first of
all, I have problems with the word normal, because there's no one right
way to have a healthy relationship. But the fact that you are writing to
me and asking me if this is okay tells me that you don't have an
internal, healthy working model for love, meaning you're like, well, if
the world says he should he should call every day, then that's what should
happen, right Or if the world says once a month, to be okay
with that? Right? Only thing that matters is what you need and what
he needs. There's no one right way to have a relationship. The fact
that you're writing to me tells me that once a month is not enough for
you, and I will say for most people, once a month is not
enough, especially if all it is is meeting for dinner and sex and you're
not getting any closer, You're not overlapping your lives, you're not meeting each
other's friends and pam, you're only seeing once a month, how are you
like meeting the tribe and checking him out? So, although I don't like
the word normal, I will say it is not very common. The less
important of how common it is is how do you feel about it? What
is this like for you? And if you don't feel good about it,
bring it up. Things don't change, move along. You see, we
can't change other people. Got to remember that everybody. We cannot change other
people. We can change our reaction to them, and we can choose to
stay or not. That's all we can do. On the same sense,
listen to the next one. I'm dating a guy in med school. He's
putting so much of his time into school, he barely has time for me.
I can't tell if he's really busy or just not interested, or could
it be that I need to change something within myself and become more patient.
These are all really good questions, right, And these are questions for you
to ask him. Right. You can't be feeling around in the dark second
guessing and wondering what's happened. You started by saying, he's putting so much
time into a school, he barely has time for me. So I assume
he's telling you that he's, you know, got all the school work.
Medical school is no joke, folks, and we should be very thankful that
our doctors put in the time that that you need to put in to get
through medical school. So I think the two of you need to have a
conversation about you saying, you know, I'd like to see you more often.
Is it really just a school or you're not as interested in the relationship.
And also, I'm going to work harder to be more patient if that's
what you need. But maybe we can find a happy medium. These are
conversations you need to have together. You will have so much more information when
you meet with him and talk about it. Okay, moving on, dear
doctor Wendy. I am a giver and whenever I have a crush, I
want to shower them with gifts. I realize this pushes men away for some
reason. And by the way, this is a woman writing how early is
too early to give a gift? All right? First of all, ah,
ladies, stop buying him things, especially at the beginning. All humans
want to work for a mate. We value a mate that we have to
sacrifice for. How do men sacrifice? They generally sacrifice financially, they pay
for dates. How do women sacrifice? They sacrifice by getting beautiful, spending
all that money on makeup and getting their hair done and going to the gym
and all that stuff. But if you at the very beginning of a relationship.
Are a female in a heterosexual relationship and you're buying a dude presence,
He's gonna be like, I got her, I don't need to work for
it. So one of two things is gonna happen. He's gonna lose interest
because he doesn't get to do the work to value you. Going to keep
you for a booty call, that's what he will do. He will just
keep you and hook up every once in a while. So no, when
is it too early? It's too early until you're like a defined relationship,
or you know, maybe his birthday comes and you've only been dating sixty days.
Okay, a little nondescript, a consumable birthday present, not one that
he has to sit on his mantle for the rest of his life. You
guys, slow down. Everybody needs to slow down a little bit, all
right. I think we have time for one more. Dear doctor, Wendy,
My boyfriend has a female best friend and I feel like she might be
his true soulmate. He says they're just friends, but their connection seems so
much stronger than ours makes me feel uncomfortable. Is this something worth bringing up
to him or should I just let it go? Yes, if it bothers
you, it is something worth bringing up to him. Of course it is.
If you think that she's really a backup mate, if you think that
he's not emotionally as connected to you, then you need to say, hey,
this is what I'm feeling. Can you help me understand what's going on
better? And also, if he does have a woman best friend, I
hope you're socializing with her as well. Right If he's keeping her on a
side pocket somewhere and just telling you about, oh, I had lunch with
some and so today, that's a red flag, right, he's having a
separate relationship with her. So yeah, if you're uncomfortable, bring it up.
All of you guys, you need to talk about your relationships more.
Hey, when we come back, you know, I am also a professor
of health psychology, and when you teach how psychology, you teach about how
our relationships can impact our health. I have got an alternative medicine doctor who
helps people with their relationships. Yeah, through her version of medicine. When
we come back, you are listening to the Doctor Wendy Walls Show on KFI
AM six forty. We live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're listening to
Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI AM six forty. Well, if you've been
listening to me for the last decade, you certainly know that I'm obsessed with
the science of love, both the biological, psychological, and social piece.
But I'm also a professor of health psychology. And guess what health is not
just about our biology. It's how our relationships impact our health, how our
social world impacts our health, how health behaviors are highly contagious within social circles.
And so I want to tell you this funny story. I was at
a social event last night and one woman mentioned that she had found a new
Ayurvedic doctor. The other one, who was a practitioner in Western medicine,
immediately frowned and the two of them got into a mini little social tit for
tat. I almost felt like I was talking to a Trump supporter and a
Biden supporter for a second there, and I was kind of like, Okay,
we need to open our minds, everybody, because one of the things
I know after earning my PhD in psychology is that the brain is doing a
whole lot of things that we don't understand every neurotransmitter. We don't understand everything
it's doing. So in the same sense, we don't understand all the ways
to heal the body or prevent illness. So that's why I wanted to invite
on my own how you'r Vedic? Doctor? Did I say it right?
Needy Pandia? Oh my god? Absolutely, you win, you win.
You talk to Hendy. It is the hardest word to say, how you're
Vedic? How you're Vedic? It is right, it's candy, but but
you've nailed it. I feel like I'm saying, are you a medic?
How your Vedic? You know it is? That's a really good one because
it's like are you a Veviic? Because it comes from the Vedic science.
But that's amazing. Oh that's perfect. So my guest is Needy Pandia,
and she is based in New York City, and I want to talk about
this little argument last night. Now, I teach health psychologists mostly Western medicine,
but we do do a section on alternative treatments. Tell me how well,
first of all, let's define what how Rvedic is, and then let's
talk about how it's being integrated into Western medicine that sounds perfect so Irovedic,
so the word Ayrveda literally translates into the science of life. It's often referred
to as a sister science of yoga, and that's easy because everybody knows yoga.
However, being the science of life, its scope is vast. It
covers everything including treatment and prevention of diseases, nutrition, lifestyle, mindset,
sleep. What's amazing about Ariveda is that it does not treat, it heals.
It works on the entire system, the entire person. It also identifies
individual emotions and can predict what that emotion, what condition in the body that
that emotion might cause, So it doesn't label the whole mind body connection as
a general connection. It can identify single emotions and see where the trajectory goes.
Also, the one more thing that I want to mention is that a
lot of current day trends originate in aiaretta, whether it's intermittent fasting, bullet
coffee, turmeric ashwagandha dry scrubbing, oil pulling. It is a science that
has been around for five thousand years and it has been used successfully in many
parts of India and now around the world, and as well, it introduced
us to the word namastay. So there we got we're like fixed. So
let's about what the treatments are. If someone were to go to see an
aerovetic doctor, they wouldn't be given a prescription for a pharmaceutical, But what
kinds of prescriptions would you give? Right? And I do want to say
the aeratic practice has become more and more academic. So what I would like
to say that if you go to the if you go to a t additional
doctor who practices the right way, which I'm going to say is how my
grandfather practice. For example, they would identify you know, it's called a
doo shop. But the way I like to say it, it's your body's
climate. Everybody's bodies have a climate. It's a bioindividuality and it can be
made to understand very very intuitively. So they would understand your body's climate based
on your climate, they would understand your moods, probably what foods are causing
disturbances. They could also predict your hormonal cycles. They will of course prescribe
certain herbs right and of course there's limitations because there's less of herbs available,
but they will still prescribe certain herbs. They will change and reconfigure what you
eat and how you eat it. They may even make recommendations to your mindset,
to your lifestyle to know how you sleep when you sleep. I personally
in my practice go as far as telling my clients to what kind of music
to listen to, what kind of books to read. So it's really like
you reorganize, you reconfigure your entire life to suit what your body inner climate
is. So you are not against Western medicine. You are a compliment to
Western medicine. So you can work either ways. Right Like I would say
that there are some conditions. So now AAVEDA identifies that the disease before it
manifests, it comes on to your vitals or your blood reports. There's six
stages of disease. What the advantage of working with an Iramada practitioner is that
they can spot the disease at that first level, at the root cause,
before it actually manifests. Now that being said, I work with plenty of
clients and I integrate it into their existing Western medical treatment. So you can
work anyhow you can. It can work in tandem. It doesn't have to
be isolated. But you can also work depending on the condition and the stage
of the disease. You can also work with just arveeta independently. Right,
And I also want to throw this in there, not to say that you
don't do great work that is therapeutic in all kinds of ways. I mean,
I'm thinking of doctor Andrew wheel in his book about put fresh flat and
stop listening to the news so much, and make sure you not look at
iPhones before you go to sleep, and all those really good lifestyle things that
we should be practicing. But in addition, while it's you know, many
of these herbs that you talk about can have amazing biological effects, we also
know that the placebo effect can be as high as thirty percent in double blind
control studies. So for those listening who don't know what that is. So
they take two pills, two groups of people. One group gets a sugar
pill and the other pill gets the other group gets the actual medication. But
yet thirty percent of those who just got the sugar pill get better too.
So we know the mind and body are so connected and unity pandiat let me
say this. The research on placebo effect finds that it's all about the relationship
that the patient has with the practitioner. If they trust their doctor, then
and they're more likely to get better. How do you work on your relationship
with your patients? You call them patients first of all, or clients,
you know, I call them what they prefer to be called, to be
honest with you, but usually I would look at them as clients because if
I call that patients, I feel like I put them in a box,
you know, like that becomes their identity, that they're sick. So I
like to call them clients personally. And I just want to add to what
you say, right, Like, when you have a relationship with anybody that
you trust, automatically your body feels safe, it goes into the parasympathetic mode.
Your body begins to heal before you take that herb and put it into
your mouth. That's half the magic. And I actually say that to my
clients. I'm like, if you can do it with your mind, if
you can change the state of your mind, you don't even need to work
with your food or your herbs. So that's absolutely true, and I would,
you know, let's talk about how I work on my relationship with clients.
I personally work with people for a period of six months or I work,
you know, coaching women in a small intimate group setting, and yes,
building trust, safety, vulnerability is the most important, you know,
one of the most important things about my practices. I will meet you where
you're at. You aren't ready to give up your black coffee. I want
to ask you to give it up. You know, Exercising in the morning
is hard for you. Exercising in the morning, you know, which is
actually the problem with a lot of idea wading doctors out there, that the
system has become very rigid. But I do understand that you have to meet
people where they're at, and I think that has greatly helped me to build
relationships with my clients where they want to make change because they want to be
understood. Also, because I work mainly with women, and women in our
system get burnt out, they lose. They're always nurturing, but they don't
feel nurtured. So for anybody who's listening out there, if you find a
practitioner, a doctor who's nurturing, it's like being reparented again, and part
of that healing begins right there. You know what, we have to go
to a break, but when we come back, I'm going to tell you
a little story about an Indian doctor who said, one sentence, help me
get better. Also, let's talk more about how our intimate romantic relationships impact
our health. My guest is doctor Needy Pandia. She's an Alrvedic doctor.
And we've got more on the other side. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy
wall Show on KFI AM six forty live everywhere on the iHeartRadio app. You're
listening to Doctor Wendy Walsh on demand from KFI AM six forty. My guest
Needy Pandia. How your Vedic doctor? Did I say it right? How
your Vedic that is ka? I got it right. I have to tell
you a funny story. Actually happens to be an Indian doctor, not an
aw your Vedic doctor, Western medicine, but Indian doctor. I went to
her for chronic bladder infections and I told her my whole life history. I
told her everything that's happened and all the treatments that have always been done.
And you know what she said to me one sentence. She said, it
sounds like everybody you've been to has tried to treat you. Will you do
me the honor of trying to heal you whoa that one centre is the difference
between treatment and healing. Did a shift in my head and I barely had
a bladder infection after that. I hear you. So you deal mostly with
female clients. We know that women one third of American women suffer some kind
of abuse in their childhood, whether it is sexual, emotional, or physical.
They drag this trauma into their adult romantic lives. Eventually their body speaks
for them and they often become ill. How do you heal these women?
See I didn't say treat heal these women? Right? So my work actually
first starts with a little bit of shadow work, you know, before we
even get to any shift in lifestyle, food and the first forties that work
with people, they systematically go through a process where they look at what parts
of their childhood are they still carrying into their adulthood and then that kind of
shows up in their parenting and then generational trauma goes on. So even before
we do that, we work on healing. And you know you've said it
right, doctor Wendy, because the amount of breakthroughs that come just from that
work. Suddenly people look back at their lives and say everything that I'm going
through in my body and mind makes sense. And then the work we do
right after that, right which is before I even think about giving herbs.
We just reconfigure their lives in a more gentle manner, recognizing the paths of
their childhood that they're still caring, that still need to be seen, heard,
and processed. And let me tell you, I think the amount of
healing that brings it would be hard for me to do that with any other
tools. And this is one of the reasons I have become so fascinated with
licensed therapists who work with patients and trauma, because for many women especially,
they either have repressed the memory or they've dismissed it in some way, and
then their bodies start to get sick because their bodies speaking for them. Their
body is saying I need care, help help me. And it seems more
socially acceptable to go to a medical doctor and say I have this pain than
to cry in a therapist's office. And but you also deal like a therapist.
But you're also holistically talking about you know, how much sleep are you
get, and how much news are you watching, how how much exercise are
you doing. You look at the whole system. But you also talk to
them about their trauma, don't you? Absolutely? And you know, basically,
I think everybody knows. You know, somebody who's staying out watching Netflix
at two am knows that their body needs sleep. But there is a reason,
no, but be told, there is a reason why there's thinking that
there's something in their life they're procrastinating, right, and then they bring shame
and it further perpetuates the problem. And I see this pattern all the time.
So I tell everybody right that firstly, every trigger is a little is
telling of a trauma. Every trigger is selling of a trauma. And the
trigger could be in your body, in your foods, the trigger could be
in your mind, So that is a hint. Also, every time,
right, your beliefs and your actions are not matching. So you promise yourself,
I'm going to sleep, I'm going to go to bed by ten o'clock.
And let's say you're not doing it. So that means your beliefs are
not matching with your actions. That distance, again is telling into something that
needs to be undone. Because most people, when they're in that healthy emotional
state, they will sleep well, they will eat well. So I do
realize that if I just write down from my clients, hey sleep at this
hour. They may do it for a few days, but it's going to
create rigidity, It's going to create stress. What I'd rather do is the
undoing of the baggage that they are carrying so that their natural body wants to
live, thrive, so that it wants to do all of these things.
But I want you to arrive to that place rather than me prescribing it for
you, because I know that may not be as sustainable, that may not
put you in slow. To live your best life means to identify your triggers
and work backwards, and that is the work that all of us must do
in our lifetime. We only have a little bit of time left. But
I want to ask a question. You know, one area you work in
is infertility. You know, I have always said that our biology doesn't match
our culture. Right now, the height of female fertility is the age of
twenty and now, as Western society is becoming more matriarchal, we are seeing
women having to use a decade of their fertility window in education and career building,
and then they get around to having kids in their thirties. So we're
seeing a much higher amount of infertility. Are there any other influences besides the
old fashioned biological clock that are causing this? Yeah, and you know,
I mean like in according to the aerobatic science, we believe that you know,
bodies, bodies can dry out. You know, a young teenager.
If you look at the face of a young teenager, there's oliation on their
skin. Everything is very taut, there is a moisture in their eyes.
As we get worked out and burned out, that moisture from our body dries
out. That basic lubrication. If you look at arabat as four factors to
fertility, that basic lubrication is extremely important. So what are the things that
dry us out really quickly? Stress, over productivity, overworking, caffeine,
alcohol. We know for all of these things to be very dehydrating. We
know our body, the sperm cannot swim unless the environment inside is moist.
The sperm cannot even live in a meal's you know, hot and dry body.
Because men have this testimonal changes that cause you know, dryness, I
mean absolutely absolutely as you age, right, so it's a very natural process.
I mean, on the other side of your thirty five year body is
naturally going to start drawing up, but at the same time that journey can
be expedited, like there's an irobatic product on. My sister gave birth last
year at forty and natural birth, no high risk, the vaginal delivery,
all of that right. And one of the things that she did, because
she knew she was going to do this much later in life, is she
preserved her lubrication. So the amount she sledt to the amount of caffeine she
consumed, the moisture that she kept into her life, what we call the
lunar elements, she kept those intact. We get her, you know,
her hormonal tests a year after year. Her doctors, you know, they
were remarkable because her doctors were surprised at how much her reports looked like somebody
who was five years younger than who she actually was. Wow. And I've
seen this time and again. I'll see a twenty seven year old girl who's
completely burnt out with her life over the the consumption of caffeine, staying up
really like a menopausal woman. It's going to act like a forty year old.
Absolutely, So, I personally, in my practice have seen this too
many times. And I think one of the things that everybody is that if
you want to have children, do not dry out because sometimes people don't find
the right partner. Sometimes people don't find the right partner. Even if you
want to date, don't try out. Yes, basically you want a happy
day, keep it warm, give it, keep it mice. Thank you
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