WEBVTT 1 00:00:24.719 --> 00:00:29.280 Welcome to our experiment, the one hundred person Project. Simple questions for one 2 00:00:29.359 --> 00:00:34.320 hundred people. I'm Bill Correll, and this is my investigation, the research 3 00:00:34.399 --> 00:00:38.600 project to gather data from one hundred beautiful human beings for the sole purpose to 4 00:00:38.600 --> 00:00:43.759 see what actually happens across the interviews. The questions are fixed and all the 5 00:00:43.759 --> 00:00:49.439 interviews remain consistent, with the variable being the actual participants themselves and their answers. 6 00:00:50.320 --> 00:00:53.000 So, Dan, it says, if I'm asking you to come over 7 00:00:53.039 --> 00:00:56.600 and sit on my porch with me and share your thoughts about life and the 8 00:00:56.600 --> 00:01:00.479 world, so I can learn about people. We're looking forward to what we're 9 00:01:00.479 --> 00:01:04.120 going to learn when we are complete. However, we are very interested in 10 00:01:04.159 --> 00:01:08.959 the people, the process in your particular story. So we'll get to know 11 00:01:10.079 --> 00:01:12.920 you through the interview, and so let's dive in. It's my distinct pleasure 12 00:01:12.959 --> 00:01:17.959 to introduce my guest. Well, why don't you do it for me? 13 00:01:18.879 --> 00:01:23.120 What is your full name? Thank you, Bill. My full name is 14 00:01:23.239 --> 00:01:27.439 Daniel Blanchard. Many people just call me Dan, Yes they do, and 15 00:01:27.519 --> 00:01:34.280 I'm one of those people. So anything in particular about that, or were 16 00:01:34.280 --> 00:01:38.519 you named for somebody or is it something that just was an inspiration around the 17 00:01:38.560 --> 00:01:42.280 time you were born. Yeah, I gotta tell you it's pretty funny. 18 00:01:42.280 --> 00:01:47.040 I'm not quite sure where the name Dan came from, it was an inspiration 19 00:01:47.159 --> 00:01:52.239 for anything. But when I was really little, the kids around that neighborhood 20 00:01:52.319 --> 00:01:55.640 used to call me Danny Fanny, and I used to chase them all around 21 00:01:55.640 --> 00:01:59.640 the place. Hated to be called at as a little kid. And then 22 00:02:00.079 --> 00:02:05.760 later, you know, later, teenage, early adulthood, I was called 23 00:02:05.840 --> 00:02:08.960 Damn the Man, which I thought that was much better to be called Damn 24 00:02:08.960 --> 00:02:15.120 the man instead of Danny. I'd agree with that too. They have a 25 00:02:15.159 --> 00:02:17.879 completely different tone of voice, don't they. Yes, they do, Yes 26 00:02:17.919 --> 00:02:21.599 they do. Uh. And like I said, and Dan's fine. But 27 00:02:21.599 --> 00:02:24.319 I gotta tell you, Bill, funny story is every now and then I 28 00:02:24.400 --> 00:02:28.919 hear somebody, you know, just kind of coming in and says, hey, 29 00:02:29.000 --> 00:02:32.759 Danny, and I turn and I'm like, it's an old neighborhood kid. 30 00:02:34.199 --> 00:02:38.000 Yeah, oh that's what it is. Same here. I'll be Billy 31 00:02:38.080 --> 00:02:40.680 till the day I die. To some people, you know, my classmates 32 00:02:40.719 --> 00:02:46.479 from from grammar school. I can always tell because I was everyone knew my 33 00:02:46.560 --> 00:02:50.159 dad as Bill, and they all knew me as Billy until the two of 34 00:02:50.280 --> 00:02:53.479 us weren't around doing the same things anymore, when he stopped coaching me and 35 00:02:53.520 --> 00:02:57.919 started coaching my brothers, for example. But no, Billy, and I 36 00:02:58.039 --> 00:03:01.680 understand from a good friend of mine, Johnny McCullough, that it's the Irish 37 00:03:01.719 --> 00:03:07.639 sign of respect to refer to a handsome Danny Blanchard or handsome Bill Billy Corrall. 38 00:03:07.840 --> 00:03:15.360 You know, cool, I'll take that any day. So we've kind 39 00:03:15.360 --> 00:03:17.840 of dived into some nicknames that you had. But what would you say, 40 00:03:17.960 --> 00:03:23.000 is your favorite nickname that most people don't know? Uh? Jeez, that's 41 00:03:23.000 --> 00:03:27.120 a good one. A nick name that most people don't know that cause I 42 00:03:27.120 --> 00:03:30.000 think my as I just said, I kind of think that my favorite believe 43 00:03:30.000 --> 00:03:34.439 it or not, you know, is Dan the Man, and believe it 44 00:03:34.560 --> 00:03:38.800 or not, as every now and then when I hear Danny, I go, 45 00:03:38.639 --> 00:03:43.560 there's like a little warm spot in my heart because I'm like somebody that's 46 00:03:43.599 --> 00:03:46.520 known me for like fifty forty fifty years, So there is a little warm 47 00:03:46.560 --> 00:03:50.560 spot in my heart. And I don't know if a lot of people know 48 00:03:50.599 --> 00:03:53.319 that. I'm thinking they probably don't know that. It definitely puts a little 49 00:03:53.319 --> 00:03:55.919 warm spot in my heart because I'm like, these are like my people, 50 00:03:57.240 --> 00:04:00.400 you know, from way way way back, you know. And I didn't 51 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:03.360 come from the best neighborhood in the world. You know. We all had 52 00:04:03.360 --> 00:04:08.719 our issues that we were dealing with, all of our families. None of 53 00:04:08.719 --> 00:04:13.159 them are perfect, you know, we were all dealing with issues. So 54 00:04:13.639 --> 00:04:17.279 thirty five forty ish years later, forty five years later, Yeah, there's 55 00:04:17.319 --> 00:04:23.800 just something really really nice about every now and then here and Danny and turning 56 00:04:23.839 --> 00:04:27.480 and seeing a guy. Yep, you know all that forty years ago, 57 00:04:27.680 --> 00:04:30.639 forty five years ago. That's a cool thing. But I still like them. 58 00:04:30.720 --> 00:04:39.279 The Man too, Yeah, absolutely so Dan the Man. When did 59 00:04:39.279 --> 00:04:43.560 you notice first what color your hair? It was? Oh, yeah, 60 00:04:43.600 --> 00:04:46.240 that's interesting. I mean when I was a little kid, I had blonde 61 00:04:46.240 --> 00:04:49.920 hair. Yeah, yeah, it was a towhead when I had blonde hair, 62 00:04:49.959 --> 00:04:55.639 and I remember being happy about that. But then at some point, 63 00:04:56.000 --> 00:04:59.720 it was elementary school, my hair started turning brown, and I remember getting 64 00:04:59.759 --> 00:05:02.920 sad then my hair was turning brown. I wanted it to stay blonde because 65 00:05:02.959 --> 00:05:06.399 people, you know, they always made comments about it and this and that, 66 00:05:06.639 --> 00:05:11.439 and then you know, then many many many years go by, and 67 00:05:11.519 --> 00:05:15.160 I started having kids on my own, and you know, and the first 68 00:05:15.199 --> 00:05:18.240 two come on his total toe heads, you know, Platinum blod and I 69 00:05:18.319 --> 00:05:21.879 was like wow. And as I had my little boy over my aunt's house, 70 00:05:23.160 --> 00:05:25.199 which I don't get to see often, but when I was over there 71 00:05:25.199 --> 00:05:29.639 with my little boy, she goes, wow, there's no there's no guests 72 00:05:29.720 --> 00:05:32.720 in who that kid belongs to. That's little Danny. And I'm looking at 73 00:05:32.959 --> 00:05:38.199 little toe head, platinum, almost white flown, you know, I'm looking 74 00:05:38.240 --> 00:05:41.160 at him, and I'm going wow. I'm like, I look like that, 75 00:05:41.240 --> 00:05:44.040 and I'm going, dang. I wish people had told me that I 76 00:05:44.079 --> 00:05:46.759 look like that and that I was really that good looking. I would have 77 00:05:46.759 --> 00:05:51.600 been much more life. I was that good looking. Yeah, we all 78 00:05:51.639 --> 00:05:57.199 can take that compliment, can't we? Because I remember daughter and son just 79 00:05:57.240 --> 00:06:00.800 going they are beautiful, and I can if I look like that, man, 80 00:06:00.839 --> 00:06:05.600 I wasted it. Who knew? Yeah? Who knew? There you 81 00:06:05.680 --> 00:06:10.319 go, who knew? How old do you think you were when you noticed 82 00:06:10.360 --> 00:06:15.480 it was changing? Ah? Gosh, probably uh probably about six five, 83 00:06:16.000 --> 00:06:19.439 maybe five six, something like that. Yeah, it was changed. And 84 00:06:19.439 --> 00:06:24.800 then and there were times there were times when I was older, I was 85 00:06:24.879 --> 00:06:27.759 just like I mean, maybe this is like a dumb thing, but there 86 00:06:27.800 --> 00:06:31.600 was a in the eighties. Uh that one was at sun in came out 87 00:06:32.160 --> 00:06:35.399 light in your ears. Some of my buddies were using it every now and 88 00:06:35.439 --> 00:06:39.839 then. Somebody of a blonde streak of blonde highlights in their hair and you 89 00:06:39.920 --> 00:06:43.399 kind of look like a California surfer dude. You know, it looked kind 90 00:06:43.399 --> 00:06:46.639 of cool and like you must be fun because you look that way, and 91 00:06:46.959 --> 00:06:48.800 sun tan and whatnot. So there was a couple of times I sprayed a 92 00:06:48.800 --> 00:06:51.800 little bit that sun into my hair and it didn't It didn't really help that 93 00:06:51.920 --> 00:06:55.160 much. It just kind of threw my hair like a little orange color. 94 00:06:55.639 --> 00:06:59.720 And then some of my buddies were busted on me and call me oop oop 95 00:07:00.759 --> 00:07:05.160 I'm telling the factory, yeah, exactly right, And I was like, 96 00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:10.120 I'm not, I'm not using that anymore. Well, the other thing that 97 00:07:10.160 --> 00:07:12.839 you could do to lighten your hair up a little bit was to put lemon 98 00:07:12.920 --> 00:07:15.720 juice in it. And you know, I learned that from one of the 99 00:07:15.720 --> 00:07:19.000 girls that rode the bus. And she got on the bus one day and 100 00:07:19.040 --> 00:07:21.040 I asked her, I said, what did you do and she said, 101 00:07:21.079 --> 00:07:24.120 well, my mom put lemon juice in it. She said. All the 102 00:07:24.160 --> 00:07:28.600 girls are doing it and the guys too, so yeah. And then then 103 00:07:28.600 --> 00:07:35.759 the other thing was was the copper tone bronzer made you look orange? I 104 00:07:35.879 --> 00:07:40.519 remember that. I remember that, all trying to look tan and fun and 105 00:07:40.639 --> 00:07:44.639 like beach dudes, beach girls, surfers, all of us is trying to 106 00:07:44.680 --> 00:07:46.680 look like we were just out and about having a great time fun of the 107 00:07:46.759 --> 00:07:50.720 sun. Yeah. All the marketing was working, wasn't it. Yeah, 108 00:07:50.920 --> 00:07:55.000 I know all life is so different. You know, I don't think about 109 00:07:55.040 --> 00:07:59.519 blonde here for one second. It doesn't matter, you know, as long 110 00:07:59.560 --> 00:08:01.839 as I'm doing what I'm supposed to be doing, being a good good husband, 111 00:08:01.839 --> 00:08:05.720 a good father, being a good man, you know, get getting 112 00:08:05.759 --> 00:08:11.759 it done at work. You know, not that looks unimportant, but you 113 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:16.800 know, looks are secondary, and blonde here is absolutely way way back on 114 00:08:16.839 --> 00:08:20.560 my list of important. Yeah, and I really I really get that. 115 00:08:20.920 --> 00:08:24.000 And knowing how busy that you are and all the things that you've done, 116 00:08:24.040 --> 00:08:26.480 we'll get into some of that, you know, during this half hour. 117 00:08:26.519 --> 00:08:33.480 But I'm really looking forward to having you back for my other Lighting the Candle 118 00:08:33.639 --> 00:08:35.799 podcast too, because I think you'd be a rock star on that, and 119 00:08:35.840 --> 00:08:41.320 I don't mean a rock star, you know, in terms of anything other 120 00:08:41.440 --> 00:08:46.080 than people starting to understand your commitment to life into other human beings, which 121 00:08:46.639 --> 00:08:50.759 is very moving for me. So as you go here, people will get 122 00:08:50.879 --> 00:08:52.960 a chance to look behind the curtains where I don't think most people that you 123 00:08:54.080 --> 00:08:56.919 know know the answers to any of these questions that I'm asking you. So 124 00:08:58.480 --> 00:09:01.519 now here's a good one for you, as busy as you are. What 125 00:09:01.679 --> 00:09:07.039 is your favorite thing to do to intentionally waste time? Oh? Wow, 126 00:09:07.759 --> 00:09:13.600 mes see, I would say I would say Netflix Netflix TV. If I 127 00:09:13.639 --> 00:09:20.000 have some time to kill, I'll pop on Netflix TV and watch a show. 128 00:09:20.200 --> 00:09:22.000 I mean, I don't watch a lot of shows, and I don't 129 00:09:22.000 --> 00:09:26.519 have much time, and I almost never kill time. But if i'm home, 130 00:09:26.879 --> 00:09:28.919 you know, if i'm home, I pop on Netflix TV. I 131 00:09:28.960 --> 00:09:33.120 do that. If I'm out somewhere, I do two, probably two things. 132 00:09:33.120 --> 00:09:37.879 If I'm out somewhere, many times I pop in and I follow a 133 00:09:37.919 --> 00:09:41.039 little Kendle book and start reading. But I don't know if that's really a 134 00:09:41.039 --> 00:09:43.360 waste of time. Reading's good, So that kind of doesn't exactly follow that 135 00:09:43.399 --> 00:09:48.120 category. But I almost always do that, and then once in a blue 136 00:09:48.200 --> 00:09:52.399 moon, I really will waste time and I'll pop up like my Instagram or 137 00:09:52.440 --> 00:09:56.600 something like that, one of my social media channels, and I'll scroll for 138 00:09:56.600 --> 00:10:00.799 a couple of minutes while I'm waiting to, you know, do whatever it 139 00:10:00.840 --> 00:10:03.840 is I gotta do next. Sometimes, Bill, what I also do people 140 00:10:03.879 --> 00:10:11.600 watching every now and then. People watching, you know, like no music, 141 00:10:11.879 --> 00:10:15.679 no nothing, just people watch it. I do that of you once 142 00:10:15.720 --> 00:10:18.320 in a while to kill a little time. And it's something that we so 143 00:10:18.519 --> 00:10:22.399 rarely do, but it almost seems like a little treat or something like that 144 00:10:22.679 --> 00:10:26.320 when you do that. And now that I'm on this string, let me 145 00:10:26.360 --> 00:10:28.399 just kind of bring this up real quick. Every now and then, when 146 00:10:28.399 --> 00:10:33.320 I'm driving home, like I'm always listening to like audio books or podcasts like 147 00:10:33.480 --> 00:10:37.919 education. I call it the automobile university. Why not, I'm always I'm 148 00:10:37.960 --> 00:10:39.120 in the car a lot. I'm always doing that, you know, I'm 149 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:43.720 knocking books off like crazy. But every now and then, same thing with 150 00:10:43.799 --> 00:10:46.720 that kind of people watching. Every now and then I turn off the audiobooks. 151 00:10:46.919 --> 00:10:50.399 You know, there's no music, there's nothing, and it's just silence. 152 00:10:52.039 --> 00:10:56.159 Sometimes I'll do like silence for like the last twenty minutes drive home or 153 00:10:56.159 --> 00:10:58.799 something, and that too. You know, it's up there with people watching. 154 00:11:00.000 --> 00:11:01.440 It's a little bit of a tree. It's not something that we do 155 00:11:01.600 --> 00:11:07.080 often, but I find it just comforting every once in a while to do 156 00:11:07.159 --> 00:11:09.639 that. And I don't know if you want to say that's wasting time because 157 00:11:09.639 --> 00:11:15.000 I'm not educating myself, but there's something about that, you know, and 158 00:11:15.039 --> 00:11:18.279 I don't think it's a waste of time. I think it's a wonderful thing 159 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:22.919 to take a pause, you know, And when you do that intentionally, 160 00:11:24.080 --> 00:11:26.360 it might seem like a waste of time to some people, or you might 161 00:11:26.440 --> 00:11:30.440 catch yourself somewhere along the way, you know, thinking well, okay, 162 00:11:30.440 --> 00:11:31.960 that's enough of that. Now, I got to get back to whatever my 163 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:35.720 next thing is here. But in the meantime, I think people who are 164 00:11:35.879 --> 00:11:41.120 used to performing at a peak level realize you've got to have some downtime. 165 00:11:41.120 --> 00:11:45.480 You gotta have a little bit of time to recharge the battery and let your 166 00:11:45.519 --> 00:11:50.159 mind rest a little bit too. So the what's your favorite part about the 167 00:11:50.200 --> 00:11:58.559 people watching? Where do you find the greatest reward? H Wow, I 168 00:11:58.600 --> 00:12:03.559 probably can't even articulate like this Here's the funny thing is that my wife is 169 00:12:03.600 --> 00:12:09.159 really good at people watching Observation's got the power of observation, right. I 170 00:12:09.159 --> 00:12:11.600 got a buddy, same thing. I always joke around with them when they 171 00:12:11.679 --> 00:12:15.279 bust on me, and I'm like, listen, you know the power of 172 00:12:15.279 --> 00:12:18.320 observation that goes to like the can criminals and police officers are. I'm neither, 173 00:12:20.559 --> 00:12:22.600 not my thing, but every now and then I do it, you 174 00:12:22.639 --> 00:12:26.120 know, at least try to do it. I don't quite out the power 175 00:12:26.120 --> 00:12:28.600 of observation my wife has and one of my buddies has to bust on before, 176 00:12:28.919 --> 00:12:33.440 but every now and then I just do it. And in my mind 177 00:12:33.159 --> 00:12:39.480 my mind starts turning as I'm watching people and trying to think, who is 178 00:12:39.519 --> 00:12:43.919 this person, what if they've overcome, where are they from? What do 179 00:12:43.039 --> 00:12:48.519 they know? And the majority of the times my mind is not articulating this, 180 00:12:48.639 --> 00:12:52.399 and like words, maybe sometimes pictures or maybe sometimes very far off faded 181 00:12:52.440 --> 00:12:56.720 pictures that I'm not even sure what the heck it means, not even try 182 00:12:56.759 --> 00:13:00.320 how to articulate it. But every time I do that, I told you 183 00:13:00.360 --> 00:13:03.039 before it there's like a little bit of a comforting there. But there's also 184 00:13:03.759 --> 00:13:11.559 something like a little bit of a magic motion there. There's something magical about 185 00:13:11.600 --> 00:13:15.279 it that it can articulate, and it's just I don't know, if it's 186 00:13:15.279 --> 00:13:20.080 just you know, who knows who's the next person you're gonna meet that's gonna 187 00:13:20.080 --> 00:13:26.039 open your eyes to something you haven't really thought about before and completely change the 188 00:13:26.120 --> 00:13:31.039 direction that you're going to, like a better place for you to do better 189 00:13:31.080 --> 00:13:35.039 things, for you to contribute bigger and better things, And that can happen 190 00:13:35.000 --> 00:13:39.720 at any moment. So I think that it's it's almost like watching these little 191 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:43.320 treasures walk by, and even though I'm not like stopping them and talking to 192 00:13:43.360 --> 00:13:48.919 them and communicating with them, maybe it's a reminder that there's the world is 193 00:13:48.960 --> 00:13:52.840 builled with like little treasures that they're just walking by us all the time, 194 00:13:52.080 --> 00:13:56.200 and we didn't even We don't even know it because we don't know the stories 195 00:13:56.279 --> 00:13:58.080 because we have to ask them to stop and talk to them. Like when 196 00:13:58.120 --> 00:14:01.159 my mom died, I was doing the eulogy, and I said, you 197 00:14:01.279 --> 00:14:03.440 do the eulogy, and I did a great job. By the way, 198 00:14:03.679 --> 00:14:07.799 it was making great I did such a good eulogy. People talked about it 199 00:14:07.799 --> 00:14:11.519 for six months. But one of the things I was doing was you know, 200 00:14:11.600 --> 00:14:15.799 researching my mom, gonna her sister asking her and her sister goes, 201 00:14:15.879 --> 00:14:22.039 did you know your mom was a Trapezes artist? What mom? What? 202 00:14:24.879 --> 00:14:28.879 My mom? I didn't know that. You know, how many cool stories 203 00:14:28.360 --> 00:14:33.480 my mom could have shared with me, How many cool stories your mom can 204 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:35.440 share with you. How many cool stories your neighbor can share with you. 205 00:14:35.960 --> 00:14:41.200 You know, how many eye opening, cool, just fascinating, interesting things 206 00:14:41.480 --> 00:14:48.399 the mailman can share with you. It's mind bow, you know. It 207 00:14:48.480 --> 00:14:52.159 strikes me that's brilliant, you know. For I don't know. I know 208 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:56.639 other people that do people watching or girl watching or something of that nature, 209 00:14:56.679 --> 00:15:03.440 but they're typically not Their mind's not full of questions. It's full of judgments, 210 00:15:03.639 --> 00:15:07.840 you know. And the way they compress themselves like they think they know 211 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:13.519 something about that person. And having the curious mind that you do is it's 212 00:15:13.679 --> 00:15:18.440 really a skill that you It sounds like you've honed it to a craft. 213 00:15:18.519 --> 00:15:22.519 And I'll tell you what, if you get rejuvenated and you get your life 214 00:15:22.519 --> 00:15:26.039 out of it, just being around people and appreciating who they are without knowing 215 00:15:26.080 --> 00:15:30.759 any of their story, but just being able to, you know, like 216 00:15:30.960 --> 00:15:35.639 get their body language and what they've done to prepare themselves, what they're wearing, 217 00:15:35.720 --> 00:15:39.679 what they seem to be doing in life. That's not a bad way 218 00:15:39.720 --> 00:15:43.559 to refresh. I think that's brilliant, absolutely, And I love did you 219 00:15:43.679 --> 00:15:48.200 use the word like curious? You know what I'm saying. I think every 220 00:15:48.240 --> 00:15:52.720 one of us should be curious. You know, that's like despite life, 221 00:15:52.039 --> 00:15:58.720 variety and curiosity is definitely a life, no doubt about it. So let's 222 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:03.320 all be curious because when you're curious, it's also a sign of intelligence, 223 00:16:03.679 --> 00:16:06.840 you know, and then have you once in a while you meet someone that 224 00:16:06.919 --> 00:16:08.600 says, hey, keep your nose out of this or whatever, right, 225 00:16:08.840 --> 00:16:12.360 But it's like, no, I'm curious. I'm just I'm wondering, you 226 00:16:12.399 --> 00:16:17.919 know, it's of intelligence. Yeah, when you stop asking questions, you 227 00:16:17.960 --> 00:16:21.360 stop growing. When you stop growing, you stop developing. And when you 228 00:16:21.399 --> 00:16:26.240 stop developing, you don't you think you know everything? And then how do 229 00:16:26.320 --> 00:16:30.000 you ever get satisfaction out of that? How do you ever? How can 230 00:16:30.039 --> 00:16:33.120 you ever be wowed by life? When you think you know everything? And 231 00:16:33.399 --> 00:16:37.320 it's not even that people who know everything know they know everything. They don't 232 00:16:37.480 --> 00:16:42.200 know that, they don't know that they think they know everything if that makes 233 00:16:42.240 --> 00:16:47.879 any Well, Bill about that, and I think you're right on it with 234 00:16:48.120 --> 00:16:52.120 that. Here it is, I completed fourteen years of college, have seven 235 00:16:52.200 --> 00:16:56.759 degrees, I've written forty books, you know, I've spoken some big stages, 236 00:16:56.840 --> 00:17:03.720 ted X all that stuff. And every single day I run into so 237 00:17:03.879 --> 00:17:08.599 many things I don't know. And I have no illusions that I know that 238 00:17:08.720 --> 00:17:11.519 I know what all that I even know most of it, or that I 239 00:17:11.559 --> 00:17:15.960 even know half of it. I know that I don't know, and I 240 00:17:17.079 --> 00:17:21.079 know that every day I'm gonna learn and that my best years is still ahead 241 00:17:21.079 --> 00:17:23.119 of me because I'm going to keep learning stuff. And like, I mean, 242 00:17:23.119 --> 00:17:26.480 I think back, that's just like two years ago, five years ago, 243 00:17:26.519 --> 00:17:29.559 whatever it is, and I think that what was I worried about during 244 00:17:29.599 --> 00:17:32.240 those days? And I'm like, oh wait a minute, Now I do 245 00:17:32.279 --> 00:17:33.960 that stuff, no problem. I totally know how to do that, you 246 00:17:34.000 --> 00:17:37.319 know. So, I mean same thing with the future. You know, 247 00:17:37.359 --> 00:17:42.039 I'm saying there's stuff that we don't know. When it gets sad when you 248 00:17:42.039 --> 00:17:45.079 get these people who don't know that they don't know and they think they know 249 00:17:45.119 --> 00:17:48.480 everything. Oh my gosh, what a boring world that must be. You 250 00:17:48.519 --> 00:17:52.359 know, an opinionated, boring world for that person, because they're posing the 251 00:17:52.400 --> 00:17:57.839 door to what could happen in the future. It's that And then there's also 252 00:17:59.079 --> 00:18:03.200 only one way conversations with them can go. It's always going to be a 253 00:18:03.319 --> 00:18:08.880 narrow focus, bouncing off of the boundaries of what they're pretty sure is true, 254 00:18:11.079 --> 00:18:14.519 and in many cases it's just on the other side of what they know 255 00:18:14.599 --> 00:18:18.160 to be true, where satisfaction in life really comes from. Yes, yes, 256 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:25.200 So that speaking of that, I'm gonna what else did you want to 257 00:18:25.200 --> 00:18:27.240 say? I just want to say real quick. I remember reading Carroll Dwack's 258 00:18:27.240 --> 00:18:32.559 book Mindset, and one of the things she talks about with your youth, 259 00:18:33.079 --> 00:18:36.279 with your children, with your students, with your athletes, whatever it is 260 00:18:36.839 --> 00:18:40.480 like, don't come out and say like you're brilliant, or you're good, 261 00:18:40.839 --> 00:18:44.359 or you want because you're so talented, you know, always praise the effort, 262 00:18:44.559 --> 00:18:47.839 because if you praise the effort, then they're willing to get more. 263 00:18:48.599 --> 00:18:51.559 But if you praise, oh, you're just a natural, you're so talented, 264 00:18:51.559 --> 00:18:55.880 you're so smart. The minute they make a mistake, they just took 265 00:18:55.920 --> 00:19:02.640 a hit to that persona of that they're so smart, are so talented. 266 00:19:02.799 --> 00:19:06.279 So what's happening. I'm not so smart anymore, not so talented anymore. 267 00:19:06.559 --> 00:19:07.680 Now I'm I'm kind of like, I kind of want to hide and not 268 00:19:07.720 --> 00:19:11.240 try so much anymore, just in case somebody else sees that I'm not so 269 00:19:11.240 --> 00:19:15.079 smart anymore, I'm losing it, or I'm not so talented anymore. I'm 270 00:19:15.079 --> 00:19:18.319 losing it. So like, you don't praise cancel or youth that way. 271 00:19:18.680 --> 00:19:22.400 You pray the Carrocter brilliant on this. You praise them for the effort, 272 00:19:22.839 --> 00:19:25.799 so they keep making the effort and you keep growing, which fits right in 273 00:19:25.920 --> 00:19:29.599 you know, the doorway what you're saying, you know early about you know, 274 00:19:29.640 --> 00:19:30.920 these people that think they know at all, they have this very limited 275 00:19:32.160 --> 00:19:34.720 conversation where it's gonna bounce back and forth, and they're not really gonna grow. 276 00:19:34.759 --> 00:19:37.039 They don't really have a growth mindset, you know, they get that 277 00:19:37.119 --> 00:19:44.119 fixed mindset sadly sadly, and the future is gonna be one. And what 278 00:19:44.200 --> 00:19:49.400 you finally are you know, uh pointing at is those people who don't know 279 00:19:49.519 --> 00:19:55.920 that they're only responding positively about the things that they're getting stroked for, will 280 00:19:55.960 --> 00:19:59.759 stop doing all the things that they either failed at or they were told that 281 00:19:59.759 --> 00:20:02.920 they weren't doing it right, or that all of that sort of things. 282 00:20:03.000 --> 00:20:07.880 So when you have somebody who is an abject failure, who like a wrestler 283 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:11.160 that goes out and gets pinned his first five matches. When it comes back, 284 00:20:11.599 --> 00:20:14.680 the first thing you got to say is what did you learn from that? 285 00:20:14.920 --> 00:20:18.319 Where? What do you now see that's gonna, you know, inform 286 00:20:18.400 --> 00:20:22.200 your next time you go out onto the mat and see what you can execute. 287 00:20:22.240 --> 00:20:26.200 That would make a difference with that, just some kind of a question 288 00:20:26.240 --> 00:20:30.559 about what did you learn every single time as opposed to that was brilliant what 289 00:20:30.640 --> 00:20:36.000 you did. You magically pinned that guy in thirty seconds. But it may 290 00:20:36.039 --> 00:20:38.839 never happen for you again. And I know people that have quit sports because 291 00:20:40.200 --> 00:20:41.839 they weren't as good as they you know, at fifteen, they weren't as 292 00:20:41.839 --> 00:20:45.960 good as they were when they were twelve, So true, true, you 293 00:20:47.000 --> 00:20:51.200 know, And that's when they get set that fixed mindset one hundred percent. 294 00:20:51.319 --> 00:20:55.880 And that's a hard one to shake until you are around some bull goose loonies 295 00:20:55.920 --> 00:20:59.200 like you and me, who basically say, hang around me long enough, 296 00:20:59.240 --> 00:21:03.680 I'm gonna convince you of your greatness and and then and watch you do sort 297 00:21:03.680 --> 00:21:06.880 of heights that you never thought possible, not because I did it, because 298 00:21:07.200 --> 00:21:10.960 because you now know you can. Okay, yeah, I love it. 299 00:21:11.000 --> 00:21:14.920 And if in the same vein Uh, you know, it's funny. There 300 00:21:14.920 --> 00:21:18.640 have been times when I've been around authors and I've told authors, you know, 301 00:21:18.720 --> 00:21:22.319 I think I've got an advantage here. Here's the thing. Like, 302 00:21:22.400 --> 00:21:26.400 I know I'm not a great writer, so I'm gonna keep trying and keep 303 00:21:26.440 --> 00:21:30.440 trying, and I'm gonna keep improving and keep improving because I know I'm not 304 00:21:30.480 --> 00:21:34.240 a great writer. So and now I have forty books and these people may 305 00:21:34.319 --> 00:21:37.960 have one or none. You know, I'm saying because they're they're great writers, 306 00:21:38.039 --> 00:21:41.759 but they're not going to keep trying and keep trying, you know, 307 00:21:41.759 --> 00:21:45.720 because they don't want to look stupid. And that's inspirational to me. I 308 00:21:45.759 --> 00:21:49.599 think I first met you when you were first doing your your your very first 309 00:21:49.599 --> 00:21:53.640 book, which I believe is The Storm, and uh, you know it 310 00:21:55.599 --> 00:22:00.240 to have time go by in between then and now, Uh, it's kind 311 00:22:00.240 --> 00:22:04.920 of remarkable. So my next question is going to tell a lot what is 312 00:22:04.960 --> 00:22:12.039 your favorite movie to watch alone? All Right, I'd have to say, 313 00:22:12.119 --> 00:22:22.119 Humphrey Bogart's Casablanca in black and White. Nobody in my family, you know 314 00:22:22.200 --> 00:22:25.319 it, loves history that much. I've got one daughter, my oldest daughter, 315 00:22:25.759 --> 00:22:30.079 who likes it, likes history enough to watch stuff with me, The 316 00:22:30.119 --> 00:22:33.880 History General or whatever. But I can't get can't even her. I can't 317 00:22:33.880 --> 00:22:37.680 get even her to watch like the Black and White, you know, something 318 00:22:37.680 --> 00:22:42.759 that's from like fifty sixty years ago or whatever it is. But yeah, 319 00:22:42.799 --> 00:22:47.079 I like to watch every couple of years, every couple of years if I'm 320 00:22:47.079 --> 00:22:49.559 home, maybe if I'm home sick or for some reason, I'm just home. 321 00:22:49.960 --> 00:22:55.319 Maybe I shouldn't be home because I'm like I'm sick or whatever, I'm 322 00:22:55.319 --> 00:22:59.160 home alone, or I just flip on every now and then Casa Blanca, 323 00:22:59.319 --> 00:23:02.799 watch a little Hume for your ball guard. And there's nobody in my family 324 00:23:03.200 --> 00:23:07.559 that's gonna watch that. I love. I mean, everything about it is 325 00:23:07.599 --> 00:23:11.599 fantastic, and it's one of the top five classics of all times. I 326 00:23:11.640 --> 00:23:14.839 think every kid should have to watch it in the second grade and then watch 327 00:23:14.880 --> 00:23:18.240 it again in the tenth grade. Oh yeah, I think you should. 328 00:23:18.519 --> 00:23:22.799 It's such a classic and it twists my mind up when I'm like, how 329 00:23:22.880 --> 00:23:25.559 calm? I mean, what do you mean you don't want to watch it? 330 00:23:25.640 --> 00:23:27.920 But I'm like, whatever, then I'll watch it. I'll watch it, 331 00:23:29.480 --> 00:23:32.720 so whatever. Every few years I watch it. Good for you. 332 00:23:33.960 --> 00:23:40.440 So here this one, I'm listening very carefully because I'm kind of interested in 333 00:23:40.559 --> 00:23:45.279 terms of your thinking. And so if you were to have an action figure 334 00:23:45.279 --> 00:23:48.960 made of you, what superpower would it have? Dan and what colors would 335 00:23:48.960 --> 00:23:52.920 the uniform be. I've never thought about this, but if I see my 336 00:23:53.000 --> 00:23:59.799 super action figure, Damn the Man, the first thing that comes to my 337 00:23:59.839 --> 00:24:03.519 mind was just Superman. You know, I've always said I think Superman has 338 00:24:03.559 --> 00:24:10.200 always been my favorite. So I would probably model myself as some degree of 339 00:24:10.319 --> 00:24:15.720 Superman. Like flying would be really cool to be able to fly, being 340 00:24:15.799 --> 00:24:18.839 so strong, I don't think I need those little like fire things or laser 341 00:24:18.839 --> 00:24:21.920 beams that come out of his eyes to burn thing. I don't think I 342 00:24:21.960 --> 00:24:26.079 need that, why not? But definitely being like super strong, being super 343 00:24:26.119 --> 00:24:29.799 fast, that might be the rest or athlete in me, you know, 344 00:24:29.920 --> 00:24:33.400 being super strong or super fast and the whole thing of being able to fly, 345 00:24:33.079 --> 00:24:37.640 I think it would be like really cool. So I think my superhero 346 00:24:37.759 --> 00:24:42.160 damn. The man hero superhero thing would kind of be somehow, in some 347 00:24:42.240 --> 00:24:48.640 way kind of modeled in that direction toward like the Superman. I always thought 348 00:24:48.680 --> 00:24:51.720 he could beat all the others up anyways, you know, and no one 349 00:24:51.720 --> 00:24:53.519 could tell me different Superman could beat them all up. I know some people 350 00:24:53.519 --> 00:24:57.319 try to say something else, but I don't believe it. Well, the 351 00:24:57.359 --> 00:25:00.480 neat part of it is is they realize early on that he had to have 352 00:25:00.680 --> 00:25:03.880 some kind of an achilles heel. Otherwise people would, you know, if 353 00:25:03.880 --> 00:25:07.480 he's never at risk in a fight, and that's where they had to invent 354 00:25:07.559 --> 00:25:11.960 kryptonite. Yes, you know. And the neat neat thing about that is, 355 00:25:12.400 --> 00:25:18.400 uh, so you're gonna be Superhero modeled after after Superman? And what 356 00:25:18.599 --> 00:25:25.359 colors would you make the uniform? Well, definitely the blue blue would be 357 00:25:25.440 --> 00:25:30.240 in there, and blue is my favorite color. Ocean's water, this blue 358 00:25:30.319 --> 00:25:34.039 skyline. Definitely blue would be in there. And you're just gonna need something 359 00:25:34.039 --> 00:25:38.640 to go with blue? Why not? So again, I mean, I 360 00:25:38.640 --> 00:25:42.279 think I think Red Goes were blue. Well, so I would probably do 361 00:25:42.359 --> 00:25:45.920 that, But Bill, I gotta tell you, I have my own kryptonite. 362 00:25:45.359 --> 00:25:48.200 Yeah, Well, you know, if I'm going to be a superman 363 00:25:48.319 --> 00:25:52.119 or Dan the man of my own kryptonite, and it gets me not often 364 00:25:52.640 --> 00:25:59.200 whenever he wants in a blue mood, the kryptonite couch gets me. Why 365 00:25:59.240 --> 00:26:02.160 not? And this is what it means. I'm on the run all the 366 00:26:02.200 --> 00:26:06.599 time. I'm like really busy from like early only morning so pretty much late 367 00:26:06.640 --> 00:26:08.839 at night when I sit down and usually watch like one TV show up my 368 00:26:08.839 --> 00:26:11.000 wife at the end of the night, and then we just gotta go to 369 00:26:11.000 --> 00:26:15.480 bed. But every once in a blue moon like this, maybe I'll have 370 00:26:15.480 --> 00:26:18.079 some time to kill, right, So every wants a blue moon, I 371 00:26:18.119 --> 00:26:19.920 might sit down on the couch and I'm like, oh, I'm gonna watch 372 00:26:19.920 --> 00:26:25.160 TV for like twenty minutes and then I'll get back on it. That twenty 373 00:26:25.240 --> 00:26:32.839 minutes, that couch just sucks everything out of me. It's my kryptonite couch, 374 00:26:33.240 --> 00:26:36.720 and it's like, oh man, it's almost impossible to get back up 375 00:26:37.319 --> 00:26:40.640 off of it then on it or kind of lounge on it. So I 376 00:26:40.720 --> 00:26:44.440 kind of make it a habit, not the lounge on the Kryptonite couch unless 377 00:26:44.440 --> 00:26:47.799 I really get some time to kill, because I'm not gonna get back up. 378 00:26:48.559 --> 00:26:52.839 Do you fall asleep once in a while. Yeah. Yeah, once 379 00:26:52.839 --> 00:26:56.480 in a while, I fall asleep and uh and sometimes believing or not like 380 00:26:56.519 --> 00:27:00.680 I even get I even do like these little micro naps were I'll fall asleep 381 00:27:00.680 --> 00:27:03.039 for like, I don't know, like thirty seconds or something like that. 382 00:27:03.559 --> 00:27:08.160 Up every now and then, but usually, you know, usually it's not 383 00:27:08.200 --> 00:27:12.119 that big of initial. Usually I'm up, off and on my way because 384 00:27:12.160 --> 00:27:15.000 I've always got things I have to go to, which is more powerful than 385 00:27:15.039 --> 00:27:18.039 the couch. But every now and then I'll get something that's you know, 386 00:27:18.599 --> 00:27:22.480 kind of important but not really really important me to do, and then I'll 387 00:27:22.480 --> 00:27:26.960 get sucked into the Kryptonite couch pig time. And then later on I'll be 388 00:27:26.960 --> 00:27:29.960 like, ah, man, I should have just done that thing instead, 389 00:27:30.319 --> 00:27:34.240 but I let the Kryptonite couch get the best of me. Well, you're 390 00:27:34.240 --> 00:27:37.880 gonna lose a battle. That's not a bad one, that's for sure. 391 00:27:38.000 --> 00:27:44.559 So along similar lines, what did you want to grow up to be when 392 00:27:44.599 --> 00:27:48.400 you were five years old? Oh? Yeah, definitely a movie star, 393 00:27:48.279 --> 00:27:52.279 you know, definitely have some kind of movie star, you know, in 394 00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:56.240 the eighties, you know, I was growing up. I was at the 395 00:27:56.319 --> 00:28:00.200 very very very end of sixty nine. So basically seventy. But I like 396 00:28:00.240 --> 00:28:02.799 to tell people that, uh, you know, I'm like a sixties baby 397 00:28:02.839 --> 00:28:04.880 just miss Wood sock. Whynot. But you know, as I'm going through 398 00:28:04.880 --> 00:28:11.240 the seventies in the eighties, uh you know, like like the Wrestlings there, 399 00:28:11.240 --> 00:28:14.039 the w w F Wrestlings there, but even more so you get the 400 00:28:14.079 --> 00:28:18.680 action movies. You have Charles Bronson, Clint Eastwood, Charles Bronson in the 401 00:28:18.759 --> 00:28:23.119 seventies, eighties, Arnold Schwarzerenegger Semesti stallone. So I was like, I'm 402 00:28:23.119 --> 00:28:26.319 gonna be like that. I'm gonna be like a tough guy, like in 403 00:28:26.400 --> 00:28:30.160 freaking Hollywood and uh, you know, big muscles and beating everybody up, 404 00:28:30.160 --> 00:28:33.920 and it's gonna be freaking so much fun. That's what I'm gonna And uh, 405 00:28:33.000 --> 00:28:40.119 you know that never happened. Yeah, you got to be a pretty 406 00:28:40.160 --> 00:28:44.519 good, pretty good uh not necessarily fighter, but a pretty good contender. 407 00:28:45.039 --> 00:28:48.799 Uh. And then you know, got busy doing other things and working and 408 00:28:48.880 --> 00:28:56.559 writing books and stuff and coaching. Yep, absolutely so, Dan, I've 409 00:28:56.559 --> 00:29:00.400 known you to accomplish an awful lot. But what is your greatest accomplshment? 410 00:29:02.880 --> 00:29:07.599 Gosh, I many times I go back to my first accomplishment, and I 411 00:29:07.599 --> 00:29:14.079 was saying what I felt like was my biggest accomplishment to change things. And 412 00:29:14.160 --> 00:29:18.519 this biggest accomplishment I think that totally changed the trajectory of my life. Was 413 00:29:18.599 --> 00:29:23.039 that time when I was a sophomore in high school, nobody on the wrestling 414 00:29:23.079 --> 00:29:30.640 team, and I went to this uh Junior Olympic qualifiers wrestling tournament. Uh, 415 00:29:30.680 --> 00:29:33.599 you know, I didn't know anybody there, nobody knew me. I 416 00:29:33.599 --> 00:29:36.720 wasn't even sposed to like be there, but I was. I showed up. 417 00:29:37.200 --> 00:29:40.400 I showed up. I entered two weight classes up, you know, 418 00:29:40.559 --> 00:29:44.400 because I didn't want to like try to get I lose weight or nothing like 419 00:29:44.440 --> 00:29:47.599 that. And and I just went when iver, I'll just go this way 420 00:29:47.640 --> 00:29:52.160 class and and I want it. I want it. And it was really 421 00:29:52.160 --> 00:29:55.279 weird because like there was nobody there to watch me, nobody there to judge 422 00:29:55.279 --> 00:29:59.119 me, nobody there knew me. I didn't know anybody. So I went 423 00:29:59.119 --> 00:30:02.400 out there. My attitude was just I don't even know where it came from, 424 00:30:02.559 --> 00:30:03.960 but my attitude was, let's go out there and get my book kicked 425 00:30:03.960 --> 00:30:07.039 and just like have some fun and like learn something. And then for the 426 00:30:07.079 --> 00:30:12.079 first time I wrestled without Fayre, and I tore everybody up. It took 427 00:30:12.119 --> 00:30:17.440 first place, and then after that my whole life changed because now I'm like, 428 00:30:17.720 --> 00:30:19.160 wow, like I really am a great wrestler instead of just a good 429 00:30:19.160 --> 00:30:22.160 wrestler. And that transferred over to a whole bunch of other things, you 430 00:30:22.160 --> 00:30:26.200 know, state championship and football Army stuff, excel in the army, you 431 00:30:26.200 --> 00:30:30.200 know, college, fourteen years of college, seven degrees, you know, 432 00:30:30.119 --> 00:30:33.720 the whole thing, like maybe having enough confidence, you know, to ask 433 00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:37.559 that girl out for a date and asked that go to marry me right, 434 00:30:37.000 --> 00:30:41.759 you know, becoming a father, getting a job as a teacher, coach, 435 00:30:41.119 --> 00:30:45.200 writing the books, giving the speeches, the teTeX talks to forty books, 436 00:30:45.519 --> 00:30:48.759 you know, all that stuff stemmed I think from that. So, 437 00:30:48.799 --> 00:30:52.559 I mean, I mean it gets tough to say, what's my great Is 438 00:30:52.559 --> 00:30:56.279 it the forty books? Is the taen X talk? Is it winning the 439 00:30:56.359 --> 00:31:02.200 Junior Olympic qualifier? Is my first child? You know? Is that my 440 00:31:02.240 --> 00:31:07.000 greatest accomplishment? Maybe maybe that's it, But at first my mind always says 441 00:31:07.079 --> 00:31:10.440 the others, you know, is it breaking the Canadian bench press record? 442 00:31:10.720 --> 00:31:14.680 You know, but my mind goes back is it winning the football State champs 443 00:31:15.000 --> 00:31:18.559 championship and winning the Defensive Game Bout Trophy for Thanksgiving? I mean, all 444 00:31:18.599 --> 00:31:22.119 that stuff are great, you know, a great we're running a marathon. 445 00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:27.160 All that stuff developed because of what I did myselfomo the year in high school 446 00:31:27.400 --> 00:31:32.200 when I wanted everything from that is to me. It feels that way that 447 00:31:32.359 --> 00:31:36.960 everything from that so my mind always goes back. So that's what made all 448 00:31:37.039 --> 00:31:45.079 the other things possible, was that because that got my headset straight and gave 449 00:31:45.119 --> 00:31:48.759 me the confidence to say, you know what, if you just really really 450 00:31:48.759 --> 00:31:52.160 work hard and believe in yourself, you know, saying you're gonna do great 451 00:31:52.200 --> 00:31:55.839 things. And it's kind of funny because I've got the student who is a 452 00:31:55.880 --> 00:31:59.559 wrestler now and he asked me and he says, that's to me yesterday. 453 00:31:59.559 --> 00:32:01.000 He goes, miss, he knows I was a two time state champ, 454 00:32:01.119 --> 00:32:06.119 two times Junior Olympian. He goes, mis her, does your brain ever 455 00:32:06.200 --> 00:32:09.680 did it ever sabotage you? And I go, yeah, I lost matches 456 00:32:10.039 --> 00:32:15.480 because my babotize me every once in a while. And I go, it 457 00:32:15.599 --> 00:32:20.319 happens to all of us. But the problem is, uh, you know, 458 00:32:20.559 --> 00:32:22.720 is when you just let it keep happening and keep happening. You gotta 459 00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:25.920 bounce back from it. You know, you're gonna train your brain. You're 460 00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:30.599 gonna remember thoughts become things, right, So you're gonna train your brain and 461 00:32:30.640 --> 00:32:34.960 control your thoughts, and don't let your brain sabotage you. You know more 462 00:32:34.960 --> 00:32:37.400 than every once in a while. You know you're human. It's gonna happen. 463 00:32:37.440 --> 00:32:40.240 It's gonna sabotize you every once in a while. But don't let that 464 00:32:40.279 --> 00:32:44.200 be the norm. Don't let your brain get the best of you. You 465 00:32:44.240 --> 00:32:46.960 know that resistance, you know that negative self talk. Don't let that win 466 00:32:47.079 --> 00:32:52.920 you win. Yeah, I love that. And the neatest part of that 467 00:32:52.119 --> 00:32:58.480 is is that you know you have a chance to beat the other wrestler. 468 00:32:58.559 --> 00:33:00.839 If you're wrestling that guy and the guy you're imagining him to be in your 469 00:33:00.880 --> 00:33:06.039 head, you know you really have to just like let that all go and 470 00:33:06.119 --> 00:33:08.640 be present in the moment and be ready for whatever comes. You know, 471 00:33:08.759 --> 00:33:12.680 isn't that a good way to live? Life? Like? This is it? 472 00:33:13.079 --> 00:33:15.519 This is all we get no doubt. I can remember Bill, when 473 00:33:15.559 --> 00:33:20.599 my recruiter for the army picks me up. I was eighteen years old. 474 00:33:21.440 --> 00:33:24.039 He picked me up at my parents' house like six in the morning. The 475 00:33:24.079 --> 00:33:30.079 whole neighborhood's kind of so sleep and I think it was summertime and I'm hopping 476 00:33:30.119 --> 00:33:34.160 in the cheap and my army recruiter looks at me and says, hey, 477 00:33:34.880 --> 00:33:37.759 you ready, And I turned and looked at him, and I go, 478 00:33:38.000 --> 00:33:42.279 I guess I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be. And that was it, 479 00:33:42.359 --> 00:33:45.240 and I went off to like my army career, and I gotta tell 480 00:33:45.240 --> 00:33:49.000 you, Bill, you don't know how many times in my life I've used 481 00:33:49.039 --> 00:33:52.880 that phrase. I guess I'm as ready as I'm ever gonna be. Yep, 482 00:33:52.359 --> 00:33:54.720 let's just do it. Let's just do it. I mean this happened 483 00:33:54.759 --> 00:33:58.839 to me. I think like two days ago. Two days ago, somebody 484 00:33:58.880 --> 00:34:01.640 asked me something and I said that I think I'm as right as I'm ever 485 00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:05.480 gonna be, So let's just let's just do it. You know, say, 486 00:34:05.599 --> 00:34:08.360 when you go to it with that attitude that going forward in your life, 487 00:34:08.519 --> 00:34:13.400 I'm probably gonna use that saying probably another fifty times before I die, 488 00:34:13.800 --> 00:34:16.440 because I'm always going to be doing new things, facing new challenges, you 489 00:34:16.480 --> 00:34:22.320 know, trying to contribute in new, bigger, better different ways. And 490 00:34:22.679 --> 00:34:25.880 am I gonna be ready? Am I gonna be fully ready? Now you're 491 00:34:25.960 --> 00:34:30.119 never gonna be fully ready? So hey, yes, I'm as as ready 492 00:34:30.159 --> 00:34:32.719 as right as if I'm ever gonna be. So let's just do it. 493 00:34:34.039 --> 00:34:37.639 And then when you get in there, it's like the headlights of your car 494 00:34:37.679 --> 00:34:42.559 can now see another fifty feet, and you can proceed another fifty feet, 495 00:34:42.719 --> 00:34:45.039 and as you move up, your headlights can see another fifty feet. That's 496 00:34:45.119 --> 00:34:53.280 kind of like how your life is fantastic. I really love the depth that 497 00:34:53.360 --> 00:34:58.239 we're able to get into here in terms of all of those kind of like 498 00:34:59.400 --> 00:35:05.199 mental mind and sets and self talk and all that sort of thing. I 499 00:35:05.239 --> 00:35:08.679 really want to like investigate a little bit. Who's your favorite person to listen 500 00:35:08.679 --> 00:35:16.119 to? Dan Well, I would say in the old days, in the 501 00:35:16.199 --> 00:35:22.400 old days, my favorite person to listen to was when I came across Tony 502 00:35:22.480 --> 00:35:28.800 Robbins book Awakened the Giant Within, and then I read everything, I listened 503 00:35:28.840 --> 00:35:34.960 to everything, I watched everything on Tony Robbins for years and he really shaped 504 00:35:35.000 --> 00:35:37.400 me, you know what I'm saying. I mean, thoughts become things. 505 00:35:37.400 --> 00:35:40.280 I'm pretty sure I came from Tony Robins, the transformational vocabulary. Right, 506 00:35:40.519 --> 00:35:45.119 someone says, how are you? Okay, No, don't do that, 507 00:35:45.079 --> 00:35:51.280 say unbelievable, great, you know good, good, you know, don't 508 00:35:51.280 --> 00:35:54.280 say that, you know, transform your life with transformation vocabulary, right, 509 00:35:54.480 --> 00:35:58.880 how are you? I'm great. It's unbelievable. Things are unbelievable, right, 510 00:35:58.920 --> 00:36:00.639 and that puts you in a certain state of mind. Right, So 511 00:36:00.679 --> 00:36:04.840 I would say in the beginning, it was definitely Tony Robbins. For many 512 00:36:04.840 --> 00:36:08.719 many years I did him. Now moving forward, over the years, I've 513 00:36:09.199 --> 00:36:14.400 kind of taken on many, many, many more mentors like Tony Robbins. 514 00:36:14.679 --> 00:36:16.800 And I can't say today that I have a particular person, but I can't 515 00:36:16.840 --> 00:36:21.800 tell you I have a particular section. And it's section one point fifty eight 516 00:36:22.039 --> 00:36:28.760 in the library, okay, failed with that's like the psychology section, And 517 00:36:28.800 --> 00:36:32.480 it's spilled like the psychology of success, psychology of setting goals, the psychology 518 00:36:32.480 --> 00:36:35.800 are winning, you know what I'm saying. Plus it has like you know 519 00:36:35.840 --> 00:36:37.639 it as people like Tony Robins, like his book will be in there, 520 00:36:37.840 --> 00:36:42.599 and a whole bunch of great people that are trying, that are trend setting 521 00:36:43.039 --> 00:36:47.280 are in that section of learning. How to win learning how to control your 522 00:36:47.280 --> 00:36:52.719 thoughts because thoughts become things, all that stuff. So I've learned, you 523 00:36:52.760 --> 00:36:55.840 know, much from that section in the library's free They're saying, I've learned 524 00:36:55.920 --> 00:37:01.960 much from that section. And I've had many, many, many mentors over 525 00:37:02.039 --> 00:37:07.599 the years, and they're constantly growing now to meet today's modern times. A 526 00:37:07.639 --> 00:37:10.400 lot of the stuff is digital, which is beautiful that a lot of the 527 00:37:10.440 --> 00:37:14.920 things are digital because now you can get it right there on your phone and 528 00:37:14.960 --> 00:37:19.039 you can listen to the audiobook or you can get a podcast, and there's 529 00:37:19.079 --> 00:37:22.039 some really good audiobooks, some really good podcasts out there. So I'm listening 530 00:37:22.079 --> 00:37:25.280 to a variety of people, and I think that that's kind of how it 531 00:37:25.320 --> 00:37:28.679 works out. As you get older, you know, you kind of move 532 00:37:28.719 --> 00:37:36.880 from that that paradigm of having that mentor to having multiple mentors. Yes, 533 00:37:37.559 --> 00:37:42.159 because there's a lot of different things you do in your multifaceted life, and 534 00:37:42.199 --> 00:37:50.760 it's brilliant to replace your, shall we say, unconsidered eighty thousand thoughts a 535 00:37:50.880 --> 00:37:54.079 day with a bunch of other thoughts that are going to be at your disposal 536 00:37:54.119 --> 00:37:58.840 when you need them, and they'll just show up like a Swiss Swiss army 537 00:37:58.880 --> 00:38:05.880 knife for you to fit the occasion. That's great, So uh complete this 538 00:38:06.440 --> 00:38:08.760 sentence if you will, my friend, When I grow up, I'd like 539 00:38:08.880 --> 00:38:20.360 to join the circus. Key's hit up to Rocky in one of the Rocky 540 00:38:20.440 --> 00:38:23.639 movies, Goods Worn. That was in one of the Rocky movies when Mickey 541 00:38:23.639 --> 00:38:27.599 said something to Rocky about you know, I think when this is over, 542 00:38:28.039 --> 00:38:31.280 we should join the circus. And I gotta tell you, I used to 543 00:38:31.320 --> 00:38:35.639 work with a guy at the gas station, an old guy, old timer, 544 00:38:35.920 --> 00:38:37.440 back when I was in high school. He was He told me how 545 00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:42.880 he used to drive the motorcycle inside that still ball that's still ball cage. 546 00:38:42.960 --> 00:38:45.119 He was the guy that drove the motorcycle inside of that and I was just 547 00:38:45.119 --> 00:38:49.320 thinking, man, how fun that would be. Now. To be honest, 548 00:38:49.639 --> 00:38:52.199 I'm probably not going to join the circus. It's a metaphor for doing 549 00:38:52.239 --> 00:38:58.519 something that's a little wild, little off traditional, untraditional, maybe a little 550 00:38:58.559 --> 00:39:00.760 crazy. So I'll like when I grow up, yeah, I want to 551 00:39:00.800 --> 00:39:05.880 be that guy. I want to grow into that role of going out and 552 00:39:06.039 --> 00:39:09.719 just doing big, scary fun things. Uh. And maybe that's what the 553 00:39:09.880 --> 00:39:15.000 circus is. A metaphor, you know, a voyage of some sort of 554 00:39:15.039 --> 00:39:20.800 adventure of some sort. Mm hmm. Yeah. Knowing you, you'll probably 555 00:39:20.800 --> 00:39:25.599 be a trapeze flyer. Yeah, maybe time. That's time I hit a 556 00:39:25.599 --> 00:39:32.880 triple backflip when I was bungee jumping. Yeah. Yeah. I gotta say, 557 00:39:32.880 --> 00:39:38.159 though, I've been watching this show that's really catching my interest and I'm 558 00:39:38.199 --> 00:39:43.119 almost thinking, you know what, that might be a decent second career. 559 00:39:43.920 --> 00:39:47.880 His name is Josh Gates. Expedition are known. He's an archaeologist travelers the 560 00:39:47.920 --> 00:39:54.199 world looks for like, uh, you know, new mummies or different things 561 00:39:54.239 --> 00:39:57.800 like digging up He takes up bones a lot, uses his metal detector for 562 00:39:57.800 --> 00:40:00.039 a lot. But he does a lot of cool things, Okay, And 563 00:40:00.119 --> 00:40:05.360 I'm thinking maybe that's it. Maybe that's the circus, you know, traveling 564 00:40:05.400 --> 00:40:08.639 the world and putting on a TV show of you exploring the world. Who 565 00:40:08.639 --> 00:40:13.719 knows, Maybe that's it. Yeah, what would Indiana Jones do today? 566 00:40:13.800 --> 00:40:20.000 Right? Exactly? That would be cool? Just bring it, you know, 567 00:40:20.039 --> 00:40:22.519 Bill, it's kind of funny. Uh. One of my daughter's professors 568 00:40:22.519 --> 00:40:28.880 at Yukon is an archaeologist and she teaches up with the I go what made 569 00:40:28.880 --> 00:40:31.039 you become an archaeologist? Right now. This is a woman. I go, 570 00:40:31.119 --> 00:40:36.960 We'll make you. She goes Indiana Jones of course, So it's the 571 00:40:37.039 --> 00:40:38.880 woman too, not just the men that I don't want to be any Indiana 572 00:40:38.960 --> 00:40:45.039 Jones exactly. And uh probably they're all afraid of snakes, you know, 573 00:40:45.079 --> 00:40:49.199 it just seems to go with the territory, I think. So, So 574 00:40:49.239 --> 00:40:52.079 what would you say is the most important thing in life to you right now? 575 00:40:52.199 --> 00:40:59.599 Dan? Family? My wife and my children. I don't know, 576 00:40:59.639 --> 00:41:02.480 Bill, how what you know of my backstory about how I came of a 577 00:41:02.599 --> 00:41:07.679 very rough and tough, very dysfunctional home. You know, I grew up 578 00:41:07.719 --> 00:41:12.760 in a way that no kid should have to grow up in. But kids 579 00:41:12.800 --> 00:41:15.719 every day are growing up in it. And so I didn't get to pick 580 00:41:15.760 --> 00:41:17.119 my family. Kids today don't get to pick the family. You know, 581 00:41:17.400 --> 00:41:21.920 some people win the birth lottery. Many people lose the birth lottery. That's 582 00:41:21.920 --> 00:41:24.440 how it goes. But at some point, at some point, you know, 583 00:41:24.440 --> 00:41:28.519 you grow up, You get bigger, you get stronger, you get 584 00:41:28.519 --> 00:41:30.199 more capable, and if you don't let the anger get the best of you, 585 00:41:30.679 --> 00:41:35.440 then you can create the family that you deserve. And that's what I 586 00:41:35.480 --> 00:41:38.920 did with my wife and my five children. I created the family I deserve, 587 00:41:39.360 --> 00:41:44.320 and I think there's no better place to be than to be in the 588 00:41:44.360 --> 00:41:49.679 family you deserve. When you're there, you're grounded, you're loved, you're 589 00:41:49.719 --> 00:41:52.719 protected. You know, you have all these things. And I don't think 590 00:41:52.760 --> 00:41:57.239 there's anything more important than that. Those guys that go to the office for 591 00:41:57.599 --> 00:42:00.480 you know, another hour instead of coming home for dinner, you know, 592 00:42:00.679 --> 00:42:04.920 I think they're making a mistake. You know, you gotta you gotta put 593 00:42:04.920 --> 00:42:07.880 time into your family. That the most important thing in the world. Nobody 594 00:42:07.920 --> 00:42:09.840 ever dies and says, oh, I wish I'd spent more hours at the 595 00:42:09.840 --> 00:42:14.199 office. You know, sometimes we're forced because we have to, because we're 596 00:42:14.199 --> 00:42:16.199 gonna make bills pay, make ends meet and all that stuff, and or 597 00:42:16.239 --> 00:42:20.400 we got deadlines. Sometimes we have to. But when you can choose, 598 00:42:21.519 --> 00:42:24.679 choose your family, there is that there's nothing better. And choosing your family 599 00:42:27.840 --> 00:42:32.719 absolutely wonderful and it's a great message, especially these days. So what would 600 00:42:32.719 --> 00:42:36.440 you like to leave in the world after your life is done? Dan, 601 00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:47.599 I would like to leave something that reminds people by me besides just my tombstone, 602 00:42:49.360 --> 00:42:53.360 which I think I've already accomplished some of that. Between books, and 603 00:42:53.519 --> 00:43:00.599 speeches and videos and podcasts and blogs and something like this. I've already done 604 00:43:00.599 --> 00:43:02.639 some of that, but this is what I want, not just the momentals 605 00:43:04.199 --> 00:43:09.320 that I once existed, but what I really want from that is when somebody 606 00:43:09.320 --> 00:43:14.800 comes across the name Dan Blanchard, or someone sees the picture of Dan Blanchard 607 00:43:14.880 --> 00:43:21.760 somewhere. This is what I want most. Wow that now that, now, 608 00:43:21.880 --> 00:43:28.960 that was a good man. That's I just got goosebumps down my back. 609 00:43:29.599 --> 00:43:31.320 You know what I'm saying. That's what I want most in this world. 610 00:43:31.599 --> 00:43:35.480 I want people to say, now, that was a good man, 611 00:43:36.599 --> 00:43:39.639 he was a good man or not. I've known, I've known a few, 612 00:43:40.280 --> 00:43:45.079 a few of those were past and to this day I still say, 613 00:43:45.920 --> 00:43:52.320 yeah, Jim, he was a good man. Yeah. And I want 614 00:43:52.320 --> 00:43:58.000 people saying that about me because of the contributions and the good that I do 615 00:43:58.079 --> 00:44:01.480 in this world, very clear, very clear. Thank you for that. 616 00:44:02.440 --> 00:44:06.719 And now you know, when you go to your your baker, or you 617 00:44:06.760 --> 00:44:09.800 go to somebody who's really good at selling you a dozen at a time, 618 00:44:10.440 --> 00:44:14.239 they're gonna throw a thirteenth point in. And I'm doing that with the question. 619 00:44:14.440 --> 00:44:19.599 So your maker's question is what is the thing that most people misunderstand about 620 00:44:19.599 --> 00:44:23.960 you. Well, okay, let's see. I gotta tell you this, 621 00:44:24.039 --> 00:44:28.000 Bill, this is a very unique interview. So good for you, kudos 622 00:44:28.039 --> 00:44:30.719 for you. You're asking me questions like I've never been asked before, which 623 00:44:30.840 --> 00:44:36.519 makes this podcast very unique. So I think that every now and then, 624 00:44:37.719 --> 00:44:42.199 I think, and I don't know how this happens, but every now and 625 00:44:42.239 --> 00:44:49.559 then I'll get somebody who just gets annoyed with me. They think I'm like 626 00:44:50.239 --> 00:44:54.320 too happier, I'm talking too much, I'm too confident or cock here, 627 00:44:54.960 --> 00:45:00.559 whatever it is that they that they think. And sometimes they get ordering me 628 00:45:00.000 --> 00:45:04.239 and then and I'm just like, I don't get it because I don't think 629 00:45:04.280 --> 00:45:07.599 I'm any of those things, you know what I'm saying. Or it's kind 630 00:45:07.599 --> 00:45:09.559 of like a Patch Adams said, Wall, You're gonna accuse me of excessive 631 00:45:09.559 --> 00:45:15.039 happiness, you know what I'm saying. That's kind of weird to be excus 632 00:45:15.320 --> 00:45:19.719 accusing me and trying to punish me for excessive happiness. But I've actually had 633 00:45:19.760 --> 00:45:22.079 somebody who's actually said that to me before, Like, I get tired of 634 00:45:22.119 --> 00:45:25.159 you, like always acting like you're happy, and its like but but but 635 00:45:25.519 --> 00:45:30.199 I am happy because I'm always trying to do good in this world, you 636 00:45:30.239 --> 00:45:34.719 know, so people sometimes misunderstand that, and then every now and then, 637 00:45:35.000 --> 00:45:37.760 you know, it jumps to the next level. Well I'm like, oh, 638 00:45:37.960 --> 00:45:40.079 he's just uh, he's cocky or whatever, and I'm just like, 639 00:45:40.440 --> 00:45:45.239 no, not at all, not cocky at all. You know how hard 640 00:45:45.239 --> 00:45:49.480 I fight just to be confident. Yes, I can get up on that 641 00:45:49.559 --> 00:45:52.920 stage so I can write that next book, so I can stand in front 642 00:45:52.920 --> 00:45:57.400 of that classroom. Every day I get a fight for that confidence that stuffs 643 00:45:57.400 --> 00:46:00.920 hard. It's a battle for me every single day. It's not like cockiness. 644 00:46:00.960 --> 00:46:06.480 No, that's not me. That's not me. I'm fighting for confidence 645 00:46:06.480 --> 00:46:12.239 every day. I love that, I really do, because that is a 646 00:46:12.320 --> 00:46:19.360 personal insight from the standpoint of what would most people never even think of asking 647 00:46:19.400 --> 00:46:25.880 you. You know, and I've appreciated your complete generosity, your authenticity, 648 00:46:27.119 --> 00:46:34.639 your honesty, your need and ability to always deliver leadership and everything that you 649 00:46:34.679 --> 00:46:38.679 say. It's very powerful and I feel the energy and the power in this 650 00:46:38.760 --> 00:46:43.800 interview, and I'm really glad to have spent this time with you. Do 651 00:46:43.880 --> 00:46:47.639 you have any questions of me before we wrap up here? No, I 652 00:46:47.639 --> 00:46:52.280 don't think so. Like I said, I really enjoy this interview. You 653 00:46:52.440 --> 00:46:55.639 challenged me a lot of this interview by asking me questions that nobody's ever asked 654 00:46:55.679 --> 00:47:00.039 me before. And I know, I mean, I listen to podcast a 655 00:47:00.280 --> 00:47:02.639 lot of podcasts, so I know that every now and then you do have 656 00:47:02.679 --> 00:47:07.000 some people out there that will ask a question or two, maybe not like 657 00:47:07.039 --> 00:47:10.760 thirteen, like newer questions or new questions, So you do get That's all 658 00:47:10.880 --> 00:47:17.280 I mean. I recognize the value immediately because I appreciate what you did because 659 00:47:17.280 --> 00:47:21.519 there's gonna be a lot of people out there that have hurt me many times 660 00:47:21.559 --> 00:47:25.760 in other places, but they've never heard me like they just heard me on 661 00:47:25.760 --> 00:47:30.000 the Bill grow Show. You know what I'm saying. So this is good 662 00:47:30.039 --> 00:47:35.639 stuff. Thank you. It's my pleasure, and I just want to again 663 00:47:35.719 --> 00:47:38.639 say to you folks at home, the main reason that we're doing this is 664 00:47:38.679 --> 00:47:44.960 to not only provide a platform for people to speak themselves in their truths, 665 00:47:45.760 --> 00:47:49.760 but also an opportunity for you to look in on some people who are up 666 00:47:49.760 --> 00:47:52.840 to some things, you know. And with that said, I want to 667 00:47:52.920 --> 00:47:55.559 leave you with this final message. First of all, Dane, before I 668 00:47:55.639 --> 00:48:00.079 close out, thank you again for your generosity and willingness to do this. 669 00:48:00.679 --> 00:48:06.760 You're a You're a great community member, You're a terrific person to be around, 670 00:48:07.880 --> 00:48:09.360 and I'm very selfishly going to want to have a lot more of you 671 00:48:09.400 --> 00:48:14.440 in my life as time goes on. Okay, sound good, and now 672 00:48:14.480 --> 00:48:19.000 back to you folks that are listening. I want you to realize that around 673 00:48:19.079 --> 00:48:24.000 you that you're You've got tons of people that are so wonderful, and I 674 00:48:24.079 --> 00:48:30.719 really want to entreat you to call them, write them an email, send 675 00:48:30.719 --> 00:48:34.880 them a text, let them know that your life works because they're in the 676 00:48:34.920 --> 00:48:38.880 world, and that you look forward to seeing them again soon. Let's do 677 00:48:39.000 --> 00:48:43.960 what we can to help lift up our brothers and sisters and make this make 678 00:48:44.039 --> 00:48:47.719 this life easier to walk walk together. Okay, but that said, we're 679 00:48:47.800 --> 00:48:53.239 actually done asking questions today and I have learned so much. Again, Thank 680 00:48:53.280 --> 00:48:58.239 you, Dan, and you be well. Thank you Bill. You've been 681 00:48:58.280 --> 00:49:01.960 listening to Simple Questions for one hundred people, part of the x Audio podcast 682 00:49:02.079 --> 00:49:07.079 Network. You can find every episode at xvadio dot com, Slash podcasts, 683 00:49:07.199 --> 00:49:13.679 the Apple podcast app, Google Podcasts, Spotify, iHeartRadio, and wherever you 684 00:49:13.800 --> 00:49:14.880 find podcasts.