WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.080 --> 00:00:03.080 Hi, everyone, Welcome back to another podcast episode. My name is Alicia 2 00:00:03.120 --> 00:00:06.200 Gogan, the host of the Globe Seats podcast, where I help you expand 3 00:00:06.200 --> 00:00:08.960 your mind and become more self aware so that you can glow up into the 4 00:00:08.960 --> 00:00:13.679 best version of yourself. Okay, guys, I am so excited to talk 5 00:00:13.720 --> 00:00:17.320 about spring, like to the point where this whole episode is just going to 6 00:00:17.359 --> 00:00:20.519 be about spring, but in particular, we do have a few q and 7 00:00:20.559 --> 00:00:25.399 as to get through. I want to talk about body confidence because I feel 8 00:00:25.399 --> 00:00:30.480 like, naturally when we move into the spring and summertime, what comes up. 9 00:00:30.600 --> 00:00:32.920 We think about our bodies, we think about the way that we look. 10 00:00:33.240 --> 00:00:36.520 And you guys had some questions and you wanted some advice, So we're 11 00:00:36.520 --> 00:00:41.240 going to talk about that. You guys ask me a lot on Instagram of 12 00:00:41.280 --> 00:00:46.399 my summer plans and the vibes for the spring summer. Y'll also talked about 13 00:00:47.039 --> 00:00:51.719 FOMO and saving money throughout the summer when everyone wants to do a million things. 14 00:00:51.759 --> 00:00:55.439 So we're gonna talk about that and a few updates on what's been going 15 00:00:55.479 --> 00:00:59.640 on. Okay, So this weekend, I have been doing a vlog. 16 00:01:00.159 --> 00:01:06.159 I've been vlogging my activities for the whole weekend, and I really want to 17 00:01:06.200 --> 00:01:11.000 do a Summer in the City series. I've seen. Her name is Danielle 18 00:01:11.120 --> 00:01:14.760 Carolyn. She's a New York City vlogger. I feel like some of you 19 00:01:14.760 --> 00:01:18.760 guys might know her, some of you might not. I remember her doing 20 00:01:18.799 --> 00:01:22.159 some sort of Summer in the Cities series last I don't know if it was 21 00:01:22.319 --> 00:01:26.439 last summer or the summer before when she moved to New York because she wanted 22 00:01:26.480 --> 00:01:29.519 to do like a bunch of things and just like live her life. And 23 00:01:29.560 --> 00:01:33.359 I feel like that's me but in Toronto. So I think that I'm going 24 00:01:33.439 --> 00:01:36.480 to do some sort of vlog series. Well I am, because I've already 25 00:01:36.480 --> 00:01:38.760 started it, and just I don't know a vlog. You know, all 26 00:01:38.799 --> 00:01:42.000 of the things that I do, all of the lessons that I'm learning, 27 00:01:42.000 --> 00:01:47.120 all the challenges that I'm putting myself through, all the realizations and the wisdom, 28 00:01:47.159 --> 00:01:49.760 because you guys know, I'm all about that. So I'm really excited 29 00:01:49.799 --> 00:01:53.439 to start that on my main channel. We'll see, obviously, I even 30 00:01:53.439 --> 00:01:57.680 said in the video, like we're gonna see if it works for me as 31 00:01:57.719 --> 00:02:00.359 a creator, and we're also going to see if it works for you guys, 32 00:02:00.400 --> 00:02:04.560 because you know, I understand that sometimes when you just vlog your daily 33 00:02:04.599 --> 00:02:07.439 life it's kind of boring. But I feel like I want to give you 34 00:02:07.439 --> 00:02:09.639 guys as much value as possible. And if there's cool things that I can 35 00:02:09.680 --> 00:02:13.759 show you in realizations that I'm coming to and I can talk to you guys 36 00:02:14.039 --> 00:02:16.000 about that, then I would love to do that. So we'll see. 37 00:02:16.000 --> 00:02:19.360 I don't know if it's going to be like every single weekend, because not 38 00:02:19.479 --> 00:02:22.400 every weekend I do something, especially when I'm on my period, like hello, 39 00:02:22.439 --> 00:02:25.879 Gurly, we are keeping it calm. I also feel like during the 40 00:02:25.919 --> 00:02:30.039 week, I don't really know if i'd be like a week during the week 41 00:02:30.120 --> 00:02:32.800 vlogger, just because I do kind of the same things and I kind of 42 00:02:32.800 --> 00:02:38.360 want to keep low during the week, like waking up, writing, going 43 00:02:38.360 --> 00:02:42.280 to the gym, eating kind of the same types of foods, like nothing 44 00:02:42.319 --> 00:02:45.639 too crazy, and then of course recording my podcast, doing lots of editing, 45 00:02:46.080 --> 00:02:49.439 recording YouTube videos, all that kind of stuff. So we'll see. 46 00:02:49.479 --> 00:02:52.800 We'll just add some flare into the content and we'll see how you guys like 47 00:02:52.879 --> 00:02:55.319 it. Let me know any thoughts. I also ask you guys on Instagram 48 00:02:55.319 --> 00:02:58.439 if you guys wanted that, and a lot of you guys said you did, 49 00:02:58.479 --> 00:03:02.319 so we'll see. Also, I did my photoshoot for the podcast, 50 00:03:02.800 --> 00:03:07.560 and guys, I think you're really gonna love the photos. I don't know 51 00:03:07.560 --> 00:03:12.240 what I'm getting them all. They should be soon, and I had a 52 00:03:12.280 --> 00:03:15.800 few different outfits and a few different vibes. I don't want to give too 53 00:03:15.879 --> 00:03:19.000 much away, and I need to also once I get the photos back, 54 00:03:19.039 --> 00:03:22.879 I need to then do some editing to like actually have the text on the 55 00:03:22.919 --> 00:03:27.479 photo for the podcast art and all that kind of stuff. So we'll see. 56 00:03:27.719 --> 00:03:31.319 But I am so excited to rebrand and to show you guys. I 57 00:03:31.360 --> 00:03:35.800 feel like this photoshoot was really big for me. It wasn't just the fact 58 00:03:35.800 --> 00:03:39.319 that I got a photo shoot done for the podcast to make it look more 59 00:03:39.360 --> 00:03:45.840 professional and more great. It's just this is really a reflection of me becoming 60 00:03:46.240 --> 00:03:50.759 the most authentic version of myself and glowing up into the best version of myself. 61 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:53.759 Like I am the most glowed up version of myself in these photos, 62 00:03:54.120 --> 00:04:00.639 and that is the type of feeling and vibe that my photographer and I wanted 63 00:04:00.680 --> 00:04:05.479 to go for so that when somebody sees this podcast art they know what they're 64 00:04:05.520 --> 00:04:12.199 getting and they feel like welcomed to this podcast, and they feel like they 65 00:04:12.240 --> 00:04:15.400 can see themselves in me in any way, not just the fact that like 66 00:04:15.639 --> 00:04:17.920 the way that I look, but I guess you'll see when you actually see 67 00:04:17.920 --> 00:04:21.519 the photos and like how I look. But oh my gosh, I'm so 68 00:04:21.560 --> 00:04:25.439 excited. And I also wore my natural hair, which is really big for 69 00:04:25.519 --> 00:04:31.639 me. I like fully, fully, fully love embracing my hair now, 70 00:04:31.639 --> 00:04:35.000 and it's been such a long journey for me. I've said this in multiple 71 00:04:35.079 --> 00:04:41.959 videos before on my YouTube, but you know, growing up around people who 72 00:04:41.959 --> 00:04:47.040 didn't have the same hair texture type as me and like just not being in 73 00:04:47.079 --> 00:04:50.680 that nurturing environment. My mom did as best as she could. She's a 74 00:04:50.720 --> 00:04:55.279 white curly We love her, but um, you know, she didn't come 75 00:04:55.319 --> 00:04:59.240 from a home where she learned how to deal with really you know, curly 76 00:04:59.279 --> 00:05:03.079 curly hair. And also there just wasn't that many moms around as well that 77 00:05:03.360 --> 00:05:10.160 knew how to deal with like black hair, and so growing up, I 78 00:05:10.480 --> 00:05:13.160 just didn't love my hair. I wanted to look like everyone else and I 79 00:05:13.199 --> 00:05:15.680 did that and I tried that and it just like I've said many times, 80 00:05:15.720 --> 00:05:19.680 I ruined my hair. I hated my hair. So it's been a very 81 00:05:19.680 --> 00:05:24.519 long journey. And I'm sure any of you who are like mixed or black, 82 00:05:24.800 --> 00:05:29.480 you guys know that journey. And it's so nice to now be in 83 00:05:29.519 --> 00:05:32.680 that category of like it is, I fully embraced my hair and I love 84 00:05:32.759 --> 00:05:38.360 my hair. And I just think about when I have children, how that 85 00:05:38.399 --> 00:05:42.160 will not even be a reality for them to look at their hair like it's 86 00:05:42.879 --> 00:05:47.439 anything but amazing. And it's just crazy how this, honestly society has been 87 00:05:47.480 --> 00:05:50.000 evolving, if you just think about it. I'm sure any of you guys 88 00:05:50.000 --> 00:05:54.040 who were like around my age, I'm twenty seven years old, you know, 89 00:05:54.079 --> 00:05:56.920 when we grew up, there was not a lot of people who had 90 00:05:56.959 --> 00:05:59.759 the same hair as us, unless you lived in like that community, like 91 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:01.399 a black community, or you know, everyone kind of look like you. 92 00:06:01.519 --> 00:06:05.000 That's still but even even then, I feel like, you know, we're 93 00:06:05.000 --> 00:06:08.959 taught to purm our hair and to hate our hair and to not you know, 94 00:06:09.079 --> 00:06:13.519 just to manipulate it like crazy. And I just see like the younger 95 00:06:13.519 --> 00:06:16.519 generation growing up and when they all have curly hair, they're all just like 96 00:06:16.560 --> 00:06:19.839 embracing it, and it's like so normal to love your hair, and I 97 00:06:19.839 --> 00:06:23.199 think that's so beautiful, and I just think about when I have children, 98 00:06:23.199 --> 00:06:25.839 how that's just like good, that's going to be the reality to look at 99 00:06:25.879 --> 00:06:29.240 their hair and be like this is this is beautiful and amazing. Also not 100 00:06:29.279 --> 00:06:31.399 to beg on anyone who doesn't have curly hair, because y'all got good hair 101 00:06:31.439 --> 00:06:35.519 too, Like everyone has great hair. Okay, but anyways, I digress. 102 00:06:35.879 --> 00:06:40.680 I say that to say this photoshoot meant a lot to me and it 103 00:06:40.759 --> 00:06:46.720 was literally the most perfect, seamless process ever and it was so much deeper 104 00:06:46.759 --> 00:06:50.560 than just getting a photo taken of me professionally for a podcast. Okay, 105 00:06:50.560 --> 00:06:53.800 so let's get into the Q and A, and let's talk about summer. 106 00:06:54.000 --> 00:06:58.759 Let's get excited for spring. Well we're in spring, but spring summer vibes. 107 00:06:59.000 --> 00:07:01.920 I am living, you guys. You guys are also living. I 108 00:07:01.920 --> 00:07:06.040 know you guys are living for this weather. Wherever you're at, I'm assuming, 109 00:07:06.240 --> 00:07:11.439 well, unless you're like in Australia or somewhere where it would be switched 110 00:07:11.560 --> 00:07:15.480 I think, or you kind of just live somewhere where it's already warm, 111 00:07:15.600 --> 00:07:19.279 like God bless your soul. But for the majority of us, we are 112 00:07:19.319 --> 00:07:25.360 waking up out of our slumbers and the sun is out, and literally, 113 00:07:26.000 --> 00:07:29.319 you know what I just thought about the other day, It's like I don't 114 00:07:29.360 --> 00:07:33.000 even need coffee when the sun is out, because that is all I need 115 00:07:33.040 --> 00:07:38.639 to just get my ass up and just enjoy life. I swear it is 116 00:07:39.199 --> 00:07:43.560 such. It's like literally day and night to be in warm weather and the 117 00:07:43.600 --> 00:07:46.199 sun being out, like it's just crazy, and I'm so here for it, 118 00:07:46.199 --> 00:07:49.680 and I'm going to capitalize on everything like I always do usually in the 119 00:07:49.720 --> 00:07:54.600 summer when it comes to just like spending time outside and the fresh air and 120 00:07:54.639 --> 00:07:57.839 the sun. And I'm so happy that we are going to have like six 121 00:07:57.879 --> 00:08:01.879 months of this now and this is the time for us to really really thrive. 122 00:08:01.199 --> 00:08:05.560 And I hope you guys are in that same energy. I know winter 123 00:08:05.600 --> 00:08:11.079 can be very difficult and there's so many things that we've all been through this 124 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:15.399 past year, and I just want to commend to you guys and just be 125 00:08:15.480 --> 00:08:18.839 like, Hi, we're here, we are here, we made it, 126 00:08:18.199 --> 00:08:24.199 we went through whatever we went through, and let's get excited for the spring, 127 00:08:24.240 --> 00:08:26.720 for the summer. Let's feel amazing. Let's enjoy life, because that 128 00:08:26.920 --> 00:08:30.680 is really what we are here to do is having a conversation with one of 129 00:08:30.720 --> 00:08:35.720 my friends yesterday, and she had all of these goals to you know, 130 00:08:35.120 --> 00:08:39.519 have this career of her dreams, and you know, she's really just focused 131 00:08:39.519 --> 00:08:43.360 on all these goals. And of course we are human beings, we want 132 00:08:43.360 --> 00:08:46.759 that in our lives. But I told her, because I've been through this 133 00:08:46.159 --> 00:08:50.360 constantly, I've always been on a self improvement journey, healing, always had 134 00:08:50.440 --> 00:08:52.559 goals, always in survival mold, always always always going, going, going, 135 00:08:52.960 --> 00:08:56.159 And I said, listen, something and I've really learned over the past 136 00:08:56.200 --> 00:09:01.799 few years, which is totally not me, is like you need to live 137 00:09:01.919 --> 00:09:05.519 in the present moment. You need to be here and be okay with the 138 00:09:05.559 --> 00:09:09.279 process and being okay with the in between and not being where you want to 139 00:09:09.320 --> 00:09:15.360 be yet. And I even said to her, once you stop resisting everything 140 00:09:15.440 --> 00:09:18.639 and like wanting something so bad and telling yourself you must have this end goal, 141 00:09:18.759 --> 00:09:22.039 this body, this amount of money, the career, before you feel 142 00:09:22.039 --> 00:09:26.159 happy with your life, you will start to realize that everything in the in 143 00:09:26.240 --> 00:09:30.039 between, you living in the present moment, the people that you meet. 144 00:09:30.120 --> 00:09:33.000 When you stop getting in your head and you start living in the present moment 145 00:09:33.039 --> 00:09:35.440 and you start going out and living your life and not holding back. You 146 00:09:35.480 --> 00:09:39.240 will realize all these people, these places, these experiences, these things are 147 00:09:39.320 --> 00:09:43.480 what is actually going to get you to that goal a lot quicker. And 148 00:09:43.600 --> 00:09:48.720 it's crazy. It's like we again, we focus on the goal. We 149 00:09:48.799 --> 00:09:52.360 want the body, we want the money, we want something so much, 150 00:09:52.600 --> 00:09:56.320 and we're so attached to that, and the process feels so long, it 151 00:09:56.360 --> 00:09:58.240 feels hard, it feels like it's never ending. We feel like we're not 152 00:09:58.360 --> 00:10:03.879 living. And if we just release that resistance and detach, you will realize 153 00:10:03.279 --> 00:10:07.759 all the things in the in between are what's actually going to get us what 154 00:10:07.799 --> 00:10:11.200 we really really want. Let's say, for instance, you want a really 155 00:10:11.200 --> 00:10:16.080 cool job opportunity, and you are so fixated on getting this, and like 156 00:10:16.320 --> 00:10:18.039 you have this certain path and you have to take this course, and you 157 00:10:18.039 --> 00:10:20.039 have to go here at this time, and you gotta do interviews, you 158 00:10:20.039 --> 00:10:24.879 gotta do lada, all these things. Of course that might be your process 159 00:10:24.879 --> 00:10:26.919 and what you need to do. And sometimes we get so tied up on 160 00:10:26.960 --> 00:10:30.799 that to the point where we don't actually live in the moment and we let's 161 00:10:30.799 --> 00:10:33.320 say, don't go to that one event that we got invited to by a 162 00:10:33.360 --> 00:10:37.840 friend, who's in an industry. We feel like it's not really gonna get 163 00:10:37.879 --> 00:10:39.159 us anywhere, so we just don't go or you know, we don't go 164 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:43.279 out for a walk, we don't go to a coffee shop to work. 165 00:10:43.279 --> 00:10:46.799 We just don't do anything because we're so focused on that outcome, which is 166 00:10:46.840 --> 00:10:50.159 great in some aspects. But the thing is, sometimes when you go out 167 00:10:50.200 --> 00:10:54.039 to that event or you go out for a walk, and you see somebody 168 00:10:54.039 --> 00:10:58.639 and you have a connection and you talk, that person actually could be your 169 00:10:58.679 --> 00:11:03.120 answer to the job that you wanted, or to the opportunity, the connection 170 00:11:03.159 --> 00:11:05.600 that you needed, that would get you there a lot faster if you actually 171 00:11:05.600 --> 00:11:09.519 were in the present moment and you lived your life. So I just want 172 00:11:09.559 --> 00:11:15.279 to remind you that, and that's something that I've been heavily challenged myself when 173 00:11:15.279 --> 00:11:18.759 it comes to living, is to live here now in the present moment, 174 00:11:18.840 --> 00:11:22.960 stopping in your head so much, stop holding off on life, stop not 175 00:11:24.039 --> 00:11:28.159 living life because you don't have something, trust that it's going to come detached 176 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:31.720 from the outcome. And yeah, anyways, let's get into it, all 177 00:11:31.799 --> 00:11:35.360 right. So a lot of you guys asked what my summer plans are, 178 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:39.440 So I wrote a few out, I'm not going to like, well, 179 00:11:39.480 --> 00:11:41.519 I'll probably talk for a long time. You got you guys know this. 180 00:11:41.639 --> 00:11:46.039 But I wrote like plans that I have. I think when I looked at 181 00:11:46.080 --> 00:11:48.559 plans, I thought of goals as well, so they're kind of like interchangeable, 182 00:11:48.600 --> 00:11:52.200 I guess. So I did some for myself projects and things that I'm 183 00:11:52.240 --> 00:11:54.960 going to be working on, and then like actual plans and things that I 184 00:11:54.960 --> 00:12:00.639 want to do. So my main plan aka goal for myself this summer is 185 00:12:00.720 --> 00:12:07.360 honestly to challenge myself. I know there's certain things that I stay comfortable in, 186 00:12:07.600 --> 00:12:11.960 certain behaviors that I do, certain personas that I have, certain things 187 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:16.200 that I do in my life that keep me safe, and I know at 188 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:18.919 this point in my life that those are the things that I need to challenge 189 00:12:18.919 --> 00:12:22.159 and those are the things I need to step out of if I want the 190 00:12:22.240 --> 00:12:26.559 life that I say that I want. And that is the most That is 191 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:28.559 the most challenging thing that we all have to come to and a lot of 192 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:33.000 people don't ever do it. It is too uncomfortable. Sometimes we don't have 193 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:37.840 the tools to be able to actually go through uncomfortable things, which obviously I've 194 00:12:37.840 --> 00:12:39.120 done a lot of work on myself to be able to, you know, 195 00:12:39.240 --> 00:12:43.080 stand up and be like I can challenge myself, I can push myself. 196 00:12:43.120 --> 00:12:46.200 I can you know, take off the mask. I can be myself authentically. 197 00:12:46.279 --> 00:12:50.080 I can really like say what I want and go for exactly what I 198 00:12:50.120 --> 00:12:52.960 want to have confidence within myself. And it takes a little bit to get 199 00:12:52.960 --> 00:12:56.720 there, but I'm at a point where that's what i want to do, 200 00:12:56.799 --> 00:12:58.960 so anytime and I'm this is the thing, I am so self aware of 201 00:13:00.159 --> 00:13:03.480 myself. Like I'm very aware of when I'm going back into old behaviors, 202 00:13:03.600 --> 00:13:07.279 old thought patterns, you know, thinking a certain way, putting on a 203 00:13:07.279 --> 00:13:09.519 mask because I'm scared for people to see me, things of that nature. 204 00:13:09.919 --> 00:13:13.960 And I'm very aware of when I'm doing that, and what I want to 205 00:13:13.039 --> 00:13:18.399 challenge myself in those times is to step out of that comfort zone. Let 206 00:13:18.480 --> 00:13:22.480 me give you a quick example when it comes to guys, because I feel 207 00:13:22.519 --> 00:13:26.240 like a lot of girls will have this. It can relate to this. 208 00:13:26.039 --> 00:13:30.200 So when you're talking to somebody and you really like them, especially if they're 209 00:13:30.240 --> 00:13:31.399 kind of new, you want to put your best foot forward. You want 210 00:13:31.399 --> 00:13:33.720 to look amazing, you want to look cute. All the time, you 211 00:13:33.759 --> 00:13:37.200 want to say the right things. You want to just be amazing, your 212 00:13:37.240 --> 00:13:43.240 amazing self that you are, but you just want to be great. And 213 00:13:43.840 --> 00:13:48.000 the thing is is you don't always actually need to be pitture perfect, you 214 00:13:48.000 --> 00:13:50.159 don't always have to look amazing, you don't always have to speak amazing. 215 00:13:50.279 --> 00:13:52.320 You can mess up your words, you can be messy, you can do 216 00:13:52.360 --> 00:13:54.759 all of these things. But we're so scared to do that. So let's 217 00:13:54.759 --> 00:14:00.320 say I'm afraid to do that. But on the flip side, my goal 218 00:14:00.480 --> 00:14:05.559 is to have a deep, meaningful relationship with someone, A deep, meaningful, 219 00:14:05.120 --> 00:14:09.399 loving, connected relationship with someone. Well, that is going to require 220 00:14:09.440 --> 00:14:13.279 me to take off my mask. That is going to require me to let 221 00:14:13.279 --> 00:14:18.960 myself be messy and somebody see me and for that person to actually obviously accept 222 00:14:20.039 --> 00:14:22.320 me and love me. And there's obviously going to be people who like maybe 223 00:14:22.360 --> 00:14:24.799 that you're an a their cup of tea and whatever. But at the end 224 00:14:24.840 --> 00:14:28.440 of the day, a healthy relationship is not perfect. A healthy relationship, 225 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:31.720 a really deep bond with someone is that person that sees you in all of 226 00:14:31.759 --> 00:14:35.759 your glory, all your ups, all your downs, all your everything. 227 00:14:35.919 --> 00:14:37.639 So there's gonna be days where you don't look perfect. There's gonna be days 228 00:14:37.639 --> 00:14:41.039 where you don't say the right things. And every time you be your authentic 229 00:14:41.080 --> 00:14:45.120 self, that is really a chance for you to actually go deeper with someone. 230 00:14:45.519 --> 00:14:46.799 And you're not going to be able to really go that deep with someone 231 00:14:46.840 --> 00:14:50.559 if you don't do that, if you don't become yourself, you don't let 232 00:14:50.600 --> 00:14:54.279 yourself be yourself. And also what I found, especially for the girls, 233 00:14:54.519 --> 00:14:58.279 is you know the right guy. Obviously not every man is like this, 234 00:14:58.360 --> 00:15:03.679 but the men who are really looking for that one, they want to see 235 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:07.759 you. They want to see the real you, your core, your authentic 236 00:15:07.840 --> 00:15:11.559 version of yourself, the one that is not always putting on a front, 237 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:15.679 the one that is not always pitture perfect and pretty and just everything like that. 238 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:20.039 And that's what I'm looking for as well. But it's like how I'm 239 00:15:20.080 --> 00:15:22.679 saying I want all these things, I'm saying I want authentic relationship, I 240 00:15:22.679 --> 00:15:24.879 want a deep connection, I want deep this and that. Okay, well 241 00:15:26.759 --> 00:15:31.240 you cannot have that if you have all of these blocks, these walls, 242 00:15:31.320 --> 00:15:35.000 these masks on you. And so it's going to be different for everyone. 243 00:15:35.120 --> 00:15:39.600 Sometimes it's more of a body image thing. Sometimes it's just our mindset. 244 00:15:39.679 --> 00:15:43.200 Sometimes it's whatever we hit we are insecure about. But in those times where 245 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:46.639 you, let's say you're talking to somebody and you feel like you're going to 246 00:15:46.679 --> 00:15:50.960 put on that mask again, that's where I would be could become very aware 247 00:15:50.120 --> 00:15:54.600 and be like Alicia, you're about to put a mask on because you usually 248 00:15:54.600 --> 00:15:58.399 do and it's comfortable, but you are safe to take off this mask. 249 00:15:58.480 --> 00:16:02.919 And maybe there is a risk. There are always as a risk to taking 250 00:16:02.960 --> 00:16:06.480 off your mask, right, But I would much rather take off my mask 251 00:16:06.559 --> 00:16:10.639 at this point and be myself and hopefully that person likes me. If they 252 00:16:10.679 --> 00:16:14.360 don't, they don't then to continue to have this mask on, because I 253 00:16:14.360 --> 00:16:15.840 am sick and tired of that, and that is not what's going to get 254 00:16:15.879 --> 00:16:19.399 me what I really want. And the end goal is a deep loving connection. 255 00:16:19.720 --> 00:16:22.799 And you know, I see all the little wounds that I have, 256 00:16:23.120 --> 00:16:26.440 all the things that i've you know, put in my shadow, and those 257 00:16:26.480 --> 00:16:30.879 are the things that I'm trying to reintegrate this year, because again I think 258 00:16:30.879 --> 00:16:36.360 that life, when we really can see it for what it is, it's 259 00:16:36.399 --> 00:16:41.240 really meant for you to see all those wounds, heal them and express yourself 260 00:16:41.279 --> 00:16:47.759 and be yourself we are so especially as women, we're so oh my gosh, 261 00:16:47.759 --> 00:16:49.320 we're so programmed. We have so many masks, we have so many 262 00:16:49.360 --> 00:16:52.639 shadows, we have so much shame, we have guilt, we are scared, 263 00:16:52.720 --> 00:16:56.679 we are nervous, we're everything. And it's just like, I don't 264 00:16:56.679 --> 00:16:59.279 want to be that. I don't want to be that anymore. And I 265 00:16:59.360 --> 00:17:03.000 know that that's not going to get me healthy relationships, even outside of romantic 266 00:17:03.000 --> 00:17:08.960 relationships, like friendships as well. It's like we want these girlfriends, sisterhood, 267 00:17:10.000 --> 00:17:12.160 we want all these things, but we won't We're not willing to take 268 00:17:12.160 --> 00:17:15.359 a risk. And I told my friend this the other day. Even when 269 00:17:15.359 --> 00:17:18.119 it comes with love, comes to love, I told her, I said, 270 00:17:18.880 --> 00:17:22.880 there's always there's always going to be a risk when it comes to love. 271 00:17:22.440 --> 00:17:25.279 There is going to be a rest, that your heart is going to 272 00:17:25.359 --> 00:17:30.519 get hurt, you know. And I don't set myself up for thinking that, 273 00:17:30.559 --> 00:17:32.480 like, oh I'm going to get hurt. No, I don't do 274 00:17:32.559 --> 00:17:33.359 that, do that, But I have in the back of my head like, 275 00:17:33.400 --> 00:17:37.039 you know what, there's always going to be a rest. But I 276 00:17:37.079 --> 00:17:40.480 don't care because what I want is I want love. I want something deep, 277 00:17:40.519 --> 00:17:42.440 I want something meaningful. I want a meaningful life, and that is 278 00:17:42.480 --> 00:17:47.960 going to require me to get uncomfortable. And it's like, we want to 279 00:17:48.359 --> 00:17:53.400 have an amazing relationship, amazing career, all the money, time, freedom, 280 00:17:53.559 --> 00:17:56.279 we want it all, but the way that we want to get it 281 00:17:56.480 --> 00:18:00.880 is to stay comfortable, is to stay in our shell, is to keep 282 00:18:00.920 --> 00:18:04.039 the mask on, and that's not that is literally not how it works. 283 00:18:04.079 --> 00:18:08.759 So my goal for myself is to become aware of when I am putting any 284 00:18:08.799 --> 00:18:11.519 sort of mask on in any situation. I'm not going to be perfect. 285 00:18:11.599 --> 00:18:15.839 I don't always do it, but when I do, to take it off 286 00:18:15.920 --> 00:18:19.200 and tell myself in that moment, Alicia, you're about to put this mask 287 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:22.200 on. This is why you feel like you need to put this mask on, 288 00:18:22.240 --> 00:18:25.759 But you don't need to do it. It's gonna get in the way 289 00:18:25.759 --> 00:18:30.200 of you deeply connecting to someone or getting something that you want in your life. 290 00:18:30.400 --> 00:18:33.960 And I remind myself of that anytime that I see myself doing that, 291 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:37.279 and it's profound, it's actually very healing. And I've done that in relationships 292 00:18:37.279 --> 00:18:41.920 before, I've done that in any life before, and honestly, nine times 293 00:18:41.960 --> 00:18:45.920 out of ten, when you do that, it's like it's like you quantum 294 00:18:47.000 --> 00:18:49.480 leap, you show yourself that it's possible to take off that mask and somebody 295 00:18:49.559 --> 00:18:55.240 still love you, somebody still accept you, or you get that opportunity or 296 00:18:55.279 --> 00:18:59.400 you know, you don't get rejected. So yeah, that's my self goal. 297 00:18:59.480 --> 00:19:03.240 That was a low rant, but yeah, it's just being seen. 298 00:19:03.359 --> 00:19:07.720 I want to allow people to see me and I don't want to be perfect 299 00:19:07.920 --> 00:19:11.359 and I want to challenge myself. Okay, projects that I'm going to be 300 00:19:11.400 --> 00:19:15.599 working on this summer, the main thing is my book. I need to 301 00:19:15.680 --> 00:19:19.519 really get that done hopefully. I don't know whatever we're getting get done. 302 00:19:19.559 --> 00:19:23.519 The deadline I think is June. I believe it's June. I'm gonna get 303 00:19:23.519 --> 00:19:27.160 done before June anyways, but I'm really excited for that as well. Another 304 00:19:27.200 --> 00:19:30.160 thing, I definitely want to work with some more cool brands. You know 305 00:19:30.200 --> 00:19:33.519 what, I'm not gonna say too much again from my photo shoot, but 306 00:19:33.559 --> 00:19:38.240 all I gotta say is I really feel like I should model for garage. 307 00:19:38.799 --> 00:19:45.599 Okay, I literally buy so many of their tops. And some of the 308 00:19:45.640 --> 00:19:48.559 photos that I took at the photo shoot, which I don't know which one 309 00:19:48.599 --> 00:19:53.519 I'm using, I was wearing like garage shirts, and I just the way 310 00:19:53.519 --> 00:19:57.519 that I had the shoot, it literally looked like I was modeling for garage. 311 00:19:57.640 --> 00:20:00.799 And it's funny because my agents see they'll ask me, like, what 312 00:20:02.000 --> 00:20:04.440 is your dream brand to work with? And I don't really have many because 313 00:20:04.519 --> 00:20:08.359 obviously, like you, I don't know if you guys see influencers who work 314 00:20:08.359 --> 00:20:11.720 with big brands like Benefit and like all of these cool brands, like that's 315 00:20:11.720 --> 00:20:17.359 amazing cool, But I don't really have that in my head, mainly because 316 00:20:17.680 --> 00:20:22.279 my biggest goal with working with brands is to have a collaboration that makes sense 317 00:20:22.440 --> 00:20:26.519 for my audience and make sense for my content and makes sense for me as 318 00:20:26.519 --> 00:20:30.599 a creator, like something that I really use, something that I really back, 319 00:20:30.720 --> 00:20:33.559 something that just makes perfect sense, or something to bring to you guys 320 00:20:33.599 --> 00:20:37.039 that is affordable or even if it's like expensive I don't know, depending on 321 00:20:37.079 --> 00:20:40.599 the brand, right, or sometimes it's not even a product, but whatever 322 00:20:40.680 --> 00:20:42.799 it is, it makes sense for you guys and it's really good, and 323 00:20:42.839 --> 00:20:45.720 I obviously like that is my main goal. I don't want to just work 324 00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:48.680 with a brand just because like, oh, they're like a huge brand, 325 00:20:48.759 --> 00:20:52.359 like Okay, like Adidas, Like I want to work with the Didas just 326 00:20:52.359 --> 00:20:56.279 because there're Adidas. Like, if it makes sense for my brand to work 327 00:20:56.319 --> 00:20:59.359 with Adidas and amazing, then that would be my dream brand. But if 328 00:20:59.400 --> 00:21:03.319 it does, if I never wear Adidas or I never use it or like 329 00:21:03.359 --> 00:21:06.839 I never whatever, then it just yeah. So anyways, I was just 330 00:21:06.880 --> 00:21:11.319 thinking from that photo shoot, that would be so amazing to work with Garage 331 00:21:11.599 --> 00:21:14.880 because I love their clothes. Like listen, I know some of their clothes 332 00:21:14.880 --> 00:21:18.200 are basically like gen Z, like younger crowds, but I feel like with 333 00:21:18.240 --> 00:21:22.400 my body type the type of shirts that I wear, they're they're smaller, 334 00:21:22.599 --> 00:21:29.559 they're like little cutesy whatever, and I find that I just really like their 335 00:21:29.599 --> 00:21:32.440 clothes, especially their top. So that would be cool if I could work 336 00:21:32.480 --> 00:21:34.079 with them. But in general, I would love to work with more brands 337 00:21:34.079 --> 00:21:37.400 and just do more brand work because it's just it's honestly so fun to be 338 00:21:37.400 --> 00:21:41.559 able to work with a brand and create content for them, post content for 339 00:21:41.599 --> 00:21:45.319 them. I'm not even going to cap Obviously. Money is a big part 340 00:21:45.319 --> 00:21:49.079 of why people work with brands, like obviously, and I have financial goals 341 00:21:49.119 --> 00:21:52.799 this summer this year, ever, like always, I feel like we all 342 00:21:52.839 --> 00:21:57.359 do, and I'm trying to save my money. Baby won't save it, 343 00:21:57.400 --> 00:22:00.640 but also invest it. So definitely a thing. What else did it? 344 00:22:00.720 --> 00:22:03.680 Right? Oh? Create more interactive YouTube videos, which it already told you 345 00:22:03.759 --> 00:22:07.359 guys, like the vlog series. I would like. That's going to be 346 00:22:07.400 --> 00:22:11.519 so fun. I think, just to document my life as well in a 347 00:22:11.559 --> 00:22:18.240 way that is helpful hopefully also furnish my place. I okay, I'm really 348 00:22:18.240 --> 00:22:22.319 manifesting having my couch get here sooner than later. But they told me it's 349 00:22:22.319 --> 00:22:26.480 going to come the third week of April, and then two days later she 350 00:22:26.599 --> 00:22:30.039 said actually mid May. And I swear that girl lied to me when she 351 00:22:30.079 --> 00:22:32.319 told me, because I asked her when is it going to be available, 352 00:22:32.319 --> 00:22:33.440 because obviously when you buy a couch, you want to get it now. 353 00:22:33.839 --> 00:22:36.799 But I feel like she just told me that so I can just buy it 354 00:22:36.839 --> 00:22:41.079 because it's like not that long anyways. Whatever annoying not annoying. We're not 355 00:22:41.279 --> 00:22:44.200 annoyed at all. This couch. I cannot wait to show you guys. 356 00:22:44.240 --> 00:22:45.880 It'll definitely be in like the vlogs and stuff. Also, if you're watching 357 00:22:45.880 --> 00:22:49.680 on YouTube, this back area. I've been thinking like what to get there, 358 00:22:49.759 --> 00:22:52.839 like what to put there? I wanted to do some prints, but 359 00:22:52.920 --> 00:22:56.680 what I'm thinking I can do is get like a little like a shelf, 360 00:22:57.000 --> 00:23:00.000 like something like that. I know you guys can't see if you're listening, 361 00:23:00.680 --> 00:23:03.400 and then have like some artwork here. I don't know. I'm still trying 362 00:23:03.400 --> 00:23:06.640 to figure it out. I did get a nice big mirror as well, 363 00:23:06.680 --> 00:23:08.680 but I just want to furnish the place and make it look really beautiful. 364 00:23:10.039 --> 00:23:14.559 Okay, plans what you guys really ask for. As the plans, There's 365 00:23:14.599 --> 00:23:18.960 definitely going to be things like like the weekend stuff that I don't really have 366 00:23:19.039 --> 00:23:22.880 plan until like the week of Like me and my friend just went to a 367 00:23:22.960 --> 00:23:26.720 rooftop last night, which is great. I'm going to a farmer's market or 368 00:23:26.759 --> 00:23:32.079 like a market after I filmed this. Actually, I'm just like down to 369 00:23:32.119 --> 00:23:33.440 do anything around the city. There's like a million things, so I'm not 370 00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:37.039 going to list everything, like me and my friends all have like lists of 371 00:23:37.079 --> 00:23:41.599 like shops, places to go whatever. But I definitely want to do a 372 00:23:41.599 --> 00:23:42.920 picnic with the girls though. That'd be so cute. But I did write 373 00:23:42.920 --> 00:23:47.119 on my list brand events, which I've been going to a lot of cool 374 00:23:47.160 --> 00:23:52.640 brand events also explore the city, like I said, definitely have plans to 375 00:23:52.680 --> 00:23:56.799 do more therapy and more. I'm doing my Women's circle again, which is 376 00:23:56.839 --> 00:23:59.640 going to be starting. I supposed to start next week, but I don't 377 00:23:59.640 --> 00:24:06.680 know if it's if she's pushing it or not. Also totally look into women's 378 00:24:06.680 --> 00:24:08.759 circles around your area if you want, but just more healing work. We 379 00:24:08.839 --> 00:24:14.359 love that. I'm also going to be going to Calgary in July for the 380 00:24:14.400 --> 00:24:17.359 Calgary Stampede. So if anyone lives in Calgary, like, let me know, 381 00:24:17.640 --> 00:24:21.720 message me, and if you're going or you live there, like, 382 00:24:21.920 --> 00:24:26.359 let me know, girl, I'm probably gonna go. I'm gonna go for 383 00:24:26.599 --> 00:24:30.839 a little bit because I know someone there and it might be like a month 384 00:24:30.880 --> 00:24:33.079 thing, so you might be getting some Calgary content. I'm gonna go to 385 00:24:33.160 --> 00:24:38.240 Veld for sure because love a good music festival and Central Sea is going and 386 00:24:38.319 --> 00:24:41.839 like you know, my obsession with him rolling Loud. I'm definitely gonna go. 387 00:24:41.839 --> 00:24:44.720 I don't know when it is. They haven't even dropped the line up 388 00:24:44.799 --> 00:24:47.480 yet, but we're definitely gonna go. I want to do some more day 389 00:24:47.519 --> 00:24:51.519 festivals, like day things like I love guys. I am a day girly 390 00:24:51.920 --> 00:24:56.759 like let's go early as possible so I can get home by twelve o'clock latest 391 00:24:57.039 --> 00:25:02.640 and go to sleep. So I I know that there's this thing called the 392 00:25:02.680 --> 00:25:06.319 Toronto Islands. If you're not, if you don't live in Toronto, where 393 00:25:06.319 --> 00:25:10.119 they do a lot of like little day music festival vibes. I know sometimes 394 00:25:10.119 --> 00:25:12.359 they're a little bit odd, like some of the people that go there are 395 00:25:12.440 --> 00:25:15.839 doing some things, interesting things, but then there's some that are just like 396 00:25:15.920 --> 00:25:18.720 amazing. So I'd love to explore that because I've never actually been. I've 397 00:25:18.720 --> 00:25:22.519 only been to Toronto Islands once and it's beautiful, and I think that would 398 00:25:22.519 --> 00:25:26.279 just be even more Like it'd be such a vibe to go there and listen 399 00:25:26.279 --> 00:25:29.720 to some music. I definitely want to do some more like beach yoga, 400 00:25:29.799 --> 00:25:33.960 like breathwork things outside and really get more into like the healing community, the 401 00:25:33.000 --> 00:25:38.559 spiritual community in Toronto. I am a very balanced girly Like I can go 402 00:25:38.599 --> 00:25:41.480 to the club if you want, which don't usually love, but like I 403 00:25:41.519 --> 00:25:45.519 could do that and like rock out with you, but I could also be 404 00:25:45.640 --> 00:25:49.160 up at like seven am going for a cold water dip and doing breathwork on 405 00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:53.400 the beach. Also summer cottage house. Me and my friends are totally going 406 00:25:53.440 --> 00:25:56.559 to do this. I don't know when we were thinking, maybe, like 407 00:25:57.400 --> 00:26:00.519 I don't know if it was May. No, we're going to do that 408 00:26:00.519 --> 00:26:02.839 at the end of the summer. I think, well kind of the end, 409 00:26:02.920 --> 00:26:04.559 like Labor Day weekend. So I definitely want to do that. So 410 00:26:04.839 --> 00:26:10.319 if you guys have any recommendations, and also let me know what you're doing 411 00:26:10.599 --> 00:26:12.599 so that I can copy you, let me know in the comments. Also, 412 00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:18.480 my condo just opened up the terrence, so I cannot wait to go 413 00:26:18.559 --> 00:26:22.319 sit out there and watch the sunset. Hopefully I can watch the sunset. 414 00:26:22.319 --> 00:26:25.759 I don't know where it's actually positioned because I've never been there. It wasn't 415 00:26:25.799 --> 00:26:29.680 open when I came and actually looked at this condo. Just to sit out 416 00:26:29.720 --> 00:26:33.519 there and have a little vibe going with some music and just chilling and relaxing, 417 00:26:33.559 --> 00:26:37.200 I cannot wait. I just can't wait for anything anything to do with 418 00:26:37.279 --> 00:26:40.960 warm weather. I'm here, all right. Let's get into the next question. 419 00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:45.119 Someone asks, can you talk about self confidence when it comes to wearing 420 00:26:45.160 --> 00:26:48.720 bikinis? Oh my gosh, I remember the days when I was like in 421 00:26:48.799 --> 00:26:55.440 high school and my whole entire focus was was I going to be bikini ready? 422 00:26:55.680 --> 00:27:00.759 Like that was as soon as January hit. Honestly, Rory March, 423 00:27:00.359 --> 00:27:03.880 like it was just all I was thinking about all the time. And then 424 00:27:03.920 --> 00:27:07.519 I never got to that point where I felt like I was bikini ready. 425 00:27:07.640 --> 00:27:12.799 And then I literally put my whole entire life on hold and just thought, 426 00:27:12.880 --> 00:27:18.079 Okay, maybe next year, maybe next year, And I was just so 427 00:27:18.160 --> 00:27:22.920 uncomfortable and so unhappy with myself. So I definitely know the struggle. I 428 00:27:22.960 --> 00:27:25.519 feel like so many of us go through it. And you know what, 429 00:27:25.759 --> 00:27:32.200 I understand the movement on social media where they say your body is a bikini 430 00:27:32.240 --> 00:27:34.359 body because you just have a body, like you don't need to have a 431 00:27:34.400 --> 00:27:37.359 certain shape or anything to wear a bikini, and it's so true. But 432 00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:41.960 I know when you guys are saying, like you want to feel like bikini 433 00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:45.640 ready or whatever, I understand that you still have this desire to want to 434 00:27:45.640 --> 00:27:48.359 look your best, like we all do. So it's really not to beg 435 00:27:48.440 --> 00:27:52.240 on the body positivity movement, and I think it's beautiful that we have that 436 00:27:52.319 --> 00:27:56.680 movement, but I am also going to honor and recognize the part of us 437 00:27:56.720 --> 00:27:59.759 that does want to look our best. And does want to fit in and 438 00:28:00.079 --> 00:28:03.680 does want to just look amazing. So one thing before we even get to, 439 00:28:04.279 --> 00:28:08.480 you know, honoring that part of us is honestly to remind yourself that 440 00:28:08.839 --> 00:28:12.680 it is totally fine that you don't look like everyone else. Like I ask 441 00:28:12.720 --> 00:28:18.200 myself the question sometimes not really anymore because I just don't I don't compare myself 442 00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:19.799 like this. I do have a lot of videos on this, by the 443 00:28:19.839 --> 00:28:25.640 way, But you know when you go to the beach and you realize that 444 00:28:25.720 --> 00:28:29.000 you don't look like those other girls and everyone looks amazing, like better than 445 00:28:29.039 --> 00:28:33.799 you in your head, okay, and what so let's just like come to 446 00:28:33.839 --> 00:28:37.799 the realization that okay, you know what, yeah, these people look better 447 00:28:37.799 --> 00:28:40.519 than me. Everyone has a nice body. And then what well, obviously 448 00:28:40.599 --> 00:28:42.720 that makes you feel like crap. But it's like, but the world is 449 00:28:42.759 --> 00:28:48.440 still spinning, like we're still gonna be okay, Like everyone is gonna be 450 00:28:48.559 --> 00:28:52.119 fine even when you don't have this bikini body. It's like we look at 451 00:28:52.160 --> 00:28:56.200 it as we it's like death if we don't have this body, and it 452 00:28:56.240 --> 00:29:00.680 really does feel like that, because what's really underneath the feeling of like death 453 00:29:00.000 --> 00:29:04.759 is I'm not worthy I'm not connected, I'm not loved. And the truth 454 00:29:04.920 --> 00:29:10.759 is, if you're around the right people, obviously you will be accepted and 455 00:29:10.880 --> 00:29:14.559 loved and valued. Regardless of what your body looks like. Okay, you 456 00:29:14.559 --> 00:29:17.359 don't have the skinniest body, you don't have the body that looks like your 457 00:29:17.400 --> 00:29:19.480 best friend that looks amazing. Okay, well if she's your best friend and 458 00:29:19.480 --> 00:29:22.200 she's great, she's still gonna love you anyways. You know, like, 459 00:29:22.359 --> 00:29:27.240 okay, what you're not gonna get chosen by who a guy? Or okay, 460 00:29:27.240 --> 00:29:30.640 what you're not going to have the most picture perfect Instagram photo? Okay, 461 00:29:30.680 --> 00:29:34.359 and now what we don't have that? And now what, We're still 462 00:29:34.400 --> 00:29:37.079 fine, We're still here. It's a totally fine. So I just want 463 00:29:37.079 --> 00:29:41.319 to say that, like, it's honestly, you need to neutralize this idea 464 00:29:41.400 --> 00:29:47.319 of like having this bikini body because it shouldn't be that relevant. It honestly 465 00:29:47.319 --> 00:29:51.079 shouldn't be that relevant. But again I know that it can be. Obviously, 466 00:29:51.119 --> 00:29:53.079 you just want to look good and feel good. So one thing that 467 00:29:53.119 --> 00:29:57.079 you can do when it comes to feeling bikini ready, the beach vibes, 468 00:29:57.160 --> 00:30:03.599 whatever, Please find something that looks good on you that you're comfortable in and 469 00:30:03.680 --> 00:30:07.240 you feel as confident as you can in. Listen, There's been times where 470 00:30:07.599 --> 00:30:14.119 I have felt ten times more insecure about my body because I was trying to 471 00:30:14.160 --> 00:30:18.559 wear bikinis that other girls were wearing, but they didn't have the same body 472 00:30:18.559 --> 00:30:21.680 type as me, so I felt even worse, like the fact that I 473 00:30:21.720 --> 00:30:26.359 was trying to, you know, hike up my bikini bottoms like everyone else 474 00:30:26.440 --> 00:30:29.359 because it's a trend right now. But then I was like, oh my 475 00:30:29.400 --> 00:30:32.799 gosh, I do not like the way that looks, and really my body 476 00:30:32.799 --> 00:30:34.839 type, it looks better if I just have them like mid rise or low 477 00:30:34.920 --> 00:30:37.640 rise because I already have really big hips. I don't need to hike things 478 00:30:37.680 --> 00:30:41.440 up because my hips are already there, Like you can already see the shape 479 00:30:41.480 --> 00:30:45.799 without me doing that. And I look so much better with my bikini bottoms 480 00:30:45.839 --> 00:30:51.079 just being like midrise. But because I used to try and fit in and 481 00:30:51.119 --> 00:30:53.440 wear them up high, I would hate my body even more. So please 482 00:30:55.039 --> 00:30:57.160 find what works for your body, and listen. I know you you might 483 00:30:57.200 --> 00:31:00.920 have this thought, well, nothing works for my body. Okay, Well 484 00:31:00.039 --> 00:31:04.240 find what looks the best that you possibly can't and you do not need to 485 00:31:04.279 --> 00:31:07.640 be perfect bringing it back to the fact that okay, and okay, even 486 00:31:07.680 --> 00:31:12.240 if you find a midrise bikini bottom that doesn't look the best and maybe there's 487 00:31:12.240 --> 00:31:15.440 a little bit of fat that's like hanging out, okay, and who cares. 488 00:31:15.759 --> 00:31:18.240 Like, at the end of the day, let's neutralize this idea of 489 00:31:18.279 --> 00:31:22.200 like you need to not have fat there or you need to whatever. Right, 490 00:31:22.240 --> 00:31:25.400 Like again, let's move away from that. But again, what's gonna 491 00:31:25.440 --> 00:31:29.119 make you feel a little bit better is wearing something that works with your body. 492 00:31:29.400 --> 00:31:32.200 And I remember or honestly even the times now, like some of my 493 00:31:32.200 --> 00:31:33.480 friends will be like, oh, you can borrow my bikini or you can 494 00:31:33.519 --> 00:31:38.799 whatever. I have this one friend and her booty is so big, naturally 495 00:31:38.920 --> 00:31:44.119 so big, and she just she has shaped like a freaking coke bottle. 496 00:31:44.200 --> 00:31:47.079 I think that's how you say it. I don't know. And she has 497 00:31:47.119 --> 00:31:51.160 these tiny little bikini bottoms and they look amazing on her. She'll pull them 498 00:31:51.240 --> 00:31:55.240 up like girl, get it, but she'll she'll be like, oh you 499 00:31:55.240 --> 00:31:56.200 can, like you can borrow one of mine. And I'm my girl. 500 00:31:56.359 --> 00:32:00.160 That's I know my body and I know that I'm not going to feel comfortable 501 00:32:00.200 --> 00:32:05.160 in that, and I don't think that I look that flattering in that because 502 00:32:05.200 --> 00:32:07.039 I don't have the same body type buzzy. So I'm not gonna do that. 503 00:32:07.079 --> 00:32:09.799 I'm gonna find the ones that I love. The ones that I love 504 00:32:09.839 --> 00:32:14.440 are like the seamless ones, the ones that are not too tight on me, 505 00:32:14.559 --> 00:32:16.920 not the little string thongs vibes. I like a little cheeky butt. 506 00:32:17.000 --> 00:32:21.359 But like, you know, one good place also to get bikinis that I 507 00:32:21.759 --> 00:32:28.839 got for my Talloon trip is called Black Black Bow bou g H. I 508 00:32:28.880 --> 00:32:31.279 believe you can find out on my Instagram. I have a bikini from there, 509 00:32:31.559 --> 00:32:36.200 and they have like really nice seamless, like just beautiful bikinis. So 510 00:32:36.440 --> 00:32:39.799 but anyways, yeah, like I know the fabrics that will sit well on 511 00:32:39.880 --> 00:32:44.480 my body. I know the like the high rise, the midrise, like 512 00:32:44.519 --> 00:32:47.519 what looks the best. I know what looks the best on my top half. 513 00:32:47.759 --> 00:32:52.759 So just knowing your body. I was actually watching somebody on TikTok and 514 00:32:52.759 --> 00:32:55.039 she was talking about how like majority of people do not know their body type. 515 00:32:55.079 --> 00:32:58.960 They don't know how to dress themselves. They just see whatever is in 516 00:32:59.000 --> 00:33:00.200 the mall and they pick it up. They might think it's cute or they 517 00:33:00.240 --> 00:33:04.119 might get influenced by someone and whatever. But then they put it on and 518 00:33:04.160 --> 00:33:06.640 it's like they feel awkward and they feel uncomfortable, and then they don't like 519 00:33:06.720 --> 00:33:09.720 their bodies even more. And it takes a lot of you really getting to 520 00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:15.799 know your body and not always trying to follow the trends and everything. Another 521 00:33:15.839 --> 00:33:20.039 thing like, just because none of your friends wear cover ups doesn't mean that 522 00:33:20.119 --> 00:33:22.720 you can't. Like, I love those little sarongs. I don't know if 523 00:33:22.720 --> 00:33:25.720 I'm saying that correctly, the ones that like tie over your hip. If 524 00:33:25.880 --> 00:33:29.880 you feel comfortable in that where that if you want to cover up where that 525 00:33:30.039 --> 00:33:34.440 like, there's so many options now that you just you don't. Again, 526 00:33:34.480 --> 00:33:37.839 it's this idea of how you think that you need to look and be. 527 00:33:37.279 --> 00:33:42.160 Well, if I don't wear a two piece bakini that's hyped up on my 528 00:33:42.279 --> 00:33:45.279 hips and has like a little thong whatever and the thing at the top is 529 00:33:45.279 --> 00:33:49.319 so tiny, then I'm not gonna be bikini ready. Like, no, 530 00:33:49.920 --> 00:33:52.880 find what works for you, and I promise you you're going to look amazing. 531 00:33:53.160 --> 00:33:57.599 You're gonna look amazing because you feel comfortable and you feel as confident as 532 00:33:57.599 --> 00:34:00.119 you possibly can in your body. You know the way that you look and 533 00:34:00.160 --> 00:34:05.160 people perceive you and like see you. It really comes down a lot of 534 00:34:05.160 --> 00:34:07.719 the times to your energy and how you feel in your body. It's not 535 00:34:07.840 --> 00:34:13.119 just what you see in front of you. You can tell when somebody's very 536 00:34:13.159 --> 00:34:15.480 uncomfortable in their own body and they're wearing clothes that don't fit right, and 537 00:34:15.519 --> 00:34:20.400 whatever, wear clothes that fit right, and I promise you you will look 538 00:34:20.400 --> 00:34:23.840 amazing. You'll start to exude this energy of confidence and it'll be sexy, 539 00:34:23.920 --> 00:34:28.199 it'll be amazing, and then you'll start to show yourself that you never needed 540 00:34:28.239 --> 00:34:31.400 to be like these girls like you never needed to look exactly like these girls 541 00:34:31.639 --> 00:34:36.239 like you are beautiful and that is the type of like honestly, that is 542 00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:40.079 how you transform this body dysmorphia into looking at yourself like, Wow, I'm 543 00:34:40.119 --> 00:34:45.360 actually beautiful. And I've gone through that same journey. I basically have had 544 00:34:45.400 --> 00:34:49.480 the same body that you know I've had in the years. Obviously, fluctuated 545 00:34:49.599 --> 00:34:52.800 muscles change things like that, But it's the perception and how I view myself 546 00:34:52.800 --> 00:34:57.159 and how I dress myself that I look at myself now and I'm like, 547 00:34:57.239 --> 00:35:00.800 wow, my body is like so much different then the past. But it's 548 00:35:00.840 --> 00:35:02.880 really it's really not it's just the way that I dress and the way that 549 00:35:02.920 --> 00:35:07.639 I look at myself and how comfortable I feel in my own body that honestly 550 00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:12.159 changes everything for me and for how people perceive me as well. Also two 551 00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:15.920 more things that I'm gonna say. Obviously, if you're struggling with any sort 552 00:35:15.960 --> 00:35:19.039 of body image issues, obviously we need to heal that, do a lot 553 00:35:19.079 --> 00:35:21.800 of healing work, self love, self acceptance, all that. I have 554 00:35:21.840 --> 00:35:23.639 lots of videos on my main channel. But then there's always going to be 555 00:35:23.679 --> 00:35:28.000 that component of the way that you are going to feel confident in yourself is 556 00:35:28.119 --> 00:35:30.840 if you're taking care of yourself. Now I'm not saying go to the gym 557 00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:34.440 so you can change your body to look bikini ready. I just mean take 558 00:35:34.440 --> 00:35:37.320 care of yourself, because honestly, when you get up every day or every 559 00:35:37.360 --> 00:35:40.119 other day, or how how many times you go, and you know that 560 00:35:40.119 --> 00:35:44.280 you're taking care of yourself in the gym and you're eating right, then first 561 00:35:44.320 --> 00:35:45.719 of all, you should never beg on yourself if you don't look a certain 562 00:35:45.719 --> 00:35:49.559 way. If you're actually taking care of yourself, and on top of that, 563 00:35:49.599 --> 00:35:52.719 you're just going to be able to combat those negative beliefs when you are 564 00:35:52.760 --> 00:35:55.199 at the beach and you're like, wow, I don't look like that girl. 565 00:35:55.280 --> 00:35:58.280 Well you can tell yourself, well, you know what, I'm doing 566 00:35:58.320 --> 00:36:00.719 the best that I can. You know, I look the best that I 567 00:36:00.760 --> 00:36:02.760 can. I can't do anything else. One last thing before you go to 568 00:36:02.800 --> 00:36:07.760 the beach or anywhere, honestly, even just like wearing summer clothes, like 569 00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:12.800 romanticize a little routine before you go. Oil yourself up, like shave your 570 00:36:12.880 --> 00:36:16.000 legs, like look amazing, smell amazing again, find that right bikini that 571 00:36:16.039 --> 00:36:21.000 looks amazing on you, get dolled up, look your best, and you 572 00:36:21.039 --> 00:36:22.599 will feel your best. This is going to lead into the next question where 573 00:36:22.599 --> 00:36:27.039 somebody asks, like how to have confidence in summer and like summer bodies in 574 00:36:27.079 --> 00:36:31.039 general. So I'm just assuming summer clothes naturally, we are taking off layers 575 00:36:31.119 --> 00:36:35.599 naturally, We're looking at ourselves in the mirror more and we're like, okay, 576 00:36:35.639 --> 00:36:38.440 honey, what's going on here? I think it comes back down to 577 00:36:39.079 --> 00:36:45.559 finding the makeup routine, the skincare routine, the hair routine, your favorite 578 00:36:45.599 --> 00:36:50.559 pairs of jeans, shorts, tops, whatever it is, finding what works 579 00:36:50.639 --> 00:36:53.159 for you. You're always going to feel the most confident. You're always going 580 00:36:53.199 --> 00:36:58.599 to look the most beautiful, the most radiant when you are using products and 581 00:36:58.639 --> 00:37:01.800 you're finding what works for you. There is a million products on the market, 582 00:37:01.840 --> 00:37:07.039 there's a million types of trends and clothes and everything. But what is 583 00:37:07.119 --> 00:37:08.519 unique to you, what looks the best to you? And that's going to 584 00:37:08.599 --> 00:37:14.480 take some time, Okay, Like we like the things that are the best 585 00:37:14.519 --> 00:37:16.679 in life, that you really do take time, and that also comes with 586 00:37:16.800 --> 00:37:21.440 you know, your health, fitness, but also your beauty. Okay, 587 00:37:21.599 --> 00:37:27.000 It's taken me a long time to look as amazing that I do when it 588 00:37:27.000 --> 00:37:30.039 comes to my appearance, because I've taken the time to figure out what looks 589 00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:32.760 good from my eyebrows, shape, what looks good on my eyes, what 590 00:37:32.880 --> 00:37:36.639 looks good on my skin, how to do my hair. It's taken me 591 00:37:36.679 --> 00:37:38.440 a while to do that, the types of tops that look the best on 592 00:37:38.519 --> 00:37:43.840 me, the types of bottoms, like how I present myself everything. So 593 00:37:44.239 --> 00:37:47.000 it's like you're going to have to commit really to seeing what is unique to 594 00:37:47.079 --> 00:37:52.440 me, what looks the best on me? How do I nurture myself the 595 00:37:52.480 --> 00:37:54.440 best that I can? And that obviously means shying things out. If you 596 00:37:54.440 --> 00:37:59.519 feel very uncomfortable in certain clothing, if you don't love the makeup look and 597 00:37:59.599 --> 00:38:02.239 you don't like you can go out in broad daylight and just like your face 598 00:38:02.280 --> 00:38:06.480 can be just like shining and everyone's gonna see it and you're just gonna feel 599 00:38:06.519 --> 00:38:09.719 so readiant, then that makeup looks probably not for you. That those clothes 600 00:38:09.719 --> 00:38:14.119 are probably just not for you right now. That's totally fine. You can 601 00:38:14.159 --> 00:38:16.239 literally find anything that's going to make you look amazing. But again, it 602 00:38:16.360 --> 00:38:21.400 just comes down to trying things. Someone also asked me wellness tips and routines 603 00:38:21.440 --> 00:38:23.679 for like spring and summer. I'm definitely gonna make a whole podcast episode on 604 00:38:23.719 --> 00:38:30.159 that and most likely some videos on my main channel because I'm definitely in my 605 00:38:30.280 --> 00:38:35.119 wellness Girl era and I feel like we all naturally are. Someone asked me 606 00:38:35.199 --> 00:38:38.360 how did I heal my relationship with food. I have a whole video on 607 00:38:38.440 --> 00:38:43.119 that, so I will have that in the show notes, but essentially, 608 00:38:43.280 --> 00:38:45.880 I'll just give you a quick rundown. I needed to get to the root 609 00:38:46.000 --> 00:38:52.199 of my food issues and why it was that I was so addicted to eating 610 00:38:52.239 --> 00:38:55.159 sweets, processed foods. All of these soothing things, which really I had 611 00:38:55.159 --> 00:38:59.800 to address the part of me that didn't know how to cope with certain emotions 612 00:38:59.800 --> 00:39:02.400 in life. And on the other hand, there was two parts that played 613 00:39:02.400 --> 00:39:06.320 a role. It was my inner child that was going to certain behaviors, 614 00:39:06.360 --> 00:39:09.880 like most of us, we go to food to emotionally eat suppress things like 615 00:39:09.920 --> 00:39:13.360 that. But then on the flip side, I had another part of me 616 00:39:13.480 --> 00:39:16.079 that was like the strict, tyrant part of me that was heavily influenced by 617 00:39:16.239 --> 00:39:22.760 tumbler social media in general, and had this very skewed perception of what it 618 00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:25.559 is that I needed to look like and be like which was perfect, which 619 00:39:25.599 --> 00:39:31.320 didn't exist, And that part of me picked up really strict behaviors like eating, 620 00:39:31.679 --> 00:39:37.360 like dieting, working out, doing all these very restrictive things, which 621 00:39:37.480 --> 00:39:40.239 ended up just pushing my inner child to want to go run to the food 622 00:39:40.400 --> 00:39:45.760 to begin with. So it became this cycle, and until I really healed 623 00:39:45.840 --> 00:39:49.760 my emotional self, my inner child realized why I was ever going to that 624 00:39:50.159 --> 00:39:52.719 in the first place. But on the flip side, also addressing why I 625 00:39:52.800 --> 00:39:57.760 picked up first of all, where I picked up these ideas of who I 626 00:39:57.760 --> 00:40:00.119 needed to be and how I needed to look and a lot of the how 627 00:40:00.159 --> 00:40:02.639 to do with the fact that I lived in an environment where I wasn't the 628 00:40:02.679 --> 00:40:08.519 most picked in school. I had low confidence from so many different things in 629 00:40:08.559 --> 00:40:14.840 my life, and that made me have a bigger pull to want to change 630 00:40:14.840 --> 00:40:17.400 and diet and strict. And I hated myself. I just didn't love myself. 631 00:40:17.679 --> 00:40:22.760 So those two components I really needed to detach from, like what I 632 00:40:22.800 --> 00:40:24.880 thought I needed to be and look like like I've been talking about in this 633 00:40:24.960 --> 00:40:28.599 video, even when it comes to like the body image and bikini stuff. 634 00:40:28.719 --> 00:40:30.920 But on top of that, you know, there was still that part of 635 00:40:30.920 --> 00:40:34.519 me that was not eating the best, not taking care of myself. Well 636 00:40:34.559 --> 00:40:37.039 why Well it was because I had a part of me that just wanted to 637 00:40:37.079 --> 00:40:39.199 soothe herself, wanted to run away, wanted to isolate, wanted to eat 638 00:40:39.239 --> 00:40:43.880 candy, wanted to not take care of herself because she was hurting. I 639 00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:45.800 had a lot of trauma. I had a lot of things I needed to 640 00:40:45.840 --> 00:40:49.480 process. So when I realized I was getting in this binge cycle, really 641 00:40:49.599 --> 00:40:52.440 unhealthy relationship with food, the first thing that I did was step away from 642 00:40:52.559 --> 00:40:58.280 dieting at all, stepping away from this like this idea of like having to 643 00:40:58.320 --> 00:41:00.119 have all these goals and having to be this tumbler girl. I had to 644 00:41:00.159 --> 00:41:02.599 do that, and you might have to do that. Well, you will 645 00:41:02.639 --> 00:41:05.960 have to do that, which is hard because some people don't want to let 646 00:41:05.960 --> 00:41:07.679 it go. Like I didn't want to let it go. I didn't want 647 00:41:07.679 --> 00:41:09.559 to let go of my idea of who I wanted to be. I wanted 648 00:41:09.599 --> 00:41:12.679 to be fit. I wanted to be hot. I wanted to be accepted. 649 00:41:12.719 --> 00:41:15.000 I wanted to be healthy. I wanted to be all of these things. 650 00:41:15.320 --> 00:41:16.760 But I wasn't able to get there. I was doing it wrong. 651 00:41:16.920 --> 00:41:21.800 So I had to detach. And once I detached, I was able to 652 00:41:21.840 --> 00:41:24.400 heal. I took a few years healing. I didn't strict diet, I 653 00:41:24.400 --> 00:41:29.719 didn't count calories. I ate kind of healthy, but I let myself eat 654 00:41:29.760 --> 00:41:32.519 what I wanted. I would say intuitively eat, but now I intuitively eat. 655 00:41:32.719 --> 00:41:37.840 How people think intuitively eating is not what they really think it is, 656 00:41:37.320 --> 00:41:42.280 especially when you're coming from an unhealthy relationship with food, because you try to 657 00:41:42.320 --> 00:41:45.559 intuitively eat, but you're still not there yet because you're not addressing the mental 658 00:41:45.559 --> 00:41:49.440 health component, and then so you end up just overeating and then eating your 659 00:41:49.440 --> 00:41:53.800 emotions and then suppressing and you're not getting to the root. So it's helpful 660 00:41:53.840 --> 00:41:58.840 in a way to get away from dieting, but then people get stuck. 661 00:41:58.960 --> 00:42:01.679 Sorry, guys, my camera died, so I don't really remember what I 662 00:42:01.800 --> 00:42:07.760 was saying, but yeah, essentially I took some time to heal. And 663 00:42:08.599 --> 00:42:13.199 people want a quick fix, a quick answer. They want to have the 664 00:42:13.239 --> 00:42:17.599 body and look amazing and eat perfectly, but then they don't want to actually 665 00:42:17.639 --> 00:42:22.440 take a moment to step back from being so restrictive and doing all these crazy 666 00:42:22.480 --> 00:42:25.000 things. And I just think that you need to come to a point where 667 00:42:25.400 --> 00:42:30.719 you're honestly living, really balanced. And I think one thing that I really 668 00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:35.360 got rid of about myself when it came to health, fitness, anything really 669 00:42:35.400 --> 00:42:38.199 and I'm still working on that because it seeps into every part of your life 670 00:42:38.239 --> 00:42:44.000 is perfectionism. Because I find that a lot of women who struggle with dieting 671 00:42:44.000 --> 00:42:47.440 and cycling, they're trying to strive for perfection. They're doing it because they 672 00:42:47.440 --> 00:42:51.960 have a lot of self hate, and they have a lot of emotional issues, 673 00:42:52.400 --> 00:42:55.280 and the idea of who they think they need to be and how they 674 00:42:55.320 --> 00:43:00.719 need to achieve that thing is very skewed, and I'm saying that from experience, 675 00:43:00.880 --> 00:43:02.880 it doesn't need to be that hard. After taking so much time off 676 00:43:02.880 --> 00:43:08.639 and healing and fix my relationship with food and not being so strict and not 677 00:43:08.760 --> 00:43:15.760 caring, essentially, my body's looked amazing. I look amazing, and only 678 00:43:15.800 --> 00:43:19.920 now really I'm just getting back into my fitness era again. I've always kind 679 00:43:19.920 --> 00:43:23.159 of worked out and moved my body and stuff, but nothing extreme. Now 680 00:43:23.480 --> 00:43:25.760 I am, and I'm doing it in a different way, like I'm doing 681 00:43:25.760 --> 00:43:28.880 it from a place of self love. I'm doing it from a place of 682 00:43:28.960 --> 00:43:32.079 let's challenge myself, let's have fun, let's be balanced, let's not be 683 00:43:32.159 --> 00:43:35.960 over the top. So it'd be fine that you continue to keep going over 684 00:43:36.039 --> 00:43:38.239 the top. Then there's probably things that you need to heal, which definitely 685 00:43:38.280 --> 00:43:40.480 go watch that video, and also you can let me know if you want 686 00:43:40.480 --> 00:43:44.360 me to make an updated podcast episode on that, because I can totally do 687 00:43:44.400 --> 00:43:46.000 that, all right. I got a few questions here about how to save 688 00:43:46.119 --> 00:43:51.719 money this summer. Someone said, I found myself I find myself spending money, 689 00:43:51.840 --> 00:43:53.800 especially on the weekends because of FOMO. So I totally get that. 690 00:43:54.360 --> 00:43:58.639 I think it will always depend on how much money you really have to be 691 00:43:58.719 --> 00:44:02.400 spending or not right in terms of budgeting. And that's my first thing is 692 00:44:02.480 --> 00:44:06.239 you really do need to give yourself a budget. If you have a goal 693 00:44:06.320 --> 00:44:09.960 in mind of how much you want to save, or just the fact that, 694 00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:14.280 like you only have a certain amount of money to spend, then you 695 00:44:14.320 --> 00:44:15.760 need to make sure that you have some sort of budget so you stay on 696 00:44:15.840 --> 00:44:22.239 track, like put away I don't know, twenty fifty one hundred dollars a 697 00:44:22.320 --> 00:44:28.159 week dedicated to you being able to spend on the stuff that would trigger you 698 00:44:28.199 --> 00:44:30.800 into like fomo type thing. Some people might be like, oh, no, 699 00:44:30.840 --> 00:44:31.840 you should just not have that at all and you should just like be 700 00:44:31.920 --> 00:44:36.599 super strict if you really struggle with spending, though, you definitely need to 701 00:44:36.639 --> 00:44:39.559 address like the emotional component to that, because there usually is an emotional component. 702 00:44:40.639 --> 00:44:44.880 A lot of us struggle also with finances, and that's a whole other 703 00:44:44.920 --> 00:44:47.320 topic for another day. I could totally go into that how I fixed up 704 00:44:47.360 --> 00:44:52.159 my finances, and I have a video on YouTube, But you really, 705 00:44:52.199 --> 00:44:53.719 you really got to see yourself for who you are and why it is that 706 00:44:53.719 --> 00:44:57.400 you're spending all the time. Now I know you said fomo, but at 707 00:44:57.440 --> 00:44:59.800 the end of the day, it's like, okay, well where's the boundaries? 708 00:44:59.800 --> 00:45:00.719 Then? Also, you know what, I'm going to pull this up 709 00:45:00.760 --> 00:45:04.440 from Instagram. I saw it today and I saved it because I figured it 710 00:45:04.559 --> 00:45:07.519 was good tips. So this lady her instagram is how I fund this. 711 00:45:07.760 --> 00:45:12.119 Now. I probably wouldn't say these things exactly the same way, but I 712 00:45:12.199 --> 00:45:15.320 thought that these tips were good, so she said. Or the infographic that 713 00:45:15.360 --> 00:45:19.119 she posted is this is what talking to your friends about money sounds like. 714 00:45:19.360 --> 00:45:22.559 And so this is obviously for when friends want to continue to go out and 715 00:45:22.599 --> 00:45:25.440 do things. Everything everyone's doing everything on the weekend. One of the things 716 00:45:25.440 --> 00:45:28.960 you can say is the next two months are going to be expensive for me. 717 00:45:29.039 --> 00:45:31.400 Can we please do it when we have things calm down a little bit. 718 00:45:31.840 --> 00:45:35.440 Another one, I'm currently trying to save for a holiday, but I'd 719 00:45:35.440 --> 00:45:38.760 love to see you cake and coffee at mine instead. Or money is a 720 00:45:38.760 --> 00:45:42.159 bit tight until payday, so I'll have to sit this one out, but 721 00:45:42.159 --> 00:45:45.119 I'll see you next time. Like it's really that simple, right, But 722 00:45:45.199 --> 00:45:49.559 we were afraid to say no. We're afraid to also miss out on things. 723 00:45:49.599 --> 00:45:52.639 So this is what I say. For one when it comes to being 724 00:45:52.639 --> 00:45:54.679 afraid to like say no, you need to because it's either going to be 725 00:45:54.719 --> 00:45:57.840 them or you, and you're going to be the one that has to deal 726 00:45:57.840 --> 00:46:01.000 with the consequences of you not having money and your financial situation being shambles. 727 00:46:01.159 --> 00:46:05.039 What's going to help you with that, though, is reminding yourself, this 728 00:46:05.119 --> 00:46:07.880 is not the last time you're ever going to be able to go out like 729 00:46:07.239 --> 00:46:10.039 there is And I always think about this when it comes to the city especially, 730 00:46:10.199 --> 00:46:15.960 there is something always going on every day of the week, any time 731 00:46:15.000 --> 00:46:21.360 of the day, all season long. There will always be something going on. 732 00:46:22.039 --> 00:46:23.960 So you don't need to rush and you don't need to act on that 733 00:46:24.000 --> 00:46:29.000 thing right now because it's gonna be there tomorrow and you don't need to go 734 00:46:29.039 --> 00:46:31.480 to every single thing anyways. That's just not that's not normal. That's not 735 00:46:31.519 --> 00:46:35.679 how life works. Don't you want to like take your time and you know, 736 00:46:35.840 --> 00:46:37.800 save up some money to go on this thing, or like save up 737 00:46:37.800 --> 00:46:42.719 some time and your energy literally your social battery to go out to this event 738 00:46:42.760 --> 00:46:44.920 at the end of the month that's going to be great, instead of going 739 00:46:44.960 --> 00:46:49.840 to it every single week. You know, like there's like poor parties that 740 00:46:49.880 --> 00:46:54.559 happen in the city or club nights or day things festivals all summer long. 741 00:46:54.599 --> 00:46:57.760 You don't need to go to all of them, and trust me, you're 742 00:46:57.800 --> 00:47:00.320 going to experience it and have way more fun if you go less honestly. 743 00:47:00.440 --> 00:47:05.199 Also a few more tips that I have here when it comes suspending, because 744 00:47:05.239 --> 00:47:08.079 I feel like, also in summer, we are very susceptible to buying new 745 00:47:08.119 --> 00:47:13.679 outfits and just buying new things. Definitely make sure that you're buying pieces that 746 00:47:13.719 --> 00:47:16.159 you can interchange. So a pair of really good genes that you can wear 747 00:47:16.159 --> 00:47:21.599 with like a million tops or like this one, this versatile top that's like 748 00:47:21.599 --> 00:47:23.360 a white or a bige or a black, but you could pair it with 749 00:47:23.480 --> 00:47:28.239 any sort of gene or any skirt. Like, we don't need to only 750 00:47:28.280 --> 00:47:30.480 wear things one time. Especially when you are on a budget or you want 751 00:47:30.519 --> 00:47:36.320 to make sure that your finances or finances are in alignment, then you need 752 00:47:36.360 --> 00:47:39.039 to really think about these things. Even when it comes to like doing your 753 00:47:39.079 --> 00:47:42.440 nails, you can do your nails at home. If you're trying to save 754 00:47:42.480 --> 00:47:45.239 money, do your nails at home. Go on YouTube type in how to 755 00:47:45.280 --> 00:47:49.599 do your nails professionally at home and not the ones where you buy the fake 756 00:47:49.639 --> 00:47:51.599 things and you have to buy a bunch of things. But like, seriously, 757 00:47:51.639 --> 00:47:53.360 just how to do a freaking normal manicure, Like for me for my 758 00:47:53.400 --> 00:47:57.239 toes, I honestly never go and get my toes done because I know that 759 00:47:57.280 --> 00:47:59.320 I can do it at home. I have the money to be able to 760 00:47:59.320 --> 00:48:01.320 get my nails done, and I honestly suck at doing my nails, so 761 00:48:01.440 --> 00:48:05.639 I get it done. But there was a time for sure that I didn't 762 00:48:05.639 --> 00:48:07.719 want to spend money on my nail so I just did it at home. 763 00:48:07.079 --> 00:48:10.719 Another tip, walk places if possible. Now that I don't have a car, 764 00:48:10.840 --> 00:48:15.079 this is definitely something that I'm focusing more on, just to walk places 765 00:48:15.239 --> 00:48:20.079 instead of taking an uber or even spending money on I don't know, like 766 00:48:20.199 --> 00:48:23.000 transportation and stuff. I know sometimes you can't, but get used to walking. 767 00:48:23.519 --> 00:48:28.800 Have a good audio book going on your phone or a podcast that's free, 768 00:48:29.119 --> 00:48:32.199 and romanticize the times where you need to, like, you know, 769 00:48:32.440 --> 00:48:36.079 go from one place to another instead of being like, oh no, I 770 00:48:36.119 --> 00:48:37.639 just need to take an uber. I need to do this, Dada. 771 00:48:37.840 --> 00:48:40.360 Make sure you have good shoes as well. Invest in a pair of good 772 00:48:40.360 --> 00:48:44.119 shoes for the summer so you can do some walking. And these are really 773 00:48:44.119 --> 00:48:47.159 just for people who might have the money to spend on random stuff but just 774 00:48:47.920 --> 00:48:51.480 you know, something comes up or oh I'm not wearing the right shoes, 775 00:48:51.519 --> 00:48:52.920 so I'm just gonna uber like no, and that's me, Like I'm talking 776 00:48:52.920 --> 00:48:57.599 to myself on this side at this point. Another thing is eat before you 777 00:48:57.679 --> 00:49:00.119 go out, so you're not tempted to buy random things on the way. 778 00:49:00.159 --> 00:49:04.119 Like let's say you're going to Trinity Bellwood's Park, which is like a park 779 00:49:04.119 --> 00:49:07.360 in Toronto and like whatever, or you're just exploring the city. Make sure 780 00:49:07.480 --> 00:49:10.920 that you've eaten before. This is not to also say that you're gonna be 781 00:49:10.960 --> 00:49:14.440 cheap and you're gonna go to the restaurants and you're gonna like order water and 782 00:49:14.599 --> 00:49:15.719 order nothing. Like don't do that, like honestly, just don't go to 783 00:49:15.800 --> 00:49:19.599 the restaurant. But I just mean, like randomly, if you're somebody who 784 00:49:19.599 --> 00:49:22.039 just picks up like, oh I'm hungry, I need to snack whatever, 785 00:49:22.280 --> 00:49:24.920 Like, first of all, eat before you go and do something. Obviously, 786 00:49:24.920 --> 00:49:27.800 if you're going to lunch or something, you don't need to do that. 787 00:49:27.840 --> 00:49:29.559 Just go for lunch if you have the money. If you have it, 788 00:49:29.599 --> 00:49:32.199 in your budget. But just like those small little things will add up 789 00:49:32.199 --> 00:49:35.920 over time. If you are somebody who's active, who goes out a lot, 790 00:49:36.000 --> 00:49:39.320 who whatever, is hungry. Another thing brings snacks with you, like 791 00:49:39.480 --> 00:49:43.280 bring a water bottle as well with you. I don't know how many times 792 00:49:43.280 --> 00:49:45.880 I've spent so much money on freaking water bottles, like five dollars of freaking 793 00:49:45.880 --> 00:49:49.519 water bottle, and I'll have one sip because I'm dying of thirst, but 794 00:49:49.519 --> 00:49:52.239 then I just throw it out, Like these are things you really have to 795 00:49:52.239 --> 00:49:54.440 pre plan and you have to think about. Of course, another big thing, 796 00:49:54.880 --> 00:49:58.920 especially for the summertime, is to meal prep and to make sure you 797 00:49:58.960 --> 00:50:01.239 have majority of your meals at home. This is all outside of just saving 798 00:50:01.239 --> 00:50:05.519 money too. You can just remind yourself that this is for your health and 799 00:50:05.920 --> 00:50:09.719 you really don't need to constantly be buying all the things, like when you 800 00:50:09.760 --> 00:50:13.679 go out with your friends, like you don't have to get an appetizer and 801 00:50:13.800 --> 00:50:16.079 a maine and three drinks and dessert or whatever. You can just get like 802 00:50:16.119 --> 00:50:20.119 one small thing. You don't need to do what everyone else is doing. 803 00:50:20.239 --> 00:50:22.320 I also put on my list here connect with people, and I think this 804 00:50:22.400 --> 00:50:27.079 is more for like the girlies who are going to a patio or going somewhere. 805 00:50:27.719 --> 00:50:30.800 You never know who you can meet who might want to buy you a 806 00:50:30.880 --> 00:50:34.760 drink or buy a little sum sum Okay not you don't listen. This is 807 00:50:34.800 --> 00:50:37.159 not to like look out for the guys who would just like buy you everything. 808 00:50:37.199 --> 00:50:40.599 Please don't do that. Please don't do that. Have some more self 809 00:50:40.599 --> 00:50:44.039 respect. And I mean that in the nicest way. Okay, it's great 810 00:50:44.039 --> 00:50:46.360 to be treated, but there comes a point where you don't need to rinse 811 00:50:46.480 --> 00:50:51.559 every man for all he has just because you want a free drink like it's 812 00:50:51.599 --> 00:50:55.039 giving desperate, it's giving broke, it's giving. Don't please don't like learn 813 00:50:55.039 --> 00:50:59.280 how to spend your own money on things, because honestly, I do think 814 00:50:59.320 --> 00:51:04.199 that the energy that you're in is really you're just going to continue to attract 815 00:51:04.280 --> 00:51:07.519 that same energy. So if you're in scarcity, if you're in broke mentality, 816 00:51:07.559 --> 00:51:10.960 if you're in like yeah, and you're trying to get somebody to constantly 817 00:51:12.000 --> 00:51:14.519 like buy things for you, buy things, it's not gonna last. It's 818 00:51:14.519 --> 00:51:16.360 not gonna be a thing. I find that you usually attract people who want 819 00:51:16.360 --> 00:51:20.000 to spend more money on you or want to take you out, want to 820 00:51:20.000 --> 00:51:23.039 do things. When you do that for yourself, when you have self respect, 821 00:51:23.199 --> 00:51:27.119 when you get your ass up and you work and you spend your money 822 00:51:27.199 --> 00:51:30.800 on yourself. Okay, just a pro tip. Someone asks how to love 823 00:51:30.840 --> 00:51:35.360 yourself on a weight lost journey, You need to accept yourself for where you're 824 00:51:35.400 --> 00:51:39.440 at right now. You're allowed to change, but you please just accept yourself 825 00:51:39.480 --> 00:51:43.599 for what you are right now. I feel like so many people on a 826 00:51:43.599 --> 00:51:45.159 weight lost journey they just hate what they see in the mirror. And I 827 00:51:45.199 --> 00:51:49.880 get it. You don't like it. You're not comfortable. You feel like 828 00:51:49.960 --> 00:51:52.320 you're not a part of society, like you know, like the beauty standard 829 00:51:52.400 --> 00:51:54.679 or whatever. You feel like you want to look a certain way, dada, 830 00:51:54.920 --> 00:51:58.960 whatever it is that you think and you feel. But at the end 831 00:51:59.000 --> 00:52:01.079 of the day, it's what's going to make it a lot easier for you 832 00:52:01.239 --> 00:52:04.840 is for you to just accept it. For you to not go to the 833 00:52:04.880 --> 00:52:07.760 gym and constantly pick at that one thing that looks so terrible on you and 834 00:52:07.760 --> 00:52:10.559 you hate it and you just want to change it. Go to the gym 835 00:52:12.519 --> 00:52:15.719 and focus on the things that look amazing about you. And if nothing looks 836 00:52:15.719 --> 00:52:17.400 amazing and you really can't praise yourself. Okay, let's not think about it 837 00:52:17.480 --> 00:52:21.079 right now. We don't need to think about the negative. We're just making 838 00:52:21.079 --> 00:52:25.360 it. We're putting ourselves through. Honestly, we're suffering when we do things 839 00:52:25.360 --> 00:52:30.000 like that. Okay, So just please accept yourself through the journey. Remind 840 00:52:30.000 --> 00:52:32.639 yourself that you are here and you are committed, and you're doing the work, 841 00:52:34.000 --> 00:52:37.760 and that is what you should be praising yourself for instead of begging on 842 00:52:37.840 --> 00:52:40.559 yourself for where you've gotten. But actually, we'll have a video already posted 843 00:52:40.559 --> 00:52:45.679 by the time you listen to this episode, and it's like exiting my lazy 844 00:52:45.679 --> 00:52:51.079 era, and I talk a lot about detaching from outcomes and identifying as somebody 845 00:52:51.079 --> 00:52:54.639 who goes to the gym and really being able to just be consistent with your 846 00:52:54.679 --> 00:52:59.119 goals. So I suggest you watch that video because that will definitely help you 847 00:52:59.159 --> 00:53:00.719 if you're on a weight lost or if you're on like a gaining journey, 848 00:53:00.800 --> 00:53:05.840 or any journey when it comes to transforming yourself. And also one last tip 849 00:53:06.079 --> 00:53:08.079 is to please stop putting your life on hold. You can't do that. 850 00:53:08.280 --> 00:53:10.880 You can't do it. I know it's hard. I know you want to 851 00:53:10.880 --> 00:53:14.239 feel comfortable. And you want to look amazing in you what or whatever. 852 00:53:14.320 --> 00:53:16.679 But if you again, like let go of who you think that you need 853 00:53:16.719 --> 00:53:22.239 to be at this moment in time, and please, just like you have 854 00:53:22.360 --> 00:53:23.960 to live your life. You gotta go to the beach still, you got 855 00:53:23.960 --> 00:53:27.920 to go outside and get sun. You need to connect with people, You 856 00:53:28.000 --> 00:53:30.800 need to love on yourself through this process. You have to do it. 857 00:53:30.840 --> 00:53:35.960 If you do not do it, it's going to be very very hard and 858 00:53:36.039 --> 00:53:37.719 most likely not sustainable, and you're gonna fall back. I'm telling you, 859 00:53:37.719 --> 00:53:40.719 I've been through it. I haven't been somebody who's been very overweight, but 860 00:53:40.719 --> 00:53:45.400 I've been through the journey of wanting to change myself and it never worked out. 861 00:53:45.639 --> 00:53:46.880 It never worked out, And I know it can be hard, listen, 862 00:53:46.920 --> 00:53:51.360 I know, but again, letting go of the idea of like who 863 00:53:51.400 --> 00:53:53.760 you have to be like. I know that society tells us we have to 864 00:53:53.800 --> 00:53:58.719 look like this, and it's just so much easier to be hot and like 865 00:53:58.880 --> 00:54:01.480 be skinny whatever. But honestly, once you get there, you realize, 866 00:54:01.480 --> 00:54:06.360 like, that's not what life is even I don't want to say that's not 867 00:54:06.400 --> 00:54:10.000 what life is about. It's definitely a part of life is looking amazing and 868 00:54:10.119 --> 00:54:15.159 feeling great. But oh my gosh, like we just put so much focus 869 00:54:15.239 --> 00:54:19.079 on how we should look and that's just not what we're here to do. 870 00:54:19.480 --> 00:54:22.920 Somebody said, recommend summer hobbies to pick up, and I just wrote here 871 00:54:23.000 --> 00:54:25.920 you can make anything a hobby by just making it a part of your routine. 872 00:54:27.000 --> 00:54:30.440 So you know, maybe once a week you're going to walk around shops 873 00:54:30.440 --> 00:54:34.039 and you're looking at I don't know, like art pieces, or you're learning 874 00:54:34.079 --> 00:54:36.800 how to paint, but you're doing it once a week and you're going on 875 00:54:36.840 --> 00:54:40.679 Pinterest or YouTube and you're typing out how to make a art piece or how 876 00:54:40.760 --> 00:54:45.400 to paint a butterfly or anything. Or you know, you want to get 877 00:54:45.400 --> 00:54:47.440 into plants, so you start you buy a book on plants, or you 878 00:54:47.519 --> 00:54:51.960 go on YouTube and you start to like have this, you know, you 879 00:54:52.000 --> 00:54:54.519 start to teach yourself how to be a plant mom. I think my biggest 880 00:54:54.559 --> 00:54:58.440 tip for that though, is to try new things, like you have to, 881 00:54:58.599 --> 00:55:00.800 because if you don't really know what to have a hobby, but you 882 00:55:00.840 --> 00:55:04.559 told yourself like, oh I need to have it, then try new things. 883 00:55:04.719 --> 00:55:08.519 Get out there and try and paint, try and get flowers and see 884 00:55:08.559 --> 00:55:13.360 if you can keep them alive. Try dancing to your favorite music in your 885 00:55:13.360 --> 00:55:15.559 apartment and see how much you love it. Like that can be a hobby 886 00:55:15.599 --> 00:55:20.239 in it itself. Every Friday night, you're having a glass of wine or 887 00:55:20.280 --> 00:55:22.719 a mocktail and you're just dancing and you're vibing and you're enjoying life. Or 888 00:55:22.719 --> 00:55:27.360 you're going down to the water and you're having this like you're just romanticizing your 889 00:55:27.400 --> 00:55:29.920 life. You're having a good time. Someone asked, what are some better 890 00:55:30.239 --> 00:55:35.920 for your skin makeup options for summer. I don't wear a lot of makeup, 891 00:55:36.280 --> 00:55:40.679 but I've used Ilia foundation for this will be the second year, or 892 00:55:40.719 --> 00:55:45.280 like the second bottle. I use one bottle on one year because I don't 893 00:55:45.320 --> 00:55:49.719 use it that often. But I really like it and it is It's called 894 00:55:49.760 --> 00:55:57.000 True skin Cerum Foundation with nice cinnamine and alatone alo infuse. I don't know 895 00:55:57.039 --> 00:56:00.760 that last word, but yeah, it's really good. I like it and 896 00:56:00.800 --> 00:56:04.880 it's very very light on your skin. I don't I'm not even wearing it 897 00:56:04.960 --> 00:56:07.320 right now on my skin in the video, but I really like that. 898 00:56:07.360 --> 00:56:10.480 When it comes to I like more skincare products because I want my skin to 899 00:56:10.480 --> 00:56:15.119 be glowing. And hydrating. I don't really care too much about the foundation 900 00:56:15.199 --> 00:56:22.440 and stuff, but um SVR Biotic, which is like a cream moisturizer. 901 00:56:22.719 --> 00:56:24.920 Game changer. I talk about it all the time on my Instagram. Please 902 00:56:25.000 --> 00:56:29.000 go and freaking get that. It is pretty pricey, but it's amazing. 903 00:56:30.360 --> 00:56:32.199 Or you could just use any of like you're any moisturizer that you have, 904 00:56:32.239 --> 00:56:36.440 add a little bit of Jjoba oil in that and make your skin glowing. 905 00:56:36.480 --> 00:56:39.360 I love it. But I've really been loving blush and I've been using the 906 00:56:39.519 --> 00:56:46.000 pixie sticks from Shoppers and I have like a peach color and also like a 907 00:56:46.239 --> 00:56:50.519 like a pink blush color and I just like tap it on my cheeks. 908 00:56:50.559 --> 00:56:52.719 It's so cute for the summer. I love it. And mascara and I 909 00:56:52.800 --> 00:56:57.559 just like brush my eyebrows up like the minimal. The minimal makeup is the 910 00:56:57.599 --> 00:57:00.320 best for me. Okay, last question that I'm going to address. Somebody 911 00:57:00.320 --> 00:57:05.480 said how to have a sense of safety living in a dangerous city slash like 912 00:57:05.599 --> 00:57:07.960 having being lied to by people that you love. And I thought this is 913 00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:10.639 interesting because I'm sure, I mean, even if you don't live in a 914 00:57:10.639 --> 00:57:15.159 city in general, being a woman probably in your twenties, even thirty, 915 00:57:15.199 --> 00:57:21.239 whatever age you are, you know you might feel a little vulnerable. One 916 00:57:21.239 --> 00:57:25.239 thing my somatic therapist taught me is, for one, if you do perceive 917 00:57:25.320 --> 00:57:30.880 everything to be a threat, they kind of will be. This is not 918 00:57:30.000 --> 00:57:35.360 to say that if you stop looking at a random man, like a freaking 919 00:57:35.440 --> 00:57:37.639 homeless person that looks like they're literally going to come up to you and freaking 920 00:57:37.760 --> 00:57:40.760 hit you is not a threat, that they're just going to not be a 921 00:57:40.800 --> 00:57:44.800 threat. So obviously I want to say that very lightly, but I just 922 00:57:44.840 --> 00:57:47.800 want to kind of give you that perspective shift in a way. Let's try 923 00:57:47.920 --> 00:57:52.480 not to look at absolutely everything and everyone as a threat, because I do 924 00:57:52.519 --> 00:57:55.400 think that does something between your energy and then that sometimes is what makes you 925 00:57:55.440 --> 00:58:00.880 susceptible to more dangerous things because you feel insecure, feel like you have no 926 00:58:00.960 --> 00:58:05.000 walls, no boundaries, no protection. And another thing that she told me 927 00:58:05.039 --> 00:58:08.719 as well is honestly, having a physical item with you, even though you 928 00:58:08.719 --> 00:58:13.199 would never use it like something that's obviously like legal and wherever you live, 929 00:58:13.880 --> 00:58:16.519 can be very helpful for your energy because again, if you feel like you've 930 00:58:16.559 --> 00:58:21.239 got something on you and you are safe, you're going to exude this energy 931 00:58:21.320 --> 00:58:23.159 of like, do not f with me, and you're also going to make 932 00:58:23.199 --> 00:58:27.480 yourself feel calm at safe, like you know, I have myself and I 933 00:58:27.480 --> 00:58:31.519 can protect myself and whatever. Obviously, it depends on what situations that you're 934 00:58:31.559 --> 00:58:35.000 in, like you might need to do more or less than that. But 935 00:58:35.119 --> 00:58:38.960 I thought those were two really good tips that she's given me. Also a 936 00:58:39.000 --> 00:58:42.920 few other ones that I thought about. Make sure you're always talking to someone 937 00:58:42.960 --> 00:58:46.719 on the phone if you're walking home late at night and you feel uncomfortable and 938 00:58:46.760 --> 00:58:50.599 there's not a lot of people around. Again, this is really just going 939 00:58:50.639 --> 00:58:54.039 to depend I don't even know if I've really walked the streets of Toronto at 940 00:58:54.159 --> 00:59:00.119 night by myself yet. Actually I did. I walked home from a lu 941 00:59:00.159 --> 00:59:01.639 Jay's game, but there are so many people on the street. So I 942 00:59:01.679 --> 00:59:05.519 was just listening to my music and I was very aware of my surroundings and 943 00:59:05.679 --> 00:59:07.360 there was never really an area. There's like police everywhere as well. But 944 00:59:07.519 --> 00:59:09.679 if I was, you know, walking down a street, I'd make sure 945 00:59:09.679 --> 00:59:15.000 that I'm actually physically talking on the phone with somebody. Another thing is always 946 00:59:15.039 --> 00:59:17.199 let people know where you're going, your friends, your family, whoever, 947 00:59:17.320 --> 00:59:21.199 wherever. If you are doing something alone, like majority of the time, 948 00:59:21.239 --> 00:59:23.119 just let people know what you're doing, where you're going things like that. 949 00:59:23.360 --> 00:59:28.480 Another thing, if you are posting on social media and you are alone, 950 00:59:28.679 --> 00:59:32.800 I would suggest post when you leave. I don't always do that when I'm 951 00:59:32.800 --> 00:59:37.280 with people and I'm safe and I know that I'm safe. But you know, 952 00:59:37.400 --> 00:59:39.079 there's some times where I just like I'll save Honestly, sometimes I'll just 953 00:59:39.079 --> 00:59:42.599 save it because I don't feel like posting in that moment, but just like 954 00:59:42.719 --> 00:59:45.800 posts I don't know, like later in the day. But yeah, I 955 00:59:45.840 --> 00:59:47.760 think it does come back to the fact that, like you know that perspective 956 00:59:47.800 --> 00:59:52.039 shift, make sure you have something on you and really like stand in that 957 00:59:52.519 --> 00:59:57.079 confidence, being like nobody's going to take anything away from me, Like you 958 00:59:57.079 --> 01:00:00.239 cannot take things away from me like I have myself. You have to give 959 01:00:00.360 --> 01:00:05.000 yourself that energy and you have to protect yourself because you know when you are 960 01:00:05.039 --> 01:00:07.199 alone, no one's gonna do it for you but you. So it's like 961 01:00:07.280 --> 01:00:10.079 who's it gonna be. Is it gonna be this threat or is it gonna 962 01:00:10.079 --> 01:00:14.039 be me? Me? I'm choosing me every time. I'm betting on myself 963 01:00:14.079 --> 01:00:16.480 every time, honey, Like, no that's not happening. So anyways, 964 01:00:16.599 --> 01:00:21.039 that's gonna be it for this episode. There was a few more questions. 965 01:00:21.280 --> 01:00:24.199 Let me see if there is anything else somebody said to talk about my gym 966 01:00:24.239 --> 01:00:30.360 era and that video will talk about it more the exiting my Lazy Girl era. 967 01:00:30.599 --> 01:00:35.679 Right now, I am in the phase of building muscle. Definitely want 968 01:00:35.719 --> 01:00:38.960 a nice round booty, but it's not like the whole focus. Like, 969 01:00:39.079 --> 01:00:43.039 trust me when I say that, it is not the way that I used 970 01:00:43.039 --> 01:00:45.800 to look at wanting results in the gym. Like it is what it is 971 01:00:45.880 --> 01:00:49.960 like, it's not that big of a deal. I also obviously want to 972 01:00:50.000 --> 01:00:52.079 build muscle as being a woman and it's so good for your hormones and it's 973 01:00:52.079 --> 01:00:57.480 just so healthy for us to have a muscle and functionality in general. And 974 01:00:57.519 --> 01:01:00.119 I sit a lot as well, so that's really important. I do have 975 01:01:00.159 --> 01:01:02.719 a lot of playlists if you want to listen to some music. I have 976 01:01:02.760 --> 01:01:07.239 house music, rap music, what else. Yeah, I don't know a 977 01:01:07.320 --> 01:01:13.079 lot of different genres of music on my Spotify, So go to my Instagram. 978 01:01:13.119 --> 01:01:15.719 I have a story highlight and it says music and you can tap through 979 01:01:15.800 --> 01:01:19.639 and I link all the playlists. But yeah, I think in the next 980 01:01:19.679 --> 01:01:22.440 few episodes if we can totally talk more about spring summer vibes, let me 981 01:01:22.480 --> 01:01:25.920 know in the comments or DM me let me know what you want to hear. 982 01:01:27.119 --> 01:01:29.360 I was thinking, like I said, of doing like how to build 983 01:01:29.400 --> 01:01:32.880 like a spring slash summer wellness routine. Also how to be productive will enjoying 984 01:01:32.920 --> 01:01:38.000 summer because I know that, you know, when summer comes, sometimes we 985 01:01:38.119 --> 01:01:43.119 fall off and we you know, we fall off a little bit too much, 986 01:01:43.199 --> 01:01:45.000 So like how to have that balance? So let me know. And 987 01:01:45.079 --> 01:01:49.280 yeah, I hope you guys enjoyed this episode and I'll talk to you guys 988 01:01:49.280 --> 01:01:50.880 in the next one. Bye.