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Now, let's get to the show. WHOA, what's up, beautiful
people. It's your baby Mama, Favorite baby Mama, Stormy P. And
we are back with another episode of Chocolate Chip and Sib The Modern Day Female
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it out. Okay, Now, this episode I'm very, very very excited
about because I have one of my favorite people in the world, and I
know a lot of y'all gonna give me some pushback for it. A lot
of y'all gonna give me a pushback for it. But what y'all see on
the internet is not real. This is one of the most kindest, sweetest,
nicest people I know. Y'all know him as mister let Go. I
know him as Aaron. How are you doing, baby, I'm good.
How are you I'm good. So for those who don't know, tell us
what you do, who you are other than you know, berating women or
the internet. I am miss let Go, but I am Aeron to my
friends and I help women let go of dysfunctional attachment styles altogether. But online
people would see different things that I I would say, get offended, get
upset, or get you know, enthusiastic about you know, want to talk
about different things, getting a tizzy My whole thing is I believe in having
the tough conversations, and the majority of the people out here are afraid to
have them, So I'm gonna have them. And if nobody else is gonna
say something, I'm gonna say it. Now. I don't agree with everything
he'd be saying. She agrees with everything I say, but sometimes there'd be
some gems up in there. Okay. So I really want to talk to
you about this because I have put up a video not too long ago saying
that it seems like me and a majority of the women out there are running
into the same five types of men, and very rarely does my clips like
one clip will goal viral on all the platforms, and this one did.
Like everyone was in agreement, like yes, since yes, So I wanted
to talk to you today to see if you can maybe provide some insight about
these types, how we can avoid these types, or you know what to
do when we find ourselves in these situations. Okay, let's do it.
Okay. So the first one that I wanted to talk to you about is
um and this one really really really gets under my skin. When you run
into a guy who says he doesn't want a relationship, but he wants to
do all the relationship things like he wants to basically be monogamous. He gonna
be tight if you find out you went on a date. He wants to
talk every day, he wants to text every day. He wants to ask
me where am I going? Who am I wit Like, he wants to
put in the time, the effort, but without the commitment. What is
this about. I've been that person, you know that. I'm not surprised.
I'm almost that person now, but I'm not. But I'm so yeah
that that person sounds like it is that So since I understand that person,
I'm going to speak as that person. Okay, so I'm not that person
now, but I can easily say I was that person months ago. So
what we want is we won't We want to love you right, but at
the same time, we don't want you to love us back. See okay,
See I want you to think about this. Men are action oriented.
We love loving, but for a lot of us, y'all loving us back
is annoying. What we don't want to deal with what y'all have. See.
Women love to say I'm such a good woman. I can be a
good woman. To this man, we don't want that. Sometimes sometimes we
do, but sometimes we don't. And then when y'all start loving us back,
it gets overwhelming annoying, and we get to the point where we're just
like, so, y'all don't want to be treated nice. It's not about
being treated nice. We just want you to sit down somewhere and just let
us love you. But y'all want to just jump up and love us back,
and we may not want that at that particular point, because the thing
about it is when you start loving us back, it actually makes us have
to keep or do more because now this reciprocal thing is going on right,
but you're starting it right. But what this possibly means because it's too dysfunctional
side of this a man and a woman. So I'm saying I'm dysfunctional in
this situation. Also, I want to love you, and the fact that
you just gotta jump up and love me back may actually look like you're not
used to a man just loving you for the sake of you being you.
I think it's a difference between courting, dating and you know, getting to
know people. Once you start projecting as if you want the exclusive, the
exclusivity benefits like the benefits that come with being exclusive and being in a relationship,
Like you want to have unprotected sex. You want me to be in
the house by a certain time, you want me to not text other men.
So you're saying, once I start doing that, you're now you don't
want anymore. No, I'm not that, Okay, I'm somewhat that okay,
all right, So I'm never gonna make a woman do this or make
a woman not you know, I'm not get upset when I'm not that type
of guy. Yeah, I'm just saying. So I'm just speaking on my
aspect of it, and then we could talk about the whole thing. Right.
So my aspect of it is I enjoy loving a woman, caring for
a woman. It could be a woman that I'm not even having sex with
sometimes just so like, I actually have a friend of mine, she's in
LA Her daughter actually got in a little car accident. Right, I didn't
know what type of car accident. She calls me like, hey, you
will you say, I'm at the house, my daughter's just in a car
accident. I'm there, I'm in a car. We don't need seeving together.
I love in that way, right, So when there's a woman that
I'm actually liking, I'm dating, but I know that I can't give her
all of me. I'm going to care for her, and me caring for
her makes her think I'm giving her all of me, but I'm not.
That is just a piece of me. I don't want to give you all
of me. And then you start giving me all of you, And now
I'm like, yo, what is you doing thinking that I'm giving you all
of me? Yeah, so you're saying, y'all, don't purposely be acting
like you want to be in a relationship. That's just how you show your
feelings for people, and we internalize it as, oh, well, he's
doing this, he must want to be in a relationship. So now when
we start acting like, you know, reciprocating it, it's like you're doing
too much, doing too much because, like I said, I am not
to do Who's just like, let's have unprotected sets. Hey, who you
talking to? I don't I'm not that person that part. I'm just loving
you taking not taking care of you, like paying your bills, whatever,
but taking care of your emotional needs, you know what I mean. And
you start assuming that I'm something, and I'm like, yo, just chill
out, man, Okay, Well, can we talk about those guys who
do want to have unprotected sex and you want to be monogamous, but you
don't want to be monogamous, Like, what is their problem? Well,
that particular guy is keeping himself in a position where he always has an out.
Because it goes back to the annoying part. Y'all are annoying, and
we have an understanding that at some point you're gonna get annoying to the point
where we don't want you no more, or we want to pull you away
and start spending more time with another another woman, but expecting all the benefits
of a relationship. And that you honestly think I'm annoying. It's crazy to
me, like you are if if for whatever reason you're unable not you,
but like the person is unable to get in contact me one night and I
go on a date. You're ready to jump off a bridge. But you're
just saying here and told me you didn't want a relationship. That's toxic.
See that part is toxic because now you're like, so you do want to
be with me? This is where we all are. See, I ain't
like that like so so that's the toxic part of that trait that I have
the toxic part of it, but I do have that I'm gonna love you
and you're gonna want to be with me simply because I'm just being me,
but I'm not gonna be toxic with it or whatever. So I think anything
could be too hot, too cold, too toxic, too crazy, too
down, so that that guy is just extremely toxic. And the reason why
he's doing that is because he don't want you. He just wants access to
you, and since y'all are having unprotected sex, he don't want you to
have unprotected sex with somebody else. So, in my opinion, I think
most people, I ain't gonna say most people. A lot of people just
want to be in a relationship so they can have unprotected sex. And they
don't really want to be in a relationship for real. They don't want to
go through the relationship stuff for real, or they don't want to potentially get
married for real. They just want to have unprotected sex with a person that's
not having sex with somebody else for a long period of time until they get
tired of them, and then they're gonna go have unprotected sex with another person
and do the same ship with them. I've never thought about this before,
but you made me onto something. Yeah, it's all about unprotected sex.
It's all about unprotected sex. That's the wildest thing, Like, because you're
right, like, the only way for me to guarantee that you're not doing
it with anybody else or for me to kind of feel safe in this space
and I have to worry about who else you're doing this with is well,
maybe let's be in a relationship. Yeah, And it's like, that's why
we'd be trying to figure out why our boyfriends act like they don't like us,
because sometimes we don't want to be in a relationship with y'all. We
just want to have unprotected sex. If you're trying to figure out why your
boyfriend acts like he don't like you, might because he don't want to be
with you. He just wants to have unprotected sex. Boom facts. Okay,
So another type that I said I felt like we all were running into
was the guy who's giving you everything that you need emotionally, mentally, physically,
making you feel safe, give reciprocating the energy that you're giving out,
making you feel like this is perfect. It's going well, y'all, this
might end up being my husband and then out of nowhere he just ghost you.
What is that about? That is? Remember I talked about I help
people with dysfunctional attachment styles. That particular attachment style is the avoidant attachment style.
So that particular avoidant person and that that could be women too, Because
a woman did me like that. She didn't ghost me, but once she
got what she needed, she just pulled away. And I didn't even understand
why. People just I'm just I'm not gonna say people, but avoidant people.
People with the avoidant attachment style don't want to lose their emotional freedom.
So they are in love with love, but the second you get close,
they get unlike, they get turned off, They don't know what to do
themselves. They actually don't even like you no more. Because the dysfunctional part
of being in an avoidant you, the other person has to be in an
anxious attachment style. Those are the worst, right, So as long as
you're anxious and I'm avoidant, it works if you're If you're if you don't
know what anxious is, that would be like the you have to text back
every five seconds, or like you're like I know you'd be thinking like sometimes,
oh my god, every time he texts me, I get butterflies.
No, you're actually going off on a deep ending. Yeah, you're getting
confirmation. Yeah, confirmation and not butterflies. He's text back is confirming what
you're already thinking, or is keeping you from thinking what you're already thinking,
which I'm not worthy of love. So when he texts you back, you're
like, maybe I am worthy of Yeah. It's like it's like a drug
hit, like it fulfills you. Yeah. Yeah. So in an easier
way, I can look at anxious and avoidant. Avoidant people are positive self
negative other. Anxious is negative self positive other. And what this means is
positive self means I am worthy of love. I know what I'm talking about.
I am smart. I am worthy of somebody listening to me. But
he's other people. They dumb, stupid, they don't got them sent d
they can't park, they need to just you know, move, they need
to get out my way on them in traffic. All these stupid ass people.
You in traffic too, now, but all these other people stupid,
Yes, instead of you, these stupid ass people, but you're traffic mord
them right, You're probably holding up the traffic right right. The person that's
about the park and somebody to grab your parking space. It's not your parking
space, bro, it was never your It was never your parking space.
But you think that's my parking space every day, every day, so random
people was supposed to know that you parked there every day? Random? Right.
So that type of person is the I know what I'm talking about,
but other people are stupid. That person is going to look for the opposite
of them, which is the anxious, and they feel the opposite of that.
They feel like I'm well themselves, I'm not worthy of love. And
then when they meet a person that actually loves them wants to be with them,
since they don't think they're worthy of love, they're going to be like,
why I don't understand all these beautiful women or all these good looking men.
Why me? And then you start self sabotaging a relationship because you don't
think you're worthy of a man or a woman like that. So you start
fumbling around, arguing, texting too much. And when you do that too
an avoidant, it feeds the avoidance ego. Say I knew you were stupid.
All these bitches are stupid. You know what I'm saying. So the
next thing, you know, it feeds his ego where he's now it confirms
his existence as an avoidant person, and it can and when I avoid you,
it confirms your existence of You're not I don't love. So now you
feel safe in this particular little situation as unhealthy as it is right because you
are feeling unworthy of love because you felt like you were unworthy of love before
you met me. So when I actually make you feel loved, you pull
away. But when you actually start making me feel like you are worthy of
love instead of me, that's when I start avoiding you. Okay, okay,
does that make sense? Okay, So for women out here who are
experiencing this particular situation, you're whether they be or whether they have an anxious
attachment style or not, what would you suggest or recommend? Well, first
of all, this second person you're saying that love bombs you does everything right
and then ghost and ghost you. They're ghosting you because the time simply has
ran out. They already are expecting you to do something stupid, and the
fact that you haven't, they're no longer interested. They're no longer interested.
Because they're waiting for the other shooter drop because they already think you're dumb,
stupid, ain't got no damn sense, and you're gonna mess it up anyway.
So they're gonna put on this amazing show to make themselves feel good about
themselves because they're a disavoidant person and now they're like, eye them good because
if it keeps getting if it keeps going one, it could turn into a
relationship. And you can't be avoidant in a relationship. You gotta you know
you can. But it's gonna be dysfunctional. Yeah, you know. It's
a dude like you know, often to go and we ain't even got an
argument. We don't talking about. Man, I'm sicking of shit. What
ship? What ships? What are you talking about? See you raise your
voice. That's why I'm leaving right now. Well, I ain't doing nothing,
you know what. You're toxic. Huh. That's what avoidant people do.
Yes, So to keep them from struggling to be in the same room
with you or the same relationship it with you, they're just gonna ghost you.
Now what about? And this is the part that really gets because it's
not freedom. This is the part that really gets under my skin. All
that is understood. You didn't figure it out. You know I am stupid.
Maybe I'm not stupid. You don't want to wait for me to be
stupid. Now you're ghost me. Now you're going. Don't bring your sorry
ass back around here in three months trying check the temperat you're talking about a
big head? How you doing? You want to see if I'm still stupid?
Is that what this is? No? See, the dysfunctional part of
avoiding attachment is the back and forth, the ping pong. See think about
this. For me to avoid you, I have to go here. But
if I never come back, it's no longer. I'm not No, I'm
not avoiding you anymore because you're gone. So for me to avoid you again,
I gotta come back to avoid me again again. Hell no. So
it's like hell no, hell no, I can't keep avoiding. You can't
avoid a person twice, lady, You keep running into the person twice.
So for them to keep avoiding you, they gotta keep coming back. Ladies,
I want you to pay attention to what this man just said. When
they spend the block, call the cops. Okay, you're trying to avoid
you again yes, yes, when they spend the block, call the cops
that that that's that's it. That's that's that's the takeaway. And an anxious
I mean an avoidant attachment style needs to feel like, oh, I don't
need this bitch. Oh I don't need this nigga, and they look to
avoid you again, so they're gonna come back. Let me go remind myself
that I'll need this nigga. That's it right there. Let me go remind
myself that this bitch ain't shit yep, yep, and she needs me.
That's it. That's it. So another type that we said we all were
running into is the guy who's not over his ex and doesn't realize he needs
to go seek therapy. Yeah. Like, because whatever you think you're doing,
whether you're self medicating, whether you're trying to write a disk track,
okay, it's not working. You need to go talk to the ladies.
But rappers, not me. I'm speaking to the ladies. I got your
back, I got your back, okay, But why don't they understand that
they are stuck on their ex? And when you keep talking about it,
it's not like you know, we're sharing experiences. Every three seconds you gotta
bring this bitch up. Yeah, well I can answer that. I can
answer that. Okay. To me, it's two different things. One and
I might forget the second one Jesus Christ, because the one is the first
one. It's so deep. It's not that he or she doesn't know that
they're over the X. None of us really knows if we're actually healed until
we're in another relationship. That's dangerous. I'm just saying. Just think about
this. The typical person gets of a bad relationship. They don't go to
therapy. It's just a bad relationship, or it's a good relationship and they
got dumped or something. Right, you cry, you get sad, you
ice cream or hang out with your boys, but whatever. Right, you're
single for like a year. Life is beautiful, you're happy, you're skipping
around. Your swag is back, you know what I'm saying. The opposite
sex is back out at you, you know, trying to highlight you or
whatever. But you outside, Yeah, you outside. At one point you
wasn't seeing nobody because you like, you know what you're gonna do me just
like the other part. You know what I'm saying, And you just ain't
paying attention to nothing. But when you get back outside, you're feeling good
about yourself and you decide to start dating somebody else. Those feelings were not
nowhere in your world in the year that you were single because you wasn't talking
to women. Wasn't you know you was talking to women, but you didn't
have feelings for the women. So the trauma or the possible issues that may
come up in your last relationships, you know, you gotta think about it.
People have abandonment issues and they don't know they have abandonment issue. They
have insecurities that they don't really know how deep they are. Right, So
when you're say, say you don't like your titties, for example, right,
if you're just sleeping with a dude, you don't care and he don't
really care. But if you like him, right, you can have sex
with the dude with your damn shirt on. You don't give a damn But
your man is gonna be like, yo, why you don't never do you
know? He's gonna hold your way That may make you feel safe, but
he may hold your touch you in a way where you're just like, now,
I forgot I'm insecure about it? Why he got touched for you there,
What is he thinking? Does he think about titties are droopy? Does
he you know what I'm saying, he see these donkeys when I'm riding the
not you like, yeah, when you are, you know what I'm saying.
But when it's a dude that you don't can on about, you don't
give a damn about what he's thinking. So when you start a dating somebody
that you really like, abandonment issues come out, insecurities come out, and
you start sitting there like why am I feeling so bad? So you're saying,
once you start seriously dating and seriously maybe even entertaining a relationship, it's
a trigger the relationship and taking someone serious, it's a trigger. It's the
opt or the ultimate trigger. Really. Yeah. See, the key to
being in a relationship and getting out of a relationship is actually finding a way
to get triggered without being in a relationship in a way. That's what I
do in my coaching group, because that's how you resolve the issues. Right,
So what I do in my coaching group and unintentionally i'm me, you
know, and we go over different things. We talk about different books or
whatever, and we talk about different subjects, right, so some of the
young ladies there m mute and talk about this and talk about that, and
then they'll say something about their boyfriend ex boyfriend or god they dated or whatever.
Right, and then sometimes they get comfortable in the coaching group, which
is a safe space, right, but to a certain degree, there's a
relationship between me and the women in the coaching group, non sexual. Course,
there's a comfort zone. And then they look at me as somebody that
they see as trustworthy, right, and they start divulging what's going on or
what went on or whatever in real time. See's one thing about my mom
did this when I was little, or my dad did this when I was
little. But when you say my ex that I was with two months ago
or six months ago did this and said that is still running in your mind.
And next thing, you know, when I'll be like, yo,
that is kind of dysfunctional. Why did you go back? Why do you
why did you why do you keep doing that? Why did you do that?
And then next thing, you know, she gets triggered, she want
to lead, she she want to uh cut her face out, you know,
or or she starts talking way too much, trying to do what over
explain because she's defensive. No, I didn't mean that. What I mean
this? Wait wait wait wait no no, And now I don't like the
way you say that. Look, so now I gotta mute her. Oh
she's mad now because I muted her. Right, So now she's getting triggered
in the coaching group, and it's a positive thing, even though she don't
see it as a positive thing. But it's better for her to get triggered
in my coaching group with me than with her next potential husband, because if
you do that with your next potential husband, he's gonna be like, Yo,
this bit crazy and I out. I'm out. Yeah, And then
guess what, You're retriggered by the man leaving. So now you're like,
you know what, None of these niggas shit, fucking all these niggas.
So for women who happen to run it into men who you know are working
through their triggers, they keep talking about they X, is it wrong for
us to point it out to them that they keep talking about their Yes,
it's wrong for us to do that. No, no, no, no,
no, it's right for you to point because the thing about it is
it's not pointing it out. It's about setting boundaries, so on the beginning
of a relationship, or say, man, you start dating right if you
say some crazy shit about your X, I'm the first thing I'm gonna say
is YO, is there a reason why you keep saying that about your X?
Yes, because I haven't worked through it, and I'm fucking triggered because
I like you. Now I'm crazy. Either way, No, I'm letting
you know that that's not cool with me. So you got two options.
You get either like, we're just gonna pull back, keep having sex if
you want to. Hey, hey we were and now I'm just saying you
know, but you gotta leave that as an option, or let that shit
go and we move on. But don't let that shit go and we move
on knowing you now feel silenced because now you're going to resent me, because
now you're going to say, I can't talk to him whenever I feel a
certain kind of way. And now this doesn't feel like a safe space.
It don't feel like a safe space. But the dude don't. He got
to set his boundaries, or the woman has to set her boundaries. So
my boundaries are more important than you. So if you want to keep talking
all this shit about your ex. I ain't gonna say go back your X.
It's not about going back your ex. Yeah, just gonna get some
therapy or something. Is there all right? In a wrong way to set
the boundary? Well. Um, one of the most beautiful things a woman
said to me, which was so weird, was I don't like that.
I don't like that ship. I'm gonna have to drop a dime on that
ship. Go ahead. I Um. We were talking and everything's good,
right, and I started calling her baby. I said, okay or something
like that, a baby whatever. I don't remember what it was. She's
like, Yo, I don't like that. I was like, Yo,
that's what's up. I like that. She was like, huh, you
set boundaries. I like a woman who has boundaries. Women don't be having
boundaries. Now, Can I just say, I want to give you just
a little bit of pushback here, Okay. Setting boundaries is often misconstrued as
being too masculine. How does I don't like that? Same conversation, right,
same conversation. If I tell you on your knee right now, You're
like, I don't like that. Not even that. If you sometimes with
men when you try to set your boundaries, they'll make it seem like,
oh, you're trying to shake charge, or you're trying to be that niggle,
or like you're trying to be the man of relationship. And it's like,
I'm not trying to offend you. I'm just like you just said,
I'm setting boundaries. I don't like that. I don't like being called that
name. Don't ask me for no booty picks after day two, don't question
me where I am when we're not exclusive. I don't like that. And
it's like, oh, well, you you out here trying to be the
man. You got the man's energy, and it's like, no, I'm
not. I'm just telling you what I don't like. But for some reason,
me having the voice to say what I don't like comes off as me
trying to take charge and me trying to be masculine. So let me say
this. One of the principles in my coaching group, we have seventeen principles
letting go. One of the principles is I don't have to explain my boundaries
to anybody. I set them, and that is it. So women sadly
don't have the freedom because nobody has ever told them that they do. Women
don't think they have the freedom to set boundaries. A lot of women don't
want to do to take the condom off when they start having condomless sex.
She just likes the guy and he just takes it off, and you just
don't say nothing, and you just are like you know, because you aren't
taught to say. See, this is what's crazy. Women are taught by
their moms don't trust no man, which is dysfunctional. How are you going
to be with a man by not trusting them? What is important for them
to teach them? But you gotta remember, women don't teach structure. They
teach fears. So women just teach other women how to be fearful of shit.
But there's no structure, it's just fear. So don't trust no man
is fear based. But if a woman was capable of teaching person of you
know, about structure, she would say, tell a man what you want
and what you don't want, and look them in the eye and don't make
excuses because those are your boundaries and that is what you need, or those
are the things that you don't want to happen. Listen to this. You
don't gotta explain why you don't want to take the kind of them off.
Okay, just tell them you don't want to do it. It's either that
or you're gonna deal with your pH being off for the next two weeks.
Now, you can't drink with your girlfriends on the weekends because you want anybiotics.
You don't need all that. Just tell them no. If you don't
want to do it, you don't got to do it. That's the bottom
line. That's the bottom line. It's a people pleasing issue with women.
Women have people pleasing issues, so they are so afraid to say no to
certain things, setting boundaries and saying no and saying yes at the same time.
You're saying, it's like this because another principle that goes right along with
that is I must set boundaries with everyone, including my kids, my family
members. Heavy on the family members members, my kids, my cat,
my dog, get away from me, and I still love you. You
get what I'm saying. You tell your kids, Hey, between this time
and this time, you're gonna look at SpongeBob. You can't ask me nothing
unless the room is on fire. Don't ask me nothing. I'm gonna go
look at my show off to do what I'm going to do. Don't come
in here unless the room is on fire. That is boundaries. After this
time, you can come in here and ask me whatever is that? Okay?
And then give them something to be excited about too. Hey, this
time this comes on. So you're gonna look at your show, and I'm
gonna look at my show. So we're gonna look at our shows in our
own rooms together separately. Yeah, you get what I'm saying. So with
your family members, can I just say what your family your family members sexual
boundaries? Let them know for the holidays, I'm gonna come here, I'm
gonna eat my turkey. I'm gonna bring my potato salad. You're not gonna
ask me where my man at, Where I'm having more kids, How long
I'm gonna keep talking to my special friend, none of that. I'm coming
to lead the prayer, eat my food, and that's it, right,
don't actually wear my man at. I know how long it's been. Oh
my god, that's hilarious. How what is a healthy way to set those
boundaries? Perfect example, Right, your mama calls you whenever talking about dumb
shit, talking about her sister. She pops up at your house, right,
and you set the first boundary, Mom, do not pop up at
my house. Wow, you gotta ain't like you got a man. You
know what I'm saying, ain't nobody ain't like nobody over here? Right,
that's the first thing she's trying to gas like you, I said what I
said, and that's it because there's no arguments. Remember, you do not
explain your boundaries. You set them in. That's it. So even when
she's saying I gave up my life for you and I pushed you out of
this and not ruined my body, we're not even engaging in that. No,
we're setting our boundaries and that is it. And you look at her
with a stone face. Did you hear what I said? Ma? Right?
So the next thing she's gonna do after she said that, tell the
family you tried to fight her. She's gonna do it. So look,
that's that's part of it too. So the second thing, because this is
what's going to happen when you actually say this to your mama or any family
member that is overstepping your boundaries, she's gonna say, you know what,
You're right, I'm never coming over here again. Oh my god, I'm
never coming over here. You ain't gotta worry about you, ain't gotta worry
about me ever. Again. I know I've been a burden to your life
all these years, that bird and all that burden. I don't want to
be a burden to nobody. I'm just gonna go stay in my corner.
I die. Y'all just want me to die, y'all don't love me?
You know what you say? Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay,
that's it. So you want me to die if that's what you want
to do, do you want you to die? You know what chicks be
doing? Back to the avoiding dudes. Sometimes we have chicks just all in
our house when we want them right, and we're just like, yo,
how am I gonna get rid of this bitch? Right? And then at
some point she does some dumb shit or say some dumb shit, or we
do some dumb shit and she's like, you know what, I'm I'm leaving.
I'm moving out, like yes, and then she walks around, so
you're just gonna let me leave? Right? And were like, but you
said you was gonna leave, but you you you want me to leave?
No, you said you was gonna leave. So I'm just saying like you
gotta be a woman of your word, and now you gotta be a woman
of your word. That's crazy. It's crazy. It's the same thing you
gotta do with your family members. They are going to hit you with all
types of guilt trips, victimization, justification on why they're doing and why they
all in your face and why they they're gonna make up shit about why they
supposed to be this and have this and overstep boundaries and title to because they're
yourn mama, because you just say, okay, mama, that's it,
and you just look at it with a stone face. Because like I told
you, men will look you straight in the face and be like, well
you you said you're gonna move out, so um, just you want me
to look at the U haul or we don't see what I'm saying. You
you said you're gonna move out. Nope, You're just like so I'm just
I'm just saying I've done it. You got just looking in the face with
a stone face, like, well, that's what you said. So I'm
just saying what you said, just following you. I'm supporting black women.
I'm following protect women, protect black women. You know, Okay, so
slash type that I wanted to talk. Okay, this is another one who
I feel like all of our reactions when this happens to us is the fucking
audacity, right. So you know a lot of times we hear that women,
we have our standards too high, we're asking for too much, you
know. So we decide, all right, we're going to give a certain
type of man a chance. He may not be six feet tall, he
may not have a pretty smile, he may not look like he belongs in
a GQ magazine, he may not have the best job, drive the fancy
it's car, all these imaginatory standards that we set up in our head.
We're like, yo, you know what I'm gonna get us ugly and the
good chance? Right, So you give him a chance and then he playing
your fucking face and it's like, Yo, the audacity because I shouldn't even
have been talking to you, Like, who the fuck do you think you
are? Like, this is the one I feel like that stings the most.
You don't think he feels that like that, I'm treating him like a
charity case. Yeah, oh okay, so you're saying when he finally steps
out, it's an act of rebellion. No, he doesn't belong there in
the first place. He's the anxious attachment style. He's going to be the
person that's going to self sabotage the relationship because he doesn't what belong, belong
or deserve. You Remember, I'm not worthy of love the other person,
which is the most beautiful person, and I'm the ugly person. They they
belong, they deserve all these other things, right, they're entitled to.
But I'm ugly, I'm dumb, and I'm insecure. Ain't nobody gonna look
at me like that? So why is this woman with me? This is
crazy? So I'm happy I'm with her, but I don't understand why I'm
with her, So self self sapotage. So he self sabotages. He don't
play in your face. He just understands that this ain't gonna last too long.
And I'm gonna leave you before you leave me, or I'm going to
hurt you before you hurt me. M hmmm. So we shouldn't give the
ugly niggas a chance. No, fuck them ugly niggas a name of the
pot. It's fucked him ugly niggas. But guys, what what you,
so you don't think you don't believe in the mis mitch match system. Look,
this is the bottom line. Biggie said it himself. You already know
what I'm about to say. All I'm laughing. I ain't, I said,
go ahead, go ahead, however, right if you know, you
know, but if some people listening to who don't know? Now, everybody
listening to Biggie say it, I don't know. I don't know it now,
I don't know what y'all. Okay, he says, I'm black as
ever, however, I'm in Gucci this and blah blah, blah blah.
She's down to the socks, you feel me. So the thing about it
is, he knows I'm ugly, but I have however, so ugly niggas
unless you have a however, stay away from bad bitches, and that's really
it, and you'll be okay, get your ugly chick, because in my
opinion, I don't understand why the ugly fat chicks or the ugly fat dudes
think they're supposed to get a person that looks totally different than them. And
when I say, fat chicks want a skinny dude and the ugly dudes want
a bad bitch when I say why when I say date with than your league,
people look at me like I'm a villain, and I just think that
it's much easier to get along with. We will be on the same page
if we're dating within our league. A tiger don't hang with a lion,
and a lion isn't ugly, or a tiger isn't ugly. They just look
different. And all you're gonna do is develop an insecurity and project onto me
your insecurities. I'm not even doing the most. You just don't throw secure
because you know you really don't belong with me, right, But at the
same time, you're not secure because you're with me. Maybe I like the
way you treat me. No, you're lying to yourself. Why I can't
like the way you treat me? No, maybe I like the way with
my period on you bring me a care package with my favorite chocolate and my
favorite you know, tiling or whatever the case may be. I don't like
that shit. I need gramps. The reason why you are okay with it
because I'm the only dumbass how to do the shit. The good looking niggas,
the niggas with the money don't have time to be dealing with your ass
when you're on your period. So they ain't gonna answer the phone when you
on your period. But the ugly nigga, his dumb ass all in your
face while you smell like period juice. First of all, it doesn't always
have a smell. Let's start there. I'm just saying, so he's the
only idiot that's gonna be around you, and I'm not. I'm just joking.
Yeah, I'm just joking. If I'm in a relationship with you,
I'm gonna be there for you. You know what I'm saying. I'm joking.
But do you think it is a time frame on when to ask someone
what they're looking for? So when I get these questions from when women or
we're talking, it's like, you know, in the beginning, he asked
me what I wanted, and I told him, and then he already knew
what I was looking for, And then when I started acting like I wanted
to be in a relationship, he pulled back. Do you think it's like
a time fernal when you should let a person know that you're being purposeful,
what you're pussy or when you're dating with intentions? Well, this is very
important. Fuck what you're looking for? Okay? Do you have standards and
do you have requirements? See all this? What are you looking for?
That's some bullshit. You gotta say it with your chest. This is what
I need and this is what's going to happen, and if it doesn't,
I'm not going to be in this. Is this like something you say on
the first date? Yeah, it goes back to the people please a thing.
Women are so afraid to just put their foot down, not have an
attitude. But just say it with your chest. You can say it feminine
because earlier you said a man would look at you setting boundaries as masculine.
That's gaslighting because any man that sees you setting boundaries, you know, you
ain't stuttering. You're just literally was at the day like you know, so
for example, we were on a date and I'm like, what are you
looking for? And you're just like, whoa, it's not what I'm looking
for? Is what I require? You know what I'm saying. And he'd
be like, oh okay, I I okay, And you're like, I
require a man that is serious about marriage. Now you you know you'll say
that to me. You ain't got to marry me tomorrow. But if I'm
a person that you see with a future, we keep going. But at
some point, because I know y'all men, y'all see us as annoying,
because we are annoying as hell, I'm gonna I'm gonna tell you so when
I start annoying the shit out of you and you start seeing me as not
marriageable, just let me go. You see how I gave a certain amount
of empathy. Empathy to that. Yeah, I didn't say you gotta do
this for me, you gotta do this for me. No, let me
go if or when I start looking looking like unmarriagable, when you start looking
like you don't meet my right, yeah, because you as a man,
you know you're talking to me. You have requirements too, and you have
the right to change your mind. But a lot of these niggas don't ever
tell the other person that they change their mind. And that's the problem,
because niggas still wants some ass. Because the easiest woman to have sex with
is a woman that we've already had sex with. The easier woman to have
sex with is a woman that we're already having sex with. So sometimes a
man would easily deem a woman as Oh, hell no, I ain't gonna
weary how I'm married this. I don't know why hell I started saying all
this marriage shit because this is motherfucker cursy. But we already have unprotected sex,
We already have a routine. Got to see it through my boy.
Yeah, So it's like that. So next thing, you know, I
don't tell you that you're no longer marriageable. And if I tell you that
you're no longer marriageable, you gonna be blin what what the fuck you mean?
Why am I? You're gonna be all in my face trying to prove
to me that you are. So I ain't gonna say no ship like that,
but you have to tell me that is okay for me to tell you
this. Yeah, because we don't tell y'all shit, mainly because y'all spend
so much energy trying to either prove otherwise when we said what we feel,
or either you turn into this victim and now we're these terrible people because we
said what we want or we had the right to change our mind. I
think men do that a little bit too. Me personally, I never answer
a man when he asks what I'm looking for because I feel like, every
time I've done that, the man has curbed his lifestyle and curbed his beliefs
to try to become that you don't really believe in none of this shit.
And that's why six months from now, we're getting into arguments every three seconds
because you can't maintain the lie that you've been trying to sell to me.
So I also believe in don't tell nobody and what you're looking for. Well,
one of the things that I tell people to do is one, and
it's not a plug, but buy my card game deeper discussions because when you
play a card game with a person you just start dating. You now don't
necessarily have to have these awkward conversation conversations because it's built off of a game.
It's like talking to a kid. And I'm not saying the man as
a kid or the woman as a kid, but when you are talking to
a kid, like say, you want your kid to go to sleep in
the middle of the day, right, or you want to go to sleep
while your kids are still awake. Drill No, oh, sorry, you
say, hey, let's play a game. I want y'all to draw me
why I sleep? So I'm just gonna lay here and I'm gonna like down
somebody right to ship down. It works. So I'm gonna lay here and
act like i'm sleep and I want y'all to draw me while I'm sleep.
And when y'all get done drawing me, it gotta be a good drawing.
Wake me up. You make it now, you gotta look nice, little
twenty minute nap and the kids ain't moved an inch. My son is eleven,
and I want you to know I have sadness in my heart that knowing
ever, like weren't to shit up some gear, I never tried it.
And the fun up part about this my son can draw, so I know
I could have squeezed out at least a forty five minute nap in that damn.
But that's what I'm saying. So, when you make life a game,
because we're all children at heart, So when you make life a game,
no man or no woman is now going to be like, why are
you acting like this? Why why are you got to be so serious?
Yeah, because it's a game. Let's game. Everybody likes playing games,
so I think dating in itself has to be fun. So add a game
to your dating life in this way, whatever comes out of it. It's
fun, and now you can set boundaries because you're like, whoa, whoa,
I was serious about what I said when I was playing a deeper discussions
down but you know it was a game, but I was serious. Oh
my bad, my bad. You don't set all your boundaries, You don't
set all your standards and requirements by playing a game. And after him answering
all these questions about childhood trauma, also right, yes, you can make
sure that he wasn't lying about it, because usually when you play a game,
you don't really lie because you don't think somebody, Yeah, you don't
think somebody's gonna be writing all this shit down. You're just having fun off.
I remember when I did this. Oh man, I I had full
bitches at one time, and I'll you know what I'm saying, and he's
having fun talking about it, and you can't bring that shit up in an
argument later on either. Don't do that, do that, but you gotta
keep it in your mind, like, Okay, so he had full bitches
and he he fucked all on when o't calling them. Okay, you know
what I'm saying. But the thing about it is it was all in fun.
It was all in jest, but you got a good understanding of right
who this person is that you have in front of you, and it's not
awkward. Yeah, people, especially women, are so afraid of the awkwardness
of one setting boundaries and two setting their requirements on what they want from a
man, and the fear of losing said man for setting your boundaries like or
like, I don't want to tell him that. No, I'm serious,
I don't want to tell him that because I know if I do, he's
not gonna want to talk anymore. But that doesn't that simply means that he's
not for you. I agree, but I'm telling I want you to think
about that. I get what you're saying, but just think about this.
If you said you don't like men who wear red, I'm not for you.
I'm not gonna be out here throwing up that sue who he's just a
blood gang? Okay, all right? Every day every time I see this
made on some red and that's no lie. So something as stupid as that,
I'm gonna be like, no, I'm good, and then one of
us could be like he left me, or he pulled away or she pulled
away because of something that's small Uh, yeah, it's not gonna work.
It's not gonna work because at the end of the day, it's not small
to me or it's not small to you, and it's a billion of other
people out here who cares. I'm gonna give a little bit of pushback on
a billion of other people only because I really feel like, especially the women
in my demographic, we really be out here scrapping and accepting and settling for
whatever we can take, not saying this right and not saying that's what we
should do. It really saddens me that wuld really be out here settling for
the barrist of minimums and sometimes not even that. Yeah, yeah, sometimes
you gotta stay single for a long time. Like the girl in high school,
the girl that wasn't giving nobody no pussy, was the most valuable girl
in the school, and she was actually fucking a dude that didn't go to
that school, so she was giving up the pussy. It was somebody in
another school or somebody that was you know what I'm saying. But at the
end of the day, she didn't fuck nobody in that school, So even
though she was fucking, she was super valuable to her environment. So at
the same time. Y'all just gotta stop giving y'all pussy away to random folks
because that's just what it is. Or just be a hole and then moved
to Atlanta and start over. That's what the majority of women exactly. That's
why I used those date women in Atlanta because they are holes. Yo,
you need a chick. Hey, I'm from Nebraska. What are you doing
here? Can you hear, bitch where you come from? I'm from Oklahoma?
What this whole? Okay, all right, get out of here.
Shoot it's crazy. Shoot, shoot I'm from Indiana. Yo, shut up
here for three months? Okay, mmm, bitch right. Um, So
I want to ask you one more question before we get into the questions that
people have asked you reading them, I feel like we don't talk enough about
the um the core demographic of men who have a good job. UM,
don't have no baby mama drama. That's not say they don't got no kids.
They don't gotta with mama drama. Um, they're looking for a relationship.
We're raised right, but are still syncing because for whatever reason, women
don't want to date them, or they give them the runaround, or they
you know, just give them a bunch of back and forth, a bunch
of bullshit. Honestly, why is that? And what advice do you have
to those men? Well, I don't do women want to date them?
Are they the ugly dudes or what? I don't know, just I don't
know. I think there are. It's like, because we gotta put that
in context. Why is the dude not getting their attention? You just said
ugly dudes got to do with the ugly women. So if they're still not
wanting to get you know, the women don't want them meet there or you
know what, I'll say this because all they the good looking dudes and got
all these different things going on for themselves. Are they ugly dudes that have
all these things going the short dudes or the fat dudes or the you know,
I'm gonna say, I'm gonna say what the largest demographic is. So
I'm gonna say it's the average dudes who are having the hardest times being in
a relationship because everybody is going for the good looking dudes or the dudes who
treat them like shit, or the dudes who don't want a relationship. Like,
what advice do you have for that demographic? Oh? Okay, and
and and I hate to say this, the nice dudes. Okay, you
niggas don't be outside. I'm sorry you little socially awkward ass niggas. Don't
be outside, y'all just be on YouTube and shit and sitting around and on
Twitch playing your little video games and shit. That's why you can't get no
pussy. Go outside, bro, not pussy, relationships, relationship, okay,
whatever, okay, but they can't get no pussy. But the point
is these niggas don't go outside. They're socially awkward. They don't go nowhere.
So that's the first thing I would say. Okay, okay, these
women, No, nigga, you don't go nowhere. Oh you do what's
go to work and go home? Right, You got to work, You
go to gym and you go home. Yeah. Them niggas, Yeah,
where they're supposed to be going. It's more places other than the gym and
working at home. Just do you have a friend club? Maybe they don't
like girls in the club. Look, it's not the club, it's just
having friends. So when you have friends, right, male or female,
you can go to sports bars. You know what I'm saying. Football season
about to come, Basketball season, is about over all of these different events
going on in whatever city you're in. Like, it's a sports bar in
whatever city you're in. Just go to the sports bar, have a drink
with your friends. Because some of you niggas don't have friends. That's another
thing. You friendless ass niggas. They do have friends. They're just on
the internet and they talk on call of duty. That's not friends, okay,
A friends. A friend is if your call about to get reposed and
you're like, yo, can I can I keep my call of your house?
If you ain't never had no dude over your house, you ain't out
on friends. So them type of niggas, they ain't got no friends.
So find you some friends, get on I don't know, friends dot Com
or some shit. I don't know what it's out here whatever, people I
don't know. Just find you some damn friends in real life, and y'all
go hang out at bars because women be at bars. Go to the strip
club, do some shit. Don't spend no money at the strip club.
Just go to strip club, sit down and just chill out and leave because
at some point you're gonna get a certain amount pressure. Hey the dude sit
over there, Hey, he ain't throwing no money right, then leave.
But the thing about it is, just get used to being out doing stuff.
You ain't got to spend a whole bunch of money. Bars, sports
bars, they're not expensive. Get you some wings. How you're a beer
and you're good. Get out the house, nigga, And that's where they
meet the women. It's want to take serious. It's not about see.
The thing about it is and what I do in my coaching group, I
always say to the women, I don't care if you ever find a man.
My job is to help you find yourself. And you gotta find yourself
outside. So whether it's a woman or a man, you gotta get out
in the world. Be social. Friend you remember, I keep saying what
friends friend friend friend friend friend friend, Right, If you can't keep a
male friend and you're a man, you can't keep a woman. If you
can't keep a female friend, a new female friend, come on, somebody,
because you ladies, y'all love to have your little friend from ninth grade
and shit, and y'all still best friends and both y'all just dumb as hell
at me, Bro, what the fucking I mean a new friend that you
ain't never met before, and y'all can become friends like in two twenty three
because y'all have to you know, interests or whatever, and y'all don't have
the people please each other and act like y'all aren't this and aren't that,
and y'all be cool with each other. So you can act like a hole
with your friend that you have no ninth grade? But can you act like
yourself, whether it's a whole or a good girl with this new woman?
And that's the thing. Can you act like a hole with Sheila from Bible
Study? No, you can't. You cannot be your real self with her,
right, That's what I'm saying. So you gotta get out of this
world and find your actual self and stop being so socially awkward. It's not
about finding a mate, it's about finding yourself. Get the fuck out your
house. Yeah yeah, Because at the end of the day, like ru
Paul said, how you gonna love someone else if you can't love yourself?
Yeah? Yeah, And love has to be looked at in We gotta look
at things in context. Because I hate all this go love yourself shit because
that don't help nobody do nothing. So my way of saying, go love
yourself. Go find yourself is get your ass outside and go meet other people,
male and female. I have female friends. You're one of my female
friends. I have female friends. I have male friends. I'm outside,
I run into people all the time. We're like, Yo, let's go
get some to eat, let's go do this. Yeah cool, you know
what I'm saying. But the thing about it is a lot of these people
don't go nowhere and they just sit around the house and they go wind and
tell me they can't find the mate. I ain't gonna lie for a long
period of time. That was me. I was like, oh my god,
I really want to man, I really want to man, and I
did nothing to try to get mad. Well you and Philly, So don't
do me like that. Don't love me like that, don't love me like
dad. Okay, So now we're going to get into the edible portion of
the show. So the edible portion of the show is when I read questions
or stories that people send in. Um, there's no actual food. Oh
my god, people say that every eating y'all tap in if you think we
should rename the portion of the show something else, because everyone always says that
either they think we're taking like drugs, or they think we have food something
like, I'm gonna thinking something else because y'all get on my fucking nerves,
all right, icy ass food or something yeah, something like that. Okay,
okay, okay. UM. So I still had some questions left over
from my live show at the se Constant House here in Atlanta. So I
wanted to ask you some of them and get your inpoint on some of them.
First, I want to say, shout out to you. We're writing
down stuff on your card. This is what you know. Most people love
to pull out their phone and then you you old school. I love it.
You know what's crazy. My last live show in Philly in March sold
out at City Winery. By the way, um, you know, you
know, my third showed out show in Philly. But you know whatever,
Um, my phone froze ten minutes into my set. I had to wing
the whole show. If you was there, I apologize. I feel like
you might need a refund because I just was all over the place. Um
And every since then, ever since then, I've been doing cards or writing
down or something else. But this is what people wrote in from the show.
Okay, okay, So the first one. How many dates should it
take before a woman pace? I don't know? What does? What does?
Why do y'all have you learned about dumb shit? Y'all worried about the
dumbest shit? What cares? What do they gotta do it at anything?
Some independent woman or something. So I don't know if it was a woman
or a man who wrote this, But if it was a man who wrote
this, right, he's a loser. Not even that. I don't think
that men should be looking for a dependent like you as a woman can't treat
your man or make him feel special in any way, even if it's just
paying for his haircut, paying for dinner every once in a while, Like,
I don't buy into the fact that women have to just be treated all
the time. If you are not able to give your man something simple every
once in a while, you don't need to be with him. I'm not
mad at this question if it came from a man. If it came from
a woman, maybe she honestly doesn't know. How do I know we're serious
enough for me to pay for something? Because I don't think you should do
it for everybody? Right? Serious enough? And and another thing, that's
see how we're you'll pay for you don't want to pay for the day?
Okay, not even that, but then also automatically, automatically the first time
you try to pay for an ass already, but look ahead, I'm just
saying, just madness, go ahead. What I do in my booty hole
is none of your business. I'm just saying. I'm just saying. I
also think that whenever you offer to pay for a man's anything, there's automatically
going to be pushback. So it's like, at one point, is it
okay to endure the pushback? Enduring pushback and you're just some my aim,
that's hilarious. But the answer to that is sit your ass down and shut
up. Okay. Why is it so hard for women to sit their asses
down somewhere? Why is it so whatevering to you to have to want to
pay? Like it's okay to not pay, and it's okay to pay,
but for you to turn around and say, when should I do this?
When should I do that? There's a problem there because you want to make
sure the man's comfortable. Now, I don't let you pay. I don't
have that sentiment because y'all know I'll check on a nigga. I really don't
care. I've said it multiple times. I don't really give a fuck.
But some women, especially those who are not familiar with that space, they
might have a question or two, like, Yo, when is it okay
to pay for a nigga? Okay? So I would say this offer to
pay on the third whatever day? Right, If you're like, no,
it's it's cool, okay, cool? Right? I agree, you know,
and then let it go. And then I would say the seventh,
eighth day, Oh, I don't know, you know, hey I want
to pay? No cool? You know. But according to what it's sounding
like, you like, when am I just going to force this nigga to
let me pay? So I get some asks? You know that? So
I get some ask you get what I'm saying. That's kind like what what
it sounds. If it's a woman asking that, she's just like, I
want to be the man? Why? Why? Why he won't let me
be the man? That's kind of like what I see, because if you
want to do something, it's nothing wrong with saying hey can I can I
pay tonight? I'm totally okay with a woman randomly saying hey, let me
let me pay tonight? Yeah, I'm cool, or I'll be like yo,
like, if you free later, can I take you to get some
drinks? Yeah, but I'm gonna pay. But if you turn around and
say can I pay, cool, I'm not funna be like no, I'm
a man. I'm a man. You came at me like can I pay?
I want to do something nice for you. Do something nice for me.
I love that. So are we gonna act like that? Weird moment
doesn't exist when the woman is paying and the nigga just looking around, anxious,
not knowing what to do because he doesn't get it. Often because that
is that's an awkward moment for men too. Okay, in my situations,
me and a woman is sitting in the booth together because I'm all affect in
that shit, right, I don't like you sitting across from me, so
me and you, So me and you are sitting on the same side of
the booth or whatever, right, And then she hands me the bill,
right, and she's like, no, I'm taking that. I was like,
okay, she's taking that, and I'm gonna sit my ass back while
she sitting her ass forward and she hands the car. So you're saying double
down, on it. Yeah, I'm gonna look back, I'm and I'm
gonna look at the waitress like, yeah, I'm sucking shit out of this
girl. Yeah, I'm paying with pipe. I'm paying with pipe. You
know what I'm saying. You just sit back and just chill out. Well,
one thing about me, I'm not going to be awkward nowhere what I'm
just laughing, bitchuring you with your arms around your shirty waist while she's paying,
Like, I don't know, I'm not doing that I'm doing I'm not
doing that. I'm not doing that. I'm not because i know exactly what
you're saying. I'm never going to be that dude that is holding his girl
around the waist while she seeks the card and the thing to pay for all
these groceries. That shit is so sad. But no, I'm gonna pay
for the groceries. I'm gonna pay for no, because my whole thing is
this. You can pay for the food, you can pay for the movies
or whatever. But when it comes to like if I'm grocery shopping with you,
like for example, right say, if me and you are just out
and you say, hey, I gotta pick up some things let's stop at
Target and we just walk around spending time together. Right, Yes, if
you buying some little toiletry ship, I'm just gonna buy it. Now.
If you go buy TV or something, you know, that's a different situation,
and then I might just be holding you like to do because I'm not.
I'm not buying that got them tv? Right, But altogether I'm just
gonna pay for it. But not groceries. Yeah, groceries whatever, taught
groceries or whatever. But if she get food stamps, I'm not dating to
chick that work. Okay. I love hood rat so I this is the
ones who got it. But I don't be out in the open with hood
rats though, So who the hell is going grocery shop with a hood rat?
Okay? The guys that the hood rets state, No, there' be
the ones who we stand on what They aren't around the waist, but they're
the hood rat dudes. Sometimes sometimes a dude, would you know, fly
down to you know, mess around with a hood like the scent that you
provided the descentsion? Right, is there a name for hood red dudes?
Is there a name for hood red dudes? Pookies yea and ray Rays.
I hate you so much. You do know want picks, the pookie pickers
late, I've never heard that the pookie pickers. Yeah, shout out to
the pookie pickers and the loser choosers. Please drop your information so you get
the funk off my podcast. Thank you. But um, I am Missed
let Go and you can find me on YouTube as mister let Go m R
l Etgo, and I have another YouTube channel called Deeper Discussions because I'm pushing
my brand Deeper Discussions. And on Instagram it's well, I have two different
Instagrams also, but as I am underscore MISSI Lego, I am underscore MISSI
Lego. But all this other shit who cares? But that's it okay.
And what about your coaching my coaching that well, just send me a DM
on Instagram or on well mainly on Instagram, and I can hook you up
with that. I actually know a few people in your coaching things. Okay,
yeah, bullshit, y'all, don't do it. I'm just shruging.
Um, thank you so much for do you know some people in my coaching
grotube? We were talking about it afterwards. Yeah, Um, I am
so happy that you came to chop it up with me. I feel like
we met on the set of Tonight's Conversations and everyone was like, just just
whatever he say do only to get you. Just let it roll off your
bet. Don't let him get under your skin. And I was terrified,
and I think like my first or second show was with you. Yeah,
and I was like, oh my god, I hope he's so nice.
I really hope he's nice. And you are really the sweetest person. Like
I said it at the beginning of the show, it is real, one
of the nicest people I have ever met. Yeah, he's just been playing
like an ass whole on the internet. Y'all promise, I really really promise.
He's got around each other on set and we was like best friends and
ship. Yes, yeah, you know. It was so gay. It
was just like hilarious. We both eat ass and we started calling us the
ass eating twins on the shelf. Yes, yes, um, thank you
again for stopping by. Make sure you guys check out deeper discussions the conversation
cards, especially if you're dating someone new. Cut all the bullshit, get
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