As came at last, snapping on stress stands surviment a wheel, the sirn
like a welchourning up of the sea. The coasters deallyan desert slaves said we
made eating water, but not take to fly. Their actions will see their
own days. Kay, let you play, let me go, Kay call
shapen, rise in and chayy no letter wrong, you don't try to hide.
Life has change. Nothing seems as read lost sound hay oh all that
we cham can dram drim dram drim cha boka okay. And he said,
not a big war? What is it? Nat? And he said that
the mains are gonna be the first one in and ain't gonna last. That's
right. So if you don't sign up soon, we're gonna miss it.
I'm already seting. I'm going in really just like, uh, I'm not
waiting. I'm going in now. Come on, Rnnie, you're crazy.
Oh, you're crazy. Our dad's got to go to w W two.
This is our chance to do something, to be part of history. Guys.
Yeah, just like our dads. You should think about what you're doing.
You know, Ronnie, you be dangerous over there. You know you
could get yourself killed. Did you ever think about that? Or you're going
squirrel ahead? College? Well, I want to do something with my life.
Yeah, I can get a degree in business administration. And you don't
think you need to serve your country, don't get my naybody be yourself.
Huh better dead than red. And I got missiles point at us everywhere.
I seevms. They're coming in all around us, Cuban now ninety miles away,
Ronnie taking up. Look, what are we gonna stop them? Huh
nine? He ain't superman. You can't stop them away self theory. Communism
is moving in everywhere. Oh yeah, sure aware, Ronnie. I don't
see them. They're not right here in massive people. So I'm just gonna
take number one. Jimmy Stevie. Stevie, Stevie. It's okay because someone's
got to stay home with the women and children while the men go do the
fighting. Nuts And I'm getting out of you. All I'm saying is you
should just think about it, you know, just think about it. Running
Hey, Stevie, who are you taking on? Problem? Wendy Danil Wendy
dan Wendy Daniel? Were you taking Joey? These youths were many youths in
the early sixties that were on the cusp of adulthood. They were faced with
the decision to serve their country, go to college, or just simply work.
Many made the choice to enlist, and that led to them fighting in
one of the most controversial wars in American history, the Vietnam War. For
the man that is the subject of this week's film, it led him down
a path of despair, heroism, and ultimately renowned activist. Released in nineteen
eighty nine and based off the autobiography of the same name, Born on the
fourth of July, is the story of Ron Kovic, played by Tom Cruise,
a man that enlists in the Marines and serves two tours of duty in
Vietnam. It is during his second tour he is wounded and suffers a severed
spinal cord due to a gunshot. This causes him to be paralyzed and sets
him on an the eventual path of activism. Our next clip is from a
nineteen seventy seven interview with Kovic following the release of his autobiography. In this
clip, he speaks about his life growing up and why he chose to serve
and the wretched treatment he faced upon returning from Vietnam. Top it all off,
he was born on the fourth of July, so that every fourth of
July, when the country was celebrating his birthday, ron Kovac was celebrating his
birthday as well a country celebrating its birthday. Ron Kovak went to Vietnam and
served not one, but two tours of duty, and the second tour of
duty, as you may already know, he was shot twice, once in
the foot and the second time, I think through his back, shattered his
spinal cord, and he ron Kovac was paralyzed from the chest down. This
experience that he relates in his book called Born on the Fourth of July,
is one of the most painful and ugly experiences I've ever read about. And
I've wanted to have him here on midday to share some time with you for
a long time. So ron Kovac is with us. You may remember he
nominated Fritz Ephau at the Democratic National Convention here in New York last summer.
Last week he was arrested for the tenth time at Kent State protesting the controversy
there about a gymnasium. Ron You know how I feel about this I'm fine.
How are you good to see you? I want to share something Normally,
if you're one of my regular viewers, if you watch our show,
I'm essentially pretty relaxed during the interview. I am not going to say what
will happen to me doing this. I have found reading this book Born on
the fourth of July, which I finished about eight twenty this morning, to
be a real emotional experience for me. I could feel your pain as I
was reading this book. Let's not assume that everybody has read the book,
or let's not assume that everybody knows everything about you. Let's uh just find
out a little bit about your I was born on the fourth of July and
nineteen forty six, and I guess you could say I was an all American
boy. I love this country. I believe in what John Wayne said and
Howdy Doty, Rudy Kuzuti Sergeant York. I was a child of the fifties.
I can remember remember John F. Kennedy. Of course, that's not
what your country can do for you, but what you can do for your
country. I believe that Bill and I believed in America, and I believe
that what we were doing in Vietnam was right, and I went, like
millions of other young when did you first go on? What year did you?
In? The nineteen sixty four September? I joined, uh, the
United States Marine Corps because the add down at the post office said the Marine
Corps builds meant body minded spirit, And I wanted to be a man.
And I cause you're a pretty tough guy. I mean you were a very
so, you were an athlete, you were a star arrestler, you were
best at pole altered a mass peap of high school. I was. I
was a real good wrestler too. Yeah, I know that. So you
joined the Marines? And how did you feel about killing? I mean,
you had played with guns and toys when you were a kid, just like
I had, just like a lot of people. Well, the first person
that I killed built was an American and I didn't feel good about that at
all. And the second group of people that I killed were Vietnamese children,
and that made me feel worse. But I mean, going into it,
ron, I mean, you know the whole mentality, you know, I
believe that I believe that all of us grew up with John Wayne with whole
movie cinema image, the toy guns. The Madame tell submachine guns that we
got every Christmas. The whole generation was prepped and hyped and conditioned by our
culture, which is so violent and which is which so romanticized as war.
We were ready to go, We were ready to fight. We thought that
the war was going to be like the John Wayne movies, but it wasn't.
It was different. And when we came home and tried to tell the
American public about the reality of the Vietnam War, that it wasn't a war
to help people, but it was a crime against humanity and against the Vietnamese
people. And they didn't listen to us. They threw us in jail.
They called a trader. They spin my face. In the film, following
his injury, Covid is forced to stay at a veteran's hospital in the Bronx,
where the nursing staff abuses drugs. The conditions are horrible, with rats
crawling around, impatients, sleeping in their own feces in most cases, and
struggling to get even the littlest things such as a shower. This begins his
disillusionment with America and its government. The next clip we hear is that this
does run much deeper. Covic, while sitting with his childhood friend, reflects
on his injury. In this we can hear the despair in his voice and
the issues he has coming to terms with his permanent injury. When you when
you get hit me? Uh January twentieth, Yes, someplace of Jess I
don't even remember, and you're some river up in a DMC walked into hook
the battalion in the foot and I just got up, running around like I
was back in the woods again, you know, like I was jumping away
in something emptying the bag, screaming, come on, jolly slap crack above
my right ear. I just felt my body drop out from unt of me.
Classed. I thought I was dead for sure. It was the Yeah,
I was a hospital sucked, really, no, man, tell you
something runny. Sometimes at night I get these headaches, you know, feel
bad, and they just they just kind of come over me, you know,
and they just they just come, you know, like I'm going crazy
or something. And I don't feel I don't feel like me anymore, you
know. I I feel like when they come, I feel like somebody else.
You know, what can you do? What are you doing? Nothing?
The goddamn thing else. Well, mostly I do a lot of drugs.
The only thing you can you know, money, You get through it
anyway. You know how when I was in the hospital, I thought,
yeah, yeah, this makes sense. What makes sense? Does it failed
to me? What are you talking about? Because I because I killed someone
some people? It's terrible mistakes, Ronnie, Christ's sakes. We all made
mistakes. I mean, you had no choice. That's something I got.
Damn Pansy demonstrats. I never gonna understand. Ronnie. You don't even gott
to talk about it. I mean, we was insane over there was It
was crazy. Sometimes I wish, I wish I first time I got hit,
I was shot in the foot. I could have laid down, I
mean, paralyzed, castrated that day. Why so stupid, I think,
Tommy, I give everything, I believe in everything, I got, all
my values, just ad my wady back again, just to be home again.
I'm that whole. I never will be in us. Wait it is,
isn't it? For Christ's sake? Ronnie your birthday, You're alive.
You made it. Smile. What makes this film truly powerful is seeing the
evolution of COVID after the aforementioned deplorable conditions, his depression, drinking infrequent fits
a rage, causing a strainment from his family. He becomes an activist and
speaks against the war he strongly supported for so long, even a short time
after his injury. Our final two clips show this difference. First, at
a Fourth of July parade in his hometown, Ron speaks after turning home.
However, after a baby crying causes a flashback, he stops dead in his
tracks. Then, at the nineteen seventy two Democratic National Convention, Ron is
protesting and speaks out against his government and the war. Again. I want
you all to hear the difference in words, in tone in Kovak with these
two scenes. What God saw word decrees, it's five pro bac Lady,
if the gentlemen was born on what July nineteen forty six, Let's give a
big hand on his great buck. I just want to say for all the
guys in Vietnam and we're doing our best. It's not easy situation, but
the boys morale over there is real high, and you can feel confident that
we are we are going to win that war. I serve my country and
I don't want you to feel sorry for me. Do not shed a tear.
I have my hands, my eyes, my ears, I have my
heart, and I have what I feel. I have. What I feel
is an unquie unquenchable. And now Ron's protest. What money? It's not
COVID. I'm a Vietnam bitching money so public, I'm a Vietan bitch.
I'm here tonight to say that disc war is wrong. How to society lied
to me, lied to my brothers, say the chief. The people in
this country has it's tricked them into going thirteen thousand miles to fight a war
art against the poor peasant people who have a proud history of resistance, who
have been struggling for their own for their own independence for one thousand years,
the Vietnamese people. You know, I can't. I can't find the words
to express now. The leadership of this government sickens me. Right, people
say, people say, if you don't love America, then get the hell
out. I love America. We love the people of America very much.
But when it comes to the government, it stops right there. The government
is a bunch of corrupt thieves. They are racists and robbers, and we
are here to say you know we don't have to take it anymore. We
are here saying here, here you tell the truth. We are killing our
brothers and Peter like man pere to hear the truth tonight. We are here.
You don't know steal so they don't is this here and get serve this
when he gets sad, skid in the face. We're never right unless to
be We're not as right. Forget. You don't want to what you want
to hear it because it's here and you're not gonna super because you like the
way it's like some television side. This wheelchair, our wheelchairs, this steal,
our steel is your memorial game and reels. We are your young to
do to day to come home by you love to do the day's come home
some sort of snuffle or commotions working out on the floor of the convention.
Disabled veterans protesting the war and Vietnam. We're gonna try to get a microphone
down there. Busy inn when there is so much of a tendency they're run
domine those who have served an ad in the past, who served the day.
Let's give those who have served them the honor and the respect that they
deserve in that they heard a film this powerful and memorable defies awards nominated for
and won, it supersedes box office straw. But as is tradition with this
show, we shall quickly go over those details. The film was the tenth
highest grossing film of nineteen eighty nine. It was nominated for eight Academy Awards,
including Best Picture, Best Director for Oliver Stone, and Best Actor for
Tom Cruise, and this is the film that truly showed his range as a
performer. It won for Best Director, which was Stone's second award, and
Best Sound Editing. However, the greatest award was the one Covoc gave Cruise
as a birthday present and for his performance. Kovac gave Cruise his Bronze Star
because he said Cruz showed great bravery in his performance. Finally, some might
be asking why I chose this film for Memorial Day. I chose this film
because there are times that I feel we all have a skewed view of the
military. These young men and women choose to serve this country. They don't
choose where they are sent. They serve knowing that wherever they are sent that
could end up being the place where they take their final breaths. To me,
the Vietnam veterans are forgotten to a degree. They deserve the same respect
and honor any other veterans have, surviving or otherwise. The only choice they
made was to defend us our honor and freedoms. They didn't choose where they
did this, the conditions they were under, and that is something that we
all need to remember, not just on Memorial Day, not just on Veterans
Day, but every day of every year. I hope you will join me
next week when we will finally look at the nineteen eighty nine film Major League
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dude, WMNH rip the novels. Welcome back everybody. It is Matt Connorton
unleashed and we are well into our number three New Marrow Trace on the Saturday
morning, May twenty five, twenty twenty four, of course, Memorial Day
weekend. Jenny is here at the news table, present and accounted for.
Yes, yes, and we have joining us live in studio all the way
from from Texas. Nancy Manette is here. Hello. Nancy was with us
a number of weeks ago via Skype, and but she's on she's on tour
now. Let me pull that mic up there, and uh, you're doing
a bunch of tour dates up here up our way. I am, yes,
where you where are you gonna be? So you've got to show tomorrow
right and yes, the front room. Have you ever been up here before
to the I have? Yeah, yeah, okay, I've spent some time
vacationing and many times I've come over here. We lived in Madison for a
better part of twenty years and this region became the easy flight over from you
know, Madison Airport. So yeah, yeah, excellent. And you're gonna
play live for us? How many? How many songs? We are you
thinking about doing a couple of songs? Okay? Okay, you've got your
guitar and you've also, of course, we've got some studio tracks we can
play some of those two we featured last time, and we can we can
do that again as well. And I learned something. You have a book.
We should we should talk about that right at right at the top,
just briefly the book. Actually, if you want to the cameras on you,
if you want to hold one up. I didn't realize there's yeah,
we're on We're live on Facebook. Yes, yes, yes, yeah,
tell us about the book. So this is a children's book that is an
adaptation of a song I wrote for my daughter called My Expansion, And the
premise is I entered into the world myself as a very rigid conservative religious up
from that type of an upbringing to raising raising a child that sorry, we're
still kind of with the mic. Yeah, that's all right, Uh,
raising raising a child who really beat her own drum. And around five years
old, she just started asking, hey, Mom, why do you believe
what you believe? And I was like, I really don't know why I
believe what I believe. Yeah, think about it. And as we had
conversations throughout her lifetime, and she came out as queer, and she was
really nervous with how the family would receive her and I grew expanded and changed
everything of who I am because of that little girl coming into the world.
So I wrote a song about it, and then we adapted it for a
children's book because it's really written from the view of a child changing the parent.
Yeah, and what's so interesting about that? Yeah, don't worry about
the mike, Nancy. What we're gonna do is we're gonna play a studio
track in a moment, and we'll switch you to that middle seat. This
seat is twoth. I think I think the middle seat because it looks like
that mike is staying exactly in place, so I think we'll have better luck
over there. So we'll play We'll play a studio track and then we'll uh
and then we'll come back and have you played live. No. But what's
interesting, because we were talking off air about the book and you were saying,
how was it the publisher was saying, someone was telling you how unusual
it is, Yes, to have a book where where it's it's the child
who changed the parent and helped the parent to evolve. Yes, and especially
on any topics that are related to children, but children who who are lgbt
q i A, it's usually the parent is already very inclusive and very and
accepting and humans are humans and the end and versus a parent who really entered
the world with completely different view view and belief system, and that the child
coming into the world really changed the parent changed me. Okay, yeah,
yeah, interesting. Well let's play a studio track, and I want to
make sure that we play something that you're not going to play live. So
we're not, well, why don't we Why don't we start with my expansion?
So what we're gonna do is we're gonna play this check this out,
and then we'll we'll have we'll get you moved over. While the song is
on and Nancy Manette is here with us live in studio. She's gonna play
live for us. But check this out. This is called My expansion.
The Great Nancy Manette here on Matt Connerton, unleashed in and to the world.
Dam of the Cain. You never except status quod today blaze the trail
that was all your rown, even though being queer, it was not well
known. When on those are way hot shirts you are at too on under
your skirt be like that stam. Okay, you'll began to proceed in your
special way ha Harmie Hicks bad dr Harmby Hicks, by Sharp. You taught
me to think that the world was not as rigid as I show it to
be. You are in my eyes, there is so much more to consier
than all hes before. You don't believe exactly what I do. He has
engage the world. It's the authentic youth. Your path is your path,
it's not might judge. My job is to love you love from a book,
Harbor expert job harm I expand Jump. That is called my expansion.
That is the great Nancy Manete. I was saying her name wrong, uh
incorrectly earlier, so I apologize. Let me get we get that uh great
track, and of course we played that because we were just talking about that.
How do people get the book? By the way, my expansion,
it is available in a lot of bookstores, so it's Barnes and Nobles,
okay, it's available online at a large online where all of your finer books
are. And it's also available on my website. So okay, very good,
very good. You want to play something for us dying to hear you
play live? Okay, this is very cool, of course. Uh,
if you're just tuning in, we have Nancy Manet with us alive in studio,
and last time Nancy was with us it was via skype. But she's
on tour doing some dates in the Northeast, and so it's wonderful to have
you here. Thank you, I love I'm so excited. Yeah, be
here and do get to actually meet you too in person. Well, we're
very honored. We're very honored. Yeah, So whenever you're ready, if
you want to tell us, tell us about what you're going to play,
and then we'll we'll hear what you got. Okay, I'm going to play
a piano song on guitar. Okay. My joke is I'm a pianist plays
guitar. Okay, So I'm going to play Insecurities all right. And I
actually wrote this after a woman that I did not know targeted me for some
anger and and blame and I was even confused, and I actually cried a
little bit and it was like wait what, And I said, you know
what, I need to process this. So I sat down and wrote insecurities
all right, Oh yeah, insecurities, they are not mine. Bit.
Then I apologize. I will not be compared, let out up poll in
this world exactly as I am. It's not my fault that you yourself aren't
willie to expand. I have spent years working on myself be who I am
today. Our day said I just could not see. So I fell to
my knees and pray. If you don't like who you have, become side
and change your ways. Take some time looking inside. You might have some
to play. Poor in securities are not my affair. Then I will not
pologize. I will not be compared hollow, stop bothering worm exactly as I
am. It's not my bam that you do yourself are doing t t tear
down your wall and build a Gain't something else? Love yourself and who you
are. They don't excuse to see you f far, don't pay games,
who has the time? Take you're norris, You're not happy, Just walk
away, not your target. I'm not your praend. Don't alone for you
Tuesday in no Wood, you chosen to speak to me today. No,
it's not a love for you to Tuesday, no Wood. You will chosen
to speak to me today for your in secularity. Easy art my cross apparent.
When I not pall choice, you'll not You need a pair well job
following his phone exactly as I am. It's not my fault to yourself.
Are willing to expand. No, it's not my fault to you yourself,
are willing to expand. No, it's not to allow for you Tuesday the
Woods, you will chose them speak to me today. No, it's not
to allow. Oh beautiful. That was awesome. Yeah. I love your
voice, really really good to hear you live. Now. Remind us too
about the the album. How long is this? How long has this been
out? This is not yesterday, it's just oh yesterday okay, okay,
so right, so when we had you on before it was about to come
out, yes, okay, I had some singles that were coming out beforehand.
Yeah yeah, oh congratulations, So this is wow? So this is
brand new. That's fantastic. Yeah. Yeah. Are you playing and when
you when you play live, are you playing all the songs on your on
your tour? Are you playing everything from the album or I am and I'm
freaking lying in some things that are coming out later this year. Okay,
yeah, weave the story together. Yeah, as we were talking off air
about you've you're already working on on more stuff, right' I'm this we're going
back because in June I'm recording album three and four, okay, and album
two will come out in October. Okay, yeah, very good, very
good, similar themes or are you going to get into some other subjects?
Album three and four is completely different. I mean, it's still it's still
my style, right yeah, yeah, but there there's a you know,
your producer gives you challenges, you know, take this, and okay,
I'll try this, and hey, Nancy, you may not have to be
so heavy in your baseline, okay. Yeah. And uh, and so
I really had a lot of fun writing over the last six months, a
whole new set of twenty okay, the first set of seventeen nine are here,
and the remainder will come out as a larger work, okayber So,
is there something appealing about kind of working on new stuff and leaving I mean,
obviously you're not leaving this behind. The album just came out. But
at the same time, is it does it feel good to all ready be
working on other music that is not connected to the school project? Yes,
of course, because this, this project and even this nine song debut has
been a you know, lifetime in the making, not that I started writing
it a lifetime ago. I really only started writing bits and pieces in twenty
twenty and really dove into it twenty two to twenty three and then got into
the studio. But it's the story of trauma to hope, and it's really
the story that it's autobiographical, one hundred percent autobiographical of things I've experienced and
as I've come through them. I put it to song and in the hopes
that it would one identify and relate and then also encourage. Yeah, because
there's a lot of you know we talked the last time, there's just a
lot of destruction, a lot of abuse, a lot of pain that people
are suffering, and we can get through it. You absolutely can't. I
am living proof of that. We may have touched on this before, but
have you do you hear from anybody regarding the music itself? Like, do
you hear from from from any of the shall we say, the characters from
from this real life saga that that you've been through about these about these songs.
I'm going to take that as a yes. Okay, okay, so
a story, yeah, all right? At Christmas time, so I've written
a Christmas song and I thought, you know, I would like to go
share this song with my adoptive mother. Yeah. So you know this story.
I was a ward of the state of birth, yeah, and the
foster system, and then I was adopted, and then in that family structure
of that adoption, my dad died when I was twelve and I was left
in the hands of a borderline personality disorder. And so fast forward to this
time of life. There are some very strong boundaries that I have in place,
and even strong boundaries to access and so I but you know, she's
much older, and I thought, you know, I wrote this beautiful Christmas
song. My dad died on Christmas, and so I want to share it
with her. You know, there, people can heal, people love,
people grow, people change. And I went and visited her at her home
and my adoptive brother was there, meeting me in the driveway and said,
if you share this story, we'll sue you. I was like, wait,
I'm here to share about Christmas and generosity all year long and oh my
gosh. And I went in and said hello, and it was I was
it was like, wow, this this has not changed at all. And
I exited and I said okay, and I actually said, as I walked
out at the door. I said, if that's what you need to do,
you know, and I'm like a story, then you have to admit
that you're in That's my thought process. What I'm writing is like, then
you have to come forward and say you're one, right, yeah. Yeah.
And even even in this conversation I had with her, she's in a
relationship with, she still has a friendship with. My second ex husband is
the one that tried to kill me. And she said, well, he
he didn't intend. Oh yeah, so so mom, you agree that he
put a pillow over my head. He goes. She goes, well,
yeah, he said he did. But but he said it wasn't his intention
to kill you. He just wanted to get your attention. Wow, And
I resent who you tell me I can be friends with. And I'm like,
oh, merry Christmas and peace on her. Think that will towork man?
How is that the last conversation? That is, yeah, I got
you? And the album's coming out and the bit more work is coming out
and yeah, good on you for sharing it though, because it really needs
to. There's a lot of people out there, way more people than we
maybe want to admit in society. When they hear somebody like you, they
know I can survive this, I can get out of this, and we
don't have to because pre this coming out, I did not know if I
ever was going to sing in public again. Really yes, because this is
post Pillowman, and I was not certain because there was a long period of
time during the pandemic shutdown. I was stalked, My children were stoked.
I actually moved out of state so that I would not get stalked anymore,
but my daughter continued to get stalked. And so it's a real thing.
And for me to come public also means I run those risks. And I
thought, you know what, No, that's actually you know, I will
not be silenced, right, I've spent my whole life, you know,
within groups of people that have tried to silence. I'm like, it's no
more, will not be silenced. And this isn't about you know, I'm
not an angry person. This is really about it's a road of healing and
and we've talked about mental health. I joke that I have a PhD in
being therapy because it's a lot of therapy I've had to go back. And
why did I make that decision, right, and how did I end up
there? And what is this? And you know, I still believe in
love. I still believe in love is the answer. I still believe it
can solve the world's problems if we actually think about each other and listen,
do we all agree? You know? I mean you might like coffee with
cream and I like it black. You know, we don't all have the
same taste or agree. But boy, if we really leave with love and
the best interest of humans, right, And I think a lot of that
starts with the supporting of those who have been really wounded and hurt and marginalized
and instead of making them the enemy. Yeah, yeah, absolutely, you
want to play an other one, Yeah, if you're just joining us on.
Nancy Manet is here with us live in studio. She's currently on tour
in the Northeast, and we're very glad to have her here. Absolutely,
absolutely, Yeah, whenever you're ready, just go for it. If you
want to tell us about what you're going to play, I'm going to play
addiction and this is about the father of my kids. We were married for
eighteen years and we did not lose him to death, but we lost him
to the street. The codone, you know, highly narcotic, well,
highly addictive painkiller era. And we walked through that for about eight years with
him. Oh wow, and that ended that relationship. And so it was
the kids and I on our own. And later on in life, I
wrote this song and I realized, oh wow, if anybody has ever walked
through loving an addict, you just all you want to do is just love
them. Like I said, I just really believe love can solve a lot
of things. We also have to do our work right right exactly. It
kind of goes hand in hand exactly. My heart broke and I cannnot fear
out what I always do. That makes you a long shout? Why do
you say things that got me into the worm? It will turn to the
lands? All those be coll for My heart's desire is to love your kindness.
Nothing to do but whe I am trying yourself me? You calm out?
And why would I be based on that special cake? Why would be?
I'm just getting in the way? What is more portent? Pomp?
Why are you hide? How party you fall? What is more pork?
Can thank? You beat me about? Hello? What are you hide?
How far di di to fall? No d u hollo to my heart desire
he is love you your kindness, not day but when nigh Ass Drager's comedy
to come out bid and I we oh my aunt Dennis love you, but
the man you don't want me? You see nigh As it's stoping b com
house swing and I wait you come out bid and very nice. That was
excellent, very nice. Nancy manet here with us live in studio on this
Saturday morning and uh sounding great? Are is it unusual to be singing this
early? Yes? Yeah, A lot of a lot of a lot of
our musical guests they come on, they're like, oh, this is a
no. You sound great though, but I know it's uh probably probably pretty
unusual. We had a band on Saint Patrick's Day weekend. We had a
band and who was like, no, this is normal for us because there
they play a lot of shows on Saint Patrick's Day weekend and you know a
lot of those kinds of shows they start, uh they start very early.
But uh yeah, for for most of the guests we have on, it
is it is unusual. But uh so the show now, the show and
wister you're doing that all that's all acoustic, that's all unplugged. Yeah,
yeah again, I'm laughing. It's like I actually call the company and said,
cauld I get an acoustic piano, deliver it, No kidding, I
did, and they're unable to deliver it. But yeah, I thought,
okay, this is gonna be a lot of fun. I'll play my expansion
on the guitar. It works, it works great. It's going to be
at the front in worcestermorrow. Very good, very good. See and if
you go to Nancy Minette n A and c Y M A n e T
dot com you can find a lot of great information upcoming dates of her concerts,
as well as all of our music and bio information. So check it
out. Than you do you always? Is it always you solo? Or
do you ever play with the bandy? Well, right for now it's right
now on this leg it's solo. Yeah, we are working on our band.
Oh cool, start startup after Oh excellent, excellent, Good for you,
good for you. We need we need a strings department. Yeah as
well, that's that boy, hard enough to find a drummer, you need
a strings department? Good at least? Yeah, Yeah, well there you
go, there you go. We might have talked about this before. But
are you so the new material that you're working on, are you playing any
of that on the current tour or are you holding out until you actually you
know it's interesting, Well, the stuff that's coming out in October, Yes,
I am sprinkling some of that in. I have another song that's coming
out in a month from now. That's part of the that's all part of
this connecting story that starts with the debut album. But then even the stuff
that I've written for things that who knows what the release states will be,
I may or may not pull it out. It depends on on the time
frame. If I need an extra song and we've burned through the rock opera,
and I actually I love I'm a singer songwriter, so I love the
process and I love showing people that journey, and so even to share,
hey, here's a song and it's really raw form, but it'll be fun
to hear how it's finished. And even even okay, so this I just
played addiction that that is written on guitar the way pretty much I played it.
I may played a little bit more aggressively as a solo artist, but
for a band and in studio work, it's played you know, so it's
neat to see. Okay, here's how a solo version or a pre written
or pre recorded version, and then you get to hear you know what we
do in the studio. Yeah, yeah, I love that. How all
that works? Yeah yeah, fantastic, fantastic. We're gonna so we'll have
time for one more studio track. But before we before we do that,
where should people go? What should they know about? Where to find you
online? How to keep up with everything that you're doing? First and foremost
Facebook, Okay, it's my age group, So please find me at Nancy
Manet. You'll you'll see and and and send me a direct message that you
you know you heard us on the show. And you can also find me.
I'm newer to Instagram, but you can find me there. I I
personally respond to everyone, and so I really love connecting with people. Relationships
with one another is I think what makes it work? Positive ones? Yeah,
and so there and then also my website just mentioned Nancy Mine m A
n E T dot com. Very good, very good? And how many
dates you have left on this tour? We go home to thirty first?
Okay, oh okay, so you got you got some left yeah, so
you're in Where do you go after Worcester? What's your next one? Oh?
Me to tell you etiquette? Yeah, oh that's right. I think
after wester you go to New London, Connecticut areer for a radio interview.
Oh, very good at w C and I very good. I think it's
I And then we end up Virginia on the thirtieth, Atlanta, Georgia,
or in July twelfth, Oh yeah, July thirteenth, Knoxville, Tennessee.
Yeah, that one's a radio special. Yeah, excellent, excellent, Good
for you, good for you. Well we will what do you want to
play to end the you know, let's play something that we haven't played on
the air. Uh. It's it's called Fractured okay. And it's really the
conclusion of you know, when we're talking about Okay, you've done this project,
and then now we move on to new music and we're writing new things
about other topics and such. But this this actually concludes that, I would
say that era of trauma, and it kind of launches off in hope.
Okay, Oh, well, excellent, to the next book of life.
Well that's a that's a great way to uh, that's a great way to
end it very good. Nancy Manet, thank you so much, thank you
so much for having thank you for being here with us, and Jenny,
thank you. You want to plug your website here, welcome. You can
keep up to with my information at Gencoffee dot com. J E N N
C O F f e I dot com. There's some new stuff up there
and an upcoming webinar. Yes, yes, Jenny's got a lot going on.
And uh, of course my website Matt Connorton dot com. And we
will and thank you to everyone who joined us this week on the show.
And Nancy, thank you again. And we will end with this. This
is Nancy Manet. This is called fractured. All of us are fractured,
as we now vulgate this line our hurts, our pain, the brokingnesses.
Man. We so much strive as we ponder who we become. We said,
andraw our breand we real like this rature read. It's for some thing
grad y to shine in to Pea says it is part of U journey.
If wheel learn it will create a lineoscope. You'll see beauty that's created from
me. She's off our soul. What the last sun stage they'll make a hol