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what's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing
this episode, you were meant to be here, So keep listening on that
Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, Babe girl,
we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive
bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast,
we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who
we came here to be. Today, we are talking about one of my
favorite topics and probably one of my asked questions, Ceci, how do we
get everyone obsessed with us? How do we get this specific person obsessed with
us? What do we do? I am so excited to share with you
everything I've learned along my journey. Let me just make it so clear,
if you are not getting the results you want in your reality, you can
change your results. I can go literally anywhere, it doesn't matter if I'm
going to a store or a bar, it doesn't matter what I'm dressed like.
I can go anywhere and I will get compliments from all different people.
People buying me drinks, giving me free gifts because of how I broadcast my
energy. Now I have looked literally the same. I've looked exactly the same.
Maybe my hair was a little different and I wore a different shirt,
but I looked like me and I can go out and I will get completely
different results based on what I'm broadcasting. I talked about this in the episode
called Activate your Inner fem Fatale and Become Irresistible. I went out on a
Friday night and a Saturday night, and I got so much better results on
Saturday night. It was insane. It was insane. So let's talk about
what I change, what I do now that I used to not to,
and how that's completely affected my reality completely. I'm telling you you have all
the power in the world that you need to get them interested in you.
Whether you're trying to find your soulmate or you just want to create this magnetic
energy where you feel like you're in your power, or maybe you want both.
It's your divine right to feel sexy in my book, it's your divine
right to get the results that you want in my book, or doing harm
to anyone. We're learning how to use our power and That is the most
revolutionary thing we can do, considering society is constantly trying to take it away
from us. Stepping into your power, listening to this podcast and learning from
it and actually doing the things I'm going to be sharing with you, that
is the most revolutionary thing you can do, because you're saying, no,
I'm not gonna feel ugly, I'm not gonna feel stupid. I'm not gonna
go out and think I'm not worthy. I'm gonna reclaim my power and go
out there. This world is my oyster. It's time I start acting like
it because that's the truth. That's the truth. I'm going to be walking
you through eight distinct steps of how to activate your magnetic energy so everyone will
be obsessed with you. You will be getting compliments not only on your energy,
not only what you look like, not only on your presence in general.
But more people will be interested in you. And we're not manipulating them,
we're not chasing them. We're actually just placing ourselves back on our pedestal
where we belong. People think it's so hard to do this. Now,
now you're actually doing too much. You're doing too much, and that's why
you're not getting the results that you want. It's a much easier than you
think. Before we get into it, and before you learn eight tools to
completely shift your energy to get them obsessed with you, I gotta let you
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We have a lot to talk about, so let's get into it.
How do we make people obsessed with us? If people are not obsessed with
you interested in you? This comes down to dysfunction in your focus. If
you're constantly thinking what are other people gonna think of me? How am I
being perceived? What are they doing? Where focus goes, energy flows.
You are literally depleting yourself of your energy, which is yours, So why
are you giving it away to everyone for free? Let's talk about point number
one. Each one of these, if they are imbalanced, if you have
a dysfunction in your focus, will drain you of your magnetic energy. Let's
go through this step by step. Point number one. You have to feel
good in your clothes when you are picking out an outfit. I don't want
you thinking, Oh, what are the guys gonna think I look the best
in? What are the girl is gonna think I look the best in?
Who should I dress for? What do I have to dress? No?
No, no, no no. That is a dysfunction in your focus.
If you are dressing for other people, you are literally sending out all of
your energy. Your life is no longer about you. Who is the subject
of your life, not you. If you're dressing for other people, you
have to find what makes you feel good. What you wear, how you
present your hair, your jewelry, your makeup. All of this has to
be to your liking. It can change over time, but it has to
be to your liking. This past hollow weekend, I was going out and
I was a femme fatale fairy. Long story, I was going to be
many different renditions of a fairy, but I decided this is my femme fatale
era. So hello, fem fatale fairy. And I was not sure how
I was going to do my makeup. I knew I wanted something a little
bit darker, more dramatic. It's Halloween. I like to really get into
it. And it took me an hour to figure out what I wanted to
do, and I kept redoing it. I didn't want to do my usual
makeup. This is fun, let's dress up. And my partner was like,
Cecie, what's the big deal? I was like, this is the
big deal. I have to feel good about what I'm putting on my face
because if I don't, that's going to affect how I broadcast my energy and
where I am on my pedestal. My partner wanted to get to this pregame
slash party like really on time, but there was a series of events that
kind of pushed our timeline a little bit further. And so was he rushing
me a bit? Yeah? Was he trying not to? Yeah? But
I felt the pressure and I had had a moment to say to myself,
Ceci, who are you living for? Who are you living for? If
you rush through your makeup, if you hate what it looks like, you're
gonna be in not the best mood. You're gonna be broadcasting all types of
energy. You're gonna be saying negative things to yourself. Take your time,
slow it down, and funny enough, when you slow down and just take
care of what you need to take care of, you end up doing it
better anyway, which speeds up the process. When you're doing your makeup,
when you're doing your hair, when you're getting dressed, even your skincare.
You have to do things that make you feel good. We all know that
when we're in our sweats for what two weeks straight, we start to feel
a little icky, sticky. But when we dress up and we put on
our makeup, we do our hair, we do our nails, we get
the tan, we feel better about ourselves. It's a lie to say our
physicality doesn't affect us. Of course it does, because everything is energy.
What energy are you putting on your body, because that's going to interact with
your electromagnetic field, It's going to affect what you're broadcasting into the universe,
into the bar, into other people. So not only do I want you
to take your time, you do not rush. I literally have this piece
of art in my room. One says I am my own muse, and
the other one says, do not rush me because I do not like to
be rushed. Take your time. Do what feels good to you. Put
that energy into yourself. Wear what makes you feel good, because it's going
to affect your energy. Do what you need to do to make you feel
good, whether that's a thirty minute shower or doing something to your hair.
I don't know what it is for you. We're all different, but you
have to figure out what makes you feel good. Even for me, doing
eyeliner the cat eye, that affects how I feel about myself. I instantly
feel more authentic, more me, more in my magnetic energy. It's the
littlest things that can cause the greatest shifts. I remember a couple months ago,
I got my third hole pierced in my ear and then in the ear.
I don't know what that's called, but I did that, and instantly
I felt more like myself. I felt more in my own energy. Do
not sleep on the subtle shifts of what you're putting on your body, how
you're doing your hair, how you're doing your makeup, what you're wearing.
And I don't care if you wear a turtleneck to the heavens or if you're
wearing the deepest bee. You have to do what feels authentic, what feels
good, what makes you feel magnetic and in your power. The thoughts you
tell yourself in private will be seen in public. When you're doing your makeup
and you're feeling good about yourself, you're telling yourself positive things about yourself.
That is going to be perceived when you're in public. But if you're hating
what you're doing you're dressing for other people, that those thoughts of you not
feeling good about yourself, that is going to be perceived in the public.
So while you're getting ready, here's another layer. What are you saying to
her? Are you saying that you never look good in anything? Are you
saying that everything looks terrible on you? Are you saying that, Wow,
I really love how I'm doing my eyeliner, or even if it's not perfect,
I'm getting better. What are you saying to yourself in the process of
getting ready? If you're saying, I'm so rush, I have no time
to myself. You're not gonna feel good. But if you just focus on
the simple question of what makes me feel good, that will help you begin
to wire in, to activate, to tap into this magnetic energy that will
have people obsessed with you. Because here's the thing. If you're obsessing over
everyone else, whatever we chase, whether it's a bug or a boy,
will run away. If you're obsessing over how people are going to perceive you,
they're going to be looking the other way. But if you get into
how you're perceiving yourself, that is what makes you magnetic. Why the law
of correspondence our inner world will always be reflected back to us in our external
world. If I'm not doing things that make me feel good, if I'm
trying to place other people's perception on my pedestal, no one's going to perceive
me on my own pedestal. If I ghost what I want, I ghost
my needs, I ghost my opinion, other people are gonna ghost my needs,
my opinions, my wants, etc. Etc. Moral of the magnetic
story is if you focus on you, other people will focus on you too.
If you ask yourself hmm, what do I like? Let me do
that. Other people are going to be more interested in you because you're focused
on you, they'll focus on you too. But if you're chasing their perception,
if you're chasing them, baby, there can only be one chaser.
Two people are not going to chase at one another. There can only ever
be one. When your partner can both be on your pedestal, holding hands,
but you can't be chasing at one another. If someone was chasing you,
you want to turn around and be like, hey, let me chase
you back. No, you would run in the opposite direction. So what
are you chasing your own perception or are you chasing theirs? When you become
healthily obsessed with yourself, other people will become healthily obsessed with you too.
I always think of these celebrities. Celebrities aren't asking for all of our opinions.
They're not chasing us down. No, They're just doing whatever they want
and they're posting it and then everyone flocks them. Why because celebrities are on
their own pedestal. They're on their own pedestal. I was listening to this
interview from this girl who was on Victorious. It was so don't even ask
me how I got there, but I was listening to it and she was
saying, how when you're this child's star and you're on a big network like
Nickelodeon, every single one of your wants or needs are met Immediately They'll be
asking you do you want to straw? What you need? I think she
was saying she was vegan and the showrunner of the show literally hired a vegan
chef basically just for her. And she said her husband at the time was
shocked at the treatment that she was getting because before she could even think of
what she wanted, she had someone saying, do you need this? Do
you want an ice pack? Do you want that? Do you want that?
They are so trained that they're on the pedestal. Everyone else is below
them, and they're going to get all their needs met. Now, does
some of that get to their heads and can that affect them in a negative
way? Absolutely, But we can't ignore that these celebrities are magnetic. A
lot of them are really magnetic. They have millions and millions of people looking
at them wanting to know what they're going to do next because they're placed on
their own pedestal. So when you think of about being magnetic, think about
the celebrity. Would a celebrity be commenting back to every single person, every
single hater, worried about what everyone's thinking of them. No, they're doing
their own thing regardless. Speaking of celebrities, let's talk about miss Marilyn Monroe
because we have something we can learn from her. Now, Marilyn Monroe was
not this perfect person nobody is, but we can still learn from her.
I read this story one time on the podcast. I think the episode was
called the Marilyn Monroe Effect, so you can go listen to it, but
I'm gonna summarize it for this podcast episode. There was a story from this
journalist and she said that her and Marilyn were walking in New York City and
no one was noticing them or coming up to them. They were just having
a nice stroll. And then Marilyn looked to her and said, do you
want to see me turn on her or become her? And the journalists didn't
know what that meant, but she's not going to turn down this opportunity,
so she said, yeah, sure. When the journalist claims she's not exactly
sure what Marilyn did because it was so subtle, But suddenly Marilyn was walking
a little bit different, her head was held a little bit different and suddenly
cars began to stop. People walking past her immediately started to recognize, Wait,
that's Marilyn Monroe. Marilyn Monroe did not change her makeup, or her
hair or her outfit. What she changed was her mindset. And when she
changed her mindset and she decided I'm going to become her, she turned on
her immediately. That decision affected her posture, how she was walking, how
she was holding her energy, how she was broadcasting her energy, which then
affected how people perceived her energy. When you decide to become her, you
show up as her, other people will perceive you as her jazz hands.
If you're watching on YouTube, it's a decision becoming confident, okay. Decide
to become confident, and you will be becoming the Hawk girl. Decide you
are the Hawk girl. Becoming magnetic okay, same process. Decide you are
magnetic, and when you tell yourself I am magnetic, you stand a little
differently. Your head's held a little bit differently, you walk a little bit
differently. When you shift how you see yourself internally, Again, the law
of correspondence, everyone will shift how they see you too, but as always,
it starts with you learning how to focus on you. Remember what I
said at the beginning of this podcast, A lot of why people are not
interested in us is because we have a dysfunction in our focus. We're so
focused on how are they perceiving me, what are they liking about me?
What do they think of me? Do they hate me? Instead of doing
that, decide how you want to show up, period, and that will
naturally affect every single person place an opportunity you come into contact with. I
call this the Marilyn Monroe effect. When she decided to turn her on,
she became her. Everyone saw her as her. That is what's so important.
So yes, point one was that what you wear and how you do
your hair and your makeup, that's all gonna affect how you feel about yourself
because if you do makeup that doesn't really feel like you. If you've ever
been to a makeup artist who does your makeup too intense or not quite right,
you don't feel like yourself, and so you don't feel that magnetic energy.
But you feel a difference when you do your makeup and it is perfect
right, not only does our physicality affect us, which was point one,
our mindset affects us even stronger. Our mindset when we decide to become her
affects us and how everyone is perceiving us. So it's not just our physicality,
it's not just our mindset. It's both. It's both of these things
interacting with one another that create this human and divine human self that we are
that is interacting with other people that affects how other people see us. So
so far, you have to check in with am I wearing what makes me
feel good? Am I doing my makeup in a way that makes me feel
good? Do I need to learn how to do my makeup in a different
way? Do I need to learn how to do my hair in a different
way, in a way that makes me feel like me in a way that
makes me feel good? Step two is where's my mindset at? Am I
telling myself that I suck that everyone's better than me? Or am I deciding
that I am the hawk girl and so I'm gonna show up as her by
deciding that I am the most magnetic version of me. I want you to
take a second and just think, just think about what does my most magnetic
self walk like, what does she talk like? What is she dress like?
What does she show up as? How does she interact with other people?
That's the blueprint. Just start following that blueprint and them you are her.
Just follow the blueprint and show up as her, and there you go.
Point three is affirmations. Now when you're going out this past hollowekend,
it was a full moon and a lunar eclipse. So I told my friend
Sophia. I told her we gotta do affirmations over any shot that we take,
any alcoholic drink. I'm drinking, I am praying over it, I
am setting intentions over it, because girl, it's a day of releasing,
it's a day of change. So we literally did positive affirmations over our shots.
We said, this is gonna be an amazing magnetic night. We're gonna
have so much fun. We look so beautiful, we are feeling so great
about ourselves, and we just did that number one. This makes your night
so much more fun because you and your friend are entering the sisterhood or brotherhood,
humanhood. I don't care. Okay, you're entering in together. And
if you think about it, when someone takes a shot usually they're not doing
it alone. If you are, DM me, let's talk about that.
But usually when people are doing a shot at a pregame, at a party,
at a bar, they're doing it with another person or in a group
of people. Is this not a sacred ceremony? I don't care if it's
alcohol or not. Think about it. It's a group of people setting intentions,
speaking over what they're about to ingest. That's a ceremony. What are
you in putting into your drinks? What are you saying over what you're putting
into your body? Because that's going to affect you. Doctor Emoto prove this.
He froze water and took pictures of this water. He puts some water
in glasses that said love and beauty and thank you, And then he puts
some water in glasses that said hatred, anger, other negative words. And
after he froze the water and looked at it under a microscope, he saw
that the water he set positive intentions over and said positive words over had beautiful,
crystal like structures. The water in the cups that had negative words on
them had these really grotesque, weird patterns. What you say to the drinks,
to your food, anything you're ingesting will change you on a cellular level.
So if you were going to be drinking, I don't care what you're
drinking, what you're ingesting, you better be speaking light and life over it
because that's going to affect you subconsciously and energetically. And that's something easy you
can do anywhere, and it's fun. Make it a sacred sister ceremony and
speak life over your drinks. Now let's get into the night, shall we,
Because there are some things that happened, and I just love sharing these
results with you because they just get better and better and better. Me and
my friend Sophia, we were with a group of people and we went out
and we were at this one bar and the bar was fun. We stayed
there for a little bit, but then we thought, you know, let's
change this up. Let's go to a different bar. Let's change the scenery.
So we did, and the original bar we wanted to get into there
was a line of at least fifty people, so the group didn't want to
go there, but me and Sophia, as we walked around, we passed
this bar that had fifty people waiting on the line at least and I said,
what if we just ask to get in? What if we just go
up to the bouncer and say, can we get in? Is there a
whole entire line? Yes, but maybe that would work, And we're not
doing harm to anyone. We're just using our free will and asking for exactly
what we want. If you think about how manifestation works, you have to
ask in order to receive. So I said, why not ask? And
she's down for anything, So of course she says, yes, the squeaky
wheel really does get the grease. So we go up to the bouncer and
we say can we get in? Someone happened to be leaving the bar at
the exact time that we said that, and it was this other dude and
he said something really inappropriate, And when he said that, I was like,
you know what, I don't want to go here anymore. That's gross,
not into it. I'm getting out of here. So we start walking
away and then the bouncer screams at us, and the guy screams, backway,
come back, come back. We're sorry, We're sorry. It was
just a joke, come back, and it wasn't an insult, but it
was just inappropriate and uncalled for. And I don't care if you're drunk.
Don't ever speak to me like that. And so they called us back,
and the bouncer, who didn't say anything, he was just a kind soul,
was like, yes, come on in, don't worry about it.
Sorry about that dude, And I was like, no, no problem.
So we go in and obviously we have the night of our lives like it
was so much fun. This is what I want to explain to you about
that circumstance, because there's truly medicine and everything. I went up to that
bouncer and I said, can we get it. The guy happens to be
walking out and says something really inappropriate. If I were to play into that
inappropriate comment, that would have been selling myself short. That would have been
me trying to prove myself worthy through something inappropriate. It kind of reminds me,
and I hate this term, but it kind of reminds me of a
pick me moment. If I was to play into his inappropriate comment because he
thought he was being all funny, that would have been me trying to be
a pick me baby. No, okay, I don't need you to pick
me because I pick me every single day. If you don't want to let
me into this bar. There's fifteen others I'll walk into. That's this bar's
loss. The fact that I did not play into that guy's comment and I
stayed on my own pedestal. I was not needing them to let me into
this bar. That was the exact reason that I got into the bar,
and I was able to cut the whole entire line. That was the exact
reason. I am not going to attach my worth to you letting me into
this bar or not. I don't care. I don't care enough. I
don't care enough. I don't This is a thing we manifest what we really
really really want and what we really really really really don't want. If I
am to be begging and pleading and trying to prove myself worthy and playing into
that pigmy energy and laughing at an inappropriate joke that's not funny, Sorry,
get a new sense of humor, if I was to do that, and
I would have been manifesting a scenario where I don't feel worthy enough to stand
up for myself. I chose me, because that's the thing. When you
choose you, other people will choose you too. When I chose me,
the bouncer chose me too when I chose me. Even the guy who made
the dumb joke chose me too. Not interested, But I can understand why
you would choose me. I don't need to chase this bouncer energetically or this
person, whoever they may be. I don't need to bring something to the
table. I am the table. I am the table, so you don't
want to let me in? Okay, This brings me to my next point
point five, which is don't take things so seriously. I think a lot
of us can get really offended, and if we're easily offended, that means
we're all so easily manipulated and easily knocked off our own pedestal. I'm not
going to be offended if you don't let me into this bar because you don't
determine my worth. I'm not going to be offended if someone in the bar
doesn't find me attractive because you don't define my worth. I do. I
know the effort I put into myself, my healing, my body, my
energy. I prove to myself every single day that I'm worthy of the things
that I want. I don't need some random to prove that to me too.
I'm not attached to you, random person, and I don't need you
to tell me what I already know about myself. What I do in private
shows in the public electromagnetic field that we all reside in. What I do
in private, the work that I do shows in my energy in public.
Whether people register that consciously or not, they want me around, They're interested
in me, and they're gonna come up to me. We don't want to
take things too seriously. We don't want to take things personally. We want
to take things vibrationally. If I was not let into this bar, it
could have been a couple of different energetic reasons. Maybe this bar was in
a lower vibration than me, and I would have hated it and it would
have been a waste of my time. Maybe something could have happened that would
have negatively affected me. Or maybe I just wasn't in my magnetic power.
Maybe I wasn't on my pedestal. I'm telling you, if I would have
played into that joke, that inappropriate joke, the guy would not have let
us in because that would immediately be me placing him on my pedestal, trying
to prove my work, trying to make a seat at the table. When
I am the table, I am not starving for whatever it is you have,
and therefore I'm always fed. I'm always provided for because I'm never starving
for anything because I'm giving it to myself. And that is an energetic law
that you need to understand for you to get the results that you want.
If you need their validation, you need their affection, you need their attention,
you need them to let you into the bar, your life is gonna
be a lot harder, there's gonna be a lot more resistance. But when
you don't need it, but you'll take it, you'll be fine with it.
But you already have your own table. That's when you get the results
that you want. That's why how you dress your makeup, your mindset,
turning her on, the affirmations over the drinks, the going out and asking
for what it is you want against wiki wheel gets to the grease, and
then understanding it's not personal, don't take it so, don't take it so
serious, take it vibrational. Understand where you're at. All of these things
add up to you being your most magnetic self, which adds up to you
feeling your best, feeling whole and then you get better results. It's really
not about the external result. It can be partly about that. Of course,
you want the best results, duh. But really, when you're in
this magnetic energy and you're getting the results you want, you just feel so
much better about yourself. You feel good because you've been priming yourself all day
and now the result is the cherry on top of the cake. We all
want to feel good, So when you're trying to get something that you want
from another person, make them feel good too. When I went up to
the bouncer, I wasn't like, you better let me in. Do you
know who I am. I'm not gonna threaten this man's life. I did
not come here to do that. I'm not going to put my fangs into
you and make you see my worth. No, you either see it or
you don't. Not everyone understands the cost of a Chanelle bag. Not everyone
has good taste. That's not my fault. So what I like to say
is everyone wants to feel good. If you're trying to get something, make
them feel good. I was trying to get into this bar or this club,
whatever the hell is. All I did was nicely ask, hey,
can we get in. I'm not demanding, I'm not mean, I'm not
crude like that man coming out of the bar, just kind, just nice,
just on my pedestal. He wants to feel good like he's the big
man in town. Letting a girl in who asks kindly, he gets an
ego boost. I get in. We all get to get what we want.
This brings me to point number six. Baby girlies, listen up when
I say it is always, always, always frequency over force, frequency over
force. Do not try to force people to understand you, to like you,
to get you to know you. No, do not force anything,
because trying to force is so three D based when what we need for real
change is our frequency to shift. If I was to go up to this
bouncer and try to force him to let me into the club, the bar
again, whatever it is, that one went well, no, because force
doesn't work. You can't force a horse to drink water. You can't force
a horse to drink water. You can make that horse thirsty. Getting people
obsessed with you is not about forcing them, because what is sexy about that?
But nothing. It's about inspiring them. When are we most likely to
make a change in our life either when we're in so much pain that we
can't stand it anymore, or we're inspired to do so. When you want
people obsessed with you, this is not something you force, it's something you
inspire within them. I have so much fun on my own that it inspires
people to gravitate towards me. I inspired that bouncer to let me in by
staying on my own pedestal, walking away when the person made the inappropriate joke
showing I don't need this, I don't really care that much, and then
coming back when they were kind again and going in. Inspire people, do
not force them. How do you inspire people? You think of your most
magnetic self, You show up as her, you embody that you go out.
You set the intention to have fun. You do not set the intention
I need them to buy me a drink. I need them to do that.
If I have the intention of oh my god, I need this bouncer
to let me in. I need someone to buy me a drink. That's
not magnetic. That is you needing something outside of yourself. That's you chasing
other people who you don't even know. No, you inspire other people by
going on the dance floor, by having fun, by hanging out with your
friend, if you need to go into a bar and buy your first drink
yourself, just to inspire that energy of I don't need anyone right now,
do it. Do what you need to do, dance the buggaloo. It's
all gonna be fine. But when you're trying to force things, you step
into your masculine energy. You now become the chaser. And remember there can
only ever be one chaser, because if someone was chasing you, you wouldn't
turn around and start chasing them back. No, run in the opposite direction.
What the heck, man, why are you chasing me? Think about
it like this, because that's what it is. Number seven Lucky. Number
seven brings me to my very own dessert principle. Now, I created this
principle because I'm tired of seeing the best of intentions going in the wrong direction.
Because what do we want? We want connection, we want love,
we want to feel good. It's pretty simple. But what happens is we
go out, we give too much of ourselves, we energetically chase, and
all of that goes down the toilet. Our intentions are now skewed. The
dessert principle. Let me explain it. If I were to buy you a
birthday cake, and it was the most expensive birthday cake. It was the
nicest cake, but you ate the whole entire cake, you would get sick.
That doesn't take away from the cake's value. It was really expensive.
It was made by the best baker in town. It was a great cake.
But because you ate too much of it, you got sick of it.
Anyway, and now anytime you think of the cake, or any cake
in general, you're like, oh, I can't even think about it because
it made me so sick last time. Now apply this to energy. When
you give too much of you your cake away, your energy, your time,
your presence, your body to someone, it makes them energetically sick.
Not because you don't have value, not because you're not amazing, not because
you're not the best baker in town, but because you simply gave too much
of yourself away. That makes them energetically sick. And now every time they
think of the energy you bring, it makes them feel sick and they repel
in the opposite direction. So what do we do? Stop giving so much
of yourself? A way, stop it. If you wouldn't give them your
keys, do not give them your body. If you would not give them
your number. Stop giving them all of your attention. What are we doing?
What are we doing? You giving all of yourself to someone who you
don't even think really likes you. That's not going to make you feel good.
You giving all of yourself to someone way too soon is not going to
make you feel good. You're now taking on their energy, their entities,
their trauma subconsciously. You don't even know you're doing this. Then you're feeling
negatively about yourself. And then this is a spiraling cycle that continues and continues
because then you say, well, I need another dopamine rush. Oh let
me give my whole entire self to someone else. Oh no, now I
feel bad again. What do I do? Oh? Let me find someone
else? No, no, Stop getting underneath people and get into yourself instead,
because that's what's going to shift your energy. That's what's going to make
you feel good. That's what's going to put you into your power. It's
not being with a bunch of random people you never speak to again. That
is the biggest lie we've been sold. Who came up with that? I
don't understand that. We talk about fighting the patriarchy. Oh so the way
to fight the patriarchy is you become more like the men in it that we're
trying to take down. That makes no sense. Stop giving all of yourself
to other people. That means sharing your whole entire life with someone you don't
know. It means giving them your body, your energy, your presence,
your time, It means it all. It's everything. If you want to
hang out and talk to someone at a bar and do it how fun again,
don't take it so seriously. Enjoy life. You came here to learn
and develop, grown, have fun, to feel good, to create happiness.
So do that. If you're obsessed with someone and you just met them,
you're romanticizing them, no doubt in my mind, because there's no way
in heaven that you could be obsessed with someone and you just met them.
You don't know enough. And if you're obsessed with them, it means you're
filling in their blanks with your own fantasies. So reel it back in and
refocus on you, Focus on you, so you can see them for how
they really are, for who they're really showing up as, instead of your
romanticized version in your head because you got too excited. When you get too
excited and you feel in their silence with your imagination, you are more likely
to energetically chase them now because you've created this amazing version in your head that
they could never even live up to. So if you're obsessing over them,
you got to ask yourself, is this who they really are? Are they
actually showing up like this? Are they actually speaking these words? Or am
I romanticizing them? Are their actions and words aligning? Are the words and
actions aligning? Or am I filling in their blanks with my own fantasies,
hopes, desires and dreams. No one on this planet is worth you giving
up your whole entire self for upon just meeting them. And if they're for
you, they're not going to make it a requirement that you are intimate with
them right off the bat. They're not going to make it a requirement that
you tell them everything about yourself ever, right off the bat. Give yourself
time and space to see if you even like this person. Give yourself time
and space to see if you even resonate with this person. What's the rush?
If you're gonna be with this person forever, what is the rush?
I don't see one, and frankly, I don't want someone's rusty, dusty
energy on me that I don't even know. It's not a prize to be
intimate with someone because everyone's doing it, everyone's doing everything. It's not special,
it's not a prize. It's not interesting. It's the most basic thing
we can do. It's the least interesting thing we can do, is be
intimate with a bunch of different people. We're taking on their negative energy.
We're taking on the thoughts they have about us. If they don't think that
we are this fantastic woman, we're now taking on their thoughts about us.
We're internalizing that. It just does so much more harm than good. Why
not give yourself time and space to see if you actually like someone. Part
of the dessert principle is raising your standard and lowering your acceptance rate. A
lot of people are going to tell you lower your standard now, why?
Why so we can let people in who we're going to end up resenting and
not liking anyway, what's the point of that? There is none. Raise
your standard and apply it to yourself. Whatever I require of other people,
I also require of myself. Raise your standard. Don't just give your energy
to anyone and everyone. Don't just give your body to everyone and anyone,
because why when we do that, we make people energetically sick anyway, and
they repel. Raise your standard for what it is that you desire in life,
apply it to yourself, or at least be the compliment of what it
is you desire. Step two of this is lower your acceptance rate. Stop
allowing the bs, stop allowing people to come in and out of your life.
Whatever you allow, you amplify. If you keep allowing people to do
whatever they want, they're going to keep doing whatever they want. If you
don't put yourself on the pedestal. Law correspondence, they're not going to put
you on a pedestal either. When I was outside of that bar and that
man said a weirdo comment, I don't accept that. Why because I'm on
my own pedestal. And again, because I chose myself in the moment,
so did they and their energy. Their perception of me changed immediately because they
knew what I was about in that moment. I don't accept that. No,
try again, because that's not going to fly over here. Lower your
acceptance rate. Colleges like Harvard and Yale and all these schools, they have
very low acceptance rates. It's hard to get into those colleges. It's also
difficult to get in and stay in my life if you're going to be acting
up. Because I know whatever I allow, I amplify. So raise your
standard for what you require, lower your acceptance rate, lower the amount of
BS you're accepting into your life, and I promise you better vibrational connections will
come in. Because I have a little, little, little, little little
acceptance rate for BS, I don't deal with it. You want to say
something, no hard pass and suddenly the BS goes away and I get exactly
what I want because I stay on my own pedestal. I stay in my
magnetic energy. And that's what it's about. Even when people out there are
acting up. You stay true to you, Even when people out there are
doing some little kraigkra you stay on your pedestal. We do not alter ourselves
because of these other people. I think there's a whole entire sentiment of you
should give back whatever energy people are giving to you. I get that,
But to me, I'm not going to lower myself because you're in a bad
vibration. No things. I'm busy, I'm busy flying high. If you
want to act up if you want to, we're your own vibration. I
don't care like that is your own stuff. I don't know. Maybe you
need a karmic lesson. Don't know. That's not my business. My business
is remaining on my own pedestal. And how do I do that. I
listen to the dessert principle. I have a high standard and a low acceptance
rate. I don't change because you're gonna act a little cray cray. I
stay true to my values. And because I do that, I align with
people who see those values within me and treat me as such. As soon
as they knew I'm not going to take that, they saw me on my
pedestal and they said, who whoa, whoa, we gotta let this girl
in. We're gonna let her in. Fact, cut this whole entire line
of fifty people, which I'm so sorry if you were on that line,
by the way, I just I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it,
and I had to put my magnetic powers to the test once again.
How do you remain on your own pedestal? That brings us to number eight.
I used to go out and I would do something I called body bouncing,
which means I would be talking to someone and immediately jump to their perception
of how are they seeing me? Do they like me? What are they
into? What should I say right now? How do I manipulate myself so
they like me? This is called body bouncing when you're switching your perception for
theirs and seeing you from their point of view rather than seeing yourself from your
own point of view. How do you put yourself back on your own pedestal?
One way is to just start dancing. Go on the dance floor,
because dancing will help you get out of your head and inch your body.
Who cares what it looks like. I always enter messy makeup mode. My
eyeliner dripping down my face, it looks like I just showered, my hair
is wet. I don't care. I'm going to dance the night away.
I'm going to dance the night away because I came here for me. I
intended to have fun, and my fun is my responsibility, So I'm going
to go do that. Dancing is a beautiful way to stop giving your focus
and attention to some random person or even who you're there with, and to
refocus on you, to listen to music you like to feel into your b
Another way is to simply ask yourself, am I even enjoying this conversation right
now? Do I need another drink? Am I drinking too much? Do
I need to go to the bathroom? Where are my friends right now?
Check in with your senses, Check in with how you're feeling. If we're
used to constantly checking in on how other people are feeling, we're used to
constantly checking in with how other people are perceiving us. We get really good
at that, and it's very likely that we're going to body bounce. But
if we're body bouncing, that means we're chasing their perception, pedestaling their perception,
instead of just being in our own body and being magnetic. I think
a huge part of magnetic energy is feeling like, well, you can't really
take anything away from me, because I'm not going to let you. I
know myself, I know what I deserve. I am the whole table.
Hell, I'm a five course meal personified. You can't take that from me.
When you know that you have this power, which we you all have,
you just have to tap into it. When you know you have this
power, you're not easily manipulated. You're not easily offended. You're just like,
yeah, I'm not gonna say this too seriously. I'm gonna go with
the flow because all that's happening is happening for me. So if this isn't
the place for me to be, there's gonna be a better place for me
to be. No one can take my power away from me. I've spent
years cultivating it, and I'm gonna continue to do so. I am committed
to energetic excellence. It's what I do. Baby. But when we feel
like, oh I need their validation, Oh I need them to let me
into this bar, those are all very flimsy things that people can take away
from us. That person doesn't have to let me into the bar. Oh,
they're taking something away from me. That person doesn't have to validate me.
They don't even freaking know me. Oh that's a flimsy thing. They
can take that away from me. You can't take away the power I've cultivated.
Try me, try me, see what happens. You can't do it.
You can't. You simply can't. You can't easily offend me. You
can't take away my power. You cannot validate me in a way that's actually
important to me. If you're a stranger and you cannot affect how I'm going
to show up, because I'm really not gonna take it personally. I'm not
gonna take it seriously, but i will take it vibrationally to help me understand
what's going on below the three D level, because below that surface level is
what is actually dictating your reality. That's why every single point I've mentioned today,
which was one, feeling good in your clothes and your makeup and your
hair, and what are you saying to yourself while you're getting ready? Two
deciding to show up as her, seeing that most magnetic self and becoming her.
Three affirmations for asking for what you want when you go out, take
a healthy risk on yourself while realizing that you're already the table. You don't
have to prove yourself. You don't have to say pick me, pick me,
pick me. Five, not taking life seriously, taking it vibrationally.
Six frequency of our four to seven desert principle. Eight no more body bouncing.
All of these things are about you refocusing on you, what you're doing
energetically, what you're thinking about, what you're feeding yourself. Because all those
things make you you. You are, quite literally a summary of all of
your habits, of all of your thoughts, of all the little energetic priming
activities that you do. You are a summary of that. And when you
work on yourself and you're committed to energetic excellence, no one can take that
away from you. What I want you to understand is you have the power.
You have the capacity to be this most magnetic version of you and get
the attention, the affection, the connection from others if you so choose,
if you so care, if you want it, it's up to you.
You know, build your own life however you want. But if you want
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