WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:18.960 And ology, cancel so High, ectassage, cancage it not sorry, andlogy 2 00:00:19.440 --> 00:00:24.480 what's up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing 3 00:00:24.559 --> 00:00:28.519 this episode, you were meant to be here, So keep listening on that 4 00:00:28.600 --> 00:00:33.719 Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh. Other times, Babe girl, 5 00:00:34.240 --> 00:00:39.399 we're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive 6 00:00:39.439 --> 00:00:45.439 bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast, 7 00:00:45.479 --> 00:00:51.640 we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who 8 00:00:51.679 --> 00:00:56.920 we came here to be. Today, we are talking about one of my 9 00:00:57.200 --> 00:01:03.000 favorite topics and probably one of my asked questions, Ceci, how do we 10 00:01:03.239 --> 00:01:08.439 get everyone obsessed with us? How do we get this specific person obsessed with 11 00:01:08.519 --> 00:01:14.439 us? What do we do? I am so excited to share with you 12 00:01:14.719 --> 00:01:19.879 everything I've learned along my journey. Let me just make it so clear, 13 00:01:19.680 --> 00:01:23.599 if you are not getting the results you want in your reality, you can 14 00:01:23.760 --> 00:01:30.480 change your results. I can go literally anywhere, it doesn't matter if I'm 15 00:01:30.519 --> 00:01:34.560 going to a store or a bar, it doesn't matter what I'm dressed like. 16 00:01:34.879 --> 00:01:38.799 I can go anywhere and I will get compliments from all different people. 17 00:01:38.519 --> 00:01:45.280 People buying me drinks, giving me free gifts because of how I broadcast my 18 00:01:45.640 --> 00:01:53.359 energy. Now I have looked literally the same. I've looked exactly the same. 19 00:01:53.400 --> 00:01:56.000 Maybe my hair was a little different and I wore a different shirt, 20 00:01:56.120 --> 00:02:00.439 but I looked like me and I can go out and I will get completely 21 00:02:00.680 --> 00:02:06.719 different results based on what I'm broadcasting. I talked about this in the episode 22 00:02:06.760 --> 00:02:10.879 called Activate your Inner fem Fatale and Become Irresistible. I went out on a 23 00:02:10.919 --> 00:02:16.400 Friday night and a Saturday night, and I got so much better results on 24 00:02:16.479 --> 00:02:23.840 Saturday night. It was insane. It was insane. So let's talk about 25 00:02:23.879 --> 00:02:27.319 what I change, what I do now that I used to not to, 26 00:02:27.919 --> 00:02:36.759 and how that's completely affected my reality completely. I'm telling you you have all 27 00:02:36.800 --> 00:02:39.439 the power in the world that you need to get them interested in you. 28 00:02:40.080 --> 00:02:46.199 Whether you're trying to find your soulmate or you just want to create this magnetic 29 00:02:46.280 --> 00:02:50.479 energy where you feel like you're in your power, or maybe you want both. 30 00:02:51.560 --> 00:02:55.800 It's your divine right to feel sexy in my book, it's your divine 31 00:02:55.879 --> 00:03:00.599 right to get the results that you want in my book, or doing harm 32 00:03:00.639 --> 00:03:04.159 to anyone. We're learning how to use our power and That is the most 33 00:03:04.240 --> 00:03:09.280 revolutionary thing we can do, considering society is constantly trying to take it away 34 00:03:09.319 --> 00:03:15.599 from us. Stepping into your power, listening to this podcast and learning from 35 00:03:15.599 --> 00:03:20.479 it and actually doing the things I'm going to be sharing with you, that 36 00:03:20.639 --> 00:03:23.080 is the most revolutionary thing you can do, because you're saying, no, 37 00:03:23.439 --> 00:03:27.240 I'm not gonna feel ugly, I'm not gonna feel stupid. I'm not gonna 38 00:03:27.280 --> 00:03:30.360 go out and think I'm not worthy. I'm gonna reclaim my power and go 39 00:03:30.479 --> 00:03:36.719 out there. This world is my oyster. It's time I start acting like 40 00:03:36.840 --> 00:03:42.240 it because that's the truth. That's the truth. I'm going to be walking 41 00:03:42.280 --> 00:03:50.719 you through eight distinct steps of how to activate your magnetic energy so everyone will 42 00:03:50.759 --> 00:03:55.199 be obsessed with you. You will be getting compliments not only on your energy, 43 00:03:55.319 --> 00:04:00.639 not only what you look like, not only on your presence in general. 44 00:04:00.400 --> 00:04:08.159 But more people will be interested in you. And we're not manipulating them, 45 00:04:08.280 --> 00:04:13.199 we're not chasing them. We're actually just placing ourselves back on our pedestal 46 00:04:13.280 --> 00:04:16.800 where we belong. People think it's so hard to do this. Now, 47 00:04:17.240 --> 00:04:21.079 now you're actually doing too much. You're doing too much, and that's why 48 00:04:21.079 --> 00:04:27.199 you're not getting the results that you want. It's a much easier than you 49 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:32.360 think. Before we get into it, and before you learn eight tools to 50 00:04:32.439 --> 00:04:38.800 completely shift your energy to get them obsessed with you, I gotta let you 51 00:04:38.920 --> 00:04:45.079 in on some of my weekly announcements. Number one. 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Also, if you are ready to tap into your most magnetic self, 68 00:06:05.279 --> 00:06:10.160 I have some openings for my one on one clients. If you don't 69 00:06:10.199 --> 00:06:13.480 know, I am a certified life and energy coach and I offer one on 70 00:06:13.480 --> 00:06:17.519 one sessions via zoom for a variety of different things from inner child's healing, 71 00:06:17.560 --> 00:06:25.000 divine feminine activation, also divine feminine healing, self concept work, attachment system 72 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:28.360 healing, and so much more. So if you're interested, you're ready to 73 00:06:28.439 --> 00:06:31.399 level up, you can DM me now on Instagram at vibin with CC for 74 00:06:31.560 --> 00:06:35.839 more information. As always, all the links will be in the show notes. 75 00:06:36.199 --> 00:06:39.759 We have a lot to talk about, so let's get into it. 76 00:06:40.839 --> 00:06:46.720 How do we make people obsessed with us? If people are not obsessed with 77 00:06:46.759 --> 00:06:53.319 you interested in you? This comes down to dysfunction in your focus. If 78 00:06:53.360 --> 00:06:57.959 you're constantly thinking what are other people gonna think of me? How am I 79 00:06:58.040 --> 00:07:02.000 being perceived? What are they doing? Where focus goes, energy flows. 80 00:07:02.399 --> 00:07:09.600 You are literally depleting yourself of your energy, which is yours, So why 81 00:07:09.639 --> 00:07:15.920 are you giving it away to everyone for free? Let's talk about point number 82 00:07:15.199 --> 00:07:20.319 one. Each one of these, if they are imbalanced, if you have 83 00:07:20.399 --> 00:07:26.439 a dysfunction in your focus, will drain you of your magnetic energy. Let's 84 00:07:26.439 --> 00:07:30.839 go through this step by step. Point number one. You have to feel 85 00:07:30.879 --> 00:07:35.360 good in your clothes when you are picking out an outfit. I don't want 86 00:07:35.399 --> 00:07:39.560 you thinking, Oh, what are the guys gonna think I look the best 87 00:07:39.560 --> 00:07:42.000 in? What are the girl is gonna think I look the best in? 88 00:07:42.319 --> 00:07:45.199 Who should I dress for? What do I have to dress? No? 89 00:07:45.279 --> 00:07:48.480 No, no, no no. That is a dysfunction in your focus. 90 00:07:48.480 --> 00:07:54.120 If you are dressing for other people, you are literally sending out all of 91 00:07:54.160 --> 00:07:57.879 your energy. Your life is no longer about you. Who is the subject 92 00:07:57.920 --> 00:08:00.680 of your life, not you. If you're dressing for other people, you 93 00:08:00.839 --> 00:08:05.680 have to find what makes you feel good. What you wear, how you 94 00:08:05.720 --> 00:08:09.560 present your hair, your jewelry, your makeup. All of this has to 95 00:08:09.639 --> 00:08:13.480 be to your liking. It can change over time, but it has to 96 00:08:13.519 --> 00:08:20.519 be to your liking. This past hollow weekend, I was going out and 97 00:08:20.759 --> 00:08:24.680 I was a femme fatale fairy. Long story, I was going to be 98 00:08:24.720 --> 00:08:28.160 many different renditions of a fairy, but I decided this is my femme fatale 99 00:08:28.160 --> 00:08:33.480 era. So hello, fem fatale fairy. And I was not sure how 100 00:08:33.519 --> 00:08:37.159 I was going to do my makeup. I knew I wanted something a little 101 00:08:37.159 --> 00:08:41.440 bit darker, more dramatic. It's Halloween. I like to really get into 102 00:08:41.480 --> 00:08:46.399 it. And it took me an hour to figure out what I wanted to 103 00:08:46.440 --> 00:08:50.720 do, and I kept redoing it. I didn't want to do my usual 104 00:08:50.840 --> 00:08:56.360 makeup. This is fun, let's dress up. And my partner was like, 105 00:08:56.440 --> 00:09:01.320 Cecie, what's the big deal? I was like, this is the 106 00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:05.120 big deal. I have to feel good about what I'm putting on my face 107 00:09:05.519 --> 00:09:11.039 because if I don't, that's going to affect how I broadcast my energy and 108 00:09:11.080 --> 00:09:16.200 where I am on my pedestal. My partner wanted to get to this pregame 109 00:09:16.200 --> 00:09:20.919 slash party like really on time, but there was a series of events that 110 00:09:22.039 --> 00:09:26.360 kind of pushed our timeline a little bit further. And so was he rushing 111 00:09:26.399 --> 00:09:30.720 me a bit? Yeah? Was he trying not to? Yeah? But 112 00:09:30.840 --> 00:09:35.679 I felt the pressure and I had had a moment to say to myself, 113 00:09:35.759 --> 00:09:39.480 Ceci, who are you living for? Who are you living for? If 114 00:09:39.480 --> 00:09:41.440 you rush through your makeup, if you hate what it looks like, you're 115 00:09:41.480 --> 00:09:46.039 gonna be in not the best mood. You're gonna be broadcasting all types of 116 00:09:46.159 --> 00:09:52.799 energy. You're gonna be saying negative things to yourself. Take your time, 117 00:09:52.679 --> 00:09:58.320 slow it down, and funny enough, when you slow down and just take 118 00:09:58.360 --> 00:10:01.440 care of what you need to take care of, you end up doing it 119 00:10:01.440 --> 00:10:05.840 better anyway, which speeds up the process. When you're doing your makeup, 120 00:10:05.840 --> 00:10:11.840 when you're doing your hair, when you're getting dressed, even your skincare. 121 00:10:11.320 --> 00:10:16.440 You have to do things that make you feel good. We all know that 122 00:10:16.559 --> 00:10:20.440 when we're in our sweats for what two weeks straight, we start to feel 123 00:10:20.480 --> 00:10:24.279 a little icky, sticky. But when we dress up and we put on 124 00:10:24.360 --> 00:10:28.120 our makeup, we do our hair, we do our nails, we get 125 00:10:28.159 --> 00:10:33.080 the tan, we feel better about ourselves. It's a lie to say our 126 00:10:33.519 --> 00:10:41.960 physicality doesn't affect us. Of course it does, because everything is energy. 127 00:10:41.480 --> 00:10:46.279 What energy are you putting on your body, because that's going to interact with 128 00:10:46.360 --> 00:10:50.879 your electromagnetic field, It's going to affect what you're broadcasting into the universe, 129 00:10:52.080 --> 00:10:56.360 into the bar, into other people. So not only do I want you 130 00:10:56.440 --> 00:11:01.960 to take your time, you do not rush. I literally have this piece 131 00:11:01.000 --> 00:11:05.720 of art in my room. One says I am my own muse, and 132 00:11:05.759 --> 00:11:09.679 the other one says, do not rush me because I do not like to 133 00:11:09.720 --> 00:11:15.840 be rushed. Take your time. Do what feels good to you. Put 134 00:11:15.879 --> 00:11:20.159 that energy into yourself. Wear what makes you feel good, because it's going 135 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:24.120 to affect your energy. Do what you need to do to make you feel 136 00:11:24.159 --> 00:11:28.799 good, whether that's a thirty minute shower or doing something to your hair. 137 00:11:28.879 --> 00:11:31.080 I don't know what it is for you. We're all different, but you 138 00:11:31.159 --> 00:11:37.120 have to figure out what makes you feel good. Even for me, doing 139 00:11:37.519 --> 00:11:43.240 eyeliner the cat eye, that affects how I feel about myself. I instantly 140 00:11:43.279 --> 00:11:48.600 feel more authentic, more me, more in my magnetic energy. It's the 141 00:11:48.720 --> 00:11:52.840 littlest things that can cause the greatest shifts. I remember a couple months ago, 142 00:11:54.080 --> 00:12:00.559 I got my third hole pierced in my ear and then in the ear. 143 00:12:00.600 --> 00:12:03.759 I don't know what that's called, but I did that, and instantly 144 00:12:03.879 --> 00:12:07.360 I felt more like myself. I felt more in my own energy. Do 145 00:12:07.519 --> 00:12:11.080 not sleep on the subtle shifts of what you're putting on your body, how 146 00:12:11.120 --> 00:12:13.919 you're doing your hair, how you're doing your makeup, what you're wearing. 147 00:12:15.639 --> 00:12:20.320 And I don't care if you wear a turtleneck to the heavens or if you're 148 00:12:20.320 --> 00:12:24.919 wearing the deepest bee. You have to do what feels authentic, what feels 149 00:12:24.320 --> 00:12:31.159 good, what makes you feel magnetic and in your power. The thoughts you 150 00:12:31.240 --> 00:12:37.080 tell yourself in private will be seen in public. When you're doing your makeup 151 00:12:37.120 --> 00:12:39.879 and you're feeling good about yourself, you're telling yourself positive things about yourself. 152 00:12:41.200 --> 00:12:45.320 That is going to be perceived when you're in public. But if you're hating 153 00:12:45.360 --> 00:12:48.799 what you're doing you're dressing for other people, that those thoughts of you not 154 00:12:48.840 --> 00:12:54.279 feeling good about yourself, that is going to be perceived in the public. 155 00:12:54.679 --> 00:12:58.759 So while you're getting ready, here's another layer. What are you saying to 156 00:12:58.759 --> 00:13:03.720 her? Are you saying that you never look good in anything? Are you 157 00:13:03.799 --> 00:13:07.240 saying that everything looks terrible on you? Are you saying that, Wow, 158 00:13:07.320 --> 00:13:09.480 I really love how I'm doing my eyeliner, or even if it's not perfect, 159 00:13:09.559 --> 00:13:13.840 I'm getting better. What are you saying to yourself in the process of 160 00:13:13.879 --> 00:13:16.039 getting ready? If you're saying, I'm so rush, I have no time 161 00:13:16.080 --> 00:13:20.480 to myself. You're not gonna feel good. But if you just focus on 162 00:13:20.679 --> 00:13:26.519 the simple question of what makes me feel good, that will help you begin 163 00:13:26.600 --> 00:13:31.960 to wire in, to activate, to tap into this magnetic energy that will 164 00:13:33.000 --> 00:13:39.080 have people obsessed with you. Because here's the thing. If you're obsessing over 165 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:41.799 everyone else, whatever we chase, whether it's a bug or a boy, 166 00:13:41.879 --> 00:13:46.879 will run away. If you're obsessing over how people are going to perceive you, 167 00:13:46.320 --> 00:13:50.240 they're going to be looking the other way. But if you get into 168 00:13:50.279 --> 00:13:56.639 how you're perceiving yourself, that is what makes you magnetic. Why the law 169 00:13:56.720 --> 00:14:03.399 of correspondence our inner world will always be reflected back to us in our external 170 00:14:03.440 --> 00:14:05.879 world. If I'm not doing things that make me feel good, if I'm 171 00:14:07.000 --> 00:14:11.759 trying to place other people's perception on my pedestal, no one's going to perceive 172 00:14:11.879 --> 00:14:16.279 me on my own pedestal. If I ghost what I want, I ghost 173 00:14:16.279 --> 00:14:18.960 my needs, I ghost my opinion, other people are gonna ghost my needs, 174 00:14:20.159 --> 00:14:26.080 my opinions, my wants, etc. Etc. Moral of the magnetic 175 00:14:26.200 --> 00:14:31.600 story is if you focus on you, other people will focus on you too. 176 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:37.360 If you ask yourself hmm, what do I like? Let me do 177 00:14:37.559 --> 00:14:43.480 that. Other people are going to be more interested in you because you're focused 178 00:14:43.480 --> 00:14:48.679 on you, they'll focus on you too. But if you're chasing their perception, 179 00:14:48.080 --> 00:14:52.679 if you're chasing them, baby, there can only be one chaser. 180 00:14:52.960 --> 00:14:58.320 Two people are not going to chase at one another. There can only ever 181 00:14:58.360 --> 00:15:03.159 be one. When your partner can both be on your pedestal, holding hands, 182 00:15:03.360 --> 00:15:05.279 but you can't be chasing at one another. If someone was chasing you, 183 00:15:05.279 --> 00:15:09.440 you want to turn around and be like, hey, let me chase 184 00:15:09.480 --> 00:15:13.240 you back. No, you would run in the opposite direction. So what 185 00:15:13.360 --> 00:15:20.000 are you chasing your own perception or are you chasing theirs? When you become 186 00:15:20.240 --> 00:15:26.200 healthily obsessed with yourself, other people will become healthily obsessed with you too. 187 00:15:26.039 --> 00:15:33.240 I always think of these celebrities. Celebrities aren't asking for all of our opinions. 188 00:15:33.679 --> 00:15:37.679 They're not chasing us down. No, They're just doing whatever they want 189 00:15:37.799 --> 00:15:41.799 and they're posting it and then everyone flocks them. Why because celebrities are on 190 00:15:41.879 --> 00:15:46.559 their own pedestal. They're on their own pedestal. I was listening to this 191 00:15:46.639 --> 00:15:52.639 interview from this girl who was on Victorious. It was so don't even ask 192 00:15:52.679 --> 00:15:54.879 me how I got there, but I was listening to it and she was 193 00:15:54.919 --> 00:16:00.279 saying, how when you're this child's star and you're on a big network like 194 00:16:00.440 --> 00:16:07.120 Nickelodeon, every single one of your wants or needs are met Immediately They'll be 195 00:16:07.200 --> 00:16:11.320 asking you do you want to straw? What you need? I think she 196 00:16:11.399 --> 00:16:18.320 was saying she was vegan and the showrunner of the show literally hired a vegan 197 00:16:18.519 --> 00:16:22.440 chef basically just for her. And she said her husband at the time was 198 00:16:22.519 --> 00:16:27.440 shocked at the treatment that she was getting because before she could even think of 199 00:16:27.480 --> 00:16:30.879 what she wanted, she had someone saying, do you need this? Do 200 00:16:30.879 --> 00:16:32.720 you want an ice pack? Do you want that? Do you want that? 201 00:16:33.120 --> 00:16:37.440 They are so trained that they're on the pedestal. Everyone else is below 202 00:16:37.519 --> 00:16:40.360 them, and they're going to get all their needs met. Now, does 203 00:16:40.679 --> 00:16:42.480 some of that get to their heads and can that affect them in a negative 204 00:16:42.480 --> 00:16:48.320 way? Absolutely, But we can't ignore that these celebrities are magnetic. A 205 00:16:48.399 --> 00:16:52.639 lot of them are really magnetic. They have millions and millions of people looking 206 00:16:52.679 --> 00:16:56.039 at them wanting to know what they're going to do next because they're placed on 207 00:16:56.080 --> 00:17:00.759 their own pedestal. So when you think of about being magnetic, think about 208 00:17:00.759 --> 00:17:04.640 the celebrity. Would a celebrity be commenting back to every single person, every 209 00:17:04.640 --> 00:17:08.799 single hater, worried about what everyone's thinking of them. No, they're doing 210 00:17:08.839 --> 00:17:15.759 their own thing regardless. Speaking of celebrities, let's talk about miss Marilyn Monroe 211 00:17:15.799 --> 00:17:19.359 because we have something we can learn from her. Now, Marilyn Monroe was 212 00:17:19.400 --> 00:17:23.079 not this perfect person nobody is, but we can still learn from her. 213 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:27.240 I read this story one time on the podcast. I think the episode was 214 00:17:27.240 --> 00:17:30.359 called the Marilyn Monroe Effect, so you can go listen to it, but 215 00:17:30.400 --> 00:17:34.799 I'm gonna summarize it for this podcast episode. There was a story from this 216 00:17:34.920 --> 00:17:40.720 journalist and she said that her and Marilyn were walking in New York City and 217 00:17:40.759 --> 00:17:44.039 no one was noticing them or coming up to them. They were just having 218 00:17:44.079 --> 00:17:47.759 a nice stroll. And then Marilyn looked to her and said, do you 219 00:17:47.920 --> 00:17:53.079 want to see me turn on her or become her? And the journalists didn't 220 00:17:53.119 --> 00:17:56.039 know what that meant, but she's not going to turn down this opportunity, 221 00:17:56.359 --> 00:18:03.200 so she said, yeah, sure. When the journalist claims she's not exactly 222 00:18:03.359 --> 00:18:11.079 sure what Marilyn did because it was so subtle, But suddenly Marilyn was walking 223 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:18.200 a little bit different, her head was held a little bit different and suddenly 224 00:18:18.960 --> 00:18:26.799 cars began to stop. People walking past her immediately started to recognize, Wait, 225 00:18:27.759 --> 00:18:33.680 that's Marilyn Monroe. Marilyn Monroe did not change her makeup, or her 226 00:18:33.759 --> 00:18:41.680 hair or her outfit. What she changed was her mindset. And when she 227 00:18:41.880 --> 00:18:45.960 changed her mindset and she decided I'm going to become her, she turned on 228 00:18:47.119 --> 00:18:52.240 her immediately. That decision affected her posture, how she was walking, how 229 00:18:52.240 --> 00:18:56.599 she was holding her energy, how she was broadcasting her energy, which then 230 00:18:56.720 --> 00:19:04.319 affected how people perceived her energy. When you decide to become her, you 231 00:19:04.400 --> 00:19:11.759 show up as her, other people will perceive you as her jazz hands. 232 00:19:11.799 --> 00:19:18.799 If you're watching on YouTube, it's a decision becoming confident, okay. Decide 233 00:19:18.839 --> 00:19:22.559 to become confident, and you will be becoming the Hawk girl. Decide you 234 00:19:22.640 --> 00:19:26.920 are the Hawk girl. Becoming magnetic okay, same process. Decide you are 235 00:19:27.079 --> 00:19:33.279 magnetic, and when you tell yourself I am magnetic, you stand a little 236 00:19:33.319 --> 00:19:40.319 differently. Your head's held a little bit differently, you walk a little bit 237 00:19:40.759 --> 00:19:45.480 differently. When you shift how you see yourself internally, Again, the law 238 00:19:45.480 --> 00:19:52.559 of correspondence, everyone will shift how they see you too, but as always, 239 00:19:52.759 --> 00:19:56.599 it starts with you learning how to focus on you. Remember what I 240 00:19:56.599 --> 00:20:00.359 said at the beginning of this podcast, A lot of why people are not 241 00:20:00.440 --> 00:20:03.319 interested in us is because we have a dysfunction in our focus. We're so 242 00:20:03.440 --> 00:20:07.759 focused on how are they perceiving me, what are they liking about me? 243 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:11.480 What do they think of me? Do they hate me? Instead of doing 244 00:20:11.519 --> 00:20:15.480 that, decide how you want to show up, period, and that will 245 00:20:15.559 --> 00:20:22.960 naturally affect every single person place an opportunity you come into contact with. I 246 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:27.480 call this the Marilyn Monroe effect. When she decided to turn her on, 247 00:20:27.720 --> 00:20:33.480 she became her. Everyone saw her as her. That is what's so important. 248 00:20:33.559 --> 00:20:38.680 So yes, point one was that what you wear and how you do 249 00:20:38.839 --> 00:20:42.880 your hair and your makeup, that's all gonna affect how you feel about yourself 250 00:20:44.200 --> 00:20:47.279 because if you do makeup that doesn't really feel like you. If you've ever 251 00:20:47.359 --> 00:20:51.119 been to a makeup artist who does your makeup too intense or not quite right, 252 00:20:51.519 --> 00:20:55.119 you don't feel like yourself, and so you don't feel that magnetic energy. 253 00:20:55.599 --> 00:20:59.559 But you feel a difference when you do your makeup and it is perfect 254 00:20:59.720 --> 00:21:03.599 right, not only does our physicality affect us, which was point one, 255 00:21:04.200 --> 00:21:11.359 our mindset affects us even stronger. Our mindset when we decide to become her 256 00:21:11.440 --> 00:21:17.640 affects us and how everyone is perceiving us. So it's not just our physicality, 257 00:21:17.640 --> 00:21:21.640 it's not just our mindset. It's both. It's both of these things 258 00:21:21.680 --> 00:21:29.000 interacting with one another that create this human and divine human self that we are 259 00:21:29.640 --> 00:21:33.880 that is interacting with other people that affects how other people see us. So 260 00:21:33.880 --> 00:21:36.960 so far, you have to check in with am I wearing what makes me 261 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:38.880 feel good? Am I doing my makeup in a way that makes me feel 262 00:21:38.920 --> 00:21:41.119 good? Do I need to learn how to do my makeup in a different 263 00:21:41.119 --> 00:21:44.839 way? Do I need to learn how to do my hair in a different 264 00:21:44.880 --> 00:21:47.599 way, in a way that makes me feel like me in a way that 265 00:21:47.640 --> 00:21:52.240 makes me feel good? Step two is where's my mindset at? Am I 266 00:21:52.359 --> 00:21:55.960 telling myself that I suck that everyone's better than me? Or am I deciding 267 00:21:56.000 --> 00:22:00.079 that I am the hawk girl and so I'm gonna show up as her by 268 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:03.440 deciding that I am the most magnetic version of me. I want you to 269 00:22:03.480 --> 00:22:08.920 take a second and just think, just think about what does my most magnetic 270 00:22:10.000 --> 00:22:14.440 self walk like, what does she talk like? What is she dress like? 271 00:22:15.279 --> 00:22:18.440 What does she show up as? How does she interact with other people? 272 00:22:19.200 --> 00:22:25.799 That's the blueprint. Just start following that blueprint and them you are her. 273 00:22:26.759 --> 00:22:29.839 Just follow the blueprint and show up as her, and there you go. 274 00:22:30.480 --> 00:22:37.279 Point three is affirmations. Now when you're going out this past hollowekend, 275 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:40.720 it was a full moon and a lunar eclipse. So I told my friend 276 00:22:40.759 --> 00:22:45.960 Sophia. I told her we gotta do affirmations over any shot that we take, 277 00:22:47.440 --> 00:22:51.119 any alcoholic drink. I'm drinking, I am praying over it, I 278 00:22:51.160 --> 00:22:56.200 am setting intentions over it, because girl, it's a day of releasing, 279 00:22:56.240 --> 00:23:02.000 it's a day of change. So we literally did positive affirmations over our shots. 280 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:04.000 We said, this is gonna be an amazing magnetic night. We're gonna 281 00:23:04.000 --> 00:23:08.279 have so much fun. We look so beautiful, we are feeling so great 282 00:23:08.359 --> 00:23:14.079 about ourselves, and we just did that number one. This makes your night 283 00:23:14.200 --> 00:23:18.039 so much more fun because you and your friend are entering the sisterhood or brotherhood, 284 00:23:18.119 --> 00:23:22.960 humanhood. I don't care. Okay, you're entering in together. And 285 00:23:22.079 --> 00:23:27.319 if you think about it, when someone takes a shot usually they're not doing 286 00:23:27.359 --> 00:23:33.599 it alone. If you are, DM me, let's talk about that. 287 00:23:33.279 --> 00:23:37.960 But usually when people are doing a shot at a pregame, at a party, 288 00:23:37.000 --> 00:23:41.200 at a bar, they're doing it with another person or in a group 289 00:23:41.240 --> 00:23:45.440 of people. Is this not a sacred ceremony? I don't care if it's 290 00:23:45.480 --> 00:23:51.920 alcohol or not. Think about it. It's a group of people setting intentions, 291 00:23:52.079 --> 00:23:56.720 speaking over what they're about to ingest. That's a ceremony. What are 292 00:23:56.759 --> 00:24:00.160 you in putting into your drinks? What are you saying over what you're putting 293 00:24:00.200 --> 00:24:07.039 into your body? Because that's going to affect you. Doctor Emoto prove this. 294 00:24:07.599 --> 00:24:11.480 He froze water and took pictures of this water. He puts some water 295 00:24:11.720 --> 00:24:18.160 in glasses that said love and beauty and thank you, And then he puts 296 00:24:18.160 --> 00:24:22.039 some water in glasses that said hatred, anger, other negative words. And 297 00:24:22.160 --> 00:24:26.200 after he froze the water and looked at it under a microscope, he saw 298 00:24:26.519 --> 00:24:33.240 that the water he set positive intentions over and said positive words over had beautiful, 299 00:24:33.400 --> 00:24:37.960 crystal like structures. The water in the cups that had negative words on 300 00:24:37.039 --> 00:24:45.920 them had these really grotesque, weird patterns. What you say to the drinks, 301 00:24:45.039 --> 00:24:51.160 to your food, anything you're ingesting will change you on a cellular level. 302 00:24:52.119 --> 00:24:55.599 So if you were going to be drinking, I don't care what you're 303 00:24:55.680 --> 00:25:00.119 drinking, what you're ingesting, you better be speaking light and life over it 304 00:25:00.160 --> 00:25:04.720 because that's going to affect you subconsciously and energetically. And that's something easy you 305 00:25:04.759 --> 00:25:10.160 can do anywhere, and it's fun. Make it a sacred sister ceremony and 306 00:25:10.240 --> 00:25:17.519 speak life over your drinks. Now let's get into the night, shall we, 307 00:25:17.759 --> 00:25:22.240 Because there are some things that happened, and I just love sharing these 308 00:25:22.279 --> 00:25:26.720 results with you because they just get better and better and better. Me and 309 00:25:26.799 --> 00:25:30.480 my friend Sophia, we were with a group of people and we went out 310 00:25:30.519 --> 00:25:33.799 and we were at this one bar and the bar was fun. We stayed 311 00:25:33.799 --> 00:25:37.640 there for a little bit, but then we thought, you know, let's 312 00:25:37.680 --> 00:25:41.119 change this up. Let's go to a different bar. Let's change the scenery. 313 00:25:41.240 --> 00:25:45.440 So we did, and the original bar we wanted to get into there 314 00:25:45.519 --> 00:25:48.880 was a line of at least fifty people, so the group didn't want to 315 00:25:48.920 --> 00:25:53.279 go there, but me and Sophia, as we walked around, we passed 316 00:25:53.279 --> 00:25:59.000 this bar that had fifty people waiting on the line at least and I said, 317 00:25:59.079 --> 00:26:02.440 what if we just ask to get in? What if we just go 318 00:26:02.559 --> 00:26:04.920 up to the bouncer and say, can we get in? Is there a 319 00:26:04.920 --> 00:26:11.240 whole entire line? Yes, but maybe that would work, And we're not 320 00:26:11.240 --> 00:26:15.920 doing harm to anyone. We're just using our free will and asking for exactly 321 00:26:15.960 --> 00:26:19.160 what we want. If you think about how manifestation works, you have to 322 00:26:19.279 --> 00:26:23.720 ask in order to receive. So I said, why not ask? And 323 00:26:23.759 --> 00:26:27.680 she's down for anything, So of course she says, yes, the squeaky 324 00:26:27.720 --> 00:26:33.720 wheel really does get the grease. So we go up to the bouncer and 325 00:26:33.759 --> 00:26:37.640 we say can we get in? Someone happened to be leaving the bar at 326 00:26:37.680 --> 00:26:41.480 the exact time that we said that, and it was this other dude and 327 00:26:41.559 --> 00:26:47.400 he said something really inappropriate, And when he said that, I was like, 328 00:26:48.039 --> 00:26:52.160 you know what, I don't want to go here anymore. That's gross, 329 00:26:52.400 --> 00:26:55.440 not into it. I'm getting out of here. So we start walking 330 00:26:55.480 --> 00:26:59.880 away and then the bouncer screams at us, and the guy screams, backway, 331 00:27:00.880 --> 00:27:02.880 come back, come back. We're sorry, We're sorry. It was 332 00:27:02.960 --> 00:27:06.559 just a joke, come back, and it wasn't an insult, but it 333 00:27:06.640 --> 00:27:10.000 was just inappropriate and uncalled for. And I don't care if you're drunk. 334 00:27:10.079 --> 00:27:14.480 Don't ever speak to me like that. And so they called us back, 335 00:27:14.759 --> 00:27:17.839 and the bouncer, who didn't say anything, he was just a kind soul, 336 00:27:18.160 --> 00:27:19.599 was like, yes, come on in, don't worry about it. 337 00:27:21.400 --> 00:27:22.640 Sorry about that dude, And I was like, no, no problem. 338 00:27:23.400 --> 00:27:27.000 So we go in and obviously we have the night of our lives like it 339 00:27:27.039 --> 00:27:33.359 was so much fun. This is what I want to explain to you about 340 00:27:33.400 --> 00:27:37.279 that circumstance, because there's truly medicine and everything. I went up to that 341 00:27:37.400 --> 00:27:41.759 bouncer and I said, can we get it. The guy happens to be 342 00:27:41.799 --> 00:27:47.240 walking out and says something really inappropriate. If I were to play into that 343 00:27:47.359 --> 00:27:51.880 inappropriate comment, that would have been selling myself short. That would have been 344 00:27:51.920 --> 00:27:56.880 me trying to prove myself worthy through something inappropriate. It kind of reminds me, 345 00:27:56.960 --> 00:28:00.359 and I hate this term, but it kind of reminds me of a 346 00:28:00.440 --> 00:28:03.519 pick me moment. If I was to play into his inappropriate comment because he 347 00:28:03.559 --> 00:28:07.440 thought he was being all funny, that would have been me trying to be 348 00:28:07.519 --> 00:28:10.559 a pick me baby. No, okay, I don't need you to pick 349 00:28:10.599 --> 00:28:14.000 me because I pick me every single day. If you don't want to let 350 00:28:14.000 --> 00:28:18.920 me into this bar. There's fifteen others I'll walk into. That's this bar's 351 00:28:18.119 --> 00:28:25.759 loss. The fact that I did not play into that guy's comment and I 352 00:28:25.839 --> 00:28:29.359 stayed on my own pedestal. I was not needing them to let me into 353 00:28:29.400 --> 00:28:33.000 this bar. That was the exact reason that I got into the bar, 354 00:28:33.079 --> 00:28:36.960 and I was able to cut the whole entire line. That was the exact 355 00:28:37.759 --> 00:28:42.720 reason. I am not going to attach my worth to you letting me into 356 00:28:42.759 --> 00:28:48.359 this bar or not. I don't care. I don't care enough. I 357 00:28:48.400 --> 00:28:53.440 don't care enough. I don't This is a thing we manifest what we really 358 00:28:53.440 --> 00:28:59.680 really really want and what we really really really really don't want. If I 359 00:28:59.720 --> 00:29:06.440 am to be begging and pleading and trying to prove myself worthy and playing into 360 00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:10.799 that pigmy energy and laughing at an inappropriate joke that's not funny, Sorry, 361 00:29:10.920 --> 00:29:14.400 get a new sense of humor, if I was to do that, and 362 00:29:14.440 --> 00:29:18.000 I would have been manifesting a scenario where I don't feel worthy enough to stand 363 00:29:18.079 --> 00:29:23.400 up for myself. I chose me, because that's the thing. When you 364 00:29:23.519 --> 00:29:27.599 choose you, other people will choose you too. When I chose me, 365 00:29:30.240 --> 00:29:33.599 the bouncer chose me too when I chose me. Even the guy who made 366 00:29:33.640 --> 00:29:37.119 the dumb joke chose me too. Not interested, But I can understand why 367 00:29:37.160 --> 00:29:41.759 you would choose me. I don't need to chase this bouncer energetically or this 368 00:29:41.839 --> 00:29:47.680 person, whoever they may be. I don't need to bring something to the 369 00:29:47.720 --> 00:29:52.039 table. I am the table. I am the table, so you don't 370 00:29:52.079 --> 00:29:57.680 want to let me in? Okay, This brings me to my next point 371 00:29:59.279 --> 00:30:03.559 point five, which is don't take things so seriously. I think a lot 372 00:30:03.599 --> 00:30:08.079 of us can get really offended, and if we're easily offended, that means 373 00:30:08.079 --> 00:30:15.720 we're all so easily manipulated and easily knocked off our own pedestal. I'm not 374 00:30:15.799 --> 00:30:18.119 going to be offended if you don't let me into this bar because you don't 375 00:30:18.160 --> 00:30:22.359 determine my worth. I'm not going to be offended if someone in the bar 376 00:30:22.400 --> 00:30:27.119 doesn't find me attractive because you don't define my worth. I do. I 377 00:30:27.200 --> 00:30:32.440 know the effort I put into myself, my healing, my body, my 378 00:30:32.599 --> 00:30:36.519 energy. I prove to myself every single day that I'm worthy of the things 379 00:30:36.519 --> 00:30:40.039 that I want. I don't need some random to prove that to me too. 380 00:30:40.720 --> 00:30:44.920 I'm not attached to you, random person, and I don't need you 381 00:30:45.000 --> 00:30:48.920 to tell me what I already know about myself. What I do in private 382 00:30:49.039 --> 00:30:55.160 shows in the public electromagnetic field that we all reside in. What I do 383 00:30:55.240 --> 00:30:59.039 in private, the work that I do shows in my energy in public. 384 00:30:59.319 --> 00:31:03.599 Whether people register that consciously or not, they want me around, They're interested 385 00:31:03.640 --> 00:31:04.799 in me, and they're gonna come up to me. We don't want to 386 00:31:04.799 --> 00:31:10.279 take things too seriously. We don't want to take things personally. We want 387 00:31:10.279 --> 00:31:14.480 to take things vibrationally. If I was not let into this bar, it 388 00:31:14.480 --> 00:31:18.519 could have been a couple of different energetic reasons. Maybe this bar was in 389 00:31:18.559 --> 00:31:21.599 a lower vibration than me, and I would have hated it and it would 390 00:31:21.640 --> 00:31:25.039 have been a waste of my time. Maybe something could have happened that would 391 00:31:25.079 --> 00:31:30.279 have negatively affected me. Or maybe I just wasn't in my magnetic power. 392 00:31:30.359 --> 00:31:33.039 Maybe I wasn't on my pedestal. I'm telling you, if I would have 393 00:31:33.160 --> 00:31:37.400 played into that joke, that inappropriate joke, the guy would not have let 394 00:31:37.480 --> 00:31:41.559 us in because that would immediately be me placing him on my pedestal, trying 395 00:31:41.559 --> 00:31:44.680 to prove my work, trying to make a seat at the table. When 396 00:31:44.680 --> 00:31:48.279 I am the table, I am not starving for whatever it is you have, 397 00:31:48.680 --> 00:31:53.920 and therefore I'm always fed. I'm always provided for because I'm never starving 398 00:31:53.960 --> 00:31:59.920 for anything because I'm giving it to myself. And that is an energetic law 399 00:32:00.240 --> 00:32:02.880 that you need to understand for you to get the results that you want. 400 00:32:04.240 --> 00:32:07.720 If you need their validation, you need their affection, you need their attention, 401 00:32:07.799 --> 00:32:09.559 you need them to let you into the bar, your life is gonna 402 00:32:09.559 --> 00:32:14.160 be a lot harder, there's gonna be a lot more resistance. But when 403 00:32:14.200 --> 00:32:16.799 you don't need it, but you'll take it, you'll be fine with it. 404 00:32:16.880 --> 00:32:22.440 But you already have your own table. That's when you get the results 405 00:32:22.480 --> 00:32:29.759 that you want. That's why how you dress your makeup, your mindset, 406 00:32:29.880 --> 00:32:36.640 turning her on, the affirmations over the drinks, the going out and asking 407 00:32:36.680 --> 00:32:39.920 for what it is you want against wiki wheel gets to the grease, and 408 00:32:39.960 --> 00:32:44.160 then understanding it's not personal, don't take it so, don't take it so 409 00:32:44.279 --> 00:32:47.559 serious, take it vibrational. Understand where you're at. All of these things 410 00:32:47.640 --> 00:32:52.240 add up to you being your most magnetic self, which adds up to you 411 00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:55.359 feeling your best, feeling whole and then you get better results. It's really 412 00:32:55.480 --> 00:33:01.160 not about the external result. It can be partly about that. Of course, 413 00:33:01.200 --> 00:33:05.200 you want the best results, duh. But really, when you're in 414 00:33:05.240 --> 00:33:07.559 this magnetic energy and you're getting the results you want, you just feel so 415 00:33:07.640 --> 00:33:13.319 much better about yourself. You feel good because you've been priming yourself all day 416 00:33:14.119 --> 00:33:19.000 and now the result is the cherry on top of the cake. We all 417 00:33:19.039 --> 00:33:22.960 want to feel good, So when you're trying to get something that you want 418 00:33:22.359 --> 00:33:25.880 from another person, make them feel good too. When I went up to 419 00:33:25.920 --> 00:33:29.720 the bouncer, I wasn't like, you better let me in. Do you 420 00:33:29.799 --> 00:33:32.319 know who I am. I'm not gonna threaten this man's life. I did 421 00:33:32.440 --> 00:33:37.200 not come here to do that. I'm not going to put my fangs into 422 00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:40.400 you and make you see my worth. No, you either see it or 423 00:33:40.440 --> 00:33:45.720 you don't. Not everyone understands the cost of a Chanelle bag. Not everyone 424 00:33:45.759 --> 00:33:50.480 has good taste. That's not my fault. So what I like to say 425 00:33:51.000 --> 00:33:55.200 is everyone wants to feel good. If you're trying to get something, make 426 00:33:55.240 --> 00:33:59.319 them feel good. I was trying to get into this bar or this club, 427 00:33:59.359 --> 00:34:02.480 whatever the hell is. All I did was nicely ask, hey, 428 00:34:02.599 --> 00:34:07.680 can we get in. I'm not demanding, I'm not mean, I'm not 429 00:34:07.839 --> 00:34:12.559 crude like that man coming out of the bar, just kind, just nice, 430 00:34:12.920 --> 00:34:17.719 just on my pedestal. He wants to feel good like he's the big 431 00:34:17.800 --> 00:34:22.239 man in town. Letting a girl in who asks kindly, he gets an 432 00:34:22.280 --> 00:34:25.840 ego boost. I get in. We all get to get what we want. 433 00:34:27.280 --> 00:34:30.440 This brings me to point number six. Baby girlies, listen up when 434 00:34:30.480 --> 00:34:39.679 I say it is always, always, always frequency over force, frequency over 435 00:34:39.920 --> 00:34:45.440 force. Do not try to force people to understand you, to like you, 436 00:34:45.559 --> 00:34:51.880 to get you to know you. No, do not force anything, 437 00:34:51.880 --> 00:34:58.360 because trying to force is so three D based when what we need for real 438 00:34:58.519 --> 00:35:01.159 change is our frequency to shift. If I was to go up to this 439 00:35:01.239 --> 00:35:05.519 bouncer and try to force him to let me into the club, the bar 440 00:35:05.920 --> 00:35:09.119 again, whatever it is, that one went well, no, because force 441 00:35:09.199 --> 00:35:15.559 doesn't work. You can't force a horse to drink water. You can't force 442 00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:20.719 a horse to drink water. You can make that horse thirsty. Getting people 443 00:35:20.800 --> 00:35:23.559 obsessed with you is not about forcing them, because what is sexy about that? 444 00:35:23.639 --> 00:35:28.719 But nothing. It's about inspiring them. When are we most likely to 445 00:35:28.719 --> 00:35:30.559 make a change in our life either when we're in so much pain that we 446 00:35:30.599 --> 00:35:35.760 can't stand it anymore, or we're inspired to do so. When you want 447 00:35:35.800 --> 00:35:37.360 people obsessed with you, this is not something you force, it's something you 448 00:35:37.440 --> 00:35:43.519 inspire within them. I have so much fun on my own that it inspires 449 00:35:43.559 --> 00:35:50.199 people to gravitate towards me. I inspired that bouncer to let me in by 450 00:35:50.239 --> 00:35:53.320 staying on my own pedestal, walking away when the person made the inappropriate joke 451 00:35:53.400 --> 00:35:57.880 showing I don't need this, I don't really care that much, and then 452 00:35:57.920 --> 00:36:02.280 coming back when they were kind again and going in. Inspire people, do 453 00:36:02.320 --> 00:36:06.800 not force them. How do you inspire people? You think of your most 454 00:36:06.800 --> 00:36:09.559 magnetic self, You show up as her, you embody that you go out. 455 00:36:09.639 --> 00:36:13.679 You set the intention to have fun. You do not set the intention 456 00:36:13.800 --> 00:36:15.760 I need them to buy me a drink. I need them to do that. 457 00:36:15.159 --> 00:36:17.599 If I have the intention of oh my god, I need this bouncer 458 00:36:17.599 --> 00:36:20.840 to let me in. I need someone to buy me a drink. That's 459 00:36:20.880 --> 00:36:23.679 not magnetic. That is you needing something outside of yourself. That's you chasing 460 00:36:24.039 --> 00:36:29.880 other people who you don't even know. No, you inspire other people by 461 00:36:29.960 --> 00:36:31.920 going on the dance floor, by having fun, by hanging out with your 462 00:36:31.960 --> 00:36:36.599 friend, if you need to go into a bar and buy your first drink 463 00:36:36.679 --> 00:36:40.000 yourself, just to inspire that energy of I don't need anyone right now, 464 00:36:42.280 --> 00:36:45.199 do it. Do what you need to do, dance the buggaloo. It's 465 00:36:45.239 --> 00:36:50.199 all gonna be fine. But when you're trying to force things, you step 466 00:36:50.199 --> 00:36:52.920 into your masculine energy. You now become the chaser. And remember there can 467 00:36:53.039 --> 00:36:58.280 only ever be one chaser, because if someone was chasing you, you wouldn't 468 00:36:58.280 --> 00:37:00.280 turn around and start chasing them back. No, run in the opposite direction. 469 00:37:01.000 --> 00:37:04.760 What the heck, man, why are you chasing me? Think about 470 00:37:04.800 --> 00:37:07.760 it like this, because that's what it is. Number seven Lucky. Number 471 00:37:07.800 --> 00:37:12.679 seven brings me to my very own dessert principle. Now, I created this 472 00:37:12.719 --> 00:37:20.519 principle because I'm tired of seeing the best of intentions going in the wrong direction. 473 00:37:21.159 --> 00:37:23.360 Because what do we want? We want connection, we want love, 474 00:37:23.400 --> 00:37:28.960 we want to feel good. It's pretty simple. But what happens is we 475 00:37:29.000 --> 00:37:31.400 go out, we give too much of ourselves, we energetically chase, and 476 00:37:31.480 --> 00:37:37.920 all of that goes down the toilet. Our intentions are now skewed. The 477 00:37:38.000 --> 00:37:44.199 dessert principle. Let me explain it. If I were to buy you a 478 00:37:44.239 --> 00:37:46.880 birthday cake, and it was the most expensive birthday cake. It was the 479 00:37:47.000 --> 00:37:52.920 nicest cake, but you ate the whole entire cake, you would get sick. 480 00:37:53.039 --> 00:37:57.159 That doesn't take away from the cake's value. It was really expensive. 481 00:37:57.239 --> 00:38:00.400 It was made by the best baker in town. It was a great cake. 482 00:38:00.719 --> 00:38:02.880 But because you ate too much of it, you got sick of it. 483 00:38:04.199 --> 00:38:07.400 Anyway, and now anytime you think of the cake, or any cake 484 00:38:07.440 --> 00:38:08.559 in general, you're like, oh, I can't even think about it because 485 00:38:08.559 --> 00:38:13.960 it made me so sick last time. Now apply this to energy. When 486 00:38:14.000 --> 00:38:17.440 you give too much of you your cake away, your energy, your time, 487 00:38:17.519 --> 00:38:22.840 your presence, your body to someone, it makes them energetically sick. 488 00:38:22.280 --> 00:38:25.960 Not because you don't have value, not because you're not amazing, not because 489 00:38:27.000 --> 00:38:30.360 you're not the best baker in town, but because you simply gave too much 490 00:38:30.400 --> 00:38:34.599 of yourself away. That makes them energetically sick. And now every time they 491 00:38:34.639 --> 00:38:37.360 think of the energy you bring, it makes them feel sick and they repel 492 00:38:37.360 --> 00:38:45.519 in the opposite direction. So what do we do? Stop giving so much 493 00:38:45.599 --> 00:38:50.760 of yourself? A way, stop it. If you wouldn't give them your 494 00:38:50.840 --> 00:38:53.480 keys, do not give them your body. If you would not give them 495 00:38:53.519 --> 00:38:59.440 your number. Stop giving them all of your attention. What are we doing? 496 00:39:00.159 --> 00:39:04.559 What are we doing? You giving all of yourself to someone who you 497 00:39:04.559 --> 00:39:07.639 don't even think really likes you. That's not going to make you feel good. 498 00:39:07.920 --> 00:39:13.119 You giving all of yourself to someone way too soon is not going to 499 00:39:13.159 --> 00:39:16.440 make you feel good. You're now taking on their energy, their entities, 500 00:39:16.599 --> 00:39:20.800 their trauma subconsciously. You don't even know you're doing this. Then you're feeling 501 00:39:20.840 --> 00:39:24.840 negatively about yourself. And then this is a spiraling cycle that continues and continues 502 00:39:24.920 --> 00:39:28.400 because then you say, well, I need another dopamine rush. Oh let 503 00:39:28.400 --> 00:39:30.920 me give my whole entire self to someone else. Oh no, now I 504 00:39:30.920 --> 00:39:32.000 feel bad again. What do I do? Oh? Let me find someone 505 00:39:32.000 --> 00:39:37.119 else? No, no, Stop getting underneath people and get into yourself instead, 506 00:39:37.599 --> 00:39:39.880 because that's what's going to shift your energy. That's what's going to make 507 00:39:39.880 --> 00:39:44.639 you feel good. That's what's going to put you into your power. It's 508 00:39:44.679 --> 00:39:49.119 not being with a bunch of random people you never speak to again. That 509 00:39:49.280 --> 00:39:54.679 is the biggest lie we've been sold. Who came up with that? I 510 00:39:54.719 --> 00:40:00.679 don't understand that. We talk about fighting the patriarchy. Oh so the way 511 00:40:00.719 --> 00:40:06.960 to fight the patriarchy is you become more like the men in it that we're 512 00:40:07.000 --> 00:40:14.880 trying to take down. That makes no sense. Stop giving all of yourself 513 00:40:14.960 --> 00:40:19.239 to other people. That means sharing your whole entire life with someone you don't 514 00:40:19.280 --> 00:40:22.360 know. It means giving them your body, your energy, your presence, 515 00:40:22.400 --> 00:40:25.760 your time, It means it all. It's everything. If you want to 516 00:40:25.760 --> 00:40:29.519 hang out and talk to someone at a bar and do it how fun again, 517 00:40:29.559 --> 00:40:32.079 don't take it so seriously. Enjoy life. You came here to learn 518 00:40:32.119 --> 00:40:37.000 and develop, grown, have fun, to feel good, to create happiness. 519 00:40:37.000 --> 00:40:39.960 So do that. If you're obsessed with someone and you just met them, 520 00:40:40.280 --> 00:40:45.360 you're romanticizing them, no doubt in my mind, because there's no way 521 00:40:45.480 --> 00:40:50.519 in heaven that you could be obsessed with someone and you just met them. 522 00:40:50.599 --> 00:40:52.639 You don't know enough. And if you're obsessed with them, it means you're 523 00:40:52.679 --> 00:40:58.119 filling in their blanks with your own fantasies. So reel it back in and 524 00:40:58.159 --> 00:41:00.800 refocus on you, Focus on you, so you can see them for how 525 00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:04.960 they really are, for who they're really showing up as, instead of your 526 00:41:05.079 --> 00:41:08.719 romanticized version in your head because you got too excited. When you get too 527 00:41:08.760 --> 00:41:15.639 excited and you feel in their silence with your imagination, you are more likely 528 00:41:15.679 --> 00:41:20.440 to energetically chase them now because you've created this amazing version in your head that 529 00:41:20.519 --> 00:41:23.519 they could never even live up to. So if you're obsessing over them, 530 00:41:23.559 --> 00:41:28.079 you got to ask yourself, is this who they really are? Are they 531 00:41:28.159 --> 00:41:31.280 actually showing up like this? Are they actually speaking these words? Or am 532 00:41:31.280 --> 00:41:36.400 I romanticizing them? Are their actions and words aligning? Are the words and 533 00:41:36.480 --> 00:41:39.599 actions aligning? Or am I filling in their blanks with my own fantasies, 534 00:41:39.840 --> 00:41:45.719 hopes, desires and dreams. No one on this planet is worth you giving 535 00:41:45.800 --> 00:41:50.639 up your whole entire self for upon just meeting them. And if they're for 536 00:41:50.960 --> 00:41:54.840 you, they're not going to make it a requirement that you are intimate with 537 00:41:54.880 --> 00:41:58.559 them right off the bat. They're not going to make it a requirement that 538 00:41:58.599 --> 00:42:01.760 you tell them everything about yourself ever, right off the bat. Give yourself 539 00:42:01.800 --> 00:42:06.719 time and space to see if you even like this person. Give yourself time 540 00:42:06.760 --> 00:42:09.719 and space to see if you even resonate with this person. What's the rush? 541 00:42:09.760 --> 00:42:13.840 If you're gonna be with this person forever, what is the rush? 542 00:42:15.039 --> 00:42:17.760 I don't see one, and frankly, I don't want someone's rusty, dusty 543 00:42:17.840 --> 00:42:22.000 energy on me that I don't even know. It's not a prize to be 544 00:42:22.159 --> 00:42:28.000 intimate with someone because everyone's doing it, everyone's doing everything. It's not special, 545 00:42:28.079 --> 00:42:30.679 it's not a prize. It's not interesting. It's the most basic thing 546 00:42:30.760 --> 00:42:34.639 we can do. It's the least interesting thing we can do, is be 547 00:42:34.679 --> 00:42:37.400 intimate with a bunch of different people. We're taking on their negative energy. 548 00:42:37.400 --> 00:42:40.320 We're taking on the thoughts they have about us. If they don't think that 549 00:42:40.360 --> 00:42:45.039 we are this fantastic woman, we're now taking on their thoughts about us. 550 00:42:45.320 --> 00:42:50.960 We're internalizing that. It just does so much more harm than good. Why 551 00:42:51.039 --> 00:42:53.679 not give yourself time and space to see if you actually like someone. Part 552 00:42:53.840 --> 00:43:01.679 of the dessert principle is raising your standard and lowering your acceptance rate. A 553 00:43:01.719 --> 00:43:07.679 lot of people are going to tell you lower your standard now, why? 554 00:43:08.079 --> 00:43:12.920 Why so we can let people in who we're going to end up resenting and 555 00:43:12.960 --> 00:43:19.440 not liking anyway, what's the point of that? There is none. Raise 556 00:43:19.480 --> 00:43:24.840 your standard and apply it to yourself. Whatever I require of other people, 557 00:43:25.000 --> 00:43:30.000 I also require of myself. Raise your standard. Don't just give your energy 558 00:43:30.039 --> 00:43:34.639 to anyone and everyone. Don't just give your body to everyone and anyone, 559 00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:37.400 because why when we do that, we make people energetically sick anyway, and 560 00:43:37.400 --> 00:43:43.159 they repel. Raise your standard for what it is that you desire in life, 561 00:43:43.199 --> 00:43:47.000 apply it to yourself, or at least be the compliment of what it 562 00:43:47.039 --> 00:43:52.119 is you desire. Step two of this is lower your acceptance rate. Stop 563 00:43:52.239 --> 00:43:57.159 allowing the bs, stop allowing people to come in and out of your life. 564 00:43:57.159 --> 00:44:00.559 Whatever you allow, you amplify. If you keep allowing people to do 565 00:44:00.599 --> 00:44:02.519 whatever they want, they're going to keep doing whatever they want. If you 566 00:44:02.559 --> 00:44:06.760 don't put yourself on the pedestal. Law correspondence, they're not going to put 567 00:44:06.760 --> 00:44:08.719 you on a pedestal either. When I was outside of that bar and that 568 00:44:08.920 --> 00:44:15.159 man said a weirdo comment, I don't accept that. Why because I'm on 569 00:44:15.199 --> 00:44:20.079 my own pedestal. And again, because I chose myself in the moment, 570 00:44:20.199 --> 00:44:25.599 so did they and their energy. Their perception of me changed immediately because they 571 00:44:25.679 --> 00:44:30.159 knew what I was about in that moment. I don't accept that. No, 572 00:44:30.840 --> 00:44:35.880 try again, because that's not going to fly over here. Lower your 573 00:44:36.119 --> 00:44:43.400 acceptance rate. Colleges like Harvard and Yale and all these schools, they have 574 00:44:43.519 --> 00:44:49.800 very low acceptance rates. It's hard to get into those colleges. It's also 575 00:44:49.880 --> 00:44:52.599 difficult to get in and stay in my life if you're going to be acting 576 00:44:52.679 --> 00:44:57.719 up. Because I know whatever I allow, I amplify. So raise your 577 00:44:57.840 --> 00:45:02.159 standard for what you require, lower your acceptance rate, lower the amount of 578 00:45:02.280 --> 00:45:07.239 BS you're accepting into your life, and I promise you better vibrational connections will 579 00:45:07.239 --> 00:45:12.760 come in. Because I have a little, little, little, little little 580 00:45:12.840 --> 00:45:16.320 acceptance rate for BS, I don't deal with it. You want to say 581 00:45:16.320 --> 00:45:22.880 something, no hard pass and suddenly the BS goes away and I get exactly 582 00:45:22.960 --> 00:45:24.679 what I want because I stay on my own pedestal. I stay in my 583 00:45:24.719 --> 00:45:29.559 magnetic energy. And that's what it's about. Even when people out there are 584 00:45:29.679 --> 00:45:32.800 acting up. You stay true to you, Even when people out there are 585 00:45:32.840 --> 00:45:39.079 doing some little kraigkra you stay on your pedestal. We do not alter ourselves 586 00:45:39.199 --> 00:45:45.000 because of these other people. I think there's a whole entire sentiment of you 587 00:45:45.039 --> 00:45:49.320 should give back whatever energy people are giving to you. I get that, 588 00:45:49.880 --> 00:45:52.599 But to me, I'm not going to lower myself because you're in a bad 589 00:45:52.679 --> 00:45:58.800 vibration. No things. I'm busy, I'm busy flying high. If you 590 00:45:58.840 --> 00:46:00.440 want to act up if you want to, we're your own vibration. I 591 00:46:00.519 --> 00:46:06.280 don't care like that is your own stuff. I don't know. Maybe you 592 00:46:06.320 --> 00:46:09.639 need a karmic lesson. Don't know. That's not my business. My business 593 00:46:09.679 --> 00:46:14.880 is remaining on my own pedestal. And how do I do that. I 594 00:46:14.960 --> 00:46:17.639 listen to the dessert principle. I have a high standard and a low acceptance 595 00:46:17.719 --> 00:46:22.519 rate. I don't change because you're gonna act a little cray cray. I 596 00:46:22.559 --> 00:46:25.440 stay true to my values. And because I do that, I align with 597 00:46:25.519 --> 00:46:30.000 people who see those values within me and treat me as such. As soon 598 00:46:30.039 --> 00:46:35.079 as they knew I'm not going to take that, they saw me on my 599 00:46:35.159 --> 00:46:37.199 pedestal and they said, who whoa, whoa, we gotta let this girl 600 00:46:37.199 --> 00:46:38.880 in. We're gonna let her in. Fact, cut this whole entire line 601 00:46:38.880 --> 00:46:42.119 of fifty people, which I'm so sorry if you were on that line, 602 00:46:42.119 --> 00:46:45.599 by the way, I just I couldn't do it. I couldn't do it, 603 00:46:45.639 --> 00:46:50.039 and I had to put my magnetic powers to the test once again. 604 00:46:50.320 --> 00:46:52.639 How do you remain on your own pedestal? That brings us to number eight. 605 00:46:54.360 --> 00:46:59.119 I used to go out and I would do something I called body bouncing, 606 00:46:59.360 --> 00:47:02.880 which means I would be talking to someone and immediately jump to their perception 607 00:47:02.960 --> 00:47:07.159 of how are they seeing me? Do they like me? What are they 608 00:47:07.199 --> 00:47:09.119 into? What should I say right now? How do I manipulate myself so 609 00:47:09.199 --> 00:47:15.280 they like me? This is called body bouncing when you're switching your perception for 610 00:47:15.400 --> 00:47:19.159 theirs and seeing you from their point of view rather than seeing yourself from your 611 00:47:19.159 --> 00:47:22.880 own point of view. How do you put yourself back on your own pedestal? 612 00:47:22.119 --> 00:47:25.280 One way is to just start dancing. Go on the dance floor, 613 00:47:25.320 --> 00:47:29.360 because dancing will help you get out of your head and inch your body. 614 00:47:29.840 --> 00:47:34.840 Who cares what it looks like. I always enter messy makeup mode. My 615 00:47:35.000 --> 00:47:37.599 eyeliner dripping down my face, it looks like I just showered, my hair 616 00:47:37.679 --> 00:47:40.400 is wet. I don't care. I'm going to dance the night away. 617 00:47:40.519 --> 00:47:43.880 I'm going to dance the night away because I came here for me. I 618 00:47:43.960 --> 00:47:46.360 intended to have fun, and my fun is my responsibility, So I'm going 619 00:47:46.400 --> 00:47:52.039 to go do that. Dancing is a beautiful way to stop giving your focus 620 00:47:52.039 --> 00:47:54.599 and attention to some random person or even who you're there with, and to 621 00:47:54.679 --> 00:48:00.079 refocus on you, to listen to music you like to feel into your b 622 00:48:00.719 --> 00:48:04.920 Another way is to simply ask yourself, am I even enjoying this conversation right 623 00:48:04.960 --> 00:48:08.119 now? Do I need another drink? Am I drinking too much? Do 624 00:48:08.159 --> 00:48:10.320 I need to go to the bathroom? Where are my friends right now? 625 00:48:10.599 --> 00:48:15.559 Check in with your senses, Check in with how you're feeling. If we're 626 00:48:15.719 --> 00:48:19.719 used to constantly checking in on how other people are feeling, we're used to 627 00:48:19.719 --> 00:48:22.559 constantly checking in with how other people are perceiving us. We get really good 628 00:48:22.599 --> 00:48:28.480 at that, and it's very likely that we're going to body bounce. But 629 00:48:28.559 --> 00:48:32.280 if we're body bouncing, that means we're chasing their perception, pedestaling their perception, 630 00:48:32.519 --> 00:48:37.880 instead of just being in our own body and being magnetic. I think 631 00:48:37.880 --> 00:48:44.000 a huge part of magnetic energy is feeling like, well, you can't really 632 00:48:44.119 --> 00:48:47.159 take anything away from me, because I'm not going to let you. I 633 00:48:47.239 --> 00:48:51.760 know myself, I know what I deserve. I am the whole table. 634 00:48:51.800 --> 00:48:55.519 Hell, I'm a five course meal personified. You can't take that from me. 635 00:48:57.159 --> 00:49:00.519 When you know that you have this power, which we you all have, 636 00:49:00.639 --> 00:49:02.239 you just have to tap into it. When you know you have this 637 00:49:02.400 --> 00:49:07.679 power, you're not easily manipulated. You're not easily offended. You're just like, 638 00:49:08.119 --> 00:49:10.599 yeah, I'm not gonna say this too seriously. I'm gonna go with 639 00:49:10.639 --> 00:49:15.960 the flow because all that's happening is happening for me. So if this isn't 640 00:49:15.960 --> 00:49:20.000 the place for me to be, there's gonna be a better place for me 641 00:49:20.079 --> 00:49:22.000 to be. No one can take my power away from me. I've spent 642 00:49:22.280 --> 00:49:27.639 years cultivating it, and I'm gonna continue to do so. I am committed 643 00:49:27.679 --> 00:49:30.480 to energetic excellence. It's what I do. Baby. But when we feel 644 00:49:30.519 --> 00:49:34.199 like, oh I need their validation, Oh I need them to let me 645 00:49:34.239 --> 00:49:37.880 into this bar, those are all very flimsy things that people can take away 646 00:49:37.880 --> 00:49:39.519 from us. That person doesn't have to let me into the bar. Oh, 647 00:49:39.519 --> 00:49:43.360 they're taking something away from me. That person doesn't have to validate me. 648 00:49:43.360 --> 00:49:45.960 They don't even freaking know me. Oh that's a flimsy thing. They 649 00:49:45.000 --> 00:49:50.079 can take that away from me. You can't take away the power I've cultivated. 650 00:49:50.519 --> 00:49:53.079 Try me, try me, see what happens. You can't do it. 651 00:49:54.280 --> 00:50:00.079 You can't. You simply can't. You can't easily offend me. You 652 00:50:00.119 --> 00:50:05.360 can't take away my power. You cannot validate me in a way that's actually 653 00:50:05.400 --> 00:50:10.559 important to me. If you're a stranger and you cannot affect how I'm going 654 00:50:10.599 --> 00:50:14.639 to show up, because I'm really not gonna take it personally. I'm not 655 00:50:14.679 --> 00:50:17.840 gonna take it seriously, but i will take it vibrationally to help me understand 656 00:50:17.880 --> 00:50:23.239 what's going on below the three D level, because below that surface level is 657 00:50:23.519 --> 00:50:30.199 what is actually dictating your reality. That's why every single point I've mentioned today, 658 00:50:30.519 --> 00:50:34.760 which was one, feeling good in your clothes and your makeup and your 659 00:50:34.800 --> 00:50:37.960 hair, and what are you saying to yourself while you're getting ready? Two 660 00:50:38.119 --> 00:50:43.320 deciding to show up as her, seeing that most magnetic self and becoming her. 661 00:50:43.840 --> 00:50:47.559 Three affirmations for asking for what you want when you go out, take 662 00:50:47.599 --> 00:50:52.639 a healthy risk on yourself while realizing that you're already the table. You don't 663 00:50:52.639 --> 00:50:54.639 have to prove yourself. You don't have to say pick me, pick me, 664 00:50:54.719 --> 00:50:59.760 pick me. Five, not taking life seriously, taking it vibrationally. 665 00:51:00.199 --> 00:51:04.320 Six frequency of our four to seven desert principle. Eight no more body bouncing. 666 00:51:04.760 --> 00:51:08.719 All of these things are about you refocusing on you, what you're doing 667 00:51:08.960 --> 00:51:15.320 energetically, what you're thinking about, what you're feeding yourself. Because all those 668 00:51:15.360 --> 00:51:20.480 things make you you. You are, quite literally a summary of all of 669 00:51:20.519 --> 00:51:24.559 your habits, of all of your thoughts, of all the little energetic priming 670 00:51:24.920 --> 00:51:30.840 activities that you do. You are a summary of that. And when you 671 00:51:30.880 --> 00:51:35.960 work on yourself and you're committed to energetic excellence, no one can take that 672 00:51:36.039 --> 00:51:39.519 away from you. What I want you to understand is you have the power. 673 00:51:39.679 --> 00:51:44.880 You have the capacity to be this most magnetic version of you and get 674 00:51:45.119 --> 00:51:47.519 the attention, the affection, the connection from others if you so choose, 675 00:51:47.599 --> 00:51:51.599 if you so care, if you want it, it's up to you. 676 00:51:51.599 --> 00:51:53.960 You know, build your own life however you want. But if you want 677 00:51:54.000 --> 00:51:59.920 it, here are the tools we don't gate keep around here. We help 678 00:52:00.119 --> 00:52:07.039 fix one another's crowns when they happen to fall. That's how positive bitches treat 679 00:52:07.079 --> 00:52:10.239 one another. I love you so much. I hope this podcast resonated with 680 00:52:10.320 --> 00:52:15.880 you. Share it if you're listening on Instagram so I can reshare it on 681 00:52:15.960 --> 00:52:19.280 my page. Be sure to tag me at Vibe with CC. If you're 682 00:52:19.320 --> 00:52:22.599 interested in one on one coaching, then definitely dm me again at Vibe with 683 00:52:22.679 --> 00:52:28.679 CC. If this podcast resonated with you, share it with a family member 684 00:52:28.719 --> 00:52:32.440 a friend. We can all help one another become more magnetic so we can 685 00:52:32.559 --> 00:52:37.519 change the world. The sparkle in me always honors a sparkle in you. 686 00:52:37.840 --> 00:52:43.400 If you loved this episode, please leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts and 687 00:52:43.480 --> 00:52:45.239 Spotify. It means the world to me and it helps us to reach other 688 00:52:45.280 --> 00:52:49.079 positive bitches. If not for me to do it for you, why not? 689 00:52:49.239 --> 00:52:55.119 Good karma whatevs and I will see you in the next one coming. 690 00:53:00.320 --> 00:53:07.119 Have got something into energy. If you can't say shame, how came? 691 00:53:07.880 --> 00:53:22.320 How came that gategy? No, we can't speak. You can't say aspect. 692 00:53:22.440 --> 00:53:23.599 You can't sa aspect