WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.640 --> 00:00:15.759 Made a decision. I'll pace sunny sad I head a vision. So hey 2 00:00:15.800 --> 00:00:21.079 everybody, welcome to for crying out loud. We're still flying solo without our 3 00:00:21.120 --> 00:00:26.879 producer, Kaylin, so it's just us three Stephanie, me and Teresa's stresser, 4 00:00:27.160 --> 00:00:30.679 our guests. Thank you for having me. Thank you for coming and 5 00:00:31.079 --> 00:00:34.439 joining us on a Saturday afternoon. This has been the best week of our 6 00:00:34.439 --> 00:00:38.159 lives. Yeah, and it really I've been looking forward to this day for 7 00:00:38.200 --> 00:00:41.679 a long time. I'm so happy, very happy to see you both, 8 00:00:41.880 --> 00:00:44.840 very happy to see when you guys both pulled up on the curb at the 9 00:00:44.840 --> 00:00:47.200 same time. By the way, where are we Are we in Burbank? 10 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:52.719 What town is this? North Hollywood? North Hollywood? Technically, when you 11 00:00:52.719 --> 00:00:54.880 guys pulled up with this and you both got out of your cars at the 12 00:00:54.880 --> 00:00:57.840 same time, I just like my heart felt warm. Like I'm saying, 13 00:00:57.960 --> 00:01:00.759 no, I sometimes I which I still lived in La so I could have 14 00:01:00.759 --> 00:01:04.319 a more I could have a more relevant career. Well, I, miss 15 00:01:04.400 --> 00:01:11.840 I remember we used to go to MEXICALI yes, get the Jessica Simpson Margarita, 16 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:15.079 Yeah, that's right, No sugar, what's going on with her lately? 17 00:01:15.680 --> 00:01:19.480 I have no idea. I think she's doing well. She's been sober 18 00:01:19.560 --> 00:01:22.319 for a while. Is that the thing? Are people upset that she's too 19 00:01:22.359 --> 00:01:25.560 thin? Yeah, I know she did. She did lose a lot of 20 00:01:25.560 --> 00:01:29.159 weight or whatever. But yeah, I interviewed her once. She was extremely 21 00:01:29.239 --> 00:01:32.359 nice. She seems very nice. Yeah, her sister was there. They 22 00:01:32.359 --> 00:01:36.319 were both very sweet. Yeah, oh yeah, her sad. Remember the 23 00:01:36.359 --> 00:01:41.840 high to our fabulous people. Okay, Stephanie Stinker Wrinker, Krista, get 24 00:01:41.879 --> 00:01:46.480 the strap, Sandra, it's not easy being green. Jennifer, get up, 25 00:01:46.560 --> 00:01:55.120 Jennifer, Sarah Stefan Leslie, stop coughing. Alicia from el Monte Aaron, 26 00:01:55.200 --> 00:01:59.920 who did this? Amy? Nice girl? Yeah, Kelly Brand, 27 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:07.159 she will take you to plan parenthood and hip hop class refect. Sean Vagres 28 00:02:07.200 --> 00:02:10.639 got on a hat ass, sweet ass. Missy and Gabby are still having 29 00:02:10.680 --> 00:02:15.520 a make up to us. Yeah they're Shenanigans. Um, Katarina, you 30 00:02:15.639 --> 00:02:20.120 gotta check that molar because do not be like me. Don't wait, No, 31 00:02:21.280 --> 00:02:23.319 Valerie hits out of the park, Polly, we love your pancakes. 32 00:02:23.319 --> 00:02:28.560 Athena Ginshirt is a great dancer. Elizabeth Williamson has too many kids, one 33 00:02:28.639 --> 00:02:32.080 too many? Um, Hero, Everybody Love, Everybody loves you, Get 34 00:02:32.120 --> 00:02:38.000 ready for father everybody yep, Rita has a nice bassinet. Jacob, it's 35 00:02:38.080 --> 00:02:44.759 not he's Growley Grawley, easy being Jacob. Yeah. Leslie accosted some people 36 00:02:44.800 --> 00:02:49.199 outside of Ikea. She's following them with her van. Uh and Ashley's really 37 00:02:49.240 --> 00:02:53.280 chic. Yeah. We love you guys, thank you. Yeah and uh. 38 00:02:53.319 --> 00:02:57.680 We got Teresa studio and we're talking about books. She's got a new 39 00:02:57.680 --> 00:03:00.680 book out and we went home. We were talking at the end of Patreon 40 00:03:00.879 --> 00:03:05.400 about something that I was like, this will be good for the beginning of 41 00:03:05.439 --> 00:03:12.840 the show. Is about the book covers, book covers, making it home, 42 00:03:13.199 --> 00:03:16.199 making it home, life lessons with like dealing with like the entire team 43 00:03:16.400 --> 00:03:20.919 about your book, and like, you know, what we really should just 44 00:03:21.000 --> 00:03:25.479 bring up is like the pr It really is like do it yourself. Yeah, 45 00:03:25.479 --> 00:03:29.599 So where are you You're making the rounds right, Yeah? I mean 46 00:03:29.680 --> 00:03:34.520 I just slide into people's dms. I had a big victory getting on the 47 00:03:34.680 --> 00:03:37.560 MLB network, which might not be a big deal to you guys. Wow, 48 00:03:37.960 --> 00:03:42.400 No, that's great. But speaking of Stephanie has been very supportive, 49 00:03:42.400 --> 00:03:46.400 and that's not always the case with women. To each other sadly. But 50 00:03:46.439 --> 00:03:50.840 Stephanie is that girl. Like I reached out to her, she got right 51 00:03:50.879 --> 00:03:53.439 back to me. She wrote a beautiful blurb. She never hesitated, she 52 00:03:53.560 --> 00:03:57.319 took a lot of time, and she did that even though she herself was 53 00:03:57.520 --> 00:04:03.039 completing her own book, Drunkish coming out in January. That's nice how you 54 00:04:03.080 --> 00:04:10.840 did that? But iaster so I just googled, like list of hosts for 55 00:04:11.039 --> 00:04:14.639 MLB Network and I reached out to this woman, Alana Rizzo. She used 56 00:04:14.680 --> 00:04:18.480 to be the Dodgers, like in house broadcasting covering covering the Dodgers, and 57 00:04:18.519 --> 00:04:24.120 now she's at MLB Network and I just dmned her. She got right back 58 00:04:24.120 --> 00:04:27.240 to me and all business and she said, why don't you come on my 59 00:04:27.279 --> 00:04:29.959 show Wednesday. Wow. I was like, oh my god, I was 60 00:04:30.000 --> 00:04:31.800 getting my roots done. I was like, oh my god, oh my 61 00:04:31.920 --> 00:04:38.480 god, I'm so excited. Awesome. Then a weird thing happens to me. 62 00:04:39.399 --> 00:04:43.480 Where is she? Well, this is fascinating. So she is so 63 00:04:43.639 --> 00:04:48.439 valuable a talent that she does not live wherever MLB network is. She's not 64 00:04:48.519 --> 00:04:54.360 in studio. Because when I did the interview with her, um and sure 65 00:04:54.439 --> 00:04:56.560 enough, she was like, come on Wednesday, and I did. It 66 00:04:56.600 --> 00:05:00.160 was via zoom and she was like in her living room. I think she 67 00:05:00.079 --> 00:05:03.199 she just lives wherever she lives, just from your house. Yeah, I 68 00:05:03.319 --> 00:05:06.079 zoomed, were zoomed to zoom. But it like it looked great, Like 69 00:05:06.120 --> 00:05:10.319 they had broll, they had photos come up, they had graphics. It 70 00:05:10.360 --> 00:05:13.680 looked really good. That's great. Yeah, So that that was that was 71 00:05:13.720 --> 00:05:16.519 a victory for me. And she was like, that was very generous to 72 00:05:16.720 --> 00:05:20.000 it's nice. Now did your book company give you like, hey, try 73 00:05:20.040 --> 00:05:23.040 to go for this or try to go for that. I'll tell you what 74 00:05:23.079 --> 00:05:26.279 they did do, which is I could have never done myself, and which 75 00:05:26.360 --> 00:05:30.519 was huge. They got a review and Publishers Weekly, my first book, 76 00:05:30.519 --> 00:05:32.120 didn't get that. It's not easy to get and I got a starred review. 77 00:05:32.160 --> 00:05:38.839 So that's amazing. I still, again, I have this irrational feeling, 78 00:05:38.920 --> 00:05:42.000 but it's real, Like it's real. I'm not being funny. I 79 00:05:42.079 --> 00:05:45.639 honestly part of me thinks Publishers Weekly is going to take it back. That's 80 00:05:45.639 --> 00:05:48.160 why I have barely talked about it and I've barely posted about it because I 81 00:05:48.160 --> 00:05:51.120 don't want them to decide that they're going to take it back. Because it's 82 00:05:51.120 --> 00:05:55.680 a beautiful review. But you understand they can't, right. I yeah, 83 00:05:55.839 --> 00:05:59.720 rationally, I understand a lot of things. But in my body, like 84 00:05:59.759 --> 00:06:03.000 my nervous system is like they're gonna take it back, so just shut up 85 00:06:03.040 --> 00:06:08.879 about it. Oh. I believe that this is like a cultural thing, 86 00:06:09.000 --> 00:06:13.319 like the Jews are people, Stephanie, thousands of years of pain and suffering. 87 00:06:13.560 --> 00:06:16.879 So you have to be ready, like to run from like a mob. 88 00:06:17.160 --> 00:06:23.199 But you can't. This is a little life lesson. I don't really 89 00:06:23.240 --> 00:06:28.279 give life life. I need this hold on pulling up. You can't always 90 00:06:28.319 --> 00:06:31.399 be like hat in hand though, either, Like you have to sometimes own 91 00:06:32.199 --> 00:06:38.639 your greatness and just be like I've put something valuable. I'm putting something valuable 92 00:06:38.639 --> 00:06:42.199 out into the world that I worked really really hard on. And like that's 93 00:06:42.199 --> 00:06:45.680 all other people do as well. Like if you spend all your time just 94 00:06:45.720 --> 00:06:48.240 comparing yourself and go on, that is worthy as that person. Like Publisher's 95 00:06:48.319 --> 00:06:54.319 Weekly's job is to review books, so like they're not only going to review 96 00:06:54.439 --> 00:06:57.720 like and La mot or like I don't know, I'm trying to think of 97 00:06:57.759 --> 00:07:00.879 somebody that you and I would Mary car Mary Carr. They're not only doing 98 00:07:00.959 --> 00:07:09.000 those baby, you can drive my married car, but it's gonna break down. 99 00:07:10.879 --> 00:07:17.519 One word no no did you help me? No? No, no, 100 00:07:17.519 --> 00:07:23.399 no, no period no can dot. What was the book lit? 101 00:07:23.519 --> 00:07:26.920 What was her big hit? Liars? Liars Club Club? And then there 102 00:07:26.959 --> 00:07:30.759 was Cherry. She wrote she she does the one word lit and Cherry yeah, 103 00:07:30.800 --> 00:07:34.920 and uh yeah, well there's one word title. So that's her thing, 104 00:07:35.000 --> 00:07:39.839 that's her thing. No, no, no, no, How do 105 00:07:39.879 --> 00:07:42.240 you get? I got a question for you, guys. How do you 106 00:07:42.279 --> 00:07:46.360 get on New York Times? How does that happen? Bestseller? I wish 107 00:07:46.399 --> 00:07:48.360 I knew, but my therapist told me to visualize it. Hold on, 108 00:07:49.040 --> 00:07:54.079 I see it because definitely it's right, Like I'm not. I know on 109 00:07:54.120 --> 00:07:58.519 some level that I'm confident about this book, because I do. I am 110 00:07:58.600 --> 00:08:03.920 hustling pretty hard because I genuinely feel like when people read it there they respond 111 00:08:03.000 --> 00:08:05.199 well to it. So if I can get it and be like and that's 112 00:08:05.199 --> 00:08:09.680 been the case. So on some level I am confident as a writer, 113 00:08:09.000 --> 00:08:13.439 But just as a human being, I'm always hat in hand. That's just 114 00:08:13.519 --> 00:08:16.600 my default setting. Can I tell you though? And I said this in 115 00:08:16.639 --> 00:08:20.240 the first show, and I just don't know if you actually believe it. 116 00:08:20.279 --> 00:08:22.279 But when I was reading your book, I, honest to God, was 117 00:08:22.319 --> 00:08:26.800 like, this is this is hard because I can't write like this, like 118 00:08:28.040 --> 00:08:31.320 not everybody, well of course not everybody, but like most people, even 119 00:08:31.440 --> 00:08:35.240 other authors, can't write with the beautiful way that you write and the way 120 00:08:35.240 --> 00:08:39.879 that you phrase things. And I was like, my writing feels so simplistic. 121 00:08:41.080 --> 00:08:43.279 And then when you say things like Publishers Weekly, I instantly think like 122 00:08:43.600 --> 00:08:48.559 Publishers Weekly would read a book like mine and go, well, you're not 123 00:08:48.679 --> 00:08:54.080 like as in Succession, you're not serious people to this writing is you're just 124 00:08:54.120 --> 00:08:58.279 two planes spoken. Oh that's funny, because I either got in beauty in 125 00:08:58.320 --> 00:09:03.320 these words. I'm like that. I feel that way about myself. I 126 00:09:03.320 --> 00:09:07.480 feel that I'm pretty plain spoken. No, but you're not. Here's how 127 00:09:07.480 --> 00:09:11.759 I feel. There's a Bob Dylan and there's a Billy Joel, and I'm 128 00:09:11.759 --> 00:09:16.200 a Billy Joel. But Billy Joel sells a lot of records. Yeah, 129 00:09:16.240 --> 00:09:18.679 you're going to sell a lot of books. And your poet to answer your 130 00:09:18.720 --> 00:09:24.279 emails, The answer, my friend, is no, no exclamation points. 131 00:09:26.480 --> 00:09:30.799 You should feel so proud every time you send that book out. It is 132 00:09:30.840 --> 00:09:35.759 so polished every every there's not an extra word. I cannot wait to read 133 00:09:35.799 --> 00:09:39.840 it. Every sentence is like, oh god, how did she think of 134 00:09:39.919 --> 00:09:43.240 that one? It was very, very hard. Have you guys read this 135 00:09:43.279 --> 00:09:46.720 book called The Dip. It's a great book. I've heard of it. 136 00:09:46.759 --> 00:09:50.919 It's really short, you'll read it in an hour. It's like kind of 137 00:09:50.919 --> 00:09:54.159 a self help book that I'm not going to be able to summarize very well. 138 00:09:54.279 --> 00:09:58.559 But basically, The Dip is going to change your life. Will change 139 00:09:58.559 --> 00:10:03.320 your life. The Dip. Basically, I don't know if you have this 140 00:10:03.399 --> 00:10:07.720 experience, but here every doing something and you just think this is this is 141 00:10:07.720 --> 00:10:11.320 too hard, This is actually too hard. Every day I can't do it. 142 00:10:11.679 --> 00:10:15.879 Well, The Dip kind of teaches you to reframe that and go, 143 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:18.720 oh, this is great because if it's this hard for me, then it's 144 00:10:18.759 --> 00:10:22.120 probably this hard for everyone else, and everyone else is giving up. So 145 00:10:22.159 --> 00:10:26.000 if I keep going through this hard part, I've now all of my competition. 146 00:10:26.399 --> 00:10:30.759 Like I'm at mile twenty five and everyone like sat on a bench and 147 00:10:30.759 --> 00:10:33.879 they're rehydrating and they're having like a Gatorade squeezy pack. But I'm still going. 148 00:10:35.159 --> 00:10:37.399 So I'm the only one here and that's how I'm going to win this 149 00:10:37.559 --> 00:10:41.320 race. Like, so you just like the feeling of hardness, you embrace 150 00:10:41.399 --> 00:10:46.399 it because you go, this means everyone else is dying off and I'm still 151 00:10:46.480 --> 00:10:52.120 going. So I should relish this feeling because that means this is this is 152 00:10:52.159 --> 00:10:54.960 going to be good, and it's it's more likely to succeed. So I 153 00:10:54.279 --> 00:11:01.240 had so many instances writing making it home where like at one point, um, 154 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:05.559 my family left, Like my husband took the kids to Cooperstown or baseball, 155 00:11:05.639 --> 00:11:09.960 That's what I was thinking of. Cooper's Faperstown. Um Nate, my 156 00:11:09.000 --> 00:11:15.000 oldest was playing, and they took He took Andrew and my dad. My 157 00:11:15.080 --> 00:11:18.919 husband took my dad and both the kids. Wow. Yeah, my dad 158 00:11:18.919 --> 00:11:22.320 loves Daniel. That's a good husband loves him. Yeah. But you know, 159 00:11:22.399 --> 00:11:28.639 it's kind of cute because Daniel's dad is like former military, he's not 160 00:11:28.840 --> 00:11:31.360 warm, like he was a good dad, he was present, but he's 161 00:11:31.399 --> 00:11:35.159 like he's just not that into Daniel, kind of like in that he's just 162 00:11:35.279 --> 00:11:39.399 not that into him, whereas my dad will gush and like be like I 163 00:11:39.720 --> 00:11:43.159 love Like my dad will just gush about Daniel and be like, why doesn't 164 00:11:43.200 --> 00:11:46.799 his dad want to come out here and be with him all the time, 165 00:11:46.279 --> 00:11:50.000 like he's the great. So I think Daniel is getting something from my dad 166 00:11:50.000 --> 00:11:54.600 and my dad like it's a very it's a good's beautiful thing, especially since 167 00:11:54.639 --> 00:11:58.120 my dad lost his son, you know. So like Daniel's definitely like he 168 00:11:58.440 --> 00:12:03.919 loved Like, well, ask Daniel what I should do about this? And 169 00:12:03.960 --> 00:12:07.600 also Daniel because my dad has a little problem where he'll spend every cent he 170 00:12:07.639 --> 00:12:13.039 has literally until he has nothing. He's been bankrupt twice. So Daniel like 171 00:12:13.159 --> 00:12:16.919 has his literally like his three thousand dollars, which is like all he has, 172 00:12:16.240 --> 00:12:18.840 and Daniel keeps it for him. And then like if he needs to 173 00:12:18.879 --> 00:12:24.480 go to the dentist, like Daniel will meet him there with cash. So 174 00:12:24.840 --> 00:12:28.120 they love each other anyway. They went to Cooperstown. And I'm a pretty 175 00:12:28.120 --> 00:12:31.879 fast writer generally because I started out as a newspaper writer and it was very 176 00:12:31.960 --> 00:12:35.440 mercenary for me, Like I was always a writer. I was a writer 177 00:12:35.519 --> 00:12:37.919 when I was a little kid. I was, you know, a journal 178 00:12:37.960 --> 00:12:41.799 writer. And I started writing for newspapers like as a teenager at nineteen for 179 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:43.559 six dollars an hour. So I'm fast. I'm like I got to turn 180 00:12:43.559 --> 00:12:46.120 this out. I'm like, I got to turn and burn. So when 181 00:12:46.159 --> 00:12:50.600 they were gone, like I don't know, between probably around eight or nine 182 00:12:50.720 --> 00:12:54.000 days, I thought, I'm gonna have this whole book done because that's an 183 00:12:54.000 --> 00:12:56.720 eternity with no kids for me, like with no responsibilities. And I took 184 00:12:56.759 --> 00:13:01.240 the week off my other job, like all I'm gonna do is write, 185 00:13:01.320 --> 00:13:05.279 and at the end of that time, I had written zero pages. Oh 186 00:13:05.879 --> 00:13:13.440 my god, really wow, it was so awful. At one point, 187 00:13:13.799 --> 00:13:16.720 I don't I'm not I don't talk to myself when people talk to themselves in 188 00:13:16.799 --> 00:13:20.000 movies and on TV. I just think, like that's so unrealistic. People 189 00:13:20.039 --> 00:13:24.320 don't do that. But I remember like sitting at my desk and then like 190 00:13:24.559 --> 00:13:28.360 kind of crying and like hitting, like doing this this is a visual for 191 00:13:28.399 --> 00:13:33.919 the podcast, like going no, no, hitting yeah with my fists because 192 00:13:35.080 --> 00:13:37.480 like it was so it was too hard. It was hard. It was 193 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:39.080 too hard. Yeah. As I was trying to write an outline, I 194 00:13:39.360 --> 00:13:43.639 previously written essays. That's what I'd always done, and then my first book 195 00:13:43.679 --> 00:13:48.559 was just a collection of these essays. Whereas the publisher for Making a Home 196 00:13:48.639 --> 00:13:50.799 wanted it to read like narrative fiction. A beginning, middle, and end 197 00:13:50.879 --> 00:13:56.519 scenes dialogue. So I was trying to write in and out of actual baseball 198 00:13:56.559 --> 00:14:01.240 games and keep score with outs, balls, strikes, and a through line 199 00:14:01.279 --> 00:14:03.600 I again, and then go back and forth in time. So it was 200 00:14:03.639 --> 00:14:07.799 technically extremely difficult. It was like a Simone Biles, like I don't know 201 00:14:07.799 --> 00:14:11.399 if I can land this vault too hot, and so I during that week, 202 00:14:11.519 --> 00:14:13.639 I was like, I need forward motions. So I went to the 203 00:14:13.679 --> 00:14:18.879 office Max and I just walked around like crying, like I hadn't washed my 204 00:14:18.919 --> 00:14:22.440 hair and I'm just like walking and crying my pajamas like a four PM. 205 00:14:22.559 --> 00:14:26.559 And I bought like some bulletin boards and a bunch of index cards. And 206 00:14:26.600 --> 00:14:31.679 then I was like, um, like in my office like Carrie Matheson, 207 00:14:31.799 --> 00:14:35.759 like really like trying to solve a crime, like having index cards. And 208 00:14:35.799 --> 00:14:39.200 then I had bulletin boards and index cards and I kept like moving them around 209 00:14:39.240 --> 00:14:43.919 like this piece has to come, like the puzzle pieces. I was the 210 00:14:43.080 --> 00:14:50.039 same. Sometimes it helps to have a visual right, like Okay, I 211 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:54.120 have to like this character arc, Like I'm trying pulling a bunch of threads 212 00:14:54.200 --> 00:14:58.960 through and I just couldn't get the pieces right. I couldn't get them right. 213 00:14:58.000 --> 00:15:01.759 And um, at the end of that week, all I did have 214 00:15:01.799 --> 00:15:03.639 an outline, that's all I had. But I didn't have one one word 215 00:15:03.679 --> 00:15:09.279 written. Wow, how long, I mean, it's so long i'd take 216 00:15:09.320 --> 00:15:15.480 you to write this book. I think all in all, maybe eighteen months. 217 00:15:15.600 --> 00:15:18.159 But I had a lot of you know, I had like a lot 218 00:15:18.159 --> 00:15:22.519 of notes, and my husband had kept notes because he's this guy, it's 219 00:15:22.519 --> 00:15:26.120 a spreadsheet moneyball guy. He had notes from all the games, so I 220 00:15:26.159 --> 00:15:31.440 was able to reconstruct actual games because he kept stats. Baseball is all about 221 00:15:31.440 --> 00:15:35.240 that stata, so I knew like what Nate had done in that game. 222 00:15:35.279 --> 00:15:37.600 And I also had really really vivid memories because it was such a big deal 223 00:15:37.639 --> 00:15:43.720 to me. I was so emotionally invested in every pitch of the season that 224 00:15:43.799 --> 00:15:48.279 you know, when you have a lot of like emotional activity, you remember 225 00:15:48.399 --> 00:15:50.399 you have a visual yeah, and you know it was helpful. Is my 226 00:15:50.519 --> 00:15:54.679 younger one is now playing in Little League. He's doing All Stars now, 227 00:15:54.000 --> 00:15:58.039 So I was at the field. It was kind of like cheating. I'm 228 00:15:58.039 --> 00:16:00.960 like, oh, this is more like being a report, Like it smells 229 00:16:00.000 --> 00:16:03.519 like this, and it feels like this, and there's a crushed big gulp 230 00:16:03.559 --> 00:16:06.559 in the dirt, and the little girl's doing a cart wheeled and a cart 231 00:16:06.559 --> 00:16:10.360 wheel and left field and the snack bar moms doing this, So that that 232 00:16:10.440 --> 00:16:14.519 really helped. But I did have some moments of doubt and I had like 233 00:16:14.840 --> 00:16:18.519 one second where I thought, I have to give the advance back. Have 234 00:16:18.600 --> 00:16:22.080 you ever had that feeling? Oh? God, every book, every book, 235 00:16:22.240 --> 00:16:25.440 there's a moment. John was really proud of me because on this book 236 00:16:25.440 --> 00:16:27.519 that I'm writing, I only had I had that moment twice out of the 237 00:16:27.559 --> 00:16:30.519 hole. But I wrote the book in six months. That's and I had 238 00:16:30.519 --> 00:16:34.279 to beg for extra like, okay, well, because the way she did, 239 00:16:34.320 --> 00:16:37.159 the deadline was going to be five months, and I was like, 240 00:16:37.200 --> 00:16:38.600 I just can't write a book in five months. I've got three kids, 241 00:16:38.840 --> 00:16:41.679 yeah, their jobs, And she was like, okay, six months. 242 00:16:41.960 --> 00:16:47.080 Well, okay, I know that you're probably your listeners probably know all this. 243 00:16:47.639 --> 00:16:51.039 But let's just say someone's tuning in that hasn't tuned in a long time, 244 00:16:51.360 --> 00:16:53.200 or somebody hasn't seen you guys in a long time, like me, 245 00:16:53.279 --> 00:16:57.200 But like, how can you give me the update on everyone's kids? Yes, 246 00:16:57.679 --> 00:17:02.320 let's take a break. Good time to take a break. Have you 247 00:17:02.320 --> 00:17:06.480 heard of zok doc. No, it's great. This is a service. 248 00:17:06.839 --> 00:17:10.839 I can't believe everybody doesn't use this because it's so genius. So, you 249 00:17:10.880 --> 00:17:12.680 know, sometimes you're like I need to go to a doctor, but I 250 00:17:12.720 --> 00:17:15.839 don't have like a regular GP, and I need one, but like do 251 00:17:15.880 --> 00:17:18.759 they take my insurance? And I don't feel like going down to like googling 252 00:17:18.759 --> 00:17:22.640 and calling a million doctors. You go to zok doc. You put in 253 00:17:22.640 --> 00:17:26.119 the search terms I need a GP that's well reviewed, that's like close to 254 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:30.079 my house that does this specialty, and they will give you names and they 255 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:33.680 will even book your appointment for you. And they have patient reviews too, 256 00:17:33.799 --> 00:17:38.119 so you can see the reviews. And it's a free app. I've always 257 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:41.119 got a rash of some kind, right, yeah, But they also do 258 00:17:41.200 --> 00:17:48.160 like dentists, therapists, psychiatrists, whatever kind of geologists, you know. 259 00:17:48.200 --> 00:17:49.599 So sometimes you have like a new thing that you're like, oh, I 260 00:17:49.599 --> 00:17:52.720 don't have a doctor for that, And so instead of like going on Facebook 261 00:17:52.960 --> 00:17:59.599 and vetting your crazy friends who you know terrible recommendations, go to like actual 262 00:17:59.720 --> 00:18:03.839 zoch doc. I've used it. I used it for Natali as a dermatologist. 263 00:18:03.880 --> 00:18:07.279 I got her dermatologist because she was breaking out so much. And yeah, 264 00:18:07.319 --> 00:18:11.400 it was easy simple. You download the app, you look for, 265 00:18:11.640 --> 00:18:15.440 you put what your area is and it's it's simple. Why can't you do 266 00:18:15.519 --> 00:18:19.559 it? Absolutely so. Zok doc is the only free app that lets you 267 00:18:19.640 --> 00:18:23.640 find a book doctors who are patient reviewed, take your insurance, and are 268 00:18:23.680 --> 00:18:27.680 available when you need them, and treat almost every condition under the sun. 269 00:18:27.880 --> 00:18:33.279 So go to zoc doc dot com slash f cool and download the zoc doc 270 00:18:33.319 --> 00:18:37.400 app for free. Then find and book a top rated doctor today. Many 271 00:18:37.440 --> 00:18:42.599 are available within twenty four hours. That zoc doc dot com, slash fcol 272 00:18:44.039 --> 00:18:48.559 zoc dot com slash f cool. That dermatologist must have been good because her 273 00:18:48.559 --> 00:18:52.000 skin looks really pretty in the pictures. Thank you. You know, she's 274 00:18:52.200 --> 00:18:57.119 she's very particular about her skin, like you got a whole regime going because 275 00:18:57.160 --> 00:19:00.160 I like to know what people do with their skin. She always washes her 276 00:19:00.200 --> 00:19:03.799 face before she goes to bed, and she she uses my cleansers and my 277 00:19:03.920 --> 00:19:08.960 stuff. But yeah, so my kids are you know, they're just finished 278 00:19:10.039 --> 00:19:15.279 eleventh grade and they're going into senior year and um, they're doing good. 279 00:19:15.319 --> 00:19:21.519 Their their grades have been up. They had a hard time after COVID getting 280 00:19:21.519 --> 00:19:23.920 back in the swing of things. And then Italia got a concussion she had 281 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:30.160 to stay home. What. Yeah, she finished out last year in online 282 00:19:30.279 --> 00:19:33.119 classes. She can go to school because she had a pretty bad member that. 283 00:19:33.720 --> 00:19:37.759 Yeah, of course, did she get that playing a sport or no, 284 00:19:37.000 --> 00:19:41.920 she got it doing TikTok video? No? Yeah, well probably also 285 00:19:42.200 --> 00:19:47.279 some volleyball injuries too. Yeah, she has been she's she's been injured. 286 00:19:47.319 --> 00:19:51.480 Have your kids ever been injured? Yeah? Yeah. Nate took a baseball 287 00:19:51.519 --> 00:19:55.799 to the face and took it, took a bad hop in practice. He 288 00:19:55.880 --> 00:20:00.720 finished practice, to his credit because I'm teaching him to have toxic masculinity. 289 00:20:00.000 --> 00:20:03.400 Yeah, I hope that's good. Is that good? Uh? No, 290 00:20:03.519 --> 00:20:06.440 he finished out the practice, and he at the time he had braces, 291 00:20:07.000 --> 00:20:08.559 so I kind of didn't think anything of it. Then when he got his 292 00:20:08.599 --> 00:20:14.359 braces off six months later, he had a two spooky teeth and were gray 293 00:20:14.759 --> 00:20:18.759 right in front. Not a great look, but apparently the braces kept them. 294 00:20:18.000 --> 00:20:21.119 So yeah. And then, um, you know he's a pitcher, 295 00:20:21.279 --> 00:20:22.759 and like this is they didn't have to pull the teeth. No, but 296 00:20:22.799 --> 00:20:26.039 the teeth, I don't know what I'm gonna do. I try to. 297 00:20:26.319 --> 00:20:29.640 Am I a bad person? I you're not supposed to bleach your teeth until 298 00:20:29.640 --> 00:20:33.599 you're like fifteen, but not try. I got I got the trays and 299 00:20:33.640 --> 00:20:36.839 everything, and it did help a little bit. But if you put ice 300 00:20:36.880 --> 00:20:40.240 on those teeth, he can't feel it, so they do dead. They're 301 00:20:40.240 --> 00:20:44.279 dead. Yeah, oh my goodness. Yeah, So you're two boys. 302 00:20:44.279 --> 00:20:48.039 How old are they? Ten and thirteen? Yep, yep. Nate's going 303 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:51.640 going to be in eighth grade. It's like almost five ten. Is he 304 00:20:51.680 --> 00:20:55.359 doing? Is he having a bar mitzvah? No? I feel awful about 305 00:20:55.400 --> 00:21:00.480 that, Like I've really failed to teach my kids they're Jewish Heritan. If 306 00:21:00.519 --> 00:21:03.519 I had a do over, I would do it different. What happened was 307 00:21:03.559 --> 00:21:08.799 baseball, right, and we pray at the Church of Baseball and Sunday school 308 00:21:08.880 --> 00:21:14.039 Hebrew schools on Sunday, and there's always a baseball tournament on Sunday, right, 309 00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:17.799 And that's just the like, I don't feel like I made that conscious 310 00:21:17.880 --> 00:21:26.400 choice. But then also it's expensive to join the apps. I just walked 311 00:21:26.400 --> 00:21:32.119 into that stereotype. I'm like, can I haggle? Can I do you 312 00:21:32.119 --> 00:21:37.359 guys down with your synagogue news because I'm just gotta pay for braces and all 313 00:21:37.440 --> 00:21:41.359 kinds of stuff and I'm already driving an old Ford Explorer, So can you 314 00:21:41.359 --> 00:21:45.079 guys not charge me five or six grand because I'm only going to come here 315 00:21:45.079 --> 00:21:48.000 once a year? Who are we kidding? Yeah? Yeah, they're like 316 00:21:48.039 --> 00:21:52.160 you're on TV. Yeah, people think that that pays a lot better than 317 00:21:52.799 --> 00:21:56.720 yeah. Right. Yeah. I feel really bad about it, especially like 318 00:21:56.319 --> 00:22:00.359 my younger one, who's ten, is much more or like dialed into my 319 00:22:00.440 --> 00:22:03.319 feelings and he knows it's important to me, so he'll say things like, 320 00:22:03.720 --> 00:22:07.720 mom, even though I'm only half Jewish and dad's Catholic and everything, Um, 321 00:22:07.759 --> 00:22:12.920 I'm more Jewish, so I'm really Jewish and I'm I that's like that's 322 00:22:12.920 --> 00:22:15.200 what I am. And I'm I do Hanik and I don't do Chris because 323 00:22:15.200 --> 00:22:18.079 he knows I care, Nate could care, it could give a fuck, 324 00:22:18.319 --> 00:22:25.119 right, Like he's not like that, like he loves me and and and 325 00:22:25.440 --> 00:22:30.160 you know, like but he's just not is more is like tuned in right. 326 00:22:30.440 --> 00:22:34.440 Um. But I'll be really sad sometimes because he'll ask like really stupid 327 00:22:34.519 --> 00:22:41.599 questions that he should know about Judaism. He knows nothing. He went. 328 00:22:41.640 --> 00:22:45.359 They went to Jewish preschool until like they were five, and then they went 329 00:22:45.400 --> 00:22:48.599 to a public school. Now they don't know anything about their own history. 330 00:22:48.160 --> 00:22:52.279 Well, it's interesting. You guys are both Jewish and you're both married to 331 00:22:52.799 --> 00:22:56.720 non Jews. Yeah, and I wish I was married too, and you 332 00:22:56.720 --> 00:22:59.680 you know, it's not too late. I know it's not too late. 333 00:22:59.680 --> 00:23:03.839 At him loves Jews, he does. That's why. That's why one of 334 00:23:03.839 --> 00:23:06.799 the reasons I fell in love with him. That is a good carl the 335 00:23:06.799 --> 00:23:10.200 same pa, because most people really hate us. Now yeah we don't. 336 00:23:11.240 --> 00:23:17.400 We're big fans. I wanted to um ask you if Nate how he feels 337 00:23:17.519 --> 00:23:21.799 about being like kind of one of the stars of this book and every game, 338 00:23:21.880 --> 00:23:25.279 like he could give a fuck. He hasn't read it. He doesn't 339 00:23:25.279 --> 00:23:29.279 care. No, he cares about in baseball. He cares. He's very 340 00:23:29.319 --> 00:23:33.759 interested in girls. Is like you know in the puberty is happening. Like 341 00:23:33.839 --> 00:23:38.160 I say, he's gangly. He wears like a size eleven and a half. 342 00:23:38.519 --> 00:23:41.240 Does he talk to you about like I gotta crush on a girl? 343 00:23:41.519 --> 00:23:45.799 If I ask him, we'll be like my Hi, Yeah, I don't 344 00:23:45.839 --> 00:23:48.759 want to time but hey, I had a couple of girls. Like he 345 00:23:48.839 --> 00:23:52.599 played baseball for the junior high baseball team, and there was a very cute 346 00:23:52.640 --> 00:23:56.240 moment. It was Norman Rockwell and I was desperately trying to get a picture 347 00:23:56.240 --> 00:24:00.400 of it without embarrassing him. But he was in the dugout and he had 348 00:24:00.400 --> 00:24:03.559 this little girlfriend at the time, and she looked really cute, a little 349 00:24:03.559 --> 00:24:07.319 tank top and short shorts. And I don't know if you've seen a dugout 350 00:24:07.400 --> 00:24:10.400 lately, but it's like a fence, right, and so he's like all 351 00:24:10.440 --> 00:24:12.640 tall, and he had his hand like up on the fence and she was 352 00:24:12.680 --> 00:24:18.319 on the outside like talking to him, like twisting her hair. Well, 353 00:24:18.680 --> 00:24:22.000 you know, puberty's like had some has thrown him a few curveballs. Sure, 354 00:24:22.359 --> 00:24:26.039 that's tough. He's how he does he like like I had terrible acne 355 00:24:26.119 --> 00:24:30.839 as a teenager. And even though he's young, he's definitely like he can 356 00:24:30.000 --> 00:24:33.799 he could be a little self conscious about, you know, uh, doing 357 00:24:33.880 --> 00:24:37.839 everything we can about it. But it's like a hard it's a hard thing 358 00:24:37.839 --> 00:24:41.039 and heart. It hasn't like hit any of his friends yet, right, 359 00:24:41.200 --> 00:24:44.799 So like it's tough. Fu. You know, it's funny when you see 360 00:24:44.839 --> 00:24:47.880 these kids, they like I've seen them grow up and they come to my 361 00:24:47.960 --> 00:24:48.920 house and then all of a sudden, I haven't seen him in a while. 362 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:52.359 Now they're like big, tall dudes with like hair and shit. And 363 00:24:52.400 --> 00:24:56.160 then they got the acne too, and it's like, oh my god, 364 00:24:56.200 --> 00:24:59.039 I forgot about this age. It's so tall, it's so tough. And 365 00:24:59.079 --> 00:25:02.039 then the spooky tea. So there's like a lot going on. But I 366 00:25:02.119 --> 00:25:06.039 really got to hand it to him. And also my husband was like, 367 00:25:06.119 --> 00:25:07.799 you don't have to, Like he's good at sports, He'll be okay, 368 00:25:07.920 --> 00:25:11.599 he's gonna be He'll be okay, and like these are temporary problems, Yeah, 369 00:25:11.680 --> 00:25:15.440 will pass. But I just personally am scarred by my own junior high 370 00:25:15.440 --> 00:25:21.720 experience of having an awkward phase. It just ended twenty minutes ago, so 371 00:25:21.759 --> 00:25:26.559 I feel it's going you guys are bullying me, Well, okay, And 372 00:25:26.599 --> 00:25:32.119 then how Sonny. Sonny's great. I mean he's a little film buff. 373 00:25:32.240 --> 00:25:36.039 I mean he watches he just watched a film that's like almost one hundred years 374 00:25:36.079 --> 00:25:40.640 old. He's watched. He's just so into film. He's into music. 375 00:25:40.680 --> 00:25:44.519 He loves like led Zeppelin, Pain for all the seventies, but he's a 376 00:25:44.559 --> 00:25:48.799 he's a huge film buff, like watches all these different movies, not like 377 00:25:48.880 --> 00:25:51.920 Adam who watches like you know, uh, face Off, you know, 378 00:25:52.039 --> 00:25:55.559 Red Dawn, Red Dawn, that kind of shit. Like Sonny's taboo too. 379 00:25:55.799 --> 00:25:59.559 Yeah, exactly, I know all his favorites. Well Sonny, I 380 00:25:59.559 --> 00:26:03.160 mean he might be watching some tabooto. I don't know. But he's taller 381 00:26:03.200 --> 00:26:07.759 than me and he's doing his podcast. He does his podcast once once a 382 00:26:07.799 --> 00:26:11.400 week, bench warmers talk sports sports. Yeah, he's all about a lot, 383 00:26:11.480 --> 00:26:17.279 I know, probably a little bit more sports than Sunny, but yeah, 384 00:26:17.279 --> 00:26:19.200 he's a little savant with that. It's crazy. He knows, i 385 00:26:19.240 --> 00:26:23.519 mean, the history of football and NBA and he's really into it. But 386 00:26:25.079 --> 00:26:30.079 um yeah, and they're they're getting ready for college, thank god. They 387 00:26:30.160 --> 00:26:33.519 both want to go. They hang out with each other, like are they 388 00:26:33.599 --> 00:26:37.440 they started now. They used to butt heads for a long time, but 389 00:26:37.599 --> 00:26:41.880 now they they sort of have like the same friend group comes and goes, 390 00:26:41.519 --> 00:26:45.160 and um there they look out. They look out for each other a little 391 00:26:45.160 --> 00:26:48.839 more now. They definitely gang up on me. If I'm arguing with one 392 00:26:48.880 --> 00:26:52.519 of them, the other one will come in and defend that. Yeah, 393 00:26:52.839 --> 00:26:57.359 United against a common sucks to me, but but in a way as part 394 00:26:57.359 --> 00:27:00.880 of you, like, yeah, I do love. I was just saying 395 00:27:00.920 --> 00:27:03.240 it, and Sonny was like, you always tell us we need to look 396 00:27:03.279 --> 00:27:06.279 out for each other, and that's what we're doing, so you should be 397 00:27:06.279 --> 00:27:07.759 happy. I'm like, yeah, but with your friends now with me, 398 00:27:07.920 --> 00:27:12.799 like, don't gang up on me. If my kids fight, Um, 399 00:27:14.279 --> 00:27:18.240 this is a problem. If your mom's sibling died, it really sucks for 400 00:27:18.279 --> 00:27:21.400 you if your mom's sibling died. Because with my kids fight, there was 401 00:27:21.440 --> 00:27:25.319 about a two year period. I'm not saying this is good where I'd like 402 00:27:25.359 --> 00:27:29.240 cry and be like I wish I had a brother, do you guys? 403 00:27:29.400 --> 00:27:34.039 See, guys, at least you should appreciate each other because you one day 404 00:27:34.079 --> 00:27:40.200 you'll be all you had like mom had you late in life. I'm not 405 00:27:40.240 --> 00:27:45.440 gonna be here forever. You have each other. Yeah, Yeah, they 406 00:27:45.519 --> 00:27:48.839 love that. I bet that really works. Yeah, they really love like 407 00:27:48.920 --> 00:27:53.680 thinking about like me and their dad being dead and other That's what I think 408 00:27:53.759 --> 00:27:56.759 too. I'm like, you, guys, that's it. You guys have 409 00:27:56.799 --> 00:28:00.240 each other. We're gonna be gone someday, that's it. And now year 410 00:28:00.359 --> 00:28:04.759 three, you have twins and twins. Yeah, they're pen and my and 411 00:28:04.759 --> 00:28:11.000 then my older daughter's eighteen. She's graduating high school next week. What I 412 00:28:11.160 --> 00:28:15.000 know? And then what then? And when I first was a guest with 413 00:28:15.079 --> 00:28:18.079 you and Lena on your show, I believe my kids were like five and 414 00:28:18.200 --> 00:28:23.279 two. Yeah, my twins were two. Yeah, yeah, crazy crazy 415 00:28:25.160 --> 00:28:30.160 and then so graduating and then yeah, and then she's probably going to have 416 00:28:30.200 --> 00:28:33.079 to do a year of community college. It's a long story. Yeah, 417 00:28:33.160 --> 00:28:37.200 my kids might have to do. My mom who was like a genuine math 418 00:28:37.319 --> 00:28:42.119 genius and like it was um, like a little bit of a rain man. 419 00:28:42.880 --> 00:28:48.640 Um could do all kinds of stuff like write a sentence on a bulletin 420 00:28:48.680 --> 00:28:52.519 board one letter at a time with both hands from the outside of a Yeah. 421 00:28:52.559 --> 00:28:56.039 But she went to Santa Monica Community College for two years to save money 422 00:28:56.039 --> 00:28:59.759 and then to UCLA. That's a really good school. There's nothing wrong with 423 00:28:59.839 --> 00:29:03.000 it. Yeah. Yeah, so yeah, but Elbie didn't. She she 424 00:29:03.119 --> 00:29:07.319 got rejected from a bunch of schools that she should have gotten in. What's 425 00:29:07.359 --> 00:29:10.480 going on where no one can get into college? You could have like a 426 00:29:10.559 --> 00:29:12.640 five point out. Yeah, she's had a very high GPA. Yeah, 427 00:29:12.680 --> 00:29:17.359 she's a great student. GPA was like four point three or something and she 428 00:29:17.440 --> 00:29:22.519 took ten AP classes what and she's never gotten to see in her life. 429 00:29:22.559 --> 00:29:26.039 And she didn't get into most of the ucs any she got rejected. She 430 00:29:26.079 --> 00:29:30.079 got wait listed for Santa Barbara and she really wants to go there so she 431 00:29:30.119 --> 00:29:33.279 can get in off the wait list. Right, Santa Barbara as a community 432 00:29:33.279 --> 00:29:36.519 college, Yeah, I don't want to know, but she doesn't. But 433 00:29:36.599 --> 00:29:40.599 she's like, Mom, what I'm gonna go to? This is her thing. 434 00:29:40.680 --> 00:29:42.240 A bunch of our listeners wrote to me and they're like, have her 435 00:29:42.240 --> 00:29:48.039 go to Santa Barbara Community College. But she's like, that's just ridiculous and 436 00:29:48.119 --> 00:29:49.759 embarrassing. She's like, I'm not going to Santa Barbara Community College. I 437 00:29:49.759 --> 00:29:53.480 could just go to community college here. Like it's embarrassing that I'm not actually 438 00:29:53.559 --> 00:29:56.440 in at Santa Barbara. I'm like, Hi, no, I'm it shouldn't 439 00:29:56.480 --> 00:30:00.559 be because that's the case with that, I shouldn't be. I have friends 440 00:30:00.559 --> 00:30:03.720 in Arizona that have paid for these college consultants, and I don't know how 441 00:30:03.759 --> 00:30:07.359 much it is, but I feel like the way they were describing it, 442 00:30:07.680 --> 00:30:11.440 I'm in a guess. It was like between twenty and thirty thousand dollars for 443 00:30:11.559 --> 00:30:15.079 a consultant to help you with your college. That's I could be wrong, 444 00:30:15.119 --> 00:30:17.799 but the way they were talking, they were saying it was very expensive. 445 00:30:18.039 --> 00:30:22.319 And I gauge their wealth level with how much they were stressing it, and 446 00:30:22.319 --> 00:30:23.559 I'm like, oh, it must be a lot. I could be wrong. 447 00:30:23.599 --> 00:30:26.799 Maybe it's five grand, but yeah, but nobody got in. It's 448 00:30:26.839 --> 00:30:32.680 about it's between I think people pay between like four and ten. Okay, 449 00:30:32.400 --> 00:30:37.960 yeah, well, same story. Like my one friend, Uh yeah, 450 00:30:37.960 --> 00:30:44.160 I couldn't get into any of the places she applied, high GPA of sports, 451 00:30:44.240 --> 00:30:48.440 volunteer work, everything is it? It's too competitive now? Yeah? 452 00:30:48.480 --> 00:30:52.759 And then also like I think Elbe got some bad advice about she applied for 453 00:30:52.799 --> 00:30:56.799 a very competitive major, not realizing that, and so if she had applied 454 00:30:56.839 --> 00:31:00.039 for a more niche major, she probably would have gotten in with her grades 455 00:31:00.119 --> 00:31:06.200 and rigor and extracurriculars. But she didn't. She didn't know, we didn't 456 00:31:06.200 --> 00:31:11.960 know. So anyway, it's it's she's been feeling a lot better about it. 457 00:31:11.000 --> 00:31:14.920 I think I could be wrong, but I think it's good. Anyway. 458 00:31:15.119 --> 00:31:18.240 It feels eighteen feels hard to move away from home. I don't think 459 00:31:18.240 --> 00:31:22.720 any semester or even two still at home is so bad. And then go 460 00:31:22.720 --> 00:31:26.160 when you're nineteen. What happens is though you want to do what all your 461 00:31:26.160 --> 00:31:30.000 friends are. So we may see that as a good thing, and I 462 00:31:30.039 --> 00:31:33.279 certainly do, and I certainly see the money saving as a good thing. 463 00:31:33.680 --> 00:31:37.880 But Elby sees it as all of my friends are leaving to go to college, 464 00:31:37.920 --> 00:31:41.680 and I'm not. So yeah, I've wondered this because I'm far from 465 00:31:41.720 --> 00:31:45.519 this, but like I wonder. And when you're at that moment where everyone's 466 00:31:45.599 --> 00:31:51.240 kids are getting into college and then they put their braggy posts about it, 467 00:31:51.279 --> 00:31:55.720 is part of you like, fuck you, Yeah you're going. You're in 468 00:31:55.839 --> 00:32:00.559 your stupid Princeton's sweatshirt right, Like I know I'm going to be jealous already, 469 00:32:00.559 --> 00:32:02.200 Oh I know. And then they all announced like, oh look at 470 00:32:02.359 --> 00:32:06.480 yeah, like Chloe got in like where she's going, and you know he's 471 00:32:06.519 --> 00:32:10.240 always in the school sweatshirt right with some balloons. Yeah. I don't like 472 00:32:10.359 --> 00:32:14.920 that making me feel bad. It makes everybody. Yeah it's not good, 473 00:32:15.480 --> 00:32:19.640 but you just quietly succeed. That's how I feel. But people, but 474 00:32:19.720 --> 00:32:22.640 I can't, like I have so many friends whose kids genuinely worked really hard 475 00:32:22.680 --> 00:32:28.319 to get into those points. They busted their asses, they got there, 476 00:32:28.599 --> 00:32:31.000 they got into Berkeley. I'm like a blos for you, but it is 477 00:32:31.000 --> 00:32:36.599 it gets a lot when your kid is not's shining yes, and you're 478 00:32:36.640 --> 00:32:39.759 like oh here, it's just like I'm happy for you. But then that's 479 00:32:39.759 --> 00:32:44.559 like, oh that's a pain. Yeah. It was constant and for the 480 00:32:44.640 --> 00:32:47.319 kids too, because the kids social media, they just blow it up with 481 00:32:47.359 --> 00:32:51.680 all their college acceptances and it's just like then, my kid sits in a 482 00:32:51.759 --> 00:32:54.720 room and cries. I've seen some of those where the is it of like 483 00:32:54.759 --> 00:33:00.400 a TikTok where they're finding out live and they're so happy and they or they're 484 00:33:00.440 --> 00:33:04.920 like get you know, they's telling their dad and everyone's crying. I'm like, 485 00:33:05.200 --> 00:33:07.240 I'm crying for the kid that's going to community call. Right, yeah, 486 00:33:08.160 --> 00:33:12.519 so I'm crying about Yeah, it's like it's so expensive. I live 487 00:33:12.519 --> 00:33:16.240 in Arizona. Asu is really expensive. Like you don't think of that. 488 00:33:16.240 --> 00:33:20.319 They give a lot of money to out of state kids, Oh do they? 489 00:33:20.440 --> 00:33:24.000 Yeah, Oh okay, yeah there's some state and then you have a 490 00:33:24.279 --> 00:33:30.119 yeah, yeah down love like California kids. That's where an Italian wants to 491 00:33:30.160 --> 00:33:32.279 go, Well, she would get in there easily. Well, she can't 492 00:33:32.279 --> 00:33:36.799 come to my house and do her laundry yet, I'm like fifteen minutes away. 493 00:33:37.200 --> 00:33:39.319 Oh wow, that's great. You know that reminds me of another question 494 00:33:39.359 --> 00:33:45.400 I wanted to ask you, which is, so moms, other baseball momsy 495 00:33:45.720 --> 00:33:51.240 writing this book, you are as you referred to it, like you you? 496 00:33:52.400 --> 00:33:55.480 How do I put this in? Am you like me? Like Lynnette 497 00:33:55.519 --> 00:34:00.119 too? We all feel feel like ourselves as a little bit of outsiders, 498 00:34:00.240 --> 00:34:04.440 right, we have that outside of syndrome. Ye, So, but I 499 00:34:04.480 --> 00:34:07.680 wonder if like other moms see you as like, what are you talking about? 500 00:34:07.680 --> 00:34:09.559 You're gorgeous, like you fit right into this town. You're on TV, 501 00:34:10.159 --> 00:34:15.519 but you're painting yourself a little bit as like because you're scrappy, right, 502 00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:21.400 your upbringing was different. So how do you feel the book will be 503 00:34:21.440 --> 00:34:25.039 received by some of these other moms. Well, I've stayed away from some 504 00:34:25.159 --> 00:34:30.800 baseball tournaments. I write about this a lot in the book, making it 505 00:34:30.880 --> 00:34:34.639 home. Um, I have I don't want to be like this, and 506 00:34:34.679 --> 00:34:37.559 I would like to take some psilocybin and change my brain. But I have 507 00:34:37.639 --> 00:34:42.079 to accept right now that this is this is how it is. I do 508 00:34:42.239 --> 00:34:45.280 get really nervous. I did get really really nervous, like not so much 509 00:34:45.280 --> 00:34:50.079 with my little one with my older one. I don't know if it's the 510 00:34:50.119 --> 00:34:53.880 relationships different, or he's very intense, like he's a very competitive, intense 511 00:34:53.960 --> 00:34:58.760 kid, or it's just my wiring, or it's connected to my brother because 512 00:34:58.960 --> 00:35:00.639 they were born on the same day, both lefties, both based. But 513 00:35:00.840 --> 00:35:06.239 I don't know what it is. But I used it as an excuse that 514 00:35:06.280 --> 00:35:08.119 when they were going to baseball tournaments, I was writing my book. Well, 515 00:35:08.159 --> 00:35:12.079 now my book's over, so I'm gonna have to figure out how to 516 00:35:12.159 --> 00:35:15.280 go. Nate loves to meet to be at his games, which is really 517 00:35:15.280 --> 00:35:17.400 sweet, like like you think he wouldn't care because he's not that into me, 518 00:35:17.400 --> 00:35:21.440 because he's a thirteen year old boy. He loves it. And I 519 00:35:21.480 --> 00:35:23.360 recently got a camera because it was one of my dreams to learn how to 520 00:35:23.360 --> 00:35:27.320 take real pictures. I got like you know, Cannon Rebel, and I'm 521 00:35:27.400 --> 00:35:30.880 terrible, But he loves when I take pictures of his games. I take 522 00:35:30.880 --> 00:35:34.920 pictures of his friends that he sends. I take pictures of him, you 523 00:35:34.960 --> 00:35:37.760 know, pitching, sliding, whatever. He like he loves me to be 524 00:35:37.840 --> 00:35:42.800 there and like that's my purpose, like in this life, I want to 525 00:35:42.840 --> 00:35:46.000 be there for him. But sometimes I'm like, I'm so I can't separate 526 00:35:46.079 --> 00:35:51.000 myself emotionally, and so I'm like, so, I'm a nervous wreck. 527 00:35:51.079 --> 00:35:52.199 So I think I'm a ghost. And a lot of the parents are like, 528 00:35:52.960 --> 00:35:57.519 who's Nate's mom. He actually joked last year, He's like, mom, 529 00:35:57.559 --> 00:36:00.320 the kids on my team say that you like, they never see it, 530 00:36:00.400 --> 00:36:05.280 and I'm like, God, I feel you, because when Natalia was, 531 00:36:06.079 --> 00:36:09.360 you know, in volleyball, I just was I'm not that. Like, 532 00:36:09.519 --> 00:36:13.519 I'm not like Stephanie who's outgoing and wants to talk to people. I 533 00:36:13.559 --> 00:36:15.320 just want to be left alone. I just want to watch Natalia play and 534 00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:20.679 enjoy, and she wants me at those games, and so I would but 535 00:36:20.840 --> 00:36:22.519 like, but then Natalia would be like, mom, go sit with the 536 00:36:22.559 --> 00:36:27.199 parents, go stit with the parents, and I'm like, oh, okay, 537 00:36:27.239 --> 00:36:29.800 you know, and then I'm forced to socialize, and then we're like 538 00:36:29.840 --> 00:36:32.559 we go out of town for tournaments, I have to socialize. But I'm 539 00:36:32.599 --> 00:36:36.719 like you, I'd rather just be like I just want to listen to my 540 00:36:36.719 --> 00:36:39.760 podcast and watch your play. It's a nightmare to me. It's very hard 541 00:36:39.760 --> 00:36:44.960 to be around other people a lot because I'm just introverted. I'm not shy. 542 00:36:45.000 --> 00:36:47.400 But it's two different things. I was just thinking, I've always wondered 543 00:36:47.440 --> 00:36:51.519 this, but I don't think I've ever articulated the thought inside my own head. 544 00:36:52.239 --> 00:36:58.480 It's probably somewhat alienating to be that's Adam Carolla's wife or now ex wife, 545 00:36:58.840 --> 00:37:01.159 right because like, you don't you're not a stranger. You're not going 546 00:37:01.239 --> 00:37:04.599 to be a stranger. People are going to know things about you. They're 547 00:37:04.599 --> 00:37:07.280 going to know things about your family and like, so you kind of can't 548 00:37:07.320 --> 00:37:12.000 ever really blend or be like other people, right, But I don't want 549 00:37:12.039 --> 00:37:15.760 them to think that I'm like, I'm too good to sit with them. 550 00:37:15.840 --> 00:37:19.679 I just I'm not that, Like I don't really want to, Like, 551 00:37:20.159 --> 00:37:25.280 I'd rather just watch her play than talk about na schmooz about who's good and 552 00:37:25.320 --> 00:37:30.119 who's should get more playing time and what team are we playing? Oh, 553 00:37:30.239 --> 00:37:34.840 I want to talk about I'm like, you see what you see? What 554 00:37:34.880 --> 00:37:37.440 I'm seeing right, has hardly been in the game. Like, it's crazy, 555 00:37:37.440 --> 00:37:39.719 Like, why don't they put her in? Who's this? What is 556 00:37:39.719 --> 00:37:43.960 this? Bullshit, dad ball right right, puts his own kid in. 557 00:37:44.199 --> 00:37:46.159 Yeah, it's not even good. Oh, and then I end up hanging 558 00:37:46.159 --> 00:37:51.000 out with more of the dads that're always because it's saying the dad's there too, 559 00:37:51.079 --> 00:37:53.840 and then they're always like, where's Natalia's dad? Relack them, you 560 00:37:53.880 --> 00:37:58.400 know, because he never really went to any of the tournaments. Oh, 561 00:37:58.440 --> 00:38:01.679 because those are weekends and he's traveling. It's yeah, I mean he's busy, 562 00:38:01.679 --> 00:38:06.039 he's worked. Whatever it was, it was my I took her to 563 00:38:06.039 --> 00:38:08.239 the tournaments, especially every time she had a tournament. It wasn't like up 564 00:38:08.280 --> 00:38:12.199 the street. I mean he would go to the high school games once in 565 00:38:12.199 --> 00:38:15.079 a while, but every time she played, it was always in freaking Orange 566 00:38:15.119 --> 00:38:21.760 County or like, you know, halfway to Mexico practically, so I would 567 00:38:21.800 --> 00:38:24.039 be the one take getting up at five thirty d slam by the way, 568 00:38:24.079 --> 00:38:30.400 that's literally listen, I'm in Arizona and I'm like halfway to No Gallus, 569 00:38:30.559 --> 00:38:34.440 like there's I've been to tournaments far away and at times because we have two 570 00:38:34.480 --> 00:38:37.400 now that playing at times, if Daniels with one of them like it that 571 00:38:37.440 --> 00:38:40.000 I've had to go as I really try to also avoid the games where he's 572 00:38:40.039 --> 00:38:45.719 pitching. He's really really talented, and it has a lot of potential, 573 00:38:45.960 --> 00:38:50.000 right um, like the you know, who knows what can happen, like 574 00:38:50.079 --> 00:38:52.159 puberty and peace something. It really is going to be in the hands of 575 00:38:52.239 --> 00:38:57.639 genetics and fate ultimately. But um, I do get wrapped up in it 576 00:38:57.719 --> 00:39:00.280 in a way that I know is stupid, and I kind of can't like 577 00:39:00.519 --> 00:39:05.280 I can't control what my nervous system is doing, and I don't really understand 578 00:39:05.320 --> 00:39:07.360 it. But I do feel good when I make myself go like, you 579 00:39:07.360 --> 00:39:12.320 know what, this is not threatening an urgent, This is not life or 580 00:39:12.320 --> 00:39:15.119 death. This is not a big deal, and this is not a problem. 581 00:39:15.360 --> 00:39:19.760 These are thirteen year olds throwing and catching a ball, fucking shit together. 582 00:39:19.920 --> 00:39:22.519 Yeah yeah, yeah, But I just like and and then I also 583 00:39:22.880 --> 00:39:27.000 in a way and it was like I write about this too in the book 584 00:39:27.599 --> 00:39:31.920 Mike. My mom was loved us, but she wasn't didn't love parenting, 585 00:39:32.079 --> 00:39:37.920 and she was yeah, she was like pretty benign, lean, neglectful, 586 00:39:37.960 --> 00:39:43.880 and wasn't like really around a lotus on the Greyhound Yeah yeah. At age 587 00:39:43.880 --> 00:39:47.679 eight, age through the prison belt of Central California from La to San Francisco, 588 00:39:47.800 --> 00:39:52.320 many times, like not once in the book test which would not be 589 00:39:52.440 --> 00:39:54.039 legal, not be legal. Now, I flew by my shelf. I 590 00:39:55.360 --> 00:40:00.840 flew at age three, from three to eight. I I think I was 591 00:40:00.920 --> 00:40:05.639 flying monthly by myself. Again, it's not allowed. I was like a 592 00:40:05.679 --> 00:40:10.119 full time unaccompanied minor like ever in life. So I feel good when like 593 00:40:10.400 --> 00:40:15.400 I feel good when I'm there, like, oh, I've look, I'm 594 00:40:15.519 --> 00:40:19.199 here, I even though it makes me nervous and like, I guess my 595 00:40:19.239 --> 00:40:22.719 point is I've in a way, I'm relieved that I'm over early attached and 596 00:40:22.880 --> 00:40:29.400 that not like my mom where she sort of didn't connect on a primal level 597 00:40:29.440 --> 00:40:32.639 with us. But your whole book is about the season with your dad, 598 00:40:32.719 --> 00:40:37.760 where you were like every game. Yes, so I was very nervous and 599 00:40:37.760 --> 00:40:40.519 it's gotten worse. Are going to see themselves in the I'm pretty nervous about 600 00:40:40.559 --> 00:40:45.519 it. Yet other kids, So you talk about the parents and the other 601 00:40:45.599 --> 00:40:50.719 kids and stuff. Huh. There is nothing fictional in this book except the 602 00:40:50.800 --> 00:40:55.199 names. I change the names, and in some of the cases of the 603 00:40:55.320 --> 00:41:00.440 kids, A couple of the kids are aggregates of kids from different seasons, 604 00:41:00.480 --> 00:41:06.079 because like, they're kids, right, and they should just maybe they aren't 605 00:41:06.079 --> 00:41:08.280 good at baseball, right, And I'm not gonna throw a kid under the 606 00:41:08.280 --> 00:41:14.599 bus. But my editor actually had like really great suggestion, which was like, 607 00:41:14.719 --> 00:41:16.960 you can write the real truth and it's totally real, but give them 608 00:41:17.039 --> 00:41:21.960 a physical quality that they didn't have. So like, this kid is exactly 609 00:41:22.000 --> 00:41:24.840 another kid, but this kid's pigeon toed with glasses and the real kid wasn't. 610 00:41:25.079 --> 00:41:29.639 So I don't think people will exactly. Some people will probably figure it 611 00:41:29.679 --> 00:41:34.960 out, the coaches, but nobody's really a villain, Like I'm a I'm 612 00:41:35.000 --> 00:41:39.079 like, you know, the flaws that I dissect are mainly mine and my 613 00:41:39.119 --> 00:41:45.719 evil stepmothers too, but she's dead, so and dead people can't sue is 614 00:41:45.039 --> 00:41:52.039 so good. I have like a couple of stories in my book about a 615 00:41:52.079 --> 00:41:55.360 couple of moms that one in particular, I was just telling my editor this. 616 00:41:55.440 --> 00:42:00.360 I was like, there's this one mom that I had this thing with 617 00:42:00.480 --> 00:42:05.159 that basically I hung up on her on the phone because I was so mad 618 00:42:05.199 --> 00:42:08.239 at something that she did. And so I was telling my editor the other 619 00:42:08.320 --> 00:42:12.519 day, I'm like, yeah, I'm starting to like think because I read 620 00:42:12.840 --> 00:42:15.039 you know, I'm you know, you read your own book. A bunch 621 00:42:15.079 --> 00:42:17.519 of times. So I'm doing the copy at it. I've done the copy 622 00:42:17.559 --> 00:42:21.719 at it, but I like, I'm like, oh, that that mom 623 00:42:21.800 --> 00:42:24.920 is going to recognize herself. Even though there was a situation that happened, 624 00:42:25.320 --> 00:42:31.320 I changed the situation. It was a gossip situation where she was gossiping to 625 00:42:31.400 --> 00:42:36.400 me about something that was like so inappropriate for her to be gossiping about that. 626 00:42:36.480 --> 00:42:38.840 I got really offended and I was like, you could fuck up that 627 00:42:38.880 --> 00:42:44.760 person's life if you're spreading this thing around. So um, I changed. 628 00:42:44.800 --> 00:42:49.880 I totally changed what she was gossiping about. But I hung up on her 629 00:42:49.880 --> 00:42:52.039 and then I called my sponsor afterwards, and I was like, you're not 630 00:42:52.079 --> 00:42:57.119 going to believe this and vote and I'm so mad. And then my sponsor 631 00:42:57.239 --> 00:43:00.480 was like, yeah, but you can't like be behaving like that, like 632 00:43:00.519 --> 00:43:02.400 you can't hang up on people. And I was like, oh, do 633 00:43:02.440 --> 00:43:07.480 I have to apologize and she was like yeah, but only for like your 634 00:43:07.760 --> 00:43:13.719 part, Like just apologize for the behavior and then stop gossiping with her, 635 00:43:13.960 --> 00:43:20.360 like don't have don't let her believe that you're somebody that So that happened. 636 00:43:20.400 --> 00:43:22.440 So I told my editor. I was like, ah, I just this 637 00:43:22.519 --> 00:43:25.320 mom is going to totally reck She's going to recognize herself. She's very intelligent 638 00:43:25.360 --> 00:43:29.840 and she reads a lot, and she probably will read my book because we're 639 00:43:30.039 --> 00:43:34.719 very we're acquaintances. Still, like she doesn't know, like okay, And 640 00:43:34.880 --> 00:43:37.159 in the story I call her and I say like, hey, um, 641 00:43:37.840 --> 00:43:43.360 okay, I want to apologize, and she was like thank you. Where 642 00:43:43.400 --> 00:43:45.000 She's like, yeah, that was you were waiting. She said you were 643 00:43:45.039 --> 00:43:49.719 way at you were way out an she didn't see it that like how she 644 00:43:49.840 --> 00:43:52.119 was acting was so bad. So anyway, my point is I'm like, 645 00:43:52.199 --> 00:43:55.960 okay, so she's going to recognize herself. And then my editor goes, 646 00:43:55.960 --> 00:44:00.760 well, is it possible though, since you changed enough stuff about her that 647 00:44:00.840 --> 00:44:04.079 she might think Wow, Stephanie really gets in these kind of squabbles with people 648 00:44:04.159 --> 00:44:08.239 a lot. She sure hangs up on people a lot, you know. 649 00:44:08.320 --> 00:44:13.360 And I was like, yeah, I don't know. And then she goes, 650 00:44:13.360 --> 00:44:15.639 well, how much do you care if she's mad at you? And 651 00:44:15.679 --> 00:44:20.519 I was like, I mean, I guess not much. I don't think 652 00:44:20.559 --> 00:44:22.840 I care. I only care if it's going to affect my kids. I 653 00:44:22.880 --> 00:44:25.519 don't care if somebody's matter. This won't affect my kids yeah, then I 654 00:44:25.519 --> 00:44:30.480 don't think it matters. Right if she calls you, you should be like, 655 00:44:30.119 --> 00:44:32.679 I'm gonna hear you out, and I want to hear your side, 656 00:44:32.679 --> 00:44:37.280 and I'm going to give you time and space to air your grievances with me 657 00:44:37.519 --> 00:44:45.400 fully and then four words in hang up. Oh my god, there's another 658 00:44:45.519 --> 00:44:50.679 mom that I told a story about two that I use this exact example, 659 00:44:50.800 --> 00:44:52.800 and I'm going to tell you what it is since it's coming out in the 660 00:44:52.840 --> 00:44:54.559 book. Do you remember that time, Lynette? I think I'm sure we 661 00:44:54.599 --> 00:45:00.480 were podcasting at the time. I came into help with teacher appreciation Day and 662 00:45:00.679 --> 00:45:02.320 uh, you know you all the kids bring in a flower, and then 663 00:45:02.440 --> 00:45:07.400 our job as parents was to gather all the volunteers, gather all the flowers 664 00:45:07.440 --> 00:45:10.519 together, and then separate them into little like cute, little cute little arrangements 665 00:45:10.519 --> 00:45:15.840 in vases for all the teachers. Well, apparently I wasn't doing it right 666 00:45:15.920 --> 00:45:19.480 because I took one of the flowers and I cut it so to match the 667 00:45:19.559 --> 00:45:22.199 length of the other flowers. And this mom, I don't know if you 668 00:45:22.239 --> 00:45:27.239 remember this this month peaked out on me. She's a very type a like 669 00:45:27.599 --> 00:45:30.599 perfect perfectionist mom, and like, you know, always had her shit together, 670 00:45:30.800 --> 00:45:34.559 and like she'd have parties at her house that I was invited to. 671 00:45:34.719 --> 00:45:38.400 She was like, we're friendly anyway. She yelled at me. She was 672 00:45:38.440 --> 00:45:44.440 like that wasn't you weren't supposed to cut back those weren't that's flower We're supposed 673 00:45:44.480 --> 00:45:45.840 to stick out above the other ones. And of course me, I have 674 00:45:45.880 --> 00:45:51.079 the thinnest skin. I was just like, okay, well whatever, I 675 00:45:51.119 --> 00:45:53.079 mean, fine, I'll just do something else. I didn't like loose. 676 00:45:53.119 --> 00:45:55.679 I didn't go like, wow, you're being a bit. I didn't act 677 00:45:55.760 --> 00:45:59.800 that badly, but I was mad, And then of course I just couldn't 678 00:45:59.840 --> 00:46:01.599 let go in my mind. I was so mad, and then I got 679 00:46:01.639 --> 00:46:06.800 home and then I called my sponsor about this, and my sponsor was like, 680 00:46:07.519 --> 00:46:13.039 okay, but like you're volunteering, Like are you there because you want 681 00:46:13.039 --> 00:46:15.400 to feel really important, because like my work as a flower arranger is like 682 00:46:15.440 --> 00:46:20.239 super important, like and I was like no, but like she didn't need 683 00:46:20.239 --> 00:46:22.039 to act like that, Like I was there because I'm trying to appreciate the 684 00:46:22.039 --> 00:46:27.199 fuck out teachers, Like I'm there for the right reasons. I'm on your 685 00:46:27.199 --> 00:46:30.440 team, Like you don't have to go off on me, and she was 686 00:46:30.440 --> 00:46:34.000 like, okay, but that just seems like your ego is like who cares. 687 00:46:34.639 --> 00:46:37.519 Yeah. It was so freeing to go like, oh my god, 688 00:46:37.559 --> 00:46:39.519 you're right, Like she's there, she's got her own ship going on, 689 00:46:39.840 --> 00:46:44.559 and she's there to appreciate the teachers, and she's like takes pride in her 690 00:46:44.920 --> 00:46:47.639 flower arranging ability, like I don't need to take everything so personally, and 691 00:46:47.679 --> 00:46:51.960 so I was like, yeah, okay, whatever, but I don't feel 692 00:46:51.960 --> 00:46:54.320 about that. I wouldn't send to any conclusion in there, like she's a 693 00:46:54.320 --> 00:46:59.840 wonderful mom and a great person or friends, and that situation literally happens. 694 00:47:00.000 --> 00:47:02.559 If she reads the book, she's going to be like, oh interesting. 695 00:47:02.760 --> 00:47:07.480 I was the person who's going to be like that bitch is still bad, 696 00:47:08.199 --> 00:47:14.320 Like letting got it. I was at work maybe like a week and a 697 00:47:14.360 --> 00:47:20.119 half or two weeks ago, and I was on location at a restaurant interviewing 698 00:47:20.159 --> 00:47:23.360 a chef right and there was a new producer and I had never worked with 699 00:47:23.440 --> 00:47:28.159 him before and never met him before. I was like, oh, it's 700 00:47:28.159 --> 00:47:30.719 really great to me. It's kind of weird to meet somebody and you're like 701 00:47:30.800 --> 00:47:31.840 out in the field, like where now we're doing it, you know, 702 00:47:31.840 --> 00:47:36.760 so he's producing the segment, but you know, I I've been on this 703 00:47:36.800 --> 00:47:39.519 particular show for eleven years, so I kind of have like a spiel like, 704 00:47:39.519 --> 00:47:43.280 oh, I go, look, we're not live. Don't worry about 705 00:47:43.320 --> 00:47:45.719 it. You literally can't do anything wrong. There's no mistakes. You could 706 00:47:45.760 --> 00:47:49.360 be like, hey, fuck you, and it wouldn't matter because we could 707 00:47:49.360 --> 00:47:52.519 do no. I just I try to put people at ease because people there's 708 00:47:52.519 --> 00:47:54.079 a lot of lights and three cameras and people who aren't used to it. 709 00:47:54.320 --> 00:47:58.800 I can like sometimes I can see them physically trembling and they're like, so 710 00:47:58.840 --> 00:48:00.960 I'm trying to have a spiel I do, and then I just say, 711 00:48:01.000 --> 00:48:05.920 like, you're gonna want to look into the camera because that's just a human 712 00:48:05.960 --> 00:48:08.599 impulse, but just don't. You're gonna want to, and it's okay if 713 00:48:08.599 --> 00:48:10.920 you do, but it's gonna look weird, so don't do it. Look 714 00:48:10.920 --> 00:48:15.039 at me and just pretend we're having a regular conversation. You know. It's 715 00:48:15.039 --> 00:48:19.320 like a forty two second spiel that I do. And this guy, who 716 00:48:19.400 --> 00:48:22.599 I didn't don't know very well, I didn't really like he was like okay, 717 00:48:22.679 --> 00:48:25.000 you know, he was saying something that he wanted us to do, 718 00:48:25.039 --> 00:48:30.559 and I thought that he was done talking, so I was, you know, 719 00:48:30.199 --> 00:48:36.639 launching in spiel and he said I wasn't finished. O god. And 720 00:48:36.679 --> 00:48:43.960 the tone was like, oh, that was in front of like this person 721 00:48:43.960 --> 00:48:49.920 I'm about to interview, and like the publicist who's here and the cameraman. 722 00:48:51.000 --> 00:48:54.639 And I know that I don't always trust my reactions because I will have an 723 00:48:54.639 --> 00:49:00.599 exaggerated emotional response to somebody snapping at me. Yeah, but I was like, 724 00:49:00.760 --> 00:49:04.199 I think that was really fucking bad. Like but then I just you 725 00:49:04.199 --> 00:49:07.239 know, I went on with it. This is crazy. The very next 726 00:49:07.320 --> 00:49:13.000 day, I'm going into Good Morning Arizona to promote my book and it's just 727 00:49:13.039 --> 00:49:15.280 like you know, local news live and I go in. Who do I 728 00:49:15.360 --> 00:49:19.719 see but the chef. He's doing a cooking segment on the same show. 729 00:49:19.960 --> 00:49:22.360 And I'm like, hey, chef, Oh you were so great yesterday. 730 00:49:22.360 --> 00:49:27.760 I go, hey, Um, was it just me? Or did my 731 00:49:28.039 --> 00:49:30.719 producer like stab at me a little bit? And I thought he was gonna 732 00:49:30.760 --> 00:49:34.000 be like, I don't know what you're talking about. He goes, oh, 733 00:49:34.039 --> 00:49:39.320 you mean let me finish. I was like, thank you, And 734 00:49:39.360 --> 00:49:43.760 then I could have I wanted to talk about it for like forty seven years, 735 00:49:44.000 --> 00:49:45.360 but he wouldn't. He was like, yeah it was He's like, 736 00:49:45.480 --> 00:49:49.159 but like so what so you know he was in a hurry and whatever. 737 00:49:49.199 --> 00:49:52.519 But I wanted to be like, no, I don't know that way. 738 00:49:52.639 --> 00:49:57.800 I didn't know him. It was in front of people. He humiliated me. 739 00:49:58.079 --> 00:50:01.039 He condescended, Yeah, fuck you you just started this job. I've 740 00:50:01.039 --> 00:50:06.280 been here eleven years. Like why are you dick to me? You know? 741 00:50:06.360 --> 00:50:08.280 But like he didn't want to. He was like, He's like, 742 00:50:08.320 --> 00:50:13.119 I don't want to you care right, so yeah, so test Yes, 743 00:50:13.840 --> 00:50:17.599 I hate that. I It's happened to me before too. Actually recently on 744 00:50:17.239 --> 00:50:22.599 a phone call on a conference call, like I and I usually am very 745 00:50:22.639 --> 00:50:28.360 like aware of when people are talking and I try to let them finish, 746 00:50:28.400 --> 00:50:30.880 and I guess I jumped into and the other person was like, well, 747 00:50:30.920 --> 00:50:32.960 I wasn't. If you would have let me finish, I could, And 748 00:50:34.000 --> 00:50:36.679 I was like, okay, Jesus, I know you just take it so 749 00:50:36.800 --> 00:50:39.039 personal. Now listen, I don't want to interrupt you, guys. I 750 00:50:39.159 --> 00:50:42.159 know you have a lot of important things to say, but I want to 751 00:50:42.159 --> 00:50:45.320 talk about organify. Yes, yeah, really fast. And I know later, 752 00:50:45.400 --> 00:50:46.440 you guys are gonna be like, oh my god, I was talking 753 00:50:46.440 --> 00:50:51.559 about something and she interrupted. But this is very important. 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Try it? 773 00:52:15.440 --> 00:52:21.360 Yeah, I feel very thirsty, now, would you like a water? 774 00:52:21.599 --> 00:52:28.159 It was the suggestive sales that made me want it. This this somebody 775 00:52:28.280 --> 00:52:34.320 sent us this on for Crying Out Loud to our Instagram. They messaged it 776 00:52:34.320 --> 00:52:36.639 to me and I thought it was so funny that I wanted to play it 777 00:52:36.719 --> 00:52:39.119 for us. But I have to just find it really fast. Okay, 778 00:52:39.480 --> 00:52:45.039 um, no, I have to figure out how to do. This show 779 00:52:45.079 --> 00:52:51.519 is in grave danger of being overproduced. I would have had my favorite Okay, 780 00:52:51.760 --> 00:52:55.039 okay, listen to this, you guys. Poucie's uncle, Poucie's uncle. 781 00:52:57.519 --> 00:53:00.320 Okay, okay, ready, now this is how do you pronounce his 782 00:53:00.360 --> 00:53:05.880 name? Nate Borghaze? Oh, the comedian? Yeah, okay, I've 783 00:53:05.880 --> 00:53:07.079 only seen it written. I don't know how how you say it. I 784 00:53:07.119 --> 00:53:10.480 think it's Nate Borgaze now this is really funny. This is a funny bit. 785 00:53:10.880 --> 00:53:14.960 It's a little clip from his stand up. But I don't know if 786 00:53:15.000 --> 00:53:16.920 you're going to totally relate. This is kind of but it's it's really in 787 00:53:16.920 --> 00:53:22.280 the realm of default parent. Yes, okay, ready third grade and for 788 00:53:22.480 --> 00:53:25.480 first grade she started taking the bus and it was the first time she ever 789 00:53:25.519 --> 00:53:28.880 took the bus. So if you know, as a parent, you welcome 790 00:53:28.880 --> 00:53:30.280 to the bus stop. It's very fun. And so we got her on 791 00:53:30.320 --> 00:53:32.599 the bus. She went to school. At the end of the school day, 792 00:53:32.679 --> 00:53:36.880 someone from the school called my cell phone. They have my wife's cell 793 00:53:36.880 --> 00:53:39.239 phone. They have my cellphone. They called my cell phone and the teach 794 00:53:39.320 --> 00:53:42.400 she said, hey, do you know what bus number your daughter's supposed to 795 00:53:42.440 --> 00:53:46.159 be on? And I said, I'm her dad. I said, are 796 00:53:46.159 --> 00:53:47.960 you create? Like? I was like, this is how you thought you 797 00:53:47.960 --> 00:53:52.559 would give this information? Was? They called the dan? I saw a 798 00:53:52.599 --> 00:53:54.079 mom and dad's cell phone. You go, I bet the dan knows. 799 00:53:57.599 --> 00:53:59.679 I was like, do you have parents? You ever seen a family before? 800 00:54:01.719 --> 00:54:07.159 A list? There's two husbands. You should never call us, I 801 00:54:07.159 --> 00:54:12.079 would read, you ask a lady that doesn't know her. I think I 802 00:54:12.199 --> 00:54:17.119 can so true. I had to go get her. Go alright, I'll 803 00:54:17.159 --> 00:54:20.039 come get her. What's tell me the name of the school, and I'll 804 00:54:20.039 --> 00:54:24.760 come get her. That is this is true in our house, except it's 805 00:54:24.760 --> 00:54:30.360 reversed. Like when somebody asked me, like, can can Andrew do this 806 00:54:30.400 --> 00:54:32.000 at four pm? I'm like, are you really asking me? When you 807 00:54:32.039 --> 00:54:37.400 know that Daniel runs that They people call him cmd calendar man Dan. Really 808 00:54:37.960 --> 00:54:40.920 he knows what the number buses and what time shit is and who the orthodonist 809 00:54:42.039 --> 00:54:45.679 is. Oh, he fills out forms. He does portals. I don't 810 00:54:45.679 --> 00:54:50.559 do port portals. I can't do a portal. God, the portal portals. 811 00:54:50.719 --> 00:54:54.119 It's a nightmare. It is right now. I am in this nightmare 812 00:54:54.199 --> 00:55:00.480 because Sonny is taking a trip to Japan with the school. He's leaving like 813 00:55:00.559 --> 00:55:04.320 in two days, and it's a nice opportunity for him to do. And 814 00:55:04.320 --> 00:55:07.760 then it's you know, school whatever teacher sends out this thing last night. 815 00:55:07.199 --> 00:55:13.239 Go to the Japan web site. And then you need to put in like 816 00:55:13.639 --> 00:55:16.079 their itinerary because they're not staying at one hotel. They're going to one hotel. 817 00:55:16.119 --> 00:55:20.400 Then they're taking a bullet train to another hotel for for ten days. 818 00:55:20.760 --> 00:55:24.239 Put all that stuff in and I'm like, and then there's so when you're 819 00:55:24.280 --> 00:55:29.000 filling it out, there's like there's a thing called oh god, I can't 820 00:55:29.000 --> 00:55:34.880 think of the projector or something where because Japan is divided in these different like 821 00:55:35.480 --> 00:55:40.039 cities and call you know, uh, provinces. Yes, but it's called 822 00:55:40.159 --> 00:55:45.119 something. I've never had to google it anyway, it's a specific it's it's 823 00:55:45.159 --> 00:55:50.440 a nightmare. Like I'm like, and then if you click on the hotel, 824 00:55:50.760 --> 00:55:53.400 everything is in Japanese, so I can't figure out what the zip code 825 00:55:53.440 --> 00:55:59.800 like, you can't read, Yeah, I can't. I can't. He's 826 00:56:00.039 --> 00:56:01.400 I'm like, my nephew when he was a little used to goes this japan 827 00:56:01.519 --> 00:56:07.239 food. Yeah, it's yeah portals, like so anyway, that's what I'm 828 00:56:07.320 --> 00:56:10.920 Yeah, I had to get his passport. So yes, that sounds awful. 829 00:56:12.000 --> 00:56:15.960 Yea. Alby had an appointment with her community college with a counselor, 830 00:56:15.360 --> 00:56:19.800 which, okay, so I have this is like, this is the kind 831 00:56:19.840 --> 00:56:22.880 of shit that I get impressed by. Now I have a friend who teaches 832 00:56:23.039 --> 00:56:27.719 at the community at the local community college who's like, listen, I'm gonna 833 00:56:27.719 --> 00:56:30.400 give you the name of this of one of the counselors, and she's awesome 834 00:56:30.559 --> 00:56:34.519 and like, you're gonna make an appointment with her, so you're gonna email 835 00:56:34.559 --> 00:56:37.719 her. So I did. So I didn't go through the channels. I 836 00:56:37.719 --> 00:56:40.280 didn't go through any portals. I just I just emailed this woman like you 837 00:56:43.920 --> 00:56:49.719 yeah, yeah, I'm gonna side dorit. Yeah. Other people have to 838 00:56:49.760 --> 00:56:52.360 go through a portal. Yeah right, I know. I side door, 839 00:56:52.800 --> 00:56:54.679 I side door And I got through to her and then we had a we 840 00:56:54.719 --> 00:56:57.480 had a meeting with her, and she was like, listen, here's what 841 00:56:57.519 --> 00:57:00.840 I'm gonna do for you. You gotta meet with a counselor. But you're 842 00:57:00.880 --> 00:57:05.039 not officially enrolled in the school yet, but I'm gonna hook you up with 843 00:57:05.119 --> 00:57:07.480 the counselor. So she hooks, I'll be up with the counselor. I'll 844 00:57:07.519 --> 00:57:09.679 be goes to the counselor. She learns a whole bunch of stuff, but 845 00:57:09.800 --> 00:57:14.440 in order to actually sign up for the classes, she needs to meet with 846 00:57:14.480 --> 00:57:16.719 another counselor, another counselor. And now I'm like, well, I'm out 847 00:57:16.760 --> 00:57:22.480 of ideas because I used it all connections, Like I don't know, I'm 848 00:57:22.480 --> 00:57:25.679 like, I know how to regular people, how to non Madonna's Yes, 849 00:57:25.840 --> 00:57:29.599 I don't know, Like I'm like, well, is like there's probably a 850 00:57:29.639 --> 00:57:31.599 portal, and then you go in the portal and then you have to probably, 851 00:57:31.800 --> 00:57:35.880 I don't know, sign up for something your name, get a packer. 852 00:57:37.239 --> 00:57:39.719 Every year. I don't know what it's like here, but every year 853 00:57:40.000 --> 00:57:45.719 in Arizona with public schools, the big thing is like a week before school 854 00:57:45.760 --> 00:57:49.000 starts, you find out what teacher you have and what class you're in, 855 00:57:49.079 --> 00:57:52.320 and then all the moms start texting like, oh my god, yes, 856 00:57:52.440 --> 00:57:59.159 And every single year, I can't get into the motherfucking portal every and and 857 00:57:59.199 --> 00:58:01.719 then there's like a hell apline and then I try too many times and it's 858 00:58:01.760 --> 00:58:06.599 like you're locked out of Scottsdale Unified. I just want to know my teachers. 859 00:58:06.599 --> 00:58:09.559 And then I feel like such an asshole because everybody else has no problem, 860 00:58:09.599 --> 00:58:12.800 and they're like, right, why does everybody else have no problem? 861 00:58:12.800 --> 00:58:15.000 I don't understand. And then I have to have the default friend mom, 862 00:58:15.079 --> 00:58:19.039 because then I'll text her and go, hey, how do I get back 863 00:58:19.039 --> 00:58:24.840 into the portal? I'm locked out. Also, everyone somehow magically knows when 864 00:58:24.840 --> 00:58:29.840 the deadline is to apply to get into certain camps like in Arizona, summer 865 00:58:29.840 --> 00:58:32.960 camps a big deal because it's motherfucking one hundred and seventeen degrees. I'm the 866 00:58:32.960 --> 00:58:37.079 only person no pool, and I can't have the kids just sitting around all 867 00:58:37.119 --> 00:58:42.159 the day in TikTok, right and like eating you know, sunflower seeds in 868 00:58:42.199 --> 00:58:45.559 their rooms and these kids and like this year, I'm like, oh, 869 00:58:45.639 --> 00:58:50.400 everybody's going to camp. What camp? And then I'm like, wait, 870 00:58:50.440 --> 00:58:53.039 oh my god, it's June. Yeah, like shit, literally, and 871 00:58:53.079 --> 00:58:58.239 then I email like hey, and I try to use my power, my 872 00:58:58.320 --> 00:59:01.519 superpower of writing a good email, right, and I almost got my kid. 873 00:59:01.599 --> 00:59:06.119 But even they even I have my limits because like it's full. They're 874 00:59:06.159 --> 00:59:13.960 like, well he can still do um football or like arts and crap, 875 00:59:14.960 --> 00:59:19.960 like swimming. Yeah, I'm like the thing that's outdoors in one seventeen or 876 00:59:20.000 --> 00:59:22.679 the other thing that's outdoors or the thing that he's never gonna want to do 877 00:59:23.000 --> 00:59:30.719 right oops, or math athletics or whatever bullshit, Like oh my god, 878 00:59:30.760 --> 00:59:37.000 that's abuse a camp. Like all my friends are doing basketball and I'm doing 879 00:59:37.079 --> 00:59:42.239 math. Thanks mom. I know that's the worst. The worst I did 880 00:59:42.320 --> 00:59:44.960 resent some of the other people, like you couldn't have given me a head 881 00:59:45.000 --> 00:59:47.000 suck. I know, like you know me by now you know me? 882 00:59:47.280 --> 00:59:52.079 Like, couldn't you're going to register your son? Don't? Doesn't he want 883 00:59:52.079 --> 00:59:53.199 to have a friend with him? Let me know, by the way, 884 00:59:53.400 --> 00:59:57.239 last year I was on the group text with all the kids that are going 885 00:59:57.280 --> 00:59:59.840 to this one camp, and then this year I wasn't. So I've given 886 01:00:00.360 --> 01:00:04.400 I've shocker. I've given it a lot of thought as to why I was 887 01:00:04.480 --> 01:00:07.679 not on this year. I've decided it was an oversight because people are busy 888 01:00:07.719 --> 01:00:12.480 and they're just thinking about themselves. But I did have about two weeks where 889 01:00:12.480 --> 01:00:15.280 it was like is it me? Took it personal? Is it my kid? 890 01:00:16.039 --> 01:00:21.039 Is it us? Because it's definitely not Daniel. So I ruled that 891 01:00:21.039 --> 01:00:24.239 out because everybody likes him. But I think most of the time things it's 892 01:00:24.280 --> 01:00:28.960 an oversight, like nobody's trying to attack me, right right? And when 893 01:00:29.000 --> 01:00:31.840 your kids get older like mine, I think yours are still at an age 894 01:00:31.840 --> 01:00:35.800 where you might talk to the other parents. I don't know. Yeah, 895 01:00:35.960 --> 01:00:38.440 nobody taught to know her. Yeah, when does that happen? At what 896 01:00:38.519 --> 01:00:43.840 age do I not have to do anything? I would say for sure high 897 01:00:43.840 --> 01:00:45.480 school? I don't know. For me if they're in high school and they're 898 01:00:45.480 --> 01:00:49.480 not in a sport like Natalia was in volleyball, but my kids are not, 899 01:00:49.639 --> 01:00:52.360 so I don't hear from any parents. Yeah, and I do. 900 01:00:52.480 --> 01:00:55.360 It's weird, like my like Xander has one friend and the mom got a 901 01:00:55.360 --> 01:00:58.840 hold of me and was like, hey, so my kids coming over to 902 01:00:58.920 --> 01:01:00.920 your house or whatever, and I was once in a while, you'll get 903 01:01:00.920 --> 01:01:04.039 that. But once they yeah, once they get to height, then they 904 01:01:04.079 --> 01:01:07.199 start. They just exchange text messages. Some trouble's already happening. And I 905 01:01:07.239 --> 01:01:12.679 don't know if this is normal for thirteen year olds, but girls uber over 906 01:01:13.119 --> 01:01:16.480 when the boys are having a sleepover at two boys houses in the middle of 907 01:01:16.519 --> 01:01:21.400 the night, they uber over and then they sneak out. They sneak out 908 01:01:21.440 --> 01:01:23.400 their house and they take an uber and they show up at boys houses. 909 01:01:23.559 --> 01:01:30.159 I love it. Hustlers, get your hustle on, scrappy. It's it's 910 01:01:30.199 --> 01:01:36.360 crazy thirteen year old team uber and then they sneak home and no one's the 911 01:01:36.400 --> 01:01:39.679 wiser except for all the ring doorbells. That's crazy. Oby refused to do 912 01:01:39.719 --> 01:01:45.079 that because she has anxiety, so she was like she had a thing about 913 01:01:45.199 --> 01:01:46.960 uber. She didn't like it. She didn't even like it with other people. 914 01:01:47.079 --> 01:01:50.679 She was like, what if they abduct me? What if they leslie 915 01:01:50.679 --> 01:01:54.559 accustomed me? Yes, I don't want I don't want any part of that. 916 01:01:55.039 --> 01:01:59.280 And now she will uber but with somebody she would never uber by herself. 917 01:01:59.360 --> 01:02:01.800 Yeah too. Yeah, she wanted to be with a couple of friends. 918 01:02:01.840 --> 01:02:06.280 Yeah, she's like the idea of a strange person. Pure thirteen year 919 01:02:06.280 --> 01:02:09.320 old would be like, okay, Like if he's in a sleepover, for 920 01:02:09.360 --> 01:02:13.239 like, if he's out for four days and not home, that's like the 921 01:02:13.239 --> 01:02:15.880 best four days of his life. He just wants to be with his boys. 922 01:02:15.400 --> 01:02:19.679 He loves being at other people's houses. Maybe because we don't have a 923 01:02:19.719 --> 01:02:25.039 pool. I don't know. He's very he's not attached to being at home. 924 01:02:25.239 --> 01:02:30.760 Niece does no fear A little fear is good. The sports probably helped 925 01:02:30.760 --> 01:02:34.760 with if that's a thing. You're always like, you travel, you're in 926 01:02:34.880 --> 01:02:39.519 if you're in intense situations. Yeah, the pressure confidence, yeah's good. 927 01:02:39.960 --> 01:02:45.360 He's gonna be independent for sure. Well listen, tell us about your book 928 01:02:45.679 --> 01:02:49.119 again. Where do we get it? What's the exact data? It's out 929 01:02:49.159 --> 01:02:53.079 now, it's out now out making it home life lessons from a season of 930 01:02:53.079 --> 01:02:57.000 a Little League. And I'll say this to the audio book people. Yeah, 931 01:02:57.039 --> 01:03:00.199 I had an incredible experience recording this audio book. I was just going 932 01:03:00.239 --> 01:03:04.000 to ask you about it. Is there audiobook out? Here's here's something fun, 933 01:03:04.039 --> 01:03:06.400 And I'll make it quick because we do. We have to wrap it. 934 01:03:06.440 --> 01:03:09.039 I don't want to keep you guys. But I when I knew I 935 01:03:09.079 --> 01:03:14.519 was doing an audiobook, I started like paying a lot of attention to audiobooks, 936 01:03:14.559 --> 01:03:17.360 and I followed Jennifer Gray, you know, Dirty Dancing, and she 937 01:03:17.480 --> 01:03:22.639 wrote a thing She was like, my audio book director's amazing, Scott Sharett. 938 01:03:22.760 --> 01:03:24.320 Then I looked him up and I realized he was like the Spielberg of 939 01:03:24.320 --> 01:03:31.159 audiobooks, Oprah Reese, Witherspoon, Prince Harry recorded his own did I say 940 01:03:31.199 --> 01:03:37.320 Bono? Questlove Everybody? Debbie Harry, Anybody's anybody? He's like, um, 941 01:03:37.840 --> 01:03:40.119 really brilliant. And I knew that I needed help because it's not just 942 01:03:40.159 --> 01:03:44.440 a book of essays. There's a lot of dialogue. There's scenes with multiple 943 01:03:44.519 --> 01:03:49.000 characters. And I'm not really a voice actress, but I like I was. 944 01:03:49.280 --> 01:03:51.800 They wanted me to narrate the book and I wanted to do it because 945 01:03:51.800 --> 01:03:54.239 you make extra money. Yeah, yeah, I'm not handing over that, 946 01:03:54.559 --> 01:03:59.280 even though I think maybe somebody could do a better job. So I asked 947 01:03:59.320 --> 01:04:02.239 my publisher like, I know this is crazy and it's a total long shot, 948 01:04:02.599 --> 01:04:08.840 but um, is there anyway that you think Scott Sherritt would do my 949 01:04:09.079 --> 01:04:13.639 book? I be like, he's busy with Oprah. But like a couple 950 01:04:13.639 --> 01:04:15.840 of days later, they said, yeah, he's available these four days. 951 01:04:15.199 --> 01:04:18.400 Wow. So I got this guy. He zoomed in, so he was 952 01:04:18.440 --> 01:04:24.159 in the studio via zoom in Phoenix every minute, and the guys just like 953 01:04:24.440 --> 01:04:28.159 he makes anybody good. He's one of those directors Like, I don't know, 954 01:04:28.239 --> 01:04:30.360 I can't explain it to you. He zoomed with me before, and 955 01:04:30.360 --> 01:04:31.559 I told him like, how am I gonna do my dad? How am 956 01:04:31.559 --> 01:04:35.480 I gonna do like fifty characters? And he just he said, I've read 957 01:04:35.519 --> 01:04:41.639 the book. The book is good. Just deliver it. Wow, Yeah, 958 01:04:41.840 --> 01:04:43.960 just put me at ease. I don't even know what that means, 959 01:04:44.760 --> 01:04:46.639 but I just was like, Okay, I'm gonna just deliver it. It's 960 01:04:46.639 --> 01:04:50.199 like, just say the words. That's a name. I cannot wait to 961 01:04:50.320 --> 01:04:54.039 look, can I Is it out on audible now? Yes, so it's 962 01:04:54.280 --> 01:04:58.480 so it's either in paperback or it's on audible. But I actually think that 963 01:04:58.519 --> 01:05:04.000 the audiobook experience will be yeah or kindle. Oh, I can't wait. 964 01:05:04.360 --> 01:05:09.440 Yeah, So anywhere anywhere you find books. And thank you guys for having 965 01:05:09.440 --> 01:05:12.079 me, not once, but twice. Thank you so much. It's been 966 01:05:12.119 --> 01:05:15.440 a pleasure. Let's just before we go, though, let's let's give a 967 01:05:15.440 --> 01:05:16.960 shout out to my friend Adam Lerner, who's going to get you a car. 968 01:05:17.000 --> 01:05:21.480 Adam's going to get you a car. He's a car broker in California, 969 01:05:21.599 --> 01:05:26.239 uh in La. He'll come to your house and talk to you about 970 01:05:26.280 --> 01:05:31.000 it. Um anywhere else he will do it no charge. Other states there's 971 01:05:31.039 --> 01:05:34.280 a fee, but he will save you so much money that it will be 972 01:05:34.360 --> 01:05:38.039 worth it. And you just talk to him. You don't have you're not 973 01:05:38.079 --> 01:05:44.519 committed. Nine three one zero nine eight seven zero for eight. Also Kelly 974 01:05:44.599 --> 01:05:47.960 from Wilman, Frida, Palm Springs and Desert. Really good food. It's 975 01:05:47.960 --> 01:05:53.440 a it's a brunch place in Palm Springs. I love Palm Spring. We 976 01:05:53.519 --> 01:05:56.880 didn't event there and it was amazing and the food was so good, and 977 01:05:56.960 --> 01:06:01.599 we did it. They had a Drag Drag Queen Bingo for us, and 978 01:06:01.639 --> 01:06:04.400 I might do a book signing there. Yeah you should. Yeah. And 979 01:06:04.440 --> 01:06:09.920 then also um Nikki Collier's husband, Joseph Colliers, a private practice Chapter seven 980 01:06:10.000 --> 01:06:14.920 bankruptcy attorney in the LA County and some surrounding counties. He does a sliding 981 01:06:14.960 --> 01:06:17.400 fee scale because obviously it's gonna be hard to afford bankruptcy. If you need 982 01:06:17.400 --> 01:06:21.039 bankruptcy, so he can help you, Um, just go to his website 983 01:06:21.159 --> 01:06:28.840 Joseph jo Seph Callier, c l I e er law dot com check it 984 01:06:28.840 --> 01:06:32.199 out. TERSA thank you so much. This has been such a pleasure having 985 01:06:32.239 --> 01:06:35.559 you. If you didn't listen to the Tuesday show, please go back and 986 01:06:35.960 --> 01:06:40.119 listen to this. Listen to our Tuesday show and our patreon. We had 987 01:06:40.159 --> 01:06:42.800 a great Patreon. It was a very juicy, fun Patreon and it was 988 01:06:42.920 --> 01:06:45.840 very long. Yeah, it's great. All right, everybody, you guys, 989 01:06:45.039 --> 01:06:54.320 thank you your parent. Now, don't fuck it up. Letting