Whoa. What's up, beautiful people. It is your baby mama, favorite
baby Mama, Stormy P. And welcome to another episode of Chocolate Chip and
Sip the modern day female perspective. Damson back at it again, boom and
back at it again is my favorite co host, seventh the Dog. You're
gonna hear him panting in their background because this is his home. He can
do whatever you wanna do. Okay, when he's at his studio, he
can pant wherever he wants to pant. All right, All that aside,
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right now. All right, I can't wait to see y'all. So,
y'all, the theme of this episode, it's gonna be dating sucks, but
so does my vibrator. Yeah, I'm gonna say that again. Dating sucks,
but so does my vibrator. And this is just a realization that I've
come to within the last week. Y'all. I'm tired, I'm frustrated,
I'm tired. I hate it, okay, But I don't hate it from
the standpoint of, oh, it's so trash'all here the dating pool has
p in it. I'm not. I'm not. I don't hate it from
that aspect. I have a different perspective. I hate it because if I've
done the work on myself and I'm genuinely a good person. It shouldn't be
this freaking hard. Am I tripping? Am I tripping? If I've done
the work on myself and I'm genuinely a good person, ain't I'm a little
cute, y'all? And I've been in a gym. The body is bought
in like it really shouldn't be this heart It is mind boggling. And before
y'all hating with the oh you attract what you are and no, no,
none of that. I think that my problem is I have those traits for
myself. I have done the work. I'm genuinely good person. I'll be
in a gym, my body's body and I'm a little cute. Finding that
isn't as easy as one would think, regardless if you're talking about in a
male or female, finding somebody who's able to reciprocate all of that is not
as easy as one would think. Like, and then I'm not gonna lie
on. I'll be getting into my feelings and I'm like, oh, man,
all these people out here in relationships, it should have been me,
Lord, it should have been me. But then I have to remember a
lot of those same people aren't happy in their relationships, and a lot of
those same people are people that I wouldn't even want to be in a relationship
with. So we're just gonna go through a few things. I know it's
been a few weeks since we've dropped the episode, so I'm just gonna take
you on a journey what I've been doing this past few weeks, and you
know, come along. Laugh. It's okay, you're gonna laugh because I'll
be laughing at my damnsuf. You're gonna laugh. We're gonna laugh together.
We're gonna figure this shit out, y'all. I don't care what y'all think
or what y'all say. I am determined to be in matching pajamas this Christmas.
That's what I want. I want that for me. I need that
for me. I am claiming that for me. I will be in matching
pajamas and be happy with the person that you know I'm in matching pajamas with.
And it's fucked up because I know, like you know, me and
God we locked in right like Jesus is my home boy. I know he's
gonna hear this and be like, all right, I got you, bet,
And I'm be in matching pajamas with my son, and he would be
like, hey, bitch, you wasn't specific enough. You ain't say you
wanted to be in match pajamas with your man. You just say you want
to be in MATCHI pajamas. So here you go. Here's the same size
for you and your son. Go what what I feel like? It's it's
all gets right now. That's five months. I can find somebody in five
months to be in match your pajamas with you, don't think so? Tapping
on alive, let me know, I think five months is more than enough
time to be uh in matching pajamas. Being single is a really weird place
to be, as I take that back, being single and being attractive,
it's like everyone's always like, oh my god, so many people be in
your dms, Like, I know, you just have your your pickings.
Like being single and being attractive, it's hard. Everyone always thinks, oh,
I know, you got a lot of people in your DMS. I
got a lot of people in my DMS trying to fuck me, not trying
to marry me. Like it's a difference. A lot of people out here
aren't really actively trying to be married and being relationships. So like before you
go judging, somebody, take a break. Okay, take a break and
think about why are you in my DMS? Why are why are you in
my DMS? What's the last thing you said to me in my DMS?
Was it, oh my god, I think you will make a wonderful wife,
or was it damn, I just want to be a sweat between your
titties exactly exactly which one was it? Which one was it? So yeah,
think about that. I say all that to say I've been seven stopped
licking your nuts. I say all that to say, I'm trying to be
into seven. You gotta go, seven, you gotta go, let's go.
I say all that to say I can't hear them over there. Okay.
I say all that to say, right, you know, I say
all that to say I was trying to I'm not gonna lie, y'all be
honest, we family, i'mna be honest. I was taking part in practices
that I don't condone, meaning I allowed a few people to spend the block.
I know, I know, I hate that for me too. I
hate that for me too, But I believe in second chances. So you
know what I said, I'm working on myself. Maybe they don't work on
themselves. Like, you know, things could have happened, right spoiler alert,
they didn't happen. Spoiler alert, nothing happened, nothing changed. Waste
my fucking time. So one of my little dips, I'll just spend the
block. I realized this nigga he getting old. Like I allowed one of
my dips to spend the block, and when he came back, I was
like, oh my god, he's getting old. Now. Before you say,
oh, just because he got a gray hair, Oh, just cause
some time it's passed. Oh you want to go to bed early? No,
none of that. We go out to a restaurant, have a nice
smell, having a great time, and so the waitress acts if we want
dessert, and he says yes, and can you bring us two mugs of
hot water? Okay, okay. So she brings the mugs and this nigga
pulls out two packs of probiotic tea. What this man pulls out his pocket
two packs of probiotic tea. I said, wow, bro, you you're
getting old now. This man is genuinely older than me. He got me
by like six or seven years, so he is older than me he is
genuinely getting old, but it's like, I don't want no fucking probiotic d
okay after my meal, and he's now trying to sell me like, well,
it's good for your gut health and it's gonna do blah blah blah blah
blah, and I'm like, I just wanted my crim roulet to go like
I didn't ask for no probiotic take, and then like the same for the
record, though, I'm probably never gonna see him again, as you gonna
start there, and it's not because of the probiotic take. I'm probably never
gonna see him again because while we were at this same outing, I had
a lemon to like put on my seafood right, and the lemon dropped on
the table, So I asked, await your excuse me? Can you raring
me some more lemons? And he was like, oh, so you can
suck a dick, but you can't suck a lemon that has been fellow on
the table. No, I can't, No, I can't. I don't
even understand how you got those two together. I don't even understand the correlation
between those two. So as if as if, nah, I told you
get a fucking mic shot. I told you, I was confused because I'm
like, I don't get the correlation between dropping the lemon on the table and
sucking it. But I'm never gonna see you again, I you know what.
And I wasn't mad at him. I didn't take it out no type
of way because in my mind, I was like, girl, you already
know you don't let people spend a block, So whenever you have coming to
you is just what you have coming to you, because you know not the
letting nigga spend a block. So that was it. That was it.
I try to let someone else spend a block. And this one went a
little differently because it wasn't that it was a bad thing. It just was
okay. What they don't tell you about like healing, is that once you're
healed, and once you've done the work you it makes it more easy to
spot the red flags and other people like you pick up on it so fast
and what there's a reflection of your past self or reflection of something that you
already worked through. Like it's real easy, Like it's it's harder for someone
to play in your face. It should be anyway, So I realize A,
I really still have a crush on this person, which is weird because
I know I do not be liking people. That was the first thing took
me by surprise. B I realized, is it a crush or am I
just infastuated with this person? Cause I have been since I was a fucking
teenager. Right then, see, I realize, okay, you're just trying
to use me as a rebound respectfully, respectfully. This person had just got
out of relationship with his child's mother, and I don't think he realizes that
he's trying to use me as a rebound yet. But because I was infastuated
when I'm was like, oh, yeah, you know, fine, what's
up? That's cool, Like I'll take what I can get. And then
y'all, I had to snap back out of it because we're not doing that.
We're not doing that. We're not doing that. We're not we're not
allowing people to spend the block just to be a seat holder, Like what
the fuck you want me to be a fucking place spiller? Like, yes,
I enjoyed the treats and the dates and everything that I can get while
you're potentially using me as a rebound. But it's like, I don't want
that shit. I want a husband, and I gotta keep that mindset in
my rand, Like y'all, I want a husband. I want a husband.
I want a husband. Yeah, not just matched with Jama as a
whole husband. I needs that. I needs that. More of the story
is fuck that anybody spending block ever again. They ruined it for both of
y'all. These two people ruined it for everyone. You know. I think,
like, uh, once every three years, I'll allow someone to spend
a block, and these two just ruined it for all y'allself, I hate
that for y'all. Every three years, yeah like a like a I was
gonna say, like, what happens every three years? Don't cicadas come out
every so often? Like I'm treat these niggas spending a block like cicadas.
I feel like they come out like once every so many years. From underground,
I might have made that up too. I don't know another thing they
popped up on my head from this past few weeks since we've been out and
about men who practice self care is top tier. Men who practice self care's
top tier. I love that for you, like you you book a spot
day every once in a while. Moist, you get manicures. Moist.
Okay, you get facials, moist, moist like baby, you like to
turn the lights off, light a candle and read a book. Moist.
You like to take baths every once in a while, moist like Men who
practice self care whatever it is, whether it's picking up a good book,
you know, setting inside me time for yourself, you know, get in
your car detailed every so often. Because self care comes in many ways.
Men who practice self care make me moist. I'm talking about pound cake moist.
Okay, Shott said, But be a nigga about it. I don't.
I don't think you have to be a man when you're practicing self care.
Okay, okay, but that's something different. I don't. I don't
think that. I don't. I don't. I don't think that you have
to be a man or be manly to practice self care, because that a
part of your self care could be yo, Like, I can take off
this cloak or this cosplay that I have to put on for the world all
the time, so I can just be me. I can just have that
space to be vulnerable. Yeah, I can't have that space to have peace
and be vulnerable right, but whatever it is, if you practice self care,
I think that's it. Hey, y'all, I just wanted to remind
y'all. Philly, September fifteenth, I'll be at World Cafe Live with East
from the East Your Heart Out Podcast. Don't forget get your tickets now,
don't wait till the last minute, ask me, because I ain't got shipped
for you. Okay, So I don't want to talk about like some things
that I couldn't really put together in my head. You know, these past
few weeks, I've been trying to be reflective and certain things just weren't making
sense to me. For example, right, And I want y'all if you're
watching on live, to answer in the comments. Right when a man says
I want you to slapt me out? What do that mean? And I'm
gonna repeat this. I'm gonna repeat it. I'm gonna repeat it. When
a man says I want you to slapt me out? What do that mean?
When a man says I want you to slapt me out? What does
that mean? Like? Cause in my mind right, because y'all know,
in my mind, oh you want me eat your ass? Because like,
what does a man getting splat it out mean two men? Two men?
Like, this is an honest question. What does I want you to slapt
me out? Mean to you? Like? Cause in my mind, you
want me to eat your ass. You want me to disrespect you? Like,
is that what it is? You want me to disrespect you? Baby?
What is it it? Like? What's the man version of saying that?
That's what men say? I don't think it's I don't think it's it's
it's gender specific. It's just like, Yo, what do y'all mean when
y'all say y'all want us to slut you out? Like you want me to
eat your ass, You want me disrespect you want to put my finger in
you? But it's a rim job, oh, rusty trump bone? Like,
what is it? What do you want? Because? Like when women
say that, like, we want that like intense, you know, Like
if I say I want you to sut me out, I want to be
fucked, I want you to give me four head kisses after risk though,
but I want you, I want I want you to fuck me like real
bad. So I was thinking, like, what does that mean when men
say I want you to sut me out? Do y'all want fourhead kisses to
like is that a thing? Like after the sledding out has taken place,
do I have to you know, re re re recuperate, like help you
recuperate? Like what? Well? Then, I mean, shit, it
depends on what we're doing to slut you out, because you you might need
to sit on the donut for a bit. You might need to ice that
thing. We don't know, we don't know. Oh oh, yeah,
my bad. I forgot who was on Facebook? Y'all? I forgot.
I got a dial it back of it. But yeah, that was That
was the long story. Sure. The only thing I got from it is
disrespect, Like please d and me or email me and tell me. What
does it mean when a man says I want you to let me out.
M only comment I've gotten on Facebook other than you with someone saying, oh
my work. Yeah, I should have put a not safe for work drawing
up here, but so what I cursed by? Now? You you should
have known put your earphones on your Yeah, but I'm on Facebook. If
you're listening on audio, I'm on Facebook live today. I usually go alive
on Instagram and yeah, so I'm gonna try to get better at it,
y'all. I'm just get my life together next, if I come to your
house on some late night tip, right, If you invite me to your
house on a late night tip and I show up with a bonnet on and
crocks, you know why I'm here. Okay. If you invite me to
your house on a late night tip and I show up with a bonnet on
and crocks, you know why I'm here. Stop playing, Stop playing.
Don't be trying to get all into me and asks, oh have you seen
day clone Tyrone? No, I'm trying to see yo tyrone. Pull it
out. Stop playing with me. Stop playing with me. You know why
I came here. Okay, my body already arm bro, My bondy is
already arm bro. I'm gonna put these crocks in sports mode and wear that
ass out. Stop playing with me. Stop playing with me, and I
get it. I'll be trying to be respectful. I love that, But
baby, I can came with the bonnet already going now at the time.
Okay. If I would have came like with my spinning night bag. If
I would have came with my spinning night bag and like you know, my
bonnet and like you know, my big T shirt and my toothbrush, Okay,
cool, we got some time the chilling relax. But I already came
suited up. I already came from my uniform. Bro, Like wait,
wait, what are we doing here? Why are we wasting the time?
Like? And I think the part that really gets me is don't try to
put on like no, no, no, no good ass show or documentary
on Netflix or something like that, Like, don't put on nothing that like
I'm low key gonna be trying to pay attention to while you clapping the cheeks.
Put on to the background music, stop playing with me? Put on
put on Family Guy. Put on Family Guy, or like what's good like
background shows, the office is good, or like other stuff that you can
fall asleep too. You're not gonna be invested in, you know, like
clapping cheeks shows yea, reruns of anything, reruns of anything last sic.
Put on something that you can clap these cheeks too, And I'm not gonna
be invested in, respectfully, Like I I think that, especially if you
have a connection with somebody, you should be able to be honest and be
like, yo, I'm what's up? You know why I'm here? What's
his name? Marshall Lednche who says that is that, Marshall Ledge, you
know why I'm here? Like, yo, come on Jesus, when Facebook
said, oh you're still getting at work? Okay, yeah, but can
we get to it faster? Can we not like pretend and play games?
It's a respect thing. Well okay, well, well, well we'll add
this to the previous conversation. When you say you want me to slut you
out, you're saying you want to show up to my house, have me
put on the office and have you clap my cheeks and go that's slutting out?
Like is that? Is that included? And now I want you to
slupt me out? Fellas, I'm still waiting on answer. What does it
mean? Listen, I don't know. I think that I think I don't
know. No, shot, you don't got Mike my last thing. We'll
not my last thing, but something else that just popped in my mind.
I am never going to propose to a man. Never. Never. I
would rather drag my bare coucie across the sidewalk on the fourth of July than
proposed to a man respectfully. Yeah. Yeah, I'm spreading hot tune or
tartar all down the goddamn street because I would never. I would never.
I would never, I would never. Now let me tell you why y'all
would never though, right, And ladies, y'all get me mad. I
know y'all be mad. You're not gonna like what I'm about to say.
But just listen, just listen, Just listen. Okay, don't talk,
just listen, all right, There is almost no benefit for a man to
get married respectfully. Right, So when we have situations where women out number
men already, and then from that number you have to account for, if
you're someone like me, those that are black. From that number, we
then have to account for those that are heterosexual. From that number, you
then have to account for the ones that aren't incarcerated. Right. So,
now we went from like a bajillion men to twelve. Right now, if
I'm a man and I know that like a bajillion women now want me,
I know it's like, you know, whatever I want for me to propose
to a man doesn't make sense because he's already isn't getting any perks of this.
So like I would rather just be chosen. Now, don't get it
twisted. I'm gonna shoot my mother, fuck shot. I'm going to I'm
always going to approach you. Man, I'm always gonna side in DMS.
If I see you, I like you, I won't chuck. I'm gonna
let it be now right. But as far as going to the extreme of
dirtying up my knee, I can't do it. I can't do it.
That's not for me. That's not for me. Someone said, God,
damn all that, Yes, yes, all that, all that and more,
it's just not for me. I don't want to do that. I
have no desire to propose to a man because, like he, I don't
know, fella's tepping you. Would you would you want a girl to propose
to you? Would you want a girl to propose to you? Would you
want your girl to get down on one knee and be like, Yo,
I love you and I want to love you forever. Let's get married.
I don't know. I don't know. I can't do it. It's not
for me. I'm not saying I got anything against women who do it.
I'm just saying, God, ain't bless me with that ministry. That's not
that's not for me. It's not for me. It's not for me.
Someone on Facebook lives said, fuck no, I don't know, and then
here's the character though, right, fellas, I need you to really think
about it in here, especially if you're in a relationship. What would you
do if you went out to dinner you took your girl? Oh my god,
fellas, what would you do your girl? Says y'all, Going out
to dinner, get dressed. It's a fancy restaurant. You get there and
all your family and friends and loved ones are there, and you turn around
and it's Hussy is on the floor on one knee proposing to you in front
of everybody. Oh my god. I am cringing thinking about it. And
not because it's not a disk towards women. That's not what this is in
my mind. Respectfully, I really feel like the man would feel like you're
disrespecting him. I think as a man. If I was a man,
I would feel disrespected, like you're taking a piece of my manhood await from
me? Do that make sense? Like you're stealing something from me that's not
for you to do. Like I would feel so disrespect I would bop her.
And I wouldn't bop her. I wouldn't boper. I I wouldn't boper.
But y'all, I don't know I don't know. What would y'all do?
I don't know. I don't know. As a if I was a
man, I would immediately try to pull her up, like, immediately try
to pull her up. Please don't, please don't. And then like is
she proposing with like a wedding band? Is it an engagement ring? But
niggas, like what is happening? I don't know. I don't know when
women propose, do they have like a ring? Or is it a wedding
band? Like? What is it? Chance saying all my three friends would
tell her? An Now what if she don't tell your friends? Were they
doing? Like y'all, I'm just throwing them a surprise party? Oh my
god, I don't know. Okay, Now what if she uses it?
Like yo, you just gotta promotion at work, everybody's celebrating. You don't
know, like she can use many things to get you there? Seven God,
Lee, my boy is tearing his nuts up this week. Oh my
god, I cannot And you know what's crazy? Seven is like a big,
big big dog. So he's just be get getting it in, getting
it in, getting it in, getting in. So as we keep going
here more things that have just popped across my mind within these past few weeks.
I don't know who needs to hear this, but these niggas got favorites.
Yeah, yeah, men have favorites. And if your man isn't doing
what you want him to do, you're not one of his favorites. Respectfully,
Respectfully, like men have favorites. And if the guy you're dating isn't
doing what you want him to do, you're just not one of his favorites.
Like when they when they when they be feeling them and they like him,
they be doing it, all of it. And I know you're like,
what what do you mean everything? You keep begging you on, nigga,
do they be doing it? You don't gotta ask some twice. You
don't gotta do nothing. They'd be doing it. So instead of complaining,
and I feel like we talked about this a few weeks ago, instead of
complaining that your guy isn't doing something, recognize the game. Acknowledge that you're
just not one of his favorites. That's it, respectfully, And I want
y'all to know that sometimes when we be having these conversations, it really come
from a lot of the stuff I see y'all complaining about on Facebook. I
know. Oh, I know, y'all gonna be mad. I know I
hate that for us. I hate that for us, But in all actuality,
I hate that for you because I literally see the same three or four
topics continuously pop up on my timeline from different women, and it's like,
how how long before we get into a space of them niggas don't like you?
It keeps chating on you. Okay, you keep asking him, do
simple things, show some interest, take some of the ship. Is blah
blah blah blah. He ain't doing it. Like, at what point do
we acknowledge he don't like me? Hey, don't like me. But in
the same token, I think that's the more important point. We need to
stop dating people we don't like we do. It's it's trash. It's trash,
and it's not healthy. Okay, Oh my god, y'all that guy
I'm laughing because the guy on Live he just said, help me push my
van. But it was a guy who I helped pushes. Ah. I
just wanted to say, it's like certain things that people do when they're dating.
It's like, I can tell you never had a serious girlfriend, and
I don't know if that makes sense, Like there are certain things that men
do when dating, Like I can tell you just never had a serious girlfriend.
For example, if you don't know how to take good pictures of me,
I can tell you never had serious girlfriend. Okay, you've never been
trained properly. You would have not been trained properly on how to take pictures.
Do you even know about lighting? Bro, the sun should be in
front of me? Okay? Do you even know about angles? Get down
on a squat? Squat tilted up? Okay, thank you? Like tell
me that my hair needs to be smushed on one side. Tell me that
you know I need to straighten up, suck it in, help me,
like you acting you don't even wanna do this. That's how I know you
never had a serious girlfriend, because if you did, you would be trained,
and you wouldn't know, you would know, you wouldn't know. I
feel like, if you had a serious girlfriend, she's gotten on your nerves
enough to make you be aware of Like, there are certain things you need
to do when I do. Like, I don't know if y'all saw Damson
Adris who's Lorie Harvey's boyfriend, Dampson? Right? Yeah, what's not?
Oh my god? Anyway, So Damson uh commedy on Lorie Harvey's photos.
Like now, stop saying I don't take good pictures, because it's a thing.
It is a thing like this this, and you know what, I
don't know if you're heard shot say he don't have no patience, which oh
I was gonna say. That pissed me off, because you're literally a photographer.
You should be taking the best pictures of your girlfriend. She should never
complain. I don't think it's that we don't have patience. I acknowledge that
men don't have patience. Yall the pictures, It doesn't matter. It doesn't
matter if I take fifty here's the thing, here's the thing. I don't
give a fuck if I make you take three hundred and fifty nine pictures and
I only post two of them. Just do what I'm asking you to do.
Okay, I'm gonna take fifty pictures to get one good picture because I
have to work my angles. I have to do this, this, this,
this, this, which one. I need to know. I have
to have options. Nothing wrong with having options. Men love having options when
it come to women. Okay, so let me tilt my head in each
corner of this room until I find an angle that I like, thank you.
Long story short, if you're over a certain age, you should know
how to take good pictures men, and if you don't, it's probably because
you never had a serious girlfriend. So the lib says, best pics look
spontaneous. Oh, I love me some fake off guard jewels. They're not
really off guard, but they look like it's off guard. Like some spontaneous
jewels. Like, yeah, I like those. I like those a lot.
Those are my favorite. And you know what I like. I like
when uh, okay, I do what I don't with people that I'm actually
dating seriously and tapped in with. I like when they send me pictures that
they took of me when work together but I didn't know, like, oh
I look cute, thank you. That's what i'd be looking like. Okay,
yeah, like I like that, like, but only if we're tapped
in. If I'm like in the midst of cutting you off, where I
mentally already cut you off. Now you're stalking me. Now I need a
PFA because come on, I don't care. I don't care because I'm already
trying to cut you off in my mind. But if if I like you,
like you, oh, that means you like me. Bag. Like,
if I like you, like you and you'd be sneaking pictures of me,
they like affirms that you like me. Bag No, I think so
it's sweet if I like you. If I don't, Hello police, that's
it, that's it. Oh okay, it is a double standard for like,
Man, I don't get fucked. I'm real, I'm be real,
Jaed, I'm gonna tell you why I don't care, all right, because
it's not a gender thing. Men and women know exactly what I'm talking about.
When you like someone, actions are completely different than when they're coming from
someone that you don't like. Like, if you're interested or invested in somebody,
you you're taking off guard pictures of me. It's sweet, okay,
you you texting me every night is sweet? Okay. If I'm not interested
in you, you're taking off guard pictures of me, it's harassment. Oh
that's something that you can qualify somebody like you to know, Like shot said,
is there a way for you to know that? But that's not something
that you know. No oh no, no, no, no no,
no, I don't think it's I don't think let me start over. Yeah,
I think that that is something that you should know, like we are
or we aren't on that level where you should be taking pictures of me,
like unless I ask you too, of course. But yeah, boundies,
boundaries, boundaries, next thing, And once again, ladies, don't be
mad. This is a safe space. But sometimes I'll be having to tell
you about yourself, and it's the last thing I'm gonna say. All right,
men don't mind spending money. Men don't like spending money on broke women.
And that's just what it is. Men don't mind spending money. They
just don't like spending money on broke women. Like if you're giving the energy
of you're asking him to do all the things that you can't do for yourself,
He's not gonna want to do them. It's a turn off. It's
a it's a fucking turn off. It's a big turn off. And I
don't think that women have acknowledged or have acknowledged are willing to accept that.
Like it's nothing wrong with saying, like, yo, if you want to
date me, you you have to take me to a certain type of restaurant.
I'm gonna go get steak forty eight or whatever the case may be.
You know, I'm gonna take that back. I'm gonna take that, man,
I'm gonna take that. It's nothing wrong with you asking a man to
take you to Steak forty eight or to some famous steakhouse. The problem comes
in is when you go out with your girlfriends, y'all go to Friday's.
That's where the skinneck is happening. Like yeah, Like if you are requiring
a man to do something for you that you can't do for yourself or you
don't do when you're out by yourself, that's crazy. They don't like that,
and they can sense it too. They can sense it like, Hm,
this isn't gonna last long. They're probably still gonna hit. For the
record, I don't want to give I don't want y'all to think that like
I'm giving too much credit. But they're probably still going to hit, but
they don't like it. I met a girl with the live says, I
met a girl with the craziest double standard. She says that she just wants
the f around, but the guys that she f around with are not the
type of guys she would take serious. However, the type of guy she
likes, qualities, interests, et cetera. Are the type that want long
term relationships, but she don't want a long term relationship. She complains that
dudes who are down to f around have boring personalities and have no common interest.
Oh that's interesting, that's interesting. Let me read that again. Yeah,
she says that she just wants to f around, but the guys that
she f around with are not the type of guy she would take serious because
there have boring personalities, no common interest. H Hm, that's interesting.
You don't if I'm like, I'm gonna punch him. Okay, I M
first of all, yes, that is I don't. I don't know if
that would be a double standard. I think she needs to acknowledge that,
uh, this is not going to end well for her, Like, I
had to think about this a few times before I wrote this last for my
ass off, the guys that she likes to f around with are boring.
I've honestly never heard that. I'm not gonna lie like I've heard the standpoint
of oh, I want a relationship, but the guys who I like relationships
or who I like for the relationships are boring. Like that is a new
standpoint for me. I've never heard that. First of all, it's usually
the guys and relationships are boring or they know how to manage their anger,
so it's unexciting, Like that's what I hear, right, But that's what
I hear. Like, and it's like, so I choose to deal with
these F boys because they're more fun. That is that is what I see.
That is what I hear. That's that I received from women. Right,
So the fact that she's saying that the F boys are boring is crazy.
So he says, My thing is, why are F guys are boring?
I mean, he boring? Under uninteresting? How long? How does
it even turn you on? I was gonna say that too, like,
if the guys you're choosing to just like play around with are boring, why
are you doing that? Like respectfully, that doesn't sound like something that I
will be interested in because I'm not going to join my time here. If
he's boring, my cat is bored. So I don't want to give it
to you. I don't understand that. Like, I think she need to
go talk to the lady for sure. For sure? Does that count as
our edible for today? That can be our edible for today? Right?
Yeah? That could be our question? Yeah, okay, whatever, let's
do it. Man, Listen, I just wanted to say before I get
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