WEBVTT 1 00:00:02.080 --> 00:00:07.200 There's fifty plus. It's becoming my kind of what do you call it, 2 00:00:07.240 --> 00:00:13.560 like a confessional kind of got an open professional becoming a vlog of sorts. 3 00:00:13.560 --> 00:00:17.640 I guess my feelings mean fifty plus. I didn't can that really, but 4 00:00:18.120 --> 00:00:20.440 I think it's a close thing. I have to vlogs. I have really 5 00:00:20.519 --> 00:00:24.440 quick James flat Junior show sometimes a lot of help by to stuff, but 6 00:00:24.559 --> 00:00:27.399 this was becoming that I have a feeling I come and talk to you about 7 00:00:27.399 --> 00:00:31.519 you guys can be great, you know, great feedback and my have fun. 8 00:00:31.719 --> 00:00:37.240 Let me clear my throat is this fifty plus. I'm James lat Junior, 9 00:00:38.079 --> 00:00:42.159 trying to survive the heat here in Los Angeles. Um, so I 10 00:00:42.280 --> 00:00:45.039 have started my journey as you guys, I saw you on a previous episode. 11 00:00:45.039 --> 00:00:50.560 I started my whole journey, my weight loss journey. And and so 12 00:00:50.679 --> 00:00:56.759 I it's been it's been five days. I feel better already than I did 13 00:00:56.799 --> 00:01:00.039 five days ago. And just that fast, I don't I was feeling just 14 00:01:00.200 --> 00:01:04.760 uncomfortable in my skin, in my body. I just felt like I was 15 00:01:04.799 --> 00:01:07.879 just lugging around all this well I am looking around all this fat, but 16 00:01:07.920 --> 00:01:11.480 I just felt like it was just like it just I just felt uncomfortable, 17 00:01:11.159 --> 00:01:15.280 and I said, once I felt uncomfortable, I was like, there's something 18 00:01:15.359 --> 00:01:19.480 wrong. That's my side of change. I have my fluid journal, which 19 00:01:19.519 --> 00:01:22.840 I had some fun fun with all these all the things I'm eating, I'm 20 00:01:22.879 --> 00:01:27.480 right part of it. Part of it is I write down certain things and 21 00:01:27.519 --> 00:01:30.359 then I add some of the things that I eat, some the labels. 22 00:01:30.879 --> 00:01:34.359 It's been so much. I just went before. I'm had so much fun 23 00:01:34.799 --> 00:01:37.400 and I was looking back int my old ones, like I used to I 24 00:01:37.560 --> 00:01:40.719 ate that I eat that way. So it's very interesting though. The calories, 25 00:01:41.319 --> 00:01:44.640 so I work, I'm working with somebody, so I have a calorie 26 00:01:44.640 --> 00:01:49.400 per day count I try and do. And the workout thing right now, 27 00:01:49.560 --> 00:01:55.079 just starting out slowly. I went to the gym twice twice, uh with 28 00:01:55.680 --> 00:01:57.280 thank you for them. Um, that was it was good. Taking a 29 00:01:57.319 --> 00:02:00.040 day off, say I'm going back. I'm going back to or on Thursday. 30 00:02:00.480 --> 00:02:04.840 Take a day off Friday. So I'm just I'm coming in to drink 31 00:02:04.879 --> 00:02:07.400 some cardio, just kind of twenty minutes, just kind of starting myself to 32 00:02:07.520 --> 00:02:10.879 build my stamina. Because I've worked out in five years. I have hip 33 00:02:10.919 --> 00:02:14.800 issues, so I'm just trying to just take my time. And it's been 34 00:02:14.840 --> 00:02:17.840 a lot of fun so far, and everything. The part that's very interesting, 35 00:02:17.960 --> 00:02:22.120 I just I just I should have just know who's gonna happen. Of 36 00:02:22.120 --> 00:02:27.280 course, everyone in the world has advice, Everyone in the world has comments, 37 00:02:27.400 --> 00:02:30.039 Everyone in the world has what I should do or what I shouldn't do, 38 00:02:30.159 --> 00:02:34.439 or what I should say or what I shouldn't saying. And this is 39 00:02:34.479 --> 00:02:38.479 a great thing for people in fifty plus. When you're fifty plus, you've 40 00:02:38.479 --> 00:02:44.439 lived some life, right and hopefully you've gathered information and you've got here somehow, 41 00:02:45.080 --> 00:02:50.840 somehow you got here, and hopefully even fifty plus you also have experiences 42 00:02:50.840 --> 00:02:55.560 to draw from. You have your own mind. Hopefully you know what, 43 00:02:55.719 --> 00:03:05.120 you know who you are on some level. You know. It's it's it's 44 00:03:05.120 --> 00:03:09.280 just, it's really, it's really crazy. It's just it's so, it's 45 00:03:13.759 --> 00:03:16.319 it has been. It's it's I got here somehow. Also, I raised 46 00:03:16.360 --> 00:03:21.199 children and grandsom I run business. Now. I don't know everything. I 47 00:03:21.199 --> 00:03:23.400 don't proportion of everything. I don't trust me. When I need help, 48 00:03:23.919 --> 00:03:27.840 I'm like, Hi, well how you do this? Hi? What do 49 00:03:27.840 --> 00:03:30.680 you mean? I'm the first person I have no pride. I am the 50 00:03:30.680 --> 00:03:32.599 first person to go, what does this mean? And my friend, I 51 00:03:32.680 --> 00:03:36.360 just have a lot of younger people around me, and you're fifty plus, 52 00:03:36.560 --> 00:03:39.039 have younger folks around you for certain things. And I have no problem saying 53 00:03:39.400 --> 00:03:42.919 I don't just mean what do I do? How do I do this way? 54 00:03:42.960 --> 00:03:47.919 I have no problem with that. However, comma different to say there 55 00:03:47.919 --> 00:03:52.159 are some things I do know and I, especially with this weight lost journey, 56 00:03:52.159 --> 00:03:53.960 I've been through before. I know exactly what works for me, and 57 00:03:54.000 --> 00:03:57.319 I'm gonna do it a certain way, and I've reaching out to people then 58 00:03:57.599 --> 00:04:01.960 that I want to talk to you that I trust. So it's really funny 59 00:04:02.000 --> 00:04:06.719 where everybody has a comment we're just fine, but everybody was telling me, 60 00:04:06.800 --> 00:04:10.520 well, you should do this and march doing this I have Technically I'm like, 61 00:04:10.599 --> 00:04:14.159 I don't. I don't need all that. Just good luck, James, 62 00:04:14.159 --> 00:04:16.439 we approach shooting. We're rooting for you. Hope it works out. 63 00:04:16.480 --> 00:04:20.240 It's all I mean, that's all. I don't need anybody telling me ten 64 00:04:20.279 --> 00:04:25.439 thousand things. I don't if I need advice. And it's funny it's I 65 00:04:25.439 --> 00:04:28.240 don't give advice anymore at this age. I used to be the same. 66 00:04:28.279 --> 00:04:31.120 I'm that same kind of person. I don't give unslicited advice unless you ask 67 00:04:31.160 --> 00:04:33.439 for it. I just go. If you say, James, I have 68 00:04:33.439 --> 00:04:36.839 an idea, what do you think. There's only a few cases where if 69 00:04:36.839 --> 00:04:43.920 I hear them doing something that's potentially wrong, like actually I actually wrong, 70 00:04:44.079 --> 00:04:46.399 I want to hurt themselves and go, Okay, I don't you don't know 71 00:04:46.439 --> 00:04:48.079 this, but I know, and I may I may say. I can't 72 00:04:48.079 --> 00:04:53.160 just give you this piece advice. I asked first before I give it. 73 00:04:54.079 --> 00:04:57.360 That should be years. It's I used to give advice. They get upset 74 00:04:59.240 --> 00:05:12.319 where people wouldn't take my advice, you know. So it's it's it's yeah, 75 00:05:12.360 --> 00:05:15.959 and so I'm looking, I'm okay, I'm gonna text. It's it's 76 00:05:15.959 --> 00:05:18.319 just crazy. It's just it's you know, it's just it's it's I I 77 00:05:18.480 --> 00:05:21.319 know where I'm at, so I know what I'm doing. But I know 78 00:05:21.399 --> 00:05:26.399 for some people, it's just they're excited for you. They're into they're into 79 00:05:26.439 --> 00:05:28.399 the gym or into things. They want to tell Oh my god, I 80 00:05:28.399 --> 00:05:30.399 what's up on? Everyone'll tell you all this stuff, and it's like, 81 00:05:30.480 --> 00:05:31.680 okay, that's great. And a lot of times I'll listen I'm not a 82 00:05:31.720 --> 00:05:33.759 personally, Just shut up, don't tell you that. I'll listen to you 83 00:05:34.120 --> 00:05:38.000 now if I don't again, if I don't take your advice or jump on 84 00:05:38.040 --> 00:05:40.279 and go, that's oh my god, I'm gonna do that. You can't 85 00:05:40.279 --> 00:05:43.839 get upset, I said, I used to get upset. I'm telling you 86 00:05:43.879 --> 00:05:46.240 something I know and you don't take it. You have to let that go. 87 00:05:46.000 --> 00:05:49.360 They becoming a life coach. Um, help me with that because I 88 00:05:49.439 --> 00:05:53.319 learned you're off the hook, James. You know what you know? You 89 00:05:53.360 --> 00:05:56.079 can help you with stuff. You gotta let it go. Y'all comes are 90 00:05:56.120 --> 00:06:00.279 theirs. And so for me, I think you're just excite it. Now 91 00:06:00.439 --> 00:06:03.839 for some people it may be a topic that we finally have in common to 92 00:06:03.879 --> 00:06:06.480 talk about. For them, like oh, you nice with your gym. 93 00:06:06.560 --> 00:06:11.480 Now he's diet he's he's trying to lose weights. He generally not. That's 94 00:06:11.519 --> 00:06:13.959 my subject. So I get that to sometimes that's what it is to you 95 00:06:14.000 --> 00:06:18.360 finally connect with that, um, And so that was that's so there's very 96 00:06:18.360 --> 00:06:23.279 interesting as the beginning's journey again, who feels like they need to say so 97 00:06:23.399 --> 00:06:27.279 Tommy and like, yeah, I want to focus on this with you I 98 00:06:27.319 --> 00:06:29.720 want to focus on this with you. Let's leave this, leave this part 99 00:06:29.720 --> 00:06:32.240 alone. I'm good, I'm a grown man. We checked in death. 100 00:06:32.879 --> 00:06:39.639 Also, I noticed something too, um that's very interesting is uh people. 101 00:06:39.800 --> 00:06:46.000 Everyone everyone is in their own orbits. And there are some folks who are 102 00:06:46.000 --> 00:06:51.279 actually nice people. They're not trying to hurt no body, but they are 103 00:06:51.600 --> 00:06:55.959 kind of tone death situations because they're so into their world. They're in their 104 00:06:56.000 --> 00:07:00.519 world. I try best to be. I'm very aware of else worlds. 105 00:07:00.360 --> 00:07:04.839 It's almost my job. Everyone comes to me in my life. Everyone comes 106 00:07:04.839 --> 00:07:08.079 to me. I get my phone rings all daylong, all the time, 107 00:07:08.279 --> 00:07:11.920 every time, all the time. Everyone comes to me and I so I 108 00:07:12.079 --> 00:07:16.600 know everyone's worlds. I'm very I know this person and that person. So 109 00:07:16.639 --> 00:07:23.199 I'm very aware. So I know how to act when I answer their world 110 00:07:23.240 --> 00:07:27.079 and when I answer conversation with them, I know how to act. Everybody 111 00:07:27.079 --> 00:07:29.040 can do that. It's a skill. You have to learn it. And 112 00:07:29.079 --> 00:07:31.439 I think people, once you get out of yourself, you can do that 113 00:07:31.519 --> 00:07:35.399 more because you realize the worlds is all about you. But there's some folks 114 00:07:35.399 --> 00:07:39.519 you just can't help themselves. And I think sometimes it is age. It's 115 00:07:39.560 --> 00:07:44.040 immaturity. It's age some folks, but some folks they don't. I'll grow 116 00:07:44.079 --> 00:07:47.160 it. That's you too, so I will say that to you. But 117 00:07:47.199 --> 00:07:49.639 it's there's all kind of factors. Of course. It could be birth order, 118 00:07:49.639 --> 00:07:53.000 it could be if you're a single, we were an only child, 119 00:07:53.439 --> 00:07:56.360 or if you finally got independency. It's all about you. So I've had 120 00:07:56.399 --> 00:08:00.480 to tell people that I love recently, or I've had to act accordingly and 121 00:08:00.639 --> 00:08:07.040 realize otherwise, nice, wonderful people are being completely tone deaf to my situation, 122 00:08:07.839 --> 00:08:11.360 not taking my exituation in account at all. And I had this happened 123 00:08:11.360 --> 00:08:15.839 to me several times recently, when several good friends of mine, it's like, 124 00:08:18.079 --> 00:08:20.879 you know, I've been going to do something serious for the last seven 125 00:08:20.959 --> 00:08:24.439 months. I mean just over. I mean it's been serious, and my 126 00:08:24.480 --> 00:08:28.560 world is now this. But see, I understand not anybody's in my world. 127 00:08:31.000 --> 00:08:33.000 So I don't flictor anybody. I took what was going on, but 128 00:08:33.000 --> 00:08:37.840 I don't flictor anybody, first of all. But I also know if someone 129 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:41.679 comes to me, I don't know how to set aside. And because I 130 00:08:41.960 --> 00:08:45.120 say it's leading my job, I set aside. I try to be there 131 00:08:45.120 --> 00:08:48.559 for you fully. I can't. Yeah, some issues, Yeah problem. 132 00:08:48.559 --> 00:08:50.960 I try to set aside my stuff and be present and till a present for 133 00:08:52.039 --> 00:08:54.840 you. And I mean I also, I mean I'm gonna structure my teacher 134 00:08:54.960 --> 00:08:58.840 a speaker. I mean that's my job. I'm here for you. I'm 135 00:08:58.879 --> 00:09:01.320 giving. I'm here for an hour. I'm like, give you fully the 136 00:09:01.360 --> 00:09:03.919 hour and be there, every fully present every inter of you I do. 137 00:09:05.039 --> 00:09:07.039 I'm like, okay, everything's everything outside the door, so to speak. 138 00:09:07.639 --> 00:09:13.440 I am now fully focused on you. Other folks will have do you that. 139 00:09:13.919 --> 00:09:16.159 And I've had people will me, people say things to me like, 140 00:09:16.279 --> 00:09:20.360 god, well you're always busy. I'm like, well, I I'm take 141 00:09:20.440 --> 00:09:24.240 care of I'm caretaking my mom and I mat that takes up a lot of 142 00:09:24.320 --> 00:09:28.480 time. And I'm also have to work and I'll have a nine to five 143 00:09:28.559 --> 00:09:33.440 job. So it's like it's just it's just it's I'm like, I've always 144 00:09:33.440 --> 00:09:37.200 been a business. I trust me. I'd love to just hang out and 145 00:09:37.240 --> 00:09:39.759 be there for you all the time. And those days are over. I 146 00:09:39.759 --> 00:09:46.080 am managing two several homes, several businesses, my own life. It's like 147 00:09:46.200 --> 00:09:48.919 it's not a plus. Where we live is a thing too, I'm not 148 00:09:48.960 --> 00:09:52.519 going to the valley right now. We're one hundred and ten degrees out there. 149 00:09:52.799 --> 00:09:54.360 I live thirty five for eight miles from the valley. I don't live 150 00:09:54.360 --> 00:09:58.159 over there, So I'm like, that's not interest. That's not gonna happen 151 00:09:58.159 --> 00:10:01.720 in LA. So if you can't I come my direction, I totally understand, 152 00:10:01.799 --> 00:10:05.159 and life will gone. Because for years I was always accommodating everybody else. 153 00:10:05.879 --> 00:10:09.679 I was always taking it, spending my time, my money, my 154 00:10:09.840 --> 00:10:13.960 resources. I was like, wait a minute, nobody's doing it for me. 155 00:10:15.200 --> 00:10:16.840 So I had learned that. I was like, if you really want 156 00:10:16.840 --> 00:10:18.759 to see me, whatever we got, meet in the middle somewhere or come 157 00:10:18.960 --> 00:10:22.919 or come my direction. So little things like that, I'm learning I'm not 158 00:10:22.919 --> 00:10:26.360 beendy more backwards anymore for stuff people say. It used to be like, 159 00:10:28.159 --> 00:10:31.279 why have we got together? It's just I guess, I just guess everybody 160 00:10:31.320 --> 00:10:35.360 used just so busy whatever I want to go, Well, I'm busy because 161 00:10:35.360 --> 00:10:37.720 I'm taking care of my mom and I had to care of my aunts, 162 00:10:37.720 --> 00:10:39.919 and I'm you know, my stuff was kind of serious. So it wasn't 163 00:10:39.960 --> 00:10:45.679 like I was just running around town playing so and I have to work, 164 00:10:46.440 --> 00:10:48.720 and and they may say it's like, well, yeah, my life was 165 00:10:48.759 --> 00:10:50.360 hard too, like my car is acting up or you know, I like 166 00:10:52.799 --> 00:10:56.559 my mother almost died with your car acting up. It's two very different things. 167 00:10:56.559 --> 00:11:01.200 Like read the room. It's very different having to bathe your mother and 168 00:11:01.279 --> 00:11:07.679 you, you know, losing a boyfriend. I mean that's you know, 169 00:11:07.879 --> 00:11:11.159 yes, usual boyfriend's bad. You know, using friendships and that's bad. 170 00:11:11.240 --> 00:11:13.600 But I'm like, you kind of gotta read the room. Are you're talking 171 00:11:13.639 --> 00:11:16.879 to people sometimes, you know, or I'm really busy to you and like, 172 00:11:16.879 --> 00:11:18.360 okay, well that's good. You're busy. I don't. I don't 173 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:22.240 have you know, I'm coming to town blah blah, I want to do 174 00:11:22.240 --> 00:11:26.279 this. And I'm like, that's great. You're in a free because you're 175 00:11:26.320 --> 00:11:30.120 freer than I am. You're I'm not. I tell my really good friends 176 00:11:30.879 --> 00:11:33.559 you were. You were going through what I was going through, like literally 177 00:11:33.600 --> 00:11:37.519 a year or so ago, two years ago. You're in this space I've 178 00:11:37.519 --> 00:11:39.600 been right now now you're out of it. So now you're free, but 179 00:11:39.720 --> 00:11:43.840 now somehow you counderstand it. I'm in it right now. Like that was 180 00:11:43.879 --> 00:11:46.799 a hard thing for me too, As I had explained in the person nicely, 181 00:11:46.919 --> 00:11:50.559 like yes, you're free, you're done, good, please go out 182 00:11:50.600 --> 00:11:52.720 there. I can't do what you're doing right now. I'm still in it. 183 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:56.240 So it's like things like that. It's it's it's it's a trip and 184 00:11:56.320 --> 00:11:58.480 you know it's and again, maybe I'm being too nice and still trying to 185 00:11:58.679 --> 00:12:01.000 you know, make sure advice. I'm trying to go try to go off 186 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:05.039 for anybody. I'm trying to be just like just like just talk plainly and 187 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:09.600 let people know stuff. It's just it's I'm not trying to you know, 188 00:12:09.799 --> 00:12:11.960 I don't want to be I don't want to be mean. I mean, 189 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:13.879 I just I love these people. I don't I don't want to fight, 190 00:12:13.960 --> 00:12:16.639 right, I don't time for fighting. I guess I'm just so busy. 191 00:12:16.679 --> 00:12:18.759 I don't really don't have time to fight with anybody. I'm so busy. 192 00:12:18.840 --> 00:12:22.480 So it's just like, I guess many things have handled right in front of 193 00:12:22.519 --> 00:12:26.279 me. My house is a mess. I think I got so much going 194 00:12:26.279 --> 00:12:30.960 on. It's not even it's it's just it's crazy. So but I know, 195 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:33.039 but I know a lot of people are just excited. They want to 196 00:12:33.039 --> 00:12:35.720 see me, like being around me and like my energy. I totally get 197 00:12:35.759 --> 00:12:39.480 it. Trust me. I would love to just want to tour and just 198 00:12:39.559 --> 00:12:41.799 not do and like for like six months just visit people. I would love 199 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:46.399 it. Actually, I would love to do that and it's visit people and 200 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:50.639 eat and drink and talk and visit all I got. I would love that. 201 00:12:50.639 --> 00:12:54.039 But sometimes when you're in fifties, the things you gotta do, you're 202 00:12:54.080 --> 00:12:56.200 busy, you have things you gotta do. I'm trying to hear of my 203 00:12:56.279 --> 00:13:03.000 health and huh, that's crazy. So I am as I always stay on 204 00:13:03.039 --> 00:13:05.559 here. I am super tired. I am tired emotionally, I'm tired physically. 205 00:13:05.919 --> 00:13:09.120 I haven't had a break. I've caught a break and I don't know 206 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:11.960 how long. I mean, it's just it just it's it, just I 207 00:13:11.960 --> 00:13:16.360 feel for me, it comes it just pile I'm piled on all the time, 208 00:13:16.200 --> 00:13:18.559 every day, all the time. It's not it. And I know 209 00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:22.159 the people who are my age wore who have kids and grandkids and jobs and 210 00:13:22.519 --> 00:13:24.679 house, and they do I feel you know what it feels like, you 211 00:13:24.679 --> 00:13:28.519 know exactly what it feels like. It just it is, and I'm trying 212 00:13:28.519 --> 00:13:30.840 to manage it all. So I don't I don't know how I do it 213 00:13:30.879 --> 00:13:33.480 as time you guys ask me. I don't know, but you guys, 214 00:13:33.600 --> 00:13:35.799 my fans, I love you guys, and you guys do help a little 215 00:13:35.799 --> 00:13:37.759 bit. But beginning to today, my lotties, I do. I love 216 00:13:37.799 --> 00:13:43.799 you guys. So it's a sad h these I'll in here. Fifty plus 217 00:13:43.840 --> 00:13:46.759 is on all streaming service platforms audio and then on YouTube, J l J, 218 00:13:46.919 --> 00:13:50.000 Medium, and I will talk to you next time.