There's fifty plus. It's becoming my kind of what do you call it,
like a confessional kind of got an open professional becoming a vlog of sorts.
I guess my feelings mean fifty plus. I didn't can that really, but
I think it's a close thing. I have to vlogs. I have really
quick James flat Junior show sometimes a lot of help by to stuff, but
this was becoming that I have a feeling I come and talk to you about
you guys can be great, you know, great feedback and my have fun.
Let me clear my throat is this fifty plus. I'm James lat Junior,
trying to survive the heat here in Los Angeles. Um, so I
have started my journey as you guys, I saw you on a previous episode.
I started my whole journey, my weight loss journey. And and so
I it's been it's been five days. I feel better already than I did
five days ago. And just that fast, I don't I was feeling just
uncomfortable in my skin, in my body. I just felt like I was
just lugging around all this well I am looking around all this fat, but
I just felt like it was just like it just I just felt uncomfortable,
and I said, once I felt uncomfortable, I was like, there's something
wrong. That's my side of change. I have my fluid journal, which
I had some fun fun with all these all the things I'm eating, I'm
right part of it. Part of it is I write down certain things and
then I add some of the things that I eat, some the labels.
It's been so much. I just went before. I'm had so much fun
and I was looking back int my old ones, like I used to I
ate that I eat that way. So it's very interesting though. The calories,
so I work, I'm working with somebody, so I have a calorie
per day count I try and do. And the workout thing right now,
just starting out slowly. I went to the gym twice twice, uh with
thank you for them. Um, that was it was good. Taking a
day off, say I'm going back. I'm going back to or on Thursday.
Take a day off Friday. So I'm just I'm coming in to drink
some cardio, just kind of twenty minutes, just kind of starting myself to
build my stamina. Because I've worked out in five years. I have hip
issues, so I'm just trying to just take my time. And it's been
a lot of fun so far, and everything. The part that's very interesting,
I just I just I should have just know who's gonna happen. Of
course, everyone in the world has advice, Everyone in the world has comments,
Everyone in the world has what I should do or what I shouldn't do,
or what I should say or what I shouldn't saying. And this is
a great thing for people in fifty plus. When you're fifty plus, you've
lived some life, right and hopefully you've gathered information and you've got here somehow,
somehow you got here, and hopefully even fifty plus you also have experiences
to draw from. You have your own mind. Hopefully you know what,
you know who you are on some level. You know. It's it's it's
just, it's really, it's really crazy. It's just it's so, it's
it has been. It's it's I got here somehow. Also, I raised
children and grandsom I run business. Now. I don't know everything. I
don't proportion of everything. I don't trust me. When I need help,
I'm like, Hi, well how you do this? Hi? What do
you mean? I'm the first person I have no pride. I am the
first person to go, what does this mean? And my friend, I
just have a lot of younger people around me, and you're fifty plus,
have younger folks around you for certain things. And I have no problem saying
I don't just mean what do I do? How do I do this way?
I have no problem with that. However, comma different to say there
are some things I do know and I, especially with this weight lost journey,
I've been through before. I know exactly what works for me, and
I'm gonna do it a certain way, and I've reaching out to people then
that I want to talk to you that I trust. So it's really funny
where everybody has a comment we're just fine, but everybody was telling me,
well, you should do this and march doing this I have Technically I'm like,
I don't. I don't need all that. Just good luck, James,
we approach shooting. We're rooting for you. Hope it works out.
It's all I mean, that's all. I don't need anybody telling me ten
thousand things. I don't if I need advice. And it's funny it's I
don't give advice anymore at this age. I used to be the same.
I'm that same kind of person. I don't give unslicited advice unless you ask
for it. I just go. If you say, James, I have
an idea, what do you think. There's only a few cases where if
I hear them doing something that's potentially wrong, like actually I actually wrong,
I want to hurt themselves and go, Okay, I don't you don't know
this, but I know, and I may I may say. I can't
just give you this piece advice. I asked first before I give it.
That should be years. It's I used to give advice. They get upset
where people wouldn't take my advice, you know. So it's it's it's yeah,
and so I'm looking, I'm okay, I'm gonna text. It's it's
just crazy. It's just it's you know, it's just it's it's I I
know where I'm at, so I know what I'm doing. But I know
for some people, it's just they're excited for you. They're into they're into
the gym or into things. They want to tell Oh my god, I
what's up on? Everyone'll tell you all this stuff, and it's like,
okay, that's great. And a lot of times I'll listen I'm not a
personally, Just shut up, don't tell you that. I'll listen to you
now if I don't again, if I don't take your advice or jump on
and go, that's oh my god, I'm gonna do that. You can't
get upset, I said, I used to get upset. I'm telling you
something I know and you don't take it. You have to let that go.
They becoming a life coach. Um, help me with that because I
learned you're off the hook, James. You know what you know? You
can help you with stuff. You gotta let it go. Y'all comes are
theirs. And so for me, I think you're just excite it. Now
for some people it may be a topic that we finally have in common to
talk about. For them, like oh, you nice with your gym.
Now he's diet he's he's trying to lose weights. He generally not. That's
my subject. So I get that to sometimes that's what it is to you
finally connect with that, um, And so that was that's so there's very
interesting as the beginning's journey again, who feels like they need to say so
Tommy and like, yeah, I want to focus on this with you I
want to focus on this with you. Let's leave this, leave this part
alone. I'm good, I'm a grown man. We checked in death.
Also, I noticed something too, um that's very interesting is uh people.
Everyone everyone is in their own orbits. And there are some folks who are
actually nice people. They're not trying to hurt no body, but they are
kind of tone death situations because they're so into their world. They're in their
world. I try best to be. I'm very aware of else worlds.
It's almost my job. Everyone comes to me in my life. Everyone comes
to me. I get my phone rings all daylong, all the time,
every time, all the time. Everyone comes to me and I so I
know everyone's worlds. I'm very I know this person and that person. So
I'm very aware. So I know how to act when I answer their world
and when I answer conversation with them, I know how to act. Everybody
can do that. It's a skill. You have to learn it. And
I think people, once you get out of yourself, you can do that
more because you realize the worlds is all about you. But there's some folks
you just can't help themselves. And I think sometimes it is age. It's
immaturity. It's age some folks, but some folks they don't. I'll grow
it. That's you too, so I will say that to you. But
it's there's all kind of factors. Of course. It could be birth order,
it could be if you're a single, we were an only child,
or if you finally got independency. It's all about you. So I've had
to tell people that I love recently, or I've had to act accordingly and
realize otherwise, nice, wonderful people are being completely tone deaf to my situation,
not taking my exituation in account at all. And I had this happened
to me several times recently, when several good friends of mine, it's like,
you know, I've been going to do something serious for the last seven
months. I mean just over. I mean it's been serious, and my
world is now this. But see, I understand not anybody's in my world.
So I don't flictor anybody. I took what was going on, but
I don't flictor anybody, first of all. But I also know if someone
comes to me, I don't know how to set aside. And because I
say it's leading my job, I set aside. I try to be there
for you fully. I can't. Yeah, some issues, Yeah problem.
I try to set aside my stuff and be present and till a present for
you. And I mean I also, I mean I'm gonna structure my teacher
a speaker. I mean that's my job. I'm here for you. I'm
giving. I'm here for an hour. I'm like, give you fully the
hour and be there, every fully present every inter of you I do.
I'm like, okay, everything's everything outside the door, so to speak.
I am now fully focused on you. Other folks will have do you that.
And I've had people will me, people say things to me like,
god, well you're always busy. I'm like, well, I I'm take
care of I'm caretaking my mom and I mat that takes up a lot of
time. And I'm also have to work and I'll have a nine to five
job. So it's like it's just it's just it's I'm like, I've always
been a business. I trust me. I'd love to just hang out and
be there for you all the time. And those days are over. I
am managing two several homes, several businesses, my own life. It's like
it's not a plus. Where we live is a thing too, I'm not
going to the valley right now. We're one hundred and ten degrees out there.
I live thirty five for eight miles from the valley. I don't live
over there, So I'm like, that's not interest. That's not gonna happen
in LA. So if you can't I come my direction, I totally understand,
and life will gone. Because for years I was always accommodating everybody else.
I was always taking it, spending my time, my money, my
resources. I was like, wait a minute, nobody's doing it for me.
So I had learned that. I was like, if you really want
to see me, whatever we got, meet in the middle somewhere or come
or come my direction. So little things like that, I'm learning I'm not
beendy more backwards anymore for stuff people say. It used to be like,
why have we got together? It's just I guess, I just guess everybody
used just so busy whatever I want to go, Well, I'm busy because
I'm taking care of my mom and I had to care of my aunts,
and I'm you know, my stuff was kind of serious. So it wasn't
like I was just running around town playing so and I have to work,
and and they may say it's like, well, yeah, my life was
hard too, like my car is acting up or you know, I like
my mother almost died with your car acting up. It's two very different things.
Like read the room. It's very different having to bathe your mother and
you, you know, losing a boyfriend. I mean that's you know,
yes, usual boyfriend's bad. You know, using friendships and that's bad.
But I'm like, you kind of gotta read the room. Are you're talking
to people sometimes, you know, or I'm really busy to you and like,
okay, well that's good. You're busy. I don't. I don't
have you know, I'm coming to town blah blah, I want to do
this. And I'm like, that's great. You're in a free because you're
freer than I am. You're I'm not. I tell my really good friends
you were. You were going through what I was going through, like literally
a year or so ago, two years ago. You're in this space I've
been right now now you're out of it. So now you're free, but
now somehow you counderstand it. I'm in it right now. Like that was
a hard thing for me too, As I had explained in the person nicely,
like yes, you're free, you're done, good, please go out
there. I can't do what you're doing right now. I'm still in it.
So it's like things like that. It's it's it's it's a trip and
you know it's and again, maybe I'm being too nice and still trying to
you know, make sure advice. I'm trying to go try to go off
for anybody. I'm trying to be just like just like just talk plainly and
let people know stuff. It's just it's I'm not trying to you know,
I don't want to be I don't want to be mean. I mean,
I just I love these people. I don't I don't want to fight,
right, I don't time for fighting. I guess I'm just so busy.
I don't really don't have time to fight with anybody. I'm so busy.
So it's just like, I guess many things have handled right in front of
me. My house is a mess. I think I got so much going
on. It's not even it's it's just it's crazy. So but I know,
but I know a lot of people are just excited. They want to
see me, like being around me and like my energy. I totally get
it. Trust me. I would love to just want to tour and just
not do and like for like six months just visit people. I would love
it. Actually, I would love to do that and it's visit people and
eat and drink and talk and visit all I got. I would love that.
But sometimes when you're in fifties, the things you gotta do, you're
busy, you have things you gotta do. I'm trying to hear of my
health and huh, that's crazy. So I am as I always stay on
here. I am super tired. I am tired emotionally, I'm tired physically.
I haven't had a break. I've caught a break and I don't know
how long. I mean, it's just it just it's it, just I
feel for me, it comes it just pile I'm piled on all the time,
every day, all the time. It's not it. And I know
the people who are my age wore who have kids and grandkids and jobs and
house, and they do I feel you know what it feels like, you
know exactly what it feels like. It just it is, and I'm trying
to manage it all. So I don't I don't know how I do it
as time you guys ask me. I don't know, but you guys,
my fans, I love you guys, and you guys do help a little
bit. But beginning to today, my lotties, I do. I love
you guys. So it's a sad h these I'll in here. Fifty plus
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