WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:17.600 And energy. Cancel the high ecstasyag Cancelgema. It's not sorry, Andy, 2 00:00:19.399 --> 00:00:23.879 What the positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this 3 00:00:24.039 --> 00:00:28.000 episode, then you are meant to be here, So keep listening on that 4 00:00:28.120 --> 00:00:33.000 Bitch's Positive Podcast. Sometimes we will laugh, other times, bib a girl, 5 00:00:33.240 --> 00:00:38.200 We're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered, 6 00:00:38.679 --> 00:00:44.920 positive bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On 7 00:00:45.159 --> 00:00:49.840 this podcast, we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into 8 00:00:50.280 --> 00:00:56.679 exactly who we came here to be. Today, we're talking about something very 9 00:00:56.799 --> 00:01:02.640 revolutionary because in a world it is society that teaches us to not think for 10 00:01:02.799 --> 00:01:07.519 ourselves, in a society that teaches us to hate ourselves and to follow the 11 00:01:07.719 --> 00:01:11.560 herd, we are talking about the most revolutionary thing you can do, which 12 00:01:11.640 --> 00:01:21.760 is show up as authentically your self and doing it unapologetically. That's right now. 13 00:01:21.840 --> 00:01:23.439 If you're thinking, CC, I don't really know who I am, 14 00:01:23.719 --> 00:01:27.439 don't worry, because that is something we discuss. You're going to learn how 15 00:01:27.480 --> 00:01:32.840 to discover yourself, how to let old versions of you go, and how 16 00:01:32.920 --> 00:01:38.359 to be so confident and unapologetic in who you are that you are going to 17 00:01:38.439 --> 00:01:44.840 be the most magnetic version of yourself you maybe have ever met. Before we 18 00:01:44.920 --> 00:01:49.200 get into it, a couple of announcements. My book Show Up as Her 19 00:01:49.480 --> 00:01:53.719 is coming out April thirtieth, and you can pre order this book right now. 20 00:01:53.840 --> 00:01:57.159 The link will be in the show notes. If anything I've ever said 21 00:01:57.200 --> 00:02:00.159 has helped you, please support the launch of this book. Every single chapter 22 00:02:00.319 --> 00:02:05.239 is about how to take back your power from a different aspect of your life. 23 00:02:05.599 --> 00:02:09.599 Whether that's taking your power back from people, or your past or your 24 00:02:09.719 --> 00:02:14.759 ego. You will learn how to do all of that and more in my 25 00:02:14.960 --> 00:02:19.840 book, Show Up as Her. I impressed upon the pages of this book 26 00:02:20.159 --> 00:02:23.479 positive energy. So just by getting this book, just by having it in 27 00:02:23.560 --> 00:02:29.039 your hands and really engaging with it, you are fine tuning your energy. 28 00:02:29.759 --> 00:02:34.479 If you want more intimate guidance, you can DM me on Instagram at vibein 29 00:02:34.719 --> 00:02:38.120 with CC. Be sure to follow me there. That link will also be 30 00:02:38.199 --> 00:02:43.560 in the show notes. I have some offerings open currently in my Magnetic Mastery 31 00:02:43.639 --> 00:02:47.080 program. I opened it up to five spots and I currently have three spots 32 00:02:47.159 --> 00:02:52.840 left open. In my Magnetic Mastery Program. This is a twelve week program 33 00:02:53.360 --> 00:02:57.159 where It's not a one size fits all program, which I see a lot 34 00:02:57.240 --> 00:03:01.039 of people doing. I equate this program to the perfectly tailored little black dress. 35 00:03:01.439 --> 00:03:06.039 I meet you where you're at, and we will go spirit deep. 36 00:03:06.560 --> 00:03:10.439 Whatever you need to uncover, whatever you need to release, we will do 37 00:03:10.639 --> 00:03:16.240 that thing. It is nothing short of energetic work, psychological work, even 38 00:03:16.439 --> 00:03:22.280 physical somatic healing. We do it all. If you're interested in this twelve 39 00:03:22.319 --> 00:03:25.719 week program, dom me now for more information and without further ado, let's 40 00:03:25.800 --> 00:03:35.080 just get into today's episode. How can we be unapologetically our self? Well, 41 00:03:35.159 --> 00:03:40.919 let's think about why we might not be unapologetically ourself When we have learned 42 00:03:42.039 --> 00:03:47.719 since we have been born that we have to get validation and love and acceptance 43 00:03:47.759 --> 00:03:53.759 from outside of ourselves. We never learn how to cultivate and harness those tools 44 00:03:53.919 --> 00:03:59.840 within our own being, So we rely on our mom our friends, our 45 00:04:00.240 --> 00:04:03.800 peers to validate us, to accept us, to like us, to give 46 00:04:03.879 --> 00:04:10.840 us that love and whatever we starve for outside of our self. That now 47 00:04:11.080 --> 00:04:15.319 means that we're living in accordance to somebody else. It means we're putting them 48 00:04:15.439 --> 00:04:20.480 on our pedestal and not ourself. If we have grown up being versions of 49 00:04:20.560 --> 00:04:25.800 ourself in order to get love and acceptance. Well, that's how we know 50 00:04:25.920 --> 00:04:29.319 how to exist. That's all we know how to do. We only know 51 00:04:29.480 --> 00:04:32.879 how to show up in a way that makes other people comfortable. What we 52 00:04:33.120 --> 00:04:40.240 have to do is drastically and radically change the way we show up every single 53 00:04:40.560 --> 00:04:44.959 day. And what does this mean. This means that instead of getting your 54 00:04:45.040 --> 00:04:48.920 validation and acceptance and love and like from out there, you have to now 55 00:04:49.040 --> 00:04:55.759 give it to your self. Just think about it. If I don't know 56 00:04:55.839 --> 00:05:00.319 how to give myself love, validation, respect, and trust, I'm going 57 00:05:00.360 --> 00:05:04.120 to be starving for those energies outside of myself. I'm not going to show 58 00:05:04.199 --> 00:05:06.439 up how I actually want to show up. I'm going to show up how 59 00:05:06.480 --> 00:05:12.120 I think I have to show up to get those needs met. If you 60 00:05:12.279 --> 00:05:15.839 are afraid of being yourself, it means you're starving yourself a fulfilling your own 61 00:05:16.000 --> 00:05:21.560 needs. So first things first is we have to alter where we're going to 62 00:05:21.680 --> 00:05:26.879 get our needs met. Instead of going out there, instead of begging people 63 00:05:26.959 --> 00:05:30.680 out there to meet our needs, we have to meet our own needs. 64 00:05:32.079 --> 00:05:36.439 When you wake up in the morning, you have a decision every single day, 65 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:41.759 do I want to keep being the same person I was yesterday? Or 66 00:05:41.839 --> 00:05:45.639 do I want to wake up today take my life by their reins and take 67 00:05:45.720 --> 00:05:49.879 control over my own reality. Every day you have that invitation, how are 68 00:05:49.959 --> 00:05:56.480 you responding? How are you responding? May I ask you if you want 69 00:05:56.519 --> 00:06:00.720 to be unapologetically yourself? First things first, we have to understand we need 70 00:06:00.839 --> 00:06:06.319 to start meeting our own needs. This means we have to ask ourselves, 71 00:06:06.920 --> 00:06:12.480 how can I validate myself? Oh, I can give myself positive words of 72 00:06:12.560 --> 00:06:15.560 affirmations throughout my day. When I do that, workout, good job, 73 00:06:15.639 --> 00:06:18.720 CEC. When I make my bed, good job, CEC. At work, 74 00:06:18.800 --> 00:06:25.120 great job, CEC. Start validating yourself. If I'm starving for love 75 00:06:25.199 --> 00:06:28.560 outside of myself, how can I give that to me? Well, I 76 00:06:28.680 --> 00:06:32.680 can give myself self love by giving myself a beautiful, nice bath. I'll 77 00:06:32.720 --> 00:06:38.120 put epsom salt in there, lower the lights, light a candle, I'll 78 00:06:38.160 --> 00:06:43.600 watch one of my favorite movies from childhood. We have to start learning how 79 00:06:43.639 --> 00:06:47.120 to meet our own needs, so we're not just trying to survive in the 80 00:06:47.279 --> 00:06:54.000 every day, but we open up the honor opportunity to actually thrive. If 81 00:06:54.040 --> 00:06:58.279 you don't rely on their acceptance and their validation. Well, then you're not 82 00:06:58.519 --> 00:07:02.240 tethered to them and you can do what you want. A lot of us 83 00:07:02.399 --> 00:07:08.720 have to simply give ourselves permission to show up as we wish. We've been 84 00:07:08.759 --> 00:07:13.079 told you're too sensitive, you can't do that. Now you're not allowed to 85 00:07:13.319 --> 00:07:17.680 exist as that. So we have to start telling ourselves. I give myself 86 00:07:17.759 --> 00:07:21.959 permission to feel how I want to feel. I give myself permission to show 87 00:07:23.040 --> 00:07:27.839 up however I wish to show up. I give myself permission to be who 88 00:07:27.920 --> 00:07:30.199 it is I want to be. I give myself permission to do what it 89 00:07:30.319 --> 00:07:35.000 is I want to do. We have been conditioned to look to the other 90 00:07:35.560 --> 00:07:40.639 and think, is this okay? Am I allowed to do this? F 91 00:07:41.040 --> 00:07:44.959 that you want to live unapologetically, you have to fulfill your own needs, 92 00:07:45.160 --> 00:07:49.319 and you have to give yourself literally permission to show up as who it is 93 00:07:49.519 --> 00:07:55.319 you wish to be. Maybe you're thinking, I don't even know who I 94 00:07:55.399 --> 00:07:58.759 want to be. I don't even know who I am. When I was 95 00:07:58.800 --> 00:08:03.480 going through my breakup, I realized, oh mg, I have no identity 96 00:08:03.600 --> 00:08:09.079 outside of being a girlfriend. I don't know who I am. I don't 97 00:08:09.160 --> 00:08:11.279 know what I like to do. I don't know what to do with myself. 98 00:08:11.800 --> 00:08:16.279 So what that means. It's not a bad thing. It's actually a 99 00:08:16.399 --> 00:08:22.879 positive sign that you need to learn about yourself. It's a sign that you're 100 00:08:22.920 --> 00:08:31.079 about to have a journey very very very differently than any journey you've had prior. 101 00:08:31.399 --> 00:08:37.080 You're about to embark on a journey of self discovery. Not knowing yourself 102 00:08:37.240 --> 00:08:39.519 is not a bad thing. It just means, Okay, it's time to 103 00:08:39.679 --> 00:08:43.840 rediscover. How do we get to know anyone? We have to hang out 104 00:08:43.919 --> 00:08:50.639 with them. You have to commit to yourself time and energy. You have 105 00:08:50.799 --> 00:08:54.080 to spend time with Yeah, you if you want to get to know you, 106 00:08:54.399 --> 00:08:58.559 if you want to be unapologetically yourself. You can't be yourself if you 107 00:08:58.600 --> 00:09:01.639 don't even know who you are. What are you going to do in the 108 00:09:01.759 --> 00:09:05.080 time that you're hanging out with yourself? You're going to try new things. 109 00:09:05.480 --> 00:09:09.320 When I was going through this breakup, I didn't know what I liked to 110 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:15.039 do. So I asked myself, what are some things I think I might 111 00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:18.720 like? And I said, I think I might like yoga. So what 112 00:09:18.840 --> 00:09:22.480 did I do? I bought the yoga matt. I bought a yoga bag, 113 00:09:22.919 --> 00:09:26.960 and that bag stayed in my room for about a month until I actually 114 00:09:26.039 --> 00:09:31.120 signed up. I needed a little bit more momentum to get used to the 115 00:09:31.240 --> 00:09:35.840 idea of maybe I could be a yogi. After that month, I signed 116 00:09:35.879 --> 00:09:39.519 up for that first class, and it changed my life. I never stopped 117 00:09:39.559 --> 00:09:43.759 yoga. I never stopped it. I would have never known I liked yoga 118 00:09:43.000 --> 00:09:46.600 because my mom didn't do it, my sister didn't do it. No one 119 00:09:46.679 --> 00:09:48.879 in my family did it. I didn't know anyone who did it. I 120 00:09:50.600 --> 00:09:54.720 had to go and find out for myself through experimenting with my own reality. 121 00:09:56.320 --> 00:10:01.480 You are a scientist, and your life is your experiment. View this time 122 00:10:01.559 --> 00:10:05.639 of self discovery as simply an experiment. Don't put pressure on yourself, don't 123 00:10:05.639 --> 00:10:09.240 put time limits on yourself. Just say what do I think I might like, 124 00:10:09.559 --> 00:10:11.480 and let me go try it. Another thing I thought I might like 125 00:10:11.679 --> 00:10:16.159 is self development books. So I started to read them. I started to 126 00:10:16.200 --> 00:10:20.000 get interested in them. I thought I hated reading. I thought that's who 127 00:10:20.080 --> 00:10:24.279 I was. It wasn't a fact that I hated reading. It was a 128 00:10:24.399 --> 00:10:28.080 thought that I practiced thinking, which became a belief, and I believed that 129 00:10:28.440 --> 00:10:35.720 belief. Part of becoming unapologetically yourself is also unbecoming all the parts of you 130 00:10:37.120 --> 00:10:41.080 that aren't in alignment with you anymore, that were never actually g but behaviors 131 00:10:41.120 --> 00:10:48.200 you have learned in order to survive. So this means releasing the habits, 132 00:10:48.720 --> 00:10:54.559 the people, the places that don't feel good to you anymore. How do 133 00:10:54.639 --> 00:10:58.039 you know if something's in alignment with you, it will feel good, it 134 00:10:58.080 --> 00:11:01.919 will feel like peace. Do you I know something's not in alignment with you, 135 00:11:01.440 --> 00:11:07.639 It will feel so difficult. It will feel uncomfortable, it will feel 136 00:11:07.759 --> 00:11:13.799 like misery, and it will never let up. Ever, it won't feel 137 00:11:13.840 --> 00:11:16.440 inspirational, you won't feel motivated. It will just feel like blah and gross. 138 00:11:18.440 --> 00:11:22.720 The things that feel gross to you you have to release. I was 139 00:11:22.840 --> 00:11:26.279 trying for so long to force myself to be a sporty girl. That's not 140 00:11:26.480 --> 00:11:30.279 me. I was trying to force myself to do that so that I could 141 00:11:30.279 --> 00:11:35.039 hang out with people and be accepted by my peer group. But in releasing 142 00:11:35.559 --> 00:11:39.720 the sports, I finally actually had time to do what it is I wanted 143 00:11:39.799 --> 00:11:43.600 to do, which was acting and singing and dancing. Those were the things 144 00:11:43.639 --> 00:11:50.039 that were really calling my name. And something so funny happens when you stop 145 00:11:50.200 --> 00:11:52.639 doing what you don't want to do, and you start doing what you do 146 00:11:52.759 --> 00:11:56.279 want to do, Suddenly you feel a whole lot better. So many of 147 00:11:56.399 --> 00:12:01.519 us think we're tired and depleted, and we feel like there's something wrong with 148 00:12:01.679 --> 00:12:05.120 us. You know, what's wrong with you is that you keep engaging in 149 00:12:05.279 --> 00:12:09.000 behaviors that aren't in alignment with you. So you constantly feel depleted, You 150 00:12:09.159 --> 00:12:15.720 constantly feel tired, and you don't feel good about your incarnation. There's nothing 151 00:12:15.799 --> 00:12:20.480 wrong with you, but the habits and the activities and the people you're engaging 152 00:12:20.559 --> 00:12:24.120 with are no longer in alignment with you, and so they're draining you. 153 00:12:24.840 --> 00:12:28.559 You have to take a hard look at your life and say what actually feels 154 00:12:28.600 --> 00:12:33.519 good and what doesn't feel good. Your emotions are your navigation system, the 155 00:12:33.679 --> 00:12:37.399 same way you need a navigation system to show you how to get to a 156 00:12:37.519 --> 00:12:41.799 place the first time you've ever been there. Look, this is the first 157 00:12:41.879 --> 00:12:45.000 time you're discovering this new version of you. You're going to need a navigation 158 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:48.799 system. What is your navigation system, but your own emotions. Listen to 159 00:12:50.080 --> 00:12:52.480 them when they're showing you that something feels good, Lean into it. When 160 00:12:52.519 --> 00:12:56.879 they're showing you that something's not good for you, understand it and rough lease 161 00:12:58.600 --> 00:13:03.320 it. When you start doing things that make you feel happy and fulfilled, 162 00:13:03.679 --> 00:13:07.879 you're no longer gonna have to outsource that validation. Who are the people who 163 00:13:07.919 --> 00:13:11.840 are most concerned about other people's opinions. It's people who do not know how 164 00:13:11.879 --> 00:13:16.080 to fill up their own cup. Do you think Taylor Swift really cares about 165 00:13:16.080 --> 00:13:20.080 all of her haters? No, she has so much money, so much 166 00:13:20.159 --> 00:13:26.279 happiness, so much abundance, so much joy, so much creativity, so 167 00:13:26.000 --> 00:13:31.279 much, so many things out of alignment. Really, she's living her dream 168 00:13:31.399 --> 00:13:35.360 life. No, she doesn't care about what other people have to say. 169 00:13:35.039 --> 00:13:39.679 When you're in tune with yourself and what brings you joy, you care less 170 00:13:39.720 --> 00:13:46.879 about what other people say about you. Sometimes, your family, your friends, 171 00:13:46.039 --> 00:13:50.080 they're not gonna get it. They're not gonna get that vision, they're 172 00:13:50.120 --> 00:13:52.320 not gonna get your dream. They're gonna talk bad about you. They're gonna 173 00:13:52.480 --> 00:13:58.519 talk, maybe bad even to your face. You have to lean into yourself 174 00:13:58.720 --> 00:14:01.480 like never before. Who are you going to trust their vision or yours? 175 00:14:01.600 --> 00:14:03.960 Do you want to live miserable for the rest of your life? Do you 176 00:14:05.039 --> 00:14:07.600 want to live in accordance with them? Do you want to give up your 177 00:14:07.639 --> 00:14:11.039 happiness and joy so that they feel comfortable? Or do you want to live 178 00:14:11.080 --> 00:14:13.240 the life you came here to live? Do you want to live the life 179 00:14:13.559 --> 00:14:18.320 that your destiny wants to gift you? What is it that you want to 180 00:14:18.399 --> 00:14:26.240 do? It's in your power, your choice, your control. Being unapologetically 181 00:14:26.519 --> 00:14:33.559 yourself doesn't always feel comfortable because you're fighting against a role that you may have 182 00:14:33.919 --> 00:14:37.440 created, like the good girl, the making sure everyone else is comfortable, 183 00:14:37.519 --> 00:14:41.240 the making sure everyone else feels good around you. When you start to be 184 00:14:41.320 --> 00:14:48.759 unapologetically yourself and you change what you're projecting and what you're showing up as other 185 00:14:48.840 --> 00:14:52.240 people are going to shift how they react to you too, But you again 186 00:14:52.519 --> 00:14:56.639 need to lean into yourself. What does it worth to you? Let's learn 187 00:14:56.720 --> 00:15:00.799 from the people who have come before us, shall we? Because one of 188 00:15:00.879 --> 00:15:05.720 the best ways to learn is to look at what other people are doing and 189 00:15:05.960 --> 00:15:09.759 understand what they did right, what worked, and what didn't work. The 190 00:15:09.960 --> 00:15:13.240 number one regret of the dying. Do you know what it is? The 191 00:15:13.399 --> 00:15:18.960 number one regret of the dying? This is it? I wish I had 192 00:15:18.080 --> 00:15:24.000 the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected 193 00:15:24.480 --> 00:15:31.320 of me. Out of millions of people, out of all the things people 194 00:15:31.360 --> 00:15:39.039 could regret, the number one thing they regretted is not being unapologetically themselves and 195 00:15:39.200 --> 00:15:45.679 instead trying to appease the people around them, trying to make everyone else comfortable. 196 00:15:45.960 --> 00:15:48.279 Guess what, You can try to appease as many people as you want 197 00:15:48.360 --> 00:15:52.000 around you, they still won't be happy with you. You know why, 198 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:58.000 because happiness comes from within. Your happiness is your responsibility. Their happiness is 199 00:15:58.120 --> 00:16:04.080 their responsibility. You were not sent to planet Earth to make everyone else happy. 200 00:16:04.639 --> 00:16:08.799 You came here to learn, develop and grow. Your energy is meant 201 00:16:10.159 --> 00:16:15.360 for you first, So why are you wasting it on everybody else? And 202 00:16:15.559 --> 00:16:18.639 yes, it is a waste. If you are so compassionate for other people, 203 00:16:18.919 --> 00:16:22.799 you have rose colored glasses on for everybody else, that's actually just leading 204 00:16:22.840 --> 00:16:29.159 you to self destruction. What do you even want from life? And maybe 205 00:16:29.240 --> 00:16:32.919 you're thinking, Ceci, I'm not sure who I am yet and I actually 206 00:16:33.159 --> 00:16:36.879 don't know what I want from life. One of the best ways to understand 207 00:16:36.960 --> 00:16:41.399 what you want from your life is look at other people. What do other 208 00:16:41.480 --> 00:16:45.399 people have that you want that is now your inspo? Put it on a 209 00:16:45.480 --> 00:16:51.320 vision board. It's one of the most amazing ways that we can understand what 210 00:16:51.480 --> 00:16:56.440 we want is simply by looking around us, look at your surroundings. Sometimes 211 00:16:56.480 --> 00:16:59.600 we don't know we want that type of career or that type of car, 212 00:16:59.759 --> 00:17:03.519 or that type of home until we see someone else have it. Now, 213 00:17:03.919 --> 00:17:07.119 don't get jealous of them. Don't start sending them hatred, because then you 214 00:17:07.240 --> 00:17:14.759 block yourself from manifesting that same thing. Instead, send appreciation, send gratitude, 215 00:17:14.799 --> 00:17:18.279 and understand if they could do it, that means I can do it 216 00:17:18.400 --> 00:17:21.559 too. If they're able to have their own business, they're a human, 217 00:17:21.640 --> 00:17:23.680 I'm a human. I can do it too. If they're able to have 218 00:17:23.799 --> 00:17:27.000 that home, with that family and that relationship, I'm a human. I 219 00:17:27.160 --> 00:17:30.720 can do it too. It might not look the same in all the ways 220 00:17:30.720 --> 00:17:34.440 because I'm on my own personal spiritual journey, but if they can do it, 221 00:17:34.720 --> 00:17:38.799 so can I. I send them respect, I send them white light. 222 00:17:38.960 --> 00:17:42.519 I send them love. And when you see someone else having what you 223 00:17:42.640 --> 00:17:48.599 want and you realize I want to get this from myself too, Never send 224 00:17:48.599 --> 00:17:52.480 them jealousy or negativity. Send them white light, and it actually pulls that 225 00:17:52.640 --> 00:17:59.640 manifestation closer towards you. So if you're thinking I don't know who I am, 226 00:18:00.039 --> 00:18:03.160 you know, okay, it's time to experiment. Experiment with new ways 227 00:18:03.200 --> 00:18:07.720 of being you think you might like, experiment with ways of being that you 228 00:18:07.920 --> 00:18:11.359 used to like when you were a child, but maybe stopped because you didn't 229 00:18:11.440 --> 00:18:15.039 want to be made fun of. I never, in school tried out for 230 00:18:15.200 --> 00:18:21.440 drama or any of the drama clubs because I put validation from my peers over 231 00:18:21.759 --> 00:18:27.160 my true, authentic desires. Our theater department was also questionable, but I 232 00:18:27.720 --> 00:18:34.319 valued validation more than I valued true happiness. And what I got was friendships. 233 00:18:34.480 --> 00:18:37.960 But did they really ever fulfill me? No. I was constantly feeling 234 00:18:38.119 --> 00:18:42.279 like I want more, I'm ready for more. I want to feel more 235 00:18:42.359 --> 00:18:47.640 fulfilled, and I couldn't find that because I wasn't allowing myself to do what 236 00:18:47.960 --> 00:18:52.519 was truly going to bring me happiness. So try new things. Try to 237 00:18:52.640 --> 00:18:59.599 reintroduce things you used to love to do. Also say yes more when people 238 00:19:00.200 --> 00:19:03.799 you out to new opportunities, instead of saying no and going back into your 239 00:19:03.920 --> 00:19:07.960 habitual way of being. Say you know what, Yeah, I'll try to 240 00:19:08.000 --> 00:19:11.319 go to that new concert, I'll try out that new food, I'll try 241 00:19:11.359 --> 00:19:15.200 to go to this new place. Let me see what happens. You have 242 00:19:15.359 --> 00:19:19.480 to make room for miracles to unfold in your life. You have to make 243 00:19:19.559 --> 00:19:25.279 room for new experiences to come into your life. You have to let go 244 00:19:26.200 --> 00:19:30.359 of the control of everything. You, at the end of the day, 245 00:19:30.480 --> 00:19:33.880 cannot control how people are gonna view you and how people are gonna see you. 246 00:19:33.279 --> 00:19:37.160 You will be the villain in some people's story, but you know what, 247 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:41.119 You're gonna be the freaking hero in your own. Maybe you're thinking, 248 00:19:41.839 --> 00:19:45.079 I've only ever known how to be the shy girl, the insecure girl, 249 00:19:47.480 --> 00:19:52.119 the quiet girl. And what I want you to understand is that your past 250 00:19:52.880 --> 00:19:57.880 does not have to equal your future. Your past does not have to equal 251 00:19:59.000 --> 00:20:04.119 your present. Where you have been from doesn't have to have anything to do 252 00:20:04.599 --> 00:20:10.559 with where you want to go and where you're headed. We have to stop 253 00:20:10.839 --> 00:20:15.880 dragging our past into our present and our future, because our past has nothing 254 00:20:15.920 --> 00:20:19.519 to do with our future. If we don't want it to. You have 255 00:20:21.119 --> 00:20:26.039 the power to say, you know what, this identity isn't serving me anymore 256 00:20:26.160 --> 00:20:33.559 and I'm ready to be rebirthed into someone new. Think about the seasons we 257 00:20:33.720 --> 00:20:37.960 go from summer to fall, to winter to spring, to summer to fall. 258 00:20:38.799 --> 00:20:45.319 The seasons are not judgmental of themselves for changing. We're not judgmental of 259 00:20:45.400 --> 00:20:49.400 the seasons for changing. We just know that's nature for you. Well, 260 00:20:49.480 --> 00:20:53.759 guess what. The law of one states that we are one with everything. 261 00:20:55.319 --> 00:21:00.400 There was this big bang and physically everything separated, but energetic everything is still 262 00:21:00.759 --> 00:21:06.000 entangled. That's a law of entanglement. We are still one with the planet, 263 00:21:06.079 --> 00:21:07.519 We are one with the trees. We are one with one other. 264 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:14.160 And just like nature has seasons, just like the moon has phases, you 265 00:21:14.400 --> 00:21:19.400 too will go through many different versions of your self. You don't have to 266 00:21:19.519 --> 00:21:22.960 stay stagnant, you don't have to stay in one identity. In fact, 267 00:21:23.279 --> 00:21:29.440 that goes against what you naturally are, which is energy, which is constantly 268 00:21:29.680 --> 00:21:34.559 shifting and moving. If you think about a midlife crisis, what even is 269 00:21:34.599 --> 00:21:40.119 a midlife crisis? It's someone who decided who they had to be, tried 270 00:21:40.200 --> 00:21:42.799 to be that version of themselves in order to get loved their whole entire life, 271 00:21:44.079 --> 00:21:47.680 and then they realize that what they thought was going to give them happiness, 272 00:21:47.880 --> 00:21:51.400 placing other people on a pedestal, getting the house they thought was going 273 00:21:51.480 --> 00:21:55.839 to impress other people, keeping up with the Joneses didn't give them happiness. 274 00:21:56.119 --> 00:21:57.920 Nothing works, so they end up at the strip club at two aham. 275 00:22:00.000 --> 00:22:04.759 I mean, yeah, that's some people's reality. Why Why Because they placed 276 00:22:04.880 --> 00:22:11.519 other people's validation over their own truest desires and they thought they had to keep 277 00:22:11.640 --> 00:22:15.599 up with the Joneses. They thought they had to get the house in the 278 00:22:15.720 --> 00:22:18.759 car and the da da da da to get external validation, and that was 279 00:22:18.799 --> 00:22:25.039 going to mean something, But it doesn't. What gives us permanent fulfillment is 280 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:30.400 following our true desires. That is what allows us to really step into our 281 00:22:30.480 --> 00:22:34.400 own Just because you've been a certain way, it doesn't mean you have to 282 00:22:34.519 --> 00:22:40.759 continuously be that person. You can say no to the f boy who keeps 283 00:22:40.799 --> 00:22:42.880 coming in and out of your life. You can say yes to that new 284 00:22:44.000 --> 00:22:48.640 job opportunity and try something different. You can sign up for that class and 285 00:22:48.799 --> 00:22:52.359 explore yourself. And remember, we're seeing this as an experiment. We're not 286 00:22:52.480 --> 00:22:56.519 putting pressure on ourself. We're not putting a time limit on ourselves. We're 287 00:22:56.720 --> 00:23:02.880 just letting time flow through us, and we're working with the energy around us, 288 00:23:03.039 --> 00:23:07.400 not against it. I feel I'm going through yet another spiritual awakening right 289 00:23:07.480 --> 00:23:12.519 now, and it's requiring of me a lot of solitude, and so I've 290 00:23:12.599 --> 00:23:19.519 been planning to spend some time completely alone in Florida. And I'm doing this 291 00:23:19.720 --> 00:23:25.400 because I want to get to know the next version of myself that I feel 292 00:23:25.640 --> 00:23:30.200 is emerging. And we know that if we want a different life, if 293 00:23:30.240 --> 00:23:34.279 we want to unlock a new level, it's going to require a new level 294 00:23:34.480 --> 00:23:40.079 of our self. And we can't just be interested in this process. We 295 00:23:40.200 --> 00:23:45.960 have to be completely committed to our self and our dream because that is what 296 00:23:45.200 --> 00:23:52.039 unlocks true happiness and our destiny. I am someone who's very much about I 297 00:23:52.119 --> 00:23:56.440 think I could say my biggest fear would be not reaching my full potential. 298 00:23:56.319 --> 00:24:03.079 And so for me place myself first and taking time to get to know myself 299 00:24:03.240 --> 00:24:07.079 once again. I already did this. I've done this multiple times, and 300 00:24:07.200 --> 00:24:11.079 I'm still telling you yet again, I have to reget to know this next 301 00:24:11.200 --> 00:24:17.160 version of myself. Because there was CC who was the girlfriend, CC who 302 00:24:17.200 --> 00:24:21.480 went through a breakup, CC who had her first spiritual awakening, CEC who 303 00:24:21.519 --> 00:24:23.839 went through a dark night of the soul, CC who then was kind of 304 00:24:23.920 --> 00:24:29.400 this caterpillar in a cocoon and then rebirthed into a butterfly, CEC, who 305 00:24:29.480 --> 00:24:33.319 then was single, CEC who then went into a relationship again. And now 306 00:24:33.680 --> 00:24:38.519 there is CC who's unlocking new spiritual levels of herself. And again, once 307 00:24:38.559 --> 00:24:45.079 again, I'm being required to step into myself. And now people have opinions 308 00:24:45.119 --> 00:24:49.079 about this. A lot of people have opinions about this. I've said this 309 00:24:49.200 --> 00:24:52.319 in previous episodes, but I've been getting asked the question, well, why 310 00:24:52.359 --> 00:24:56.400 aren't you engaged yet? You've been in a relationship for quite some time. 311 00:24:56.880 --> 00:25:00.519 Why aren't you doing this yet? You've been thinking about this for sometimes. 312 00:25:00.759 --> 00:25:04.759 Why are you doing this? What is this? And my whole thing is, 313 00:25:07.279 --> 00:25:11.799 these people are not meant to live my life, so they actually don't 314 00:25:11.880 --> 00:25:15.519 need to understand why I'm doing what I'm doing. In fact, I don't 315 00:25:15.559 --> 00:25:19.200 care if I seem crazy or unhinged to them, because you know what, 316 00:25:21.200 --> 00:25:26.480 I don't want their reality. I don't want to become grounded in someone else's 317 00:25:26.559 --> 00:25:30.440 reality because I don't want their life. They are not gonna understand my way 318 00:25:30.519 --> 00:25:36.960 of being because I'm unlocking a completely different reality. So of course they're not 319 00:25:37.000 --> 00:25:40.960 going to understand that I'm not just gonna graduate college and get married immediately and 320 00:25:41.079 --> 00:25:45.319 pop out children. They're not going to understand that because that's what their life 321 00:25:45.359 --> 00:25:51.279 looked like. And what do people want? People want to surround themselves with 322 00:25:51.440 --> 00:25:55.920 other people that are like them because it makes them more comfortable. People want 323 00:25:56.000 --> 00:26:00.559 to surround themselves with people who are like them so that it's easy easier to 324 00:26:00.720 --> 00:26:04.240 predict how those people are going to act. We have to understand that when 325 00:26:04.319 --> 00:26:08.160 you're doing what other people aren't doing, it's going to make them uncomfortable. 326 00:26:08.799 --> 00:26:11.839 It's going to make them question their own life and they're not going to like 327 00:26:11.960 --> 00:26:15.759 it, so they are going to have opinions about it. But guess what 328 00:26:17.240 --> 00:26:21.960 you have to have constantly in your mind. I came here for my energy 329 00:26:22.079 --> 00:26:27.359 first. I came here for my destiny first. And as someone who really 330 00:26:29.960 --> 00:26:33.160 thinks about I really want to reach my potential. I really want to see 331 00:26:33.200 --> 00:26:37.000 what this incarnation is all about. What is CC capable of doing? I 332 00:26:37.160 --> 00:26:41.240 have yet to see so much, and I therefore have decided I'm going to 333 00:26:41.359 --> 00:26:47.920 have this selective solitude and spend a lot more time with just myself because I 334 00:26:48.079 --> 00:26:52.440 want to see what I'm truly capable of doing, and that's going to require 335 00:26:52.599 --> 00:26:57.640 me to spend time with just me and see what this version of me is 336 00:26:57.799 --> 00:27:03.119 all about. So I truly understand that other people are gonna start chirping. 337 00:27:03.400 --> 00:27:08.079 I get that there are going to be opinions in your life that is going 338 00:27:08.200 --> 00:27:12.759 to cause you to be maybe even questioning your own journey, like should I 339 00:27:12.839 --> 00:27:17.680 be doing something different? They don't understand me. This feels quite isolating, 340 00:27:18.119 --> 00:27:23.359 but understand giving into their projection is only going to delay you because you can 341 00:27:23.440 --> 00:27:26.039 try to push down what you really want. You can try to push down 342 00:27:26.079 --> 00:27:30.200 your dreams. They're gonna scratch their way back up. They're gonna try to 343 00:27:30.240 --> 00:27:33.319 come back around in the next season and the next season and the next season. 344 00:27:33.599 --> 00:27:37.640 And even if you try to push down your intuition for a little while, 345 00:27:37.160 --> 00:27:42.799 that intuition will get louder and louder and louder until you can't ignore it 346 00:27:44.119 --> 00:27:49.480 anymore. You don't have to wait for your saddurn return to be unapologetically yourself. 347 00:27:49.880 --> 00:27:53.519 You can decide right now, right here, I'm gonna live my life 348 00:27:53.880 --> 00:27:57.799 on my own terms. I'm gonna live my life the way I want to. 349 00:27:59.240 --> 00:28:02.480 I'm not doing it any harm to others, and in fact, I'm 350 00:28:02.519 --> 00:28:07.440 re energizing and hydrating myself with happiness every single day. We don't have to 351 00:28:07.559 --> 00:28:11.759 wait for when we're about twenty nine years old for our saturn to return where 352 00:28:11.799 --> 00:28:18.359 we finally get the energy to stand up for ourselves. Why wait for things 353 00:28:18.440 --> 00:28:23.319 to fall apart to just show up as authentically yourself? Why wait for something 354 00:28:23.400 --> 00:28:27.440 painful to happen when you can just start showing up as who you truly are 355 00:28:27.599 --> 00:28:32.599 right now. Oftentimes, when do we make change, it's when we're pushed 356 00:28:32.920 --> 00:28:37.119 because we're having such a painful experience that what was comfortable has become uncomfortable, 357 00:28:37.319 --> 00:28:42.680 and now we're pushed into the unknown. Why wait to get there? Another 358 00:28:42.759 --> 00:28:47.440 part of this is if you're in a season of living in the unknown, 359 00:28:47.920 --> 00:28:52.160 let it be, Let it be, Let it be. You're allowed to 360 00:28:52.400 --> 00:28:59.079 exist within unknown territories because that's where you're gonna grow. We know the comfort 361 00:28:59.200 --> 00:29:02.640 zone like the back of our own hand. We know how to be predictable, 362 00:29:02.680 --> 00:29:04.759 we know how to operate, We know what that reality looks like and 363 00:29:04.839 --> 00:29:08.599 how to exist within that reality. If you want to grow into the next 364 00:29:08.720 --> 00:29:11.559 version of yourself, you have to go out on a limb, and this 365 00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:15.920 is a healthy risk to take, you have to go out on that limb, 366 00:29:15.200 --> 00:29:22.279 try new things, experiment with yourself and see what life has to offer. 367 00:29:22.920 --> 00:29:26.279 If you want to be unapologetically yourself, you have to get to know 368 00:29:26.400 --> 00:29:30.799 yourself first. So instead of getting into someone new or under someone new, 369 00:29:30.200 --> 00:29:37.079 get into yourself. Date you find out what you like and what you don't 370 00:29:37.240 --> 00:29:40.160 like. Do more of what you like, do less of what you don't 371 00:29:40.319 --> 00:29:42.880 like. Spend more energy and time doing the things you like, and less 372 00:29:44.000 --> 00:29:47.720 energy and time doing the things you don't like. When it comes to then 373 00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:52.880 showing up as unapologetically yourself, because you've now gotten to know yourself, you're 374 00:29:52.880 --> 00:29:56.519 going to have more confidence to show up as that version of you. You 375 00:29:56.759 --> 00:30:00.200 know that you've been giving yourself the happiness, you've been giving yourself, the 376 00:30:00.319 --> 00:30:06.119 validation you've been learning you, So now you're not gonna have to outsource opinions 377 00:30:06.160 --> 00:30:08.319 from others. You're not gonna have to be tethered to them. And it's 378 00:30:08.359 --> 00:30:15.440 almost like a magic switch internally where you now know, wow, I can 379 00:30:15.559 --> 00:30:17.720 just do what I want to do and show up how I want to show 380 00:30:17.839 --> 00:30:22.400 up, and I don't have to be looking outside of myself for these answers. 381 00:30:22.839 --> 00:30:26.359 A lot of this is just building trust with you, and if you're 382 00:30:26.400 --> 00:30:30.480 not sure where to start, baby steps. Baby steps build big steps. 383 00:30:30.799 --> 00:30:36.240 Baby steps build big momentum. So if you're not where to start, just 384 00:30:36.279 --> 00:30:40.359 start taking yourself out on little dates to the water, to journal, to 385 00:30:40.519 --> 00:30:44.960 meditate, maybe out to a new restaurant for a hot girl walk. Take 386 00:30:45.440 --> 00:30:52.759 baby steps. Engage with new podcasts, new books, new interests. See 387 00:30:52.880 --> 00:30:57.920 where you land among these new energies. And the more you give to yourself 388 00:30:59.000 --> 00:31:02.880 and spend time with your the less you're gonna worry about how other people are 389 00:31:02.960 --> 00:31:06.880 perceiving you, how other people have opinions of you. Now, if there 390 00:31:06.920 --> 00:31:10.960 are people in your life who their opinions are very loud, and maybe they're 391 00:31:11.000 --> 00:31:14.119 a parent, or a sibling or a good friend, you may have to 392 00:31:14.160 --> 00:31:17.279 sit down with them and say, look, I know you don't understand this. 393 00:31:17.599 --> 00:31:19.839 I love you, I know your opinions coming from love, but I 394 00:31:19.880 --> 00:31:23.000 don't want to hear it every second of the day. I'm married to this, 395 00:31:23.160 --> 00:31:26.759 I'm committed to this. If this is what I'm gonna do, And 396 00:31:26.839 --> 00:31:29.160 if you can't be on board with this, I think you have to take 397 00:31:29.160 --> 00:31:30.839 a good look at yourself. If you can't be on board with this, 398 00:31:30.920 --> 00:31:34.839 and you can't really be on board with my life because it's my life and 399 00:31:36.039 --> 00:31:40.880 my decision and this is what I'm choosing to do. You have to lay 400 00:31:40.960 --> 00:31:44.079 down the law in your own life. You have to teach people how to 401 00:31:44.200 --> 00:31:48.160 treat you. And when people realize that you're not reliant on them for their 402 00:31:48.240 --> 00:31:52.200 opinion, a lot of them will just stop giving it to you because they'll 403 00:31:52.240 --> 00:31:56.079 realize it doesn't have that much weight. Sometimes you need to have a conversation 404 00:31:56.200 --> 00:31:57.559 with them. Sometimes you just need to cut them out of your life. 405 00:31:57.960 --> 00:32:02.440 You know what to do. Trust yourself when it comes to I'm afraid that 406 00:32:02.519 --> 00:32:07.240 I'm going to be embarrassed or Hugh, if I post that it's going to 407 00:32:07.319 --> 00:32:12.799 be so cringe, don't be afraid of the part of yourself that maybe feels 408 00:32:12.880 --> 00:32:15.920 like cringe. We need to really come into acceptance with the part of us 409 00:32:16.000 --> 00:32:22.720 that is cringing, because that inner critic isn't who you are. You aren't 410 00:32:22.839 --> 00:32:29.400 born criticizing yourself. You were born confident and magnetic. Your inner critic is 411 00:32:30.039 --> 00:32:35.319 a language you developed based on the critics around you. Whoever was criticizing you 412 00:32:35.440 --> 00:32:38.759 growing up, you now internalize that and are criticizing yourself when you're saying, 413 00:32:38.799 --> 00:32:42.759 oh, I can't post that because that's so cringe or that's so embarrassing. 414 00:32:43.200 --> 00:32:46.359 That's not even your own thoughts. Those are thoughts you adopted from other people 415 00:32:46.519 --> 00:32:51.079 around you. So the next time you hear yourself saying that's cringe or that's 416 00:32:51.079 --> 00:32:57.400 embarrassing, you need to question that and say, well, why who says? 417 00:32:58.079 --> 00:33:02.519 And do I even actually care? You're going to realize that so many 418 00:33:02.599 --> 00:33:07.839 of your negative thoughts aren't from you, but from your older sibling, or 419 00:33:07.880 --> 00:33:10.599 a parent, or a coach, or your bully from middle school. You're 420 00:33:10.680 --> 00:33:16.359 gonna realize that you're still listening to that nine year old bully instead of your 421 00:33:16.400 --> 00:33:22.000 own adult thoughts. Because that nine year old bully is living rent free in 422 00:33:22.119 --> 00:33:25.640 your head, still criticizing you, still causing you to cringe at yourself. 423 00:33:28.279 --> 00:33:31.559 You're not that nine year old anymore, and that bully is long gone doing 424 00:33:31.799 --> 00:33:37.519 something else. It's time to reclaim your reality. The next time your inner 425 00:33:37.559 --> 00:33:40.359 critic is telling you that's cringe, that's embarrassing, you know what, I've 426 00:33:40.559 --> 00:33:46.920 unsubscribed from embarrassing. I unsubscribed from cringe. If someone thinks something I'm doing 427 00:33:47.079 --> 00:33:51.240 is cringe? Okay, that's a you problem. I don't care. I'm 428 00:33:51.279 --> 00:33:54.039 living my best life. Goodbye. If someone thinks what I'm doing is embarrassing, 429 00:33:54.359 --> 00:33:58.240 again, that's a you problem. It tells me more about you than 430 00:33:58.279 --> 00:34:00.839 it says about me. That's not a in my business. The opinions of 431 00:34:00.880 --> 00:34:05.599 others, especially their negative opinions, are none of my business, and they're 432 00:34:05.640 --> 00:34:09.920 none of yours either. So let them, let them think you're cringe, 433 00:34:10.239 --> 00:34:14.280 Let them leave your life. Let people do what they want to do, 434 00:34:14.679 --> 00:34:19.519 and you have to give yourself permission and let yourself do what truly brings you 435 00:34:19.639 --> 00:34:22.559 joy and show up how you wish to show up. I don't even believe 436 00:34:22.800 --> 00:34:30.719 in cringe and embarrassment anymore. I have so so unsubscribed from those notions and 437 00:34:30.840 --> 00:34:35.599 those emotions, because what are they but fleeting energies. They don't even mean 438 00:34:35.719 --> 00:34:43.039 anything cringe embarrassing? What does that mean? Feeling cringe or feeling embarrassment, 439 00:34:43.159 --> 00:34:46.159 or thinking thoughts that are in alignment with those emotions? Those are fleeting. 440 00:34:46.519 --> 00:34:52.440 Those will go away, but your dream will always be there and always scratching 441 00:34:52.519 --> 00:34:55.480 at you to go after it. So even if you have to have a 442 00:34:55.599 --> 00:35:01.039 moment of being uncomfortable. That moment is temporary push through, because you're gonna 443 00:35:01.079 --> 00:35:06.199 be able to unlock new levels of yourself when you start doing and engaging with 444 00:35:06.360 --> 00:35:09.559 new behaviors. Even if you think it's cringe, even if you think it's 445 00:35:09.599 --> 00:35:14.519 embarrassing, if you know it's going to allow you to get closer to your 446 00:35:14.639 --> 00:35:19.559 dream, it's worth it. Let the temporary feeling of cringing and embarrassment run 447 00:35:19.639 --> 00:35:22.280 through your veins and say, I don't care, because it's gonna get me 448 00:35:22.639 --> 00:35:27.800 closer to what I want. And again, that cringing embarrassment isn't even yours. 449 00:35:28.119 --> 00:35:32.679 It's you internalizing other people's opinions. And it's time you place your perspective 450 00:35:34.079 --> 00:35:37.960 back on your own pedestal. It's time you place validation of yourself on your 451 00:35:38.000 --> 00:35:44.480 own pedestal. It's time you place your happiness back on your own pedestal. 452 00:35:44.880 --> 00:35:49.039 This is the most revolution everything you can do when all we're taught to do 453 00:35:49.519 --> 00:35:52.760 is do what everyone else does, look like everyone else looks like, and 454 00:35:52.039 --> 00:35:59.079 fall in line. I don't think so, I don't think so. The 455 00:35:59.239 --> 00:36:02.320 ego will try to rush you, but your soul knows to take your time 456 00:36:04.079 --> 00:36:07.559 even if you're spending time in the unknown, It's okay. Take time and 457 00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:14.920 energy to get to know yourself. Follow your bliss, and when you follow 458 00:36:14.960 --> 00:36:20.159 that bliss, it will drown out the opinions of others because the most miserable 459 00:36:20.199 --> 00:36:22.639 people are also the people who are most obsessed about what other people think of 460 00:36:22.760 --> 00:36:28.000 them. But when you act from your own compass other people, they can't 461 00:36:28.039 --> 00:36:31.360 sway you because you not even in the first place. We're acting in accordance 462 00:36:31.400 --> 00:36:37.079 with them. If you want to free yourself, live in accordance with your 463 00:36:37.119 --> 00:36:40.119 own morals and your own values, and use that as your north star. 464 00:36:40.719 --> 00:36:45.440 I love you so much. The sparkling me as always honors the sparkling you. 465 00:36:45.800 --> 00:36:49.360 If you enjoy this podcast, please leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts 466 00:36:49.400 --> 00:36:52.639 and Spotify. It really helps this podcast grow. If not for me, 467 00:36:52.960 --> 00:36:55.400 do it for you because good karma. Be sure to get your copy of 468 00:36:55.519 --> 00:36:59.880 show up as her. You can pre order that now. The links will 469 00:36:59.880 --> 00:37:00.920 be in the show notes, and I will see you in the next one. 470 00:37:04.960 --> 00:37:15.280 Sym I'm sorry, Stenogy s cancer, I go I got that, 471 00:37:15.880 --> 00:37:31.320 Dolgy no cancer, Strange cancer, Sphae cancer, spe