Hello everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Let's Talk the Things. I
am your host, Ash and on this episode we are talking to Things about
the important lessons or takeaways from the best documentary I have seen in ages,
the recently released David Beckham documentary on Netflix. So to me, this documentary
is so much more than just the typical celebrity story. It is an exploration
of personal growth, relationships, and to be honest, the importance of women
knowing their value. And if you have not seen the film, that last
one might confuse you, but stay tuned. I promise it will all make
sense. So for those of you who may be unfamiliar with David Beckham,
he is a former British football also known as soccer in the US, player,
widely recognized for his remarkable passing and crossing abilities, which earned him a
reputation as one of the best midfielders in the world. There was also a
movie at one point in time called Benditt Like Beckham, very unrelated, well
kind of because she did play soccer. But yeah, so some of you
might know or be familiar with him from that. So he began his career
with Manchester United and then went on to play for several other prestigious clubs such
as Real Madrid, La Galaxy and I believe Paris Saint Germain. And in
addition to his football career, David is regarded as a fashion icon, an
entrepreneur, a philanthropist, and to be honest, many people say that he's
just such a beautiful person inside and out, emphasis on the out, just
saying. And although he is extremely good looking and talented, his marriage to
Victoria Beckham, a former member of The Spice Girls, has arguably cemented his
status as a prominent figure in celebrity culture right. And I think it also
made him more known to persons that weren't really familiar with football, so you
kind of had this kind of crossover between their two worlds. It kind of
reminds me of Beyonce and jay Z, because he was more heavily in hip
hop and she was kind of more pop R and B, so kind of
something like that. Although he no longer plays football professionally, David has continued
to be involved in various philanthropic initiatives and has taken on roles such as the
co owner of Major League Soccer's inter Miami CF and a founding member of British
esports organization Guild E Sports. I think that's how you pronounce it, or
esports. I don't know. I think the documentary just gave us such a
unique glimpse into their lives, but particularly it's focused on David Beckham and so
the first lesson that stands out to me is the power of resilience. So
throughout their careers and personal lives, both David and Victoria Beckham have faced their
fair share of challenges and controversies, yet they managed to not only survive but
thrive. And if you watch the documentary, it shows you, you know,
from the highs of their careers to the challenges of balancing work and family,
and their story I think reminds us that resilience is essential, you know.
Particularly Victoria talks about the fact that they were the point in time where
she really resented David because here she was taking care of the kids, you
know, at one point, being pregnant, and he's on the red carpet
with Beyonce and Jlo. I mean, it's bad enough he wasn't there,
but you're with Beyonce and Jlo. Talk about pouring salt into the wound,
you know, But their ability to work through that and to kind of have
an understanding of what the other person needs to do. Particularly David, because
as I stated earlier, he was a part of so many different teams and
even if you're not familiar with football, if you look up those teams,
they're in different countries. So imagine having little kids and having to get up
and move, you know. So I thought that was a really important lesson.
But before that, even outside of his marriage, when they showed how
dedicated he was that Manchester United was always his favorite team. It was his
dad's favorite team originally, and of course, you know, most little boys
want to follow in the footsteps of their father or like what their father likes,
and so he just grew to love it and he would practice every day.
And I mean the dedication that he had for his craft, it very
much reminds me of the Michael Jackson's the Beyonces. Like people see the end
result, but the dedication that's a lot of these talented people have in their
craft is because they took it very seriously. He talks about not wanting to
go out, not being the typical teenager, just wanting to play football,
keeping to himself and It's funny you would look at him physically and think like
what, Like, I'm sure you want it to be out there and want
to be but when you're so focused on making yourself better at what you do,
you know that those things don't matter. And I thought that was such
an important lesson. I thought, like seeing him, seeing how dedicated he
was even from childhood, was such a brilliant thing to watch, you know,
the footage that they had and all this but just shows how important it
is to be dedicated, you know, And so all that hard work he
finally made it on to the team that he had been dreaming about. Another
crucial lesson I thought was the value of communication and partnership in a relationship.
So the Beckhams, I mean, you can tell they have just such a
strong connection. It's very evident, and it's also clear that they worked very
hard to maintain it. I think for women, it really highlights the significance
of open and honest communication with your partner and nurturing that sense of teamwork in
a relationship. Because, as I said, there was a point where he
you know, had to move to Spain. He had to, like,
he just had to make these moves and to be honest, and I'm not
saying that she didn't say any of these things. You know, obviously we're
just getting a glimpse. But she could have divorced him, because clearly that
didn't happen, right, She could have divorced him. She could have said,
you know, this is too much to deal with, because let's be
clear, she was a spice girl at the time. That was like,
for those of you that weren't alive or unfamiliar, I didn't know. And
for those of you that remember, that was a huge thing, that was
a very big deal. She was very well known. She was like the
celebrity if anything, Like I said earlier, she made him more of that
like celebrity kind of icon rather than like just a football player. You know,
obviously his great looks helped, but you know, her prepare to that
kind of like pop culture fashion environment, that was all her. I mean,
they don't call the lady posh spies for nothing. So the fact that
she could have left and she chose not to, you know, the fact
that she knew how important this dream was for him, the fact that she
knew how happy that football made him. But also also the key takeaway is
the way that he courted Victoria and the way that he treated her and regarded
her throughout the relationship is something that I think might have and obviously I'm just
surmising this, but might have made it easier for her to stay. And
I give you an example, he said, and manifestation. I guess this
is a great example. That he was watching a program, saw her on
TV and told his friend, I'm going to marry that woman, right,
So that's number one. He was the you know, he had that in
his mindset that that's somebody he wanted to marry. Now, let's just say
he was saying that because of her good looks and things like that. That's
obviously that's also possible. However, he talked about how he used to drive
hours, you know, just to spend a certain amount of hours with her.
I think it was like forty eight hours, like something crazy like that.
Or he would take her calls anytime of night because she was on tour,
even if he had a football game the next day. And this progressed
throughout or this continued, I should say, throughout their relationship, and even
when they talk about, you know, a hard time in their relationship where
he went to Spain, and he was on his own because she wasn't able
to bring the children for a certain period of time, I believe, and
so he it was just kind of in a funk, and so his teammates
took him out to party and to do certain things just to kind of get
him out. And there was some alleged rumor that he had an affair,
and although it has not been confirmed, if you watch the documentary and you
see his reaction, like in twenty twenty three and this happened maybe twenty years
ago, you can't fake that. I just think the way that he even
reacted to having to retell that story in real time, and the look on
his face, and you can tell he felt hurt that he hurt her in
that way. So whether that was him feeling guilt for actually having the affair
or him just feeling guilt for her having to go through that, and I
just thought, Wow, these are two people that really value each other because
they've both been in position and again we're just going off the documentary, but
it's very clear that they've both been in positions where they could have thrown in
the towel, where they could have said, oh, I'm this now,
I'm that now, I don't need you. You know, they're both very
good looking people, so it's not to say they would have a hard time,
you know, going into another relationship. But they've valued each other so
much, they valued their family so much that I thought that was such a
big lesson. And you know, he even talks about his lack of communication,
meaning he would just tell her like things are going to happen and she
would be like, wait, what, like we just like we just got
here, Like I just enroll the kids. I just did this, like
and he admits, you know, hindsight is twenty twenty, right, So
the fact that he even admits and says, looking back, he wasn't thinking
of that. He was just thinking what does he need to do to continue
need to fulfill this dream because football is all he knows. It's his first
love, you know, it means the most to him. And I think
that we all make mistakes in relationships. We all wish we could have done
things better, wish we could say things better. But I think that it's
really it's really to me, it seems like it would be more difficult when
you're a celebrity because there's this sense. I've talked about it before on this
podcast of abundance, like there's an abundance of women that would flock to him,
right, But that was the first and only time I've heard any type
of you know, alleged affair or anything like that. So I also kind
of feel like he learned whatever lesson that was supposed to be. So I
thought that was definitely something to show that you know, know your value,
right, women know your value. Know that if you're in a relationship with
someone that you know makes you feel like you want too much, and you
know it's not too much, right. I'm not talking about you're asking for
something, you know, crazy amounts of money or something like that that you
know your partner can't afford or nothing like that. But if you're asking to
be regarded, if you're asking to be heard, if you tell your partner
that you don't feel like they really care for you, like those things are
not you're not asking too much, you know. And I'm saying that to
say there are men like David Beckham that will move mountains for you. You
know they're not going to be perfect. They might tell you they have to
move for their career or you know, different things like that, But it's
their character that will sustain right, because maybe their personality will become moody,
maybe they'll become silent and not want to talk, but their character will never
allow them to disrespect you. Their character will allow them to recognize their behavior,
even if it's in hindsight. Right. And that's why I always say
character is so important. And trust me, I've been there where you know,
you think someone's personality is their character, and you think that you are
somebody that you know would never be in a certain type of situation or would
never take anyone speaking to you in a certain way until you're there, right,
until you're there, and until you're in that situation with that person that
you're in a relationship with or you have a relationship with, right, because
it could also be friends, family members, workers, and you don't even
know how to handle it, right, because you always thought I would never
put myself in this type of situation. But that's why you know, now
that I'm older, I definitely realize and recognize the value of really and truly
getting to know someone. Like how does a person react when you tell them
no? How does a person react when you disagree with them, you know,
so yeah, I just thought that they really showed the value of communication
and partnership and just a little funny moment. There's a moment where Victoria is
being interviewed because you know, like typical documentaries, they have separate interviews,
and there's a moment where she's talking about them being hard workers and learning from
their family and that their family is working class, and then David just kindly
through the door and says, Victoria, miss, h yes, where what
kind of car did your father drive you to school in? And she's like,
I mean, well when you he's like, no, what kind of
car did your father drive you to school in? And eventually she says a
Rose Royce. And I just thought it was hilarious but also showed how,
you know, again, their communication. They can have that banter and no
one's getting offended because it's like he's saying, I came from humble beginnings.
You know you did not, So let's be honest. And it's great when
you can have a partner that can hold you accountable but still be respectful,
still be jovial, especially after all the years that they've been married. Another
aspect of the documentary that I found was a great lesson learned and really quite
intriguing is the exploration of identity. So if you look at Victoria Beckham's transition
from pop star to fashion designer, it's really a testament to the importance of
personal growth and evolving while staying true to yourself, you know, as women,
I think it's essential to keep evolving and pursuing our passions even when society
tries to tell us like no, you know, you're a mom now,
or you can't do this because you're this age, or you know, just
anything. I saw this interview with Jay Z where he was talking about how
people used to tell him he can't do certain things and he would rebut by
saying, no, you can't do it, or you couldn't do it,
you know. And a lot of times people do project their failures or their
misfortunes on you, and sometimes, to be honest, I honestly don't believe
it's intentional. I just think that people can only meet you as far as
they've met themselves. So if they, you know, are negative towards themselves,
or they were told they can't do something, and therefore they believe they
really couldn't do it, and nobody around them really did anything. That's that's
all they're going to know, you know, to tell you or that's the
only way they know how to be. So I think that was definitely a
very intriguing part of the documentary. But also in David's case, he went
from a world renowned soccer player to you know, being into fashion and to
walking runways and like I said, just becoming more of a kind of just
becoming more of a celebrity. And not that he wasn't a celebrity as a
football player, but he was more recognized from as I said, persons that
are unfamiliar with the game right like me. I definitely was not watching foll
you know at seven years old, nor do I watch football no, but
I am very familiar with David Beckham. David and Victoria Beckham have undoubtedly achieved
success. However, they did not get there without knowing their worth. So
for all women listening right now, remember you are deserving of love, respect
and opportunities in all aspects of your life. Do not let anybody treat you
light bread back you are Uxdale with extra gravy. Yeah, seriously, please
know your worth. Take a moment, and I want you to think about
your own journey, think about how you can channel you know. Let's say
you're inner Beckham. You know whether you're pursuing a career, nurturing a relationship,
or just finding your own path. I want you to remember that you
have the power to make your dreams a reality. I hope you guys are
able to watch the documentary and I would love to know your thoughts and lessons
that you learned from the documentary. And I want to remind you once again
you are strong, capable, and worthy of all of the happiness and success
that life has to offer. Keep being remarkable, stay empowered, and never
forget your worth.