WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.199 --> 00:00:07.480 Hello everyone, Welcome back to another episode of Let's Talk the Things. I 2 00:00:07.519 --> 00:00:13.320 am your host, Ash and on this episode we are talking to Things about 3 00:00:13.359 --> 00:00:20.440 the important lessons or takeaways from the best documentary I have seen in ages, 4 00:00:21.199 --> 00:00:28.800 the recently released David Beckham documentary on Netflix. So to me, this documentary 5 00:00:29.039 --> 00:00:36.320 is so much more than just the typical celebrity story. It is an exploration 6 00:00:36.600 --> 00:00:43.119 of personal growth, relationships, and to be honest, the importance of women 7 00:00:43.479 --> 00:00:49.679 knowing their value. And if you have not seen the film, that last 8 00:00:49.759 --> 00:00:55.479 one might confuse you, but stay tuned. I promise it will all make 9 00:00:55.560 --> 00:01:00.439 sense. So for those of you who may be unfamiliar with David Beckham, 10 00:01:00.840 --> 00:01:07.000 he is a former British football also known as soccer in the US, player, 11 00:01:07.359 --> 00:01:12.519 widely recognized for his remarkable passing and crossing abilities, which earned him a 12 00:01:12.599 --> 00:01:19.280 reputation as one of the best midfielders in the world. There was also a 13 00:01:19.280 --> 00:01:23.480 movie at one point in time called Benditt Like Beckham, very unrelated, well 14 00:01:23.599 --> 00:01:26.560 kind of because she did play soccer. But yeah, so some of you 15 00:01:26.680 --> 00:01:30.840 might know or be familiar with him from that. So he began his career 16 00:01:30.000 --> 00:01:37.200 with Manchester United and then went on to play for several other prestigious clubs such 17 00:01:37.239 --> 00:01:44.000 as Real Madrid, La Galaxy and I believe Paris Saint Germain. And in 18 00:01:44.040 --> 00:01:49.640 addition to his football career, David is regarded as a fashion icon, an 19 00:01:49.799 --> 00:01:55.079 entrepreneur, a philanthropist, and to be honest, many people say that he's 20 00:01:55.200 --> 00:02:00.760 just such a beautiful person inside and out, emphasis on the out, just 21 00:02:00.840 --> 00:02:08.039 saying. And although he is extremely good looking and talented, his marriage to 22 00:02:08.120 --> 00:02:15.400 Victoria Beckham, a former member of The Spice Girls, has arguably cemented his 23 00:02:15.439 --> 00:02:21.520 status as a prominent figure in celebrity culture right. And I think it also 24 00:02:21.680 --> 00:02:28.719 made him more known to persons that weren't really familiar with football, so you 25 00:02:28.840 --> 00:02:31.439 kind of had this kind of crossover between their two worlds. It kind of 26 00:02:31.439 --> 00:02:37.400 reminds me of Beyonce and jay Z, because he was more heavily in hip 27 00:02:37.439 --> 00:02:40.599 hop and she was kind of more pop R and B, so kind of 28 00:02:40.639 --> 00:02:47.680 something like that. Although he no longer plays football professionally, David has continued 29 00:02:47.719 --> 00:02:54.439 to be involved in various philanthropic initiatives and has taken on roles such as the 30 00:02:54.439 --> 00:03:01.639 co owner of Major League Soccer's inter Miami CF and a founding member of British 31 00:03:01.960 --> 00:03:07.800 esports organization Guild E Sports. I think that's how you pronounce it, or 32 00:03:07.080 --> 00:03:13.479 esports. I don't know. I think the documentary just gave us such a 33 00:03:13.639 --> 00:03:19.639 unique glimpse into their lives, but particularly it's focused on David Beckham and so 34 00:03:20.120 --> 00:03:25.039 the first lesson that stands out to me is the power of resilience. So 35 00:03:25.159 --> 00:03:31.120 throughout their careers and personal lives, both David and Victoria Beckham have faced their 36 00:03:31.199 --> 00:03:38.960 fair share of challenges and controversies, yet they managed to not only survive but 37 00:03:38.080 --> 00:03:44.159 thrive. And if you watch the documentary, it shows you, you know, 38 00:03:44.240 --> 00:03:49.919 from the highs of their careers to the challenges of balancing work and family, 39 00:03:50.360 --> 00:03:55.479 and their story I think reminds us that resilience is essential, you know. 40 00:03:55.639 --> 00:04:00.199 Particularly Victoria talks about the fact that they were the point in time where 41 00:04:00.199 --> 00:04:04.840 she really resented David because here she was taking care of the kids, you 42 00:04:04.879 --> 00:04:08.960 know, at one point, being pregnant, and he's on the red carpet 43 00:04:08.960 --> 00:04:12.080 with Beyonce and Jlo. I mean, it's bad enough he wasn't there, 44 00:04:12.120 --> 00:04:15.279 but you're with Beyonce and Jlo. Talk about pouring salt into the wound, 45 00:04:15.480 --> 00:04:23.160 you know, But their ability to work through that and to kind of have 46 00:04:23.240 --> 00:04:28.120 an understanding of what the other person needs to do. Particularly David, because 47 00:04:28.160 --> 00:04:30.839 as I stated earlier, he was a part of so many different teams and 48 00:04:30.920 --> 00:04:34.639 even if you're not familiar with football, if you look up those teams, 49 00:04:34.680 --> 00:04:42.160 they're in different countries. So imagine having little kids and having to get up 50 00:04:42.199 --> 00:04:46.439 and move, you know. So I thought that was a really important lesson. 51 00:04:46.800 --> 00:04:51.879 But before that, even outside of his marriage, when they showed how 52 00:04:53.000 --> 00:04:57.720 dedicated he was that Manchester United was always his favorite team. It was his 53 00:04:57.839 --> 00:05:01.360 dad's favorite team originally, and of course, you know, most little boys 54 00:05:01.439 --> 00:05:04.759 want to follow in the footsteps of their father or like what their father likes, 55 00:05:05.279 --> 00:05:09.839 and so he just grew to love it and he would practice every day. 56 00:05:09.879 --> 00:05:15.000 And I mean the dedication that he had for his craft, it very 57 00:05:15.120 --> 00:05:21.480 much reminds me of the Michael Jackson's the Beyonces. Like people see the end 58 00:05:21.519 --> 00:05:29.920 result, but the dedication that's a lot of these talented people have in their 59 00:05:29.959 --> 00:05:34.439 craft is because they took it very seriously. He talks about not wanting to 60 00:05:34.480 --> 00:05:40.000 go out, not being the typical teenager, just wanting to play football, 61 00:05:40.160 --> 00:05:46.319 keeping to himself and It's funny you would look at him physically and think like 62 00:05:46.720 --> 00:05:49.279 what, Like, I'm sure you want it to be out there and want 63 00:05:49.319 --> 00:05:58.879 to be but when you're so focused on making yourself better at what you do, 64 00:05:59.800 --> 00:06:02.839 you know that those things don't matter. And I thought that was such 65 00:06:02.839 --> 00:06:09.319 an important lesson. I thought, like seeing him, seeing how dedicated he 66 00:06:09.480 --> 00:06:15.079 was even from childhood, was such a brilliant thing to watch, you know, 67 00:06:15.160 --> 00:06:18.160 the footage that they had and all this but just shows how important it 68 00:06:18.199 --> 00:06:23.680 is to be dedicated, you know, And so all that hard work he 69 00:06:23.800 --> 00:06:28.839 finally made it on to the team that he had been dreaming about. Another 70 00:06:28.879 --> 00:06:33.199 crucial lesson I thought was the value of communication and partnership in a relationship. 71 00:06:34.000 --> 00:06:39.680 So the Beckhams, I mean, you can tell they have just such a 72 00:06:39.720 --> 00:06:44.800 strong connection. It's very evident, and it's also clear that they worked very 73 00:06:44.839 --> 00:06:49.319 hard to maintain it. I think for women, it really highlights the significance 74 00:06:49.439 --> 00:06:57.720 of open and honest communication with your partner and nurturing that sense of teamwork in 75 00:06:57.759 --> 00:07:01.800 a relationship. Because, as I said, there was a point where he 76 00:07:02.639 --> 00:07:05.360 you know, had to move to Spain. He had to, like, 77 00:07:05.399 --> 00:07:10.879 he just had to make these moves and to be honest, and I'm not 78 00:07:10.959 --> 00:07:14.839 saying that she didn't say any of these things. You know, obviously we're 79 00:07:14.920 --> 00:07:17.560 just getting a glimpse. But she could have divorced him, because clearly that 80 00:07:17.600 --> 00:07:20.360 didn't happen, right, She could have divorced him. She could have said, 81 00:07:20.839 --> 00:07:24.279 you know, this is too much to deal with, because let's be 82 00:07:24.399 --> 00:07:28.160 clear, she was a spice girl at the time. That was like, 83 00:07:28.360 --> 00:07:31.759 for those of you that weren't alive or unfamiliar, I didn't know. And 84 00:07:31.800 --> 00:07:36.120 for those of you that remember, that was a huge thing, that was 85 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:43.040 a very big deal. She was very well known. She was like the 86 00:07:43.279 --> 00:07:47.079 celebrity if anything, Like I said earlier, she made him more of that 87 00:07:47.199 --> 00:07:54.759 like celebrity kind of icon rather than like just a football player. You know, 88 00:07:55.040 --> 00:08:00.839 obviously his great looks helped, but you know, her prepare to that 89 00:08:00.959 --> 00:08:03.839 kind of like pop culture fashion environment, that was all her. I mean, 90 00:08:03.879 --> 00:08:09.199 they don't call the lady posh spies for nothing. So the fact that 91 00:08:09.240 --> 00:08:13.560 she could have left and she chose not to, you know, the fact 92 00:08:13.639 --> 00:08:18.959 that she knew how important this dream was for him, the fact that she 93 00:08:18.120 --> 00:08:26.439 knew how happy that football made him. But also also the key takeaway is 94 00:08:28.639 --> 00:08:37.000 the way that he courted Victoria and the way that he treated her and regarded 95 00:08:37.039 --> 00:08:45.480 her throughout the relationship is something that I think might have and obviously I'm just 96 00:08:45.519 --> 00:08:50.519 surmising this, but might have made it easier for her to stay. And 97 00:08:50.559 --> 00:08:54.679 I give you an example, he said, and manifestation. I guess this 98 00:08:54.840 --> 00:09:00.720 is a great example. That he was watching a program, saw her on 99 00:09:00.799 --> 00:09:03.799 TV and told his friend, I'm going to marry that woman, right, 100 00:09:05.360 --> 00:09:09.960 So that's number one. He was the you know, he had that in 101 00:09:09.000 --> 00:09:13.240 his mindset that that's somebody he wanted to marry. Now, let's just say 102 00:09:13.519 --> 00:09:16.720 he was saying that because of her good looks and things like that. That's 103 00:09:16.039 --> 00:09:22.600 obviously that's also possible. However, he talked about how he used to drive 104 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:26.720 hours, you know, just to spend a certain amount of hours with her. 105 00:09:26.759 --> 00:09:31.720 I think it was like forty eight hours, like something crazy like that. 106 00:09:31.919 --> 00:09:35.799 Or he would take her calls anytime of night because she was on tour, 107 00:09:35.919 --> 00:09:39.440 even if he had a football game the next day. And this progressed 108 00:09:39.679 --> 00:09:43.879 throughout or this continued, I should say, throughout their relationship, and even 109 00:09:43.919 --> 00:09:48.600 when they talk about, you know, a hard time in their relationship where 110 00:09:48.919 --> 00:09:54.279 he went to Spain, and he was on his own because she wasn't able 111 00:09:54.320 --> 00:09:58.679 to bring the children for a certain period of time, I believe, and 112 00:09:58.759 --> 00:10:01.720 so he it was just kind of in a funk, and so his teammates 113 00:10:03.039 --> 00:10:05.279 took him out to party and to do certain things just to kind of get 114 00:10:05.360 --> 00:10:11.519 him out. And there was some alleged rumor that he had an affair, 115 00:10:11.279 --> 00:10:16.799 and although it has not been confirmed, if you watch the documentary and you 116 00:10:18.039 --> 00:10:24.399 see his reaction, like in twenty twenty three and this happened maybe twenty years 117 00:10:24.440 --> 00:10:30.159 ago, you can't fake that. I just think the way that he even 118 00:10:30.440 --> 00:10:35.039 reacted to having to retell that story in real time, and the look on 119 00:10:35.080 --> 00:10:39.919 his face, and you can tell he felt hurt that he hurt her in 120 00:10:39.960 --> 00:10:46.879 that way. So whether that was him feeling guilt for actually having the affair 121 00:10:46.399 --> 00:10:52.720 or him just feeling guilt for her having to go through that, and I 122 00:10:52.879 --> 00:10:58.799 just thought, Wow, these are two people that really value each other because 123 00:10:58.799 --> 00:11:03.200 they've both been in position and again we're just going off the documentary, but 124 00:11:03.320 --> 00:11:07.159 it's very clear that they've both been in positions where they could have thrown in 125 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:09.720 the towel, where they could have said, oh, I'm this now, 126 00:11:09.799 --> 00:11:11.879 I'm that now, I don't need you. You know, they're both very 127 00:11:11.919 --> 00:11:16.960 good looking people, so it's not to say they would have a hard time, 128 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:22.600 you know, going into another relationship. But they've valued each other so 129 00:11:22.759 --> 00:11:28.720 much, they valued their family so much that I thought that was such a 130 00:11:28.000 --> 00:11:35.159 big lesson. And you know, he even talks about his lack of communication, 131 00:11:35.720 --> 00:11:39.519 meaning he would just tell her like things are going to happen and she 132 00:11:39.519 --> 00:11:41.919 would be like, wait, what, like we just like we just got 133 00:11:41.919 --> 00:11:45.600 here, Like I just enroll the kids. I just did this, like 134 00:11:45.840 --> 00:11:48.919 and he admits, you know, hindsight is twenty twenty, right, So 135 00:11:50.279 --> 00:11:54.759 the fact that he even admits and says, looking back, he wasn't thinking 136 00:11:54.759 --> 00:12:00.000 of that. He was just thinking what does he need to do to continue 137 00:12:00.120 --> 00:12:03.240 need to fulfill this dream because football is all he knows. It's his first 138 00:12:03.279 --> 00:12:09.440 love, you know, it means the most to him. And I think 139 00:12:09.519 --> 00:12:16.039 that we all make mistakes in relationships. We all wish we could have done 140 00:12:16.120 --> 00:12:20.200 things better, wish we could say things better. But I think that it's 141 00:12:20.399 --> 00:12:24.840 really it's really to me, it seems like it would be more difficult when 142 00:12:24.879 --> 00:12:28.639 you're a celebrity because there's this sense. I've talked about it before on this 143 00:12:28.679 --> 00:12:35.120 podcast of abundance, like there's an abundance of women that would flock to him, 144 00:12:35.960 --> 00:12:43.679 right, But that was the first and only time I've heard any type 145 00:12:43.720 --> 00:12:48.720 of you know, alleged affair or anything like that. So I also kind 146 00:12:48.720 --> 00:12:52.480 of feel like he learned whatever lesson that was supposed to be. So I 147 00:12:52.600 --> 00:13:01.799 thought that was definitely something to show that you know, know your value, 148 00:13:01.919 --> 00:13:07.399 right, women know your value. Know that if you're in a relationship with 149 00:13:07.480 --> 00:13:13.080 someone that you know makes you feel like you want too much, and you 150 00:13:13.200 --> 00:13:18.080 know it's not too much, right. I'm not talking about you're asking for 151 00:13:18.240 --> 00:13:22.039 something, you know, crazy amounts of money or something like that that you 152 00:13:22.120 --> 00:13:26.240 know your partner can't afford or nothing like that. But if you're asking to 153 00:13:26.279 --> 00:13:30.200 be regarded, if you're asking to be heard, if you tell your partner 154 00:13:30.200 --> 00:13:37.840 that you don't feel like they really care for you, like those things are 155 00:13:37.919 --> 00:13:41.799 not you're not asking too much, you know. And I'm saying that to 156 00:13:41.919 --> 00:13:48.159 say there are men like David Beckham that will move mountains for you. You 157 00:13:48.200 --> 00:13:52.200 know they're not going to be perfect. They might tell you they have to 158 00:13:52.240 --> 00:13:54.759 move for their career or you know, different things like that, But it's 159 00:13:54.799 --> 00:14:03.279 their character that will sustain right, because maybe their personality will become moody, 160 00:14:03.879 --> 00:14:09.799 maybe they'll become silent and not want to talk, but their character will never 161 00:14:09.879 --> 00:14:18.960 allow them to disrespect you. Their character will allow them to recognize their behavior, 162 00:14:20.320 --> 00:14:24.559 even if it's in hindsight. Right. And that's why I always say 163 00:14:24.679 --> 00:14:30.279 character is so important. And trust me, I've been there where you know, 164 00:14:30.399 --> 00:14:37.360 you think someone's personality is their character, and you think that you are 165 00:14:37.559 --> 00:14:41.799 somebody that you know would never be in a certain type of situation or would 166 00:14:41.879 --> 00:14:48.200 never take anyone speaking to you in a certain way until you're there, right, 167 00:14:48.360 --> 00:14:52.559 until you're there, and until you're in that situation with that person that 168 00:14:54.200 --> 00:14:56.639 you're in a relationship with or you have a relationship with, right, because 169 00:14:56.679 --> 00:15:03.240 it could also be friends, family members, workers, and you don't even 170 00:15:03.320 --> 00:15:07.919 know how to handle it, right, because you always thought I would never 171 00:15:07.960 --> 00:15:13.919 put myself in this type of situation. But that's why you know, now 172 00:15:13.960 --> 00:15:20.519 that I'm older, I definitely realize and recognize the value of really and truly 173 00:15:20.879 --> 00:15:24.039 getting to know someone. Like how does a person react when you tell them 174 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:31.000 no? How does a person react when you disagree with them, you know, 175 00:15:31.600 --> 00:15:37.840 so yeah, I just thought that they really showed the value of communication 176 00:15:39.039 --> 00:15:45.879 and partnership and just a little funny moment. There's a moment where Victoria is 177 00:15:45.919 --> 00:15:48.639 being interviewed because you know, like typical documentaries, they have separate interviews, 178 00:15:50.000 --> 00:15:54.720 and there's a moment where she's talking about them being hard workers and learning from 179 00:15:54.759 --> 00:15:58.720 their family and that their family is working class, and then David just kindly 180 00:16:00.120 --> 00:16:04.960 through the door and says, Victoria, miss, h yes, where what 181 00:16:06.120 --> 00:16:08.200 kind of car did your father drive you to school in? And she's like, 182 00:16:11.000 --> 00:16:14.159 I mean, well when you he's like, no, what kind of 183 00:16:14.279 --> 00:16:18.399 car did your father drive you to school in? And eventually she says a 184 00:16:18.519 --> 00:16:22.039 Rose Royce. And I just thought it was hilarious but also showed how, 185 00:16:22.679 --> 00:16:26.240 you know, again, their communication. They can have that banter and no 186 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:30.759 one's getting offended because it's like he's saying, I came from humble beginnings. 187 00:16:32.200 --> 00:16:37.279 You know you did not, So let's be honest. And it's great when 188 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:41.759 you can have a partner that can hold you accountable but still be respectful, 189 00:16:41.879 --> 00:16:48.320 still be jovial, especially after all the years that they've been married. Another 190 00:16:48.440 --> 00:16:53.000 aspect of the documentary that I found was a great lesson learned and really quite 191 00:16:53.039 --> 00:17:02.320 intriguing is the exploration of identity. So if you look at Victoria Beckham's transition 192 00:17:02.519 --> 00:17:07.960 from pop star to fashion designer, it's really a testament to the importance of 193 00:17:07.079 --> 00:17:14.119 personal growth and evolving while staying true to yourself, you know, as women, 194 00:17:14.640 --> 00:17:19.960 I think it's essential to keep evolving and pursuing our passions even when society 195 00:17:21.119 --> 00:17:23.720 tries to tell us like no, you know, you're a mom now, 196 00:17:23.920 --> 00:17:29.279 or you can't do this because you're this age, or you know, just 197 00:17:29.400 --> 00:17:33.799 anything. I saw this interview with Jay Z where he was talking about how 198 00:17:33.880 --> 00:17:38.160 people used to tell him he can't do certain things and he would rebut by 199 00:17:38.200 --> 00:17:41.000 saying, no, you can't do it, or you couldn't do it, 200 00:17:41.480 --> 00:17:45.960 you know. And a lot of times people do project their failures or their 201 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:51.920 misfortunes on you, and sometimes, to be honest, I honestly don't believe 202 00:17:52.039 --> 00:17:57.559 it's intentional. I just think that people can only meet you as far as 203 00:17:57.640 --> 00:18:04.359 they've met themselves. So if they, you know, are negative towards themselves, 204 00:18:04.480 --> 00:18:08.279 or they were told they can't do something, and therefore they believe they 205 00:18:08.319 --> 00:18:12.440 really couldn't do it, and nobody around them really did anything. That's that's 206 00:18:12.480 --> 00:18:17.279 all they're going to know, you know, to tell you or that's the 207 00:18:17.279 --> 00:18:22.200 only way they know how to be. So I think that was definitely a 208 00:18:22.400 --> 00:18:26.799 very intriguing part of the documentary. But also in David's case, he went 209 00:18:26.880 --> 00:18:33.720 from a world renowned soccer player to you know, being into fashion and to 210 00:18:33.880 --> 00:18:40.279 walking runways and like I said, just becoming more of a kind of just 211 00:18:40.359 --> 00:18:45.640 becoming more of a celebrity. And not that he wasn't a celebrity as a 212 00:18:45.680 --> 00:18:51.799 football player, but he was more recognized from as I said, persons that 213 00:18:51.920 --> 00:18:59.920 are unfamiliar with the game right like me. I definitely was not watching foll 214 00:19:00.640 --> 00:19:07.039 you know at seven years old, nor do I watch football no, but 215 00:19:07.480 --> 00:19:15.920 I am very familiar with David Beckham. David and Victoria Beckham have undoubtedly achieved 216 00:19:15.960 --> 00:19:22.759 success. However, they did not get there without knowing their worth. So 217 00:19:22.400 --> 00:19:32.400 for all women listening right now, remember you are deserving of love, respect 218 00:19:32.880 --> 00:19:41.400 and opportunities in all aspects of your life. Do not let anybody treat you 219 00:19:41.480 --> 00:19:51.039 light bread back you are Uxdale with extra gravy. Yeah, seriously, please 220 00:19:51.680 --> 00:19:56.519 know your worth. Take a moment, and I want you to think about 221 00:19:56.559 --> 00:20:02.880 your own journey, think about how you can channel you know. Let's say 222 00:20:02.920 --> 00:20:08.559 you're inner Beckham. You know whether you're pursuing a career, nurturing a relationship, 223 00:20:10.039 --> 00:20:15.240 or just finding your own path. I want you to remember that you 224 00:20:15.400 --> 00:20:21.960 have the power to make your dreams a reality. I hope you guys are 225 00:20:22.000 --> 00:20:26.759 able to watch the documentary and I would love to know your thoughts and lessons 226 00:20:26.759 --> 00:20:32.079 that you learned from the documentary. And I want to remind you once again 227 00:20:33.000 --> 00:20:38.599 you are strong, capable, and worthy of all of the happiness and success 228 00:20:38.759 --> 00:20:45.519 that life has to offer. Keep being remarkable, stay empowered, and never 229 00:20:45.720 --> 00:20:48.079 forget your worth.