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The mindset that you have to be
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about like what's in somebody's bank account, It's like, how did that does

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that person make you better? When
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mean, obviously I was devastated,
and but I remember vividly having a conversation

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with my sister where my first thought
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kissed again? Welcome to another deep
dive edition of the Chicks on the Right

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Podcast. Before we get into the
nitty gritty of today's deep dive topic,

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which is going to be very very
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Everybody grills on Labor Day, doesn't grill?

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I ask you on Labor Day?
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go right now, do it all
right? So I hate to kick

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off today's show on like a sad
note, and some people who listen to

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our daily show will already know the
story. But when you and I were

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together in Nashville last week, I
got the news after one of our live

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streams, like right after one of
our live streams on the Wednesday morning,

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that my son's lacrosse coach had been
killed in a car accident the night before.

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And it was a really rough several
days because he was, I mean,

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just such a force in all the
kids lives. He's been there coach,

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not just at high school, but
like since they were itty biddies,

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you know, teaching club lacrosse or
coaching club lacrosse. So they've known him

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and have worked with him and have
been inspired by him for years for they're

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all of their formative years, and
he was such an inspirational figure in the

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community. I mean, he was
that guy. He was like the he

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was like that perfect, beautiful,
wonderful guy, right. I mean I

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didn't know. I obviously didn't get
to you know, I didn't know anything

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about him until except for the things
that you told me. You know,

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because I live when I lived in
India, I lived fifty two miles away

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from me, right, you know, so it wasn't but I put man

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the step that you told me about
him. And like he had just gotten

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his master's degree, and he had
won all these awards, and he was

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just an unbelievable guy from a career
perspective. But he was also an amazing

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husband, well and a recent one. So he had just gotten married.

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Well in fact, so they he
took my son's high school team to the

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state championship, which they won back
in early June of this past summer.

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And of that was like a super
emotional day for everybody, and it was

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a fantastic day. My son actually
was MVP of that state championship game,

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which was an extra super exciting thing, and I just remember everybody celebrating with

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coach Jack on the field. It
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the following weekend he got married.
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Like you said, he finished his
masters just a couple of weeks before

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he passed away, and so he
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His whole life was just unfolding in
front of him, and he had

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everything going for him, this beautiful
wife, this fantastic family, just a

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great team. Everything was perfect,
you know, and then tragedy struck and

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it's just senseless and awful and all
of that to say, it's I've just

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been thinking about his wife a lot. After going to the service this past

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weekend. His mom spoke and she
spoke, and both of those I mean

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a lot of people spoke, but
those two in particular were, oh my

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gosh, just like excruciating to listen
to. Both of them were so courageous

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to get up and say the things
and hold it together. His mom was

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just amazing, just such an incredible, strong, just amazing woman. And

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then when Bethany, his wife,
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she was just a puddle of tears
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things I remember her saying is how
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having a little boy, like they
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And it's just heartbreaking, so heartbreaking, and so she's been on my

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mind a lot. I never met
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going to see her on Friday,
because the team is going to be celebrated

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during the home football game this weekend, so I know she's going to be

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participating in that, and so I'll
see her there. But I've just been

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thinking about her a lot. And
then when I was scrolling on TikTok the

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other day, I saw this video. And this is a totally different circumstance,

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but I saw this video of a
woman sobbing in her car, and

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you and I are like consult making
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crying and think I need a video
on myself crying. But when you show

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you showed Yeah, you're her case. You showed this to me, and

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I was like, this is different. Yeah, this is totally different.

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And I was affected by it too. And I'm usually not I'm usually like

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will you quit crying? You know, but this was but I found myself

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emotionally like, I this one kind
of broke me. Yeah, because yeah,

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because I felt for this girl,
and especially in light of what happened

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last week. But I felt for
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put in her shoes, I would
feel the exact same way. And I,

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yeah, there was just something about
this that was different. Yeah,

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and I'm glad it's gotten a huge
reaction. So this girl is talking in

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her car after a date and she
comes from divorce. I don't know the

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background, I don't know the circumstances
around her divorce, but she's young and

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she had had, as she describes
it, a whole ass marriage, and

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so dating after having had a whole
ass marriage is really really difficult. And

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so the way that she described what
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was so relatable, and I think
that's why it's gone so viral and why

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people have reacted the way they have. Let's share that, have you guys,

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they were like tried to date after
having make a whole ass marriage,

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don't you know? Exhausting it is
to like explain yourself, like who you

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are, even just like the basic
things like what's your favorite color, or

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where are you from? Or what
are your parents do? It just feels

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so exhausting. When you've had somebody
who knew you for all the basic things,

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all the really hard things, all
the part of you, like every

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part of you that you've hidden from
everybody else, and you have somebody that

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knows you like that, and you
didn't think you were ever gonna have to

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do that again. Didn't know,
like re explaining yourself. It's so exhausting.

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It's they don't want to answer your
stupid questions. It's already like one

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person that knows me everything about me. Oh, I know, I just

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feel for her. It totally sucks. So whether it was divorced or whether

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you know she's a widow, it's
like you could just feel the pain in

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her voice. And you know,
we've had friends who they lost their husband

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or you know, significant other,
and you know, they find themselves single

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and there our age, they're in
their fifties or in their sixties, and

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you and I have talked about that
and it's like, okay, well what

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would we do if we were in
that position? And we have talked about

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that, and it's like I know
that my personal I'm like, I probably

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would not ever get married again.
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it's it's because of the same reasons
that she's talking about from a younger

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woman's perspective, where it's just exhausting. I would be exhausted. I would

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not be able to get out into
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dating at this age. Oh my
god, at this age, I would

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just be like I can't. I
cannot deal and dating guys our age,

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it's like he just don't know where
some of these guys have been, Like,

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well they have a whole Nobody doesn't
have baggage at our age, right,

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I mean, there's just like when
we're talking about history, like they

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are book full of history. It's
like bigass book full of history. And

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so you're right, and like the
baggage is you're talking about like trunks and

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trunks full of baggage. So yeah, I just that would be exhausting and

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I would just you know what it's
as an older person, I would I

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would probably just be like, you
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all I have my kids and I'm
going to have a grandkid, and I

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just I would find other things that
I would do with my life that are

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fulfilling rather than I would just and
if I did find somebody that I may

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be enjoyed, I probably wouldn't get
married again, you know, And then

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there would be a part of me. I think I told you this.

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I would I would feel so weird
like being intimate with somebody because I'd be

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like my husband is watching me,
like he's watching like you know what I

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mean, I know, I like, it's just this weird feeling. I

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would just be so weird it out, like, oh my god, Greg

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is watching me, like from somewhere
and he is haunting, you know,

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and he's haunting. Yeah, he's
gonna haunt my ass from afar. So

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yeah, that's the thing. So
I would be. But when you're but

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younger, If I were thirty,
I would be, you know, I

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think I would be okay with moving
on. It would be so freaking hard,

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but I would do it. And
that's why I think about the sweet

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you know, the sweet, sweet
young lady who lost you know, that

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precious man, and I think I
wish her so much happiness. I hope

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she finds another wonderful man. I
hope she finds love again. I hope

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that she has all those sweet little
boys that she wants to have, you

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know, I hoped. I have
wished that for her. My heart aches

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for her because I want that for
her, and I, you know,

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it just it makes me weepy just
thinking about it, because when you're young,

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there's so much ahead of you,
and they don't even agether for so

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much of their lives because they'd I
can't remember if they've been together for like

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seven or eight years, but it's
somewhere around that. And so they've spent

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their their formative twenties together and now
just like that, in the blink of

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an eye, her entire world is
different. And it's just excruciating. I

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mean, it's just it's excruciating.
It's excruciating too because so many young people

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now don't feel that way about marriage, you know. I mean, they

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don't feel that way about relationships.
They don't have that that sense of,

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oh my gosh, I want to
be with this person forever, and I

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want it for the right reasons,
you know what I mean. And I

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want to have tons of babies and
I you know, and I want to

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have this wonderful build this family.
And it's because it's built on a foundation

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of love and respect and all the
right things, you know, all the

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right things. We see so much
garbage out there, yeah the world.

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That's like, when I see couples
like that, I'm like, oh,

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my heart just breaks when stuff like
this happens. Because they were they are

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such good people, yeah, and
you know, and one of the best

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parts of marriage is getting to enjoy
experiencing my pillow products together. We enjoy

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a lot of my pillow products in
this house. Well there, that's the

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problem is that there's not a single
product that they don't make perfectly. And

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so it's like I feel like,
okay, well I'm settled. I got

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my sheets, I got my pillows, I got my towels, I got

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my slippers. I'm good. And
then they'll go and introduce a whole another

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product, like, for example,
the kitchen towels. The kitchen towels and

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travel pillows. When your car and
your kids around to all the sports in

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the afternoon and they're tired in the
morning for morning practices, you got travel

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pillows. You guys, this is
the thing. It carries you through life.

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There's nothing they make that isn't the
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that thing, you know what I
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what's interesting is because we when we
had the conversation this morning about what what

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would we do if something happened to
our husband's right now, and we both

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agreed, like it's just impossible to
imagine wanting to get back in the dating

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world at our age. However,
I remember being what was I twenty nine

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when my first husband said I can't
deal with the fact that we have a

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disabled son buy and when he left, I remember vividly being I mean,

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obviously I was devastated, but I
remember vividly having a conversation with my sister

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where my first thought was am I
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I remember saying that to her and
thinking who's gonna want me when I have

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a disabled child? Like who's going
to want to deal with that level of

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baggage and it was the it was
like one of my immediate thoughts at being

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left for you know, when he
left. And now it's like that would

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not occur to me. Like if
if my husband now were to leave,

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or if something were to happen to
him and I found myself alone, I

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would never be worried. It's just
amazing. Yeah, I would not care

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about that. And so it's amazing
the shift in perspective as you age,

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totally totally. And I remember after
I got divorced the first time, thinking

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I will never get married again.
Really, I thought I would never ever

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get married because you didn't want to, or because you worried that you wouldn't.

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I just didn't think I would.
I just thought to myself, I'm

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because I got divorced and I was
thirty. I mean I was thirty one,

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thirty one. I think I was
thirty one, and I thought that

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was old. Really, I thought
at the time, I thought thirty one

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was old, because when you're at
that age, you just have a different

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you do have a different mindset.
I thought when I was thirty one,

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at thirty one, that somebody would
look at me and think, where you're

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already thirty thirty one? It's kind
of it's a little bit older, and

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everybody else was already established in their
marriages, and they were already having kids,

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and at least the people that I
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In my first marriage, I was
very you know, I was really

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into my career and all that kind
of stuff, and so I just I

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thought, well, you know,
everybody else is already established, and I'll

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just I guess I'm going to be
like this spinster lady. You know.

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I just thought I'd just be single, you know. And then and then

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I you know, when I met
my now husband, he already had two

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children and it was just one of
them, and I never dreamed I would

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be you know, people's stepmother,
and I never dreamed it. It's just

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interesting how you think you have,
you go in with like this. I

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think I'll be this way, and
then God has different plans, you know,

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for how the things I mean,
and then look at you. It's

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like you ended up with this amazing
guy. It's you just never know what's

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going to happen, right, Yeah, and you obviously were kissed again,

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right, I was kissed and well, you know, I mean obviously,

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yeah, So you just you never
know, I just dating is so different

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now than it used to be.
It's really different. Yeah, And I

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mean, like speaking of careers,
like there was just I saw a video

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a couple of days ago of this
this girl who she she was demanding that

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she see the bank accounts of the
guys that she dates. And this is

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probably a girl I'm presumably she is
also in her she's probably in her thirties.

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I'd imagine she's in her thirties.
And so I think I would have

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never I definitely wouldn't have done that
when I was in my thirties. I

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have done it. So it also
shows a shift of you know, the

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way things were when I was in
my thirties to the way things are now.

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And I just look at this and
I think, this is just it's

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so different. It's different than than
how I think now. I would never

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even do this now, Like if
I were in the dating pool, even

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if I were thirty, even I
were her age, I would never think

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this way. But just the way
that some of these girls approach dating now,

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And it's like, who put this
crap in their head? We should

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play the video or just she's awful. Like trigger warning for people who cannot

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stand vocal fry. Just prepare your
ears. Oh my god, I'm not

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joking. I have asked the last
three dudes i've dated for their bank account

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info on the first date. I
don't judge people's actions. I look at

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the intention behind that, So like, why do you ask for that because

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I only want to date a wealthy
guy that has money. Well, that's

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you're getting straight to the point.
I think you know, I have a

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job, I'm very successful, so
I think I have every right to be

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like, Hi, are we on
the same level or am I wasting my

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time? Oh my god, I
just look yeah, gross right, I

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mean I just automatically I'm grossed out
by that. Now, there are some

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people you'd be surprised in. The
comments are like, she has every right

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to ask that, she's every right
and she has every right to stay single,

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like endlessly, because I'm guessing there's
a reason that she's still single and

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it has a lot to do with
that. Yeah. And the funny thing

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is is the people who were saying
she's every right to ask that, or

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women. It's the women who are
saying she's every right to ask all right,

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right, I mean, while those
are the women those are the women

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who are you know that that probably
are looking for the exact same thing,

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which is a sugar daddy. Yeah, and then then the men are like

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gross, like that that is a
red flag, keep her a million miles

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away from me. Gross. And
I just I don't understand that mentality.

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I just don't, Because what happens
when crap gets tough? What happens when

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somebody gets cancer? What happens when
you know, like just crap hits the

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fan and life is it just turns
on a dime and it's unpredictable and you

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don't know what's going to happen,
Like it's in sickness and in health.

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Well, she would say it'd be
a lot better to have somebody rich.

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I mean, this is that?
Is that what it's all about? Is

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this? It's like is that like
is it a generational that? Maybe I

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probably shouldn't say it's a generational thing, because I'm sure that there were a

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lot of women in our generation that
would probably feel the same way as that

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they just wanted security. But I
just I just find that to be repulsive.

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It is repulsive. I mean it's
absolutely violent. You know, it's

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funny. I remember when I got
over the fact that my first husband left,

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which was pretty quickly, I must
say, because I mean the circumstances

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of him leaving were showed his true
colors in many ways, and so it

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was obviously a blessing in disguise.
But I remember thinking when I got to

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the point where I was interested in
dating again, I like, I never

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wrote it down, but I had
like in my mind sort of a mental

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ticklist. Well, this time around, I want a guy who understands not

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my job specifically, but understands like
the corporate world, who understand like I

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thought, I wanted all of these
things, and then I met my now

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husband, who was none of those
things. And I imagine if I had

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put like a restriction, or if
I had put on my ticklist he's got

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to have a certain level in his
bank account, we would have never gotten

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together, especially because that was so
early on in both of our careers.

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And if I would have been like, he has to make a certain amount

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of money, then we would not
be together today. And so thank god

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I didn't have such a shallow just
I mean, as soon as I met

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him, I was like, Wow, he's an amazing storyteller. I love

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the way that he pulls out a
chair for this girl at a party.

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Like those were the things that immediately
stood out to me, and not like

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I wasn't thinking is he driving the
right car? Does he have the right

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bank account? I just think that's
so vile. And I've always been of

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the mindset that you have to be
with people that elevate you. It's not

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about like what's in somebody's bank account. It's like that does that person make

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you better? I tell that to
my daughter too. It's not even just

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about boyfriends. It's about girlfriends too, Like who show me who is in

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your friends circle and I'll show you
who you are. Yeah, And it's

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like show me who you're married to, and I'll show you who you are.

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I mean, like that isn't it's
I mean you and I are best

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friends. I mean I wouldn't be
best friends with you if you didn't make

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me a better person. Same and
it's like you we have elevated each other.

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I think over the years it's it
wouldn't work unless that was the case,

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right, And so the same way
about marriage, It's like you have

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to be you have to elevate one
another, you have to make each other

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better. You have to fill in
the blanks for one another. It's not

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about freaking money, right, I
mean, money's nice, money is great.

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I'm not gonna listen. I'm a
capitalist. I'm the first one to

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tell you I'm a cap I love
money. Money's fantastic. But at the

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end of the day, it's like, if you're not filling in the blanks

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for one another, because I suck
at a lot of things, he fills

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in the blanks and those places where
I am not good at some things,

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and he fills in those spaces,
which is great for me. And then

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you know when I there, people
don't realize that about him, because you

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know they there are certain things about
your husband. I'm sure that you're the

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same way I know you are because
I know your husband. But there are

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so many things about your husband that
you know that other people don't know,

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right, And so it's like there
are days where I'm having a really bad

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day and he knows exactly what to
say to me to make sure that that

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day gets better, just like you
do with me, just like there's a

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small handful of people do with me. And those are the people that you

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surround yourself with. And if you
are not surrounding yourself with those people.

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You need to find better people exactly, and don't ask for their checking information,

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right, God's this is the thing. It's like, the last thing

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I care about is how much money
those people have in their bank account.

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It's what are you? What are
you doing to elevate one another? I

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mean, when you're looking for someone
today, the question should not be about

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before we like tie this all up
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was a note from one of our
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locals groups. Fantastic group of people. One of our insiders, I won't

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say her name, but she was
venting and she was asking about her son

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and his fiance and they were getting
married. They are getting married in September,

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and yesterday her son told her husband, listen, you're not going to

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like this, but I am thinking
about taking my fiance's the girl's last name.

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I'm seeing their family. Yeah,
so their family, her family is

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large, and there are lots of
them with that name. Her family,

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this this woman her their family is
not that big. It's small. And

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their son is the only one that's
going to carry on the last name.

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And so he still wants to take
the wife's name. He's gonna take the

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wife's name. And this is happening
a lot. I see this a lot

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in this generation. Like what do
you think, like, what would happen

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if Jackson, your boy came home. He's like from college, He's like,

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Mom, I love this chick so
much. We're gonna get married.

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I'm gonna take her name. What
would like, how would you feel about

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how would you feel about it?
Because like in our family, he would

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be the only one to carry on
that. Yeah, and that just wouldn't

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make me really sad, right,
And I don't understand, Like, listen,

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it's one thing because our oldest when
she got married, she's the one

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that's having the baby here in the
next like any day now, and she

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kept her last name. She kept
our name, and her husband kept his

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name. And she said it was, you know, because a career whatever,

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so they kept their last names.
Now, I still like, when

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I sent out invitations for the baby
shower, I used his last name because

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because I'm really weird like that,
I'm like nan or nan and so I

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did so I did that because I'm
traditional. Now she hasn't disowned me or

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anything. She didn't get pissed off, but she but I mean, I

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just kind of do that because I'm
like, you know, it's your husband.

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I feel like at a respect,
I just put his last name on

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the invitations. Nobody got mad at
me for it, but it is what

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it is, and you know,
they just kept their last names and they

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but she didn't force him to take
you know, her name, our name.

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I'm just curious. I just thought
that was really interesting. But a

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lot more people are doing that.
I just find it interesting. That's another

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thing that is happening. Just something
to put out there the people comment,

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like, especially like on the Apple
podcast platform. Comment if you're somebody that

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has experienced that or has reasons for
it that you'd like to share. I

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would love to learn more about the
reasons that people are doing that these days.

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Very curious too, because I don't
understand it. Because here's the thing

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is that I don't know if it's
a feminist thing. If it's a feminist

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thing, something she needs to understand
is that that is her grandfather's name.

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Yeah, so it doesn't make any
sense, right, I mean it came

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from it came from a dude.
Came from a dude anyways, all right,

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So that's that. I just wanted
to pose that. But yes,

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comment if you can, we'd love
to hear from you, and good talk,

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good talk to everybody. We're gonna
do it next week. You guys

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have a wonderful week. Until next
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