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Woo. What's up, beautiful people? Is your baby mama favorite baby Mama

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story? P And this is another
episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern

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day female perspective. Damn Son,
back at it again, back at it

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again. Okay, listen. So
first I just wanted to tell you this

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real funny story about what happened on
Halloween. So I did end up dressing

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up oddly enough going out whatever.
But the story one to tell y'all is,

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y'all bitch just like my son.
I know, I know, I

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know, I didn't know we were
there yet, but like girls like my

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son. And it's important to say
girls like my son because he's not into

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girls or boys yet. And I
say that because you know, I'm politically

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correct. He has spaces to be
who he wants to be. But my

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son is eleven, and we got
trigger treating because you know, he's very

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sheltered. He still plays with toys. We've talked about this before whatever.

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So we go out trigger treating and
and it's like three little white girls because

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we go to your retreating in my
neighborhood because they got the best candy did.

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So, like he's walking up the
pathway and three little white girls are

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walking down and the one in the
middle stops and goes, ooh right,

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So now they all start gigging,
like hey, right, this nigga zooms

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by them, and Russia is up
the steps to get candy because you know,

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he got his mind on right,
that's what we're focusing on this tunnel

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vision out here. Baby. But
yeah, it stressed me out because they

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were like giggling, and I vividly
remember giggling with my girlfriends about boys like

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around that age. And they looked
a little bit older than him too.

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They look like fourteen, So I'm
like, but y'all know he tall,

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So I was just like, ugh, I just couldn't believe that girls like

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my son. That's weird to me. It's a lot to stick in.

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So if anybody needs me, I'll
be crying in the car. I'll be

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stressing about that for a bit.
But the story I really want to tell

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y'all this week, y'all, I'm
about to get real vulnerable. I need

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y'all to make sure this is a
safe space because I'm about to tell y'all

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how I play myself. Right.
Long story short, lucky day made me

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text my ex. Okay, Lucky
Day made me text my ex. Okay,

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So Lucky Day came out with the
song this past week. It's called

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That's You. It's co written by
Bruno Mars and a bunch of other phenomenal

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people, and it was amazing.
Melody is on point, lyrics on point.

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It had me in my fields,
y'all. So basically the song is

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about him saying, like, you
know, he got everything you want in

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the world right now except for his
ex, except for the girl. Right,

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So I ain't gonna lie did you
drop them? Like? Y'all not

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making it up noise about this fucking
song, right, y'all. I'm embarrassed.

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I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed because,
like you know, I'm a thug.

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Right, long story short, was
like really kidding me? Right?

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My man said it was just one
part. He's like, I've been buying

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up the world just to make it
feel like a home. But I've been

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numb, so numb, spending every
dime, nigga everything I want, but

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there's only one thing missing in life, and it's you. Right. I

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know, good good, I know, I know I know. But then

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he'd be like yo, like and
I can't stop reminiscing when we were reliving

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the moment when you are men fooling
me, and some of mine said,

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text that nigga, and that's when
things went left. Okay. That's that,

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right there is when things went left. Okay. So long story short,

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Lucky Day made me text my ex. Okay. So for those of

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you who don't know, I've been
single for about like three years now,

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like right before the pandemic, like
three or four years. Right. So,

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and this person who I was in
a relationship with, we had put

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some time in, we had known
each other for a long time. We

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was living together. My son was
putting this nigga name on his school work,

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like this nigga carried my grandfather's casket
at his funeral. We went rain

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shopping like I knew. I knew
we were gonna be together forever. Like

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that's him. I found him,
right. But this was before I want

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to go talk to the lady,
okay. And that's really where the problems

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came in at because when I say
this is before I want to go talk

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to the lady, I was still
toxic a shit, y'all. Now,

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this is not me saying that he
didn't do anything wrong. In this situation

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and that I fucked everything up.
It was some shit he could have changed

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too. But were talking about accountability. We just told about me right now,

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Okay. So I may or may
not him been a little bit talks

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together time. Right. I may
have told him that I wanted to break

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up, but I then got angry
when he packed a shit up and left

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to sec toxic. Okay, but
this is growth, this is accountability.

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This is me saying I'm toxic.
Right. Long story short, Let's get

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back to the present. Let's get
back to a lucky day making me text

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my goddamn X. Right. So
I'm on to eat with my son and

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I'm like, Yo, I gotta
tell this ni i' want my family back.

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I gotta tell this nigga. I
gotta tell this nigga, I want

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my family back. Right. So
I texted him. I'm like, hey,

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can I ask you a quock question? He responds right away, Yeah,

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short, what's up? Now?
Here's the part that be getting me

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every time I text this man or
every time I send him something on Instagram

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he responds right away, right,
So be supporting my delusion, y'all.

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So text him like, hey,
can ask a cook? Question. He

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says, yeah, Hey, what's
up right? Y'all went off so bad?

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I went off so bad. I
went off so bad. I sent

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him a picture of Nelly and Ashanti
saying can this ever be us or no?

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I sent him a picture. I
sent him a picture a Nelly and

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a shanty smelling air of the air, like, Yo, can this ever

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be us or no? And?
If so, what I gotta do to

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get us there? Oh? I'm
so bad. I went out so bad,

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y'all. The doug and me just
died. Yo, Yo, y'all,

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don't talk about me on a live
y'all. Don't do that. Don't

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do that, don't do that,
don't do that. And Trey Focus says,

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come on man, yo, mister
Nursey Jo says yo. Young ste

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says you're still in love and it's
okay girl yo. Nine seven Vultures says

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he must be cuffed, right,
mister, give your fitness and a bunch

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of laughing emojis. Eighty says that
was thorough fucking Aaron Nash says you shot

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from half court so Calm Bark says
that was cute. King Stu says life

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too short to be thugging through his
feelings be clever. Corey says, Nelly

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and a Shanty got people wanted to
spend the block. Come on, it's

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not just Nelly in a Shanti,
it's Birdman and Tony Braxton, Summer Walker

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and Meach. That's not really good
on We're gonna take I'm not there actually,

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but does it spend a block season? Lucky Day released this song Nelly

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in a Shanty on the Internet,
smiling ear to ear, y'all, I

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gotta I gotta shoot my shot right, I'm not gonna lie Lucky Day.

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Lucky Days so fucking toxic Loki because
he makes music for bitches who are in

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this fucking situation right here, like
this new song over Deserve, Like he

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got a bunch of songs that make
you want to text your eggs. He

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got a bunch of songs that make
you want to shoot. Lucky Day got

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a bunch of songs that make you
want to shoot. Okay, all right,

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y'all listen. So I sent him
the text, I send him the

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picture Nelly and a shaky I'm like, Yo, can this ever be us?

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And if so, what I gotta
do to get us there? Did

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y'all hear that? Part. Did
y'all hear that part? What I gotta

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do to get us there? Come
on accountability? Like, hey, I

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know that I'm not even the one
who sucked all this up. Really,

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Sean said that was a nigga line. That's a nigga line. That's a

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nigga line. King Steve says,
spinning the block after therapy and healing,

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hit different. Thank you, hey
ft Denny Love from Trinidad and Tobago.

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Hey hey hey. Leo Fleck says
Curry short time. Text says nigga,

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I for sure, what's up Troy? All right, y'all? So I

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send a text right this nigga.
This had to be the longest two minutes

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of my life. This had to
be the longest two minutes of my life.

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He sends back. I'm crying.
How long did they wait? Ask

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me again? In seven years,
y'all? It says, I think they

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went at ten. Right now,
I'm human. Smoke is coming out of

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my ears right because now this nigga
trying to play with me. Now you're

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trying to play with me. You
ain't gonna get my time served, bro,

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You ain't gonna get my time served. You gonna tell me I gotta

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wait ten years. You're not gonna
give me my time served my cheek,

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right, Like, y'all, I'm
not even gonna parole out here. I

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gotta start my bid all the way
back over. What the fuck? So

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I'm like, yes, it was
ten years, but I really put my

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four years in. I want my
time served, nigga. Right, So

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this is now the longest five minutes
in my life. He says, you

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got at least four more bucco,
yo, yo, yo yo, you

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gotta The bucko is really with Sydney. The bucko is with Sydney. Right,

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So I'm like, all right,
man, it's a bunch of laugh

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any moodies it here. So I'm
like, all right, man, listen

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on a serious tip. I'm like, on a serious tip. I just

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realized you've never given me a clear
no, and for whatever reason, my

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hopeless romantic ass just be holding on, like fighting a good fight. So

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like, what's up? This nigga
says, I'll see you in twenty twenty

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seven, mamas, bit a fuck
the fuck? This nigga says, I'll

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see you in twenty twenty seven,
Mamas? Why are you playing with me?

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Why are you playing with me?
You know, I got a gun,

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right, and I'm just OK.
So I put that shit, y'all,

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y'all, y'all. Right, So
now this, some of you might

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think I went out bad before,
But this right here, this is where

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I went out bad. This next
thing right here, this is when I

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went out bad. Right. This
is where I crashed and burned. This

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is where I crashed and burned.
This is where I crashed and burned.

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I sent him a screenshot of a
text he sent me while we were still

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together. I sent him a screenshot
of a text he sent me while we

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still was together, and it says, y'all from fuck No, this from

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actually twenty eighteen. We broke up
in twenty nineteen, but we were together

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before this. So this is a
text from twenty eighteen, still in my

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phone right. It says, this
is what he said to me. This

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is what he said to me,
y'all. This is what he said to

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me. He said, I love
you wholeheartedly and genuinely. We've been around

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each other for almost a year,
and I've never once wanted to be anywhere

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but by your side. You're an
incredible baby. Now where's my fucking son,

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where's my fucking son, That's what
he said to me. Right.

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So I sit on the screenshot and
I'm like, Yo, this could be

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you. But you want to wait
till twenty twenty seven? Fine, fuck

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you. I'm in the middle finger
emoji. Now I'm crashing. I'm crashing

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and burning calling MS. It's going
down. It's going bad, y'all,

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y'all. This nigga responds, I'm
so proud of you and your growth.

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Y'all, y'all. Let me hopping
alive and see what y'all got to say.

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All right, Trey Focus says,
lol, damn it man, all

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right, strive. The villain says, not you sent the but you told

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me you loved me. I did. I did. You said you wanted

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to get married. You said you
wanted me to take out in shuttle ballacy

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on you. You said I did. I said that, you said I

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did? I did? Right?
So dark Man seventeen says, I would

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let you spend the block on me. Honey, see tell that nigga.

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Uh strength, The villain says,
Oh, you was down and out real

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bad. I thought this was a
safe space. I thought this was me

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being safe and transparent. Clever Corey
said, you still have receipts. You

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know what's crazy, y'all. And
this is why I think that this whole

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situation we playing tricks from my mind. I deleted all this nigga pictures,

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I deleted this nigga number. I
deleted everything, and for whatever reason,

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they keep popping back up in my
phone. Like I went to my albums,

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clicked on his space and deleted everything
fucking in there, and then like

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six months later I went back and
still was there. This is not the

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universe giving me claric. This is
the universe player on my fucking mind,

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making me think I need to go
talk to the lady again. Like what

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the fuck? Striped Villain says it
is not a safe space. I am

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rolling yo yo yo. Trey Focus
says, loo oh, this was supposed

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to be a safe space. Sorry, I'm new here, y'all. Don't

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gotta do me like that. Okay, so now let's discuss. Okay,

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long story short. Fuck Lucky day, Okay, Lucky day. If you're

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watching this, send me some free
merch, a T shirt, give me

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some free tickets to a fucking album
release party, a concert or something.

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Because you have caused me emotional damage. You have caused me stress, Okay,

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you have added to my delusion,
and yeah, that's the first thing.

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Second thing, I think the part
that was like so confusing for me

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is because after this we went on
texting for another like day and a half,

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and it wasn't all this like diluted
open ended questions. Like at some

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points he was very clearly like,
yo, ha, this is funny.

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This is how it used to be. I'm like, yo, can I

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get some hoodies? He says,
yes, what are you willing to trade

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for it? Like we're having conversations, we're flirting to a sense. So

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I'm not like completely in la la
land and out here by myself. I

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know that, right, But I
do want to say when I get in

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situations with this man in particular,
it's hard because I be fighting myself,

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right because it be the girl who
still loves him, and then it be

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me as a healed individual, and
nimbitches be in there, like if you

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book, like they be fighting hardest
fuck right, And I'm gonna tell you

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why at the end of the day, Like, yeah, we're gonna have

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a few lasts, were gonna tell
a few cool stories, but at the

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end of the day, that's docksic
all right, because if I asked you

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clearly, hey, I just wanted
to know where you're still interested or not

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and you're not adult enough to say
no, or you're not adult enough to

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say yes. But I don't feel
safe enough to continue with you. This

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is what I need from you.
This is where I am in life,

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This is what I have going on, This is what I'm talking to.

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Fuck that nigga, like respectfully,
fuck that nigga, right, And I

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know that I know that the healed
me knows that right. And this is

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where the fight comes in because the
girl who's still in love with him is

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like, okay, bitch, but
he didn't say no, okay, hold

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on go wait wait wait wait,
wait, wait wait wait holada wait wait

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wait, let me dip that real
fast. But he didn't say no.

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He didn't say no, okay,
hold on. But remember when he laughed

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at our joke and made his own
jokes. Oh, but remember when he

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didn't say stop fucking texting me?
Remember when he liked But he's still texting

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us for like two days in a
row after this, So like, bitch,

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be almost there. And these two, these two, these two,

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they with my ass they be with
my whole ass. But in all actuality,

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I just would like to circle back
to say, at the end of

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the day, if you asks a
person for clarity and they do not provide

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clarity, that is your answer.
It's a no. It's a fucking no.

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It's always gonna be a no.
And don't let them tell you anything

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different. And the crazy part is, I know that sucks. I know

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it's hard when you still love somebody
or you still have feelings for somebody and

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don't let you like fucking went to
therapy and worked on yourself and you actually

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can visibly see the difference, and
people can tell you that they see the

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difference, because in my mind,
a part of me is like, Yo,

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if our relationship was that good and
I was a toxic ass individual,

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imagine what it can be like when
we're better. If I'm better, Imagine

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what it can be like if I'm
better. Oh my god, we're taking

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the world over. It's a done, it's a rap. But in all

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actuality, that's not real. That's
not real because the illusions and the love

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that you have for this person are
never going to be obtainable again because you're

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not that person anymore. And guess
what, neither is your partner. I'm

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not that person and he's not that
person anymore. So for all this,

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I want to say, just like
y'all know, tis the season to spend

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the block, and y'all not out
here by yourself. Okay, Lucky Day

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had me texting my ex too,
all right, and and listen, if

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you fucked up and you sent your
ex attacks or you called your ex,

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or you did some down bad shit, I want you to know you're welcome

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over here. Okay, sliding my
dms, tell me your stories, tell

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me what happened this this, this
is a safe space, so let's let's

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haul it alive. OC two tactical
says he may have been trying to protect

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you from the truth of how he
feels because he's because he still cares about

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you. May not be loved,
but reno minutes of friendship may be there.

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I disagree, because if you were
actually my friend, you would know

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how I feel about you, so
you would be adult enough to say,

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hey, thanks for reaching out.
I really enjoyed the time we spent together.

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For the space I am in my
life, I don't see that happening

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because guess what when niggas hit me
up trying to spend the block. Guess

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what I say, Hey, thanks
for reaching out. I hope you're and

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your family is doing well. Unfortunately
I don't share those feelings. I wish

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you the best luck on your journey. It's all love, no beef.

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If you ever need anything, I'm
here for you. It's that simple.

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It's a part of being a fucking
adult, like, and I feel like

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we need to pay attention to that's
a little bit fucking toxic in itself,

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Like, you don't want to lose
access to me, so you don't straight

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up tell me now, or you're
telling me you don't want to hurt my

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feelings. But in all actuality,
if you tell me no, you know

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what's a fucking dub And I'm never
gonna say anything to you again. That's

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selfish, y'all. Don't think that's
selfish a little bit. You don't think

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like that's selfish a little bit.
And even if that's I'm not saying that's

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the case here. That's not what
I'm saying. But what I am saying

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is it costs zero dollars to keep
it real. It costs zero dollars to

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spare someone's feelings and I understand what
you're saying that very well, ca and

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be sure when he's like, yo, I just I fuck with you,

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so don't wan't hurt your feelings.
But you think you leading me on is

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not hurting my feelings. You think
you're not straight up telling me no is

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not? Like I'm like, oh
yeah, like great great, Like what

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if I had nothing to work with
myself and I was sitting here, What

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if I started a fucking calendar to
count down until twenty twenty seven, because

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that's what he said, He said
he'll send me in twenty twenty seven,

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remember, Like, what if I
really started? But here's the thing.

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There are women and there are men, and there are people out here who

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are so delusional they will take that
and save it and hold on to it.

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And that's how you get stalkers.
That's how you get people who are

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obsessed. That's how you get people
who are fucking deranged. When it all

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letchu oley, it takes two seconds
to say, hey, I respect you

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when I care about you. But
it's a no, It's a fucking no.

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You know what I mean? Trait
focus said, I'll slide on your

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DMS in the Field Ah, y'all
get on my nerves. Hold on,

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let me slide out some um.
Clever Corey says, yeah, that's selfish.

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Good point comes. Dude says,
sounds like you need to listen to

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the stormy in your head. Bend
their homegirl, Rollo Legacy says, oof,

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heavy shit in here. Jelovi as
Jay says, spinning the block with

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a spear tire, Shut the fuck
up. Trey Focus says that's a great

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response. Aaron Now says, law
abiding citizen stuff exactly. Chef Lots of

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Dell says, man, I can't
hear anything you're saying because I'm meseris.

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Bye, beauty, Thank you,
sweetie, thank you. Trey Focus says,

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facts, fact, straightforward, mature, respectful communication is the hot,

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healthiest approach. Well, thank you
guys, thanks for providing a safe space.

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Long story short, Like I said, if you ask somebody for clarity

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and they don't give it to you, take that as the clarity. Move

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the fuck on. And I know
it's hard, and I know the delusions

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that you have within your head are
one place, but I'm telling you you

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need to be another. And yeah, learn from my lessons and don't let

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lucky. They make you spend a
block all that aside on a high note,

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on the plus side, on a
good note, right, y'all,

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And my husband is on the way. And I know y'all like, well,

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hold on, bitch, how we
how did we get here? Like?

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Yeah, first you tell us about
from bay to block. Yes,

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it's a love story. But now
I'm telling you about my next one.

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Right. I know I feel it
in my chest, in my heart.

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Right, I know my husband is
on the way because I'm finally at a

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point where I'm cool being by myself, like I'm at peace being by myself.

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I know my future husband is on
the way because I'm at peace being

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by myself. And niggas love to
fuck up your peace, okay they do

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and till so yeah, So long
story short. I went out for a

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solo date this past week and usually
after my seven you good, don't come

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over here, okay, come on, come on, come on, come

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say hi to the people, come
on, come on up, Paul,

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Well, then get out. If
you're not gonna play, get out.

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See see niggas love disturbing your peace. Just like you said, niggas love

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disturbing your peace. Striven, move
get your big ass go yo, seven

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yo, let's go. Yes,
okay, baby here here Okay, why

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you do that? Okay, now
go see now he leaving, Go ahead,

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let's go. Come on, seven
out niggas love disturbing your piece Like

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I said, so I just be
my point or whatever? What was I

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talking about? Okay? Yeah,
anyway, So here's what happened. I

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go off to eat this past week
on one of my solo dates. Right

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now, usually after my solo dates, I've been feeling what a fucking waste

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of liquor? Right I'm going home
all sauceduff. Okay, I didn't preheat

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the oven for nothing. I preheate
the oven for nothing. Okay. I

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go home and I be all sad, and I'm thinking to myself like,

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oh my god, so waste the
liquor and uh And now you know,

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it's fucking holiday season. Depression is
real, all right. So like now

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it's like really a time where I'm
like, oh my god, oh what

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is me? All right? So
I go out to eat this particular time.

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I'm fine, Like I'm walking to
my fucking car and shit like a

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member of the Lollipop gang, and
I'm good, like I'm having a good

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time. Like I was like,
oh my god, oysters were good.

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I'm so happy. Andrew was at
the barn and this is one bar I

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go to a happy hour all the
time. And this guy named Andrew.

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He be on an ox court and
he's white but has a chef's kiss taste

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of music, like amazing, right, So I was like, oh my

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god, so happy Andrew was there. He played some of my you know,

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favorite gems. He played Sam Cook, he played ericap. I do

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like it's variety and it's a vibe. So I'm like, yo, I'm

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having a really good time. And
I was like, damn, this is

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cool. This is cool. Seven, stop blacking your nuts. And I

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want to say, like, why
not be having these conversations? When have

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you having these conversations? Right?
And I'm like talking about being single.

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I don't like how y'all always think
just because a woman is single, it's

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because you know, she can't get
a man. Like, for the record,

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if it wanted a man, I
can make a phone call right now

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and be in a relationship. That's
that's that's not that's easy. But I

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think it's important. And I commend
all the women, right, I commend

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all the women who are standing on
business and saying like, Yo, this

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is what I required in a relationship, and I don't mind being single until

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I get it, and I feel
like you should too, like and at

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the end of the day, most
of y'all who'll be commenting and saying little

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shit like that, if I gave
you a chance, you drink my bad

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order. So then suck a deck, sucker dick, sucker dck. And

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I know you do it because I
see what y'all be putting in my DMS.

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So sucker dack sublates like please you
know, huh huh huh. So

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yeah, ma'am. Long story short, shout out to all the women and

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men who are maintained in the brown
streets, standing on business and long story

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short, I got a ball out
this year because next year I'm getting engaged

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in having a baby. So yeah, that's it. That's it. That

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was my story. And yeah,
Key to the City says, pause,

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we think you want to be single
to feel empowered. Ew, that's not

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it at all. The buck Rod
the King says, what bar be playing

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that Neil soul sound like a vibe. I don't want to tell you because

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I I wanta try to blow my
spot up. But I can say go

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go go down, like Shot said, No, don't tell y'all. Shot,

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you don't even know where I be
going. Oh yeah, shoe,

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the Negroes haven't found it yet,
so I I really, Shot said,

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I can't tell Shot, you're not
even on a mic. I don't care.

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Oh my god, Yo, it's
crazy. Everybody's like, what bar

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is it? Alright, We're gonna
go to the next topic. Crazy,

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he said. He says it was
a joke, but take your time.

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It's ugly out there. I know, I know. Oh, C two

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tactical says, I agree, don't
say clever. Corey says, is he

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d one? Baby? Official?
Oh my few your husband? Yeah,

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like my future husband. Let me
tell about my future husband. Let me

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talk about him real fans, right, my MEI and me and MI me

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and my men. Right. So
a he want to get married? B

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Uh. He's intelligent, Uh,
maybe even a nerd or loves to learn,

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right, And I feel like all
those aren't the same thing. But

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you have to be at least one
of those things, right, anybody asking

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you to be in mensa. But
I mean, like nigga, if you

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is right, you have to like
to travel, right, you have to

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know how to communicate or be emotionally
intelligent enough at least be emotionally intelligent enough

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to tell me when you're not happy
or when you would like me to change

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something within the relationship, because a
lot of times people don't say nothing,

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and then it's just harbor that shit
and then it turned into like a pressure

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cooker and it ended up with you
exploding on me because I fucking left my

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makeup on a bathroom counter. Like
no, no, no, you're actually

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mad because you know, if something
else you just don't feel comfortable telling me,

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you know. So I want someone
who's emotionally intelligent enough to like tell

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me that, right. I also
want someone who's family oriented, but like

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our family, because like I want
like four more kids, and you know,

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I want to be brady beunching it
and shit, mm mm hmmm.

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I want someone who is successful or
has a planned out career path, right,

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and yeah, those are my most
important things. Yeah, and funny

405
00:29:30.200 --> 00:29:34.039
or you'd like to have fun or
our views of fun aligned rather, And

406
00:29:34.119 --> 00:29:38.279
I'll say that because we might not
think the same shit is funny. But

407
00:29:38.359 --> 00:29:42.279
you gotta be under you gotta be
able to understand that when I get drunk,

408
00:29:42.359 --> 00:29:47.839
I'm gonna knock these doors down and
do park or like you gotta you

409
00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:51.559
gotta work with me here, but
like, yeah, you gotta understand if

410
00:29:51.559 --> 00:29:53.759
I get past this level of tipsy, we're going to have a cart real

411
00:29:53.839 --> 00:29:59.039
contest. Like ah ah, is
that something you can deal with? Is

412
00:29:59.039 --> 00:30:02.160
it something you can deal with when
sixty years old? Like these are things

413
00:30:02.599 --> 00:30:03.920
that we have to pay attention to. You know what I'm gonna do,

414
00:30:04.599 --> 00:30:07.640
this is completely unrelated. When I
get home today, I'm gonna write down

415
00:30:07.680 --> 00:30:11.400
everything, and I want my partner, and I want you to be a

416
00:30:11.400 --> 00:30:15.359
good leader or able to be a
good leader. I want you to be

417
00:30:15.400 --> 00:30:17.279
a good leader. I want you
to be a good leader. I'm not

418
00:30:17.279 --> 00:30:19.960
gonna say able. I feel like
I have these different lines in the sand

419
00:30:21.039 --> 00:30:22.599
for all my other qualifications, don't
this one. I wouldn't be able to

420
00:30:22.599 --> 00:30:26.759
trust you to lead because I'm tired. I'm sick of being a fucking boss.

421
00:30:26.759 --> 00:30:29.799
I'm gonna be the boss more.
Yeah, yeah, like what the

422
00:30:29.880 --> 00:30:34.039
fuck? And yeah, I think
that's it. And you have to be

423
00:30:34.079 --> 00:30:38.039
willing to help me take pictures and
record my stuff for content because that's it,

424
00:30:38.599 --> 00:30:45.720
that's it. Neil Maya says,
Kurt will at sixty is crazy.

425
00:30:47.240 --> 00:30:49.920
Uh. Level Short Junior says,
your desires are healthy. Sounds like you

426
00:30:49.960 --> 00:30:55.480
want a good man at his core, praying he founds you soon, DM

427
00:30:55.480 --> 00:31:04.720
me or address I'm with to sing
your T shirt. Joe Starr JC says,

428
00:31:06.720 --> 00:31:08.920
Uh, you're not doing crowds like
sixty? Yes, I am kung

429
00:31:10.000 --> 00:31:12.400
Stu says the key is to be
nerdy but still know how to dress like

430
00:31:12.440 --> 00:31:17.480
an adult and not like you and
Gene unit Yo. You pulling up with

431
00:31:17.440 --> 00:31:19.440
a g and a wife beater is
crazy. I don't want that. You

432
00:31:19.440 --> 00:31:26.839
were absolutely right, You're absolutely right. Listen, and they had the skinny

433
00:31:26.880 --> 00:31:30.240
johns. They were showing off the
traps. I call trap muscles the fifty

434
00:31:30.240 --> 00:31:33.720
cent muscles because he was the first
person I've seen with it. Yeah.

435
00:31:36.720 --> 00:31:38.759
P Doula says, can you be
what you're asking for? No, because

436
00:31:38.799 --> 00:31:45.920
I don't fucking want me like respectfully, Like I don't. I guess I'm

437
00:31:45.920 --> 00:31:48.599
assuming you're talking about when it comes
to like being emotionally intelligent and being able

438
00:31:48.640 --> 00:31:52.640
to communicate and providing a safe space. Yeah, fuck it. I don't

439
00:31:52.680 --> 00:31:56.720
have a problem doing all that.
But the problem that I get frequently is

440
00:31:56.759 --> 00:32:07.119
that, Okay, men don't often
have safe spaces, right, it's not

441
00:32:07.160 --> 00:32:10.119
a men out there who ever even
had a safe space, Like, men

442
00:32:10.160 --> 00:32:15.440
don't have a lot of safe spaces, so especially when it comes to relationships.

443
00:32:15.880 --> 00:32:21.359
So the problem that I have is
when I'm taking men seriously, a

444
00:32:21.400 --> 00:32:23.480
lot of them don't know how to
communicate because when they have in the past,

445
00:32:23.759 --> 00:32:27.359
a woman has told them, oh, it's not that deep. I

446
00:32:27.400 --> 00:32:30.640
mean, it's given bitch, But
okay, like you know what I mean.

447
00:32:30.880 --> 00:32:32.799
So I'll be having a hard time
because I really have to start over

448
00:32:32.839 --> 00:32:37.200
and break down walls that I didn't
even build. And when I say I

449
00:32:37.240 --> 00:32:40.920
want a man who's able to communicate
or have the emotional intelligence to tell me

450
00:32:40.960 --> 00:32:45.119
when he's not happy, I really
mean that because I'm willing to take the

451
00:32:45.160 --> 00:32:47.880
time to fix it. But I
know that a lot of men have gone

452
00:32:47.880 --> 00:32:51.960
through things where they haven't had that
space, so they don't know it exists.

453
00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:54.720
And it's hard. Like I get
that, but I also need y'all

454
00:32:54.759 --> 00:33:00.279
understand it's even harder for me to
find someone who's comfortable doing that. Makes

455
00:33:00.279 --> 00:33:07.799
sense, no uh oc two Tactical
says, why not Goku or Fajeta they

456
00:33:07.799 --> 00:33:16.559
trapped to be trapping? Shut up? Pe Doula says yes, okay.

457
00:33:16.720 --> 00:33:21.480
Lavelle Short says I heard someone say
recently, write what it is that you

458
00:33:21.559 --> 00:33:23.319
want on a list and then become
the list. How much of a list

459
00:33:23.359 --> 00:33:27.279
are you right now? Well,
I think it's different because the things that

460
00:33:27.319 --> 00:33:31.920
I want on my list I don't
want to be like or I don't I'm

461
00:33:34.640 --> 00:33:37.960
like, for example, travel,
Yeah, my list ain't your list because

462
00:33:38.400 --> 00:33:43.839
my list ain't. If I put
everything that I am on the list,

463
00:33:44.160 --> 00:33:45.880
I can figure pop myself for the
rest of my life and be happy.

464
00:33:46.160 --> 00:33:50.240
Okay, I can masterbate if I
was gonna put me on the list.

465
00:33:50.440 --> 00:33:54.119
Like. I understand the sentiment,
but what I want in a man is

466
00:33:54.200 --> 00:33:59.519
not me. Like I want a
man to compliment me. I don't want

467
00:33:59.559 --> 00:34:01.519
a man to to be me.
That's just not what I want from our

468
00:34:01.559 --> 00:34:07.680
relationship. I'm not knocking the people
who do yeah, like, I'm not

469
00:34:07.680 --> 00:34:10.519
saying I'm not knocking anybody who do
that or who wants that. I'm just

470
00:34:10.599 --> 00:34:15.840
saying for me. Kung Stu says, add one more thing he has talked

471
00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:19.199
to the lady you're fucking right.
Okay. Another thing I want to add

472
00:34:19.239 --> 00:34:22.000
to that list is I want to
make sure we have the same parenting views,

473
00:34:22.480 --> 00:34:30.239
like respectfully, respectfully to us and
to our community. Right, ain't

474
00:34:30.280 --> 00:34:32.960
gonna be no stop crying before I
give you some to cry for. I

475
00:34:32.960 --> 00:34:37.360
don't believe in that. I don't
believe in it. That's not my parenting

476
00:34:37.400 --> 00:34:42.320
style. That's not my parenting style. My parenting style is what's bothering you?

477
00:34:42.920 --> 00:34:45.320
Like when I grow up, you
know, someone asks you what's going

478
00:34:45.360 --> 00:34:49.679
on? It's such and such getting
on my nerves and whatever. The adult

479
00:34:49.679 --> 00:34:52.679
figure around was was real quick to
tell you you don't have no nerves.

480
00:34:53.039 --> 00:34:57.039
First of all, bitch, yes
I do. I mean human being.

481
00:34:57.079 --> 00:35:00.360
I got plenty of fucking nerves.
Okay. So my parents style isn't stop

482
00:35:00.400 --> 00:35:05.800
crying. I'm giving semon cry for
Okay. My parenting style is do what

483
00:35:05.880 --> 00:35:10.679
I say because I said so right. That doesn't work for me because at

484
00:35:10.679 --> 00:35:15.119
the end of the day, I'm
smart as fuck and I'm inquisitive as fuck.

485
00:35:15.320 --> 00:35:17.599
So you know what, my son
is smart as fuck and inquisitive as

486
00:35:17.639 --> 00:35:22.480
fuck. And a lot of times
I realized our parents was saying, you

487
00:35:22.519 --> 00:35:29.239
know, because I said so,
because they actually didn't know it was to

488
00:35:29.320 --> 00:35:34.239
them. To them, it was
a respect thing like because I'm because I'm

489
00:35:34.239 --> 00:35:37.559
the boss. They don't. They
didn't really have a reason exactly. So

490
00:35:37.920 --> 00:35:42.559
for me, that ship just doesn't
align with my parenting style. So I

491
00:35:42.599 --> 00:35:44.960
can't be with a nigga who're like, yo, do what I'm telling me

492
00:35:45.000 --> 00:35:46.159
to do because I said do it, or I'm a beach of ass.

493
00:35:49.840 --> 00:35:55.000
Not for me. It's just not
for me, you know. And wow,

494
00:35:55.039 --> 00:36:00.960
that's so crazy, cold summer hot. When said this is why you're

495
00:36:01.000 --> 00:36:07.880
still single. Wow, that's crazy. I don't know at which way you

496
00:36:07.960 --> 00:36:10.519
meant that, but in all actuality
it could be. And that's fine.

497
00:36:10.599 --> 00:36:15.639
And if that's the reason, that's
fine. King Payne says, you have

498
00:36:15.719 --> 00:36:20.960
kids. I have one child.
He's eleven, right, but the same

499
00:36:21.000 --> 00:36:24.320
things apply. He has a safe
space if he wants to vent about something

500
00:36:24.880 --> 00:36:29.000
like right now, my man will
come home from school and be like,

501
00:36:29.480 --> 00:36:31.360
hey, Mommy, today I didn't
have a good day because here's why.

502
00:36:31.639 --> 00:36:36.000
And I'll sit and I'll let him
get all that shit out because the kids

503
00:36:36.039 --> 00:36:39.280
who don't have that outlet, they
tear your fucking house up for no reason.

504
00:36:39.480 --> 00:36:43.760
Okay, they go to school the
next day and they're bullying other kids

505
00:36:43.760 --> 00:36:46.320
because they don't know how to express
their emotions. Okay, they are fucking

506
00:36:46.400 --> 00:36:51.400
mean to the bus drivers, all
right, they fucking trip the crossing guards.

507
00:36:51.440 --> 00:36:54.719
Okay. When you don't provide your
kids and outlet for their emotions,

508
00:36:55.400 --> 00:37:00.800
their emotions come out sideways, and
sometimes it comes out upside another kid here,

509
00:37:00.960 --> 00:37:02.880
Okay, maybe even a teacher.
All right. So for me,

510
00:37:04.840 --> 00:37:07.639
that's just how I move. I'm
not saying it has to be for everyone.

511
00:37:07.679 --> 00:37:09.239
I'm not saying it works for everyone. I'm just saying that's how I

512
00:37:09.360 --> 00:37:15.159
moved, that's how many Yeah.
Yeah, Like, I'm not saying,

513
00:37:15.280 --> 00:37:16.679
you know, like I'm one of
those moms who are like, oh,

514
00:37:16.760 --> 00:37:22.679
I'm my mom, I'm my kid's
friend, I'm a kid's friend. I'm

515
00:37:22.719 --> 00:37:24.039
not saying that that's not what it
is at all. There's very much still

516
00:37:24.079 --> 00:37:29.440
a line of authority between us.
But my man has a safe space.

517
00:37:29.960 --> 00:37:31.920
Like the other day, my man
came home complaining that, you know,

518
00:37:32.039 --> 00:37:37.639
him and his friends weren't gonna be
friends again forever. They're broken up,

519
00:37:37.760 --> 00:37:40.119
not gonna lie. I feel good
about it. My man came home and

520
00:37:40.159 --> 00:37:44.039
he wanted to tell me, fuck
y'all, I don't care. My man

521
00:37:44.119 --> 00:37:46.880
was going through something emotionally and he
felt safe enough to come home and tell

522
00:37:46.920 --> 00:37:55.639
me it's mammy. Okay. How
how many rod the king says my man

523
00:37:55.639 --> 00:37:59.719
come home from school? You consider
him the man of the house. So

524
00:37:59.800 --> 00:38:02.039
I'm want to say, respectfully,
I can tell you're new here, okay,

525
00:38:02.199 --> 00:38:07.039
because one of the main points that
I drive home is that I don't

526
00:38:07.039 --> 00:38:12.239
believe in calling your son your king
or whatever. Right when I say my

527
00:38:12.360 --> 00:38:15.599
man, that's like me saying my
nigga. Okay. But I can tell

528
00:38:15.599 --> 00:38:16.920
you're new here, so I don't
I don't take that against you. I'm

529
00:38:16.920 --> 00:38:20.480
not one of those moms. My
son is not the king of the house.

530
00:38:20.800 --> 00:38:22.559
My son is my son. I
am the queen. He is the

531
00:38:22.599 --> 00:38:25.800
prince. That man number is saved
on my phone's sweet Prince, because that's

532
00:38:25.800 --> 00:38:30.199
exactly what it is. I'm giving
him space to have his childhood. I

533
00:38:30.239 --> 00:38:32.920
don't treat my son like he's my
best friend. I don't treat my son

534
00:38:34.000 --> 00:38:36.599
like he's my man. That's not
it. I'm not coming at you,

535
00:38:36.719 --> 00:38:38.199
and I'm not saying no with disrespect. I'm just saying I can tell you're

536
00:38:38.239 --> 00:38:42.440
new here because you don't know,
and it's okay, that's fine. Hopefully

537
00:38:42.719 --> 00:38:45.639
you'll feel comfortable here and decide to
stick around and pick up on some more

538
00:38:45.679 --> 00:39:01.519
things. Okay, huh no,
No, I'm just saying like I feel

539
00:39:01.559 --> 00:39:10.400
it, trust me, King Cressay, she's saying my man as in my

540
00:39:10.480 --> 00:39:17.760
man's niggas beware No, no,
no, not like that, like not

541
00:39:17.760 --> 00:39:27.119
not in the Rogers. I'm sorry. How much time we gotta laugh?

542
00:39:27.920 --> 00:39:30.920
Yeses alright, So I just wanna
get this one little point off before we

543
00:39:30.960 --> 00:39:35.400
go to the segment three, right, I've shot shut the fuck up.

544
00:39:37.119 --> 00:39:42.599
So I know. I know it's
Spend the Block season. I know matching

545
00:39:42.639 --> 00:39:45.800
with jama season is coming up.
I know we're all in our fields,

546
00:39:45.039 --> 00:39:49.159
right. I hate this for us, We're all in our fields. Right,

547
00:39:49.760 --> 00:39:54.280
But I wanna say one thing right, stop going to the internet with

548
00:39:54.440 --> 00:40:00.440
all your problems. Right. A
therapist is very b official. Okay,

549
00:40:00.800 --> 00:40:05.000
Get you a close circle, all
right, Get you a therapist. Get

550
00:40:05.039 --> 00:40:08.599
you someone you can talk too safely. Right with the unbiased opinion, because

551
00:40:08.599 --> 00:40:14.000
when y'all pop up on the internet
with do men still? Do women still?

552
00:40:14.159 --> 00:40:19.199
Yes? They don't like you.
Okay, Yes, that person just

553
00:40:19.239 --> 00:40:23.280
doesn't like you. Stop it.
This has to stop, all right,

554
00:40:24.760 --> 00:40:30.400
I can't all right. The Internet
is supposed to be for fun when y'all

555
00:40:30.440 --> 00:40:35.199
be on here telling us about how
the person you're dating ain't ship, ain't

556
00:40:35.239 --> 00:40:37.320
doing shit for you, got you
out here looking stupid, cheating on you,

557
00:40:37.360 --> 00:40:42.880
got a baby on the way.
She don't come, no doubt,

558
00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:52.599
no, please please, Okay,
we've had enough. We've had enough.

559
00:40:52.280 --> 00:41:00.800
I don't want, I don't,
I don't, I don't hired. Are

560
00:41:00.880 --> 00:41:08.119
y'all tired? Are y'all tired because
I'm tired, Like I don't know.

561
00:41:08.280 --> 00:41:13.320
Like the next time you find yourself
wanting to put on al Gore's Internet,

562
00:41:13.800 --> 00:41:19.400
do men still or do women still? I want you to think Stormy told

563
00:41:19.440 --> 00:41:21.280
me, yes, I'm not gonna
put that. She told me, yes,

564
00:41:21.320 --> 00:41:22.400
I'm not gonna put that. She
told me, yes, they do.

565
00:41:22.679 --> 00:41:27.599
And that should be my indication that
this person doesn't like me or I'm

566
00:41:27.599 --> 00:41:30.440
not gonna say this person is like
you. That should be your indication that

567
00:41:31.920 --> 00:41:37.199
this isn't your person. Yeah,
because if it was, you wouldn't be

568
00:41:37.199 --> 00:41:40.719
asking these questions, you know what
I mean? Just go where you're celebrated,

569
00:41:40.840 --> 00:41:44.920
not tolerated, right, because like
a lot of times, we be

570
00:41:45.039 --> 00:41:53.960
entertaining people who view us as an
option but not the only option. I'm

571
00:41:54.199 --> 00:41:58.760
hopeless romantic. I can't break that
shit. So regardless how I feel,

572
00:41:58.880 --> 00:42:08.199
Like dre P said, Stormy taping
a trip Fontaine live, this niggas hilarious.

573
00:42:08.960 --> 00:42:13.400
I can't wait to see if it's
still a going on. What I'm

574
00:42:13.440 --> 00:42:19.719
done here? I uh, where
are you living at? I uh,

575
00:42:20.199 --> 00:42:23.800
I don't know. Long story short, just huh king Stu says, that's

576
00:42:23.840 --> 00:42:28.559
it. All those lists and all
that are from people who refuse to take

577
00:42:28.599 --> 00:42:30.760
accountability. I agree, I'm not
mad at it. I'm not mad at

578
00:42:30.800 --> 00:42:34.079
it man. Long Yeah, Like
I said, I just wanna circle back

579
00:42:34.079 --> 00:42:36.639
to go where you're celebrated, not
where you're tolerated. And that's it,

580
00:42:37.519 --> 00:42:39.960
all right, guys, All that
aside, let's get into the edible portion

581
00:42:40.039 --> 00:42:45.119
of the show. So the edible
portion is when I read questions and stories

582
00:42:45.119 --> 00:42:47.239
that you guys sin in, and
on the day that we record, I

583
00:42:47.320 --> 00:42:52.079
always put up a prompt and if
whatever you have to sen in is too

584
00:42:52.119 --> 00:42:54.360
long to fit in the prompt,
you could always d M me or you

585
00:42:54.400 --> 00:43:02.360
can email me at inquiries at stormy
Pea dot pa. All Right, so

586
00:43:02.440 --> 00:43:09.199
y'all, can I just say when
y'all be like putting questions in? Right,

587
00:43:10.920 --> 00:43:15.639
y'all know what's other questions other than
like are you single? When can

588
00:43:15.679 --> 00:43:21.280
I take you out? Are you
single? When can I take you out?

589
00:43:21.800 --> 00:43:27.480
And it's that thing, bald my
worn of mic shot on a mic

590
00:43:36.760 --> 00:43:42.159
like asking me stuff like if I
put your left toe in my mouth,

591
00:43:42.280 --> 00:43:49.559
will the right one wiggle? Asking
like asking me stuff like you know,

592
00:43:52.039 --> 00:43:54.559
is it really pink? Though?
Like are you single? I just want

593
00:43:54.559 --> 00:44:02.320
to throw back to are you single? Because that's right. I just want

594
00:44:02.440 --> 00:44:07.400
y'all know what's other questions? I
respect it, but it's hard for me

595
00:44:07.480 --> 00:44:13.400
to answer the ones that don't require
answer, especially if I've answered them multiple

596
00:44:13.400 --> 00:44:15.559
times, not like about is it
bald? I'm not talking about that part.

597
00:44:15.599 --> 00:44:20.639
I'm talking about like am I single? Like really? I post the

598
00:44:20.719 --> 00:44:24.599
promp on my solo Instagram, my
podcast instagram, my solo Facebook, and

599
00:44:24.639 --> 00:44:31.320
then my podcast Facebook, right,
and I really get seventy percent? Are

600
00:44:31.320 --> 00:44:37.639
you single? Seventy percent? Like
seriously, ax Shot. I went through

601
00:44:37.800 --> 00:44:40.079
the answers that y'all gave me today
with him, and he was like,

602
00:44:40.079 --> 00:44:44.320
what the fuck is wrong with people? I don't know? I don't know.

603
00:44:44.679 --> 00:44:47.519
I don't know right, and I
would really love to know. Like

604
00:44:47.559 --> 00:44:53.480
when y'all ask are you single for? What? What the fuck are is

605
00:44:53.519 --> 00:44:55.880
this? You shooting your shot?
Are you shooting your shot? Like?

606
00:44:57.000 --> 00:45:00.519
What happens after this? What happens
after this? Now I'm wrong if I

607
00:45:00.559 --> 00:45:01.960
say no, me and your mother
in a committed relationship, Now I'm a

608
00:45:02.039 --> 00:45:07.960
bad guy? How how so?
Yeah, just just want to say,

609
00:45:07.079 --> 00:45:15.039
you know, for next week and
the weeks afterwards, please come with something

610
00:45:15.039 --> 00:45:23.119
other than are you single? Right? Okay? So first question, Good

611
00:45:23.159 --> 00:45:30.760
guys and nine to five guys,
why do we finish last? And I

612
00:45:30.840 --> 00:45:32.639
wanta trying to tap in on a
live you know, maybe you maybe you

613
00:45:32.679 --> 00:45:36.760
can help someone, maybe you can
save a soul today, provide some type

614
00:45:36.800 --> 00:45:39.480
of insight. I don't know it
all. I don't pretend to know it

615
00:45:39.519 --> 00:45:43.159
all. I'm just giving you you
know how I feel, what I've learned

616
00:45:43.199 --> 00:45:46.280
along this journey we've called life.
So I want to ask again, it

617
00:45:46.320 --> 00:45:52.280
says, Good guys and nine to
five guys, why do we finish last?

618
00:45:52.960 --> 00:45:57.159
Good guys and nine to five Guys, why do we finish last?

619
00:45:59.719 --> 00:46:02.360
I'm you're real with y'all because y'all
going after girls that are out of your

620
00:46:02.440 --> 00:46:07.199
league. Okay, no, no, I take that back, not out

621
00:46:07.199 --> 00:46:13.800
of your league, girls whose values
don't align with yours, right, because

622
00:46:13.880 --> 00:46:17.800
I I think it's a difference.
It's definitely a difference. Because if you're

623
00:46:17.880 --> 00:46:24.880
going after a woman whose values are
vain, meaning what you look like,

624
00:46:25.239 --> 00:46:30.760
how much you have, what you
can provide, you know where you are

625
00:46:30.800 --> 00:46:34.960
in life on the Social Total poll, they don't give a fuck you a

626
00:46:35.000 --> 00:46:39.119
good guy, right, Like,
they don't care you got a good heart,

627
00:46:39.239 --> 00:46:45.440
my nigga. If you're going after
a woman whose main goal in life

628
00:46:45.559 --> 00:46:49.920
is to be a basketball wife,
they don't give a fuck that you donate

629
00:46:50.000 --> 00:46:53.039
to charity, my nigga. They
don't care that you work or nine to

630
00:46:53.039 --> 00:46:57.440
five of your respectable man. It's
nothing wrong with that. It's commendable.

631
00:46:57.760 --> 00:47:00.480
I love it. And there are
plenty of the women out here who you

632
00:47:00.519 --> 00:47:04.559
who will who are searching for you. But if your hell bent on finding

633
00:47:04.599 --> 00:47:08.480
a baddy with nine inch long fingernails, maybe you're not gonna be happy,

634
00:47:08.679 --> 00:47:13.960
cause nine times out of ten,
they aren't looking for a guy with a

635
00:47:14.000 --> 00:47:17.760
good heart, who's working at nine
to five respectfully, Respectfully, this is

636
00:47:17.800 --> 00:47:21.840
no shade towards the baddies. This
is no shades towards the good guys.

637
00:47:22.239 --> 00:47:25.960
I'm just saying, may it make
sense? Right? Like? Can we

638
00:47:27.039 --> 00:47:30.400
be fucking for real? Is that
a situation where we can say be fucking

639
00:47:30.480 --> 00:47:37.440
for real? Because if you're going
after women who are solely looking for a

640
00:47:37.559 --> 00:47:40.599
man who drives this type of car, lives in this type of house,

641
00:47:40.880 --> 00:47:45.519
has this type of credit score,
and can do this type of beneficial things

642
00:47:45.559 --> 00:47:52.519
for her sins don't give a fuck
that you go to church on Sunday.

643
00:47:52.360 --> 00:47:55.280
She don't care that you are a
good person with a good heart and you're

644
00:47:55.320 --> 00:47:59.440
working nine to five and you take
care of your grandmam. She don't care

645
00:47:59.480 --> 00:48:02.400
about that. That doesn't align with
her values. And that's not to say

646
00:48:02.519 --> 00:48:06.880
she's wrong or you're wrong. All
I'm saying is you're finishing last because you're

647
00:48:06.880 --> 00:48:12.480
going after people that don't have the
same values. ISS, So let's step

648
00:48:12.480 --> 00:48:16.000
in with a live king. Stu
says, if she got her ass out

649
00:48:16.039 --> 00:48:22.679
in every ig pick for validation.
E Trey Focus says, gotta know and

650
00:48:22.760 --> 00:48:28.199
understand who you're shooting at. I
agree. You gotta know and understand who

651
00:48:28.239 --> 00:48:31.480
you're shooting at. You gotta know
and understand who you're shooting at. I

652
00:48:31.559 --> 00:48:40.000
agree. Uh big Harv eight O
two three says most women care too much

653
00:48:40.039 --> 00:48:44.840
about looks and money, so not
too many good women out there. I

654
00:48:44.880 --> 00:48:47.679
don't agree. I don't agree.
It's plenty of good women out there.

655
00:48:49.199 --> 00:48:52.840
You just gotta pay attention to who
you going after. Like, if you're

656
00:48:52.880 --> 00:49:00.039
going after someone who is clearly into
her, who's clear into her appearance,

657
00:49:00.239 --> 00:49:05.039
she's very vain, maybe even shallow, nine times out of ten, she's

658
00:49:05.159 --> 00:49:08.280
also looking for somebody who is attractive
and shallow, or somebody who has a

659
00:49:08.320 --> 00:49:13.039
lot of money. So you and
you're nine five and gonna cut it,

660
00:49:13.320 --> 00:49:15.239
you know what I mean. If
you're going after someone who's very into her

661
00:49:15.320 --> 00:49:22.400
appearance and who's a baddy, who's
a social media batty, nine times out

662
00:49:22.440 --> 00:49:24.480
of ten, she ain't looking for
somebody who's working at nine to five with

663
00:49:24.519 --> 00:49:28.159
a good heart. She's worried about
somebody who can do for her, who

664
00:49:28.199 --> 00:49:30.559
can provide for her. And it's
not to say you don't deserve that,

665
00:49:30.559 --> 00:49:32.760
That's not what I'm saying. At
all. There are some non there are

666
00:49:32.800 --> 00:49:37.639
some social media baddies who are looking
for a nice man like you. The

667
00:49:37.760 --> 00:49:44.239
numbers are significantly lower, but they
do exist. They exist, They exist

668
00:49:44.280 --> 00:49:47.840
for sure for sure. Hold on, I'm trying to swipe dout my bag,

669
00:49:47.920 --> 00:49:52.960
y'all comes do? Said? Is
she arguing in the shade room comments?

670
00:49:52.280 --> 00:50:00.000
Ah ah, TI's true, tis
true? Clever Corey says Stormy out

671
00:50:00.079 --> 00:50:02.440
hear her feelings and crushing dreams today. No, I'm not. I'm saying,

672
00:50:02.480 --> 00:50:07.519
be fucking for real, Okay,
be fucking for real. King Chris

673
00:50:07.639 --> 00:50:09.360
says, Well, first off,
you can work a nine to five and

674
00:50:09.400 --> 00:50:13.960
not be a good guy. This
is very true, right. I don't

675
00:50:13.960 --> 00:50:16.519
want y'all to think that just because
you work a nine to five and you

676
00:50:16.559 --> 00:50:20.400
don't cheat on your girlfriend, if
you have a girlfriend, that you're a

677
00:50:20.440 --> 00:50:23.840
good person. That's not it.
That's not it. Because you're also mean

678
00:50:23.880 --> 00:50:28.519
it spuck to a waiter whenever we
go out. Okay, you also don't

679
00:50:28.559 --> 00:50:30.800
know how to handle your liquor.
As soon as you have a few SIPs

680
00:50:30.800 --> 00:50:34.039
of hiney, you're asking what nigga's
looking at all? Right, just because

681
00:50:34.039 --> 00:50:37.079
you're working nine to five does not
mean you're a good guy, my guy,

682
00:50:37.360 --> 00:50:43.480
Okay, Like it's other things that
go into that, like you talking

683
00:50:43.480 --> 00:50:45.519
about all are working nine to five. I'm a good person. Yeah,

684
00:50:45.519 --> 00:50:47.760
but you also don't have a PCP. You haven't had a checkup, and

685
00:50:47.800 --> 00:50:51.360
I don't know how long you just
wait till the girl come back and tell

686
00:50:51.400 --> 00:50:53.079
you where her results are and you
just take that as your results. I

687
00:50:53.159 --> 00:51:00.360
know, I know. Just because
you're working nine of five, that doesn't

688
00:51:00.360 --> 00:51:02.320
mean you're a good guy. Not
saying this is to you who asks this

689
00:51:02.400 --> 00:51:05.599
question. I'm not saying that at
all. I'm not saying that to the

690
00:51:05.639 --> 00:51:10.719
person who asks this question. I'm
just saying, doesn't mean you're a good

691
00:51:10.760 --> 00:51:15.280
guy. That's it. That's it, that's it. Kung Stu says,

692
00:51:15.599 --> 00:51:20.079
I'll take the regular cute girl that
is funny as shit over a main chick

693
00:51:20.199 --> 00:51:28.599
any day. Amen. Amen,
any don't start with me? Okay,

694
00:51:29.079 --> 00:51:30.880
don't you do it? Don't you
do it? All right? Any you

695
00:51:30.880 --> 00:51:35.760
got a cursing out coming to you
anyway? He No, I love any

696
00:51:35.760 --> 00:51:38.639
guys. I'm joking. I'm joking. Lavelle Short says, good guys sometimes

697
00:51:38.639 --> 00:51:42.880
show up good, but don't remain
the way they started. So it's not

698
00:51:43.000 --> 00:51:50.519
that they finished last. They started
first and couldn't sustain O. This nig

699
00:51:50.639 --> 00:51:55.000
good is sitting because sometimes y'all be
faking. Sometimes y'all be faking. Sometimes

700
00:51:55.079 --> 00:51:58.679
y'all be faking. This is a
safe space, and I can say sometimes

701
00:51:58.760 --> 00:52:01.039
y'all be faking. Like y'all don't
really care about the things y'all say.

702
00:52:01.119 --> 00:52:05.159
Y'all be carried about like you don't
really want to go pick some flowers with

703
00:52:05.199 --> 00:52:07.519
me on a Sunday afternoon. You
don't really want to sit through first and

704
00:52:07.599 --> 00:52:10.920
second service for church with me.
You don't really want to do these things.

705
00:52:12.039 --> 00:52:14.519
You're only doing it to move up
to them. Pool. I'm not

706
00:52:14.559 --> 00:52:16.199
love, I'm not dumb, You're
not low. I know, right,

707
00:52:17.239 --> 00:52:24.800
Okay, so hold on, I'm
trying to swipe down um. Okay,

708
00:52:25.239 --> 00:52:34.800
next question, Oh y'all, this
one spin me for a loop. Why

709
00:52:34.840 --> 00:52:37.400
old pussy egg brand new when it's
been a minute, Like I got a

710
00:52:37.440 --> 00:52:43.239
re audition for the part I already
had. I'm gonna read it. I'm

711
00:52:43.239 --> 00:52:45.920
gonna read it again. Y'all please
step in on a live because I'm so

712
00:52:45.000 --> 00:52:50.960
curious to hear what y'all have to
say, this person says, why old

713
00:52:51.000 --> 00:52:53.360
pussy egg brand new when it's been
a minute, like I got a re

714
00:52:53.519 --> 00:52:58.039
audition for the part I already had. Yes, the fuck you do?

715
00:52:59.599 --> 00:53:01.440
Okay, I don't know who is
there of this, but yes, the

716
00:53:01.559 --> 00:53:06.480
fuck you. You don't get grandfather, then okay, you don't get time

717
00:53:06.559 --> 00:53:10.039
served, No you don't. You
gotta start over, okay, Yeah,

718
00:53:10.039 --> 00:53:14.440
whoa, whoa, whoa. That
was a different situation. That was a

719
00:53:14.440 --> 00:53:17.119
different situation. That sitution. When
I was talking about me, I was

720
00:53:17.119 --> 00:53:20.960
talking about being in love, okay, right now, he talking about just

721
00:53:21.000 --> 00:53:29.039
a chick. He was hitting.
Okay for me, if you're yo shit,

722
00:53:29.079 --> 00:53:30.119
I said, what's love got to
do with it? Why he eat

723
00:53:30.119 --> 00:53:35.679
me up like that? Y'all?
What I'm saying is for me, if

724
00:53:35.719 --> 00:53:38.280
you're just a spot on the roster, like we're not dating with the intentions,

725
00:53:38.320 --> 00:53:42.280
we're just hooking up from time to
time. If you're just a spot

726
00:53:42.320 --> 00:53:46.039
on the roster, and you dip
on me for a good six months before

727
00:53:46.079 --> 00:53:50.639
that six months that you dipped on
me, Jamal been playing in his park.

728
00:53:51.039 --> 00:53:52.800
He been consistent. He'd been taking
me out on dates. We've been

729
00:53:52.840 --> 00:53:57.400
hanging out, like he been making
me feel appreciated. You think you just

730
00:53:57.440 --> 00:54:00.599
gonna come back in six months later
and hop him fun of Jamal. That's

731
00:54:00.599 --> 00:54:08.000
not fair to Jamal. Who's speaking
up for Jamal? Okay, all I'm

732
00:54:08.039 --> 00:54:16.440
saying is that's not fair to Jamal? Like am I tripping? Big Harv

733
00:54:16.920 --> 00:54:21.679
eight O two three says, my
stroke is still stroking like it was,

734
00:54:21.800 --> 00:54:25.400
So I get the part automatically.
No, you don't king. Stu says,

735
00:54:25.440 --> 00:54:32.760
pussy might have upgrades, might have
bluetooth. What I'm hollering, I'm

736
00:54:32.840 --> 00:54:37.360
hollering. Dre B says that means
you ain't doing it like you think you

737
00:54:37.440 --> 00:54:43.880
are. Ooh, Trey Focus says, wait ask it again. Clever Corey

738
00:54:43.920 --> 00:54:47.559
says, who'll be asking these questions? Yo? These are real questions.

739
00:54:47.599 --> 00:54:51.400
And if you don't believe me,
act shot because I just showed shot the

740
00:54:51.440 --> 00:54:53.199
questions be sending it. Okay,
I don't read all of them, but

741
00:54:53.199 --> 00:54:58.280
I read the ones that I think
are funny. Here that are interesting,

742
00:54:59.400 --> 00:55:01.119
Big Harve two three, No,
I read that one already. Hit my

743
00:55:01.159 --> 00:55:05.280
bad. I'm scrolling back down,
y'all, d ride through and before it

744
00:55:05.280 --> 00:55:08.360
says the irony of it all?
Get that re edition? Ready, Bee

745
00:55:09.920 --> 00:55:13.280
Now, for the record, I
just wanted to let me just okay,

746
00:55:13.320 --> 00:55:15.159
I'm gonna stick a pen of this
and I'm gon sit back around. Hold

747
00:55:15.159 --> 00:55:16.360
one second, let me just let
me just take my little piece cause y'all

748
00:55:16.400 --> 00:55:20.239
trying to eat me up right.
So, for the record, when I

749
00:55:20.280 --> 00:55:22.000
sent that nigga, that picture of
Nelly and Ashanti, and I said,

750
00:55:22.039 --> 00:55:30.440
could this ever be us? Again? When I sent that picture, I

751
00:55:30.440 --> 00:55:35.360
immediately added after and if so,
what I gotta do to get there?

752
00:55:35.840 --> 00:55:38.920
Okay, which means I wasn't expecting
to come back in and be grandfather.

753
00:55:39.000 --> 00:55:43.239
And I'm trying to earn my spot. I'm trying to knock Jamal off the

754
00:55:43.280 --> 00:55:45.679
list. Not Jamal, that's crazy. I'm trying to. I'm trying to.

755
00:55:49.239 --> 00:55:51.960
I'm trying to. I'm trying to
not Jazzmin off the list. I'm

756
00:55:52.000 --> 00:55:55.400
trying to take Jasmine spot, if
that makes sense. So even I am

757
00:55:55.440 --> 00:55:59.199
willing to say, like, yo, what I gotta do to get back

758
00:55:59.199 --> 00:56:07.280
there? You who taking a six
month sabbatical if he was dating anybody,

759
00:56:07.480 --> 00:56:13.800
Yo, that's crazy, that's crazy. If you want a live Shad just

760
00:56:13.840 --> 00:56:16.199
said you took three year sabbatical.
Did you ask that man? If he

761
00:56:16.239 --> 00:56:21.400
was dating anybody, y'all. I
just realized I didn't ask him if he

762
00:56:21.440 --> 00:56:24.360
was dating anybody. I didn't ask
him if he was dating anybody. What

763
00:56:24.440 --> 00:56:30.280
if he got a girlfriend? What
if he got a girlfriend. If you're

764
00:56:30.360 --> 00:56:34.039
just now tapping into the live,
I was talking about how at the beginning

765
00:56:34.119 --> 00:56:36.280
of the show, I was saying, how I spent the block on my

766
00:56:36.360 --> 00:56:39.400
ex, and I did not ask, at not one point, if he

767
00:56:39.440 --> 00:56:43.719
had a girlfriend. But no,
fuck that because he should have said respectfully,

768
00:56:43.760 --> 00:56:47.079
no, since I got a girlfriend, yes or no, yes or

769
00:56:47.119 --> 00:56:52.519
no. I feel like if he
does have it, if he is dating

770
00:56:52.559 --> 00:56:53.920
somebody, if it is a jasmine, if it is a top three,

771
00:56:54.039 --> 00:56:59.079
top one, you're taking real serious. When I said, could this ever

772
00:56:59.119 --> 00:57:00.440
be els? What I gotta do
to get there, you should have said,

773
00:57:00.760 --> 00:57:07.159
no, I'm seeing somebody that's respectful, which means he's a toxic one

774
00:57:07.159 --> 00:57:12.159
a game like I said, seven
seven, stop looking at nuts. I

775
00:57:12.199 --> 00:57:23.559
can hear you. Yeah, so
that's it. Uh. Trey Focus says,

776
00:57:24.000 --> 00:57:31.039
subconsciously, you said fuck that bitch. Big harv A O two three

777
00:57:31.039 --> 00:57:35.760
says yeah, a girlfriend will blocking
shot strife. The villain says, it

778
00:57:35.760 --> 00:57:40.960
ain't your business. True true.
King Cres says, what nigga gonna say

779
00:57:40.960 --> 00:57:45.960
that one who has respect? I
would hope, I would hope. King

780
00:57:45.000 --> 00:57:49.039
Stu says exactly, he definitely got
a girl. He just went through the

781
00:57:49.079 --> 00:57:52.239
door and left it open. Kamar
eighty two says, what did I miss?

782
00:57:52.280 --> 00:57:54.880
You gotta catch the whole show in
the morning. I'm not fucking I'm

783
00:57:54.920 --> 00:57:59.599
not going through all of it again. Dre B says, Nah, you

784
00:57:59.679 --> 00:58:06.119
can't hellosault trying to spend the block
out. Faz you'r. D Rop three

785
00:58:06.239 --> 00:58:12.840
one four says Draft Class twenty twenty
seven. It's saw you y'all don't love

786
00:58:12.920 --> 00:58:15.239
me? And I thought this was
the same space, but it's not.

787
00:58:15.159 --> 00:58:21.360
Y'all don't love me twenty twenty seven. One y'all see me pop up with

788
00:58:21.400 --> 00:58:27.800
this ring. Don't say nothing,
just fucking donate to the calls. LaBelle

789
00:58:27.840 --> 00:58:31.159
Short Junior says, but most men
have to ask if you are dating before

790
00:58:31.239 --> 00:58:35.559
they can ask if they can come
back. Isn't that kind of a double

791
00:58:35.599 --> 00:58:39.639
standard. It's not a double standard
because I said, can this be us?

792
00:58:40.039 --> 00:58:44.280
And if so, tell me how
if it can't, just say no,

793
00:58:44.360 --> 00:58:45.960
one can't be us. If you're
dating someone seriously say no, one

794
00:58:46.000 --> 00:58:51.440
can't be us like I don't think. Hmmm, big harv a' two three

795
00:58:51.440 --> 00:58:53.719
says you might have you might make
him lead the one he with and start

796
00:58:53.760 --> 00:58:59.239
a new relationship with you. I'm
gonna block you. I'm about the block

797
00:58:59.280 --> 00:59:00.280
you were going to the next question. We went to the next question cause

798
00:59:00.320 --> 00:59:04.360
y'all, I thought I thought this
was the same space, and every day

799
00:59:04.400 --> 00:59:10.320
you'll remind me it's not. So
the next one a short guy with money

800
00:59:12.039 --> 00:59:15.199
or tall guy with no personality?
And I'm gonna read it again, ladies.

801
00:59:15.199 --> 00:59:20.039
I don't know if a I don't
know if a lot of ladies in

802
00:59:20.079 --> 00:59:23.280
here. But my next question,
phyllis if you're in a live I'll ask

803
00:59:23.320 --> 00:59:29.159
you a question. Uh you know
a short girl? Well, I know

804
00:59:29.159 --> 00:59:30.480
that doesn't imply now I feel like
it's just a girl question. I'm sorry,

805
00:59:30.760 --> 00:59:37.119
sorry, So, short guy with
money or tall guy with personality?

806
00:59:37.639 --> 00:59:43.880
Hm? Hmmm, ladies, what
should think a short guy with money or

807
00:59:44.039 --> 00:59:47.400
tall guy with personality? Well,
spoiler alert, most tall guys don't have

808
00:59:47.480 --> 00:59:52.360
personality. Okay, hey, okay, no, no, no, hold

809
00:59:52.360 --> 00:59:54.079
on, hear me out though,
hear me out there, hear me hear

810
00:59:54.079 --> 00:59:57.480
me out hear me out, y'all
ain't never seen that video. When a

811
00:59:57.519 --> 01:00:00.039
girl be like, oh my god, what do you like to do?

812
01:00:00.239 --> 01:00:04.679
And it guy'll be like, I'm
six two. You'll never saw that video,

813
01:00:05.159 --> 01:00:07.480
and it gotta be like six feet
Oh my god, what do you

814
01:00:07.559 --> 01:00:12.400
like to do on the weekends?
Six two? Oh? Okay? Well

815
01:00:12.760 --> 01:00:15.800
do you like to play basketball?
I'm six two? Okay? What's your

816
01:00:15.840 --> 01:00:22.280
favorite food? Six too? Like
for some tall men, that is their

817
01:00:22.280 --> 01:00:25.280
personality. Being tall is their personality, like, oh my god, it's

818
01:00:25.400 --> 01:00:30.199
it's it's so nice outside. What
did you do today? Six too?

819
01:00:30.280 --> 01:00:35.880
Nigga? What what? Oh?
Okay, that's dope. What was your

820
01:00:35.880 --> 01:00:43.320
major in school? Six too?
What the fuck? Hello? Is this

821
01:00:43.320 --> 01:00:45.559
thing on? Like I don't I
don't know, I don't know if you

822
01:00:45.840 --> 01:00:50.280
fellas if you don't believe me,
asks a woman and she'll tell you.

823
01:00:50.400 --> 01:00:54.679
Some tall men, being tall is
their personality like that said, like,

824
01:00:54.679 --> 01:00:59.559
oh my god, you watch Frick
and Morty six too, nigga? What

825
01:00:59.679 --> 01:01:04.800
the is going on here? Okay? Like? How how? How?

826
01:01:05.519 --> 01:01:12.199
How? How long? Story short? The answer is neither for four hundred

827
01:01:12.239 --> 01:01:22.880
allots next one uh m hmm.
You can travel anywhere through time and space.

828
01:01:22.239 --> 01:01:28.199
So where would you go? Take
some time think about it at yourself.

829
01:01:29.079 --> 01:01:31.719
You can travel anywhere through time and
space, So where would you go?

830
01:01:32.840 --> 01:01:37.159
You know what's crazy? I would
want to go back in time,

831
01:01:37.280 --> 01:01:42.079
but all the places I want to
go got slavery, Like I just would

832
01:01:42.159 --> 01:01:45.519
have a good time. Like I
want to go back in time, but

833
01:01:45.239 --> 01:01:52.440
I wouldn't have fun because I'm black, y'all, God like yo, I

834
01:01:52.400 --> 01:01:55.800
want to go to the Sailing witch
Trials, but I fucking be on trial

835
01:01:55.840 --> 01:02:00.079
with Tabitha and shit, if you're
in the Sailing witch trous that makes it.

836
01:02:00.199 --> 01:02:00.960
If not, you have no what
idea And I'm like, w that's

837
01:02:01.199 --> 01:02:05.519
that's right, right, or like
I'm not gonna lie. I would want

838
01:02:05.519 --> 01:02:10.440
to go back to like Monticello,
Thomas Jefferson plantation. I want to see

839
01:02:10.440 --> 01:02:13.639
Sally Ymmon's like I want to see
if she really was a bad bitch.

840
01:02:13.679 --> 01:02:15.239
I want to see. I want
to see Aye. I want to see,

841
01:02:15.360 --> 01:02:21.480
But I can't go without ending up
as one of Sally Yumman's bad bitches

842
01:02:21.519 --> 01:02:23.800
working in the house. Uh.
It depends what type of here it is.

843
01:02:23.840 --> 01:02:25.639
If my tennis a little darker,
I might be in the field,

844
01:02:25.760 --> 01:02:31.719
you know, but in a way
like I i'd probably or maybe a breeder.

845
01:02:31.760 --> 01:02:35.519
I could be a breeder. I
would be I could be a breeder.

846
01:02:35.760 --> 01:02:37.280
Like, Okay, this is gonna
sound really fucked up, and I

847
01:02:37.280 --> 01:02:42.400
know it is. But I think
that during slavery, my hey seven,

848
01:02:42.920 --> 01:02:45.519
I think that during slavery, my
family was probably like wet nurses because we

849
01:02:45.480 --> 01:02:50.159
were all breastfeed for a really long
times, like literally I could produce breastmoke

850
01:02:50.280 --> 01:02:52.119
till my son was like eight.
I think we were all wet nurses.

851
01:02:52.320 --> 01:02:55.920
Like I shouldn't have grabbed my boobs
like that, Okay, yeah, or

852
01:02:57.079 --> 01:03:01.000
like I don't know, like all
the police I want to go, would

853
01:03:01.239 --> 01:03:05.559
it be sucked because I'm black?
Like or I want to go to Egypt

854
01:03:05.840 --> 01:03:07.039
like yo, yeah, niggas really
been in these feel man, it's like

855
01:03:07.039 --> 01:03:10.400
what's going on? Like I want
to see what's going on. But because

856
01:03:10.400 --> 01:03:14.559
I'm black, I would not have
a good time. I wouldn't because they

857
01:03:14.719 --> 01:03:16.639
like get your ass a line and
I'm like, oh, Pharaoh, like

858
01:03:16.719 --> 01:03:20.760
yeah bad join. So yeah,
I don't know. I don't think I

859
01:03:20.800 --> 01:03:22.159
would. I would want to,
but I wouldn't. I wouldn't for sure.

860
01:03:22.800 --> 01:03:28.320
Okay, So this next one is
a story and it's a little bit

861
01:03:28.360 --> 01:03:35.880
longer, but fellas, pay attention
because I really want to hear your input

862
01:03:35.960 --> 01:03:38.320
on what I'm about to say,
right because I feel like women have their

863
01:03:38.360 --> 01:03:43.280
own inputs, but men can sometimes
add an insight that I may not be

864
01:03:43.360 --> 01:03:47.199
privy to. So hear me,
hear me out, shut up Clinton?

865
01:03:50.920 --> 01:03:58.239
Okay, So it says, uh, thirty nine recently single mail, What

866
01:03:58.280 --> 01:04:03.440
the fuck let me start of?
It says thirty nine recently single male,

867
01:04:03.599 --> 01:04:08.760
two children, a good career and
a hallmarner. I'm in the process of

868
01:04:08.800 --> 01:04:13.199
attempting to date with a true purpose. I want a relationship to work and

869
01:04:13.239 --> 01:04:16.199
hopefully last. The issue I have
at the moment is that the mother of

870
01:04:16.239 --> 01:04:26.719
my children currently lives with me.
Things truly ended over a year ago,

871
01:04:27.000 --> 01:04:30.239
and there is a timetable slash set
date for her to move out the summer

872
01:04:30.280 --> 01:04:34.239
of twenty twenty four. The biggest
challenge I face is when dating, and

873
01:04:34.280 --> 01:04:39.119
I've explained this to women that I'm
very interested in and that they do not

874
01:04:39.159 --> 01:04:42.960
believe me, which I get.
The problem comes when I invite them over

875
01:04:43.559 --> 01:04:48.320
and see that her and I are
strictly co parenting. They ask her if

876
01:04:48.320 --> 01:04:53.119
we are really not together, and
she says yes and proceed to make friends

877
01:04:53.119 --> 01:04:56.480
with her, and she's so nice
and sweet they don't want to hurt her

878
01:04:56.480 --> 01:05:00.079
feelings. I feel as though I'm
being super transparent and honest with the added

879
01:05:00.119 --> 01:05:04.199
bonus of having the kid's mother confirmed. But I want my potential person to

880
01:05:04.239 --> 01:05:09.199
be comfortable with me and always,
but it bites me in the ass every

881
01:05:09.239 --> 01:05:13.880
time. Then I get friend zone
and waiting for the right person to come

882
01:05:13.920 --> 01:05:18.760
along and understand is tired a far
fetched narrative. I'm not the biggest fan

883
01:05:18.840 --> 01:05:23.480
of waiting until she leaves as well, because I like to have something established

884
01:05:23.480 --> 01:05:27.320
by that time. Help me,
how do I get past this without being

885
01:05:27.320 --> 01:05:30.760
a manipulative fuck boy? I want
to go on dates, be happy,

886
01:05:30.800 --> 01:05:44.480
and maybe live happily ever after signed
mister hollis romantic m How we feeling?

887
01:05:45.400 --> 01:05:47.639
Where reat with it? We're react
with it? Where we at with it?

888
01:05:47.719 --> 01:05:53.360
Y'all? If you're listening on audio
and watching on visual, please hit

889
01:05:53.400 --> 01:05:57.880
me up and tell me how y'all
feel about this situation. Flawless Buddy eighty

890
01:05:57.880 --> 01:06:03.360
seven said she gotta go now,
Okay, So I'm gonna say right off

891
01:06:03.400 --> 01:06:09.480
top first of all. Clint Coley
says, bro, you watch him.

892
01:06:09.480 --> 01:06:12.360
Probably you're lying, Chief, I'm
not gonna lie. He is watching.

893
01:06:12.519 --> 01:06:17.360
I saw him. I saw him. I saw his name Papa, so

894
01:06:17.519 --> 01:06:23.760
I know he is watching right right. I saw it. Kung Stu says,

895
01:06:24.039 --> 01:06:30.800
show her the door expeditiously, My
nigga, you're bugging. Why are

896
01:06:30.880 --> 01:06:33.559
y'all like this? Clever Corey says, wonder how he reacts if she brought

897
01:06:33.559 --> 01:06:41.199
a guy over. Ooh, ooh, this is getting Jill say d Rob

898
01:06:41.719 --> 01:06:46.159
three fourteen says, class of twenty
twenty four saw him? Why are y'all

899
01:06:46.199 --> 01:06:55.199
like this today? I she said, He said that she's leaving the King

900
01:06:55.320 --> 01:07:03.440
Chris said, show yourself. So
for the record, he said, she's

901
01:07:03.559 --> 01:07:08.199
leaving in the summer of twenty twenty
four, right now, if we're being

902
01:07:08.199 --> 01:07:10.519
honest, and this is a safe
space. But to be clear, y'all

903
01:07:10.519 --> 01:07:12.880
didn't make it seem like it was
a safe space earlier. But because I

904
01:07:12.920 --> 01:07:15.039
fuck with y'all and gonna keep moving
like it's a safe space. Right.

905
01:07:15.039 --> 01:07:19.880
So, when I was still living
with my child's baby father, with my

906
01:07:19.960 --> 01:07:27.119
child's father, I was openly dating
and like maybe a month before I moved

907
01:07:27.119 --> 01:07:30.599
out I had a boyfriend. Now, like I said this before I went

908
01:07:30.639 --> 01:07:35.719
to talk to the lady. So
my boyfriend didn't know I was living with

909
01:07:35.719 --> 01:08:00.360
my child's father. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. Wait

910
01:08:00.440 --> 01:08:09.800
wait, So I don't remember what
exactly I told him, right, but

911
01:08:10.679 --> 01:08:15.000
I do know that I told him
that my child's father was involved. And

912
01:08:15.159 --> 01:08:16.800
also, to be clear, it's
not the last boyfriend that we were talking

913
01:08:16.800 --> 01:08:19.560
about at the top of the episode. This is a different boyfriend, different

914
01:08:19.600 --> 01:08:24.560
boyfriend. But I know that I
told him that my child's father was involved.

915
01:08:25.199 --> 01:08:27.840
But yeah, like my man will
like pick me up from the house

916
01:08:28.680 --> 01:08:34.039
and like you know, drop me
off. And it was it was a

917
01:08:34.079 --> 01:08:38.479
bad jong. Wasn't the best storm. I'm not scared to say it.

918
01:08:38.560 --> 01:08:40.279
Fuck y'all, this is the safe
place. Like I said it was.

919
01:08:40.319 --> 01:08:44.119
I'm not scared to say it.
Whatever. Kung Stu says, you was

920
01:08:44.239 --> 01:08:48.399
wild and big storm, Big Storm
dog is crazy. King Crest says,

921
01:08:48.479 --> 01:08:54.840
yo, you ain't shit. Uh. Trey Focus says purest savagery right here.

922
01:08:55.560 --> 01:08:58.640
Uh. Jared mcgruth said, no, we just need a short film

923
01:08:58.720 --> 01:09:04.319
series now. King Crest says,
you ain't shit. Somebody to ask somebody

924
01:09:04.319 --> 01:09:08.520
and said, watch this, it's
funny. Thank you. I appreciate that

925
01:09:09.800 --> 01:09:13.640
Trey Focus has laughed my ass off. Oh this is too good, y'all.

926
01:09:13.640 --> 01:09:16.920
Come on, we have to be. We gotta be. This is

927
01:09:17.000 --> 01:09:21.279
safe space. Remember we're providing a
safe space. Like, yeah, I

928
01:09:21.399 --> 01:09:24.560
rob at on one says, yeah, you was playing a dangerous game.

929
01:09:24.760 --> 01:09:28.479
Now here's my whole thing, right, Not to take away from this man's

930
01:09:28.439 --> 01:09:32.199
story, Me and my child's father
word broke up. Like we weren't sleeping

931
01:09:32.199 --> 01:09:38.520
together. We weren't, you know, working on our relationship, like we

932
01:09:38.520 --> 01:09:41.920
were going about our business, like
we acknowledged that this was a dub.

933
01:09:42.119 --> 01:09:48.840
Like so me dating someone else wasn't, you know, unheard of. I'm

934
01:09:48.840 --> 01:09:53.720
sure he was dating other people too. Uh, you know, keep it

935
01:09:53.760 --> 01:09:56.000
cute, don't bring it back to
the house. I never brought it in

936
01:09:56.039 --> 01:09:59.520
the house. But I remember when
my boyfriend at the town went to go

937
01:09:59.560 --> 01:10:04.319
like look at a apartments for me. And when I moved out, I

938
01:10:04.359 --> 01:10:08.760
asked my baby if father to help
me. He was so mad, he

939
01:10:08.920 --> 01:10:12.479
like punched a hole in the wall. He's a good man, Savannah,

940
01:10:12.600 --> 01:10:14.560
I know he was a good man. I fucked up. I don't know

941
01:10:14.560 --> 01:10:16.520
that was wrong. I'm acknowledging that
it is wrong. I'm taking account of

942
01:10:16.520 --> 01:10:19.119
belief for that was wrong. But
back to this being here, right,

943
01:10:21.680 --> 01:10:26.920
the way women work is not the
way that men work. Right. So

944
01:10:27.079 --> 01:10:31.439
first I want to say I commend
you for letting the women know that you

945
01:10:31.520 --> 01:10:35.720
know your child's parent, your co
parent, is still living in the house,

946
01:10:35.760 --> 01:10:40.560
because I would have told him that
was fucking nanny. I would told

947
01:10:40.600 --> 01:10:43.199
him I get money and that's a
living nanny. But I love this for

948
01:10:43.279 --> 01:10:45.520
you. I love that you're being
mature. I love your being an adult.

949
01:10:45.720 --> 01:10:48.000
Okay, I see you in alive
here. I love your being an

950
01:10:48.000 --> 01:10:56.239
adult. Right. I also want
to say so sometimes women will make up

951
01:10:56.279 --> 01:11:00.239
stories in their head that they believe. Right, So you guess, say

952
01:11:00.359 --> 01:11:03.680
you and your child's mother aren't together
and y'all not sleeping together, and she

953
01:11:03.720 --> 01:11:08.359
will come in and she will smile
in your child's mother face and have great

954
01:11:08.399 --> 01:11:12.439
conversations and be fine and go home
and get in that group chat and tell

955
01:11:12.479 --> 01:11:15.560
everyone how you think she is stupid
bitch because you're still fucking your baby mom.

956
01:11:15.960 --> 01:11:18.640
Okay, like we will project that
onto you, We absolutely will.

957
01:11:19.119 --> 01:11:24.359
I'm not gonna lie. I think
that there might be an issue of boundaries

958
01:11:24.399 --> 01:11:27.920
here, Like if she comes over
and you're telling her y'all not together,

959
01:11:28.359 --> 01:11:32.439
but y'all watching movies in the living
room with your baby mom, or like

960
01:11:32.960 --> 01:11:36.880
y'all in the kitchen having a conversation
and your baby mom just walks through with

961
01:11:36.920 --> 01:11:41.199
some booty shorts on. It's like, what are we doing here? Not

962
01:11:41.239 --> 01:11:43.800
even with the booty shorts on,
and your baby mom just walks through the

963
01:11:43.880 --> 01:11:45.359
kitchen period, Like Ah, I
know you live here and you have a

964
01:11:45.439 --> 01:11:49.039
right to be comfortable too, but
sometimes you gotta treat her like a dog

965
01:11:49.119 --> 01:11:51.960
and put her up when you got
company. My nigga, Like, no,

966
01:11:51.960 --> 01:11:56.760
no disrespect, no disrespect. I'm
not calling your baby mom a bitch,

967
01:11:56.800 --> 01:11:59.640
a dog, no, none of
that. I'm just saying, like,

968
01:12:00.079 --> 01:12:05.680
you have to create these boundaries in
order to make your new potential partner

969
01:12:05.720 --> 01:12:11.239
feel safe, Like she has to
believe she don't even have access to you

970
01:12:11.279 --> 01:12:15.000
in the way that she actually does
because she lives with you. I'm also

971
01:12:15.079 --> 01:12:17.680
not against just waiting til the class
of twenty twenty four, like they say

972
01:12:17.680 --> 01:12:21.560
it in Alive, But that's just
me. If y'all got any uh advice

973
01:12:21.640 --> 01:12:24.560
for my man, please type it
in. I'm about to read in a

974
01:12:24.560 --> 01:12:28.439
few as soon as I finish getting
this off my chest. Yeah cause,

975
01:12:28.439 --> 01:12:33.079
I cause I know you're here alright, Yeah man, I don't know shod

976
01:12:33.159 --> 01:12:38.560
do you have anything? No,
I don't think it's impossible. And this

977
01:12:38.600 --> 01:12:41.800
is coming from somebody who's done it. I don't think it's impossible. That

978
01:12:41.920 --> 01:12:45.640
might be a little bit biased,
but I don't think it's impossible. But

979
01:12:45.680 --> 01:12:47.760
that's not fair to tell me as
to set out a season because of somebody

980
01:12:47.760 --> 01:12:51.840
else, because he chooses to be
a good person. I'm not gonna lie.

981
01:12:53.000 --> 01:12:56.640
I don't know what your work schedule
is, but is there a realm

982
01:12:56.640 --> 01:13:00.000
in which you can just take full
custody of your children and tell your maybe

983
01:13:00.000 --> 01:13:01.640
mom to go live in a shelter
or something? I don't know, I

984
01:13:01.640 --> 01:13:04.000
don't know, maybe not a shelter, Maybe not a shelter, Maybe not

985
01:13:04.039 --> 01:13:06.720
a shelter. Why she can't go
stay with her mom? Her mom's still

986
01:13:06.760 --> 01:13:12.439
alive, Her mom's still alive,
Like it's nobody else she can stay with?

987
01:13:13.319 --> 01:13:16.399
And then I know y'all were recently
broken up, but were y'all recently

988
01:13:16.439 --> 01:13:20.800
divorced? Like where y'all divorced,
like, what was the what was the

989
01:13:21.000 --> 01:13:26.159
you know, severity of y'all relationship? I know you can't answer. Damn

990
01:13:26.159 --> 01:13:28.399
sit, everybody gonna see it.
Okay, well you know what, it

991
01:13:28.399 --> 01:13:32.720
don't matter. It don't matter.
Let's go back to the live. I

992
01:13:32.880 --> 01:13:36.000
rob Ada one says, you a
homeboy to take a year off, Ain't

993
01:13:36.000 --> 01:13:40.800
no way. Nia Maya says,
my man just might as well wait till

994
01:13:40.840 --> 01:13:43.279
she slide out. Ain't no way, y'all say, it ain't no way,

995
01:13:43.319 --> 01:13:45.960
it's crazy. Kung Stu said,
it's a season. It ain't forever.

996
01:13:46.319 --> 01:13:51.039
Get that ironed out and come back
outside. Kung Stu says, just

997
01:13:51.079 --> 01:13:56.119
be actually single, bro, it
ain't that scary. King Crust says,

998
01:13:56.199 --> 01:13:59.680
i'm'a be very honest. If my
being was living with me, I probably

999
01:13:59.680 --> 01:14:02.680
still hitting from time to time,
So I can understand someone not believe in

1000
01:14:02.680 --> 01:14:09.880
that. Lavelle Short Junior says that's
why it's just safer for all parties involved

1001
01:14:09.880 --> 01:14:14.920
to just wait it out for God. Kruflow dot KK says, put that

1002
01:14:15.000 --> 01:14:19.760
bitch in the doghouse. What is
wrong? Jarreed McGrath says, yeah,

1003
01:14:19.840 --> 01:14:24.479
the lady definitely earning her check with
some of these stories. Yo, come

1004
01:14:24.520 --> 01:14:27.319
on, y'all, don't don't be
like that. I thought it was in

1005
01:14:27.319 --> 01:14:30.239
a safe space. Conk Stu says
the fact he said he wants something before

1006
01:14:30.279 --> 01:14:35.159
she leaves, the crazy part de
rop through and four says she ruined it

1007
01:14:35.199 --> 01:14:39.560
for you, fam, she gotta
get out on date night. Uh.

1008
01:14:39.840 --> 01:14:45.199
None of these definitely, so I've
been missing this. None of these.

1009
01:14:46.199 --> 01:14:49.439
Just you have a really long SCREENA
and I can't read that. I'm sorry,

1010
01:14:49.600 --> 01:14:54.079
I'm sorry, I love you.
I'm sorry. Clever Corey says they

1011
01:14:54.119 --> 01:14:59.960
probably cook for each other too.
YEA long story short. I don't know.

1012
01:15:00.239 --> 01:15:03.279
And then, ladies, would you
be mad if a man didn't tell

1013
01:15:03.319 --> 01:15:08.840
you those things? But I feel
like right now it is November? Right

1014
01:15:09.800 --> 01:15:13.560
she getting off the summer A twenty
twenty four. Technically you can court a

1015
01:15:13.600 --> 01:15:16.840
woman properly and not automatically invite her
back to your house, and if you

1016
01:15:16.840 --> 01:15:20.119
do, make sure you clean up
and put your girl your baby mom away

1017
01:15:20.439 --> 01:15:24.000
when your girl come over or when
the shit you dating, when the chick

1018
01:15:24.039 --> 01:15:28.880
you dating come over. I don't
know. I just think you need to

1019
01:15:28.920 --> 01:15:32.239
create better boundaries, because I'm all
for having a conversation of here's what baby

1020
01:15:32.239 --> 01:15:35.199
mom. She could tell you we're
not really fucking no more, okay cool,

1021
01:15:35.199 --> 01:15:41.960
and then she need to go on
her room. Yeah it's kind.

1022
01:15:43.199 --> 01:15:45.359
Yeah yeah, they don't need to
be friends. That that's another thing like

1023
01:15:45.439 --> 01:15:51.119
I I you said here, like
yeah you s you you say here?

1024
01:15:51.159 --> 01:15:54.920
Like they asks her if we really
not together? She says yes, and

1025
01:15:54.960 --> 01:15:58.319
then proceed to make friends that don't
need to take place. If you feel

1026
01:15:58.319 --> 01:16:00.000
like a conversation is necessary because you've
feeling her enough to be like, yo,

1027
01:16:00.079 --> 01:16:01.680
you wanta sen to my baby mom? Need to tell her we're not

1028
01:16:01.680 --> 01:16:04.800
really fucking cool. She can get
a vibe at how y'all body language and

1029
01:16:04.800 --> 01:16:09.239
interactions are fine that she takes her
ass back in that room. She don't

1030
01:16:09.279 --> 01:16:11.720
need to come out or come in
y'all room, asks if y'all want something

1031
01:16:11.760 --> 01:16:15.279
to eat, make no food,
nom nothing nothing. You have to create

1032
01:16:15.319 --> 01:16:19.000
that clear boundary to make that woman
feel safe. Let's go to the live

1033
01:16:19.079 --> 01:16:25.119
one more time, King crest Man
man, I bem trying to come stay

1034
01:16:25.159 --> 01:16:29.840
with me right now, and she
has lost all fragments of her mind thinking

1035
01:16:30.399 --> 01:16:33.760
that's the thing I rob at on
one says, But it's not just her

1036
01:16:33.840 --> 01:16:36.720
that's gotta go in the room.
There's a kid there too. That's why

1037
01:16:39.560 --> 01:16:43.880
uh Jax Anthony says he can get
her a shit in the backyard. She

1038
01:16:43.880 --> 01:16:47.439
can sleep it, okay, now, oh Waler, all right, Oh,

1039
01:16:47.479 --> 01:16:49.319
I definitely gotta make this shit a
clip. I can't wait to hear

1040
01:16:49.319 --> 01:16:54.319
what y'all are saying. So listen, man. We talked about a lot

1041
01:16:54.319 --> 01:16:59.399
of good things this week. Long
story short lucky day made me text my

1042
01:16:59.439 --> 01:17:06.520
ex and it didn't go well.
Basically from Beta black a love story and

1043
01:17:06.880 --> 01:17:11.439
I know my husband random transitions.
We're gonna run through things real fast.

1044
01:17:11.560 --> 01:17:14.439
I know my husband is on the
way because I went out on a solo

1045
01:17:14.600 --> 01:17:16.880
date and I had a lot of
peace afterwards. You know, niggas love

1046
01:17:16.960 --> 01:17:20.239
to fuck up your peace, so
I assume that means my man is on

1047
01:17:20.359 --> 01:17:25.880
the way. Stop asking yourself.
Do men still or do women still?

1048
01:17:26.039 --> 01:17:30.560
Yes? They do. That person
just doesn't like you. We talked about

1049
01:17:30.800 --> 01:17:33.840
good guys are not of five guys. They finished last because they're going after

1050
01:17:33.920 --> 01:17:40.239
women who don't have the same values
as them. If you have not been

1051
01:17:40.279 --> 01:17:43.720
talking to me for six plus months, yes, you do have to re

1052
01:17:43.880 --> 01:17:48.199
audition for the pussy you do not
get grandfather in a short guy with money

1053
01:17:48.279 --> 01:17:53.119
or a tall guy with personality.
Trick question. There are very few tall

1054
01:17:53.159 --> 01:18:00.640
guys with personalities. And yeah,
we gave someone advice on a man who

1055
01:18:00.720 --> 01:18:04.479
was living with his baby mom and
Danny isn't going well because of him living

1056
01:18:04.520 --> 01:18:08.319
with his baby mom. My advice
was basically, you need to step better

1057
01:18:08.359 --> 01:18:12.000
brown Trees and yeah, or just
sit out a season and try again.

1058
01:18:12.039 --> 01:18:15.039
Summer's only twenty four when she moves
out. I had so much fun with

1059
01:18:15.119 --> 01:18:19.640
you today. Follow me on a
gram at Stormy p p ea at chocolate

1060
01:18:19.680 --> 01:18:24.960
Chip and said, and if you
don't remember anything else, please remember if

1061
01:18:25.000 --> 01:18:27.680
you listen to a lucky Day,
that's you. Be prepared to text your

1062
01:18:27.880 --> 01:18:29.840
X I love you guys on I
see you next week. Peace