Woo. What's up, beautiful people? Is your baby mama favorite baby Mama
story? P And this is another episode of Chocolate Chip and Zip the modern
day female perspective. Damn Son, back at it again, back at it
again. Okay, listen. So first I just wanted to tell you this
real funny story about what happened on Halloween. So I did end up dressing
up oddly enough going out whatever. But the story one to tell y'all is,
y'all bitch just like my son. I know, I know, I
know, I didn't know we were there yet, but like girls like my
son. And it's important to say girls like my son because he's not into
girls or boys yet. And I say that because you know, I'm politically
correct. He has spaces to be who he wants to be. But my
son is eleven, and we got trigger treating because you know, he's very
sheltered. He still plays with toys. We've talked about this before whatever.
So we go out trigger treating and and it's like three little white girls because
we go to your retreating in my neighborhood because they got the best candy did.
So, like he's walking up the pathway and three little white girls are
walking down and the one in the middle stops and goes, ooh right,
So now they all start gigging, like hey, right, this nigga zooms
by them, and Russia is up the steps to get candy because you know,
he got his mind on right, that's what we're focusing on this tunnel
vision out here. Baby. But yeah, it stressed me out because they
were like giggling, and I vividly remember giggling with my girlfriends about boys like
around that age. And they looked a little bit older than him too.
They look like fourteen, So I'm like, but y'all know he tall,
So I was just like, ugh, I just couldn't believe that girls like
my son. That's weird to me. It's a lot to stick in.
So if anybody needs me, I'll be crying in the car. I'll be
stressing about that for a bit. But the story I really want to tell
y'all this week, y'all, I'm about to get real vulnerable. I need
y'all to make sure this is a safe space because I'm about to tell y'all
how I play myself. Right. Long story short, lucky day made me
text my ex. Okay, Lucky Day made me text my ex. Okay,
So Lucky Day came out with the song this past week. It's called
That's You. It's co written by Bruno Mars and a bunch of other phenomenal
people, and it was amazing. Melody is on point, lyrics on point.
It had me in my fields, y'all. So basically the song is
about him saying, like, you know, he got everything you want in
the world right now except for his ex, except for the girl. Right,
So I ain't gonna lie did you drop them? Like? Y'all not
making it up noise about this fucking song, right, y'all. I'm embarrassed.
I'm embarrassed. I'm embarrassed because, like you know, I'm a thug.
Right, long story short, was like really kidding me? Right?
My man said it was just one part. He's like, I've been buying
up the world just to make it feel like a home. But I've been
numb, so numb, spending every dime, nigga everything I want, but
there's only one thing missing in life, and it's you. Right. I
know, good good, I know, I know I know. But then
he'd be like yo, like and I can't stop reminiscing when we were reliving
the moment when you are men fooling me, and some of mine said,
text that nigga, and that's when things went left. Okay. That's that,
right there is when things went left. Okay. So long story short,
Lucky Day made me text my ex. Okay. So for those of
you who don't know, I've been single for about like three years now,
like right before the pandemic, like three or four years. Right. So,
and this person who I was in a relationship with, we had put
some time in, we had known each other for a long time. We
was living together. My son was putting this nigga name on his school work,
like this nigga carried my grandfather's casket at his funeral. We went rain
shopping like I knew. I knew we were gonna be together forever. Like
that's him. I found him, right. But this was before I want
to go talk to the lady, okay. And that's really where the problems
came in at because when I say this is before I want to go talk
to the lady, I was still toxic a shit, y'all. Now,
this is not me saying that he didn't do anything wrong. In this situation
and that I fucked everything up. It was some shit he could have changed
too. But were talking about accountability. We just told about me right now,
Okay. So I may or may not him been a little bit talks
together time. Right. I may have told him that I wanted to break
up, but I then got angry when he packed a shit up and left
to sec toxic. Okay, but this is growth, this is accountability.
This is me saying I'm toxic. Right. Long story short, Let's get
back to the present. Let's get back to a lucky day making me text
my goddamn X. Right. So I'm on to eat with my son and
I'm like, Yo, I gotta tell this ni i' want my family back.
I gotta tell this nigga. I gotta tell this nigga, I want
my family back. Right. So I texted him. I'm like, hey,
can I ask you a quock question? He responds right away, Yeah,
short, what's up? Now? Here's the part that be getting me
every time I text this man or every time I send him something on Instagram
he responds right away, right, So be supporting my delusion, y'all.
So text him like, hey, can ask a cook? Question. He
says, yeah, Hey, what's up right? Y'all went off so bad?
I went off so bad. I went off so bad. I sent
him a picture of Nelly and Ashanti saying can this ever be us or no?
I sent him a picture. I sent him a picture a Nelly and
a shanty smelling air of the air, like, Yo, can this ever
be us or no? And? If so, what I gotta do to
get us there? Oh? I'm so bad. I went out so bad,
y'all. The doug and me just died. Yo, Yo, y'all,
don't talk about me on a live y'all. Don't do that. Don't
do that, don't do that, don't do that. And Trey Focus says,
come on man, yo, mister Nursey Jo says yo. Young ste
says you're still in love and it's okay girl yo. Nine seven Vultures says
he must be cuffed, right, mister, give your fitness and a bunch
of laughing emojis. Eighty says that was thorough fucking Aaron Nash says you shot
from half court so Calm Bark says that was cute. King Stu says life
too short to be thugging through his feelings be clever. Corey says, Nelly
and a Shanty got people wanted to spend the block. Come on, it's
not just Nelly in a Shanti, it's Birdman and Tony Braxton, Summer Walker
and Meach. That's not really good on We're gonna take I'm not there actually,
but does it spend a block season? Lucky Day released this song Nelly
in a Shanty on the Internet, smiling ear to ear, y'all, I
gotta I gotta shoot my shot right, I'm not gonna lie Lucky Day.
Lucky Days so fucking toxic Loki because he makes music for bitches who are in
this fucking situation right here, like this new song over Deserve, Like he
got a bunch of songs that make you want to text your eggs. He
got a bunch of songs that make you want to shoot. Lucky Day got
a bunch of songs that make you want to shoot. Okay, all right,
y'all listen. So I sent him the text, I send him the
picture Nelly and a shaky I'm like, Yo, can this ever be us?
And if so, what I gotta do to get us there? Did
y'all hear that? Part. Did y'all hear that part? What I gotta
do to get us there? Come on accountability? Like, hey, I
know that I'm not even the one who sucked all this up. Really,
Sean said that was a nigga line. That's a nigga line. That's a
nigga line. King Steve says, spinning the block after therapy and healing,
hit different. Thank you, hey ft Denny Love from Trinidad and Tobago.
Hey hey hey. Leo Fleck says Curry short time. Text says nigga,
I for sure, what's up Troy? All right, y'all? So I
send a text right this nigga. This had to be the longest two minutes
of my life. This had to be the longest two minutes of my life.
He sends back. I'm crying. How long did they wait? Ask
me again? In seven years, y'all? It says, I think they
went at ten. Right now, I'm human. Smoke is coming out of
my ears right because now this nigga trying to play with me. Now you're
trying to play with me. You ain't gonna get my time served, bro,
You ain't gonna get my time served. You gonna tell me I gotta
wait ten years. You're not gonna give me my time served my cheek,
right, Like, y'all, I'm not even gonna parole out here. I
gotta start my bid all the way back over. What the fuck? So
I'm like, yes, it was ten years, but I really put my
four years in. I want my time served, nigga. Right, So
this is now the longest five minutes in my life. He says, you
got at least four more bucco, yo, yo, yo yo, you
gotta The bucko is really with Sydney. The bucko is with Sydney. Right,
So I'm like, all right, man, it's a bunch of laugh
any moodies it here. So I'm like, all right, man, listen
on a serious tip. I'm like, on a serious tip. I just
realized you've never given me a clear no, and for whatever reason, my
hopeless romantic ass just be holding on, like fighting a good fight. So
like, what's up? This nigga says, I'll see you in twenty twenty
seven, mamas, bit a fuck the fuck? This nigga says, I'll
see you in twenty twenty seven, Mamas? Why are you playing with me?
Why are you playing with me? You know, I got a gun,
right, and I'm just OK. So I put that shit, y'all,
y'all, y'all. Right, So now this, some of you might
think I went out bad before, But this right here, this is where
I went out bad. This next thing right here, this is when I
went out bad. Right. This is where I crashed and burned. This
is where I crashed and burned. This is where I crashed and burned.
I sent him a screenshot of a text he sent me while we were still
together. I sent him a screenshot of a text he sent me while we
still was together, and it says, y'all from fuck No, this from
actually twenty eighteen. We broke up in twenty nineteen, but we were together
before this. So this is a text from twenty eighteen, still in my
phone right. It says, this is what he said to me. This
is what he said to me, y'all. This is what he said to
me. He said, I love you wholeheartedly and genuinely. We've been around
each other for almost a year, and I've never once wanted to be anywhere
but by your side. You're an incredible baby. Now where's my fucking son,
where's my fucking son, That's what he said to me. Right.
So I sit on the screenshot and I'm like, Yo, this could be
you. But you want to wait till twenty twenty seven? Fine, fuck
you. I'm in the middle finger emoji. Now I'm crashing. I'm crashing
and burning calling MS. It's going down. It's going bad, y'all,
y'all. This nigga responds, I'm so proud of you and your growth.
Y'all, y'all. Let me hopping alive and see what y'all got to say.
All right, Trey Focus says, lol, damn it man, all
right, strive. The villain says, not you sent the but you told
me you loved me. I did. I did. You said you wanted
to get married. You said you wanted me to take out in shuttle ballacy
on you. You said I did. I said that, you said I
did? I did? Right? So dark Man seventeen says, I would
let you spend the block on me. Honey, see tell that nigga.
Uh strength, The villain says, Oh, you was down and out real
bad. I thought this was a safe space. I thought this was me
being safe and transparent. Clever Corey said, you still have receipts. You
know what's crazy, y'all. And this is why I think that this whole
situation we playing tricks from my mind. I deleted all this nigga pictures,
I deleted this nigga number. I deleted everything, and for whatever reason,
they keep popping back up in my phone. Like I went to my albums,
clicked on his space and deleted everything fucking in there, and then like
six months later I went back and still was there. This is not the
universe giving me claric. This is the universe player on my fucking mind,
making me think I need to go talk to the lady again. Like what
the fuck? Striped Villain says it is not a safe space. I am
rolling yo yo yo. Trey Focus says, loo oh, this was supposed
to be a safe space. Sorry, I'm new here, y'all. Don't
gotta do me like that. Okay, so now let's discuss. Okay,
long story short. Fuck Lucky day, Okay, Lucky day. If you're
watching this, send me some free merch, a T shirt, give me
some free tickets to a fucking album release party, a concert or something.
Because you have caused me emotional damage. You have caused me stress, Okay,
you have added to my delusion, and yeah, that's the first thing.
Second thing, I think the part that was like so confusing for me
is because after this we went on texting for another like day and a half,
and it wasn't all this like diluted open ended questions. Like at some
points he was very clearly like, yo, ha, this is funny.
This is how it used to be. I'm like, yo, can I
get some hoodies? He says, yes, what are you willing to trade
for it? Like we're having conversations, we're flirting to a sense. So
I'm not like completely in la la land and out here by myself. I
know that, right, But I do want to say when I get in
situations with this man in particular, it's hard because I be fighting myself,
right because it be the girl who still loves him, and then it be
me as a healed individual, and nimbitches be in there, like if you
book, like they be fighting hardest fuck right, And I'm gonna tell you
why at the end of the day, Like, yeah, we're gonna have
a few lasts, were gonna tell a few cool stories, but at the
end of the day, that's docksic all right, because if I asked you
clearly, hey, I just wanted to know where you're still interested or not
and you're not adult enough to say no, or you're not adult enough to
say yes. But I don't feel safe enough to continue with you. This
is what I need from you. This is where I am in life,
This is what I have going on, This is what I'm talking to.
Fuck that nigga, like respectfully, fuck that nigga, right, And I
know that I know that the healed me knows that right. And this is
where the fight comes in because the girl who's still in love with him is
like, okay, bitch, but he didn't say no, okay, hold
on go wait wait wait wait, wait, wait wait wait holada wait wait
wait, let me dip that real fast. But he didn't say no.
He didn't say no, okay, hold on. But remember when he laughed
at our joke and made his own jokes. Oh, but remember when he
didn't say stop fucking texting me? Remember when he liked But he's still texting
us for like two days in a row after this, So like, bitch,
be almost there. And these two, these two, these two,
they with my ass they be with my whole ass. But in all actuality,
I just would like to circle back to say, at the end of
the day, if you asks a person for clarity and they do not provide
clarity, that is your answer. It's a no. It's a fucking no.
It's always gonna be a no. And don't let them tell you anything
different. And the crazy part is, I know that sucks. I know
it's hard when you still love somebody or you still have feelings for somebody and
don't let you like fucking went to therapy and worked on yourself and you actually
can visibly see the difference, and people can tell you that they see the
difference, because in my mind, a part of me is like, Yo,
if our relationship was that good and I was a toxic ass individual,
imagine what it can be like when we're better. If I'm better, Imagine
what it can be like if I'm better. Oh my god, we're taking
the world over. It's a done, it's a rap. But in all
actuality, that's not real. That's not real because the illusions and the love
that you have for this person are never going to be obtainable again because you're
not that person anymore. And guess what, neither is your partner. I'm
not that person and he's not that person anymore. So for all this,
I want to say, just like y'all know, tis the season to spend
the block, and y'all not out here by yourself. Okay, Lucky Day
had me texting my ex too, all right, and and listen, if
you fucked up and you sent your ex attacks or you called your ex,
or you did some down bad shit, I want you to know you're welcome
over here. Okay, sliding my dms, tell me your stories, tell
me what happened this this, this is a safe space, so let's let's
haul it alive. OC two tactical says he may have been trying to protect
you from the truth of how he feels because he's because he still cares about
you. May not be loved, but reno minutes of friendship may be there.
I disagree, because if you were actually my friend, you would know
how I feel about you, so you would be adult enough to say,
hey, thanks for reaching out. I really enjoyed the time we spent together.
For the space I am in my life, I don't see that happening
because guess what when niggas hit me up trying to spend the block. Guess
what I say, Hey, thanks for reaching out. I hope you're and
your family is doing well. Unfortunately I don't share those feelings. I wish
you the best luck on your journey. It's all love, no beef.
If you ever need anything, I'm here for you. It's that simple.
It's a part of being a fucking adult, like, and I feel like
we need to pay attention to that's a little bit fucking toxic in itself,
Like, you don't want to lose access to me, so you don't straight
up tell me now, or you're telling me you don't want to hurt my
feelings. But in all actuality, if you tell me no, you know
what's a fucking dub And I'm never gonna say anything to you again. That's
selfish, y'all. Don't think that's selfish a little bit. You don't think
like that's selfish a little bit. And even if that's I'm not saying that's
the case here. That's not what I'm saying. But what I am saying
is it costs zero dollars to keep it real. It costs zero dollars to
spare someone's feelings and I understand what you're saying that very well, ca and
be sure when he's like, yo, I just I fuck with you,
so don't wan't hurt your feelings. But you think you leading me on is
not hurting my feelings. You think you're not straight up telling me no is
not? Like I'm like, oh yeah, like great great, Like what
if I had nothing to work with myself and I was sitting here, What
if I started a fucking calendar to count down until twenty twenty seven, because
that's what he said, He said he'll send me in twenty twenty seven,
remember, Like, what if I really started? But here's the thing.
There are women and there are men, and there are people out here who
are so delusional they will take that and save it and hold on to it.
And that's how you get stalkers. That's how you get people who are
obsessed. That's how you get people who are fucking deranged. When it all
letchu oley, it takes two seconds to say, hey, I respect you
when I care about you. But it's a no, It's a fucking no.
You know what I mean? Trait focus said, I'll slide on your
DMS in the Field Ah, y'all get on my nerves. Hold on,
let me slide out some um. Clever Corey says, yeah, that's selfish.
Good point comes. Dude says, sounds like you need to listen to
the stormy in your head. Bend their homegirl, Rollo Legacy says, oof,
heavy shit in here. Jelovi as Jay says, spinning the block with
a spear tire, Shut the fuck up. Trey Focus says that's a great
response. Aaron Now says, law abiding citizen stuff exactly. Chef Lots of
Dell says, man, I can't hear anything you're saying because I'm meseris.
Bye, beauty, Thank you, sweetie, thank you. Trey Focus says,
facts, fact, straightforward, mature, respectful communication is the hot,
healthiest approach. Well, thank you guys, thanks for providing a safe space.
Long story short, Like I said, if you ask somebody for clarity
and they don't give it to you, take that as the clarity. Move
the fuck on. And I know it's hard, and I know the delusions
that you have within your head are one place, but I'm telling you you
need to be another. And yeah, learn from my lessons and don't let
lucky. They make you spend a block all that aside on a high note,
on the plus side, on a good note, right, y'all,
And my husband is on the way. And I know y'all like, well,
hold on, bitch, how we how did we get here? Like?
Yeah, first you tell us about from bay to block. Yes,
it's a love story. But now I'm telling you about my next one.
Right. I know I feel it in my chest, in my heart.
Right, I know my husband is on the way because I'm finally at a
point where I'm cool being by myself, like I'm at peace being by myself.
I know my future husband is on the way because I'm at peace being
by myself. And niggas love to fuck up your peace, okay they do
and till so yeah, So long story short. I went out for a
solo date this past week and usually after my seven you good, don't come
over here, okay, come on, come on, come on, come
say hi to the people, come on, come on up, Paul,
Well, then get out. If you're not gonna play, get out.
See see niggas love disturbing your peace. Just like you said, niggas love
disturbing your peace. Striven, move get your big ass go yo, seven
yo, let's go. Yes, okay, baby here here Okay, why
you do that? Okay, now go see now he leaving, Go ahead,
let's go. Come on, seven out niggas love disturbing your piece Like
I said, so I just be my point or whatever? What was I
talking about? Okay? Yeah, anyway, So here's what happened. I
go off to eat this past week on one of my solo dates. Right
now, usually after my solo dates, I've been feeling what a fucking waste
of liquor? Right I'm going home all sauceduff. Okay, I didn't preheat
the oven for nothing. I preheate the oven for nothing. Okay. I
go home and I be all sad, and I'm thinking to myself like,
oh my god, so waste the liquor and uh And now you know,
it's fucking holiday season. Depression is real, all right. So like now
it's like really a time where I'm like, oh my god, oh what
is me? All right? So I go out to eat this particular time.
I'm fine, Like I'm walking to my fucking car and shit like a
member of the Lollipop gang, and I'm good, like I'm having a good
time. Like I was like, oh my god, oysters were good.
I'm so happy. Andrew was at the barn and this is one bar I
go to a happy hour all the time. And this guy named Andrew.
He be on an ox court and he's white but has a chef's kiss taste
of music, like amazing, right, So I was like, oh my
god, so happy Andrew was there. He played some of my you know,
favorite gems. He played Sam Cook, he played ericap. I do
like it's variety and it's a vibe. So I'm like, yo, I'm
having a really good time. And I was like, damn, this is
cool. This is cool. Seven, stop blacking your nuts. And I
want to say, like, why not be having these conversations? When have
you having these conversations? Right? And I'm like talking about being single.
I don't like how y'all always think just because a woman is single, it's
because you know, she can't get a man. Like, for the record,
if it wanted a man, I can make a phone call right now
and be in a relationship. That's that's that's not that's easy. But I
think it's important. And I commend all the women, right, I commend
all the women who are standing on business and saying like, Yo, this
is what I required in a relationship, and I don't mind being single until
I get it, and I feel like you should too, like and at
the end of the day, most of y'all who'll be commenting and saying little
shit like that, if I gave you a chance, you drink my bad
order. So then suck a deck, sucker dick, sucker dck. And
I know you do it because I see what y'all be putting in my DMS.
So sucker dack sublates like please you know, huh huh huh. So
yeah, ma'am. Long story short, shout out to all the women and
men who are maintained in the brown streets, standing on business and long story
short, I got a ball out this year because next year I'm getting engaged
in having a baby. So yeah, that's it. That's it. That
was my story. And yeah, Key to the City says, pause,
we think you want to be single to feel empowered. Ew, that's not
it at all. The buck Rod the King says, what bar be playing
that Neil soul sound like a vibe. I don't want to tell you because
I I wanta try to blow my spot up. But I can say go
go go down, like Shot said, No, don't tell y'all. Shot,
you don't even know where I be going. Oh yeah, shoe,
the Negroes haven't found it yet, so I I really, Shot said,
I can't tell Shot, you're not even on a mic. I don't care.
Oh my god, Yo, it's crazy. Everybody's like, what bar
is it? Alright, We're gonna go to the next topic. Crazy,
he said. He says it was a joke, but take your time.
It's ugly out there. I know, I know. Oh, C two
tactical says, I agree, don't say clever. Corey says, is he
d one? Baby? Official? Oh my few your husband? Yeah,
like my future husband. Let me tell about my future husband. Let me
talk about him real fans, right, my MEI and me and MI me
and my men. Right. So a he want to get married? B
Uh. He's intelligent, Uh, maybe even a nerd or loves to learn,
right, And I feel like all those aren't the same thing. But
you have to be at least one of those things, right, anybody asking
you to be in mensa. But I mean, like nigga, if you
is right, you have to like to travel, right, you have to
know how to communicate or be emotionally intelligent enough at least be emotionally intelligent enough
to tell me when you're not happy or when you would like me to change
something within the relationship, because a lot of times people don't say nothing,
and then it's just harbor that shit and then it turned into like a pressure
cooker and it ended up with you exploding on me because I fucking left my
makeup on a bathroom counter. Like no, no, no, you're actually
mad because you know, if something else you just don't feel comfortable telling me,
you know. So I want someone who's emotionally intelligent enough to like tell
me that, right. I also want someone who's family oriented, but like
our family, because like I want like four more kids, and you know,
I want to be brady beunching it and shit, mm mm hmmm.
I want someone who is successful or has a planned out career path, right,
and yeah, those are my most important things. Yeah, and funny
or you'd like to have fun or our views of fun aligned rather, And
I'll say that because we might not think the same shit is funny. But
you gotta be under you gotta be able to understand that when I get drunk,
I'm gonna knock these doors down and do park or like you gotta you
gotta work with me here, but like, yeah, you gotta understand if
I get past this level of tipsy, we're going to have a cart real
contest. Like ah ah, is that something you can deal with? Is
it something you can deal with when sixty years old? Like these are things
that we have to pay attention to. You know what I'm gonna do,
this is completely unrelated. When I get home today, I'm gonna write down
everything, and I want my partner, and I want you to be a
good leader or able to be a good leader. I want you to be
a good leader. I want you to be a good leader. I'm not
gonna say able. I feel like I have these different lines in the sand
for all my other qualifications, don't this one. I wouldn't be able to
trust you to lead because I'm tired. I'm sick of being a fucking boss.
I'm gonna be the boss more. Yeah, yeah, like what the
fuck? And yeah, I think that's it. And you have to be
willing to help me take pictures and record my stuff for content because that's it,
that's it. Neil Maya says, Kurt will at sixty is crazy.
Uh. Level Short Junior says, your desires are healthy. Sounds like you
want a good man at his core, praying he founds you soon, DM
me or address I'm with to sing your T shirt. Joe Starr JC says,
Uh, you're not doing crowds like sixty? Yes, I am kung
Stu says the key is to be nerdy but still know how to dress like
an adult and not like you and Gene unit Yo. You pulling up with
a g and a wife beater is crazy. I don't want that. You
were absolutely right, You're absolutely right. Listen, and they had the skinny
johns. They were showing off the traps. I call trap muscles the fifty
cent muscles because he was the first person I've seen with it. Yeah.
P Doula says, can you be what you're asking for? No, because
I don't fucking want me like respectfully, Like I don't. I guess I'm
assuming you're talking about when it comes to like being emotionally intelligent and being able
to communicate and providing a safe space. Yeah, fuck it. I don't
have a problem doing all that. But the problem that I get frequently is
that, Okay, men don't often have safe spaces, right, it's not
a men out there who ever even had a safe space, Like, men
don't have a lot of safe spaces, so especially when it comes to relationships.
So the problem that I have is when I'm taking men seriously, a
lot of them don't know how to communicate because when they have in the past,
a woman has told them, oh, it's not that deep. I
mean, it's given bitch, But okay, like you know what I mean.
So I'll be having a hard time because I really have to start over
and break down walls that I didn't even build. And when I say I
want a man who's able to communicate or have the emotional intelligence to tell me
when he's not happy, I really mean that because I'm willing to take the
time to fix it. But I know that a lot of men have gone
through things where they haven't had that space, so they don't know it exists.
And it's hard. Like I get that, but I also need y'all
understand it's even harder for me to find someone who's comfortable doing that. Makes
sense, no uh oc two Tactical says, why not Goku or Fajeta they
trapped to be trapping? Shut up? Pe Doula says yes, okay.
Lavelle Short says I heard someone say recently, write what it is that you
want on a list and then become the list. How much of a list
are you right now? Well, I think it's different because the things that
I want on my list I don't want to be like or I don't I'm
like, for example, travel, Yeah, my list ain't your list because
my list ain't. If I put everything that I am on the list,
I can figure pop myself for the rest of my life and be happy.
Okay, I can masterbate if I was gonna put me on the list.
Like. I understand the sentiment, but what I want in a man is
not me. Like I want a man to compliment me. I don't want
a man to to be me. That's just not what I want from our
relationship. I'm not knocking the people who do yeah, like, I'm not
saying I'm not knocking anybody who do that or who wants that. I'm just
saying for me. Kung Stu says, add one more thing he has talked
to the lady you're fucking right. Okay. Another thing I want to add
to that list is I want to make sure we have the same parenting views,
like respectfully, respectfully to us and to our community. Right, ain't
gonna be no stop crying before I give you some to cry for. I
don't believe in that. I don't believe in it. That's not my parenting
style. That's not my parenting style. My parenting style is what's bothering you?
Like when I grow up, you know, someone asks you what's going
on? It's such and such getting on my nerves and whatever. The adult
figure around was was real quick to tell you you don't have no nerves.
First of all, bitch, yes I do. I mean human being.
I got plenty of fucking nerves. Okay. So my parents style isn't stop
crying. I'm giving semon cry for Okay. My parenting style is do what
I say because I said so right. That doesn't work for me because at
the end of the day, I'm smart as fuck and I'm inquisitive as fuck.
So you know what, my son is smart as fuck and inquisitive as
fuck. And a lot of times I realized our parents was saying, you
know, because I said so, because they actually didn't know it was to
them. To them, it was a respect thing like because I'm because I'm
the boss. They don't. They didn't really have a reason exactly. So
for me, that ship just doesn't align with my parenting style. So I
can't be with a nigga who're like, yo, do what I'm telling me
to do because I said do it, or I'm a beach of ass.
Not for me. It's just not for me, you know. And wow,
that's so crazy, cold summer hot. When said this is why you're
still single. Wow, that's crazy. I don't know at which way you
meant that, but in all actuality it could be. And that's fine.
And if that's the reason, that's fine. King Payne says, you have
kids. I have one child. He's eleven, right, but the same
things apply. He has a safe space if he wants to vent about something
like right now, my man will come home from school and be like,
hey, Mommy, today I didn't have a good day because here's why.
And I'll sit and I'll let him get all that shit out because the kids
who don't have that outlet, they tear your fucking house up for no reason.
Okay, they go to school the next day and they're bullying other kids
because they don't know how to express their emotions. Okay, they are fucking
mean to the bus drivers, all right, they fucking trip the crossing guards.
Okay. When you don't provide your kids and outlet for their emotions,
their emotions come out sideways, and sometimes it comes out upside another kid here,
Okay, maybe even a teacher. All right. So for me,
that's just how I move. I'm not saying it has to be for everyone.
I'm not saying it works for everyone. I'm just saying that's how I
moved, that's how many Yeah. Yeah, Like, I'm not saying,
you know, like I'm one of those moms who are like, oh,
I'm my mom, I'm my kid's friend, I'm a kid's friend. I'm
not saying that that's not what it is at all. There's very much still
a line of authority between us. But my man has a safe space.
Like the other day, my man came home complaining that, you know,
him and his friends weren't gonna be friends again forever. They're broken up,
not gonna lie. I feel good about it. My man came home and
he wanted to tell me, fuck y'all, I don't care. My man
was going through something emotionally and he felt safe enough to come home and tell
me it's mammy. Okay. How how many rod the king says my man
come home from school? You consider him the man of the house. So
I'm want to say, respectfully, I can tell you're new here, okay,
because one of the main points that I drive home is that I don't
believe in calling your son your king or whatever. Right when I say my
man, that's like me saying my nigga. Okay. But I can tell
you're new here, so I don't I don't take that against you. I'm
not one of those moms. My son is not the king of the house.
My son is my son. I am the queen. He is the
prince. That man number is saved on my phone's sweet Prince, because that's
exactly what it is. I'm giving him space to have his childhood. I
don't treat my son like he's my best friend. I don't treat my son
like he's my man. That's not it. I'm not coming at you,
and I'm not saying no with disrespect. I'm just saying I can tell you're
new here because you don't know, and it's okay, that's fine. Hopefully
you'll feel comfortable here and decide to stick around and pick up on some more
things. Okay, huh no, No, I'm just saying like I feel
it, trust me, King Cressay, she's saying my man as in my
man's niggas beware No, no, no, not like that, like not
not in the Rogers. I'm sorry. How much time we gotta laugh?
Yeses alright, So I just wanna get this one little point off before we
go to the segment three, right, I've shot shut the fuck up.
So I know. I know it's Spend the Block season. I know matching
with jama season is coming up. I know we're all in our fields,
right. I hate this for us, We're all in our fields. Right,
But I wanna say one thing right, stop going to the internet with
all your problems. Right. A therapist is very b official. Okay,
Get you a close circle, all right, Get you a therapist. Get
you someone you can talk too safely. Right with the unbiased opinion, because
when y'all pop up on the internet with do men still? Do women still?
Yes? They don't like you. Okay, Yes, that person just
doesn't like you. Stop it. This has to stop, all right,
I can't all right. The Internet is supposed to be for fun when y'all
be on here telling us about how the person you're dating ain't ship, ain't
doing shit for you, got you out here looking stupid, cheating on you,
got a baby on the way. She don't come, no doubt,
no, please please, Okay, we've had enough. We've had enough.
I don't want, I don't, I don't, I don't hired. Are
y'all tired? Are y'all tired because I'm tired, Like I don't know.
Like the next time you find yourself wanting to put on al Gore's Internet,
do men still or do women still? I want you to think Stormy told
me, yes, I'm not gonna put that. She told me, yes,
I'm not gonna put that. She told me, yes, they do.
And that should be my indication that this person doesn't like me or I'm
not gonna say this person is like you. That should be your indication that
this isn't your person. Yeah, because if it was, you wouldn't be
asking these questions, you know what I mean? Just go where you're celebrated,
not tolerated, right, because like a lot of times, we be
entertaining people who view us as an option but not the only option. I'm
hopeless romantic. I can't break that shit. So regardless how I feel,
Like dre P said, Stormy taping a trip Fontaine live, this niggas hilarious.
I can't wait to see if it's still a going on. What I'm
done here? I uh, where are you living at? I uh,
I don't know. Long story short, just huh king Stu says, that's
it. All those lists and all that are from people who refuse to take
accountability. I agree, I'm not mad at it. I'm not mad at
it man. Long Yeah, Like I said, I just wanna circle back
to go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated. And that's it,
all right, guys, All that aside, let's get into the edible portion
of the show. So the edible portion is when I read questions and stories
that you guys sin in, and on the day that we record, I
always put up a prompt and if whatever you have to sen in is too
long to fit in the prompt, you could always d M me or you
can email me at inquiries at stormy Pea dot pa. All Right, so
y'all, can I just say when y'all be like putting questions in? Right,
y'all know what's other questions other than like are you single? When can
I take you out? Are you single? When can I take you out?
And it's that thing, bald my worn of mic shot on a mic
like asking me stuff like if I put your left toe in my mouth,
will the right one wiggle? Asking like asking me stuff like you know,
is it really pink? Though? Like are you single? I just want
to throw back to are you single? Because that's right. I just want
y'all know what's other questions? I respect it, but it's hard for me
to answer the ones that don't require answer, especially if I've answered them multiple
times, not like about is it bald? I'm not talking about that part.
I'm talking about like am I single? Like really? I post the
promp on my solo Instagram, my podcast instagram, my solo Facebook, and
then my podcast Facebook, right, and I really get seventy percent? Are
you single? Seventy percent? Like seriously, ax Shot. I went through
the answers that y'all gave me today with him, and he was like,
what the fuck is wrong with people? I don't know? I don't know.
I don't know right, and I would really love to know. Like
when y'all ask are you single for? What? What the fuck are is
this? You shooting your shot? Are you shooting your shot? Like?
What happens after this? What happens after this? Now I'm wrong if I
say no, me and your mother in a committed relationship, Now I'm a
bad guy? How how so? Yeah, just just want to say,
you know, for next week and the weeks afterwards, please come with something
other than are you single? Right? Okay? So first question, Good
guys and nine to five guys, why do we finish last? And I
wanta trying to tap in on a live you know, maybe you maybe you
can help someone, maybe you can save a soul today, provide some type
of insight. I don't know it all. I don't pretend to know it
all. I'm just giving you you know how I feel, what I've learned
along this journey we've called life. So I want to ask again, it
says, Good guys and nine to five guys, why do we finish last?
Good guys and nine to five Guys, why do we finish last?
I'm you're real with y'all because y'all going after girls that are out of your
league. Okay, no, no, I take that back, not out
of your league, girls whose values don't align with yours, right, because
I I think it's a difference. It's definitely a difference. Because if you're
going after a woman whose values are vain, meaning what you look like,
how much you have, what you can provide, you know where you are
in life on the Social Total poll, they don't give a fuck you a
good guy, right, Like, they don't care you got a good heart,
my nigga. If you're going after a woman whose main goal in life
is to be a basketball wife, they don't give a fuck that you donate
to charity, my nigga. They don't care that you work or nine to
five of your respectable man. It's nothing wrong with that. It's commendable.
I love it. And there are plenty of the women out here who you
who will who are searching for you. But if your hell bent on finding
a baddy with nine inch long fingernails, maybe you're not gonna be happy,
cause nine times out of ten, they aren't looking for a guy with a
good heart, who's working at nine to five respectfully, Respectfully, this is
no shade towards the baddies. This is no shades towards the good guys.
I'm just saying, may it make sense? Right? Like? Can we
be fucking for real? Is that a situation where we can say be fucking
for real? Because if you're going after women who are solely looking for a
man who drives this type of car, lives in this type of house,
has this type of credit score, and can do this type of beneficial things
for her sins don't give a fuck that you go to church on Sunday.
She don't care that you are a good person with a good heart and you're
working nine to five and you take care of your grandmam. She don't care
about that. That doesn't align with her values. And that's not to say
she's wrong or you're wrong. All I'm saying is you're finishing last because you're
going after people that don't have the same values. ISS, So let's step
in with a live king. Stu says, if she got her ass out
in every ig pick for validation. E Trey Focus says, gotta know and
understand who you're shooting at. I agree. You gotta know and understand who
you're shooting at. You gotta know and understand who you're shooting at. I
agree. Uh big Harv eight O two three says most women care too much
about looks and money, so not too many good women out there. I
don't agree. I don't agree. It's plenty of good women out there.
You just gotta pay attention to who you going after. Like, if you're
going after someone who is clearly into her, who's clear into her appearance,
she's very vain, maybe even shallow, nine times out of ten, she's
also looking for somebody who is attractive and shallow, or somebody who has a
lot of money. So you and you're nine five and gonna cut it,
you know what I mean. If you're going after someone who's very into her
appearance and who's a baddy, who's a social media batty, nine times out
of ten, she ain't looking for somebody who's working at nine to five with
a good heart. She's worried about somebody who can do for her, who
can provide for her. And it's not to say you don't deserve that,
That's not what I'm saying. At all. There are some non there are
some social media baddies who are looking for a nice man like you. The
numbers are significantly lower, but they do exist. They exist, They exist
for sure for sure. Hold on, I'm trying to swipe dout my bag,
y'all comes do? Said? Is she arguing in the shade room comments?
Ah ah, TI's true, tis true? Clever Corey says Stormy out
hear her feelings and crushing dreams today. No, I'm not. I'm saying,
be fucking for real, Okay, be fucking for real. King Chris
says, Well, first off, you can work a nine to five and
not be a good guy. This is very true, right. I don't
want y'all to think that just because you work a nine to five and you
don't cheat on your girlfriend, if you have a girlfriend, that you're a
good person. That's not it. That's not it. Because you're also mean
it spuck to a waiter whenever we go out. Okay, you also don't
know how to handle your liquor. As soon as you have a few SIPs
of hiney, you're asking what nigga's looking at all? Right, just because
you're working nine to five does not mean you're a good guy, my guy,
Okay, Like it's other things that go into that, like you talking
about all are working nine to five. I'm a good person. Yeah,
but you also don't have a PCP. You haven't had a checkup, and
I don't know how long you just wait till the girl come back and tell
you where her results are and you just take that as your results. I
know, I know. Just because you're working nine of five, that doesn't
mean you're a good guy. Not saying this is to you who asks this
question. I'm not saying that at all. I'm not saying that to the
person who asks this question. I'm just saying, doesn't mean you're a good
guy. That's it. That's it, that's it. Kung Stu says,
I'll take the regular cute girl that is funny as shit over a main chick
any day. Amen. Amen, any don't start with me? Okay,
don't you do it? Don't you do it? All right? Any you
got a cursing out coming to you anyway? He No, I love any
guys. I'm joking. I'm joking. Lavelle Short says, good guys sometimes
show up good, but don't remain the way they started. So it's not
that they finished last. They started first and couldn't sustain O. This nig
good is sitting because sometimes y'all be faking. Sometimes y'all be faking. Sometimes
y'all be faking. This is a safe space, and I can say sometimes
y'all be faking. Like y'all don't really care about the things y'all say.
Y'all be carried about like you don't really want to go pick some flowers with
me on a Sunday afternoon. You don't really want to sit through first and
second service for church with me. You don't really want to do these things.
You're only doing it to move up to them. Pool. I'm not
love, I'm not dumb, You're not low. I know, right,
Okay, so hold on, I'm trying to swipe down um. Okay,
next question, Oh y'all, this one spin me for a loop. Why
old pussy egg brand new when it's been a minute, Like I got a
re audition for the part I already had. I'm gonna read it. I'm
gonna read it again. Y'all please step in on a live because I'm so
curious to hear what y'all have to say, this person says, why old
pussy egg brand new when it's been a minute, like I got a re
audition for the part I already had. Yes, the fuck you do?
Okay, I don't know who is there of this, but yes, the
fuck you. You don't get grandfather, then okay, you don't get time
served, No you don't. You gotta start over, okay, Yeah,
whoa, whoa, whoa. That was a different situation. That was a
different situation. That sitution. When I was talking about me, I was
talking about being in love, okay, right now, he talking about just
a chick. He was hitting. Okay for me, if you're yo shit,
I said, what's love got to do with it? Why he eat
me up like that? Y'all? What I'm saying is for me, if
you're just a spot on the roster, like we're not dating with the intentions,
we're just hooking up from time to time. If you're just a spot
on the roster, and you dip on me for a good six months before
that six months that you dipped on me, Jamal been playing in his park.
He been consistent. He'd been taking me out on dates. We've been
hanging out, like he been making me feel appreciated. You think you just
gonna come back in six months later and hop him fun of Jamal. That's
not fair to Jamal. Who's speaking up for Jamal? Okay, all I'm
saying is that's not fair to Jamal? Like am I tripping? Big Harv
eight O two three says, my stroke is still stroking like it was,
So I get the part automatically. No, you don't king. Stu says,
pussy might have upgrades, might have bluetooth. What I'm hollering, I'm
hollering. Dre B says that means you ain't doing it like you think you
are. Ooh, Trey Focus says, wait ask it again. Clever Corey
says, who'll be asking these questions? Yo? These are real questions.
And if you don't believe me, act shot because I just showed shot the
questions be sending it. Okay, I don't read all of them, but
I read the ones that I think are funny. Here that are interesting,
Big Harve two three, No, I read that one already. Hit my
bad. I'm scrolling back down, y'all, d ride through and before it
says the irony of it all? Get that re edition? Ready, Bee
Now, for the record, I just wanted to let me just okay,
I'm gonna stick a pen of this and I'm gon sit back around. Hold
one second, let me just let me just take my little piece cause y'all
trying to eat me up right. So, for the record, when I
sent that nigga, that picture of Nelly and Ashanti, and I said,
could this ever be us? Again? When I sent that picture, I
immediately added after and if so, what I gotta do to get there?
Okay, which means I wasn't expecting to come back in and be grandfather.
And I'm trying to earn my spot. I'm trying to knock Jamal off the
list. Not Jamal, that's crazy. I'm trying to. I'm trying to.
I'm trying to. I'm trying to not Jazzmin off the list. I'm
trying to take Jasmine spot, if that makes sense. So even I am
willing to say, like, yo, what I gotta do to get back
there? You who taking a six month sabbatical if he was dating anybody,
Yo, that's crazy, that's crazy. If you want a live Shad just
said you took three year sabbatical. Did you ask that man? If he
was dating anybody, y'all. I just realized I didn't ask him if he
was dating anybody. I didn't ask him if he was dating anybody. What
if he got a girlfriend? What if he got a girlfriend. If you're
just now tapping into the live, I was talking about how at the beginning
of the show, I was saying, how I spent the block on my
ex, and I did not ask, at not one point, if he
had a girlfriend. But no, fuck that because he should have said respectfully,
no, since I got a girlfriend, yes or no, yes or
no. I feel like if he does have it, if he is dating
somebody, if it is a jasmine, if it is a top three,
top one, you're taking real serious. When I said, could this ever
be els? What I gotta do to get there, you should have said,
no, I'm seeing somebody that's respectful, which means he's a toxic one
a game like I said, seven seven, stop looking at nuts. I
can hear you. Yeah, so that's it. Uh. Trey Focus says,
subconsciously, you said fuck that bitch. Big harv A O two three
says yeah, a girlfriend will blocking shot strife. The villain says, it
ain't your business. True true. King Cres says, what nigga gonna say
that one who has respect? I would hope, I would hope. King
Stu says exactly, he definitely got a girl. He just went through the
door and left it open. Kamar eighty two says, what did I miss?
You gotta catch the whole show in the morning. I'm not fucking I'm
not going through all of it again. Dre B says, Nah, you
can't hellosault trying to spend the block out. Faz you'r. D Rop three
one four says Draft Class twenty twenty seven. It's saw you y'all don't love
me? And I thought this was the same space, but it's not.
Y'all don't love me twenty twenty seven. One y'all see me pop up with
this ring. Don't say nothing, just fucking donate to the calls. LaBelle
Short Junior says, but most men have to ask if you are dating before
they can ask if they can come back. Isn't that kind of a double
standard. It's not a double standard because I said, can this be us?
And if so, tell me how if it can't, just say no,
one can't be us. If you're dating someone seriously say no, one
can't be us like I don't think. Hmmm, big harv a' two three
says you might have you might make him lead the one he with and start
a new relationship with you. I'm gonna block you. I'm about the block
you were going to the next question. We went to the next question cause
y'all, I thought I thought this was the same space, and every day
you'll remind me it's not. So the next one a short guy with money
or tall guy with no personality? And I'm gonna read it again, ladies.
I don't know if a I don't know if a lot of ladies in
here. But my next question, phyllis if you're in a live I'll ask
you a question. Uh you know a short girl? Well, I know
that doesn't imply now I feel like it's just a girl question. I'm sorry,
sorry, So, short guy with money or tall guy with personality?
Hm? Hmmm, ladies, what should think a short guy with money or
tall guy with personality? Well, spoiler alert, most tall guys don't have
personality. Okay, hey, okay, no, no, no, hold
on, hear me out though, hear me out there, hear me hear
me out hear me out, y'all ain't never seen that video. When a
girl be like, oh my god, what do you like to do?
And it guy'll be like, I'm six two. You'll never saw that video,
and it gotta be like six feet Oh my god, what do you
like to do on the weekends? Six two? Oh? Okay? Well
do you like to play basketball? I'm six two? Okay? What's your
favorite food? Six too? Like for some tall men, that is their
personality. Being tall is their personality, like, oh my god, it's
it's it's so nice outside. What did you do today? Six too?
Nigga? What what? Oh? Okay, that's dope. What was your
major in school? Six too? What the fuck? Hello? Is this
thing on? Like I don't I don't know, I don't know if you
fellas if you don't believe me, asks a woman and she'll tell you.
Some tall men, being tall is their personality like that said, like,
oh my god, you watch Frick and Morty six too, nigga? What
the is going on here? Okay? Like? How how? How?
How? How long? Story short? The answer is neither for four hundred
allots next one uh m hmm. You can travel anywhere through time and space.
So where would you go? Take some time think about it at yourself.
You can travel anywhere through time and space, So where would you go?
You know what's crazy? I would want to go back in time,
but all the places I want to go got slavery, Like I just would
have a good time. Like I want to go back in time, but
I wouldn't have fun because I'm black, y'all, God like yo, I
want to go to the Sailing witch Trials, but I fucking be on trial
with Tabitha and shit, if you're in the Sailing witch trous that makes it.
If not, you have no what idea And I'm like, w that's
that's right, right, or like I'm not gonna lie. I would want
to go back to like Monticello, Thomas Jefferson plantation. I want to see
Sally Ymmon's like I want to see if she really was a bad bitch.
I want to see. I want to see Aye. I want to see,
But I can't go without ending up as one of Sally Yumman's bad bitches
working in the house. Uh. It depends what type of here it is.
If my tennis a little darker, I might be in the field,
you know, but in a way like I i'd probably or maybe a breeder.
I could be a breeder. I would be I could be a breeder.
Like, Okay, this is gonna sound really fucked up, and I
know it is. But I think that during slavery, my hey seven,
I think that during slavery, my family was probably like wet nurses because we
were all breastfeed for a really long times, like literally I could produce breastmoke
till my son was like eight. I think we were all wet nurses.
Like I shouldn't have grabbed my boobs like that, Okay, yeah, or
like I don't know, like all the police I want to go, would
it be sucked because I'm black? Like or I want to go to Egypt
like yo, yeah, niggas really been in these feel man, it's like
what's going on? Like I want to see what's going on. But because
I'm black, I would not have a good time. I wouldn't because they
like get your ass a line and I'm like, oh, Pharaoh, like
yeah bad join. So yeah, I don't know. I don't think I
would. I would want to, but I wouldn't. I wouldn't for sure.
Okay, So this next one is a story and it's a little bit
longer, but fellas, pay attention because I really want to hear your input
on what I'm about to say, right because I feel like women have their
own inputs, but men can sometimes add an insight that I may not be
privy to. So hear me, hear me out, shut up Clinton?
Okay, So it says, uh, thirty nine recently single mail, What
the fuck let me start of? It says thirty nine recently single male,
two children, a good career and a hallmarner. I'm in the process of
attempting to date with a true purpose. I want a relationship to work and
hopefully last. The issue I have at the moment is that the mother of
my children currently lives with me. Things truly ended over a year ago,
and there is a timetable slash set date for her to move out the summer
of twenty twenty four. The biggest challenge I face is when dating, and
I've explained this to women that I'm very interested in and that they do not
believe me, which I get. The problem comes when I invite them over
and see that her and I are strictly co parenting. They ask her if
we are really not together, and she says yes and proceed to make friends
with her, and she's so nice and sweet they don't want to hurt her
feelings. I feel as though I'm being super transparent and honest with the added
bonus of having the kid's mother confirmed. But I want my potential person to
be comfortable with me and always, but it bites me in the ass every
time. Then I get friend zone and waiting for the right person to come
along and understand is tired a far fetched narrative. I'm not the biggest fan
of waiting until she leaves as well, because I like to have something established
by that time. Help me, how do I get past this without being
a manipulative fuck boy? I want to go on dates, be happy,
and maybe live happily ever after signed mister hollis romantic m How we feeling?
Where reat with it? We're react with it? Where we at with it?
Y'all? If you're listening on audio and watching on visual, please hit
me up and tell me how y'all feel about this situation. Flawless Buddy eighty
seven said she gotta go now, Okay, So I'm gonna say right off
top first of all. Clint Coley says, bro, you watch him.
Probably you're lying, Chief, I'm not gonna lie. He is watching.
I saw him. I saw him. I saw his name Papa, so
I know he is watching right right. I saw it. Kung Stu says,
show her the door expeditiously, My nigga, you're bugging. Why are
y'all like this? Clever Corey says, wonder how he reacts if she brought
a guy over. Ooh, ooh, this is getting Jill say d Rob
three fourteen says, class of twenty twenty four saw him? Why are y'all
like this today? I she said, He said that she's leaving the King
Chris said, show yourself. So for the record, he said, she's
leaving in the summer of twenty twenty four, right now, if we're being
honest, and this is a safe space. But to be clear, y'all
didn't make it seem like it was a safe space earlier. But because I
fuck with y'all and gonna keep moving like it's a safe space. Right.
So, when I was still living with my child's baby father, with my
child's father, I was openly dating and like maybe a month before I moved
out I had a boyfriend. Now, like I said this before I went
to talk to the lady. So my boyfriend didn't know I was living with
my child's father. Okay, okay, okay, okay, okay. Wait
wait, So I don't remember what exactly I told him, right, but
I do know that I told him that my child's father was involved. And
also, to be clear, it's not the last boyfriend that we were talking
about at the top of the episode. This is a different boyfriend, different
boyfriend. But I know that I told him that my child's father was involved.
But yeah, like my man will like pick me up from the house
and like you know, drop me off. And it was it was a
bad jong. Wasn't the best storm. I'm not scared to say it.
Fuck y'all, this is the safe place. Like I said it was.
I'm not scared to say it. Whatever. Kung Stu says, you was
wild and big storm, Big Storm dog is crazy. King Crest says,
yo, you ain't shit. Uh. Trey Focus says purest savagery right here.
Uh. Jared mcgruth said, no, we just need a short film
series now. King Crest says, you ain't shit. Somebody to ask somebody
and said, watch this, it's funny. Thank you. I appreciate that
Trey Focus has laughed my ass off. Oh this is too good, y'all.
Come on, we have to be. We gotta be. This is
safe space. Remember we're providing a safe space. Like, yeah, I
rob at on one says, yeah, you was playing a dangerous game.
Now here's my whole thing, right, Not to take away from this man's
story, Me and my child's father word broke up. Like we weren't sleeping
together. We weren't, you know, working on our relationship, like we
were going about our business, like we acknowledged that this was a dub.
Like so me dating someone else wasn't, you know, unheard of. I'm
sure he was dating other people too. Uh, you know, keep it
cute, don't bring it back to the house. I never brought it in
the house. But I remember when my boyfriend at the town went to go
like look at a apartments for me. And when I moved out, I
asked my baby if father to help me. He was so mad, he
like punched a hole in the wall. He's a good man, Savannah,
I know he was a good man. I fucked up. I don't know
that was wrong. I'm acknowledging that it is wrong. I'm taking account of
belief for that was wrong. But back to this being here, right,
the way women work is not the way that men work. Right. So
first I want to say I commend you for letting the women know that you
know your child's parent, your co parent, is still living in the house,
because I would have told him that was fucking nanny. I would told
him I get money and that's a living nanny. But I love this for
you. I love that you're being mature. I love your being an adult.
Okay, I see you in alive here. I love your being an
adult. Right. I also want to say so sometimes women will make up
stories in their head that they believe. Right, So you guess, say
you and your child's mother aren't together and y'all not sleeping together, and she
will come in and she will smile in your child's mother face and have great
conversations and be fine and go home and get in that group chat and tell
everyone how you think she is stupid bitch because you're still fucking your baby mom.
Okay, like we will project that onto you, We absolutely will.
I'm not gonna lie. I think that there might be an issue of boundaries
here, Like if she comes over and you're telling her y'all not together,
but y'all watching movies in the living room with your baby mom, or like
y'all in the kitchen having a conversation and your baby mom just walks through with
some booty shorts on. It's like, what are we doing here? Not
even with the booty shorts on, and your baby mom just walks through the
kitchen period, Like Ah, I know you live here and you have a
right to be comfortable too, but sometimes you gotta treat her like a dog
and put her up when you got company. My nigga, Like, no,
no disrespect, no disrespect. I'm not calling your baby mom a bitch,
a dog, no, none of that. I'm just saying, like,
you have to create these boundaries in order to make your new potential partner
feel safe, Like she has to believe she don't even have access to you
in the way that she actually does because she lives with you. I'm also
not against just waiting til the class of twenty twenty four, like they say
it in Alive, But that's just me. If y'all got any uh advice
for my man, please type it in. I'm about to read in a
few as soon as I finish getting this off my chest. Yeah cause,
I cause I know you're here alright, Yeah man, I don't know shod
do you have anything? No, I don't think it's impossible. And this
is coming from somebody who's done it. I don't think it's impossible. That
might be a little bit biased, but I don't think it's impossible. But
that's not fair to tell me as to set out a season because of somebody
else, because he chooses to be a good person. I'm not gonna lie.
I don't know what your work schedule is, but is there a realm
in which you can just take full custody of your children and tell your maybe
mom to go live in a shelter or something? I don't know, I
don't know, maybe not a shelter, Maybe not a shelter, Maybe not
a shelter. Why she can't go stay with her mom? Her mom's still
alive, Her mom's still alive, Like it's nobody else she can stay with?
And then I know y'all were recently broken up, but were y'all recently
divorced? Like where y'all divorced, like, what was the what was the
you know, severity of y'all relationship? I know you can't answer. Damn
sit, everybody gonna see it. Okay, well you know what, it
don't matter. It don't matter. Let's go back to the live. I
rob Ada one says, you a homeboy to take a year off, Ain't
no way. Nia Maya says, my man just might as well wait till
she slide out. Ain't no way, y'all say, it ain't no way,
it's crazy. Kung Stu said, it's a season. It ain't forever.
Get that ironed out and come back outside. Kung Stu says, just
be actually single, bro, it ain't that scary. King Crust says,
i'm'a be very honest. If my being was living with me, I probably
still hitting from time to time, So I can understand someone not believe in
that. Lavelle Short Junior says that's why it's just safer for all parties involved
to just wait it out for God. Kruflow dot KK says, put that
bitch in the doghouse. What is wrong? Jarreed McGrath says, yeah,
the lady definitely earning her check with some of these stories. Yo, come
on, y'all, don't don't be like that. I thought it was in
a safe space. Conk Stu says the fact he said he wants something before
she leaves, the crazy part de rop through and four says she ruined it
for you, fam, she gotta get out on date night. Uh.
None of these definitely, so I've been missing this. None of these.
Just you have a really long SCREENA and I can't read that. I'm sorry,
I'm sorry, I love you. I'm sorry. Clever Corey says they
probably cook for each other too. YEA long story short. I don't know.
And then, ladies, would you be mad if a man didn't tell
you those things? But I feel like right now it is November? Right
she getting off the summer A twenty twenty four. Technically you can court a
woman properly and not automatically invite her back to your house, and if you
do, make sure you clean up and put your girl your baby mom away
when your girl come over or when the shit you dating, when the chick
you dating come over. I don't know. I just think you need to
create better boundaries, because I'm all for having a conversation of here's what baby
mom. She could tell you we're not really fucking no more, okay cool,
and then she need to go on her room. Yeah it's kind.
Yeah yeah, they don't need to be friends. That that's another thing like
I I you said here, like yeah you s you you say here?
Like they asks her if we really not together? She says yes, and
then proceed to make friends that don't need to take place. If you feel
like a conversation is necessary because you've feeling her enough to be like, yo,
you wanta sen to my baby mom? Need to tell her we're not
really fucking cool. She can get a vibe at how y'all body language and
interactions are fine that she takes her ass back in that room. She don't
need to come out or come in y'all room, asks if y'all want something
to eat, make no food, nom nothing nothing. You have to create
that clear boundary to make that woman feel safe. Let's go to the live
one more time, King crest Man man, I bem trying to come stay
with me right now, and she has lost all fragments of her mind thinking
that's the thing I rob at on one says, But it's not just her
that's gotta go in the room. There's a kid there too. That's why
uh Jax Anthony says he can get her a shit in the backyard. She
can sleep it, okay, now, oh Waler, all right, Oh,
I definitely gotta make this shit a clip. I can't wait to hear
what y'all are saying. So listen, man. We talked about a lot
of good things this week. Long story short lucky day made me text my
ex and it didn't go well. Basically from Beta black a love story and
I know my husband random transitions. We're gonna run through things real fast.
I know my husband is on the way because I went out on a solo
date and I had a lot of peace afterwards. You know, niggas love
to fuck up your peace, so I assume that means my man is on
the way. Stop asking yourself. Do men still or do women still?
Yes? They do. That person just doesn't like you. We talked about
good guys are not of five guys. They finished last because they're going after
women who don't have the same values as them. If you have not been
talking to me for six plus months, yes, you do have to re
audition for the pussy you do not get grandfather in a short guy with money
or a tall guy with personality. Trick question. There are very few tall
guys with personalities. And yeah, we gave someone advice on a man who
was living with his baby mom and Danny isn't going well because of him living
with his baby mom. My advice was basically, you need to step better
brown Trees and yeah, or just sit out a season and try again.
Summer's only twenty four when she moves out. I had so much fun with
you today. Follow me on a gram at Stormy p p ea at chocolate
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X I love you guys on I see you next week. Peace