Let's go in Minnesota. Goodbye on KATWB. Well we're not on KATBB,
We're on the iHeartRadio app earlier this morning if you didn't get a chance to
hear it. Monday morning, at around seven forty five or so, we
did a bit where it's like, oh, tell us something vulnerable about yourself.
And I think I remember I told one about my mom and blah blah
blah and how sweet she was and how whatever, and so Jenny talked about
something that we didn't see coming at all. Yeah, I just really opened
up about the fact that I've been struggling with some pretty bad anxiety. And
I've talked about it before, having anxiety throughout my life, but a lot
of times it comes and goes pretty quickly when I do experience it, but
it's just gotten. It became more chronic recently, and then I was doing
the work. I was going to therapy, working out, doing all the
stuff you should try to do for your mental health, and it just really
wasn't helping this time. And so I finally went and met with a psychiatrist
and I started anxiety medication a few weeks ago, and so I'm on the
up and up I'm not fully back to myself I can tell yet, but
I definitely am feeling better already from taking medication. So many thoughts and things
came up, and if you seriously, I would suggest, if you get
a chance, to go back and listen to from about seven forty five till
about eight thirty on the Monday Morning Show, because we don't normally dedicate an
entire huge segment of the show to any one subject ever, but my observations
were number I'm going to make him quick. Jenny seems to be perfectly happy,
healthy and normal in every way. You would never look at Jenny and
go, wow, she's really struggling. And I think that's an eye opener
for anybody who looks at somebody their boss or their wife or their kid and
you go, well, you seem fine, so you must be fine.
And I worry about Carson that way sometimes too, because he seems fine,
but that apparently is not an indicator. Just be because somebody seems fine.
Yeah, And I would say that like the fact that you're even like concerned
about Carson shows enough that like I think he would come to you if he
was having problems, because there are definitely people in my life that I don't
feel as comfortable talking to about my mental health. But you know, it's
like my mom and I have not always seen an eye to eye on mental
health issues before as well, because she doesn't experience it, so she doesn't
really understand it. And I know she's, like you said on the air
earlier, she's trying to be helpful with her advice. But to tell someone
with anxiety to just stop overthinking things, that's not how anxiety works. You
don't just stop overthinking. You don't just stop it. It's it's more than
that. And so like her and I have had like a bit of a
bumpy road where I didn't open up to her about a lot of my anxiety
for a while. But I still go to her if I need to,
you know, like I would still go to her. But the fact that
you even check on Carson and like stuff like that, I think, I
really think Carson would come to you if he was ever dealing with anything,
you know, I hope, So, you know, I don't know.
I know that Carson is a very closed off kind of a person. He
is just never really displaying and maybe count just a few times where he honestly
whether he laughs his ass off or whether he's really upset and he is just
very buttoned up. He's fun, he has a lot of friends, he
loves, he loves his life. But I don't. I don't know.
And I always end every phone call in FaceTime with you know, I'm always
here for you, buddy, I'm always here for you, and he always
seems to smile and say I know. The other thing that I got was
the advice of all the things that we tell people that are depressed or anxious
to do is get up and exercise and get up and do this and do
this, and it doesn't always work. I mean, you know, in
some cases it can be a temporary fix. I laughed when somebody said,
get a weighted blanket, yeah, because they mean, well, no,
they do. And I feel like, you know, there have been moments
where people have told me to do certain things that have been very frustrating to
me because but I also can't be mad at someone for not understanding anxiety.
I wish I am happy for that person that they don't understand what I'm going
through, because that means that they're not going through what I'm going through.
So and I will take suggestions like that. I know someone said something about
they experience anxiety and lavender helps them and stuff like that, so I'll take
the suggestions. I think a weighted blanket actually might help me in certain moments.
So it's not I'm not offended by someone who's trying to be genuinely helpful.
No, And I think that's the thing. And I think the other
thing was like, well, how do we treat Jenny. Now? Do
we treat her with kid gloves and we treat her very gently? And I
think that you said, you don't want to be and nobody wants to be.
You don't want to be treated as fragile. You want to be treated
as normal, right, And I think that that's why it was really hard
for me. It really was to about being on medication because I have always
gotten through everything in the past just on my own and so and so I
feel like there's some kind of like shameful association with it. And that's my
own internal battle, Like it's not something that I'm saying anyone should be ashamed
of. When people have told me they've gotten on medication before, I was
so happy for them. But for me, it was like shameful so I
once again, like I'm already feeling shameful for being on medication. I don't
want to feel different and weird because you guys think that you can't be normal
around me now because I express it. I'm anxious. I mean I've been
anxious for the last however long, and I didn't ask, you know,
I didn't want you guys to treat me any different. Then yeah, right,
totally for what it's worth. I mean, I'm not trying to,
like, you know, like move in on your story. But I took
anti anxiety is anti anxiety, anti depression regular, like you know, not
as needed for what I was going through because I just couldn't shake it.
And that was the one where you take it every day, but the one
and I wasn't on that for long because it really didn't seem to help me
and I don't know that I needed it. What I did take was clonopan,
which is a pretty powerful anti anxiety drug, and I would sometimes come
into work and I would take one before I left the house, and about
twenty minutes later, I could physically feel anxiety melt away. It was a
weird feeling, and I was very careful with it because I think clonopin can
be abused and addictive, and I didn't want to I'm so I'd never want
to become a prop. Life is challenging enough without an addiction. Yes,
so some responses. Hey, I'm Beth. I want to say how proud
I am of Jenny for speaking out. A few years ago. I was
in and out of the er with anxiety and panic attacks that made me pass
out, puke, and lose vision for a while. It was so bad
I thought dying would be easier. Medication literally saved me. I wouldn't be
the mom or wife I am today without it. My advice to you is
stick it out. It takes a while for the medicine to work. Fully.
Love you, Jenny, thank you, and I'm sorry that you went
through that. I'm glad that you brought it up because it definitely hit a
nerve with a lot of people. I'm not sure what this one is about,
but let's read it. No, that's not what we're looking for.
Okay, let's try this one. Sorry, David, Jenny, listen to
Minnesota Goodbye from May First. You're talking about drinking out of the garden hose.
I love doing that. When I was a kid, and it always
seemed like the water was colder, and after running around outside it was so
refreshing. You then asked if kids still drink out of the hose today.
I am here to say yes, at least my kids do. I always
describe my two boys as active outdoor kids. They would sleep outside if we
let them, but they eat outside and drink of the hose often, and
they also end up shirtless from getting soaked. They are three and five.
So thanks for reading, Love the show, have a great day. And
she included a picture of her very muddy, dirty shirtless son and they're playing
in the mud. Wow. So and they're filthy, filthy kids, Dave,
Jenny vont I Love vont I hope will be a full time Ryan Show
DJ. I listen all the time, says Nicole. And recently you were
talking about Jenny's dad working for forty some odd years and how it's such a
lo long time. It just made me think about my own father. He
has been with Coca Cola an Egan for fifty years. Think about that,
since nineteen seventy four. They celebrated in March. He is sixty nine years
old and he just feels like and he just feels like he has six weeks
vacation so he can do what he wants when he wants, and being top
dog, he has a choice of days off and whatnot. Anyway, I
thought i'd write in because everyone I tell they are shocked. I'm so proud
of my dad and his happiness at his job. I really hope Dave has
an expert sticker for me to put on my iPad. All right, she
forgot to put her address in there, so I wrote her back and I
said, hey, send you your address and I will mail you a sticker.
All this talk about Mother's Day. First of all, thanks for being
a staple in my life every day. Thank you. All this talk about
Mother's Day, I had to let you guys know what was said at my
family get together this weekend. So this past weekend, okay, the family
was discussing Mother's Day and debating about what gifts are given to each other.
And my husband's grandmother said, Mother's Day is for your mother, not for
your wife. Once your kids are older, then you help them make something
for her. Woof, because we talked about that, how Mother's Day should
be for the mother of the kid in the trenches. First, Yes,
my husband and I share a glance which let him know my thoughts. Dave.
I also loved it when you talk about motion equals emotion. It reminds
me of something that I recently heard that helped me. Whenever you feel like
I don't have motivation, remember this. You don't need motivation, You need
momentum. Once you start, just do one thing and it gets the ball.
Rolling momentum is powerful. Any who, thanks for brightening my every day
Dartiacus Licotism, Thank you for that. I think that's true. I talk
about that with losing weight. Once you get a little momentum of losing that
first five or ten pounds, you go, wow, I've got some momentum.
Yeah, so then you kind of want to keep that up. It's
kind of like exercising. Well it is. I think that so many people
have asked me before, how do I have the motivation? Trust me,
it is an internal battle every single day to work out. I don't love
working out, but once I can get past the crutch of getting to the
gym, I know that I'm going to work out, and I'll get a
workout in. Like It's just you just have to like start. I've been
enjoying my workouts more and I think it's because I feel stronger and I notice
myself being stronger. Like exercises that I couldn't do a year ago. I
wouldn't say they're easy, but I can do them better now. Okay,
I'm gonna ask you a question. So I'm on my back, I'm on
the bench, it's slightly inclined. I'm doing dumb bell presses. So like,
I'm on my back doing dumbell presses. How much do you think your
boy Dave is doing in each hand with a dumbbell press? How many reps
are you doing? Twelve to fifteen? Okay, I'm gonna you have big
biceps. I'm gonna go with fifties. No forties. Oh that's good.
Yeah, I'm pretty proud of that because forties are pretty fucking heavy. Yes
they are. My trainer will hand me a couple of forties. He's like,
man, you got this, you got this. I'm like what,
And so I can do it? And for forty pound dumbbell presses one in
each hand. I could not have done that a year ago. I could
have probably done maybe twenties. That is seriously a lot. I still don't
have the upper body strength that I wish I could from after my surgery on
my wrist. So I'm only at thirty. So good for you that you're
like up to that. And I'm an old guy too, so I know.
But you've kept in shape in shape over the years. It's moderately good
shape. I've never really let myself just go, although i have been over
two hundred pounds. I think it was two five at my heaviest, and
now I'm about hovering right around oneint eighty. Next one from our boy Andrew
in Ohio, who's a regular staff writer. He says, Guys, my
job is to clean parking lots and run a street sweeper. The worst litter
I see on a regular basis is dirty diapers. What kind of aweful person
throws their dirty diaper? I've seen it before too. I used to have
to clean the parking lot of the restaurant that I worked at when I was
in high school, and I remember finding my first dirty dip and I thought,
so, some idiot changed their baby and instead of taking the dirty diaper
the little short walk to the trash can or being decent and put it in
the back seat until they got home, they just threw it out the car
window. I hate this when I see it because the sweeper won't pick them
up, so I definitely have to do it myself wearing gloves, or use
my trash picker to pick them up and bag them or add them to the
trash can or whatever. But it really bothers me when people do this because
it's just gross and it sets a bad example for the can involve too.
Honestly, if they're old enough to notice that among those things that I've found
gross clothing and even adult toys on the ground in parking lots, it amazes
me how gross some people are with their littering. Man, adult toys are
not cheap. Who is littering their adult toy? I mean, think about
that. You spend seventy nine ninety nine on the dolphin that's got the little
nose. You know that this part in this part's got the core little lover.
I don't think I know about the dolphin. I only know about the
rabbit. The same thing. Yeah, one shape like at one say with
a golfing am And do we have time for one more? I think so
we do. Hello, Morning Show. This is from Travis to put it
in perspective, I was catching up on the podcast and I came across the
guy that called in about his girlfriend screaming during sex. I really wanted to
let women out there know that it's not a turn on, and it's a
good way to lose a partner. I've had two of these. It starts
out all nice, and when you start picking up a little bit, it
sounds like a wolf or a train starting screaming all at once, and it's
not much fun. And in your mind you're thinking I might be good,
but I'm not that good. It gets annoying really fast. I think it's
the crazy lady that comes out in them when she is trying to mark her
territory and tell every other woman in the world that you are hers. But
really, after a couple of times of leaving the bed unhappy and unsatisfied and
your ears are hurting, it's just not appealing and you move on. I
get enjoyment when it's so cloud loud you can't concentrate enough to keep you're really
hard, Okay, Travis, it is definitely not It's supposed to be a
turn on, but it's not okay. You know, what. I think
that he put it in kind of a blunt sort of a way. But
I will say that putting on a performance of screaming for whatever reason. I
had one girlfriend that did that, and she would scream to the point where
it was like stop, I know that's not real. I know that you're
performing, and it really was distracting. It's like, no, I know,
I'm not that good. And yeah, that's all I get to say
about that. And I don't have a dog in the race here. I
don't know what it's like as a male. Let's see. Okay. Last
one for sure, traveling cultures. I wanted to write about something so interesting
we came across while traveling. My husband and I went to New Zealand for
our honeymoon. You need to go immediately. I've never been a place so
beautiful and clean and all my travels. When we got to the airport,
they had to check the bottom of our shoes to make sure we weren't bringing
anything from our land to their country that would kill their natural plants and species,
specifically US farm related products. You can't even bring bananas over there,
which I found interesting. But anyway, out exploring, we came across these
fancy public restrooms that electronically open with a wave of the hand, much better
than our porta potty systems out here. So when you go into these fancy
restrooms in New Zealand, there's a voice that says you have ten minutes,
and after ten minutes, if there's no motion, since the door will just
open. They also play some background music like birds chirpings, so you can
be relaxed. I know we've talked about New Zealand and traveling on the podcast,
but it's an amazing place to be. I also have tons of recommendations
if you need any. When you guys go love, y'all always stay perfect.
That's from Amber. That is one place that I really want to go.
And I'm not a big travel bug sort of a person, but New
Zealand is definitely somewhere that I'd like to go. I know, Sam any
thoughts on the podcast about mental health, New Zealand, littering, diapers,
whatever, Love to hear your thoughts. Send your emails to Ryan's show at
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