WEBVTT 1 00:00:03.399 --> 00:00:08.160 Deborah, with her thirty years of being an entrepreneur and creating over seven companies, 2 00:00:08.359 --> 00:00:12.119 knows exactly what it means to accept the mission. When you make that 3 00:00:12.199 --> 00:00:16.320 decision, when you accept the mission to become a solopreneur, to take yourself 4 00:00:16.359 --> 00:00:20.239 and your talents to market, then you embrace a life of not only unlimited 5 00:00:20.280 --> 00:00:25.280 possibilities, but also the unknown. It's an elixir of fear and bravery that 6 00:00:25.359 --> 00:00:30.440 only someone who's taken the leap really understands. On our show, deb digs 7 00:00:30.519 --> 00:00:35.000 deep with her guests to highlight what you the listener wants to know the stories, 8 00:00:35.079 --> 00:00:39.640 the wise and the hows to navigate the journey to success. Get ready 9 00:00:39.679 --> 00:00:44.600 to hear from some of the most incredible mission takers from Generation Z to boomers. 10 00:00:44.640 --> 00:00:48.000 So sit up, perk up, and get ready to be blown away. 11 00:00:48.240 --> 00:00:52.960 Now Here is your host, Deborah Drummond. Well, you are important 12 00:00:53.079 --> 00:01:00.960 treat today, welcome and accepted that you know by her here I always say 13 00:01:02.000 --> 00:01:03.200 that you know. I think half of you just show up to have a 14 00:01:03.200 --> 00:01:07.719 good chuckle. I think that you're like, no way would I want to 15 00:01:07.719 --> 00:01:11.000 be an entrepreneur. Do you hear what these guys go through? We might 16 00:01:11.040 --> 00:01:15.799 be your inspiration for not taking the risk. No all stories aside. It 17 00:01:15.840 --> 00:01:19.400 has been an incredible journey and I get to you know what, really, 18 00:01:19.680 --> 00:01:25.319 I get to get up and I get to interview the coolest people doing the 19 00:01:25.359 --> 00:01:27.480 coolest thing. And I know that there's a lot of you out there doing 20 00:01:27.599 --> 00:01:30.680 super cool stuff, so you know what you probably need to be where Aaron's 21 00:01:30.680 --> 00:01:33.599 sitting, and you know what to do if you want to do that. 22 00:01:34.000 --> 00:01:38.319 But I'm super happy today because not only have me and Aaron connected on many 23 00:01:38.359 --> 00:01:41.519 different levels. One, she's in my hood. We've got a Canadian girl 24 00:01:41.519 --> 00:01:45.920 in the house today and she's BC Canadian, so we're like, I was 25 00:01:45.920 --> 00:01:48.480 just telling her that I was heading to the Cure concert tonight. She's like 26 00:01:48.560 --> 00:01:51.280 what, I like, I'm sorry, I should have got you over here 27 00:01:51.280 --> 00:01:53.560 because she lives on the island. Anyways, this woman, since I met 28 00:01:53.599 --> 00:01:57.439 her, has been transforming. So I got introduced to her through another cool, 29 00:01:57.480 --> 00:02:00.319 groovy couple. And that's how works, right, That's how it works. 30 00:02:00.359 --> 00:02:05.040 Cool people hang with cool people. It's just how it works. And 31 00:02:05.200 --> 00:02:07.520 it's interesting because you know there's those people in your life that and particularly in 32 00:02:07.520 --> 00:02:10.240 your business, when they're like you need to meet this person. You need 33 00:02:10.280 --> 00:02:14.960 to hear what this person has to say that you take it to heart and 34 00:02:15.000 --> 00:02:17.360 you're like, okay, that feels like the right thing to do. Because 35 00:02:17.400 --> 00:02:22.159 you get bombarded with all sorts of you, listen to me here, listen 36 00:02:22.199 --> 00:02:23.199 to me there? What does that look like? Here? But there, 37 00:02:23.240 --> 00:02:29.039 truly is nothing better than a handshake. I know we live in a digital 38 00:02:29.080 --> 00:02:31.159 world, and a lot of times we do digital handshakes. We put people 39 00:02:31.159 --> 00:02:35.439 together in texts, we put them together in LinkedIn, we put together But 40 00:02:35.520 --> 00:02:38.319 there's nothing better than someone reaching out and going, look at I think this 41 00:02:38.360 --> 00:02:42.039 woman has something that you might be interested in, or there's something that you 42 00:02:42.360 --> 00:02:45.919 guys need to do together. And here we are doing stuff together right, 43 00:02:46.360 --> 00:02:52.560 So very very very cool. I want to let's see you guys are like 44 00:02:52.599 --> 00:02:54.120 the best audience. I know that you're tired of hearing that, but you 45 00:02:54.159 --> 00:02:59.560 know what I think you are. I think you're kind of the transformiation type 46 00:02:59.560 --> 00:03:02.840 of people. Well today, I think you're a transformative audience today. I 47 00:03:02.879 --> 00:03:05.879 think that's what's going to happen. And if you're not now, you will 48 00:03:05.919 --> 00:03:08.840 be by the time that you get off. Because Aaron is in this incredible 49 00:03:09.120 --> 00:03:15.599 I'm calling her the holistic lentrepreneur because here's someone who's got verse of business that 50 00:03:15.800 --> 00:03:21.199 really strong linear digital marketing. This is what you do, lead generation whole 51 00:03:21.319 --> 00:03:25.400 world. The woman also made Jury, had a business and Jury. I 52 00:03:25.400 --> 00:03:30.199 find out more about her every time we talk. But she has gone into 53 00:03:30.319 --> 00:03:38.159 and has been in the program your business for leads. D program your brain 54 00:03:38.400 --> 00:03:42.360 for things that aren't serving you. It's really interesting, right, It's really 55 00:03:42.400 --> 00:03:46.280 interesting because the more you d program than you kind of program differently. But 56 00:03:46.400 --> 00:03:50.800 I'm really looking forward to it because this woman is in the deep dive of 57 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:54.159 transforming her own business and coming up with some pretty cool things that I knew 58 00:03:54.240 --> 00:03:58.439 that you guys would want to hear about. And never mind that it is 59 00:03:58.479 --> 00:04:04.360 an interesting journey as an entrepreneur to keep evolving and being brave enough to evolve, 60 00:04:04.599 --> 00:04:08.000 because look, you know, you hear like she used to do jewelry. 61 00:04:08.039 --> 00:04:10.120 I used to do jewelry, And you're like, oh my gosh, 62 00:04:10.120 --> 00:04:13.639 why don't you anymore? Because there's an evolvement now, you might come back 63 00:04:13.680 --> 00:04:16.040 to it, you might re meet it. You know, nothing's ever gone 64 00:04:16.079 --> 00:04:20.199 forever, right. Sometimes people date their company like a teenage sweetheart. And 65 00:04:20.240 --> 00:04:25.879 they marryat for the rest of their life, and then sometimes you do the 66 00:04:25.959 --> 00:04:29.879 dance. So Aaron, welcome to mission accepted, where we kind of chat 67 00:04:29.920 --> 00:04:33.160 and laugh about the journey. Thank you for having me. I'm so thrilled 68 00:04:33.160 --> 00:04:38.600 to be here. Absolutely so. Look at that was kind of a multiplex 69 00:04:38.759 --> 00:04:43.519 introduction. I don't tend to do those too often. But so, you've 70 00:04:43.560 --> 00:04:48.360 been an entrepreneur for how long now and where did you first start? Well, 71 00:04:48.399 --> 00:04:53.680 really, I've been an entrepreneur for the last like twenty five years. 72 00:04:54.000 --> 00:04:58.519 When I was pregnant with my first child twenty five years ago, I knew 73 00:04:58.560 --> 00:05:00.680 I didn't want to go back to my job was a floral designer, and 74 00:05:00.680 --> 00:05:06.160 I was making eleven dollars an hour, like just over minimum wage. And 75 00:05:06.199 --> 00:05:14.160 I'm like, now, why would I put my baby in daycare have someone 76 00:05:14.199 --> 00:05:17.000 else, you know, spending all day with them for what I would make. 77 00:05:17.160 --> 00:05:20.839 I would be making like two bucks an hour, right, So, 78 00:05:21.040 --> 00:05:26.439 and plus something happens when you actually have the baby. You're like, no 79 00:05:26.800 --> 00:05:32.000 way, I am moving off at Daycarey before you have the baby, you 80 00:05:32.199 --> 00:05:36.399 might think you'll be able to baby arise and you're like, no way, 81 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:42.439 I'm not dressed in my baby to no one right right right right. So 82 00:05:42.959 --> 00:05:47.480 an economic heartstring decision forces you. And so did you start doing flowers? 83 00:05:47.519 --> 00:05:50.399 Like were you doing floral work at home or what did you do? Now? 84 00:05:50.519 --> 00:05:56.920 I actually decided to look for a way to make money from home, 85 00:05:57.199 --> 00:06:00.600 living in an apartment in North Vancouver at the time. And you'll you'll get 86 00:06:00.600 --> 00:06:03.240 a chuckle out of this. One of the first things I did was I 87 00:06:03.279 --> 00:06:09.560 bought a whole bunch of wax. I was going to make candles, all 88 00:06:09.680 --> 00:06:15.000 right, we are sisters. Almost burnt the apartment down the kitchen anyway, 89 00:06:15.120 --> 00:06:17.920 lit a, you know, a bunch of whax on fire and everything. 90 00:06:18.240 --> 00:06:24.480 And then I walked into a beat store one day and I went, whoa, 91 00:06:24.800 --> 00:06:29.079 this looks like fun. And I spent like two hundred dollars on beads. 92 00:06:29.839 --> 00:06:32.600 I fell in love with making jewelry, and then I took the silver 93 00:06:32.759 --> 00:06:38.279 smith class, gold all that kind of stuff. So you know, I 94 00:06:38.839 --> 00:06:44.920 evolved over time as my skills evolved and improved, and I just fell in 95 00:06:45.040 --> 00:06:49.680 love with it. So I was designing the jewelry, making it and selling 96 00:06:49.720 --> 00:06:55.079 it. But it allowed me. I wasn't making a lot of money because 97 00:06:55.120 --> 00:06:59.959 I had no marketing skills, right, So I was doing like the low 98 00:07:00.120 --> 00:07:05.399 pots and that kind of thing, making enough money to help out with groceries. 99 00:07:05.600 --> 00:07:12.920 But I was at home with my kids right right, right, right 100 00:07:13.120 --> 00:07:16.720 one when I started, and then we had another. But that was the 101 00:07:16.759 --> 00:07:20.120 most important thing, you know, make a little bit of extra money, 102 00:07:21.439 --> 00:07:26.639 get home with the kids. But also, I'm a big believer. Maybe 103 00:07:26.680 --> 00:07:30.000 this isn't true for every woman, but for me, I knew that being 104 00:07:30.000 --> 00:07:36.720 a mom was fulfilling, but it wasn't enough. I needed my own thing, 105 00:07:38.120 --> 00:07:42.839 another outlet, a where I could make some of my own money and 106 00:07:42.959 --> 00:07:46.959 be where I could go out and be around other adults and that kind of 107 00:07:46.000 --> 00:07:54.519 thing. So it filled that that need, that desire perfectly. And I 108 00:07:54.560 --> 00:07:57.199 think we hear a lot about that. I know for me, when I 109 00:07:57.240 --> 00:08:00.040 first started doing massage, I mean, when you talk to people that a 110 00:08:00.160 --> 00:08:01.959 creative, that's I mean, that's why I called you this holistic entrepreneur, 111 00:08:03.120 --> 00:08:07.120 right because it's creative. And I actually just finished answering a question in a 112 00:08:07.199 --> 00:08:09.240 magazine for LA and it's like, why are you in the creative? And 113 00:08:09.240 --> 00:08:13.959 I'm like, building a business in its own essence, even if it's an 114 00:08:13.000 --> 00:08:18.319 accounting firm has a creative aspect to it. It's right, it's the evolvement, 115 00:08:18.519 --> 00:08:22.079 it's building, it's designing. And I think that there's many of us, 116 00:08:22.079 --> 00:08:26.839 myself included. When I first started my massage practice, I would go 117 00:08:26.879 --> 00:08:30.279 to Kinko's, remember, and if it was a good week with massage, 118 00:08:31.399 --> 00:08:35.440 I would do color flyers. And if I didn't make any money, it 119 00:08:35.480 --> 00:08:39.000 was black and white. And I had a nanny that would take my daughter 120 00:08:39.120 --> 00:08:43.600 for two hours, which was justifiable in my mind, and I would go 121 00:08:43.679 --> 00:08:46.399 do a massage and then she'd bring her back and you know, we'd play 122 00:08:46.519 --> 00:08:48.279 and you know, nurse and each lunch and all the and that was how 123 00:08:48.320 --> 00:08:52.559 I did my business, like two hours on, two hours off, and 124 00:08:52.600 --> 00:08:56.639 that's how we built. And it was very cottage industry. But I think 125 00:08:56.840 --> 00:09:01.000 you have a very industrious mind. And when you talk about needing to have 126 00:09:01.159 --> 00:09:07.840 that, I think that's instrumental in kind of how you have just continued to 127 00:09:07.000 --> 00:09:11.240 do that. So okay, so you don't burn the house down, yea 128 00:09:11.320 --> 00:09:16.519 for you. You start making jewelry, YEA for you, and you're rock 129 00:09:16.559 --> 00:09:20.240 in your world as a mom and a I guess cottage industry woman and then 130 00:09:20.279 --> 00:09:26.559 where'd you go from there? Well, everything kind of moved along that path 131 00:09:26.879 --> 00:09:33.080 until the day I woke up on my forty fourth birthday. So I did 132 00:09:33.080 --> 00:09:37.320 the math. I did the math. I realized if I was going to 133 00:09:37.399 --> 00:09:39.679 live till I was eighty eight, then my life was half over. My 134 00:09:39.759 --> 00:09:43.679 life was half lived. At this point, I'm now middle aged. Now. 135 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:50.840 I call this the midlife realization. Everybody has a realization around this time 136 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:56.080 or whatever age. Certain things happen in your life which start this realization. 137 00:09:56.480 --> 00:09:58.159 For me, it was also the fact that my boys were at that time 138 00:09:58.200 --> 00:10:01.720 twelve and fifty, and they're like, oh, they're in high school. 139 00:10:01.759 --> 00:10:05.879 They're way more independent now, they're hanging out with their friends and have their 140 00:10:05.879 --> 00:10:09.320 own lives. They're soon going to graduate and go on to whatever is next 141 00:10:09.360 --> 00:10:16.600 for them. Right, So I was looking at the second stage of my 142 00:10:16.679 --> 00:10:20.200 life, like the next season of my life was staring me in the face. 143 00:10:22.399 --> 00:10:26.039 Now, it naturally happens. In case you haven't gone through this yet, 144 00:10:26.840 --> 00:10:33.399 love everyone, male, female, Whatever you ask yourself these questions, 145 00:10:33.399 --> 00:10:39.639 how happy am I am? I? Fulfilled? Am I living a life 146 00:10:39.679 --> 00:10:45.360 of joy and passion? Am I having enough fun and adventure? You know, 147 00:10:45.440 --> 00:10:48.240 am I living my purpose? What is my purpose? Who am I? 148 00:10:48.240 --> 00:10:50.279 I don't even know anymore because I've been Jack and White's mom for all 149 00:10:50.320 --> 00:10:54.120 these years? Who am I? Right? And you also ask yourself, 150 00:10:54.200 --> 00:10:58.840 am I where I thought I would be at this time in my life? 151 00:11:00.639 --> 00:11:07.679 So to most of those questions, I answered no. So then what popped 152 00:11:07.720 --> 00:11:13.159 into my head was if not now, then when are you going to just 153 00:11:13.600 --> 00:11:18.440 kind of fake it the second half of your life? Or are you going 154 00:11:18.519 --> 00:11:22.000 to do what you need to do to make yourself happy? Because happiness is 155 00:11:22.000 --> 00:11:26.200 an internal job. It's not up to anyone else but you. So I 156 00:11:26.240 --> 00:11:31.519 decided to make some changes in my life, big changes. I changed everything 157 00:11:31.919 --> 00:11:37.279 except my kids. I kept my kids, everything else changed. I split 158 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:41.200 up the marriage. I became single. And then my next thought was, 159 00:11:43.639 --> 00:11:48.120 you know, splitting up is expensive, and I didn't want to take any 160 00:11:48.159 --> 00:11:52.039 money from him because I was the one splitting it up, splitting up the 161 00:11:52.039 --> 00:11:54.080 marriage. So I kind of, you know, I went, Okay, 162 00:11:54.120 --> 00:11:58.240 I need to start making a lot more money here. You know, I 163 00:11:58.399 --> 00:12:01.879 know what kind of life I want for the second half. I want to 164 00:12:01.559 --> 00:12:05.080 more adventure, more fun. Like I've always been a free spirit, so 165 00:12:05.480 --> 00:12:09.000 it was kind of a normal, you know, thought process. But I 166 00:12:09.039 --> 00:12:13.159 wanted to be able to like pick up and travel if my kids were going 167 00:12:13.200 --> 00:12:16.159 to be off living on their own, I'm not going to sit here in 168 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:18.519 the house all day long kind of thing, you know, just making my 169 00:12:18.639 --> 00:12:20.480 jewelry. I wanted more adventure. I wanted more out of life. I 170 00:12:20.519 --> 00:12:26.279 wanted more excitement. So then I went, Okay, I need to make 171 00:12:26.360 --> 00:12:30.720 more money. And it didn't really occur to me at the time to maybe 172 00:12:30.720 --> 00:12:33.879 do something like learn marketing so I could continue making my money but just sell 173 00:12:33.960 --> 00:12:39.279 more of it, like maybe online didn't even occur to me. I had 174 00:12:39.440 --> 00:12:43.080 no computer skills. I didn't even know how to copy and paste at the 175 00:12:43.200 --> 00:12:48.559 time. Yeah, so I was on Facebook one day and I fell into 176 00:12:48.559 --> 00:12:56.639 the world of online marketing, network marketing, affiliate marketing. And my first 177 00:12:56.639 --> 00:13:00.279 four months it was terrible. I made a grand total of three hundred years 178 00:13:00.320 --> 00:13:05.600 after blowing six grand on my business. But it was a blessing. It 179 00:13:05.720 --> 00:13:09.879 was a blessing because it forced me to realize I didn't know what I was 180 00:13:09.919 --> 00:13:15.360 doing right, you know, So I was you know, I heard that 181 00:13:15.399 --> 00:13:20.000 most people never make a dime online, and I'm like, Okay, so 182 00:13:20.279 --> 00:13:22.919 there's ninety seven percent of people working online not making any money. There's three 183 00:13:22.960 --> 00:13:26.279 percent making a lot of money. So I need to figure out what the 184 00:13:26.360 --> 00:13:33.600 three percent are doing and do that. So that's when I was introduced to 185 00:13:33.639 --> 00:13:39.720 the whole world of attraction marketing, you know, personal branding, building an 186 00:13:39.759 --> 00:13:45.279 audience, attracting people to you, providing value to your audience, and then 187 00:13:45.360 --> 00:13:50.799 you make offers to your audience. So I jumped into the world of learning 188 00:13:50.840 --> 00:13:54.399 how to do this whole online business thing, and I had myself a six 189 00:13:54.480 --> 00:14:01.320 figure business within nine months. And of course, what happens to most people 190 00:14:01.320 --> 00:14:09.519 when they step into the online business space, personal development comes into play. 191 00:14:09.799 --> 00:14:13.039 And I always I had always thought like, all this personal development, so 192 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:15.759 oh woo woo, what a money grab, what a load of crab, 193 00:14:16.399 --> 00:14:20.240 until I was kind of pushed into it. And what really happened was I 194 00:14:20.320 --> 00:14:26.440 realized that if I was going to be successful building my online business, I 195 00:14:26.480 --> 00:14:33.320 would have to become the person capable of doing it, and the person I 196 00:14:33.559 --> 00:14:39.480 was was not capable because deep down I had all these limiting beliefs. I 197 00:14:39.519 --> 00:14:43.720 had baggage. I believed I was dumb, I believed I was stupid. 198 00:14:43.240 --> 00:14:48.240 So I did not believe I had the intelligence to be able to do something 199 00:14:48.279 --> 00:14:54.720 like that. So I knew I had to work on myself. So that's 200 00:14:54.720 --> 00:15:03.720 what I did. I dove in, completely reprogrammed my own brain, became 201 00:15:03.759 --> 00:15:11.559 a completely different person. I transformed my mindset. I mastered my own psychology. 202 00:15:11.600 --> 00:15:16.000 One I'm still always mastering it. Yes, of course, So let's 203 00:15:16.000 --> 00:15:20.240 take a little breath there, because that's that's quite a journey. And I 204 00:15:20.320 --> 00:15:26.720 also think that quite a level of awareness. I think it takes a lot 205 00:15:26.799 --> 00:15:28.919 to admit. I mean, it's one thing to admit to yourself. I'm 206 00:15:28.960 --> 00:15:31.759 not good at tech. I'm not good at this, I'm not good at 207 00:15:31.799 --> 00:15:35.440 that. I'm not good at marketing. I'm not good. And you know, 208 00:15:35.480 --> 00:15:37.879 we all see people. We're entrepreneurs, so we see people struggle in 209 00:15:37.919 --> 00:15:43.240 different areas, and there seems to be this facade of pretend you've got it 210 00:15:43.279 --> 00:15:45.879 all together, particularly in the online world. Right, Pretend you have it 211 00:15:45.919 --> 00:15:48.159 all together, Pretend you know what you're doing, even if you don't. 212 00:15:48.240 --> 00:15:52.919 This whole around, fake it till you make it. It's another thing to 213 00:15:52.039 --> 00:15:56.399 stop and say, I don't really know what I'm doing, and I need 214 00:15:56.440 --> 00:16:00.840 to divert because that's a financial fear right there. It's like you've only made 215 00:16:00.840 --> 00:16:03.320 three hundred bucks or whatever that you made and you spent you know, let's 216 00:16:03.320 --> 00:16:07.879 just say you're ROI was a little off ratio, but not really when you 217 00:16:07.919 --> 00:16:12.039 take a look at the fact that starting a new business has expense and either 218 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:15.639 you learn before or you learn you earn and you learn right. You know, 219 00:16:15.679 --> 00:16:18.960 I'm a big I'm a big fan of that whole sector, in that 220 00:16:18.000 --> 00:16:23.279 whole industry, um mostly because of the personal development. But it takes a 221 00:16:23.279 --> 00:16:27.320 lot of bravery to divert and go, Okay, whoa. It's not the 222 00:16:27.360 --> 00:16:32.919 company. It's not the products, it's not the platform. It's not the 223 00:16:33.000 --> 00:16:37.000 lack of training, it's not the upline. It's not people below me not 224 00:16:37.120 --> 00:16:41.080 doing anything. It's not it's not it's not in go you know what it 225 00:16:41.200 --> 00:16:45.600 could be me. I mean, seriously, how many people do we know? 226 00:16:45.879 --> 00:16:49.000 I tried it. It didn't work for me, Dodd. And when 227 00:16:49.039 --> 00:16:52.600 I'm talking with people and I do a little jams jumping on them, I'm 228 00:16:52.639 --> 00:16:56.399 like, there's five reasons why a company doesn't doesn't work for you, and 229 00:16:56.559 --> 00:17:00.080 one of them is you. One of them is you, and that's that 230 00:17:00.320 --> 00:17:02.960 you're talking about. So I just wanted to take a breath there because there's 231 00:17:03.000 --> 00:17:06.799 lots of people that are struggling at different aspects and whatever business, whether it's 232 00:17:06.839 --> 00:17:11.000 online. Are you sell surfboards or you're a coach or you're an accountant. 233 00:17:11.000 --> 00:17:15.720 I mean really honestly stopping and pulling back and not just thinking what is it 234 00:17:15.759 --> 00:17:18.119 that I'm not doing right in my marketing? What is it that I'm not 235 00:17:18.160 --> 00:17:22.680 doing right in my finances? But what's going on in here that's driving that 236 00:17:22.880 --> 00:17:27.039 lack of success. That's a step of bravery that you know. Good on 237 00:17:27.119 --> 00:17:32.200 you, really good on you. So talk about so you've done you did 238 00:17:32.200 --> 00:17:34.039 some personal growth work. I mean, I don't know how it came to 239 00:17:34.039 --> 00:17:36.839 you, what you did, who you chose to hang out with, or 240 00:17:36.839 --> 00:17:38.640 what have you. But tell us a little bit about that, and then 241 00:17:40.039 --> 00:17:41.960 how did you flip it? I mean you went from I mean six hundred 242 00:17:42.000 --> 00:17:48.440 bucks too, I went to six figures. Well it really, I mean 243 00:17:48.480 --> 00:17:55.079 the first step in self awareness, and my opinion, is becoming aware of 244 00:17:55.119 --> 00:18:02.359 your own thoughts, what you say to yourself, because the truth is your 245 00:18:02.440 --> 00:18:07.799 thoughts, your thoughts and emotions and behaviors are not who you are. They 246 00:18:07.799 --> 00:18:11.160 are not who you are. So you have to know that because this is 247 00:18:11.160 --> 00:18:17.279 when people label themselves and really develop these horrible beliefs in themselves because they think 248 00:18:17.319 --> 00:18:22.720 they are that right, Like I truly believe my identity was a stupid person? 249 00:18:23.559 --> 00:18:32.039 Right? Not helpful? Right again? Nothing and so well yeah, 250 00:18:32.119 --> 00:18:37.319 so first step really is becoming aware of your own thoughts, what you say 251 00:18:37.480 --> 00:18:42.039 to yourself about your self, because that's how you're identifying. So if you 252 00:18:42.079 --> 00:18:45.960 think you're you know, oh too fat, too thin, too tall, 253 00:18:47.079 --> 00:18:53.559 too too young, too old, not were they you're a victim. All 254 00:18:53.599 --> 00:19:00.720 these things that you're saying to yourself are creating you to self sabotage, right, 255 00:19:00.839 --> 00:19:04.240 I mean, what you say to yourself about yourself becomes a self fulfilling 256 00:19:04.319 --> 00:19:11.359 prophecy. So that's very powerful. That's a mic drop in. So how 257 00:19:11.400 --> 00:19:15.119 did you go about? Because I know that you had a transformative life. 258 00:19:15.160 --> 00:19:18.440 I know that you are continuing on the path. But let's face it, 259 00:19:18.480 --> 00:19:22.440 you've got a pretty good handle. I mean, you've moved some pretty pretty 260 00:19:22.480 --> 00:19:25.680 strong internal mountains. Now I think you're just kind of working on the snow 261 00:19:25.720 --> 00:19:29.160 peaks, right, You're pretty verse. You're you're downloading with other people. 262 00:19:29.240 --> 00:19:33.839 So if someone's noticing what exactly what you're saying, If someone's listening out there 263 00:19:33.839 --> 00:19:37.519 and they're like, I say that to myself, I say I'm not educated 264 00:19:37.599 --> 00:19:40.039 enough, or I'm not smart enough, or I can never walk across that 265 00:19:40.160 --> 00:19:42.720 stage or look at them in their business. I had a woman yesterday. 266 00:19:42.799 --> 00:19:45.839 I had a woman yesterday say she's like, I just heard a woman. 267 00:19:47.160 --> 00:19:52.839 You know, she's on Instagram and you know she's got these challenges and she's 268 00:19:52.880 --> 00:19:55.720 been in business two years and she made two hunter and eighty seven thousand, 269 00:19:55.759 --> 00:19:57.200 and I haven't made that in three years. And I'm like, not your 270 00:19:57.200 --> 00:20:02.000 story, not your journeys. Don't compare yourself to your insights of the people's 271 00:20:02.000 --> 00:20:06.359 outside. But what do you say when someone's saying to themselves how come they 272 00:20:06.440 --> 00:20:11.440 can do it and I can't? Something must be wrong with not that A 273 00:20:11.680 --> 00:20:15.799 You have to know there's nothing wrong with you. As long as you keep 274 00:20:15.799 --> 00:20:18.319 telling yourself there's something wrong with you, you will create things. Did you 275 00:20:18.559 --> 00:20:23.920 know that you can take someone who's got like a symptom of something and they'll 276 00:20:23.960 --> 00:20:29.960 go google it and they'll come across I don't know Parkinson's right, and then 277 00:20:30.000 --> 00:20:37.759 they'll check out all the symptoms and suddenly they manifest all those symptoms. The 278 00:20:37.920 --> 00:20:42.599 mind is that powerful. So A, you have to recognize that you're not 279 00:20:42.680 --> 00:20:47.440 your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and then b you have to recognize 280 00:20:47.640 --> 00:20:53.119 the negative crap that you're saying to yourself itself that is holding you back from 281 00:20:53.160 --> 00:20:57.759 going after the business and the life that you want. You have to recognize 282 00:20:57.880 --> 00:21:04.960 it's a bullet shit, it's a story that you've been telling yourself from before 283 00:21:06.039 --> 00:21:11.200 the age of seven. Atlas and ourself are imprinted into our subconscious minds before 284 00:21:11.279 --> 00:21:15.559 the age of seven. And then what happens. Something in your life happens 285 00:21:15.599 --> 00:21:19.640 where it's like boom, You now think this about yourself, I'm not good 286 00:21:19.759 --> 00:21:23.480 enough, I'm not worthy, and then other things. You continue living your 287 00:21:23.519 --> 00:21:30.839 life and all these little events happen that reinforce that belief. Right, So 288 00:21:30.000 --> 00:21:36.640 that thought that I'm not good enough becomes a belief. Then it's reinforced even 289 00:21:36.680 --> 00:21:44.559 more and it becomes a conviction. Now that's your identity, right, So 290 00:21:45.119 --> 00:21:51.480 you have to recognize that this is your story, that that's all it is, 291 00:21:51.480 --> 00:21:56.680 is a BS story. Once you begin to see that, to recognize 292 00:21:56.680 --> 00:22:02.480 that you can self correct, you start calling yourself out on your own stuff, 293 00:22:02.480 --> 00:22:04.720 and you will you will begin to reprogram your brain. So anytime I 294 00:22:04.799 --> 00:22:07.279 was doing something, I used to tell myself I was stupid. I don't 295 00:22:07.279 --> 00:22:11.240 know, three or four hundred times a day. Oh wow, oh yeah. 296 00:22:11.240 --> 00:22:15.039 I guess when you start to become aware of it, then you start 297 00:22:15.079 --> 00:22:17.319 to hear it. Right. Other than that, you're just walking around your 298 00:22:17.319 --> 00:22:22.519 house dusting or doing laundry, or making dinner, or doing work or singing 299 00:22:22.640 --> 00:22:26.599 or whatever, and in this background, there's just tape going, Wow, 300 00:22:27.240 --> 00:22:32.799 that's powerful. Yeah. A lot of times, let's say, I don't 301 00:22:32.799 --> 00:22:36.680 know, spilled my coffee, Oh you stupid idiot, that was stupid. 302 00:22:37.440 --> 00:22:41.160 Or you know, I'm not techy, that's just not my area of expertise. 303 00:22:41.440 --> 00:22:45.440 So how many times did I call myself stupid when I couldn't even turn 304 00:22:45.440 --> 00:22:48.480 on my own TV? I've a member about electronics and all that stuff. 305 00:22:48.519 --> 00:22:52.920 It's just not where my gift. Now I accept that and I kind of 306 00:22:52.960 --> 00:22:57.200 celebrate it, right, But so I managed to find areas, like like 307 00:22:57.559 --> 00:23:02.079 times all day long where I thought I was stupid. And here's the thing 308 00:23:02.079 --> 00:23:08.200 too. The reticular activation system picks in and your brain will actually look for 309 00:23:08.400 --> 00:23:12.839 things in your life where you can now call yourself stupid and bring back that 310 00:23:14.039 --> 00:23:19.039 feeling that you're actually addicted to. Right, So you'll look for things in 311 00:23:19.079 --> 00:23:26.680 your life to reaffirm that belief in yourself. It's crazy, that is crazy. 312 00:23:26.799 --> 00:23:32.559 That's crazy stuff, but it's real stuff, and when you think about 313 00:23:32.559 --> 00:23:36.559 it, it's actually quite logical. And so you're talking about being able to 314 00:23:36.559 --> 00:23:40.519 call yourself out and I mean, I look, I know that you take 315 00:23:40.559 --> 00:23:44.000 people through this whole whole process, but for those that are listening, it's 316 00:23:44.000 --> 00:23:48.559 like just stopping and saying, that's not true. That's the story, it's 317 00:23:48.559 --> 00:23:53.359 not my story. It sounds like wow, yeah, you notice the thoughts 318 00:23:53.960 --> 00:23:57.759 and then your self correct. So for me, it was like, stop 319 00:23:57.839 --> 00:24:03.200 saying that it's not even true. That's a load of crap, you know, 320 00:24:03.240 --> 00:24:07.440 and you don't want to change it to You're brilliant, You're one of 321 00:24:07.480 --> 00:24:11.599 the most brilliant people on the planet. No, you don't need to do 322 00:24:11.640 --> 00:24:15.640 that. A your subconscious mind is going to fight you on that. So 323 00:24:15.759 --> 00:24:22.279 it could just be you're plenty smart enough. I don't care what my IQ 324 00:24:22.640 --> 00:24:29.519 is I don't care. I'm plenty smart enough to go and accomplish the things 325 00:24:29.519 --> 00:24:33.759 that I want to accomplish. A also because I now believe I can right 326 00:24:33.119 --> 00:24:38.799 right. So it's self correcting, not going ridiculously far into the other direction, 327 00:24:40.759 --> 00:24:45.160 but recognizing that it's just your story you've been telling yourself and you no 328 00:24:45.279 --> 00:24:49.880 longer speak to yourself that way. Girlfriend, we don't speak to ourself that 329 00:24:49.920 --> 00:24:53.400 way anymore. You're plenty smart enough, you're plenty good enough, you're plenty 330 00:24:53.400 --> 00:25:00.200 thin enough, you're plenty tall enough, you're plenty plaid enough, plad all 331 00:25:00.279 --> 00:25:04.759 right, and you need to go yourself something enough times you will believe it 332 00:25:04.880 --> 00:25:11.039 true, true, true, and then true. So reconditioning the mind, 333 00:25:11.519 --> 00:25:14.119 reconditioning the mind. So you've shared with us one of the ways, and 334 00:25:14.160 --> 00:25:15.480 I know that we can't dig into it or we'd be doing a full on 335 00:25:15.559 --> 00:25:19.640 session. And what you do, right, So, just listening to your 336 00:25:19.680 --> 00:25:25.319 story on how you became an entrepreneur and why you became an entrepreneur, very 337 00:25:25.319 --> 00:25:27.519 functional reason why you became an entrepreneur, you start to love it and then 338 00:25:27.559 --> 00:25:30.519 you started to really see that this could be a part of what you want 339 00:25:32.039 --> 00:25:34.000 a part of what you wanted to do, and it also satisfied other things 340 00:25:34.039 --> 00:25:37.400 inside of you other than being a parent. Right, So here you are, 341 00:25:37.440 --> 00:25:40.759 take us all the way up to today. Take us all the way 342 00:25:40.799 --> 00:25:45.240 up to today. So you've had this journey and you've had an incredible life 343 00:25:45.279 --> 00:25:51.000 in the world of digital marketing and online marketing and all of that good stuff. 344 00:25:51.039 --> 00:25:57.920 So where do things sit for Aaron today? Beautiful place, beautiful place. 345 00:25:59.279 --> 00:26:03.519 You know, with the whole midlife realization that had led to the awakening 346 00:26:03.599 --> 00:26:11.839 that led to the transformation, I've realized that everyone I want to help people 347 00:26:12.079 --> 00:26:18.079 with the knowledge and the skills to be able to reprogram their own brains. 348 00:26:18.440 --> 00:26:22.400 I've done it for myself. I can help other people do it, and 349 00:26:22.680 --> 00:26:26.359 we can do it fast. Can do it fast. You don't need twenty 350 00:26:26.400 --> 00:26:30.640 five years of therapy. You can do it really really quickly when you know 351 00:26:30.680 --> 00:26:36.200 how to do it. They're shortcuts. So it's you know, I feel 352 00:26:36.440 --> 00:26:41.759 that this is why I'm here. This has become my passion. I never 353 00:26:41.799 --> 00:26:47.039 thought I would have any impact in this life, right because I thought I 354 00:26:47.079 --> 00:26:49.559 was stupid. Right, I'll never be anything, I'll never be able to 355 00:26:49.559 --> 00:26:53.920 help anyone and create impact, And now I'm realizing, Holy shit, girlfriend, 356 00:26:56.279 --> 00:26:59.680 a lot of impact. Help a lot of people who are going through, 357 00:27:00.920 --> 00:27:04.240 you know, all this mental stuff, and help people reinvent themselves and 358 00:27:04.279 --> 00:27:10.039 transform so that they can live their best life. I mean, let's be 359 00:27:10.119 --> 00:27:14.200 real. Money may not bring you happiness. What brings you happiness? Like? 360 00:27:14.799 --> 00:27:18.839 What do? What does every single human being really really want? When 361 00:27:18.839 --> 00:27:22.039 you break it down, everybody wants the same thing. A lot of people 362 00:27:22.079 --> 00:27:25.319 think it's money, Oh, I just need money. When you break it 363 00:27:25.400 --> 00:27:30.960 down, everybody wants happiness. People just want to be happy. And when 364 00:27:30.960 --> 00:27:36.319 you get such good control over your own psychology, your own thoughts, your 365 00:27:36.319 --> 00:27:41.400 own emotions, and then your behaviors, you get to be as happy as 366 00:27:41.400 --> 00:27:45.880 you want, you know, being able to master your psychology so much to 367 00:27:45.920 --> 00:27:51.319 the point where, like my kids think I'm nuts sometimes because I can bring 368 00:27:51.359 --> 00:27:55.079 about a state of such pure joy, pure bliss at the drop of a 369 00:27:55.079 --> 00:28:00.319 hat that all just burst into tears. And of course people always assume things 370 00:28:00.359 --> 00:28:03.960 wrong, right Like I was on a flight one time and I was bawling 371 00:28:03.039 --> 00:28:07.720 by I was quietly bawling my eyes out, and Stewart has obviously assumed that 372 00:28:07.799 --> 00:28:12.359 I was afraid of flying and I was like panicking or something happened, maybe 373 00:28:12.359 --> 00:28:15.799 I lost a left one or something. Right, She's like, oh my 374 00:28:15.839 --> 00:28:18.039 god. I'm like, well I'm good. I'm just really really freaking it 375 00:28:18.160 --> 00:28:26.759 happy. She's like, Oh, it's kind of weird for me because yeah, 376 00:28:26.759 --> 00:28:29.880 it's not the normal response to happiness, right, But we all know 377 00:28:30.359 --> 00:28:33.400 when you're so happy that you cried, right, we all know those feelings. 378 00:28:33.440 --> 00:28:37.920 And so I think you've really nailed it when you talk about mastering your 379 00:28:37.920 --> 00:28:41.000 own psychology. And I don't think you can do that alone. I mean, 380 00:28:41.119 --> 00:28:45.720 I know you can't do that alone. We need people in that process 381 00:28:45.839 --> 00:28:48.200 to shine those mirrors of where we want to go before we get there, 382 00:28:48.440 --> 00:28:53.720 and reflect back and be that cheerleading school, you know, squad for ourselves 383 00:28:53.720 --> 00:28:56.680 that we can't yet be. And even still, I mean, look at 384 00:28:56.680 --> 00:28:59.799 I've been doing this game for a long time, Aaron, so of you, 385 00:29:00.480 --> 00:29:03.119 and every time, even when you want to go to that next level, 386 00:29:03.839 --> 00:29:07.359 when you try to break to that next level in your business, or 387 00:29:07.400 --> 00:29:11.000 that next pay level in your business, or that next depth level in your 388 00:29:11.000 --> 00:29:15.240 relationships or whatever, by nature, you're going to get tested because you've neronally 389 00:29:15.319 --> 00:29:21.839 wired yourself for here. Now you're trying to rewire yourself for there, and 390 00:29:21.880 --> 00:29:25.640 you're going to come up against yourself even on a might be a smaller scale. 391 00:29:26.119 --> 00:29:27.880 You might be able to recognize it, but it's sure heck is helpful 392 00:29:27.920 --> 00:29:37.039 when someone else like dials in with you right at you almost become stagnant, 393 00:29:37.119 --> 00:29:41.359 even no matter what your success level is, Like I don't care if you're 394 00:29:41.359 --> 00:29:47.839 making a million dollars a year. You become stagnant and you really hit on 395 00:29:47.880 --> 00:29:51.799 something there, debb Like, it's my belief that when you become stagnant, 396 00:29:51.839 --> 00:29:56.319 and you're stagnant for a reason, recognize your stagnant, not going on go 397 00:29:56.400 --> 00:30:02.079 into the whole victim mode pity party thing. That's actually a sign for you 398 00:30:02.240 --> 00:30:07.119 to level up. These are all steps of leveling up. They're all steps 399 00:30:07.160 --> 00:30:12.079 to your own personal evolution, the evolution of your business, the evolution of 400 00:30:12.119 --> 00:30:17.519 who you are as a human being. So recognizing that is like, oh, 401 00:30:17.599 --> 00:30:19.240 I'm supposed to level up right now. This is what happened to me 402 00:30:19.319 --> 00:30:25.440 back in like December January. It's like, I'm supposed to level up again 403 00:30:25.599 --> 00:30:29.400 here right, So I kind of looked for where I was supposed to go, 404 00:30:29.480 --> 00:30:33.480 and I started paying attention to signs, you know, and had all 405 00:30:33.480 --> 00:30:37.519 these little epiphanies, and then things just start lining up like that's when we 406 00:30:37.559 --> 00:30:40.480 connected. When I was going through that, and like wait, you do 407 00:30:40.519 --> 00:30:44.480 what? Oh, we totally need to be connected. And people start showing 408 00:30:44.559 --> 00:30:51.720 up in your life and opportunities and signs, and it becomes crazy, Yes, 409 00:30:52.960 --> 00:30:57.440 is going on here in a good way? Well, and I think 410 00:30:57.440 --> 00:31:02.759 it's really important to say that, and you get pushed to level up that 411 00:31:02.960 --> 00:31:04.880 no matter how far you've gone. I mean, I always said I was 412 00:31:04.920 --> 00:31:08.319 coaching someone out yesterday, and I'm like, I would want to know that 413 00:31:08.359 --> 00:31:14.680 the persons that's coaching me is coaching or learning or continuing to better themselves, 414 00:31:14.759 --> 00:31:18.599 because that is It's just how it works, right, It literally literally is 415 00:31:18.599 --> 00:31:22.799 how it works. And you talk about the people showing up and the books 416 00:31:22.920 --> 00:31:27.400 or this indication, it's like, you know, the signs whenever you say 417 00:31:27.519 --> 00:31:32.759 I wonder if that's a sign good chance, because you see things all the 418 00:31:32.799 --> 00:31:34.640 time. I see things all the time. I see commercials all the time. 419 00:31:34.680 --> 00:31:37.839 Well, in the last three days there's been a commercial for Ireland dot 420 00:31:37.880 --> 00:31:41.119 Com. I was like, huh. First of all, I thought, 421 00:31:41.160 --> 00:31:45.119 I was like, huh, that's interesting. By the third time, I'm 422 00:31:45.160 --> 00:31:47.920 like, all right, now we all know that I'm going to Ireland next 423 00:31:47.960 --> 00:31:49.400 year, but I'm like, really I need to get there little sooner. 424 00:31:49.480 --> 00:31:52.200 Let's just see what I just see what gets revealed to me? Right, 425 00:31:52.200 --> 00:31:56.079 It's like having the same book thrown at your feet three times. You'd start 426 00:31:56.160 --> 00:32:04.640 to go maybe, yeah, maybe maybe I'm supposed to read this. Oh, 427 00:32:04.680 --> 00:32:07.400 look what came in the mail today. Look, we could talk forever 428 00:32:07.440 --> 00:32:10.200 and ever and and honestly, if you want to hear Aaron's share again, 429 00:32:10.279 --> 00:32:14.200 we'll just listen to this recording over and over. But no, she is 430 00:32:14.240 --> 00:32:16.920 going to be a keynote speaker at the Stand Up, Speak Up and Show 431 00:32:17.039 --> 00:32:22.440 Up. Yes, you, that means that you show up if you want 432 00:32:22.440 --> 00:32:24.480 to speak, That means you show up if you want to be inspired and 433 00:32:24.519 --> 00:32:28.680 motivated. And it is this kind of methodology that she's going to do a 434 00:32:28.720 --> 00:32:35.519 deep dive into alongside of numerous other women talking about their area of expertise, 435 00:32:35.839 --> 00:32:39.440 whatever that is, whether it's music, whether it's finance, whether it's forgiveness, 436 00:32:39.759 --> 00:32:44.039 whatever it is. Right, and so we've all come together and guess 437 00:32:44.039 --> 00:32:47.960 what guys, there's three hundred and seventy five women. So sometimes when the 438 00:32:49.000 --> 00:32:51.799 calling comes, you might not want to pick up the phone. No, 439 00:32:51.880 --> 00:32:54.599 I'm kidding. The calling comes, it all rolls out the way it's supposed 440 00:32:54.640 --> 00:33:00.160 to. And so Aaron is speaking, We're super excited. If you you 441 00:33:00.279 --> 00:33:04.279 want to reach out to us and ask for her special classes. She's going 442 00:33:04.319 --> 00:33:06.960 to be teaching. Absolutely, she's going to be in the Book of two 443 00:33:07.000 --> 00:33:09.720 sixty two. You guys know that book and it's going to be everywhere. 444 00:33:10.319 --> 00:33:14.079 But you can also reach her, you know, reach her beforehand. You 445 00:33:14.119 --> 00:33:16.880 can reach out to her beforehand and ask whatever it is that you can't ask 446 00:33:16.920 --> 00:33:22.160 while you're listening to this driving or what have you. So Aaron, where 447 00:33:22.200 --> 00:33:25.440 can people reach you and what should they reach out to you for? Ooh 448 00:33:27.160 --> 00:33:30.640 ooh ooh. I wasn't prepared for that one. Yeah. Well, if 449 00:33:30.680 --> 00:33:35.160 you if you if you're wanting to make money online, build your you know, 450 00:33:35.319 --> 00:33:38.200 if you start a business, build it faster. If you are looking 451 00:33:38.240 --> 00:33:45.920 to reinvent yourself and level up and master your own psychology, I can help 452 00:33:45.960 --> 00:33:50.079 you do that and do it quickly. I actually have a workshop coming up 453 00:33:50.640 --> 00:33:53.079 probably at the end of June beginning of July, where I'm going to help 454 00:33:53.119 --> 00:33:59.160 people be doing this. Okay, and you may not be listening to this 455 00:33:59.240 --> 00:34:01.559 in June or July, but here's what we know that Aaron runs her classes. 456 00:34:01.640 --> 00:34:05.680 This just happens to be the next one that she's running. So whether 457 00:34:05.720 --> 00:34:09.320 you hear this, she's always running these classes. They're fantastic. I love 458 00:34:09.639 --> 00:34:15.840 that midlife realization that you had. Let's take it back, that midlife realization. 459 00:34:15.840 --> 00:34:16.920 And look, you guys, you may not be at midlife or you 460 00:34:16.960 --> 00:34:22.440 maybe what you consider past midlife. It is that realization whenever it comes, 461 00:34:22.440 --> 00:34:25.159 and you're right, it tends to come around that chunk of time between you 462 00:34:25.199 --> 00:34:32.840 know, forty to sixty where you're like where and what and how? And 463 00:34:34.800 --> 00:34:37.599 Quicker, I love how you said that you can kind of, you know, 464 00:34:37.840 --> 00:34:43.039 hack that because the self discovery process takes a while, because you discover 465 00:34:43.119 --> 00:34:45.480 it, you vary it, you discover it, you work a little bit, 466 00:34:45.519 --> 00:34:47.239 you go back, you got things to do. But when you're working 467 00:34:47.280 --> 00:34:51.639 with somebody and they've got you know, it's kind of like getting healthier. 468 00:34:51.760 --> 00:34:52.960 Quicker. I mean, there's lots of ways to do that, right, 469 00:34:53.239 --> 00:34:57.639 but when you're fighting against your own brain. That's a tough one. So 470 00:34:57.840 --> 00:35:00.719 if there's if there's ways to says quicker, and it's not about like you 471 00:35:00.760 --> 00:35:04.559 said, it's not about like getting to one hundred thousand dollars or a million 472 00:35:04.599 --> 00:35:07.079 dollars a month or whatever. Quicker, even though that's not a bad thing, 473 00:35:07.440 --> 00:35:09.559 it actually allows you to what do you want that money for? What 474 00:35:09.639 --> 00:35:13.400 do you want that next level in your relationship for? What do you it's 475 00:35:13.440 --> 00:35:16.760 just getting it's just getting to that place of completeness or happiness or state of 476 00:35:16.880 --> 00:35:22.079 joy or state of peace much quicker and why not? Like? Why not? 477 00:35:22.760 --> 00:35:27.440 So I'm super excited. I'm super looking forward to what it is you're 478 00:35:27.440 --> 00:35:30.280 putting out in the world. And with that, I have a question for 479 00:35:30.320 --> 00:35:35.440 you. I have well, I have two questions. One's going to be 480 00:35:35.480 --> 00:35:38.159 pertinent to this and the other one's going to be not. So you've talked 481 00:35:38.199 --> 00:35:42.519 a lot about, you know, everything that you've talked about, and you've 482 00:35:42.519 --> 00:35:45.880 talked about getting to things quicker and I, as you know, I'm a 483 00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:51.360 top performance junkie. You know, I love being able to share or optimize 484 00:35:51.360 --> 00:35:54.320 what people are doing. What are one of the things that you do for 485 00:35:54.480 --> 00:35:59.360 your life or your business that you feel as kind of a hack that you 486 00:35:59.440 --> 00:36:07.119 really are able to optimize top results. I look for the lessons in everything. 487 00:36:07.119 --> 00:36:12.440 So if something isn't going my way, whatever it may be, I 488 00:36:12.519 --> 00:36:15.599 will go I will ask myself the question why I co created it to happen 489 00:36:16.000 --> 00:36:21.320 for me? What am I meant to get from this? What am I 490 00:36:21.400 --> 00:36:23.519 meant to learn? And when you get really good at that, hey, 491 00:36:23.840 --> 00:36:30.239 you grow as a human way faster because you're you're open to the lessons. 492 00:36:30.280 --> 00:36:35.320 But also you can take something that like would have you know, years ago, 493 00:36:35.440 --> 00:36:38.639 taken me out mentally for a while, and I can deal with that. 494 00:36:38.960 --> 00:36:43.559 I can nip it in the bud within thirty seconds and be grateful for 495 00:36:43.840 --> 00:36:49.079 whatever. You know, crappy thing just happened, right, So it's reframing 496 00:36:49.119 --> 00:36:52.159 the way you look at things. You're not You're you're you're not. You 497 00:36:52.199 --> 00:36:55.159 know, your vibration isn't spiraling downward and going, oh poor me, and 498 00:36:55.440 --> 00:37:00.400 you know, joining the pity party and slipping into victor the mode. You're 499 00:37:00.480 --> 00:37:06.559 thinking, like a creator, why did I co create this to happen? 500 00:37:06.920 --> 00:37:10.239 What am I meant to learn? And when you find something good about it, 501 00:37:10.320 --> 00:37:14.679 what you can learn. You just become that much strong, You become 502 00:37:14.679 --> 00:37:19.719 invincible when you can think this way. I love that co creating, you 503 00:37:19.760 --> 00:37:23.480 know, the acknowledgement of co creation. Okay, so now there's a completely 504 00:37:23.480 --> 00:37:27.440 different question. And so it's you and you girl, and you are on 505 00:37:27.480 --> 00:37:30.280 your way to a desert island, and you are packing your little suitcase and 506 00:37:30.599 --> 00:37:34.320 that's it. You're there, and that's it. You're staying there, and 507 00:37:34.400 --> 00:37:38.280 you've got room for one album to slide into your suitcase to take with you. 508 00:37:38.360 --> 00:37:43.519 What album could you not imagine not being able to listen to for the 509 00:37:43.519 --> 00:37:45.519 rest of your days. I would have to say, Pink, Floyd, 510 00:37:50.440 --> 00:37:55.960 every song is pretty different. Yeah, that's a good one, feeling. 511 00:37:58.920 --> 00:38:05.159 It's a very transform one, that's for sure. Lots of stories you get 512 00:38:05.159 --> 00:38:07.840 to transform, dark side of the movie you can, Floyd, Oh my 513 00:38:07.920 --> 00:38:12.400 gosh, my friend. Well, as always, it's a pleasure to get 514 00:38:12.440 --> 00:38:14.880 to know you a little better. And this will not be the last time 515 00:38:14.880 --> 00:38:17.239 your O mission accepted. And look, listeners, you guys know what to 516 00:38:17.280 --> 00:38:20.719 do. So I told you that you were going to transform today, and 517 00:38:20.719 --> 00:38:22.840 hopefully that you did, and hopefully you walk away with a couple of really 518 00:38:22.840 --> 00:38:28.840 cool tips that you can use in your life. We will see you at 519 00:38:28.840 --> 00:38:30.320 the Stand Up, Speak Up, Show Up event my gotsh They are on 520 00:38:30.360 --> 00:38:36.280 the eighth day of every month all the way up to International Women's Day. 521 00:38:36.400 --> 00:38:38.519 You must join us on International Women's Day. This is an open, free 522 00:38:38.519 --> 00:38:45.159 event globally for women and men, so please come along. We want to 523 00:38:45.199 --> 00:38:47.519 see you, and we expect to see you and until we meet again, 524 00:38:47.920 --> 00:38:52.119 as we always will be you well and stay moody and thanks again Aaron for 525 00:38:52.280 --> 00:38:54.159 drying yesterday. Good