Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. Some
of you are so caught up in what you want, in what you desire,
that you really believe your love is enough for both of you. Some
of you really believe that you have enough love for the both of you.
You're thinking very, very foolishly, foolishly because your love isn't enough for the
both of you. There are people in this world right now as I speak,
who are in unhealthy relationships. You are so focused on what you want.
You're so focused on having that person in your life. You're so focused
on loving that person, and and what you're getting in return is a lot
of headache and heartache. Some of you are so fixated on being in a
relationship. You're so focused on loving that man or loving that woman. But
it's obvious you don't even love yourself. I don't even know you, but
I know it's true, because if it was not, you will not be
where you are, going through the things you're going through. Some of you
are absolutely miserable. All you do is complain, cry, moan, grown,
but you try to stay where you are because you want to be with
that person. You want to love that person so much your love is not
and never will be enough for the both of you. That's why many people
suffer in their relationships, because you're trying so desperately to love that you're only
receiving one sided. What you're getting in return is one sided, but you
can't see that because you want what you want so bad. You know that
you're unhappy, you know that you're full of pain dealing with all of the
drama in your relationship, just constant drama. You know you don't want it
that way, but you think if you just keep loving him, just keep
loving her, that it will be enough for the both of you. You
just keep hoping and praying that you can love that person so much that they'll
change, only to find that you've changed, but not in a positive way.
Most people find themselves in negative states, even deeper, much deeper than
before, because you've allowed the negativity, the constant drama, the constant chaos,
to change you into a person you don't even want to be. But
this is what a lot of people are contending with because they want to be
in a relationship so bad, they're hoping and praying that their love is enough.
Well, I'm here to tell you is not, and more than likely
will never be. Because what people do without understanding or even realizing, is
that they're teaching that person how he or she can treat them. When you
think your love is enough for the both of you, that means you're willing
to take, take, take, You're willing to allow and accept things that
you know you don't want in your life. I've talked about it plenty of
times. You open yourself up to things you know you don't want because you're
trying to hold on to who you're with so desperately, so desperately, But
you find yourself like in a pit, a pit of pain, unhappy.
Some of you cry your eyes out because you want that person so bad,
But you have to get past that. You have to love yourself enough to
get past it, because, let me tell you, as long as you
act the way you're acting over your significant other, they are empowered by you.
They are empowered to treat you however they want to treat you, and
they will they will. Some of you have opened yourself up to being controlled,
being used as pawns, tokens, obsessed over your possessions, because you've
allowed yourself to be a possession and that's how they'll treat you like a possession.
You think if you just do all of these things that they will love
you more, they will want to be with you more, they will feel
about you the way you feel about them. But that doesn't work. It
doesn't work. Nine percent of a time. You're gonna find yourself in a
deeper, darker pit, hurting. But I want you to really listen to
this is self inflicted. I don't care what he does or what she does.
What you endure is self inflicted. And the reason is self inflicted because
you have allowed it. You have opened yourself up to it. As long
as you open yourself up to things, that's what you're gonna get. People
do not change who they are until they choose to. Sometimes they never do
because they are not into you the way you are into them. It's always
something else that keeps them there. Always. Oftentimes people are so caught up
in their emotions and their feelings that they just cannot see reality right in their
face. And because of it, sometimes people go through so much unnecessary drama.
Sometimes good comes out of it, but most times it don't. Most
times it absolutely does not. And I will tell you that with certainty that
when you're dealing with stress and drama and chaos all of the time, it
affects you mind, body, and soul. Many people have signed up for
this type of lifestyle, affected mind, body, and soul. No one
is that important, shouldn't be that important. But so many people make their
significant others their everything. And that's a mistake. No one should be your
everything, no significant other, no child, no parent, no one,
because you get too caught up in emotions. You get too caught up in
feelings. And when you're like that, you're so vulnerable and you allow yourself
to be in a place mentally where you open yourself up to a lot of
hurting pain. When you make someone your everything, you feel like you can't
breathe without them, You feel like your life is nothing without them. You
are making a mistake. And I will stand on that the more power you
give to a person, the more they can hurt you, and more than
likely will because the one who hurts you the most is the one you love.
They throw the biggest stones, They throw the biggest stones. And it's
why I'm constantly telling you, know your self, love your self. When
you do, everything changes, Everything changes. Sometimes people are so focus on
the emotions that it affects their ability to really think things through. It affects
their ability of being aware and mindful, it affects their ability to think properly
because you're caught up. You're caught up in all of the emotions and feelings,
and people make bad decisions during those times when they shouldn't be making decisions
at all. And I've told you many times, it does not matter how
much you love him or hurt. It don't matter. It don't matter if
they don't love you back, it doesn't matter. I'm not saying love you
the same because people are different. But they should love you. They should
be in love with you, with you just like you're in love with them.
But most relationships are not that way. And what's so crazy is people
settle. They would rather settle for one side of love than no love at
all, when it's not even love. But people think they're in love.
They think it's a healthy relationship when it's not. A relationship is not healthy.
If all you're doing is arguing, bickering and fighting, that's not healthy.
That's not healthy. I don't care what no one says. That's not
healthy for you. Mentally or physically or emotionally. It's not healthy. But
this is what people settle for, day in day out, day in day
out, just arguing. Some of you don't even want to go home.
You'll rather stay at work, you will rather go anywhere else but home.
That's sad, and this shouldn't be the case in no relationship, not one.
That's why I'm telling you your love is not enough for the both of
you. You may feel that way, but it is not true. It
is not so. You can feel that way all day long, it is
not so. It takes two people for a relationship to work too. I
don't care how much you love him or her, it takes two people for
the relationship to work. Too. Many relationships are running on one person trying
to do it all. That's why people are so burned out. Some people
are so burnout in their relationships they would rather die, They would rather commit
suicide to get out. No, no one is worth that. But when
you allow people to do whatever they want in your life, when you empower
them, that means you lose power. That means you lose control when you
give it all to someone else. I don't quite get why people think it's
okay to allow the person that they love to treat them badly. But this
is what a lot of people are settling for. They'll get better. They'll
get better if I keep loving him, he'll stop what he's doing. If
I keep loving her, she'll love me back. She'll love me just as
much as I love her. Wasting time and energy most times because it's not
going to happen, because what you do is you empower that person to be
even worse because they know they got you, they know you're vulnerable, they
know they can do whatever they want to you. So you make the situation
worse for yourself and thinking that you're doing the right thing by allowing them to
do whatever they want, allowing them to control you. So they are not
changing. Why would they They're getting everything they want from a relationship, so
why would they change. Most people going to a relationship with no boundaries,
no requirements, nothing, having discussed the important things, having developed a foundation,
just solely moving based on feelings and emotions, wants and desires most people,
and that is why most relationships are one sided. It is why a
lot of people are in relationships, but they're still separate, still separate,
you will never ever get to that place where you want to be sitting back
and waiting on your significant other to come to their senses to realize how much
you love them, because they may never do that. That's why the Bible
talks about being unequally yoked. Gotta be evenly yoked. I'm not saying you
like everything he like, she like everything you like. I'm not saying you
want all of the exact same things you desire all of this. No,
I'm not saying that. But you should be able to come together. You
should be on the same waveblength. But so many people or not. Because
people get into relationships the wrong way, for the wrong reasons, with the
wrong people. Then it's just a disaster, constant drama, and people only
do to you what you allow them to do. Another situation people run into
is you've allowed a person to do whatever they want to you for so long,
and then finally you get some sense and you realize you deserve better,
You begin to love yourself and understand your worth, and you make a change
in your life. They can't handle it because you basically have spoiled them by
giving them everything, by allowing them to treat you like boo boo under the
shoot, and when you change, it upsets them because they expect for you
to be the way you've always been. That's why I don't care who he
is, who she is, how they look, how whatever, nothing they
have, their money, None of it matters. Because you should never go
into a relationship looking at those things, allowing those things to be your reason
for being in a relationship. Never, never, never. But so many
people do, and then they find themselves in bad situations, unhappy relationships,
feeling very alone. But it's because that's what you open yourself up to,
and you're gonna be treated exactly how you have allowed yourself to be treated.
So I will say again, your love is definitely not enough for the both
of you. That's all I'm saying. I'm leaving it right there. Thank
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