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Welcome to Buns and Banter, a
podcast buy work Busties for work Busties.

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Hey, I'm Lauren and I'm Alie. We're both morning show hosts for I

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Heartmedia. We're both millennials, and
we're both trying to figure out how to

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build the live sweet dream about dating, marriage, career, career and being

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a mom, how to get through
a week without crying. Welcome to Buns

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and Banter. We're glad you're here. Good side, No, like,

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what was side? Do you feel
comfortable on? I feel comfortable here.

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We could mix it up, we
can mix it up. Yes, yes,

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in the studio, we don't have
this problem because it's just the microphones

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are where they are. They are
where they and they're in terrible spots most

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of the time. Yeah, and
in here, I mean the options are

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unlimited, unlimited, So maybe not
unlimited. I don't know if i'd necessarily

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want to show off the windows that
I can only assume have some kind of

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crazy glue and tape stuck on them. Yeah, that's a situation that looks

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like crime scene tape left over,
you know, So maybe that end of

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the room, Yeah, stays behind
the scenes. Yeah, so we've talked

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about this quite a few times.
This is going to be an adjustment for

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learning experience because I want to talk
to you, but I also like how

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I know, how often do I
check back in with the camera. So

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if you if you're listening to the
podcast right now and you're not watching it,

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the podcast is now available in video
form. Yeah, the visually pleasing

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side of Buns and banter m.
We look visually pleasing today. I'm glad

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we both did buns me too.
Did you wake up or extra la to

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try to look nice? Because I
did? I did you look gorgeous?

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And I tried to do my hair
this morning and it just didn't work out.

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I wanted to do a half up, half down bun oh, and

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it just wasn't working for me today. And sometimes you just gotta say effitt,

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we're putting it all up. So
that's what we did. Yeah,

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this is um let me see day
six, day six of this loveliness,

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so it was not going to be
worn down. That is impressive to wash

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night tonight. So impressive, Well, impressive, that's a that's a strong

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word for it. I mean I
think people have a lot of I've had

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a very small amount of my followers
that notice when I post my elevator picks

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in the morning, and they will
be the first to call out and be

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like, oh hat today. Didn't
wash your hair, did you? And

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I'm like, I don't know if
I want that as my legacy. I

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love a hat, I love it
up, but it is usually in the

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days where I really need to wash
my hair. Yeah. Same, I'm

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not wearing I mean, I like
the hats that I wear. You have

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great hats, but I'm not going
to put a hat on my clean head.

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So we're doing it. We're doing
We're doing it. That this episode

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is all about, I think fair
to say, the hard work we're putting

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into this podcast, how important it
is to us. Yeah, how good

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we've been feeling connecting with so many
new people because of it, And then

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we wanted to take this next step, and so we're doing it. You're

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doing the damn thing like you said
we are, And I just got tired

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of talking about it. And it's
certainly not perfect. We have some things

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on the list that we want to
do to sort of make it a little

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bit more visually interesting and make it
a little bit more buns and banter.

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Yes, and a little bit less. Iheartread and Gray and Ship Lab.

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Yeah, which is like cool for
an office, but just like maybe not

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the vibe for our podcast, because
that's like we've talked a ton about that,

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you know, the vibe we're looking
for. And I know, I

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mean, I know my listeners and
I'm sure yours are too. Love to

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give advice that we always enjoy.
We do. So you know, if

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there's something that you guys have seen
or that you really enjoy from podcasts you

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watched, like, oh, float
us some advice, blow us, some

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idea is yeah, let us know
if there are podcasts that you strictly will

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only watch and you don't listen to. Yeah, and we I mean I

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love to look at other what other
people are doing and see if I like

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it and if it works for them, and so we're into it. So

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you know, send us a message
or whatever, because right now, my

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only ideas are all pink, right
yeah, because obviously I feel like that's

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very much a vibe. It is
good. Yeah, that's good. And

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I love your idea of maybe incorporating
some merch soon, right. Yeah,

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this is so fun and so new
for us, and I feel like we're

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very much stepping out of a comfort
zone. Yeah, because we are not

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those people. We've never been Like
I would never in a millionaires think of

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like, oh I should have merch
Self promotion is very very difficult for me

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because it feels so egotistical when it
comes to promoting myself. When I watch

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other people execute self promotion, I'm
like, do your thing, Like,

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yes, that's what you have to
do, Like, you got to get

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the word out there, especially if
you know you enjoy what you're doing and

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you have a product that you're proud
of, Like do that. But I

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just get so why do I get
so nervous and I don't know, scared.

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I think I have a fear of
being seen Probably me too, I

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think we do. I just have
so many levels of anxiety. I never

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know which one I'm going to pop
out on at any given day. Yeah,

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And I'm like, WHOA self self
promotion? Just we're going to do

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it together. We're doing it together. It's less scary when you have a

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buddy, it is, and we
hype each other up. We do.

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And if we're the only two that
we're going to watch this, that's fine,

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that's fine. I'm gonna look at
it. And be like you look

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good. We look we're killing it. Yeah, for the two of us,

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it's amazing. I think we should
reset now that we have a video

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element. I think we should reset
why the podcast is called Bunsen Banter and

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also what we get up to.
I liked this what we get up to

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see, These are the things you're
missing when you're only listening and not watching.

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She just did the most like maniacal. You're making a great like happy

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villain. Yeah. So Ali and
I we've been working at I Heard together

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for over a decade. Over a
decade. Yeah, that's crazy. And

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you know we've we're kind of like
the only two women at this point in

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morning shows, you know, on
our on our studio floor, and we've

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just naturally gotten super tight, I
think. But we also come from very

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different life spaces right now. Yeah, totally, what's your life space?

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I am married with two kids of
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old. But I still get it. You still I still get it,

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you know, like I don't love
the whole Oh you're a mom. Oh

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so you like don't do things anymore? For your information, I was at

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the club in Grand Haven like two
months ago and I got home at like

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two thirty in the morning. Yeah
you did, paid for it for the

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next five days, right, but
worth it. Yeah, whereas you,

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I am a single, crazy dog
lady in my early thirties and basically I

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just want to sell all my possessions
right now and refurnish my house. Literally,

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that's all I want to do right
now. I think the furniture house

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is beautiful. I love creeping on
you in your videos, so not to

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be I think you have a beautiful
bedroom. Thank you. You're just very

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good at decor. Oh, thank
you so much. I feel like I

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suck at it. But see two
very different thing. I don't even try

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to decorate because at any given moment
there will be some kind of fluid on

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it. All of my Like I
feel like I'm an old woman because so

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much of my furniture is covered,
like not in plastic, but like I

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have a couch cover that I bought
online, and I have a blanket over

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my nice new fabric chair. It's
like really just my like my husband's leather

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recline where I'm like, well,
yeah, somebody pukes or blades on that,

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It's easily clean, can wipe that
off. Everything else though, I

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just feel like I wonder when that
changes, When do your kids get old

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enough for you can have nice things
Again, I don't think ever, Boom,

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I don't think ever because I don't
have kids. I have a dog.

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Yeah, and my furniture is also
covered in seventy five blankets because she

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sheds, and it's just it's it's
too much. And you know what it's

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funny is that I remember when I
bought my house. I was talking to

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my co host Matt and I was
asking him because he had two or three

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dogs at the time. Yeah,
I was asking him about couches and what

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he has and his dogs because I
was worried about the shedding with fran And

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I was like, I think I'm
gonna get a leather couch. He was

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like, oh, I wouldn't get
leather because their nails will scratch it and

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puncture it. I would get probably
something like fabricy, but like a tight

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weave so that the hair can't get
in there. So that's what I got.

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Smart. Yeah, yeah, no, oh spoiler, it is not

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a good situation. And now he
has since purchased himself a leather couch and

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with his dogs, and I'm not
mad about it, but I'm like,

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mmm, mmmm, of course looks
great. And now I feel like I'm

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stuck with this couch until it,
literally, yeah, is worn down to

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the threads. Because furniture is hard
to bring yourself to buy. I feel

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it's just like expensive stuff when you
want it nice. And I was very

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much a I don't know what kind
of phase I was in, but I

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just I knew that I was going
to get my couch from West elm oh

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I got it on sale. I
got it on sale, but I lost

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it. I wouldn't repurchase a couch
from there, really, I wouldn't.

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I really wouldn't. Hot hot tip
on the like I like that. I

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love the that stuff. Though.
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hey, guys, or at least
that couch in particular, I would not

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repurchase. I think that there are
better I think that there are better options.

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I so it's interesting, like advice
you get as like a dog mom

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versus advice I've gotten as a kid
mom. It's very rarely positive. It

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feels like every single person who has
ever had a kid, or even those

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without kids but they've had kids in
their lives, just love to save the

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horror stories for advice, and I'm
like, I've got my five year old,

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my two year old now, and
we could be talking about like,

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oh my gosh, when can you
have nice things again? And without fail?

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Someone will be like, huh never, and you think it's bad now,

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I just wait, but like that, but I get that. Then

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when they go on, they go
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they're coming home hit Someone tell me, well, at least little kids can't

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get caught underage drinking on school property
and then have to be tethered for a

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year and a half. I'm like, true, I guess I should savor

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these moments. Like the advice you
get as a human parent is never anything

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other than do you want to hear
that crazy my kids put me through?

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Yeah, maybe you get that with
a dog, but I didn't. I

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have two dogs that I never got
the kind of advice I get from weird

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humans. I don't get horror stories
from people. I just get people telling

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you that you're doing everything wrong.
You're just you're doing everything wrong, Especially

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because fran is a special girl.
She's got some quirks, she's reactive,

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aggressive. So we've done a lot
of training with different trainers and stuff,

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and I swear every time I post
like a related video about her training or

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like what we're working on or whatever, there's always five or six people.

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I posted a video of her eating
a bone one day and someone was like,

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those are really bad for her,
and I was just I get it.

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When people know something or think they
know something, like they want to

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share that knowledge. And I truly
have to believe that those people are not

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meaning to make you feel like an
idiot or make you feel bad. I

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truly just feel like they are trying
to share the information and they just don't

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know how to do that in an
appropriate way. There it is. That's

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what I'm going to tell myself,
you know. Yeah, I just that's

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I have to do. You wish
you could tell them that though, like,

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oh, I see that the positive
intent was there, but you completely

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left it up. Yeah, but
that's that's the Internet is so hard,

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because it's it's not what you say, it's how you say it. And

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you don't know how someone is saying
something because you read the comment and interpret

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their tone of voice or right their
body language or whatever, like you don't

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actually have them in front of you. And this could have been the nicest

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person in the world saying, oh, those are not good for them.

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Yeah, but you read it,
but I was like, of course I

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read it as those are so bad
for them, you know. Oh,

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I'm so glad we're getting into warmer
weather because I cannot tell you the comments

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and any parent will tell you this. They're kids not wearing a coat in

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cold weather. Oh my ever loving
the Lord like it's just And I follow

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so many moms on my Instagram,
I TikTok and stuff that have just they

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do that thing where they're walking around
holding the coat Like I tried, y'all.

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I tried here, it is here, there she is, I have

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it with me. She doesn't want
it on back the f off. I

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mean, just how many times I've
taken because kids aren't supposed to wear coats

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and car seats and it doesn't have
kids yet, you're not supposed to have

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coats on them in the car seat. There's a really jarring video where they

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show you what happens with crash test
dummies if your kid has like a puffy

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coat on so the car seat can't
be tightened all the way. The stuff

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of nightmares. Okay, don't want
coats in the car seat, No coats

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in the car seat. But then
you got to like take the kid out

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of the car seat. You know
you're going to mir or whatever. Oh.

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This woman passed me once. I
had just pulled my daughter out,

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and she was like, who bit
nippy for short sleeves? And it was

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just one of those days. It
was one of those days, and I'd

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had a day and I looked at
her and I was like, ma'am,

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her left thigh is still in the
car. Her coat is right here.

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I am putting it on her for
my walk into the grocery store. Thanks

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so much for your concern. She
obviously didn't know that. She obviously was

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at an age where she she was
some old curmudge. She didn't have grandkids

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yet or I'm being ages, but
she was an old biddy. She didn't

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know that you had to wear her
you couldn't wear coats in the car seat,

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though, because that's if you knew. If she knew that you couldn't

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wear coats in the car seat,
you're not saying that if you're watching someone

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get their kid out of the car. Yeah, I like to think that.

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I think she would have said it
no matter and just the way she

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didn't like walk and buy with her
cart and it's broken wheel. You know,

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I judged her for that too.
You know, if the cart's got

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a broken wheel, put it back, grab any one man. But she

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just had to. I bet she
doesn't take her car back. Oh,

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I bet she definitely does not put
her cart back. That's a deal breaker

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for me. Yeah, that made
me feel good to hear that. If

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I'm if I am considering someone in
a romantic way and there they don't put

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their car back in the cart,
Correll, you may as well have just

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called your waitress a cursword or something. I don't know, Like that's as

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bad as like not tipping well or
snapping for the tracks. Can't can't do

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it? Have you ever put someone's
cart back in front of them? Oh?

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I do it all the time.
I'll wait for them to like get

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in their car and they'll take it
and like make sure I'm like walking behind

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their cars they can't pull out,
Like, don't worry, she's taking your

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cart back like God intended. I
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some stuff, and it stresses me
out there because they don't have actual metal

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corrals where you go up with a
card back. You just have signs that

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say leave your cart in this area. Yeah, and that it's kind of

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like Cosco. It's just a big
corral and you're like, I gotta line

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them up. I'll line them up. I feel bad. I can't do

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it. Oh my. The other
consistent theme in this podcast is that Alie

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and I are just really great people. I mean I think most of it

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is never not me, not you, not us. We think we're great.

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Apparently other people do not think that
I'm great. I was really torn

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if I was going to share this
or not. I have already told you

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this. Yeah, Oh got ghosted. I'm so mad about this. Yeah

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still yeah. I mean I just
talked about him on the podcast. I

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believe you had mentioned him. I
think I had mentioned him. Yeah,

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yeah, this was He lived on
the east side of the state. Yeah.

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So I mean, like I was
driving over there, which it's like

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a two hour two and a half
hour drive, So I was scheduling like

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dates with him when I was going
to see my family, and I thought

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it was going really well, and
I was very optimistic and I was like,

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okay, like all right, this
is I like this. I'm into

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this. Kiss a death I know, I just I know. Whenever I'm

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starting to be like, yeah,
no, I'm feeling this person, that's

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when it's it's over. The end
is in sight because we had a great

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date and then we're talking about the
next time that we're gonna see each other.

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I had a wedding in Vegas.
He mentioned he was going to do

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some traveling for work. I said, okay, I do have like a

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weekend in the future. It was
Easter at that point, I am coming

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home for Easter to see my family. And then I just like never nothing

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heard back from him, Like,
never heard back at all. So it

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was I mean, I'm I'm not
surprised because dating, there's not much that

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can surprise me being thirty one and
like online dating, I feel like I've

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seen a few things. I've seen
a few things, but you know,

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keeps keeps me humble for sure.
God, So I thought of you the

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other day because I've kind to find
this article too. Would you wear something

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to let people know you are single? Oh? Did you see this?

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So it's it's the one I saw
was a ring and this girl was talking

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about it, and I think I
saw TikTok on it as well, and

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she said she was very confident.
She was I realized that I'm a really

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gorgeous woman. Oh right, it
started and I was like, Mariam,

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She's like, I realized that I'm
probably a really gorgeous woman, and I

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am not maybe very approachable. I'm
probably intimidating and you know, pretty,

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so guys don't necessarily come up to
me. And so she has decided to

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try and like start this movement that
you can wear something to let guy girl

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whoever know I'm available and interested,
like I'm looking, I'm game, feel

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free to come up to me.
Would you do that? No, because

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I'm gonna tell you I would.
I would love to wear something to let

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people know like, yes, I'm
a mom. No, my life hasn't

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ended. Like I just to cut
that conversation out entirely, right there would

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be great. Yeah, but no, not for you. No, I

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don't No, I just don't want
to invite any unwanted attention. It's a

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bold move into my life. Nor
am I ever anywhere where I would be

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Oh, like, I'm not out
at the bars anymore. That's true.

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This this requires that you know,
yeah, I will occasionally go out with

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my friends or whatever to go get
a drink or go grab dinner. But

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typically in those spaces, I'm I
just want to hang out with my friends,

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Okay, I don't want to like
cruise for guys. What if we

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were in a space full of top
tier I'm just I'm just spitballing here,

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Like where do you think like the
fire department department? I'm sorry, I

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have never in my life seen an
unattractive fireman. Fire fighter. I'm men,

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women, I would love to be
rescued, especially by some of Gr's

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finalist. I'll be honest with you. I see him in parades. We

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lived down the street from one of
the firehouses. And I also saw a

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TikTok of a woman who went to
an air show and she was like,

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WHOA, Suddenly I'm going to act
very confused, used about what this is

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all about. Babe. When did
you find service people can explain it to

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me. Yeah, there's some spots. Yeah. I saw a guy talking

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about how a failed situation ship that
he was in. This was on TikTok.

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He said, so it's time to
go look confused and target again.

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Yes, And then a woman commented, don't go to target all of the

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women that you want to talk to. Are not at Target, They're at

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Low's or home depot looking confused.
So you guys are missing each other again.

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Oh my, the lumber department at
a Lowe's home deepoemonards. I mean,

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how a board hasn't just crushed me
to death just because I'm like flipping

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through like it's magazine. Chris took
me once when we were redoing our bathroom.

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He's like, what are you doing? I said, oh, I'm

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just looking through two by four us. He's like, that's not how any

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of this works. So you are
absolutely right, that's where that's where they're

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at. Yeah. Never, I
just don't really ever look my best at

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Low's or home depot. I disagree, and I just like I rock that

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RBF hard so hard. Well,
it's typically like a Saturday morning when you

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can go right, That's how it
is for me. I'm irritated to be

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awake. I don't want to be
there listening to things I don't know about,

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you know. And then like the
tipping of the scales is when Christal

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tried to involve me and he's like, babe, do you mind grabbing me

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like a Philip's four point two seven? And I'm like, what, why

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did you marry? I don't even
I just I thought you said that there

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was like snacks here. Let's just
do what we need to do. I

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don't even know. I was just
going to watch the kids and make sure

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they didn't run off. Yeah.
I don't know what that is. Yeah,

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I don't know what it holds.
Well. The biggest relationship builder ever

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was remodeling. Yeah, oh my
god, we had to do that bathroom.

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I know. I will never forget
the definition of the word blush,

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babe. Is that dry wall flush
against the wall. Yes, but we

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didn't known till we drilled it all
in oh some words, And I said,

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why can't you just cut another piece
and stick it in there. It's

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like this could end us. I
was like, it could, but I

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love you and I'm going to go
have a glass of wine and come back

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and work more. Wow. I
mean you guys, you've renovated a bathroom.

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You renovated a kitchen. Someone else
renovated the kitchen. The bathroom was

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really the one and done for us. We didn't divorce, we didn't die,

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and that was pre kids, so
we still procreated. And you've got

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to be in some kind of good
space. You know, do you do

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that? That's impressive. You and
Curse are very solid, very solid.

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You know. Yeah, we're okay. If my therapist ever again asks me

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if I have healthy examples of relationships
gotten, I'm gonna say you and Chris

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don't do it. Literally. He
attempts to me the other day and we

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have to put in all this paperwork
for the kids school. It's like that

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time right now, which is insane
to me. And he was like,

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hey, like, I got Will's
paperwork all done for kindergarten and Sophia should

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be all caught up. And I
was like, thank you. I really

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appreciate you. I get back up. Yeah, question mark, question mark,

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question Oh here we go. Oh
it's not what you think. Okay,

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No, okay, because I know
what I thought was coming. And

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he goes, so you're saying that
I could fish two days in a row.

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And then he sent me a bunch
of gifts. He sent me that

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cat from Puss in Booth that's like, and then he sent me the Law

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and Order gift of Olivia Benson going, it's a long shot, but it's

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worth a shot. That's the relationship
we have. So so what'd you say?

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I was like, that's that's fine. After I looked at the forecast

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and realized the next like two weeks
it's going to be just terrible. So

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after it gets two days fishing,
I get girls nights sleep ins. See,

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it's all about the give and take, endless gratitude for being the best

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wife out there. Yeah, maybe
he'll be your cameraman when we finally start

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taking feet picks. I thought that
though you think you need like a second

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shooter for that, you've got your
perspective like a wedding. Laura and I

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joke about this all the time,
but for real, we both saw the

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same video on TikTok last week.
Yeah, they asked this woman how much

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money she made a year, and
she said three hundred and fifty thousand dollars.

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And they asked her what she did
for a living, and she sells

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feet picks online. I have feet. I got two of them, all

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of the toes still on them.
I'm like, seriously going to look into

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this. I have you did some
googling? We did. We did do

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some googling. And the thing is, though, you have to like when

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you come up, like you can
put in your name how you want it.

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To be displayed or whatever. And
then some of the different websites we

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are seriously considering this, some of
the different websites. You have to come

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up with like a whole story,
like a whole branding situation, like a

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like a foot background story, not
a background story, but like tell people

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about yourself, tell people why you're
here, tell people. Wow. I

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know. So I'm trying to like
think of different because I want to make

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something so ridiculous up. Yeah,
like the many Walks of Flame. Oh

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that's a good one, but yeah, like something kind of punny, something

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that that also makes me think it's
a reputable site. It's not just anybody

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throwing their feet on there. It's
someone that's come up with some truly creative

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pieces to this. I also think
that it's probably harder than we think it

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is. I think we have really
cute feet. I don't think. Yeah,

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but it's got to be because when
people talk to us about social media

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and they're like, how hard is
it? You just post pictures online?

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And we're like, let me tell
you, it's more effort than you It's

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more effort than you realize once you
are into it and you start trying to

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create content and stuff, And I
will say it comes to some people very

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very naturally jealous of those people.
But I feel like this is probably going

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to be more complicated than we think
it is. I think you had a

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great idea about videos of pedicures.
Can you imagine we get in there when

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they're doing like the thing on your
heel, the pummis, the pummis thank

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you. Yeah, I'm gonna have
to hit you up for some of those

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terms, because I mean, I
do think we're actually going to do this

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just to see, just to see. It follows the theme of doing the

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damn thing. We've talked a lot
about feet picks. Let's just do them.

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We're coming into our prime. We're
gonna have tantos in the summer,

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that's true. We can wear the
hot colors. Come on. Yeah,

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we gotta think of like some con
ten pillars though. We can do that,

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Oh my god. We can do
like water air fire elements, thank

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you. You can do like lake
feet picks, feed out the car picks

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for air. We can do like
a little bomb fire picks. I know,

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that's a great one. Those are
some strong pillars. Some people are

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gonna be like water feet Wow,
sign me up. And let me become

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a subscriber. Yeah. My worst
fear though, is that like down the

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road, you're applying for like your
ultimate dream job, and they google your

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name and like that comes up and
they're like what the what is this about?

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And you're like, oh, it's
just a little side hustle. And

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when they ask us about it,
we can discuss our commitment to finishing a

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project. Well, that's some good
spin commit mint. And maybe it's a

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job that requires you on your feet
all day. Wouldn't you want someone that

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takes extra good care of their feet
and has wicked amounts of energy because that's

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their livelihood. It's been it all
day. Baby, they're gonna love feat

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by the end. That shouldn't hold
us back. Okay, our feet are

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getting out there. Yeah, are
you going to have your own? Or

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are we going to do this together? And like offer we could split it?

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Oh you know that could be a
good little pillar. Interesting. Uh

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huh. I've got some weird images
popping into my mind right now. And

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what would think you would do?
Well? Okay, so I'd like to

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hear these maybe like after this though, right, because maybe we should talk

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about it before we go live with
it. But wouldn't you use the social

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media following that you've already accumulated,
Like, would you use your same user

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name as you do on Instagram?
You would use a different user name and

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start from scratch. Yeah, I
feel like you'd. I think I think

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Feet would gather a following pretty quick
if what I've heard is true in the

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feet world? Would you I don't
know. That's what I was thinking about

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when I was looking at these websites. You can pick your user name.

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It can be whatever you want.
Wow, as long as it's available.

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Of course, of course I wouldn't
want to, you know, just blatantly

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copy someone's use your name. But
I also feel like I need to do

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a little research. I'd want something
like but creative, like fo cute?

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Yeah yeah, like something a little
punny, but like something kind of cheeky.

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Yep, lures you in because you're
like, oh, I don't know,

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that name makes me think they have
hot feet. We're gonna put your

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kids through college with feet picks.
I'm telling you, and you know what,

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I'll be super public about it.
I'll write a book. How'd you

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make your millions? Right here?
Baby feet picks? Right here? Feet

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picks are us OPI Lavender sponsor US. We have only the brightest of futures.

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This podcast is going to serve a
very specific set of people and it's

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probably not our usual listener. No, what a way to start off with

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a just ub. We're gonna scare
people with our first video feed. I

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think it's really a hole in one. Yeah, that's good. I was

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trying so hard. Did you see
my brain racking as I was like,

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come up with a super funny put
in moment? What kind of things do

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people say about beat and nothing?
But it's good. That's gonna be good.

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Yeah, as usual, Head in
the Clouds, Heat on the Ground,