Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about when you're
in a relationship and you choose to do wrong, knowing is wrong. Let's
be honest as adults, we all know right from wrong. We all know.
The problem is so many people have not matured past what their eyes see,
their hearts and minds, their feelings, their emotions, their wants,
their desires. Let's just be honest about it, so much so that although
you're in a relationship, you still choose to do wrong. I just wish
for a second that people would stop and think about what they're about to do
or what they're thinking about doing. How would they feel if they knew that
their significant other was going to do the same thing, or has done the
same thing, or it's just thinking about doing the same thing. How would
you feel. I know there's a few people out there who would say I
don't care, I wouldn't mind. You're lying. And if you don't care,
it's because you have an agenda. You're doing something, so you want
to make an excuse for when you get caught. This episode is for individuals
who supposedly love who they are with, because if you don't love who you're
with, what's the point of being with that person. I told you all
a few weeks ago about a YouTube video that I saw where the ladies says
safety and respect over love. That's the dumbest thing I ever heard of,
the dumbest thing. But if you believe that, so be it. You
get to believe what you choose. But I'm here to tell you it's bullcrap.
Because love is very important. If you don't love who you're with,
you're not in love with who you're with, look for trouble because it's right
around in the corner. You're gonna go through all types of unnecessary foolishness because
your relationship is not built on a healthy foundation. Those of you who are
in relationships and you know you're doing wrong, oh baby, it's gonna catch
up with you, and is going to catch up with you. I promise
you. People want to make all kinds of excuses, but the bottom line
is you know that you know that you know when you're doing wrong. You
know you're doing wrong. It's no excuse for it. When you're thinking about
that other woman or that other man, you know you're wrong. You're wrong
because you give power to your thoughts and Eventually, if you keep thinking about
the same thing and you know what's wrong, you're gonna act on it in
some way or another. It always happens. So even when your thoughts,
the Bible tells us about if you think it, you might as well have
done it, because it's as wrong. You're just as guilty sitting around thinking
about being with someone when you're already with someone. You're just as guilty.
And you know what's wrong, and you know you wouldn't want it to happen
to you. Some of you, Oh, you'll say, I don't care
in all of this, but if it happened, you can't even hardly make
it. You're so distraught. And I hate to say it, but men
are really this way. And I'm not saying all, but there are some
men they cannot fantom the thought of their woman with another man. They think
it's okay to put their private parts everywhere, but they cannot phantom the thought
of another man doing it to their woman, which is just ignorant and immaturity,
because why wouldn't you think any other way if you're doing it. You
know that everything that I do, everything is based on God. So I'm
not talking about people who are foreign cating in committing adultery even though you know
it's wrong. Even though you know it's wrong. I'm basically talking about any
person who's in a relationship who's wilfully doing wrong. It's gonna come back to
you in some way or another. You got to get to a point as
an adult where you are not continuously falling for the same things. You have
to get to a point as an adult where you have matured. You have
matured, and you're no longer chasing your flesh. At some point, you
should get to that stage in your life. Unfortunately, so many people just
do not because all they think about is their flesh, satisfying their flesh,
doing things that they know they shouldn't do because they're in a relationship with someone.
You know you shouldn't be doing what you're doing, but you still do
it. You still a risk your relationship, You still will risk your significant
other's life because you don't know the individual that you're getting involved with. You
don't know their mindset. They could be crazy as ever, they can act
one way and be another, which nine out of ten that's what happens.
They act so nice and sweet, and then the next thing you know they're
acting like crazy people because you hurt them, or because they want more of
your attention. They want more of your time, so now they act like
crazy people, like who they really are. But you were so caught up
that you missed all of the signs showing you who they really are. And
now you in a bad situation. You got your significant other in a bad
situation because you couldn't control yourself. You could not see beyond what you wanted,
what you desired self gratification. You still chose to do wrong when you
knew it was wrong. Now you got yourself and your significant other in bad
situations. It happens all of the time. People just need to mature.
You need to grow up, you really really do, because no one shouldn't
should be going through No one should be going through these types of things in
their relationships. If you're not ready to be in a relationship, the simple
thing to do is not to get into one. If you know you're still
trying to do you you should have never gotten into a relationship because once you
make that decision to get into a relationship, you should act like someone that's
in a relationship. You should always act like someone who's in a relationship.
But some of you make all kind of excuses because your agenda is different from
that of your significant others. And also that's why it's important to know who
you get involved with. Know yourself first, but get to know who you're
getting involved with. People gonna tell on themselves. They gonna show who they
really are sooner or later, and all you have to do is to be
able to recognize the truth when it's presented. Some of you are so blind
you cannot see, you're not willing to see, and then you find yourself
in a terrible situation with a terrible person, with someone who don't care anything
about you. All they care about is self, self gratification, satisfying the
flesh, or some type of agenda. Sometimes it's not even all about sex.
It's about gaining something, money, material things, because all of that
is a part of satisfying the flesh. I want you to understand that satisfying
the flesh goes beyond sexual gratification. It's a lot of things. Lust involves
a lot of things way beyond sex. And the bottom line is, when
you're in a relationship, the person you need to be concentrating on and thinking
about it is the one that you chose to get in a relationship with anyone
who's doing anything else. You're wrong and you need to check yourself. You
need to figure out what's going on inside of you for you to have the
mindset that you have and those of you who deal with these types of people,
you need to look within yourself and figure out what's going on within you
to make you stay in a relationship with someone who's doing those things to you
because you deserve better. People who are seeking self gratification they don't care because
guess what, that's what they're after, self gratification. So they're not being
honest with you. They are masters of manipulation. They want what they want
and they will get it no matter what. They will get it no matter
who. Unfortunately, some of you find yourself in relationships with these types of
people who don't care. They only concern with Uno numeral self number one self.
They don't care in the essence of being a better person. They care
in the essence of taking care and satisfying that self gratification, satisfying that flesh.
That's how they make themselves UNO because they are looking out for self,
not you, not you self uno numeral and that is their focus because they're
still chasing after the flesh. And like I said, that could be sex,
money. All types of things could fall under that category, but most
times sex is involved. And it's clear when people say, oh, I
love the Lord and I'm a child of God and this and that lies.
I mean, because serving the Lord shouldn't be hard, It shouldn't be a
battle. It really shouldn't. To do the right thing, especially when you're
in relationships. You shouldn't get into relationships and y the first thing you wanna
do is satisfy your flesh with someone that you're not in a relationship with,
that you're not dedicated to or committed to. A lot of you are in
relationships, and dedication and commitment is not anywhere in the factor. You know
what, Yet you choose to get in a relationship with someone just causing havoc
in people's lives for no reason. If you're not ready, don't do it.
Then you can go and do whatever it is you want to do.
It may still be wrong, but you can do whatever it is you want
to do. But stop hurting people that don't deserve it. Grow up,
grow up, start thinking with your brain. What if they did it to
you? How would you feel? What if they were acting the way you're
acting? How would you feel if you don't care, you don't need to
be in a relationship. That's the bottom line. So many of you settle
completely. You just settle for anyone based on how they look, what they
have, who they are. You just settle, and then you find yourself
so miserable because you failed to look at the signs of red flags that were
in your face. Some of you are in terrible relationships, toxic, volatile,
explosive, super abusive because you chose to get into a relationship with someone
and you did not adhere to the signs all of those warnings and red flags.
You ignored them because you thought you could change him or her. You
thought they were gonna fall so in love with you, or they were so
in love with you that they would never do you wrong, when they've never
really done you right. You just chose to not see it. You chose
to not accept it. Who you chose, that's exactly what you're gonna get.
So many are great at manipulating and deceiving, but they can't fool you
if you have your eyes wide open, but most people have their eyes wide
shut. You have them open, but you can't see anything because you're blind.
You're blind to what you perceive as love when ninety nine percent of the
time it has nothing to do with love. I've told you so many times
what people accept for love, it has nothing to do with love, love,
or none of those terrible things. But so many people accept those things
for love because they don't know what love is, and they don't love self.
Most people think they love themselves, but they don't. And I've always
challenged you to look at yourself. If you think you love yourself, look
at what you're allowing and accepting in your life. That's gonna tell you the
truth. If you're going through foolishness, that's telling you. You need to
learn to love yourself. You need to make you a priority in your life.
You need to figure out who you are. When you figure out who
you are, it will show you those individuals that you shouldn't be with.
When you want better for you, you're not gonna accept less. Then people
should come into your life be in assets. They should add value, not
cause your life to become less than you know what I mean by that is
devalue. Instead of adding value, devalue bringing you down, introducing, introducing
you to things that you should never ever, ever, ever allow yourself to
get into, but you do it because you think you love that person.
A person who loved you is not gonna put you in harms wing, they're
not gonna introduce you to drugs and alcohol. They're not gonna put you in
a position of being unsafe. But so many of you accept all of these
things because you think it's love when love has nothing to do with it.
That's why you accept people who are in relationships with you that are doing you
wrong. You accept it because you think you love that person so much.
But what about what that person thinks of you? That should matter? And
they show you what they think of you by how they treat you. They
treat you the way they do because you allow it, simple as that,
you will always always get exactly what you've allowed from someone. The people that
supposedly love you the most are normally the ones who will hurt you the worst
because people agendas are different from yours. But once you get to know who
you are and learn to love yourself as a person, you're not falling further
okido. You're just not. People can't convince you that a lie is the
truth, there's no way. But when you're blind, it is so easily
to convince you of a lie, so easy because people work on your feelings
and your emotions. That's how people get other individuals. They work on their
feelings and emotions. They say the right things, they do the right things.
And now you think you're in love. Oh he loves me, Oh
she loves me. They don't love you. They love no one, not
even themselves, because if they did, they would do better as well.
They wouldn't put you through the things that they put you through. They don't
love themselves either. So it is detrimental that you get to know who you're
with to some degree. I'm not saying you're gonna know everything about the person
you're with, but you need to know the important things. Are they good
for you? You all know if you listen to me before, what I'm
gonna say, and if you have it and this is your first time,
well this is what I have to say. First of all, do they
love the Lord? And are they living for the Lord? Cause you could
say you love the Lord all day? To live for him is something totally
different. I believe that every relationship should be built on that Jesus is the
beginning, the middle, and the end. And if both are focused on
Christ, oh you gonna have a good relationship. I'm not saying that people
won't have issues. You gonna have something because you're two different individuals. But
you can make it through. Adult mature people can make it through. They
know how to work through issues. And I know many people profess Christ,
but their hearts are far from him. I know many people don't truly truly
believe, and that's your right. You don't have to. But I'm telling
you, if you're in a relationship with anyone, get to know him or
her, but know yourself first. I've always told you, when you know
who you are as a person, it changes your life. It changes your
views on everything. You see people differently because you begin to see them for
who they really are and not just who they pretend to be. Because ninety
nine percent of the people you see every day of your life are faking and
pretending. It's a sad, sad, sad situation. It's a sad state
that most people are pretending. It's sad, But that's because people give more
time and energy into faking and pretending than they do to healing themselves, allowing
themselves to become better individuals. They would rather spend their lives faking and pretending.
And that's so sad, that's a travesty. But that's what's going on
all around the world, and that's why so many of you right now listening
to me, all around the world are in unhappy relationships. Many of you
go to work to not be around your significant other for a period of time,
but it don't do you any good because you're always going back. You
gotta go home. You know, you're miserable with who you chose because they
wasn't the right one for you when you chose who you chose because you haven't
yet figured out who you are. You haven't yet learned to truly love yourself.
So many of you are so worried about what society says about how you
should be, how you should look, what you should do, what you
should have. When you love yourself, you're not thinking about what society say,
because you realize societies around the world are filled with broken, unhealed hearts
and minds. When a person does not love his or herself when they are
broken and they are unhealed. How they gonna tell you something, How they
gonna tell you the right thing when they're not even doing the right thing for
their own lives. That's the way most people are. You have people doing
all kinds of things because they're listening to unhealed hearts and mind people or people
with unhealed hearts and minds, I should say, And that's the very reason
why so many are in unhealthy relationships doing all the wrong things, because you're
still chasing after something, you're still trying to feel the voids in your life,
and you're doing all the wrong things to the people that you supposedly love.
And those of you who are in relationships are taking it because of the
same reason unhealed hearts and minds. So I just wanted to stop by and
talk about this because so many of you, so many people are in relationships
that shouldn't be in relationships. So many people are in relationships doing the wrong
things, treating your significance of the wrong. You know you're treating them wrong,
sneaking out, being abusive, being disrespectful, taking them for granted,
and the list goes on. You're doing it, and many are taking it.
You're in that same state of mind that he or she is in because
of unhealed hearts and unhealed minds. You don't know who you are, you
don't really understand yourself, but you're trying to figure out this person that's causing
you stress and misery, just making your life even worse. Because when you're
not healed and you take on all of this other crap that other people bring
into your life, it just makes you more in that negative state of mind.
It increases, it intensifies. So you have to get to a point
in life. Come on, enough, it's enough. If you're still going
through the same types of mess, it's time for a change. You must
get to a place of growth. Mentally. Some of you are just spinning
your wheels. You're like that hamster on the wheel, just going around,
going nowhere, going nowhere, real fast. Because you choose to remain the
same, You choose not to deal with what ails you. Some of you
are holding on to things that you should have let go years and years and
years ago, sabotaging your life, putting you in the mindset of fear and
insecurities, lack of self confidence. Many of you are doing all types of
things to feel those voice in your life when you have the voids because of
not allowing yourself to heal from whatever it is. That's why you have voids.
That's why you have insecurities and lack of confidence, lack of self esteeming,
inability to trust, trusting too much, I mean all kinds of stuff
because you are that individual who have not allowed yourself to heal. And that's
just the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. So
please do better, do better for yourself. Do better for yourself. You
deserve it. I'm leaving it right there. Thank you for listening. Please
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some understanding. Get some understanding. Your life should not remain the same.
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