This is doctor Wendy Walsh and you're listening to kf I Am six forty,
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You have Doctor Wendy Walsh with you. This is the Doctor Wendy Walsh
Show. Happy Sunday, Happy Sunday. Oh, by goodness. I know
last week I went down the Princess Kate Middleton rabbit hole. You know,
I had some time during the week and TikTok was just so entertaining with all
their theories. So sorry to say that all the theories were wrong about the
affair the fake girl. There's only one theory that still hasn't been completely disproven
with her, I'm sorry to say, cancer announcement, cancer diagnosis, and
that is that she is partly a big distraction so that people aren't talking about
the just as big story, which is the King King Charles being treated for
cancer. We've heard nothing about that. So anyway, it was very sad
for many people who have been following everything to see this young, vibrant woman
now going through what she calls preventive chemotherapy. So I'm not a medical doctor,
but I'm going to go with the fact that whatever surgery she had,
you know, maybe she had some kind of tumor they saw and they took
it out and said it's probably benign, and then they sent it to pathology.
So she's recovering from the surgery, and then they go, oops,
there's some cancer cells in there, and then they just want to shoot the
body with chemo. I'm not a medical doctor. I'm making this up.
Shoot the body with chemo, sort of like Trump would say with bleach or
something. No, no chemo, so that if there are any errant cells,
so they won't metastasize and move around and just get them. It's still
chemotherapy, not fun, uncomfortable, And I do think they were wise to
wait until their children were out for Easter break from school because they have three
young kids, right school age kids, and you know how mean kids can
be on the school yard, so they wanted to wait until everybody went it
would stop the frenzy. I want to talk a little bit about if that
C word cancer is in your family right now, ways that we can talk
to our kids about cancer. Before I do, I want to tell you
that, you know my parents, Both my parents died of cancer in the
same year when I was thirty, so I wasn't a child, but I
still, no matter how old you are, when your parents die, you
feel like an orphan, like you really do. And my family, in
a well meaning way, made what I would call some mistakes. Now I
was here in Los Angeles. I think I was at KCP. I think
it became UPN by then it was UPN News and I was anchoring, and
they just hid it from me. All that they like, let's not worry
Wendy. She's busy in California, you know, let's not worry her.
Part of that was set up by my mom herself, because she was such
a fighter. Now, it is important if you do have cancer to have
hope. Right Doctors don't say, oh, you've got three weeks to live,
you go to eight weeks to live. You got four months to live,
because that's exactly how long you'll live. If somebody says that life is
a self fulfilling prophecy, So having hope, even if it's a tiny hope.
I saw this very touching video online that was going around with the is
it America's Got talent or the voice with the Howie Mendel and Simon and is
it American idol? Sign no no, no, no, America's talent said
this girl singing, and she had a very advanced cancer. By the way,
her her singing voice was just beautiful. I cried, I welled up,
look at your singing. And apparently she died soon after this performance.
But when they interviewed afterwards in the video, she goes, I have a
two percent chance of living. Isn't that great? What if I had a
zero persaid chance of living? Like this is a chance? So being in
love with that hope is important. So my mom did that, and I
think there's a difference between hope and complete denial. The day she died,
she demanded a chemotherapy treatment when you know, the breast cancer had advanced to
the point that it was lung cancer and her lungs were filling up with fluid
and she could barely breathe and shed an oxygen mask on, et cetera.
I got there thirty minutes before she passed away, and I didn't even have
clothes with me for the funeral, folks. I thought I was just coming
to cheer her up. Nobody told me how advanced her cancer was. So
in my case, I wasn't really happy about that. So what if you
do if your kids are young, what kind of information do you give them?
So the most important thing mom and dad and aunts and uncles and grandma
and grandpa can do is prepare in advance. Don't try to wing it.
This is a conversation you want to maybe write out ahead of time, take
some notes, have some keywords, and find a time and place where everybody's
calm and it makes sense to have the conversation right, not just when you're
running around in the middle of your day. Have a place where you're really
you can be with them, hug them, look them in the eyes.
When you talk about cancer, you want to be clear and direct. See,
here's the thing. Kids are little sponges and they pick up on everything.
So your words can be saying, now, mom is going to be
just fine, don't you worry. I'm just going to go through this little
chemotherapy, and they can sense the fear in your stomach. Instead, you
might say something like, you know, we don't know what the outcome is
going to be. We're definitely hoping for the best, and being optimistic is
really important for all of us, right, So be clear and direct and
talk about your feelings. I'm scared. It's scared, scary to go through
this because I don't want it to end up in a bad way and I
don't want to lose you. Also ask questions, because kids might have all
kinds of myths about cancer. What do they know about cancer? And that
way you can clear up the stuff that's wrong and say, well, that's
not true. I don't know why the kids said that. No. On
the other hand, well, I want you to be clear and direct.
Don't overload them with information. It's too much information, and obviously it's dependent
on how old the child is. Right, young children, simple to the
facts. Mommy's sick, they're going to put or daddy sick, whatever,
Grandma sick, whatever. They're going to put a chemical my body to fight
off the bad cells. And I'm going to get better, I hope,
and you know, just very simple stuff. Right. Also, don't just
close that conversation. Wait, give them time, give them space to share
their own feelings about what's going on, and when they do, you do
ask questions, answer as honestly as possible. Also, let them know that
they can keep coming to you and they can bring up their questions all the
time. More than anything, comfort kids, reassure them, remind them of
all the people in their lives who love them. Indeed, spend time with
all those other people as well, right, and just be patient because they
might act out their feelings. Kids are different than adults. They might start
regressing bed wedding and taking tantrums and doing all kinds of things that you're like,
where did this come from? And that's just the way that their feelings
are working their way out. Right. It's a hard, hard thing to
go through with a family. But I'm not a big believer in lying to
children. I think children sense what's going on. I personally didn't like to
be lied to at the age of thirty, and I know my mom put
them up to it. I'm sure they said. She said, don't tell
her, don't you know? And she was in her own kind of denial
speaking of I don't know if you've been following me online lately, I didn't
go I didn't post very often or more infrequently over the last few months,
And in the last couple of weeks I started posting more frequently back onto the
old TikTok. I guess you know when I feel something might go away.
I might as well just use it till the kids banned. You had a
real hot take on j Loo and I watched that video from beginning to end,
like I don't agree, but I wasn't gonna I was. I wasn't
gonna come in, but I was like, that's it. That's a perspective.
I just don't like any human being ganged up on on them. Yeah,
and Jlo right now they are beating up on her and myself having been
attacked by trolls and the general public who don't agree with me so many times,
I know what an impact is on mental health, and it doesn't make
people nicer. It doesn't being told you're bad doesn't make you better, It
makes you worse. Jenna, guys, so that makes sense. But yeah,
you can go on line and see by Jela. But I've been talking
about my identity transformation that I feel that I've been going through for a couple
of years and I'm not even to the other side yet. So I started
to document it. When we come back, let's talk about identify what is
it? Is it stable? What are the things that change it across the
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Doctor Wendy Walsh with you. Kayla, what a great song that put me
in a good mood right there. It's a feel good song that got me
through my identity crisis right there. You know, I am a professor of
psychology and one of the things I teach is developmental psychology, and as part
of that program, we talk about identity. What is identity? You ask,
well, identity is who we feel, what we feel like. I
remember when I took my very first psychology class. We had to go around
and introduce ourselves and there was a girl in the back and they said and
she said her name, and they had to say something like something about ourselves
and why we're here or something, and she's I said, well, I
lost my job and it has been my career for years, so I lost
my identity. So I'm trying to figure out who I am. And at
the time, I was like, wait, a job is something you do
it's not who you are, but for many people it is who they are.
Right, So identity can be this mosaic picture of all kinds of pieces
of you and your values. You might self identify based on your gender,
your politics, your religion, your sexual orientation, your age, your marital
status, whether you're a parent or not, maybe your health. I'm always
concerned with people who identify with their disease, like I'm a diabetic instead of
I have diabetes. It's a big difference, big difference. Of course,
jobs, careers, moves where you're from, people identify you. Know.
You'll hear people saying, well, I'm from the Midwest, right, or
I'm this way right. Somehow we find a way to create a composite picture
of ourselves and this is who we believe we are. But here's the thing.
Identity isn't stable. It's shifting ever so slightly across the lifespan. As
we age, as we get more education, as we get married, as
we get divorced. Right, this changes our sense of self, our identity.
We have a baby, all of a sudden, we're parents, right,
and it's a big life change. Right. So the developmental famous developmental
psychologist Eric Erickson referred to an identity crisis as a period of internal conflict and
confusion about our own self, identity and a role in life. Now here's
how I know I've been in an identity crisis in the past couple years.
Or transformation. Let's call it transformation, folks. Is It starts out with
clothing. Everything I try on doesn't feel right or look right. Then I
go shopping and I can't figure out what I want. And that's a great
example of I don't know who I am. I am I don't know what
And for many women, for instance, you know, you'll hear women get
criticized for being what do they call it, a sheep in Lamb's clothing or
whatever, mutton and Lamb's clothing, meaning they're dressing too young for their age.
Now, there are no rules. There should not be any rules,
and we should not judge women for whatever they want to do. But when
I do see an older woman, you know, plastic surgery up and wearing
stuff and trying to you know, it's like she's fighting the fact that you
know, your identity is changing. When Williams was a huge advocate of that,
being in her sixties fifties, and just wearing the Daisy Duke shorts and
the sexy tops and you just thought it looked amazing. What do they They
could look amazing, but what are they clinging to? Are they denying their
wisdom and their new status in life, or maybe they're just clinging and doing
to youth being sexy and feeling sexy, being youthful. And if they lose
their idea of their value as a sex object, what value are they adopting?
Right, That's the main thing. So I would say the biggest identity
crisis that I went through in my life was definitely the transition from hot TV
babe to mother because the hormonal changes of my brain were ginormous and no one
could seem to see it. I had friends say, you need to come
out with us. I don't want you to get that mom. Look you
no, you need to still be hot, and you need to know get
a babysitter. You can do it. And I just didn't want to.
You know, I didn't have my first baby till I was like thirty six,
so I had seen everything. There's nothing going on outside my doors that
I had not seen. Right, And I can have a funny story when
I had the full premonition like a year or two, maybe just a few
months before that. That New Year's Eve, I drove with a young TV
host who I had been hosting a few shows with, and he and I
drove to Vegas to do He had like a big suite because he knew these
football players. Is college I don't know what it was, but anyway,
so we were on New Year's Eve in Vegas. I was thirty five years
old. We were up in this VIP section. We were looking down on
the whole crowd. Now, remember I was modeling when I was a teenager.
I was cocktail waitrons by the time I was seventeen. You just needed
to show fake Ida no and even asked for ID. What am I saying?
You just said you were eighteen? Anyway, So I had been in
nightclubs with fake ID since I was fifteen. And I remember looking down on
this scene and saying to myself, I've seen this for twenty years now.
There's nothing new here. And I said to my friend, I'm going back
to the room. We'll drive back tomorrow together. He's like what, And
I remember him the look on his face, like what are you doing?
Because he was younger than I, and he was just so excited that this
hole was happening. All the celebrities were hanging out with I'm like, nah,
I'm done by the way that guy was Ryan Seacrest so funny. He
doesn't know he was my premonition or not premonition, what's the word transformation?
Like, that's just moment, my epiphany, that moment. So that was
my first when I settled down to my babies. And I always was known
for my long blonde hair, which I have it back now, but I
cut my hair short and dyed it brown because you probably know my kids are
biracial, and it really I wanted my kids to be like I wanted people
to know, there's my baby. And everyone kept saying everywhere I go,
oh, what country did you adopt your baby from? And I just kept
hearing it over and over again. So once I got my hair short and
dark, it was a little less often, you know, or they'd say
they try to find funny ways to say it, like where did your baby
get her carls from? And I'd go, well, actually, mine,
I have a flat iron, but my hair's curly. I love that.
My friend who has inter racial kids goes through the same thing, like they
don't think that her kids are hers either. Yeah, very sad. It's
a weird feeling if you want your kids to be like you. But I
do remember doing the I don't know who I am stage and it affected my
work because a lot of the producers wanted to have that hot TV thing or
whatever. So anyway, I'm going through another one. I don't know what's
prompted it. It might be age. No, I think it's that the
last baby's about to leave the nest soon, and also my age, and
so I've been questioning my own self identity. I see many people women who
I went through the TV business with. Don't imagine I'm saying it to you
if you're listening, Okay, looking like flippin' cartoons on social media, the
pressure to look young and sexy, the plastic surgery, the makeup, the
botox, the fake eyelashes, the filters, the girdles, theo spanks,
everything they're doing. I'm just like, ladies, you're in your fifties.
I know you look beautiful, but what is the value of trying to look
twenty? What is the value we need you as the wise voice and the
supreme mind in the village, not someone who's trying to compete with the twenty
year olds. Like honestly, so I look at all those peer women and
I know they're under pressure to be those things. So it's not their fault.
They're a victim of their society and their culture. And I say,
that's not me. It's just not me. So I've been starting to do
more social media with less makeup or no makeup. Gone are the days that
eyelashes will ever go on me? Again? Why bother? I do feel
some weird like feelings of where am I going, What's next, what's my
next act, et cetera. And it's fun, it's fun to experiment,
but there are moments where I'm just like, you know, what is it
all for? So the reason why I'm sharing this with you, by the
way, is because think about your life. Think about the identity transformations you
might have gone through before. Oh. Also, when I got my doctorate,
that was a big identity transformation and it was really now I'm not just
a TV host girl. Now I'm a mother and a PhD. And that
was a really like self confidence boosting one. But now I'm kind of like
I'm about to be a married woman, and maybe that's what's causing this,
the wedding this summer. I haven't been married for decades and decades, uh
like four decades. Oh my god, that's so exciting. You know.
One of the things I say about relationships like my relationship with Julio, is
that it is an exchange of care. But love relationships shouldn't be really,
really transactional. While there are other relationships that I think is perfectly okay.
If you guys are transactional, I'll explain what I mean when we come back.
There's certain relationships it's okay to do quid pro quo, but not you
love relationships. You're listening to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show and KFI AM six
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Walsh with you. This is the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show. It sounds negative,
but when you say to somebody, oh, that relationship so transactional,
it sounds critical. Right. You know what I'm talking about a kind of
relationship where people do something for another person, they're keeping score. They expect
something in return. It's a real give and take a bit of a quid
pro quo. Each person's there to help each other out. Like all scratch
your back if you scratch mine. You know, there are some relationships actually
that a transactional relationship works. So let's talk about which ones work for sure?
In business, think about it. You keep a bunch of business contacts
because you send your friend clients, and then you know that your friend's going
to send you clients and your business later. Right, we're there for a
transaction when people go to work. I know you love your co workers.
I don't know you have good friends there, But if you were not paid,
you probably would not go to work, right, it's a transaction.
You give your hours, your talent, your time, they give you money.
And so there are many workplace relationships that are friendly what I call it
friends with benefits, because if you stopped providing to that workplace person, it
might not even be in the workplace. It might be like another friend that
you're giving business context too. If you stop that, then that relationship was
only based on that. It might just go away. And that's okay.
Another place where transactional relationships happen all the time we're seeing it all over the
news is in politics. Of course, when lobbyists give money to a politician,
they expect that that politician is going to vote for the things they care
about. Right, So in politics it is very common, even between heads
of states in different countries internationally, very transactional relationships. They have agreements with
each other, there's given takes. Right now, Let's talk about friendships for
a minute. A close intimate friendship should never be transactional. But there are
lots of different kinds of friends. Some of your friends might be just social
connectors, people that know good people. You know, I was actually reading
this article a research study and which kinds of friendships help people live the longest,
have the longest lives. And so they compared close intimate friends, sort
of distant casual friends, and then how many friends, et cetera. Guess
what they found out. The people who had the most not intimate friends,
but sort of a wide social network tended to live the longest. You know
why, because they had a built in referral system. You need a doctor,
you need a lawyer, you need a specialist. Call your friend,
Your friend knows somebody you need a contractor for your house, call your friend.
Your friend's got something right. So, people who are able to maintain
wide social networks they don't have to be intimate friends can be really really beneficial
to us. And those are those are kinds of transactional relationships. Well,
you know, there is some positive things about having a transactional relationship. First
of all, everybody knows the rules. You're not assuming. I mean,
it only becomes a little bit weird if you think that it's a real friendship.
When I say real, they're all real. Uh. You think it's
an intimate friendship that's based on emotional needs and emotional commitment to each other,
when actually it's transactional. So as long as both people know it's transactional,
then it's the rules are clear, there's mutual give and take, the expectations
are very clear. These kinds of relationships are productive, they're efficient, everybody
knows what's expected of them. And also they're obviously very helpful in supporting your
goals. But there there's a downside. All your relationships are transactional, you're
emotionally avoiding you're emotionally avoiding real intimacy and closeness. Right, So when you
have a lot of transactional friendships and business friendships, you've got shallow interactions and
you're thinking in your mind all the time about keeping score. What do I
owe that person? What did they do for me? And that becomes the
weight that you value the friendship. Also, maybe you're in a transactional relationship
and you're doing more than the other person, so you feel completely undervalued in
that sense. And the other thing that often happens with transaction transactional relationships is
that they tend to be short term because they're just looking at the immediate right,
So that's kind of the downside. Now in love relationships, I have
always said that love relationships are an exchange of care. That care can take
many, many, many forms. That care might be financial care. It
might be sexual care. It might be affection. It might be instrumental care
when someone's sick and caring for them. It might be childcare. It might
be intellectual stimulation care, it might be domestic responsibility, division of household labor.
All that is care, but it's not keeping score, right, it's
not transactional. So I don't want to say that all transactional relationships are bad
obviously. Workplace politics, lightweight social friends all good places to kind of keep
score and go ash. I keep that person around, Is she give them
that much? To me? I think I'm doing more for her, whatever.
But when it comes to our more intimate relationships, you can't keep score.
You can't. It can't be transactional. Now you have they have been
raised in a family of origin where your family talk that way. You know,
well, you do this, they've got to do that. Well,
if you pay that, they've got to pay that, et cetera. Right,
but real love. You know what someone asked me recently, doctor Wendy,
why would you, in your status of life not marry a man who's
rich. Don't you need a rich man? I'm like, I don't.
It's about love, it's about caring. It's about doing all those other things
in the relationship that literally the caring. I do. Want to just throw
in a little commercial for Julio. I've never met a man who cleans house
so well in my whole life. You know, it's not transactional, but
I'm sure glad he does it. I cook, he does the dishes afterwards.
I like that. So when we come back. Let's continue to talk
about this and an interesting video I saw this week with Rene Brown talked about
this eighty twenty rule in her own marriage, and it's something we should adopt
instead of trying to be fifty to fifty all the time and always trying to
keep score. You are listening to the Doctor Wendy Walsh Show on KFI AM
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So if you have a relationship question, you are welcome to call in the
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the segment one eight hundred five two zero one five three four. Now,
as I mentioned before the break, transactional relationships do get a bad rap and
they have no place in love relationships, but they're fine sometimes in business and
politics and sort of light social friends. I'll scratch your back, you scratch
mine, et cetera. However, although I mentioned that our love relationships are
an exchange of care, then that care can take so many forms financial,
sexual, childcare, instrumental care, domestic responsibility care, et cetera, all
kinds of different care. It should never be fifty to fifty. I saw
an interesting video I think it was actually on TikTok with Brene Brown this week,
who said that she practices the twenty eighty rule or never the one hundred
percent rule. If anybody thinks that any love relationship is fifty to fifty or
should be fifty to fifty all the time, you're going to have a lot
of problems in your relationships. And so she explained that she and her husband
have a deal that when someone walks in comes home, they say, if
they don't have a full hundred percent to give, they give a percentage they
say, you know what, I'm good for about eighty percent Right now,
I'm in such a bad day, and the other partner says, got you.
I got one hundred and twenty for you. We're in it together.
I want you to think of your relationship as this little pot of gold that
you both pour gold coins into, and some days you can pour a lot
in and other days not so many. Right, And so in your love
life, you never want to keep score to the point that it's always got
to be fifty to fifty. That is a death sentence to a relationship instead
of think of it as this community basket. So there's some things you can
do to not have a what I would call a transactional relationship in your love
life. The first one is I've already mentioned it, and it's really important.
Stop keeping score. And also never use the words always and never look
I said never, never use the words never, try as hard as you
can to not say the words always. En Ever, you always leave me,
la la la whatever, you're always late, or you never take out
the trash, because that's giving somebody a hundred percent and nobody is always one
hundred percent anything, right, So try not to use those words, What
I want you to focus on instead of what you may perceive are the imbalances
of labor is focus on the nurturing, the love, and the mutual trust.
There's so much more in the relationship than oh, what did you do
for me today? Right? Also, you know you're in a relationship with
a human being. No human being is perfect. We are not robots,
which means that you have to learn to embrace imperfection. You have to learn
that people are gonna make mistakes, and that you shouldn't put the weight of
your happiness on somebody else. Remember, another person should never be responsible for
your happiness. Ever, happiness is an inside job. If you're one of
those people, for instance, who's constantly mad at your exes and mad about
relationships that didn't work out, it means you didn't learn how to make yourself
happy. You gave someone else the power. You gave away your power,
right when. Really, happiness is always an inside job, and happy people
tend to have happy relationships. I also think that you should, in your
relationship divide your responsibilities unfairly. In other words, don't divide them based on
well I took out the trash three times this week. You're going to take
it three times next week, and then the fourth time, we're gonna alternate
every other week. I'll do it four times, right. Why don't you
divide things based on somebody's abilities, somebody's preferences, somebody's availability to do it.
If somebody's working long hours, they can't be expected to do as much
in the house. But don't think of it. I was always having to
be fifty to fifty. You know. As I mentioned in my relationship,
I love to cook. I hate to do dishes. And one of the
things I love about my relationship is that after dinner, I take my glass
of wine over to the sofa and I watch a little comedy and I sip
my wine, and in the corner of my eye, I see him over
in the kitchen clean in my pots and pants, and that feels so good.
I'll tell you why it feels good for me, because I would have
never allowed that level of dependency in my past. I would have said,
no, no, let me do it, let me do it. I
was independent to a fault, right, independent to a fault. Think about
it. Also, to keep yourself from keeping score, express gratitude and appreciation,
even for the little things in your relationship, catch your partner being good.
You know why. First of all, they get rewarded for the good
behavior, so they want to do more of that good behavior. So they're
growing in their ability to do nice things. But the other thing it does
is it reminds your own brain. You're hearing the words too. It reminds
your brain of why you're there, right, And so I really caution you
to not have a transactional relationship in your love relationship. Now. Having said
that, this is different from being in a relationship that's completely abusive, where
you have no boundaries, you have no voice, you can't stand up for
yourself, you can't say no, and you're doing ninety percent of the labor
and you're absolutely depleted and you're exhausted. I've been in those kind of relationships
too, especially with little kids. Right by the way, I saw this
very interesting video from you know, there's this trend on social media right now
about being a trad wife, a traditional wife, or a live in girlfriend
or stay stay at home girlfriend. Like somehow young women are bragging that this
is a cool thing. This is the worst job security that exists in our
culture today. I want to say that right now. Don't right now in
twenty twenty four, think your dream is to be a trad wife because the
laws are not protecting you. The lawyers, if you try to go to
divorce court, will make the most money out of anybody. There's no job
security in this. So I saw this divorce attorney online saying that he had
this great idea. If you do want to be a trad wife or one
partner whatever your gender, wants to stay home and take care of children,
which is very valuable important work, set up a separate bank account in that
person's name who's doing the work, and every week get a paycheck that's only
in your name, a paycheck, because that's the only way you're ever going
to get it back. But anyway, don't think of fifty to fifty.
But if you're in a ninety ten relationship, ask yourself why you're there?
Why you're there? All right? When we come back, I will be
taking your relationship calls. Remember I'm a psychology professor, not a therapist,
but I have a lot of life experience and some wisdom. I've written three
books on relationships. I did my dissertation on attachment theory, and I would
love to weigh in with the science of love. Pick up the phone.
Producer Kayle's going to answer right now. The numbers one eight hundred five two
zero one five three four. That's one eight hundred five to zero, one
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