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The opinions expressed by Chayo Busquets are
supported by his extensive experience as a family

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therapist and in the previous analysis of
the cases presented here welcome. This is

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Chayo with you in jewel. We
begin very good evening to everyone as they

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are on this day. Not skilled
for the vast majority of people on this

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May 1st. Thanking Mariano, of
course, for the microphone pass and well,

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hoping that they are listening in a
state of greater relaxation, not working

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quietly. And, well, those
of us who are working, we send

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them a very affectionate hug. But, because this little weekend makes the week

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become a short week with this day
of recess on this first of May,

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and notice that we know that,
because it is the day of work.

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Not that, curiously and I'
ve never known, because just the day

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of work you don' t work. But I imagine someone will know the

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background and history of this day.
But notice that one of the topics that

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we may not deal with so often
is precisely related to the theme of the

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day of work, to what happens
at work, to what happens at work,

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depending on what you do, whether
you are a driver of a public

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or private means of transport, It
doesn' t matter if you work in

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an office, if you work in
a factory, if you work in a

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store, if you have your own
business. Anyway, and one of the

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questions we might have to ask ourselves
is how I am authority, if I

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have a position that makes me have
people below me and or how I am

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junior, that is, how I
see authority at work, how I relate

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to authority at work and how and
how we are getting a little into this

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world of work. The truth is
that for those who just leave school privileged,

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those who leave the work office,
everything that has to do with a

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school- related scheme. Not if
they could get the university, so what

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a father. If not, then
when they wanted to stop studying or because

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of an economic situation, they had
to stop studying. And you have to

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get into the world of work.
What are the expectations, what do you

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imagine, How far and from where
you are willing to start a job to

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achieve goals. Look, it hasn' t been long. I was invited

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by an association of finance- specific
executives to talk about this generational change that

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has taken place among those we have
many more years working for young generations and

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how, at another time in good
life, bringing together twenty years, twenty

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- five years, thirty years working
was an event. And, on the

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contrary, now younger people feel they
have to go on a resume where there

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are several jobs of two or three
years old and they have already changed jobs

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two or three years and already changed
jobs. The idea of staying in a

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job and making a career within the
same job today does not have the recognition

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that was before and I do not
know what your position is, what your

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position is. You think so.
Thus, notice that, within this scheme

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that I commented on work, without
any doubt, the vast majority of people

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spend more time in our work than
in our personal life. Call it home,

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couple, kids daddies. Anyway,
we spent a lot more time at

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work and that would lead us to
think about what kind of coworker I am

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a little while ago I asked,
well, if you' re a boss,

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what kind of patron you are,
if you have any degree of authority

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within your work. What kind of
authority are you, if you' re

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junior, because except when you'
re the absolute head, the General Directorate

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owns it. In short, those
who may have other areas of authority in

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turn are subordinates also because they have
a boss, to whom to surrender and

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account. If you had to describe
yourself, in a nutshell, what kind

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of worker. You would say that
you are, what are the values,

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the objectives, the mission that you
feel you have within work, that you

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usually pay more attention to the positives
of your work or to the complaints in

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your work. What about the environment, because without a doubt, there are

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situations in the Chamba that will impact
on others the office. The work,

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without a doubt, has to do
with a teamwork. How you team up

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with a n s maybe. If
someone goes or goes on public transport,

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I would say no, because those
who work in public transport work independently.

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They don' t have this working
situation, and if they do, they

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do. They have fellow routers,
they have companions who run into those who

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sometimes, when one goes above a
means of public transport, sweats because they

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want to win the ticket to the
other means of transport. No, and

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then that makes situations complicated. So
yes, everywhere we have partners everywhere and

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what kind of partner I am to
promote a better environment. It' s

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something that becomes very important. Especially
thank you that on this day of rest

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before here my dear Peter. With
all pleasure, this disease has no vacation

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or anything else. Then I'
m happy to be here You' re

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absolutely right in the world. Hey, Pedro, speaking of drugs, I

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have some formal, well- known, recognized classification. Anyway, I don

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' t know how to ask the
question, but not if the question is

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well asked and I would say there
are different types of classifications. No,

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okay. We could start from the
simplest part, which is classifying drugs as

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legal or non- legal drugs,
not within the legal drugs, because I

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think that to see we have more
or less clear what they could be,

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because surely many of your listeners,
Ahorita, have not realized the amount of

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drugs they may have in their home. So interesting, if clear to see,

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obviously, within the legal drugs,
this tobacco is alcohol. Of course,

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there aren' t many drugs as
well that can be legal drugs.

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Not all drugs are considered drugs to
see, drugs as we know them,

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as psychoactive drugs, not all medicines
or as drugs in general all medicines,

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because a drug is a substance.
When you enter everything into your body,

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it will alter its functions. Then
all drugs get upset, but those that

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are already psychoactive, that is,
those that are going to alter your thinking

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processes, your personality or your perception, those are drugs that are legal,

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low, certain medical prescriptions. No, okay, okay. But also and

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that' s where I told you
that surely many of the people who are

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following you have obviously realized that there
must be many more drugs at home,

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because, for example, we can
have some inhalable solvents. No, for

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example, some have tyner, some
have this famous yellow resistol that was used

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a lot and that smells very hard, not this having, some have PBC,

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some have that, there are many
substances that can also be considered as

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legal substances that we can be having
in our house and that we have not

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noticed. And you also have to
see how some people can get high with

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a monkey, that is, an
e, a wet handkerchief or a tow

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full of tiner, for example.
Other people, for example, use compressed

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air to clean computers also with a
way to get high. Not then e.

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All these substances that we sometimes have
at home and don' t pay

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attention to can also be misused substances
in wow by some family member. You

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have to scare or you do,
and you' re already the loyal ones.

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Those are the legal ones. Since
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' re still good, okay,
well, and we could also classify drugs

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as drugs or, but give me
a break, you didn' t say

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the illegal ones. Ah well,
I didn' t say the illegals all

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the other ok, the cocaine,
the marijuana, the peyote. Okay.

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It is not true to see that
there are also, for example, many

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drugs that are plants. If this
one I don' t know, if

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you' ve seen this one,
it' s like a flower that looks

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like a bell coming down there,
I' m ignorant of drugs. Not

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good, it' s not like
that one does it, it' s

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that girl and she had to fool
someone with a bouquet of flowers and all

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those and I would be so cute. No. Probably not this one.

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Sometimes they are used a lot as
part of decoration in a house and,

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for example, those flowers that I
am mentioning to you are the floripondian not

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that it is also a substance,
a plant that is hallucinogenic. Look and

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I thought that nothing more was a
way to tell a person who' s

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in floripondian I didn' t know
it existed, like everything else notice that

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my mom. I' m going
to tell confessor about this. Don'

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t try to scare yourself for a
year. No. My mom once planted

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blooming in her house and didn'
t know what she knows. So I

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hear omen and I say ah,
look you got poripondium. He tells me

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what that is and I tell him
a lucinogen drug. He told me no,

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I' m not going down the
tree anymore. I told myself as

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long as you don' t have
it on you, don' t worry

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while I' m so happy lately. No, yeah, yeah, yeah,

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no, but this thing you say
in how many houses it won'

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t happen. And I think it' s an obligation that we have because

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at some point I remember a patient
who told me he had the marijuana plant

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in his house and I told him
how. But you live with your parents.

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Yeah, but they have no idea
what the marijuana plant looks like.

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Then they haven' t even noticed
that. It almost becomes a no,

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it almost becomes an obligation that we
have to do. This being aware of

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this and above all, if we
have children teenagers with more waters, because

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you can have a little marijuana plant
in your house and you didn' t

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know and know the drugs. No. I often go to schools to give

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talks to parents and tell them questions. They' re very worried and they

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' re all clear that, because
of the Janto, in unison they all

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answer. Yeah, of course,
and when you tell them good to see,

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then describe to me what a cross
is like. Describe to me what

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LSD is like. A lot of
people don' t know anything. No,

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I mean, it' s a
problem. It' s just that

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a lot of young kids right now
know more about drugs than a lot of

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dads and teachers do. And it' s our obligation. That' s

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why Peter is part of our program, because we need to know now,

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yes, we' re out of
time. Peter, but we' re

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still sorting out the week you come
in seems pretty good. Having spoken to

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our dear Peter, we resumed this
topic of work and I would like to

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leave you with questions. You like
your job, you' re a good

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coworker, you' re a good
boss, you' re a good junior.

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If you don' t like your
job, you' ve really been

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evicted with the ideas of how difficult
it is to find Chamba and, therefore,

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you won' t find anything better. You put up with yourself and

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what you do with the frustration that
that generates, because everyone charges us bills,

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everything leads us to uncomfortable situations that, even if we try to turn

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a blind eye, the truth is
that it ends up being a constant subject,

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like bringing a pebble in the shoe
ends up hurting. It may be

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a silly thing, but it ends
up becoming something that as silly as it

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might suddenly turn out is to some
extent making our character and temperament bitter.

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You are one of those who gives
you identity or is only an occupation,

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that is, you only do that
or you are architect mason, secretary,

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engineer, you are defined because to
the extent that you define you you will

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be happier. We started off from
the program about how I am for work.

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There is a phrase that is used
very often. You have your shirt

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on or not, and in that
process what it would mean to put your

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shirt on a chamba to suit the
objective of the work, the mission and

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the vision of that company, of
that work, of that little time,

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of that chamba that I have and
to act in accordance with that, because

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there is a process that needs to
be generated when it comes to working environment,

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that will have a lot to do
with who is taking your chamba more

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seriously and who is not competitive within
the jobs. Yes, of course,

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and here would arise another question,
how dirty or suffering are you in your

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strategies to try to be better positioned
within your chamba boycotts the work of others

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you will gossip things that are not
true you dedicate a lot of space to

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that context of generating an operating scheme
within the labor circumstance so that you are

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the one who is or is seen. If you have a particular relationship with

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the boss or boss, you'
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It' s a whole subject worth
thinking about, because that' s creating

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the environments, it' s creating
the working climates. And maybe I don

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' t know your case right now, but you' ve probably had some

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kind of work experience where it'
s made it clear to you that disabling

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your swim turns into being in a
work environment. Where you feel bad and,

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as we said in the beginning of
the program, we spend much more

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time in our work than in other
activities, even though we consider other activities

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to be priorities in our lives,
but the work, out there they say

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is a necessary evil. No,
and then we need to settle in under

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those circumstances to try to see how
we have a better time. And in

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that sense, I certainly need to
ask myself what happens to me, who

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I am and, you see,
well, this program is asking a lot

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of self- reflection questions, who
I am. In the Chamber I finally

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mentioned competitiveness a few moments ago as
far as I think I am and competitive

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at work. I do it in
a good way or I do it in

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a bad way. I do it
cheating, I do it by messing around.

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I do this thinking about this phrase, unfortunately, which is in the

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heads of many in Mexico, of
having to do it the bad way,

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because first I have to be,
because if I don' t, I

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' m going to be someone else. Then we don' t have to

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be thugs and sometimes we have our
own explanations about why we do it.

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But today I was thinking a lot
about how we deal with our own consciousness

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around what we do in this world
of work, particularly given the date and

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given what this invites us to work
it out and think about it. Not

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because without any doubt, our human
quality has to be reflected in all the

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contexts of our life and suddenly we
would have to ask ourselves how far I

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cooperate in order for them to become
small groups within my work, how far

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I report my complaints, not to
the person I would have to tell,

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but to the others with whom I
do take. And that' s creating

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complicated situations around the Chamba. I
have the interest and clarity of what it

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is to be a good professional in
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s something that, even if we' re busy, it' s worth

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stopping for a moment and thinking about
it. What are your main conflicts when

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it comes to your work and what
version of you you show. Right there

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and good. With this I wish
you to spend an extraordinary afternoon the rest

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of the day to please him.
Rested or fun, not and rested and

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fun also in that combination, but
I hope that we have a good time

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tomorrow here we find ourselves in the
middle of the afternoon with more chayo with

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you Audio Center