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Quickly before we get back into calls, I'd like to make a note that

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a dear friend of the program and
producer, Neil Sevadra of this very program,

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passed away last Thursday, and many
of you may know him. His

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name is and was Ian Punnett.
You've heard his voice on radio through Coast

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to Coast AM and other radio stations, and he was a faithful believer who

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dedicated his life to thinking and learning
everything he could about God and passing those

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things on to others. He is
survived by his lovely wife and his children.

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It was due to to a very
short illness, and he was a

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man of many strengths and abilities,
but his love of God pushed him through

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his studies. He became a deacon
and he continued to be a professor,

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teaching people many things that he had
learned along the way. And although the

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spirit of Ian will live on through
reruns on Coast to Coast and those that

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listen online, that he will be
sorely missed by those who knew him,

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and for those of you who are
in the prayer warrior camp to lift up

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his family and his children, his
wife, the people that knew him to

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find strength to lose someone this close
to the holidays adds just that little extra

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kick to the gut. But they
believe that he is with his maker,

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which was his goal ultimately after his
time was done here. So this program

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today is dedicated to deacon Ian Punnett
and all the joy and information and the

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contagious curiosity that he brought to everyone. Dean, Welcome to the Jesus Christ

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Show. Hi Jesus, how are
you? I am? Well, Dean,

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what's going on? Well? I
have a where situation. So I

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have a son with a girl who
they both lived with me in my grandparents'

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house. They are both gone.
We're not together anymore. We broke up

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before he was born, so we
lived together for my son's sake, and

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it's been really hard to We live
together for a year now and we don't

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get along. We sleep in such
a separate bedrooms. We don't talk to

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each other unless I have to do
with my son. And it's been a

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very very stressful situation on me.
There's a lot of things that happen prior

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to this that has really made me
question my faith. And I'm just and

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we're still together and she's been you
know, she's almost left my family,

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her family. We don't like each
other, and it's this very toxic situation,

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and the only thing I could think
to do to get through it is

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to become a better person, become
a better man, because I was not

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prior to all this, and I'm
just really really wondering if I should keep

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going like this and we should just
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But she doesn't want to do it
because of our son, because she doesn't

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want to separate his mom and dad. And so the only thing, again

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I could think to do is to
become a better man and just keep trying

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to make things better as best I
can, as we can. And again,

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so I guess my question is,
you know, it's God putting me

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to the test because I've been a
person of faith my whole life. And

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again I said before, I was
not a good person. Prior to this.

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I had a lot of problems.
I'm doing much better than I was

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before now and I just keep telling
myself to keep going, just keep being

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a better person for my son,
better person for situation. And yeah,

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again, so I'm just wondering,
should is this a test? You know?

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Is God putting me to the test? Or is it just something I

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should just throw away and give up? Given up? Is not really something

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that God's going to put in your
way per se. There are wounds that

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you amputate, yes, and there
are wounds that you mandage. You will

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have to decide that point in your
life if there is a toxicity that's going

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to read that's going to penetrate everything, so like something that becomes gangrenous,

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a wound that becomes so bad that
it's going to go through the rest of

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the body and destroy the body.
Yes, you amputate, but in this

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particular case you have to pull apart
a few things. Does God want you

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to be a better person? Absolutely, that's everybody. Is this a situation

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that's been put in your path by
God? No, I'll tell you exactly

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who did this, Dean there is. God is not the cosmic killjoy that

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people think. So the Father isn't
running around going Gosh, what do people

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want? And let me say no
to it. When God talks about marriage,

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when God talks about connecting with your
partner, When God talks about two

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people coming together and to each other, they will cleave and leave their families

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to build a new one. The
imperative, there is that bond because if

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you are bringing other people into the
relationship by way of children and into the

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world, that's heavy. That's a
huge thing for the child, for the

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parents, for the community, for
the world. These children may grow up

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to be good, bad, and
will have ripple effects throughout the entirety of

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the world based on those things,
depending on the people they meet and the

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connections they have. So when you
make decisions to do that out of that

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commitment, out of testing a relationship
with multiple years of connecting, dating,

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seeing each other at the best of
the best and the worst of the worst,

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meeting families, connecting with the families, knowing that those families come attached

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to the relationship. When you don't
take the time to see people during holidays,

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during layoffs, firings, any of
these things, you don't take the

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proper time to do that at each
thing you remove from that equation puts you

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more at risk. You drive a
car with bald tires, not a good

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idea, but you drive a car
with bald tires and the oil light on,

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the engine light on, you don't
put on your seat belt, you

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have no mirrors because it broke off. Each of these things add to the

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consequences that will come with that decision. So be And these aren't some spiritual

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things put in a pot as a
concoction for God to teach you something.

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This is a world you built not
only for you, but for your girlfriend

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and your child. And this is
merely the consequences of those decisions. So

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some people think, gosh, to
take the time to get to know somebody

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on those things. But I'm feeling
the love and the connection. You want

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to hate that, Well, you
pay for it on one end or the

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other. If you want it more
quickly and easier on the front, then

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it's going to be more difficult,
most likely on the back end and reverse.

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So you either do the homework at
front end of things, or the

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homework and the troubleshooting and the catching
up on the back end. And unfortunately

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for you, you're at the place
where you're at the back end of this

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having to make decisions based or deal
with the consequences based on the decisions you

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made. Will you learn and be
a better person from it, Well,

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that's up to you. Life is
genuinely ten percent what happens to you and

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ninety percent how you react to it. We had a question ask about AI

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artificial intelligence and whether the discussion going
on in Revelation thirteen is talking about artificial

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intelligence, an image coming to life
and these things. Well, there have

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been many different technologies throughout the centuries
that people have looked at, and Christians,

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the people of faith, have said, this is of the devil,

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and it goes with everything. It
goes for telephones, the home phone,

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and it goes to radio, it
goes to television, it goes to credit

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cards. Many different things have raised
the eyebrow of believers, even the printing

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press. Things that may seem benign
to you now were not to those that

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saw the technology and its infancy.
Because that's the concern, right, the

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Antichrist is coming. The Devil's going
to try and trick you, and the

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devil will The devil's been trying to
trick you forever and doesn't need technology to

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do it. Social media was seen
as that platform the same that it was

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seen like the Tower of Babel,
because now you can bring all languages together,

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you can translate them, you can
do all of these things and can

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necked globally. In you're with an
instrument in your hand. But I assure

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you although technology needs to be understood
so that it can be utilized properly,

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but the tech itself is without morality. Mankind human kind are the ones that

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make something either good or bad by
using it for something that is moral or

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immoral. However, it's easier for
humankind to look at these things and say,

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oh, this is good or bad. The technology is good or bad,

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rather than pointing the finger back at
themselves and saying, I am the

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one that makes this good or bad. So you have an immoral inanimate object,

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and humans point to that as the
problem, rather than looking at themselves

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as the one that puts the moral
twist on something. And as you combine

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it with whatever you may be doing, therein lies what defines something, not

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that thing itself. It's always easier
to blame something else than to take on

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the courage of knowing that you controlling
the item are the one that is doing

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good or doing evil. Paul,
Welcome to the Jesus Christ Show. Good

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morning. I'm calling you from Cincinnati, Ohio, and I'm not reading in

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my day's Bible. It's a King
James aversion. And in Genesis one he

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alludes that God said to Adam go
forth and replenish the earth. And he's

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eluding that there was a society or
a civilization on Earth before Adam and Eve

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and it was destroyed by lucifers for
blood. And there's a controversy that the

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word replenished in the Hebrew may mean
fill the earth instead of replenish. And

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I was wanting you to comment on
that, if you would please. Sure,

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Well, there's more than just that
as well, Paul. There are

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some that make the argument when it
comes to scripture that in Genesis that they

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also use a plural. They are
speaking in plural in scripture in Genesis as

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well, so some people assume that
there's more. It says in Genesis one

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twenty six through twenty eight, let
us make man in our image after our

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likeness, and let them have dominion
over the fish and the sea and the

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birds. So there's the views here
come into different beliefs, one of which

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in Genesis, the belief is these
pre atom characters, so they call it

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pre atomite or pre atomism, is
the belief that there was this time where

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that in Genesis one and two,
basically Genesis one is articulating the original creation.

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For lack of a better term,
and then it was destroyed. Some

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say that there were perversions in that
the devil played perversions in it. Some

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even say that that was the time
that the devil messed with DNA and dinosaurs

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came about, and then God had
to wipe it all off and start again.

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And that's why it looks like you
have Genesis two another creation. So

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there are those that believe that that
takes place. This has something to do

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with something called the gap theory,
and in this or ruin reconstruction theory.

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These are theories that there was this
gap and something took place, and then

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God had to create again. So
the word replenish simply occurs seven times in

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the King James version and both times
in the imperative that something needs to take

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place now five times three major profits
in the passive forms, and it means

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too can really mean refill in some
cases, but before getting into the Hebrew

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you have to ask yourself why the
translators used that particular verb replenish. So

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the word can be used to mean
fill, and it can be used not

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only to refill or replenish, but
just to fill. It can mean to

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provide, to supply, to be
made full. So in the context it

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gives that there's really no need for
it to be refill. It could mean

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satiate, in habit, occupy,
the whole of So in the context,

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you have to use that to define
as to what's being said and how it's

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being used. So, Paul,
there isn't in the context. You would

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need something great, not just one
word. You would need something greater to

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explain why that would be refill.
And if you look at it in the

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context, there's no reason for there
to have been a gap or a belief

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that there was a second creation.
Actually, what it is is a headline

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and then the full story. So
the headline in Genesis one is the basics

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of what is going on in the
creation. Genesis two is more of an

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elaboration and pulling the camera back to
see a bigger view of what was taking

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place. So in that case,
that sets that word into the context and

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doesn't really give it the ability to
say, oh, in this particular context,

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it means refill or replenish in that
sense. And the reason this is

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is that ancient Hebrew is limited.
A lot of words mean different things depending

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on their context. That has to
be understood. There's no reason to put

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that there and say, okay,
well it must mean this because it could

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mean that, but in the context, it just doesn't. There is nothing

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there. There's nothing that says,
hey, here is a second creation,

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or explaining this was destroyed, or
going back and saying there's this gap here

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that needs to be explained or accounted
for. There's just not You have to

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you have to look further, or
you have to actually create the need for

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that word to be there in its
context. And once you do all that,

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once you get into having to create
seating that word or a necessity of

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that word, that's when you start
cramming thoughts into scripture rather letting scripture breathe

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forth the truth that's in it,
and that's you know, done. A

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lot a lot of people will try
and put their views into scripture, whether

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it's political, whether it's theological,
whatever it might be, try to cram

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it in scripture. I will tell
you this, the King Jimmy, there

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is not the best translation. And
there are better translations out there. The

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one used by the production of this
show, my producer Neil and the like

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is the new American standard. That
has been his focus and study Bible for

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quite some time. And although there
are other really wonderful translations that just happens

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to be his particular favorite. As
a study Bible, he finds it to

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be sound, the translation to be
solid and in not only the guidance of

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the Holy Spirit, but also the
guidance of great scholars that took the time

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to hash these things out and understand
them in the context in which they were

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seated. So those things are really
what is key when it comes to translating

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or understanding scripture is the context,
because in that particular case, you're really

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having to force it to get that
gap theory or to get a second creation.

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George, Welcome to the Jesus Christ
Show. Good morning. I'd you

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have a life situation question for you. Okay, I'm in a situation.

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I've been married for quite a few
years and my wife left me. She

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is a Christian, and I'm kind
of debating what I need to do about

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that. I agread in First Corinthians
seven thirteen that it says if a believer

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leaves, let them go. But
I'm sorry, if an unbeliever leaves,

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let them go. My question is
what do you do if it's a believer,

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Well, if she abandoned the marriage
that's on her, not you.

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So in this particular case, has
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and decided to divorce you? Well, papers have been filed, but no

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action's been taken for quite a while. Well have you You haven't signed anything?

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Have you signed papers? No?
No? Okay, legally we're still

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still married. But you know,
I'm not concerned as much legally as I

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am spiritually, of course, But
this is someone abandoning you. There's nothing

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you can do about that unless there
is a way for you to reconcile,

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which would always be my goal and
desires to see people reconcile and work together

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towards these things, especially believers who
have made a commitment before God. That

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doesn't mean that they don't fall apart. It doesn't mean that there aren't divorces.

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You can go back to Jeremiah three
and you can see that even God

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hands a certificate of divorce to Israel. So did she give reason as to

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why she was leaving you? Not
really, I mean probably a whole host

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of things. You know, I'm
not angry with her. I'm not,

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you know, upset, whether I
just for questions now is what do I

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do about it? You know,
do I let linger on forever or do

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I force the people through? And
you know, I just want to do

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what God wants me to do.
And you know, there's no indication she

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wants to come back. Okay,
Well, without understanding as to why she

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left, it's hard to see how
it can come back. Is is there

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another person? Did you have an
affair? Did she have an affair?

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To my knowledge? Okay, so
she just said I can't be with you

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anymore? Pretty much? Yes?
And you say she gave you a nice

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solid list as to why No?
No, just I mean it's it's,

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you know, other than just my
own thoughts about what she must feel that

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she's never really communicated to me.
Why just I don't want to live like

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this anymore? Okay? Well,
what was living like this? What was

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this? Well, how would you
know from your point of view she's not

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here? What what would you say
it was that caused the division? Well,

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I would say we were both a
little too selfish. I wasn't giving

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her what she thought she should get
out of a marriage. And I think,

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you know, she was being selfish, thinking that everything ought to be

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the way she'd like it to be. God, you know, it's not

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like we argued. We didn't argue
a lot just to kind of grew apart,

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you know, lived in the same
house, but didn't talk a whole

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lot. Well, yeah, you
become roommates. And when there's no passion

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for each other, and I don't
mean just physical passion, but when there's

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no passion to connect, to learn
from, to teach one another, to

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do things that inspire or find out
what someone's goals are and these basic things,

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we kind of can fall into those
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But love love came from nothing the
first time. You have to learn

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somebody and find out about them and
be curious about them and you know,

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connect with them, and that's how
love forms. You know. One of

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the program directors of our flagship station
KFI that it helped come up with the

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idea of this very program used to
say his name was David G. Holl

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And he used to say that love
was understanding and although that's not the totality

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of it, there's power in that
is to is to whittle down the connection

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by saying, you know what,
I know all these things about you and

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still want to be around you.
Is kind of like that. And if

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that fire can go out. As
long as two people are alive and communicative,

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that fire can be lit again.
But selfishness is the absolute oxygen sucker

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of the flame of a relationship.
So if if that is gone, you

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have to reintroduce that. And the
only way to do that is for humility,

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is to be able to walk up
to your partner or the other person

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in the relationship and say, I
can only do my part. This is

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where I think I failed. This
is where I think I can do better.

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We were in love. Once I've
thought about those days, I've looked

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at pictures, I've thought about what
I love about you. This is the

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list of what I love about you. Of course, if it's completely dead,

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then you know I can't love for
you. I can only love for

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me. But I think I can
do this. I think that we can

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find our way back. And if
the response is I don't think so,

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or then you have to prove by
living in a way, not for a

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small amount of time, but by
living in a way that shows the reality

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of your feelings. Remember, it's
not what you say, it's not how

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you act, it's how you react
to a situation that truly shows who you

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are. In life, and you
reacting to this can show her how much

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you care. Maybe she wants that, maybe she doesn't. You know,

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Help me find what you need in
your life, Help me find the path

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that brings you joy. And if
you really say that it's over and there

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is no peace, there is no
joy left. We can't find that spark

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again, then let's sign the paperwork
and end it. But if there's a

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tiny bit of a possibility, I'd
like to do my part to be better,

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to be a better partner, to
focus on you. And the hope

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is she focuses on you as well, and then everybody's taken care of by

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each other. That's the key to
the relationship. You listen, Jesus