We are going to start off the Minnesota Goodbye Today with an email that I
won't answer. I'm going to read it, but I won't really answer it,
because you know, we almost we answer almost anything. We'll answer almost
any question, but you'll see why. Stephanie writes in of all your co
hosts, which one was the listener's favorite? Well, I would say,
honestly, Fallon and Lena tied for first. They were both very well loved.
But I will tell you this that every co host was loved at the
time they were on. Yeah, one day people will say, well,
Jenny was my favorite. I think we've done a really good job of hiring
co hosts and finding co hosts that people love. When Lee was on,
everybody loved Lee. Yeah. Well, then Angie came on, and then
everybody loved Angie, then Corey and then Lena and then Fallon. But so
I did answer it, but I can't really say that there was one that
was absolutely a favorite. You would have to ask listeners. You don't really
know. Do you have an opinion? Jenny? Well, I didn't work
with any of it. Well, actually, technically yes, I did work
with Lena for a very brief period of time when found was on maternity to
leave. So I also didn't grow up in the Twin Cities, so I
wasn't here during the Lee and Angie Taylor days or the Corey Foley And then
when I started interning and Lena was here for maybe a month before she had
left, yep, so I really just didn't know her super well. Wow,
that was a long time ago, because Lena left in two thousand and
eleven, so thirteen years ago. Wow. You know, sometimes it sinks
in how long I've been here. And I think if there's ever any reason
that I would ever like leave deliberately besides you know, just deciding to,
it would be because it's just like that's a lot of time to put into
any one job, you know. I mean, wasn't your dad at his
job for forty years or something? He was, He was there for forty
two years, and then he finally got a different one just because he worked
in a restaurant and it just it wasn't good environment. And so then he
went and worked in like a factory basically the last five is years before he
just retired, and and he loved it. He absolutely loved it. It
was like different, it was something like a less toxic environment, that's for
sure. But like, I don't know, he just the change. Really
I saw a difference in him when he changed jobs. It really can affect
your entire outlook and your state of mind when you're working in a toxic environment
with people who backstab, people who manipulate, and when you always have to
be you know, looking out for your quality of your work is one thing,
but when you have to watch your back for people who manipulate and backstab
and lie and make your life tough at work, that's hard, it really
is. And you do carry that home with you because we all carry some
work home with us, Like you know, we work here at the radio
station, and like you know, at five o'clock in the afternoon, I
will be responding to Facebook comments because I want to acknowledge people that listen.
But when you have to take home mental bag, I don't think about Facebook
when I'm trying to go to sleep. But if you are worrying about a
coworker that's you know, being a narcissist or whatever, then do you take
that with you when you're trying to sleep? Yeah, how bad does it
affect you that I'm such a narcissist and backstabber. My brain is just like
always running on high no matter what. So trust me, I like go
through every scenario in my life, but you don't usually pop up into my
brain when I'm trying to fall asleep at night. You know what would I
have to do to keep you awake at night, Jenny? I don't know
if you come up with something like let you know next one. I love
this one, a lighthearted one. My kids definitely drink out of the garden
hose. We talked about this yesterday. They love it. There's one hose
I don't let them drink out of because it's the one I use to fill
the duck pool and the end of the hose sits in the pool while it
fills. But the other one's fair game. They like to drape it over
a stump and drink out of it like a water fountain. I love that
kids in summery to hear that, yeah, we'd STI drink out of the
garden hose. My kids are three, no, my three kids are five,
three and three, and they're obsessed with picking up litter. If they
see some, they need to get it and throw it away. One time
they even made me pull over and grab a huge tarp like thing and drag
it two hundred feet to our trash can when we were on our way to
school and it was closed to our house. They were buckled into the car
seats and I wasn't going to let them get out to help, trying to
teach them be good little trash picker uppers for our earth. That is from
Hannah. I love that we talked about that on the show yesterday. I
was out for a walk with my girl Josie last night and I was listening
to a podcast called What's on Your Mount Rushmore and I'm on the latest episode
about favorite female artists pop female artists. And as I was walking, the
first thing I noticed was like a baby apple sauce pack. Okay, and
it was still full, and I know the couple had just dropped it that
had passed me like five minute before, and there's a full, clean,
new baby apple sauce like like not even yeah, And I thought about keeping
it, but I don't like apple sauce, and you know, I threw
it away. Okay, that's good. And then I picked up a taco
bell wrapper. I picked up an unchewed stick of a gum still in the
foil. I picked up a crushed beer can and a couple of other little
things, because you know, it's like somebody's got to pick it up,
and if you don't pick it up, then who is going to pick it
up? How be honest? I Besides, like I said, at the
high school that I lived near, I don't see much litter in my neighborhood
to be able to pick up. See it's usually just the high school.
But I think someone must, probably like a poor custodian, has to go
pick up after the kids or something after school, because normally it's cleared off
by like later in the day. I think we're pretty good at not littering
in Minnesota, but I think it kind of depends on like you said yesterday,
if you're around to high school, they'll dump it out of the car,
you know, high school kids. Yeah, next one, Please don't
say my name. I'm a little tired. This is a strong opinion email,
and I want to see what you think. I'm a little tired of
all the mental health talk. I know we need to address it and make
it known that depression and PTSD are real, but I fear that it's going
too far and we are endangerer in ourselves with too much mental health rhetoric.
Could all the talk about anxiety be causing anxiety? Just because you're sad for
a day doesn't mean you have depression. Just because you have anxious moments doesn't
mean you have anxiety. What happened to moving past things? Mental toughness and
grit just from hot just some hot food for thought, they sign it.
I don't dart or lick. I agree. I think that there's a little
bit too much telling people that they have mental health problems. So now everybody
is self diagnosed with this and they're depressed and they have anxiety. And I
think that people love almost thought. It's like hip to be online and be
like, you know, I suffer, because then you can can't tell the
people who are really suffering. You can't tell whether it's like, you know,
like Bob who is under a lot of pressure at work and now has
diagnosed himself with anxiety, as opposed to Melissa, who really does have anxiety.
I think a lot of the time I don't know, but I think
real anxiety and real depression is when you can't think of a reason to be
anxious or you don't have a reason to be depressed, you just feel that
way, Am I right? I don't know. I mean I think very
differently because I have been diagnosed with anxiety. So why to hear what you
think? Yeah, I do disagree with this email. I think that when
you start experiencing anxiety or depression for the first time, it is really hard
to understand what's going on inside of your brain or how you're feeling. And
it's if there were not resources out there, and if there were not people
talking about it, and you just think you're crazy, because that's how I
was in college. I thought like I was legitimately going crazy because I didn't
understand what anxiety was and it wasn't talked about back then. So personally,
I am all for it being talked about as much as it is because for
the people who do, like genuinely have it, it makes you feel more
normal and then it also helps you reduce your anxiety because you feel more normal.
So for me, I very much disagree with that, and honestly,
it's to hear it. It, honestly is pretty frustrating as someone who has
anxiety. Can I ask you a question when you were first noticing that you
had anxiety. What felt different? So it's hard to explain because I feel
different kinds of anxiety in different given moments. There are things that cause me
anxiety. But then there are moments where I do not know why I feel
weird. But for me, I have like physical symptoms. I will have
like my chest will feel like someone's like doing like a snake skin to it,
like someone's just like earning my chest, my heart rate is high,
and it's not always those either. I will just feel weird in my body.
And it's once again, really hard to describe unless you've experienced it before,
because if someone would have said that to me before I ever experienced it,
I wouldn't understand what it felt like. No, and I understand that
I've had I've been on klonopin before because I had anxiety for a reason and
I compared it to a bonfire in my head where my brain was just hot
and rumbly or something, because there was something going on in my life and
I've never talked about it on the radio, and it was very personal and
very stressful. Nothing shameful, nothing illegal, just something that really would not
stop. It would not go away and maybe one day I'll talk about it
on the radio. But it was really difficult. But my anxiety was because
of something that was going on in my life that I had no control over,
and it ate me alive. And I'll be honest with you, I
used to drink at night to make it go away. Yeah, because alcohol
has a way of making you forget your problems or making them feel that they're
not so bad. Problem was it felt great to drink, but then I'd
go to bed, and then I'd wake up three hours later, wide awake
with my brain on fire again. Well, I was gonna say, drinking
just is only going to accelerate any kind of depression or anxiety because it's an
antidepressant itself. So whatever is often your brain already, you're only making it
worse by drinking alcohol, I will say. And I don't want to try
to get the last word on this one, but I will say it does
help to come become mentally tough. They talk about mental health, and I
think that's great, but I also say you need to just like we train
our muscles to be strong so when we fall we're less likely to be hurt,
so when we're sick we're more likely to be to recover. So you
know, we got your physical strength, so we eat right and we work
out, so we're mentally strong. I think that there is some value in
physically strong. I think there's some value in being mentally strong too. But
I see you as a mentally strong person. You don't come in here every
going I just can't take it anymore. I just can't take it. And
I don't see anybody coming in that's got depression going. I just don't want
to do this. So I think that's a form of mental strength. Yeah,
you strike me as a mentally strong person. I do, But I'll
be honest, there have been many times I've come in and you have no
idea. I'm anxious as shit. And is it triggered by something? It?
Yes, I mean there's there's definitely like triggers for it, but sometimes
not necessarily. Alcohol has been a big thing, and so in the last
year, I like, I know, we joker about me being like this
strong. I haven't touched alcohol in a while. I don't I don't want
to like make my anxiety worse, so I don't drink much anymore, even
like coffee. I've pretty much chilled out on because coffee accelerates my anxiety.
But no, I yeah, I've definitely been very anxious and people do not
know, but realistically, like my brain, what you just described was like
on fire, and I hide it very well. You do, and I
admire that because I think it's sometimes you got to be able to hide it.
And can you imagine how awful work would be if you came in and
you weren't able to hide it. I mean, I hope that it's not
that difficult. See, I see like work for me most of the time
as therapy. It's very therapeutic and it's a very joyful thing for me to
come in and be able to do this show. I'm going to keep moving
through the Minnesota goodbye emails. So here we go. Dave and Jenny got
a first thank you for being awesome. You brighten up more lives on a
daily basis than you can imagine. I don't think we read this one,
but stopped me if we did. I know I pre read it, so
maybe we did not. Dave, You're a constant ray of light and advice
for so many Thank you. Jenny. Everybody sees how you work the show
wouldn't be the same without you. It's a blessing to all of the listeners
that you didn't take the job in Buffalo. Oh I read this when I
think Earl this morning. Yeah, the show has always been great, but
adding vont that has added a little flare that seems to fit perfectly into the
mix. I hope he gets the job soon. Onto the real content here,
Dave, tell Jenny and Vant to get off your tail about slow Clap.
It is played on the TJ, Max and Marshall store stations all across
the country. It's such a bop. Okay, Amy, But Bobby is
getting crazier by the day on Instagram. You should invite her to be on
Naughty Tuesday. Her latest is she is Lady two Cookies with the number two.
She's sitting in a Lamborghini and she's talking about sending you pictures of her
pink and her brown. Well you know what that means. Yeah, And
I think she's probably actually doing that. I don't know, but I think
she has kind of gotten a little bit crazier. And I've watched a one
of her videos last night and a different one this morning, and she's like,
that's who I am You're worried because I'm mega successful. I'm mega successful,
you bitch, so go fuck yourself. And it's like, is she
really mega successful? I don't know. I don't think so. I mean,
she has a decent following on Instagram now, so she might think she's
like kind of famous because of that, but successful, I have no idea.
I mean, if she's hanging out in a Lamborghini, she's got at
least connections to be around next people, right, connections not necessarily wealth or
success. I don't know. I still like her, She's been nice to
me. Can you explain how radio ratings work? When list for ratings come
out, do they include iHeart listeners? Do ratings include people like me who
listen on a terrestrial radio but are likely outside of a technical listening area.
I'm in sant Cloud for reference. I'll be dart licking all the way to
the mailbox waiting for my sticker if you still have any, and I will
send one to you. And I'm not gonna say her name. I don't
think they want me to. I don't know how they work. I mean,
I'm really not at liberty to talk about it too much because I don't
want to get in trouble. We're not allowed to talk about ratings because we
don't want to sway the ratings in any such way. But yes, they
do include iHeart listeners, and they do include people who listen on a regular
radio. But if you're in Saint Cloud, you're probably not going to be
rated in our area. You're in the Saint Cloud listening area. So we
do show up in the Saint Cloud ratings, and some Saint Cloud stations show
up a teeny, teeny tiny bit in our Minneapolis ratings too. But yeah,
I mean it's a matter of you know, their ratings, and that's
really we can't really say anything more about it, and that's it. Yeah,
Okay, No, I'm I'm gonna skip that one, and I'm gonna
scroll up too. I go. I
gotta find kind of a shorter one. Here's one from Anna. Let's try
it out. Hello, my favorite people. Yesterday you guys talked about kids
doing chores, and man, did that light me up. I teach kids
to ride horses. It's an awesome way to earn a living. One of
my main goals is to help these kids learn to be independent around the horses
and thus have more confidence in themselves as people. But damn, there's some
parents who do nothing or no, absolutely everything for their kid. I got
to tell them multiple times in a lesson to let their kid do it.
It's not your lesson, it's theirs. It's like these parents are so afraid
to let their kids struggle a bit and immediately jump in to save little Rachel.
I just want to ask them, how do you expect them to learn
to handle life when you're doing everything for them. I've heard the number one
indicator of the adult success is having chores as a kid. It wouldn't surprise
me. Let your kids struggle, let your kids fail, it's good for
them. That is from your bestie Anna. I think that's I don't know
if it's scientifically research true, but I think for me, I did so
many chores a kid, and I have no trouble doing things for myself now.
Yeah, I'm the same way. I was given a I think like
a quarter as a little allowance every week once we started doing chores, so
that was big money for me. I used to get fifty cents. I
think a week my dad would give me a fifty cent piece, and it
was like when you're five or eight. That was like, you know,
some decent money. Huh. You guys talked about if you did your laundry
as a kid. I wanted to weigh in. I have an almost two
year old little boy. I'm trying to my best to instill in him good
habits to help around the house. He helps as much as he can for
his age. Helps feed the dog, sweep with dishes, dusting. If
he spills says something, he says, Mama, towel and I let him
wipe up whatever he spilled. He helped me load laundry, put clothes in
the dryer, fold clothes. He can't really do it yet, but he
thinks he's helping. And my mother in law made a really snide remark to
me about this. They were visiting. My toddler spill this water, so
he grabbed the kitchen towel, wiped it up, and then left it on
the floor. I said, hey, Bud, can you please put that
towel back where you found it? And my mother in law says, oh,
Mama is too lazy to grab it. You better help her out.
Talking to my son, I said, no, I just want to teach
him to put things back where they belong. I'm still working on that with
your son too. I was so mad. I probably didn't need to add
in that last part, but it felt really good to throw it in.
My husband growing up, never had responsibilities, and I feel like I've had
to teach him to do all these basic household chores. I don't want to
put that on my toddler's future wife too. Thanks for the sticker a while
ago. It's proudly displayed on my yetti from Rachel. Thank you, Rachel.
I one hundred percent agree with you. If a boy grows up not
doing anything around the house because Mama or daddy do it for him, he's
probably never going to do it when he is living with somebody else or in
his adult Yeah. There's a lot of memes going on around right now where
it's like if you're in your thirties, as a qu if you're over thirty,
like answer a question or something, and then people comment back and forth,
okay, And one of the big ones is like, lady is do
not be his mother? Leave that relationship now. It's like, if you
feel like you have to be his mother while you're dating him, that is
not the relationship for you. I think the biggest analogy that I can make
or evidence is that we've talked him about this before. Boys who pee on
the toilet seat at the station and don't wipe it off. Boys who use
the microwave and splatter chilli all over the inside of the microwave and don't clean
it up. Boys who clean out a dish in the sink like a coffee
mug or whatever and leave cup of noodles residue in the sink. And I
saw somebody who is very well respected here at the station do that a year
or two ago. And I watched him wash out a cup of noodles and
leave a bunch of fucking noodles and celery pieces and little peas in the sink,
and I was like, I was shocked because there's such a well thought
of person. And I thought, did mommy do everything for you? And
now your wife does everything for you? Because if I were to rinse out
a cup of noodles, I would take the little sink trap and I'd take
it over to the trash can and I'd shake it out in the trash can.
You would do the same thing. Absolutely, It didn't even occur to
this person to do it, and I thought, there are people grown,
fucking adult men that don't know how to do that. Yeah, and to
be fair, there are some women out there too. It's not a good
you know what, And you're probably right. I'm going to guess that we
raised our kids. Carson was not the best. Carson would bring his dishes
to the sink, but he wouldn't put him in the sink, and God
forbid he ever loaded the dishwasher. But now he lives on his own and
if that's his problem, and that is going to do it. Thanks for
all the great emails. I really appreciate that. On the Minnesota Goodbye,
please send yours in. I'd like to if you want to talk about the
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