WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.640 --> 00:00:03.600 We are going to start off the Minnesota Goodbye Today with an email that I 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:06.719 won't answer. I'm going to read it, but I won't really answer it, 3 00:00:06.759 --> 00:00:09.800 because you know, we almost we answer almost anything. We'll answer almost 4 00:00:09.839 --> 00:00:14.119 any question, but you'll see why. Stephanie writes in of all your co 5 00:00:14.240 --> 00:00:20.239 hosts, which one was the listener's favorite? Well, I would say, 6 00:00:20.760 --> 00:00:27.519 honestly, Fallon and Lena tied for first. They were both very well loved. 7 00:00:27.519 --> 00:00:31.399 But I will tell you this that every co host was loved at the 8 00:00:31.480 --> 00:00:35.119 time they were on. Yeah, one day people will say, well, 9 00:00:35.200 --> 00:00:39.320 Jenny was my favorite. I think we've done a really good job of hiring 10 00:00:39.359 --> 00:00:43.520 co hosts and finding co hosts that people love. When Lee was on, 11 00:00:43.799 --> 00:00:47.359 everybody loved Lee. Yeah. Well, then Angie came on, and then 12 00:00:47.359 --> 00:00:51.719 everybody loved Angie, then Corey and then Lena and then Fallon. But so 13 00:00:51.799 --> 00:00:55.960 I did answer it, but I can't really say that there was one that 14 00:00:56.359 --> 00:01:00.439 was absolutely a favorite. You would have to ask listeners. You don't really 15 00:01:00.439 --> 00:01:02.679 know. Do you have an opinion? Jenny? Well, I didn't work 16 00:01:02.719 --> 00:01:04.040 with any of it. Well, actually, technically yes, I did work 17 00:01:04.079 --> 00:01:07.040 with Lena for a very brief period of time when found was on maternity to 18 00:01:07.079 --> 00:01:10.840 leave. So I also didn't grow up in the Twin Cities, so I 19 00:01:10.920 --> 00:01:15.760 wasn't here during the Lee and Angie Taylor days or the Corey Foley And then 20 00:01:15.799 --> 00:01:19.519 when I started interning and Lena was here for maybe a month before she had 21 00:01:19.640 --> 00:01:23.079 left, yep, so I really just didn't know her super well. Wow, 22 00:01:23.120 --> 00:01:26.879 that was a long time ago, because Lena left in two thousand and 23 00:01:26.319 --> 00:01:34.319 eleven, so thirteen years ago. Wow. You know, sometimes it sinks 24 00:01:34.359 --> 00:01:38.400 in how long I've been here. And I think if there's ever any reason 25 00:01:38.439 --> 00:01:42.719 that I would ever like leave deliberately besides you know, just deciding to, 26 00:01:44.359 --> 00:01:47.400 it would be because it's just like that's a lot of time to put into 27 00:01:47.480 --> 00:01:51.400 any one job, you know. I mean, wasn't your dad at his 28 00:01:51.519 --> 00:01:53.719 job for forty years or something? He was, He was there for forty 29 00:01:53.719 --> 00:01:57.959 two years, and then he finally got a different one just because he worked 30 00:01:57.959 --> 00:02:00.439 in a restaurant and it just it wasn't good environment. And so then he 31 00:02:00.519 --> 00:02:05.000 went and worked in like a factory basically the last five is years before he 32 00:02:05.120 --> 00:02:07.759 just retired, and and he loved it. He absolutely loved it. It 33 00:02:07.879 --> 00:02:12.960 was like different, it was something like a less toxic environment, that's for 34 00:02:13.000 --> 00:02:15.919 sure. But like, I don't know, he just the change. Really 35 00:02:15.759 --> 00:02:20.680 I saw a difference in him when he changed jobs. It really can affect 36 00:02:20.719 --> 00:02:23.960 your entire outlook and your state of mind when you're working in a toxic environment 37 00:02:24.080 --> 00:02:30.319 with people who backstab, people who manipulate, and when you always have to 38 00:02:30.360 --> 00:02:35.639 be you know, looking out for your quality of your work is one thing, 39 00:02:36.120 --> 00:02:39.719 but when you have to watch your back for people who manipulate and backstab 40 00:02:39.919 --> 00:02:46.120 and lie and make your life tough at work, that's hard, it really 41 00:02:46.199 --> 00:02:50.319 is. And you do carry that home with you because we all carry some 42 00:02:50.400 --> 00:02:52.439 work home with us, Like you know, we work here at the radio 43 00:02:52.439 --> 00:02:54.319 station, and like you know, at five o'clock in the afternoon, I 44 00:02:54.400 --> 00:02:59.719 will be responding to Facebook comments because I want to acknowledge people that listen. 45 00:03:00.879 --> 00:03:02.639 But when you have to take home mental bag, I don't think about Facebook 46 00:03:02.680 --> 00:03:06.400 when I'm trying to go to sleep. But if you are worrying about a 47 00:03:06.400 --> 00:03:09.759 coworker that's you know, being a narcissist or whatever, then do you take 48 00:03:09.800 --> 00:03:13.879 that with you when you're trying to sleep? Yeah, how bad does it 49 00:03:13.919 --> 00:03:19.080 affect you that I'm such a narcissist and backstabber. My brain is just like 50 00:03:19.120 --> 00:03:23.280 always running on high no matter what. So trust me, I like go 51 00:03:23.360 --> 00:03:29.280 through every scenario in my life, but you don't usually pop up into my 52 00:03:29.319 --> 00:03:31.560 brain when I'm trying to fall asleep at night. You know what would I 53 00:03:31.599 --> 00:03:36.400 have to do to keep you awake at night, Jenny? I don't know 54 00:03:37.159 --> 00:03:39.080 if you come up with something like let you know next one. I love 55 00:03:39.120 --> 00:03:43.520 this one, a lighthearted one. My kids definitely drink out of the garden 56 00:03:43.560 --> 00:03:46.680 hose. We talked about this yesterday. They love it. There's one hose 57 00:03:46.719 --> 00:03:49.240 I don't let them drink out of because it's the one I use to fill 58 00:03:49.319 --> 00:03:53.039 the duck pool and the end of the hose sits in the pool while it 59 00:03:53.120 --> 00:03:55.120 fills. But the other one's fair game. They like to drape it over 60 00:03:55.159 --> 00:03:59.719 a stump and drink out of it like a water fountain. I love that 61 00:04:00.159 --> 00:04:01.960 kids in summery to hear that, yeah, we'd STI drink out of the 62 00:04:02.000 --> 00:04:05.639 garden hose. My kids are three, no, my three kids are five, 63 00:04:05.719 --> 00:04:10.280 three and three, and they're obsessed with picking up litter. If they 64 00:04:10.319 --> 00:04:14.719 see some, they need to get it and throw it away. One time 65 00:04:14.759 --> 00:04:16.959 they even made me pull over and grab a huge tarp like thing and drag 66 00:04:17.000 --> 00:04:20.439 it two hundred feet to our trash can when we were on our way to 67 00:04:20.560 --> 00:04:24.639 school and it was closed to our house. They were buckled into the car 68 00:04:24.680 --> 00:04:28.199 seats and I wasn't going to let them get out to help, trying to 69 00:04:28.199 --> 00:04:30.079 teach them be good little trash picker uppers for our earth. That is from 70 00:04:30.120 --> 00:04:33.399 Hannah. I love that we talked about that on the show yesterday. I 71 00:04:33.439 --> 00:04:39.399 was out for a walk with my girl Josie last night and I was listening 72 00:04:39.399 --> 00:04:46.000 to a podcast called What's on Your Mount Rushmore and I'm on the latest episode 73 00:04:46.279 --> 00:04:50.240 about favorite female artists pop female artists. And as I was walking, the 74 00:04:50.279 --> 00:04:55.800 first thing I noticed was like a baby apple sauce pack. Okay, and 75 00:04:55.839 --> 00:04:58.519 it was still full, and I know the couple had just dropped it that 76 00:04:58.560 --> 00:05:01.639 had passed me like five minute before, and there's a full, clean, 77 00:05:01.959 --> 00:05:08.040 new baby apple sauce like like not even yeah, And I thought about keeping 78 00:05:08.079 --> 00:05:10.319 it, but I don't like apple sauce, and you know, I threw 79 00:05:10.319 --> 00:05:12.839 it away. Okay, that's good. And then I picked up a taco 80 00:05:12.959 --> 00:05:16.040 bell wrapper. I picked up an unchewed stick of a gum still in the 81 00:05:16.079 --> 00:05:20.639 foil. I picked up a crushed beer can and a couple of other little 82 00:05:20.639 --> 00:05:25.199 things, because you know, it's like somebody's got to pick it up, 83 00:05:25.720 --> 00:05:28.160 and if you don't pick it up, then who is going to pick it 84 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:30.120 up? How be honest? I Besides, like I said, at the 85 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:34.160 high school that I lived near, I don't see much litter in my neighborhood 86 00:05:34.759 --> 00:05:38.680 to be able to pick up. See it's usually just the high school. 87 00:05:38.680 --> 00:05:41.920 But I think someone must, probably like a poor custodian, has to go 88 00:05:41.959 --> 00:05:45.800 pick up after the kids or something after school, because normally it's cleared off 89 00:05:45.879 --> 00:05:47.800 by like later in the day. I think we're pretty good at not littering 90 00:05:47.800 --> 00:05:50.639 in Minnesota, but I think it kind of depends on like you said yesterday, 91 00:05:50.639 --> 00:05:54.480 if you're around to high school, they'll dump it out of the car, 92 00:05:54.720 --> 00:06:00.480 you know, high school kids. Yeah, next one, Please don't 93 00:06:00.480 --> 00:06:04.399 say my name. I'm a little tired. This is a strong opinion email, 94 00:06:04.439 --> 00:06:08.959 and I want to see what you think. I'm a little tired of 95 00:06:08.959 --> 00:06:12.120 all the mental health talk. I know we need to address it and make 96 00:06:12.160 --> 00:06:15.040 it known that depression and PTSD are real, but I fear that it's going 97 00:06:15.079 --> 00:06:19.240 too far and we are endangerer in ourselves with too much mental health rhetoric. 98 00:06:19.800 --> 00:06:25.839 Could all the talk about anxiety be causing anxiety? Just because you're sad for 99 00:06:25.879 --> 00:06:29.839 a day doesn't mean you have depression. Just because you have anxious moments doesn't 100 00:06:29.879 --> 00:06:33.399 mean you have anxiety. What happened to moving past things? Mental toughness and 101 00:06:33.480 --> 00:06:38.839 grit just from hot just some hot food for thought, they sign it. 102 00:06:38.920 --> 00:06:43.800 I don't dart or lick. I agree. I think that there's a little 103 00:06:43.800 --> 00:06:47.160 bit too much telling people that they have mental health problems. So now everybody 104 00:06:47.279 --> 00:06:53.720 is self diagnosed with this and they're depressed and they have anxiety. And I 105 00:06:53.759 --> 00:06:57.439 think that people love almost thought. It's like hip to be online and be 106 00:06:57.519 --> 00:07:00.560 like, you know, I suffer, because then you can can't tell the 107 00:07:00.600 --> 00:07:04.000 people who are really suffering. You can't tell whether it's like, you know, 108 00:07:04.240 --> 00:07:10.079 like Bob who is under a lot of pressure at work and now has 109 00:07:10.160 --> 00:07:16.360 diagnosed himself with anxiety, as opposed to Melissa, who really does have anxiety. 110 00:07:16.519 --> 00:07:19.879 I think a lot of the time I don't know, but I think 111 00:07:20.040 --> 00:07:24.879 real anxiety and real depression is when you can't think of a reason to be 112 00:07:25.000 --> 00:07:29.160 anxious or you don't have a reason to be depressed, you just feel that 113 00:07:29.199 --> 00:07:33.360 way, Am I right? I don't know. I mean I think very 114 00:07:33.399 --> 00:07:38.920 differently because I have been diagnosed with anxiety. So why to hear what you 115 00:07:38.959 --> 00:07:44.360 think? Yeah, I do disagree with this email. I think that when 116 00:07:44.439 --> 00:07:49.319 you start experiencing anxiety or depression for the first time, it is really hard 117 00:07:49.360 --> 00:07:54.040 to understand what's going on inside of your brain or how you're feeling. And 118 00:07:54.040 --> 00:07:58.240 it's if there were not resources out there, and if there were not people 119 00:07:58.680 --> 00:08:01.000 talking about it, and you just think you're crazy, because that's how I 120 00:08:01.120 --> 00:08:05.480 was in college. I thought like I was legitimately going crazy because I didn't 121 00:08:05.560 --> 00:08:09.160 understand what anxiety was and it wasn't talked about back then. So personally, 122 00:08:09.399 --> 00:08:13.959 I am all for it being talked about as much as it is because for 123 00:08:13.079 --> 00:08:18.639 the people who do, like genuinely have it, it makes you feel more 124 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:24.959 normal and then it also helps you reduce your anxiety because you feel more normal. 125 00:08:24.360 --> 00:08:28.040 So for me, I very much disagree with that, and honestly, 126 00:08:28.079 --> 00:08:31.840 it's to hear it. It, honestly is pretty frustrating as someone who has 127 00:08:31.919 --> 00:08:37.279 anxiety. Can I ask you a question when you were first noticing that you 128 00:08:37.320 --> 00:08:43.840 had anxiety. What felt different? So it's hard to explain because I feel 129 00:08:43.120 --> 00:08:48.440 different kinds of anxiety in different given moments. There are things that cause me 130 00:08:48.559 --> 00:08:50.679 anxiety. But then there are moments where I do not know why I feel 131 00:08:50.679 --> 00:08:54.879 weird. But for me, I have like physical symptoms. I will have 132 00:08:54.000 --> 00:08:58.960 like my chest will feel like someone's like doing like a snake skin to it, 133 00:08:58.000 --> 00:09:01.799 like someone's just like earning my chest, my heart rate is high, 134 00:09:01.879 --> 00:09:05.240 and it's not always those either. I will just feel weird in my body. 135 00:09:05.559 --> 00:09:11.279 And it's once again, really hard to describe unless you've experienced it before, 136 00:09:11.360 --> 00:09:15.559 because if someone would have said that to me before I ever experienced it, 137 00:09:15.559 --> 00:09:18.720 I wouldn't understand what it felt like. No, and I understand that 138 00:09:18.799 --> 00:09:24.639 I've had I've been on klonopin before because I had anxiety for a reason and 139 00:09:26.200 --> 00:09:31.639 I compared it to a bonfire in my head where my brain was just hot 140 00:09:31.759 --> 00:09:35.679 and rumbly or something, because there was something going on in my life and 141 00:09:35.720 --> 00:09:41.799 I've never talked about it on the radio, and it was very personal and 142 00:09:43.000 --> 00:09:48.399 very stressful. Nothing shameful, nothing illegal, just something that really would not 143 00:09:50.080 --> 00:09:52.960 stop. It would not go away and maybe one day I'll talk about it 144 00:09:54.000 --> 00:09:58.840 on the radio. But it was really difficult. But my anxiety was because 145 00:09:58.840 --> 00:10:03.960 of something that was going on in my life that I had no control over, 146 00:10:03.639 --> 00:10:07.480 and it ate me alive. And I'll be honest with you, I 147 00:10:07.559 --> 00:10:11.279 used to drink at night to make it go away. Yeah, because alcohol 148 00:10:13.080 --> 00:10:16.399 has a way of making you forget your problems or making them feel that they're 149 00:10:16.519 --> 00:10:22.759 not so bad. Problem was it felt great to drink, but then I'd 150 00:10:22.799 --> 00:10:28.440 go to bed, and then I'd wake up three hours later, wide awake 151 00:10:28.080 --> 00:10:31.600 with my brain on fire again. Well, I was gonna say, drinking 152 00:10:31.759 --> 00:10:35.480 just is only going to accelerate any kind of depression or anxiety because it's an 153 00:10:35.519 --> 00:10:41.000 antidepressant itself. So whatever is often your brain already, you're only making it 154 00:10:41.039 --> 00:10:45.440 worse by drinking alcohol, I will say. And I don't want to try 155 00:10:45.480 --> 00:10:46.519 to get the last word on this one, but I will say it does 156 00:10:46.600 --> 00:10:50.639 help to come become mentally tough. They talk about mental health, and I 157 00:10:50.679 --> 00:10:54.600 think that's great, but I also say you need to just like we train 158 00:10:54.639 --> 00:11:00.360 our muscles to be strong so when we fall we're less likely to be hurt, 159 00:11:00.720 --> 00:11:03.960 so when we're sick we're more likely to be to recover. So you 160 00:11:03.039 --> 00:11:07.320 know, we got your physical strength, so we eat right and we work 161 00:11:07.360 --> 00:11:11.399 out, so we're mentally strong. I think that there is some value in 162 00:11:11.879 --> 00:11:16.320 physically strong. I think there's some value in being mentally strong too. But 163 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:20.000 I see you as a mentally strong person. You don't come in here every 164 00:11:20.039 --> 00:11:22.960 going I just can't take it anymore. I just can't take it. And 165 00:11:22.000 --> 00:11:26.519 I don't see anybody coming in that's got depression going. I just don't want 166 00:11:26.600 --> 00:11:30.600 to do this. So I think that's a form of mental strength. Yeah, 167 00:11:30.679 --> 00:11:33.679 you strike me as a mentally strong person. I do, But I'll 168 00:11:33.720 --> 00:11:39.279 be honest, there have been many times I've come in and you have no 169 00:11:39.399 --> 00:11:43.639 idea. I'm anxious as shit. And is it triggered by something? It? 170 00:11:45.120 --> 00:11:48.559 Yes, I mean there's there's definitely like triggers for it, but sometimes 171 00:11:48.600 --> 00:11:52.480 not necessarily. Alcohol has been a big thing, and so in the last 172 00:11:52.559 --> 00:11:54.440 year, I like, I know, we joker about me being like this 173 00:11:54.559 --> 00:12:01.279 strong. I haven't touched alcohol in a while. I don't I don't want 174 00:12:01.360 --> 00:12:05.639 to like make my anxiety worse, so I don't drink much anymore, even 175 00:12:05.720 --> 00:12:09.519 like coffee. I've pretty much chilled out on because coffee accelerates my anxiety. 176 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:16.039 But no, I yeah, I've definitely been very anxious and people do not 177 00:12:16.240 --> 00:12:22.519 know, but realistically, like my brain, what you just described was like 178 00:12:22.840 --> 00:12:28.639 on fire, and I hide it very well. You do, and I 179 00:12:28.639 --> 00:12:31.879 admire that because I think it's sometimes you got to be able to hide it. 180 00:12:31.960 --> 00:12:35.279 And can you imagine how awful work would be if you came in and 181 00:12:35.279 --> 00:12:39.320 you weren't able to hide it. I mean, I hope that it's not 182 00:12:39.480 --> 00:12:41.759 that difficult. See, I see like work for me most of the time 183 00:12:41.799 --> 00:12:46.480 as therapy. It's very therapeutic and it's a very joyful thing for me to 184 00:12:46.519 --> 00:12:48.480 come in and be able to do this show. I'm going to keep moving 185 00:12:48.480 --> 00:12:54.399 through the Minnesota goodbye emails. So here we go. Dave and Jenny got 186 00:12:54.440 --> 00:12:56.879 a first thank you for being awesome. You brighten up more lives on a 187 00:12:56.960 --> 00:13:01.159 daily basis than you can imagine. I don't think we read this one, 188 00:13:01.159 --> 00:13:03.200 but stopped me if we did. I know I pre read it, so 189 00:13:03.279 --> 00:13:05.399 maybe we did not. Dave, You're a constant ray of light and advice 190 00:13:05.440 --> 00:13:09.720 for so many Thank you. Jenny. Everybody sees how you work the show 191 00:13:09.759 --> 00:13:13.000 wouldn't be the same without you. It's a blessing to all of the listeners 192 00:13:13.000 --> 00:13:15.159 that you didn't take the job in Buffalo. Oh I read this when I 193 00:13:15.159 --> 00:13:18.480 think Earl this morning. Yeah, the show has always been great, but 194 00:13:18.559 --> 00:13:22.360 adding vont that has added a little flare that seems to fit perfectly into the 195 00:13:22.360 --> 00:13:24.399 mix. I hope he gets the job soon. Onto the real content here, 196 00:13:26.279 --> 00:13:28.519 Dave, tell Jenny and Vant to get off your tail about slow Clap. 197 00:13:28.679 --> 00:13:31.919 It is played on the TJ, Max and Marshall store stations all across 198 00:13:31.960 --> 00:13:35.960 the country. It's such a bop. Okay, Amy, But Bobby is 199 00:13:35.960 --> 00:13:39.159 getting crazier by the day on Instagram. You should invite her to be on 200 00:13:39.279 --> 00:13:45.080 Naughty Tuesday. Her latest is she is Lady two Cookies with the number two. 201 00:13:46.320 --> 00:13:48.679 She's sitting in a Lamborghini and she's talking about sending you pictures of her 202 00:13:48.720 --> 00:13:52.639 pink and her brown. Well you know what that means. Yeah, And 203 00:13:52.679 --> 00:13:56.279 I think she's probably actually doing that. I don't know, but I think 204 00:13:56.320 --> 00:14:00.159 she has kind of gotten a little bit crazier. And I've watched a one 205 00:14:00.159 --> 00:14:03.320 of her videos last night and a different one this morning, and she's like, 206 00:14:03.440 --> 00:14:07.440 that's who I am You're worried because I'm mega successful. I'm mega successful, 207 00:14:07.480 --> 00:14:11.240 you bitch, so go fuck yourself. And it's like, is she 208 00:14:11.360 --> 00:14:15.080 really mega successful? I don't know. I don't think so. I mean, 209 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:18.840 she has a decent following on Instagram now, so she might think she's 210 00:14:18.960 --> 00:14:24.039 like kind of famous because of that, but successful, I have no idea. 211 00:14:24.440 --> 00:14:26.080 I mean, if she's hanging out in a Lamborghini, she's got at 212 00:14:26.120 --> 00:14:33.200 least connections to be around next people, right, connections not necessarily wealth or 213 00:14:33.240 --> 00:14:35.360 success. I don't know. I still like her, She's been nice to 214 00:14:35.399 --> 00:14:39.399 me. Can you explain how radio ratings work? When list for ratings come 215 00:14:39.440 --> 00:14:43.200 out, do they include iHeart listeners? Do ratings include people like me who 216 00:14:43.200 --> 00:14:46.279 listen on a terrestrial radio but are likely outside of a technical listening area. 217 00:14:46.320 --> 00:14:50.559 I'm in sant Cloud for reference. I'll be dart licking all the way to 218 00:14:50.600 --> 00:14:52.799 the mailbox waiting for my sticker if you still have any, and I will 219 00:14:52.799 --> 00:14:56.480 send one to you. And I'm not gonna say her name. I don't 220 00:14:56.480 --> 00:14:58.159 think they want me to. I don't know how they work. I mean, 221 00:14:58.200 --> 00:15:03.399 I'm really not at liberty to talk about it too much because I don't 222 00:15:03.399 --> 00:15:05.159 want to get in trouble. We're not allowed to talk about ratings because we 223 00:15:05.200 --> 00:15:09.720 don't want to sway the ratings in any such way. But yes, they 224 00:15:09.759 --> 00:15:13.879 do include iHeart listeners, and they do include people who listen on a regular 225 00:15:13.960 --> 00:15:16.960 radio. But if you're in Saint Cloud, you're probably not going to be 226 00:15:16.080 --> 00:15:22.159 rated in our area. You're in the Saint Cloud listening area. So we 227 00:15:22.240 --> 00:15:24.879 do show up in the Saint Cloud ratings, and some Saint Cloud stations show 228 00:15:24.960 --> 00:15:30.759 up a teeny, teeny tiny bit in our Minneapolis ratings too. But yeah, 229 00:15:30.799 --> 00:15:33.320 I mean it's a matter of you know, their ratings, and that's 230 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:37.320 really we can't really say anything more about it, and that's it. Yeah, 231 00:15:37.360 --> 00:15:43.440 Okay, No, I'm I'm gonna skip that one, and I'm gonna 232 00:15:43.440 --> 00:15:48.919 skip that one, and I'm gonna scroll up too. I go. I 233 00:15:48.919 --> 00:15:52.559 gotta find kind of a shorter one. Here's one from Anna. Let's try 234 00:15:52.559 --> 00:15:56.480 it out. Hello, my favorite people. Yesterday you guys talked about kids 235 00:15:56.480 --> 00:16:00.600 doing chores, and man, did that light me up. I teach kids 236 00:16:00.600 --> 00:16:03.639 to ride horses. It's an awesome way to earn a living. One of 237 00:16:03.639 --> 00:16:07.919 my main goals is to help these kids learn to be independent around the horses 238 00:16:07.960 --> 00:16:11.600 and thus have more confidence in themselves as people. But damn, there's some 239 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:18.480 parents who do nothing or no, absolutely everything for their kid. I got 240 00:16:18.519 --> 00:16:21.759 to tell them multiple times in a lesson to let their kid do it. 241 00:16:21.759 --> 00:16:25.919 It's not your lesson, it's theirs. It's like these parents are so afraid 242 00:16:25.919 --> 00:16:29.440 to let their kids struggle a bit and immediately jump in to save little Rachel. 243 00:16:30.120 --> 00:16:33.279 I just want to ask them, how do you expect them to learn 244 00:16:33.320 --> 00:16:37.720 to handle life when you're doing everything for them. I've heard the number one 245 00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:42.679 indicator of the adult success is having chores as a kid. It wouldn't surprise 246 00:16:42.759 --> 00:16:48.480 me. Let your kids struggle, let your kids fail, it's good for 247 00:16:48.559 --> 00:16:53.480 them. That is from your bestie Anna. I think that's I don't know 248 00:16:53.480 --> 00:16:59.120 if it's scientifically research true, but I think for me, I did so 249 00:16:59.279 --> 00:17:03.200 many chores a kid, and I have no trouble doing things for myself now. 250 00:17:03.399 --> 00:17:07.039 Yeah, I'm the same way. I was given a I think like 251 00:17:07.079 --> 00:17:11.400 a quarter as a little allowance every week once we started doing chores, so 252 00:17:11.559 --> 00:17:15.640 that was big money for me. I used to get fifty cents. I 253 00:17:15.640 --> 00:17:18.440 think a week my dad would give me a fifty cent piece, and it 254 00:17:18.519 --> 00:17:21.960 was like when you're five or eight. That was like, you know, 255 00:17:22.000 --> 00:17:25.839 some decent money. Huh. You guys talked about if you did your laundry 256 00:17:25.880 --> 00:17:26.680 as a kid. I wanted to weigh in. I have an almost two 257 00:17:26.759 --> 00:17:32.160 year old little boy. I'm trying to my best to instill in him good 258 00:17:32.240 --> 00:17:34.599 habits to help around the house. He helps as much as he can for 259 00:17:34.640 --> 00:17:38.240 his age. Helps feed the dog, sweep with dishes, dusting. If 260 00:17:38.240 --> 00:17:41.880 he spills says something, he says, Mama, towel and I let him 261 00:17:41.920 --> 00:17:47.200 wipe up whatever he spilled. He helped me load laundry, put clothes in 262 00:17:47.240 --> 00:17:48.839 the dryer, fold clothes. He can't really do it yet, but he 263 00:17:48.880 --> 00:17:56.599 thinks he's helping. And my mother in law made a really snide remark to 264 00:17:56.680 --> 00:18:00.640 me about this. They were visiting. My toddler spill this water, so 265 00:18:00.680 --> 00:18:02.920 he grabbed the kitchen towel, wiped it up, and then left it on 266 00:18:02.960 --> 00:18:04.240 the floor. I said, hey, Bud, can you please put that 267 00:18:04.279 --> 00:18:07.640 towel back where you found it? And my mother in law says, oh, 268 00:18:07.720 --> 00:18:11.759 Mama is too lazy to grab it. You better help her out. 269 00:18:11.359 --> 00:18:15.880 Talking to my son, I said, no, I just want to teach 270 00:18:15.960 --> 00:18:18.319 him to put things back where they belong. I'm still working on that with 271 00:18:18.440 --> 00:18:23.400 your son too. I was so mad. I probably didn't need to add 272 00:18:23.400 --> 00:18:26.720 in that last part, but it felt really good to throw it in. 273 00:18:26.160 --> 00:18:30.000 My husband growing up, never had responsibilities, and I feel like I've had 274 00:18:30.000 --> 00:18:33.480 to teach him to do all these basic household chores. I don't want to 275 00:18:33.519 --> 00:18:37.519 put that on my toddler's future wife too. Thanks for the sticker a while 276 00:18:37.519 --> 00:18:41.920 ago. It's proudly displayed on my yetti from Rachel. Thank you, Rachel. 277 00:18:41.440 --> 00:18:47.519 I one hundred percent agree with you. If a boy grows up not 278 00:18:47.599 --> 00:18:51.119 doing anything around the house because Mama or daddy do it for him, he's 279 00:18:51.119 --> 00:18:53.559 probably never going to do it when he is living with somebody else or in 280 00:18:53.599 --> 00:18:56.759 his adult Yeah. There's a lot of memes going on around right now where 281 00:18:56.759 --> 00:19:00.559 it's like if you're in your thirties, as a qu if you're over thirty, 282 00:19:00.720 --> 00:19:03.680 like answer a question or something, and then people comment back and forth, 283 00:19:03.799 --> 00:19:07.079 okay, And one of the big ones is like, lady is do 284 00:19:07.200 --> 00:19:11.680 not be his mother? Leave that relationship now. It's like, if you 285 00:19:11.759 --> 00:19:14.720 feel like you have to be his mother while you're dating him, that is 286 00:19:14.759 --> 00:19:18.319 not the relationship for you. I think the biggest analogy that I can make 287 00:19:18.680 --> 00:19:23.880 or evidence is that we've talked him about this before. Boys who pee on 288 00:19:23.920 --> 00:19:30.920 the toilet seat at the station and don't wipe it off. Boys who use 289 00:19:30.000 --> 00:19:33.599 the microwave and splatter chilli all over the inside of the microwave and don't clean 290 00:19:33.640 --> 00:19:38.720 it up. Boys who clean out a dish in the sink like a coffee 291 00:19:38.799 --> 00:19:44.319 mug or whatever and leave cup of noodles residue in the sink. And I 292 00:19:44.359 --> 00:19:48.759 saw somebody who is very well respected here at the station do that a year 293 00:19:48.839 --> 00:19:51.400 or two ago. And I watched him wash out a cup of noodles and 294 00:19:51.480 --> 00:19:56.240 leave a bunch of fucking noodles and celery pieces and little peas in the sink, 295 00:19:56.319 --> 00:19:59.079 and I was like, I was shocked because there's such a well thought 296 00:19:59.079 --> 00:20:03.119 of person. And I thought, did mommy do everything for you? And 297 00:20:03.160 --> 00:20:06.599 now your wife does everything for you? Because if I were to rinse out 298 00:20:06.599 --> 00:20:08.519 a cup of noodles, I would take the little sink trap and I'd take 299 00:20:08.519 --> 00:20:11.880 it over to the trash can and I'd shake it out in the trash can. 300 00:20:11.400 --> 00:20:15.079 You would do the same thing. Absolutely, It didn't even occur to 301 00:20:15.200 --> 00:20:21.599 this person to do it, and I thought, there are people grown, 302 00:20:22.079 --> 00:20:26.720 fucking adult men that don't know how to do that. Yeah, and to 303 00:20:26.799 --> 00:20:29.759 be fair, there are some women out there too. It's not a good 304 00:20:29.920 --> 00:20:33.440 you know what, And you're probably right. I'm going to guess that we 305 00:20:33.559 --> 00:20:37.759 raised our kids. Carson was not the best. Carson would bring his dishes 306 00:20:37.799 --> 00:20:40.880 to the sink, but he wouldn't put him in the sink, and God 307 00:20:40.920 --> 00:20:44.799 forbid he ever loaded the dishwasher. But now he lives on his own and 308 00:20:44.839 --> 00:20:48.240 if that's his problem, and that is going to do it. Thanks for 309 00:20:48.279 --> 00:20:52.039 all the great emails. I really appreciate that. On the Minnesota Goodbye, 310 00:20:52.720 --> 00:20:55.880 please send yours in. I'd like to if you want to talk about the 311 00:20:55.880 --> 00:20:57.839 mental health thing. Great dish is great, you want to talk about anything 312 00:20:57.839 --> 00:21:03.039 else, love to hear from you. 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