You know, Hispanic men walking through the neighborhood. I would have always just
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a moment of personal privilege, if I may, because I had it to
you yesterday. I had I had an incident occur in my neighborhood, Okay,
and it just you know, What's interesting about the incident the whole reason
I was on a walk. I went on a walk in my neighborhood,
which by all accounts is a very safe neighborhood. I never felt fearful in
my life in my neighborhood. And I was in a rage when I went
on the walk, and I was thinking, I'm going to go on this
walk to alleviate the rage and the rage I was feeling. Yeah, yeah,
So did you see that story about the mother and daughter who were leaving
a Drake concert and this guy ran them over because he sped through a light
going eighty miles an hour. Did not see that? There's video And when
I happened, are they okay? What? No? They died. They
literally exploded, like there. It was so horrific, and I was so
mad about it that I just needed to go on a walk, and so
like I was already raging, and I'm thinking, I'm going on a walk
to alleviate the rage. Okay, that did not happen. So and I
had my little audiobook, I'm like listening to a new Colleen Hoover novel.
I was like really really enjoying myself, and I'm getting to the tail end
of my walk, and I'm happy. It's a beautiful day, which is
rare for Indiana in February, right, it is rare, very rare.
Usually there's a blizzard right right, and you're like, I'm gonna do a
rage walk because it's not blizzarding right now, and it really, I really
was feeling much much better. I was like my rage was calmed down.
I was enjoying the book. It was great, the sun was shining,
was awesome. And then I walk up to like this intersection in my neighborhood,
which is kind of like the back entrance, so it's a it's a
street. And then that street intersects with my actual street, okay, and
someone pulls up to the stop sign. It's a car, and two thighs
get out like as I'm approaching. Okay. So I'm like, I'm immediately
on guard because I'm like, I've this is weird. Why are these getting
out of a car? Right, guys at a stop sign, not like
at a house or at a parking you know what I mean. It's at
a stop sign. These two guys jump out of the car. The driver
is still in the driver's seat. You guys jump out of the car and
go to the trunk and take out these giant tote bags. Oh my god.
Yeah, And so I'm like, I immediately just got on my phone
to pretend I was on the phone with my husband, which is how that's
smart. It's very smooth. I actually would have gotten on the phone with
my husband. I wouldn't have pretended I would have gotten on the phone with
my husband. I would have been like, there are guys right here,
like with tote bags and seriously, and either that or I would have been
on the walk with a firearm, you know what I mean. I would
have been yeah, but without a firearm. Yes, I would have been
on the phone with my husband. I would have been like, get your
firearm and bring it to where I am. Right. I didn't want to
have a conversation that was about them, right, because I wanted to just
make it sound like, oh, somebody just happened to call me, and
I'm like talking about how they're coming home soon and all that kind of stuff,
which is really smart because you want to make sure that, like,
if you are in a situation where you feel like you can be abducted or
something, or that if you feel like that could happen that that person understands
that you're on the phone with somebody, or that that that you're missed in
some way, or they know where you are exactly, that there somebody's expecting
you to come home exactly. Yeah, and then and they know And I
said, I'm on a walk right now. It's so gorgeous out, like
these are all the things I'm saying, so and now watching So one of
the guys that had gotten out of the car walks in the same direction that
I'm going in, So like, ultimately we're going to be walking together.
We're going to be essentially walking together. The other guy is heading towards me,
okay, And so I'm just super on guard. I'm like not making
eye contact, just having my little conversation, but really really freaked out.
The car turns onto my street and just keeps driving. And so I'm watching
these guys and what they're doing is they're putting flyers in everybody's mailbox. So
I calmed down a little bit. I calmed down, and I'm like,
Okay, are these are clearly Hispanic guys probably looking to do some lawn care
because they're putting flyers and all the mailboxes. So I'm like calming down but
still super on high alert. And I don't like essentially that they're going to
be seeing where I live too, like if I start at home, so
I'm kind of like taking my time anyway. I got so angry about my
reaction to those guys because at no time before the Joe Biden presidency have I
ever been afraid of Hispanic people, right ever, or afraid really to be
in your neighborhood. Yes, exactly, And so I got into a whole
new race. Even though the walk was supposed to cure my rage, I
got into a whole new rage about Joe Biden making me so freaking scared and
also kind of racist, right, I know. And then you wrote me
yesterday because you were like this, I'd hate this. I mean, I
absolutely hate this, and that you have to listen. There's one thing I
have raised our daughters especially. I mean our son is this way too,
but we have raised our daughters. I have raised our daughters especially to have
their head on a swivel, so like even our fourteen year old. Sometimes
I notice that she's doing it more than I am, like at a store
that she's constantly looking around, making sure, Like if there's some weird dude
that's you know, walking by, and I gotta tell you, Like,
if she sees something that is odd in an individual that's you know, maybe
like that puts her on alert. I feel bad about that. It's kind
of like the same thing, like I hate that I have to make her
on high alert, Like I hate that the world is that way, But
it's also like a good thing, right because you want them to be You
don't want them to be a sitting duck for a crime to happen to them.
You want them to make sure that they are aware of their surroundings.
But simultaneously you hate it, like you feel bad about you hate that they're
that way, and you hate that there is more crime now than there was.
I feel like when we were growing up, because remember when we would
just be able to I got our parents would kick us out of the house
and be like, go run and play and I'll see you when it's dark.
Yeah, see in twelve hours. Go drink out of the hose.
Bye. I mean that was like our life. I would never do that
with my kid now, Like I don't even let her out of my sight
at a target. I'm so hyper aware of I got to make sure because
I don't let her go into public restrooms alone. Like She's just now at
the point at fourteen where I'm so weird about that. When we do road
trips, I remember telling my husband, do not like if he went with
her by himself across the country on a trip, I'd be like, do
not let her go into a publicom by herself, Like, make sure you
are standing right outside that door, and that you make sure that there's nobody
in there. I mean, I was so weird about that. I've always
been so bizarre about that. So yeah, I get pissed off that I
am that way, but I'm also, I guess a little glad that I
am that way. It's a strange dichotomy. So I know, I can
understand your rage, but at the same time, it's like, would you
rather be clueless about it and and then be I don't know, perhaps a
victim of the crime, which is listen, it's that's just part of our
society now. Unfortunately, there's a little bit more crime now because of the
shitty policies that are in place because of Democrats. Well that's the thing is,
like, you know, there's no question that the crime is worse,
and that it's there's a lot of illegals who are committing a lot of crimes.
I mean, we just saw that nursing student at Georgia. I mean
that's you know, you always have these stories in the back of your head.
And I guess the reason that I got so ragy about it is in
addition to the fact that it's happening, which is unacceptable, but that,
like he, Biden's policies have literally changed the psyche of the country so that
now people like me who never had to think about this stuff, who never
I would have never looked at, you know, Hispanic men walking through the
neighborhood. I would have always just assumed, oh, they're just whatever,
they're doing work, or they're they've got friends here or what. I wouldn't
have even thought twice about it. And now my first instinct is to be
afraid. And that is on Joe Biden. That is why I raged,
because I was like, you suck so hard that not only are you bringing
more crime, right, they're actually causing people like me and me specifically,
because I that's my experience and I relate to it. Now, I don't
want to go anywhere ever. I'm afraid of people. I'm afraid of crowds,
I'm afraid of public places. You're afraid of flying, afraid I'm afraid
of flying, right, you're afraid of all sorts of things. Yeah,
I'm a little bit on the other spectrum of you. So I probably represent
a different part of the population where I mean, I don't I'm not a
big fan of crowds. I don't like being in big crowds. I'll avoid
those, But I still go do all the things. I mean, I'm
gonna leave the how, I'm gonna do all the stuff. I'm gonna fly,
I'm gonna do all this because I'm like whatever. It's kind of like
COVID. I remember during COVID, people were really afraid of the virus is
gonna get you. You got to wear the mask, you gotta do it.
I didn't do any of the things. I didn't do any of the
things they told me to do, and I was fine, you know,
I was okay, And so I just kind of gave my middle finger to
all those people that were like, you need to be doing this, you
need to be doing that, you need to be afraid, you need to
live your life in fear. Screw you. I'm not gonna live my life
in fear. If it's my time, it's my time. Yeah, you
know, I sort of that's the way I looked at it, But so
much that was a lie, and this this is not. That's a very
good point. It's a very very good point. I still I hear you.
And it's like I still have like a little I have that trepidation going
out, but I still go out. I still do the things. How
long I'm going to continue to do that, I don't know, because the
world's getting crazier and crazier and crazy. Can I live in Texas? I
know it makes me afraid for you, Like I would be even more afraid
being in an actual although every state is a border state now I know this,
but like being in one of the key border states, I would also
be. But then again, you see Hispanics in your neighborhood all the time,
right, I live amongst Yeah, It's like I looked at it like
my daughter, you know, I look at her school and it's like thirty
thirty thirty when it comes to white Hispanics and blacks, and so she it's
you know, it's and it's like that around here. Like I am a
white person living in an area where I'm probably the minority because most of the
people that surround us are Hispanics. Just because I live out in the country,
there's a lot of Hispanics and black people. It's just so it's I
just I don't really pay much attention to the color of people's skin as long
as they're not being assholes. Yeah, I didn't, you know, to
until freaking Biden made me. And that's why I'm so mad at him.
Because of all the Democrats talking points about how racism this race. You know,
they care so much about it. They have created so much of it,
starting with Obama all the way until Yeah, they have they created it.
I totally agree that. I absolutely agree that Democrats have done that because
they've placed such an emphasis on it. And then now there's the whole crime
part of it. Well, listen, you were saying yesterday, I think
that it was in our in our regular daily show. You said something about
Maduro not wanting Maduro of Venezuelan president. You know, these a lot of
these criminals from Venezuela are coming to our country, and it's like we can't
even send them back because Maduro is like, nah, I don't want to
act. We're gonna we're going to send you our worst, like the worst
of the worst we're going to send to America and don't don't even try to
send them back. And it's like, what do you even do with that?
So when this administration tells us, you know, it's oh, it's
just the best and the brightest. These people are just dreamers and they're coming
over and they're trying to get a better life. It's just crap because granted,
I'm sure there are you know, some people that do want a better
life, but at the end of the day, they're breaking the law when
they come over here initially, then when they're busting over the border, the
first thing they're doing is breaking the law. So I'm sorry, but that's
crappy. You're breaking that's the first thing that you're doing. Your parents didn't
do that. Your parents didn't break the law to get in here. They
followed all the right paths, and they took many years, and they paid
money and they did they jumped through hoops, and they did all the right
things, and they waited in line and they I mean I'm sure that that
pisces them off when they see what's going on. So these people, the
first thing they do is they bust over the border and they're breaking the law.
That's the first thing they do. If that's the first thing that you're
doing to get over here and you're not escaping, you know, some horrible
situation other than the fact that you just want to come over here and get
a free handout, it's what else are you capable of doing? Yeah,
and we're finding out, unfortunately exactly well. And further about Venezuela, it's
not even just that Maduro is saying, no, you can't deport anybody because
we don't want them. They are horrible people, so you can you can
keep them, keep them. The rumor is that he's actually emptying out their
mental institutions and jails to get rid of all of their bad people, just
sending them right on over to me. And I read that their crime has
gone down, the violent their violent crime has gone down. Isn't that interesting?
Would have thought that? It's really interesting? And people are just clamoring
to get in here because we give them all sorts of free shit. That's
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And it's not any wonder given the death of this Georgia student, given
the increased crime, there's like some other illegal who just got arrested for molesting
somebody, and it's awesome control and those are the ones that are reported.
That's the thing. You know what I was talking about last week about how
you know this this is not a one off. It's so horrific what happened
to Lake and Riley. It's horrific and I cannot even imagine what her family's
going through. But she's not She's not a solo case. Like, this
is not an isolated case. This is this is happening in other places too.
I mean, I think I'm glad that this is there's a spotlight on
this case. I'm glad that people are paying attention. Of course, the
CNN's and the msnbcs and the cbs is of the world want to pretend that
this is just a one off. It's not. I mean, no,
this has been going on for years, and this shouldn't have happened. I
think that's what's so maddening for me, is that she should not have been
killed. If the channel, if we would have done the right things and
this administration actually gave a crap about us as American citizens, her life would
still be she would still be living. And then we talked about this in
our morning show too, about how the AP and other news outlets tried to
spin this as if it was a story about running or jogging alone, and
how girls should be more careful about running or jogging alone, instead of the
focus being on the fact that this creep was in here in this country to
begin with. That's the story has nothing to do. I should be able
to walk outside in my African neighborhood without being afraid, and there's you should
be able to run. Yeah, And that's that's your rage spiral. It's
like you have to be put you have to be on guard thinking about oh
my god, and it's it goes back to that hole your screwt is too
short thing like it's it's it's you. It's you. It's not this illegal
who is on you know, on a path of violence. It's you,
Like you're it's your fault. You shouldn't be running at this certain time.
You shouldn't be doing this alone. It's like, that is such crap.
If somebody, if a girl wants to go out and take a run,
she should be able to take a run. Now, granted, there are
certain things that will probably we should probably give certain tips of what to do,
and you should have your head on a swivel. But at the same
time, it's like the fact that we have to do that is macis It's
infuriating. That's our world, absolutely infuriating, right. But yeah, to
that point, there is a there was an excellent, excellent TikTok that got
some publicity from the Daily Mail because this gal apparently has a lot of she
does a whole thing of safety tips for girls and some of the you know,
I always am like I see those headlines and I'm like, oh,
I know all those things already, Like I'm already I've already got my head,
honest, wivel. I already know some of the safety precautions or whatever,
but some of these were like really really new and interesting little helpful hints
I guess about how to keep yourself safe when you're being asked about your background,
your whereabouts, your plans on where you're going, all that kind of
stuff. So in case other people find this helpful too, here is this
TikTok I think her name is Dana. Specific situations where lying is the smart
thing to do for your safety, and as you guys know by now,
I call this lie to survive. This is something that both of my parents
instilled in me at a very young age and something that I've been practicing my
entire life. Let's say you're in college and you're in the library studying for
finals, and somebody that you don't recognize and get a bad vibeb comes over
to you and asks the you to school. Here now, just in town
visiting my brothers and killing some time. They should be here any minute.
No, I don't go here. I'm just in town visiting my boyfriend.
He should be arriving any minute. So my dad works here I'm just waiting
for him. We're going to go grab lunch. You're always waiting on a
mail figure, and you're never alone. Somebody with the various intentions is looking
for an easy target, So do not be one. Expecting a mail figure
will be intimidating to that individual. Unfortunate reality of the world that we live
in. Now, Let's say that you recently graduated college and you're off in
a brand new city by yourself. You're sitting alone at a coffee shop or
a bar, and somebody that you get bad vibes from will not leave you
alone, and I asked if they could buy you a coffee or a drink.
You're flattered, but no, thank you. I have a boyfriend.
He'll be arriving any minute. That's nicely to offer, but I actually have
to get going. My two brothers are picking me up any second. You're
nice initially to de escalate a situation or prevent a situation from escalating altogether,
but if it continues to escalate, you need to seek help and find a
way to safely leave. Never leave alone to a bartender, ask somebody that
works there to walk you to your car, Call a guy friend, call
your dad, call your brother, call your actual boyfriend. You have one.
A code way to ask for help if you're at the bar is to
go up to the bartender and order an angel shot. I teach you these
tips because there's psychology behind line for your safety and it's the smartest first line
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You can do both. Key lives to remember One you're never alone. Two
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Why to survive can apply to so many different situations in life. I
have a degree in criminology and psychology, and I share daily safety tips.
It's totally handy. And I lived alone when I lived in Chicago. Well,
I didn't little known and I actually lived with a roommate, but she
was gone all the time, and so I would be alone a lot with
her dog. That's what I happened, and I there were times where if
I felt like I would go, then we had like a little bar and
grill that would up the road from us, and you know, we'd walk
everywhere. And that's what's when you could walk a little bit more without being
shot. All the time in Chicago, downtown Chicago, but I would walk,
you know, all over the place, shopping, you know, grocery
shopping, to do whatever. But after work, I would get off the
subway and I would go I'd stop in have a meal and have a drink
or whatever, and then i'd you know, go home. I'd be by
myself, and if I didn't feel comfortable doing that, I would find somebody
like in there to walk with me and walk me home. Same thing with
like you know, if I was if I have ever been into public I
know I've been in public places before where or like at work, where I've
been like, Okay, I don't feel comfortable walking out to my car,
I'll find a coworker, a mail kay worker to walk me to my car.
There's no shame in that. I think women should totally take advantage of
situations like that. I don't even know if take advantage of the right word.
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mean I did it even yesterday when I was when I was you know,
looking at the Hispanics, and I probably overreacted, but I would much rather
overreact than underreact. And so that's a good lesson. If you feel like
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granddaughters. I want change because it's it's not getting any better. It's getting
worse for us as women, right. I mean, when it comes to
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away from you. It's it's we're seeing a rash of crime in this country,
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Yep, yep, you guys. Until next week, have a good
one. Mm hm.