Hey, Hey, I'm back with something for you to think about. How
can you have peace in your relationship when you have no peace within yourself?
I hope that it's sinking in. I gave you a little silence there,
so that can sink in. Let me say it again. How can you
have peace in your relationship when you have no peace within yourself? See,
so many people they get into relationships carrying nothing but baggage. You go into
your relationship carrying nothing but baggage because what's in you, that's what you take
with you everywhere you go. So people get into relationships without healing, and
you already have no peace within you. You're already struggling with things within yourself.
You're holding on to things that you should have let go. You're angry,
you're sad, you're magic, depression, suicidal, all kind of things,
and you carry that mess right into your relationship, just causing turmoil,
causing unnecessary stress and strain. There's no way, there's no way you're gonna
have peace in your relationship when you have no peace within. The sad thing
here is that so many people look to their significant others. They look to
that person to make them feel good. About themselves to change their situation.
But it's not gonna happen most times. All it does is intensify or magnify
issues that you have. You're always bickering and fighting, arguing over nothing really,
and the reason why it's because of unresolved issues inside. Some of you
never have peace. It's a constant rollercoaster in your relationship, and I just
I just think it's awful. I think that so many people settle, so
many people waste a lot of time trying to make relationships work that they should
have never been in. So many people you're trying so hard to make it
with someone who's not trying to make it with you. Some of you cannot
do right in your relationship because your mindset, your mindset, have you in
that negative state your mindset, have you in that place of being comfortable even
though you know something is wrong, you won't fix it because you comfort where
you are. Then you get into relationships with all of that baggage, and
there's just mess after mess after mess after mess every time you look around.
There's drama every time you look around, But that's because you have no peace
within. Then you get in the relationship and it's just terrible. You're always
bickering and fighting. Some of you just verbally, some of you verbally and
physically. It's no good either way, it's no good. But some of
you you hold on for dear life. You stress yourself out. Some of
you you begin to hate your own your own self even more. Some of
you are desperately seeking love when you don't know what it is. You're desperately
seeking love, trying to find a place of peace with someone when you don't
have peace within yourself, no peace, And it always shows. It always
shows because you're constantly going through drama. You're constantly bickering and fighting, You're
constantly having a hard time. There's constant negativity. But you still try to
make that relationship work. But you're just so full of negativity. The relationship
never have peace because you have no peace within. Some people just choose to
keep going down the same road. You see. You have issues, but
you do nothing to try to change those issues. You do nothing to try
to be a better person, not for anyone else but for yourself. But
so many people do not try to become better. And you get into these
relationships and you take all of that foolishness into the relationship. And most people
get into relationships with individuals with like minds, meaning you get into a relationship
with someone who have their own unresolved issues as well, and it's a hot
mess. There's no peace. You're you're constant, constantly on edge. You
always feel anxiety and just all types of things that you should not be feeling.
When a person have peace within, they're tolerant for foolishness, they're tolerant
for being treated any kind of way. They're tolerance for taking crap. It
changes, it changes. All you have room for is zero, zero tolerance,
But most people don't get to that level because they're comfortable where they are.
And any time you try to find a place of refuge, you turn
to the limbs, to the right front back. You find no kind of
resolve because you have no peace. Some of you pour deeply into your significant
other, when clearly your significant other is not pouring into you, and clearly
they are not thinking how you're thinking as far as the relationship goes, clearly,
but you try everything possible to make that relationship work. But what it
does is it causes you more harm than good, because when you constantly are
in a relation and you're just fighting and arguing, and it's tension and stress
all the time. It affects you. It is going to affect you in
more ways than one. That's why I talk to you all so much about
being in one side of relationships, being in relationships with individuals who are only
taking from you. When you have no peace, you'll open yourself up to
all types of unnecessary things. But many of you cannot see. You just
can't see because you're blind. You're blind to the real ruth. You clearly
see your version, but it's not real. It's not reality. And that's
why you're always stressed because you have no peace within. And if you don't
have peace and the other person have no peace, how do you think you're
gonna have peace within the relationship. How do you think you're going to have
peace in the relationship. You're not. You're not. So many of you
are looking outward when you need to be looking inward. You need to fix
you. You're looking for your prince or your princess. You will mess it
up. Even if you got one, you will mess it up because you
don't have your stuff together, because you have no peace within you. You're
looking for someone to come alone to change you. When you need to make
change within yourself for yourself, some of you are just holding out for someone
to come and change you, change your world, give you the world.
You're going about it the wrong way. And that's why so many people get
into relationships. So many they get into relationships and they will take almost anything,
They will do almost anything, anything just to say they're in a relationship.
But they have no peace. People spend more time and I've talked about
it so many times, people spend more time faking and pretending, oh,
we got it going on. We're a lovely couple, we're a happy couple.
When they're miserable. And I mean some people spend years this way miserable,
straight miserable. And it don't matter because you'll never have peace with who
you're with until you find peace within yourself. It starts with you, not
your significant other, with you. You know. I've heard people say,
oh, he changed my life or he saved me. No, they did
it. They may have inspired you, made you to change, made you
see yourself, because sometimes we're the mirror. And sometimes when a person is
real about you, sometimes it kind of touch them in a way that they
want to change. You know, they want to be the best that they
can be for you. But in my opinion, that's the wrong way to
go about it. If you going to change, if you seek change,
it should be for yourself. I get it, though, I get you
want to be a better person, or or they make you want to be
a better person. But at the end of the day, you have to
want that for yourself because you can want it, you can be You don't
want to be that for somebody else. But whatever that relationship don't work,
and you put all of that energy and time into trying to be a better
person for who you're with, you're no longer with that person. Most people
will fall further than what they were before, further. That's why I tell
anyone never ever lose yourself. Don't lose a sense of who you are.
I don't care who comes in your life. Never lose a sense of who
you are. Never love a person to death, Never do any and everything
for someone, because that's not love anyways. Anyone who think it is,
they are wrong. You have to know yourself, You have to understand who
you are. Because I'm telling you, people see your vulnerability, they see
your desperation. They see your eagerness and they will prey upon you, the
one that you love the most. Guess what They cast the biggest stones,
They throw the biggest rocks the one you love the most. We're normally hurt
worse by our own loved ones. But that's because there's a disconnect in that
individual, and there's a disconnect in you. If you sit and allow whatever
it is, relationships don't miraculous miraculously become better. You have to work at
it. If you know something is not going well, you can't expect for
it to get better. You have to work on it. Why do people
think that things will get better on their own. It's like you. If
you don't work on you, you're gonna remain the same. Therefore, you're
not gonna become any better. You have to work on yourself even harder than
working on your relationship because because you make choices and decision based on your mindset,
and if your mindset isn't healthy, then you're not gonna make the best
choices and decisions. You're gonna open yourself up to any and everything. You'll
be treated all kind of negative ways because you allow many of you will go
along with things that you know you don't like what you're doing because you want
to be with that person so bad. That's terrible. I'm just gonna tell
you that's terrible. Some of you cannot sit still to save your soul.
You cannot sit still. You're constantly going. You're constantly doing this and that
for other people because to you, that brings you joy to run yourself raggedy
for other people. You can't sit still because you don't have any peace within
you. Your happiness in your mind is doing for other people. No one
ever doing for you, But you're always doing for other people, running around
all the time, trying to help everybody out, bending over backwards for your
significant other when they're not even paying you attention. They don't care what you
do because they're not into you like you are them. So many things add
on to what's already there, so many things, but people are so caught
up in self. I always say, you look to that person for love
and all types of things, but you're so caught up in self, meaning
you are seeking that self gratification. You have the desires of your heart that
you are trying to fulfill. You move by your feelings and your emotions,
your wants, and your desires, and oftentimes it's from a bad place because
you're not healed. When you're not healed, you will not make the best
choices and decisions. And I've told you so many times you can accomplish great
things with a broken heart, and eventually you always gonna fall back to who
you really are. The pain is gonna always rise to the surface. And
that is why so many people, so many people, way too many people
trying to find peace in their relationships when they have no peace within self,
no peace, then all it does is just cause issues on top of issues,
problems on top of problems. It really does. If you want your
life to be better, you have to choose better for yourself. You have
to choose better. Stop looking at him or her to make your life better.
When you're the one, you're the only one who can fulfill that task.
You're the only one who can complete it. Many many people fail themselves
on a daily because they're too caught up in the other person because of self
gratification. And you know what's really really terrible about it, They're never fulfilled.
They always have that void, and they will always have that void until
they deal with their old, unresolved issues. You can't find happiness in anyone
or anything until you find it in yourself. And that's just the way it
is. You will not be happy with any one, guaranteed until you find
happiness within yourself, until you know who you are, you know your worth,
male or female. Until then, you're gonna keep searching and seeking,
desire, desiring and wanting because you're you're unfulfilled and there's no peace within.
So how you're gonna have peace in your relationship when you have no peace within
yourself. You can't. You can't. And this is the life millions of
people have chosen, have chosen a free will to live when they don't have
to. You don't have to live in an unhappy reason relationship. You don't
have to be an unhappy person. You can always choose change, but most
people won't. Most people will never get to that level in life mentally because
they're holding on to things they should have let go. When you hold on
to things you should have let go, you cannot heal, you cannot grow,
you cannot mature. What you do is up to you, But just
no, you can never be better by remaining the same. You will never
have peace with your significant other until you have peace within. When you have
peace within, you're not searching for those things in someone else. You're not.
You can see clearer, You can think clearer when you know and love
yourself, when you have dealt with your unresolved pain, that part of you
that no one sees, but they see the results through your actions, through
your choices and decisions, through what you allow and accept in your life.
It's an invisible part of you, but we can see the physical effects.
That's all I'm gonna say. I'm leaving it right there. Please think about
what I've said. Please let me tell you in life there are no do
overs. We only have one life to live and once we're gone, that's
it. So we should want to be the best we can be while we
can. Thank you for listening. Much much much love to each and every
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