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Hey, Hey, I'm back with
something for you to think about. How

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can you have peace in your relationship
when you have no peace within yourself?

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I hope that it's sinking in.
I gave you a little silence there,

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so that can sink in. Let
me say it again. How can you

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have peace in your relationship when you
have no peace within yourself? See,

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so many people they get into relationships
carrying nothing but baggage. You go into

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your relationship carrying nothing but baggage because
what's in you, that's what you take

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with you everywhere you go. So
people get into relationships without healing, and

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you already have no peace within you. You're already struggling with things within yourself.

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You're holding on to things that you
should have let go. You're angry,

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you're sad, you're magic, depression, suicidal, all kind of things,

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and you carry that mess right into
your relationship, just causing turmoil,

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causing unnecessary stress and strain. There's
no way, there's no way you're gonna

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have peace in your relationship when you
have no peace within. The sad thing

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here is that so many people look
to their significant others. They look to

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that person to make them feel good. About themselves to change their situation.

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But it's not gonna happen most times. All it does is intensify or magnify

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issues that you have. You're always
bickering and fighting, arguing over nothing really,

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and the reason why it's because of
unresolved issues inside. Some of you

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never have peace. It's a constant
rollercoaster in your relationship, and I just

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I just think it's awful. I
think that so many people settle, so

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many people waste a lot of time
trying to make relationships work that they should

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have never been in. So many
people you're trying so hard to make it

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with someone who's not trying to make
it with you. Some of you cannot

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do right in your relationship because your
mindset, your mindset, have you in

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that negative state your mindset, have
you in that place of being comfortable even

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though you know something is wrong,
you won't fix it because you comfort where

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you are. Then you get into
relationships with all of that baggage, and

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there's just mess after mess after mess
after mess every time you look around.

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There's drama every time you look around, But that's because you have no peace

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within. Then you get in the
relationship and it's just terrible. You're always

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bickering and fighting. Some of you
just verbally, some of you verbally and

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physically. It's no good either way, it's no good. But some of

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you you hold on for dear life. You stress yourself out. Some of

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you you begin to hate your own
your own self even more. Some of

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you are desperately seeking love when you
don't know what it is. You're desperately

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seeking love, trying to find a
place of peace with someone when you don't

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have peace within yourself, no peace, And it always shows. It always

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shows because you're constantly going through drama. You're constantly bickering and fighting, You're

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constantly having a hard time. There's
constant negativity. But you still try to

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make that relationship work. But you're
just so full of negativity. The relationship

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never have peace because you have no
peace within. Some people just choose to

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keep going down the same road.
You see. You have issues, but

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you do nothing to try to change
those issues. You do nothing to try

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to be a better person, not
for anyone else but for yourself. But

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so many people do not try to
become better. And you get into these

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relationships and you take all of that
foolishness into the relationship. And most people

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get into relationships with individuals with like
minds, meaning you get into a relationship

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with someone who have their own unresolved
issues as well, and it's a hot

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mess. There's no peace. You're
you're constant, constantly on edge. You

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always feel anxiety and just all types
of things that you should not be feeling.

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When a person have peace within,
they're tolerant for foolishness, they're tolerant

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for being treated any kind of way. They're tolerance for taking crap. It

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changes, it changes. All you
have room for is zero, zero tolerance,

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But most people don't get to that
level because they're comfortable where they are.

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And any time you try to find
a place of refuge, you turn

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to the limbs, to the right
front back. You find no kind of

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resolve because you have no peace.
Some of you pour deeply into your significant

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other, when clearly your significant other
is not pouring into you, and clearly

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they are not thinking how you're thinking
as far as the relationship goes, clearly,

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but you try everything possible to make
that relationship work. But what it

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does is it causes you more harm
than good, because when you constantly are

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in a relation and you're just fighting
and arguing, and it's tension and stress

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all the time. It affects you. It is going to affect you in

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more ways than one. That's why
I talk to you all so much about

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being in one side of relationships,
being in relationships with individuals who are only

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taking from you. When you have
no peace, you'll open yourself up to

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all types of unnecessary things. But
many of you cannot see. You just

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can't see because you're blind. You're
blind to the real ruth. You clearly

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see your version, but it's not
real. It's not reality. And that's

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why you're always stressed because you have
no peace within. And if you don't

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have peace and the other person have
no peace, how do you think you're

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gonna have peace within the relationship.
How do you think you're going to have

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peace in the relationship. You're not. You're not. So many of you

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are looking outward when you need to
be looking inward. You need to fix

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you. You're looking for your prince
or your princess. You will mess it

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up. Even if you got one, you will mess it up because you

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don't have your stuff together, because
you have no peace within you. You're

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looking for someone to come alone to
change you. When you need to make

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change within yourself for yourself, some
of you are just holding out for someone

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to come and change you, change
your world, give you the world.

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You're going about it the wrong way. And that's why so many people get

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into relationships. So many they get
into relationships and they will take almost anything,

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They will do almost anything, anything
just to say they're in a relationship.

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But they have no peace. People
spend more time and I've talked about

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it so many times, people spend
more time faking and pretending, oh,

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we got it going on. We're
a lovely couple, we're a happy couple.

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When they're miserable. And I mean
some people spend years this way miserable,

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straight miserable. And it don't matter
because you'll never have peace with who

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you're with until you find peace within
yourself. It starts with you, not

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your significant other, with you.
You know. I've heard people say,

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oh, he changed my life or
he saved me. No, they did

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it. They may have inspired you, made you to change, made you

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see yourself, because sometimes we're the
mirror. And sometimes when a person is

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real about you, sometimes it kind
of touch them in a way that they

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want to change. You know,
they want to be the best that they

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can be for you. But in
my opinion, that's the wrong way to

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go about it. If you going
to change, if you seek change,

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it should be for yourself. I
get it, though, I get you

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want to be a better person,
or or they make you want to be

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a better person. But at the
end of the day, you have to

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want that for yourself because you can
want it, you can be You don't

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want to be that for somebody else. But whatever that relationship don't work,

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and you put all of that energy
and time into trying to be a better

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person for who you're with, you're
no longer with that person. Most people

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will fall further than what they were
before, further. That's why I tell

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anyone never ever lose yourself. Don't
lose a sense of who you are.

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I don't care who comes in your
life. Never lose a sense of who

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you are. Never love a person
to death, Never do any and everything

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for someone, because that's not love
anyways. Anyone who think it is,

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they are wrong. You have to
know yourself, You have to understand who

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you are. Because I'm telling you, people see your vulnerability, they see

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your desperation. They see your eagerness
and they will prey upon you, the

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one that you love the most.
Guess what They cast the biggest stones,

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They throw the biggest rocks the one
you love the most. We're normally hurt

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worse by our own loved ones.
But that's because there's a disconnect in that

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individual, and there's a disconnect in
you. If you sit and allow whatever

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it is, relationships don't miraculous miraculously
become better. You have to work at

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it. If you know something is
not going well, you can't expect for

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it to get better. You have
to work on it. Why do people

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think that things will get better on
their own. It's like you. If

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you don't work on you, you're
gonna remain the same. Therefore, you're

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not gonna become any better. You
have to work on yourself even harder than

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working on your relationship because because you
make choices and decision based on your mindset,

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and if your mindset isn't healthy,
then you're not gonna make the best

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choices and decisions. You're gonna open
yourself up to any and everything. You'll

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be treated all kind of negative ways
because you allow many of you will go

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along with things that you know you
don't like what you're doing because you want

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to be with that person so bad. That's terrible. I'm just gonna tell

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you that's terrible. Some of you
cannot sit still to save your soul.

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You cannot sit still. You're constantly
going. You're constantly doing this and that

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for other people because to you,
that brings you joy to run yourself raggedy

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for other people. You can't sit
still because you don't have any peace within

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you. Your happiness in your mind
is doing for other people. No one

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ever doing for you, But you're
always doing for other people, running around

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all the time, trying to help
everybody out, bending over backwards for your

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significant other when they're not even paying
you attention. They don't care what you

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do because they're not into you like
you are them. So many things add

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on to what's already there, so
many things, but people are so caught

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up in self. I always say, you look to that person for love

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and all types of things, but
you're so caught up in self, meaning

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you are seeking that self gratification.
You have the desires of your heart that

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you are trying to fulfill. You
move by your feelings and your emotions,

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your wants, and your desires,
and oftentimes it's from a bad place because

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you're not healed. When you're not
healed, you will not make the best

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choices and decisions. And I've told
you so many times you can accomplish great

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things with a broken heart, and
eventually you always gonna fall back to who

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you really are. The pain is
gonna always rise to the surface. And

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that is why so many people,
so many people, way too many people

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trying to find peace in their relationships
when they have no peace within self,

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no peace, then all it does
is just cause issues on top of issues,

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problems on top of problems. It
really does. If you want your

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life to be better, you have
to choose better for yourself. You have

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to choose better. Stop looking at
him or her to make your life better.

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When you're the one, you're the
only one who can fulfill that task.

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You're the only one who can complete
it. Many many people fail themselves

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on a daily because they're too caught
up in the other person because of self

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gratification. And you know what's really
really terrible about it, They're never fulfilled.

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They always have that void, and
they will always have that void until

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they deal with their old, unresolved
issues. You can't find happiness in anyone

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or anything until you find it in
yourself. And that's just the way it

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is. You will not be happy
with any one, guaranteed until you find

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happiness within yourself, until you know
who you are, you know your worth,

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male or female. Until then,
you're gonna keep searching and seeking,

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desire, desiring and wanting because you're
you're unfulfilled and there's no peace within.

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So how you're gonna have peace in
your relationship when you have no peace within

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yourself. You can't. You can't. And this is the life millions of

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people have chosen, have chosen a
free will to live when they don't have

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to. You don't have to live
in an unhappy reason relationship. You don't

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have to be an unhappy person.
You can always choose change, but most

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people won't. Most people will never
get to that level in life mentally because

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they're holding on to things they should
have let go. When you hold on

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to things you should have let go, you cannot heal, you cannot grow,

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you cannot mature. What you do
is up to you, But just

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no, you can never be better
by remaining the same. You will never

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have peace with your significant other until
you have peace within. When you have

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peace within, you're not searching for
those things in someone else. You're not.

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You can see clearer, You can
think clearer when you know and love

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yourself, when you have dealt with
your unresolved pain, that part of you

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that no one sees, but they
see the results through your actions, through

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your choices and decisions, through what
you allow and accept in your life.

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It's an invisible part of you,
but we can see the physical effects.

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That's all I'm gonna say. I'm
leaving it right there. Please think about

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what I've said. Please let me
tell you in life there are no do

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overs. We only have one life
to live and once we're gone, that's

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it. So we should want to
be the best we can be while we

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can. Thank you for listening.
Much much much love to each and every

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one of you. I appreciate you
all. Please go check out Relatable Life

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Chronicles and share share this episode of
Relationship Chronicles. Thanks again, much love.

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I appreciate you in every episode the
same and I hope you do it.

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Thank on it