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And Dick is frolicking. Wow, yeah, he's still frolicking. He's frolicking
like a motherfucker. Caitlin is editing our show because we had to record on
a Tuesday, because yes, well, because Sonny had to get his wisdom
teeth out on a happy morning, which did not happen, because he was
throwing up all night. Oh no, yes, can you hear? Lynnette
thought? Well, because can you hear? Gets away from her. Okay,
all right, he's too cool for scho Mike is like off on his
side. There we go, all right? Uh, yes, Sonny was
throwing up. He I believe what did it is? His birthday cake was
in thefrigerator in our garage, and I think it went bad, and I
think he had He was like, you know, I can't eat after midnight,
so I'm gonna eat. So he ate a big meal and then he
ate the birthday cake and then he woke up at like three in the morning.
I wake up in the morning to take them, and I'm getting all
these texts from three am until like six thirty of him like, mom throwing
up. I don't know what to do, And I'm like, Okay,
well now we're gonna have to reschedule it. Now. It's not gonna happen
till probably August or after his trip to Japan at the end of July,
so he didn't get his wisdom teeth out. But then did he feel better,
like later in the day. Do you think it was just food poisoning.
I think he did feel better later in the day. I'm I mean,
I don't know what else would make him throw up like that. Yeah,
Like he was, you know, in the bathroom every like half an
hour and like a couple of times. I don't know, but he was
looking he wanted to get it over with you know, and I wanted to
get it over with. So now that's that, So now we have to
reschedule it. Fucking kids, man, do you know that? And Xander
don't have wisdom teeth? Oh? Really? Yeah, he looked out or
maybe each of them they both have one, but it's not growing in such
a way that it's even gonna have to come out. Well sometimes, yeah,
they don't need to. They don't need to if it's not impacting the
rest of the teeth. Yeah, I mean, Ilbe had hers out,
but yeah, I guess that's a little money saving right there. Yeah,
that's good. Natalia had to have hers sunny needs all four taken out.
I didn't have, like we've talked about this, but I didn't have a
grown up tooth in my like my canine what not my kid the tooth next
to the canine towards next to the two front teeth, there's no grown up
tooth there. So I always had a baby tooth until I was like,
I don't know, twenty and then had it fixed. Oh, because the
only way that the baby teeth come out is when the adult and tooth grows
underneath it pushes it out. Yes, so I had a baby tooth until
it was like until I got health insurance pretty much to get it fixed.
Oh wow, yeah, this is a little tooth like up front. Yeah,
when I think about the stuff that like we had to handle on our
own as k as teenagers, as young adults, it's amazing to me,
Like how I don't know if I've handicapped my kids, but you know,
or I mean, you know, we're doing a parenting podcast, so you
know, our lives are out there, but I don't think that our lives
to all the people that want to comment and go like, oh my god,
the helicopter parenting is real, you know, yes, but so do
all the other Like yeah, in fact, I helicopter a lot less than
a lot of my friends, right right, I mean, if you could
hear remember the story about wanting to let LB go trigger true chick at eleven
and the other mom being completely scandalized by that and workshopping my idea of letting
them walk around my safe neighborhood to her friends and telling me that her friends
told her that's a really bad choice, right, And I'm like, I
remember that, okay, And I remember I was Elbe and I were remembering
this the other day that I used to let her walk around the mall.
I walk around the mall sometimes and I see these kids that look so young,
like yeah, look like they're eleven walking around the mall, and I'm
like, well, yeah, I used to let Lbie walk around the mall.
And I remember the first time I did it. I sat at the
food court and was like, you know, because I was like, well,
don't get lost, but if you get lost, you can just ask
somebody in a store, like where's the food court? You know you'll find
me eventually. Yeah. And also she had an She didn't have a phone
yet, she was too young, h huh, but she had an iPad
and I was like, here's what you're gonna do. You're going to connect
to the why you know, it was a iPad that is not a phone,
so it only connects if there's Wi Fi, right, But I'm like,
there's Wi Fi in the mall. It's not great, but if you
need to text me, text me on the iPad. So I can't tell
you how many kids parents were like, oh, hell no, my kid's
not walking around the mall with your kid, including Julie Kayson. I was
like, nope, Nope, I don't. I don't feel comfortable with that.
And then I remember when she was finally like, okay, Bella can
walk around with LB and the mall. Then Bella was like, I'm really
uncomfortable with this. I don't feel safe. So I'm just saying like,
there's a lot of areas where I'm not I much left with a helicopter.
But it is amazing the things that like my kids can't do or wouldn't think
of doing, that we had to take care of, right, figuring out
dentistry, my dentistry, figuring out, figuring out I got myself surgery.
I had my breast reduction surgery when I was twenty. My mom refused to
have anything to do with it. I worked at a company, had my
own health insurance, had an HMO, made myself an appointment, went and
had consultation, got it approved, and then freakin got some one of my
friend's moms or one of my friends. Yeah, one of my friends basically
was the person who took care me. I went and stayed at her house.
Mm hmmm, like I had no help. I know it was so
different back then. I know it was like well, but now like Okay,
So Natalia had this interesting because that you bring it up. Because Natalia
had a sinus infection that would not quit and she had it like the week
of her graduation and birthday. And then we got her on antibiotics and then
and we did that because she did it over the Our urgent care in our
neighborhood can do the port of you know, do the the zoo health telehealth
over the phone and if it's like something like a sinus infection, you can
just do it over the phone. So we did it over the phone.
They called in the prescription, she went picked it up. She took eye
drops for her eyes because her eyes were red. Everything was. She was
a mess. And then it cleared up. Well then like a couple of
days before she leaves for her trip to Spain, it started coming back.
Her one eye was like goopy again. Her head was pounding like she had
a pounding headache. And I was like, Natalia, you got to go
to urgent care. And I was busy that day and I'm like, you
need to go like today, and you know where it is. You're eighteen.
Here's your information, here's your your health insurance information. This is what
you do. Go in there, blah blah blah. By the way,
they already have your information there. They've been there millions of times. So
anyway, I was like, go and so she did, and then you
know, she's calling me and she's like, I forgot that it was a
digital form that they have to fill instead of papers that you write like the
intake form. It's on an iPad kind of things, which I by the
way, it's so fucking annoying, right, it never works correct. I'm
always like, I'm sorry, it's not going to the next page, right,
Yeah, I can't admit it. Right. So she's like, she
calls me a couple times questions and she's like, what's my you know,
pediatricians doctor's name and number and address, and I give it to her and
then she's like, they're not I and she doesn't tell me it's on the
iPad. So I'm thinking she's writing it down right, And then she goes,
they're not it's not in here, and I go, what do you
mean it's not in here? She goes, it's not coming up. And
I go, oh, you didn't tell me you're on the iPad. She
goes, well, now what do I do? I go and to tell
you bring it to the lady the front desk, tell her that it's not
coming up. I don't know, I'm not there. What do you want
me to do? I can't. I don't magic dust, like take it
up to the front desk. We would you? Like? Why do you
figure it out? What I mean? But that's why won't they ask another
adult for me? I know? That's can we ask us? Right?
It's easier to call us, I guess I So I go ask you a
question. If you're in a store, and you'll go like, I don't
know. Let's ask somebody who works here, and they'll be like, no,
why that is their literal job? Like why if we're at Target and
we can't find the thing we're looking for, why can't you just go like,
excuse me, do you know where the blah blah blah is? I
don't know why. That's so tortuous. I know, I don't know.
I know, I know, so like go. So she figured it all
out, and she did it, and she got her medication. She went
and picked it up, she filled the medication, Like this is what you're
gonna have to do. But then they want a parade for that. So
they're like, Hi, they're done. The rest of the day, they're
just like, oh my god. And then mom, and then I just
went to CV and I picked up my prescription and you're like, yeah,
that's it. Yeah, like when I was nineteen years old, I moved
across the fucking country and figured out how to pay my bills and how to
buy toilet paper and how to make sure I had soap in the house,
and how to go to the doctor and how to find a dentist. Like
right, we had to, yes, you had to. Yeah, I
know these kids, man, like you know, yeah, but yeah,
so it worked out, and you know, now she's off, but uh,
what will we were talking to me. She did heal up, she
did get better. You know, she was only like three or four days
still on so she's got to take it while she's there, but she's doing
much better. Yeah. Well, Xander, I had, like I think
I told you this, yeah, last week because I brought him to urgent
care and he had stepped throat. Oh yeah, so he had to be
on an antibiotic. Luckily we had enough time for him to get over it
before he left for the speech and debate. Right, but yeah, it's
so it's it's funny because like I don't give my key. I don't know
if it's a I don't give my kids enough credit or responsibility. But like,
so Thursday morning, I have I'm going to do my eye surgery,
and my thought was, Okay, well, who's gonna walk Pepo? Because
she's been waking me up really early every day. I don't know if it's
the time change, I don't know what it is, but like she's been
waking me up at like six fifteen in the morning, like wanting a walk,
and I have to go no, and she'll, yeah, just go
back to sleep, right, I have to keep going people, no,
Like and what then John let her out into the backyard just to pee,
and then I'll like get up really early and feed her anything to stave off
the actual walk until at least like seven point thirty, like a more human
time in the morning. Yeah, but I'm like, well, people is
going to need a walk because John's like, well, I'm going to take
you there in the morning, like, who's gonna walk people? And he
goes one of the kids can wake up and walk the dog. But my
thinking is, like they're so not used to it that like, I don't
are they going to sleep? My brain just starts going, well, are
they going to sleep in our bed? They're not going to be responsible enough
to like set an alarm. No, people has to be walked. They're
gonna be like, well, you know, I'm somebody like exactly, ain't
nobody gonna tell you that you have to walk the dog? But if you
don't walk the dog, like, I don't know, because the dogs,
well, you should train people to go get them up, go wake them
up when it's not I know, because I don't know what she would do
if we're both not right right, this is bad. I don't know if
is this anxiety or is this just like me being a good planner. But
I was like, maybe I should just take an uber to the surgery because
he can't. Okay, we did this, you know, like a year
and a half ago when John had the surgery and he took an uber because
I had to take the kids to school. So I took the kids to
school and then I just drove straight down to go get him. Yeah,
I remember that. But I had to wait because the way the protocols are
now, like I went up to the office and they're like yeah, you
can't wait here. They're still on like some kind of COVID protocols, so
like, you can't stay here and wait for him. We'll call you when
he's ready. Well, it was like hours away. I had to go
park on a side street like this podcasts, and I was like, honey,
it's real hot out. I was like, you're not going to be
happy, like dropping me off right out something to do in Beverly Hills early
in the morning for hours before they get to me. I was like,
I should just Uber, get up. When you get up, walk the
dog, feed the dog, and then I'll call you know, they'll call
you and then make your way down and come get me better. Oh.
Absolutely, So I was like, I'm not a kid like you need to
be. Yeah, okay, buy honey, it's a surgery. I'm like,
I'm a grown up, like I'll go in check myself in something he
can do for me except for wait around, right, So I think that's
better. I agree it's worth the money to Uber. Yeah, it's in
Beverly Hills. Yeah, I avoid that like the plague. But it is
such a pain and it's going to be like first thing in the morning.
But it's the only place. Yeah, it's better than cedars, which is
yeah, yeah, anyway, it doesn't really matter, but yeah, figuring
it out stuff is like I don't trust my kids to figure a lot out,
I know. And you know what happens is they get you get forced
into it, and then they do it, and then they're all proud of
themselves and then we're like, why didn't I do that earlier? I know,
like that was easy. Yeah, I need to teach my kids how
to do their own laundry. It's easy. I mean they eventually. I
think Natalia and Sonny do both do it. And I think Natalia did it
because she wanted clothes clean, and she was just like I don't want to
wait or whatever, and she she wanted to learn how to like I want
to wear those jeans tomorrow. How do I want? You know? So
she does them. She's not good at folding them and putting them away.
That's the hard part, but like as far as like separating them and putting
them in the thing, and then she's getting better, like putting them on
the hangars and putting them away. Sonny. Sonny was pretty easy early on
too. He was like I can I think he kind of wanted to do
it, like, let me see how this thing works. And he started
doing it too again, not folding him and putting him away at all or
putting him on the hair and until he's getting back. She's a girl and
wants her stuff, nice, sonny, doesn't you know, Well, Elbe's
room is like the biggest catastrophe. Meanwhile, she's gotten really good at she
figured out while she was at Disneyland. She was calling UCLA to get in
for her orientation. She told me, she was like, this is worse
than like trying to win concert tickets. She goes trying to get my But
she's been dealing with all the college stuff all on her own, taking care
of business. You know. She takes care of herself and her job,
and like she figures out a lot of stuff. And yet at home,
Yeah, a lot of kids are like that, a lot, you know.
Yeah, but yeah, and I think, like actually going and living
in a dorm and going off to colle it's gonna be. It's so much
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Oh no, you were. It was when Julie was here where I
talked about how I almost quit my my my little job, my mom job
at the school. Ye in school. Okay. I decided that I just
wasn't cut out for all the corporate speak and I was getting overwhelmed. But
then they talked me back into it. They sucked me back in, so
I'm still doing it. So anyway, I was on my neighborhood by I
was on Facebook and I saw on our buy nothing group that somebody was giving
away a bunch of like baskets, the kind that you could you know,
you could build a gift basket and you know, yeah. So those things
are usually kind of the bane of my existence where I'm like, oh,
if you want to do gift baskets, a lot of people they give you
products or makeup or whatever or whatever, and you don't have a basket and
they're expensive, you know. So I put my name in for him,
and I just said a bunch of people wanted them, and I so I
wrote like, oh, hey, I've just recently become the co chair of
the fundraising committee, and like, oh, it's going to be these baskets
will really come in handy, Okay. So I get a message on Facebook
Messenger and it says, hey, call me. I want to give you
the baskets. But like, like why call me? Like or text me?
Text me, okay, here's my phone number. Text me so I
can arrange for you to get the baskets. And how does it work?
Usually, like if you want to get it, normally just on Facebook.
It'll usually people will say on the thing like hey, I'm going to give
you the baskets, message me for my address, okay, and then usually
they leave stuff on the portrait. You message back and forth and you go,
oh my gosh, thank you so much. When's a good time for
me to come get them? What's your address? And then you go get
it right, have a good day, right, Like there's no no more
to it than that. You know, we're not trying to make friends.
We're just like trying to give away our shit, right right. I give
away tons of stuff on Buy Nothing anyway. So I get the message and
it just says text me for my address, which I'm like, well,
you already messaged me on Facebook, So like why do we have to get
texts involved in this? You know? Yeah, right, like yeah,
already we've just communicated. We've just found that this is a valid place to
communicate, so like why not just say, like, here's my address?
Okay, yeah, I text Hi, this is Stephanie. I text the
woman's name, let's call her Margo. Like, Hi, Margo, it's
Stephanie. What's you know? When's a good time for me to pick up
the baskets? Phone rings in my hand? Oh god, I'm like,
oh no, and it's that and I see it's the number I just called.
And I'm like coming from inside the house, you know, feeling when
you're like fuck, I have to answer yes, obviously, I'm holding my
phone. I'm holding my phone right, even though I suppose I could not
answer it because I and I could be like, oh, sorry, I'm
doing something, but I can text like I'm going to meet it, like
I could have made up an excuse, but I was so startled by the
violation and I was just like, it's so intrusive, so intrusive. Yeah,
I answer the phone and I'm like hello, and she's like hello,
Hi, Stephanie, it's Margo, Like yeah, I fucking know, I'm
on my phone. So I'm like, hi, how are you? And
she's like, I just thought it would be easier for us to talk on
the phone about this, talk about what it is that a job interview?
What do we mean to talk about baskets? Do you want to give me
or not? Like you know? And I was like oh okay, and
she's like, well, first of all, normally, if I give something
away and she's talking this slow, normally, if I give something away,
I'll give it to the first person who responds, which, by the way,
is not how you're supposed to do it, because they tell you like,
give people a chance to all respond to your thinking about giving away,
and then like then pick right right buy nothing is so annoying in the first
place because they try they have all these suggestions and rules and like they tell
you, oh, you know you should really you shouldn't just say I'm interested.
That's rude. You should say why you're interested or whatever. Okay,
Anyway, she's like, she's like, usually I respond to the first person.
She's like, but when I read that your work, what is the
committee that you're I was like, oh, yeah, the fundraising committee at
my kids school. She's like, yes, I just thought, well that
those baskets are going to really go to good youth. You could really use
those baskets. You know, they're very like they're very expensive. And I
was like, I trust me, I know that's why I kind of wanted
them. She's like, yes, so even though a lot of people wanted
the baskets, I picked you. So now I'm like, well, I
am so grateful of Margot, thank you so much for choosing me. So
then she's like, well, when would be a good time for you to
come get them? And I was like, honestly, like, you're the
one who's putting yourself out there, like whenever. So she's like, well,
I mean there's a lot of the baskets. She's like, I mean,
I guess I could put them in a bag. I mean I have
to go figure out like exactly what I have. I mean some more.
Oh my god. So she's just like talking and talking and talking, and
I said, okay, whatever works. So then she's like, well,
I mean I could. I think I have to leave. I have to
go somewhere at one. But what does she want to go on a date?
I don't know. And she's like, but I think I could probably
round them up before then. I was like, well, Margo, listen,
I don't have to do anything with these baskets until the school year,
right, so if you want to give them to me tomorrow, there's no
there's no rush. She's like, oh, well tomorrow would probably be better
for me. Is that okay? And I said, yeah, it's totally
fine. Just like text me tomorrow whenever. You know I have your address,
just text me and I'll come by and get them. And she's like,
okay, I'm going to put them in a bag for you. I
mean, it's like, oh my god, Jesus. She's like, and
also, okay, First of all, my husband, I'm going to make
sure that he doesn't want any of the baskets first, and also be miserable
if I give you the baskets. You know, if there's any that you
can't use, you know, maybe you could like she's and I'm like,
ah, whatever, whatever you want, Like whatever, whatever do you think?
Like some of these people are doing it more to socialize. Yes,
remember, because now I told you about the one guy who's like a crazy
nightmare who's I was complaining about him, who gave away one time, he
gave away a nail that he found in the road. Oh, this guy
just wants to give away. He's this guy who's one of the freaking moderators
of the group, is insane and will go and get books from his neighbors
and then give them away like two at a time. Oh my god,
I've got these books and he'll go to flash give like I got it.
I don't have room for all this stuff. I need you to come over
and pick up. Really really, he's like lonely real. Yeah, but
he's married too. Well that's what I don't understand that. Yeah, well,
what's the poor schlub of a spouse? You have to say about this,
like, I don't know, Margo on the fucking phone again with somebody
that you're doing by nothing? Yeah, turing people. Yeah, okay.
So I finally get off the phone. I'm like, this is gonna be
the next day. Next day, I get I guess she oh, no,
next day she freaking calls me. So now it comes up. Maybe
Margo talk to her? Right. So I'm like, oh, you're Margo,
and I'm like I gotta answer it, because you know, I'm just
putting off the inevitable, right. So I'm like, Hi, Margot and
she's like, Hi, Stephanie, So listen, I found some more baskets
and are you gonna be able can you come at one today? I was
like, yeah, that's totally fine. I'll swing by it one Okay,
do you have the address. I'm like yep, he sent me the address.
She's like all right, And I said, do you want to just
leave him on the porch. She's like no, no, no, when
you get there, let me know, and I'm gonna come out and meet
you and like bring the baskets to you. That'll be the best thing.
No, that's not the best thing. It's the worst thing. It's absolute
worst thing. So I'm like, oh no, like no, this is
gonna this is gonna be an afternoon. Is she gonna invite me in for
lunch? So I can't. I can't. She's got like crumpets and tea
waiting, like sandwiches. So I almost I almost used it as an excuse
to have Sadie like use it as driving practice. They take me to lady's
house. But then I'm like no, because it just may go on for
too long, Like I don't know what I'm going to encounter. Okay,
So I go over there. At one I text her. I'm like hi,
I'm here, you know. So she's like, okay, I'll be
right out. Oh no, I had to go up to the door.
She said, come to the door. I'm sorry. I wasn't even allowed
to text her. She's like, please come to the door. I had
to go to the door, ring the doorbell. So she comes out and
I you know, and then she's like okay, So there's baskets on the
porch. So I don't know how we had to get involved in like meeting
each other. It doesn't matter. But anyway, she's like, oh okay,
She's like do you want me to put these all in a bag And
I'm like, no, it's totally fine. Let me just go. I'll
just make a couple of trips put them in my car. She's like,
okay, I have I think I have one more basket. I'm like,
I don't have more baskets. Also, by the way, some of these
were really not like kind of baskets that I could use at all, So
my brain is already going like, no, I just throw some of these
out because they're dirty, and they're like, they're not gift baskets. They're
like these sort of weird woven you know. And then one of them is
like a little like pale, it's not even a basket and it's dirty,
and I'm like, but I'm like I have to make a show of bringing
all this up, like I can't be picking and shoes well right right right.
So she's like, oh, my husband said that he doesn't want any
of these back, like if you if you can't use them, you can
just regift them. And I was like, okay, thanks, and she's
like, but hold on, I think I have another basket and I said
it's okay, I don't it's not really necessary and she's like no, no,
no, no, no, I'm find it. She's gone for like
ten minutes. Oh my god. I thought about just leaving. She was
already giving me. There were like fifteen baskets. Oh my god. Most
of them kind of unusable, right. One of them was like this metal
I can't even explain. It doesn't matter, like an easter basket from like
when you were like in the eighties. Kind of yet yes, like just
not really appropriate or usable. But I'm like, okay, in my mind,
I'm like I'm just going to be throwing this out before it eat.
It's not going to even make it into my house. Yeah. But anyway,
she so I wait and wait and wait, and I'm sitting I'm like
literally sitting on the front porch like looking at my phone. She finally comes
out and she brings me like a shitty basket that was not worth Okay,
So then I was like these are great. I was like, oh my
gosh, these are so great. You know. She's like, yeah,
you're going to use them for like gift baskets. I was like, yeah,
you know, people will donate like bath products and whatever. And she
was like, oh no, I have something I have some bath products that
that you can use. And I'm like, no, what is this going
to be? And I don't want to be there any longer? And it's
hot out right, and I was like, it's okay, it's totally fine.
I'll get plenty of donation. She's like no, no, no,
no, no, hold on, let me go get it. She cleaning
out her house. Another ten minutes Lynette, she comes out with one prop
one thing and it's like a body wash. And I swear to you what
looks used. It's like kind of you know. So I'm like, this
is this is insane. I'm not going to use this. It's like some
it's not even like a brand you've ever heard of, it's some like thing.
And I go and she comes out, she goes here you go,
this will be And by the way, don't be mad at me. She
was like some old lady. She was not that old. She was not
like she was just cuckoo. Yeah. So I was like, okay,
thank you so much. And she was like, do you want me to
see if I have any more? And I was like, oh my god,
I've taken up enough of your time. I was like, thank you,
and then I couldn't wait to get out of there. I finally drove
away. I was like, this will teach me a lesson, Yeah,
a good lesson and not asking for things on the by nothing group. This
is insane, I mean. And then I threw away half of the shit,
and I threw away the body wash, which was like clearly old,
right and possibly used. And then I was like, I brought it.
I just brought the rest of it in the house, and I was like,
oh my god, no more. Whenever I do buy nothing, I
always say contactless, pickup, I will give you my address. I don't
want to be there. I don't want any human interaction. There's nothing involved.
Yeah, come get the ship and get and leave. Yeah. Right,
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I like something like a true crime to just kind of like put me
to sleep. And everybody's watching this presumed anytime of the day. Well,
like you know, like everybody's watching the the oh. I started watching Clipped
by the Way, which is really good. I liked it, but I
keep falling asleep. So like sometimes I put on like a documentary something.
Right, there's this one called The Disappearance of Mourra Murray that see I feel
like I've heard about that. It's been out for a while, but I've
never seen it. And it was on Hulu, on Oxygen, and now
I guess it's on Peacock. But it's like seven six episodes, and it's
this whole story of what happened or what do they think happened to this college
student. She was twenty one years old and she went for a dry and
she's crashed her car and then she just disappeared, just disappeared. And you're
not gonna like it because there's no ending because she's still missing. But they
went down all these different avenues of what could have happened because all these web
sleuths and podcasters are like, this is what we think happened, this is
what and this one investigative woman, she went down every avenue of what everybody
online are saying, Okay, they think that the police covered it up.
They think that she walked off and committed suside, they think that her family
did had something to do with She went down every single avenue and it just
it's a mystery, complete mystery that makes me so mad, though, I
know, why can't they solve the John Benet case? I know, you
know, I don't like to listen to stuff about the John Benet case because
I'm like, it's still not solved. Yeah, yeah, I know,
I know. But it was an interesting story and every episode ended with like
a cli. I was like, what, you know, it just was
like one of those kind of things. But so I watched that and I
started watching Clipped, which was good, and then we you saw the Sherry
Peppini Panini Peppini, the thing that was crazy about that story. You watched
it too, right, did you finish it? Did you watch that?
Kaitlin? No, it's called a Perfect Wife, the perfect Wife or whatever.
It's about the woman who disappeared, and of course they thought the husband
did it, and it turned out that she was like not really a gone
girl kind of thing. She just sort of she she she was going to
say, it sounds like gone girl. No, she isn't crazy. She's
crazy, like very attention seeking. Yeah, but weren't you like where were
the signs? Like I wish they'd shown more of her childhood friends. She
had like one friend that was like, well, she is pretty dramatic,
right. She was telling me pople that her husband was abusive. She was
like create all this drama so that then when she disappeared, they thought the
husband did it and they were like, oh, well, I think she
was. She was telling her friends that like, I'm so scared of my
husband. I think he might like right, he's out of control, he's
got the anger issues. He's really controlling. Yeah yeah, but like why
and he doesn't he wasn't. He seemed like the nicest guy in the world
to me, like very patient with her and stuff like I don't get it,
Like what is what did she need to run away and find her ex
boyfriend? And like, well she got her ex boyfriend to help her.
Yeah, I don't. And then she had herself branded Ratlan so she and
she lost all this weight, Like she went through all of this because she
wanted it to seem like she'd been kidnapped. And then she blamed like two
Hispanic ladies on kidnapping her. Yeah, for kidnapping her. Yeah, it
was a big, huge news story. And then she would turned out like
in the past she was sort of kind of a racist against right right right.
Yeah, she was like, yeah, these two crazy like mean Latina
lady. They were listening to ranchero music. Yeah, she goes, they
were really annoying, like break I know, but yeah, I agree.
I wanted them to get more interest, like like we've heard the story a
million times, like let's figure out why she did it? Why, like
what made what made her her? You know, this is the part that
killed me. So they they she seems like she's been kidnapped. She's getting
herself hit with the hockey puck and stuff. She's asking her boyfriend to smack
her, like hit the hockey. But he played hockey, right, so
she was all bruised up. So yeah, she was all bruised up.
So some of this stuff is not totally adding up. Though, and her
husband is like, I don't know, like some of the stories seems weird.
But then like she has a therapist, and the therapist is like,
well, I mean you can't like not believe her. I mean, why
would she make something like this up? And he's like, yeah, I
guess you're right. But the thing that made me the most irritated was she
she has all these things where she's like, oh my gosh, I can't
eat pizza because pizza reminds me of like the kidnapping. Like now she's got
all these triggers, and she's making it so everything's really dramatic. She's like,
oh my gosh, I can't I have to all food needs to be
prepared in front of me because like I can't she has she's pretending to have
all of this PTSD, all of these like triggers. Meanwhile none of it's
fucking true. Of it's true, so she makes him he changes his whole
life. The kids are like really like, oh no, mom's upset because
like somebody ate pizza and that's not what the thing was, but whatever it
was like, and then she's like oh my, she starts crying, and
then the she's like Mommy, are you okay? Yeah, yeah, I
know, And then like was she horrendous? I know, and she had
to have she couldn't have anybody in the room, like she wanted her husband
in the room at all times, all the time, like you know,
and like, but it was interesting seeing But I feel like I've seen we've
seen these scenes like where she's getting interviewed by the by the police when they're
sitting at the table and she's like rubbing her nose with that snotrag over and
over. I don't know if you noticed it. Yeah, she kept shoving
that anyway, like yeah, like just they were asking her a million questions
and so I mean those are always kind of interesting stuff to see, like
the you know, the interrogation and when they caught her and they brought her
in for questioning. That was interesting, you know. But one thing that
I hadn't realized that was kind of mind blowing was from the time that they
figured out that she'd done it herself to them, like her getting convicted was
eighteen months where she still lived with her husband and he knowing that, like
suspecting that she wasn't done it. She kept denying it and being like no,
that's ridiculous. I didn't. So he keeps getting confronted with this proof,
right, and he's like, I don't know what to do because all
this time, this was years after it happened, right, It's like three
years later or six years later. It was a long time after that he'd
been with her, even though she'd faked it, like catering to her every
like all her PTSD. Then she finds out that she might have done this
to herself. And it's another eighteen months of him knowing that they have evidence
and not leaving. Right. Yeah, it's a crazy story, so crazy.
Yeah, but she's I mean, I don't know what the deal is
with her and why she felt the need to have to run away like to
I guess attention. I guess just did it for attention or like I thought,
maybe she liked the ex boyfriend and wanted to get back together. But
I didn't realize that they did they I can't remember if they said they had
sex or not, but they did find DNA, his DNA and the shanels.
But he claims that she that she was he was just doing what she
wanted, she wanted, but they didn't have sex or anything, right,
that she was just there little I don't know. Yeah, there was some
weird like kind of Munchausen stuff too though with the kids. Yes, and
now she has no contact really with her kids. Oh yeah, there was
what was that at the end they brought up? I know, I can't
remember. Oh, yeah, no, she he was she was trying to
make the kids, Yeah, like think that they were sick or like going
to school. Oh, like the kids said, that's what mommy used to
do. Yes, there was something that she put around their uh nack now
and vaguely remembering that, but yeah, that was at the very end of
the dock and they just kind of slid it under there. Yeah, and
I was like, wait, what something totally abusive that she was doing.
It was like munch houses. Yeah, that's what mom used to do to
make us sick or something like. Yes, that's what they said. Yes,
yeah, that's right. I mean she won so much crazier than we
ever thought at the beginning. I'm so glad they finally made this documentary.
Yeah, but where's it been all these years? I don't know. But
then also, you know, on Lifetime. I think it's on Lifetime.
I just saw the ad for it that the there's a you know, they
do the docuseries of shows like of Crime. So they're doing the one of
the the dad that moved into the dorm of the school of the college.
Yeah, that's that is a whole whole ass documentary. That is her crazy.
That's two documentaries. But now they're doing like there's like the actors playing
the dad. Oh, it's a lifetime like movie. Okay, yeah,
so that's coming out, like, oh, that's crazy. Do you know
that show that you know that any twenty first century? Yes crime? Yes.
Do you know how hard it was for me to track that down?
How did you find it? Because I told friends then they were like I
was telling my friend and they were like, I can't find it. You
have to get the app. You have to get to get an A and
E app. So if you look on your like cable provider, because I
have Spectrum, I go to put it in and it says this is not
available, and I'm like, I know I'm spelling it right, you know.
I finally found it. I found it online. I went online to
A and E and then I and then I had to connect it had to
connect with my provider, which it did so I was able to watch it
on my computer. The only way to watch it on my TV was to
get the A and E app, which you know, was just like,
it's like a whole it's a whole caushah. Yeah, But I finally did
and I did watch a couple episodes of it on my computer so far.
Yeah. Good, it's good. Right, it's good. It's kind of
worth it. Yeah, it's worth it. Oh my god. It then
somebody found me, you know how I was describing the story. Yeah,
Port Angelus, Washington. That was on American Justice, and somebody freaking found
it for me. And this is another thing. Remember when we used to
do ads a long time ago for Pluto TV. Yes, I had to
download Pluto TV. But it was worth it because I got to watch that
episode. It's called Windrous Medicine and it's from season nine of American Justice.
And you can freaking watch American Justice on Pluto TV. You can. Yes,
Oh it's free and it's free, So you gotta download the Pluto downloaded
Pluto TV. It was it was another Kashaw. I had to like,
you have to get sign in and get a password. I was like,
is this going to be worth it, but it was It's worth it because
I got to watch that episode and I was like every minute of it.
I'm like, oh, yes, I remember it. It's the way I
remember it. Oh my gosh. Well, I'm going to download Pluto TV
now. Yeah, dangerous Medicine, Okay, crazy story. I'm going to
watch it. Remember how much we loved Bill Curtis. Yes, I guess
he's big belly and then he buttoned that always with the black leather. Yeah.
I was like, I don't remember being this chunky. Really, he's
a little chunky monkey. Yeah. The coats trying like fighting, the buzzers
are fighting in a little bit, and I was like, but you know
what more power Bill, like, you go for it. And the only
reason I say that is because I told you John has been told me he's
just a crazy asshole. Oh Bill Curtis, Yes, yes, he was
just an absolute monster to work with. Really. Yeah, that sucks,
I know. But he's very talented. Yeah, it's very talented. Great
voice, yes, great voice. And some people were talking about the fact
that they loved City Confidential, and I'm gonna tell you, yes that that
was a good show, but too much about the city. Yeah, don't
mean yeah, And if it's not my city, then who cares? It's
not Recia Vans like, I don't need a twenty minute lead in about Pittsburgh.
Did get to the crime? Right? I know? I hate that?
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