WEBVTT 1 00:00:06.400 --> 00:00:09.640 Hello, this is Laura Kane after dark I know, and the nick of 2 00:00:09.720 --> 00:00:16.000 time. Eric slips on his headphones. Okay, first of all, there's 3 00:00:16.039 --> 00:00:18.800 two things. I'm Laura Kane. By the way, this is Eric Rimmer. 4 00:00:19.039 --> 00:00:26.399 You look gorgeous. By the way, how much do you want money? 5 00:00:26.600 --> 00:00:28.600 Because that was really nice. I don't think you've ever said that to 6 00:00:28.640 --> 00:00:31.879 me before on the podcast. I say that to you all the time, 7 00:00:31.960 --> 00:00:36.520 not on the podcast, I do. But these puppies are a little bit 8 00:00:36.600 --> 00:00:41.679 like, is that magic hair? Of course it is? Okay, tape 9 00:00:41.719 --> 00:00:45.320 on hair? Are you kidding me? Anyway? You can't run my hand 10 00:00:45.359 --> 00:00:47.719 for your hair. 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Cool? 72 00:05:42.120 --> 00:05:45.839 Oh boy? All right, So we're going to start off. Eric's going 73 00:05:45.879 --> 00:05:48.879 to start off the host chat because he has something pretty personal that he wants 74 00:05:48.920 --> 00:05:56.439 to share with you. And I can't even imagine how this must feel. 75 00:05:57.399 --> 00:06:08.839 And please. So I found out on Saturday. I have one brother from 76 00:06:09.519 --> 00:06:19.360 my one biological brother, and I found out Friday that he had passed away. 77 00:06:20.439 --> 00:06:30.480 And I found out via a family member that lives in another country. 78 00:06:30.560 --> 00:06:36.240 Because you were estranged, we were we were very close growing up. We 79 00:06:36.240 --> 00:06:41.000 were very close all through our adulthood, and then when my mom got sick 80 00:06:41.079 --> 00:06:45.560 is when things kind of went south. And I had always hope for a 81 00:06:45.560 --> 00:06:48.639 reconciliation, and it just didn't happen. And so when I found out that 82 00:06:48.680 --> 00:06:57.560 my brother was sick, I also found out through someone else. So I 83 00:06:57.639 --> 00:07:03.199 did my best two reach out and it you did, it didn't happen. 84 00:07:03.519 --> 00:07:09.360 You reached out, he reached back. It was pretty It wasn't real deep 85 00:07:09.439 --> 00:07:13.000 or anything at all. It was very surface kind of You said I love 86 00:07:13.040 --> 00:07:17.000 you to him. Yeah, we said it to each other. And so 87 00:07:19.120 --> 00:07:24.879 lots of stuff has just been kind of flooding through the last couple of days. 88 00:07:25.160 --> 00:07:27.839 Are you all right? Yeah, Yeah, I'm okay. You know, 89 00:07:27.959 --> 00:07:30.360 I made my peace with it, and that's all you can do in 90 00:07:30.399 --> 00:07:35.040 a situation like that. Now you were telling me how strange it feels. 91 00:07:35.680 --> 00:07:41.800 It it does because everybody in my family is gone. Now you are the 92 00:07:41.920 --> 00:07:46.240 last one standing and the last one standing. Yeah, mother, your father, 93 00:07:46.600 --> 00:07:49.600 and now your brother, and my mom's only sister is gone, and 94 00:07:49.639 --> 00:07:55.560 your grandparents parents are gone. Eric. Yeah, so it's very weird. 95 00:07:55.800 --> 00:08:01.519 So, like the last seventy two hours, I've just been very I've gotten 96 00:08:01.560 --> 00:08:07.240 in my head a lot about like should I And with the exception of my 97 00:08:07.319 --> 00:08:11.680 grandparents and my father, nobody has died of cancer we we didn't, it 98 00:08:11.680 --> 00:08:16.879 didn't run in our family. So now the last three people have all died 99 00:08:16.959 --> 00:08:20.480 of different forms of cancer. So it's one of those things where I'm like, 100 00:08:20.480 --> 00:08:24.399 well, is that what I'm gonna, you know, go from. 101 00:08:24.439 --> 00:08:31.480 So I'm just you know, uh, just keeping positive about it. I'm 102 00:08:31.560 --> 00:08:33.639 just like, you know, if it's going to happen, it's going to 103 00:08:33.679 --> 00:08:37.960 happen. There's nothing you can do about it. So but I do have 104 00:08:39.000 --> 00:08:43.240 a doctor's appointment on the first Oh good because they can detect that yr so 105 00:08:45.679 --> 00:08:50.919 but detectif you markers or whatever. Yeah. So yeah, that just kind 106 00:08:50.919 --> 00:08:56.879 of freaked me out. And so but yeah, I'm going to attend the 107 00:08:56.879 --> 00:09:03.600 funeral. I feel like it's the right thing to do for me and just 108 00:09:03.720 --> 00:09:09.639 kind of to honor my family because I was very close with my parents and 109 00:09:09.759 --> 00:09:13.200 my aunt and my brother. Until it's the right thing to do. Yeah, 110 00:09:13.240 --> 00:09:16.799 And I thought it's going to be really hard, it's going to be 111 00:09:16.039 --> 00:09:22.840 very weird. I don't know, you know, there's kids involved. Yeah, 112 00:09:22.879 --> 00:09:28.120 and I have not seen them since two years. No, it's been 113 00:09:30.080 --> 00:09:33.200 a little over five. Oh oh wow. Yeah, because I haven't seen 114 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:41.039 them since my mom was diagnosed. Okay, so, uh, it's going 115 00:09:41.120 --> 00:09:48.480 to be very weird. Have you seen I wanted to ask you if you 116 00:09:48.639 --> 00:09:54.679 have seen any signs from my brother, from any from any your dad, 117 00:09:54.799 --> 00:09:58.720 your mom, your well maybe not your brother quite yet, but my mom. 118 00:09:58.840 --> 00:10:03.360 Yes, what have you said? Dragonflies? Okay? Because I so 119 00:10:03.639 --> 00:10:09.200 believe that they are still here with us. We might. We just don't 120 00:10:09.240 --> 00:10:16.440 have the senses. We don't have the ability to see beyond right. But 121 00:10:16.000 --> 00:10:18.759 I mean, after you tell the story about the dragonflies, I have a 122 00:10:18.799 --> 00:10:22.799 story to tell you that's crazy too. I have two crazy stories that is 123 00:10:22.879 --> 00:10:30.399 like for me proof that there is after life. Well, I think I've 124 00:10:30.919 --> 00:10:33.799 talked about it on the show before. My dad when I was growing up, 125 00:10:33.879 --> 00:10:39.679 he was we there wasn't cell phones like I'm old. So there no 126 00:10:39.879 --> 00:10:41.919 computers, right, there was no computers in nothing. There was no cellon 127 00:10:43.480 --> 00:10:46.360 There are bicycles and skateboards and we'd go up and down the street. We 128 00:10:46.399 --> 00:10:50.000 wouldn't come home till five and then we have dinner. We had a black 129 00:10:50.000 --> 00:10:52.480 and white TV and you had to get up to turn the cable the three 130 00:10:52.559 --> 00:10:58.399 channels that was on. So my dad was the phone that we had, 131 00:10:58.559 --> 00:11:03.759 the rotary phone that we had on the wall that I had stretched the cord 132 00:11:03.759 --> 00:11:05.639 out so far because I would go out on the patio and talk to my 133 00:11:05.720 --> 00:11:09.440 girlfriends out there. I'm sure. Yeah, my dad would be like, 134 00:11:09.759 --> 00:11:13.759 get off the content, oh my, and the phone the cord was so 135 00:11:13.960 --> 00:11:20.720 stretched out. So when he died, I had and he died about oh 136 00:11:20.799 --> 00:11:28.879 gosh. In I think it's been fifteen or sixteen years. The day he 137 00:11:28.919 --> 00:11:33.799 died. That night, I had come home from the hospital and my phone 138 00:11:33.879 --> 00:11:35.559 rang. I had a landline, and I picked it up and it was 139 00:11:35.679 --> 00:11:41.759 just static, Hello, Hello, hung up. It happened again, and 140 00:11:41.879 --> 00:11:45.840 so then I didn't think anything about it. And then my mom called and 141 00:11:45.879 --> 00:11:48.360 said did you call me? And I said no, and she's like, 142 00:11:48.440 --> 00:11:52.080 well, that's weird. The phone rang, and when I picked it up, 143 00:11:52.080 --> 00:11:56.039 it was just static at the exact same time that had happened to me. 144 00:11:56.639 --> 00:11:58.000 Wow, So it was really weird. I was like, well, 145 00:11:58.000 --> 00:12:03.080 that was probably because my mom and I were both guilty of always talking on 146 00:12:03.120 --> 00:12:07.039 the phone. And is that where you get it? Oh? Yeah, 147 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:09.600 there was no call. Phone talker. Eric is a phone talker. I'm 148 00:12:09.639 --> 00:12:13.000 so not a phone talker, but yeah, and I always trying to get 149 00:12:13.039 --> 00:12:15.320 help the fire. I know. She's always like, oh, I just 150 00:12:15.399 --> 00:12:20.960 dropped my napkin. I'm yeah. I always try to go, oh, 151 00:12:20.000 --> 00:12:24.799 I got to do a traffic report. I'm sure you do. It's true. 152 00:12:24.360 --> 00:12:26.879 You're probably sitting there paying your dails. You're just like, oh, 153 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:31.080 I want to do this traffic report. Yeah. Yeah. But then my 154 00:12:31.120 --> 00:12:37.120 mom was dragonflies and and okay, So my mom heard that you are to 155 00:12:37.360 --> 00:12:43.799 ask those that have passed to show you a sign and a color. So 156 00:12:43.120 --> 00:12:48.919 her brother, my uncle, passed away many many years ago, and about 157 00:12:48.960 --> 00:12:52.679 six months after, my mom was thinking about him her brother and said, 158 00:12:52.039 --> 00:12:58.879 Pat, I would love to know that you're okay, and I'd love to 159 00:12:58.960 --> 00:13:05.799 see show me something in the color yellow. The next day, she worked 160 00:13:05.879 --> 00:13:11.200 upstairs. There was like two story building and the windows were open, there 161 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:18.600 were no screens, and she was a bookkeeper. One day in flies through 162 00:13:18.639 --> 00:13:26.120 the window a canary and landed on her head. Canaries are yellow house. 163 00:13:26.279 --> 00:13:31.440 Okay, so that's crazy. And then okay, so recently, okay, 164 00:13:31.559 --> 00:13:37.840 my dad passed away twenty five years ago and he was sixty years old. 165 00:13:37.879 --> 00:13:43.960 He was too young to die. And my best friend Stacy and her parents 166 00:13:45.000 --> 00:13:48.480 and my parents, we all grow up grew up together. So my parents 167 00:13:48.519 --> 00:13:52.000 were friends with her parents, but my dad and her dad weren't like super 168 00:13:52.039 --> 00:13:56.080 close. Okay, so that's the backstory. So her dad recently passed. 169 00:13:56.960 --> 00:14:01.320 When they went in to clean his house, everything was neat, everything was 170 00:14:01.360 --> 00:14:05.120 like he was OCD kind of, and he didn't know he was going to 171 00:14:05.360 --> 00:14:09.120 die in the hospital. He didn't know that he was not that ill, 172 00:14:09.200 --> 00:14:13.360 but he got ill in the hospital. The only three things he had on 173 00:14:13.399 --> 00:14:20.159 his desk were two bills and my dad's funeral card. Like, my dad 174 00:14:20.200 --> 00:14:24.919 died twenty five years ago, why didn't he didn't have his wife's or his 175 00:14:24.039 --> 00:14:28.519 sisters or his mother's. He had my dad's. That's it. Three things, 176 00:14:30.000 --> 00:14:37.279 isn't that bizarre? And then one more thing and then because I and 177 00:14:37.320 --> 00:14:41.120 then we'll get back to, you know, talking about your brother. But 178 00:14:43.519 --> 00:14:48.840 when I before I went to rehab, I was a fifty one fifty you 179 00:14:48.879 --> 00:14:52.320 know what that is, and so you have to be three days in a 180 00:14:52.399 --> 00:15:01.840 mental facility. So I was hysterical. It was it's a very long story, 181 00:15:01.840 --> 00:15:03.720 but it was really hard. I didn't know what was going on. 182 00:15:03.879 --> 00:15:07.120 I didn't know where my kids were. Nobody was talking to me. It 183 00:15:07.200 --> 00:15:11.440 was like crazy. I was crying, crying, crying. So that night 184 00:15:11.480 --> 00:15:16.759 I went to sleep in the blue plastic beds that they have in the mental 185 00:15:16.799 --> 00:15:22.440 hospital, and I fell asleep. Then I heard a knock on the door 186 00:15:22.000 --> 00:15:28.000 of my room. I opened the door and my dad is standing there. 187 00:15:28.159 --> 00:15:33.159 Clear, this is so vivid to me. I can't the colors. What 188 00:15:33.279 --> 00:15:37.919 he was wearing is like the outfit, like a sweatshirt with a stripe on 189 00:15:37.039 --> 00:15:43.320 it, and his jeans, and he looked super healthy. And I remember 190 00:15:43.440 --> 00:15:50.120 looking at him and thinking he must I'm looking both scared and surprised and happy 191 00:15:50.159 --> 00:15:54.480 at the same time. I wonder what that looks like. And then I 192 00:15:54.519 --> 00:15:58.720 went to hug him, and I could feel his shoulder bones and I could 193 00:15:58.759 --> 00:16:00.120 I went on my tiptoes. I had to go on my tiptoes to hug 194 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:03.960 him because he was tall. And then he goes, come with me, 195 00:16:04.039 --> 00:16:10.200 and he took my hand and we went down the hallway of the hospital and 196 00:16:10.240 --> 00:16:11.600 then he goes, look what I can do, and he jumped through the 197 00:16:11.639 --> 00:16:15.480 ceiling and then he jumped down through the floor and then he came back up 198 00:16:15.519 --> 00:16:18.879 and then he said I gotta go. I said, okay, and then 199 00:16:18.080 --> 00:16:23.720 I woke up and I'm like, Okay, that was not a dream. 200 00:16:25.200 --> 00:16:29.679 This is my lowest point in my life, aside from losing my father. 201 00:16:30.600 --> 00:16:34.519 And there he was. Yeah, so I'm telling you they're with you. 202 00:16:34.840 --> 00:16:40.799 Yeah, my mom the day she died. They had My dad was a 203 00:16:40.879 --> 00:16:48.200 landscape archidesc so they their property was beautiful and I just wanted to take a 204 00:16:48.240 --> 00:16:55.000 walk around the gardens, and you know, there was it's called nandina and 205 00:16:55.039 --> 00:17:00.440 it's a very short form of bamboo, and it's very colorful green, and 206 00:17:00.440 --> 00:17:03.519 it's red and it gets these red berries on it, and they had it 207 00:17:03.559 --> 00:17:07.440 along a perimeter of their property in the front yard. And I got the 208 00:17:07.480 --> 00:17:14.359 hose and I was just you know, kind of water watering and just kind 209 00:17:14.359 --> 00:17:18.599 of in my head, and all of a sudden, out straight out from 210 00:17:18.759 --> 00:17:27.640 the Nandina comes and my mom loved like purples and pinks and stuff like that 211 00:17:30.079 --> 00:17:37.319 purple dragon like an iridescent purple dragonfly, and it flew around my head and 212 00:17:37.359 --> 00:17:42.319 then it flew away, and then a couple I don't know, maybe a 213 00:17:42.440 --> 00:17:47.200 month or two later, I was working on a TV show and we were 214 00:17:47.240 --> 00:17:53.880 in way out in the desert and it was a show about equine therapy for 215 00:17:53.920 --> 00:17:59.319 people that have been through traumatic experiences. And during my lunch break, I 216 00:17:59.359 --> 00:18:06.119 was walking along this little creek that was on the property and two dragonflies and 217 00:18:06.680 --> 00:18:10.079 I hadn't seen a dragonfly in I don't remember the last time I've seen a 218 00:18:10.160 --> 00:18:15.799 dragon one hundred years, Like, you're not super cool, no, And 219 00:18:15.880 --> 00:18:18.480 there they were sitting on a little stone on the creek and I was walking 220 00:18:18.519 --> 00:18:22.519 by, and they flew up, flew around my head, and then flew 221 00:18:22.559 --> 00:18:25.400 back down on the rock. And now, every once in a while, 222 00:18:25.480 --> 00:18:30.079 like when I've been hiking and stuff like that, every once in a while, 223 00:18:30.880 --> 00:18:33.640 you know, I'll just go hi, mom m hmm, yeah, 224 00:18:33.119 --> 00:18:37.240 gosh, I know. You just keep your eyes open because I think your 225 00:18:37.240 --> 00:18:41.200 brother's going to send you signs to I don't know. Was there a thing 226 00:18:41.279 --> 00:18:45.200 growing up? But it's not an anvila like falling on my Oh no, 227 00:18:45.319 --> 00:18:49.440 when you go to the other side, all is forgiven and everybody's happy. 228 00:18:49.880 --> 00:18:56.880 That's what I think. Anyway, piano was going to fall out of window, 229 00:18:56.839 --> 00:19:03.720 not walking on around eddie ladders or terrible. That's terrible. Okay, 230 00:19:04.279 --> 00:19:10.119 Now do you have any double D news before we bring on? I actually 231 00:19:10.160 --> 00:19:15.759 do okay, so, oh, let's played double D music so we can 232 00:19:15.200 --> 00:19:22.400 sound like we got our stuff together. Oh my gosh, no, you 233 00:19:22.440 --> 00:19:25.079 can start the double d's. You don't need to wave to people on Instagram. 234 00:19:25.359 --> 00:19:26.839 It's not an intro. It's just backtrack. Oh it is, that's 235 00:19:26.880 --> 00:19:30.799 right. The Coachella Festival has experienced the slowest ticket sales in ten years. 236 00:19:30.799 --> 00:19:36.119 Passes are still available for both weekends, which in previous years sell out in 237 00:19:36.200 --> 00:19:40.839 minutes. Who cares, well, there's no I mean. The headliners include 238 00:19:41.119 --> 00:19:44.400 Lena del Ray, Dojakat, and Tyler the Creator. I have no doubt 239 00:19:44.640 --> 00:19:48.640 idea who. Tyler the Creator is actually pretty good headliners. Tyler the Creator. 240 00:19:48.680 --> 00:19:53.240 I saw him when I saw Eminem, Beyonce and uh, Tyler the 241 00:19:53.359 --> 00:19:57.559 Creator and it was really great Coachell. Oh really, Oh you were there 242 00:19:57.599 --> 00:20:00.559 that year? Uh huh, I wasn't there. I saw video of Eminem's 243 00:20:00.559 --> 00:20:06.400 performance and it was pretty it was so I'm a huge Eminem, huge, 244 00:20:06.480 --> 00:20:10.680 huge, huge, and the Beyonce it was. Coachell is too packed. 245 00:20:10.720 --> 00:20:15.319 I can't. I can't. I'm too old. I'm too old to deal 246 00:20:15.319 --> 00:20:22.279 with that many people. It's Michael Tyler anyway, it's fun. It wasn't 247 00:20:22.559 --> 00:20:26.519 You can't get anything to drink eat, I mean lines, lines, lines, 248 00:20:26.640 --> 00:20:30.799 But anyway, you would never find me. Oh my god, you 249 00:20:30.839 --> 00:20:33.599 would have a panic attack. You would melt, you would. I don't 250 00:20:33.640 --> 00:20:38.319 know. I can't do crowds like that, and it's dirty. I don't. 251 00:20:38.440 --> 00:20:42.559 I don't houses. No, I do not pooper pee in an outhouse. 252 00:20:42.680 --> 00:20:48.359 I will find a bush and risk getting arrested. My no way, 253 00:20:48.640 --> 00:20:51.279 you won't be alone, that's the thing. I will not poop into a 254 00:20:51.359 --> 00:20:56.440 hole. We're five hundred other people. Please, way were going to happen? 255 00:20:56.319 --> 00:21:03.319 Oh that was too much. You have a come on, I don't 256 00:21:03.400 --> 00:21:06.960 want She's not gonna come up here now. I know that's the problem. 257 00:21:07.160 --> 00:21:10.680 She's probably glad that she's saitting. God, I know that's why I purposely 258 00:21:10.759 --> 00:21:15.680 do that. John Stewart is returning to the Daily Show on Comedy Central, 259 00:21:15.759 --> 00:21:18.359 but only on Monday nights. That's cool. I heard the week would be 260 00:21:18.359 --> 00:21:25.440 handled by team of correspondence. He wasn't good. Yeah, what excuse me? 261 00:21:25.680 --> 00:21:26.960 You're excused? Oh boy, I don't think he was that good. 262 00:21:27.119 --> 00:21:30.240 What do you think Trevor Noah is like amazing? No? I think political 263 00:21:30.319 --> 00:21:37.640 commentaries as an entertainment is generally not fun at all. I think that John 264 00:21:37.680 --> 00:21:42.359 Stewart was very very clever and witty and funny, and I he was one 265 00:21:42.359 --> 00:21:45.960 of those guys that would just poke issues and then anyone came at him and 266 00:21:45.000 --> 00:21:47.480 be like, oh, I'm just a comedian. He was just like, 267 00:21:47.640 --> 00:21:52.720 yeah, he got kind of tiring. Well, wow, that's okay, 268 00:21:52.440 --> 00:21:56.000 only Monday nights. Okay, you can not that you watch that show any 269 00:21:56.079 --> 00:22:00.119 night? And I don't think are you guys watching Chris? I tried to 270 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:07.319 watch that on Netflix. It's with Sophia. I can't. I'm not. 271 00:22:07.480 --> 00:22:10.720 I couldn't get into it. She is gonna walk away with every Emmy. 272 00:22:10.920 --> 00:22:15.400 I don't think so. I think she's so good. Did you try to 273 00:22:15.440 --> 00:22:22.880 watch clips? I think she wants this to be her Emmy Award, but 274 00:22:22.960 --> 00:22:26.519 I don't think it's gonna happen. It's gonna happen. Well, I'm that's 275 00:22:26.039 --> 00:22:29.079 well, you know that's sweet, that's nice. Is that all you have 276 00:22:29.200 --> 00:22:33.160 for Double D's No? Oh, okay, did you hear Taylor Swift and 277 00:22:33.240 --> 00:22:37.039 Travis Kelsey are getting engaged? Oh my, that's a room. At least 278 00:22:37.119 --> 00:22:41.960 that's what one celebrity astrologer thinks, and he's an astrologer. Yes, well, 279 00:22:41.039 --> 00:22:45.200 Laura, you should take that as fact. Kyle Thomas has been featured 280 00:22:45.240 --> 00:22:48.559 on tons of outlets, and he is saying that it's happening. They are 281 00:22:48.680 --> 00:22:53.200 so they're so cute, they're gonna have babies, like right away. Oh 282 00:22:53.319 --> 00:22:57.720 I care I'm a Swift ye, because I'm kind of like Taylor Swift. 283 00:22:59.519 --> 00:23:03.359 I do not know who he is at all. He's an NFL player and 284 00:23:03.440 --> 00:23:06.440 they're in the they're in the championship, and yeah, of course the one 285 00:23:06.519 --> 00:23:08.720 year to me, this is the best. This is the best evidence of 286 00:23:08.720 --> 00:23:12.039 the NFL is he starts dating Taylor Swift and they're going to the super Bowl. 287 00:23:12.200 --> 00:23:17.240 Wait that you think that that's you think that it's rigged. No, 288 00:23:17.440 --> 00:23:19.000 but I'm just saying that's the best evidence we'll ever have is the one he 289 00:23:19.119 --> 00:23:22.319 just starts day in Taylor Swift and boom, he's going to the super Bowl. 290 00:23:22.359 --> 00:23:25.400 So get the most camera time for her. Good luck charm. That's 291 00:23:25.880 --> 00:23:30.160 great. It's just he's happy. So he's playing. Well that's not what 292 00:23:30.359 --> 00:23:34.240 he's not like a quarterback. Well, so what anyway? That was cool? 293 00:23:34.400 --> 00:23:42.640 I think I understood out of everything that you said was tight end all 294 00:23:42.960 --> 00:23:48.960 I understood out of that whole thing. Else Chaer was again denied conservatorship over 295 00:23:48.119 --> 00:23:53.240 her son Elijah Allman. Oh, and he has what issues, substance abuse, 296 00:23:53.640 --> 00:23:59.039 and she's afraid that he's going to blow through his whole He gets a 297 00:23:59.319 --> 00:24:03.240 what do you call it, allowed trust, his huge trust. That's kind 298 00:24:03.279 --> 00:24:04.160 of min I mean, that's not a minor issue. That's kind of a 299 00:24:04.200 --> 00:24:07.920 minor issue for a conservatorship. Though, well, I guess there's been a 300 00:24:07.960 --> 00:24:11.799 lot of issues, so yeah, I mean, look at Brittany. She 301 00:24:11.799 --> 00:24:15.000 should have like a full like public you know, collapse to get the conservatorship. 302 00:24:15.400 --> 00:24:19.480 She had shave her head and hit someone with a an umbrella. Yeah. 303 00:24:19.599 --> 00:24:25.519 El Kim Kardashian is producing a Liz Taylor doc. So now she's a 304 00:24:25.559 --> 00:24:30.400 producer and she's appearing in it too. Oh my gosh, I will probably 305 00:24:30.519 --> 00:24:36.279 pass on that. Wait, like Liz Taylor the clothing brand, No, 306 00:24:36.559 --> 00:24:41.000 Elizabeth I was thinking about? Tell me he doesn't know who Elizabeth Taylor is. 307 00:24:41.079 --> 00:24:42.960 No, I'm kidding, who is he thinking about? Clothing brand? 308 00:24:44.480 --> 00:24:48.279 Gloria Vanderbilt. No, you missed it over the head a little bit. 309 00:24:48.359 --> 00:24:52.160 That's mine too. Okay. It's called Elizabeth Taylor Rebels Superstar and it's on 310 00:24:52.279 --> 00:24:56.200 the BBC and it's a three part series. Wow. Okay, so she's 311 00:24:56.200 --> 00:24:59.920 gonna make more money, more money, more money, more money. Well 312 00:25:00.680 --> 00:25:04.079 okay, that is all. Okay, let's play our intro music and bring 313 00:25:04.240 --> 00:25:12.039 her on. Yeah, baby joy maker, wonderful person, always smiling, 314 00:25:14.759 --> 00:25:21.279 Come up, Lucinda Kay. She is a reporter at Cogo AM six hundred 315 00:25:21.839 --> 00:25:26.680 for iHeartRadio here in San Diego. But not only that, She's been many 316 00:25:26.720 --> 00:25:32.480 other things, and she is many other things. And here, Oh, 317 00:25:32.680 --> 00:25:36.920 this is what I was gonna do. I was gonna I know the way, 318 00:25:37.079 --> 00:25:40.920 hold the way that this is all set up. Oh my god, 319 00:25:41.799 --> 00:25:45.920 thea very well. Now I'm going to slide out because I'm going to move 320 00:25:47.240 --> 00:25:55.200 this over there so they can see her. You guys love your shoes, 321 00:25:55.400 --> 00:26:00.839 Eric, thank you, thank you. Oh my gosh, I love I 322 00:26:00.920 --> 00:26:04.880 pretty much wear some version of sneaker running shoes every day. I have to 323 00:26:04.920 --> 00:26:11.759 buy clothes to go with my I buy shoes to go with my so many. 324 00:26:11.680 --> 00:26:18.799 I think these are the Puma. It was a a thing that they 325 00:26:18.880 --> 00:26:22.720 did with Dunkin Donuts. So I have these shoes in three different styles. 326 00:26:23.440 --> 00:26:26.839 See, yeah, there's a little donut on it. Oh my god, 327 00:26:26.960 --> 00:26:33.039 those are do you know? Do you honestly like those of them? Really? 328 00:26:33.440 --> 00:26:36.880 Them? Okay, so I need to adjust this differently. How's that? 329 00:26:37.480 --> 00:26:38.799 That's good? You know how to work a mic? I know. 330 00:26:40.039 --> 00:26:45.160 I just I don't want to miss I don't want to mess up whatever. 331 00:26:45.279 --> 00:26:51.039 Brian, Oh no, he fixes it. If it's mess he fixed it. 332 00:26:51.119 --> 00:26:52.799 Okay, he fixed it. So thank you so much for joining us. 333 00:26:53.960 --> 00:26:57.759 This is my pleasure. I'm so honored. You came into the building 334 00:26:59.000 --> 00:27:03.000 and like me, I will sometimes you have to pass through sometimes the news 335 00:27:03.119 --> 00:27:07.559 room to get from traffic over to like a radio station in the iHeart building. 336 00:27:08.160 --> 00:27:12.279 And there she was with the biggest smile and Hi, I'm Lucinda. 337 00:27:12.400 --> 00:27:15.920 I'm like, oh my god, you want to come out and play on 338 00:27:15.279 --> 00:27:21.200 my friends. That girl. I'm still waiting to find my best friend. 339 00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:29.599 Oh it? Can we be work best friends? Oh my god, I 340 00:27:29.720 --> 00:27:33.440 just I don't have a work best friend. Oh my god. The hallway. 341 00:27:33.559 --> 00:27:37.359 Okay, that's awesome. Now when I was you said, you know 342 00:27:37.440 --> 00:27:40.680 what that means? What does that mean? You're going to turn my best 343 00:27:40.720 --> 00:27:45.759 friend? Yes? Oh, and you know, well, that means guys 344 00:27:45.759 --> 00:27:48.279 are gonna make me cry. No, you know what that means, because 345 00:27:48.359 --> 00:27:52.640 he he claims that I'm his best friend, but it's not true. He 346 00:27:52.880 --> 00:27:56.200 has Marla has his best friend, his girl. They grew up together. 347 00:27:56.240 --> 00:27:59.119 And that's fine. I'm number two and I'm fine with that. But then 348 00:27:59.160 --> 00:28:03.400 there's Karen. I thought you were number three. I'm neck and neck with 349 00:28:03.599 --> 00:28:08.440 Karen right now. So if Lucinda comes in the picture, she's gonna surpass 350 00:28:08.680 --> 00:28:22.200 I think me for sure. And there's possibly Karen's levels. There Eric's angels. 351 00:28:22.920 --> 00:28:26.960 Oh god, that is no. There needs to be a one to 352 00:28:26.039 --> 00:28:32.200 two and a three and a four. I'm Charlie and then you in your 353 00:28:32.240 --> 00:28:37.759 own set. No, that's not the way to do it. Well, 354 00:28:37.960 --> 00:28:42.440 Okay, what intrigued me about your bio that you sent me about your past 355 00:28:42.559 --> 00:28:48.839 is that you had a really hard time growing up and that you easily could 356 00:28:48.079 --> 00:28:52.480 have turned to drugs, alcohol, a whole different kind of life, but 357 00:28:52.640 --> 00:28:57.240 you steered in a different direction. Can you elaborate on that a little bit. 358 00:28:57.519 --> 00:29:02.079 Yeah, I grew up in a lot of love and a lot of 359 00:29:02.200 --> 00:29:07.720 chaos, and a lot of my mommy and daddy loved me and built me 360 00:29:07.839 --> 00:29:11.279 up, and then a lot of really hard times. My daddy was a 361 00:29:11.359 --> 00:29:17.279 heroin addict and my daddy was clean. Our lives were full of creativity and 362 00:29:17.480 --> 00:29:21.400 brilliant. Who I haven't talked about, Oh, my daddy for a long 363 00:29:21.480 --> 00:29:27.359 time. And when he was clean and sober, then our lives were full 364 00:29:27.400 --> 00:29:33.240 of vibrancy and creativity. My daddy was brilliant and he was super talented. 365 00:29:33.440 --> 00:29:40.200 And my mommy is steady and a hard ass worker, and she made our 366 00:29:40.279 --> 00:29:44.400 lives happen. Oh are they still with us? My mommy is still with 367 00:29:44.559 --> 00:29:48.079 us. Yeah. And my daddy odeed when he was forty eight. Oh 368 00:29:48.160 --> 00:29:56.279 my, oh my god. I'm how old were you I was? Let's 369 00:29:56.279 --> 00:30:00.839 see, I guess I was twenty three. But before that we were gifted 370 00:30:03.079 --> 00:30:07.599 a full year of sobriety as a grown up. You know, we'd had 371 00:30:07.680 --> 00:30:12.799 lots of on and off right through my childhood, but as a young adult 372 00:30:14.000 --> 00:30:18.640 then I got to have a full year with my daddy clean. You know 373 00:30:19.079 --> 00:30:23.440 Nina's friend. Yeah, that's yeah, it was amazing. How old were 374 00:30:23.440 --> 00:30:27.200 you at that point? I think I was twenty three? Oh okay, 375 00:30:27.400 --> 00:30:33.640 yeah, so you did you make it like this, did this shit decision 376 00:30:33.759 --> 00:30:36.359 to just say, like, I'm not going down that path. I'm going 377 00:30:36.440 --> 00:30:41.480 to take a totally different turn here. And what made you go into this 378 00:30:41.640 --> 00:30:44.039 profession? Because I know you've been on TV news, you've been a TV 379 00:30:44.160 --> 00:30:45.839 anchor, you've been a radio on you're in radio now, But like, 380 00:30:45.960 --> 00:30:51.880 what made you jump into this field? You know, when I when I 381 00:30:52.039 --> 00:30:57.000 was a little girl, I have always been full of light and see light 382 00:30:57.119 --> 00:31:03.519 in others, and so that it really just afforded me if people always came 383 00:31:03.559 --> 00:31:07.680 along my path to help look after me. I have so many mentors in 384 00:31:07.920 --> 00:31:10.880 my life, so many people helped me get to where I am today. 385 00:31:11.519 --> 00:31:14.440 My mommy and all these amazing I always say, I come from a mighty 386 00:31:14.519 --> 00:31:19.880 tribe of women. They each Auntie taught me a different skill and kept me 387 00:31:21.000 --> 00:31:25.119 on the right track, and I really paid attention. I was at somebody 388 00:31:25.200 --> 00:31:29.599 who I didn't have to make my own version of the same mistake. I 389 00:31:29.640 --> 00:31:32.640 can go make my own mistakes and learn from them, but you know, 390 00:31:32.720 --> 00:31:36.480 I didn't have to repeat the cycles. And I learned very early on that 391 00:31:36.599 --> 00:31:40.799 I was that I could easily become one of the statistics. I could easily 392 00:31:41.319 --> 00:31:45.599 stay in the cycle of poverty and drugs and crime and choose, you know, 393 00:31:45.880 --> 00:31:52.599 a dark path to cope, and instead, you know, I rebelled 394 00:31:52.640 --> 00:31:56.359 and went toward the light. However, I have like, I'm just surrounded 395 00:31:56.400 --> 00:31:59.759 by people who helped make that happen. Do you want to give any shout 396 00:31:59.799 --> 00:32:01.519 out? Oh, my gosh, my mommy. Everybody calls her mama, 397 00:32:01.599 --> 00:32:09.640 g mama, g. Where's is probably watching right now? Yeah, she's 398 00:32:09.720 --> 00:32:14.279 in Ashlan, Oregon, my hometown. Oh okay, beautiful, Yeah, 399 00:32:14.400 --> 00:32:16.279 she'll be here soon to visit me. My mommy. No matter where I 400 00:32:16.400 --> 00:32:21.359 have lived in my career, uh, and I've lived in other countries, 401 00:32:21.480 --> 00:32:25.519 My mommy always shows up no matter what or on the timehouse little girl, 402 00:32:25.920 --> 00:32:30.720 that woman always shows up amazing. And then all these anties. My aunt 403 00:32:30.839 --> 00:32:36.039 Gretchen, she's all about practicality, My Aunt Patty she's all about zen and 404 00:32:36.359 --> 00:32:39.440 well, let's figure out the right way to go. And my aunt Loney, 405 00:32:39.599 --> 00:32:43.680 she just teaches us how to laugh and laugh and taught me how to 406 00:32:43.799 --> 00:32:46.400 do my nails. And all of them are like in the industry hair and 407 00:32:46.599 --> 00:32:50.720 skin and nails. So I got to grow up with all these, you 408 00:32:50.799 --> 00:32:54.559 know, really lively, creative women. My aunt Leilani taught me how to 409 00:32:54.599 --> 00:32:58.359 paint my nails while I drove a car. You know. When I was 410 00:33:00.119 --> 00:33:04.599 I played Coach Nagel, the football coach in high school. He was my 411 00:33:04.839 --> 00:33:08.240 first powerlifting and bodybuilding coach. So he taught me how to be strong mentally 412 00:33:08.319 --> 00:33:13.000 and physically and showed me what a healthy man looks like. You know what 413 00:33:13.079 --> 00:33:16.000 I mean. I mean, the my list is long, y'all. It's 414 00:33:16.039 --> 00:33:21.559 a really long at all times in our life. I believe that we should 415 00:33:21.559 --> 00:33:23.240 have people we look after, and we should have people who look after us. 416 00:33:23.480 --> 00:33:29.839 So did you That's interesting because did you Growing up? It sounds like 417 00:33:29.880 --> 00:33:35.039 you gravitated more towards adults. Yes, yeah, that is true. And 418 00:33:35.160 --> 00:33:37.160 I'm a big sister, like through and through, and I have a baby 419 00:33:37.240 --> 00:33:42.759 sister, My baby sister, Sarah. She's like, oh, she's just 420 00:33:42.839 --> 00:33:46.319 such a gentle little bean. I'm like sturdy cotton and she's like silky linen. 421 00:33:46.440 --> 00:33:51.799 You know, she's all silent my oldness, you know what I mean. 422 00:33:51.880 --> 00:33:54.839 And I was a legit big sister probably had to, you know, 423 00:33:55.000 --> 00:33:59.480 like I tried to control things, you know, as a big sister does. 424 00:33:59.559 --> 00:34:04.160 In those kinds of households that I could save the day and save all 425 00:34:04.240 --> 00:34:07.079 the humans, and you know, I had to learn my way through that. 426 00:34:07.440 --> 00:34:08.679 Yeah, it's sure. I'm a big sister too, I know what 427 00:34:08.760 --> 00:34:13.360 you're talking about. Yeah, yeah, because I mean, did you did? 428 00:34:13.679 --> 00:34:15.159 Did you do? I preferred to hang out with adults that I did 429 00:34:15.199 --> 00:34:19.519 people my own age. I always hung out with people that were older than 430 00:34:19.559 --> 00:34:22.400 me. Yeah. Yeah, it's so weird the profession that we're all, 431 00:34:22.679 --> 00:34:27.880 I know, kind of in because I never because we we wanted mentors and 432 00:34:27.960 --> 00:34:30.159 weird. Yeah, and look at Brian. Brian is twenty three right now. 433 00:34:31.039 --> 00:34:36.400 Oh god, you're my mentor. I'm not saying no, that is 434 00:34:36.480 --> 00:34:38.920 not well. I'm just saying that you well, on Monday nights anyway, 435 00:34:38.920 --> 00:34:43.320 you hang out with people who are way older than you are, and in 436 00:34:43.480 --> 00:34:47.559 my case, way older, and Mike is way older. Oh yeah, 437 00:34:47.559 --> 00:34:53.880 I forgot g A birthed him geese. Anyway, you when did you come 438 00:34:54.000 --> 00:35:00.880 up with Lucinda's goodness? Oh, you know that's funny because I've been in 439 00:35:00.960 --> 00:35:05.599 the business since nineteen ninety four in TV for a long time, consulted and 440 00:35:05.800 --> 00:35:09.800 this is my second radio gigs as a news anchor, and no matter what 441 00:35:10.159 --> 00:35:15.559 market I've worked in, they have come to me and said, could you 442 00:35:15.800 --> 00:35:22.800 please create a series called And it's always been some version of Lucinda's Goodness, 443 00:35:22.199 --> 00:35:27.280 it just might have had a different name in the various markets. And I 444 00:35:27.400 --> 00:35:31.360 do a lot of coaching and I get to write and a lot of people 445 00:35:31.440 --> 00:35:36.519 will say, uh, oh, that's Lucinda's Goodness or what's your goodness today? 446 00:35:36.599 --> 00:35:39.639 Loose, just like in general conversation. So then when talking with you 447 00:35:39.760 --> 00:35:44.280 know are great bosses there, and iHeart and Cogo, Cliff and Mary. 448 00:35:44.360 --> 00:35:49.039 They're so amazing. Cliff was like, I did some really sweet, fun 449 00:35:49.159 --> 00:35:52.719 story that had a bunch of little kids in it, and he said, 450 00:35:52.719 --> 00:35:55.280 do you know that story you did last week with the little kids? That's 451 00:35:55.360 --> 00:35:59.840 what I want from I want a series like that. And I'm like, 452 00:36:00.119 --> 00:36:04.000 yeah, that's exact because I already know it's coming, right, That's that's 453 00:36:04.079 --> 00:36:07.519 part of my mission and in this in this life is to find light and 454 00:36:07.679 --> 00:36:12.559 shine it more brightly and give people a platform to shine brightly. So I 455 00:36:12.679 --> 00:36:15.480 always know it's coming, and so I got excited. I get excited when 456 00:36:15.480 --> 00:36:19.079 I'm like, Okay, here it comes and He's like, now, we 457 00:36:19.239 --> 00:36:23.320 just got to figure out what to call it, and I'm like, Lucinda's 458 00:36:23.360 --> 00:36:29.280 Goodness. He's like, yes, that's exactly what I was thinking. Like, 459 00:36:29.679 --> 00:36:34.039 I know, now, do you do a report every day? Do 460 00:36:34.119 --> 00:36:37.079 you do one every week? Is it weekly? Is it like is it 461 00:36:37.320 --> 00:36:38.840 like a time the week we can tune in and hear it. Yeah, 462 00:36:39.039 --> 00:36:42.400 yeah, for sure. So you know, I'm a news anchor, so 463 00:36:42.559 --> 00:36:49.079 I do cover all the regular news every day, but my Lucinda's Goodness airs 464 00:36:49.400 --> 00:36:52.239 every single day. It's a daily and you can hear it at six twenty 465 00:36:52.280 --> 00:36:57.159 five am, eight twenty five am, and then it's on the iHeart radio 466 00:36:57.239 --> 00:37:00.920 app and you just have to look up Lucinda's Goodness and they're all right there. 467 00:37:01.519 --> 00:37:06.920 Oh fabulous. I hope you've liked them. And they come from around 468 00:37:07.000 --> 00:37:10.679 the world. So anyone who has great story ideas for Lucinda's Goodness, you 469 00:37:10.840 --> 00:37:15.719 just have to send me a message. It's it's global. I do stories 470 00:37:15.760 --> 00:37:17.719 from I interview people all around the world. You know, what was your 471 00:37:17.760 --> 00:37:22.159 last story? Oh gosh, what was my story? Sometimes I forget what 472 00:37:22.280 --> 00:37:25.519 I do. I know, maybe maybe one of your favorite Oh I have 473 00:37:27.280 --> 00:37:31.199 that's too hard. You know. I really love stories where children are doing 474 00:37:31.239 --> 00:37:36.079 the right thing. I think my goodness this morning was about a high school 475 00:37:36.119 --> 00:37:40.039 senior where she is like a four point six y five GPA and she's a 476 00:37:40.079 --> 00:37:46.440 star on the basketball court, and she's in the San Diego Police Cadet Academy 477 00:37:46.559 --> 00:37:52.079 and she has applied to one hundred and fifty nine colleges and they've all said 478 00:37:52.159 --> 00:37:58.920 yes, Oh my gosh, yeah, So that's a beautiful young woman. 479 00:38:00.320 --> 00:38:07.360 The a rookie superstar football player from the Rams is paying to send a retired 480 00:38:07.360 --> 00:38:13.920 airman to the Super Bowl. Gosh, girl, Scout cookies are coming up. 481 00:38:13.960 --> 00:38:15.920 And last year I interviewed these two little tiny sisters, you know, 482 00:38:16.000 --> 00:38:22.800 and they all like they sang their math songs, had at everything up. 483 00:38:23.199 --> 00:38:29.039 I just the thing about goodness is that it's supposed to be a moment of 484 00:38:29.159 --> 00:38:35.320 respite. It's a chuckle, it's sweet, it's kindness, it's it's nonprofit 485 00:38:35.400 --> 00:38:39.519 work, it's it's uh it's not always uh light. Sometimes it's heavy. 486 00:38:39.920 --> 00:38:45.920 You know. Last week I talked about suicide rates among our military and that 487 00:38:45.000 --> 00:38:52.480 there's a new federal program in place that makes it so any service member can 488 00:38:52.239 --> 00:38:59.599 can receive free crisis care, whether it's a VA or a regular hospital or 489 00:38:59.639 --> 00:39:06.639 a doctor office. So that's a brand new federal policy and it saved like 490 00:39:06.800 --> 00:39:13.199 fifty one thousand. Oh my already. Yeah wow, Now that's good news. 491 00:39:13.960 --> 00:39:19.960 Yeah wow. And your family has a charity, great shape in nonprofit, 492 00:39:20.119 --> 00:39:22.119 so we'll tell us about that. And it's in your yeah, great 493 00:39:22.159 --> 00:39:27.159 shape in corporated. We were founded in nineteen eighty eight. Uh. It 494 00:39:27.320 --> 00:39:30.960 is through service, really that we found freedom. Who's we you and your 495 00:39:30.039 --> 00:39:35.639 mom? Yea in my family, yes, So, my mommy had never 496 00:39:35.719 --> 00:39:37.039 been out of the country. And my Aunt Patty, who I told you 497 00:39:37.079 --> 00:39:40.519 about, she's done a lot of traveling and she is a flower child through 498 00:39:42.280 --> 00:39:46.599 and through. She has often shown up just when you need her most. 499 00:39:47.239 --> 00:39:52.679 And my mommy hadn't been anywhere. And it's after we'd gone through a particularly 500 00:39:52.760 --> 00:39:58.280 hard time with my daddy and he didn't live in the house in the anymore. 501 00:39:58.360 --> 00:40:00.480 And my Aunt Patty says, time for you to go on an adventure. 502 00:40:00.559 --> 00:40:05.480 It's time for you to set yourself free. So she took my mama 503 00:40:05.519 --> 00:40:08.360 to Jamaica in the early eighties. And my mama says, as soon as 504 00:40:08.400 --> 00:40:14.960 she stepped off that plane, she just felt like she was home. Really, 505 00:40:15.880 --> 00:40:19.400 Oh, that's beauty in my family, no matter where we stand, 506 00:40:19.480 --> 00:40:22.920 we make family. So you know, y'all are my family, right, 507 00:40:22.079 --> 00:40:30.199 Like that's just how that's how we operate in my village. And so then 508 00:40:30.000 --> 00:40:34.159 my baby sister, and then we got to start going to Jamaica because we 509 00:40:34.280 --> 00:40:37.039 made family in Jamaica. And then a nineteen eighty eight Hurricane Gilbert hit the 510 00:40:37.119 --> 00:40:43.119 island, decimated the island, and our friends and family were suffering, and 511 00:40:43.440 --> 00:40:45.480 so we threw a reggae party. I was a senior in high school, 512 00:40:46.239 --> 00:40:52.239 and we gathered up money and supplies, and my mommy was on the first 513 00:40:52.320 --> 00:40:55.280 plane into Jamaica allowed in after the hurricane. And my mommy in those days 514 00:40:55.320 --> 00:41:00.679 could hardly speak her own name, she was so shy. And now I 515 00:41:00.800 --> 00:41:06.360 can write speeches for her and she leads humanitarian projects and she's the ambassador. 516 00:41:06.800 --> 00:41:12.079 So we grew from this Duffel Bag charity to now fast forward and we lead 517 00:41:12.159 --> 00:41:15.360 some of the world's largest international humanitarian projects. Dental care, eye care, 518 00:41:15.480 --> 00:41:22.599 literacy programs, computers, teacher training. Everyone. Everyone is welcome because we 519 00:41:22.719 --> 00:41:27.920 have a job for you and sandals Resorts International Sandal's Foundation. They are a 520 00:41:28.039 --> 00:41:31.800 number one sponsor, so they host all of our volunteers at no charge. 521 00:41:32.280 --> 00:41:35.960 You come for one week or two weeks. You work your ass off in 522 00:41:36.039 --> 00:41:38.800 the dick. Can I say ass? You can say if you want to, 523 00:41:39.199 --> 00:41:43.119 but don't. But I know you wouldn't want to say that because I 524 00:41:43.239 --> 00:41:45.320 actually learned how to say the F word in my forties. But my mama 525 00:41:45.360 --> 00:41:49.280 still doesn't like it. No, no, mama, And if moms no, 526 00:41:49.400 --> 00:41:51.480 no, no, no no. But you work your ass off in 527 00:41:51.519 --> 00:41:54.280 the daytime and then you live it up at nighttime. And Sandal's is Jamaican 528 00:41:54.400 --> 00:41:59.400 owned and now we serve on several of their other islands where they exist. 529 00:41:59.639 --> 00:42:02.760 Okay, so so you two should come, you three. I will love 530 00:42:02.880 --> 00:42:06.639 that because I would love to help people. And then, of course I've 531 00:42:06.639 --> 00:42:10.960 always wanted to go to Jamaica and I think the people there are probably incredible. 532 00:42:12.079 --> 00:42:16.480 Yeah, so how imagine this group on a plane together. Awesome, 533 00:42:16.800 --> 00:42:24.719 I would be and everybody would love it because a laughter and sure, yeah, 534 00:42:24.880 --> 00:42:31.679 just like his last airplane ride. Oh I heard about your delight was 535 00:42:31.800 --> 00:42:36.000 such a delight. Yeah, right, I would have stood up for you. 536 00:42:36.400 --> 00:42:38.559 Thank you. Yeah, big time. Yeah, I think a lot 537 00:42:38.639 --> 00:42:43.840 of people would have would have heard that. Sure, So how does one 538 00:42:44.119 --> 00:42:49.239 get a hold of you Great Shape Incorporated or becoming involved in this? Yeah? 539 00:42:49.239 --> 00:42:52.039 All you have to do is we have our website great shape ink dot 540 00:42:52.280 --> 00:42:58.639 org, great Shaping dot org and you can check out all the projects there. 541 00:42:59.079 --> 00:43:04.199 It's almost time to announce our dates. We receive the new list usually 542 00:43:04.320 --> 00:43:07.960 each February, and so then we'll post the new dates. So we have 543 00:43:07.119 --> 00:43:10.719 like a ninety two percent return rate on our volunteers, so it moves fast. 544 00:43:12.119 --> 00:43:15.760 If you want to go like you should apply to go quickly, and 545 00:43:15.119 --> 00:43:21.239 everybody just like sits waiting for the announcement of the dates of their particular projects. 546 00:43:21.280 --> 00:43:23.199 Some people go back to the same project every year and it's like a 547 00:43:23.280 --> 00:43:28.360 reunion for them. Other people try new projects. And it doesn't matter what 548 00:43:28.440 --> 00:43:31.719 you do for a living or what age you are. We'll put you to 549 00:43:31.760 --> 00:43:35.880 work. We'll train you. We have orientations and part of the curriculum I 550 00:43:36.000 --> 00:43:40.199 right, is un collaborative communication because you've got to turn a group of strangers 551 00:43:40.360 --> 00:43:44.719 into a synergistic team in twenty four hours. Oh that be Laura and I 552 00:43:44.880 --> 00:43:49.000 you Laura and I yeah, boom oh boom done. Yeah, you're a 553 00:43:49.079 --> 00:43:52.719 communications like coach. Is that what you were talking about? Like, is 554 00:43:52.760 --> 00:43:55.280 that to try to get people to work as best as they can as a 555 00:43:55.360 --> 00:43:59.960 team, right? Yeah, So individually I teach people to share their story 556 00:44:00.239 --> 00:44:02.559 more effectively, get more in touch with themselves, and then be able to 557 00:44:02.599 --> 00:44:07.400 communicate it. And then with teams like that, then I teach the art 558 00:44:07.440 --> 00:44:14.400 of the exhale, focused messaging and engaged listening, and we have protocols and 559 00:44:15.400 --> 00:44:20.639 what's focusing messaging? Focused messaging? Yeah, yeah, that's where you are 560 00:44:21.239 --> 00:44:23.400 so clear about what it is you want to say. You can speak it 561 00:44:23.480 --> 00:44:28.079 in one sentence and you just stick to that. Like let's say you're in 562 00:44:28.119 --> 00:44:32.679 an argument. Okay, let's say let's say you guys are having a slumber 563 00:44:32.800 --> 00:44:37.039 party and somebody, you know, they leave the wet towel on the floor, 564 00:44:37.199 --> 00:44:42.320 and they spit the toothpaste on the mirror, and they don't make the 565 00:44:42.480 --> 00:44:45.679 bed, and they like the ac really cold, and you like to be 566 00:44:45.840 --> 00:44:49.599 really warm. But you still have to get where you need to get in 567 00:44:49.719 --> 00:44:52.719 the morning, right, You still need to be on time seven am. 568 00:44:52.159 --> 00:44:55.639 And the one person takes a really long shower and the other person is super 569 00:44:55.719 --> 00:45:00.639 kid quick, like I can get ready twenty two seconds super fast. Okay, 570 00:45:00.719 --> 00:45:04.400 So then you get an argument about that. Normally you're gonna be like, 571 00:45:04.760 --> 00:45:07.599 man, I'm sick of the towel and the toothpaste and the bad and 572 00:45:07.679 --> 00:45:10.159 it's too cold in here, and you're so thoughtless. What is the other 573 00:45:10.239 --> 00:45:14.360 person going to do? I know what you say, get out of my 574 00:45:14.440 --> 00:45:19.960 house? Right, It's an option, do you It is an option. 575 00:45:20.159 --> 00:45:23.159 Sure, start with something positive and then say say the thing and then end 576 00:45:23.199 --> 00:45:28.280 with something positive. Sandwich it. You could do that. However, your 577 00:45:28.360 --> 00:45:30.800 goal is to get where you need to get on time. True, okay, 578 00:45:30.960 --> 00:45:36.519 okay, So that means really the one thing that you need to work 579 00:45:36.559 --> 00:45:39.039 out is the shower time. Cause you can get ready on time. If 580 00:45:39.079 --> 00:45:42.199 there is a towel on floor, you can get ready on time. If 581 00:45:42.199 --> 00:45:45.480 you've been too cold, unless you didn't get enough sleep, all those things 582 00:45:45.519 --> 00:45:49.880 aren't necessarily affecting you getting somewhere on time. But if someone takes an hour's 583 00:45:49.920 --> 00:45:53.760 shower and you are outside waiting outside the door, so you say, what's 584 00:45:53.800 --> 00:45:59.199 my You ask yourself, what is my goal in this conversation? My goal 585 00:45:59.360 --> 00:46:01.239 is to get to work on time, or my goal is to get a 586 00:46:01.280 --> 00:46:06.840 hot date, or my goal is to receive permission for this or consent for 587 00:46:06.960 --> 00:46:09.199 that, or what. You decide what your goal is, and you only 588 00:46:09.599 --> 00:46:16.000 share information to back that up. So you say, I notice you like 589 00:46:16.119 --> 00:46:21.639 to take a really long shower, and that must feel really good. The 590 00:46:21.679 --> 00:46:23.639 other person's like, yeah, I'm down from the long shower. I gotta 591 00:46:23.719 --> 00:46:30.880 do ABCDEF and G. And then you can say, I am actually very 592 00:46:30.000 --> 00:46:34.039 fast in the shower. I wonder if I could get in the shower first. 593 00:46:34.639 --> 00:46:37.320 I'll be out in twenty two seconds, and then you can have the 594 00:46:37.360 --> 00:46:40.320 bathroom all to yourself and I will have already left for work. That was 595 00:46:40.480 --> 00:46:45.679 non confrontational. That was actually nice. Yeah, I didn't feel any kind 596 00:46:45.719 --> 00:46:50.039 of yeah, say what you want, say what you need in a really 597 00:46:50.199 --> 00:46:54.000 clear way. So many folks just like dance. They yes, they did 598 00:46:54.400 --> 00:47:00.360 so caught up and being irritated, and you know today, Hey, I 599 00:47:00.480 --> 00:47:04.360 had to go in and have a conversation with a boss and I didn't really 600 00:47:04.440 --> 00:47:07.199 need anything to be fixed. I just wanted to be heard, and so 601 00:47:07.320 --> 00:47:08.679 that's what I said. I said, do you have a minute for me 602 00:47:08.760 --> 00:47:13.480 to share some irritations I'm having. I don't need you to do anything about 603 00:47:13.480 --> 00:47:16.440 it. I just want to be I just need to speak it. They're 604 00:47:16.519 --> 00:47:22.119 like, yeah, come on in how to go great? But it actually 605 00:47:22.199 --> 00:47:28.440 became like an hour long conversation of right ideas and you know, how how 606 00:47:28.480 --> 00:47:30.599 can we influence, how can we collaborate, how can we all be working 607 00:47:30.679 --> 00:47:36.199 together? You know, of course, of course. Yeah. Another thing 608 00:47:36.280 --> 00:47:42.119 that I saw was that you could be convinced to do some Carrie yoke. 609 00:47:43.159 --> 00:47:46.920 There's a great karaoke place right here on Washington Oh Way, It's called the 610 00:47:47.000 --> 00:47:52.119 Lamplighter. Oh my gosh, you do love karaoke? Okay, go to 611 00:47:52.199 --> 00:47:55.360 what's your go to song? It's always old country stuff like Patsy Klein. 612 00:47:55.880 --> 00:48:01.000 Oh really crazy creative juices are stirring right now. Oh what do you mean 613 00:48:01.039 --> 00:48:06.920 by you guys sing karaoke? I know, but yes, I do something. 614 00:48:07.119 --> 00:48:10.559 I have many many. I get nervous though, so I really I 615 00:48:10.719 --> 00:48:15.760 only stick to a very short list of songs. Us to Jodie's house. 616 00:48:15.920 --> 00:48:20.360 I know our friend Jody has karaoke parties all the time. Oh my god, 617 00:48:20.599 --> 00:48:22.599 Okay, this is the song I used to pick because I used to 618 00:48:22.719 --> 00:48:28.480 think that I could sing it well, but I never could. You know 619 00:48:28.599 --> 00:48:30.719 that song by Bonnie Raid, I Can't make You Love Me? I would 620 00:48:30.760 --> 00:48:35.119 get up. That's a hard one. I know what what is my problem? 621 00:48:35.199 --> 00:48:38.280 People are part of a Saturday night karaoke and I'm like, and I 622 00:48:38.480 --> 00:48:45.760 can't make you love me? You guys to remember the days when karaoke was 623 00:48:45.960 --> 00:48:50.199 karaoke and people would show up at the bar with their own headset. There 624 00:48:50.320 --> 00:48:53.159 used to be this guy who always got in line first, and he'd have 625 00:48:53.280 --> 00:48:58.559 his own headset, and so during the instrumental interludes, he'd go order his 626 00:48:58.679 --> 00:49:01.400 beer. He was like six' five, super skinny. I can see 627 00:49:01.480 --> 00:49:05.760 him clear as day. And this is way back in the day. Oh 628 00:49:05.920 --> 00:49:09.079 my gosh. Yeah. Okay, you were talking about goals do you have? 629 00:49:09.519 --> 00:49:15.119 I mean you've seen like you've reached all your dreams, Like, do 630 00:49:15.480 --> 00:49:17.320 you have a goal? Do you have a dream? What is your dream? 631 00:49:19.480 --> 00:49:22.440 I have a lot of dreams, Okay, I really and I have 632 00:49:22.559 --> 00:49:30.119 a lot. I've really worked hard to set intentions. For example, I 633 00:49:30.239 --> 00:49:37.320 can muscle my way through anything physically and mensely. I can physically and mentally, 634 00:49:37.320 --> 00:49:39.960 I can muscle my way through it and so my goal, my intention 635 00:49:40.840 --> 00:49:45.960 would have been trying to learn the last eight years, is to have more 636 00:49:46.039 --> 00:49:52.039 finesse, to have more ease in it. Not everything. I don't have 637 00:49:52.119 --> 00:49:57.880 to fix everything. I certainly can. I'm very solution oriented, extremely resourceful, 638 00:49:58.840 --> 00:50:01.039 but I don't have to. I also don't need to use all my 639 00:50:01.199 --> 00:50:07.840 muscles in every situation. I can listen, I can be quiet, I 640 00:50:07.960 --> 00:50:13.440 can just love you, you know what I mean. I can be softer 641 00:50:13.800 --> 00:50:19.639 even. I went to the Roast City School of Burlesque in Portland, Oregon 642 00:50:19.920 --> 00:50:24.239 because I came out of a hard relationship and I needed to find myself again. 643 00:50:24.360 --> 00:50:28.320 And because I can muscle my way through everything. I'm like sporty spice, 644 00:50:28.360 --> 00:50:31.039 I move like this. So I went to the School of Burlesque so 645 00:50:31.159 --> 00:50:37.639 that I could learn how to have more ease in my body, be more 646 00:50:38.480 --> 00:50:43.280 sensual, I guess would be the word, but really, just oh wow, 647 00:50:43.440 --> 00:50:46.800 how fun you can? I mean the first group and everybody's sitting in 648 00:50:46.880 --> 00:50:52.119 a circle. It is so emotional. All sizes, shapes, types of 649 00:50:52.199 --> 00:50:57.519 people, and all there for a seemingly different reason, but really all the 650 00:50:57.599 --> 00:51:01.679 same reason. Just to find our way, find a new way within ourselves. 651 00:51:02.199 --> 00:51:07.119 Some people could hardly even roll their shoulders. Now I know how to 652 00:51:07.199 --> 00:51:10.880 be on stage. I know that even if I can't dance or I forget 653 00:51:10.960 --> 00:51:15.000 something, I can still be on stage and I will still be alive after 654 00:51:15.079 --> 00:51:19.639 the fact. But not all the people in the class knew that they had 655 00:51:19.760 --> 00:51:22.760 no idea that they could survive. And so to go from the first day 656 00:51:22.800 --> 00:51:27.679 where they could hardly do a shoulder rolled to warm up to their own version 657 00:51:27.760 --> 00:51:32.559 of a strut, swagger across the stage, shirt open, It's like it 658 00:51:32.719 --> 00:51:38.519 was the most beautiful, empowering experience. And of course my mommy and my 659 00:51:38.639 --> 00:51:44.920 aunties flew to Portland or come to my east side. All where did she 660 00:51:45.039 --> 00:51:46.800 fly when you lived over? You said you lived out of the country. 661 00:51:46.800 --> 00:51:52.719 Where did you know? I've lived in Central America, South America, Jamaica, 662 00:51:52.880 --> 00:51:55.000 she's lived she lives in and out of Jamaica right. Well, But 663 00:51:57.440 --> 00:52:02.519 Eastern Washington, where's they Okay, what's what's what city is there? That's 664 00:52:02.599 --> 00:52:08.000 like Kennewick, Richland, Pasco. Eastern They took really good care of me. 665 00:52:08.079 --> 00:52:13.440 I love that community. Shout out, you know to try cities and 666 00:52:13.559 --> 00:52:17.719 Spokane, but those aren't necessarily like my mommy loves the tropics. She loves 667 00:52:17.800 --> 00:52:22.079 to be warm. We're very My hair is sticky. Is she still in 668 00:52:22.239 --> 00:52:25.760 organ then okay? And I want her to move. I want her to 669 00:52:25.920 --> 00:52:30.440 ye, yes, yeah, she she need to manifest a home. You 670 00:52:30.599 --> 00:52:34.159 Oh, you asked about goals. That's what we started to talk about. 671 00:52:34.239 --> 00:52:37.320 Sorry, it okay. I took us on a little journey there. That's 672 00:52:37.440 --> 00:52:42.400 I loved it. It was fun of finesse. But I want I would 673 00:52:42.480 --> 00:52:46.920 love to have like a home or like a few cottages and mommies in one 674 00:52:47.239 --> 00:52:52.880 and mardos. Yeah. We it needs a better word than compound, but 675 00:52:52.000 --> 00:52:55.360 that's it. In community. I want us all to live in community with 676 00:52:55.480 --> 00:52:59.239 each other. You guys can live there. You know what I'm saying, 677 00:52:59.440 --> 00:53:02.599 Like, oh my gosh, that is okay, because we're gonna we're gonna 678 00:53:02.639 --> 00:53:06.719 grow old together. We've decided and we're gonna like we're gonna stay. We're 679 00:53:06.760 --> 00:53:09.119 gonna lay in the same bed like Willie walk a style like the grandparents and 680 00:53:09.159 --> 00:53:13.679 Willy Walker. We're gonna have all the streaming services. We're gonna order door 681 00:53:13.760 --> 00:53:17.599 dash every day and do all the fun things so we can be in one 682 00:53:17.639 --> 00:53:21.360 of your cottages. Yeah, oh my gosh, and we don't ask for 683 00:53:21.480 --> 00:53:27.079 much. Very clean. I'm very clean. I eat. Do you like 684 00:53:27.239 --> 00:53:30.599 to clean after other people? Yeah? Okay, because well that would be 685 00:53:30.760 --> 00:53:35.840 me. I'm not the cleanest person in the world. But you know what, 686 00:53:36.039 --> 00:53:37.840 some of us need a little help. We all, you know, 687 00:53:38.000 --> 00:53:43.400 bring our gifts and define it us. And then if if I'm annoying you 688 00:53:43.480 --> 00:53:45.239 too much, then you'll come with me with a very clear message, right, 689 00:53:46.320 --> 00:53:52.199 a very very message for me. Do you need to take a walk 690 00:53:52.280 --> 00:53:57.519 outside? I use that one. Then I know, and then I knows 691 00:53:58.360 --> 00:54:01.079 for three and a half months now to go outside. I do have a 692 00:54:01.280 --> 00:54:07.119 very funny story for you regarding Lacey Washington. Okay, oh yeah, yes. 693 00:54:07.719 --> 00:54:12.639 So one of my first trips up to Washington, I was planning a 694 00:54:12.880 --> 00:54:16.440 very fun event and I thought, we'll go We'll go to a winery, 695 00:54:17.400 --> 00:54:21.480 you know, because I heard that they have such great well, all the 696 00:54:21.679 --> 00:54:23.800 great wineries were so far away. They were like, I was like, 697 00:54:24.199 --> 00:54:29.280 nobody's gonna drive four and a half hours to one of these places. So 698 00:54:29.559 --> 00:54:32.559 I found one called the Medicine Creek Winery. Maybe I should have said that, 699 00:54:32.639 --> 00:54:37.039 but anyway, Oh, it was very close. It was in Lacey, 700 00:54:37.199 --> 00:54:43.760 Washington, and everybody said, we've never heard of it. Well you'll 701 00:54:43.800 --> 00:54:49.599 know why. So we're driving, driving, and we get to where it's 702 00:54:50.320 --> 00:54:53.760 a just trailer parks everywhere, right, and I'm like, oh boy, 703 00:54:55.840 --> 00:55:00.440 I don't know winery being in this area. I'm not sure, you know. 704 00:55:00.480 --> 00:55:05.920 And there's just dogs running everywhere, and and I I said, oh 705 00:55:06.000 --> 00:55:07.159 gosh, I don't know. We turn and we go down this road and 706 00:55:07.239 --> 00:55:13.039 it pull up to the winery and it's beautiful. And then we drive through 707 00:55:13.039 --> 00:55:16.360 the gates and in Washington, you know, they're called honey pots. The 708 00:55:17.519 --> 00:55:24.840 what are what honey what is the honey pot? Honey pot? But that 709 00:55:25.039 --> 00:55:30.280 is like sweet, I know, for a horrible little building. And so 710 00:55:31.559 --> 00:55:37.360 it's just weeds and there's these guys with just like ponytails, and there setting 711 00:55:37.440 --> 00:55:42.880 up these rickety plastic tables with rickety plastic chairs, and I'm like, I 712 00:55:43.000 --> 00:55:45.639 don't think. And then we I look forward and in one of the trailers 713 00:55:45.679 --> 00:55:50.920 that's on the property, it's looked like rabid dogs like tearing apart in the 714 00:55:50.960 --> 00:55:52.800 back of a couch and the screen was pusted out. The mall, Turn 715 00:55:52.880 --> 00:55:57.000 the car around, Turn the car around, turn the car round and friends 716 00:55:57.039 --> 00:55:59.199 like, why what's that? And I'm all, no, no, no, 717 00:55:59.280 --> 00:56:01.000 no no, I've seen in the Texas chainsaw mask. We gotta get. 718 00:56:01.920 --> 00:56:05.000 I was like no, no, no, no no, And we 719 00:56:05.119 --> 00:56:08.719 were out of Lacey so fast, and we never came when you were saying, 720 00:56:08.920 --> 00:56:13.159 you know, like there's a lot of good wine that comes out of 721 00:56:13.199 --> 00:56:15.199 there. Now. I did some of the early stories when I worked there 722 00:56:15.280 --> 00:56:20.119 on wineries and hops, you know, when hops, when I were first 723 00:56:20.119 --> 00:56:25.920 starting to grow. Hops started in eastern Washington. Every there's breweries everywhere. 724 00:56:27.079 --> 00:56:30.800 Now, what's your favorite movie? Oh gosh, or your top three? 725 00:56:31.280 --> 00:56:37.360 I love movies like about trials and tribulations and coming out the other side. 726 00:56:37.400 --> 00:56:44.079 I'm watching a and I like fun series like I'm watching sex Education. Oh 727 00:56:44.199 --> 00:56:46.000 yeah, oh yeah, yeah, I've started. Yeah, I watched a 728 00:56:46.039 --> 00:56:49.880 couple of those. Yeah, I'm great. And it makes me chuckle because 729 00:56:50.159 --> 00:56:53.880 my friend Dub Barnes, who I collaborate with a lots, I I always 730 00:56:54.519 --> 00:57:00.519 am talking about safe sex and I take the opportunity to talk about bodies and 731 00:57:01.039 --> 00:57:05.280 consent and all of that. But I just do it everywhere and she's always 732 00:57:05.360 --> 00:57:08.239 like, why do you even have to talk to the like the server about 733 00:57:08.280 --> 00:57:12.199 safe sets, and I'm like, can she tell me she was going on 734 00:57:12.320 --> 00:57:15.480 a date tonight? And she looks about eighteen nineteen. I want to make 735 00:57:15.559 --> 00:57:21.119 sure she's well prepared. But so I like that show sex Education because it 736 00:57:21.199 --> 00:57:24.000 kind of reminds have you watched Bonded? No? No, oh no, 737 00:57:24.239 --> 00:57:29.679 my she recommended this to my mom and my my auntie Doodoo, who's my 738 00:57:29.800 --> 00:57:34.840 mom's best friend, because they're looking for something. It's like like bondage and 739 00:57:34.880 --> 00:57:38.760 stuff like. It is hilarious. Try it. Yeah, it's very fun. 740 00:57:39.159 --> 00:57:44.760 Don't watch Sulburn. Okay, you won't like it. It's not it's 741 00:57:44.800 --> 00:57:46.920 not up your alley. Actually, I think I've seen trayl and I was 742 00:57:47.000 --> 00:57:50.719 like, oh that that's see, that's totally up my alley. You'd like 743 00:57:51.159 --> 00:57:55.199 la. No, I don't think she'd like it's not happy, that's notation 744 00:57:57.039 --> 00:58:00.599 true, but she has to be. She's a drug dealer. I don't 745 00:58:00.639 --> 00:58:07.119 think that. Yeah, but they're breaking bad oh no. So if this 746 00:58:07.320 --> 00:58:10.280 is about a dress, it was it's too too much, too close to 747 00:58:10.400 --> 00:58:16.159 home to yeah, to uneasy in my But this is a little different because 748 00:58:16.519 --> 00:58:22.639 she does it for her family to give them a better life. She like 749 00:58:22.760 --> 00:58:25.599 she doesn't sample her own product and stuff like that, but it's it's a 750 00:58:25.920 --> 00:58:30.039 it's a good story so far. I try not to just I try not 751 00:58:30.159 --> 00:58:34.119 to say no from the get go to anything like you know, check it 752 00:58:34.199 --> 00:58:43.679 out, Grayson, Frankie. Have you watched and Georgia Georgia? But I've 753 00:58:43.719 --> 00:58:46.159 seen them there. So I also watch a lot of n c I s 754 00:58:46.320 --> 00:58:52.599 with my sweetheart Marcos. It's like just easy watching and it's kind of a 755 00:58:52.679 --> 00:58:54.840 chuckle because we started it from the very beginning. I never used to a 756 00:58:54.920 --> 00:59:00.280 lot of people do that. I have done that. You watch TV quite 757 00:59:00.320 --> 00:59:02.400 you know that often. I just didn't have that life. So now I've 758 00:59:02.480 --> 00:59:07.039 seen a lot more because of streaming. But we watch an NCIS. It 759 00:59:07.119 --> 00:59:10.440 has a beginning, middle and ending. People do the right thing. It's 760 00:59:10.840 --> 00:59:16.440 interesting enough where you're like, what's happening here? You know? It's CIS. 761 00:59:16.599 --> 00:59:20.679 Yes, I love it. Well, you know what, it's just 762 00:59:20.800 --> 00:59:24.880 been an absolute joy having you are you are incredible? All right, No, 763 00:59:25.239 --> 00:59:29.039 it's already it's been an hour already, and we got to let these 764 00:59:29.079 --> 00:59:34.000 the outgo party. I know, yeah, we'll go to the Lamplighter perh. 765 00:59:34.079 --> 00:59:36.920 My gosh, Okay, so at the end of our podcast, we 766 00:59:37.039 --> 00:59:39.320 say a little something. We say, we say something. I'll say it 767 00:59:39.360 --> 00:59:42.519 first, then you say it, and then Eric will say it, and 768 00:59:42.559 --> 00:59:45.679 then we'll say goodbye. When we have guests, I don't drag it out. 769 00:59:45.000 --> 00:59:47.480 I know he drags it out when we don't have guests, and it 770 00:59:47.559 --> 00:59:51.880 annoys me, and he likes it because it annoys me. Anyway, thank 771 00:59:51.920 --> 00:59:54.360 you for watching on Instagram, you guys nice. Thank you so much for 772 00:59:54.440 --> 00:59:59.280 watching on YouTube, and thank you for listening after the fact and watching it 773 00:59:59.440 --> 01:00:04.599 and whatever. And we love you guys, and love your podcast. Loving 774 01:00:04.679 --> 01:00:08.000 Oh I say it. Oh, I should have. I should have pointed 775 01:00:08.119 --> 01:00:12.960 to you. Actually that was steep, but I pointed to the cameras before 776 01:00:13.000 --> 01:00:15.639 I say love your podcast. I want to say I love you, Eric, 777 01:00:15.880 --> 01:00:19.920 I love you, thank you, thank you. I'm so grateful for 778 01:00:20.039 --> 01:00:22.599 this time and grateful you two are out here on the planet doing all. 779 01:00:23.480 --> 01:00:28.320 And welcome to our Yeah, welcome to the best Yeah, look at the 780 01:00:28.400 --> 01:00:31.760 bestie the race, the best ee race. Okay, now tell me what 781 01:00:31.800 --> 01:00:36.000 I'm supposed to say. Love your podcast, Love your podcast. Okay, 782 01:00:36.320 --> 01:00:39.280 love your podcast. I love you, my sweet babies. Bye bye. 783 01:00:40.559 --> 01:00:40.960 My God,