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So funny story. Yesterday on the
podcast, we recorded a wonderful, award

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winning podcast and then we went to
hit a saver or store or whatever,

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and there was nothing there, and
then the computer froze. We couldn't read

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emails. So we're gonna catch up
on some stuff. Jenny, you ready,

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Let's do it all right? He
would go, We're gonna start off

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with Stephanie. She says, Dave, thank you for introducing me to the

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poem just a Dog. I read
it on the air a couple of weeks

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ago. I'm not going to read
it now because it's long and the podcast

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is going to get a little bit
long, but I will say you can

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definitely google the poem just a Dog. And it's a beautiful poem. It's

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not even a poem. It's just
more of like a thought of what dogs

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mean to us. And when people
say, well, don't get so into

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it. It's just a dog,
but it goes on to talk about well,

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that's like saying it's just a friend, or it's just a child,

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or just a promise, and it
really is beautiful. Today we have to

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say goodbye to my best friend of
thirteen years due to congestive heart failure.

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He's not only my first and only
pet. He has been with me through

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college, marrying my husband, having
my first baby, and getting me through

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so many hard things in life.
I've never said goodbye to a pet,

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and I'm very fortunate we can have
his last moments together at our homes,

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surrounded by family, because a lot
of times when they put a pet down,

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they come to your house, and
I think that's what Falon did with

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Elliott. I keep reading this poem
over and over as it is sinking in.

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I will only have his memory moving
forward. Your show will help me

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try and give my mind small breaks
from drowning in the emotion of this loss.

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Stephanie, I know exactly what you
mean. I'm going to choke up

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because that's how I feel about Josie. She has been around since Allison was

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I don't know, fourteen fifteen,
and since Carson was about seven or eight.

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So many trips, so many runs, so many walks, camping trips,

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canoeing trips, playing fetch, just
all of the things. Well,

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you had to put Mickey down.
Tierrie right now too thinking about it,

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because it was one of the hardest
things we ever did. And so I

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know where she's coming from. It
is a very very tough situation. And

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I didn't grow up. We had
an animal when I was super young,

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but it was like four when they
put our dog down, and so I

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don't really remember it very well or
what it was like and stuff. So

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I don't feel like I've ever felt
that kind of pain before. But yeah,

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it was. It was a very
hard time, and it was even

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harder for Andrew because it was Mickey
was his dog, like her whole life,

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and like I, she was in
my life a later part. But

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yeah, I grew very close with
her when we moved in together, and

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it was super tough. A friend
of mine, Curtis, has a partner

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that Curtis never was a dog person, but his partner had a dog and

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they moved in together and Curtis fell
in love with a dog and then they

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had to put the dog to sleep, and Curtis was just devastated because he

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got so close. Yeah, all
right, this next one is and am

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I the asshole? And it actually
happens to do with dogs. I'm going

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to sum it up a little bit. They say, first of all,

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love your show and us in religiously
Dave Jenny Drake. I'll try to keep

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it short, but I have an
am I the Asshole question for the Minnesota

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Goodbye. First of all, we
love dogs. We had an absolutely wonderful

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German Shepherd but lost him to cancer
when our first child was two years old.

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Fast forward to now, our first
child is four and we have a

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one and a half year old.
We're not ready to get another dog,

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so no judgment. Also, our
four year old had an incident with a

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neighbor's dog and now is deathly afraid
of dogs. Our one and a half

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year old doesn't know dogs, so
he is also scared. Here's am I

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the asshole part. I'll sum it
up. We go to the park and

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a woman and are probably ten year
old and a dog off leash arrive.

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Okay, first of all, the
dog is off leash, so my kids

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get anxious, and the woman says, oh, my dog is so friendly,

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they're fine, don't worry about it. And I said, well,

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my kids are a little afraid of
dogs. So she took her kids to

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the other side of the park to
a playground area. Yeah. Well,

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here comes the ten year old with
a dog off leash, chasing the ten

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year old and getting up on the
equipment. Now, that seems weird to

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me. But the dog is running
up and down the stairs, through the

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tunnels, going down the slides,
she said. Normally, I think that's

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awesome and what a great bond the
girl and her dog have. But my

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kids are panicked and they're afraid,
and I'm doing my best to keep my

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children from, like, you know, being so scared. And I eventually

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politely asked the woman, I love
dogs, and your dogs seem super friendly,

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but this is there a way you
could keep her off the playground equipment?

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My kids are scared. I don't
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run away from your dog, even
though she's not going to hurt them.

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She was not happy with me and
ended up leaving the park with her kid

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and her dog. Am I the
asshole? Well? Absolutely not at all,

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not at all. The other woman
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it pisss me off when I see
anybody with a dog off leash.

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Everybody knows you're not supposed to have
your dog off a leash. I don't

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give a fuck whether it's friendly or
not. Obey the rules. I obey

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the rules you should to. Everybody
knows this, especially in a park with

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kids. Yeah, we walk past
the park often because we don't have Mackey

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anymore, but we dog said sometimes. So we walk past the park all

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the time, and I always make
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when I walk past that park because
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I don't know these dogs very well. It's not my dog, so

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I don't want them to ever lunge
at a kid or something. And they're

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always always so friendly, but I
just get nervous about that, So I

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think it's a big You're not a
jerk whatsoever. That woman should have just

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followed. She shouldn't have done what
she did, which was bring the dog

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off a leash, period, But
then she should have been okay with it

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when you asked her to put the
dog back on a leash. If I

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were to ask if if first,
I never would. But if I had

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my dog off a leash and somebody
said, hey, my kids are scared,

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will you put your dog on a
leash, I'd be like, God,

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I'm sorry and be kind of embarrassed. So if I'm going to ask

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you this one, if you take
your dog out off a leash, why,

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how do you justify that if you
go hiking. Let's say you go

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to no Tailor's Falls and you got
your dog off leash your hiking, how

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do you justify that? How is
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I'm not as big of an advocate
for dogs having to be on leashes all

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the time as you are. But
like I've never been in a bad situation

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where a dog has attacked me or
anything like. That's so why I understand

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a lot of people are very scared
of dogs, and you should do that.

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But like when we were in like
different states we did a West coast

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road trip, dogs were awfu leash
all time at all times in Oregon and

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California. It was just like such
a more dog friendly state there. Yes,

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and we loved it because we love
dogs and I know you love dogs

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too, but it was just like
so fun because like the dog would come

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up to us and stuff. And
then even the airbnb we were at this

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weekend, the neighbor's dog kind of
was like rolling around in the yards and

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I would get I would literally go
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into our yard so I could go, like pet the dog. Dogs No,

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And I love that too. And
I love seeing a dog and I'll

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gree like, oh can I give
her a scratch? If I'm at a

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brewery and there's a dog sitting there
next to the owner's table, Oh can

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I give her a scratch? Oh? Yeah, she's blah blah blah.

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I don't know. I think that
dogs are such a personal item. We

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love our dogs, but we shouldn't
subject other people to our dog. Yeah.

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Next one Hi Day Daily listener,
Listen, you talked about the screen

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time and you thought you had a
high daily average. There's another listener who

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thought the screen time average around eight
hours was even worse than yours, and

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they said they had a full time
job. Well, I just checked mine

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and my daily average week to date
is eleven hours and two minutes. And

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I have a full time job.
Two. I swear I do use YouTube

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as one of my primary sources of
TV entertainment, which makes up six and

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a half of my eleven hour daily
usage. It is huge. Not sure

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if that's a lot. I just
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if there is some way to see
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time. Love the show and the
Minnesota Goodbye, thank You. That is

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from Bailey. Thank you, and
I want to thank both of the people

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who have emailed in with their higher
screen times because it's made I felt like

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garbage when I saw mine wasn't even
higher than yours. So I was like,

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man, I know, I get
stuck scrolling on social media, but

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I never feel like I'm on my
phone that much because I'm not a big

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Texter. I don't do phone calls
very often. But I guess I just

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spend too much time on Instagram.
I think it's so easy to do to

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just you know, if you scroll
to something, you watch it go nine.

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I don't think so when you scroll
the next one, and of course

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it learns what you love. So
it's kind of like if every time you

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walked into your kitchen there was a
delicious whatever your favorite food was on the

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table, you would eat a whole
lot more if it knows what you want,

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all right. Yesterday we were talking
about sending kids to school to make

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them either the oldest or the youngest. So if your kid is born in

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August, you make him you send
him school early and make him the youngest,

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or you sim school late, making
the oldest. My oldest has in

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August thirty first birthday. We waited
to send him, so he turned six

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right before kindergarten. I am so
happy we waited. They expect so much

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more out of kids at school than
they did back in your day, Dave

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laugh emoji. He is naturally just
a smart kid, so he gets bored,

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but his teachers have been great about
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and he also helps kids that are
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play. Now they're reading and doing
math. I got to sit at a

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table for longer periods of time.
I'd also talked to a few teacher friends.

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They all said, wait and send
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they should change the start age of
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the new kindergarten, obviously every kid's
different, but I'm happy with our decision

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and we will do the same.
They're my third kid that has an August

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birthday. It'd be interesting to ask
this question on the show and get some

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feedback from teachers, so Shay,
yes, if you're a teacher, let

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us know. I'm going to guess
you probably prefer an older kid because younger

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kids are they're more high maintenance,
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more. Good morning, Dave,
Jenny, and ou two Drake. My

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name is Carmen, Dave's pain and
the ass friend. I've known Carmen forever.

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We have kids at the same age. I try calling every damn Friday,

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but it never gets through, So
I figure, why not email and

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discuss toilets? Do you or your
family clogged the toilet all the time?

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May I recommend the Toto toilet for
all your clogging needs. You can flush

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a golf ball and it won't clog
your toilet. But don't forget to get

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a bi day because no one likes
it. Dirty ass, I think dingleberries.

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Good god, Carmen serious. Anyways, thanks for always making my morning's

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less boring and less crabby. On
the bad day's day, be nice to

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Jenny because she can have your ass
thrown in a nursing home from Carmen.

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Well, she is sassy. I
like she is sassy. Yeah, she's

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I know her and her husband and
her kid. I've known her for years

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and years, all right, David
Jenny. The other day, you guys

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talked about what food and beverages you
had at your school's growing up high school

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Ostio. We had pop machines in
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go anywhere if we had a ride
or car. We ate a McDonald's or

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subway every single day. Now I'm
forty five, so we didn't have screen

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time besides TVs, and my friends
and I all stayed in shape. I

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agree with you, Dave. I
think today's kids aren't active enough. I'd

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rather sit in the phone or video
games all day, not to mention the

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amount of terrible food that's available to
them. When people come to the US

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from other countries, they are usually
astounded at the amount and variety of junk

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food we have here. Sarah,
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off subject, but you and I
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and like Europe. It's just you
can eat pasta there and it's healthier and

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it's not as bad as what it
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process Well. I have like full
blown proof from it because my trainer just

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was in Portugal in Spain and she
said she ate pasta like every day and

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she eats a very clean diet here
and she didn't feel bloated once and it

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was just like insane. How big
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country like Europe was from eating food
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it's all processed food here and not
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it came up because of now I
can't remember who I heard it, but

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it was a doctor from India and
he said, you Americans eat the worst

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shit. And he kept using the
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woman, I'm not sure, but
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worst shit. Everything is processed.
Potato chips are not even really food,

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that is all processed chemicals, oils, etc. And it's I did have

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We had an intern here from Ukraine
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and she said one of the things
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are. When she got off the
plane in New York and started to walk

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around. She was like, wow, there are a lot of heavy people

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here, and you don't really think
about that. But again, I guess

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if you go to France or Ukraine
or Germany, there's probably a lot fewer

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heavy people. I don't know why, whether it's the culture, the diet,

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or what. I don't really a
next email. Let me delete that

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one so I don't accidentally reread it. Okay, here's one that I think

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we were going to read it yesterday, but we did not. It got

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deleted, is Chow Chow writes in