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made wild dating in my twenty six years of living on this planet. We
are going to be diving into my very own tale of boys and men in
CC oh my, oh my, ow my. I intend that you can
learn from my mistakes so you don't have to waste your own time. Success
leaves clues and so do some failures. So I'm going to impart everything I've
learned the mistakes I've made with you, essentially exposing myself on the Internet and
h Chef's Kiss so that you can run where I have walked. Okay,
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You have power, Let's use it now. Without further ado, let's get
into today's episode. So we are going to go through a couple of different
specimens that I have dated in the past, and we're going to learn from
my own very mistakes. The first case study we will be driving into is
specimen six foot four. This is because he was a Polish six foot four
Viking. Let's dive into it, shall we. Okay, So I was
out at a bar and I was dancing, and out of nowhere, the
six foot four man just starts dancing with me. I was so confused.
How do you not see a huge man come up to you? I don't
know either, but somehow he just appeared and I was like, whoa,
Okay, this is fine. I guess I can just do this. Sure.
Then we started talking and he was like, let me get you a
drink. So we go to get a drink. He immediately starts basically trauma
dumping on me. How if it wasn't for his family, he would essentially
un alive himself. First red flag, I am hearing this man immediately,
this grown man, he's an adult, immediately start telling me very very dark
emotions that he feels about himself. I don't even know his name, by
the way, I called him the wrong name for three weeks. Didn't know
anyway, I don't know your name. He starts telling me all these deep,
dark things, and I thought, oh, this is someone I can
fix. You are not a rehabilitation center for other humans. You are not
their fixer. You are a human being focused on yourself. The real red
flag here was that he was leading with his divine wounded feminine. When you
meet a masculine energy and they immediately start talking about their emotions. He said
he was gonna unlive himself if it wasn't for his family. This was his
wounded feminine. If you think about base sick animalistic tendencies, what do peacocks
do in order to attract a female mate. They show their feathers, all
of their irridescent tail feathers, and they strup back and forth, shaking their
feathers to produce this rattling sound, and it makes a loud call out to
all the females. When a man wants to court you, he's not going
to lead with his wounded feminine emotions. He's going to lead with his masculine
strengths. And that was something I didn't know at this time. A lot
of men who lead with their wounded feminine it's sort of a subconscious, manipulative
tactive of Oh, I'm gonna lead with my feminine I'm gonna tell them all
these things so they feel close. So that way they feel like, oh,
he's so open with me, he's so vulnerable, I'm gonna let him
into my heart and let him into my life and my body. Absolutely not.
You need to be on the lookout for men who lead with their wounded
feminine energy, because they're trying to make it seem like they're so vulnerable and
they're so open. But this is not a man who wants to court you.
He wants to take you to bed. And there's a difference. Okay,
when a man wants to actually establish a relationship with you, he's not
going to lead with his weakness. That makes no sense. He is going
to lead with his strength. So if a man is immediately upon meeting him,
talking about all of his wounded emotions, he's leading with his wounded feminine.
He wants to take you to bed, not down the aisle when they
are trying to manipulate us with their emotions. Whether it's subconscious or not,
it doesn't matter. This is not someone we want to pursue. It's not
someone we need to fix. Get out of your own damn head. You
are not a fixer, You're a human being. The second red flag is
that he never asked me out on a date. He asked me to Netflix
and chill. He said, come over, we can have some wine.
Thank god I happened to be busy that I couldn't go over, because I
would have said yes. But there was no progression of connection. Another red
flag he told me upon meeting he was never going to call me. I
know myself, okay. Not only did I used to have a high codependency
and anxious attachment, I also, as a woman, need to hear your
voice. I need to talk to you to feel connected to you, or
else I literally forget you exist and you pop out of my reality. I
don't even know anymore. I knew that him just texting me every now and
again. By the way, he barely ever texted me I knew he wasn't
going to be enough for me, and I let it go anyway because simply
I felt a little bit lonely, so I said, oh what, this
is better than nothing? No wrong. When you drop your standards, you
allow in people who are only going to take away from your life. Remember
the Harvard principle. Have high standards and a low acceptance rate for the bs
you accept into your life. Every time he didn't call me, every day
that went by, when he would text me a low vibrational conversation, it
was like little pieces of me were just breaking away, breaking away because I
knew what I needed and I wasn't speaking up for what I needed. I
let it go. I tried to convince myself that this was going to be
enough. Stop convincing yourself that people who give you the bare minimum are enough
for you. They're not. They're not enough for you. That's oh okay,
that's okay. I remember one time he not even texted me. He
GMed me he had my number, but he chose to damn me on Instagram.
Okay, he damns me on Instagram a picture of a sandwich and he
said, does this look good to you? It looked disgusting. Of course,
I was like, yes, king, ugh ugh. My mistake number
two was I was doing the job of a girlfriend without being paid with the
title of a girlfriend. I wasn't in love with this dude, but I
liked him. I was giving him more effort. I was letting go of
my boundaries. I was letting go of my standards. I was meeting him
where he wanted to meet. I was going where he wanted to go.
I was too available. I gave too much of my energy, too much
of my body, too much of my time. And the thing that really
gets me going. And I've told this before, but I even helped him
clean his apartment. Yep. I took out his track Oh God, Oh
God, Yeah, the kicker for me, the cherry on top of the
cake, if you will. Was There was a book next to his bed
that literally I cannot remember the title because God doesn't even want me to know
it. That was literally about disproving the existence of God. And then I
said, I gotta get the hell out of here, gotta get out of
here. This man was everything I didn't want. Yet I kept allowing him
into my life. And what we allow into our life, we amplify.
This was a jump scare for me. My mistake number one was not realizing
the red flags. Was not realizing that he was leading with his wounded divine
feminine. He wasn't making the plans, he wasn't giving effort. I was
mistake number two doing the job of a girlfriend without getting paid with the title.
And that brings me to mistake number three, which is intimacy, being
intimate with someone who I knew couldn't give me what I needed. Energy transference
when you are whether you like it or not, this is not a conversation
for you to try to disprove it's true. I don't care if you don't
believe it. This is true. It's like gravity. It applies whether you
believe it or not. Energy transference is always going to happen when you're intimate
with another person. What does this mean? Some of your energy goes onto
them and some of their energy goes on to you. It's like putting both
of your energies into a blender and then drinking that smoothie. Okay, It's
like gluing two pieces of paper together and then trying to rip them apart.
It gets messy. When I was intimate with this person, some of his
negative energy got onto me, and then I started having negative thoughts about myself.
I started thinking low about myself. Of course I did that because his
thoughts about me were low. He was disrespecting me. He just thought,
oh, this is some girl who cares. And I started taking on his
low vibrational entities, his low vibrational thoughts. When you go out and you
just meet a random person, you don't know their demons. Okay, you
don't know their traumas, you don't know all their low vibrational things. I
had a godwink because this man literally told me to my face, I would
wanna livee myself if it wasn't for my family. He literally told me to
my face how low a vibration he was. But I was like, oh,
it's fine, No it wasn't, No, it wasn't. These are
the things we need to stop doing to ourselves. And of course mistake number
four was that even as the relationship continued, if we can even call it
a relationship, it was really a situationship. Even as it continued, I
still never spoke up. Instead of me speaking up for my own needs as
it got more serious, Even after we were intimate. What did I do?
I ghosted myself and said, ugh, jump scare once again, I
ghosted myself Instead, our relationship to ourself will be mirrored back to us in
our external reality. Baby girl, if you don't want to be ghosted anymore,
stop ghosting yourself. I ghosted my wants, my desires, my values,
my boundaries, and my standards. And guess what he did to me?
He ghosted me too. Because how I treat myself is the biggest teacher
for how others are going to treat me too. It's the biggest indicator of
how other people are going to treat me too. I showed him how to
treat me because I like, oh of my boundaries, like go of my
values, I like go of my center. So of course he's not going
to respect it either. If I can ghost myself, why wouldn't he be
able to ghost me too. We're so afraid as women, I believe,
to speak up for our needs because we're afraid to be perceived as needy.
But guess what. The squeaky wheel gets the grease when you're courageous enough to
place yourself on your pedestal and speak up for your needs. Your needs will
be met from the universe and from your partners. When you place yourself on
the pedestal, other people will look up at you and give you what it
is you desire. But when you place them on a pedestal and ghost yourself,
they're gonna look down at you. They're gonna disrespect you too. Because
you are disrespecting yourself. No one can displace you. You can only displace
yourself, and then others will treat you accordingly to your own treatment. You
have the power to change your life, and it begins by you shifting how
you're treating yourself. If you don't like how they're treating you, stop allowing
it. If you don't like that they don't respect you, cut them out
of your life until they can do better. It's up to you. The
power has quite literally always been in your hands. If you don't want their
low vibrational energy, stop being intimate with them. If you want to be
given the title of a girlfriend, stop allowing them to be in your life
without giving you the title of a girlfriend. Stop ignoring the red flags.
Put it to rest. The moral of this tale of boys and Men from
Specimen six foot four is this I was in a low vibration During this time,
I was going out every single weekend. I was drinking away my thoughts
and my emotions because I didn't even want to look at them. And because
I was in a low vibrational place, disrespecting myself, I attracted someone who
was also in a low vibration place, who was also going to disrespect me,
and who was also not going to see me as the prize that I
truly am. Another moral of the Tale of Boys and Men is I gave
too much of myself away too soon. And in general, the other part
of this is I ghosted myself, and so he ghosted me too. Hear
me when I say giving more of what already isn't appreciated won't get them to
commit to you. You committing to yourself and saying I'm not going to allow
this, that will shift them. That will shift you, That will shift
your reality. What happens when you keep giving, giving, even though you're
never receiving, is they'll just continuously take advantage of you. No, we're
no longer living in a world where we're not putting ourselves on our own pedestal.
We're no longer receiving treatment where we feel like we're getting disrespected left and
right. You have to understand that you truly have the power to stop allowing
this behavior, to stop allowing these people into your life. Another moral of
this tale of boys and men is that I had the power all along and
I didn't use it. I didn't assert myself. I didn't put myself on
the pedestal. And now I know better. Okay, next specimen, next
case study, specimen C two, and that stands for C squared. It
stands for course correction. Mm hmm. So what a lot of us do
is we'll be in a relationship and maybe we're in a relationship with someone who's
also in their feminine or more passive. So then in our next relationship we
try to course correct and we go so far to the opposite pull that we
overdo it. Okay, hello, Yes, that's what I did. I
was in a relationship that I felt like I was in a lot of my
masculine energy most of the time, and when that relationship ended, I said
to myself, I want a relationship in which my partner is super masculine.
So that is what I'm going to get. And here's mistake number five.
Okay, I have been working with a shaman recently. I've always I've been
working with her for years, but something that we've really recently been talking about
is I have to watch that when there's other people in my vicinity or when
I was in relationships in my past, I would shift either in my masculine
or my feminine solely based on what that person was leading with. So if
my partner was leading with their masculine, I would go into my feminine.
If they were leading with their feminine, I would go into my masculine.
And what this shaman has been working with me to do is understanding that my
feminine energy is my responsibility. Disclaimer, there will be partners who make you
feel unsafe, so you do go into your masculine energy. But what she
is imparting on me, which I will impart on you, is that your
feminine energy is your responsibility and you want to be in your divine feminine energy
regardless of what energies people are in around you. So yes, people can
affect what energy you step up into in their presence, but you really want
to try to say, regardless if you're gonna step into your masculine or you're
feminine I'm gonna be my feminine. I always think if someone's in a lower
vibration, you're not gonna bring me down just because you're in a lower vibration.
Maybe I'll raise you up, or I'm just gonna leave. It's kind
of that same essence of regardless of what people are doing around you, you
can decide to show up in your feminine energy anyway, and the people who
are also in their feminine energy, the partners who are in their feminine energy,
you don't have to worry about them. They'll naturally fall out of your
life. But you don't have to be in your masculine. You don't have
to say, well, they're in their feminine, so I have to be
my masculine. You can step up in your feminine energy anyway and let them
fall out. And that's a lesson for me to learn. It's a lesson
for all of us to learn. And I think it's really interesting because I
always think that way if someone's in a lower vibration, but I didn't think
that way when it came to divine feminine energy. So my mistake number five
was thinking that I had to be in my masculine if my partner was in
their feminine. No, I can show up in my feminine and if they
can't polarize into their masculine, then they'll just fall out of your life.
So what happened was I didn't know that at that time, So that was
a mistake. Number five. I did the Abraham Hicks technique wouldn't it be
nice? And this is a manifesting technique. This is a side note,
so if you want to manifest someone, listen up. This technique goes.
All you do is say, wouldn't it be nice? If I met a
partner, And this was what I wanted who was over six foot? I
said, one physical thing, get over it, over six foot, who
likes to read books, who had a relationship with God, who was into
working out too, And that was basically it, I think, And so
I manifested, Oh how could I forget? The most important thing was that
he was very much in his masculine energy. That was like the first thing
that I said. I manifested exactly that within like a week a week.
Okay, Now my mistake. I was not specific enough and that came to
the bite meet in the butt a little bit later. So yeah, he
was definitely in his masculine, kind of his wounded masculine. Though. He
was somewhat controlling, Like every time we would take a walk, he would
never let me walk in front of him. First of all, you should
want me to walk in front of you so you can make sure that I'm
safe, duh. But he would always like push me behind him or like
next to him, and I found this so irritating. My spirit would turn
into a little flame every time, and I was like, oh god,
this is so annoying. I found that very controlling and annoying. Don't like,
I can't help if I walk a little faster, like walk faster anyway.
He also was a different religion, and to me, I didn't care
because my parents are two different religions and it's not been a problem for them.
But I knew it was gonna be a problem for him, so I
was like, I gotta cut my loss here and get out of this.
He also had very constricted views on women, and I was like, bro,
like I am, I'm but pretty traditional my thoughts about women men,
but you are like on some other level that I can't even like beyond okay,
beyond. So yes, I manifested someone who liked to work out.
He was like an MMA person, mixed martial arts. He literally said,
let's start our own book club. He had a relationship with God, but
different religion, so be specific. But also I said masculine, I didn't
say a healed masculine should have said that. But the biggest mistake that I
made here is I thought the masculine was so about the three D, and
I thought it was about like this, more so dominant kind not controlling,
but like dominant, a little bit controlling maybe, But that's not what the
divine masculine is. The divine masculine is so much more about a person who
can be present with you, who can be grounded when you feel ungrounded,
who can with stand your emotional storms, who can be there when you're having
heartache and can hear you when you're having pain. I now realize a masculine
energy isn't about you know, who's the most masculine when they walk in and
have this you know, stance and the job and the blah blah blah.
It's more so about who actually has that quiet confidence, who can be there
with me when I really need them. Because that's what masculine energy is.
Its presence. It's being able to provide safety and security. That dominant energy
he brought didn't feel safe and secure. It felt really constrictive. And that
was my mistake. Number six I didn't understand. Number five was I didn't
understand that I can be in my divine feminine energy regardless of what other people
are doing. And number six was I thought the divine masculine was this three
D image of this dominant man. But really it's about someone who can be
present with you. So the moral of this tail of boys and men is
I have the wrong idea about masculine energy, and I have the wrong idea
about feminine energy. I also think I learned that the grass is greener where
you water it. I was thinking, oh, this person is so passive,
and I was labeling so many negative meanings about that prior relationship, and
I thought the grass was gonna be greener with this more masculine man. But
every single partner is gonna have different problems, and you have to decide what
set of problems can you live with who's gonna annoy you the least. As
a Capricorn, that is something I know very well. The grass is simply
greener. Wherever you water it. I also realized that even though Specimen C
squared wasn't my husband, I realized that he was a better vibrational match and
closer to what my husband's going to be then Specimen six foot four. While
you're dating, it's okay that you don't find your husband in one second.
It's okay if you date around whatever. Realize that while you're dating, though,
contrast leads to clarification, and see how each of your matches is getting
better and better and better and better. Specimen C squared was a lot closer
and felt a lot better than Specimen six foot four. He wasn't it,
but he was closer. And you have to celebrate your little and big wins
when you can to just not get burnt out from dating. Next case study
Specimen X ex like my ex partner. Okay, I wanted a break from
Specimen X so badly, but I could not get myself to actually break up
with him. I knew I needed space, I knew I needed time to
focus on me, but it was so different for me to just end it.
Mistake number seven was me thinking that this was about him when really it
was about me. Our relationships as I said before, are our biggest mirrors
for our own wounds and our own feelings and our own inner world. I
was thinking, well, maybe I'm meant to stay with this person right now,
maybe I should keep them in my life. Maybe they're just the one.
No, CCE, it's just your anxious attachment. That's it. Girl,
You just have some wounds. Understand that your partners are not going to
be all love and light and rainbows and daisies. They are going to trigger
you. They are going to be a mirror to your own wounds. And
when you feel like I'm obsessed with this person or I can't go away from
this person, understand it's not about the dude. It's about the dynamic that
the dude is supplying to you, and therefore it's more about you and how
they're fitting into a story you've been telling yourself. Then it's actually about them
being the one. I had to take a step back and say, I
need some healing. I need to focus on me because this relationship is showing
me that there's something within me that needs love, that needs connection, that
needs healing, not that this person is just the one. Mistake Number eight
was I knew my intuition was telling me for a very long time, you
need space, you need space, you need space, but I wasn't listening
to it, and I kept trying to push it down, push it down,
push it down, push it down. And eventually me and Specimen X
got so toxic for one another that this brings me to mistake number nine.
I drove them to a point that they're like, I can't, I can't
do this anymore, and they ended up just ending it with me. I
could have, if I had the strength, ended it with them, but
I had anxious attachment haha, and so I couldn't at that time. And
the mistake number nine is I beg them to stay with me. I beg
them for love, baby girl, Begging someone to love you is your own
red flag. Your soulmate is not going to be someone you have to beg
to love you. You begging someone to love you is pointing towards something much
deeper. Maybe it's anxious attachment, maybe it's a wound that you've never felt
good enough, But either way, it has nothing to do with them,
and it has a whole lot to do with you. You want to fill
that hole you're feeling within you Oh, okay, get a life coach,
go to therapy, start praying to God. That person can never fill that
hole because they are not the ones who created it. This hole has been
within you for a very very long time. They might be the bandid on
the bullet wound, but they can never fill it up like you can.
This hole requires you to focus here. This hole requires you to water it,
you to look at it, you to nurture it. Not them.
They might be touching your wounds and you feel it ow they might be triggering
it, but it's been within you for a long time. Stop looking at
the dude, because it's not about them. It's about you. And when
you take responsibility for your own healing, your life will change. That's it.
And I didn't realize. I thought if I keep begging, if I
keep begging, he'll love me. No, because giving more of what you're
already giving and it's not being appreciated, will not get them to appreciate it
later. Not everyone can see value when there is value. Nope. That's
why some people can understand, oh, this is gonna be a good company,
Let me invest in this. I see value, and then they end
up becoming multimillionaires. Not everyone can see value. Do you know how many
people have been denied, denied, denied because someone else didn't see their value
and they end up becoming multimillionaires. I know we're talking about love, but
you have to understand not everyone can understand value, even when it's there.
If they can't understand your value, let them go find less somewhere else.
Mistake number ten because I didn't leave. When God removed this person from my
life, it hurt more. I could have had a smoother exit, but
I didn't listen to my intuition. I listened to my fear, and that
always makes things worse. I don't regret it. It hurt like hell.
I don't regret it because it led me to where I am now. But
please, when you know God's trying to remove someone from your life, let
them because the more you try to get them to stay, the more you
beg them, it doesn't get them to stay. It just makes their exit
harder on you. We have to start easing into our cycles of life instead
of trying to fight against them. If God is trying to remove someone from
your life, let God do the damn thing, because the more you fight
it. The more frustrated you're going to get and they're still going to leave.
The more tired you're going to get and they're still going to leave you.
Begging someone to love you doesn't mean that they're going to have a switch
that turns on in their head and they now love you. It means that
you're gonna feel like you have depleted yourself. If someone's trying to leave your
life, let them make room for the right person to come in. Make
room for yourself to focus on you. God knows better. Our ceiling is
God's floor. We don't always know what's best for us. And I have
spent so much time trying to hold on to things, so much time trying
to really get my claws into someone or something to make it stay. But
when God wants something removed from your life, it's leaving, whether you like
it or not. And you can try to fight that transition, but you're
just going to cause more frustration for yourself. The Buddha actually never said that
attachment is the root of all misery. What the Buddha said was that wishing
things were different than they are. That is the root of all misery.
Stop wishing, Stop trying stop trying to control everything and let things be,
allow cycles to unfold for you. You're not alone. You are a co
creator of your life, so co create. Don't try to control everything.
Moral of this tale of boys than men, maybe a girl heal Look at
yourself. They're a mirror of you. Look at yourself. Get the life
coach, do the energy healing work on yourself. If they're meant to be
yours, they will come back around new and improved. This specimen of the
X is my now current partner. Yep. We broke up for about a
year, we didn't speak, and then we both came back new and improved.
Yep. I didn't want to tell you that till the end. He's
surprise ending, but we have to surrender. I had a surrender by the
way. I did not try to manifest my ex back into my life.
No, And that's exactly why he came back into my life. Because I
refocused on me. I said, what do I need to heal within myself?
What do I need to focus on? What do I want to do
with my career, my hobbies, my friends? And because I took back
my focus, I took back my power and he felt this shift and when
we realigned, we were both better versions of ourselves and we've been able to
come back together in divine union. But that could never have happened if I
was stalking him, begging for him to come back, and wasting all my
energy on him. They always come back when you come back to yourself first.
It's energetic law. So do what you need to do to become the
best version of you, and that X will either come back a better,
improved version or you'll get someone better. Either way, when you focus on
you, you always win in the end. Next case study is Specimen F.
The reason why he's called Specimen F is because he ghosted me after he
met my family. Haha, once again, joke on me. Anyway,
when he ghosted me, I made a ton of negative meanings about myself,
and this is mistake number eleven. I was making it personal about me and
I didn't realize it was just vibrational. When he ghosted me, I said,
Oh, it's because I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy enough,
I'm not pretty enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm not blah blah blah
blah blah blah. No. A lot of time we look at a three
d circumstance, and then we convince ourselves that somehow this happened because we're not
good enough. That was a lie I was telling myself, So what do
I want you to do? Flip the script because I'm the subject of your
own sentence. Once again, I realized, wait a second, it's not
that I'm not good enough for this man. He is not good enough for
me. He can't give me what I want. He can't give me what
I need. He ghosted me if he can't even communicate, and he ghosted
me with his words. God knows what he would ghost me with in his
future. This isn't personal, this is vibrational. Of course, he ended
up coming back around, because they always do when we come back to ourselves
first, and I said, you know what, I can be your friend,
but that's all I can offer. Because I realized this was God's showing
me that I first of all had to stop ghosting myself, which I didn't
ghost myself when he came back around, because I said, no, no,
no, no, I'm not going to ghost myself. I'm standing up
for myself. This is not going to happen. But also when something happens
in my reality, It's not about me not being good enough. This was
a lesson in my worthiness, in my self esteem, me recognizing my own
strength. No more thinking that you're not good enough, and start realizing that
the things that are not good enough for you have to fall out of your
life. No more thinking you're not good enough, and start realizing that things
that are not in vibrational alignment with you, they have to fall out of
your life so that a higher vibrational match opportunity, please person, whatever it
is, can come in to your reality. Moral of this tale of boys
and men is that people are going to put us down. So please,
for the love of God, don't put yourself down. You don't need to
create negative meaning around the circumstances that happen in your life, because magnetic women
see circumstances for what they are and they create positive meaning around it anyway to
push themselves forward. This wasn't personal, This was vibrational. This wasn't because
I wasn't good enough. It was because he wasn't good enough for me.
Positive bitches. I hope these case studies will help you under stand some lessons
about dating that you can take into your own life. There were eleven mistakes
that I've made throughout these tales of boys and men, and I hope they
can help you understand your own internal world so you can have better results in
dating and better results in your love life, and also better results in your
connection with yourself. As always, the Sparkle and Me honors the sparkle in
you. If you're watching this on YouTube, please put a comment below,
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podcast this year. I really want us to grow, and I'm going to
put that out there now because we're ready. Positive bitches, let's empower one
another to take our power back so we can simply get what it is we
want and so deserve. I love you, I love you, I love
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