WEBVTT 1 00:00:01.280 --> 00:00:19.679 Andenogy such cancelgem so High, Ecstasy, hessage cansagemach not Sorry, andlogy what's 2 00:00:19.719 --> 00:00:23.719 up? Positive bitches? How are we doing today? If you're hearing this 3 00:00:23.800 --> 00:00:27.519 episode, you were meant to be here, so keep listening All that Bitch 4 00:00:27.559 --> 00:00:32.079 Is Positive podcast. Sometimes we will laugh, other times Babe a girl, 5 00:00:32.560 --> 00:00:37.399 We're gonna cry, but we will always walk away feeling our most empowered positive 6 00:00:37.520 --> 00:00:42.719 bitch self. That is Babe in true connection with herself. On this podcast, 7 00:00:42.759 --> 00:00:46.799 we unbecome who we are not so we can fully step into exactly who 8 00:00:46.840 --> 00:00:51.280 we came here to be. Today we are talking about we know them, 9 00:00:51.320 --> 00:00:55.920 we do not always love them. Men. Yep, all the mistakes I've 10 00:00:55.960 --> 00:01:02.119 made wild dating in my twenty six years of living on this planet. We 11 00:01:02.200 --> 00:01:07.040 are going to be diving into my very own tale of boys and men in 12 00:01:07.280 --> 00:01:11.879 CC oh my, oh my, ow my. I intend that you can 13 00:01:11.959 --> 00:01:17.599 learn from my mistakes so you don't have to waste your own time. Success 14 00:01:17.760 --> 00:01:23.319 leaves clues and so do some failures. So I'm going to impart everything I've 15 00:01:23.400 --> 00:01:27.599 learned the mistakes I've made with you, essentially exposing myself on the Internet and 16 00:01:27.719 --> 00:01:34.599 h Chef's Kiss so that you can run where I have walked. Okay, 17 00:01:36.400 --> 00:01:40.159 Before we get into it, a couple of announcements. 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So we are going to go through a couple of different 36 00:03:01.599 --> 00:03:07.520 specimens that I have dated in the past, and we're going to learn from 37 00:03:07.639 --> 00:03:13.960 my own very mistakes. The first case study we will be driving into is 38 00:03:14.120 --> 00:03:19.280 specimen six foot four. This is because he was a Polish six foot four 39 00:03:19.800 --> 00:03:23.039 Viking. Let's dive into it, shall we. Okay, So I was 40 00:03:23.120 --> 00:03:28.759 out at a bar and I was dancing, and out of nowhere, the 41 00:03:28.879 --> 00:03:31.199 six foot four man just starts dancing with me. I was so confused. 42 00:03:31.319 --> 00:03:34.840 How do you not see a huge man come up to you? I don't 43 00:03:34.840 --> 00:03:37.319 know either, but somehow he just appeared and I was like, whoa, 44 00:03:37.400 --> 00:03:39.319 Okay, this is fine. I guess I can just do this. Sure. 45 00:03:40.400 --> 00:03:43.960 Then we started talking and he was like, let me get you a 46 00:03:44.039 --> 00:03:50.280 drink. So we go to get a drink. He immediately starts basically trauma 47 00:03:50.360 --> 00:03:53.400 dumping on me. How if it wasn't for his family, he would essentially 48 00:03:53.599 --> 00:04:04.719 un alive himself. First red flag, I am hearing this man immediately, 49 00:04:04.879 --> 00:04:11.520 this grown man, he's an adult, immediately start telling me very very dark 50 00:04:12.319 --> 00:04:15.079 emotions that he feels about himself. I don't even know his name, by 51 00:04:15.079 --> 00:04:19.279 the way, I called him the wrong name for three weeks. Didn't know 52 00:04:19.759 --> 00:04:24.920 anyway, I don't know your name. He starts telling me all these deep, 53 00:04:25.000 --> 00:04:28.160 dark things, and I thought, oh, this is someone I can 54 00:04:28.199 --> 00:04:33.480 fix. You are not a rehabilitation center for other humans. You are not 55 00:04:33.600 --> 00:04:39.680 their fixer. You are a human being focused on yourself. The real red 56 00:04:39.720 --> 00:04:46.759 flag here was that he was leading with his divine wounded feminine. When you 57 00:04:46.920 --> 00:04:53.519 meet a masculine energy and they immediately start talking about their emotions. He said 58 00:04:53.560 --> 00:04:56.759 he was gonna unlive himself if it wasn't for his family. This was his 59 00:04:56.800 --> 00:05:03.160 wounded feminine. If you think about base sick animalistic tendencies, what do peacocks 60 00:05:03.199 --> 00:05:10.120 do in order to attract a female mate. They show their feathers, all 61 00:05:10.160 --> 00:05:15.120 of their irridescent tail feathers, and they strup back and forth, shaking their 62 00:05:15.439 --> 00:05:19.120 feathers to produce this rattling sound, and it makes a loud call out to 63 00:05:19.199 --> 00:05:25.920 all the females. When a man wants to court you, he's not going 64 00:05:25.959 --> 00:05:30.160 to lead with his wounded feminine emotions. He's going to lead with his masculine 65 00:05:30.199 --> 00:05:35.199 strengths. And that was something I didn't know at this time. A lot 66 00:05:35.240 --> 00:05:41.480 of men who lead with their wounded feminine it's sort of a subconscious, manipulative 67 00:05:41.839 --> 00:05:45.319 tactive of Oh, I'm gonna lead with my feminine I'm gonna tell them all 68 00:05:45.319 --> 00:05:48.600 these things so they feel close. So that way they feel like, oh, 69 00:05:48.959 --> 00:05:53.399 he's so open with me, he's so vulnerable, I'm gonna let him 70 00:05:53.399 --> 00:05:58.560 into my heart and let him into my life and my body. Absolutely not. 71 00:05:59.279 --> 00:06:02.040 You need to be on the lookout for men who lead with their wounded 72 00:06:02.160 --> 00:06:06.439 feminine energy, because they're trying to make it seem like they're so vulnerable and 73 00:06:06.439 --> 00:06:10.839 they're so open. But this is not a man who wants to court you. 74 00:06:10.879 --> 00:06:13.839 He wants to take you to bed. And there's a difference. Okay, 75 00:06:14.480 --> 00:06:18.319 when a man wants to actually establish a relationship with you, he's not 76 00:06:18.360 --> 00:06:23.319 going to lead with his weakness. That makes no sense. He is going 77 00:06:23.360 --> 00:06:28.399 to lead with his strength. So if a man is immediately upon meeting him, 78 00:06:28.439 --> 00:06:31.680 talking about all of his wounded emotions, he's leading with his wounded feminine. 79 00:06:31.720 --> 00:06:39.519 He wants to take you to bed, not down the aisle when they 80 00:06:40.720 --> 00:06:46.319 are trying to manipulate us with their emotions. Whether it's subconscious or not, 81 00:06:46.959 --> 00:06:50.639 it doesn't matter. This is not someone we want to pursue. It's not 82 00:06:50.800 --> 00:06:56.079 someone we need to fix. Get out of your own damn head. You 83 00:06:56.160 --> 00:06:59.800 are not a fixer, You're a human being. The second red flag is 84 00:06:59.839 --> 00:07:02.000 that he never asked me out on a date. He asked me to Netflix 85 00:07:02.040 --> 00:07:04.480 and chill. He said, come over, we can have some wine. 86 00:07:05.519 --> 00:07:09.519 Thank god I happened to be busy that I couldn't go over, because I 87 00:07:09.519 --> 00:07:16.480 would have said yes. But there was no progression of connection. Another red 88 00:07:16.519 --> 00:07:24.839 flag he told me upon meeting he was never going to call me. I 89 00:07:24.920 --> 00:07:30.920 know myself, okay. Not only did I used to have a high codependency 90 00:07:30.319 --> 00:07:35.279 and anxious attachment, I also, as a woman, need to hear your 91 00:07:35.360 --> 00:07:40.120 voice. I need to talk to you to feel connected to you, or 92 00:07:40.160 --> 00:07:43.160 else I literally forget you exist and you pop out of my reality. I 93 00:07:43.160 --> 00:07:47.839 don't even know anymore. I knew that him just texting me every now and 94 00:07:47.920 --> 00:07:51.120 again. By the way, he barely ever texted me I knew he wasn't 95 00:07:51.120 --> 00:07:56.639 going to be enough for me, and I let it go anyway because simply 96 00:07:57.000 --> 00:08:00.439 I felt a little bit lonely, so I said, oh what, this 97 00:08:00.480 --> 00:08:07.360 is better than nothing? No wrong. When you drop your standards, you 98 00:08:07.560 --> 00:08:13.720 allow in people who are only going to take away from your life. Remember 99 00:08:13.800 --> 00:08:18.399 the Harvard principle. Have high standards and a low acceptance rate for the bs 100 00:08:18.480 --> 00:08:24.360 you accept into your life. Every time he didn't call me, every day 101 00:08:24.399 --> 00:08:30.199 that went by, when he would text me a low vibrational conversation, it 102 00:08:30.319 --> 00:08:33.840 was like little pieces of me were just breaking away, breaking away because I 103 00:08:33.960 --> 00:08:37.879 knew what I needed and I wasn't speaking up for what I needed. I 104 00:08:37.960 --> 00:08:41.200 let it go. I tried to convince myself that this was going to be 105 00:08:41.320 --> 00:08:46.559 enough. Stop convincing yourself that people who give you the bare minimum are enough 106 00:08:46.600 --> 00:08:52.159 for you. They're not. They're not enough for you. That's oh okay, 107 00:08:54.240 --> 00:08:58.440 that's okay. I remember one time he not even texted me. He 108 00:08:58.559 --> 00:09:01.919 GMed me he had my number, but he chose to damn me on Instagram. 109 00:09:01.960 --> 00:09:07.279 Okay, he damns me on Instagram a picture of a sandwich and he 110 00:09:07.320 --> 00:09:09.799 said, does this look good to you? It looked disgusting. Of course, 111 00:09:09.799 --> 00:09:16.519 I was like, yes, king, ugh ugh. My mistake number 112 00:09:16.519 --> 00:09:22.639 two was I was doing the job of a girlfriend without being paid with the 113 00:09:22.679 --> 00:09:26.000 title of a girlfriend. I wasn't in love with this dude, but I 114 00:09:26.240 --> 00:09:31.320 liked him. I was giving him more effort. I was letting go of 115 00:09:31.360 --> 00:09:35.440 my boundaries. I was letting go of my standards. I was meeting him 116 00:09:35.440 --> 00:09:37.159 where he wanted to meet. I was going where he wanted to go. 117 00:09:37.960 --> 00:09:43.720 I was too available. I gave too much of my energy, too much 118 00:09:43.720 --> 00:09:48.240 of my body, too much of my time. And the thing that really 119 00:09:48.240 --> 00:09:52.120 gets me going. And I've told this before, but I even helped him 120 00:09:52.159 --> 00:10:03.919 clean his apartment. Yep. I took out his track Oh God, Oh 121 00:10:03.960 --> 00:10:11.240 God, Yeah, the kicker for me, the cherry on top of the 122 00:10:11.279 --> 00:10:15.039 cake, if you will. Was There was a book next to his bed 123 00:10:15.320 --> 00:10:18.039 that literally I cannot remember the title because God doesn't even want me to know 124 00:10:18.120 --> 00:10:22.720 it. That was literally about disproving the existence of God. And then I 125 00:10:22.759 --> 00:10:26.600 said, I gotta get the hell out of here, gotta get out of 126 00:10:26.639 --> 00:10:33.000 here. This man was everything I didn't want. Yet I kept allowing him 127 00:10:33.000 --> 00:10:39.000 into my life. And what we allow into our life, we amplify. 128 00:10:39.039 --> 00:10:43.480 This was a jump scare for me. My mistake number one was not realizing 129 00:10:43.600 --> 00:10:48.799 the red flags. Was not realizing that he was leading with his wounded divine 130 00:10:48.799 --> 00:10:52.600 feminine. He wasn't making the plans, he wasn't giving effort. I was 131 00:10:52.799 --> 00:10:56.279 mistake number two doing the job of a girlfriend without getting paid with the title. 132 00:10:56.320 --> 00:11:01.480 And that brings me to mistake number three, which is intimacy, being 133 00:11:01.639 --> 00:11:07.759 intimate with someone who I knew couldn't give me what I needed. Energy transference 134 00:11:09.559 --> 00:11:13.360 when you are whether you like it or not, this is not a conversation 135 00:11:13.399 --> 00:11:16.480 for you to try to disprove it's true. I don't care if you don't 136 00:11:16.480 --> 00:11:18.120 believe it. This is true. It's like gravity. It applies whether you 137 00:11:18.159 --> 00:11:22.000 believe it or not. Energy transference is always going to happen when you're intimate 138 00:11:22.039 --> 00:11:26.559 with another person. What does this mean? Some of your energy goes onto 139 00:11:26.639 --> 00:11:28.159 them and some of their energy goes on to you. It's like putting both 140 00:11:28.200 --> 00:11:33.279 of your energies into a blender and then drinking that smoothie. Okay, It's 141 00:11:33.320 --> 00:11:35.879 like gluing two pieces of paper together and then trying to rip them apart. 142 00:11:37.000 --> 00:11:41.960 It gets messy. When I was intimate with this person, some of his 143 00:11:41.080 --> 00:11:46.600 negative energy got onto me, and then I started having negative thoughts about myself. 144 00:11:46.000 --> 00:11:50.919 I started thinking low about myself. Of course I did that because his 145 00:11:52.039 --> 00:11:56.039 thoughts about me were low. He was disrespecting me. He just thought, 146 00:11:56.039 --> 00:11:58.559 oh, this is some girl who cares. And I started taking on his 147 00:12:00.159 --> 00:12:03.960 low vibrational entities, his low vibrational thoughts. When you go out and you 148 00:12:03.039 --> 00:12:07.360 just meet a random person, you don't know their demons. Okay, you 149 00:12:07.399 --> 00:12:11.240 don't know their traumas, you don't know all their low vibrational things. I 150 00:12:11.399 --> 00:12:15.679 had a godwink because this man literally told me to my face, I would 151 00:12:15.679 --> 00:12:18.679 wanna livee myself if it wasn't for my family. He literally told me to 152 00:12:18.720 --> 00:12:20.480 my face how low a vibration he was. But I was like, oh, 153 00:12:20.480 --> 00:12:26.799 it's fine, No it wasn't, No, it wasn't. These are 154 00:12:26.919 --> 00:12:31.399 the things we need to stop doing to ourselves. And of course mistake number 155 00:12:31.399 --> 00:12:37.080 four was that even as the relationship continued, if we can even call it 156 00:12:37.080 --> 00:12:41.759 a relationship, it was really a situationship. Even as it continued, I 157 00:12:41.039 --> 00:12:46.960 still never spoke up. Instead of me speaking up for my own needs as 158 00:12:48.080 --> 00:12:50.440 it got more serious, Even after we were intimate. What did I do? 159 00:12:52.559 --> 00:12:56.080 I ghosted myself and said, ugh, jump scare once again, I 160 00:12:56.200 --> 00:13:03.039 ghosted myself Instead, our relationship to ourself will be mirrored back to us in 161 00:13:03.080 --> 00:13:07.159 our external reality. Baby girl, if you don't want to be ghosted anymore, 162 00:13:07.399 --> 00:13:13.759 stop ghosting yourself. I ghosted my wants, my desires, my values, 163 00:13:13.759 --> 00:13:16.919 my boundaries, and my standards. And guess what he did to me? 164 00:13:16.360 --> 00:13:22.279 He ghosted me too. Because how I treat myself is the biggest teacher 165 00:13:22.679 --> 00:13:28.039 for how others are going to treat me too. It's the biggest indicator of 166 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:33.120 how other people are going to treat me too. I showed him how to 167 00:13:33.159 --> 00:13:35.679 treat me because I like, oh of my boundaries, like go of my 168 00:13:35.759 --> 00:13:37.480 values, I like go of my center. So of course he's not going 169 00:13:37.519 --> 00:13:41.679 to respect it either. If I can ghost myself, why wouldn't he be 170 00:13:41.720 --> 00:13:46.799 able to ghost me too. We're so afraid as women, I believe, 171 00:13:46.879 --> 00:13:50.639 to speak up for our needs because we're afraid to be perceived as needy. 172 00:13:50.960 --> 00:13:56.639 But guess what. The squeaky wheel gets the grease when you're courageous enough to 173 00:13:56.919 --> 00:14:01.480 place yourself on your pedestal and speak up for your needs. Your needs will 174 00:14:01.519 --> 00:14:05.320 be met from the universe and from your partners. When you place yourself on 175 00:14:05.360 --> 00:14:09.960 the pedestal, other people will look up at you and give you what it 176 00:14:09.039 --> 00:14:13.039 is you desire. But when you place them on a pedestal and ghost yourself, 177 00:14:13.399 --> 00:14:18.720 they're gonna look down at you. They're gonna disrespect you too. Because 178 00:14:18.759 --> 00:14:24.600 you are disrespecting yourself. No one can displace you. You can only displace 179 00:14:24.639 --> 00:14:28.320 yourself, and then others will treat you accordingly to your own treatment. You 180 00:14:28.480 --> 00:14:33.039 have the power to change your life, and it begins by you shifting how 181 00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:37.879 you're treating yourself. If you don't like how they're treating you, stop allowing 182 00:14:37.919 --> 00:14:43.120 it. If you don't like that they don't respect you, cut them out 183 00:14:43.120 --> 00:14:46.279 of your life until they can do better. It's up to you. The 184 00:14:46.320 --> 00:14:52.320 power has quite literally always been in your hands. If you don't want their 185 00:14:52.360 --> 00:14:56.039 low vibrational energy, stop being intimate with them. If you want to be 186 00:14:56.159 --> 00:14:58.679 given the title of a girlfriend, stop allowing them to be in your life 187 00:14:58.720 --> 00:15:05.320 without giving you the title of a girlfriend. Stop ignoring the red flags. 188 00:15:05.639 --> 00:15:13.399 Put it to rest. The moral of this tale of boys and Men from 189 00:15:13.600 --> 00:15:20.080 Specimen six foot four is this I was in a low vibration During this time, 190 00:15:20.159 --> 00:15:24.120 I was going out every single weekend. I was drinking away my thoughts 191 00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:28.759 and my emotions because I didn't even want to look at them. And because 192 00:15:28.799 --> 00:15:33.960 I was in a low vibrational place, disrespecting myself, I attracted someone who 193 00:15:33.080 --> 00:15:39.159 was also in a low vibration place, who was also going to disrespect me, 194 00:15:39.600 --> 00:15:43.000 and who was also not going to see me as the prize that I 195 00:15:43.039 --> 00:15:50.480 truly am. Another moral of the Tale of Boys and Men is I gave 196 00:15:50.600 --> 00:15:54.679 too much of myself away too soon. And in general, the other part 197 00:15:54.720 --> 00:16:00.600 of this is I ghosted myself, and so he ghosted me too. Hear 198 00:16:00.679 --> 00:16:06.519 me when I say giving more of what already isn't appreciated won't get them to 199 00:16:06.600 --> 00:16:11.600 commit to you. You committing to yourself and saying I'm not going to allow 200 00:16:11.679 --> 00:16:15.639 this, that will shift them. That will shift you, That will shift 201 00:16:15.679 --> 00:16:21.080 your reality. What happens when you keep giving, giving, even though you're 202 00:16:21.080 --> 00:16:26.639 never receiving, is they'll just continuously take advantage of you. No, we're 203 00:16:26.720 --> 00:16:32.600 no longer living in a world where we're not putting ourselves on our own pedestal. 204 00:16:32.960 --> 00:16:37.080 We're no longer receiving treatment where we feel like we're getting disrespected left and 205 00:16:37.279 --> 00:16:42.360 right. You have to understand that you truly have the power to stop allowing 206 00:16:42.440 --> 00:16:47.759 this behavior, to stop allowing these people into your life. Another moral of 207 00:16:47.799 --> 00:16:51.799 this tale of boys and men is that I had the power all along and 208 00:16:51.879 --> 00:16:56.759 I didn't use it. I didn't assert myself. I didn't put myself on 209 00:16:56.799 --> 00:17:02.080 the pedestal. And now I know better. Okay, next specimen, next 210 00:17:02.159 --> 00:17:07.759 case study, specimen C two, and that stands for C squared. It 211 00:17:07.839 --> 00:17:11.359 stands for course correction. Mm hmm. So what a lot of us do 212 00:17:11.640 --> 00:17:17.880 is we'll be in a relationship and maybe we're in a relationship with someone who's 213 00:17:18.079 --> 00:17:22.319 also in their feminine or more passive. So then in our next relationship we 214 00:17:22.400 --> 00:17:27.920 try to course correct and we go so far to the opposite pull that we 215 00:17:29.039 --> 00:17:32.799 overdo it. Okay, hello, Yes, that's what I did. I 216 00:17:32.960 --> 00:17:36.799 was in a relationship that I felt like I was in a lot of my 217 00:17:36.920 --> 00:17:41.079 masculine energy most of the time, and when that relationship ended, I said 218 00:17:41.079 --> 00:17:45.799 to myself, I want a relationship in which my partner is super masculine. 219 00:17:45.440 --> 00:17:52.400 So that is what I'm going to get. And here's mistake number five. 220 00:17:52.519 --> 00:17:56.240 Okay, I have been working with a shaman recently. I've always I've been 221 00:17:56.279 --> 00:18:00.680 working with her for years, but something that we've really recently been talking about 222 00:18:00.880 --> 00:18:07.240 is I have to watch that when there's other people in my vicinity or when 223 00:18:07.240 --> 00:18:11.680 I was in relationships in my past, I would shift either in my masculine 224 00:18:11.759 --> 00:18:15.880 or my feminine solely based on what that person was leading with. So if 225 00:18:15.880 --> 00:18:19.079 my partner was leading with their masculine, I would go into my feminine. 226 00:18:19.079 --> 00:18:22.960 If they were leading with their feminine, I would go into my masculine. 227 00:18:22.480 --> 00:18:27.440 And what this shaman has been working with me to do is understanding that my 228 00:18:27.640 --> 00:18:33.920 feminine energy is my responsibility. Disclaimer, there will be partners who make you 229 00:18:33.920 --> 00:18:37.480 feel unsafe, so you do go into your masculine energy. But what she 230 00:18:37.640 --> 00:18:41.440 is imparting on me, which I will impart on you, is that your 231 00:18:41.519 --> 00:18:47.240 feminine energy is your responsibility and you want to be in your divine feminine energy 232 00:18:47.319 --> 00:18:52.559 regardless of what energies people are in around you. So yes, people can 233 00:18:52.599 --> 00:18:56.680 affect what energy you step up into in their presence, but you really want 234 00:18:56.680 --> 00:19:02.160 to try to say, regardless if you're gonna step into your masculine or you're 235 00:19:02.160 --> 00:19:06.599 feminine I'm gonna be my feminine. I always think if someone's in a lower 236 00:19:06.680 --> 00:19:10.240 vibration, you're not gonna bring me down just because you're in a lower vibration. 237 00:19:10.400 --> 00:19:14.119 Maybe I'll raise you up, or I'm just gonna leave. It's kind 238 00:19:14.119 --> 00:19:18.640 of that same essence of regardless of what people are doing around you, you 239 00:19:18.680 --> 00:19:22.480 can decide to show up in your feminine energy anyway, and the people who 240 00:19:22.559 --> 00:19:26.279 are also in their feminine energy, the partners who are in their feminine energy, 241 00:19:26.559 --> 00:19:30.400 you don't have to worry about them. They'll naturally fall out of your 242 00:19:30.400 --> 00:19:33.960 life. But you don't have to be in your masculine. You don't have 243 00:19:33.039 --> 00:19:34.839 to say, well, they're in their feminine, so I have to be 244 00:19:34.920 --> 00:19:38.839 my masculine. You can step up in your feminine energy anyway and let them 245 00:19:38.880 --> 00:19:41.680 fall out. And that's a lesson for me to learn. It's a lesson 246 00:19:41.720 --> 00:19:45.640 for all of us to learn. And I think it's really interesting because I 247 00:19:45.720 --> 00:19:48.279 always think that way if someone's in a lower vibration, but I didn't think 248 00:19:48.319 --> 00:19:53.160 that way when it came to divine feminine energy. So my mistake number five 249 00:19:53.359 --> 00:19:56.880 was thinking that I had to be in my masculine if my partner was in 250 00:19:56.880 --> 00:20:02.079 their feminine. No, I can show up in my feminine and if they 251 00:20:02.160 --> 00:20:04.920 can't polarize into their masculine, then they'll just fall out of your life. 252 00:20:06.720 --> 00:20:08.680 So what happened was I didn't know that at that time, So that was 253 00:20:08.680 --> 00:20:14.079 a mistake. Number five. I did the Abraham Hicks technique wouldn't it be 254 00:20:14.160 --> 00:20:17.559 nice? And this is a manifesting technique. This is a side note, 255 00:20:17.559 --> 00:20:19.960 so if you want to manifest someone, listen up. This technique goes. 256 00:20:21.480 --> 00:20:25.200 All you do is say, wouldn't it be nice? If I met a 257 00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:29.480 partner, And this was what I wanted who was over six foot? I 258 00:20:29.559 --> 00:20:33.200 said, one physical thing, get over it, over six foot, who 259 00:20:33.440 --> 00:20:36.640 likes to read books, who had a relationship with God, who was into 260 00:20:36.680 --> 00:20:41.200 working out too, And that was basically it, I think, And so 261 00:20:41.240 --> 00:20:45.000 I manifested, Oh how could I forget? The most important thing was that 262 00:20:45.079 --> 00:20:47.960 he was very much in his masculine energy. That was like the first thing 263 00:20:47.960 --> 00:20:52.440 that I said. I manifested exactly that within like a week a week. 264 00:20:52.559 --> 00:20:59.640 Okay, Now my mistake. I was not specific enough and that came to 265 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:02.920 the bite meet in the butt a little bit later. So yeah, he 266 00:21:03.039 --> 00:21:07.400 was definitely in his masculine, kind of his wounded masculine. Though. He 267 00:21:07.559 --> 00:21:12.279 was somewhat controlling, Like every time we would take a walk, he would 268 00:21:12.359 --> 00:21:15.200 never let me walk in front of him. First of all, you should 269 00:21:15.240 --> 00:21:18.680 want me to walk in front of you so you can make sure that I'm 270 00:21:18.720 --> 00:21:22.440 safe, duh. But he would always like push me behind him or like 271 00:21:22.519 --> 00:21:26.519 next to him, and I found this so irritating. My spirit would turn 272 00:21:26.519 --> 00:21:29.119 into a little flame every time, and I was like, oh god, 273 00:21:29.200 --> 00:21:33.000 this is so annoying. I found that very controlling and annoying. Don't like, 274 00:21:33.079 --> 00:21:36.359 I can't help if I walk a little faster, like walk faster anyway. 275 00:21:37.279 --> 00:21:40.759 He also was a different religion, and to me, I didn't care 276 00:21:40.759 --> 00:21:44.200 because my parents are two different religions and it's not been a problem for them. 277 00:21:44.839 --> 00:21:47.519 But I knew it was gonna be a problem for him, so I 278 00:21:47.519 --> 00:21:48.400 was like, I gotta cut my loss here and get out of this. 279 00:21:49.400 --> 00:21:53.720 He also had very constricted views on women, and I was like, bro, 280 00:21:53.920 --> 00:22:00.400 like I am, I'm but pretty traditional my thoughts about women men, 281 00:22:00.920 --> 00:22:06.480 but you are like on some other level that I can't even like beyond okay, 282 00:22:06.519 --> 00:22:11.640 beyond. So yes, I manifested someone who liked to work out. 283 00:22:11.640 --> 00:22:15.480 He was like an MMA person, mixed martial arts. He literally said, 284 00:22:15.519 --> 00:22:18.440 let's start our own book club. He had a relationship with God, but 285 00:22:18.519 --> 00:22:23.160 different religion, so be specific. But also I said masculine, I didn't 286 00:22:23.160 --> 00:22:29.799 say a healed masculine should have said that. But the biggest mistake that I 287 00:22:29.960 --> 00:22:36.519 made here is I thought the masculine was so about the three D, and 288 00:22:36.599 --> 00:22:41.599 I thought it was about like this, more so dominant kind not controlling, 289 00:22:41.640 --> 00:22:45.920 but like dominant, a little bit controlling maybe, But that's not what the 290 00:22:45.960 --> 00:22:52.519 divine masculine is. The divine masculine is so much more about a person who 291 00:22:52.559 --> 00:22:57.160 can be present with you, who can be grounded when you feel ungrounded, 292 00:22:57.920 --> 00:23:03.039 who can with stand your emotional storms, who can be there when you're having 293 00:23:03.119 --> 00:23:08.839 heartache and can hear you when you're having pain. I now realize a masculine 294 00:23:08.960 --> 00:23:14.079 energy isn't about you know, who's the most masculine when they walk in and 295 00:23:14.119 --> 00:23:17.720 have this you know, stance and the job and the blah blah blah. 296 00:23:17.839 --> 00:23:22.960 It's more so about who actually has that quiet confidence, who can be there 297 00:23:22.000 --> 00:23:27.240 with me when I really need them. Because that's what masculine energy is. 298 00:23:27.279 --> 00:23:34.799 Its presence. It's being able to provide safety and security. That dominant energy 299 00:23:34.839 --> 00:23:40.920 he brought didn't feel safe and secure. It felt really constrictive. And that 300 00:23:41.079 --> 00:23:45.000 was my mistake. Number six I didn't understand. Number five was I didn't 301 00:23:45.079 --> 00:23:48.799 understand that I can be in my divine feminine energy regardless of what other people 302 00:23:48.839 --> 00:23:52.200 are doing. And number six was I thought the divine masculine was this three 303 00:23:52.319 --> 00:23:57.440 D image of this dominant man. But really it's about someone who can be 304 00:23:57.559 --> 00:24:04.720 present with you. So the moral of this tail of boys and men is 305 00:24:07.039 --> 00:24:10.319 I have the wrong idea about masculine energy, and I have the wrong idea 306 00:24:10.319 --> 00:24:15.119 about feminine energy. I also think I learned that the grass is greener where 307 00:24:15.160 --> 00:24:18.920 you water it. I was thinking, oh, this person is so passive, 308 00:24:18.079 --> 00:24:25.039 and I was labeling so many negative meanings about that prior relationship, and 309 00:24:25.119 --> 00:24:27.160 I thought the grass was gonna be greener with this more masculine man. But 310 00:24:27.279 --> 00:24:32.559 every single partner is gonna have different problems, and you have to decide what 311 00:24:32.720 --> 00:24:37.759 set of problems can you live with who's gonna annoy you the least. As 312 00:24:37.759 --> 00:24:41.839 a Capricorn, that is something I know very well. The grass is simply 313 00:24:41.200 --> 00:24:51.440 greener. Wherever you water it. I also realized that even though Specimen C 314 00:24:51.640 --> 00:24:59.160 squared wasn't my husband, I realized that he was a better vibrational match and 315 00:24:59.279 --> 00:25:03.160 closer to what my husband's going to be then Specimen six foot four. While 316 00:25:03.200 --> 00:25:07.359 you're dating, it's okay that you don't find your husband in one second. 317 00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:12.160 It's okay if you date around whatever. Realize that while you're dating, though, 318 00:25:12.440 --> 00:25:18.519 contrast leads to clarification, and see how each of your matches is getting 319 00:25:18.599 --> 00:25:23.279 better and better and better and better. Specimen C squared was a lot closer 320 00:25:23.400 --> 00:25:29.079 and felt a lot better than Specimen six foot four. He wasn't it, 321 00:25:29.319 --> 00:25:33.039 but he was closer. And you have to celebrate your little and big wins 322 00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:38.920 when you can to just not get burnt out from dating. Next case study 323 00:25:40.480 --> 00:25:45.640 Specimen X ex like my ex partner. Okay, I wanted a break from 324 00:25:45.680 --> 00:25:55.160 Specimen X so badly, but I could not get myself to actually break up 325 00:25:55.200 --> 00:25:57.400 with him. I knew I needed space, I knew I needed time to 326 00:25:57.440 --> 00:26:02.920 focus on me, but it was so different for me to just end it. 327 00:26:03.440 --> 00:26:08.119 Mistake number seven was me thinking that this was about him when really it 328 00:26:08.160 --> 00:26:15.359 was about me. Our relationships as I said before, are our biggest mirrors 329 00:26:15.359 --> 00:26:19.599 for our own wounds and our own feelings and our own inner world. I 330 00:26:19.759 --> 00:26:23.160 was thinking, well, maybe I'm meant to stay with this person right now, 331 00:26:23.160 --> 00:26:26.839 maybe I should keep them in my life. Maybe they're just the one. 332 00:26:26.039 --> 00:26:30.720 No, CCE, it's just your anxious attachment. That's it. Girl, 333 00:26:30.799 --> 00:26:37.000 You just have some wounds. Understand that your partners are not going to 334 00:26:37.079 --> 00:26:41.200 be all love and light and rainbows and daisies. They are going to trigger 335 00:26:41.240 --> 00:26:45.240 you. They are going to be a mirror to your own wounds. And 336 00:26:45.279 --> 00:26:48.640 when you feel like I'm obsessed with this person or I can't go away from 337 00:26:48.680 --> 00:26:52.240 this person, understand it's not about the dude. It's about the dynamic that 338 00:26:52.279 --> 00:26:57.359 the dude is supplying to you, and therefore it's more about you and how 339 00:26:57.400 --> 00:27:02.400 they're fitting into a story you've been telling yourself. Then it's actually about them 340 00:27:02.440 --> 00:27:07.160 being the one. I had to take a step back and say, I 341 00:27:07.240 --> 00:27:11.359 need some healing. I need to focus on me because this relationship is showing 342 00:27:11.400 --> 00:27:15.279 me that there's something within me that needs love, that needs connection, that 343 00:27:15.319 --> 00:27:21.519 needs healing, not that this person is just the one. Mistake Number eight 344 00:27:21.759 --> 00:27:26.720 was I knew my intuition was telling me for a very long time, you 345 00:27:26.759 --> 00:27:30.119 need space, you need space, you need space, but I wasn't listening 346 00:27:30.200 --> 00:27:34.079 to it, and I kept trying to push it down, push it down, 347 00:27:34.160 --> 00:27:37.960 push it down, push it down. And eventually me and Specimen X 348 00:27:38.039 --> 00:27:44.880 got so toxic for one another that this brings me to mistake number nine. 349 00:27:45.519 --> 00:27:48.839 I drove them to a point that they're like, I can't, I can't 350 00:27:48.839 --> 00:27:55.440 do this anymore, and they ended up just ending it with me. I 351 00:27:55.559 --> 00:27:57.119 could have, if I had the strength, ended it with them, but 352 00:27:57.240 --> 00:28:03.480 I had anxious attachment haha, and so I couldn't at that time. And 353 00:28:03.519 --> 00:28:07.240 the mistake number nine is I beg them to stay with me. I beg 354 00:28:07.319 --> 00:28:15.319 them for love, baby girl, Begging someone to love you is your own 355 00:28:15.359 --> 00:28:19.480 red flag. Your soulmate is not going to be someone you have to beg 356 00:28:19.839 --> 00:28:26.799 to love you. You begging someone to love you is pointing towards something much 357 00:28:26.880 --> 00:28:32.440 deeper. Maybe it's anxious attachment, maybe it's a wound that you've never felt 358 00:28:32.440 --> 00:28:34.759 good enough, But either way, it has nothing to do with them, 359 00:28:36.079 --> 00:28:40.160 and it has a whole lot to do with you. You want to fill 360 00:28:40.200 --> 00:28:44.200 that hole you're feeling within you Oh, okay, get a life coach, 361 00:28:44.359 --> 00:28:48.640 go to therapy, start praying to God. That person can never fill that 362 00:28:48.720 --> 00:28:53.319 hole because they are not the ones who created it. This hole has been 363 00:28:53.400 --> 00:28:57.240 within you for a very very long time. They might be the bandid on 364 00:28:57.279 --> 00:29:00.480 the bullet wound, but they can never fill it up like you can. 365 00:29:02.119 --> 00:29:07.599 This hole requires you to focus here. This hole requires you to water it, 366 00:29:07.720 --> 00:29:10.640 you to look at it, you to nurture it. Not them. 367 00:29:11.200 --> 00:29:15.200 They might be touching your wounds and you feel it ow they might be triggering 368 00:29:15.240 --> 00:29:18.400 it, but it's been within you for a long time. Stop looking at 369 00:29:18.400 --> 00:29:23.119 the dude, because it's not about them. It's about you. And when 370 00:29:23.160 --> 00:29:30.279 you take responsibility for your own healing, your life will change. That's it. 371 00:29:30.079 --> 00:29:33.880 And I didn't realize. I thought if I keep begging, if I 372 00:29:33.960 --> 00:29:37.079 keep begging, he'll love me. No, because giving more of what you're 373 00:29:37.119 --> 00:29:41.319 already giving and it's not being appreciated, will not get them to appreciate it 374 00:29:41.480 --> 00:29:52.240 later. Not everyone can see value when there is value. Nope. That's 375 00:29:52.279 --> 00:29:56.799 why some people can understand, oh, this is gonna be a good company, 376 00:29:56.880 --> 00:29:59.440 Let me invest in this. I see value, and then they end 377 00:29:59.519 --> 00:30:03.279 up becoming multimillionaires. Not everyone can see value. Do you know how many 378 00:30:03.400 --> 00:30:07.319 people have been denied, denied, denied because someone else didn't see their value 379 00:30:07.359 --> 00:30:10.799 and they end up becoming multimillionaires. I know we're talking about love, but 380 00:30:10.880 --> 00:30:15.279 you have to understand not everyone can understand value, even when it's there. 381 00:30:15.440 --> 00:30:18.440 If they can't understand your value, let them go find less somewhere else. 382 00:30:21.279 --> 00:30:27.279 Mistake number ten because I didn't leave. When God removed this person from my 383 00:30:27.440 --> 00:30:33.839 life, it hurt more. I could have had a smoother exit, but 384 00:30:33.920 --> 00:30:37.960 I didn't listen to my intuition. I listened to my fear, and that 385 00:30:38.200 --> 00:30:44.400 always makes things worse. I don't regret it. It hurt like hell. 386 00:30:44.480 --> 00:30:47.920 I don't regret it because it led me to where I am now. But 387 00:30:48.359 --> 00:30:52.519 please, when you know God's trying to remove someone from your life, let 388 00:30:52.559 --> 00:30:56.400 them because the more you try to get them to stay, the more you 389 00:30:56.400 --> 00:31:00.559 beg them, it doesn't get them to stay. It just makes their exit 390 00:31:00.720 --> 00:31:06.759 harder on you. We have to start easing into our cycles of life instead 391 00:31:06.759 --> 00:31:11.079 of trying to fight against them. If God is trying to remove someone from 392 00:31:11.079 --> 00:31:15.200 your life, let God do the damn thing, because the more you fight 393 00:31:15.279 --> 00:31:18.200 it. The more frustrated you're going to get and they're still going to leave. 394 00:31:18.759 --> 00:31:22.200 The more tired you're going to get and they're still going to leave you. 395 00:31:22.400 --> 00:31:26.319 Begging someone to love you doesn't mean that they're going to have a switch 396 00:31:26.359 --> 00:31:30.839 that turns on in their head and they now love you. It means that 397 00:31:30.880 --> 00:31:36.279 you're gonna feel like you have depleted yourself. If someone's trying to leave your 398 00:31:36.359 --> 00:31:41.319 life, let them make room for the right person to come in. Make 399 00:31:41.400 --> 00:31:45.440 room for yourself to focus on you. God knows better. Our ceiling is 400 00:31:45.480 --> 00:31:51.079 God's floor. We don't always know what's best for us. And I have 401 00:31:51.200 --> 00:31:55.079 spent so much time trying to hold on to things, so much time trying 402 00:31:55.079 --> 00:32:00.119 to really get my claws into someone or something to make it stay. But 403 00:32:00.160 --> 00:32:02.480 when God wants something removed from your life, it's leaving, whether you like 404 00:32:02.519 --> 00:32:06.640 it or not. And you can try to fight that transition, but you're 405 00:32:06.680 --> 00:32:14.160 just going to cause more frustration for yourself. The Buddha actually never said that 406 00:32:14.359 --> 00:32:17.519 attachment is the root of all misery. What the Buddha said was that wishing 407 00:32:17.559 --> 00:32:22.640 things were different than they are. That is the root of all misery. 408 00:32:22.240 --> 00:32:28.599 Stop wishing, Stop trying stop trying to control everything and let things be, 409 00:32:29.640 --> 00:32:34.000 allow cycles to unfold for you. You're not alone. You are a co 410 00:32:34.119 --> 00:32:37.519 creator of your life, so co create. Don't try to control everything. 411 00:32:39.200 --> 00:32:45.559 Moral of this tale of boys than men, maybe a girl heal Look at 412 00:32:45.599 --> 00:32:49.880 yourself. They're a mirror of you. Look at yourself. Get the life 413 00:32:49.960 --> 00:32:52.720 coach, do the energy healing work on yourself. If they're meant to be 414 00:32:52.799 --> 00:32:58.920 yours, they will come back around new and improved. This specimen of the 415 00:32:59.240 --> 00:33:02.720 X is my now current partner. Yep. We broke up for about a 416 00:33:02.799 --> 00:33:07.119 year, we didn't speak, and then we both came back new and improved. 417 00:33:07.359 --> 00:33:09.400 Yep. I didn't want to tell you that till the end. He's 418 00:33:09.480 --> 00:33:14.759 surprise ending, but we have to surrender. I had a surrender by the 419 00:33:14.759 --> 00:33:17.440 way. I did not try to manifest my ex back into my life. 420 00:33:17.920 --> 00:33:22.559 No, And that's exactly why he came back into my life. Because I 421 00:33:22.640 --> 00:33:25.319 refocused on me. I said, what do I need to heal within myself? 422 00:33:25.720 --> 00:33:29.480 What do I need to focus on? What do I want to do 423 00:33:29.519 --> 00:33:31.799 with my career, my hobbies, my friends? And because I took back 424 00:33:31.839 --> 00:33:37.279 my focus, I took back my power and he felt this shift and when 425 00:33:37.319 --> 00:33:40.400 we realigned, we were both better versions of ourselves and we've been able to 426 00:33:40.480 --> 00:33:45.960 come back together in divine union. But that could never have happened if I 427 00:33:45.079 --> 00:33:49.279 was stalking him, begging for him to come back, and wasting all my 428 00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:53.240 energy on him. They always come back when you come back to yourself first. 429 00:33:53.519 --> 00:33:58.799 It's energetic law. So do what you need to do to become the 430 00:33:58.799 --> 00:34:01.319 best version of you, and that X will either come back a better, 431 00:34:01.440 --> 00:34:06.400 improved version or you'll get someone better. Either way, when you focus on 432 00:34:06.440 --> 00:34:12.480 you, you always win in the end. Next case study is Specimen F. 433 00:34:12.840 --> 00:34:15.519 The reason why he's called Specimen F is because he ghosted me after he 434 00:34:15.599 --> 00:34:20.880 met my family. Haha, once again, joke on me. Anyway, 435 00:34:21.760 --> 00:34:27.079 when he ghosted me, I made a ton of negative meanings about myself, 436 00:34:27.119 --> 00:34:31.800 and this is mistake number eleven. I was making it personal about me and 437 00:34:31.840 --> 00:34:36.840 I didn't realize it was just vibrational. When he ghosted me, I said, 438 00:34:36.840 --> 00:34:39.480 Oh, it's because I'm not good enough, I'm not worthy enough, 439 00:34:39.559 --> 00:34:43.639 I'm not pretty enough, I'm not smart enough, I'm not blah blah blah 440 00:34:43.639 --> 00:34:47.119 blah blah blah. No. A lot of time we look at a three 441 00:34:47.199 --> 00:34:52.320 d circumstance, and then we convince ourselves that somehow this happened because we're not 442 00:34:52.360 --> 00:34:57.280 good enough. That was a lie I was telling myself, So what do 443 00:34:57.440 --> 00:35:00.000 I want you to do? Flip the script because I'm the subject of your 444 00:35:00.039 --> 00:35:05.639 own sentence. Once again, I realized, wait a second, it's not 445 00:35:05.679 --> 00:35:07.840 that I'm not good enough for this man. He is not good enough for 446 00:35:07.960 --> 00:35:12.000 me. He can't give me what I want. He can't give me what 447 00:35:12.079 --> 00:35:15.119 I need. He ghosted me if he can't even communicate, and he ghosted 448 00:35:15.159 --> 00:35:19.719 me with his words. God knows what he would ghost me with in his 449 00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:24.039 future. This isn't personal, this is vibrational. Of course, he ended 450 00:35:24.119 --> 00:35:29.320 up coming back around, because they always do when we come back to ourselves 451 00:35:29.320 --> 00:35:32.280 first, and I said, you know what, I can be your friend, 452 00:35:32.280 --> 00:35:38.000 but that's all I can offer. Because I realized this was God's showing 453 00:35:38.079 --> 00:35:43.840 me that I first of all had to stop ghosting myself, which I didn't 454 00:35:43.840 --> 00:35:45.039 ghost myself when he came back around, because I said, no, no, 455 00:35:45.039 --> 00:35:47.440 no, no, I'm not going to ghost myself. I'm standing up 456 00:35:47.480 --> 00:35:52.679 for myself. This is not going to happen. But also when something happens 457 00:35:52.679 --> 00:35:55.199 in my reality, It's not about me not being good enough. This was 458 00:35:55.360 --> 00:36:00.840 a lesson in my worthiness, in my self esteem, me recognizing my own 459 00:36:00.920 --> 00:36:07.440 strength. No more thinking that you're not good enough, and start realizing that 460 00:36:07.480 --> 00:36:09.280 the things that are not good enough for you have to fall out of your 461 00:36:09.320 --> 00:36:14.760 life. No more thinking you're not good enough, and start realizing that things 462 00:36:14.760 --> 00:36:17.840 that are not in vibrational alignment with you, they have to fall out of 463 00:36:17.880 --> 00:36:22.840 your life so that a higher vibrational match opportunity, please person, whatever it 464 00:36:22.880 --> 00:36:29.400 is, can come in to your reality. Moral of this tale of boys 465 00:36:29.400 --> 00:36:32.039 and men is that people are going to put us down. So please, 466 00:36:32.119 --> 00:36:36.559 for the love of God, don't put yourself down. You don't need to 467 00:36:36.599 --> 00:36:40.760 create negative meaning around the circumstances that happen in your life, because magnetic women 468 00:36:40.840 --> 00:36:46.760 see circumstances for what they are and they create positive meaning around it anyway to 469 00:36:46.880 --> 00:36:52.880 push themselves forward. This wasn't personal, This was vibrational. This wasn't because 470 00:36:52.880 --> 00:36:55.119 I wasn't good enough. It was because he wasn't good enough for me. 471 00:36:55.519 --> 00:37:00.760 Positive bitches. I hope these case studies will help you under stand some lessons 472 00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:06.760 about dating that you can take into your own life. There were eleven mistakes 473 00:37:06.760 --> 00:37:10.559 that I've made throughout these tales of boys and men, and I hope they 474 00:37:10.559 --> 00:37:15.920 can help you understand your own internal world so you can have better results in 475 00:37:15.039 --> 00:37:19.559 dating and better results in your love life, and also better results in your 476 00:37:19.559 --> 00:37:23.039 connection with yourself. As always, the Sparkle and Me honors the sparkle in 477 00:37:23.079 --> 00:37:28.480 you. If you're watching this on YouTube, please put a comment below, 478 00:37:28.599 --> 00:37:30.639 give it a thumbs up, subscribe, and it would mean the world to 479 00:37:30.679 --> 00:37:36.039 me if you could leave a positive review on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. It 480 00:37:36.119 --> 00:37:39.400 really helps the podcast grow. I have a lot of new intentions for this 481 00:37:39.480 --> 00:37:42.800 podcast this year. 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