It's to two seventeen Recovery Podcast with Corey Winfield. I'm not good at putting
things together, that's my point. And I look at that like, well,
I'm gonna need the whole month of March put my desk together. And
Cole Holes Marney Winfield. What they have to air quotes judge you by are
things that might not necessarily reflect exactly who you are. It is the twenty
fourth of March. Corey Winfield, still putting the desk together. Marnie Winfield
here, and how many desks have you put together this March too? It's
not bad. Yeah, it's not bad at all. It's that's not a
normal amount of desks I do monthly. No, it's not. No,
but you're ever getting good at it because then you got to put a baby
crib together. Yeah, so that was kind of nice to kind of have
a couple of desks under your belt. Go to baby stuff now the baby
stroller slash baby car seat that was on you, Oh my god. And
it's cute that they don't come with instructions. I love it, Like they
have a really bad picture. This goes here and this, but it doesn't
really tell you much about anything. They have a very pretty insert that gives
you a link to the video to watch somebody else put it together. Oh
I didn't even see that. Oh I came across that when I was looking
for the how to Register your strollers. Oh yeah, I look for pictures.
I'm a picture guy, So I didn't. I wasn't looking for links
or anything like that, or maybe something that you could scan. I was
looking for that, like QR code. But I didn't see that. That'd
been too easy. I swear, whoever did it, they do it on
purpose. They're preparing you for the frustrations of being a parent, I think
so. I think they're trying to get us ready. Dude, you think
this is hard and then just wait. We went to the hospital for our
visit to like look around and stuff. Yeah, that was fun a little
bit. And when we went there, she gave us this thing and said,
hey, the fire department will come out and hook up your fire detectors,
smoke alarms whatever, smoke detectors, fire alarm whatever. And I thought
that's great. So we had them come out and they came out yesterday and
thought, man, let's just have them look at the car seat while they're
here because they just do this program where they'll install your car seat and make
sure it's done right and kind of show you how to do it. And
the car seat we have is kind of slick because you can buy bases,
like you can have a base in your car, and I'll have a base
in my car. There you go. Some of them don't come with other
bases, so it's kind of a pain in the ass. So we got
this one. So, like I said, it's kind of slick. Fire
guys came out and they're like, yep, yeah, we got a program
for that, but we don't do that. You gotta be trained in that.
And I figured they'd say that, but I was hoping that they won't.
Well, here's the thing. They were two very very nice, very
looked pretty young for I mean, I don't know, like in terms of
how old people are that when they first joined the what do they call it,
fire department? Okay, So anyway, they were younger, younger gentlemen.
And obviously we're very knowledgeable about the detectors. And that's the whole idea
is that this was an inspection of to make sure we were up to code
with fire safety and the alarms were up to date and they'll check those dad
if it was hardwired versus battery anyway, they had all that down pat But
he was very transparent about the fact that, like they don't mess around with
the whole car seat inspection thing, that it's like an eight week course that
they have to go they have to they have to go through to be able
to inspect people's Yeah, carcation shouldn't be that hard and the ninety six percent
of people install. I'm surprised that you're saying that considering the way. No,
but I mean, it doesn't have to be that hard. We go
to the moon apparently, you know, we send little things to different planets
like Mars, and we can land it on Mars, but we can't make
a child safety seat that's just pretty simple to put in and very effective.
Maybe maybe they have to learn about different or scientists working too hard to cure
cancer. Maybe, I mean, like what's going on, Like why is
it so hard? Well, I would rather have them be spent a lot
of time and be knowledgeable about that than other things. I think it's good.
I think I don't I'm not gonna dispute their training time. I'm just
saying it shouldn't be that hard. It shouldn't. And if I ran the
world, what you would have them learn less about how to install car seats
safely or double check things? No, I would make it simple, like
you put this through here. I think sometimes there's stuff that you just maybe
don't there's stuff about it that you don't know that they need to know.
Just seriously, just take the belt, put it through there. You're clicking
in, don that's how easy. It's the man that spent literally three and
a half hours on trying to figure out how to put it a stroller together.
Today it was two two. I took breaks in between frustration breaks.
So maybe there's more to it. Maybe there's more to it, but it
doesn't have to be It should be easier, like make it easier for people.
That's what I'm saying. And you know what, I'm not even going
to go there to be like, hey, if you want to learn to
be a lifeguard, it only needs to be like ten minute course. You
really don't need to learn like mouth to mouth and you don't need to learn
all that much. Just you know, put up signs, you know how
to be able to write, read and write to put up signs so they
don't swim in dangerous areas. You got a phone, right, bro,
call nine one one. They need to know. You need to be able
to paint numbers on pools. Yeah, bro, so people know how to
about it. Yeah, and then you should be able to be like they
just make it so hard. I don't think. I don't think that.
I don't even know about that. I don't know anything about lifeguard stuff.
So maybe it is, maybe it's not. Anyway, they didn't and they
said there's a number to call, So we'll call that number get it figured
out. But that'll be fun. Yeah, you know, like all this
pre baby stuff. I think it's a lot of fun. And of course,
if you're just tuning in, this is the two seventeen Recovery podcast.
Marty and I both are in recovery. I have five years and some change.
Marty's got about four and a half years, so we've been holding it
down. But this is as long as we've ever had h and we got
married and now we're having our first child, so it's kind of a big
deal. And this whole new life thing is working out pretty well. This
life and recovery is it's going great. It is. It's amazing. Not
every day it's wonderful. There are some frustrations in there with this and that
and whatever, but man, it's so much better than the days that we
used to have. And you were saying before the fire people came over and
you were saying, like the emergency responded, like this is the first time
you're not like worried or like having to hide stuff or you know, just
like it was weird for you. All right, Well, I mean,
I guess in my job, I've interacted with like the police and fire department
and healthcare work, like you know, first responders and whatever and not been
on the end the receiving end of their services. But those those days,
it is one of those reflection times where you're like those days are really over
and they're coming to my home. Like, yeah, there were times where
I'd be like, I wonder how many times if like it back in the
day when I was I mean, I can't tell how many times they people
came, the ambulance came to came get me to take me to the hospital,
you know, going through DT's or seizures or whatever. It's like,
I know, you've we been here before. You know, so this is
and I did. I changed everything about my life when I got sober this
time. And and so that's not one of the things on my plate,
not saying that the people who did get sober in the town that they used
in it. I mean they might come across that and that is what it
is, and they should be proud of you, like, hey, I
remember you're doing well, Like this is a whole different scenario that I'm seeing
you in. This is wonderful, you know, But it's still like it's
that. It was that weird little tiny flutter of like anxiety slash, like
I feel like I'm supposed to be doing something knowing that like first responders are
coming into my home. The answer is no, really, everything's good.
It's all chill. It's just different, you know. So I guess it's
still setting in after this amount of sobriety. But I still feel I don't
feel one hundred percent of the fire alarm or the smoke detectors because there's that
one upstairs. I think he just didn't check. You just thought that's too
high. I don't like getting up there. Yeah, that's fine, kind
of do you think it's like out of I don't know expires. These other
ones were hardwired, because I thought they were just gonna come in here and
replace them and be on their way. Now he's like, you're going to
need two more of those and one downstairs. They were for two thousand,
they're years old. Give them to us. Oh no, and put them
in for us. They just inspect them and he's like, you might need
a fire extinguisher. Yeah, I probably wanted to get one of those two.
Yeah, I want, And I'm like, we don't. I don't
think so we don't house down. Sorry, probably why you want to get
one. That's what we got you for us. Wish is that you did
You did ask how far away? Yeah? How far away are you?
Oh? You're like, who's how did you ask it? I don't think
I was in the room when you asked. I don't know who responds to
us or like whose services? Like what fire department? Yeah, you know,
that's why I asked how far away they were? Where's the other ones?
Like? Who's close? You answer? Are actually a pretty good area
for that? Yeah, there'll be a couple of three different ones coming from
different places that are not too far I hope, so hopefully not go we
don't even need that. Fires are scary, but yeah, I don't know,
we'll see. I mean we did. We did replace the one,
two three they suggested, and they look a lot better too. Those we're
like, oh asty, old looking. They were two thousand and five.
They were from Yeah, yeah, they were really old. So if you
all are thinking about checking your own, you know, fire detector or smoke
detectors, just they should just unclip. You just twist them off and there's
an expiration data on there. We'll call your local fire department and they'll swing
by. Had a good time. You could tell they love doing it.
Yeah, walking in people's houses with their shoes on, snow tracking all over
it is good for them. Appreciate it. Anyway, I appreciated it.
I really did, so, thank you guys. And speaking of having that
feeling of like oh no, you know, and you said that you would
be in a much different place if those same people were to come over to
talk to you, and the ones that had taken you to the hospital so
many times or you had a seizure, and today you'd be like, well,
I'm in recovery, Like I'm doing great. I mean, you wear
shirts to the store that's say two to seventeen recovery on them. Someone asked
you for your recovery, you say, yeah, you know, we're at
that stage now, But there was a time and least in my life,
and I'm assuming yours where you felt ashamed of trying to be in recovery.
I'm using air quotes or you know, on that path, and he might
have that then still, Jesus, please let me let me talk today.
Amen. So that's just a short prayer. I don't even know what I
was talking about now, Jesus, he just made me go blank where yeah,
where we would have been embarrassed to say we were in recovery, and
we would have came out and probably said, Hi, I'm Corey, I'm
an alcoholic, you know, like we would have still used those terms.
That to me, it doesn't motivate me to be a better person. It
says I'm in the past, you know, like those terms for me aren't
good. Anyway, My point here is I was listening to thirteen ten the
Ticket and that's my favorite radio station on Dallas, and they were at some
off expo and my hero Gordon Keith was out and he takes the wireless and
he starts asking people questions, and they're talking to one lady, And where
I'm going to play it from is they're talking to her about some surgery she
had on her knee, and she compares it to pregnancy. Is why I'm
playing it for you, just because you know you're pregnant. You have a
baby soon. And then he talks to another woman and I want you to
just just listen, okay, because I want to get your take on something.
That's it. That's the whole story. I broke my knee. Wow,
I fell? Isn't that a cool story? Where did you fall?
Like? Were you drunk? No? Down a mountain? Still the avalanche?
I was saving a child? No, come on, what's the real
story. Well, in a parking lot, literally fell walking in a parking
lot. It wasn't was it raining, It was raining, and it was
dark, and I was carrying food to go for the kids, hustling.
You know how moms do parking stop foods spill out everywhere everywhere. Nobody ate
that night, Oh no, nobody. Did you have to have surgery?
I didn't, but I was on crutches for about six weeks, so that
was fine. So crutches for six weeks and now you're wearing this exoskeleton kind
of thing. Is that an actual term? I broke my knee is like
the dcap or something. I don't think it is, George, I don't
think it is. George said that I broke my knee as not an official
kind of medical term. I cracked my patella. That's so painful. Have
you ever broken a bone other than that? I'm not. This was a
first. Have you ever had major surgery that in the books? No,
sir, really, okay, that's pretty good. And what about childbirth?
How did that go? It was more excruciating than the knee. But it's
a close tie. That's but you didn't didn't go cesarean right? No,
I did not been sliced. Okay, okay, all right, well you
okay, that's your cue. Though the interview is over, which she says,
okay, okay, all right, she's not for you. She didn't
want to take any follow up questions on the vaginal birth thing. You know,
they say vaginal birth is very important, Georgio, because the uh,
the baby gets some bacteria from the mother's bag. Oh really, that is
helpful. Tell that to your next guest. Yea, they have a stronger
immune system. That's right. Okay, are you good? Talk to this
lady right here? What you're doing, ma'am? Gotta tell us I'm hanging
a sign for the gaylored golf mecha, just setting up our booth? Oh
good, good? What's your name? My name's Christy Walcott? And Christy?
Where are you from? Up North Wisconsin somewhere? I'm from Gaillard,
Michigan, Michigan. Okay, I thought I tacked a little bit of an
accident. Now tell me about this tattoo you have on your arm here.
I'm not here to talk about I know you're not, but I am talk
about golf. Okay, let's talk about the tattoo though. It's a phoenix
okay, and a dragonfly. And what does that signify? Uh? Well,
a phoenix signifies rising from the ashes. It's a powerful tattoo. And
why did you get it? Like? What made you choose that? Because
it's you know, it's very important to choose wisely when you go for a
tattoo design. I agree, one hundred percent. I chose it because I
think we've all been through different parts of our life that were more difficult than
others, and you find a way to overcome that right again. And this
is a reminder of that part of my life. And what would you say
that specifically represents overcoming Oh, I'm not going to say, it's just life.
Life happens. So yeah, Well, what would you say is the
best thing to happen in your life? The best thing to happen in my
life? Oh boy, that's a big question. Talking to me right now,
talking to you has been fantastic chemistry. That's basically the I mean,
that's at least number two at this point. Oh, the best thing to
happen in my life was probably just finding myself, growing into who I wanted
to be. Oh sweet, do you have any children? I have five
cats and a seven month old dog. Okay, so you were an animal
mother? I am? I am yea. And so what what would you
say is the worst thing that's ever happened to you? Say? So,
we did the best. We have to do worst as well, we're legally
obligatd Oh, I hate that question. I did get divorced, so I
had I had a divorce lingering in my background, but who doesn't at this
point. But that was also my point of finding myself. So his fault
though, right? Oh yeah, absolutely, I didn't do anything. And
who was the other woman or manes? Which one? Oh? No?
So he had multiple indiscretions. How did you find out about that? Like?
Did you snoop through the phone or did someone contact you? No?
I did some super sleuthing works. I'm actually very good at stalking people.
Uh huh? And what did you find out? Like? What did did
you see the text messages? I mean, what didn't I find out?
This is the best interview I've ever done. This is like my all time
favorite interview. Let at least talk about her golf course? Whereas who the
woman was? You're killing me. We're about to get to golf, but
I have to ask this first. Did you know who the woman was?
Did he work with her or something? My gosh, are you a psychic?
Yeah? Oh my gosh, look at you go. So they worked
together? You got it? Did they? They didn't last afterwards? Did
they? God? No? Okay, no, absolutely not. Will you
earned that tattoo? Then? What's the golf course again? We make up
play it? What's the golf course again? Gaylored Golf Macco. We represent
sixteen golf courses in the Gaylord area. I've heard golf in Michigan is amazing.
Yeah, golf in Michigan is amazing. It is. It is just
now heard. I'll tell you all weekend how amazing it is too. Okay,
Yeah, thank you very much. And God bless you. Tell her
Craig and I are thinking about getting new iron Craig and I are thinking about
getting new irons. That sounds like fun, pretty fun. Well, God
bless you. This was a wonderful Tell her you don't play with grips.
I don't play with grips. Okay, hell all right. So when I
was hearing that, I was like, wait what And the first she started
talking, I was like, sounds like she's from Michigan. Then she said
gay Lord, which is gay Lord, and then I was like, oh,
okay, And then she said that and I was like, oh yeah,
because they're in down in tech this in Dallas having this golf expo.
But when she starts talking and Gordon is a person who's in recovery and I
actually got to talk to him about that once, it was it was great.
It was one of the top ten moments of my life. I've that.
But I think he was because the Phoenix. I think a lot of
people in recovery identify with that and kind of use that. And maybe I'm
totally wrong there, but I think that's why he kind of kept asking her,
like, is there something with that? Because I think he was going
to applaud her for it if she is in fact in recovery, but it
kind of seemed like there was some stuff there, like she just didn't want
to get into, you know. And obviously that's pretty much what she said,
but I just started automatically thinking like, oh, Phoenix, Oh okay,
cool, she's in recovery. And I was hoping so badly for her
to just be like, well, I'm an I'm a person in recovery.
And she didn't and maybe she's not, who knows, but I was really
hoping that she would, And I think Gordon was kind of trying to pry
that out of her so that he could kind of share a little bit of
his story too. I think he's very careful about disclosure. Yeah he is
too. He doesn't try to really, he doesn't really put it out there.
I think unless it's kind of like a very fitting situation, like I
could foresee that if that's the case, and she would have said that out
loud, like because I'm in recovery from substances or substance use or what however
it is. I think lots of times, I think, especially when it's
this like she's on you know radio, right, it's like we know kind
of the well, we actually we don't know how things are going to be
received by people until we get it. Feel for who are we talking to?
How much can I trust? You know what I mean, like,
how do I feel about these people? Or how do I feel about where
I'm at right now with this information? And when you're getting somebody on public
radio, it's like that's a big piece of my life to just put out
there for judgmental or stigma, you know, the stigma that still does exist
for people to hear that. Or maybe she yeah, maybe she's not in
recovery. But being in recovery though, isn't a bad thing. Like I
don't know, that's me feel that way, and we know that, and
I think a lot of people do. And in our heart of hearts,
I think her, if this is the case, her sharing that piece that
rising from the ashes, and that's what Phoenix represents to her and maybe that's
all she feels like she needs to share. You know what I mean that
the other piece, the words you know, from what isn't that important.
It's that she's done it and she's living a new life now and that's the
piece that's important to her. And so I think that's great. But it
does circle back to the whole thing of like why are we so fearful of
saying those words? Why are we so fearful of saying Because it's because for
me, and this is what I've kind of figured out of why at one
point that was something that I held back from sharing is because it's a pretty
significant significant thing to overcome. Right, means that you were I mean,
we're not going to use this the words that people call us because they're they
have bad The language is bad, but you know the stigmatic kind of drunk
and alcohol, alky, junkie, you know, all the all the bad
words. It means that people might still look at you and maybe envision that
you once were those things and whatever their definition in their head or out,
you know, however, they picture somebody who uses substances or was in in
addiction, Like they'll look at me and they'll just picture like me living under
a bridge, you know, or with like you know, having having showered
for weeks and you know, all drawn, you know, strung eye out
or passed out or whatever whatever it is, opposed to where I am now.
Yeah, and I could see. And again, we have no idea.
I've never met that woman. I don't think I'm horrible with names,
but I don't even I don't know if she's in recovery or not. We
have no idea. All we know is that she said that she whatever came
back from ashes rose from the ash. Yeah, so that's all we really
know. Maybe she's not in recovery. Who else, But if she worried
about because she's sounded like she had a pretty nice job. They were sixteen
different golf courses or whatever that and you're on the radio doing an interview,
maybe your employer would have been like, WHOA, don't need to you know,
air your personal laundry on the radio in Dallas, Texas, you know,
Or we're doing this so you know, maybe we should go there and
do some recovery friendly workforce training. Yeah, yeah, and yeah, what
she chooses to sharing. There are people in recovery. They're like, no,
I'd rather not tell anybody. And that's cool too, you know,
I'm not saying even if she is in recovery and didn't want to share,
that's that's her man. I'm cool with whatever. But I was just hoping
that she would say something, and that I think Gordon was kind of hoping
that. That's how I know kind of picked up on his vibe, and
that's kind of the stuff that I would have done well. And the other
thing too, is because you know, staying sober like long, long term
sobriety is really hard to get to and so for me, I had a
hard time saying it out like I do now and identifying with it as I
do now, because in early recovery I had tried and failed so many times
that I was like, who am I? Who do I think I am
to be able to have an interaction with another human being and tell them with
a confidence that I didn't have for a long time either to say I'm a
person in recovery from substance use disorder, Because for me, I was like,
I know that to be true today, but I didn't know what was
going to happen tomorrow or the day after that. And so until I kind
of found that internal confidence. I think that's when the words kind of came
to me and I could say it with sincerity and with passion and with you
know, knowing that I was being true to myself by saying that that is
who I am today. Before it was like, that's that's who I am
for like this minute, you know, but I don't know, And then
that's how it was for me, And so I just skipped over that part
because of my failures. I don't think I ever said I was in recovery
until this last time, you know, like until I got out of that
last treatment center, when that's when I started changing it from I'm an alcoholic
to I'm a person in recovery, and that for me, it was a
huge difference, and it made a huge impression on how I thought about myself.
I wasn't Corey the alcoholic. I was Corey the person in recovery and
the person who had goals and dreams and who wanted to meet a woman and
get married and have a child. And I didn't want to buy a house.
But I listened to you, and you know, but it changed everything,
just as simple, how you view yourself with words that you say about
yourself. You know, I don't wake I say this a lot. I
don't wake up every bed or lord, it's not funny. Let me talk.
I don't wake up every morning jump out of bed and say I'm gonna
be an asshole. Well maybe sometimes they do, I'm be an asshole today,
or I'm gonna just be I don't know, I'm a piece of shit.
Yeah, I'm gonna go do pieces of shit stuff. I don't ever
say that, you know. I roll out of it and go, Wow,
I got some stuff I gotta do today, you know, and let's
get them done. And I don't accomplish all of them every day, but
I at least put a don in it. I at least move forward with
it, you know. And I just think more people could maybe benefit from
changing that kind of thinking and that kind of wording. And of course,
you know, that was one of the first things I took too, was
Recovery Ambassador training, you know, to tell you to teach you, you
know, how to frame it in your mind and how you want others to
frame it, you know, or how you want others to talk about it.
And I think it's a piece of like Sol's a it's an affirmation,
you know, it's kind of identifying with that and saying that's who I am
today. So it is like it's for me. Saying it out loud is
part of It's part of my sobriety. It's part of my recovery journey because
I'm reminding myself like, this is what I've this is what I've committed to,
and this is who I am today. And yeah, it's going to
take a lot of It does take a lot of work to and upkeep right.
Not nearly as much as it did when I was first getting sober,
but it still is something that I have to do every day to know,
like I could so easily slip back into that. And so me saying I'm
a person in recovery is me identifying and confirming and solidifying with my own self,
not just the person I'm talking to, but that is that's who I
am today. It's who I strive to remain to be. And you know,
and it feels good. I agree, it does feel good. Does
so this weekend we also watched a movie and it's been a minute since we
reviewed in a movie. It has been so it felt like it. It
feels like it. Oh, sure, you can review a movie you didn't
really watch watched? Oh no, oh god, yeah, let's do two
movies. Oh no, we don't have to. I didn't even Yeah that
wasn't even the one on my mind. Okay, yeah, okay, So
let's start with your movie first. When you picked the one you wanted to
watch because everybody's top looking about it, you get what I'm saying. Yeah,
I needed to see what was the hype about the Poor Things movie with
Emma Stone right, yes, which we saw preview for it like three weeks
ago, two weeks ago. It was before she won her award for whatever.
Yeah, we watched the trailer for it and it was like, you
got to be kidding in That movie was garbage and I was like, how
did she get roped into that? But she wins an award and whatever you
listen to in your world or whatever you see, you hear people talking about
this movie and how great it is, so you want to watch it,
and I'm thinking cool, I'm cepy, I can just take a nappy,
and so we turned it on immediately. I'm like, oh, yeah,
out, which is great. I wake up towards the end, but you're
just like, oh, this movie is bad? Can we turn it off?
I'm like, do you gotta watch it to the end? And now
it's two hours and twenty one minutes long. Yeah, all I remember is
is bad and it wasn't even good to sleep too. No, it had
it. It did have a very like for anybody you seen the movie,
Edward says her hands. It did have that kind of like feel to it.
And in fact, I had thought that when I was beginning, first
watched it, first started watching it, and then I when I was like
googling, like why am I watching this again? Like how is this so
great? And somebody said the exact that exact same thing, that it was
like kind of an offshoot, like some very similar to you know, the
Frankenstein kind of situation where you know, this brilliant minded, crazy doctor,
you know, reconstructs a human being and there's all these things that are wrong
with them, but you know if they still function anyway. Lots of weird
sex stuff in it. It was just it. I don't know, good
for her that she got an award for it, but definitely thumbs down.
I mean, so one out of five stars? How many a given it?
Oh, like a half a star? N was it worse than Pig?
You know, I think I've like mentally blocked Pig from my head,
and I think it was I think it might have been worse. Okay,
So the other movie you watched, the one I was referring to, Roadhouse,
Yes, awesome. It was good. I liked the amazing movie.
It was fun, entertaining, it was it was good. It went too
long, and some blow up boats and whatever, not blow up boats,
but boats blow up mm hmm. And some good fight scenes. It's cute,
that's what you said at the end. You're like, that was cute.
Yeah. And the thing I loved, The thing I loved the most
about it, it was free on Amazon. That was awesome too, is
that I had i'd seen the movie. I had seen the Patrick Swayze movie.
But it's not like I had seen it yesterday. It had been like,
you know, it'd been a while, so you saw when you were
ten. Maybe that's what started you on the path of trouble. No,
whenever I had watched it, it was a long time, long, long
time ago. But I did remember the premise of it, and I remembered
little tiny bits kind of as much as I remember the movie Cocktail with Tom
Cruise. I don't remember that one at all anyway, So point being is
I remember bits and pieces of it, and I knew that it was not
following the exact I mean, the storyline was there, like the whole thing,
the script was there, but they had it was way there. I
was like, didn't, like, where's this Florida stuff coming from? Like
maybe it was maybe it wasn't Florida the first one. I'm not sure,
but I don't remember that. And I was like, I remember him drinking
coffee a lot in the first one, remember him making rules with other of
the other bouncers. So it was kind of cool because it was like I
knew that it was a remake, but you also could recognize that they had
made their own, like cool changes. Yeah, because it really wasn't as
much as I'm going to teach the staff this or that. Really wouldn't much
of that, but you had the main points of this rich guy wanted to
close or buy this bar, you know, and had their own little forcer
guy too, and you know those things are similar. But yeah, that
rest of it was was pretty different, but it was still really really good.
I liked it. M H And Jake Jonhall did a great job.
Yeah, so good good for him. I give that fire Wow. I
think it's the only five out of five I've ever heard you maybe four,
let's just not let's not go overboard four o five stars. Definitely you should
watch it. Yeah, if you're like, hmm, yeah, I definitely
give it a four four point two five. What was the one? You're
the one you watched Poor Things Poor? If you like poor Things or Roadhouse
Poor Things, or don't even spend that much time to go right to Roadhouse,
yeah you're welcome. And then TV show wise, we've been watching the
briefcase show No Deal, which I like it, and it's got Boston Rob
on there. I've always loved Boston Rob from Survivor, so that's pretty awesome.
Is it really awesome? Probably not, But I just like Boston Rob,
so I would watch it. What's your take on Dealer or No Deal?
I mean it was a game show I never ever watched, so,
I mean it's kind of like new to me in general. But I mean
I've I've come to really like the whole reality series of the judge, you
know, voting people off and know, Yeah, and that's a tough one
because if you don't have immunity, because like one person gets immunity and then
they can't be voted off, but then the other person they get voted into
to play the game, and if you win, then you get to vote
someone else home, but if you lose, then you go home. So
it's kind of a tough one because if you don't win immunity and you don't
play, could be voted off just as easy if you went up there and
played yourself, you know, m hm, except at least you're in control.
And that's what Rob kind of figured out the last time, and he
made it through, which I don't think he's gonna make it very much longer,
right because people are kind of catching on to that. You know,
this guy is gonna win it off, we don't get him out of here,
yep. And then Traders. I don't know if we've talked about Traders
or not. Yeah, we have, yeah, but now like we're so
traded up. We got to watch the UK version we're watching. Yeah,
Australia like eight or nine episodes released and there's only like one or two more,
I think maybe three. And the problems, the problems and the problems
I'm having with it now is just because we're starting to be judgment of like
their games. They need to switch it out. Yeah. If you notice,
if you watch Traders, they always come down to like one or two
seconds left, it doesn't matter what challenge it is. Her you're running out
of time, and like they'll be on a boat like eight miles away and
they'm like less than a minute. Next thing, you know, they're running
up to the finish line and three two, Oh, you just made it.
Yeah, so they're editing to make it realistic. So I think that
they tell them all that too, like, look, you got to finish
the challenge. That's that's the deal. We're gonna piece it together like you
finished in thirty minutes. If it takes you eight hours, so be it.
Maybe we'll come back tomorrow and do it again. Yeah. I think
that's the stuff that goes on with that show because there's a lot of fake
stuff that's just like, eh, not buying it. Yeah, but that
is a game that I would be interested to being on because I think it
would you'd have to be a trader as a faithful to beat the traders.
I know that makes no sense, but I would vote to keep the traders
until the end because they just replace them and then it gets harder to figure
out who they really are. I don't know. I had this all figured
it out one day and like, how I would do that? You did?
It was pretty awesome. Should you should try to get onto it?
No time for that baby to raise and a movie to write? That's true?
Am I sending you off to be on reality TV and the Survivor?
I just wouldn't do it. There's no way. Like, first of all,
I would I would try to cheat in every challenge, and not cheat
because I want to win, but cheat because I would take the laziest way
out. They would say, no, it's not how it works. I
know, like you're not made for Survivor. But they had a guy on
that's not made for a Survivor. Oh, I got to tell the truth
and I got to do that guy I remember his name, but he finally
got voted out back. It's horrible, like this season of Survivor is horrible,
Like the casting. Just let me do it for you next time.
I will pick you a cast for people that will entertain people. These people
are all horrible. Every single one of them is bad. And you already
know who's gonna win. That one white guy Hunter. Yeah, that dude's
I mean, okay, done seal to see you. This might be the
only reason why he would get voted off though. Yeah, but he's gonna
win every challenge, so it's not gonna matter, and he'll have a hitting
me. I don't that he'll find somewhere like, I mean, that dude's
gonna win. And it's just he's animal. It's just horrible. Did you
see when they showed hit that he made. He's made like every puzzle that's
ever been on Survivor. Yeah, like practice puzzles and stuff. And he
could have been like a super lawyer. Doctor. It was a doctor.
Yeah he was. He had a full ride, full ride to medical school.
Anyway, do what you love. Yeah, the Survivor's bad. Mm
hmmm, it really is. And and then they win this challenge and they
give him a bucket old fish. You know, I'm like, I don't
do fish, not at all. And it's just I'm just sitting there and
we just kind of looked at each other and even like, yeah, this
one has been a challenge for you. I'd be like, no, let's
not eat that fish, and like they've shown, there's like flies all on
them. And I don't know how or why someone grabbed a fish out of
the water or got him and thought I'm gonna eat this. Maybe they saw
a bear eating a fish and I thought, well, if a bear can
eat it, we can eat it. I don't know what those crazy cavemen
thinking, but it's not a good IDEA fish will kill you. If you
swim with them, they will kill you, and then you'll drown and eat
your body. They're like, oh, we're not going to spend our energy,
but if we have to, they will. They'll eat you, but
they'll just let you drown instead, and then they'll eat you. And then
they're filled with mercury which will make your penis fall off and you die.
And for women, it just makes you die. I guess really, Ah,
I read that somewhere, I think, or I just made it up.
But it sounded really good. It's how you say it, you know,
it's really how you say things. But oh, it just it tastes
nasty. It smells nasty. I just don't understand if they said ice cream
had a lot of mercury in it, would you not eat it? It
wasn't. I mean, I mean it has a lot of sugar in it
and that's killing me. But whatever, it tastes good and it smells good.
I did have more l mush of ice cream once that was not good.
What where did you come across that, Charlotte boy, They were like
here, try this. Yeah. It was like one of those little places
like off the alley, I don't know, and they had this ice cream
shop and we went in there and they would do the free samples or whatever,
and I was like, oh, Morall mushroom. I was like,
I ate it, and like, I don't think if they even cleaned the
mushrooms well enough, because I had that dirt taste to it, which will
happen if you've ever eaten a morale mushroom and you didn't wash it properly.
And I was like it just it wasn't even the dirt alone. It was
just not a good flavor. I can't I imagine. Remember Seattle had had
chicken and waffles ice cream. Seattle they had that oh yeah, seat yeah
yeah. Because we kept looking for places to go to and then there was
that they had one that was like recycled food, like leftovers from places that
would donate their leftover. Yeah. Food, that's what it made it man
and cheese ice cream they had. Yeah, all kinds of weirdness. Sounds
like a bad episode of Chopped. Put some nuts on there, maybe some
caramel, some fudge, let's call it good. Put some vanilla. I
don't you know, chicken chicken, like three day old chicken ice cream.
No, and we didn't. No, it's not how we live. We
don't have to live that way anymore. No. So no, but we
have been. We have been nesting, which has been very it's not it's
it's very exciting, but it is also too, like it brings on some
anxiety, Like, at least for me, it's kind of like reality check.
I think we're done though, really please what? Okay? Yeah,
just kidding. No, No, And my mom said, oh, wait,
tells you she gets like ten days before she's actually gonna have the baby,
she'll go nuts and we'll go super nesting or something. She's like,
you'll know, I hope, so snowing out again. Welcome to Michigan.
Yeah, well, the nesting is going well, we'll see. We got
a lot of stuff, and I want to thank everybody who has bought us
stuff from our registry, which if you would like to feel free, just
go to Amazon. We got a registry there. Windfield is what you type
in if you want to search somebody's registry. You type on our last name,
Winfield, May twenty twenty four and it'll pop up. You can buy
us some stuff if you like to feel free. But I haven't posted anything
on Facebook, and I don't think I'm going to. We just went to
the doctor and we have one of those three D pictures, you know,
and it was it was pretty cool. I don't know. I thought about,
oh, but you know what, I don't again, I don't have
to live that way anymore. Like my whole attitude of Facebook has changed,
and even social media has changed from look at me to like, let me
check out baby stuff, you know, and let me post something that I
think my interests other people. But I don't really have much interest in it
myself anymore. And I don't really I'm not on there telling people how awesome
I am, or how cool I am, or what I'm good I'm doing,
or what's going on in my life. Look at me? Right,
I just don't, you know, and I don't know, you know,
and I know there are people out there that are like, oh man,
I wish I would have known. Yeah, there are people I am close
with on Facebook that I just don't talk to anymore. But I don't know.
Maybe when, maybe when there's some milestones, like after he's born,
we all do that, but not right now. Maybe the baby Bellie photo.
I don't know. Maybe, but at least I can do it at
the time of my choosing. I don't feel like I have to like,
ooh post this. Yeah you know. I think the last time I felt
like that was when I got my five year coin and I kind of was
like, oh, I got to post this. But there's a lot of
people out there that don't like the fact that I have five years clean.
So Mayben did that to them? I don't know, But just saying saying
it's a good way to live life, yeah you know. And I think
recovery has a lot to do with that, And how will we live our
lives today, I think has a lot to do with that. Well,
it's about being humble too. It's like saying, like, all these things
are happening in my life and I'm grateful and I work hard for them and
I'm supported by other amazing people outside of who clicks on thumbs up, thumbs
down or emojis. And I helped you that regardless. You know, I
don't need I don't need you know, outside people too. It wouldn't matter.
It wouldn't matter if people were thumbs ups or thumbs down. I'm still
going to be doing what I'm doing, you know, to maintain my sobriety
and work towards good things in my life. And there's nothing wrong with people
if they want to promote their life and how great they're doing that. People
can do whatever they want. And like, there was a person who recently
bought a new home and they had the little family out on the front step.
It was so kind of cheesy, but I'm just like okay, and
I was like, we didn't post no pictures of our house and we bought
it. And then I started thinking about it. I'm like, well,
if I would have done that, I would have had to like post picture
of the like the bank's letter when they took it back, you know,
like here's my first home in Arkansas, and here's the letter them taking it
back, and here's the other home. You know, like everybody wants to
share the good, you know, but I feel like you have to share
some of the bad with it too. Sure, Like that's how I felt,
and I just kind of chuckled and moved on. But I don't know,
that's just what I thought about it. I was like, yeah,
like that had been cool, Like hey, yeah, I mean we talked
about it on the podcast, but that's a little different, I think,
you know, and good things do happen to us, and we do talk
about that, so I guess there's a way that we do share that,
but we want to share that as hope and inspiration for other people who are
out there struggling, are thinking, oh they got a year, only got
two years, you know, keep it going, you know, the good
things they keep happening, and it will blow your mind in three years where
you're going to be Yeah, you won't even there's no way you could even
imagine it. It's going to be so awesome And you're like, what yep,
promise. Yeah that's fact. So hang in there, keep it up,
and just keep counting your blessings and like Marnie said, you know,
just stay humble, just be very appreciative of what you do have. Yeah,
that's all I got today. That's all I got. Thank you guys
so much for listening, and I hope you all had a great weekend.
I hope you enjoyed the episode and the lady in Dallas who's from gay Lord,
she said gay Lord, she's got it wrong. And then the movie
reviews and the television reviews and the nesting talk. Yeah, and maybe we'll
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