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It's to two seventeen Recovery Podcast with
Corey Winfield. I'm not good at putting

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things together, that's my point.
And I look at that like, well,

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I'm gonna need the whole month of
March put my desk together. And

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Cole Holes Marney Winfield. What they
have to air quotes judge you by are

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things that might not necessarily reflect exactly
who you are. It is the twenty

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fourth of March. Corey Winfield,
still putting the desk together. Marnie Winfield

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here, and how many desks have
you put together this March too? It's

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not bad. Yeah, it's not
bad at all. It's that's not a

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normal amount of desks I do monthly. No, it's not. No,

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but you're ever getting good at it
because then you got to put a baby

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crib together. Yeah, so that
was kind of nice to kind of have

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a couple of desks under your belt. Go to baby stuff now the baby

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stroller slash baby car seat that was
on you, Oh my god. And

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it's cute that they don't come with
instructions. I love it, Like they

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have a really bad picture. This
goes here and this, but it doesn't

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really tell you much about anything.
They have a very pretty insert that gives

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you a link to the video to
watch somebody else put it together. Oh

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I didn't even see that. Oh
I came across that when I was looking

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for the how to Register your strollers. Oh yeah, I look for pictures.

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I'm a picture guy, So I
didn't. I wasn't looking for links

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or anything like that, or maybe
something that you could scan. I was

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looking for that, like QR code. But I didn't see that. That'd

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been too easy. I swear,
whoever did it, they do it on

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purpose. They're preparing you for the
frustrations of being a parent, I think

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so. I think they're trying to
get us ready. Dude, you think

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this is hard and then just wait. We went to the hospital for our

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visit to like look around and stuff. Yeah, that was fun a little

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bit. And when we went there, she gave us this thing and said,

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hey, the fire department will come
out and hook up your fire detectors,

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smoke alarms whatever, smoke detectors,
fire alarm whatever. And I thought

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that's great. So we had them
come out and they came out yesterday and

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thought, man, let's just have
them look at the car seat while they're

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here because they just do this program
where they'll install your car seat and make

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sure it's done right and kind of
show you how to do it. And

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the car seat we have is kind
of slick because you can buy bases,

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like you can have a base in
your car, and I'll have a base

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in my car. There you go. Some of them don't come with other

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bases, so it's kind of a
pain in the ass. So we got

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this one. So, like I
said, it's kind of slick. Fire

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guys came out and they're like,
yep, yeah, we got a program

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for that, but we don't do
that. You gotta be trained in that.

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And I figured they'd say that,
but I was hoping that they won't.

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Well, here's the thing. They
were two very very nice, very

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looked pretty young for I mean,
I don't know, like in terms of

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how old people are that when they
first joined the what do they call it,

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fire department? Okay, So anyway, they were younger, younger gentlemen.

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And obviously we're very knowledgeable about the
detectors. And that's the whole idea

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is that this was an inspection of
to make sure we were up to code

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with fire safety and the alarms were
up to date and they'll check those dad

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if it was hardwired versus battery anyway, they had all that down pat But

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he was very transparent about the fact
that, like they don't mess around with

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the whole car seat inspection thing,
that it's like an eight week course that

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they have to go they have to
they have to go through to be able

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to inspect people's Yeah, carcation shouldn't
be that hard and the ninety six percent

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of people install. I'm surprised that
you're saying that considering the way. No,

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but I mean, it doesn't have
to be that hard. We go

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to the moon apparently, you know, we send little things to different planets

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like Mars, and we can land
it on Mars, but we can't make

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a child safety seat that's just pretty
simple to put in and very effective.

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Maybe maybe they have to learn about
different or scientists working too hard to cure

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cancer. Maybe, I mean,
like what's going on, Like why is

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it so hard? Well, I
would rather have them be spent a lot

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of time and be knowledgeable about that
than other things. I think it's good.

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I think I don't I'm not gonna
dispute their training time. I'm just

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saying it shouldn't be that hard.
It shouldn't. And if I ran the

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world, what you would have them
learn less about how to install car seats

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safely or double check things? No, I would make it simple, like

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you put this through here. I
think sometimes there's stuff that you just maybe

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don't there's stuff about it that you
don't know that they need to know.

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Just seriously, just take the belt, put it through there. You're clicking

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in, don that's how easy.
It's the man that spent literally three and

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a half hours on trying to figure
out how to put it a stroller together.

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Today it was two two. I
took breaks in between frustration breaks.

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So maybe there's more to it.
Maybe there's more to it, but it

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doesn't have to be It should be
easier, like make it easier for people.

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That's what I'm saying. And you
know what, I'm not even going

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to go there to be like,
hey, if you want to learn to

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be a lifeguard, it only needs
to be like ten minute course. You

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really don't need to learn like mouth
to mouth and you don't need to learn

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all that much. Just you know, put up signs, you know how

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to be able to write, read
and write to put up signs so they

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don't swim in dangerous areas. You
got a phone, right, bro,

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call nine one one. They need
to know. You need to be able

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to paint numbers on pools. Yeah, bro, so people know how to

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about it. Yeah, and then
you should be able to be like they

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just make it so hard. I
don't think. I don't think that.

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I don't even know about that.
I don't know anything about lifeguard stuff.

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So maybe it is, maybe it's
not. Anyway, they didn't and they

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said there's a number to call,
So we'll call that number get it figured

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out. But that'll be fun.
Yeah, you know, like all this

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pre baby stuff. I think it's
a lot of fun. And of course,

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if you're just tuning in, this
is the two seventeen Recovery podcast.

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Marty and I both are in recovery. I have five years and some change.

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Marty's got about four and a half
years, so we've been holding it

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down. But this is as long
as we've ever had h and we got

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married and now we're having our first
child, so it's kind of a big

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deal. And this whole new life
thing is working out pretty well. This

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life and recovery is it's going great. It is. It's amazing. Not

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every day it's wonderful. There are
some frustrations in there with this and that

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and whatever, but man, it's
so much better than the days that we

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used to have. And you were
saying before the fire people came over and

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you were saying, like the emergency
responded, like this is the first time

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you're not like worried or like having
to hide stuff or you know, just

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like it was weird for you.
All right, Well, I mean,

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I guess in my job, I've
interacted with like the police and fire department

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and healthcare work, like you know, first responders and whatever and not been

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on the end the receiving end of
their services. But those those days,

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it is one of those reflection times
where you're like those days are really over

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and they're coming to my home.
Like, yeah, there were times where

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I'd be like, I wonder how
many times if like it back in the

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day when I was I mean,
I can't tell how many times they people

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came, the ambulance came to came
get me to take me to the hospital,

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you know, going through DT's or
seizures or whatever. It's like,

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I know, you've we been here
before. You know, so this is

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and I did. I changed everything
about my life when I got sober this

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time. And and so that's not
one of the things on my plate,

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not saying that the people who did
get sober in the town that they used

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in it. I mean they might
come across that and that is what it

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is, and they should be proud
of you, like, hey, I

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remember you're doing well, Like this
is a whole different scenario that I'm seeing

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you in. This is wonderful,
you know, But it's still like it's

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that. It was that weird little
tiny flutter of like anxiety slash, like

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I feel like I'm supposed to be
doing something knowing that like first responders are

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coming into my home. The answer
is no, really, everything's good.

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It's all chill. It's just different, you know. So I guess it's

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still setting in after this amount of
sobriety. But I still feel I don't

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feel one hundred percent of the fire
alarm or the smoke detectors because there's that

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one upstairs. I think he just
didn't check. You just thought that's too

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high. I don't like getting up
there. Yeah, that's fine, kind

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of do you think it's like out
of I don't know expires. These other

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ones were hardwired, because I thought
they were just gonna come in here and

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replace them and be on their way. Now he's like, you're going to

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need two more of those and one
downstairs. They were for two thousand,

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they're years old. Give them to
us. Oh no, and put them

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in for us. They just inspect
them and he's like, you might need

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a fire extinguisher. Yeah, I
probably wanted to get one of those two.

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Yeah, I want, And I'm
like, we don't. I don't

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think so we don't house down.
Sorry, probably why you want to get

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one. That's what we got you
for us. Wish is that you did

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You did ask how far away?
Yeah? How far away are you?

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Oh? You're like, who's how
did you ask it? I don't think

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I was in the room when you
asked. I don't know who responds to

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us or like whose services? Like
what fire department? Yeah, you know,

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that's why I asked how far away
they were? Where's the other ones?

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Like? Who's close? You answer? Are actually a pretty good area

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for that? Yeah, there'll be
a couple of three different ones coming from

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different places that are not too far
I hope, so hopefully not go we

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don't even need that. Fires are
scary, but yeah, I don't know,

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we'll see. I mean we did. We did replace the one,

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two three they suggested, and they
look a lot better too. Those we're

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like, oh asty, old looking. They were two thousand and five.

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They were from Yeah, yeah,
they were really old. So if you

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all are thinking about checking your own, you know, fire detector or smoke

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detectors, just they should just unclip. You just twist them off and there's

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an expiration data on there. We'll
call your local fire department and they'll swing

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by. Had a good time.
You could tell they love doing it.

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Yeah, walking in people's houses with
their shoes on, snow tracking all over

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it is good for them. Appreciate
it. Anyway, I appreciated it.

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I really did, so, thank
you guys. And speaking of having that

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feeling of like oh no, you
know, and you said that you would

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be in a much different place if
those same people were to come over to

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talk to you, and the ones
that had taken you to the hospital so

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many times or you had a seizure, and today you'd be like, well,

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I'm in recovery, Like I'm doing
great. I mean, you wear

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shirts to the store that's say two
to seventeen recovery on them. Someone asked

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you for your recovery, you say, yeah, you know, we're at

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that stage now, But there was
a time and least in my life,

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and I'm assuming yours where you felt
ashamed of trying to be in recovery.

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I'm using air quotes or you know, on that path, and he might

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have that then still, Jesus,
please let me let me talk today.

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Amen. So that's just a short
prayer. I don't even know what I

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was talking about now, Jesus,
he just made me go blank where yeah,

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where we would have been embarrassed to
say we were in recovery, and

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we would have came out and probably
said, Hi, I'm Corey, I'm

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an alcoholic, you know, like
we would have still used those terms.

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That to me, it doesn't motivate
me to be a better person. It

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says I'm in the past, you
know, like those terms for me aren't

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good. Anyway, My point here
is I was listening to thirteen ten the

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Ticket and that's my favorite radio station
on Dallas, and they were at some

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off expo and my hero Gordon Keith
was out and he takes the wireless and

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he starts asking people questions, and
they're talking to one lady, And where

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I'm going to play it from is
they're talking to her about some surgery she

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had on her knee, and she
compares it to pregnancy. Is why I'm

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playing it for you, just because
you know you're pregnant. You have a

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baby soon. And then he talks
to another woman and I want you to

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just just listen, okay, because
I want to get your take on something.

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That's it. That's the whole story. I broke my knee. Wow,

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I fell? Isn't that a cool
story? Where did you fall?

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Like? Were you drunk? No? Down a mountain? Still the avalanche?

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I was saving a child? No, come on, what's the real

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story. Well, in a parking
lot, literally fell walking in a parking

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lot. It wasn't was it raining, It was raining, and it was

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dark, and I was carrying food
to go for the kids, hustling.

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You know how moms do parking stop
foods spill out everywhere everywhere. Nobody ate

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that night, Oh no, nobody. Did you have to have surgery?

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I didn't, but I was on
crutches for about six weeks, so that

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was fine. So crutches for six
weeks and now you're wearing this exoskeleton kind

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of thing. Is that an actual
term? I broke my knee is like

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the dcap or something. I don't
think it is, George, I don't

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think it is. George said that
I broke my knee as not an official

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kind of medical term. I cracked
my patella. That's so painful. Have

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you ever broken a bone other than
that? I'm not. This was a

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first. Have you ever had major
surgery that in the books? No,

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sir, really, okay, that's
pretty good. And what about childbirth?

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How did that go? It was
more excruciating than the knee. But it's

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a close tie. That's but you
didn't didn't go cesarean right? No,

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I did not been sliced. Okay, okay, all right, well you

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okay, that's your cue. Though
the interview is over, which she says,

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okay, okay, all right,
she's not for you. She didn't

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want to take any follow up questions
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they say vaginal birth is very important, Georgio, because the uh,

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the baby gets some bacteria from the
mother's bag. Oh really, that is

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helpful. Tell that to your next
guest. Yea, they have a stronger

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immune system. That's right. Okay, are you good? Talk to this

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lady right here? What you're doing, ma'am? Gotta tell us I'm hanging

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a sign for the gaylored golf mecha, just setting up our booth? Oh

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good, good? What's your name? My name's Christy Walcott? And Christy?

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Where are you from? Up North
Wisconsin somewhere? I'm from Gaillard,

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Michigan, Michigan. Okay, I
thought I tacked a little bit of an

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accident. Now tell me about this
tattoo you have on your arm here.

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I'm not here to talk about I
know you're not, but I am talk

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about golf. Okay, let's talk
about the tattoo though. It's a phoenix

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okay, and a dragonfly. And
what does that signify? Uh? Well,

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a phoenix signifies rising from the ashes. It's a powerful tattoo. And

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why did you get it? Like? What made you choose that? Because

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it's you know, it's very important
to choose wisely when you go for a

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tattoo design. I agree, one
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think we've all been through different parts
of our life that were more difficult than

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others, and you find a way
to overcome that right again. And this

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is a reminder of that part of
my life. And what would you say

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that specifically represents overcoming Oh, I'm
not going to say, it's just life.

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Life happens. So yeah, Well, what would you say is the

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best thing to happen in your life? The best thing to happen in my

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life? Oh boy, that's a
big question. Talking to me right now,

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talking to you has been fantastic chemistry. That's basically the I mean,

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that's at least number two at this
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happen in my life was probably just
finding myself, growing into who I wanted

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to be. Oh sweet, do
you have any children? I have five

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cats and a seven month old dog. Okay, so you were an animal

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mother? I am? I am
yea. And so what what would you

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say is the worst thing that's ever
happened to you? Say? So,

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we did the best. We have
to do worst as well, we're legally

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obligatd Oh, I hate that question. I did get divorced, so I

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had I had a divorce lingering in
my background, but who doesn't at this

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point. But that was also my
point of finding myself. So his fault

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though, right? Oh yeah,
absolutely, I didn't do anything. And

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who was the other woman or manes? Which one? Oh? No?

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So he had multiple indiscretions. How
did you find out about that? Like?

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Did you snoop through the phone or
did someone contact you? No?

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I did some super sleuthing works.
I'm actually very good at stalking people.

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Uh huh? And what did you
find out? Like? What did did

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you see the text messages? I
mean, what didn't I find out?

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This is the best interview I've ever
done. This is like my all time

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favorite interview. Let at least talk
about her golf course? Whereas who the

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woman was? You're killing me.
We're about to get to golf, but

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I have to ask this first.
Did you know who the woman was?

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Did he work with her or something? My gosh, are you a psychic?

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Yeah? Oh my gosh, look
at you go. So they worked

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together? You got it? Did
they? They didn't last afterwards? Did

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they? God? No? Okay, no, absolutely not. Will you

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earned that tattoo? Then? What's
the golf course again? We make up

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play it? What's the golf course
again? Gaylored Golf Macco. We represent

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sixteen golf courses in the Gaylord area. I've heard golf in Michigan is amazing.

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Yeah, golf in Michigan is amazing. It is. It is just

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now heard. I'll tell you all
weekend how amazing it is too. Okay,

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Yeah, thank you very much.
And God bless you. Tell her

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Craig and I are thinking about getting
new iron Craig and I are thinking about

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getting new irons. That sounds like
fun, pretty fun. Well, God

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bless you. This was a wonderful
Tell her you don't play with grips.

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I don't play with grips. Okay, hell all right. So when I

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was hearing that, I was like, wait what And the first she started

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talking, I was like, sounds
like she's from Michigan. Then she said

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gay Lord, which is gay Lord, and then I was like, oh,

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okay, And then she said that
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because they're in down in tech this
in Dallas having this golf expo.

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But when she starts talking and Gordon
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actually got to talk to him about
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It was one of the top ten
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But I think he was because the
Phoenix. I think a lot of

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people in recovery identify with that and
kind of use that. And maybe I'm

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totally wrong there, but I think
that's why he kind of kept asking her,

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like, is there something with that? Because I think he was going

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to applaud her for it if she
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kind of seemed like there was some
stuff there, like she just didn't want

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to get into, you know.
And obviously that's pretty much what she said,

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but I just started automatically thinking like, oh, Phoenix, Oh okay,

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cool, she's in recovery. And
I was hoping so badly for her

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to just be like, well,
I'm an I'm a person in recovery.

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hoping that she would, And I
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that out of her so that he
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his story too. I think he's
very careful about disclosure. Yeah he is

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too. He doesn't try to really, he doesn't really put it out there.

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I think unless it's kind of like
a very fitting situation, like I

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could foresee that if that's the case, and she would have said that out

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loud, like because I'm in recovery
from substances or substance use or what however

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it is. I think lots of
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this like she's on you know radio, right, it's like we know kind

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of the well, we actually we
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received by people until we get it. Feel for who are we talking to?

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How much can I trust? You
know what I mean, like,

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how do I feel about these people? Or how do I feel about where

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I'm at right now with this information? And when you're getting somebody on public

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radio, it's like that's a big
piece of my life to just put out

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there for judgmental or stigma, you
know, the stigma that still does exist

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for people to hear that. Or
maybe she yeah, maybe she's not in

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recovery. But being in recovery though, isn't a bad thing. Like I

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don't know, that's me feel that
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I think her, if this is
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rising from the ashes, and that's
what Phoenix represents to her and maybe that's

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all she feels like she needs to
share. You know what I mean that

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the other piece, the words you
know, from what isn't that important.

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It's that she's done it and she's
living a new life now and that's the

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piece that's important to her. And
so I think that's great. But it

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does circle back to the whole thing
of like why are we so fearful of

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saying those words? Why are we
so fearful of saying Because it's because for

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me, and this is what I've
kind of figured out of why at one

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point that was something that I held
back from sharing is because it's a pretty

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significant significant thing to overcome. Right, means that you were I mean,

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we're not going to use this the
words that people call us because they're they

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have bad The language is bad,
but you know the stigmatic kind of drunk

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and alcohol, alky, junkie,
you know, all the all the bad

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words. It means that people might
still look at you and maybe envision that

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you once were those things and whatever
their definition in their head or out,

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you know, however, they picture
somebody who uses substances or was in in

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addiction, Like they'll look at me
and they'll just picture like me living under

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a bridge, you know, or
with like you know, having having showered

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for weeks and you know, all
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or passed out or whatever whatever it
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And again, we have no idea.

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I've never met that woman. I
don't think I'm horrible with names,

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but I don't even I don't know
if she's in recovery or not. We

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have no idea. All we know
is that she said that she whatever came

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back from ashes rose from the ash. Yeah, so that's all we really

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know. Maybe she's not in recovery. Who else, But if she worried

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about because she's sounded like she had
a pretty nice job. They were sixteen

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different golf courses or whatever that and
you're on the radio doing an interview,

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maybe your employer would have been like, WHOA, don't need to you know,

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air your personal laundry on the radio
in Dallas, Texas, you know,

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do some recovery friendly workforce training.
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she chooses to sharing. There are
people in recovery. They're like, no,

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I'd rather not tell anybody. And
that's cool too, you know,

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I'm not saying even if she is
in recovery and didn't want to share,

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that's that's her man. I'm cool
with whatever. But I was just hoping

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that she would say something, and
that I think Gordon was kind of hoping

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that. That's how I know kind
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that's kind of the stuff that I
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thing too, is because you know, staying sober like long, long term

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sobriety is really hard to get to
and so for me, I had a

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hard time saying it out like I
do now and identifying with it as I

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do now, because in early recovery
I had tried and failed so many times

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that I was like, who am
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to be able to have an interaction
with another human being and tell them with

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a confidence that I didn't have for
a long time either to say I'm a

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person in recovery from substance use disorder, Because for me, I was like,

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I know that to be true today, but I didn't know what was

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going to happen tomorrow or the day
after that. And so until I kind

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of found that internal confidence. I
think that's when the words kind of came

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to me and I could say it
with sincerity and with passion and with you

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know, knowing that I was being
true to myself by saying that that is

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who I am today. Before it
was like, that's that's who I am

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for like this minute, you know, but I don't know, And then

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that's how it was for me,
And so I just skipped over that part

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because of my failures. I don't
think I ever said I was in recovery

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until this last time, you know, like until I got out of that

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last treatment center, when that's when
I started changing it from I'm an alcoholic

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to I'm a person in recovery,
and that for me, it was a

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huge difference, and it made a
huge impression on how I thought about myself.

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I wasn't Corey the alcoholic. I
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the person who had goals and dreams
and who wanted to meet a woman and

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get married and have a child.
And I didn't want to buy a house.

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But I listened to you, and
you know, but it changed everything,

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just as simple, how you view
yourself with words that you say about

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yourself. You know, I don't
wake I say this a lot. I

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don't wake up every bed or lord, it's not funny. Let me talk.

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I don't wake up every morning jump
out of bed and say I'm gonna

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be an asshole. Well maybe sometimes
they do, I'm be an asshole today,

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or I'm gonna just be I don't
know, I'm a piece of shit.

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Yeah, I'm gonna go do pieces
of shit stuff. I don't ever

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say that, you know. I
roll out of it and go, Wow,

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I got some stuff I gotta do
today, you know, and let's

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get them done. And I don't
accomplish all of them every day, but

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I at least put a don in
it. I at least move forward with

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it, you know. And I
just think more people could maybe benefit from

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changing that kind of thinking and that
kind of wording. And of course,

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you know, that was one of
the first things I took too, was

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Recovery Ambassador training, you know,
to tell you to teach you, you

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know, how to frame it in
your mind and how you want others to

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frame it, you know, or
how you want others to talk about it.

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And I think it's a piece of
like Sol's a it's an affirmation,

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you know, it's kind of identifying
with that and saying that's who I am

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today. So it is like it's
for me. Saying it out loud is

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part of It's part of my sobriety. It's part of my recovery journey because

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I'm reminding myself like, this is
what I've this is what I've committed to,

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and this is who I am today. And yeah, it's going to

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take a lot of It does take
a lot of work to and upkeep right.

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Not nearly as much as it did
when I was first getting sober,

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but it still is something that I
have to do every day to know,

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like I could so easily slip back
into that. And so me saying I'm

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a person in recovery is me identifying
and confirming and solidifying with my own self,

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not just the person I'm talking to, but that is that's who I

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am today. It's who I strive
to remain to be. And you know,

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and it feels good. I agree, it does feel good. Does

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so this weekend we also watched a
movie and it's been a minute since we

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reviewed in a movie. It has
been so it felt like it. It

408
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feels like it. Oh, sure, you can review a movie you didn't

409
00:28:44.880 --> 00:28:48.839
really watch watched? Oh no,
oh god, yeah, let's do two

410
00:28:48.880 --> 00:28:52.759
movies. Oh no, we don't
have to. I didn't even Yeah that

411
00:28:52.799 --> 00:28:55.880
wasn't even the one on my mind. Okay, yeah, okay, So

412
00:28:55.960 --> 00:28:57.640
let's start with your movie first.
When you picked the one you wanted to

413
00:28:57.640 --> 00:29:00.960
watch because everybody's top looking about it, you get what I'm saying. Yeah,

414
00:29:02.000 --> 00:29:07.400
I needed to see what was the
hype about the Poor Things movie with

415
00:29:07.599 --> 00:29:11.400
Emma Stone right, yes, which
we saw preview for it like three weeks

416
00:29:11.440 --> 00:29:15.200
ago, two weeks ago. It
was before she won her award for whatever.

417
00:29:15.400 --> 00:29:18.759
Yeah, we watched the trailer for
it and it was like, you

418
00:29:18.039 --> 00:29:22.079
got to be kidding in That movie
was garbage and I was like, how

419
00:29:22.119 --> 00:29:26.759
did she get roped into that?
But she wins an award and whatever you

420
00:29:26.799 --> 00:29:29.839
listen to in your world or whatever
you see, you hear people talking about

421
00:29:29.880 --> 00:29:32.440
this movie and how great it is, so you want to watch it,

422
00:29:32.599 --> 00:29:37.480
and I'm thinking cool, I'm cepy, I can just take a nappy,

423
00:29:38.079 --> 00:29:41.920
and so we turned it on immediately. I'm like, oh, yeah,

424
00:29:41.920 --> 00:29:45.000
out, which is great. I
wake up towards the end, but you're

425
00:29:45.079 --> 00:29:47.240
just like, oh, this movie
is bad? Can we turn it off?

426
00:29:47.279 --> 00:29:48.720
I'm like, do you gotta watch
it to the end? And now

427
00:29:48.759 --> 00:29:52.960
it's two hours and twenty one minutes
long. Yeah, all I remember is

428
00:29:52.119 --> 00:29:56.519
is bad and it wasn't even good
to sleep too. No, it had

429
00:29:56.599 --> 00:30:00.799
it. It did have a very
like for anybody you seen the movie,

430
00:30:00.880 --> 00:30:04.039
Edward says her hands. It did
have that kind of like feel to it.

431
00:30:04.079 --> 00:30:07.799
And in fact, I had thought
that when I was beginning, first

432
00:30:07.839 --> 00:30:11.200
watched it, first started watching it, and then I when I was like

433
00:30:11.519 --> 00:30:15.359
googling, like why am I watching
this again? Like how is this so

434
00:30:15.480 --> 00:30:18.720
great? And somebody said the exact
that exact same thing, that it was

435
00:30:18.799 --> 00:30:22.400
like kind of an offshoot, like
some very similar to you know, the

436
00:30:22.680 --> 00:30:30.480
Frankenstein kind of situation where you know, this brilliant minded, crazy doctor,

437
00:30:30.559 --> 00:30:36.480
you know, reconstructs a human being
and there's all these things that are wrong

438
00:30:36.519 --> 00:30:41.920
with them, but you know if
they still function anyway. Lots of weird

439
00:30:42.319 --> 00:30:48.440
sex stuff in it. It was
just it. I don't know, good

440
00:30:48.440 --> 00:30:52.680
for her that she got an award
for it, but definitely thumbs down.

441
00:30:52.440 --> 00:30:56.960
I mean, so one out of
five stars? How many a given it?

442
00:30:56.079 --> 00:31:03.319
Oh, like a half a star? N was it worse than Pig?

443
00:31:03.759 --> 00:31:07.559
You know, I think I've like
mentally blocked Pig from my head,

444
00:31:07.079 --> 00:31:11.519
and I think it was I think
it might have been worse. Okay,

445
00:31:11.519 --> 00:31:15.319
So the other movie you watched,
the one I was referring to, Roadhouse,

446
00:31:15.680 --> 00:31:19.799
Yes, awesome. It was good. I liked the amazing movie.

447
00:31:21.079 --> 00:31:23.400
It was fun, entertaining, it
was it was good. It went too

448
00:31:23.440 --> 00:31:29.400
long, and some blow up boats
and whatever, not blow up boats,

449
00:31:29.440 --> 00:31:37.519
but boats blow up mm hmm.
And some good fight scenes. It's cute,

450
00:31:37.599 --> 00:31:40.400
that's what you said at the end. You're like, that was cute.

451
00:31:40.480 --> 00:31:42.720
Yeah. And the thing I loved, The thing I loved the most

452
00:31:42.759 --> 00:31:48.640
about it, it was free on
Amazon. That was awesome too, is

453
00:31:48.680 --> 00:31:52.960
that I had i'd seen the movie. I had seen the Patrick Swayze movie.

454
00:31:52.599 --> 00:31:56.839
But it's not like I had seen
it yesterday. It had been like,

455
00:31:56.920 --> 00:31:59.160
you know, it'd been a while, so you saw when you were

456
00:31:59.160 --> 00:32:04.359
ten. Maybe that's what started you
on the path of trouble. No,

457
00:32:05.079 --> 00:32:07.039
whenever I had watched it, it
was a long time, long, long

458
00:32:07.119 --> 00:32:10.599
time ago. But I did remember
the premise of it, and I remembered

459
00:32:10.680 --> 00:32:15.559
little tiny bits kind of as much
as I remember the movie Cocktail with Tom

460
00:32:15.640 --> 00:32:19.480
Cruise. I don't remember that one
at all anyway, So point being is

461
00:32:19.519 --> 00:32:22.680
I remember bits and pieces of it, and I knew that it was not

462
00:32:22.759 --> 00:32:27.279
following the exact I mean, the
storyline was there, like the whole thing,

463
00:32:27.359 --> 00:32:30.200
the script was there, but they
had it was way there. I

464
00:32:30.240 --> 00:32:32.720
was like, didn't, like,
where's this Florida stuff coming from? Like

465
00:32:32.759 --> 00:32:37.160
maybe it was maybe it wasn't Florida
the first one. I'm not sure,

466
00:32:37.519 --> 00:32:40.680
but I don't remember that. And
I was like, I remember him drinking

467
00:32:40.680 --> 00:32:46.079
coffee a lot in the first one, remember him making rules with other of

468
00:32:46.119 --> 00:32:52.279
the other bouncers. So it was
kind of cool because it was like I

469
00:32:52.319 --> 00:32:54.720
knew that it was a remake,
but you also could recognize that they had

470
00:32:54.759 --> 00:32:59.200
made their own, like cool changes. Yeah, because it really wasn't as

471
00:32:59.400 --> 00:33:02.039
much as I'm going to teach the
staff this or that. Really wouldn't much

472
00:33:02.079 --> 00:33:06.920
of that, but you had the
main points of this rich guy wanted to

473
00:33:06.960 --> 00:33:12.200
close or buy this bar, you
know, and had their own little forcer

474
00:33:12.279 --> 00:33:15.160
guy too, and you know those
things are similar. But yeah, that

475
00:33:15.720 --> 00:33:19.960
rest of it was was pretty different, but it was still really really good.

476
00:33:20.000 --> 00:33:22.079
I liked it. M H And
Jake Jonhall did a great job.

477
00:33:22.279 --> 00:33:30.000
Yeah, so good good for him. I give that fire Wow. I

478
00:33:30.000 --> 00:33:32.799
think it's the only five out of
five I've ever heard you maybe four,

479
00:33:32.880 --> 00:33:37.000
let's just not let's not go overboard
four o five stars. Definitely you should

480
00:33:37.000 --> 00:33:40.240
watch it. Yeah, if you're
like, hmm, yeah, I definitely

481
00:33:40.240 --> 00:33:44.519
give it a four four point two
five. What was the one? You're

482
00:33:44.559 --> 00:33:49.200
the one you watched Poor Things Poor? If you like poor Things or Roadhouse

483
00:33:49.440 --> 00:33:52.039
Poor Things, or don't even spend
that much time to go right to Roadhouse,

484
00:33:52.200 --> 00:33:58.319
yeah you're welcome. And then TV
show wise, we've been watching the

485
00:33:58.400 --> 00:34:04.720
briefcase show No Deal, which I
like it, and it's got Boston Rob

486
00:34:04.759 --> 00:34:09.039
on there. I've always loved Boston
Rob from Survivor, so that's pretty awesome.

487
00:34:10.320 --> 00:34:14.840
Is it really awesome? Probably not, But I just like Boston Rob,

488
00:34:14.920 --> 00:34:19.119
so I would watch it. What's
your take on Dealer or No Deal?

489
00:34:19.360 --> 00:34:22.079
I mean it was a game show
I never ever watched, so,

490
00:34:24.079 --> 00:34:29.599
I mean it's kind of like new
to me in general. But I mean

491
00:34:29.639 --> 00:34:35.920
I've I've come to really like the
whole reality series of the judge, you

492
00:34:35.920 --> 00:34:39.960
know, voting people off and know, Yeah, and that's a tough one

493
00:34:40.000 --> 00:34:44.039
because if you don't have immunity,
because like one person gets immunity and then

494
00:34:44.039 --> 00:34:47.039
they can't be voted off, but
then the other person they get voted into

495
00:34:49.000 --> 00:34:52.360
to play the game, and if
you win, then you get to vote

496
00:34:52.360 --> 00:34:53.480
someone else home, but if you
lose, then you go home. So

497
00:34:53.559 --> 00:34:58.840
it's kind of a tough one because
if you don't win immunity and you don't

498
00:34:58.840 --> 00:35:00.960
play, could be voted off just
as easy if you went up there and

499
00:35:01.000 --> 00:35:05.320
played yourself, you know, m
hm, except at least you're in control.

500
00:35:05.360 --> 00:35:07.679
And that's what Rob kind of figured
out the last time, and he

501
00:35:07.800 --> 00:35:09.880
made it through, which I don't
think he's gonna make it very much longer,

502
00:35:10.079 --> 00:35:12.880
right because people are kind of catching
on to that. You know,

503
00:35:12.920 --> 00:35:15.280
this guy is gonna win it off, we don't get him out of here,

504
00:35:15.679 --> 00:35:17.960
yep. And then Traders. I
don't know if we've talked about Traders

505
00:35:19.079 --> 00:35:22.880
or not. Yeah, we have, yeah, but now like we're so

506
00:35:22.079 --> 00:35:27.719
traded up. We got to watch
the UK version we're watching. Yeah,

507
00:35:27.840 --> 00:35:31.880
Australia like eight or nine episodes released
and there's only like one or two more,

508
00:35:31.960 --> 00:35:36.519
I think maybe three. And the
problems, the problems and the problems

509
00:35:36.559 --> 00:35:39.679
I'm having with it now is just
because we're starting to be judgment of like

510
00:35:40.800 --> 00:35:45.599
their games. They need to switch
it out. Yeah. If you notice,

511
00:35:45.599 --> 00:35:49.159
if you watch Traders, they always
come down to like one or two

512
00:35:49.199 --> 00:35:52.519
seconds left, it doesn't matter what
challenge it is. Her you're running out

513
00:35:52.519 --> 00:35:55.679
of time, and like they'll be
on a boat like eight miles away and

514
00:35:55.679 --> 00:35:58.960
they'm like less than a minute.
Next thing, you know, they're running

515
00:35:59.000 --> 00:36:01.559
up to the finish line and three
two, Oh, you just made it.

516
00:36:01.719 --> 00:36:06.199
Yeah, so they're editing to make
it realistic. So I think that

517
00:36:06.239 --> 00:36:07.280
they tell them all that too,
like, look, you got to finish

518
00:36:07.280 --> 00:36:10.960
the challenge. That's that's the deal. We're gonna piece it together like you

519
00:36:12.039 --> 00:36:15.199
finished in thirty minutes. If it
takes you eight hours, so be it.

520
00:36:15.519 --> 00:36:17.480
Maybe we'll come back tomorrow and do
it again. Yeah. I think

521
00:36:17.480 --> 00:36:21.960
that's the stuff that goes on with
that show because there's a lot of fake

522
00:36:22.000 --> 00:36:25.280
stuff that's just like, eh,
not buying it. Yeah, but that

523
00:36:25.760 --> 00:36:29.519
is a game that I would be
interested to being on because I think it

524
00:36:29.519 --> 00:36:32.760
would you'd have to be a trader
as a faithful to beat the traders.

525
00:36:35.000 --> 00:36:37.920
I know that makes no sense,
but I would vote to keep the traders

526
00:36:38.000 --> 00:36:42.880
until the end because they just replace
them and then it gets harder to figure

527
00:36:42.880 --> 00:36:45.239
out who they really are. I
don't know. I had this all figured

528
00:36:45.239 --> 00:36:47.280
it out one day and like,
how I would do that? You did?

529
00:36:49.079 --> 00:36:52.239
It was pretty awesome. Should you
should try to get onto it?

530
00:36:52.920 --> 00:36:57.360
No time for that baby to raise
and a movie to write? That's true?

531
00:36:58.039 --> 00:37:00.000
Am I sending you off to be
on reality TV and the Survivor?

532
00:37:00.800 --> 00:37:05.199
I just wouldn't do it. There's
no way. Like, first of all,

533
00:37:05.360 --> 00:37:07.159
I would I would try to cheat
in every challenge, and not cheat

534
00:37:07.239 --> 00:37:09.960
because I want to win, but
cheat because I would take the laziest way

535
00:37:09.960 --> 00:37:14.199
out. They would say, no, it's not how it works. I

536
00:37:14.239 --> 00:37:15.519
know, like you're not made for
Survivor. But they had a guy on

537
00:37:15.639 --> 00:37:19.280
that's not made for a Survivor.
Oh, I got to tell the truth

538
00:37:19.280 --> 00:37:22.480
and I got to do that guy
I remember his name, but he finally

539
00:37:22.480 --> 00:37:27.079
got voted out back. It's horrible, like this season of Survivor is horrible,

540
00:37:27.239 --> 00:37:30.000
Like the casting. Just let me
do it for you next time.

541
00:37:30.239 --> 00:37:32.280
I will pick you a cast for
people that will entertain people. These people

542
00:37:32.280 --> 00:37:36.800
are all horrible. Every single one
of them is bad. And you already

543
00:37:36.840 --> 00:37:40.679
know who's gonna win. That one
white guy Hunter. Yeah, that dude's

544
00:37:40.719 --> 00:37:44.320
I mean, okay, done seal
to see you. This might be the

545
00:37:44.320 --> 00:37:47.880
only reason why he would get voted
off though. Yeah, but he's gonna

546
00:37:47.920 --> 00:37:51.519
win every challenge, so it's not
gonna matter, and he'll have a hitting

547
00:37:51.599 --> 00:37:52.960
me. I don't that he'll find
somewhere like, I mean, that dude's

548
00:37:52.960 --> 00:37:58.480
gonna win. And it's just he's
animal. It's just horrible. Did you

549
00:37:58.519 --> 00:38:01.239
see when they showed hit that he
made. He's made like every puzzle that's

550
00:38:01.280 --> 00:38:06.639
ever been on Survivor. Yeah,
like practice puzzles and stuff. And he

551
00:38:06.679 --> 00:38:08.880
could have been like a super lawyer. Doctor. It was a doctor.

552
00:38:08.960 --> 00:38:13.920
Yeah he was. He had a
full ride, full ride to medical school.

553
00:38:15.840 --> 00:38:22.639
Anyway, do what you love.
Yeah, the Survivor's bad. Mm

554
00:38:22.760 --> 00:38:27.079
hmmm, it really is. And
and then they win this challenge and they

555
00:38:27.119 --> 00:38:30.360
give him a bucket old fish.
You know, I'm like, I don't

556
00:38:30.400 --> 00:38:35.920
do fish, not at all.
And it's just I'm just sitting there and

557
00:38:35.960 --> 00:38:37.480
we just kind of looked at each
other and even like, yeah, this

558
00:38:37.519 --> 00:38:40.800
one has been a challenge for you. I'd be like, no, let's

559
00:38:40.840 --> 00:38:45.119
not eat that fish, and like
they've shown, there's like flies all on

560
00:38:45.239 --> 00:38:51.119
them. And I don't know how
or why someone grabbed a fish out of

561
00:38:51.159 --> 00:38:52.320
the water or got him and thought
I'm gonna eat this. Maybe they saw

562
00:38:52.360 --> 00:38:54.519
a bear eating a fish and I
thought, well, if a bear can

563
00:38:54.559 --> 00:38:57.960
eat it, we can eat it. I don't know what those crazy cavemen

564
00:38:58.280 --> 00:39:01.320
thinking, but it's not a good
IDEA fish will kill you. If you

565
00:39:01.360 --> 00:39:05.519
swim with them, they will kill
you, and then you'll drown and eat

566
00:39:05.519 --> 00:39:07.920
your body. They're like, oh, we're not going to spend our energy,

567
00:39:07.960 --> 00:39:09.159
but if we have to, they
will. They'll eat you, but

568
00:39:09.159 --> 00:39:12.880
they'll just let you drown instead,
and then they'll eat you. And then

569
00:39:13.159 --> 00:39:17.320
they're filled with mercury which will make
your penis fall off and you die.

570
00:39:19.159 --> 00:39:22.519
And for women, it just makes
you die. I guess really, Ah,

571
00:39:22.760 --> 00:39:24.039
I read that somewhere, I think, or I just made it up.

572
00:39:24.039 --> 00:39:28.840
But it sounded really good. It's
how you say it, you know,

573
00:39:28.880 --> 00:39:32.119
it's really how you say things.
But oh, it just it tastes

574
00:39:32.199 --> 00:39:38.199
nasty. It smells nasty. I
just don't understand if they said ice cream

575
00:39:38.239 --> 00:39:45.039
had a lot of mercury in it, would you not eat it? It

576
00:39:45.159 --> 00:39:50.039
wasn't. I mean, I mean
it has a lot of sugar in it

577
00:39:50.960 --> 00:39:54.360
and that's killing me. But whatever, it tastes good and it smells good.

578
00:39:55.800 --> 00:39:59.320
I did have more l mush of
ice cream once that was not good.

579
00:39:59.679 --> 00:40:04.519
What where did you come across that, Charlotte boy, They were like

580
00:40:04.559 --> 00:40:07.880
here, try this. Yeah.
It was like one of those little places

581
00:40:07.920 --> 00:40:12.039
like off the alley, I don't
know, and they had this ice cream

582
00:40:12.039 --> 00:40:14.400
shop and we went in there and
they would do the free samples or whatever,

583
00:40:14.440 --> 00:40:15.320
and I was like, oh,
Morall mushroom. I was like,

584
00:40:16.079 --> 00:40:19.079
I ate it, and like,
I don't think if they even cleaned the

585
00:40:19.119 --> 00:40:22.320
mushrooms well enough, because I had
that dirt taste to it, which will

586
00:40:22.320 --> 00:40:24.800
happen if you've ever eaten a morale
mushroom and you didn't wash it properly.

587
00:40:25.679 --> 00:40:30.719
And I was like it just it
wasn't even the dirt alone. It was

588
00:40:30.760 --> 00:40:36.320
just not a good flavor. I
can't I imagine. Remember Seattle had had

589
00:40:36.559 --> 00:40:43.840
chicken and waffles ice cream. Seattle
they had that oh yeah, seat yeah

590
00:40:43.920 --> 00:40:46.480
yeah. Because we kept looking for
places to go to and then there was

591
00:40:46.519 --> 00:40:52.400
that they had one that was like
recycled food, like leftovers from places that

592
00:40:52.639 --> 00:40:55.679
would donate their leftover. Yeah.
Food, that's what it made it man

593
00:40:55.840 --> 00:41:00.480
and cheese ice cream they had.
Yeah, all kinds of weirdness. Sounds

594
00:41:00.519 --> 00:41:04.760
like a bad episode of Chopped.
Put some nuts on there, maybe some

595
00:41:04.800 --> 00:41:08.119
caramel, some fudge, let's call
it good. Put some vanilla. I

596
00:41:08.119 --> 00:41:12.880
don't you know, chicken chicken,
like three day old chicken ice cream.

597
00:41:15.280 --> 00:41:20.519
No, and we didn't. No, it's not how we live. We

598
00:41:20.559 --> 00:41:22.400
don't have to live that way anymore. No. So no, but we

599
00:41:22.480 --> 00:41:30.639
have been. We have been nesting, which has been very it's not it's

600
00:41:30.840 --> 00:41:36.440
it's very exciting, but it is
also too, like it brings on some

601
00:41:36.559 --> 00:41:40.639
anxiety, Like, at least for
me, it's kind of like reality check.

602
00:41:43.360 --> 00:41:51.519
I think we're done though, really
please what? Okay? Yeah,

603
00:41:51.679 --> 00:41:54.679
just kidding. No, No,
And my mom said, oh, wait,

604
00:41:54.800 --> 00:41:58.679
tells you she gets like ten days
before she's actually gonna have the baby,

605
00:41:58.719 --> 00:42:04.320
she'll go nuts and we'll go super
nesting or something. She's like,

606
00:42:04.400 --> 00:42:10.119
you'll know, I hope, so
snowing out again. Welcome to Michigan.

607
00:42:10.519 --> 00:42:17.159
Yeah, well, the nesting is
going well, we'll see. We got

608
00:42:17.159 --> 00:42:21.400
a lot of stuff, and I
want to thank everybody who has bought us

609
00:42:21.880 --> 00:42:25.199
stuff from our registry, which if
you would like to feel free, just

610
00:42:25.199 --> 00:42:30.119
go to Amazon. We got a
registry there. Windfield is what you type

611
00:42:30.159 --> 00:42:31.639
in if you want to search somebody's
registry. You type on our last name,

612
00:42:31.639 --> 00:42:38.480
Winfield, May twenty twenty four and
it'll pop up. You can buy

613
00:42:38.519 --> 00:42:45.000
us some stuff if you like to
feel free. But I haven't posted anything

614
00:42:45.039 --> 00:42:47.239
on Facebook, and I don't think
I'm going to. We just went to

615
00:42:47.239 --> 00:42:50.280
the doctor and we have one of
those three D pictures, you know,

616
00:42:50.320 --> 00:42:53.800
and it was it was pretty cool. I don't know. I thought about,

617
00:42:53.800 --> 00:42:57.960
oh, but you know what,
I don't again, I don't have

618
00:42:58.000 --> 00:43:00.719
to live that way anymore. Like
my whole attitude of Facebook has changed,

619
00:43:00.719 --> 00:43:07.960
and even social media has changed from
look at me to like, let me

620
00:43:07.000 --> 00:43:12.800
check out baby stuff, you know, and let me post something that I

621
00:43:12.840 --> 00:43:15.280
think my interests other people. But
I don't really have much interest in it

622
00:43:15.400 --> 00:43:19.880
myself anymore. And I don't really
I'm not on there telling people how awesome

623
00:43:19.880 --> 00:43:22.480
I am, or how cool I
am, or what I'm good I'm doing,

624
00:43:22.719 --> 00:43:25.119
or what's going on in my life. Look at me? Right,

625
00:43:27.480 --> 00:43:30.679
I just don't, you know,
and I don't know, you know,

626
00:43:30.719 --> 00:43:34.079
and I know there are people out
there that are like, oh man,

627
00:43:34.119 --> 00:43:37.159
I wish I would have known.
Yeah, there are people I am close

628
00:43:37.159 --> 00:43:42.800
with on Facebook that I just don't
talk to anymore. But I don't know.

629
00:43:43.920 --> 00:43:46.639
Maybe when, maybe when there's some
milestones, like after he's born,

630
00:43:46.719 --> 00:43:52.639
we all do that, but not
right now. Maybe the baby Bellie photo.

631
00:43:52.840 --> 00:43:55.360
I don't know. Maybe, but
at least I can do it at

632
00:43:55.400 --> 00:43:59.519
the time of my choosing. I
don't feel like I have to like,

633
00:43:59.599 --> 00:44:01.800
ooh post this. Yeah you know. I think the last time I felt

634
00:44:01.800 --> 00:44:06.199
like that was when I got my
five year coin and I kind of was

635
00:44:06.239 --> 00:44:09.920
like, oh, I got to
post this. But there's a lot of

636
00:44:09.920 --> 00:44:14.360
people out there that don't like the
fact that I have five years clean.

637
00:44:15.480 --> 00:44:20.800
So Mayben did that to them?
I don't know, But just saying saying

638
00:44:21.000 --> 00:44:22.480
it's a good way to live life, yeah you know. And I think

639
00:44:22.519 --> 00:44:27.400
recovery has a lot to do with
that, And how will we live our

640
00:44:27.440 --> 00:44:29.440
lives today, I think has a
lot to do with that. Well,

641
00:44:29.440 --> 00:44:32.039
it's about being humble too. It's
like saying, like, all these things

642
00:44:32.360 --> 00:44:37.920
are happening in my life and I'm
grateful and I work hard for them and

643
00:44:38.880 --> 00:44:45.280
I'm supported by other amazing people outside
of who clicks on thumbs up, thumbs

644
00:44:45.280 --> 00:44:52.840
down or emojis. And I helped
you that regardless. You know, I

645
00:44:52.880 --> 00:45:00.280
don't need I don't need you know, outside people too. It wouldn't matter.

646
00:45:00.360 --> 00:45:04.519
It wouldn't matter if people were thumbs
ups or thumbs down. I'm still

647
00:45:04.559 --> 00:45:07.119
going to be doing what I'm doing, you know, to maintain my sobriety

648
00:45:08.320 --> 00:45:12.840
and work towards good things in my
life. And there's nothing wrong with people

649
00:45:12.840 --> 00:45:15.719
if they want to promote their life
and how great they're doing that. People

650
00:45:15.719 --> 00:45:19.559
can do whatever they want. And
like, there was a person who recently

651
00:45:19.599 --> 00:45:22.840
bought a new home and they had
the little family out on the front step.

652
00:45:22.920 --> 00:45:25.239
It was so kind of cheesy,
but I'm just like okay, and

653
00:45:25.280 --> 00:45:28.800
I was like, we didn't post
no pictures of our house and we bought

654
00:45:28.800 --> 00:45:30.519
it. And then I started thinking
about it. I'm like, well,

655
00:45:30.719 --> 00:45:34.000
if I would have done that,
I would have had to like post picture

656
00:45:34.039 --> 00:45:37.119
of the like the bank's letter when
they took it back, you know,

657
00:45:37.320 --> 00:45:40.679
like here's my first home in Arkansas, and here's the letter them taking it

658
00:45:40.719 --> 00:45:45.360
back, and here's the other home. You know, like everybody wants to

659
00:45:45.360 --> 00:45:46.400
share the good, you know,
but I feel like you have to share

660
00:45:46.400 --> 00:45:49.840
some of the bad with it too. Sure, Like that's how I felt,

661
00:45:49.840 --> 00:45:52.280
and I just kind of chuckled and
moved on. But I don't know,

662
00:45:52.360 --> 00:45:54.000
that's just what I thought about it. I was like, yeah,

663
00:45:54.079 --> 00:45:55.920
like that had been cool, Like
hey, yeah, I mean we talked

664
00:45:55.920 --> 00:45:59.679
about it on the podcast, but
that's a little different, I think,

665
00:46:00.639 --> 00:46:01.920
you know, and good things do
happen to us, and we do talk

666
00:46:01.960 --> 00:46:06.639
about that, so I guess there's
a way that we do share that,

667
00:46:06.679 --> 00:46:08.360
but we want to share that as
hope and inspiration for other people who are

668
00:46:08.360 --> 00:46:10.599
out there struggling, are thinking,
oh they got a year, only got

669
00:46:10.599 --> 00:46:14.880
two years, you know, keep
it going, you know, the good

670
00:46:14.880 --> 00:46:17.400
things they keep happening, and it
will blow your mind in three years where

671
00:46:17.440 --> 00:46:20.840
you're going to be Yeah, you
won't even there's no way you could even

672
00:46:20.920 --> 00:46:22.880
imagine it. It's going to be
so awesome And you're like, what yep,

673
00:46:23.239 --> 00:46:28.000
promise. Yeah that's fact. So
hang in there, keep it up,

674
00:46:28.559 --> 00:46:31.400
and just keep counting your blessings and
like Marnie said, you know,

675
00:46:31.400 --> 00:46:37.239
just stay humble, just be very
appreciative of what you do have. Yeah,

676
00:46:37.320 --> 00:46:38.599
that's all I got today. That's
all I got. Thank you guys

677
00:46:38.599 --> 00:46:40.679
so much for listening, and I
hope you all had a great weekend.

678
00:46:40.719 --> 00:46:46.320
I hope you enjoyed the episode and
the lady in Dallas who's from gay Lord,

679
00:46:46.800 --> 00:46:52.039
she said gay Lord, she's got
it wrong. And then the movie

680
00:46:52.079 --> 00:46:55.760
reviews and the television reviews and the
nesting talk. Yeah, and maybe we'll

681
00:46:55.760 --> 00:47:02.840
do another episode next Sunday. Thanks
for listening to the two seventeen Recovery podcasts.

682
00:47:04.239 --> 00:47:08.079
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683
00:47:08.159 --> 00:47:15.119
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