WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.320 --> 00:00:03.680 Over the weekend, I had some events that made me feel very out of 2 00:00:03.720 --> 00:00:07.919 control, and I realized this is how America feels right now and why our 3 00:00:07.919 --> 00:00:11.720 mental health is suffering. Most of us do not feel like we are in 4 00:00:11.759 --> 00:00:15.880 control of our lives or the things happening in it. So what can we 5 00:00:15.960 --> 00:00:18.839 do, if anything, Well, the first thing we can do is talk 6 00:00:18.879 --> 00:00:28.519 about it. Uncensored, unfiltered, unhinged. ASM courel Cast listen daily on 7 00:00:28.559 --> 00:00:38.280 your favorite streaming service. Hey, it's Correll and Happy Monday. Normally the 8 00:00:38.320 --> 00:00:42.240 show is posted by now, and I want to explain to you all why 9 00:00:42.320 --> 00:00:46.439 I am late. Maybe some of you can relate, and why I'm not 10 00:00:46.520 --> 00:00:50.359 in the studio at the moment. I'm here at the breakfast table with Ember 11 00:00:51.079 --> 00:00:56.240 the wonder pup right there next to me. There she is. Did y'all 12 00:00:56.240 --> 00:01:00.359 see you're in the chair. She's sleeping there, there's her head it is 13 00:01:02.039 --> 00:01:07.640 anyway, she's part of the reason or maybe Yeah, Anyway, I wanted 14 00:01:07.680 --> 00:01:11.799 to talk to you all this morning about how to deal with things that you 15 00:01:11.879 --> 00:01:19.120 can't control. And I know that in today's world it's a relevant topic because 16 00:01:19.200 --> 00:01:25.079 we all feel there's so much going on that we can't control, and it 17 00:01:25.120 --> 00:01:29.280 really is affecting our mental health. These statistics are out there. Our mental 18 00:01:29.319 --> 00:01:34.400 health is very poor in America right now. Our young people's mental health are 19 00:01:34.439 --> 00:01:40.280 older people's mental health. It is not well. And one of the reasons 20 00:01:40.959 --> 00:01:46.120 is because it's very hard to deal with things that you feel you can't control. 21 00:01:46.959 --> 00:01:51.040 You feel you can't control the price of groceries. You just have to 22 00:01:51.120 --> 00:01:55.120 deal. You have to deal with the price of gas. You can't control 23 00:01:55.200 --> 00:01:57.879 really how much income you make. It it's tied to how much employers want 24 00:01:57.879 --> 00:02:01.840 to pay you and how many physical hours you have in a day to work, 25 00:02:02.719 --> 00:02:07.239 or if you're on a pension, it's tied to that pension plan or 26 00:02:07.239 --> 00:02:13.840 social Security and what they deem you should live on. You can't control copais 27 00:02:13.960 --> 00:02:16.759 or medical co paids, or when you go to the pharmacy the amount that 28 00:02:16.800 --> 00:02:22.000 you have to pay there. You can't control so much. You can't control 29 00:02:22.039 --> 00:02:24.960 what's going on with Donald Trump, whether he's going to be convicted, whether 30 00:02:25.000 --> 00:02:29.960 he's going to really face charges. You know, none of this is in 31 00:02:30.039 --> 00:02:38.800 your control. And it's important that we talk about how it makes you feel 32 00:02:39.000 --> 00:02:43.800 when you are encountering so many things that are out of control. Now, 33 00:02:43.840 --> 00:02:47.919 I'll give you what's happening with me and why I can't think of anything right 34 00:02:47.919 --> 00:02:53.199 now. So last week Emberg got a Cido point shop for her allergies. 35 00:02:53.319 --> 00:03:00.719 I don't know if that's relevant or not. But yesterday Sunday morning, I 36 00:03:00.800 --> 00:03:04.520 was massaging her neck and leg area because she heard her right leg going down 37 00:03:04.520 --> 00:03:07.560 the stairs. So when she woke up Sunday morning, I thought, oh, 38 00:03:07.639 --> 00:03:13.680 i'll massage her, you know, her right side, and that'll make 39 00:03:13.680 --> 00:03:19.400 her feel better. And so I did. And when I was doing that 40 00:03:20.080 --> 00:03:24.919 in what's called her prescapula area in between above her right shoulder blade in her 41 00:03:25.000 --> 00:03:30.639 neck, I found a swollen lymph plant and it's you know, I can 42 00:03:30.719 --> 00:03:36.479 feel it. It's it's about the size of I don't know, a kidney 43 00:03:36.479 --> 00:03:40.000 bean or something. Anyway, So I found this lymph node. She knows 44 00:03:40.039 --> 00:03:47.039 i'm talking about her. And when I found this lymph node, I immediately 45 00:03:47.479 --> 00:03:52.960 you noticed it and looked up on the web, you know, and yes, 46 00:03:53.000 --> 00:03:55.319 it says allergies can cause it it, you know. And she did 47 00:03:55.400 --> 00:04:00.599 have a shot in the neck on Tuesday of a mono clonal antibody shot, 48 00:04:00.759 --> 00:04:11.960 so maybe that's affecting her lymph system or cancer lymphoma, and the web doesn't 49 00:04:12.000 --> 00:04:15.319 give a dog a good prognosis for that. If you get them chemo, 50 00:04:15.479 --> 00:04:18.160 it can go into remission for twelve to twenty four months and then come back 51 00:04:18.920 --> 00:04:24.519 and it's always fatal. So, of course, like so many when I 52 00:04:24.560 --> 00:04:27.240 read that, you know, yes, it could be this, it could 53 00:04:27.240 --> 00:04:30.120 be this, it could be this, or it could be this. Of 54 00:04:30.160 --> 00:04:35.879 course I fixate, like many of you, on the lymphoma, and so 55 00:04:36.000 --> 00:04:41.240 I have been convinced for twenty four hours that Ember has cancer. Now she 56 00:04:41.319 --> 00:04:45.360 has a great appetite, great energy level, all of that, but I've 57 00:04:45.399 --> 00:04:49.560 still been convinced in my brain that this is like the beginning of the end, 58 00:04:49.600 --> 00:04:55.560 and that has triggered all of these feelings in me of everyone that I 59 00:04:55.639 --> 00:05:00.000 love leaving early, Andrew dying at thirty four, my dad at fifty nine, 60 00:05:00.079 --> 00:05:02.439 Mom at seventy one, Pippa getting run over before she was three, 61 00:05:02.480 --> 00:05:10.199 Attila dying at ten. So it triggered all of this in me, and 62 00:05:11.600 --> 00:05:16.040 when it did, it started a spiral, really, and so my brain 63 00:05:17.000 --> 00:05:21.959 will not focus on anything right now except getting her to the doctor, getting 64 00:05:23.000 --> 00:05:30.279 an explanation for this. And just all hopes beyond hopes that it's not lymphoma. 65 00:05:30.560 --> 00:05:33.240 Okay, so that's that's what's in my brain. Because she's only seven, 66 00:05:33.319 --> 00:05:36.879 she'll be eight in November. I'm greedy. I want her to have 67 00:05:36.920 --> 00:05:41.240 more years. And I know you shouldn't pre grieve and you should live in 68 00:05:41.279 --> 00:05:43.879 the moment, and I know all that, but and you know all that, 69 00:05:44.600 --> 00:05:46.720 But when something like this is facing us, we don't follow that advice. 70 00:05:46.800 --> 00:05:50.720 We know that advice, but we don't follow it. The other thing 71 00:05:50.839 --> 00:05:55.199 is, I'm losing a friend to drug Well, let me rephrase. I 72 00:05:55.240 --> 00:06:00.560 have lost a friend to drugs for almost a year now, since my birthday 73 00:06:00.639 --> 00:06:06.920 last His problem has been evident to all of his friends, and we have 74 00:06:08.079 --> 00:06:13.720 tried everything short of an actual intervention. We have begged for the person to 75 00:06:13.759 --> 00:06:18.959 go to rehab. We have begged for them to stop using ketamine. We 76 00:06:19.000 --> 00:06:24.839 have begged and begged and begged, and now he's become a bad friend. 77 00:06:25.040 --> 00:06:28.040 You call him for three days in a row, it doesn't answer the phone. 78 00:06:28.480 --> 00:06:31.920 You call him at two in the afternoon, he's high. You want 79 00:06:32.000 --> 00:06:36.000 him to be the old person that he was, and he's just not that 80 00:06:36.079 --> 00:06:42.639 person anymore. He's not responsible, he's not caring. He's not He doesn't 81 00:06:42.639 --> 00:06:46.319 reach out. You know, he doesn't ring your phone. You know, 82 00:06:46.360 --> 00:06:49.120 he doesn't call you. You always got to track him down. He doesn't 83 00:06:49.160 --> 00:06:53.639 text you, and when he does it's you know, a spurt of text 84 00:06:53.680 --> 00:06:57.279 and then gone, just you know. I mean, this person has been 85 00:06:57.319 --> 00:07:00.680 texting me, literally texting me, and so I called speak to them and 86 00:07:00.720 --> 00:07:06.000 they don't answer the phone. And he works from home, so so you 87 00:07:06.040 --> 00:07:11.079 know, I've talked to his other best friend about this, and we both 88 00:07:11.120 --> 00:07:16.240 feel powerless. And this weekend was sort of the manifestation of how powerless. 89 00:07:16.240 --> 00:07:19.680 It was his birthday weekend, and for every birthday for fifteen years, I've 90 00:07:19.680 --> 00:07:25.000 spoken to him, and I didn't speak to him yesterday or the day before, 91 00:07:26.279 --> 00:07:31.240 and that hurts it. You know, it hurts to be losing or 92 00:07:31.279 --> 00:07:36.399 have lost a friend to drugs. It hurts. And some of you have 93 00:07:38.000 --> 00:07:43.920 to alcohol or another drug. You know. I don't want to condemn anybody 94 00:07:44.000 --> 00:07:48.480 because I used opiates for so many years, but I had to clean up, 95 00:07:48.920 --> 00:07:53.959 and you know, this person needs to clean up. But I can't 96 00:07:53.959 --> 00:07:57.319 make them. I'm out of control of that. So I'm out of control 97 00:07:57.360 --> 00:08:03.920 of his path. I can't control his path, and he's not treating me 98 00:08:03.800 --> 00:08:09.600 like a good friend. There was an incident last weekend where I really needed 99 00:08:09.680 --> 00:08:15.279 him. I called him several times with a problem that had presented itself in 100 00:08:15.360 --> 00:08:18.600 Las Vegas that he could help with, and I said, please call me. 101 00:08:18.680 --> 00:08:22.600 I have this problem. I need your help. You know you can 102 00:08:22.639 --> 00:08:26.600 help. I need you to help me. He never called back, And 103 00:08:26.680 --> 00:08:30.120 the next day I called him all day, Hey, you know, I 104 00:08:30.199 --> 00:08:35.840 never called back. And then that Sunday, at like five in the morning, 105 00:08:35.879 --> 00:08:39.879 he texts me to tell me he was aware of my problem because the 106 00:08:39.919 --> 00:08:48.399 neighbors told him about my problem. So it that hurt. And this weekend 107 00:08:48.480 --> 00:08:50.679 hurt where you know, on his birthday he can't even make time to talk 108 00:08:50.679 --> 00:08:58.080 to me. That hurt, you know. And combine that with Ember. 109 00:08:58.519 --> 00:09:03.440 Combine that with I really feel that the nation is moving into a bad area, 110 00:09:05.320 --> 00:09:09.399 and that you know, I I don't know if I want to stay 111 00:09:09.440 --> 00:09:13.200 here, but I don't have the money to leave, the fact that the 112 00:09:13.320 --> 00:09:20.759 entertainment industry is in turmoil, jobs, they're scared. You combine all of 113 00:09:20.759 --> 00:09:22.759 that. I feel out of control. But how do you deal? How 114 00:09:22.799 --> 00:09:26.840 do you deal? With it. We'll talk about that when my compact. 115 00:09:26.039 --> 00:09:31.200 That's what we'll do when we'll talk about it when I come back. Well, 116 00:09:31.679 --> 00:09:37.000 make your device a whole lot smarter. Get the correl Cast Damp free 117 00:09:37.039 --> 00:09:56.600 at the app store of your choice now. Okay, So, like many 118 00:09:56.639 --> 00:09:58.360 of you, I'm feeling out of control of many things in my life. 119 00:09:58.360 --> 00:10:01.440 I'm worried that about this lumping Ember's neck, which will be checked by a 120 00:10:01.519 --> 00:10:07.120 vet today Monday, I hope, and I'm very blessed to be able to 121 00:10:07.120 --> 00:10:09.679 do that. Have a credit card that I can use, and insurance and 122 00:10:09.720 --> 00:10:15.120 all of that. I have a friend that I've lost to drugs, basically, 123 00:10:16.480 --> 00:10:22.240 and I feel out of control of my career because a I'd have to 124 00:10:22.279 --> 00:10:28.000 reinvent it to go back out on stage and then be radio, you know, 125 00:10:28.159 --> 00:10:31.279 podcasting. I'm not sure that I want to stay in the type of 126 00:10:31.320 --> 00:10:37.279 podcasting I'm doing because of the hatred. It's dangerous to be an out gay 127 00:10:37.320 --> 00:10:39.679 liberal right now, and I don't know that I want the hatred. Over 128 00:10:39.720 --> 00:10:43.519 the weekend, I posted a clip on social media from Friday's show. It's 129 00:10:43.519 --> 00:10:50.080 been seen three thousand times on Instagram, and the hatred underneath because I call 130 00:10:50.120 --> 00:10:54.759 out MAGA as racist, homophobes, transplugs all that. Oh oh, little 131 00:10:54.799 --> 00:10:58.440 girl, Yeah, I'm worried she got cancer. She's jumping up out the 132 00:10:58.559 --> 00:11:03.679 chair, barking and care on. All right, honey, you just wanted 133 00:11:03.679 --> 00:11:05.440 to be on the show, didn't you. You just wanted to be on 134 00:11:05.440 --> 00:11:09.639 the show. I think she just wanted to be on the show. Come 135 00:11:09.720 --> 00:11:13.679 here, a little barker. Shouldn't even know what she's barking out. Should 136 00:11:13.960 --> 00:11:16.279 know She's like, I don't know what I'm barking out. I'm just barking. 137 00:11:16.639 --> 00:11:20.759 So I know in your life there's a lot of things that you're not 138 00:11:20.840 --> 00:11:24.200 So what do the self help books say? First of all, Well, 139 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:26.720 they say to take back control of your life in the areas that you can. 140 00:11:28.759 --> 00:11:31.799 In other words, basically, let go of the areas that you cannot 141 00:11:31.879 --> 00:11:37.320 control, just stop trying, and to control the smaller things in your life 142 00:11:37.360 --> 00:11:41.600 that you can. To regain this self of control, this sense of control. 143 00:11:45.519 --> 00:11:48.159 You know, I've talked to the best psychiatrists in the world, both 144 00:11:48.440 --> 00:11:52.480 personally and professionally on the radio. I've talked to some really incredible people and 145 00:11:52.559 --> 00:11:58.360 learned a lot, and I realized that in times like these. None of 146 00:11:58.399 --> 00:12:01.480 that matters, and that's why mental health is so poor. Right now. 147 00:12:03.519 --> 00:12:07.399 You can in your brain know what you need to do, But if you're 148 00:12:07.480 --> 00:12:11.440 drowning in a sea of facts, grabbing onto just the facts that you need 149 00:12:11.559 --> 00:12:18.080 to use them as a lifeboat and ignoring all the others is one way to 150 00:12:18.200 --> 00:12:20.679 survive. In other words, what are some of the facts that aren't serving 151 00:12:20.679 --> 00:12:26.519 me well right now? That Ember could have the lymphoma, that's a fact. 152 00:12:26.559 --> 00:12:30.320 She could, but it's not serving me well. Another one of the 153 00:12:30.360 --> 00:12:33.440 facts is that she could not that it could be allergies. It could be 154 00:12:33.480 --> 00:12:37.840 many other things causing the lymph node to swell. So I should hold on 155 00:12:37.879 --> 00:12:41.159 to that fact, not the lymphoma fact. I should make my lifeboat out 156 00:12:41.159 --> 00:12:46.159 of the fact that it could be other things. When I think about my 157 00:12:46.279 --> 00:12:52.879 career and what are the facts that I may never be as quote successful as 158 00:12:52.960 --> 00:12:58.519 Correll was on KFI KGO. Yes, that's a fact. That's even though 159 00:12:58.519 --> 00:13:01.559 I'm getting a word October twenty one in Long Beach and being put on the 160 00:13:01.559 --> 00:13:07.000 wall and everything that doesn't matter. I may never regain that height of popularity 161 00:13:07.039 --> 00:13:11.600 that I had working for a big three letter station. That's a fact, 162 00:13:11.320 --> 00:13:16.120 but doesn't serve me. Well, no, so what are the other facts? 163 00:13:16.440 --> 00:13:20.039 Another fact is that I may surpass that, that I may hit with 164 00:13:20.240 --> 00:13:24.759 either the stage show or a song that I've done or whatever. There you 165 00:13:24.759 --> 00:13:30.279 know, something may end up working to bring me back up to that level 166 00:13:30.360 --> 00:13:33.320 again, the podcast could take off. Okay, So that's a fact. 167 00:13:33.960 --> 00:13:39.240 Okay, Oh, yes, that's a fact, So I should I should 168 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:45.320 pull that fact in and let the other fact go. Now we all know 169 00:13:45.440 --> 00:13:48.919 this, and in your life, like there's always two separate sets of facts. 170 00:13:48.919 --> 00:13:52.080 There's a fact that it could go badly, and then there's the fact 171 00:13:52.080 --> 00:13:56.200 that it could be Okay, there's a fact that Joe Biden may win the 172 00:13:56.240 --> 00:14:01.799 election and that these Maga people may be down with Trump being arrested and incarcerated 173 00:14:01.799 --> 00:14:07.039 and all of that. That's a fact, or it's also a factor possibility 174 00:14:07.399 --> 00:14:11.159 that it's not going to die down, that he could be arrested and it 175 00:14:11.159 --> 00:14:13.879 could really cause civil unrest and it becomes a dangerous place to live in our 176 00:14:13.919 --> 00:14:18.879 country for a while. So you when you're when you're drowning in this sea, 177 00:14:20.399 --> 00:14:24.360 you have to pick the things that serve you best to help you get 178 00:14:24.360 --> 00:14:28.480 out of it. Well, it's one thing to intellectually know that, it's 179 00:14:28.519 --> 00:14:35.240 another thing to actually do it. You know, a lot of times we 180 00:14:35.279 --> 00:14:39.720 want to be Kate Winslet on the giant piece of wood in the sea of 181 00:14:39.840 --> 00:14:46.720 chaos, surviving, but we feel like Leonardo DiCaprio, barely hanging on in 182 00:14:46.799 --> 00:14:52.080 freezing water, about to go under. You want to be Kate Winslet, 183 00:14:52.360 --> 00:14:56.679 you don't want to be Leo. Okay, that's and that's the truth. 184 00:14:58.879 --> 00:15:03.919 This weekend I felt like Leo. I felt like I was drowning in a 185 00:15:03.960 --> 00:15:07.879 sea of chaos and cold water. That the thing I love most in life, 186 00:15:07.879 --> 00:15:11.639 Ember was going to be taken from me in six or twelve months, 187 00:15:13.759 --> 00:15:18.360 and that one of my closest, dearest friends has been totally lost to drugs, 188 00:15:18.480 --> 00:15:22.600 and that we're just going to keep drifting apart and they'll come a time 189 00:15:22.639 --> 00:15:28.600 where I haven't spoken to him in months. Those are possibilities. They are 190 00:15:30.840 --> 00:15:35.159 It's a possibility that I may just have to retire on what I've got and 191 00:15:35.360 --> 00:15:37.639 learn to live on that and not travel the world anymore and not be Correll 192 00:15:37.720 --> 00:15:43.480 anymore. That's a possibility, Or there's a possibility that I will continue to 193 00:15:43.519 --> 00:15:48.360 be me and travel the world and see new things and expose them to you 194 00:15:48.840 --> 00:15:52.080 through a show. And so what I want you to do if you feel 195 00:15:52.120 --> 00:15:56.960 like you're drowning in that sea of ice water and that you can't climb up 196 00:15:56.000 --> 00:16:03.159 on the board with Kate winslet on you to realize that when you are out 197 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:10.440 of control, when you release it is when you are in the most control. 198 00:16:11.200 --> 00:16:15.759 If that makes any sense, You have to let it go. I 199 00:16:15.919 --> 00:16:21.159 have to let it go, you know, or it's going to make you 200 00:16:21.519 --> 00:16:26.159 completely crazy. Now. I don't know what letting go in your life looks 201 00:16:26.240 --> 00:16:30.000 like, but in mine it means every time I walk in the grocery store, 202 00:16:30.000 --> 00:16:33.320 I can't have my blood pressure rise because of prices. And it really 203 00:16:33.360 --> 00:16:38.159 does, you know, Heather said yesterday in Seattle, and avocado is four 204 00:16:38.200 --> 00:16:45.559 dollars four dollars that tomatoes are two fifty each. So all of a sudden, 205 00:16:45.600 --> 00:16:52.360 I felt very lucky about the prices in Las Vegas. It's all perspective, 206 00:16:52.159 --> 00:16:56.679 all of it. And when you let go, like with Ember, 207 00:16:57.279 --> 00:17:02.159 I have to let go. Whatever's gonna happen with her health is gonna happen, 208 00:17:02.159 --> 00:17:03.480 and I'm gonna have to deal. And if she passes away in six 209 00:17:03.599 --> 00:17:07.880 or twelve months and she does, I have to keep going. I have 210 00:17:07.000 --> 00:17:11.359 to keep living. I don't think she's going to I'll know today. If 211 00:17:11.240 --> 00:17:15.640 it's just some you know, inflammation or something, I don't want to give 212 00:17:15.680 --> 00:17:19.440 that energy. But even if it's the real deal, if that's the truth, 213 00:17:19.480 --> 00:17:23.559 then it's the truth. You know. We have trouble dealing with the 214 00:17:23.599 --> 00:17:29.480 truth nowadays because it's so overwhelming, and I think one of the ways we 215 00:17:29.559 --> 00:17:36.240 deal with it is grab it, process it and let it go. Let 216 00:17:36.279 --> 00:17:41.799 it go, Let Trump go, Let Donald Trump go, let him go. 217 00:17:44.319 --> 00:17:48.359 That's gonna work out, however that works out. You gotta let the 218 00:17:48.440 --> 00:17:52.440 things go that are drowning you or you will be Leonardo DiCaprio and sing. 219 00:17:52.079 --> 00:17:56.440 We've got to get on the board and be Kate Winsford because we have to 220 00:17:56.519 --> 00:17:59.920 survive, no matter what happens to Ember, no matter what happens to my 221 00:18:00.079 --> 00:18:02.880 friend, no matter what happens or whatever. I have to divide it. 222 00:18:03.400 --> 00:18:07.640 And so to do that, you gotta let know of a thing. Ways 223 00:18:07.680 --> 00:18:11.079 you're down, And I know that part. I know that, but like 224 00:18:11.519 --> 00:18:17.240 you, I need to do it. If you're not visiting really correll dot 225 00:18:17.240 --> 00:18:22.920 com daily, you're missing out. Get the podcast videos and the blug including 226 00:18:22.960 --> 00:18:41.559 recipes at really correll dot com. That's really ka R e l dot com. 227 00:18:41.559 --> 00:18:44.640 Okay, I think I'm just going to finish the show right here. 228 00:18:44.960 --> 00:18:52.960 So this weekend, we had an overt act of racism kill some incredibly innocent 229 00:18:52.039 --> 00:18:59.319 people in Jacksonville, Florida. All a white racist spurred Byron Descantis at his 230 00:18:59.480 --> 00:19:06.039 policy in Florida, spurred by the rhetoric of critical race theory. And you 231 00:19:06.079 --> 00:19:12.359 know, the blacks are coming for your kids with the gays. And I 232 00:19:12.400 --> 00:19:15.160 don't want to say we have to let it go with the theme of the 233 00:19:15.200 --> 00:19:23.440 show, but we can't do anything about it. There's nothing we can do 234 00:19:23.480 --> 00:19:29.799 to end racism in this country except not be racist ourselves. That's what you 235 00:19:29.839 --> 00:19:33.440 can do to end racism. Don't let someone around you be a racist, 236 00:19:33.079 --> 00:19:37.839 don't hang out with racist, don't post racist things, and don't be a 237 00:19:37.920 --> 00:19:44.119 racist yourself. That's all you can do. You can't change the minds of 238 00:19:44.279 --> 00:19:48.960 people like this guy in Florida. I've learned that over the weekend. Those 239 00:19:48.000 --> 00:19:52.039 of you listening to me, you already feel the way I feel so I'm 240 00:19:52.079 --> 00:19:57.400 not telling you anything new. And those that need to listen to me and 241 00:19:57.559 --> 00:20:02.960 need to change their minds not things, they're not going to. You know, 242 00:20:02.960 --> 00:20:07.839 they're not going to. So we live in a time where these people 243 00:20:07.880 --> 00:20:14.720 don't want education. They don't want to be tolerant, they don't want to 244 00:20:14.759 --> 00:20:18.359 be enlightened, they don't want to be awake. They don't want it. 245 00:20:18.799 --> 00:20:22.480 They don't want what we're selling, and we'll never convince them. So you 246 00:20:22.559 --> 00:20:26.359 have to let that go. Don't live in larder, you know my friends 247 00:20:26.400 --> 00:20:30.920 do. And it's a great climate in such except this weekend week and hit 248 00:20:30.960 --> 00:20:36.240 bi hurricane. But don't live in places that don't match who you are. 249 00:20:37.559 --> 00:20:41.880 And if you're forced to for economics, Like me, I don't really want 250 00:20:41.880 --> 00:20:44.119 to live in Las Vegas anymore. It's not who I am. There's no 251 00:20:44.240 --> 00:20:48.920 sense of community here, it's too hot in the summers, and it's just 252 00:20:48.160 --> 00:20:52.759 not me. It's not who I am. I am a more city boy 253 00:20:53.119 --> 00:20:59.599 in a gay district with friends and gatherings. And you know, you can't 254 00:20:59.640 --> 00:21:02.920 get on media list out here because they don't care about media out here. 255 00:21:03.079 --> 00:21:04.960 You can't, you know that, because they don't need to you know, 256 00:21:06.200 --> 00:21:11.079 So I would much other do a show in a place like Portland and where 257 00:21:11.079 --> 00:21:14.680 I could be on all the media list and go to all the events and 258 00:21:14.799 --> 00:21:18.640 all of that and bring all that to you. You know. Another reason 259 00:21:18.759 --> 00:21:22.039 you wonder why the show has changed since I moved to Vegas. I can't 260 00:21:22.079 --> 00:21:25.559 get on any of these invite lists to bring you all these great events, 261 00:21:26.799 --> 00:21:30.200 you know, And I don't have the money to go pay to go to 262 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:33.519 see Adele and tell you how she is or you know whatever and so, 263 00:21:33.680 --> 00:21:36.960 and they don't care about media in Las Vegas because they know they're gonna get 264 00:21:37.039 --> 00:21:41.720 visitors. So over the weekend there were horrors. There was this racist killing, 265 00:21:44.200 --> 00:21:47.960 there was other horrors in the news. Today, we've got Trump in 266 00:21:48.039 --> 00:21:51.359 Fedor or not Trump, but Mark Meadows and Court trying to get his case 267 00:21:51.440 --> 00:21:53.319 moved to federal court. If that works, then others are going to try 268 00:21:53.319 --> 00:21:56.000 to do it. They're gonna try to get him dismissed. They're gonna try 269 00:21:56.000 --> 00:22:02.119 to you know, all this legal stuff and just means they're not punished yet, 270 00:22:03.440 --> 00:22:07.240 you know. So what do we do. Well, it's Monday, 271 00:22:07.359 --> 00:22:11.759 and I'm going to take Ember to the VET to deal with her. Lump. 272 00:22:11.920 --> 00:22:15.000 So in your world, you need to deal with the most pressing issues 273 00:22:15.519 --> 00:22:21.240 yourself, your family. That's the most pressing issue in terms of the country, 274 00:22:23.400 --> 00:22:26.599 you know. I hate to say that. I just don't think it's 275 00:22:26.640 --> 00:22:30.720 redeemable. It's terrible to live in a place where you've given up hope. 276 00:22:33.039 --> 00:22:36.960 I don't have hope for America as a union, Okay, I don't. 277 00:22:37.160 --> 00:22:44.519 I really believe ultimately we're going to need to break up. I mean, 278 00:22:44.599 --> 00:22:48.559 I just I've been paying attention. They don't want to be a part of 279 00:22:48.640 --> 00:22:52.480 what we want. We want equality, we want movement on climate change. 280 00:22:52.519 --> 00:22:56.599 We want peace in the world. We want to be able to thrive in 281 00:22:56.680 --> 00:23:00.319 our environment. We want an economy that doesn't cripple us, and we don't 282 00:23:00.440 --> 00:23:08.240 want distorted religious and racist beliefs to dictate our policies. Well, that's exactly 283 00:23:08.400 --> 00:23:14.079 what they want. And you can't have a union. You can't have a 284 00:23:14.240 --> 00:23:19.359 marriage of two people or two forces that are so diametrically opposed. It doesn't 285 00:23:19.440 --> 00:23:23.559 work. You have to agree on some common ground, and we don't. 286 00:23:26.240 --> 00:23:30.839 So I'm not optimistic for the USA. I'm not. I think we need 287 00:23:30.920 --> 00:23:34.559 to break up before we do that. Could I really move to Europe. 288 00:23:34.599 --> 00:23:38.640 I wish I could, but I have to say order that's growing and I 289 00:23:38.759 --> 00:23:44.599 need to be around US hospitals in case I need open chest surgery. Maybe 290 00:23:44.680 --> 00:23:48.920 in three years, maybe in five. But is that a person that should 291 00:23:48.920 --> 00:23:53.720 be moving abroad. Probably not so. I have, like you, so 292 00:23:53.839 --> 00:23:59.319 many things this week to think about. And if you notice in my thought 293 00:23:59.400 --> 00:24:03.880 and in your happiness doesn't really play into our where when am I going to 294 00:24:03.920 --> 00:24:07.839 be happy this week? Well, I'll be happy if I get news from 295 00:24:07.880 --> 00:24:14.279 the vet that Ember's lump is just allergies or something. I'd be happy if 296 00:24:14.319 --> 00:24:18.519 my friend that's lost to drugs actually called me, apologized and and said, 297 00:24:18.599 --> 00:24:22.039 you know, I'm going to work on my life. I'm going to go 298 00:24:22.200 --> 00:24:26.079 to rehab. I'm going to actually get control of this substance. I'd be 299 00:24:26.240 --> 00:24:32.720 happier if you were happier. I'd be happier if you were able to live 300 00:24:32.799 --> 00:24:37.240 happier lives, that the economy wasn't so hard, that you know, there 301 00:24:37.359 --> 00:24:41.480 wasn't so much racism and transphobia. Another gender Missouri this morning. Their gender 302 00:24:41.640 --> 00:24:47.960 band affirming care laws are going into effect over the weekend. A court upheld 303 00:24:48.039 --> 00:24:52.519 another States right to ban gender affirming care. I'd be happy if that stuff 304 00:24:52.640 --> 00:24:59.519 wasn't happening, but it is. So how do you deal with horrible stuff 305 00:24:59.519 --> 00:25:03.960 that's happened. I guess you just deal. When Andrew died, I just 306 00:25:03.160 --> 00:25:07.480 got through it, you know. I think that we all just have to 307 00:25:07.559 --> 00:25:11.160 get through these times. I don't know what's on the other side. I 308 00:25:11.279 --> 00:25:15.319 can't tell you there's a bright, shining nation of opportunity and happiness on the 309 00:25:15.400 --> 00:25:19.559 other side of all this turmoil. I don't know that the United States will 310 00:25:19.599 --> 00:25:26.279 ever be in my lifetime a bright, shining beacon of happiness and prosperity and 311 00:25:26.480 --> 00:25:33.079 equality for its people. I don't know if that's possible anymore. You know, 312 00:25:33.200 --> 00:25:37.680 all we do is reward bad behavior. That's all we do, you 313 00:25:37.799 --> 00:25:40.599 know, and throw up our hands. Oh, people are shoplifting all the 314 00:25:40.680 --> 00:25:44.880 time. Now what do we do nothing. I have a friend that works 315 00:25:44.920 --> 00:25:48.240 at Walgreens. He's seventy nine and he's only worked there twelve days, and 316 00:25:48.319 --> 00:25:52.160 he said, I've seen at least twenty robberies. He even had a guy 317 00:25:52.279 --> 00:25:56.200 picked up off the counter. A homeless guy walked out with a bunch of 318 00:25:56.200 --> 00:25:57.319 stuff, and the guy at the counter said, aren't you going to stop 319 00:25:57.440 --> 00:26:00.279 him? And he goes, well, I'm the only person here and we're 320 00:26:00.359 --> 00:26:03.880 told not to. And so the guy just grabbed his stuff off the counter 321 00:26:03.960 --> 00:26:07.359 and walked out. He goes, why should I be a chump? And 322 00:26:07.480 --> 00:26:11.440 it's you should be a chump because you should do the right thing. You 323 00:26:11.480 --> 00:26:15.400 shouldn't do the wrong thing because other people are getting away with the wrong thing. 324 00:26:15.839 --> 00:26:18.799 But that's how we've become now. We now become a nation of people 325 00:26:18.880 --> 00:26:23.079 that see other people getting away with the wrong thing, so they do it. 326 00:26:23.480 --> 00:26:27.880 People that shouldn't be commenting on social media, that just shouldn't have accounts, 327 00:26:27.880 --> 00:26:33.799 shouldn't be allowed to speak publicly. These vitriolic views are being allowed to 328 00:26:33.359 --> 00:26:40.519 so others are allowed to Shoplifters are being allowed to shoplift, so others are 329 00:26:40.599 --> 00:26:45.880 shoplifting. Homeless are being allowed to just be homeless wherever. They are not 330 00:26:45.599 --> 00:26:52.599 going to programs, so other homeless are joining them. We have a nation 331 00:26:52.720 --> 00:26:56.079 that was not just rewarding bad behavior, but we're not punishing it, so 332 00:26:56.240 --> 00:27:03.279 other people aren't doing bad behavior. I don't know how to stop that trend. 333 00:27:04.440 --> 00:27:08.519 It's getting worse everywhere you look. I don't know how to stop people 334 00:27:08.799 --> 00:27:15.680 behaving badly because they seem to be being rewarded for it. The richest people 335 00:27:15.799 --> 00:27:22.359 in podcasting are people that are vitriolic, hateful, transphobic, and homophobic. 336 00:27:22.759 --> 00:27:26.920 That's who the richest podcasters are, like Joe Rogan, Charlie Kirk, Ben 337 00:27:27.039 --> 00:27:33.240 Shapiro. They're evil, and more people join them with evil podcasts and make 338 00:27:33.319 --> 00:27:37.759 money. Meanwhile, the good people, me Stephanie Miller and Tom Hartman, 339 00:27:38.079 --> 00:27:42.759 we're not making those fortunes. How do we turn that around? I don't 340 00:27:42.920 --> 00:27:48.480 know that we can. I just know that you, in your life have 341 00:27:48.640 --> 00:27:52.640 to start striving to be Kate Winslet on the wood, in the chaos and 342 00:27:52.680 --> 00:27:56.839 the freezing, and not be Leo. If that means tuning out, tune 343 00:27:56.880 --> 00:28:03.839 out. If that means moving, if that means focusing just more on your 344 00:28:03.039 --> 00:28:08.160 world, then I guess you have to do that. But we cannot you 345 00:28:08.319 --> 00:28:18.359 and I cannot go through life now miserable because of the miserable existence. I'll 346 00:28:18.440 --> 00:28:21.720 leave you with this. In the concentration camps, Jews still made music. 347 00:28:22.599 --> 00:28:26.680 They still made music. Musicians and concentration camps found a way to still make 348 00:28:26.839 --> 00:28:32.359 music. I want you to find a way in your life to still make 349 00:28:32.519 --> 00:28:37.160 music. No matter what news I get today or tomorrow about Ember, no 350 00:28:37.319 --> 00:28:41.519 matter what happens with my career, no matter what happens with politics or grocery 351 00:28:41.599 --> 00:28:47.279 prices or homeless whatever, I still got to find a way to make music 352 00:28:47.400 --> 00:28:49.680 right. And so do you. I am Corral. You'll be who you 353 00:28:49.720 --> 00:28:52.519 want to be. Solvedn't hurt any buddy. I'll have a proper show for 354 00:28:52.640 --> 00:28:56.039 you on Wednesday. I was just sitting here at the kitchen table this morning 355 00:28:56.119 --> 00:29:00.480 and thought, why not talk to you guys honestly, and so I have 356 00:29:00.519 --> 00:29:07.359 and I hope to see you on Wednesday. To the three patrons, to 357 00:29:07.559 --> 00:29:11.599 the didn't finish logging in, and then one James that did log in on 358 00:29:11.720 --> 00:29:15.359 Sunday, thank you. 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